honestly thank you so much for speaking about intimacy issues due to religion trauma, feeling embarrassed about being late, and how you couldn’t picture yourself with someone because i relate so hard. i’m happy that you found someone because that gives me hope.
you talking about intimacy issues and how you thought your were asexual etc, like LEGITMATELY got me on the same level. Its refreshing to hear someone else say the stuff I've thought about so many times
physical affection scares me so much. it’s something that i don’t even want to admit, so thank for sharing with us. i felt like i needed to hear this, and i’m so happy that you’ve found a person for you :)
same girl, guys always tell me i act like i don't have interest in them whole time i'm actually obsessed, i'm just scared of being affectionate. if i aloud myself to be affectionate and intimate my love language would def be touching cause with my friends and family i'm very touchy and i always wanna cuddle and just be really close but with guys that i'm into, i just cant ...hopefully that changes one day
Girl, i relate to you sm, the social pressure to be in a relationship when you're a teenager is sick, also, when you said you keep texting mr. roy bc you thought that was going to be the closest to having a boyfriend, I WENT TROUGH the same thing, i didn't even liked him bc the guy hurted me so much but i thought that was as far as i was gonna get, thank you so much for sharing your experience, ily
Thank you for being open with this. I feel like there needs to be more girls who speak up about intimacy issues and “late blooming”. My first kiss Was last year, it never got past a first date because I was uncomfortable with feelings of affection. I’m 20 now and still haven’t found “the one” but I feel like I’m more mature even over the year. I actually feel ready for a relationship.
Vaguely over sharing is literally how I communicate lol but def resonated with a lot of what you’ve said. Askfkjd believing you’re asexual because those emotions had been so repressed 🙃 hit home lol
Your talk about thinking you were asexual and the whole issues with intimacy is ... spot on for me as well. Watching your vids are like as if I'm chatting with a friend. Love u Anna I hope you're doing well
@@marlasinger8274 I realized I wasn’t asexual when I met this boy who I thought was really really good looking like the best I’ve ever seen and apparently he thought the same of me. I have really bad intimacy issues in the sense where I don’t ever think that anyone can be attracted to me (which is totally not true) but he kissed me and I realized I definitely wanted more
ive never resonated more with someone on a topic than this video... literally almost identical situations/experience/traumas and it’s so comforting knowing that i’m not alone in this experiences 💖
this vid felt like a ft call like we are ur bestiessss and also thank you for speaking on being late with relationships because i don’t hear people talking about this enough!!!!
I felt everything u said in this video, I’m 19 and have never been in a relationship bc I’m afraid of affection. I don’t feel ready but I feel pressured and HAHAHA I LITERALLY THOUGHT I WAS ASEXUAL TOO OMG
ur story about intimacy issues and about being bad at relationships i had such a similar up bringing aswell so nice to see someone who can relate and share it so we don’t feel alone ❤️
Yayyy glad ur back!! Im learning how to get back in touch with my feminine side & it makes me feel so cute and hot when im with him 😍 like dont ever think u have to be the boss of yall , HE needs to be the man you know? Its so important to keep your “girlyness” which IS good so I recommend u looking up videos and research about ur female energy etc ..i say this bc this will help u feel more familiar with like being intimate & in a relationship,itll teach u how a man SHOULD treat u & kinda like a normal girl bc ik ur not familiar with all this & the trauma ugh but girlll just accept it & get what it feels like to br loved by a man , trust me i have a good ass man NOW it took many stupid boys and learning and getting comfortable and with yourself to feel beautiful is a key to happy girl plzzzz read this
for some mf reason i just woke up and i NEVER wake up this early (it’s literally 9am that’s not v early lmaoo) but i think it was a sign from some higher ups bc you posted yayayay i’m early :) 💜💜
how did u overcome some of ur intimacy issues? i have a lot as well, to the point where im not attracted to anyone. i definitely have deep rooted trauma, mostly with the simple things, and i cannot get passed it. its making me scared for the future cause i know i want to love someone
and ive never really cared much. i dont mind that i am not in a relationship because i am uncomfortable with that, but idk how to make my comfort zone bigger, cause men in general make me uncomfortable bc of it:(
@@ashleyweaver9003 hi! i completely get it i was the same way. I didn’t think i would ever find anyone and was honestly starting to just accept it (which is why i didn’t talk to anyone for a year and a half). BUT i was getting pretty lonely so i just wanted to branch out a little and see what happened. I know this isn’t super helpful, but honestly meeting my boyfriend helped me. He grounded me in a way that helped me figure out why i was feeling the way I did and made me want to overcome it. If you know you want to love someone, you will. I think it really does come down to the person. having a really strong emotional connection to my bf made me feel more safe overcoming my intimacy issues.
Also, because my intimacy issues stemmed from christianity, i was able to unlearn (a little) and feel more comfortable being intimate. this made it a little easier for me to branch out because I knew that my fears were developed out of false, sin shaming narratives from the church. understanding where my trauma came from definitely didn’t eliminate these fears, but it helped a little. and i think taking it one step at a time is the only way to get better. thinking about getting to the end of the race before you begin makes you hesitant to start. or at least it does for me. I really just think it gets better with time and if you’re with the right person. If you need anything you can DM me on insta!
@@annacantu thats actually what ive been hoping for. im hoping i can find someone who can help me overcome at my pace:) i genuinely didnt know this was a thing other people experienced so this is making me feel so much better
I was in a 1.5 year relationship and i had the worst anxiety half of the time we dated and he knew it and we talked about it. I'm so scared to meet somebody new bc i have to go through all that anxiety again and I don't know if the other person will handle it as well as my ex did. Do you have any tips for dating with anxiety?
hi!! so i think i got really lucky because I’m usually very anxious around anyone new but my bf was just different?? I think if you’re able to find the right person it might be easier to go into a relationship with anxiety. I also think I just got lucky because I was in a better time period (mental health wise) when meeting him. But in terms of meeting people, I really thought bumble helped. If you’re wanting to pursue a straight relationship, the girl initiates the conversation. (like after y’all match only the girl can reach out first). I felt like that gave me a little more control which helped.
thank you so much anna:) I just always thought my ex handled the anxiety so well but he was also the person in my life who made my anxiety go through the roof in the first year or so. So thank you for giving me hope that there will be different people:)
honestly thank you so much for speaking about intimacy issues due to religion trauma, feeling embarrassed about being late, and how you couldn’t picture yourself with someone because i relate so hard. i’m happy that you found someone because that gives me hope.
I did!!! AND I THIIGHT IT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN:,)
sameeee
you talking about intimacy issues and how you thought your were asexual etc, like LEGITMATELY got me on the same level. Its refreshing to hear someone else say the stuff I've thought about so many times
physical affection scares me so much. it’s something that i don’t even want to admit, so thank for sharing with us. i felt like i needed to hear this, and i’m so happy that you’ve found a person for you :)
same girl, guys always tell me i act like i don't have interest in them whole time i'm actually obsessed, i'm just scared of being affectionate. if i aloud myself to be affectionate and intimate my love language would def be touching cause with my friends and family i'm very touchy and i always wanna cuddle and just be really close but with guys that i'm into, i just cant ...hopefully that changes one day
"nervous shits" relatable
wait no stop i JUST check youtube to see if you’ve uploaded anything. i literally manifested this!
you did it so proud thank you!
@@annacantu those lashesssssss, where sis?
The smokey eye with the red hair. 😭 You're beautiful Anna thanks for the video! Could I ask where you get some of your jewelry?
thank you!! and i got most of them from flea markets or thrift stores. BUT the top necklace is from kendra scott:)
Girl, i relate to you sm, the social pressure to be in a relationship when you're a teenager is sick, also, when you said you keep texting mr. roy bc you thought that was going to be the closest to having a boyfriend, I WENT TROUGH the same thing, i didn't even liked him bc the guy hurted me so much but i thought that was as far as i was gonna get, thank you so much for sharing your experience, ily
ily2!💗💗
Thank you for being open with this. I feel like there needs to be more girls who speak up about intimacy issues and “late blooming”. My first kiss Was last year, it never got past a first date because I was uncomfortable with feelings of affection. I’m 20 now and still haven’t found “the one” but I feel like I’m more mature even over the year. I actually feel ready for a relationship.
Vaguely over sharing is literally how I communicate lol but def resonated with a lot of what you’ve said. Askfkjd believing you’re asexual because those emotions had been so repressed 🙃 hit home lol
I literally don't think I've ever been more excited by someone uploading in my entire life.
you are so pretty n i’m so glad you found your style because it looks so good on you 😭 you look so freaking good r u kidding omg
Your talk about thinking you were asexual and the whole issues with intimacy is ... spot on for me as well. Watching your vids are like as if I'm chatting with a friend. Love u Anna I hope you're doing well
how did you know you werent asexual? im still wondering if i really am or not...or if im actually asexual but also afraid of intimacy at the same time
@@marlasinger8274 I realized I wasn’t asexual when I met this boy who I thought was really really good looking like the best I’ve ever seen and apparently he thought the same of me. I have really bad intimacy issues in the sense where I don’t ever think that anyone can be attracted to me (which is totally not true) but he kissed me and I realized I definitely wanted more
ive never resonated more with someone on a topic than this video... literally almost identical situations/experience/traumas and it’s so comforting knowing that i’m not alone in this experiences 💖
it’s so funny hearing you break the ice about cursing in your videos lmaoo. i feel like we’ve all felt this to some extent
Thank you for talking about your issues and even talking about not feeling attraction it really resonates with me
this vid felt like a ft call like we are ur bestiessss and also thank you for speaking on being late with relationships because i don’t hear people talking about this enough!!!!
i love this video, thank you for speaking about religious trauma
So gladdd you’re back!!! I love your personality
Anna: “Yes I do call my grandma and grandpa, mimi and papa. My mom’s white so”
Me: Crying laughing😭
I felt everything u said in this video, I’m 19 and have never been in a relationship bc I’m afraid of affection. I don’t feel ready but I feel pressured and HAHAHA I LITERALLY THOUGHT I WAS ASEXUAL TOO OMG
Thank u so much you make me feel normal as a 20yo who never been in relationship...
IT IS!!!!
ur story about intimacy issues and about being bad at relationships i had such a similar up bringing aswell so nice to see someone who can relate and share it so we don’t feel alone ❤️
very very grateful you enjoy oversharing bc this helped me with my personal shit a lot thank you!!!!
I‘m sooooo happy rn 😭 also you look stunning!!!!
The queen has returned once again 🖤🖤🖤
i feel like you just read all my thoughts and described everything i went through LOl ly
you are my favorite creator and i love when you update and just talk to us. i relate so much to you
omgggg i missed you Anna 🥺
Yayyy glad ur back!! Im learning how to get back in touch with my feminine side & it makes me feel so cute and hot when im with him 😍 like dont ever think u have to be the boss of yall , HE needs to be the man you know? Its so important to keep your “girlyness” which IS good so I recommend u looking up videos and research about ur female energy etc ..i say this bc this will help u feel more familiar with like being intimate & in a relationship,itll teach u how a man SHOULD treat u & kinda like a normal girl bc ik ur not familiar with all this & the trauma ugh but girlll just accept it & get what it feels like to br loved by a man , trust me i have a good ass man NOW it took many stupid boys and learning and getting comfortable and with yourself to feel beautiful is a key to happy girl plzzzz read this
your videos are always so comforting to me please do more videos when you can ❤️
Dude how are you so pretty with and without makeup holy shit I’m in love🥺🥺💕💕✨✨
Wow haven’t watched u in a year or some and wow u changed Soo much!! Keep doing u boo!!!
for some mf reason i just woke up and i NEVER wake up this early (it’s literally 9am that’s not v early lmaoo) but i think it was a sign from some higher ups bc you posted yayayay i’m early :) 💜💜
so happy to see you've posted :)
never thought I’d get this today. god is been good
your hair looks so GOOD
I MISSED TF OUT OF YOU
Me :living in the UK and forgetting that everywhere else has school opens
Gurl you are so sweetness I'm obsessed with your channel girl bc you are so sweetness and you are amazing vibe
You’re literally so beautiful bro
you’re SO PRETTY what hair dye did you use because i need!!
L’oréal hicolor highlights in magenta!
wow thank you for sharing this with us🥺 you look stunning btw!
OMG YAY HI WELCOME BACK
I LOVE YOUR HAIR AND YOU STYLE 😇🦋✨
Please stop ghosting us. It makes us sad 😔😔😔😫
Bruh Anna I love u and ur videos so much u make me feel so comfortable :,)
AHHH we’ve missed you soooo much 🥺💗
omg finally you uploaded, i wish you would post more i love your videos 😔
wow ily I love this video I feel like we're besties spilling tea
missed you so much!! ur so beautiful
yay!!! happy you posted!!
thank you for this!!!
Anna Banana has posted! Missed you girly. Looking beautiful as always.
so pretty anna You brighten my day
omg i missed your uploads so much!! your dyed hair brings out your eyes, so pretty! also where is that black floral locket necklace from?♥️♥️♥️
hi!! i thrifted it:)
nervous shits were very relatable until u said 3 times in 24 hours ........ girl when i’m anxious it’s every hour SJDJSJFH sorry bye
okay but your HAIR looks so fucking good
the black crochet sweater is super cute! where did she get it from?
you sound like anne hattaway and im here for it
Anna you’re so pretty 🥺
Omg I’m so glad u uploaded !!!! ps the audio isn’t as bad as u think lol
HI ANNA IVE MISSED U
this makes me feel normal
UR BACK YAYYY
anna can you literally make a podcast your voice is 👌🏼
Missed you girl. Hope you're doing okay!
you look so good! 🥰
so in love with u 🧡💗💞
cutest thumbnail
girl where is your small necklace from i love itt
Im so nervous to go to class on campus! Im in the middle of my 2nd semester of college. Crazy!!
idk if you’ll see this but i really like ur glasses! do u know where they r from?
hiii theyre the chillax style from eyebuydirect !
@@annacantu ahh tysm!
Please stay 😩 we miss you beautiful
God I love this video
missed you darling!!!
i relate to you sm queen
Hi lovie PLEASE WHAT IS THE BLUSH . ITS SO CUTE 💞
ummm I THINK colourpop pressed powder blush in chaise?
AGH THANK U 💞
Missed you!!🙃
how did u overcome some of ur intimacy issues? i have a lot as well, to the point where im not attracted to anyone. i definitely have deep rooted trauma, mostly with the simple things, and i cannot get passed it. its making me scared for the future cause i know i want to love someone
and ive never really cared much. i dont mind that i am not in a relationship because i am uncomfortable with that, but idk how to make my comfort zone bigger, cause men in general make me uncomfortable bc of it:(
@@ashleyweaver9003 hi! i completely get it i was the same way. I didn’t think i would ever find anyone and was honestly starting to just accept it (which is why i didn’t talk to anyone for a year and a half). BUT i was getting pretty lonely so i just wanted to branch out a little and see what happened. I know this isn’t super helpful, but honestly meeting my boyfriend helped me. He grounded me in a way that helped me figure out why i was feeling the way I did and made me want to overcome it. If you know you want to love someone, you will. I think it really does come down to the person. having a really strong emotional connection to my bf made me feel more safe overcoming my intimacy issues.
Also, because my intimacy issues stemmed from christianity, i was able to unlearn (a little) and feel more comfortable being intimate. this made it a little easier for me to branch out because I knew that my fears were developed out of false, sin shaming narratives from the church. understanding where my trauma came from definitely didn’t eliminate these fears, but it helped a little. and i think taking it one step at a time is the only way to get better. thinking about getting to the end of the race before you begin makes you hesitant to start. or at least it does for me. I really just think it gets better with time and if you’re with the right person. If you need anything you can DM me on insta!
@@annacantu thats actually what ive been hoping for. im hoping i can find someone who can help me overcome at my pace:) i genuinely didnt know this was a thing other people experienced so this is making me feel so much better
yeahhhhh a new video please upload more(:
*drives over a hole*
anna: ohhh damn
Missed youuuu
I was in a 1.5 year relationship and i had the worst anxiety half of the time we dated and he knew it and we talked about it. I'm so scared to meet somebody new bc i have to go through all that anxiety again and I don't know if the other person will handle it as well as my ex did. Do you have any tips for dating with anxiety?
hi!! so i think i got really lucky because I’m usually very anxious around anyone new but my bf was just different?? I think if you’re able to find the right person it might be easier to go into a relationship with anxiety. I also think I just got lucky because I was in a better time period (mental health wise) when meeting him. But in terms of meeting people, I really thought bumble helped. If you’re wanting to pursue a straight relationship, the girl initiates the conversation. (like after y’all match only the girl can reach out first). I felt like that gave me a little more control which helped.
It does get better though! and when you’re with the right person as cliche as it sounds it makes it easier:)
thank you so much anna:) I just always thought my ex handled the anxiety so well but he was also the person in my life who made my anxiety go through the roof in the first year or so. So thank you for giving me hope that there will be different people:)
hey Anna sorry for being off topic but where are your glasses from?
Eyebuydirect in the style chillax:)
how did you get this hair color??
L’oréal hicolor highlights in magenta!
I missed you😭
missed u ):
YEAAAAAAH
glad you decided to upload
I love your voice sm
miss u omg
You’re so cute❤️
hahaha ur so hilarious!!
Is one of your necklaces from Kendra Scott?
YES!
welcome back to youtube beautiful!!! just checked your instagram and in your newest post you commented that you're single now? hope everything's ok x
i’m not single:)) i probably commented something as a joke??? but thank you for checking in i really appreciate you💗
Where’d u get ur glasses ?
eyebuydirect in the style chillax!
ily
Ily2💗💗
Omg ur so funnyyyyyyyyyy!
ANNA WE HAVE SIMILAR EXPERIENCES.
Why am I crying
make a podcast. make a podcast. make a podcast
I just open your video, I loooooove your glasses! De donde son? 🥺🥺🥺
chillax from eyebuydirect !