Thank you so much, everyone, for reaching out to both of us so much this past week. It's amazing to see the support and love that you all showed to Sara specifically. I know it really meant a lot to her.
No, thank you guys for being real and putting yourselves put out there in this way. I feel in our society, we only want to post about what we are best at and put on our best face for people, yet we all crave to hear that we are not the only ones going through something that's a struggle and that we are understood. It's so refreshing to have people like you guys who are willing to talk about something as raw as a past rejection because who knows, it could help someone else sharpen their own perspective, which I think is what people really need. I'm not saying we should feel sorry for ourselves and post about our every single annoyance, but opening up a conversation like this to find a solution together can be so impactful! Keep it up!
Please do messyges from sara because it seems like she’s very wise and empathetic and she’ll actually give really good advice without making fun of us ❤️
Out of high school, I ran into a classmate. He mentioned that I kept to myself. I was confused. I thought no one was interested in spending time with me. That's when it dawned on me that *I* had been the problem. Later, I realized a big part of what that problem was. I never smiled. Ever. I never knew that was a thing I should do. Advice to parents - Teach your children to smile. It's a whole different world out there for those who do. It truly is a teachable thing. And not all of us are born understanding that we should.
The same thing happened to me! In middle school, I never smiled because people didn't like me much, but when I got to high school, I decided to change that around. I became much more approachable and now I have great friends!
^^^^ This is me. This comment describes me so well. I have this thing where I have a little slight smile. I don't think it's slight to me because it really takes a lot of work just to do that. As it turns out, usually my lips make a sad looking/pouty face (which I feel is not my expression or emotion at the time). People ask me all the time, "What's wrong?" And I'm just like, "Nothing." My mother tells me to relax, smile. So I do. My ever so slight smile that makes it look like I am fine. It's so exhausting. Normally I am a laughing, giggling mess but around other people that I don't know, I'm just not. It makes me seem like a serious, unfun person when that's just not who I am. *HOW DO I FIX THIS??* Sorry for the rant.
@@zemmie01 I'm very similar... putting on and keeping a welcoming face takes very conscious effort. I think it just takes a lot of hard practice. But when I'm with people I know well sometimes the emotion comes effortlessly. When I was younger and even now sometimes my Dad says 'smile, have a happy face, you have a beautiful smile'. Often it would be easier if people could just read my inside feeling, that I'd be happy to talk to them if they talk to me. The more I think about what I find welcoming in others themore I realise how little I have done that. I think I need to work on cultivating a friendly, outward-focussed disposition and appearance.
Absolutely! It's so important to teach your kids about social tics and social cues. My mom practically forced me to start smiling when I was 10. It's just a fact that people want to be around happy people that have fun. It's hard to tell you're happy if you're not smiling.
Man, I really needed to hear this. I get anxiety around others and people have told me that it's like I have a wall up- I never understood why I'm like this, but looking back I have very similar experiences to Sara. I never really fit in with kids from school, youth group, etc. and I think it turned into me thinking no one would ever really like "someone like me". I feel like the Lord is healing me with that though and making me more confident in Him and to not let fear get in the way of being a blessing to others, whether they like me or not. Really enjoyed hearing your discussion on this.
Amen! I can totally relate, and I feel like this is a season when Jesus is talking to us more and slowing us down, and even going to those root issues that we’ve always had in the back of our minds, and healing us. 💙
I can seriously relate to this, even though no one is actually bullying me fortunately, it still hurts that I was misunderstood by my peers. I am very happy to have a relationship with Jesus since He never leaves me no matter what is going on in my life. He understands me far more than anyone I have ever known and wants to help me through it all. He is so precious and loving.
She's a 4, so sometimes when Thinker types are 4s everyone thinks they're one of the more introverted, feeling types. (Speaking from experience as an entp 3w4, who is difficult for people to type and often assumed to be an enfp or infp.)
Sara Taylor you know yourself better than anyone else! Also thank you for sharing your story ❤️ I want to say I am an introvert, but I truly love spending time with people... just smaller groups. When I’m with large groups, sometimes I get anxious like you said you get. Introvert vs. extrovert is just a matter of where you get your energy from-I get mine from being alone or with smaller groups of people (but I can handle large groups.. it just gets me tired quicker). Extroverts get energized by being with people (generally larger groups, but from what I understand smaller groups do nicely as well). If I had to guess, I would say you’re like me-you like smaller groups and are therefore an extroverted introvert. I used to think there was something wrong with this, but truly it’s not. It’s how God created me, and it is helpful and beautiful to know more about yourself and embrace it. Sorry for the Ted Talk lol! Again, you know more about yourself than I do, obviously. Just want you to know more about the difference between the two *if you didn’t already know 😃
@@rachelknapp7271 Extroverts can like small groups and be socially anxious. I am an ENTP and relate to her story immensely. Introversion vs. extroversion has very little to do about whether or not you like big groups or small groups; like you said, it has to do with where you get your energy from. Extroverts are energized by outward sources (often people, though not necessarily.) Introverts might be energized by outside sources, but they need time to recharge; they need to go into their inner worlds and rejuvenate. I find no enjoyment out of crowds because it's not stimulating enough mentally. I would rather be one-on-one. In fact, I would rather be one-on-one than in a group of even three, much of the time. That doesn't make me an introvert; it just means I enjoy deep conversations. I'm what you would call an "introverted extrovert." If you know the enneagram, I have a lot of 4 and 5 (my core is a 3), so those numbers influence me to be a bit more withdrawn. I've never felt the need to recharge or get away from a gathering; I would go on highly social retreats for a week and come back feeling lonely because I didn't have anyone to be with 24/7 anymore. Kind of like people-withdrawals, coming down from a high. I also have suffered from a lot of social anxiety, and while it's improved immensely, I feel awkward in a lot of social situations and would often prefer to avoid them. I can actually survive by being by myself for a decent amount of time before I start to get lonely. I'm good at entertaining myself. This doesn't make me an introvert, because introversion has nothing to do with whether you're quiet, loud, outgoing, crowd-loving, peace-loving, or any other kind of superficial characteristic to describe the introversion and extroversion--at best, these can only be tendencies, not core characteristics relevant to every introvert and extrovert in the world. So Sara's story doesn't make her one, either. She could have certainly mistyped herself as an extrovert, and like you said, only she knows that. But just like you can have very extroverted introverts (and I've met some very extroverted introverts), you can also have introverted extroverts, and there's nothing wrong with either, though both people are usually misunderstood and only understood by those closest to them.
@@sarataylorhealth What?! I was so sure you were an ISFP like a childhood friend who is introverted, kind, practical, and into creative arts and crafts. But anyway, whatever your personality is, we love it! 💗
I get the same, or I did when I was growing up (am 40 now and things are different). Somehow ppl wouldn't approach me much to be friends or invite me places because that's what they thought. It makes it difficult because you have to approach others to find out that they actually are friendly and want to be friends. I was a bit of an introvert and should have stuck my neck out socially, but I shouldn't have to go out of my way to "prove" I'm not stand-off-ish. Those ppl chose their friends because they wanted to...am starting not to make sense, but it has always baffled me. Invite me into your circle and we can be friends, you know?
Her talking about how she didn’t mean to have that reaction- YES. If I talk about being shy and weird and all that jazz growing up I literally laugh and cry at the same time. I see the humor in it.. but.. also apparently my overly emotional heart is *not* over it 😂
Yo, that's not overly emotional, that's just emotional. That shit hurt you and it's perfectly normal to feel that reaction. It often happens that although we're intellectually far over something, we've never let ourselves just feel what we feel about it, and so it remains undealt with. That's especially common with things from our childhood, which happen before we have the emotional maturity to sort out our feelings, or even put a name to them, and we just bury them. ...Or at least that's what my therapist tells me whenever she catches me at trying to distance myself from my undercurrent emotions about sth through laughing at myself 😉
@Cationna oof. Why ya gotta call me out on my unhealthy coping mechanisms like that 😅 Fr, thanks for the solidarity though. You seem rad. Tell your therapist I say hi✌🏻
“Just because you feel like a group of people you’re involved with see you in a certain way, that’s not who you are.” That touched my heart sm just now💗
"I'm Jordan, this is Sara, we are married and we live in a log cabin." lol 👏👏👏 On a more serious note, thank you for these videos. Praise the Lord he can heal us from past traumas such as these. You two are blessed. ♡
When I was in high school, I was pretty good at making friends, and the thing I'm most proud of is that I always kept an eye out for anyone being left out. And I've always been glad that I included people because I've made great friends that way. In high school I got invited to a party that people didn't want to go to. I brought all my friends to the party, and we were the only ones to show up. We had a BLAST at the party, but if I hadn't gone and brought my friends no one would have come. Still one of my favorite memories from high school. Always be kind and give people a chance.
It surprised me to learn about it because when I first saw her on Blimeycow, I thought that she looked like the kind of girl that anyone would want to be friends with. I mean, I was always alone and people would say the same about me, but I was always moving and was just different from everyone.
Sara’s story about her 16th birthday hits so close to home for me! My 12th birthday I invited literally all my friends at the time and only ONE person came, several people didn’t RSVP, and because of really random weird circumstances me and my friend thought my parents were about to give me the puberty talk (with her there). 😂 They didn’t, but I felt so alone and unloved. Definitely cried more than once over it. And have felt that on a smaller scale more than once since then. The one time I had a big-ish party (16th) I was SO STRESSED AND WORRIED that no one would come, that it definitely wasn’t as fun as it should have been. Not glad that it happened, but I’m glad I’m not alone!
Amelia Rose I relate to this too. Have had many birthdays when people didn’t show up- one where I went into London for a specially booked meal and when I was on the train an hour away I got messages from everybody saying they couldn’t make it. Devastating.
@Katrina hahaha yes it was 😂 but you RSVP’d 😉 Also thanks for coming for so many years, birthday parties have always really been an excuse for a sleepover 😂🥰
I feel like this is so inconsiderate and impolite! It's expected that people inform in advance if they won't be able to go, at least in my country. Is it any different in the US or are these people just completely rude?
I am in my 30's, and still dealing with the fact, that I was feeling alone and unwanted most of the time, in my childhood and youth. I would really like, if you made a video, where you talked about how Sarah is dealing with or has been dealing with her experiences. These videos have touched me so much
Sara's experience reminds me of Mr. Darcy's in Pride and Prejudice... "I get that anxiety of that if I do talk to people, I'm gonna do something that they're gonna think I'm an idiot. ... But then on the other side of that, I'm always afraid that I'm giving off that vibe of being very pretentious. And it's a stuggle to balance that, because I feel like a lot of the time I give out this 'I don't want to talk to you' vibe, which I hate!"
@@RhondaRooBug I haven't seen the movie---I really want to but I haven't been able to yet---but in the book he says, "I am ill qualified to recommend myself to strangers." 😂😂 That's one way to put it, Darcy!
My personality is a lot like Jordan. I seem to collect Sara’s. Both of my best friends had experiences like her till I came is and saw them and thought “there’s a person who needs someone to talk to” The Sara’s of the world are very interesting and caring people. I love having them as my friends.
Yesss. We need more people like this that are just able to recognize other's hurt and go to make friends with them. Although I sadly am more relating to Sara's story, all my good friends have the personality of "Oh hey, let's include this person too."
I had a very similar childhood experience. I struggled a lot with self esteem, so i had a hard time making friends. My older sister is only 11 1/2 months older than me, and we were in the same grade. She made friends so easy! So, because we were born in the same month, my parents had a joint birthday party for us. All my sisters friends came, and thought it was just a party for her, so they only brought one gift. Only one person came for me, and so her pile of presents was huge, and i had one. A lot of them were super apologetic, because they had no idea it was a joint party. After that I chose to have no birthday parties (especially because many others i had had previously had been just as disappointing) and just a special dinner at home with my family. The silver lining is that a few years ago, I told my friend that story when she asked me if i was going to celebrate my birthday, and she threw me a surprise party. It was amazing at how many people were there and I felt so loved! It just goes to show that those times don't last forever! I have gained sooooo many close friendship since then!
I relate myself to Sara so much. Some people call me an introvert, some people call me an extrovert, and the truth is it depends on how my anxiety is doing and it depends on how welcome you make me feel. This channel is so refreshing because it is so honest. I'm so thankful that I found my way here and that I can watch honest and human experiences and conversations. Thanks you guys!
Aha, I continue to relate to Sara! I also internalized the feeling of being left out so often that I ended up projecting this "loner vibe" that made everybody ignore me even more! What she said in this video is exactly what I'd tell my younger self. I want to thank you both for your insight into this in your videos!!
Same! I always got so confused when people would tell me I came across as intimidating or standoffish because I wasn't even trying to give off that impression, and in my mind, other people were the ones who were intimidating to me
Please do messyges from sara because it seems like she’s very wise and empathetic and she’ll actually give really good advice without making fun of us ❤️
Same story for my 16th birthday. I invited my "best friend" to a boardwalk with the games and rides with my family but she chose instead to go visit her other true best friend. I'm about to be 27 and still struggle with making friends. I've tried so hard, and being a shy introvert makes that a real struggle. My husband, whom has been my bestest friend for 8 years says I need to put myself out there and be friendly. So, I've done that countless times over the years to others, and have received nothing back. With my husband we just clicked as friends right away. Why must it be so hard to make friends 😕, I always feel like something is wrong with me and I'm not good enough... Thank you for being so raw and real and sharing your struggles! I'm glad to know I'm not alone with this.
I had an experience similar to Sara's, but only at church. I had a few friends at school, but none of them went to my youth group. The girls in my age group at youth group never valued me, never included me, and it has made going to any kind of group at church where it was only my people my age very difficult. I am still struggling to try going to groups like that again, and am at a different church, but I feel like it will be a long time until those wounds heal.
I think this video is great not just for people who relate to Sara but those who don't. As a Pastor's kid I've never struggled with that but it makes me review my actions. Like, have I ever made someone feel unwanted and unloved? Thank you Sara and Jordan for your vulnerability.
The story definitely meant a lot to me, the honesty of both of you is so impactful and I really resonate with Sara's experience. Even more I so appreciate the love you, Jordan, are showing her through these. Thanks for choosing each other, choosing growth, communicating with each other well, and sharing your hearts with us ❤️
Aww! You guys kissed on camera! How sweet! So special since we don't see that often. Dont feel like you have to though!❤ I can definitely relate to that Sarah, I know I don't pick up every social clue so I freak out worrying that I missed something and offended someone
glad you guys clarified the part of being yourself but making sure you check yourself as well, cuz so many teenagers I see only take the first part and basically end up becoming arrogant and say forget the world cuz I'm the one doing it right
I seriously feel like everything you explained about feeling insecure like people don’t want to talk to you but then you’re insecure that you seem standoffish is me to a t. I never could put into words that weird anxiety but it’s the WORST! Thank you for speaking out about your experience. I know I’m not alone in that. It’s a terrible feeling
It's our deepest desire and need to be seen, known, and loved - I think that's why this strikes a chord with so many people! I genuinely think the most important thing in life is to truly see each person we encounter, and to be totally present to them - and being present to them for the sake of themselves, not for anything I can get from them
I was always left out of everything and ignored by everyone (including in my church), recently I’ve been struggling with social anxiety and it’s hard for me just to have a conversation with someone. It isn’t like me to be so nervous in social situations but the idea that I’m not liked is so deeply rooted because of past experiences. Thank you for sharing this story 🙏
Sara, you re so sweet and pretty, it's hard for me to imagine you weren't always popular. I have never fit in, and now that I am an adult, I am fine with it. I know God loves and accepts me even if I can't find many people who relate to me.
I struggled with the same thing for a long time. At church, school, etc. I always felt this wall between myself and everyone else. Looking back, I realize it was a combination of my quiet nature and the way that a lot of people around me communicated. People just didn't always know what to do with me, lol. When I moved districts and had some time away from these social groups, I found I was perfectly content just working on my relationship with God, as I kept a patient eye out for my tribe. This led me to grow stronger in myself and my relationship with God. It also led to me finding friends who did accept me as I was.
It was really eye-opening, not only to watch that last video, which was impactful, But also to scroll through the comments and see all the people who could relate. I used the opportunity to go into my list of contacts and message a bunch of people, Just to check in on them. Not all responded, but most of them did appreciate Someone reaching out, especially during this time of worldwide quarantine. I'm not popular or anything, but of the people I know who do know me, I wouldn't want them to buy into the lie that they aren't worth including. If you're still reading this: Who can you find within reach to encourage genuinely? Whether it's a friend or a relative or a random person you come across in a comment section, Keep your eyes open for good opportunities to make a positive connection. :)
As someone who feels enormous pressure to make everyone feel like they have a best friend in me, being told I can make people feel included but not have to be best friends with them is really liberating. Thankyou. Thanks for sharing, these are such worthwhile and edifying conversations.
I appreciate this insight so much: just because youve been excluded in the past doesnt mean you should continue projecting a “sure, exclude me, i can totally handle it” vibe all your life. It takes conscious thought to open up and attempt to forge new friendships, as it’s much easier to just tell everyone to stay away through unspoken vibes. Sara, thank you for sharing your story xoxoxo
Necesito expresarme bien, así que lo diré en español. He vivido toda mi vida en medio de un grupo de amigos muy cerrado, y me siento muy cómoda con ellos, son mis amigos desde bebés, siempre estuvimos en las mismas escuelas, misma iglesia, mismo grupo de jóvenes. Ahora que estamos grandes, aún que nos seguimos viendo, he tenido que hacer nuevos amigos, y me ha costado mucho trabajo, porque simplemente extraño a mi grupo exclusivo. Ahora me doy cuenta que éramos los "populares" y que excluimos a mucha gente de nuestro círculo a pesar de que nunca fue nuestra intención ser groseros o elitistas. Quiero cambiar eso en mi vida, porque ahora entiendo que ser excluido del grupo puede herir mucho tus sentimientos, y conozco a muchos de mi grupo de jóvenes que están siendo excluidos sin que nos demos cuenta. Así que quiero hacer mi resolución de manera pública: Este año voy a intentar incluir a tantos jóvenes como me sea posible, para que se sientan amados aún que no lleguemos a ser mejores amigos. Quiero que sientan que el grupo de jóvenes es su zona segura, a la que puedan llegar sin miedo a ser rechazados. Esa es mi meta durante está cuarentena y durante el resto del año.
Everything you said made perfect sense to me, Sara. Meeting new people is typically really hard for me and I feel like they're bored of me before I've finished introducing myself haha! These last couple videos have had such vulnerability, wisdom and heart in them. A winning trifecta! Wonderful job, guys!
i feel like Sara and i had the same childhood, because a lot of that stuff is what i experienced and has led to me having social anxiety, something i've been working on for a long time now. it's been a rocky road, but it's good to know i'm not walking it alone 💛
Dang that mental barrier Sara mentioned is so real. I still feel it to this day in social situations. I'm so glad you guys did these vids about this bc this is so important to talk about.
This resonated with me so deeply. And I've learned that Sara is so right. I grew up homeschooled, and didn't have a bunch of friends. And when I was a freshman in college, I found a group of friends, but I had to try really hard to get them to accept me. They constantly tried to get me to be like them, and I realized the next year that they didn't really want to be my friend, unless I became just like them. I found real Christian friends sophomore year and never looked back. Keep looking for real acceptance. It's so worth it. Thank you for your vulnerability, Sara! We love you so much!!
I definitely relate with Sara! All my life I've been an "outsider" but never because I wanted to be. I ALWAYS tried to fit in, but never was "good enough" in my church growing up, to friends I made as a late teenager, to even my coworkers now. I really do think I build up walls and maybe give off the vibe that I don't want people to talk to me when it's not true---I'm just afraid people don't want to talk to me or will think I'm weird! It really is crazy how anxiety like that stems from our childhood traumas.
We really need to remember how big of an impact we can have on one person's whole life. Especially in youth every single relationship has a groundbreaking impact on a person. If we keep open minded and kind, no matter what other people say or think, we will change a lot to the better. Let's be kind and open, guys.
Hahaha, that little kiss at the end was so cute. Perfect completion :) It's really refreshing to me to see other young married couples actually being respectful and sweet to each other. I feel like all I hear from other married people my age is just about the annoying things their spouse or kids do, which makes me super sad.
The first video honestly blew my mind because I have always wished I could be friends with Sarah in real life and thought she was the coolest person. Thank you guys for all your videos and for being so honest with us, you're both an inspiration!
Hi, Sara 💖 I'm not sure if you will ever see this but I wanted to tell you that it broke my heart to hear your story. You seem like a really awesome person and I would love to hang out with you and Jordan if I ever had the chance. But I can relate. I always struggled to make friends. And the one "friend" I thought I had in my catechism class just ditched the table we were sitting at to join another group of friends. It hurt so much that she abandoned me without a blink of an eye. I'm glad so many people responded to your video 💖 You and Jordan are great people. So glad I follow you both 😊
So.... does anyone else have a “I wish they could be my friend in real life” list?? Like a list of people who you know of on social media but they have no idea who you are because you don’t make videos... I do have plenty of friends I know in person... But you guys.. Jordan and Sarah Taylor are totally on my “I wish they could be my friend in real life” list! ❤️ you both are AWESOME!
I identify a lot with what Sara said about social experiences impacting her views of people and causing her to feel she didn’t like others. I was that way for over a decade. But in the last 2-3 years, I've begun to find myself, for the first time in my life, having a social circle of people who actually seem to care about and like me. I’m getting better at feeling secure in that, especially as this quarantine has revealed which people are really in my corner, my real friends. But all the people who know me well have seen my insecurity come through sometimes, like when I act surprised at their support. I still have that shadow of doubt that makes me think they’ll all leave. I hope someday that fear goes away for good.
Vulnerability in the right context can be a transformative, uplifting thing, and sharing something like this honestly and so openly took awesome bravery. Thank you for sharing and helping others feel known
I really couldn't relate to Sarah more😭! Thank you so much for being so brave and sharing your feelings and thoughts with us, everything you said is spot on. May God helps us all to overcome our struggles and be at peace with who we are 💓
Thank u guys. I really needed this in my life right now. Cause I'm not passed this stuff yet. I'm still having to interact with these people. But u give me hope for the future. ❤
This is too real.. i can't even break it down. Felt this for so long. I had like 3 friends. Until I was 22 and moved to a new city, started at a new church, and threw myself into meeting mew people. Now I have an AMAZING group of friends who are as close as family. I wouldn't trade them for anything. God is so good. Love you Sarah! Thank you for being vulnerable and honest.
thank you so much for opening up! I really needed to hear this :) I can't really open up about everything I've been through (and still am going through) but this gave me some hope and good perspective to think about. So thank you both! You have a bigger impact than you could ever know :)
Just proves how influential our childhood is, I was called fat by so many kids/teens as I walked by them, that even as a married woman, passing kids on the street that I didn't know would give me anxiety!!
We all want love and acceptance. Thank God He accepted of who I am because He loves me. The older I get, the more I need Him. There were some friendship loss I gone through, rejection, scrutiny, and miss understanding, but I haven't given up. You Jordan and Sarah, are a blessing. Thank you for this video. Keep on.
Y'alls openness is so refreshing! I can tell I'm still wrestling with how to move on from my similar childhood experiences and not let them affect my expectations of interacting with people. I think I would tell my younger self that even if you don't have the opportunity now to find a different group of people that you can connect with, keep developing your interests, character, and confidence in who you are. Then other people who are like you, will have an easier time spotting you, so to speak. Now in college, with a good community, I'm sometimes afraid I'll be the one to unintentionally exclude, but your video is a great reminder to look around the margins. Thank you so much!
I just got done watching the previous video... you have no idea how much that resonated with me Sara. I was homeschooled as well and though the adults at my church recognized me and would say hello once in a while, and like 2 friends I had since we were small children... from the age of about 10/11 until the age of 17 I had next to no one. No one took time to be a part of my life or be a true friend to me, people would never ever invite me and include me in anything outside of joint activities that I would try and be a part of. They had their cliques and I never got "in" with them. I was quite literally invisible to everyone in my youth group; even the friendships I managed to bond with just because of the history of making friends as children. Thank you for sharing, I've been really battling with the resurgence of feelings involving my past with being excluded from near everything in my high school years. Which is absolutely silly because I've made some really deep friendships since high school, that are so amazing. But I've been avoiding my horrible feelings of exclusions, and fear of exclusion, for years now and it's been coming back since the pandemic came around. I'm still struggling with everything from being petrified of losing friendships I've made, and I still doubt people's true intentions because I don't want to be invited to things out of pity which would happen at joint activities in High school. I find myself lately constantly wondering if they REALLY want to talk to me, or if they really really love me truly and want to be my friend. I was so filled with anxiety and terror deep down, that I repressed, when I moved a few hundred miles away from home to go to college in Oregon to complete my Bachelor's degree. I was so afraid I wasn't going to make any friends, but somehow God met me when I prayed earnestly and filled me with peace and I just knew I would be okay - and I stopped worrying to deeply. Literally a week and a half later I met the group of people that would become the closest friends I've had in my life thus far, a few being my best friends now; we've shared really deep bonding moments together in talks and hanging out. I love them all so much, they are the most amazing friends, but up until a few weeks ago I was struggling constantly with wondering how they really felt about me - the feelings of questioning if they really liked me. Not long after the quarantine started on the west coast, on Easter Sunday I heard rocks hitting my window and three of my closest friends that remained on campus through it were down below my window. They made a care package for me with goodies, and they each wrote notes for me expressing how much they loved me and how much I'm like family to them. I cried so hard, I never believed or knew how much they cared about me. Throughout my life I've always been the one wanting friends, and never getting reciprocation whether or not I tried to make friends. I've been repressing my past for so long, because I don't think my feelings count or should be affecting me because people have it so much worse than me with being bullied and so on, I'm literally crying as I write this Sara because I'm addressing it right now. I don't like talking about my past because it hurts so bad, and I just think so many have it so much worse than I did, I shouldn't be so upset about it. Just... thank you for sharing... it sounds like you and I had a very very similar childhood - never necessarily outright bullied but always excluded. Thank you so much for sharing. You guys don't have to reply - I know there's a lot of comments.
This was so helpful for me and a lot of people. I have had similar experiences tho I go to school but I’m a very sheltered Christian and been ignored in all different groups. I have been going to the same church all my life but some people ask if I am new or seem people know me but ignore me and it’s really hard. Thank you so much
What Sara said in the last 2 minutes of the video really resonated with me! Some people think I'm an introvert because they see me on an off day when I'm having more anxiety or just am tired... But I'm honestly so extroverted. I have learned that sometimes it's okay to slightly force yourself into a group and then see what happens. I also look for other people on the sidelines and try to befriend them.
When I was in school, every time I would make a new connection with someone they would say, "Wow I didn't know you talked!" It was THE MOST annoying thing. I just assume that no one wants to talk to me and if they do, they're just humoring me. I'm trying to work on being more friendly and outgoing, but it's hard!
I just finished the video. Thank you so much for saying what you said in the video. I struggle a lot with letting people get to know me because I automatically believe no one likes me because I'm awkward, I said something wrong, etc. So I totally relate and your video made me realize I have to get past this mindset also. Again thank you so much for being honest and sincere. Thank you for just being yourselves. Love you guys 💓
I still struggle with walls and barriers and stand off-ish vibes I give off without realizing because I've been in so many situations like Sara's my whole childhood. This is really encouraging to not just give into that, because too often it seems so easy to just give up. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about this.
Thanks for sharing both of these videos, guys! I totally agree with you, Sarah! I've grown so much in my interactions with others since my childhood. But even still, anytime I'm around people who in any way seem to resemble those types of people that left me out, I find myself falling back into those old mannerisms with the mindset that I'm unacceptable to them and they are just snobs. Which totally gives off the wrong vibe. I have to remind myself that they aren't the same people that excluded me as a child; and even if they are that type, God calls us to show love to everyone, regardless of if they don't return the same. It's crazy how much that stuff from our past can follow us. Every time I think I'm completely over it, I run into a group at work, or school, or church that makes me automatically revert into that old mindset. Thank God He continues to work on us and help us through these things. Love and blessings to you both!
A great followup to the previous video! :) I really appreciate the openness and honesty of both of you! And also the great advice! When Sara mentioned how when she's in social situations she doesn't always want to talk to others or put herself out there, partly because she's afraid she'll do something awkward and people will think she's an idiot, I was just like, 'Yeah, that's me!' lol And I have done and said things that just fell flat or embarrassed me in some way (but I guess everybody has at some point)... I can still remember other kids' annoyed or mean reactions to things that I've said or done when I was growing up. And I sometimes think that adults probably feel that way about me too, they're just better at hiding it. But, like you said: We can't really always know what other people think of us and project our past onto others. And if you know you're doing the right thing and not being mean, then it doesn't really matter what others think about you. And it depends a lot on groups, too, and what people have in common. It's true what you guys said: for a lot of the people I was with, we probably wouldn't end up being great friends anyway, and that's okay. Still, I appreciate how you've acknowledged that this whole fear of rejection and poor self-image is a process that is real and hard--but it's not impossible. A lot of the time, we're our own worst enemy. The main cure is trusting Jesus more to guide us in our attitudes and relationships, breaking through those fear-based barriers with Him. And at the end of the day, if people reject you, that doesn't mean you are meant to be rejected or that everyone will reject you. Even if everyone you ever knew did: Jesus is always there for you, eagerly waiting for you to turn to Him, and He won't ever reject anyone that comes to Him. Thanks again, Superfriends! :D
Also Sara, ty, I think you video and Jordans will open up so many more ppl who go through this, and struggle with it. The reaction you had reminds me of something I have. It's like when you've been somewhat emotionally abused or even slightly bullied bad it triggers you, even though you thought it was over. It's not exactly like PTSD but it's a smaller thing, it's a memory in your heart, kind like you put a band-aid on it and healed it, and it doesn't hurt anymore, but when it starts to come off a little someone may rip it off, and "Ow, that hurts.' pain comes, it's external and totally normal to have some things trigger us when we've went through a emotional battle, you are a very strong woman for handling it and not letting it make you become bitter! I look up toyou so much! Ty! -Joyce Weller! 💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you guys so much for putting these videos out there and having these conversations. I relate a lot to Sara. Even in college I still experience getting left out or feel not wanted. I needed to hear a lot of things you guys had to say in this video. You two are so encouraging and inspiring! May God greatly bless you both!!
I think that this is a lot of people in high school! We are all trying to figure out life and how to treat people in it... people are mean but sometimes it is just fear. I had a lot of people say when we were alone that I was "cool" and stuff like that, then the next day totally ignore me. Now life is different... I have a wife and kids, and going home to someone who "chose" me and sticks with me changes a lot of "anxiety"... Just love people as you love yourself and at least God will be pleased (under the blood of Jesus).
So many thoughts and emotions after watching this (and the previous) video(s)... As someone who grew up with hardly any friends, but from mid-teen years onward, found "my crowd(s)" - and then would meet people who just thought I was always "popular" (which drives me insane) - THANK YOU. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have some very dear friends who have similar stories to you, Sara, and I am so looking forward to gently encouraging them with these two videos. One the one hand, I would love to see a channel of just Sara, but I think that having the two of you together in so many videos is part of what makes them so special - the relational aspect (so if you do decide to make a Sara's Messyges or something, please don't stop making these couple videos!!). Seeing how Jordan loves Sara through this, and how he is so upset and confused at how she was treated; seeing her comfort him in his response; seeing them share this together as a couple who has worked through it to the point of being able to laugh about it; the depth of intimacy you have because you are different and your stories are different but God brought you together and melded you into one beautiful whole... these things are a big reason why I re-subscribed to Jordan's channel. (I won't say why I unsubscribed to BlimeyCow here, because that's not my point.) Thank you for being real. Thank you for your tears and your hearts. Thank you for your laughs and smiles and processing and sharing the "results" - so to speak - of much heart work and relational growth. THANK YOU. The world needs more of this. One thing I would ask is why you as Christians don't bring Christ into these videos - I think they would be so much more powerful and authentic if you did (even if you might lose some subscribers because of it). What is hope without Jesus? It's just not. Blessings, friends. Hope that comes across kindly/respectfully.
This was so good! I loved part one and I love how y'all expanded in this one. So glad y'all shared this. I know it's opening a lot of peoples eyes who have gone through and are going through this. I can totally relate to Sara at 12:52. Thanks for sharing!
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This videos kicked close to home for me, having trouble to celebrate birthdays cause most people wouldn't care and being alone growing up... Thank you so much for this. I needed it.
Thank you so much for sharing Sarah, I've felt alone at the church I've been in for the past 2 years. Its been the first time Ive really struggled to make friends and felt excluded and ignored by other people. I cried at your last video when you said how you'd go to events and be like this time it'll be different - I really felt that. Its taken me a while to realise that how other people view you shouldn't affect how you view yourself as for a long time I lost confidence as was viewing myself through other peoples eyes rather than looking at what God and I think of myself. Its made me try to include others more as I don't want others to feel this way as the church is meant to be inclusive and loving.
Sara is a ray of sunshine. Shy people tend to struggle more. I relate to that a great deal. I have several people I have fellowship with now, but it took years to get here. Even people in the church have a very hard time accepting me. I tend to wait for others to reach out, because I don't want to burden anyone. I'm so happy for Sara, that she found someone on this Earth who Loves her so much and values her immensely. She is the jewel that Jordan cherishes and protects. I agree that people need to "check yoself" (plank in the eye) before placing blame on another, but eventually realizing that human beings have their own issues to deal with, many of them having nothing to do with those they interact with. God Loves us, and will never leave nor foresake us. Bless everyone on this thread who has felt like an outsider. We are meant to be the light of the world. It's pretty awesome.
Thank you Sara. Life circumstances have kind of piled up in a way that made my feeling of people disliking me hit so much harder because I feel like I have no one to talk to, so it’s all held inside. This is really helpful, seriously. Thank you for being able to talk about it, seeing someone who’s gone through it and come out and made it through is so encouraging.
You and Sara are just beautiful people. She has overcome a lot. I asked a lot of people from the churches/schools that I attended. They all said that I talked to everyone, even if they were "not popular." It doesn't even take that much effort to be kind. I try to be kind, but I'm not perfect. I'm just me, trying to do what Jesus told me to do. But please, extend kindness towards those who need it, even to those who seem like they don't want it. It could mean the difference between a healthy life and an unhealthy one for someone in your life.
"I found myself tearing up, and I was like, 'what on earth?'" I have had the exact same sequence of events talking about the death of my Grandpa. These videos are awesome guys.
This video is going in my favorites playlist, and is being saved in all the important places so I watch it often. It’s almost a shame that those who experience some sort of hurt in their childhood/developmental years is so full of wisdom, because well, is that truly the cost? But suddenly I’m reminded of the beauty of the gospel: God brings the most beautiful good into this fallen world from what was intended for evil and destruction. Perhaps it’s the way He intends for us to share His beauty, while He comforts us completely and fully.
One of the things I always tell my kids and grandkids is that I'm not the same person I was when I was a teenager. That they wouldn't recognize me. When I got out of that environment (high school) I bloomed. I chose who I hung out with and became friends with. (Like minded people.) I tell them don't hang onto friendships to hard of people who do not think like you do, and... this season of life will pass!
I’m 21 and I used to be so shy and socially awkward in my teens! I feel as if I’ve come SO far since then in confidence and social skills but I still get super anxious in group settings, even among groups of friends. I definitely relate to your struggles, Sara!! ❤️thanks so much for these videos; they are so incredibly encouraging
Seeing you guys grow and being honest about just how life can be was very powerful and hit close to home. But it's good to know that there are people out there that help you fit in and make you feel welcome. God bless you both!
Who else needs a Sara's Messyges now?
YESSSS!!!!!!
I love that idea!
YES
At least one time
I want this!!
Thank you so much, everyone, for reaching out to both of us so much this past week. It's amazing to see the support and love that you all showed to Sara specifically. I know it really meant a lot to her.
No problem! Also what else are we supposed to do during quarantine?
Love you guys so much!
Thank you for being real and vulnerable. It is super special and encouraging!
I love you guys
No, thank you guys for being real and putting yourselves put out there in this way. I feel in our society, we only want to post about what we are best at and put on our best face for people, yet we all crave to hear that we are not the only ones going through something that's a struggle and that we are understood. It's so refreshing to have people like you guys who are willing to talk about something as raw as a past rejection because who knows, it could help someone else sharpen their own perspective, which I think is what people really need. I'm not saying we should feel sorry for ourselves and post about our every single annoyance, but opening up a conversation like this to find a solution together can be so impactful! Keep it up!
Please do messyges from sara because it seems like she’s very wise and empathetic and she’ll actually give really good advice without making fun of us ❤️
You guys could totally have a podcast together! I would listen!😊
@Abbie Peyton, seriously same though! I love when they do videos together
Yesss me too!!
I agreee!!!!😆
Ahhh I remember listening to their Anchors and it was so fun. Do they still do that? 😂 I fourth this idea!
Yes please!
The thumbnail is proof that Jordan will never stop wearing blue and white baseball tees
I mean they’re life itself
I noticed that 😆👌🏼
Out of high school, I ran into a classmate. He mentioned that I kept to myself.
I was confused. I thought no one was interested in spending time with me.
That's when it dawned on me that *I* had been the problem.
Later, I realized a big part of what that problem was.
I never smiled.
Ever.
I never knew that was a thing I should do.
Advice to parents -
Teach your children to smile.
It's a whole different world out there for those who do.
It truly is a teachable thing.
And not all of us are born understanding that we should.
The same thing happened to me! In middle school, I never smiled because people didn't like me much, but when I got to high school, I decided to change that around. I became much more approachable and now I have great friends!
^^^^ This is me. This comment describes me so well.
I have this thing where I have a little slight smile. I don't think it's slight to me because it really takes a lot of work just to do that.
As it turns out, usually my lips make a sad looking/pouty face (which I feel is not my expression or emotion at the time). People ask me all the time, "What's wrong?" And I'm just like, "Nothing." My mother tells me to relax, smile. So I do. My ever so slight smile that makes it look like I am fine.
It's so exhausting.
Normally I am a laughing, giggling mess but around other people that I don't know, I'm just not. It makes me seem like a serious, unfun person when that's just not who I am.
*HOW DO I FIX THIS??*
Sorry for the rant.
@@zemmie01 I'm very similar... putting on and keeping a welcoming face takes very conscious effort. I think it just takes a lot of hard practice. But when I'm with people I know well sometimes the emotion comes effortlessly. When I was younger and even now sometimes my Dad says 'smile, have a happy face, you have a beautiful smile'. Often it would be easier if people could just read my inside feeling, that I'd be happy to talk to them if they talk to me. The more I think about what I find welcoming in others themore I realise how little I have done that. I think I need to work on cultivating a friendly, outward-focussed disposition and appearance.
I have been asked "Why do you smile so much?" And It tore me apart
Absolutely! It's so important to teach your kids about social tics and social cues. My mom practically forced me to start smiling when I was 10. It's just a fact that people want to be around happy people that have fun. It's hard to tell you're happy if you're not smiling.
“Check yo self”
- Sara Taylor 2020
Man, I really needed to hear this. I get anxiety around others and people have told me that it's like I have a wall up- I never understood why I'm like this, but looking back I have very similar experiences to Sara. I never really fit in with kids from school, youth group, etc. and I think it turned into me thinking no one would ever really like "someone like me". I feel like the Lord is healing me with that though and making me more confident in Him and to not let fear get in the way of being a blessing to others, whether they like me or not. Really enjoyed hearing your discussion on this.
Amen! I can totally relate, and I feel like this is a season when Jesus is talking to us more and slowing us down, and even going to those root issues that we’ve always had in the back of our minds, and healing us. 💙
I can seriously relate to this, even though no one is actually bullying me fortunately, it still hurts that I was misunderstood by my peers. I am very happy to have a relationship with Jesus since He never leaves me no matter what is going on in my life. He understands me far more than anyone I have ever known and wants to help me through it all. He is so precious and loving.
I think Sarah is an INFJ. The social introvert usually doesn’t realize that they’re introverted, because they genuinely love making deep connections.
Juice That’s what everyone says! But I’m actually and ESTP!
She's a 4, so sometimes when Thinker types are 4s everyone thinks they're one of the more introverted, feeling types. (Speaking from experience as an entp 3w4, who is difficult for people to type and often assumed to be an enfp or infp.)
Sara Taylor you know yourself better than anyone else! Also thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I want to say I am an introvert, but I truly love spending time with people... just smaller groups. When I’m with large groups, sometimes I get anxious like you said you get. Introvert vs. extrovert is just a matter of where you get your energy from-I get mine from being alone or with smaller groups of people (but I can handle large groups.. it just gets me tired quicker). Extroverts get energized by being with people (generally larger groups, but from what I understand smaller groups do nicely as well). If I had to guess, I would say you’re like me-you like smaller groups and are therefore an extroverted introvert. I used to think there was something wrong with this, but truly it’s not. It’s how God created me, and it is helpful and beautiful to know more about yourself and embrace it.
Sorry for the Ted Talk lol! Again, you know more about yourself than I do, obviously. Just want you to know more about the difference between the two *if you didn’t already know 😃
@@rachelknapp7271 Extroverts can like small groups and be socially anxious. I am an ENTP and relate to her story immensely. Introversion vs. extroversion has very little to do about whether or not you like big groups or small groups; like you said, it has to do with where you get your energy from. Extroverts are energized by outward sources (often people, though not necessarily.) Introverts might be energized by outside sources, but they need time to recharge; they need to go into their inner worlds and rejuvenate. I find no enjoyment out of crowds because it's not stimulating enough mentally. I would rather be one-on-one. In fact, I would rather be one-on-one than in a group of even three, much of the time. That doesn't make me an introvert; it just means I enjoy deep conversations. I'm what you would call an "introverted extrovert." If you know the enneagram, I have a lot of 4 and 5 (my core is a 3), so those numbers influence me to be a bit more withdrawn. I've never felt the need to recharge or get away from a gathering; I would go on highly social retreats for a week and come back feeling lonely because I didn't have anyone to be with 24/7 anymore. Kind of like people-withdrawals, coming down from a high. I also have suffered from a lot of social anxiety, and while it's improved immensely, I feel awkward in a lot of social situations and would often prefer to avoid them. I can actually survive by being by myself for a decent amount of time before I start to get lonely. I'm good at entertaining myself. This doesn't make me an introvert, because introversion has nothing to do with whether you're quiet, loud, outgoing, crowd-loving, peace-loving, or any other kind of superficial characteristic to describe the introversion and extroversion--at best, these can only be tendencies, not core characteristics relevant to every introvert and extrovert in the world. So Sara's story doesn't make her one, either. She could have certainly mistyped herself as an extrovert, and like you said, only she knows that. But just like you can have very extroverted introverts (and I've met some very extroverted introverts), you can also have introverted extroverts, and there's nothing wrong with either, though both people are usually misunderstood and only understood by those closest to them.
@@sarataylorhealth What?! I was so sure you were an ISFP like a childhood friend who is introverted, kind, practical, and into creative arts and crafts. But anyway, whatever your personality is, we love it! 💗
I get told im “stand off ish” when thats not the case at all. Its sad how meaningless childhood situations haunt us in adult years.
I get the same, or I did when I was growing up (am 40 now and things are different). Somehow ppl wouldn't approach me much to be friends or invite me places because that's what they thought. It makes it difficult because you have to approach others to find out that they actually are friendly and want to be friends. I was a bit of an introvert and should have stuck my neck out socially, but I shouldn't have to go out of my way to "prove" I'm not stand-off-ish. Those ppl chose their friends because they wanted to...am starting not to make sense, but it has always baffled me. Invite me into your circle and we can be friends, you know?
Her talking about how she didn’t mean to have that reaction- YES. If I talk about being shy and weird and all that jazz growing up I literally laugh and cry at the same time. I see the humor in it.. but.. also apparently my overly emotional heart is *not* over it 😂
Yo, that's not overly emotional, that's just emotional. That shit hurt you and it's perfectly normal to feel that reaction. It often happens that although we're intellectually far over something, we've never let ourselves just feel what we feel about it, and so it remains undealt with. That's especially common with things from our childhood, which happen before we have the emotional maturity to sort out our feelings, or even put a name to them, and we just bury them.
...Or at least that's what my therapist tells me whenever she catches me at trying to distance myself from my undercurrent emotions about sth through laughing at myself 😉
@Cationna oof. Why ya gotta call me out on my unhealthy coping mechanisms like that 😅
Fr, thanks for the solidarity though. You seem rad. Tell your therapist I say hi✌🏻
“Just because you feel like a group of people you’re involved with see you in a certain way, that’s not who you are.” That touched my heart sm just now💗
"Be the person you're happy with at the end of the day." I need to remember this.
"I'm Jordan, this is Sara, we are married and we live in a log cabin." lol 👏👏👏
On a more serious note, thank you for these videos. Praise the Lord he can heal us from past traumas such as these. You two are blessed. ♡
When I was in high school, I was pretty good at making friends, and the thing I'm most proud of is that I always kept an eye out for anyone being left out. And I've always been glad that I included people because I've made great friends that way. In high school I got invited to a party that people didn't want to go to. I brought all my friends to the party, and we were the only ones to show up. We had a BLAST at the party, but if I hadn't gone and brought my friends no one would have come. Still one of my favorite memories from high school. Always be kind and give people a chance.
Woww.... I'm genuinely moved.... Not alot of people reach out and try to make people feel included.... You're a gem
@@mystery17 that made my day, thank you so much!
It surprised me to learn about it because when I first saw her on Blimeycow, I thought that she looked like the kind of girl that anyone would want to be friends with. I mean, I was always alone and people would say the same about me, but I was always moving and was just different from everyone.
Sara’s story about her 16th birthday hits so close to home for me! My 12th birthday I invited literally all my friends at the time and only ONE person came, several people didn’t RSVP, and because of really random weird circumstances me and my friend thought my parents were about to give me the puberty talk (with her there). 😂 They didn’t, but I felt so alone and unloved. Definitely cried more than once over it. And have felt that on a smaller scale more than once since then. The one time I had a big-ish party (16th) I was SO STRESSED AND WORRIED that no one would come, that it definitely wasn’t as fun as it should have been. Not glad that it happened, but I’m glad I’m not alone!
Amelia Rose I relate to this too. Have had many birthdays when people didn’t show up- one where I went into London for a specially booked meal and when I was on the train an hour away I got messages from everybody saying they couldn’t make it. Devastating.
My birthday got canceled this year
Shoot Amelia, that was probably one of the years I was busy, sorry 😂 but your parties I have been able to go to were super fun!
@Katrina hahaha yes it was 😂 but you RSVP’d 😉 Also thanks for coming for so many years, birthday parties have always really been an excuse for a sleepover 😂🥰
I feel like this is so inconsiderate and impolite! It's expected that people inform in advance if they won't be able to go, at least in my country. Is it any different in the US or are these people just completely rude?
I am in my 30's, and still dealing with the fact, that I was feeling alone and unwanted most of the time, in my childhood and youth. I would really like, if you made a video, where you talked about how Sarah is dealing with or has been dealing with her experiences. These videos have touched me so much
Same!!!
Sara's experience reminds me of Mr. Darcy's in Pride and Prejudice...
"I get that anxiety of that if I do talk to people, I'm gonna do something that they're gonna think I'm an idiot. ... But then on the other side of that, I'm always afraid that I'm giving off that vibe of being very pretentious. And it's a stuggle to balance that, because I feel like a lot of the time I give out this 'I don't want to talk to you' vibe, which I hate!"
Ahhh, Darcy, everyone’s favourite awkward introvert 😊
I just watched it again recently, and it really hit me when he said, "I don't have the talent of conversing easily." I was like, "Same here, Darcy. "
@@RhondaRooBug I haven't seen the movie---I really want to but I haven't been able to yet---but in the book he says, "I am ill qualified to recommend myself to strangers." 😂😂 That's one way to put it, Darcy!
Everybody wanted to befriend mr.darcy tho he was the picky one
My personality is a lot like Jordan. I seem to collect Sara’s. Both of my best friends had experiences like her till I came is and saw them and thought “there’s a person who needs someone to talk to”
The Sara’s of the world are very interesting and caring people. I love having them as my friends.
Woww well done👏👏i mean it!
Yesss. We need more people like this that are just able to recognize other's hurt and go to make friends with them.
Although I sadly am more relating to Sara's story, all my good friends have the personality of "Oh hey, let's include this person too."
I had a very similar childhood experience. I struggled a lot with self esteem, so i had a hard time making friends. My older sister is only 11 1/2 months older than me, and we were in the same grade. She made friends so easy! So, because we were born in the same month, my parents had a joint birthday party for us. All my sisters friends came, and thought it was just a party for her, so they only brought one gift. Only one person came for me, and so her pile of presents was huge, and i had one. A lot of them were super apologetic, because they had no idea it was a joint party. After that I chose to have no birthday parties (especially because many others i had had previously had been just as disappointing) and just a special dinner at home with my family. The silver lining is that a few years ago, I told my friend that story when she asked me if i was going to celebrate my birthday, and she threw me a surprise party. It was amazing at how many people were there and I felt so loved! It just goes to show that those times don't last forever! I have gained sooooo many close friendship since then!
What a great friend! ❤️ I'm glad your story has an overcomer's ending!
I relate myself to Sara so much. Some people call me an introvert, some people call me an extrovert, and the truth is it depends on how my anxiety is doing and it depends on how welcome you make me feel.
This channel is so refreshing because it is so honest. I'm so thankful that I found my way here and that I can watch honest and human experiences and conversations. Thanks you guys!
Aha, I continue to relate to Sara! I also internalized the feeling of being left out so often that I ended up projecting this "loner vibe" that made everybody ignore me even more! What she said in this video is exactly what I'd tell my younger self. I want to thank you both for your insight into this in your videos!!
Same! I always got so confused when people would tell me I came across as intimidating or standoffish because I wasn't even trying to give off that impression, and in my mind, other people were the ones who were intimidating to me
Please do messyges from sara because it seems like she’s very wise and empathetic and she’ll actually give really good advice without making fun of us ❤️
Same story for my 16th birthday. I invited my "best friend" to a boardwalk with the games and rides with my family but she chose instead to go visit her other true best friend. I'm about to be 27 and still struggle with making friends. I've tried so hard, and being a shy introvert makes that a real struggle. My husband, whom has been my bestest friend for 8 years says I need to put myself out there and be friendly. So, I've done that countless times over the years to others, and have received nothing back. With my husband we just clicked as friends right away. Why must it be so hard to make friends 😕, I always feel like something is wrong with me and I'm not good enough... Thank you for being so raw and real and sharing your struggles! I'm glad to know I'm not alone with this.
I had an experience similar to Sara's, but only at church. I had a few friends at school, but none of them went to my youth group. The girls in my age group at youth group never valued me, never included me, and it has made going to any kind of group at church where it was only my people my age very difficult. I am still struggling to try going to groups like that again, and am at a different church, but I feel like it will be a long time until those wounds heal.
I think this video is great not just for people who relate to Sara but those who don't. As a Pastor's kid I've never struggled with that but it makes me review my actions. Like, have I ever made someone feel unwanted and unloved? Thank you Sara and Jordan for your vulnerability.
Recorded at night, what a rarity!
Man, I thought the same thing as we turned the camera on. I was wondering if anyone would notice.
It looks really nice recorded at night
@@JordanTaylorVideos I really like the atmosphere you guys created, very homey 🙂
@@JordanTaylorVideos lol I didn't notice until the end of the video 😂
@@JordanTaylorVideos I loved it. You got more ambient nature noise this way, and it was really kinda soothing.
Thank you guys so much for being so open and honest!
The story definitely meant a lot to me, the honesty of both of you is so impactful and I really resonate with Sara's experience. Even more I so appreciate the love you, Jordan, are showing her through these. Thanks for choosing each other, choosing growth, communicating with each other well, and sharing your hearts with us ❤️
Aww! You guys kissed on camera! How sweet! So special since we don't see that often. Dont feel like you have to though!❤
I can definitely relate to that Sarah, I know I don't pick up every social clue so I freak out worrying that I missed something and offended someone
Watching videos like this of you two together makes me feel like I'm chatting with friends idk how to explain lol but it's a homey atmosphere
glad you guys clarified the part of being yourself but making sure you check yourself as well, cuz so many teenagers I see only take the first part and basically end up becoming arrogant and say forget the world cuz I'm the one doing it right
Love you Jordan and Sara! Thanks for being real and up front, you’re amazing people and I can’t wait to see how God continues to work through y’all!
That was definitely one of my favorite videos you guys made. So real and authentic, and very relatable for lots of us. Keep doing what you're doing!!
You guys are going to the best parents one day. I'm gonna have to go back and watch part one.
I seriously feel like everything you explained about feeling insecure like people don’t want to talk to you but then you’re insecure that you seem standoffish is me to a t. I never could put into words that weird anxiety but it’s the WORST! Thank you for speaking out about your experience. I know I’m not alone in that. It’s a terrible feeling
It's our deepest desire and need to be seen, known, and loved - I think that's why this strikes a chord with so many people! I genuinely think the most important thing in life is to truly see each person we encounter, and to be totally present to them - and being present to them for the sake of themselves, not for anything I can get from them
I was always left out of everything and ignored by everyone (including in my church), recently I’ve been struggling with social anxiety and it’s hard for me just to have a conversation with someone. It isn’t like me to be so nervous in social situations but the idea that I’m not liked is so deeply rooted because of past experiences. Thank you for sharing this story 🙏
Remember that there is someone out there who would love to hang out with you, you just haven't found them yet
Sara, you re so sweet and pretty, it's hard for me to imagine you weren't always popular. I have never fit in, and now that I am an adult, I am fine with it. I know God loves and accepts me even if I can't find many people who relate to me.
I struggled with the same thing for a long time. At church, school, etc. I always felt this wall between myself and everyone else. Looking back, I realize it was a combination of my quiet nature and the way that a lot of people around me communicated. People just didn't always know what to do with me, lol. When I moved districts and had some time away from these social groups, I found I was perfectly content just working on my relationship with God, as I kept a patient eye out for my tribe. This led me to grow stronger in myself and my relationship with God. It also led to me finding friends who did accept me as I was.
It was really eye-opening, not only to watch that last video, which was impactful,
But also to scroll through the comments and see all the people who could relate.
I used the opportunity to go into my list of contacts and message a bunch of people,
Just to check in on them. Not all responded, but most of them did appreciate
Someone reaching out, especially during this time of worldwide quarantine.
I'm not popular or anything, but of the people I know who do know me,
I wouldn't want them to buy into the lie that they aren't worth including.
If you're still reading this: Who can you find within reach to encourage genuinely?
Whether it's a friend or a relative or a random person you come across in a comment section,
Keep your eyes open for good opportunities to make a positive connection. :)
Thank you for this. This comment actually made my day.
@@zemmie01
I'm glad your day was made, Emma! :) Might I inquire
What about this comment I left left you so inspired?
As someone who feels enormous pressure to make everyone feel like they have a best friend in me, being told I can make people feel included but not have to be best friends with them is really liberating. Thankyou. Thanks for sharing, these are such worthwhile and edifying conversations.
I appreciate this insight so much: just because youve been excluded in the past doesnt mean you should continue projecting a “sure, exclude me, i can totally handle it” vibe all your life. It takes conscious thought to open up and attempt to forge new friendships, as it’s much easier to just tell everyone to stay away through unspoken vibes. Sara, thank you for sharing your story xoxoxo
Necesito expresarme bien, así que lo diré en español.
He vivido toda mi vida en medio de un grupo de amigos muy cerrado, y me siento muy cómoda con ellos, son mis amigos desde bebés, siempre estuvimos en las mismas escuelas, misma iglesia, mismo grupo de jóvenes. Ahora que estamos grandes, aún que nos seguimos viendo, he tenido que hacer nuevos amigos, y me ha costado mucho trabajo, porque simplemente extraño a mi grupo exclusivo. Ahora me doy cuenta que éramos los "populares" y que excluimos a mucha gente de nuestro círculo a pesar de que nunca fue nuestra intención ser groseros o elitistas. Quiero cambiar eso en mi vida, porque ahora entiendo que ser excluido del grupo puede herir mucho tus sentimientos, y conozco a muchos de mi grupo de jóvenes que están siendo excluidos sin que nos demos cuenta. Así que quiero hacer mi resolución de manera pública: Este año voy a intentar incluir a tantos jóvenes como me sea posible, para que se sientan amados aún que no lleguemos a ser mejores amigos. Quiero que sientan que el grupo de jóvenes es su zona segura, a la que puedan llegar sin miedo a ser rechazados. Esa es mi meta durante está cuarentena y durante el resto del año.
Everything you said made perfect sense to me, Sara. Meeting new people is typically really hard for me and I feel like they're bored of me before I've finished introducing myself haha! These last couple videos have had such vulnerability, wisdom and heart in them. A winning trifecta! Wonderful job, guys!
i feel like Sara and i had the same childhood, because a lot of that stuff is what i experienced and has led to me having social anxiety, something i've been working on for a long time now. it's been a rocky road, but it's good to know i'm not walking it alone 💛
The way she says :CHECK YOSELF" Its so funny I literally can't!!!!
Dang that mental barrier Sara mentioned is so real. I still feel it to this day in social situations. I'm so glad you guys did these vids about this bc this is so important to talk about.
This resonated with me so deeply. And I've learned that Sara is so right. I grew up homeschooled, and didn't have a bunch of friends. And when I was a freshman in college, I found a group of friends, but I had to try really hard to get them to accept me. They constantly tried to get me to be like them, and I realized the next year that they didn't really want to be my friend, unless I became just like them. I found real Christian friends sophomore year and never looked back. Keep looking for real acceptance. It's so worth it. Thank you for your vulnerability, Sara! We love you so much!!
You guys are helping people, including me. Thank you Jordan and Sara❤️
I definitely relate with Sara! All my life I've been an "outsider" but never because I wanted to be. I ALWAYS tried to fit in, but never was "good enough" in my church growing up, to friends I made as a late teenager, to even my coworkers now. I really do think I build up walls and maybe give off the vibe that I don't want people to talk to me when it's not true---I'm just afraid people don't want to talk to me or will think I'm weird! It really is crazy how anxiety like that stems from our childhood traumas.
We really need to remember how big of an impact we can have on one person's whole life. Especially in youth every single relationship has a groundbreaking impact on a person. If we keep open minded and kind, no matter what other people say or think, we will change a lot to the better.
Let's be kind and open, guys.
Amen. This is so true.
Hahaha, that little kiss at the end was so cute. Perfect completion :)
It's really refreshing to me to see other young married couples actually being respectful and sweet to each other.
I feel like all I hear from other married people my age is just about the annoying things their spouse or kids do, which makes me super sad.
Sara is going to be THE most popular person at Blimey Con this year 😂 she was so cool to talk to last year. It's really cool to learn more about her ❤
Thank you for being so real with us. It means so much for me personally to see these kinds of videos. Thank you! 🖤🖤🖤
The first video honestly blew my mind because I have always wished I could be friends with Sarah in real life and thought she was the coolest person. Thank you guys for all your videos and for being so honest with us, you're both an inspiration!
Love it! And please keep that as your normal ending “I’m jordan, this is Sara, we’re married, we live in a log cabin and we deal with stuff.” 🤣
Hi, Sara 💖 I'm not sure if you will ever see this but I wanted to tell you that it broke my heart to hear your story. You seem like a really awesome person and I would love to hang out with you and Jordan if I ever had the chance. But I can relate. I always struggled to make friends. And the one "friend" I thought I had in my catechism class just ditched the table we were sitting at to join another group of friends. It hurt so much that she abandoned me without a blink of an eye. I'm glad so many people responded to your video 💖 You and Jordan are great people. So glad I follow you both 😊
These two videos were the reason for this channel, very powerful content!
So.... does anyone else have a “I wish they could be my friend in real life” list?? Like a list of people who you know of on social media but they have no idea who you are because you don’t make videos... I do have plenty of friends I know in person... But you guys.. Jordan and Sarah Taylor are totally on my “I wish they could be my friend in real life” list! ❤️ you both are AWESOME!
Audrey Hoover I definitely do! Glad I’m not the only one 😂
I identify a lot with what Sara said about social experiences impacting her views of people and causing her to feel she didn’t like others. I was that way for over a decade. But in the last 2-3 years, I've begun to find myself, for the first time in my life, having a social circle of people who actually seem to care about and like me. I’m getting better at feeling secure in that, especially as this quarantine has revealed which people are really in my corner, my real friends. But all the people who know me well have seen my insecurity come through sometimes, like when I act surprised at their support. I still have that shadow of doubt that makes me think they’ll all leave. I hope someday that fear goes away for good.
Vulnerability in the right context can be a transformative, uplifting thing, and sharing something like this honestly and so openly took awesome bravery. Thank you for sharing and helping others feel known
I really couldn't relate to Sarah more😭! Thank you so much for being so brave and sharing your feelings and thoughts with us, everything you said is spot on. May God helps us all to overcome our struggles and be at peace with who we are 💓
Thank u guys. I really needed this in my life right now. Cause I'm not passed this stuff yet. I'm still having to interact with these people. But u give me hope for the future. ❤
This is too real.. i can't even break it down. Felt this for so long. I had like 3 friends. Until I was 22 and moved to a new city, started at a new church, and threw myself into meeting mew people. Now I have an AMAZING group of friends who are as close as family. I wouldn't trade them for anything. God is so good.
Love you Sarah! Thank you for being vulnerable and honest.
thank you so much for opening up! I really needed to hear this :) I can't really open up about everything I've been through (and still am going through) but this gave me some hope and good perspective to think about. So thank you both! You have a bigger impact than you could ever know :)
LOVE YOU GUYS!
Just proves how influential our childhood is, I was called fat by so many kids/teens as I walked by them, that even as a married woman, passing kids on the street that I didn't know would give me anxiety!!
Love this video and the last one! Great advice and really touching.
last weeks vid was so touching. I cried.
We all want love and acceptance. Thank God He accepted of who I am because He loves me. The older I get, the more I need Him. There were some friendship loss I gone through, rejection, scrutiny, and miss understanding, but I haven't given up. You Jordan and Sarah, are a blessing. Thank you for this video. Keep on.
Y'alls openness is so refreshing! I can tell I'm still wrestling with how to move on from my similar childhood experiences and not let them affect my expectations of interacting with people. I think I would tell my younger self that even if you don't have the opportunity now to find a different group of people that you can connect with, keep developing your interests, character, and confidence in who you are. Then other people who are like you, will have an easier time spotting you, so to speak. Now in college, with a good community, I'm sometimes afraid I'll be the one to unintentionally exclude, but your video is a great reminder to look around the margins. Thank you so much!
I just got done watching the previous video... you have no idea how much that resonated with me Sara. I was homeschooled as well and though the adults at my church recognized me and would say hello once in a while, and like 2 friends I had since we were small children... from the age of about 10/11 until the age of 17 I had next to no one. No one took time to be a part of my life or be a true friend to me, people would never ever invite me and include me in anything outside of joint activities that I would try and be a part of. They had their cliques and I never got "in" with them. I was quite literally invisible to everyone in my youth group; even the friendships I managed to bond with just because of the history of making friends as children. Thank you for sharing, I've been really battling with the resurgence of feelings involving my past with being excluded from near everything in my high school years. Which is absolutely silly because I've made some really deep friendships since high school, that are so amazing. But I've been avoiding my horrible feelings of exclusions, and fear of exclusion, for years now and it's been coming back since the pandemic came around. I'm still struggling with everything from being petrified of losing friendships I've made, and I still doubt people's true intentions because I don't want to be invited to things out of pity which would happen at joint activities in High school. I find myself lately constantly wondering if they REALLY want to talk to me, or if they really really love me truly and want to be my friend.
I was so filled with anxiety and terror deep down, that I repressed, when I moved a few hundred miles away from home to go to college in Oregon to complete my Bachelor's degree. I was so afraid I wasn't going to make any friends, but somehow God met me when I prayed earnestly and filled me with peace and I just knew I would be okay - and I stopped worrying to deeply. Literally a week and a half later I met the group of people that would become the closest friends I've had in my life thus far, a few being my best friends now; we've shared really deep bonding moments together in talks and hanging out. I love them all so much, they are the most amazing friends, but up until a few weeks ago I was struggling constantly with wondering how they really felt about me - the feelings of questioning if they really liked me.
Not long after the quarantine started on the west coast, on Easter Sunday I heard rocks hitting my window and three of my closest friends that remained on campus through it were down below my window. They made a care package for me with goodies, and they each wrote notes for me expressing how much they loved me and how much I'm like family to them. I cried so hard, I never believed or knew how much they cared about me. Throughout my life I've always been the one wanting friends, and never getting reciprocation whether or not I tried to make friends. I've been repressing my past for so long, because I don't think my feelings count or should be affecting me because people have it so much worse than me with being bullied and so on, I'm literally crying as I write this Sara because I'm addressing it right now. I don't like talking about my past because it hurts so bad, and I just think so many have it so much worse than I did, I shouldn't be so upset about it. Just... thank you for sharing... it sounds like you and I had a very very similar childhood - never necessarily outright bullied but always excluded. Thank you so much for sharing. You guys don't have to reply - I know there's a lot of comments.
This was so helpful for me and a lot of people. I have had similar experiences tho I go to school but I’m a very sheltered Christian and been ignored in all different groups. I have been going to the same church all my life but some people ask if I am new or seem people know me but ignore me and it’s really hard. Thank you so much
What Sara said in the last 2 minutes of the video really resonated with me! Some people think I'm an introvert because they see me on an off day when I'm having more anxiety or just am tired... But I'm honestly so extroverted. I have learned that sometimes it's okay to slightly force yourself into a group and then see what happens. I also look for other people on the sidelines and try to befriend them.
When I was in school, every time I would make a new connection with someone they would say, "Wow I didn't know you talked!" It was THE MOST annoying thing. I just assume that no one wants to talk to me and if they do, they're just humoring me. I'm trying to work on being more friendly and outgoing, but it's hard!
Also, it makes me feel so much better that other people have gone through this. I’ve always felt left out, even as an adult
I just finished the video. Thank you so much for saying what you said in the video. I struggle a lot with letting people get to know me because I automatically believe no one likes me because I'm awkward, I said something wrong, etc. So I totally relate and your video made me realize I have to get past this mindset also. Again thank you so much for being honest and sincere. Thank you for just being yourselves. Love you guys 💓
I still struggle with walls and barriers and stand off-ish vibes I give off without realizing because I've been in so many situations like Sara's my whole childhood. This is really encouraging to not just give into that, because too often it seems so easy to just give up. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about this.
Thanks for sharing both of these videos, guys! I totally agree with you, Sarah! I've grown so much in my interactions with others since my childhood. But even still, anytime I'm around people who in any way seem to resemble those types of people that left me out, I find myself falling back into those old mannerisms with the mindset that I'm unacceptable to them and they are just snobs. Which totally gives off the wrong vibe. I have to remind myself that they aren't the same people that excluded me as a child; and even if they are that type, God calls us to show love to everyone, regardless of if they don't return the same. It's crazy how much that stuff from our past can follow us. Every time I think I'm completely over it, I run into a group at work, or school, or church that makes me automatically revert into that old mindset. Thank God He continues to work on us and help us through these things. Love and blessings to you both!
A great followup to the previous video! :) I really appreciate the openness and honesty of both of you! And also the great advice!
When Sara mentioned how when she's in social situations she doesn't always want to talk to others or put herself out there, partly because she's afraid she'll do something awkward and people will think she's an idiot, I was just like, 'Yeah, that's me!' lol
And I have done and said things that just fell flat or embarrassed me in some way (but I guess everybody has at some point)... I can still remember other kids' annoyed or mean reactions to things that I've said or done when I was growing up. And I sometimes think that adults probably feel that way about me too, they're just better at hiding it. But, like you said: We can't really always know what other people think of us and project our past onto others. And if you know you're doing the right thing and not being mean, then it doesn't really matter what others think about you.
And it depends a lot on groups, too, and what people have in common. It's true what you guys said: for a lot of the people I was with, we probably wouldn't end up being great friends anyway, and that's okay.
Still, I appreciate how you've acknowledged that this whole fear of rejection and poor self-image is a process that is real and hard--but it's not impossible. A lot of the time, we're our own worst enemy. The main cure is trusting Jesus more to guide us in our attitudes and relationships, breaking through those fear-based barriers with Him. And at the end of the day, if people reject you, that doesn't mean you are meant to be rejected or that everyone will reject you. Even if everyone you ever knew did: Jesus is always there for you, eagerly waiting for you to turn to Him, and He won't ever reject anyone that comes to Him.
Thanks again, Superfriends! :D
I love when you guys do videos together. They are always such an enjoyment and relatable ❤
Don't let a certain group's opinion of you change how you view yourself.
Also Sara, ty, I think you video and Jordans will open up so many more ppl who go through this, and struggle with it. The reaction you had reminds me of something I have. It's like when you've been somewhat emotionally abused or even slightly bullied bad it triggers you, even though you thought it was over. It's not exactly like PTSD but it's a smaller thing, it's a memory in your heart, kind like you put a band-aid on it and healed it, and it doesn't hurt anymore, but when it starts to come off a little someone may rip it off, and "Ow, that hurts.' pain comes, it's external and totally normal to have some things trigger us when we've went through a emotional battle, you are a very strong woman for handling it and not letting it make you become bitter! I look up toyou so much! Ty! -Joyce Weller! 💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💚💜💚♥️💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you guys so much for putting these videos out there and having these conversations. I relate a lot to Sara. Even in college I still experience getting left out or feel not wanted. I needed to hear a lot of things you guys had to say in this video. You two are so encouraging and inspiring! May God greatly bless you both!!
Before last week I hadn't thought about social dynamics like that in a long time. Love you and Sara's honesty on this topic.
I think that this is a lot of people in high school! We are all trying to figure out life and how to treat people in it... people are mean but sometimes it is just fear. I had a lot of people say when we were alone that I was "cool" and stuff like that, then the next day totally ignore me. Now life is different... I have a wife and kids, and going home to someone who "chose" me and sticks with me changes a lot of "anxiety"... Just love people as you love yourself and at least God will be pleased (under the blood of Jesus).
So many thoughts and emotions after watching this (and the previous) video(s)... As someone who grew up with hardly any friends, but from mid-teen years onward, found "my crowd(s)" - and then would meet people who just thought I was always "popular" (which drives me insane) - THANK YOU. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have some very dear friends who have similar stories to you, Sara, and I am so looking forward to gently encouraging them with these two videos.
One the one hand, I would love to see a channel of just Sara, but I think that having the two of you together in so many videos is part of what makes them so special - the relational aspect (so if you do decide to make a Sara's Messyges or something, please don't stop making these couple videos!!). Seeing how Jordan loves Sara through this, and how he is so upset and confused at how she was treated; seeing her comfort him in his response; seeing them share this together as a couple who has worked through it to the point of being able to laugh about it; the depth of intimacy you have because you are different and your stories are different but God brought you together and melded you into one beautiful whole... these things are a big reason why I re-subscribed to Jordan's channel. (I won't say why I unsubscribed to BlimeyCow here, because that's not my point.) Thank you for being real. Thank you for your tears and your hearts. Thank you for your laughs and smiles and processing and sharing the "results" - so to speak - of much heart work and relational growth. THANK YOU. The world needs more of this.
One thing I would ask is why you as Christians don't bring Christ into these videos - I think they would be so much more powerful and authentic if you did (even if you might lose some subscribers because of it). What is hope without Jesus? It's just not. Blessings, friends. Hope that comes across kindly/respectfully.
This was so good! I loved part one and I love how y'all expanded in this one.
So glad y'all shared this. I know it's opening a lot of peoples eyes who have gone through and are going through this.
I can totally relate to Sara at 12:52. Thanks for sharing!
This videos kicked close to home for me, having trouble to celebrate birthdays cause most people wouldn't care and being alone growing up... Thank you so much for this. I needed it.
Thank you so much for sharing Sarah, I've felt alone at the church I've been in for the past 2 years. Its been the first time Ive really struggled to make friends and felt excluded and ignored by other people. I cried at your last video when you said how you'd go to events and be like this time it'll be different - I really felt that. Its taken me a while to realise that how other people view you shouldn't affect how you view yourself as for a long time I lost confidence as was viewing myself through other peoples eyes rather than looking at what God and I think of myself. Its made me try to include others more as I don't want others to feel this way as the church is meant to be inclusive and loving.
Sara is a ray of sunshine. Shy people tend to struggle more. I relate to that a great deal. I have several people I have fellowship with now, but it took years to get here. Even people in the church have a very hard time accepting me. I tend to wait for others to reach out, because I don't want to burden anyone. I'm so happy for Sara, that she found someone on this Earth who Loves her so much and values her immensely. She is the jewel that Jordan cherishes and protects. I agree that people need to "check yoself" (plank in the eye) before placing blame on another, but eventually realizing that human beings have their own issues to deal with, many of them having nothing to do with those they interact with. God Loves us, and will never leave nor foresake us. Bless everyone on this thread who has felt like an outsider. We are meant to be the light of the world. It's pretty awesome.
Thank you Sara. Life circumstances have kind of piled up in a way that made my feeling of people disliking me hit so much harder because I feel like I have no one to talk to, so it’s all held inside. This is really helpful, seriously. Thank you for being able to talk about it, seeing someone who’s gone through it and come out and made it through is so encouraging.
You and Sara are just beautiful people. She has overcome a lot.
I asked a lot of people from the churches/schools that I attended. They all said that I talked to everyone, even if they were "not popular." It doesn't even take that much effort to be kind. I try to be kind, but I'm not perfect. I'm just me, trying to do what Jesus told me to do. But please, extend kindness towards those who need it, even to those who seem like they don't want it. It could mean the difference between a healthy life and an unhealthy one for someone in your life.
I love how well you two use your voices. You are dripping with hope. Keep leading well.
"I found myself tearing up, and I was like, 'what on earth?'" I have had the exact same sequence of events talking about the death of my Grandpa. These videos are awesome guys.
This video is going in my favorites playlist, and is being saved in all the important places so I watch it often. It’s almost a shame that those who experience some sort of hurt in their childhood/developmental years is so full of wisdom, because well, is that truly the cost?
But suddenly I’m reminded of the beauty of the gospel: God brings the most beautiful good into this fallen world from what was intended for evil and destruction. Perhaps it’s the way He intends for us to share His beauty, while He comforts us completely and fully.
One of the things I always tell my kids and grandkids is that I'm not the same person I was when I was a teenager. That they wouldn't recognize me. When I got out of that environment (high school) I bloomed. I chose who I hung out with and became friends with. (Like minded people.) I tell them don't hang onto friendships to hard of people who do not think like you do, and... this season of life will pass!
Love what you do Jordan! I just wanted to let you know I really look up to you! Thank you for being such a great person! Great video btw!
I’m 21 and I used to be so shy and socially awkward in my teens! I feel as if I’ve come SO far since then in confidence and social skills but I still get super anxious in group settings, even among groups of friends. I definitely relate to your struggles, Sara!! ❤️thanks so much for these videos; they are so incredibly encouraging
Seeing you guys grow and being honest about just how life can be was very powerful and hit close to home. But it's good to know that there are people out there that help you fit in and make you feel welcome. God bless you both!