EMPATHS & GHOSTING - IT SUCKS!
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- Опубликовано: 25 авг 2024
- GHOSTING is one of the CRUELEST forms of PUNISHMENTS that exists. I've been ghosted twice and I wouldn't wish on ANYONE.
WHY do people DISAPPEAR?
What makes people think it's acceptable? Has our SOCIETY grown so NARCISSISTIC that our EMPATHY and COMPASSION have also disappeared.
We live in a WORLD where CONFLICT is abundant and people are choosing not to LEARN how to manage DIFFERENCES. It's easier to HURT the other person and move on.
Why do you think people disappear? It's SAD that the word "GHOSTING" is even a REALITY.
HELP raise the world's VIBRATION with your love and care... and start TODAY.
Love is the Answer,
Rhonda
(This video is for entertainment purposes only.)
Not sure if I've technically ever been ghosted, but I really benefited from listening to your story :) I can relate to feeling rejected and alone probably now more than ever in my life. Thanks for sharing :)
We give other people too much control over our emotions... or more like we have the ability to control our emotions, we need to learn how. The brain's main goal is to survive, so the subconscious garbage starts taking over. I celebrate having a relationship with a narcissist because I wouldn't be where I'm at today. I heard a great phrase recently... Up Until Now. Up until now... I felt lonely and rejected. The rest is up to you. Much Love, Rhonda
Getting ghosted right now as a matter of fact. I have long ago learned not to hold on to things or people. Your life will be much easier and ghosting will bother you less. Primarily I just really hope the person is OK, but at the end of the day they and their actions are the path they must follow, and if our paths crossed only briefly, well, so wot it.
Yes, letting go of attachment is a path to self care. Although, it doesn't mean we love any less. I learned that other people's actions do not determine my self worth. I won't stop being who I genuinely am because I won't stop loving and caring. It's hard to understand manifesting and how we actually do that... when someone ghosts us. The first time hurts... and then if it happens again... it's a learning experience. Follow your true self... no matter what. Much Love, Rhonda
Rhonda, Ghosting is horrible. I would never do that to another human being. The slow fade is 1 thing but ghosting is a whole other level. I hope you and your daughter work things out ❤
Thank you for your kind words. I send my daughter love every day and my son lets me know she's okay. I don't even know where she lives. I trust she is working on trying to understand herself and when she is ready we'll see each other again. I'm looking forward to it!
Ghosting often has a justification. If someone's boundaries are disrespected severely, they may simply cut contact completely as a way of protecting their own boundaries.
Some people can't or won't acknowledge their own disrespect or toxic behaviour .....and instead complain that they have been 'ghosted', making themselves the victim.
Not saying this is what happened in the cases described above, or the comments. But it certainly explains some instances of the phenomenon.
Yes good point, it's difficult and sometimes dangerous to break up ethically with an abusive or toxic person, I don't blame the 'ghoster' in these situations. But sometimes the ghoster is just cowardly or irresponsible. My point is that it's often difficult to know another person's motives, so my advice for anyone who has been ghosted is to move on with your life and don't dwell on it - if a person can't move on, they could benefit from therapy.
I agree 100% there are reasons for "ghosting". I had to protect my boundaries when I left my job and refused contact with my ex-boss. Although, I know how painful it is... and I knew I would regret leaving the situation that way, so I reached out and saw her. Now, the "ball is in her court" (so to speak). I completely understand my daughter's reasons for not being in contact for me. She had explained to me her toxic behavior (and I also witnessed it first hand) and she said she didn't want to be cruel to me anymore and chose a path of recovery without me. I respect that. It doesn't mean there isn't a pain of separation from the bond of a child. Much Love.... Rhonda
There is "ghosting" and there is "no contact" which are different due to what prompts the action. That is part of the point... people are affected differently by being ghosted and sometimes therapy is needed. Unfortunately, the person who needs therapy the most is usually the one doing the ghosting. It's a general term and we rarely know the history of each person - which determines how they process the information. I think it's caused mostly by the decline in society of people's skills to resolve conflict. Myself included. Thank you for your comment!
Does not anyone man or woman up anymore and face to face calmly explain an issue or injustice?
Have we become that inept an interpersonal skills?
Correction: inept at…
Yes. We have become that inept. We haven't been taught how to process emotions and interpret them properly. The fact that so many people get away with violent behavior certainly affect people's ability to resolve conflict. Suggestions welcome.
@@empathrevival absolutely agree with you!!
Ghosts are mean. They just haunt you for the rest of your life. When your good and happy they come back to haunt you again.
Although we can be haunted for a long time... there are many things to be grateful for. It may take a lifetime to reconcile the pain we feel but if we focus on where we want our energy to flow... it makes it much harder for them to get back into our consciousness. Sending love... Rhonda
Yeah we have the power to decide where our energies flow! @@empathrevival