Wouldn't it be awful if someone were to order the Safeword Drink but then the awful date is all oblivious like, "Hmm hey that sounds good I think I'll have one too!" PFT...
It would be a Girl " I'm going to the bathroom " Dude "ok I'm going to the bar " Girl in bathroom on phone to friend " I need help come to me this date is shit " Dude at bar " bro call me a fucking taxi this bird is fucking up her ass and I aint paying for her drinks "
As a barmaid at a restaurant, sometimes parties, I did actually have this happen sort off, the safe word drink isn't a common thing here, or at least none of the places I've worked. The girl followed me to the bathroom and mentioned not feeling comfortable with the date, if I could call her a cab and if she could pay her side of the bill (very common here.) So I text a colleague to split the bill, their table number and the drinks/food she had. Turns out he (their waiter) was approached by the guy for advice to end the date as well as getting the bill. Turns out both their parents are kinda a big deal and set them up on the date, with neither really interested in dating or each other, but also afraid to downright say it. They ended up just talking to each other and releived to feel the same way. The guy offered to pay the full bill and bring her home, which she declined and stayed at the bar until the cab arrived, with him just leaving since he only had one alcoholic drink. Both seemed very kind, just not interested.
@@esmee6308 Arranged partnerships are the worst. If you yourself want to get with someone specifically for power or status instead of actual attraction, that's on you, and it can actually be a pretty funny story if the SO is in the know and willing as well. But parents setting up their kids for the parent's benefit? Eff that. It's like playing monopoly or something. Treating your kids as property or chess pieces is utterly inhumane.
Unfortunately the story about male soldiers getting drugged is all too common around military bases. Doesn’t just happen at bars. The “local girls” love going after the 18-19 year old kids. When my husband was stationed at Fort Campbell one of his 19 year old soldiers got drugged at a local festival. The last thing he remembered was talking to some girl and he woke up in her bed the next day. He was terrified that she’d claim he assaulted her or she’d turn up pregnant. She still lived at home with her parents so he wasn’t sure if she was even legal.
Yes when I got to my first duty station in the Marines I was told about things like that happen and to be careful as well as not going to bars and some other places alone.
@Trembz not imprisonment but the fucked up thing about the Marines is that when it comes child support and sexual assaults happening with civilians the military will normally take woman's side until proven otherwise. Then no apology when proven wrong, just a it could've been you
My dad was in the air force in the late 80s, was getting hit on by some badge bunny. Dad had just married my mom about six months prior and I was already born. He showed the girl his ring but she said she didn't mind and kept pressuring dad. He's getting annoyed because his buddies were egging her on trying to get them to hook up, but my dad *really really* liked my mom. As he tells it, he takes her by the shoulders and looks straight at her and says, "I'm very much in love with my wife, and I very much dislike you". This wasn't okay with her and she leans in and threatens to cut off his balls, because if he won't sleep with her then he won't sleep with anyone. My dad's a super nice guy so he didn't feel he could hit a woman, even after that. He turns around to order a vodka, which his friends thought was weird because he also never drinks (very very conservative, like Leave It To Beaver good guy type). He turns back to the girl and she's smiling but now she's got a knife, as if giving him the choice. According to other sources, dad splashes the vodka in her face and shouts, "she's got a gun!" as he backpedals around the stool. The other air force guys tackle her and take the knife while MPs are called. To this day everyone in that circle refers to knives as guns. Dad "participated in the creation of" my sister later that year, despite the crazy chick's plans. Edit: his air force friends felt awful for their part. One of them even fixed up his relationship with his own wife because my dad's commitment was so inspiring. My dad is pretty frickin awesome. Also mom says he's got special permission from The Council Of Women Worldwide to hit the crazies.
"special permission from The Council Of Women Worldwide" oh my God XD But for real, that's _insane._ I hope he was well decorated, he earned a medal that night.
@@russelljohnson6267 i sure hope those two knew each other. Because with that guy's behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if he would try and kidnap some random chick
Safety should not be gendered. A person who doesn’t feel safe should be assisted. It has not always been this way but, from now on...we have to give a shit. Period. I don’t go to bars or clubs so I didn’t know about these things but it’s good to know.
Safety words aren't genered. Not a common thing at least. But if "you're" on a gay date and there's more people of the both genders at your table/group, or in other ways the situation may be rather difficult to assertain by staff - then providing some sort of hint _can_ be helpful. So the staff know who to stall while you're being taken care of and escorted to a transport out the back door. If it's jist you and 1-2 others, it's less problematic, but if it's a larger group then stalling the whole group for long enough for you to get away (and if neccessary, the police arrive) can be practically impossible. Knowing who, or narrowing the options, can be of big help then. Remembering those safe words is not a bad idea. But you don't _need_ any magic words to get our help, and they certainly don't have to be "gendered". Just get our attention and signal us in whatever way you can, and we'll work with you discreetly to learn the situation and help you.
@@melissajarvis4829 Saw your comment, decided to "proof-read" both our posts before replying for my own sanity check - something didn't add up. That's ok, and thank you for (seemingly) doing the same. Have a fine day Melissa.
Story from the Vegas strip, men getting ruffied is extraordinarily common. Women drug conventioneers, take them back to their room, and rob them. I was running food to the bar and noticed the woman messing with the drink at the empty seat. Later in the meal, he starts looking uncoordinated. Tell the bar manager and get casino security over. I meet the security at the door and bring them up to speed. Security separates the woman “to get a report” while the rest and EMTs rush him off. I don’t know what happened to her, but at least she lost her mark
I wasn't aware that men had a "safe word" drink. Only thing I've ever seen written in the bathroom is along the lines of "please wash your hands before returning to work" .... or "call xxx for a good time".
@@jackoh991 Statistically men actually experience a lot more violence than women. But it is true that in general a woman has to fear a man more than the other way around. But as a man you are at the biggest risk of experiencing violence against yourself. This risk comes mostly from other men.
We don't get one. I was in a bar once that straight up had a sign on the wall saying there isn't one for us as we are the ones doing the creeping and ones ladies need a safe word drink from. If you tried to order one in this bar, they'd call the cops
18:50 I don't think they get it. Explicitly saying "I need help" around the threat may anger and bother them, and cause an outburst or fight. The safewords are to discretely let the staff know to get you out of there.
@@HenshinFanatic Even people on the spectrum (even if I'm talking about me and I'm thick as pig poo) can understand code words and why they're needed. Especially if it's for safety reasons. It's not that difficult. If you're just trying to joke around with the local lingo (like rhyming slang) then...!
@@Roadent1241 well, everyone is differently affected on the spectrum, and I was trying not to immediately assert that the fool in question was duller than a sack of mallets.
Not at a bar, but I was drugged and taken advantage of at a house party many years ago. I later found out that the guys who threw the party (they threw a lot of parties back then) would drug any guy who they felt could be a threat to their goal of getting laid as much as possible. Kind of ironic the way it worked out. Horrible, but ironic. I’ve been taken advantage of sexually 3 times in my life between the ages of 16 and 24. All the abusers were women. I’ve been alone now for 12 years. I find it very hard to trust anyone. I don’t anticipate anything changing with my situation. To clarify: the girl didn’t drug me at the party, she just took advantage of the opportunity when I was put in a back bedroom while my friends kept partying
I am so sorry you went through that. For some reason that's a crime that just breaks someone from the inside out. I wish there was something I could say to make it better. Your pain is valid and you deserve the space to grieve it out and you deserve healing, and above all you deserve respect!
@@alexia3552 thank you for your kind words. It’s been so long ago that I’m just kind of numb to it now. The lack of trust persists to this day, though. I can’t see allowing myself to be vulnerable to anyone ever again. It definitely changed me, especially that first incident when I was a teenager. She was a much older authority figure.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. People who haven't been assaulted sometimes don't understand how your whole life can be affected by sexual abuse. I was molested for the first time at age 6, by the school janitor. He would sit me on his lap, in the dark furnace room, and stick his tongue down my throat. I would gag, obviously. I blocked it out for years, until a new friend was telling me about being raped and stabbed by her 16 year old paperboy. That night the memories just percolated to the surface. I started to understand why I would start to feel sick if people on TV or in the movies were kissing, the sound made me want to vomit. My first boyfriend gave me a hard time about not wanting to kiss. My husband came along after my remembering of my SA. I was able to kiss him, but I never could completely relax, so it wasn't part of our usual activities. It was also devastating when my chiropractor molested me, but I was a grown up by that time, and I had him hauled before the Chiropractors governing body. Sorry to fill this with my shit. I just want you to know that I understand how these selfish people can really mess up ones life. If you haven't already, you might want to look into a group for men who have been sexually assaulted. You may find something online. If not, I encourage you to call the rape crisis line in your area, it's anonymous, and they can help you find the right place. If you're in a country with proper medical coverage for all, you might want to see about talking to a therapist. He/she can help you work on getting your trust back. And remember, anyone worth your trust and love, will wait and work through your fears with you. Good luck, I really want you to have a wonderful life.
I'm so sorry you went through so much pain and I can completely understand your reaction. I was the same way, what really helped was talking about it, even if it's under an anonymous username. It feels eaiser to talk about it when you don't have to be afraid of those in your life finding out. . Of course healing isn't leiner and you won't automatically go to trusting everyone and all that tosh. But when we speak about our pain, when we acknowledge it to others. It makes the pain hurt slightly less. The fact that our society barely listens to women who were SA but then completely ignores or mocks men who were SA is despicable. Your healing will be on your timeline. Seek out a therapist is you can and you feel up to it.
19:19 booo to that bartender for not wanting or thinking anyone wouldn't want a safeword. What if my date is next to me at the bar and he becomes abusive or starts sounding a bit scary? Think I'm going to announce out loud to that bartender "oh, this guy is throwing up red flags and is being abusive, please help me"?? Seriously, get with the times. The whole point of a safeword is to get the hell out of there without creating a more dangerous environment. People can get scary dangerous real fast.
I was eating at a Hooters while I was in the military. My ex and I had just broke up but she did not want to accept it. Anyways, I had been drinking and was not able to drive right away when I saw my ex heading towards my seat. I did not want to make a scene, risk an altercation and have to answer for it to my chain of command. She just sat down and kept bothering me. Two of the waitresses (regulars I liked to sit with) noticed some of the threats she was making and noticed how I just kept nodding my head and ignoring my ex. One comes up to my arm and clings it like a girlfriend would and the other told my ex "bitch you better not threaten my girl's man like that again or every waitress in this restaurant will beat your ass". To make the night even sweeter, these ladies apparently went to all the other girls, told them what happened and all the girls pitched in and paid for my food. Lol I spent half of my mere E-2 paycheck on tips to ensure those ladies were taken care of.
We used to accept people into our table when we'd be out. The staff knew us and would direct people over to us sometimes. Several big guys, years of martial arts experience, there at nearly the same time every weekend. Usually was women but had a dude come over to get away from a couple chicks. The chicks were hot as a freaking bon fire, but the dude was obviously spooked, like seriously almost crying spooked. The girls followed him over we didn't even let them approach the table. When you hear that phrase, "Don't stick your dick in crazy," these chicks exemplefied it. IDK what it was but while they were physically beautiful they turned every one of us off like a light switch. Guy hung out with us for a couple hours, then caught a cab. (WAY before cell phones and uber.)
@@oremfrien Couldn't put my finger on it. It was like... have you ever seen pics of serial killers? That look of just nothing even remotely good in their eyes? The kind of people you never EVER take your eyes off of? That's the only thing I can tell you. Their eyes looked almost dead, but crazy. For all I know they could have been tweeking on something. I honestly don't know, and it still gives me the heebies.
@@adamgreyskul678 I haven't seen serial killers and I have Asperger's, so I don't really see these kinds of things in other people, but I take you at your word about how it manifested to you.
@@oremfrien Well, aside from the crazy part, the fact that there were 2 hot girls after one dude and he was not having any of it AND was scared was all we really needed. If you can't sense the crazy operate on the principle. He said no, and they didn't want to take no for an answer, that gets shut down in any case.
@@adamgreyskul678 Absolutely agree on "no means no"; it's just as someone who has difficulty reading people, I was just curious as to what insight you had while seeing these girls that led to such a strong reaction. I appreciate your clarity here.
these make my heart hurt so bad that anyone has to go through these types of trauma I'm so glad that heroes like these exist and more and more male assault is being brought to light especially having a son myself, if the worst should come to pass I seriously hope there will be someone like this to help him. Good on you and I wish you all the best!
I’m inclined to agree, the world is full of shitty people who either don’t know or don’t care about how toxic they are and we finally have the internet to help fix that.
At work we had a waiter who was hit on by a guy he didn't know. He kept coming over to pester him, asking if he was gay, asking the other staff whether he was gay and not believing us when we told him he wasn't, trying to get close to him, and even followed him home. After that we could no longer leave our waiter alone. He always needed to be escorted. He didn't want to call the police because he hated conflict and didn't want to get anybody in trouble but after about two weeks we convinced him that his life would only get worse if this guy wouldn't leave him alone. Finally he called the police and had a restraining order put on this guy. It was a sad story and I understand how he felt, nobody wants to see another human being in trouble with police but sometimes we're given no choice.
I'm a Krav Maga student, and the story about the girl who started bragging about her knowledge of it really rubs me the wrong way. Krav Maga is a self defense thing, with protection of the self as the main priority. Whatever she learned, it definitely wasn't KM, because it definitely doesn't have enough fully offensive moves to do anything like what she was insinuating.
@@esppupsnkits4560 The best defense is a strong offense, I know, I know. It does teach a bunch of offensive stuff. The thing is? It also teaches the mental state you should be in. And bragging about your skills and threatening someone with them? That's a no-no.
I'm glad the manager and the waiter took an being afraid of his ex-wife seriously. Of course it goes both ways. They need to take women serious as well. It's ridiculous that people feel the need to be this way to people they are supposed to love & care about.
Years ago, in Daytona Beach, I was at a bar after finally being paid for an exhausting weeks long beachside painting job. My friends had left, but I stuck around to continue celebrating, getting spectacularly smashed, but having good times. I started playing pool with these two guys, one of whom was clearly the more charismatic and dominant of the two, but both were funny and "cool". The one first guy offered me a ride the few miles back down the road to my friends house once we were finished up there. A number of racks (and pitchers) later, the leader type guy excused himself to go to the restroom, and then we were going to think about leaving. No sooner than the bathroom door closing was the other friend next to me and saying into my ear "Don't take the ride, man, I've seen him hurt people..." I blanched, he wasn't kidding. I went and told the bartenders that I was going to sit right at the end of the bar and, no matter what I say or whatever, I was not to leave with those guys. They looked at me dubiously, but let me sit until I could arrange other transport. I honestly believe I dodged a very dangerous bullet, and that the submissive partner had had a fit of conscience that might have saved my life.
It's probably why he came across as submissive. Biding his time, not seeming like he was in the way or "ruining his friend's game" until the guy was safely out of earshot. Smart move on his part. I wonder how many times he's played reverse-wingman to save would-be victims.
@@baydiac I am definitely grateful to him, but my understanding of these type relationships is that they're generally true dominant/submissive violent/abusive co-dependent and, though perhaps guilt ridden, the subs are ultimately accomplices, aiding in cover-up and other aspects. Many eventually justify their involvements after the fact, vilifying the victims in retrospect as a defense, but some major cases of killer pairs were exposed due to sub guilt. This particular guy was for sure waiting for his moment in this instance. He turned off his affability like a light switch and was dead serious, and I thank him for it.
22:24 I don't know if any bars do this, but I'd say a different codeword shot for each bathroom stall would probably be most effective, though it's less effective if the problematic person is a regular, or if there aren't that many stalls.
Holy shit. That story where the dudes boss told him not to worry about it is haunting. I'm pretty sure that if authorities found out about it he would be stripped of his bartending license and never be allowed to be a bartender again. I've not been a bartender yet, but Im pretty sure there are laws about this.
@@johnd5398 Yes, I know it's called a Liquer License elsewhere. In the USA, you need a license to be able to legally distribute alcohol, regardless of what it's called.
I'd imagine not a whole lot actually used a 'safe word drink' to get out of these situations, public opinion is unfortunately that only women need protecting from things like this despite it happening to both genders, so safe word posters are likely only ever posted in the women's bathrooms with no men's equivalent or advertisement to them.
Yes, but the safe words need to be different. If both men and women know what the safe word drinks are, nobody can use them without the other knowing it. So make it be different drinks for men and women, because otherwise it will be useless
This is why if I went to a date at a place with a safeword drink I’d always ask my friends who are girls who went there to find it out for me just in case the other person is an absolute creep
Who's at fault that men aren't taken as seriously. Because saying "society" when you really mean OTHER GUYS is part of the problem. And no, don't say women. Women didn't create the patriarchal beliefs that woman = weak and men = strong.
@@amourtoujours779 it’s a bit of both, one of the reasons why men don’t like opening up to women is because of the amount of times they’ve taken advantage of men’s emotions, fears, and weaknesses to use against them when they get in an argument. It’s also not all other men, I personally believe all genders shouldn’t face any oppression or emotional abuse.
I've had it once where the person in question wouldn't leave me alone. I tried to order the safety shot while the person was on my lap, and telling me how much (s)he wanted to take me home. Despite my protests, the bar would not would not intervene. So I had to remove this person who was grinding into my lap, making me very uncomfortable, and I had to deal with it myself. So I had to remove this person from my lap, and I was not as cautious as I should have been, because it left the person unconscious on the floor. I settled my tab and walked out
Did you at least file charges for criminal neglect against that place? Seriously, what's the point of even having a freaking safety drink if they don't take it seriously.
It's all automated by the bot that makes the videos, there's no manual editing. The bot will create & set everything up in the video, then render the video & automatically upload it to YT. Requires minimal/no effort, can be done quickly, & prints money, so why edit? People will still watch, regardless of the glitches
@@randythecomputerman it isn't 100% automated every step of the way. I doubt the bot chooses which specific posts and replies get put into the video, unless it's only based off upvotes
I will say, safe words are fucking awesome, but my ex showed me such a simple power play. I was at the HOSPITAL and this 5 yr old was running around my chair, kicking my seat, just being a child/brat. I looked at her mom mid asthma attack, please... get your kid. She went off on me saying i cant tell her child what to do, why cant her child simply play, etc etc. She then got up to walk toward me to start a fight, my ex husband yelled SECURITY!!! Waiting room fell silent. He didnt. This lady and her child are harrassing us. Tell them to get away. The mom was so stunned. As a female to have security called on her! It was a glorious site. She took her gremlin and sat in corner, but entire time she was muttering loud enough for us to hear her. Thats why you need a haircut, your girlfriend fat, etc etc. Real piece of work. So in conclusion, my meekness had me looking for a discreet way to handle situation. Now when im out and man wont take hint, i just yell " GET AWAY, HARRASSMENT, SECURITY" etc etc. It always works to get people away. Not sure how this works guy v girl, but girl v girl, or girl v guy it works 100% in my experience.
Yes! That’s totally what I would do in any situation where I’m being harassed. Just scream and make a scene, make everyone look at you. I could never just try to be polite like the people in a lot of stories I hear about that sort of thing.
Unfortunately, in guy v girl, the guy is likely to be laughed at. The only reason it work with your ex-husband was probably because he was with a woman (you) and it was a hospital.
@@brigidtheirish the point of getting loud like that is that it humiliates the person you want to leave you alone. That being said, guy v girl, it works a treat, as those women tend to think men are powerless to stop them.
@@danielpratt1970 That certainly makes sense. Guess I've run into too many cases of the guy being treated badly for trying to get a crazy woman to back off.
Once had to save an online friend via our chat group. Yeah I was a whole other country away. I’m not entirely sure why she went to a bar alone that night but she did and she ended up harassed by a guy that was scaring her. She got into the chat with where I was mod that night and I talked her through how to find help and stayed with her until her friends finally arrived to take her home. She was protected by this very nice family who tucked her into the booth with them while the husband stood guard to keep the guy away. I had a talk with her friends later so they could say their thank you’s and I could be reassured they would help her that night. She’d already had a bad day and was feeling miserable and this on top of that, I just wanted to make sure she would be fine. They promised me they would give her lots of chocolate, blanket burrito time, and binge some anime while they built a blanket fort with her that night. She told me in the morning that she felt better, shaken still, but thanked me for staying with her. I’m just glad nothing bad happened to her because there really was little I could do other than talk her through the situation, keep her calm, and hope for the best. Like I said, I was in a whole other country. Not like I could hop a plane and be there to pick her up. I’d do this again by the way, even for a guy friend. I don’t usually need to but I keep an eye out for any instance I notice like this. I don’t like such behavior and I will interfere if it happens in front of me. I inherited my dad’s impulse in this
Why is it that every Reddit post is always answered by people that are not what the op asked for. Example...cops of reddit. = not a cop and didn't happen to me but..... It shouldn't annoy me so much but it does
It's because otherwise, there would only be like 10 replies to the thread. You won't find that many people who have experienced such a specific situation. How many bartenders do you know? Probably nowhere near as many people as you know who go to the bar as a customer. Out of everyone scrolling past, less than 1% of people with relevant stories would actually be of the occupation specified. Maybe AskReddit thread titles should stop asking for specific people to reply. It seems like people would get mad if there was a thread that said "Current Presidents of the United States, what issues do our country face?" and anyone but Joe Biden himself were to reply.
In public, yeah. Women can be super abusive while other people just watch, but the *moment* the dude just, slaps away the hand of a gal, all eyes on him. It fucking sucks. At least there's people who will confront a woman about abusive behavior and help the dude
On my birthday, as we finished the night at a dance club that also had billiards, a kind of bowling and other games, my drunk sister went crazy on her husband. We were walking out cuz it closed, and she literally walked up to her husband and cold cocked him in the face for playing pool with me instead of dancing with her. He just kept walking, so naturally she cold cocked him in the side of his head. I'm just in shock at this, but I snap to once she began to beat on the window of my other sister's car yelling for her husband to come out so she can keep giving him a piece of her mind (they came together). I pick her up by her elbows and walk over to the side of the building to try n calm her down. I set her down and try to talk to her. The whole time she's yelling obscenities at her man (who is a cop btw). I grab her face to force her to look at me, trying to calm her down cuz I'm basically in panic mode and don't know what else to do ( I knew she can get crazy but never saw her do this before). All of a sudden, I get jumped by a mob of security from the club. Apparently, hearing the commotion, they all come outside to see me trying to calm my sister down. Only to them it looks like I'm choking her. Thinking I'M the abuser, they jump me. At one point two guys were holding my arms while another guy was behind me giving me the worst choke hold I ever experienced. He was grunting loudly from the exertion. Everything inside me told me this guy is trying to kill me, and if I don't find a way out of this, I'm going to die before they let me go. I was just lucky to have had martial arts experience and also be really strong I managed to squirrel my way out. Once they figured out what was going on, they all ran back into the club as I threatened calling the cops on them. In the end I didn't cuz I understood where they were coming from. My (apparently) abusive sister also told me I deserved what they did cuz when I picked her up to move her away from the situation, I guess I had somehow choked her, even though she was yelling at her man the whole time.
@@amaikurusu188 About a year after my ex-wife and I separated I went on a date to a concert(outdoor venue) . Suddenly my ex who was at the same show, unbeknownst to me, comes up behind me and starts hitting me on my head and upper body. I turned and just started blocking her swings. Meanwhile there is a cop standing about 10 ft away just watching. I ask him to please stop this woman from hitting me and he just chuckled. I then shout "This isn't a f***ing joke". Finally he comes over and asks her to stop. I could only imagine what would have happened if I had hit her back.
I told my dad about this. I'm not old enough to drink, but my dad goes to bars often. I want to make sure nothing bad will happen to my dad so I told him for his safety. Anyone can use it if it's absolutely necessary. I wish everyone luck and I hope everything works out.
Mad props to the dude that called 911 on the dead cat dude. It would be so easy to doubt whether or not to call 911 from a napkin handshake but the right choice was made.
I don’t get pressuring someone to drink/get high. I love to chill regardless and not sharing means more for me but I also don’t want others to pay my way most of the time. Loved the 2 times a stranger bought me a drink, one was just a nice gesture and the other one just had a touch of fun conversation for a few minutes.
I love these stories, my brother is a sensitive type and I don't mean it in a demeaning way but it's just people don't expect with over six feet in height he is easily anxious and stuff. So I am glad society is changing and acknowledge men can be mentally cornered in public setting and crying inside. Woman has it worse in history for gender discrimination, but the world isn't exactly kind to men either if they don't follow some unwritten manly standard.
Yea fr. I know this guy who isn't exactly what you described, but had a problem with this girl hitting on him all the time. He is really easy going, friendly, and talks a lot (meaning he's very touchy and often is cupping any girls cheecks or stuff like that which can be seen as flirting) so this girl kept and kept trying until he first asked me for help, and then my friend. We made a group chat and made a plan, my friend was going to pretend she has a giant crush on him, and he'll be oblivious to everything. I coudn't do it because she already met me when I waited for him after school and did ask me if I was his girlfriend. Luckily, she bought it in the end and she left him alone. Didn't get much closure of that, because she's in the year below me, same major and caused so many problems in the school. Not joking when I say this, but every other girl wants to just beta her up and shit because of how horrible she is. Recently almost got a girl expelled because she 'looked at her wrong and she felt threatened'. Sorry, that was long
I only clicked to understand the title, halfway in and I'm STILL mystified! I mean, I figure "safeword drink" means a codeword to communicate you're in trouble, but that only seems possible if you're a regular at the bar such that the staff knows you, AND you have the conversation "Hey, if I'm trapped and need to get away from someone, I'll order a Safecracker, that's my code word for trouble!". But not only is regular + in trouble seem pretty damn rare, but guys thinking of this ahead of time to have the conversation seems REALLY rare, and it all actually happening SUPER rare, how is there enough incidents to fill a 27 minute video???!? Is there some well established common safeword I dunno because I'm a 6'2" heavy guy who doesn't get attention in the first place, never mind unwanted attention? And if so, how can it work, wouldn't the nightmare person recognize it too, defeating the purpose? WTF IS ALL THIS????? OHHHHHH!!!!! Took until 22:23, then 2 posts in a row clarify, it's a sign in the bathroom! ALL the bar and club bathrooms I've ever been in over the decades, never seen that. Guess I go to nicer bars than these. :)
safe word drinks are posted on signs in womens/mens bathrooms and have different codes between genders. Usually its something like "If you feel unsafe and want us to discretely remove you from the bar order and angel shot: on ice to call an uber with lime: to call the police
Was stationed in Germany and at a club one night. A girl came up and sat in my lap and said help. Pretended to be her boyfriend and get some creep to leave her alone. Walked her home to make sure she was okay and not followed.
Right? Must have been at least half a dozen people in the video that got the wrong gender and the last one not only was the wrong gender but wasn't even in a bar.
1. (serious) TIL even guys have to use safe-word drink escapes! 2. (jokingly) TIL douchebag bros drive Honda Civics with mismatched bumpers/fenders and half the hood spray-painted matte black!
The story about the Military man is true. I am currently in the Navy and there is a strip club a couple of blocks away from the base I am stationed. We have been told to stay away from that. The stories I hear Sailors speak from their adventures in there. The strippers can also be very aggressive and predatory if they know you are active duty.
This is why I hate when people say men don't have anything to worry about in bars. They do as well and need to be taken seriously. 30 minutes worth of it. Military story is legit, women near military bases can be ruthless. Anything to babytrap the younger military personnel. Won't think twice of making up false allegations either to mess with a guy's career.
That first story. Chilis may have mediocre food, but their staff is incredible. 7:47 That's just a drunk guy trying to boost a fellow big guy's self esteem. It was unwarranted, but innocent. The fact that he apologized defends this. Being a larger guy with shot self esteem, this would actually be a pretty big boost for me. I felt it through the retelling of the story, and feel a little bit better about myself. This guy was probably going through the very things he was talking about, and had low self esteem himself. Big guys try to help other big guys. 11:05 I've never heard of the bum's rush being used in real life. That was amazing. 25:25 I'm just imagining a man built like Saxton Hale just elbow dropping her and I can't stop laughing.
This is why I have my CCW permit. You never know how useful a pistol is until you desperately need one. Even if you don’t pull it out, just the sight of it is often enough for people to act like their supposed to.
That is the absolute truth. Had to pull mine once, and was ready to use deadly force to escape the club. The trio of dudes hassling me, my girl and her sister backed down right away and tried to play it all off. One guy had groped the sister and the other two insinuated that they were ‘taking’ her. This lasted from way to long and it was becoming a very heated scene. Now my girls and sister both CCW.
Why is it when we have threads like this featuring women as victims there is never a story of how a guy was a victim. But when we have a thread talking about males as victims, there's always atleast one person who tells a story about a female victim completely shitting on the original subject....
16:27 I watch/read this as my feral cat that became an indoor kitty licks my hand and purrs for attention. She was called in by my kitten that absolutely has been infatuated with her since he met her and now she's a housecat. She must have bee a drop off since she is spayed and knows how to use a litterbox. Very friendly girl once she observes you for a bit. Any psycho that harms animals will do it to humans too.
How come pickles dont come in more that three varieties. It's either too hot, sour, or sweet. I get it takes like a month to make a new batch but whiskey takes 30 years and has 40 varieties nobody asked for.
I'm generally a friendly drunk so have had many women ask me to pretend to be their boyfriend to get rid of someone pestering them, I never knew as a man I have any recourse myself, I've had lasses get upset at me turning them down and threatening the get other blokes to fight me, I genuinely didn't know there were any options other than to fight lol, stopped going out after the last couple of jumpings, my little daughters couldn't understand why someone would want to break daddy's arm, I healed up and a year later woke up in hospital concussed with broken ribs, if I'm drinking I'm drinking to relax and hate confrontation, it's just unnecessary and having lived through a fairly violent life through work I'm sick to death of it, let me enjoy my peace, let me just quietly enjoy my drink and enjoy the much needed sedative effect it has on my brain
You can ask any girl to pretend beeing your gf for a moment, people usually help (I did some of this in bus stops and supermarkets for both genders since I really don't go to bars).
I am glad they are all saved and don't have a trauma. If that worked, I don't want to destroy it. But would it have been my case, I would have called the police in most of the stories. If I was judt being switched to another table, office room or uber, I would have had been traumatized since that person was still running around and didn't get the punishment they deserved. The problem is not fully solved if only the victim had to take consequences.
You know it's crazy... I actually had a random set of keys show up in my front yard a few years back 🤣 it was from the neighbours kids playing with them but still. Reminded me of that.
I'm so happy that the staff in the first story were on the ball enough to know someone needed help, and didn't assume that a man couldn't be terrorized by a woman. Abusers come in many guises, even pretty women. Although it's no where as common as women being abused by men. It's not even close, but it's just as valid when it does.
I was out with my friend (21 yo females) and we were chatting, drinking, just enjoying a night out. All of a sudden I notice a man turning his head around and staring at me for 5-10 second intervals. I made eye contact so I know he knew. When our waitress came to check on us I mentioned it to her. He had already left but we were uncomfortable. When we left a very scary looking line cook and the manger walked us to our cars. Not quite the same but very similar. He told us that he was proud of us fir saying something as we need to protect ourselves. As we were walking out the buff guy said “no body fing with these girls tonight” they watched is leave before going back in.
I second the guy at 12:00 when I went sober I started drinking soda out of short glasses full of ice. Everyone just assumed I was slamming rum and cokes like they were, well, sodas. It made all of the awkwardness of sobriety vanish. People even commented on how well I held my liquor. lol.
For those who can't use the safeword due to people being watched etc. Saying things like broken arrow will immediately inform any military that's at the bar you need help. If your dealing with civilians talk about the weather how there's a hurricane in your town and your stove is on you need to contact someone for them to help turn the stove off. This will be odd conversation but trigger words like help fire hurricane will give the idea.
@@johnd5398 Notice I was actually trying to give friendly advice meanwhile you are here only to try to cause an argument because of a simple misspelling. So thank you for showing me disrespect such a nice thing to do. Good luck when shit hits the fan I'm sure you will be allowed to correct someone's grammar and spelling then to. You sure are fun at parties.
I've been in security for more than 5 years and the amount of women who have attempted, and more often than I'd like, successfully groped me flashed me (as if that would ever gain you a favour) or touched me is ridiculous, men are by no means well behaved, dragged enough of them out of clubs and bars, women however definitely behave highly inappropriately and their reactions to the consequences are frequently more severe. I am no victim let me be clear, I take no pleasure in it, the frequency of propositions is also ridiculous, fact is it's a tiny proportion of people in general who behave thus, doesn't make it ok by any stretch.
Wow... "don't bother he is her husband" ... NEVER care for that stuff. If they order a known safety drink, there is a reason for it, does not matter if the other person is husband, father, mother son or the neighbor!
I have never felt the need to be rescued, but one day I went to a bar on St.Patty's. I was sitting there having a Convo with the guy next to me as it got busy. This girl came in and was standing behind me. I live in a town with a deaf school, I noticed that she was deaf (sign language), anyway she is there for a while. Then out of the blue she reaches over me and grabs my junk. Eventually she left, turns out that the way she acted was noticed by the bar staff. Was just annoyed it happened, not scared as I would have easily been able to hand he unless she was a trained fighter.
I hope they have particular safe words in their bars because if it’s a general safe word and someone with ill intentions watches this then they’ll know when their potential victim is trying to escape them and it could make for a horrible situation. I mean I’m sure bars are smart enough to know this but it seems angel shot is a very common safe word and so it is concerning. Stay safe everyone and if you’re unsure if you’d be giving yourself away by using the safe word then make a trip to the bartender and let them know you need help even if they follow you because a lot of people sit there and if the individual becomes aggressive in anyway then it’s more likely someone there will react quicker then the person trying to harm you.
An angel shot is more so a general alternative term for safeword shot. Basically, it's a call for a "guardian angel" to swoop in and rescue you from your trapped situation. If you ever ordered an angel shot, the staff would at least get the idea, but they also have specific drinks to be more discreet, separate ones in the male and female bathrooms, if they aren't just only in the female bathroom.
Im a bit late to the video but I heard a similar story to 5:00 in BMT. Our MTI told us that his brother, who is also military, was drugged and the people who did it took him over 4 hours from the bar and his truck and dropped him in a field after mugging him. He was unharmed but our MTI had to go get him after getting a call from him on someone else's phone.
Damn... That first story... These NBC stories in general. I’m pretty surprised by them. Maybe society is finally accepting the fact that men have emotions, men can be abused, men can be better fathers than certain woman can be mothers, men need help as well occasionally...
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Till about 8 years ago i was an archer and bow hunter. One evening a friend asked me to shadow for her as she was meeting someone to get her car keys and said something feels off. During the encounter the guy started harassing her. She called our destress signal: black wind. I pulled my bow and a heavy blade arrow and placed the shot into the sign post between them. The prick did a beautiful impression of a statue and pissed himself as i called over the radio that next arrow severs his spine. Police arrested him for harassment and terrorist threatening. When they asked who fired the arrow, she said you already know. They just looked at each other and did their duty and left.
Same sex safe word - Go to the bar and say help, they will. I've pointed out unsafe people to the bounce staff in bars, and they always help. Same thing works for men who help from women. I'm a woman and the same thing is needed. Just say help me to the bartender regardless of knowing a safeword.
I guess I've been lucky especially my area you rarely hear about anybody getting roofied or anything like that there are safe words I've worked at bars around here all the staff know to pay attention to the females to make sure they are comfortable but there are no safe words around here for men it's only for women I know this because I'm one of the people that had to train the waitresses and the bartenders we've only had the implement twice that's because they got too drunk to realize what they're doing or they were trying to meet up with an ex and usually they tell the bartender or the waitress to please keep an eye on even had one time where I had to stand outside the restaurant well two people swap their kids
I’m sitting here now wondering if there’s ever been a date so bad that both sides ordered a safe word drink
Wouldn't it be awful if someone were to order the Safeword Drink but then the awful date is all oblivious like, "Hmm hey that sounds good I think I'll have one too!" PFT...
Well there’s about to be
It would be a
Girl " I'm going to the bathroom "
Dude "ok I'm going to the bar "
Girl in bathroom on phone to friend " I need help come to me this date is shit "
Dude at bar " bro call me a fucking taxi this bird is fucking up her ass and I aint paying for her drinks "
As a barmaid at a restaurant, sometimes parties, I did actually have this happen sort off, the safe word drink isn't a common thing here, or at least none of the places I've worked. The girl followed me to the bathroom and mentioned not feeling comfortable with the date, if I could call her a cab and if she could pay her side of the bill (very common here.) So I text a colleague to split the bill, their table number and the drinks/food she had. Turns out he (their waiter) was approached by the guy for advice to end the date as well as getting the bill. Turns out both their parents are kinda a big deal and set them up on the date, with neither really interested in dating or each other, but also afraid to downright say it.
They ended up just talking to each other and releived to feel the same way. The guy offered to pay the full bill and bring her home, which she declined and stayed at the bar until the cab arrived, with him just leaving since he only had one alcoholic drink. Both seemed very kind, just not interested.
@@esmee6308 Arranged partnerships are the worst. If you yourself want to get with someone specifically for power or status instead of actual attraction, that's on you, and it can actually be a pretty funny story if the SO is in the know and willing as well. But parents setting up their kids for the parent's benefit? Eff that. It's like playing monopoly or something. Treating your kids as property or chess pieces is utterly inhumane.
Unfortunately the story about male soldiers getting drugged is all too common around military bases. Doesn’t just happen at bars. The “local girls” love going after the 18-19 year old kids. When my husband was stationed at Fort Campbell one of his 19 year old soldiers got drugged at a local festival. The last thing he remembered was talking to some girl and he woke up in her bed the next day. He was terrified that she’d claim he assaulted her or she’d turn up pregnant. She still lived at home with her parents so he wasn’t sure if she was even legal.
thats some real scary stuff, years and years of imprisonment and be labeled for the rest of his life, super scary stuff. I hope he is okay now
@@Trembz yep. He’s fine. Married (to someone else) with 2 beautiful little girls. This happened like 12 - 13 years ago.
Jesus, that shit is so fucked!
Yes when I got to my first duty station in the Marines I was told about things like that happen and to be careful as well as not going to bars and some other places alone.
@Trembz not imprisonment but the fucked up thing about the Marines is that when it comes child support and sexual assaults happening with civilians the military will normally take woman's side until proven otherwise. Then no apology when proven wrong, just a it could've been you
My dad was in the air force in the late 80s, was getting hit on by some badge bunny. Dad had just married my mom about six months prior and I was already born. He showed the girl his ring but she said she didn't mind and kept pressuring dad. He's getting annoyed because his buddies were egging her on trying to get them to hook up, but my dad *really really* liked my mom. As he tells it, he takes her by the shoulders and looks straight at her and says, "I'm very much in love with my wife, and I very much dislike you". This wasn't okay with her and she leans in and threatens to cut off his balls, because if he won't sleep with her then he won't sleep with anyone. My dad's a super nice guy so he didn't feel he could hit a woman, even after that. He turns around to order a vodka, which his friends thought was weird because he also never drinks (very very conservative, like Leave It To Beaver good guy type). He turns back to the girl and she's smiling but now she's got a knife, as if giving him the choice. According to other sources, dad splashes the vodka in her face and shouts, "she's got a gun!" as he backpedals around the stool. The other air force guys tackle her and take the knife while MPs are called. To this day everyone in that circle refers to knives as guns. Dad "participated in the creation of" my sister later that year, despite the crazy chick's plans.
Edit: his air force friends felt awful for their part. One of them even fixed up his relationship with his own wife because my dad's commitment was so inspiring. My dad is pretty frickin awesome. Also mom says he's got special permission from The Council Of Women Worldwide to hit the crazies.
Let's go dad
Your dad is awesome
"special permission from The Council Of Women Worldwide" oh my God XD But for real, that's _insane._ I hope he was well decorated, he earned a medal that night.
@@FerreTrip it’s acronym of CoWW may not make many women happy though.
That’s amazing
The last story...that guy is hero and totally amazing!!!!!!
I agree I hope that girl broke up with him and got a restraining order against him after that.
@@russelljohnson6267 i sure hope those two knew each other. Because with that guy's behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if he would try and kidnap some random chick
Yes
My favorite of the video, was so awesome, such an amazing hero 🤯🤩
Problem with last story...
Its about a woman needing help.
This subreddit is about men needing help.
Safety should not be gendered. A person who doesn’t feel safe should be assisted. It has not always been this way but, from now on...we have to give a shit. Period. I don’t go to bars or clubs so I didn’t know about these things but it’s good to know.
Safety words aren't genered. Not a common thing at least. But if "you're" on a gay date and there's more people of the both genders at your table/group, or in other ways the situation may be rather difficult to assertain by staff - then providing some sort of hint _can_ be helpful. So the staff know who to stall while you're being taken care of and escorted to a transport out the back door. If it's jist you and 1-2 others, it's less problematic, but if it's a larger group then stalling the whole group for long enough for you to get away (and if neccessary, the police arrive) can be practically impossible. Knowing who, or narrowing the options, can be of big help then.
Remembering those safe words is not a bad idea. But you don't _need_ any magic words to get our help, and they certainly don't have to be "gendered". Just get our attention and signal us in whatever way you can, and we'll work with you discreetly to learn the situation and help you.
@@pr0xZen Just re-read your answer, and I misread it the first time. Ignore my first answer.
@@melissajarvis4829 Saw your comment, decided to "proof-read" both our posts before replying for my own sanity check - something didn't add up. That's ok, and thank you for (seemingly) doing the same. Have a fine day Melissa.
@@pr0xZen what do you mean by a gay date😂😂
@@Ew_itsGabbie A date with a person of the same sex/gender. If you paid attention to context, that matters here, because of the codewords.
Story from the Vegas strip, men getting ruffied is extraordinarily common. Women drug conventioneers, take them back to their room, and rob them. I was running food to the bar and noticed the woman messing with the drink at the empty seat.
Later in the meal, he starts looking uncoordinated. Tell the bar manager and get casino security over. I meet the security at the door and bring them up to speed. Security separates the woman “to get a report” while the rest and EMTs rush him off.
I don’t know what happened to her, but at least she lost her mark
Dang, good eye!
Bit like Cardi B? It's a shame she still gets to have a career despite being a predator
I wasn't aware that men had a "safe word" drink. Only thing I've ever seen written in the bathroom is along the lines of "please wash your hands before returning to work" .... or "call xxx for a good time".
Usually men don't get a safe word drink poster. Women are perceived as having a monopoly on victimhood.
@@jackoh991 Statistically men actually experience a lot more violence than women. But it is true that in general a woman has to fear a man more than the other way around. But as a man you are at the biggest risk of experiencing violence against yourself. This risk comes mostly from other men.
@@jackoh991 Fair enough. You have a point.
@@jackoh991 I know a friend male that was drugged and raped. Soo it can happen to either gender.
We don't get one. I was in a bar once that straight up had a sign on the wall saying there isn't one for us as we are the ones doing the creeping and ones ladies need a safe word drink from. If you tried to order one in this bar, they'd call the cops
18:50 I don't think they get it. Explicitly saying "I need help" around the threat may anger and bother them, and cause an outburst or fight. The safewords are to discretely let the staff know to get you out of there.
exactly!
Probably someone on the spectrum, that or a much less charitable possibility in terms of intellect.
@@HenshinFanatic Even people on the spectrum (even if I'm talking about me and I'm thick as pig poo) can understand code words and why they're needed. Especially if it's for safety reasons. It's not that difficult.
If you're just trying to joke around with the local lingo (like rhyming slang) then...!
@@Roadent1241 well, everyone is differently affected on the spectrum, and I was trying not to immediately assert that the fool in question was duller than a sack of mallets.
@@HenshinFanatic I would have assumed they're very new to bartending and naive to abusive/scary situations.
Not at a bar, but I was drugged and taken advantage of at a house party many years ago. I later found out that the guys who threw the party (they threw a lot of parties back then) would drug any guy who they felt could be a threat to their goal of getting laid as much as possible. Kind of ironic the way it worked out. Horrible, but ironic. I’ve been taken advantage of sexually 3 times in my life between the ages of 16 and 24. All the abusers were women. I’ve been alone now for 12 years. I find it very hard to trust anyone. I don’t anticipate anything changing with my situation.
To clarify: the girl didn’t drug me at the party, she just took advantage of the opportunity when I was put in a back bedroom while my friends kept partying
I am so sorry you went through that. For some reason that's a crime that just breaks someone from the inside out. I wish there was something I could say to make it better. Your pain is valid and you deserve the space to grieve it out and you deserve healing, and above all you deserve respect!
@@alexia3552 thank you for your kind words. It’s been so long ago that I’m just kind of numb to it now. The lack of trust persists to this day, though. I can’t see allowing myself to be vulnerable to anyone ever again. It definitely changed me, especially that first incident when I was a teenager. She was a much older authority figure.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. People who haven't been assaulted sometimes don't understand how your whole life can be affected by sexual abuse. I was molested for the first time at age 6, by the school janitor. He would sit me on his lap, in the dark furnace room, and stick his tongue down my throat. I would gag, obviously. I blocked it out for years, until a new friend was telling me about being raped and stabbed by her 16 year old paperboy. That night the memories just percolated to the surface. I started to understand why I would start to feel sick if people on TV or in the movies were kissing, the sound made me want to vomit. My first boyfriend gave me a hard time about not wanting to kiss. My husband came along after my remembering of my SA. I was able to kiss him, but I never could completely relax, so it wasn't part of our usual activities. It was also devastating when my chiropractor molested me, but I was a grown up by that time, and I had him hauled before the Chiropractors governing body. Sorry to fill this with my shit. I just want you to know that I understand how these selfish people can really mess up ones life. If you haven't already, you might want to look into a group for men who have been sexually assaulted. You may find something online. If not, I encourage you to call the rape crisis line in your area, it's anonymous, and they can help you find the right place. If you're in a country with proper medical coverage for all, you might want to see about talking to a therapist. He/she can help you work on getting your trust back. And remember, anyone worth your trust and love, will wait and work through your fears with you. Good luck, I really want you to have a wonderful life.
Not your friends! Friends don't do that shit!
I'm so sorry you went through so much pain and I can completely understand your reaction. I was the same way, what really helped was talking about it, even if it's under an anonymous username.
It feels eaiser to talk about it when you don't have to be afraid of those in your life finding out.
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Of course healing isn't leiner and you won't automatically go to trusting everyone and all that tosh. But when we speak about our pain, when we acknowledge it to others. It makes the pain hurt slightly less.
The fact that our society barely listens to women who were SA but then completely ignores or mocks men who were SA is despicable.
Your healing will be on your timeline. Seek out a therapist is you can and you feel up to it.
19:19 booo to that bartender for not wanting or thinking anyone wouldn't want a safeword. What if my date is next to me at the bar and he becomes abusive or starts sounding a bit scary? Think I'm going to announce out loud to that bartender "oh, this guy is throwing up red flags and is being abusive, please help me"?? Seriously, get with the times. The whole point of a safeword is to get the hell out of there without creating a more dangerous environment. People can get scary dangerous real fast.
I was eating at a Hooters while I was in the military. My ex and I had just broke up but she did not want to accept it. Anyways, I had been drinking and was not able to drive right away when I saw my ex heading towards my seat. I did not want to make a scene, risk an altercation and have to answer for it to my chain of command. She just sat down and kept bothering me. Two of the waitresses (regulars I liked to sit with) noticed some of the threats she was making and noticed how I just kept nodding my head and ignoring my ex. One comes up to my arm and clings it like a girlfriend would and the other told my ex "bitch you better not threaten my girl's man like that again or every waitress in this restaurant will beat your ass". To make the night even sweeter, these ladies apparently went to all the other girls, told them what happened and all the girls pitched in and paid for my food. Lol I spent half of my mere E-2 paycheck on tips to ensure those ladies were taken care of.
Glad that had a good ending man (and thank you for your service)
And then everyone clapped.
I’ll take things that didn’t happen for 400
@@Garden-sz8jb And then the wet t-shirt contest.
We used to accept people into our table when we'd be out. The staff knew us and would direct people over to us sometimes. Several big guys, years of martial arts experience, there at nearly the same time every weekend. Usually was women but had a dude come over to get away from a couple chicks. The chicks were hot as a freaking bon fire, but the dude was obviously spooked, like seriously almost crying spooked. The girls followed him over we didn't even let them approach the table. When you hear that phrase, "Don't stick your dick in crazy," these chicks exemplefied it. IDK what it was but while they were physically beautiful they turned every one of us off like a light switch. Guy hung out with us for a couple hours, then caught a cab. (WAY before cell phones and uber.)
What did they do or say that made you believe that these chicks were crazy?
@@oremfrien Couldn't put my finger on it. It was like... have you ever seen pics of serial killers? That look of just nothing even remotely good in their eyes? The kind of people you never EVER take your eyes off of? That's the only thing I can tell you. Their eyes looked almost dead, but crazy. For all I know they could have been tweeking on something. I honestly don't know, and it still gives me the heebies.
@@adamgreyskul678 I haven't seen serial killers and I have Asperger's, so I don't really see these kinds of things in other people, but I take you at your word about how it manifested to you.
@@oremfrien Well, aside from the crazy part, the fact that there were 2 hot girls after one dude and he was not having any of it AND was scared was all we really needed. If you can't sense the crazy operate on the principle. He said no, and they didn't want to take no for an answer, that gets shut down in any case.
@@adamgreyskul678 Absolutely agree on "no means no"; it's just as someone who has difficulty reading people, I was just curious as to what insight you had while seeing these girls that led to such a strong reaction. I appreciate your clarity here.
these make my heart hurt so bad that anyone has to go through these types of trauma I'm so glad that heroes like these exist and more and more male assault is being brought to light especially having a son myself, if the worst should come to pass I seriously hope there will be someone like this to help him. Good on you and I wish you all the best!
I’m inclined to agree, the world is full of shitty people who either don’t know or don’t care about how toxic they are and we finally have the internet to help fix that.
At work we had a waiter who was hit on by a guy he didn't know. He kept coming over to pester him, asking if he was gay, asking the other staff whether he was gay and not believing us when we told him he wasn't, trying to get close to him, and even followed him home. After that we could no longer leave our waiter alone. He always needed to be escorted. He didn't want to call the police because he hated conflict and didn't want to get anybody in trouble but after about two weeks we convinced him that his life would only get worse if this guy wouldn't leave him alone. Finally he called the police and had a restraining order put on this guy. It was a sad story and I understand how he felt, nobody wants to see another human being in trouble with police but sometimes we're given no choice.
I'm a Krav Maga student, and the story about the girl who started bragging about her knowledge of it really rubs me the wrong way. Krav Maga is a self defense thing, with protection of the self as the main priority. Whatever she learned, it definitely wasn't KM, because it definitely doesn't have enough fully offensive moves to do anything like what she was insinuating.
Don’t most self defense type stuff teach at least a few offensive techniques just in case?
@@esppupsnkits4560 The best defense is a strong offense, I know, I know. It does teach a bunch of offensive stuff. The thing is? It also teaches the mental state you should be in. And bragging about your skills and threatening someone with them? That's a no-no.
@@SpringStarFangirl Lots of martial arts teach that sort of thing. It doesn't stop shitty people misusing them.
@@SpringStarFangirl Well the post did say that due to medication her mental state was pretty fucked up.
@@mattlittke5233 I suppose...
reddit: do guys need it?
half the stories: no but this one girl did
reddit:.. ok but.. whats the topic here?
I'm glad the manager and the waiter took an being afraid of his ex-wife seriously. Of course it goes both ways. They need to take women serious as well. It's ridiculous that people feel the need to be this way to people they are supposed to love & care about.
Years ago, in Daytona Beach, I was at a bar after finally being paid for an exhausting weeks long beachside painting job. My friends had left, but I stuck around to continue celebrating, getting spectacularly smashed, but having good times.
I started playing pool with these two guys, one of whom was clearly the more charismatic and dominant of the two, but both were funny and "cool". The one first guy offered me a ride the few miles back down the road to my friends house once we were finished up there.
A number of racks (and pitchers) later, the leader type guy excused himself to go to the restroom, and then we were going to think about leaving. No sooner than the bathroom door closing was the other friend next to me and saying into my ear "Don't take the ride, man, I've seen him hurt people..."
I blanched, he wasn't kidding. I went and told the bartenders that I was going to sit right at the end of the bar and, no matter what I say or whatever, I was not to leave with those guys. They looked at me dubiously, but let me sit until I could arrange other transport.
I honestly believe I dodged a very dangerous bullet, and that the submissive partner had had a fit of conscience that might have saved my life.
It's probably why he came across as submissive. Biding his time, not seeming like he was in the way or "ruining his friend's game" until the guy was safely out of earshot.
Smart move on his part. I wonder how many times he's played reverse-wingman to save would-be victims.
@@baydiac I am definitely grateful to him, but my understanding of these type relationships is that they're generally true dominant/submissive violent/abusive co-dependent and, though perhaps guilt ridden, the subs are ultimately accomplices, aiding in cover-up and other aspects. Many eventually justify their involvements after the fact, vilifying the victims in retrospect as a defense, but some major cases of killer pairs were exposed due to sub guilt.
This particular guy was for sure waiting for his moment in this instance. He turned off his affability like a light switch and was dead serious, and I thank him for it.
22:24 I don't know if any bars do this, but I'd say a different codeword shot for each bathroom stall would probably be most effective, though it's less effective if the problematic person is a regular, or if there aren't that many stalls.
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I was just about to comment this. I argree 100%
Thought of that too but never gonna give you up never gonna let you down
If the problematic person is a regular, that is what we call a problematic bar.
@@yungmonk9489 very true, unless they're well practiced at not being caught.
Holy shit. That story where the dudes boss told him not to worry about it is haunting. I'm pretty sure that if authorities found out about it he would be stripped of his bartending license and never be allowed to be a bartender again. I've not been a bartender yet, but Im pretty sure there are laws about this.
Depends on the location. Around where I live the cops would probably tell the man to leave despite him no being the problem.
lol @ bartending license
@@johnd5398 Yes, I know it's called a Liquer License elsewhere. In the USA, you need a license to be able to legally distribute alcohol, regardless of what it's called.
I'd imagine not a whole lot actually used a 'safe word drink' to get out of these situations, public opinion is unfortunately that only women need protecting from things like this despite it happening to both genders, so safe word posters are likely only ever posted in the women's bathrooms with no men's equivalent or advertisement to them.
Yeah I was about to say you might try to use one but they would be confused or just laugh.
Yes, but the safe words need to be different. If both men and women know what the safe word drinks are, nobody can use them without the other knowing it. So make it be different drinks for men and women, because otherwise it will be useless
This is why if I went to a date at a place with a safeword drink I’d always ask my friends who are girls who went there to find it out for me just in case the other person is an absolute creep
Who's at fault that men aren't taken as seriously. Because saying "society" when you really mean OTHER GUYS is part of the problem. And no, don't say women. Women didn't create the patriarchal beliefs that woman = weak and men = strong.
@@amourtoujours779 it’s a bit of both, one of the reasons why men don’t like opening up to women is because of the amount of times they’ve taken advantage of men’s emotions, fears, and weaknesses to use against them when they get in an argument. It’s also not all other men, I personally believe all genders shouldn’t face any oppression or emotional abuse.
I used to work as a bar back in a gay club. Its very common to have at least one a night. Men can also be victims of other men.
Genuine question, did you ever have homophobic people come in and say stuff?
Well, yeah. We're assholes.
No it was a gay safe place.
@@FerreTrip speak for yourself
@@sp00kyd4ddy6 Sometimes, actually, yeah. It happens.
I've had it once where the person in question wouldn't leave me alone. I tried to order the safety shot while the person was on my lap, and telling me how much (s)he wanted to take me home. Despite my protests, the bar would not would not intervene. So I had to remove this person who was grinding into my lap, making me very uncomfortable, and I had to deal with it myself. So I had to remove this person from my lap, and I was not as cautious as I should have been, because it left the person unconscious on the floor. I settled my tab and walked out
You did the right thing, sucks that they didn’t take the safety shot seriously :(
Did you at least file charges for criminal neglect against that place? Seriously, what's the point of even having a freaking safety drink if they don't take it seriously.
So nice to have youtube lawyers around to tell us what to do!
Why do none of these folks who use the text to speech actually check to make sure the program didn't glitch.
It's all automated by the bot that makes the videos, there's no manual editing. The bot will create & set everything up in the video, then render the video & automatically upload it to YT. Requires minimal/no effort, can be done quickly, & prints money, so why edit? People will still watch, regardless of the glitches
Plot twist. There is a person that watches/edits the video but leaves the glitches because they know it irritates people. XD
@@fasdfdsdfs XD XD
@@randythecomputerman it isn't 100% automated every step of the way. I doubt the bot chooses which specific posts and replies get put into the video, unless it's only based off upvotes
I think it’s for making sure another one of these copy paste channels don’t take it
I will say, safe words are fucking awesome, but my ex showed me such a simple power play. I was at the HOSPITAL and this 5 yr old was running around my chair, kicking my seat, just being a child/brat. I looked at her mom mid asthma attack, please... get your kid.
She went off on me saying i cant tell her child what to do, why cant her child simply play, etc etc. She then got up to walk toward me to start a fight, my ex husband yelled SECURITY!!!
Waiting room fell silent. He didnt.
This lady and her child are harrassing us. Tell them to get away.
The mom was so stunned. As a female to have security called on her!
It was a glorious site. She took her gremlin and sat in corner, but entire time she was muttering loud enough for us to hear her.
Thats why you need a haircut, your girlfriend fat, etc etc.
Real piece of work.
So in conclusion, my meekness had me looking for a discreet way to handle situation. Now when im out and man wont take hint, i just yell " GET AWAY, HARRASSMENT, SECURITY" etc etc. It always works to get people away.
Not sure how this works guy v girl, but girl v girl, or girl v guy it works 100% in my experience.
Excellent story. I enjoyed it.
Yes! That’s totally what I would do in any situation where I’m being harassed. Just scream and make a scene, make everyone look at you. I could never just try to be polite like the people in a lot of stories I hear about that sort of thing.
Unfortunately, in guy v girl, the guy is likely to be laughed at. The only reason it work with your ex-husband was probably because he was with a woman (you) and it was a hospital.
@@brigidtheirish the point of getting loud like that is that it humiliates the person you want to leave you alone. That being said, guy v girl, it works a treat, as those women tend to think men are powerless to stop them.
@@danielpratt1970 That certainly makes sense. Guess I've run into too many cases of the guy being treated badly for trying to get a crazy woman to back off.
Once had to save an online friend via our chat group. Yeah I was a whole other country away. I’m not entirely sure why she went to a bar alone that night but she did and she ended up harassed by a guy that was scaring her. She got into the chat with where I was mod that night and I talked her through how to find help and stayed with her until her friends finally arrived to take her home. She was protected by this very nice family who tucked her into the booth with them while the husband stood guard to keep the guy away. I had a talk with her friends later so they could say their thank you’s and I could be reassured they would help her that night. She’d already had a bad day and was feeling miserable and this on top of that, I just wanted to make sure she would be fine. They promised me they would give her lots of chocolate, blanket burrito time, and binge some anime while they built a blanket fort with her that night. She told me in the morning that she felt better, shaken still, but thanked me for staying with her. I’m just glad nothing bad happened to her because there really was little I could do other than talk her through the situation, keep her calm, and hope for the best. Like I said, I was in a whole other country. Not like I could hop a plane and be there to pick her up.
I’d do this again by the way, even for a guy friend. I don’t usually need to but I keep an eye out for any instance I notice like this. I don’t like such behavior and I will interfere if it happens in front of me. I inherited my dad’s impulse in this
This is why I refuse to drink alone. Unless I’m with family/acquaintances that I very much trust.
then you wouldn't.... be... alone. "I refuse to drink alone! Unless I'm with family!". Brilliant...
Why is it that every Reddit post is always answered by people that are not what the op asked for.
Example...cops of reddit. = not a cop and didn't happen to me but.....
It shouldn't annoy me so much but it does
It's because otherwise, there would only be like 10 replies to the thread. You won't find that many people who have experienced such a specific situation. How many bartenders do you know? Probably nowhere near as many people as you know who go to the bar as a customer. Out of everyone scrolling past, less than 1% of people with relevant stories would actually be of the occupation specified. Maybe AskReddit thread titles should stop asking for specific people to reply.
It seems like people would get mad if there was a thread that said "Current Presidents of the United States, what issues do our country face?" and anyone but Joe Biden himself were to reply.
But everyone knows Donald Trump is the legitimate President. Let's go Brandon!
I've actually seen far more abusive behavior come from women directed at men than the other way around
In public, yeah. Women can be super abusive while other people just watch, but the *moment* the dude just, slaps away the hand of a gal, all eyes on him.
It fucking sucks. At least there's people who will confront a woman about abusive behavior and help the dude
Chances are its bc the men who do these activity are usually called out far more often so it isn't usually allowed to escalate.
@@moodu.m.a1888 while women are never called out for it or even encouraged to behave like this
On my birthday, as we finished the night at a dance club that also had billiards, a kind of bowling and other games, my drunk sister went crazy on her husband. We were walking out cuz it closed, and she literally walked up to her husband and cold cocked him in the face for playing pool with me instead of dancing with her. He just kept walking, so naturally she cold cocked him in the side of his head. I'm just in shock at this, but I snap to once she began to beat on the window of my other sister's car yelling for her husband to come out so she can keep giving him a piece of her mind (they came together).
I pick her up by her elbows and walk over to the side of the building to try n calm her down. I set her down and try to talk to her. The whole time she's yelling obscenities at her man (who is a cop btw). I grab her face to force her to look at me, trying to calm her down cuz I'm basically in panic mode and don't know what else to do ( I knew she can get crazy but never saw her do this before). All of a sudden, I get jumped by a mob of security from the club. Apparently, hearing the commotion, they all come outside to see me trying to calm my sister down. Only to them it looks like I'm choking her. Thinking I'M the abuser, they jump me. At one point two guys were holding my arms while another guy was behind me giving me the worst choke hold I ever experienced.
He was grunting loudly from the exertion. Everything inside me told me this guy is trying to kill me, and if I don't find a way out of this, I'm going to die before they let me go. I was just lucky to have had martial arts experience and also be really strong I managed to squirrel my way out. Once they figured out what was going on, they all ran back into the club as I threatened calling the cops on them. In the end I didn't cuz I understood where they were coming from. My (apparently) abusive sister also told me I deserved what they did cuz when I picked her up to move her away from the situation, I guess I had somehow choked her, even though she was yelling at her man the whole time.
@@amaikurusu188 About a year after my ex-wife and I separated I went on a date to a concert(outdoor venue) . Suddenly my ex who was at the same show, unbeknownst to me, comes up behind me and starts hitting me on my head and upper body. I turned and just started blocking her swings. Meanwhile there is a cop standing about 10 ft away just watching. I ask him to please stop this woman from hitting me and he just chuckled. I then shout "This isn't a f***ing joke". Finally he comes over and asks her to stop. I could only imagine what would have happened if I had hit her back.
The first story and I'm already on the verge of tears. Bless the staff at Chili's.
I told my dad about this.
I'm not old enough to drink, but my dad goes to bars often. I want to make sure nothing bad will happen to my dad so I told him for his safety.
Anyone can use it if it's absolutely necessary. I wish everyone luck and I hope everything works out.
I would sooner work until death than have another baby. That is no kind of income even if military
Me too. Wtf are peoples problems?
@Dexter Buster bro wtf
I mean, both can be arranged I'm sure.
Though not by me.
Half the stories are not a bartender and "no but i have for women"
Mad props to the dude that called 911 on the dead cat dude. It would be so easy to doubt whether or not to call 911 from a napkin handshake but the right choice was made.
After hearing/reading some of the storys, I'm always thinking like
"If the tables were turned, more people would have kissed the ground."
I don’t get pressuring someone to drink/get high. I love to chill regardless and not sharing means more for me but I also don’t want others to pay my way most of the time. Loved the 2 times a stranger bought me a drink, one was just a nice gesture and the other one just had a touch of fun conversation for a few minutes.
5:20 This is why you always bring your battle buddy. Safety in numbers!
I love these stories, my brother is a sensitive type and I don't mean it in a demeaning way but it's just people don't expect with over six feet in height he is easily anxious and stuff. So I am glad society is changing and acknowledge men can be mentally cornered in public setting and crying inside.
Woman has it worse in history for gender discrimination, but the world isn't exactly kind to men either if they don't follow some unwritten manly standard.
Yea fr. I know this guy who isn't exactly what you described, but had a problem with this girl hitting on him all the time. He is really easy going, friendly, and talks a lot (meaning he's very touchy and often is cupping any girls cheecks or stuff like that which can be seen as flirting) so this girl kept and kept trying until he first asked me for help, and then my friend. We made a group chat and made a plan, my friend was going to pretend she has a giant crush on him, and he'll be oblivious to everything. I coudn't do it because she already met me when I waited for him after school and did ask me if I was his girlfriend. Luckily, she bought it in the end and she left him alone. Didn't get much closure of that, because she's in the year below me, same major and caused so many problems in the school. Not joking when I say this, but every other girl wants to just beta her up and shit because of how horrible she is.
Recently almost got a girl expelled because she 'looked at her wrong and she felt threatened'. Sorry, that was long
I'm glad as well.
Men are regularly put in danger at bars. A friend lost an eye from a broken bottle. He wasn't even in the fight.
I only clicked to understand the title, halfway in and I'm STILL mystified! I mean, I figure "safeword drink" means a codeword to communicate you're in trouble, but that only seems possible if you're a regular at the bar such that the staff knows you, AND you have the conversation "Hey, if I'm trapped and need to get away from someone, I'll order a Safecracker, that's my code word for trouble!". But not only is regular + in trouble seem pretty damn rare, but guys thinking of this ahead of time to have the conversation seems REALLY rare, and it all actually happening SUPER rare, how is there enough incidents to fill a 27 minute video???!? Is there some well established common safeword I dunno because I'm a 6'2" heavy guy who doesn't get attention in the first place, never mind unwanted attention? And if so, how can it work, wouldn't the nightmare person recognize it too, defeating the purpose? WTF IS ALL THIS?????
OHHHHHH!!!!! Took until 22:23, then 2 posts in a row clarify, it's a sign in the bathroom! ALL the bar and club bathrooms I've ever been in over the decades, never seen that. Guess I go to nicer bars than these. :)
safe word drinks are posted on signs in womens/mens bathrooms and have different codes between genders. Usually its something like "If you feel unsafe and want us to discretely remove you from the bar order and angel shot: on ice to call an uber with lime: to call the police
@@CJ-sd4iv Thanks, never seen that... Of course, completely ignores the possibility of needing saving from your own gender, :)
Was stationed in Germany and at a club one night. A girl came up and sat in my lap and said help. Pretended to be her boyfriend and get some creep to leave her alone. Walked her home to make sure she was okay and not followed.
This was the worst collecting as it managed to slip off topic so many times
Right? Must have been at least half a dozen people in the video that got the wrong gender and the last one not only was the wrong gender but wasn't even in a bar.
@@rugalbernstein5913 I'm glad I wasn't the only one to notice. It's like it's just one story set for guys. Can we have that little bit
It's mostly because nobody gives a shit when it's a man who is the victim.
@@codywarhawk7099 Sadly, I think you're correct.
Yeah this is BS, fight off the start the first dude isn't even on topic...
I love the person who yoinked the dude’s keys XD
1. (serious) TIL even guys have to use safe-word drink escapes!
2. (jokingly) TIL douchebag bros drive Honda Civics with mismatched bumpers/fenders and half the hood spray-painted matte black!
What's TiL
@@electricdebt9607" today I learned"
@@Xdqer.Yxw0 thx
The story about the Military man is true. I am currently in the Navy and there is a strip club a couple of blocks away from the base I am stationed. We have been told to stay away from that. The stories I hear Sailors speak from their adventures in there. The strippers can also be very aggressive and predatory if they know you are active duty.
This is why I hate when people say men don't have anything to worry about in bars. They do as well and need to be taken seriously. 30 minutes worth of it. Military story is legit, women near military bases can be ruthless. Anything to babytrap the younger military personnel. Won't think twice of making up false allegations either to mess with a guy's career.
BUT DID SHE GIVE YOU THE NAPKIN?
The angels at the bars and restaurants. Remember our brave friends in the service industry.
The guy on the last story is a real badass, I'm sure that girl will remember that night and wonder who her hero was 💪
That first story. Chilis may have mediocre food, but their staff is incredible.
7:47 That's just a drunk guy trying to boost a fellow big guy's self esteem. It was unwarranted, but innocent. The fact that he apologized defends this. Being a larger guy with shot self esteem, this would actually be a pretty big boost for me. I felt it through the retelling of the story, and feel a little bit better about myself. This guy was probably going through the very things he was talking about, and had low self esteem himself. Big guys try to help other big guys.
11:05 I've never heard of the bum's rush being used in real life. That was amazing.
25:25 I'm just imagining a man built like Saxton Hale just elbow dropping her and I can't stop laughing.
This is why I have my CCW permit. You never know how useful a pistol is until you desperately need one. Even if you don’t pull it out, just the sight of it is often enough for people to act like their supposed to.
That is the absolute truth. Had to pull mine once, and was ready to use deadly force to escape the club. The trio of dudes hassling me, my girl and her sister backed down right away and tried to play it all off. One guy had groped the sister and the other two insinuated that they were ‘taking’ her. This lasted from way to long and it was becoming a very heated scene. Now my girls and sister both CCW.
@@garthdyland.6258 I’m glad you had it man. That could’ve been so much worse.
And, in the vast majority of bars, it is illegal to possess a firearm - permit or no permit.
@@johnd5398 no it isn’t. It’s only illegal if you have been drinking or intend to drink. It’s no different than carrying in any restaurant.
Why is it when we have threads like this featuring women as victims there is never a story of how a guy was a victim.
But when we have a thread talking about males as victims, there's always atleast one person who tells a story about a female victim completely shitting on the original subject....
16:27 I watch/read this as my feral cat that became an indoor kitty licks my hand and purrs for attention. She was called in by my kitten that absolutely has been infatuated with her since he met her and now she's a housecat. She must have bee a drop off since she is spayed and knows how to use a litterbox. Very friendly girl once she observes you for a bit. Any psycho that harms animals will do it to humans too.
How come pickles dont come in more that three varieties. It's either too hot, sour, or sweet. I get it takes like a month to make a new batch but whiskey takes 30 years and has 40 varieties nobody asked for.
This really has to be bugging you huh?
I take it you've never had salt pickled ones?
They're actually quite good.
Side Note: You could always try and make your own
@@bigdikbubls why does it bother you that someone wants more varieties of something-
I'm generally a friendly drunk so have had many women ask me to pretend to be their boyfriend to get rid of someone pestering them, I never knew as a man I have any recourse myself, I've had lasses get upset at me turning them down and threatening the get other blokes to fight me, I genuinely didn't know there were any options other than to fight lol, stopped going out after the last couple of jumpings, my little daughters couldn't understand why someone would want to break daddy's arm, I healed up and a year later woke up in hospital concussed with broken ribs, if I'm drinking I'm drinking to relax and hate confrontation, it's just unnecessary and having lived through a fairly violent life through work I'm sick to death of it, let me enjoy my peace, let me just quietly enjoy my drink and enjoy the much needed sedative effect it has on my brain
You can ask any girl to pretend beeing your gf for a moment, people usually help (I did some of this in bus stops and supermarkets for both genders since I really don't go to bars).
When someone asked for help you help them
That last guy might of just saved her life. Thank you!
I feel so bad for the lady that tried to call for help but was ignored because it was her husband. I wish people took it more seriously
Yes! It's such a stupid mentality, like they never heard of domestic violence or murder-suicide committed by partners and spouses!
7:51 at least the guy was trying to give a compliment. I thought he would pick a fight to prove a point or something.
I am glad they are all saved and don't have a trauma. If that worked, I don't want to destroy it. But would it have been my case, I would have called the police in most of the stories. If I was judt being switched to another table, office room or uber, I would have had been traumatized since that person was still running around and didn't get the punishment they deserved. The problem is not fully solved if only the victim had to take consequences.
Sadly it isnt easy to get the police for the men situations, it’s not seen as assault if it’s not happening to a woman :(.
You know it's crazy... I actually had a random set of keys show up in my front yard a few years back 🤣 it was from the neighbours kids playing with them but still. Reminded me of that.
Stories you don't hear about it's great to hear people helping people out in times of need
Stories like this play a small part into why I don’t like doing things.
In the US its an 'angel shot'
In the UK you ask for 'angela'
21:30 jesus, guys cant even have a safe drink thread to themselves with out a female busting in
This is Reddit so no matter if the comment is for guys or girls someone is gonna “bust in”
That’s just how it works
@@canoewithmeat thats the thing, it doesn't work. but ya going to keep trying huh
The first one is really surprising, I wouldn't expect many people to notice. Cudos to the waiter and manager.
Never heard of safe word drinks...good on these folks helping
"Super Douche and Cranberry Ho" - now if DC makes THAT superhero movie, I'm down.
I'm glad someone asked this. People forget these things happen to men too.
I'm so happy that the staff in the first story were on the ball enough to know someone needed help, and didn't assume that a man couldn't be terrorized by a woman. Abusers come in many guises, even pretty women. Although it's no where as common as women being abused by men. It's not even close, but it's just as valid when it does.
24:31 guys I think the TTS got possessed
I was out with my friend (21 yo females) and we were chatting, drinking, just enjoying a night out. All of a sudden I notice a man turning his head around and staring at me for 5-10 second intervals. I made eye contact so I know he knew. When our waitress came to check on us I mentioned it to her. He had already left but we were uncomfortable. When we left a very scary looking line cook and the manger walked us to our cars. Not quite the same but very similar. He told us that he was proud of us fir saying something as we need to protect ourselves. As we were walking out the buff guy said “no body fing with these girls tonight” they watched is leave before going back in.
And your comments on men needing safeword shots?
I second the guy at 12:00 when I went sober I started drinking soda out of short glasses full of ice. Everyone just assumed I was slamming rum and cokes like they were, well, sodas. It made all of the awkwardness of sobriety vanish. People even commented on how well I held my liquor. lol.
Wine bar/Krav Maga lady probably shouldn't have been drinking ANY alcohol with the meds she was taking.
7:09 Responding to this guy with "I'm into guys" would've been a power move
For those who can't use the safeword due to people being watched etc. Saying things like broken arrow will immediately inform any military that's at the bar you need help. If your dealing with civilians talk about the weather how there's a hurricane in your town and your stove is on you need to contact someone for them to help turn the stove off. This will be odd conversation but trigger words like help fire hurricane will give the idea.
you can't spell "you're", but you're going to lecture people on code words -- thanks RUclips.
@@johnd5398 Notice I was actually trying to give friendly advice meanwhile you are here only to try to cause an argument because of a simple misspelling. So thank you for showing me disrespect such a nice thing to do. Good luck when shit hits the fan I'm sure you will be allowed to correct someone's grammar and spelling then to. You sure are fun at parties.
The first story helped restore my faith in humanity.
Those chili's workers are amazing
The last one goes to show that they could be massive and intimidating but could know nothing about fighting
Here in Australia we have the "ask for Angela" campaign to combat sexual assault
How nice... I was sexually assaulted by a woman named Angela...
Man that manager with the Cue was about to get into a fight with a cue stick, and it looked like he would win.
The first one is so wholesome, we men rarely see this kind of appreciation
I've been in security for more than 5 years and the amount of women who have attempted, and more often than I'd like, successfully groped me flashed me (as if that would ever gain you a favour) or touched me is ridiculous, men are by no means well behaved, dragged enough of them out of clubs and bars, women however definitely behave highly inappropriately and their reactions to the consequences are frequently more severe.
I am no victim let me be clear, I take no pleasure in it, the frequency of propositions is also ridiculous, fact is it's a tiny proportion of people in general who behave thus, doesn't make it ok by any stretch.
Wow... "don't bother he is her husband" ... NEVER care for that stuff. If they order a known safety drink, there is a reason for it, does not matter if the other person is husband, father, mother son or the neighbor!
I have never felt the need to be rescued, but one day I went to a bar on St.Patty's. I was sitting there having a Convo with the guy next to me as it got busy. This girl came in and was standing behind me. I live in a town with a deaf school, I noticed that she was deaf (sign language), anyway she is there for a while. Then out of the blue she reaches over me and grabs my junk.
Eventually she left, turns out that the way she acted was noticed by the bar staff.
Was just annoyed it happened, not scared as I would have easily been able to hand he unless she was a trained fighter.
I'm glad there are good people looking out for others of either gender 👍
Mmmhmm yep but "MeN cAn'T Be aBuSeD oR rApEd."
Seriously this shit pisses me off so much as a man
13:01 it isnt as bad as it used to be for sure. This industry is tough on people in so many different ways
I hope they have particular safe words in their bars because if it’s a general safe word and someone with ill intentions watches this then they’ll know when their potential victim is trying to escape them and it could make for a horrible situation. I mean I’m sure bars are smart enough to know this but it seems angel shot is a very common safe word and so it is concerning. Stay safe everyone and if you’re unsure if you’d be giving yourself away by using the safe word then make a trip to the bartender and let them know you need help even if they follow you because a lot of people sit there and if the individual becomes aggressive in anyway then it’s more likely someone there will react quicker then the person trying to harm you.
An angel shot is more so a general alternative term for safeword shot. Basically, it's a call for a "guardian angel" to swoop in and rescue you from your trapped situation. If you ever ordered an angel shot, the staff would at least get the idea, but they also have specific drinks to be more discreet, separate ones in the male and female bathrooms, if they aren't just only in the female bathroom.
Im a bit late to the video but I heard a similar story to 5:00 in BMT. Our MTI told us that his brother, who is also military, was drugged and the people who did it took him over 4 hours from the bar and his truck and dropped him in a field after mugging him. He was unharmed but our MTI had to go get him after getting a call from him on someone else's phone.
Damn... That first story... These NBC stories in general. I’m pretty surprised by them. Maybe society is finally accepting the fact that men have emotions, men can be abused, men can be better fathers than certain woman can be mothers, men need help as well occasionally...
How did NBC get there? What the fuck...
Sexual harassment against woman? Horrible. Sexual harassment against men? Hilarious!
The manager and waiter in the first story are heroes. And are the perfect example of true gender equality and honourable mentions to the cops.
“(Insert job) of Reddit, have you ever (insert action/experience)?”
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18:50 it always makes my day to see bros being bros
I can’t be the only one who thinks a pool cue to the wrist would be absolute agony
"I ran and kept running"
Yeah Boi, Forest Gump that sh*t homie.
Till about 8 years ago i was an archer and bow hunter. One evening a friend asked me to shadow for her as she was meeting someone to get her car keys and said something feels off. During the encounter the guy started harassing her. She called our destress signal: black wind. I pulled my bow and a heavy blade arrow and placed the shot into the sign post between them. The prick did a beautiful impression of a statue and pissed himself as i called over the radio that next arrow severs his spine. Police arrested him for harassment and terrorist threatening. When they asked who fired the arrow, she said you already know. They just looked at each other and did their duty and left.
My guy really went Green Arrow on some dude
@@stevenwright366 benefits of being a bow hunter.
@@vanhasydan4754 sounds like some sweet benefits
@Steven Wright we have a saying. " If you hear the whisper, it wasn't meant for you."
It's weirdly comforting to see that the angel shot is so widely used as a safeword drink.
Same sex safe word - Go to the bar and say help, they will. I've pointed out unsafe people to the bounce staff in bars, and they always help. Same thing works for men who help from women. I'm a woman and the same thing is needed. Just say help me to the bartender regardless of knowing a safeword.
I guess I've been lucky especially my area you rarely hear about anybody getting roofied or anything like that there are safe words I've worked at bars around here all the staff know to pay attention to the females to make sure they are comfortable but there are no safe words around here for men it's only for women I know this because I'm one of the people that had to train the waitresses and the bartenders we've only had the implement twice that's because they got too drunk to realize what they're doing or they were trying to meet up with an ex and usually they tell the bartender or the waitress to please keep an eye on even had one time where I had to stand outside the restaurant well two people swap their kids
Damn man. Where’s the punctuation??