My mom gained 60 lb or so with one of my brothers. I think if my second baby had been full term I might have. He was born at 31 weeks 5 days and I had gained 36 lbs.
Same for me! My grandma, mum, my two aunts gained only notmal amount of weight during the pregnancy, and all of them had 41+ w deliberies - guess who gained the exact same amount of weight and had to be induced because I was almost 42w pregnant 😅
I weigh 140 pounds and I’ve never been pregnant. I’m actually fairly skinny 🤦♀️ I’m so sorry you had to hear that crap especially while pregnant!! Sending you love ❤️
I think it's a good base, but it was also designed around men not woman. I was super healthy and workout out up until the last month, stayed active, walked 5-10+ miles a day and didn't change much and gained 40 both times. The second one I really tried my best, I didn't gain till the second trimester and I held out at 30 but the last few weeks it's like there was nothing I could do and I was barely eating cause nothing was what I wanted to eat. Ugh
@@kodakoalaYeah, for women, you're either overweight or underweight, there's literally no room to be "healthy" for us. For example, in high school, one year I was okay for the BMI height and weight paper the nurse sent home, but the next year I wasn't, and I still weighed and had like the same height
Thank you so much for posting this. I gained 35lbs by 28 weeks (157lbs to 193lbs at 5'7") and the doc told me I've gained more than I should during my entire pregnancy. I was shell shocked and immediately started crying. I thought my husband was going to jump across the table at this lady. Why do they make an already overwhelming situation worse by telling us we are too fat.
It's so stupid because if you raise other animals, the standard is never to weigh them, but to look/feel the actual fat coverage in various places. Muscle quantity, size of frame, etc make weight a terrible metric. But with humans, we seem to throw all common sense out the window.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I currently see Midwives at a birthing center through Mercy hospital. Before I step on the scale there they ask me if I want to know my weight or not. Totally different approach with midwives 😊
My Midwife did this to me. I began to feel like she was bringing it up every time because she didn't like me. I could have been wrong but I dreaded those appointments so much. I already felt bad about my weight gain.
Its so dim that they did that, I'm sorry. At the end of the day, we're mammals, and our bodies compensate for our situations. Humans need extra energy during pregnancy, and the body gaining extra weight accommodates that. That sucks that they told you that I'm sorry
Haha this is SO SO relatable! My son is now 11months old and he weighed 7 pounds at birth. I started pregnancy at 125 pounds and boy did I stop weighing myself... my weight gain was off the chart. No one talks about WATER RETENTION!! Just like you, I ate healthily, I exercised, walked etc and I still balooned😂 good thing was that I lost all the weight - because it was all water... so 11 months on, I am exactly at my pre pregnancy weight, but sporting a mom pooch, lots of stretch marks, different size boobs and most importantly, a huge smile❤ you keep doing what you re doing and don't mind the charts.
@@juliat9211 haha! I think it took about a month or so for the water retention to almost fully resolve but I still had some puffiness, just not as bad. Boobs went at least 3 sizes up.. and I am now on the other side. Finished breastfeeding and went to an A cup.....🫠all the best with motherhood! It's awesome and taxing and crazy but it is wonderful.
@@lucya3100 oh man 3 sizes?! Did you start as an A cup? I went up two but they were already big so I guess we get to choose from deflated pancake or deflated soccer ball haha
@@juliat9211 I was 135 pre pregnancy and 180lb full term. 7lb 4oz baby. I was down to 165 directly after birth. Breastfed and went from B cup to DD cup, weaned and went down to a small D cup/large C. My boobs are still round and perky, no deflation 😂 Downstairs is tighter than ever before, it was like free plastic surgery. Hope that calms your mind mama. No one talks about the good, only the negative. It is ok if your body never goes back too. I still have stretch marks that I got AFTER, yes after, having my baby and I haven’t lost the extra weight I still float around 160lbs 8months post partum. It takes 9 months to grow your body and baby, it would of course take just as long to return.
@@Asp47999 that makes sense the timeline! And you’re right- no one talks about the good and I don’t want to scare women away for choosing life either! Do you think your boobs stayed big because you kept some weight on?
Girl come to the Caribbean ! If you don’t gain weight and eat for two they will be so concerned for you. We believe happy mommy happy baby , that includes eating what you crave and eating as much as you want. We of course eat very organic here bc we have access to it . But I mean we don’t do any of that stuff and we have low death rates during pregnancy and super healthy mammas ❤🎉🇧🇿
I weighed 104 when I got pregnant, gained 52lbs during pregnancy, lost 30 immediately on delivery, and 9 months later was back to my pre pregnancy weight. I also had Hyperemesis my entire pregnancy, I barely ate anything the entire time and lived on Nausea meds. But i still gained over 50lbs. Body’s just do what they do, I hate that pregnant moms are meant to feel shame about their weight.
I gained 60 lbs in my Hyperemesis pregnancy because the drugs stopped the vomiting, but didn’t relieve the nausea. I was eating bread and crackers all day long to settle my stomach. Then the doctor was like “well, you are gaining so much weight, you don’t have hyperemesis, it’s probably just heart burn.”
@@adararelgnel2695if you are starving, your body holds onto more calories (storing it as fat) because it essentially doesn’t know when or if you’ll get more food. that’s how you can gain weight. bodies are cool 😎👍
That only counts if people are body builders. Like if you have excessive muscle, it will tell you you are too fat. Pregnant ladies should also be exempt from BMI. Otherwise most average people can use it for a rough idea of where they are.
@@anat781It’s still inaccurate. I’m 5’10, you could see all my bones poking through and with the weight I was at I still was on the higher end of healthy, almost overweight.
@@blank_nebula8440 are you sure? why do you assume excess muscles = health? some research suggests body builders have shorter lifespans. excess of anything, fat or muscle, can be bad for you. health is created from balance, not excess. BMI is still bullshit, I just disagree that it's safe to assume a body builder is healthy...
I was obese when I became pregnant. I was told to gain only between 10 and 25 pounds. I gained 11. The doctor told me that I needed to watch my sugar and fat intake because my baby was going to get too big and i would need a c section. She was born a week later at 7lbs 6oz. She didnt shrink in a week. The measurements were obviously off (and i didnt have any issues with sugar or fat my whole pregnancy). I think sometimes doctors are just ready to blame EVERYTHING on someones weight.
I got pregnant at 250 lbs. so far I've lost almost 15 pounds by 24 weeks. doctor has told me not to change anything but keeps warning me if I gain too much weight back I'll have to go to a different hospital for a c section 🙃
I love this. My BMI pre pregnancy was already overweight, which means a 15-25lb range weight gain. Well I’m 32 weeks now and have almost maxed that out already. I’m on track to gain within the range for a “normal” BMI. Weight gain should be the last thing on a mom’s mind. Nature takes over and our bodies just body and do what they need to do for the babies.
BMI is a very flawed system especially for women. It doesn’t take anything other than weight & height into consideration. Doesn’t mean much especially when you just made a whole human being lol
That's obnoxious, that's literally saying you need to LOSE WEIGHT while pregnant since that is lower than the typical weight gain for pregnancy (a time when your body naturally wants to hold on to weight to protect your organs and baby as well as just in case you don't have access to food or are otherwise using more energy than you consume). Not to mention a good 6-10 lbs of that is just baby, and you'll also have fluid retention...now they're adding more stress on top of that? God I'm so sorry you're dealing with that
I was so sick and couldn’t keep anything down when I was pregnant with my daughter… and I gained 35 pounds. So they are saying I guess that you are supposed to only gain as much as someone who literally throws up all their food?? This is absurd! And from your new videos it looks like you have a lovely and healthy baby 💕
For real. It’s really hard to hear things in the first trimester like “you don’t even need hardly any extra calories so you shouldn’t be eating much more than usual.” Hmm.. okay. That’s very easy to say when you’ve never experienced the absolute crippling hunger, or the nausea that will only go away when you eat something. I’ve also heard “the baby doesn’t need that many extra calories, they’re so tiny.” Guys… it’s about feeding the baby it’s about *growing* the baby. Your body is growing a whole new human being from nothing and we think that the mom’s body is using what….no energy to make that happen?! It’s mind boggling.
I was the same. Basically, I got told I was obese. With both pregnancies, I put on about 30 pounds. The numbers mean nothing! I had a 7.3 lbs daughter and a 8.13 lbs son.
You are ALL belly. You have not “gotten too big” and this idea that YOU can do something to control how large your baby winds up being is ridiculous. They also SUCK at predicting how big baby will be. They get it wrong ALL THE TIME. They swore up and down my daughter was going to be 9 lbs or larger and I was scared as hell cause it was my first baby. She was 7 pounds and 6 ounces. Perfectly average sized little girl (quite small when I had her in my arms and newborn clothes were too big on her).
I gained the recommended amount and had a 9lb 6oz baby and no I didn’t have gestational diabetes. So you can do exactly what they want and still have a big baby. She’s a perfect chunky healthy girl 🩷
i was the same way!!! and the doctors said the same thing i felt so ashamed my whole pregnancy and seeing all the "skinny pregnant " mamas online dwindled any confidence or love i had left for myself so the whole nine months i didnt even get to enjoy the experience or be happy and then after my son was born to this day i feel guilty about not being happy the whole time like it was my fault
I’m a big believer you can’t always control your weight during pregnancy! If you’re so sick and miserable and in pain, you’re lucky to just eat anything or survive the day.
My mom did have a 10 lb baby. My sister is now 19, and she has always been the healthiest of us 4 siblings. Sometimes a chubby baby means a healthy baby
Girl! You’re just like me during pregnancy. I started at 130 with my first and was dang near 200 just before birth! .. Now with my second I started at 135.. & I’m at about 190 with 2 months to go! I thought I might’ve been eating too much w/the first since I was living w/my mama 😂 But, doing all the good things like you say, and still, here we are .. 🤰🏻! (I heard “the norm gain” is 30-40 lbs)
It’s nice that you know you’re having the same experience as your mum, please take comfort in that What happens in your lineage is more impressive than what happens generally for other women
EXACTLY the same as my first pregnancy. Same starting weight too. Nasty nurses picked on me for every appointment. If you're eating well, exercising, and there isn't a gestational complication, then it doesn't matter!
I'm 5'7" and started at 122 and at 38 weeks I was 167 and a sweet woman at a breakfast restaurant told me, "You are all baby." I was originally trying to be careful about what I ate until my anatomy scan at 20 weeks showed my baby in the 11th percentile, then at the next one 4 weeks later he was at the 12th percentile. The doctor finally explained they were nervous he might go below the 10th percentile. I stopped caring about eating light to stay within my weight range and started increasing my protein and calories. He finally went up to the 17th percentile at 30 weeks. He's still measuring a little small during the fundal measurements, but luckily he's on track. I just want him to be healthy. I have struggled with the fear of gaining too much weight my whole life, but it's worth it for him. At 18, I dropped down to 99 lbs. I have heard comments from my mother about how gross and boney my shoulders were as a teenager, but then also being told to be careful because it looked like I was a little pudgy. In a previous relationship, my ex told me I needed to lose weight at 118 lbs. It will never matter how thin you are, there will always be a negative person out there to tell you to be thinner and people telling you "you're so skinny" to shame you into eating more. At the end of the day, your health and comfort should be all that matters.
I wish that hadn’t happened to you. We can’t win no matter what weight we are some people will think we’re too big and some will think we’re too small. Health is all that matters! That’s true for us women and also for our babies.
@lauraladyll Yes. My little guy is 4 weeks old now, and I've already had 3 random people tell me "he looks so small," like it's a bad thing. At his doctor's appointments, they told me he's around the 50th percentile, and he looks like he's growing well and healthy. Some babies are big and some are small, and mine is literally right in the middle, and people still gotta make comments. 🙄
I’m overweight according to my bmi and I am very fit. I’m 155lbs 5’4” and I am not fat at all. But I’m overweight in BMI it’s all bullshit! You’re doing great ❤️
My aunt was very slim, but every time she got pregnant she had a HUGE belly and gained a lot of weight. All of her babies were born an average weight, she just had a lot of amniotic fluid. Every pregnancy is unique 🙏🏼
Oh MY GOSH they told you that?! Sweet woman, that is so wrong for them to even say something like that to you i can't believe they work in healthcare. Princess here, i better be adored everywhere when I'm pregnant #too sensitive for that 🥺 You are lovely i love your videos!!
I gained almost 80 with my first who was 9-9 and delivered a week late. I gained about 35 with my second who was 8-11 and delivered a week early. Granted they are also 14 years apart. But still each pregnancy is different. I absolute cannot STAND when healthcare professionals tell pregnant people they’re gaining too much weight. Even worse when they say it like “you need to lay off the ice cream”. Your “extra” weight gain was not concerning so shame on them!
You look amazing! I gained 100 pounds with my 1st, 20 lbs with my 2nd and 18 lbs with my 3rd. My 1st only weighed 8 lb 1 1/2 oz. My 3rd was 4lb 5oz and 6 weeks early. You are doing great Mama!!
I had 4 and got 50 lbs with all of them. The shade that was thrown by one of my nurses... Really hurt my feelings. Cus yeah an apple is "eating for two"... But, and hear me out, when that and a salad is all you're planning on eating? Spouse insisting you need a burger tastes better 😂😂
Just gave birth to my son, our second child. My height is 5'9". With this pregnancy I began considerably lighter than with my first pregnancy. This time I started at 138 lbs (vs 164 lbs with our first child). For a while I felt so powerless and stressed, gaining weight SO much faster than I expected! When my son arrived, I weighed 194 lbs, almost exactly the weight I was at when our daughter was born. Only, this time, I had gained a whopping 50+ pounds (vs about 30) the first time around. It felt like my body had a 'memory' of the first pregnancy and the weight at which I gave birth. To all the pregnant mommas out there: please grant yourself the grace to grow and gain weight while you try your best to eat a healthy diet and be physically active. Being pregnant is tough and we don't need the added stress of shaming ourselves around weight gain. If you're feeling bullied by a doctor, find a new one that can work with you, without judgement, to understand what healthy weight gain looks like for you.
Girl, I gained 50-70 lbs with my pregnancies and had 6 babies. I feel your pain. I had to work so hard to get the weight off after birth just in time to get pregnant again. They are worth it but I couldn’t figure out how to keep the weight gain normal.
I wouldn’t worry about it. As long as you are eating well and feel well. Your baby should be fine. I’ve had six children already, and I have sometimes gained 40 pounds as well. Your body knows what to do and sometimes gaining weight is part of it, you don’t look obese you look healthy. Just watch your carbs to make sure you’re not gaining excess weight eat lots of meat and fish. Best of luck to you and your pregnancy and your birth giving!
As someone who struggled to eat my last pregnancy (the entire time) I was told “You barely look pregant” or “you’re still so skinny” or after it was over say “you don’t look like you had a baby”. I felt like no one really understands what you go through from your perspective unless they really try and really care. And now when my friends complain about gaining 40-60 with theirs and see that I didn’t gain that much they act like I didn’t have any struggles in pregnancy or even now and I hate it. Don’t assume, don’t judge others without really hearing them out and knowing what they go through and how it feels for them. It took me two years to enjoy food again after pregnancy. And now I’m pregnant again and it’s different so far. I’m way sicker, but also way more hungry all the time and I’m almost 10 weeks and scared of gaining too much but also have to remind myself that I just need to listen to my body and do what’s best for me. Right now, a lot of it is purely survival. What can I stomach today? Hopefully I’ll feel better in the 2nd trimester and be able to eat more carefully but I really only have so much of that luxury right now when I can’t eat certain things or get hungry again after I’ve already eaten something.
People who say “it’s only fluid:” As an OB RN for over 30 years, gaining too much fluid is concerning. It increases your blood pressure, and can cause you to need to deliver your baby early or to have a cesarean, complications, and many more health problems. We are seeing more and more pregnancy & delivery complications from blood pressure, often due to diet. Processed, greasy, or fried foods, as well as starchy or sugary foods are responsible for the vast majority of health issues we see in the hospital, causing diabetes, high blood pressure, & more.
Fellow RN here, and yes. It's not about body shaming or providers holding pregnant women to certain aesthetic standards, it's about the health and safety of you and your baby.
girl same.. they would reprimand me and feel so ashamed. I had eds in the past and it was so triggering. Baby's born.. 3 months later i was back at my pre pregnancy weight
The doctor just like the fat shame you I was fat shamed my whole pregnancy. You’re doing great do what makes you and your baby happy not what the doctor says.
My first pregnancy I ate pretty much whatever I wanted (both good and treat food) but I also exercised regularly. I gained 50lbs (from 120 to 170). My second pregnancy I ate better, still a lot of food, exercised regularly and only gained 25lbs. Next two pregnancies I gained @35 pounds each but only did minimal exercise (I had SPD and it hurt way too much). Every pregnancy is so different! You'll lose the weight ❤
Girl I gained that or more with both of mine. I think for thinner people it's just natural to gain more weight than the "average"...whatever that means. You're growing a human! Just eat good and take care of yourself and don't worry about the number on the scale❤️
Same here. OBGYN got crazy about my weight gain, but it was just as much as my mom and grandma had at their pregnancies. Turned out I lost all of the extra pounds 6 weeks after delivery. No surprise for me actually as I had a healthy nourishing diet, could feet my babies pretty well, stayed active and went everywhere by cargobike instead of using the car all the time.
I've been watching your shorts and we are so similar! I was 123lbs before I got pregnant, I gained 60lbs and doctor said it was too much but everything turned out okay, don't worry. 😊
I was 110 to start and I’m now just over 150 at 8 months. Every time I express some anxiety over it, my midwives have been so supportive and reassuring, thankfully. Imagine making a pregnant woman concerned about their weight when it’s vital for them to eat plenty and get all those nutrients to baby….
I was already obsessed when I started my pregnancy. This is my 4th pregnancy btw. But I have low blood sugar, every time I express my concern they tell me to keep eating small meals throughout the day to stay on top of my blood sugar... I started at 170 and now I'm 196 and still have three months to go ( I look nothing like I would weigh almost 200lbs) I'm gonna be in a state where I'm gonna be skipping meals after birth.
I am a month postpartum. I gained about 45 lbs while pregnant and was told by my doctor I gained too much weight. When I went for a checkup one week after birth I had lost almost thirty pounds! My baby was only 6.6, but I had a ton of amniotic fluid (even my doctor said it was a lot). I get higher weight gain leads to bigger babies but only gaining 25 pounds seems rare after hearing so many other women talk about their weight gain and after my experience. (Oh and of course my mom gained about 15 pounds with me 🙄)
I have two children, and I AGREE WITH THE DOCTOR. There should be no shaming, BUT it was waaaay more uncomfortable with my first one, when I gained 40 lbs. The baby was small, so it didn't affect her. However, I hot many more stretch marks than I would've gotten with a healthy weight, my fert became flat, I wasn't able to exercise, I was super uncomfortable very early, and it took three years to get the weight off. I looked 6 months pregnant even 2 years after...! The bely just never went down properly. I had NOTHING that fit me in terms of clothes. Second pregnancy I decided that there was NO WAY I would go through the same thing again. Exercised throughout the whole pregnancy, even with pelvic girdle pain, and gained 28 lbs. No additional stretch marka, felt much better, ans my stomach was nearly flat again 1 week after I gave birth. I was in great shape too! After first, It took me 1.5 year to begin to exercise. After my second it tok 1.5 WEEK. Oh, and the weight I had gained during pregnancy disappeared by itself, without me having to do anything. Telling women they shouldn't be gaining too much is KIND IMO.
Same! I have all your numbers. I've decided not to listen anymore, just to try and keep healthy (with treats). I mean what am I supposed to do, I'm just growing. I'm not even eating big portions.
This makes me feel SO MUCH better! I weighted the exact same! My daughter only came bit early at 36 weeks and 5 days. So I won’t ever know how much I would have weighted at 40 weeks. Thank goodness I was never told I was gaining to much etc! I’m so sorry you had to go thru that. Don’t be afraid to change providers if you’re not happy with them! You are doing great! Enjoy your pregnancy cause we don’t know if God will bless us with a second one! ❤
My pre-pregnancy weight was 145lbs, I eat a well balanced diet and worked out 4 days a week during my pregnancy. Still gained 60lbs before giving birth. I'm 6 weeks postpartum, and I'm 15lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight. Every woman's body is different, and BMI literally makes no sense 😅 Just take good care of you and baby and everything will be fine ❤
I was told I was technically obese at my 8 week appt. Started at 157 and got to 193. I'm 5'1" and looked like I was having twins. Both pregnancies with different starting weights; same amount of weight gain. I exercised and ate better this time and made no difference. They didn't bother saying anything about it.
With twins I gained 46 pounds total, I was real happy with that and never did any doctor say anything about my weight. I lost 70 pounds before I left the hospital 5 days later. Don't worry bout how much you gain, it's all relative once you see the babies!!!
I gained about 50 pounds in both of my pregnancy’s. Although it did take some time to lose the weight afterwards I did lose it. I hate that doctors are focusing on the #s on a list that says we should all stick to. As if a pregnant woman doesn’t have enough to worry about. You look happy, healthy and beautiful. Gain all the weight you need to.
Had a friend get in serious trouble for not gaining enough weight. CYS was threatened before the baby was even born. Doctors are ridiculous these days!❤
I chatted with a doula who said do not worry about weight gain, every woman is different and some need to gain more or less and if you eat healthy, do your to listen to your body, it’ll be okay. Added stress from worrying about weight gain isn’t good for anyone so don’t stress about it. Wish you had a more understanding doc too.
Mama of three 10 lb babies. Life is good, they were born beautiful and no they are not over weight either. You're doing just fine mama! You look amazing! 10 lb babies are a blessing. ❤️
When my grandmother had her three kids, women were discouraged from gaining any weight at all. She said the most she gained was 7 pounds. She would lose weight all over her body and just have a giant belly. She said she looked like a toothpick with a cherry tomato in the middle. Her babies weighed more than she gained. It sounds like your genetics will have you gain more weight, like your mom did. As long as you and baby are healthy, that's all that really matters!
I'm sure it'll be fine 😊 not a doctor but I had 2 babies and just looked after myself the best I could. They're healthy and I'm healthy. Our bodies are amazing and all so very different ❤congratulations 🎉
My mom gained 90 pounds when she was pregnant with me. She lost all of it when I came out. Doctor’s advice is just that, advice. Feed your baby and be happy. 🥰 Also, with my first born I gained a total of 17 pounds while I was pregnant and I’m now 21 weeks pregnant with my second and I’ve gained 18 pounds already! Every pregnancy is different. 😊
I gained 40+ lbs with my first born. I ignored all that I gladly ate all my cravings and now pregnant with number 5 I don't really look at numbers anymore, my body just kind of goes back to normal after a while. I always been a little on the heavy side so it doesn't bother me. I just focus on being healthy, being skinny doesn't mean you're healthy.
Was 125 pre pregnancy and was 175 at my last weigh in. (I was only 36 weeks pregnant) After having my baby, I went back down to 155 in a week. Your body will do what it needs to do 👏
I was 200 pounds when I got pregnant and was so nervous to have doctors tell me I was an unhealthy weight to be pregnant and to eat less/healthier especially in front of my boyfriend who came with. I was very fortunate to never have a single nurse, midwife, or doctor talk about my weight with me. The only thing about my weight was the first ultrasound they mentioned me having a “thicker abdominal wall” so they couldn’t get as accurate of a measurement. I’m 8.5 months postpartum and only 5 pounds away from what I weighed pre pregnancy and that’s only because I want to be a healthy parent who can be active with her baby 😊 (the heaviest I got while pregnant was 250)
My sister's friend went to a doctor in New York City that actually swore that no women should gain more than 15 pounds during pregnancy and shamed any woman who gained more than 15
Some women naturally gain more during gestation. I gained 60 with one, 70 with the next. I am back to my normal weight. That being said, the weight didn't just fall off. Don't feel discouraged ❤
I am on my 6th pregnancy and the doctor had the audacity to shame me for gaining weight since I was 127 and now 159 at 7 months!! Let them hate haha you’ll get back at it after you’re done
I keep gaining weight too and my doctor is making me feel so guilty. I was underweight and 95lbs before pregnancy now I’m 166lbs and I got 1 month to go. If she’s a 10lb baby I will just have a c section. As long as we’re both healthy I don’t really mind how she comes into the world.
the weight gain recommendations are actually given to try ensuring you are healthy throughout pregnancy because of how extreme people have taken the whole "eating for two" thing during pregnancy. PS you were lucky to be given a 25-35lb weight gain allowance. I was given a 5-7kg (11-15lb for all the Americans out there) weight gain for all of my pregnancies. My first I actually LOST 10kg (22lb) over the 40wks. My second I stayed the same weight the whole 37wks). My third I lost 10kg in the entire 8wks I knew I was pregnant before having a miscarriage. With my fourth and final baby I had my first ever gain during pregnancy, a whopping 2kg (4lb) in the first 16wks and then stayed at that weight until 1.5yrs post-partum where I gained weight while being stuck at home during covid lockdowns.
Try not to stress about it for sure. But they also have good reason to be concerned and encourage pumping the breaks on weight gain wherever possible. It is very hard on your body to gain that much weight that quickly and it could mean you have something else going on. And sure it may all fall off you the minute you have your baby. But it very well might not and it could be something you struggle with for a long time. Both are normal. I will say i gained 45ish with my first. 25 with my second. I felt, looked and recovered so much better with my second. He was a whole pound lighter at birth too.
Same for my pregnancy too.. it stressed me out every time I went for my appointments.. I know they know stress effects the baby but the obstetrician has no problem fat shaming pregnant mothers.
I gained 60lbs with my second, didn't lose all of it and gained 35 to 40 with the other 5. I'm still a bit fluffy but after 7 kids from 8lbs to over 10.5lb babies my body is still in recovery phase 4yrs since my last. My sleep is crappy and I'm very stressed as a home school and stay home Mom, so I have had to take a while to get the last 15 to 20lbs to let go. Just gotta have grace for yourself and do what you can. Walking and healthy eating are great for good health. ☺️ After I finished breastfeeding the last one I started doing intermittent fasting. It's the only thing that's worked to get the weight off. I've dropped 30+lbs and feel so much better most days. But don't intermittent fasting while breastfeeding. ❤
My friend had a 12lb baby and a 14lb, gaining 75lb during each pregnancy. 48 hours post partum she had dropped 25lbs in water weight. Water was a real problem was a real problem for her!
People told me I looked small during my first pregnancy and I only gained 25 lbs and my baby was growth restricted and had to go to the Nicu, so I think a good amount of gain is ideal. You don’t look puffy or anything.
My doctor also told me normal weight gain was 25-35lbs. I gained 50+!! They never said a thing to me. A month postpartum I had lost 25lbs already. My baby was 8lbs 3oz and I am barely 5”1. Two months postpartum now and I’m not even keeping track of my weight. Just care about how baby is doing😊
I was fortunately told by my doctor to gain 20 to 30lbs and when I surpassed it, didn't say anything negative about it. Most people gain a lot with their first.
That OBGYN is unusual. All of my doctors told me they could not tell me I’m gaining too much weight during pregnancy unless it was extreme because growing a healthy baby was more important. They monitored me and my sugar levels to make sure me and baby were healthy as well as everything else they needed to monitor. So, unless you have a condition like diabetes, they shouldn’t be telling you that
I gained 55 lbs each with my first 2 kids. I remember being 28 weeks pregnant, already 40 lbs up from my pre pregnancy weight and my dr saying I was already over the weight limit. I was like uh "Well I can't slow this train down now!" She suggested I exercise and I was LIVID. She had never actually asked if I exercise and I said "I exercise 6 days a week." I was so active and still gained all that weight. The baby and I were super healthy and I lost it in 5 months. With my 3rd, I only gained 21 lbs. Now I'm at 28 weeks with my 4th and have only gained 13 pounds so far but now, with this pregnancy, have gestational diabetes. So, whatever. I give up lol.
As a person who had midwifery care my past two pregnancies we don’t even worry about this. I weigh myself every 8 weeks or so just cus I am curious. But they never ask me 🤷🏼♀️
I read in Expecting Better that a big baby is better than a small baby, bc big babies have less complications between the two. I've also heard doctors can be a pain in the neck about that.
I gained 12 kg/26,5 pounds by my first, 15kg/33 pounds by my second and 8/17,6 pounds by my third pregnancy. They told me it was too little. All my children had normal weight and lenght by the time of birth.
You don’t even look heavy or over weight at all. I am SO CONFUSED as to why they are saying your weight gain is an issue. You look healthy & in shape to me.
I gained 44lbs with my first, and lost 37 of those pounds by two weeks postpartum. Lost the rest like 4 months later. Piece of cake. I gained 28lbs with my second. Thought I'd be GOLDEN since I was staying within the limit! Lost 21 of those pounds by two weeks postpartum and I'm still trying to lose the rest three years later.
I mean, i find those really helpful because then i can set weight gain goals for myself. My first two pregnancies, i lost weight and it was NOT good. My body was left a shell of itself after birth. For my third pregnancy, i realy really tried, counted calories, set goals and gained just enough weught to be considered normal and it made the pregnancy and birth a lot easier to be at a better healthier weight.
Two pregnancies I gained 20kg- one I only gained 12kg- tho I didn’t do anything different. Body does what it needs too! Got back to my regular weight after each- by not stressing and just living healthy.
I put on soooo much weight in the first trimester because i was so nauseous and the only thing that made me feel better was eating heavy, beige foods like mac and cheese, but then in the third trimester I was so sick I could barely eat and I was physically sick a lot. It turned out my body knew was it was doing because i needed that extra weight I'd put on. Imo you should trust what your body is telling you, not the scales (or the doctor in this case).
"Like my mom had with all three of us!"
That's your answer right there! Like mother like daughter 😂🥰
My mom gained 60 lb or so with one of my brothers. I think if my second baby had been full term I might have. He was born at 31 weeks 5 days and I had gained 36 lbs.
Same for me! My grandma, mum, my two aunts gained only notmal amount of weight during the pregnancy, and all of them had 41+ w deliberies - guess who gained the exact same amount of weight and had to be induced because I was almost 42w pregnant 😅
That's what I was thinking. The weight gain is heredity.
Yep 💯
Yup she should be asked about family history on these matters. It’s that aha moment.
They told me I was obese at 140 pounds, 15 weeks pregnant. I was like wow you guys are morons.
140lbs is NOT anywhere near it, in fact 140lbs is too low and you need to gain more 😅
@@jazza5364Well really depends on how talk she is......
that would tell me to go to another doctor if I can lol
yeah & just think about how much they get paid to be morons. it's a miracle women & babies survive them.
I weigh 140 pounds and I’ve never been pregnant. I’m actually fairly skinny 🤦♀️ I’m so sorry you had to hear that crap especially while pregnant!! Sending you love ❤️
The guy who invented BMI said it shouldn’t be used as a serious measurement you’re fine
I think it's a good base, but it was also designed around men not woman. I was super healthy and workout out up until the last month, stayed active, walked 5-10+ miles a day and didn't change much and gained 40 both times. The second one I really tried my best, I didn't gain till the second trimester and I held out at 30 but the last few weeks it's like there was nothing I could do and I was barely eating cause nothing was what I wanted to eat. Ugh
Okay, but 50 lbs is literally double 25 lbs.
@@Colmbazwhat do you expect to happen when you have a human growing in you with A LOT of extra shit in there too?
@@Colmbazcongrats, you passed maths class, your point is?
@@kodakoalaYeah, for women, you're either overweight or underweight, there's literally no room to be "healthy" for us. For example, in high school, one year I was okay for the BMI height and weight paper the nurse sent home, but the next year I wasn't, and I still weighed and had like the same height
Thank you so much for posting this. I gained 35lbs by 28 weeks (157lbs to 193lbs at 5'7") and the doc told me I've gained more than I should during my entire pregnancy. I was shell shocked and immediately started crying. I thought my husband was going to jump across the table at this lady. Why do they make an already overwhelming situation worse by telling us we are too fat.
It's so stupid because if you raise other animals, the standard is never to weigh them, but to look/feel the actual fat coverage in various places. Muscle quantity, size of frame, etc make weight a terrible metric.
But with humans, we seem to throw all common sense out the window.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I currently see Midwives at a birthing center through Mercy hospital. Before I step on the scale there they ask me if I want to know my weight or not. Totally different approach with midwives 😊
My Midwife did this to me. I began to feel like she was bringing it up every time because she didn't like me. I could have been wrong but I dreaded those appointments so much. I already felt bad about my weight gain.
They did this to me too. Turns out I had a TON of amniotic fluid in there with him. Like, an abnormally large amount 😅
Its so dim that they did that, I'm sorry. At the end of the day, we're mammals, and our bodies compensate for our situations. Humans need extra energy during pregnancy, and the body gaining extra weight accommodates that. That sucks that they told you that I'm sorry
Haha this is SO SO relatable! My son is now 11months old and he weighed 7 pounds at birth. I started pregnancy at 125 pounds and boy did I stop weighing myself... my weight gain was off the chart. No one talks about WATER RETENTION!! Just like you, I ate healthily, I exercised, walked etc and I still balooned😂 good thing was that I lost all the weight - because it was all water... so 11 months on, I am exactly at my pre pregnancy weight, but sporting a mom pooch, lots of stretch marks, different size boobs and most importantly, a huge smile❤ you keep doing what you re doing and don't mind the charts.
How long did it take for all the water weight to come off? And may I ask what happened to your boobs? I’m 32 weeks now haha
@@juliat9211 haha! I think it took about a month or so for the water retention to almost fully resolve but I still had some puffiness, just not as bad. Boobs went at least 3 sizes up.. and I am now on the other side. Finished breastfeeding and went to an A cup.....🫠all the best with motherhood! It's awesome and taxing and crazy but it is wonderful.
@@lucya3100 oh man 3 sizes?! Did you start as an A cup? I went up two but they were already big so I guess we get to choose from deflated pancake or deflated soccer ball haha
@@juliat9211 I was 135 pre pregnancy and 180lb full term. 7lb 4oz baby. I was down to 165 directly after birth. Breastfed and went from B cup to DD cup, weaned and went down to a small D cup/large C. My boobs are still round and perky, no deflation 😂 Downstairs is tighter than ever before, it was like free plastic surgery. Hope that calms your mind mama. No one talks about the good, only the negative. It is ok if your body never goes back too. I still have stretch marks that I got AFTER, yes after, having my baby and I haven’t lost the extra weight I still float around 160lbs 8months post partum. It takes 9 months to grow your body and baby, it would of course take just as long to return.
@@Asp47999 that makes sense the timeline! And you’re right- no one talks about the good and I don’t want to scare women away for choosing life either! Do you think your boobs stayed big because you kept some weight on?
Girl come to the Caribbean ! If you don’t gain weight and eat for two they will be so concerned for you. We believe happy mommy happy baby , that includes eating what you crave and eating as much as you want. We of course eat very organic here bc we have access to it . But I mean we don’t do any of that stuff and we have low death rates during pregnancy and super healthy mammas ❤🎉🇧🇿
The death rates for all Caribbean countries are similar?
The death rates for all Caribbean countries are similar?
❤❤
Still you shouldn't eat for 2, it's 10% more than you normally eat actually
I weighed 104 when I got pregnant, gained 52lbs during pregnancy, lost 30 immediately on delivery, and 9 months later was back to my pre pregnancy weight. I also had Hyperemesis my entire pregnancy, I barely ate anything the entire time and lived on Nausea meds. But i still gained over 50lbs. Body’s just do what they do, I hate that pregnant moms are meant to feel shame about their weight.
I gained 60 lbs in my Hyperemesis pregnancy because the drugs stopped the vomiting, but didn’t relieve the nausea. I was eating bread and crackers all day long to settle my stomach. Then the doctor was like “well, you are gaining so much weight, you don’t have hyperemesis, it’s probably just heart burn.”
I barely ate my first 2 pregnancies AND lost weight. How do you gain weight if you don't eat? Especially since the baby is taking everything from you.
@@adararelgnel2695if you are starving, your body holds onto more calories (storing it as fat) because it essentially doesn’t know when or if you’ll get more food. that’s how you can gain weight. bodies are cool 😎👍
also, just a side note, in case anyone feels bad about themselves, bmi is not a reliable source when it comes to health.
exactly. a bodybuilder and an obese guy could have the same BMI, but only one would be healthy
That only counts if people are body builders. Like if you have excessive muscle, it will tell you you are too fat. Pregnant ladies should also be exempt from BMI. Otherwise most average people can use it for a rough idea of where they are.
Yup. I used to do martial arts when i was younger and one of our senseis was an absolute bull. His bmi said overweight when he was in peak health.
@@anat781It’s still inaccurate. I’m 5’10, you could see all my bones poking through and with the weight I was at I still was on the higher end of healthy, almost overweight.
@@blank_nebula8440 are you sure? why do you assume excess muscles = health? some research suggests body builders have shorter lifespans. excess of anything, fat or muscle, can be bad for you. health is created from balance, not excess. BMI is still bullshit, I just disagree that it's safe to assume a body builder is healthy...
That much weight gain is perfectly normal. You look great!
I was obese when I became pregnant. I was told to gain only between 10 and 25 pounds. I gained 11. The doctor told me that I needed to watch my sugar and fat intake because my baby was going to get too big and i would need a c section. She was born a week later at 7lbs 6oz. She didnt shrink in a week. The measurements were obviously off (and i didnt have any issues with sugar or fat my whole pregnancy). I think sometimes doctors are just ready to blame EVERYTHING on someones weight.
I got pregnant at 250 lbs. so far I've lost almost 15 pounds by 24 weeks. doctor has told me not to change anything but keeps warning me if I gain too much weight back I'll have to go to a different hospital for a c section 🙃
as far as I know 7 pounds 6 ounces is pretty normal
@@jenniferhoisington66 yes, it is! I just meant that the doctor was warning me that my daughter would be huge, and she wasn't.
I love this. My BMI pre pregnancy was already overweight, which means a 15-25lb range weight gain. Well I’m 32 weeks now and have almost maxed that out already. I’m on track to gain within the range for a “normal” BMI. Weight gain should be the last thing on a mom’s mind. Nature takes over and our bodies just body and do what they need to do for the babies.
BMI is a very flawed system especially for women. It doesn’t take anything other than weight & height into consideration. Doesn’t mean much especially when you just made a whole human being lol
That's obnoxious, that's literally saying you need to LOSE WEIGHT while pregnant since that is lower than the typical weight gain for pregnancy (a time when your body naturally wants to hold on to weight to protect your organs and baby as well as just in case you don't have access to food or are otherwise using more energy than you consume). Not to mention a good 6-10 lbs of that is just baby, and you'll also have fluid retention...now they're adding more stress on top of that? God I'm so sorry you're dealing with that
I was so sick and couldn’t keep anything down when I was pregnant with my daughter… and I gained 35 pounds. So they are saying I guess that you are supposed to only gain as much as someone who literally throws up all their food?? This is absurd! And from your new videos it looks like you have a lovely and healthy baby 💕
For real. It’s really hard to hear things in the first trimester like “you don’t even need hardly any extra calories so you shouldn’t be eating much more than usual.” Hmm.. okay. That’s very easy to say when you’ve never experienced the absolute crippling hunger, or the nausea that will only go away when you eat something.
I’ve also heard “the baby doesn’t need that many extra calories, they’re so tiny.” Guys… it’s about feeding the baby it’s about *growing* the baby. Your body is growing a whole new human being from nothing and we think that the mom’s body is using what….no energy to make that happen?! It’s mind boggling.
Excuse me I meant to say “it ISNT about feeding the baby. It’s about growing the baby.”
I was the same. Basically, I got told I was obese. With both pregnancies, I put on about 30 pounds. The numbers mean nothing! I had a 7.3 lbs daughter and a 8.13 lbs son.
Literally that's so stupid- maybe you will weigh as much as an overweight person, like- duh! I don't understand doctors sometimes
You are ALL belly. You have not “gotten too big” and this idea that YOU can do something to control how large your baby winds up being is ridiculous. They also SUCK at predicting how big baby will be. They get it wrong ALL THE TIME. They swore up and down my daughter was going to be 9 lbs or larger and I was scared as hell cause it was my first baby. She was 7 pounds and 6 ounces. Perfectly average sized little girl (quite small when I had her in my arms and newborn clothes were too big on her).
My first pregnancy I started at 103 and ended at 165 had a 7lbs 3oz 20in baby girl after my second child I weigh 115
I gained the recommended amount and had a 9lb 6oz baby and no I didn’t have gestational diabetes. So you can do exactly what they want and still have a big baby. She’s a perfect chunky healthy girl 🩷
i was the same way!!! and the doctors said the same thing i felt so ashamed my whole pregnancy and seeing all the "skinny pregnant " mamas online dwindled any confidence or love i had left for myself so the whole nine months i didnt even get to enjoy the experience or be happy and then after my son was born to this day i feel guilty about not being happy the whole time like it was my fault
I’m a big believer you can’t always control your weight during pregnancy! If you’re so sick and miserable and in pain, you’re lucky to just eat anything or survive the day.
This was literally me with my first. I hated going to the OB for this reason
Girl, I weighed 165 (I'm 5'9) before getting pregnant. Currently 200 lbs. I still look skinny from the front, BUT NOT FROM THE SIDE. These doctors man
My mom did have a 10 lb baby. My sister is now 19, and she has always been the healthiest of us 4 siblings. Sometimes a chubby baby means a healthy baby
Big babies are often healthier, but they are also often harder to deliver. The mother's well-being matters, too.
That’s crazy you look absolutely perfect
Girl! You’re just like me during pregnancy. I started at 130 with my first and was dang near 200 just before birth!
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Now with my second I started at 135.. & I’m at about 190 with 2 months to go! I thought I might’ve been eating too much w/the first since I was living w/my mama 😂 But, doing all the good things like you say, and still, here we are .. 🤰🏻!
(I heard “the norm gain” is 30-40 lbs)
It’s nice that you know you’re having the same experience as your mum, please take comfort in that
What happens in your lineage is more impressive than what happens generally for other women
EXACTLY the same as my first pregnancy. Same starting weight too. Nasty nurses picked on me for every appointment. If you're eating well, exercising, and there isn't a gestational complication, then it doesn't matter!
I'm 5'7" and started at 122 and at 38 weeks I was 167 and a sweet woman at a breakfast restaurant told me, "You are all baby." I was originally trying to be careful about what I ate until my anatomy scan at 20 weeks showed my baby in the 11th percentile, then at the next one 4 weeks later he was at the 12th percentile. The doctor finally explained they were nervous he might go below the 10th percentile. I stopped caring about eating light to stay within my weight range and started increasing my protein and calories. He finally went up to the 17th percentile at 30 weeks. He's still measuring a little small during the fundal measurements, but luckily he's on track. I just want him to be healthy. I have struggled with the fear of gaining too much weight my whole life, but it's worth it for him.
At 18, I dropped down to 99 lbs. I have heard comments from my mother about how gross and boney my shoulders were as a teenager, but then also being told to be careful because it looked like I was a little pudgy. In a previous relationship, my ex told me I needed to lose weight at 118 lbs. It will never matter how thin you are, there will always be a negative person out there to tell you to be thinner and people telling you "you're so skinny" to shame you into eating more. At the end of the day, your health and comfort should be all that matters.
I wish that hadn’t happened to you. We can’t win no matter what weight we are some people will think we’re too big and some will think we’re too small. Health is all that matters! That’s true for us women and also for our babies.
@lauraladyll Yes. My little guy is 4 weeks old now, and I've already had 3 random people tell me "he looks so small," like it's a bad thing. At his doctor's appointments, they told me he's around the 50th percentile, and he looks like he's growing well and healthy. Some babies are big and some are small, and mine is literally right in the middle, and people still gotta make comments. 🙄
I’m overweight according to my bmi and I am very fit. I’m 155lbs 5’4” and I am not fat at all. But I’m overweight in BMI it’s all bullshit! You’re doing great ❤️
Screw em. Live your best life. If you feel good that's enough
My aunt was very slim, but every time she got pregnant she had a HUGE belly and gained a lot of weight. All of her babies were born an average weight, she just had a lot of amniotic fluid. Every pregnancy is unique 🙏🏼
It’s ok, you look really healthy! Just keep taking care of you and baby!
Oh MY GOSH they told you that?! Sweet woman, that is so wrong for them to even say something like that to you i can't believe they work in healthcare. Princess here, i better be adored everywhere when I'm pregnant #too sensitive for that 🥺
You are lovely i love your videos!!
You go mama, eat health yummy stuff! Got to grow a whole damn baby!
I gained almost 80 with my first who was 9-9 and delivered a week late. I gained about 35 with my second who was 8-11 and delivered a week early. Granted they are also 14 years apart. But still each pregnancy is different. I absolute cannot STAND when healthcare professionals tell pregnant people they’re gaining too much weight. Even worse when they say it like “you need to lay off the ice cream”. Your “extra” weight gain was not concerning so shame on them!
You look amazing! I gained 100 pounds with my 1st, 20 lbs with my 2nd and 18 lbs with my 3rd. My 1st only weighed 8 lb 1 1/2 oz. My 3rd was 4lb 5oz and 6 weeks early. You are doing great Mama!!
I had 4 and got 50 lbs with all of them. The shade that was thrown by one of my nurses... Really hurt my feelings. Cus yeah an apple is "eating for two"... But, and hear me out, when that and a salad is all you're planning on eating? Spouse insisting you need a burger tastes better 😂😂
Just gave birth to my son, our second child. My height is 5'9". With this pregnancy I began considerably lighter than with my first pregnancy. This time I started at 138 lbs (vs 164 lbs with our first child).
For a while I felt so powerless and stressed, gaining weight SO much faster than I expected! When my son arrived, I weighed 194 lbs, almost exactly the weight I was at when our daughter was born. Only, this time, I had gained a whopping 50+ pounds (vs about 30) the first time around. It felt like my body had a 'memory' of the first pregnancy and the weight at which I gave birth.
To all the pregnant mommas out there: please grant yourself the grace to grow and gain weight while you try your best to eat a healthy diet and be physically active. Being pregnant is tough and we don't need the added stress of shaming ourselves around weight gain. If you're feeling bullied by a doctor, find a new one that can work with you, without judgement, to understand what healthy weight gain looks like for you.
Girl, I gained 50-70 lbs with my pregnancies and had 6 babies. I feel your pain. I had to work so hard to get the weight off after birth just in time to get pregnant again. They are worth it but I couldn’t figure out how to keep the weight gain normal.
My mom gained sixty and eighty with my brother and I, as long as you aren’t risking you or baby’s health keep doing what you want/need
I wouldn’t worry about it. As long as you are eating well and feel well. Your baby should be fine. I’ve had six children already, and I have sometimes gained 40 pounds as well. Your body knows what to do and sometimes gaining weight is part of it, you don’t look obese you look healthy. Just watch your carbs to make sure you’re not gaining excess weight eat lots of meat and fish. Best of luck to you and your pregnancy and your birth giving!
As someone who struggled to eat my last pregnancy (the entire time) I was told “You barely look pregant” or “you’re still so skinny” or after it was over say “you don’t look like you had a baby”. I felt like no one really understands what you go through from your perspective unless they really try and really care. And now when my friends complain about gaining 40-60 with theirs and see that I didn’t gain that much they act like I didn’t have any struggles in pregnancy or even now and I hate it. Don’t assume, don’t judge others without really hearing them out and knowing what they go through and how it feels for them. It took me two years to enjoy food again after pregnancy. And now I’m pregnant again and it’s different so far. I’m way sicker, but also way more hungry all the time and I’m almost 10 weeks and scared of gaining too much but also have to remind myself that I just need to listen to my body and do what’s best for me. Right now, a lot of it is purely survival. What can I stomach today? Hopefully I’ll feel better in the 2nd trimester and be able to eat more carefully but I really only have so much of that luxury right now when I can’t eat certain things or get hungry again after I’ve already eaten something.
People who say “it’s only fluid:” As an OB RN for over 30 years, gaining too much fluid is concerning. It increases your blood pressure, and can cause you to need to deliver your baby early or to have a cesarean, complications, and many more health problems. We are seeing more and more pregnancy & delivery complications from blood pressure, often due to diet. Processed, greasy, or fried foods, as well as starchy or sugary foods are responsible for the vast majority of health issues we see in the hospital, causing diabetes, high blood pressure, & more.
Fellow RN here, and yes. It's not about body shaming or providers holding pregnant women to certain aesthetic standards, it's about the health and safety of you and your baby.
girl same.. they would reprimand me and feel so ashamed. I had eds in the past and it was so triggering. Baby's born.. 3 months later i was back at my pre pregnancy weight
You look GORGEOUS. THEY DONT KNOW SHIT.
I lost 10 pounds and had an 11lb 3oz baby boy. You look great and healthy. Don't let it get to you.
The doctor just like the fat shame you I was fat shamed my whole pregnancy. You’re doing great do what makes you and your baby happy not what the doctor says.
My first pregnancy I ate pretty much whatever I wanted (both good and treat food) but I also exercised regularly. I gained 50lbs (from 120 to 170). My second pregnancy I ate better, still a lot of food, exercised regularly and only gained 25lbs. Next two pregnancies I gained @35 pounds each but only did minimal exercise (I had SPD and it hurt way too much). Every pregnancy is so different! You'll lose the weight ❤
Girl, same. I gained almost 50 lbs. I was a normal BMI before. 😮💨
Girl I gained that or more with both of mine. I think for thinner people it's just natural to gain more weight than the "average"...whatever that means. You're growing a human! Just eat good and take care of yourself and don't worry about the number on the scale❤️
Same here. OBGYN got crazy about my weight gain, but it was just as much as my mom and grandma had at their pregnancies. Turned out I lost all of the extra pounds 6 weeks after delivery. No surprise for me actually as I had a healthy nourishing diet, could feet my babies pretty well, stayed active and went everywhere by cargobike instead of using the car all the time.
BMI was based on a small group of men and never meant to make any claims about an individual.
I've been watching your shorts and we are so similar! I was 123lbs before I got pregnant, I gained 60lbs and doctor said it was too much but everything turned out okay, don't worry. 😊
I was 110 to start and I’m now just over 150 at 8 months. Every time I express some anxiety over it, my midwives have been so supportive and reassuring, thankfully. Imagine making a pregnant woman concerned about their weight when it’s vital for them to eat plenty and get all those nutrients to baby….
I was already obsessed when I started my pregnancy. This is my 4th pregnancy btw. But I have low blood sugar, every time I express my concern they tell me to keep eating small meals throughout the day to stay on top of my blood sugar... I started at 170 and now I'm 196 and still have three months to go ( I look nothing like I would weigh almost 200lbs) I'm gonna be in a state where I'm gonna be skipping meals after birth.
I am a month postpartum. I gained about 45 lbs while pregnant and was told by my doctor I gained too much weight. When I went for a checkup one week after birth I had lost almost thirty pounds! My baby was only 6.6, but I had a ton of amniotic fluid (even my doctor said it was a lot). I get higher weight gain leads to bigger babies but only gaining 25 pounds seems rare after hearing so many other women talk about their weight gain and after my experience. (Oh and of course my mom gained about 15 pounds with me 🙄)
I have two children, and I AGREE WITH THE DOCTOR. There should be no shaming, BUT it was waaaay more uncomfortable with my first one, when I gained 40 lbs. The baby was small, so it didn't affect her. However, I hot many more stretch marks than I would've gotten with a healthy weight, my fert became flat, I wasn't able to exercise, I was super uncomfortable very early, and it took three years to get the weight off. I looked 6 months pregnant even 2 years after...! The bely just never went down properly. I had NOTHING that fit me in terms of clothes.
Second pregnancy I decided that there was NO WAY I would go through the same thing again. Exercised throughout the whole pregnancy, even with pelvic girdle pain, and gained 28 lbs. No additional stretch marka, felt much better, ans my stomach was nearly flat again 1 week after I gave birth. I was in great shape too! After first, It took me 1.5 year to begin to exercise. After my second it tok 1.5 WEEK. Oh, and the weight I had gained during pregnancy disappeared by itself, without me having to do anything.
Telling women they shouldn't be gaining too much is KIND IMO.
Same! I have all your numbers. I've decided not to listen anymore, just to try and keep healthy (with treats). I mean what am I supposed to do, I'm just growing. I'm not even eating big portions.
You look absolutly beautiful
A healthy baby is a win in my book.
This makes me feel SO MUCH better! I weighted the exact same! My daughter only came bit early at 36 weeks and 5 days. So I won’t ever know how much I would have weighted at 40 weeks. Thank goodness I was never told I was gaining to much etc! I’m so sorry you had to go thru that. Don’t be afraid to change providers if you’re not happy with them! You are doing great! Enjoy your pregnancy cause we don’t know if God will bless us with a second one! ❤
Don’t sweat it! You’re fine.
My pre-pregnancy weight was 145lbs, I eat a well balanced diet and worked out 4 days a week during my pregnancy. Still gained 60lbs before giving birth. I'm 6 weeks postpartum, and I'm 15lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight. Every woman's body is different, and BMI literally makes no sense 😅 Just take good care of you and baby and everything will be fine ❤
I was told I was technically obese at my 8 week appt. Started at 157 and got to 193. I'm 5'1" and looked like I was having twins. Both pregnancies with different starting weights; same amount of weight gain. I exercised and ate better this time and made no difference. They didn't bother saying anything about it.
“With treats of course” that was so cute idk what it is I just find you adorable the cutest little pregnant lady lol
With twins I gained 46 pounds total, I was real happy with that and never did any doctor say anything about my weight. I lost 70 pounds before I left the hospital 5 days later. Don't worry bout how much you gain, it's all relative once you see the babies!!!
I gained about 50 pounds in both of my pregnancy’s. Although it did take some time to lose the weight afterwards I did lose it. I hate that doctors are focusing on the #s on a list that says we should all stick to. As if a pregnant woman doesn’t have enough to worry about. You look happy, healthy and beautiful. Gain all the weight you need to.
Had a friend get in serious trouble for not gaining enough weight. CYS was threatened before the baby was even born. Doctors are ridiculous these days!❤
I chatted with a doula who said do not worry about weight gain, every woman is different and some need to gain more or less and if you eat healthy, do your to listen to your body, it’ll be okay. Added stress from worrying about weight gain isn’t good for anyone so don’t stress about it. Wish you had a more understanding doc too.
Mama of three 10 lb babies. Life is good, they were born beautiful and no they are not over weight either. You're doing just fine mama! You look amazing! 10 lb babies are a blessing. ❤️
I'm 5'1 and I gained 50lbs in my pregnancy and the doctor didn't say anything to me. I was so surprised, I was expecting a lot of judgement.
When my grandmother had her three kids, women were discouraged from gaining any weight at all. She said the most she gained was 7 pounds. She would lose weight all over her body and just have a giant belly. She said she looked like a toothpick with a cherry tomato in the middle. Her babies weighed more than she gained.
It sounds like your genetics will have you gain more weight, like your mom did. As long as you and baby are healthy, that's all that really matters!
I'm sure it'll be fine 😊 not a doctor but I had 2 babies and just looked after myself the best I could. They're healthy and I'm healthy. Our bodies are amazing and all so very different ❤congratulations 🎉
My mom gained 90 pounds when she was pregnant with me. She lost all of it when I came out. Doctor’s advice is just that, advice. Feed your baby and be happy. 🥰
Also, with my first born I gained a total of 17 pounds while I was pregnant and I’m now 21 weeks pregnant with my second and I’ve gained 18 pounds already! Every pregnancy is different. 😊
I gained 40+ lbs with my first born. I ignored all that I gladly ate all my cravings and now pregnant with number 5 I don't really look at numbers anymore, my body just kind of goes back to normal after a while. I always been a little on the heavy side so it doesn't bother me. I just focus on being healthy, being skinny doesn't mean you're healthy.
Was 125 pre pregnancy and was 175 at my last weigh in. (I was only 36 weeks pregnant) After having my baby, I went back down to 155 in a week. Your body will do what it needs to do 👏
It’s super normal to gain that much if you started out on the low side! Why are doctors so mean sometimes 🙄
I was 200 pounds when I got pregnant and was so nervous to have doctors tell me I was an unhealthy weight to be pregnant and to eat less/healthier especially in front of my boyfriend who came with. I was very fortunate to never have a single nurse, midwife, or doctor talk about my weight with me. The only thing about my weight was the first ultrasound they mentioned me having a “thicker abdominal wall” so they couldn’t get as accurate of a measurement. I’m 8.5 months postpartum and only 5 pounds away from what I weighed pre pregnancy and that’s only because I want to be a healthy parent who can be active with her baby 😊 (the heaviest I got while pregnant was 250)
My sister's friend went to a doctor in New York City that actually swore that no women should gain more than 15 pounds during pregnancy and shamed any woman who gained more than 15
That doesn’t even account for the weight of the baby/placenta/amniotic fluid/extra breast tissue combined… what a wild thing to say
Some women naturally gain more during gestation. I gained 60 with one, 70 with the next. I am back to my normal weight. That being said, the weight didn't just fall off. Don't feel discouraged ❤
I am on my 6th pregnancy and the doctor had the audacity to shame me for gaining weight since I was 127 and now 159 at 7 months!! Let them hate haha you’ll get back at it after you’re done
Wherever it went, you look amazing
I keep gaining weight too and my doctor is making me feel so guilty. I was underweight and 95lbs before pregnancy now I’m 166lbs and I got 1 month to go. If she’s a 10lb baby I will just have a c section. As long as we’re both healthy I don’t really mind how she comes into the world.
the weight gain recommendations are actually given to try ensuring you are healthy throughout pregnancy because of how extreme people have taken the whole "eating for two" thing during pregnancy. PS you were lucky to be given a 25-35lb weight gain allowance. I was given a 5-7kg (11-15lb for all the Americans out there) weight gain for all of my pregnancies. My first I actually LOST 10kg (22lb) over the 40wks. My second I stayed the same weight the whole 37wks). My third I lost 10kg in the entire 8wks I knew I was pregnant before having a miscarriage. With my fourth and final baby I had my first ever gain during pregnancy, a whopping 2kg (4lb) in the first 16wks and then stayed at that weight until 1.5yrs post-partum where I gained weight while being stuck at home during covid lockdowns.
Try not to stress about it for sure. But they also have good reason to be concerned and encourage pumping the breaks on weight gain wherever possible. It is very hard on your body to gain that much weight that quickly and it could mean you have something else going on. And sure it may all fall off you the minute you have your baby. But it very well might not and it could be something you struggle with for a long time. Both are normal. I will say i gained 45ish with my first. 25 with my second. I felt, looked and recovered so much better with my second. He was a whole pound lighter at birth too.
Same for my pregnancy too.. it stressed me out every time I went for my appointments.. I know they know stress effects the baby but the obstetrician has no problem fat shaming pregnant mothers.
You look great. Do NOT listen to them. You'll have a healthy baby and that's the MOST important thing!!
I gained 60lbs with my second, didn't lose all of it and gained 35 to 40 with the other 5. I'm still a bit fluffy but after 7 kids from 8lbs to over 10.5lb babies my body is still in recovery phase 4yrs since my last. My sleep is crappy and I'm very stressed as a home school and stay home Mom, so I have had to take a while to get the last 15 to 20lbs to let go. Just gotta have grace for yourself and do what you can. Walking and healthy eating are great for good health. ☺️ After I finished breastfeeding the last one I started doing intermittent fasting. It's the only thing that's worked to get the weight off. I've dropped 30+lbs and feel so much better most days. But don't intermittent fasting while breastfeeding. ❤
My friend had a 12lb baby and a 14lb, gaining 75lb during each pregnancy. 48 hours post partum she had dropped 25lbs in water weight. Water was a real problem was a real problem for her!
People told me I looked small during my first pregnancy and I only gained 25 lbs and my baby was growth restricted and had to go to the Nicu, so I think a good amount of gain is ideal. You don’t look puffy or anything.
My doctor also told me normal weight gain was 25-35lbs. I gained 50+!! They never said a thing to me. A month postpartum I had lost 25lbs already. My baby was 8lbs 3oz and I am barely 5”1. Two months postpartum now and I’m not even keeping track of my weight. Just care about how baby is doing😊
I was fortunately told by my doctor to gain 20 to 30lbs and when I surpassed it, didn't say anything negative about it. Most people gain a lot with their first.
That OBGYN is unusual. All of my doctors told me they could not tell me I’m gaining too much weight during pregnancy unless it was extreme because growing a healthy baby was more important. They monitored me and my sugar levels to make sure me and baby were healthy as well as everything else they needed to monitor. So, unless you have a condition like diabetes, they shouldn’t be telling you that
I gained 55 lbs each with my first 2 kids. I remember being 28 weeks pregnant, already 40 lbs up from my pre pregnancy weight and my dr saying I was already over the weight limit. I was like uh "Well I can't slow this train down now!" She suggested I exercise and I was LIVID. She had never actually asked if I exercise and I said "I exercise 6 days a week." I was so active and still gained all that weight. The baby and I were super healthy and I lost it in 5 months. With my 3rd, I only gained 21 lbs. Now I'm at 28 weeks with my 4th and have only gained 13 pounds so far but now, with this pregnancy, have gestational diabetes. So, whatever. I give up lol.
As a person who had midwifery care my past two pregnancies we don’t even worry about this. I weigh myself every 8 weeks or so just cus I am curious. But they never ask me 🤷🏼♀️
I read in Expecting Better that a big baby is better than a small baby, bc big babies have less complications between the two. I've also heard doctors can be a pain in the neck about that.
I gained 12 kg/26,5 pounds by my first, 15kg/33 pounds by my second and 8/17,6 pounds by my third pregnancy. They told me it was too little. All my children had normal weight and lenght by the time of birth.
You don’t even look heavy or over weight at all. I am SO CONFUSED as to why they are saying your weight gain is an issue. You look healthy & in shape to me.
I gained 44lbs with my first, and lost 37 of those pounds by two weeks postpartum. Lost the rest like 4 months later. Piece of cake.
I gained 28lbs with my second. Thought I'd be GOLDEN since I was staying within the limit! Lost 21 of those pounds by two weeks postpartum and I'm still trying to lose the rest three years later.
I mean, i find those really helpful because then i can set weight gain goals for myself. My first two pregnancies, i lost weight and it was NOT good. My body was left a shell of itself after birth. For my third pregnancy, i realy really tried, counted calories, set goals and gained just enough weught to be considered normal and it made the pregnancy and birth a lot easier to be at a better healthier weight.
Two pregnancies I gained 20kg- one I only gained 12kg- tho I didn’t do anything different. Body does what it needs too! Got back to my regular weight after each- by not stressing and just living healthy.
I put on soooo much weight in the first trimester because i was so nauseous and the only thing that made me feel better was eating heavy, beige foods like mac and cheese, but then in the third trimester I was so sick I could barely eat and I was physically sick a lot. It turned out my body knew was it was doing because i needed that extra weight I'd put on. Imo you should trust what your body is telling you, not the scales (or the doctor in this case).