does being delusional work?
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- In today's video, I discuss lucky girl syndrome and delusion.
~time stamps~
0:00 - intro
4:00 - lucky girl origins
5:45 - The Secret (and its problems)
12:21 - the rise of being delusional
17:38 - final thoughts
~sources~
The Staggering Bullshit of “The Secret”
markmanson.net/the-secret
‘Be delusional,’ ‘Lucky Girl Syndrome’ is Gen Z’s answer to optimism
www.washingtonpost.com/wellne...
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This is why I deleted TikTok. All these different “syndromes” and new aesthetics are too much. I feel like we can’t simply exist anymore. Nothing feels authentic and too many of these influencers are delusional and out of touch
Honestly deleting tiktok was self care for me lol, like a cleanse. Sometimes I do feel pressure to be on it again because most people are, but I feel a bit better about myself now. I'm starting get to the point where I don't care about keeping up with the latest trends/aesthetics, that die out in like 2 weeks. 💀
Whewwwww. Thank youuuuuuuuuu. Everything you said best explains how i feel about it all. So much performativity, herd thinking and agenda. Nothing seems honest and authentic anymore and so much pressure.
exactly. i don't even hate tiktok, there are content creators on there that i genuinely like. but it's even exhausting to hear about. every week there's some new aesthetic or trend, and i don't get why people feel the need to ascribe to so many useless labels. i get that's its because of the pressure online to fit into a certain category or niche, but it's getting weird...
No literally RUclips will always just be classic for consuming media
I’m 2 months off and sometimes I feel left out when my sister starts speaking in tik tok but I’m sorry the app can make me laugh but for the most part it’s draining
The affirmation of "it just works out" and believing in that also sounds like a great way to just reduce the baseline amount of worry and stress in your life. When you're less stressed, less worried, less strained, there is so much more space in your mind to focus on and move toward things that are beneficial but aren't immediate payoffs.
yet another example of tiktok taking actual therapy techniques and running them into the ground
Reframing your mind to remember that everything has a solution can help you diminish stress, but doesn’t mean the solution would be in your favor.
@@weird-guy I think part of my thinking here was that a solution is often in their favor because they worked in some way to make it in their favor. They just didn't think about the fact they worked to do so because they weren't worried about or ruminating on what would happen anymore, they figured it would just work out.
I'm not on TikTok at all though, so maybe I just haven't watched enough of these videos.
@@findingagain this is fhe essence of Christianity and its why i dont mind when ppl explain their relationship with god like this, as a motivating force of good vibes, bc if it works it works; psychologically its very real
@@findingagain Perhaps idk,also i dont use til tok.
Something that concerns me when the collective finds “new” spiritual beliefs/practices is that it’s being used as a new form of escapism. Because these practices aren’t being taught with their full context, I fear that a lot of people use modalities like this to not address the actual challenges and hardships they’re facing.
I think so, too. It’s the escapism because it isn’t always even about that specific modality they jumped onto. It could be any of them. The common denominator is why they are clinging to it
@@lavellans agreed! the "why" you need something is supposed to point you to the "how" it needs to be fixed, that's the most important part of self-discovery. A lot of people are going for the "here's a general 'how' and maybe it'll work for your specific 'why'" method for instant gratification.
As someone who lives with multiple disabilities/illnesses, people really do tell us this nonsense that if we think positively, that we will heal and that if it doesn't work it means that we don't try enough or don't believe in in (the process) enough. Seriously, a conceeningly lot of people push this (and similar thoughts), even some therapists. I started to think that people do this out being uncomfortable with reality - they don't like to think that they too, could for example become disabled and/or ill, so they make up a story about it how nothing can't happen to them, because they think positively and that people diagnosed with something probably did something wrong etc. Thank you for this video.
Also, being delusional is a problematic mental state that makes people immensely struggle and can even put them in seriously dangerous situations, many of these girls just took the word and started treating it like it means setting high goals for yourself and hoping it will come true. That's really insulting towards people who struggle with delusions.
I feel this. 😅 I've had doctors tell me, "Don't say you're disabled! If you don't think you'll get better, you won't." Uhm!! Disability is not a personal failing and saying someone is disabled should not be an end-all of being chronically ill - it's just the truth. No one can will themselves into a good day, but good days are still possible and good things absolutely do still come regardless. Being afraid to be disabled is usually a far scarier road to be on; it has the ability to get pretty intense and dangerous.
@@findingagain Exactly, I 100% agree with you... Doctors sadly aren't extempt from being ableist.
Literally.
Well said
Also, in regards to the 'thinking bad thoughts brings bad things into your life", it can be a SUPER harmful way of thinking if you have anxiety or OCD and it can actually just worsen your symptoms. On top of having bad, intrusive thoughts, I am also actively making my life worse and attracting the most horrible things when my anxiety is acting up?
YEPP, I am in therapy now because of it… thank you for taking your time to comment this and bring a little awareness
That's because they're only saying half of it and out of context. It's your dominant thoughts and and core assumptions that create your reality.
Also you shouldn't get so worked up over a random thing you hear online cos if it was even true every single thing you've ever thought would have had happened
My dad used to always say “everything just works out for me” and he was pretty “lucky” for a while but then in august my mom committed suicide after 5 years of debilitating mental illness and in January my grandfather passed away less then a week after he learned he had cancer. This quote now leaves a sour taste in my mouth when I hear someone say it.
So sorry to hear he, you, and the rest of your family went through that
I am so sorry
I am so sorry
My condolences, 💐 this must have been really hard for you. I hope life gets better for u and your family.
There's always possible ways to reverse that. Ofcourse it is possible for life to hit you even if you fully believe you're lucky, and people fall off track because of how hard life hits you. If you want to live up to the full effects of it you have to be consistent. Condolences tho.
Congratulations on graduating debt free!!! Its no small feat to strategize like that as a college student and to work so hard to pay it off. I went to the same college and it took me years to pay those loans off, so I see you!!! I hope you’re really proud! 💕
This is just the manifestation Convo again 😭 we just keep coming up with the same stuff like girl just think positively if you want I’m sure it helps mentally but it’s nothing revolutionary lol
this is all so insane for me as someone who has BPD. like, i HAVE to think positively because my personality disorder is constantly pushing negative, destructive thoughts into my head. and mind you, when i have the ability to correct those thoughts (ex: no, that person doesn’t hate you), i act in a much more personable and effective way (not clamming up around that person and acting on those thoughts creates a positive feedback cycle of actually getting to know them).
thing is, once i’ve done my mindfulness exercises, i still have to do the thing that makes my life better. i don’t just think it and wait, there has to be action attached to it. so like, if some of these ‘lucky girl syndrome’ ppl are just doing what i do, no wonder it works, that’s a therapy technique. but if they just think it’ll happen, or think it’ll work or problems that stem from outside the mind, good luck.
This is exactly what I was thinking! It sounds like they're working through their own self doubt with CBT techniques. There's whole workbooks on doing the things you're anxious about through pointing out and correcting the things your brain thinks.
I was thinking about this as well with CBT and DBT
The "delusion" concept doesn't seem literal - like a "villain era", sometimes a little hyperbole helps us imagine taking next steps against which we have a mental block. Sometimes a little dramatic narrative is what it takes just to result in feeling OPTIMISTIC. Reframing and narrative are powerful tools. But every tool has its limits.
my main issue with things like this is if you're able to change your own life so drastically why not try to use these "powers" to try and make the world better as a whole? why do these things only seem to work when it comes to individual interests and gains? i mean what good is manifesting a new car or whatever if a young child had to mine the material needed to make it?
Work on yourself first. The positive energy will influence those who also vibrate on the same frequency.
@@lowkeyextravertbut what does that even mean though? "work on yourself" to what end? and what about those suffering from terminal diseases or abject poverty or war or famine or one of the many global issues we face? i'm sure they pray for better every day. and what does positive energy even mean? it's such a subjective and hollow term
vibrate where exactly. What 'positive energy' is ending child labor
people are selfish, you must've forgotten
Great point
Gen Z tiktokers reinventing religious concepts with silly new names will never stop being funny af
I've been thinking about this. I am not religious, but there is a gap that folks are trying to fill in the absence of mostly abrahamic religion. I hear regularly that people aren't "religious", but subscribe to religious thinking via things like Astrology, etc., essentially replicating the same sort of faith and belief system with different, often less rigid terminology...of course they do not see it that way though.
@@TheSteakSammich no it’s literally comes from Hinduism but it has been watered down
@@madisoncontroversial7348 but where did Hinduism get these ideas from ? Humans naturally reach these points on our own and give human experiences and ideas “ new names” all the time.
@@TheSteakSammich Astrology and Abrahamic religions are very different though, and the former is demonized in the latter
Right. I literally realized the other day that prayers are manifestation 🤣 "ask and you shall receive"
i havent watched the video yet but i just wanna say, i was saying “everything works out for me” for the entirety of january and i had possibly the worst month ive had in a long time 😭
lmfaooo my god i feel you
Correlation doesn’t imply causation. I think a lot of people have it wrong - it’s not a black and white thing. There are things in your control and there are things out of your control. Affirming the positive is to help you having control over the things and situations that you can control. Thinking positively helps you shift your perspective. The « everything always work out for me» isn’t a magic formula, please. It’s a way to help you see that things can always change for the better. January wasn’t your best month for you but does it have any relation with « everything works out for me» at all? It’s a human thing to look for something to blame 🤷🏾♀️
I hadn't heard of this before! I thought the symptoms of Lucky Girl Syndrome were:
•Being so lucky
•Being a star
•Cry cry crying in her lonely heart
•Thinking "If there's nothing missing in my life, then why do these tears come at night?"
That used to be my jam!🍀
Imagine telling someone with terminal cancer hey, just do some positive thinking and you'll be fine
theyre not saying that for other people theyre just talking about what they believe they are experiencing
except that no one says that. manifestation can't give you physically impossible abilities, you don't breathe fire and you don't fly. stop acting like child when you aren't one.
I get it ALL the time.
Cancer is a bit extreme, but I can definitely see someone preach this to someone with PTSD or a disability that prevents driving a car.
@@stanloonaur69 if only! This was and still is to some extent a strong support of this myth, especially in years 200x-2015. Psychologists would write that positive thinking can kill cancer cells etc, that's why there is a lot of studies that came in last few years actually disproving the claim that positive thinking that lead to longer life.
I like to believe that I have the power of serendipity, like any thing good that can happen will happen. that doesn't mean bad stuff doesn't happen, that doesn't mean I just hope that good things happen, it just reminds me to celebrate the good things that do happen and make them easier to find.
when I believe in this "power" I'm redirecting negative depressing thoughts, often unproductive and lowering my quality of life, to focus on the things I do have. a strong community, my hobbies, my health. it makes me want to appreciate and protect these things, because the energy I but into them is what makes my "power" powerful
lucky girl syndrome and toxic positivity are not like this. they're commercialized trends often from people of privilege, bragging about their affirmations and grindset. getting the dorm room you want is not the same as trying to focus on the fact that you can find housing that you need and using that hope to drive you. tiktok is ridiculous as usual
All of this ! But tik tok is a breeding ground for inauthenticity and consumerism
Thank you for sharing that
I hate how TikTok is doing it again with using medical terms like "delusions" or "intrusive thoughts" and using it incorrectly for people who don't even have those things. I have BPD and OCD and literally suffer from both and it's not fun and very embarrassing to go through and ruined so many of my relationships because I thought someone was leaving me or upset with me often, causing them to get sick of me "accusing" them and they didn't wanna "babysit" me anymore and left... Yeah... Delusions are real but suffering from them clinically is no joke... And I hate how TikTok treats it like it's no big deal and something else entirely that it is not
SUCH a great point.
I work in a library and the Secret has been circulating a lot lately! Now I'm realizing that there is a high probability it coincides with the rise of Lucky Girl Syndrome.
I disagree that you have to be delusional and I think that's a mistake in terms. Delusion is inactive. I think hope and active striving are separate from delusion.
I love the idea of a “manifestation period/era.” I believed in it for about a year until it stopped working. Aka, Covid hit, and I fell into debt. Now I go with my gut and try to follow through on scary goals because it's honestly all the same sans delusion. Everyones gotta do what they gotta do, though. However, I'd rather be brave than delusional.
This.
In highschool a lot of my friends had mental health issues, depression, anxiety bipolar disorder some with all 3. I was the happy one, the extrovert, the stable one if you will. when they ask me how or why i was the way i was. I admitted that I knew that things wouldn't always be terrible, the same way things won't always be great. But I don't live in preparation for the worst possible outcome, I try and entertain myself with the thought of, what if something good happens instead? of course, this probably wasnt going to help them. But it did highlight a common thread of how mentally healthy people are able to quell their impulsive and stressful thought while mentally ill people can't. Its a lot harder for them mentally to do what I do, and lucky girl it out. But like another commentor said, it does work in the sense it decreases baseline amounts of stress, dispells ruminating negative thoughts and can give people a fighting chance of feeling,,, not like shit.
I’m more the type to prepare for the worst and hope for the best kind😂
you summed up all my thoughts on this topic beautifully as always! positive/“wishful” thinking has had a tremendous effect on my mental health as an ADDITION to professional help (which of course i am lucky to have access to in the first place), but there was def a point in my life where it just made me feel like mental illness & health issues were my own fault - which i think is a huge issue w the way people on social media like tiktok frame it
I think it’s good to have a positive mindset, there’s just a difference between having it to get through a hurdle and then solely relying on it without action. It sounds obvious but I remember my step dad (who was diagnosed with narcissism) got really into spirituality and believed in the idea that if you say and believe something enough, it’ll be true. I wouldn’t take an issue with it if what he was trying to manifest wasn’t wealth while not getting a job, taking money from others, and being totally irresponsible with any money he got his hands on. Like if you’re actions are working against your wish, then of course it won’t happen??
You are bold coming after manifestation and I commend you
to me the whole lucky girl syndrome thing doesn’t have to be luxurious.. if you have supportive friends and family then ur lucky, if you can afford basic life necessities then ur lucky, if ur happy and confident with urself then ur lucky 🍀 u don’t need have the material girl lifestyle to be considered lucky
I remember when “manifesting” was just called a “self-fulfilling prophecy.” There’s some truth to the fact that if you set your mind to something you can accomplish things, believing that it’s not worth trying is just a way to project yourself from disappointment, so in some sense you need to delude yourself just a little so you’re not as hard on yourself. But a lot of this content is straight up enabling narcissism and grandiosity. Like sure, romanticize your life, learn to forgive yourself, practice affirmations and self compassion, but you also need to be realistic. Life has ups and downs and you’re just conditioning yourself to never accept any disappointments if they aren’t what you wished for.
You mean focus on a goal and keep trying even tho is not working out.
the intro had me tuned IN PLSS LMAO
This. Video. Slapped.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
As someone who flirts with woo woo shit I’ve been lucky enough to find resources like the podcasts Maintenance Phase or If Books Could Kill to really ground me in the fact that a lot of this stuff is ableist bullshit. I just had a therapist, who I stopped seeing, try to sell me on manifesting. She was a fellow black women trying to tell me that I just had to believe hard enough and everything would work out but if I wanted it too much it wouldn’t. And when I brought up systemic issues she brushed them aside. It was really difficult but I had to walk away. This is not the way to freedom but there are some things marginalized people can use and radicalized for our survival. Beautifully put. Thank you. I’m happy we were able to come to this realization young so we didn’t have to travel too far down a path that was leading nowhere.
I think your last point is so important in that I can totally see how it could be used against people. That said, I think positive thought does generally make you happier and more successful. So I guess on a personal level it’s good to try to be positive but not blame others’ lack of positivity if they struggle. In other words, what you said. 😁
Thin line between optimism and delusion 😅
I’ve always seen it as a tool for personal growth and the things you can control aka yourself not necessarily being able to magically alter things you sadly can’t control
Affirmations at least! Great vid
Disabled/chronically I’ll/Mad people are tiiiiiired of this!!!
this, we're fucking exhausted of constantly being blamed for not "getting better"
This is a great video. This articulates my view of various forms of delusion ("manifestation", etc.) in a far more compassionate way than I could have. Very damaging, but I can see the appeal of that sort of thinking. It is comforting to think that by sheer force of desire, things will "align" and work out in one's favor. Encountering these ideas IRL are a source of great annoyance though.
Exactly, the reason they believe this works is because once they believe that everything is going to work out for them, the good things happening in their life seem more obvious and attributable to their affirmations, even though the same number of good things were likely happening before. I think it's connected to the psychological phenomenon in which intentionally feeling gratitude for the good things in your life makes you happier, because you are more focused on the sources of your happiness. Of course, no amount of positive thinking will allow an individual to solve large-scale systemic problems on their own. It will also never magically fix a bad situation, although it may make you feel empowered to look for solutions. I don't believe in the "magic" of affirmations or manifestations, but I don't think they are always harmful, if they are used as a means to empower you to seek out your best future.
People mistake delusions as motivation and determination. They're not the same...
I know the "Law of Attraction" is fake because I have tons of negative thoughts but people are still nice to me and good things still happen to me. :) if the "Law of Attraction" were real, an asteroid would've hit my house by now.
That’s not how law of attraction works, you’re just being petty and silly for the sake of it. Do your research on law of attraction instead of acting childish.
Loved this video, everything I was thinking of was brought up haha. There are studies that show practicing gratitude can rewire the neuropathways in your brain that might be used to trauma responses. However, it’s a tool not a lifestyle. We can’t manifest our way out of oppression and capitalism 😭 we have to put in the work to organize, like that one MLK quote, we have to organize peace as well as those who organize war.
This type of thinking dissolves any personal responsibility to help liberate oppressed peoples and challenge your own thinking, I notice that individualist “delusional” mentality a lot. As long as I can’t see the indirect consequences, the way my actions are responsible for harm are insignificant (ie mask wearing and the disabled and immunocompromised groups).
Additionally, this made me think of academic “resilience studies” 🤢 essentially trying to figure out why some students from oppressed groups are more successful than their peers and what makes them more resilient in the face of capitalism and oppression. Resilience is a skill/tool for sure and it can be helpful. However, adapting these things as a lifestyle encourages historical revisionism as well 🤢
omg I dont know how I fell for that intro but I did 😂
I was about to comment about a cough I can't get rid of 😂😂
Thanks for the nuanced take! I've thought about the word a lot, because I've seen the TikTok culture around delusion affect my friend, but in a negative way, where she is running into very dangerous situations and not taking care of herself because she would rather be "delusional." It's very destructive and an east step to rejecting reality. The point you made about trying to treat serious illnesses with delusion is so spot on too. That being said, I understand how the word can be freeing and an "opposite" way of being that brings about hope and confidence. I also don't think it's a coincidence that the yearning for delusion came about during the pandemic and all of our countries political issues.
As a Korean who can't speak English, I'm making a delusion to figure out this video.
Damn i wish i had some lucky girl syndrome
lmao i think i have unlucky girl syndrome
someone might not read this or take it serious and that’s understandable . But im actually a mental health advocate, and I watch mental health videos a lot. I consider myself to be spiritual, and I’ve watched / studied some law of assumption videos and something that doesn’t sit right w me is the toxic positivity. Regardless, I found some LOA methods helpful.
Same
I love your braids!! They look insanely good on you 💕✨
so this trend is just a revamped version of voltaire’s candide, that “everything works out for the best”.
That was a hella good intro
I am so glad u are talking about this! As someone who was abused by my own parents as a child this mindset suggests that I manifested the abuse that I suffered, which is an idea I already struggled with for years because abusers do often (and mine did) blame the victim for their actions. It is so harmful for this and many other reasons!
The internet has two polar opposites, extremely negative or extreme positive and none in between so don’t believe them it was not your fault , also I’m sorry that happened to you and hope you’re in a better environment now.
Been out of this lately and it’s a relief the internet bullshit can really get to u like it’s felt I’m abused because I deserved it lol
My partner suffered parental abuse as a kid, and he feels similarly. These thoughts are sometimes followed with beliefs like "your spirit-self picked your family and the life you wanted to be born in," and for my partner it's like...so you're trying to say he picked his abuse? Great.
I hope you are somewhere safer now and thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I enjoy your content sm!😭💕
So well done. As always
It's a simple message, and it comes from the heart
Believe in yourself, _or that's the place to start_
Found you recently and am loving watching you! You have a great voice, and while assume you script your videos, it sounds natural and I love it! ❤
Im so happy the algorithm decided I'd like your stuff! For once, it nailed it 😁
I've been confused too about the recent colloquial use of "delusion," as though it's a choice. But I guess it follows the trend of adapting other diagnostic terms like narcissism or OCD as mainstream descriptors (I mean, if I'd literally had a stroke for every time I'd said "that made me have a stroke," I'd be very very dead by now). Language is so fluid and weird
Thanks for blessing my feed with your perspective!!
just wanna mention that this being delusional thing is to make your suffering easier not non existent, so with a calmer mind we can come up wirh better solutions that are not out of just fear.
having a certain mindset can be a very powerful and even game changing thing but it’s a shame that all this woo woo affirmations and manifestation stuff controls the conversation about it because it goes off the rails quick. need a realistic normal person take on it lol
I saw through your prank when you claimed to have easy access to a specialised healthcare professional, in America 🤣🤣🤣
that did raise a red flag 😂
This video was amazing!!! So much to think about 🤯🤩
Funny that this is more apparent in women. Basically it boils down to: “are you pretty enough to find a man to pay for your lifestyle?”
I dated a girl a bit younger than me following my divorce. I’ll admit, she was attractive, but quickly it also became apparent that she was not only unwilling to share any commitment other than…well…the stuff she can offer for free, but she was also unable. I found out her “job” was to be a lifestyle coach on social media. How can you be a lifestyle coach when your life is based off of being treated by men? And how can you coach people through experience when you have barely lived? I broke it off and wished her the best. But I worry about the message being provided to young women and this idea of being “taken care of”. It leads to resentment and struggle…don’t do it ladies.
Meanwhile, I manage a large group of professional women who are exceptional workers and brilliant engineers (atypical as a demographic). So don’t think my statements above are a generalization. But let’s not pretend this isn’t part of the reality we live in.
i remember reading a passage on my mom's copy of the secret that said something among the lines of "if a plane crash happens, unfortunately it means that most or all the passangers were having negative thoughts" reading that as a 9yr old was crazy
What?
@@weird-guy yea
Omg💀💀
i just found your channel and i subscribed because i absolutely love your content! ❤
People really need to read about positivism bias. It's all the same: praying, prosperity gospel, spells, the law of attraction and now this new packaging
Wholehearted Coaching also has a great short podcast ep about lucky girl syndrome from the perspective of a black woman
Its also interesting to look at how things like The Secret and manifestation get popular during times of mass economic crisis
Fun fact, following LOA and listening to “manifesting” creators has led me to my anxiety and OCD behaviors to spiral to the point where I believed I was going to die and get cancer because i thought it. Therefore causing me to seek therapy because daily life with these fears has been somewhat miserable. Thanks people on reddit and youtube!!
Another word for "Delusion" is a word we've had all along...Faith.
i don't see those as the same thing though. whether religious or not, faith imo is a lot more than that. its more like trust, trusting that something will work itself out in the end, without expecting that the result will be exactly as we imagined it, all that matters is that in the end it will work itself out. and having faith also means putting that faith into action, it's not blind.
@@chaaaargh na it is. In a religious aspect.
@@leavemeal0ne378 to you, maybe. but that's not a universal truth
There is a scientific definition for delusion tho. It’s an unchallengeable belief that is not in keeping with religious, educational or cultural precepts of the particular individual.
I know in this age we tend to use words very loosely but faith and delusions aren’t similar.
I don't have faith but I do experience delusions, clinically speaking :)
Definitely, if you aren't privileged, what you need to be is DESPERATE. Anything is possible at some probability, some people have a higher probability due to privilege. Those people are DELUSIONAL, because your thoughts aren't going fulfilling your goals; they only had to try a little more. Whoever you are you must accept and be allowed to have enough failure to have success. What's crazy are the barriers! Thanks again for the explainer. This is my only real connection to anything TikTok related so i have nothing to add to discussion, but there has been the long pseudo science spin put on the ability to perform because it sells to put it plainly. In a way this is the same since they are preying on our attention for the dollar. Thanks for never doing that on your channel. All your videos have been worth watching in entirety.
What a refreshing video and thank you for checking and acknowledging your privilege. At the end of the day, we cannot delude ourselves out of a systemic structure that preys on marginalized communities.
In the marines we called it "false motivation," it will get you through a lot of bullshit in life.
Its safe to say there’s a COMPLETE difference between dreaming & having goals/setting intentions vs. delusionally reframing reality to make yourself feel better & using escapism to run from problems. I see this all the time with the spiritual trends going around. Its unhealthy when one cannot differentiate between those two things. This is where we are collectively though 😅
underrated video. she's spitting straight facts
I believe that what you speak out loud comes back to you, and the saying goes "actions speak louder than words" so always put action behind your words
I wish I had privilege syndrome
Ok but Mark didn't need to snatch the air out my windpipe with that title. Simple yet effective.
Mmm tastes like magical thinking 🌟
ma'am where did you get that sweater
Every time I think of the secret, I think about how somebody gave it as a birthday gift to my aunt when she was dying of colon cancer. I was like 12 but I remember her face perfectly.
I can just imagine her in the last months of her life, thinking she just wasn’t positive enough.
It’s main character syndrome that makes me laugh and everyone turned it into an aesthetic fr 😂😂
me as an autistic person with 3 chronic illnesses could just go off the rails when i see reals like this on instagram. i recently saw a video where (of course) a able bodied allistic white women tried to tell me that she whole heartedly believes that nothing ever is that serious and she promises me this. like i said in my position, hearing this just makes me so mad and then to scroll through the comments and only seeing things like "i love your mindset🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼" is so disheartening
Starting this video hoping the answer is yes and it will solve all my problems
lmfao i was like you got a specialist and tests for your cough?? lucky 😭 and then..
Love your hair. ❤❤
Thanks for referencing the upanishads.
It's called visualization w/ an action plan.
Whenever I think of this all I can think about is Joey King's character from Bullet Train. A lot of stuff was working out for her seemingly by chance or luck.
the Secret was so boring 😭😭😭
This seems like something that could lead to disappointment. We all go through good and bad things in life. Not everything is going to work out for people and some things will. If everything worked out people would be able to wish no cancer and no one would have it, we probably wouldn’t have had a global pandemic, there would be no salves etc. Of course you can have privilege, maybe your really good at setting and obtaining goals, have a positive attitude, etc but their is usually balance to everything and life is never perfect. And that doesn’t always have to do with how positive you are or manifesting or whatever.
In terms of your personal story, that sounds more like Determination than Delusion; Delusion requires a denial of reality, Determination required you to have a plan to act on.
since you mentioned the Upanishads, there's a popular saying in India which roughly translates to - If things go as I have planned, then it's good. If things don't go as I have planned, its even better because now things are working according to God's plan and God's plan is always for the best. I always found things like these, lucky girl syndrome etc as a coping mechanism and a way to train your unconscious mind to find positive thing in the face of adversity.
You're so smart
It's interesting how the same ideas get interpreted in every new generation, even sub-generations.
50 years ago manifesting your thoughts was just as religious thing (like praying for it etc)
imma be honest i didn't see where you were going with the race part at first, cause I see this trend as more of a cry from help from everyone after suffering from the pandemic and its effects. But your point about it makes sense that a Black woman saying it first makes sense. sadly we face discrimination on both ends making life seem somewhat insufferable so of course she had to make an escape plan. same with Black people and religion but I'm not gonna get that one started on here lol.
Totally and it helps uphold white supremacy where you blame racial injustices against your kind rather than recognizing the structural issues in place. A total mess
All Colleges should also have dorms or apartments owned by the school not the cities apartment complexes. AI had its students living in the cities really expensive apartments and we had to pull out a $3,000 loan every 3 months just to live near the school and students were damaging properties.
Omg this was a reality show in the mid 2000s after the book…. The secret came out lol
"Delusion is like a black persons version of entitlement",
that was so brilliant my jaw actually dropped.
As a Christian, I don't believe in this.. I believe in pray and discernment
this video is so well done! I’m so sorry to be this person but it would be really meaningful if you changed the title, coming from a mental illness perspective it is a little hurtful i guess to call this delusional because it’s a conscious choice to use this thought process, whereas people can’t control delusions in the clinical sense (this comment is coming from a kind place I promise)
To me the “delusion” isn’t delusion. It’s just setting a goal and achieving that goal. There’s nothing delusional about it. Delusional would be believing in something that absolutely would never happen, but if it happens, that’s clearly not delusion.
it could, at times, be a coincidence, or the benefit of privilege
Nice
I clicked just for the title of this video
I do agree with everything in this video but I'd like to point out that narcissistic personality disorder is a trauma response of the brain from abuse as a child rather than something that happens after you manifest delusion however this syndrome can promote narcissistic abuse
Your mic is set too low
NO IM NOT LUCKY IM BLESSED YES
Being delusional will get you conned if you're not careful
calling this psychosis core
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So basically every religion ever?
@ilikealotofthings731 I ain't saying it but they do be seeing "miracles" in oatmeal
Do you know what psychosis is?
@@Pink_pr1ncess I've had it multiple times bae:)