DISCLAIMER: Please refrain from making uneducated assumptions about an individual's diagnosis. You are allowed to express concern of whether you believe someone is faking or not, however, please refrain from leaving harmful comments regarding them. Autism is a spectrum. Everyone is different and exhibits different traits. You may or may not relate to these individuals and that is fine but do not assume that because you have traits that differ from them, they are not autistic! If an individual is proven to be faking or they have a negative reputation in the community, please feel free to respond to this post or private message me on my socials! Also for clarification: Autism as well as any other neurodiversities represented in these videos are on a spectrum! Everyone is different! Do not use these videos as a means of diagnosing yourself or even questioning your diagnosis! Everyone will have different experiences and struggles! You are perfect the way you are and do not define yourself because a lot of autistic individuals don't like a food but you do, or you like wearing socks compared to those who don't! Be yourself and accept that we are all different!
The last one also probably stems from trauma, being constantly misunderstood, and perseveration. Perseveration isn't just an ADHD thing, but also you know how much ADHD and autism overlap.
Last tiktok made so much sense to me. It really opened my eyes, i used to see this "urge to overexplain" as an anxiety thing or like "pattern recognition fails" (like when i saw my ex-partner and i felt like something was wrong and they were not telling me truth about their feelings, so i would start to ask same things again and again until she was so annoyed she couldnt take it anymore). And i never though it was a meltdown thing really. Now i will really consider that as a sign and hopefully itll help me function a bit better
I feel the same way, and although I am not diagnosed woth autism I am seeing professionals about it, and I will take a test and all of that soon. Glad that there are more people put there who relate to that.
I do this, even when it isn't anxiety related. I'll basically get caught in a loop and not realize I'm saying the same/similar things over and over until someone points it out(and even then it doesn't seem to me like I was repeating myself). I feel like I'm terrible at expressing myself verbally, and maybe I didn't give all the details the first round as much as I would have liked. I always feel like I'm adding new and important information to what I'm trying to convey because I want to be fully understood. But... I just make people upset, especially if they are more impatient.
@Say-Palyanytsya i feel you, i have this urge to add more and more details. But over time i realised there's never enough details, and when i tried to stop focusing so much on details (forced myself basically), i noticed i really was saying same thing with different words, but i was so good at making details work i never considered viewing the whole picture. I still overexplain a lot, but now i can see it a bit more often and maybe can stop myself, before it overwhelms somebody else.
have you gotten your hearing checked? I have auditory processing issues as part of my autism but recently learned I also have hearing loss and am in the process of getting hearing aids. I mean I'll probably still stare at lips because its more comfortable but its good to hopefully not have to someday.
@moonnoodles4539 Yeah! I actually have, and the docs said my hearing is perfect. I think for me, it's something to do with having a bunch of noises going on in the background and I'm better able to focus on what the person is saying if I can read thier lips.
Last tiktok is basically what I have been addressing in therapy, family therapy, and with friends. I realized having a certain baseline of trust and understanding with people that they do understand you and/or your struggles REALLY helps. Obvi this applies more to close friends or fam than it does strangers since well...baseline with strangers is kinda odd.
Does anyone else really REALLY struggle with videos that have typed words but different audio at the same time? Do you want me to READ or HEAR Janet? My brain can't do both at the same time.
Subtitles you can’t turn off are bad enough. If they are on screen, I will read them too quickly and spoil the audio for myself. When they don’t even match the audio, that should be considered a crime.
I always turn on subtitles bc it gives me something to focus on and to look at and i realised i often dont listen to the video at the end just reading the subtitles but i fjbd it rlly relaxing
Perhaps looking into Autistic burnout could be helpful. My partner AJ was experiencing that as well. We found out about burnout. Basically it occurs when negative masking and over stimulation become too much. So we began to proactively work on finding positive and effective stems to help as well as looking for what was causing the over stimulation. I hope this helps with your meltdowns.
2:52 SO IT ISN'T JUST ME!!! I was literally "reading" the audio in my mind for each tiktok. It's like a really specific kinda pattern recognition thing, I think. Makes listening to new songs for the first time very interesting, because somehow I can sing along to them, like my brain just knows??? It also happens with foreign languages too, ones I don't speak at all even. Movies and TV I tend to do it less, but short form content and IRL conversations it happens often. Just another thing I can add to my "huh, I suppose it really must be Autism" list as I (self diagnosed but highly suggested by multiple mental health care professionals that I more than likely am, they just couldn't diagnose me officially) try not to have imposter syndrome about it lol
This. I've always had this as a kid to a point where I couldn't pay attention to the actual conversation because I was focused on knowing what they'd say next 😂
Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗
Take a breath!? No, can't do that too busy, too much to do, breathing is underrated anyway, who needs it, not me, nope, nuh uh, I sure do not, no breathing for me, I'll just keep on doing what I'm doing. You take a deep breath, they are all yours.
Something I’m personally very upset about is that with attempting to get diagnosed I was told I “made eye contact and talked a lot.” I have been diagnosed with ADHD, but I still show signs of autism. Yes, I ramble and am able to make eye contact, although I feel like I struggle. I have had multiple meltdowns where I have gone completely nonverbal, physically unable to talk. I also need constant stimulation (mainly cause of ADHD). Something that hit me was how I completely mimicked the traits of one of my friends, like hand movements and the pitch of her tone. I realized that was not normal by any means, and I constantly think about my actions and how I attempt to fit in. I am afab, which could be part of the problem in possible diagnosis. I know for sure I am not neurotypical and I find ways to handle it. I don’t like self diagnosing with myself, so that’s why I say I show behaviors such as masking that are very common amongst those who are autistic.
4:00 this. Makes. So. Much. Sense. I voiced to my parents that I am autistic(formerly diagnosed but they refuse to believe it.) and my parents where like “but you don’t do that rolls floor stuff when ur upset” and this. Makes. So. Much. Sense.
❤with the eye contact thing, neurotypicals will nod, make gestures and different micro facial expressions as non verbal comunication that deepens the verbal comunication. I was learning about and practicing reading eye accessing cues and started to pick up a lot of really subtle information being conveyed that i never noticed before. I never really had issues with eye contact but also wasn't really looking for this kind of information before.
Well 2:18 this does indeed explain why my thought and speech patterns reflect what I have been reading lately. I read Shakespeare I think/talk/write Shakespeare. I read something with lots of cuss words I spend 2 weeks cussing everything out in my head with the 5 cuss words I know. Also I felt the forcing yourself to have an “imaginary friend” which is really strange because I actually have a VERY vivid imagination.
Adult Autistic Meltdown guy has a lot of internalised abelism still. If you, an adult, want to do something then it isn't childish. If you, a human, have a desire then it IS a very human desire.
(I'm in the UK, for context - this isn't a "US Christian" driven thing) So, there's this quote from the bible that the headteacher of my secondary school put in my final report. It was 1 Corinthians 13:11 - "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." There are *implications* to that quote. It took me a long time to find what I call the C. S. Lewis corollary. "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." Being an adult isn't being "not a child". It's having a mature view of things, including your interests, your desires and your passions. There's a reason we sometimes say that children are "very grown-up" when they display maturity in their thought processes - in a way, they really are being adults, and I've noticed that often, children can be far more mature about some things than the folks who've gone through puberty that they're supposedly less mature than.
Also saying that wanting to communicate through gestures isn’t human is very ableist and audist(discriminatory towards deaf people). ASL is a very real and human language that is beautiful and capable of expressing complex human ideas
0:53 So… you’re telling me… I DON’T have to gorge out someone’s soul when having a conversation with them? Wow, now, how do I fix the constant grimace on my face...
3:25 Wait, you’re supposed to just “go along with/believe in” imaginary friends. I just assumed that people with them also primarily thought about the fact they aren’t real and just worked hard to focus on stuff like the friend part and not forgetting that you imagined them in the first place.
I get into a meltdown when people make me explain my feelings. one day my mom brought us all out into the livingroom after a big fight with her boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) that consisted of screaming, throwing things, and hitting. she noticed I wasn't saying much so she was like. "Nova, since you aren't saying much then we aren't leaving this room until you talk about your feelings and thoughts. open up, tell us how you feel." after that I said I didn't know what I felt and that I didn't want to talk about it, but they all kept pestering me and insisting I tell them. So I start to explain very gradually and then I just can't speak anymore. it feels like everything is all overwhelming me at once and a whole bunch of tears start to spill out and the meltdown begins.
last tiktok rlly got me with the “wanting to hit your head” :/ i used to do that a lot as a kid when having a breakdown (often alone in my room bc i didn’t want my family to see me breaking down) it’s nice to know i’m not the only one
1:52 Ig that’s just one more thing autism explains about my life! I’ve always had a slight British accent, even though I’m completely American and, at the time I developed the accent, had never interacted with someone with a British accent in my life.
Hehe, the autism accent is VERY me and my brother lol. We are both Scottish, but the way we speak sometimes, the way we say some words, is . . . Americanised, I guess. I assume it's because we consume a lot of American media. I've had customers at my job ask me where I'm from. "I'm from [insert hometown, the town we're currently in]." "Really?!" lol
2:13 I haven't noticed myself having an accent from elsewhere, however just yesterday, someone pointed out that I always just say Taylor instead of Taylor swift, which is apparently exclusive to swifties (which I am not)
I thought it was just me! My accent is a weird mix of australian, cali, and southern with a pinch of english even though ive never stepped foot out of my home state of Georgia
I don’t think I have a specific _accent,_ but I’ve been told time and time again that I have a very unique _voice,_ sound like [cartoon character], should be a voice actor, etc. I have a loud and high-pitched voice because I developed a habit of speaking from my diaphragm as though I’m on stage. The characters I’ve been compared to most are Steven Universe, Peridot from Steven Universe, Mabel from Gravity Falls, and Velma from Scooby Doo. Interestingly, Peridot is canonically autistic. Huh. That being said, one of my friends definitely has an autistic accent. He’s had a British accent since early childhood despite being born and raised in the U.S. and not having any British family or friends. It’s so strong that people continuously ask him what part of Britain he’s from. Nobody ever knew why, so some of us joked that he watched too much Peppa Pig as a kid. Although, thanks to this video, I think it’s likely an autistic accent.
i think some people just refer to it as an accent because it’s something that’s very common among autistic people. lots of terminology is often rephrased to explain it easier or make it more personal
3:25 I did this in middle school all the way up to 9th grade because I was so freakin lonely and I just pretended to talk to people. I would get upset when I remembered that I was literally just talking to myself
2:10 I got obsessed with the DCEU Harley Quinn accent and studied how to do a Brooklyn accent. Now I have a mix of basic American accent with Brooklyn tone and emphasis and energy….if that makes sense.
2:10 this is one of the most pronounced things for me, very fast, usually on the quite side, and veeery monotone, and i "dont sound like im from here" when ive lived here my whole life. also when i talk to people with noticeable accents i progressively mimic them by accident.
until probably the last year i always looked at people’s lips, but didn’t really know why i did this. i didn’t really even think about it until one of my exes pointed it out. trying to make direct eye contact has been horrible, i find myself more confused and over-narrating in my head. im gonna go back to the lip thing, that has worked well my entire life. knowing i’m audhd, it all makes sense. i’m glad i didn’t question staring at people’s lips until the last year because real eye contact is so painful. the general face thing definitely helps because of course we take eye contact too literally xD
Wait, I forced myself to have an imaginary friend and got annoyed too. Why is that an autistic thing? Why is it the more I look into it, the more I realize everything I’ve ever done is an autistic thing?
2:54 this just happened to me 3 hours ago during an argument….I. Can. Read. The. Future. I. Have. Psychic. Abilities 3:24 …..this right here is the most accurate thing to ever exist.
2:28 I really like the term Autism/Autistic accent! It’s very similar to the term “Deaf accent” (referring to noticeable differences in speech in someone who is Deaf).
People used to think I was from Wisconsin. I figured it was because I lived on the west coast but my mom’s side of the family, who I grew up with, are from Brooklyn NY. My accent was just a mix of the accents I heard frequently.
Ok, but what the guy said about the violent sign language instead of words is soooo true for me like. I thougt it was really weird that i felt that, and have never heard of anyone having that impulse before. I legit was gonna learn sign language bec like its so suffocating when you get it.
2:08 I knew I picked up on slang and accents a lot. Like anytime I hear an accent that isn't my own, I will just start speaking that way, even subtly. Sometimes I notice it, sometimes I don't. I speak with a southern accent a lot, and I'm nowhere near the south.
The last Tiktoker saying that communicating non-verbally is a "not very human attribute" rubbed me the wrong way, as I felt like it invalidates deaf and HOH folks who use sign language to communicate. But aside from that, I felt very seen. 👀
When I touch something I hate the texture of, I cry a little and attack the object I remember when I was younger I touch the carpet I hated and I started hitting the floor aggressively😭
Oh my gosh the accent one 😭😭😭 When I was a toddler, I am told I sounded German. For like a decade. I live in western USA. And I literally have memories of like 10 year old me paying attention to how local people said certain words and trying to copy that in order to “sound more normal” 😭😭😭
My mom is really not supportive of my self diagnosis that I have autism. She thinks I’m making it up for a pity party, her words not mine. She’s said a lot of not so nice things since I’ve told her. But there’s one thing she always calls me out on and I’ve learned it’s like a trait of autism & sometimes I want to kick this back in her face. She has told me for years that I speak to loud, because I can’t regulate my volume of my voice when I’m excited. And we both speak really fast so she doesn’t really notice that but other people do. I speak really quickly when I don’t think I have a lot of time to talk about some thing I want to talk about so I speed talk so I can see everything I want to say in a small amount of time. Or I do it all uncontrollably when I’m very upset or happy. Honestly, a lot of my vocal stems and little habits that I used to do a lot of the time, or corrected now/mask because I was always told don’t do that that’s weird. Or I was told stop that’s inappropriate. And I learned not to do it. I still do it at times but it’s immediately told stop it so I immediately stop. because I don’t wanna get in trouble or yelled at.
I'm from the west coast, and I have a weird kinda midwestern accent on several of my words. I say "gorl"/"gorlfriend" instead of girl or girlfriend, "aaahs" instead of both ice and eyes. I say "nermal" instead of normal, and I have other stuff, just can'r think of it rn
3:45 "You're not autistic, you're just a little silly!" "... And you act high when someone breathes a word about your favorite thing." (Real story tho, one time, my friend mentioned something about Hazbin Hotel, my hyperfixation rn, and i apparently acted so weird that my other friend asked if i didn't intake anything. I thought i was acting normal though 😂)
Oh god the "I need to smother this fire with everything Ive got" feeling is so. painfully relatable to me. not really for relationships bc currently I have those fuckin Sorted but with like. minor frustrations that are the last straw???? I will literally dump all my remaining spoons into trying to Fix It (I know a lot about how to roll back software updates because of this. UI changes are malevolent To Me)
I’m autistic and I ain’t told a sole. If I told my mates then I’d be bullied and kicked out. So far no one has caught on and only my mom knows. I was literally asked at the start of year 9 if I wanted teachers to inform everyone that I was autistic in assembly so everyone would treat me nicely. But if I accepted that then that would’ve been the end of my career
I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 21 but I knew I could never make eye contact, my parents even told me as a baby I would look away when people would look at me and refuse to make eye contact. Well I coped by looking at the persons ear and the last few years I’ve been looking at the bridge of there nose. Like looking at there eyes feels uncomfortable but I can look at any other part of there face. So at 1:00 are you telling me eye contact doesn’t mean looking at there eyes? Because I thought I was so I tried to fake eye contact by looking near there eyes but not actually at there eyes. Also I’m hyper vigilant so my eyes go everywhere anyways but I do just lock in on the bridge if there nose when I think I should be forced in them ti seem like I’m making eye contact without actually dong it. I also have some conditions besides just autism but I think the autism is what makes it so I can’t make eye contact, well I know that’s an autistic trait I just meant I don’t think that my other conditions have that trait as well but I could be wrong
3:26 SAME my imaginary friend was just someone from my pre k that we didn’t end up going to the same elementary school with so I forgot her bc i made new friends and for some reason my parents tease me about it???
You know I don't mind eye contact its a beautiful thing. I wish more people would be comfortable with it it's cool seeing different eye colors and stuff. Or maybe that's just me🤣.
Apparently prolonged eye contact for anyone makes us uncomfortable all they want when they say “eye contact” is to be looking in their direction I stare at the bridge of their nose most often Or their mouth if I’m really trying to listen bc k need to lip read to process what people say
Not only I kept eye contact in a weird way (which I'm still diligent to believe this is accurate, like... what? ain't no way I was doing it wrong), but also I'm never sure which eye I have to look at. It's always hard to choose. My mom is blind of one eye and I always find it a relief because there's only one option to chose... which eye do you guys choose when making eye contact?
Also, since I'm in the comments: Interoception check! Take a second to check in with yourself and see if you need, water, a snack, or you just need to get up and stretch or get in a more comfortable position :)
I always knew i function a bit differently and saw it as not being normal, or a good human even. Deep down i feel that im neurodivergend and am waiting to get a diagnose soon, but at the same time i feel like by thinking i am on the spectrum, im looking for excuses. Can anyone relate?
2:52 Someone: oh yeah there was this one girl who’s mom was gonna call the- Me: that one “I hate the dentist” jaiden animations video? Someone: HOW DID YOU KNOW I BARELY SAID ANYTHING Me: IDK
Why does one guy take up half the video? I ended up just not watching the rest of the video because I don’t want to be lectured about something I already know about from personal experience.
DISCLAIMER: Please refrain from making uneducated assumptions about an individual's diagnosis. You are allowed to express concern of whether you believe someone is faking or not, however, please refrain from leaving harmful comments regarding them. Autism is a spectrum. Everyone is different and exhibits different traits. You may or may not relate to these individuals and that is fine but do not assume that because you have traits that differ from them, they are not autistic! If an individual is proven to be faking or they have a negative reputation in the community, please feel free to respond to this post or private message me on my socials!
Also for clarification: Autism as well as any other neurodiversities represented in these videos are on a spectrum! Everyone is different! Do not use these videos as a means of diagnosing yourself or even questioning your diagnosis! Everyone will have different experiences and struggles! You are perfect the way you are and do not define yourself because a lot of autistic individuals don't like a food but you do, or you like wearing socks compared to those who don't! Be yourself and accept that we are all different!
The last one also probably stems from trauma, being constantly misunderstood, and perseveration. Perseveration isn't just an ADHD thing, but also you know how much ADHD and autism overlap.
Last tiktok made so much sense to me. It really opened my eyes, i used to see this "urge to overexplain" as an anxiety thing or like "pattern recognition fails" (like when i saw my ex-partner and i felt like something was wrong and they were not telling me truth about their feelings, so i would start to ask same things again and again until she was so annoyed she couldnt take it anymore). And i never though it was a meltdown thing really. Now i will really consider that as a sign and hopefully itll help me function a bit better
I feel the same way, and although I am not diagnosed woth autism I am seeing professionals about it, and I will take a test and all of that soon. Glad that there are more people put there who relate to that.
I do this, even when it isn't anxiety related. I'll basically get caught in a loop and not realize I'm saying the same/similar things over and over until someone points it out(and even then it doesn't seem to me like I was repeating myself). I feel like I'm terrible at expressing myself verbally, and maybe I didn't give all the details the first round as much as I would have liked. I always feel like I'm adding new and important information to what I'm trying to convey because I want to be fully understood. But... I just make people upset, especially if they are more impatient.
@Say-Palyanytsya i feel you, i have this urge to add more and more details. But over time i realised there's never enough details, and when i tried to stop focusing so much on details (forced myself basically), i noticed i really was saying same thing with different words, but i was so good at making details work i never considered viewing the whole picture. I still overexplain a lot, but now i can see it a bit more often and maybe can stop myself, before it overwhelms somebody else.
Ik but at the same time I was so snoyed at how he kept on moving the camera? ❤😂😅
1:25 Me who literally stares at people's lips while they're talking to me because I can hear them better when I can read thier lips.
have you gotten your hearing checked? I have auditory processing issues as part of my autism but recently learned I also have hearing loss and am in the process of getting hearing aids. I mean I'll probably still stare at lips because its more comfortable but its good to hopefully not have to someday.
@moonnoodles4539 Yeah! I actually have, and the docs said my hearing is perfect. I think for me, it's something to do with having a bunch of noises going on in the background and I'm better able to focus on what the person is saying if I can read thier lips.
@@jellybean_18same
Last tiktok is basically what I have been addressing in therapy, family therapy, and with friends. I realized having a certain baseline of trust and understanding with people that they do understand you and/or your struggles REALLY helps. Obvi this applies more to close friends or fam than it does strangers since well...baseline with strangers is kinda odd.
Does anyone else really REALLY struggle with videos that have typed words but different audio at the same time? Do you want me to READ or HEAR Janet? My brain can't do both at the same time.
Yes!😂 It's very confusing!
YES DUDE
Subtitles you can’t turn off are bad enough. If they are on screen, I will read them too quickly and spoil the audio for myself. When they don’t even match the audio, that should be considered a crime.
I always turn on subtitles bc it gives me something to focus on and to look at and i realised i often dont listen to the video at the end just reading the subtitles but i fjbd it rlly relaxing
YESSSS, got me pausing the video to read the text😢😢😢
3:54
This is the hardest thing right now. I have one to two meltdowns a day and I'm 26! It's not just embarrassing, it's exhausting.
Perhaps looking into Autistic burnout could be helpful. My partner AJ was experiencing that as well. We found out about burnout. Basically it occurs when negative masking and over stimulation become too much. So we began to proactively work on finding positive and effective stems to help as well as looking for what was causing the over stimulation. I hope this helps with your meltdowns.
2:52 SO IT ISN'T JUST ME!!! I was literally "reading" the audio in my mind for each tiktok. It's like a really specific kinda pattern recognition thing, I think. Makes listening to new songs for the first time very interesting, because somehow I can sing along to them, like my brain just knows??? It also happens with foreign languages too, ones I don't speak at all even. Movies and TV I tend to do it less, but short form content and IRL conversations it happens often.
Just another thing I can add to my "huh, I suppose it really must be Autism" list as I (self diagnosed but highly suggested by multiple mental health care professionals that I more than likely am, they just couldn't diagnose me officially) try not to have imposter syndrome about it lol
This. I've always had this as a kid to a point where I couldn't pay attention to the actual conversation because I was focused on knowing what they'd say next 😂
Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗
Dude I didn't know how bad I needed that. 😂
Take a breath!? No, can't do that too busy, too much to do, breathing is underrated anyway, who needs it, not me, nope, nuh uh, I sure do not, no breathing for me, I'll just keep on doing what I'm doing.
You take a deep breath, they are all yours.
@@staceyhunt6769 💜💜🤗🤗
Thank you❤❤❤
@@linse_das_sonnenbluemchen 💜💜🤗🤗
On the autism accent: Whenever I would read aloud in class, my teachers told me to slow down because nobody else could keep up.
That last one especially, really connected with me. Oh man.
Something I’m personally very upset about is that with attempting to get diagnosed I was told I “made eye contact and talked a lot.” I have been diagnosed with ADHD, but I still show signs of autism. Yes, I ramble and am able to make eye contact, although I feel like I struggle. I have had multiple meltdowns where I have gone completely nonverbal, physically unable to talk. I also need constant stimulation (mainly cause of ADHD). Something that hit me was how I completely mimicked the traits of one of my friends, like hand movements and the pitch of her tone. I realized that was not normal by any means, and I constantly think about my actions and how I attempt to fit in.
I am afab, which could be part of the problem in possible diagnosis. I know for sure I am not neurotypical and I find ways to handle it. I don’t like self diagnosing with myself, so that’s why I say I show behaviors such as masking that are very common amongst those who are autistic.
I am exactly like the tik tok with trying to fight autistic stereotypes lol
4:00 this. Makes. So. Much. Sense. I voiced to my parents that I am autistic(formerly diagnosed but they refuse to believe it.) and my parents where like “but you don’t do that rolls floor stuff when ur upset” and this. Makes. So. Much. Sense.
❤with the eye contact thing, neurotypicals will nod, make gestures and different micro facial expressions as non verbal comunication that deepens the verbal comunication. I was learning about and practicing reading eye accessing cues and started to pick up a lot of really subtle information being conveyed that i never noticed before. I never really had issues with eye contact but also wasn't really looking for this kind of information before.
Fair!
Well 2:18 this does indeed explain why my thought and speech patterns reflect what I have been reading lately. I read Shakespeare I think/talk/write Shakespeare. I read something with lots of cuss words I spend 2 weeks cussing everything out in my head with the 5 cuss words I know. Also I felt the forcing yourself to have an “imaginary friend” which is really strange because I actually have a VERY vivid imagination.
EXACTLY or when you hear a new/unusual word and use it like 5 times in a sentence
0:00 for me i am the✨fascinated with North Korea ✨autistic
3:09 😂😂 ezana bummy locky
Adult Autistic Meltdown guy has a lot of internalised abelism still.
If you, an adult, want to do something then it isn't childish.
If you, a human, have a desire then it IS a very human desire.
(I'm in the UK, for context - this isn't a "US Christian" driven thing) So, there's this quote from the bible that the headteacher of my secondary school put in my final report. It was 1 Corinthians 13:11 - "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." There are *implications* to that quote.
It took me a long time to find what I call the C. S. Lewis corollary. "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up."
Being an adult isn't being "not a child". It's having a mature view of things, including your interests, your desires and your passions. There's a reason we sometimes say that children are "very grown-up" when they display maturity in their thought processes - in a way, they really are being adults, and I've noticed that often, children can be far more mature about some things than the folks who've gone through puberty that they're supposedly less mature than.
@@malcolmdarke5299 Oooh. Needed. Thank you for contextualizing that.
Also saying that wanting to communicate through gestures isn’t human is very ableist and audist(discriminatory towards deaf people). ASL is a very real and human language that is beautiful and capable of expressing complex human ideas
0:53 So… you’re telling me… I DON’T have to gorge out someone’s soul when having a conversation with them? Wow, now, how do I fix the constant grimace on my face...
3:25
Wait, you’re supposed to just “go along with/believe in” imaginary friends. I just assumed that people with them also primarily thought about the fact they aren’t real and just worked hard to focus on stuff like the friend part and not forgetting that you imagined them in the first place.
I get into a meltdown when people make me explain my feelings. one day my mom brought us all out into the livingroom after a big fight with her boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) that consisted of screaming, throwing things, and hitting. she noticed I wasn't saying much so she was like. "Nova, since you aren't saying much then we aren't leaving this room until you talk about your feelings and thoughts. open up, tell us how you feel." after that I said I didn't know what I felt and that I didn't want to talk about it, but they all kept pestering me and insisting I tell them. So I start to explain very gradually and then I just can't speak anymore. it feels like everything is all overwhelming me at once and a whole bunch of tears start to spill out and the meltdown begins.
0:35 but its eye contact not around the eye contact... My life is a lie...
last tiktok rlly got me with the “wanting to hit your head” :/ i used to do that a lot as a kid when having a breakdown (often alone in my room bc i didn’t want my family to see me breaking down) it’s nice to know i’m not the only one
1:52 Ig that’s just one more thing autism explains about my life! I’ve always had a slight British accent, even though I’m completely American and, at the time I developed the accent, had never interacted with someone with a British accent in my life.
I think my comment was deleted but a video by Little Joel called “Eye contact TikTok” is a good response at 0:36
No but ''meow'' back at cats is something my dad always did. 😂
I find this helpful because I didn't realize how long i was masking thank you
that “autistic accent” is too accurate except i never found out i had a lisp until i was 11
Hehe, the autism accent is VERY me and my brother lol. We are both Scottish, but the way we speak sometimes, the way we say some words, is . . . Americanised, I guess. I assume it's because we consume a lot of American media. I've had customers at my job ask me where I'm from. "I'm from [insert hometown, the town we're currently in]." "Really?!" lol
2:13 I haven't noticed myself having an accent from elsewhere, however just yesterday, someone pointed out that I always just say Taylor instead of Taylor swift, which is apparently exclusive to swifties (which I am not)
0:33. With?! New revilation for me, imma go cry now 😭😭
3:27: OMG, it isn't just me?! That's an autistic thing?! Gosh, this diagnosis really explains a lot about me 😅
I thought it was just me! My accent is a weird mix of australian, cali, and southern with a pinch of english even though ive never stepped foot out of my home state of Georgia
I don’t think I have a specific _accent,_ but I’ve been told time and time again that I have a very unique _voice,_ sound like [cartoon character], should be a voice actor, etc. I have a loud and high-pitched voice because I developed a habit of speaking from my diaphragm as though I’m on stage. The characters I’ve been compared to most are Steven Universe, Peridot from Steven Universe, Mabel from Gravity Falls, and Velma from Scooby Doo. Interestingly, Peridot is canonically autistic. Huh.
That being said, one of my friends definitely has an autistic accent. He’s had a British accent since early childhood despite being born and raised in the U.S. and not having any British family or friends. It’s so strong that people continuously ask him what part of Britain he’s from. Nobody ever knew why, so some of us joked that he watched too much Peppa Pig as a kid. Although, thanks to this video, I think it’s likely an autistic accent.
That's not an accent, that's called cadence or speech patterns tho
i think some people just refer to it as an accent because it’s something that’s very common among autistic people. lots of terminology is often rephrased to explain it easier or make it more personal
3:25
I did this in middle school all the way up to 9th grade because I was so freakin lonely and I just pretended to talk to people. I would get upset when I remembered that I was literally just talking to myself
5:41 get this man a sensory swing and/or weighted blanket
i feel the same as the guy while im having meltdowns but it sometimes gets to a point to where im not just shouting anymore
2:10
I got obsessed with the DCEU Harley Quinn accent and studied how to do a Brooklyn accent.
Now I have a mix of basic American accent with Brooklyn tone and emphasis and energy….if that makes sense.
2:10 this is one of the most pronounced things for me, very fast, usually on the quite side, and veeery monotone, and i "dont sound like im from here" when ive lived here my whole life. also when i talk to people with noticeable accents i progressively mimic them by accident.
3:15 WHATTTT
until probably the last year i always looked at people’s lips, but didn’t really know why i did this. i didn’t really even think about it until one of my exes pointed it out. trying to make direct eye contact has been horrible, i find myself more confused and over-narrating in my head. im gonna go back to the lip thing, that has worked well my entire life. knowing i’m audhd, it all makes sense. i’m glad i didn’t question staring at people’s lips until the last year because real eye contact is so painful. the general face thing definitely helps because of course we take eye contact too literally xD
Wait, I forced myself to have an imaginary friend and got annoyed too. Why is that an autistic thing? Why is it the more I look into it, the more I realize everything I’ve ever done is an autistic thing?
0:18 OMG THIS!!! I TJOUGHT I WAS TRIPPINH CUZ IVE NEVER SEEN NOBODY ELSE TALK ABT THIS IT WAS SO WEIRD TO EXPLAIN THIS TO THE PERSON WHO DIAGNOSED ME
2:54 this just happened to me 3 hours ago during an argument….I. Can. Read. The. Future. I. Have. Psychic. Abilities
3:24 …..this right here is the most accurate thing to ever exist.
2:28 I really like the term Autism/Autistic accent! It’s very similar to the term “Deaf accent” (referring to noticeable differences in speech in someone who is Deaf).
People used to think I was from Wisconsin. I figured it was because I lived on the west coast but my mom’s side of the family, who I grew up with, are from Brooklyn NY. My accent was just a mix of the accents I heard frequently.
and neurotypical(/allistic) ppl dont experience that?
That last guy literally explained my whole life 😂 to the T
for those of you who like playing songs on repeat, or just like neat new things, you might like the eternal/infinite jukebox.
Ok, but what the guy said about the violent sign language instead of words is soooo true for me like. I thougt it was really weird that i felt that, and have never heard of anyone having that impulse before. I legit was gonna learn sign language bec like its so suffocating when you get it.
2:08 I knew I picked up on slang and accents a lot. Like anytime I hear an accent that isn't my own, I will just start speaking that way, even subtly. Sometimes I notice it, sometimes I don't. I speak with a southern accent a lot, and I'm nowhere near the south.
3:01 OMG THE LAST OF US I LOVE IT AHAHFJCJSJSJJFCJS it’s been my hyper fixation and now this I am so happy
The last Tiktoker saying that communicating non-verbally is a "not very human attribute" rubbed me the wrong way, as I felt like it invalidates deaf and HOH folks who use sign language to communicate. But aside from that, I felt very seen. 👀
When I touch something I hate the texture of, I cry a little and attack the object I remember when I was younger I touch the carpet I hated and I started hitting the floor aggressively😭
Oh my god... 3:54 is exactly what a meltdown usually looks like for me, I just thought I didn't have them often...
The imaginary friend one! I did that and seeing jist made me realize that's why!
Oh my gosh the accent one 😭😭😭
When I was a toddler, I am told I sounded German. For like a decade. I live in western USA. And I literally have memories of like 10 year old me paying attention to how local people said certain words and trying to copy that in order to “sound more normal” 😭😭😭
My mom is really not supportive of my self diagnosis that I have autism. She thinks I’m making it up for a pity party, her words not mine. She’s said a lot of not so nice things since I’ve told her. But there’s one thing she always calls me out on and I’ve learned it’s like a trait of autism & sometimes I want to kick this back in her face. She has told me for years that I speak to loud, because I can’t regulate my volume of my voice when I’m excited. And we both speak really fast so she doesn’t really notice that but other people do. I speak really quickly when I don’t think I have a lot of time to talk about some thing I want to talk about so I speed talk so I can see everything I want to say in a small amount of time. Or I do it all uncontrollably when I’m very upset or happy.
Honestly, a lot of my vocal stems and little habits that I used to do a lot of the time, or corrected now/mask because I was always told don’t do that that’s weird. Or I was told stop that’s inappropriate. And I learned not to do it. I still do it at times but it’s immediately told stop it so I immediately stop. because I don’t wanna get in trouble or yelled at.
Omg the over eye contact halp 😂.... mixed with sensory processing disorder is a disaster
Ive never had a unique experience in my life lmao
I'm from the west coast, and I have a weird kinda midwestern accent on several of my words. I say "gorl"/"gorlfriend" instead of girl or girlfriend, "aaahs" instead of both ice and eyes. I say "nermal" instead of normal, and I have other stuff, just can'r think of it rn
no way you just goo goobied me 💀 I JUST GOT OVER THAT STIM TOO 😂
GOO GOOBY 💀
3:45 "You're not autistic, you're just a little silly!"
"... And you act high when someone breathes a word about your favorite thing."
(Real story tho, one time, my friend mentioned something about Hazbin Hotel, my hyperfixation rn, and i apparently acted so weird that my other friend asked if i didn't intake anything. I thought i was acting normal though 😂)
the person at 2:13 scared me cause they're staring into my soul
Oh god the "I need to smother this fire with everything Ive got" feeling is so. painfully relatable to me. not really for relationships bc currently I have those fuckin Sorted but with like. minor frustrations that are the last straw???? I will literally dump all my remaining spoons into trying to Fix It (I know a lot about how to roll back software updates because of this. UI changes are malevolent To Me)
That second one really hit me right in the gut.
Them: “Be honest with me” I’m honest. Them: “Why are you being short with us?” *sigh*.
OMG I RELATE SOOOO HARD TO THE AUTISM ACCENT
I’m autistic and I ain’t told a sole. If I told my mates then I’d be bullied and kicked out. So far no one has caught on and only my mom knows. I was literally asked at the start of year 9 if I wanted teachers to inform everyone that I was autistic in assembly so everyone would treat me nicely. But if I accepted that then that would’ve been the end of my career
I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 21 but I knew I could never make eye contact, my parents even told me as a baby I would look away when people would look at me and refuse to make eye contact. Well I coped by looking at the persons ear and the last few years I’ve been looking at the bridge of there nose. Like looking at there eyes feels uncomfortable but I can look at any other part of there face. So at 1:00 are you telling me eye contact doesn’t mean looking at there eyes? Because I thought I was so I tried to fake eye contact by looking near there eyes but not actually at there eyes. Also I’m hyper vigilant so my eyes go everywhere anyways but I do just lock in on the bridge if there nose when I think I should be forced in them ti seem like I’m making eye contact without actually dong it. I also have some conditions besides just autism but I think the autism is what makes it so I can’t make eye contact, well I know that’s an autistic trait I just meant I don’t think that my other conditions have that trait as well but I could be wrong
3:26 SAME my imaginary friend was just someone from my pre k that we didn’t end up going to the same elementary school with so I forgot her bc i made new friends and for some reason my parents tease me about it???
Hahaha I did the imaginary friend thing. I tried… I did. But man, there I had me.
I stare at peoples’ lips when they talk! It’s how I pretend to make eye contact. I hope everyone doesn’t think I want to make out with them now 😂
Stare right between they eyes it at the forehead
3:10 is my favorite one
You know I don't mind eye contact its a beautiful thing. I wish more people would be comfortable with it it's cool seeing different eye colors and stuff. Or maybe that's just me🤣.
Omg so my autism accent is a thing 😮
3:38 this is way too real
Apparently prolonged eye contact for anyone makes us uncomfortable all they want when they say “eye contact” is to be looking in their direction
I stare at the bridge of their nose most often
Or their mouth if I’m really trying to listen bc k need to lip read to process what people say
i never realized that i always stared at people lips instead of their eyes till i started realizing that i might be neurodivergent.
Not only I kept eye contact in a weird way (which I'm still diligent to believe this is accurate, like... what? ain't no way I was doing it wrong), but also I'm never sure which eye I have to look at. It's always hard to choose. My mom is blind of one eye and I always find it a relief because there's only one option to chose... which eye do you guys choose when making eye contact?
SPECIAL INTRIST BRAKE
Under here just info dump about your special interest
Relatable
Also, since I'm in the comments: Interoception check! Take a second to check in with yourself and see if you need, water, a snack, or you just need to get up and stretch or get in a more comfortable position :)
YOU TOO YOU ABSOLUTE ICON !
I always knew i function a bit differently and saw it as not being normal, or a good human even. Deep down i feel that im neurodivergend and am waiting to get a diagnose soon, but at the same time i feel like by thinking i am on the spectrum, im looking for excuses. Can anyone relate?
2:52
Someone: oh yeah there was this one girl who’s mom was gonna call the-
Me: that one “I hate the dentist” jaiden animations video?
Someone: HOW DID YOU KNOW I BARELY SAID ANYTHING
Me: IDK
Right as he started talking, I wanted to say the video but I might have been wrong so I had to keep listening
Wait wait wait other kids actually believed that their imaginary friends were real?
3:09 is that emekuria on yt and Ezanaa on kick?
I used to be able to make really good eye contact but I can't make eye contact with other people anymore. Autism is confusing.
fun fact of the day: hannibal lecter is an aquarius
BIIIIITTTTCH, I notice flirting 5+ years later. We know. ...kinda. Just have to flirt with us on 1-2 years notice. We'll figure it out eventually.
can we make a YIPPEY Chane
first half of the video: diffretns videos
second half: the same video
3:54
Can anyone relate to light sensitivity?
I do !
Why does one guy take up half the video? I ended up just not watching the rest of the video because I don’t want to be lectured about something I already know about from personal experience.
😍🤩🥰
Yippee 🕺🕺🕺