I Love Attention and I Love to Cry - Always Open
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Join Barbara Dunkelman and guests Blizzb3ar and Laurel Rothamel as they discuss getting diagnosed with ADHD, having a different sex drive than your partner, and how to have difficult conversations in a work environment.
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Laurels voice is just so perfect for a podcast
Thank you for introducing us to Laurel! As a fellow gay autism woman, it’s amazing to see people be unapologetically themselves, makes me feel less alone in the world ❤️
This was such an a lovely chat, thanks for having me XOXOXO
Honored to have you! 🥹🧡
Blizz and Laurel really hit the nail on the head about grieving for your past self. I just had this moment of realization myself and it's a lot.
It was nice to hear about Laurel's journey with mental health; sounds a LOT like my history with misdiagnoses and "treating the wrong thing"
I am someone currently processing the pursuit of an ADHD diagnosis. Hearing the stories here really matter to me. I am surrounded by Neurodivergent friends, have plenty of indicators, but still have been dragging my feet to seek diagnosis.
Long story short, thank you so much for talking about these things. The energy and enthusiasm of this podcast is amazing.
I want to just give everyone on this show a hug. Props to you guys for taking struggles and turning them into learning for others.
As a fellow neurodivergent seeing this kind of supportive representation means a lot
Font Story Time:
When I was a senior in high school (2008), I had the best English teacher. Start of 2nd semester we are ramping up for our Senior Paper (TM) that we have to have done by the end of the year. At the start, it was all about how to choose what to write about, MLA formatting, citing, blah blah blah. It's dry material for sure and my teacher was trying to keep us engaged by making jokes while going through it all.
One girl in the class was your very stereotypical popular girl: rich, blonde, cheerleader, "wat" was her favorite question to ask..... the whole 9 yards; Not very bright but in an endearing, "thank god you're cute" kind of way.
So, teacher is talking about font rules for MLA: 12 point, Times New Roman or Arial, double space, etc. He notices that popular girl is just..... out in space with her mouth open and eyes glazed over just kind of looking at the wall behind the teacher. Teacher notices this and, in an effort to bring her back down to earth and pay attention, he says the following:
"[Popular Girl], I know you are def an Arial type of girl. 100%, Times New Roman isn't your jam, you're all about Arial, right?"
Popular girl's eyes snap to the teacher and she looks super offended like he just shit in her cereal or something and this is how the rest of that convo went:
PG: I don't like Arial AT ALL
Teacher: Oh? Well I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were so passionate about this. What do you like?
PG: Mulan, OBVIOUSLY!
Silence falls over the classroom. You can see the teacher's brain short-circuit as what she says does not compute. Class erupts into laughter at about the same time the teacher understands what popular girl meant and his shoulders slump and he bows his head in defeat. Popular Girl looks confused as to why everyone is laughing.
So to this day, my favorite font is Mulan.
Enjoyed this. Anyone interested in learning more about spontaneous/responsive desire and our sexual excitation vs. Sexual inhibition systems should look up Emily Nagoski (get her book Come As You Are).
Her sister Amelia Nagoski also talks a lot about something called Alexithymia, which is common in neurodiverse folks and trauma survivors, and is the difficulty identifying or describing feelings as they arise within the body.
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thank you laurel for chatting openly about autism, as a fellow autistic person i love to see the representation it makes me so happy. would love to see laurel back for another ep!
Not going to lie, my therapist told me I probably have adhd (hyperactive), and went through and dissected all the shit I do. It pissed me off that this guy sat down with me for 45 minutes and broke down things I’ve dealt with my whole life.
Laurel is really awesome!
As a Graphic Designer ngl I am lowkey side eyeing your font choices. But my Fave is Century Gothic
Futura is my go-to font. I don't know if it's my favorite, but it's reliable and has a good variety and I appreciate it for that.
Anyone also stunned by Barb's lack of an inner monologue like Blizz and Laurel? I have so many questions as some one who can't stop running what if's in my head all day every day.
Should we talk about it on a future episode? ;)
I second the rec for Hannah Witton's channel, she's fab!
My Fav font used to be Constantia, but recently changed to Book Antiqua. Fun fact: when I was studying for my bachelors in graphic design, we were forbidden from using Comic Sans by all our professors.
That last question was very good to hear and the answers were very good :)
Oh my god I love Hannah Witton
Watched this after a TikTok clip. I’m so glad I can relate to this. I just have to keep giving myself grace because none of us asked for our brains to be like this, but we’re all resilient anyways!
Wow that is so interesting: im 28 and I was diagnosed as Autistic when I was 5. Ive lived trying to figure out life, sometimes still not getting it, but trying.
Thank you all for joining us for this episode 🎉 let’s get some love for our guests Laurel and Blizz! 💫💫💫
I love this show because I learn so much!! I have no one to share that knowledge with :( but at least I have it XD
To the last question...A great "therapist quote" that really hit for me is "treat yourself like you would treat your best friend/partner/sibling" - you may not be comfortable standing up for yourself or intervening for yourself, but replace "you" with someone you care deeply about and you may find that you have the courage because "no one is going to teat my person like that!" (also works for self-care...would you let your best friend skip a meal or miss their meds or burn themselves out, or would you step in and try to help?) View yourself from that perspective and advocating for yourself becomes easier.
I also do not have an internal monologue and it fully confuses my wife how I manage to get anything done in a day. We were just speaking last night about this actually. She also does not have the ability to visualize anything "new" in her head. For example, if discussing a purple phoenix, she will automatically envision a phoenix she has seen before (like from Harry Potter) and then tint it to be purple or just tell herself "this, but purple". This is mind blowing to me since I just see a purple phoenix, generated from nothing. It's like comparing two different AI image generators.
Now I'm curious if those who have a constant internal monologue have a similar restriction to their "mind's eye". Perhaps some kind of link between the separation of the visual part of the brain vs the part that controls words and speech 🤷♂
Hannah Witton is a very good shout out here, hehe. Sex Ed was one of my special interests and I still watch her and a few others (Shan Boody, anyone?) because of that 😂❤
Love the episode as usual!
My favorite font flips between Kravitz and Birth Of A Hero.
My favorite font is Neutraface. It’s great. I’ve been using it for over a decade.
Comic Sans is based off the typeface used in comics so it makes sense that it's easy to read. Bebes Kai is my favorite typeface and i use it for all of my personal branding and my podcast, The Mustard Cast, here on RUclips.
As someone who only recently found out they were demi, it was nice to hear someone else talk about it on this channel.
Kudos and all the best, Barb and besties :)
Helvetica is my favorite font.
Love your positivity and honesty, I’m glad that I watched this video, thank you for being so forward and honest with us, keep up the great work ❤
I'm very charmed by Blizz's revelation that he has ADHD because I'm ADHD and his vibe was very familiar, I'm really glad that he's got the diagnosis and he's able to take steps towards symptom management
I love this! I’m often in Blizz and Laurels streams, and it was so nice to see them dive deeper into these topics and learn more about them in general💗
Me favourite font is Arial and the second one is Impact. Arial is good when you put long texts in small spaces and Impact is really good for titles!
I’m so captivated by laurel im gonna have to watch this twice to actually hear the conversation omg
Lots of cool shirts in this video! My favorite font is Georgia.
I spend a lot of time writing and recently I've adopted Alice as my preferred font for essay work, it's a serif font that's just different enough from TNR to not feel like I'm being too formal. For fiction writing though I've adopted Handlee 'cause it's cute and looks like handwriting so it's easier to be less precious when I need to edit it
Wingding is the only font!!!!
I want to thank all of you for your amazing attitude, spirit, your content, and for keeping the franchise alive, powerful, and nostalgic. You're truly All Good No Worries 🌷🌷🌷
Unfortunately for me, as a child, there were signs that I could be autistic, but the doctors didn’t know why I was different than the usual. Maybe it wasn’t well understood in the 90’s. Until about 2009, aged 23, I got some answers.
What a great episode! Y'all gotta have Laurel on again 🖤
It's a tough choice between Montserrat and Avenir for me, they're both pretty clean fonts
51:12 Practice Makes Your Best Better is the way I like to say it.
Love the shirt barb 💛🖤
As someone who has always been told I am on the autism spectrum, have OCD, ADD, ADHD or some mixture of these diagnoses, do you think it is important for me to actually get diagnosed by a doctor? Or is it enough to know that I am neurodivergent?
I am not a fan of medication, because I don't personally think anything is WRONG with me. I love me, I love my brain, I love the way that I think. I don't want to lose that just so people can think I am more "normal." Sure my brain makes some things more difficult, and I know I don't interact with people in a "normal" way, but I don't think that's a bad thing. It's something I need to learn and a skill I need to hone, but I enjoy challenges and learning new things, especially things that are difficult for me.
I don't think there is anything wrong with taking medication, and I know no band-aid fits every individual's wound, personally I prefer talk therapy and delving deeper into how my brain operates rather than trying to nullify it or chemically change it. I guess my question is, as someone who has been diagnosed, what value do you place on having a doctor diagnose you versus inferring it about yourself and do you think it would be valuable for me?
👁👄👁 Me in Saskatchewan hearing my province mentioned. Unfortunately sounds about right.
Favorite font is “Lobster”
Huh... demi sexual might be fitting for me. Although, my need to be comfortable and connect with someone before becoming intimate may be due to my undiagnosed anxiety. But definitely gonna keep demi sexual in my back pocket and keep feeling it out.
Love this podcast so much! All the different perspectives on life, love and mental health are incredibly helpful to many people, as I'm sure you've seen in the comments
My old fav font was century gothic when i was little lmaoo. i think now its just clear and simple ones like calibri or like franklin gothic
The last question. I get along with my coworkers but they're prejudice. How do you get along with them?
Everything has good things to say
laurel my beloved
Nearly everything Laurel said/touched on is making me think we're just the same person and at the same time is helping to push me to do some research into things that will help me discover more about myself & help me live my best life. Love this podcast & so happy it's been back!
Yes please get Hannah Witton on this show! I've been watching her for years and absolutely adore her. She'd be a good fit!
That’s it. I’ve gotta get tested. My gf is an educator and she actually has been taught to look for the signs of ADHD and other neurodivergency. She has come to think that maybe I’m somewhere on the spectrum of autism and hearing “This all makes sense. Oh…this all makes sense” is exactly how I feel.
On computers i always default to Tahoma and i like to use small caps. On my phone i have the american horror story font lol
I feel attacked by Blizz because my favorite fount is Times New Roman, it's just so much easier for me to read & I think it's so clean looking. The disgust in Blizz's voice when he said it was palpable lol
After finding out she has no internal/external monologue, it occurred to me that Barb might be the only legitimately neurotypical person I've ever listened to??
It's very subtle but I use Google Sans on all my spreadsheets at work LOL
helvetica is my fave font
Don't be hard on your young self, you didn't know. Learn and move on.
And become the adult you needed as a child. Try to spread awareness to the next generation so they don't miss the signs and make the same mistakes as we did.
Me exploding with love for y’all ❤❤ I was nearly in tears from the kind words 🥺
Also, as someone who identifies as demi, something that helps me immensely is PLANNING. Setting aside time for the intimate moments and having your partner feel like a priority is so important!
Also x2, my favorite font is Arial narrow !!
The julien merch ❤
6:50 Courier Crew!
OMG! Laurel & Blizz on the same podcast?! How did the studio not explode from all the queer boss energy?! Love you guys!
I am curious about what podcasts Laurel listens to in order to learn these things. 35:45
Get the cream crew on the podcast
So cool! You got Blizz and Yanny on the same podcast! Epic!
This episode? Slay
I was, maybe like 9-10 years old when I saw Times New Roman in school and noticed what its “g” looks like. Immediate dislike, looked at other fonts, Arial and Calibri looked good, but I had no idea Comic Sans is a meme. It just felt right, I liked it, so I used that until my teachers said no
Great episode guys! I really liked this one!
LOVE THIS EPISODE!!! I do also have a favorite font, Georgia 😂
ARIAL STANS RISE!!!
Arial is my favourite font. I was literally typing in that very font on my computer when Barbara said she liked it. The coincidence is kind of freaking me out.
Hey, I know this isn't super common-knowledge yet, but just FYI, let's refrain from using terms like "totem pole" casually like that 😊 similar to why we should stop saying "my spirit animal" and "let's have a pow wow" etc. That language is for Indigenous People of those respective cultures only 💜