Maganda sana mentality ni sir aqi kaso lang people have to recognize that there are those who grew up in a toxic family. Not everyone is privileged, not talking about financially but the privilege of having a safe space. Tama naman na you should move out for yourself and not against your parents. But it moving out to save yourself from that kind of damage lalo na you should live your own life is okay. Pwedeng madaan sa usapan to save the relationship but mahirap na talaga lalo na kung hindi ka susuportahan ng parents mo in any decision and keep you leashed. Sana lang maging open ka rin sir Aqi. You might want to ask why some children act this way and maybe you can also gain a deeper perspective if you listen to these people. Nevertheless, happy to find this video and goodluck in life!
I'm already 19, and I was planning of moving out since I was just a kid, seriously. I grew up in a nightmare house. Ilang beses na ako umalis sa bahay, but my mom always want to have me back at house that I thought I can call a "home" but no, I'm so tired of staying with my nagger and narcissist mom, so overprotective, I don't even know how to socialize, I'm an only child, I don't even have friends, I just wish I have someone who can support me from moving out, someone that will be there for me and someone who believes in me. I really have no one right now. But I'm so desperate to move out, I'm saving more money, and I have packed some of my important things, I'm planning to move out on October. I hope I could make it. Also, thank you for this video, it helps me and made me feel that I'm not alone. Thank you po ulit🥺🙏
Hi Snowzel medyo wala sa lugar kung magsalita ako for what you're going through. My hope is that things work out, I just want to say that even though medyo mahirap marinig to pero moving out isn't the solution to everything. It plays a huge role in helping you gain a sense of independence but outside of that mga emotional and social problems are best dealt with in other ways. Still, I hope it worked out for you and I'm glad my video helped.
@@snowzel2457 hope you can make a vlog about it ^^ I'm very interested with your life as I can somehow relate to some extent. Would love to connect with you if that's alright.
Some people are lucky to be independent at certain age, yung iba nakapag-aral na at may stable job, yung iba may kakayahan talaga mag move out because of their rich parents. in my case, I moved out from my parents when I was still studying in JHS, naalala ko 16 palang ako non. Umalis ako hindi dahil gusto, umalis ako because I have to. Mahirap sa probinsya and decided na umalis samen papuntang maynila para maghanap ng better opportunity I have done a lot of side jobs actually, I first stayed at my sister for two years(on,off) Pero basically parang nagrerent naren ako kase kelangn ko mag-ambag sa bills, rent pagkain etc. Nagtratrabaho ako non bilang service crew, luckily I was hired kahit na totoy pako non haha, pero expected na mababa sahod 180 per day, gabi trabaho umaga aral. walang support sa kapatid, magulang o kanino man. I was on my own, paalis-alis den ako sa ate ko that time kase masyadong demanding at lagi akong nadadamay when she was in a bad mood o nag-aaway sila ng bayaw ko there are times na minsan napapalayas den ako haha, lalo na kapag may mali ako sa utos na nya di nagawa. I decided to find another job na at the same time may tirahan at makakapag focus ako ng maayos. luckily nakahanap ako ng magbabantay sa computer shop and got immidiately hired,as mas mababa sahod pero oks na. after that the computer shop got closed kase humina, kaya nilipat ako sa motorparts center nila para magbantay, I wasn't able to continue kase hirap magfocus sa pag aaral minsan nagtratrabaho ako more than 12 hours at nag-aaral SHS. decided to go back from my sister and found a work as a gamer, the payment was good kaya nakapaghanp ako ng rentahang bahay na 500 a month. mahirap kase skwater area, madaming adik, magnanakaw, hiwalay ang cr. tiniis ko yun gang tumagal ako months lang. Luckily, landed a job in bpo, and after that I was able to rent a good room, was able to buy my dream bike, a laptop at nakakapag invest naden. planning to become a web design freelancer or kahit anong VA job. sorry sa mala mmk story bro, Idk if it's already relevant but anyways just to share my experiences on moving out and independence. I just shared it because most often nakikita ko sa socmed niro-romanticized ang pagiging independent o pag momove out, little did they know it's hard as fuck, some are lucky if they have rich parents or has a stable job pero moving out when its uncertain, or forcing yourself to do so is not rational dahil gusto molang magrebelde or any other reasons. thinking that prices of goods and commodities are spiking nowadays due to inflation and other stuff. There's a lot of pros and cons na kelangan ikonsider, but during those times I learned a lot and hoping I will learn more sa darating pang panahon.
hey pre! salamat sa kwento and actually sobrang na move din ako dun. I completely get yung iba iba circumstances ng mga tao some have it hard some have it easy, in the end kanya kanyang diskarte yan. Sobrang totoo din yung against ako dun sa gustong gawin tong decision na to para lang mag rebelde as I said dun sa video masmabilis pa sa alas otso babalik ka sa pinangalingan mo. There’s definitely a rational way to go about it. Kasi I think para kahit kanino anlaking bagay ng decision na to para sa personal development mo as a person. Yun lang naman pre, sobrang salamat sa pag share!
40 and single. Gustong-gusto to live independently. Pero dami nilang reasons to stop me like, mas delikado panahon ngayon, sayang ang bayad ng renta (ipunin ko nalang daw kesa umupa). Kaya 'til now, I feel so weak & I am not growing as a person. BTW, I didn't expect na may ganito palang video. Tnry ko lang i-search. Thanks!
I'm turning 30 soon and i really felt i t was time to move out na and grow personally, nung una para mas malapit lang sa pinapasukan ko, then it developed na to something more complex, this has been helpful.. hopefully by May ready set na to move, prepping nalang finances :)
I've been debating whether or not I should move out but the more I think about it, the more it looks like a bad idea. The cons just outweigh the pros. My job is literally a 15 minute jeep ride from my house, my dad cooks for me, I only have to clean my own room and wash my own clothes, my salary is 70% my own (the rest i give to my dad for groceries [though I also do groceries too] and internet fees). I don't have a good enough reason to move out. My biggest reason for wanting to do so is so that I can have some uninterrupted peace and quiet (even though I'm pretty much already mostly uninterrupted when I'm in my room). How the hell do I justify that. It sounds selfish and utterly unnecessary. I'm stuck in an unhappy loop. The worst part is that I'm not even sure if moving out will give me the satisfaction I'm expecting or if I'll be wasting thousands of pesos and still be miserable.
this has been really insightful, thank you for sharing. ngl, I carry a lot of resentment for my family but you're right, my reason shouldn't come rebelling. i'm gonna have to work on what I say lol
Love your voice! Make it about you and not against them. But I still find it disgusting that some people especially extended fam relatives, will make an issue about it. They’re making it look like living alone means freely inviting your boyfriend over and sasabihin “may kinakasama na” nag tanan na” nag “bahay bahayan”. They said those things when my sister moved out (not with her bf though). They know nothing.
Thanks so much Camille! at the end of it din kasi people will always have their own opinion on things happening to other peoples lives lalo na sa kultura natin, usually I see it as a sign that kung sinuman nagsasabi nun and gumagawa ng issue usually just doesn't have anything remotely interesting going on for them. Make the most mature choice you could and go about it as maturely and as adult as possible, then move on.
It's wild that such parents think they're entitled to have that much control over an adult's autonomy. Even if someone was living alone to have private fun time with their boyfriend/girlfriend, it's none of the parent's damn business because there's nothing inherently "bad" or "evil" about it since nobody is being victimized by it. But old fashioned minded parents just love to play victim when their adult offsprings exercise their right to go against their ideals.
22 yrs old and planning to move out soon, i just want to say THANK YOU! you're videos did enlighten me super!! and I think i have to rethink and analyze my decisions and plans in life ulit. more power sir! stay safe.
I'm at this edge 🤏🏻 right now to snapped up to my family. I'm stressed out and I admit that all I did is to study so well and help out in the house. I'm 18 years old and now under pressure to find a freaking job because my fucking 'brother' who's already 25 is a sloth. I'm sorry for sharing and I'm already mature enough to know this but I'm just too frustrated and burned out. I still don't have a part time job because of my summer school schedule. I really want now to move out so I will have my freedom and all but I'm scared. This may seem like a rebellious pace of mine but to be honest, I really don't care anymore.
Huy relate much ako sa mga sinabi mo! Ang hirap talaga mag paalam sa parents, ayaw talaga ako payagan but I insisted. I just moved out last April 1 and pinaprocess ko pa tong buhay na pinasok ko hahaha!
Ive been wanting to move out since the age of 13-14 im 16 right now starting senior high in a few weeks i want to save up a LOT and live far away (even considering moving/working in a different country, big dreams i know) since i want to get away from my parents and my whole family in general as if i never existed its an extreme word but i hate them from the bottom of my heart im the eldest of three but i dont want to be stuck here being the breadwinner and getting taken advantage of by my guilt tripping parents it sounds selfish yes i know you can even call me many more hateful things but its hard, if you were in my place and you're genuinely not ignorant of how disgustingly toxic my family can be you would also say that moving away far from them would be the most sane decision ever. Ive always felt stuck, not in control, always na inaalalayan, walang independence, and suffocated ive always dreaded and feared that i would end up like my uncles and be in their shoes i hated the thought of it Tl;Dr: I wanna move out cuz of a shitty family and i want to be able to do something significant for my life and be independent.
hey pre! i’m not going to begin to pretend to know where your coming from and the way I see it you simply wanted to vent and let your feelings be heard. I hear you man, hindi ako babanat ng advice or anything. i’ll just say I get it, it’s tough and you seem to have at least a rough idea of where you wanna be. Good luck pre!
@@aqicamagong Thank you for being considerate, and yeah let's just say i was in a weird headspace when i typed my comment and came off as very "vent-y" (?) and totally forgot to add the obligatory "sorry vent" text at the end, though my feelings haven't changed at any way since its my literal life goal to move out but i have a much clearer mind today and im just physically cringing reading back lol. Again thank you im definitely gonna keep a look out for your new videos from now on sir aqi!
ayo. same. im 27 now and doing whatever the fuck i want lol. moved out when i was 19. but before i moved out I made decisions that i cannot do the things a teen would usually do like study (nasira pamilya namin dahil sa kabit and i did not have the chance to finish college kasi wala na pera lmao) or enjoy some of the things we want and need. you need to get some useful skills that you can use when you move out. prepare and work part time and save money kahit gano kaliit and when you decide to go. you'll be free and not worry about your future. also when you work make sure that the place you are working at is hindi abusado and low paying job (dapat laging temporrary jobs yan and settle for bpo work muna for higher pay but stressful pero maraming opportunities for good companies at laging mag apply kahit hindi mo kelangan) laging may upskills laging may pag hahasa ng skill and jump form one job to another to support your self until the salary you have is more than enough for you. and if you are studying and have the chance to go to college MAKE SURE na matapos mo kahit di mo gusto kurso mo, malay mo maka tulong sayo or can take a temporary job from that course and use the money for what you really want to do. to get what we want is to sacrifice some things and that shit is hard. but you'll get to where you want to be because you did it by your self. also live below your means pero have fun once in a while. i wish you the best sa journey mo :D there's gonna be alot of sad moments but it will be alright.
i really wanna have my own place already. pero after calculating the prices/cost of what i need every month, natakot ako. kasi my estimated salary from the jobs i most likely to get once i graduate college isnt enough. kahit na mag-ipon ako for 2 years while i live in my parent's home, it's still scary to move out since grabe talaga gastusin. imagine 80k a month. di pa sure yun. 100k talaga need ko per month if i need to live on my own. kasama kasi jan gastusin sa basic needs ko, car, yung house, yung electricity, water, phone, etc. im so scareddd. if im gonna rely sa sweldo. d ko talaga kaya. tangina ng buhay, bakit kasi ang baba ng sweldo sa pilipinas tapos ang high class ng requirements. buti pa sa US. you can literally be stable just having a fast-food chain job. idk what to prioritize first. lahat kelangan at the same time 😭😭😭 literally an engineering degree isnt enough 😭😭😭
I'm 18 and in my 20 I know I will move out. I am too exhausted with my own fam. hinihintay ko na lang talaga magkapagtapos at least high school para more chances of work and side hustles.....
Most Filipino parents are toxic enough to misconstrue moving out as an affront against their own being. With this in mind, it's hard to move out as a Filipino without having gotten pregnant/getting someone pregnant. Even in those circumstances, it's a toxic reason to move out of the house. Filipino parents are still unable to grasp that moving out for the sake of oneself and not against them.
Thank you for this im 17 years old right now, im planning to work abroad (us) after i finish my studies luckily my parents always says to me that na "pagbutihan mo pag aaral mo kasi para sayo din yan di para samin" and im really disappointed about my brother and sister having a child when they're not even financially stable so yun lang sorry sa rant
Grabe! Nasa-30s na ako and I still cant move out kasi breadwinner ako. 😭 Also, I would like to spend time with my Mom. Alam nating mabilis ang buhay kaya torn ako kung panahon na bang umalis sa bahay. 😔
Hey Charles! no worries naman it's definitely not a race. As I said din dun sa video unfortuantely wala rin akong mabibigay na tulong for breadwinners kasi I know na your case is completely different. I do hope things work out for you tho!
hey pre congrats! i’ll add na lang siguro na essential din yung emergency fund. it’s one of the first things na pinagipunan ko bago ako lumipat and it helped me survive through a lay off ng hindi na stress. again tho congrats! kaya mo yan pre!
moving out soon, and im pretty much just on the fence about telling my (very) abusive father about that ngl on one hand, i could give him the courtesy of letting him know before i move all my stuff on the other,, 😵
Hey man, as I said dun sa vid if you make this decision because you want to rebel to some extent I don't think it'll do well for you but hey iba yung circumstances mo and I think it'll be best to go with how you feel. Ako personally it didn't really matter to my parents what I did, sinabi ko na lang sa tatay siguro mga 2 weeks into living here 😅
Hey kuya Aqi, if I may ask though, aren't you legally allowed to do anything you want from 18 since you're an emancipated individual by that point? So it'd be needless for the difficult conversation, or the permission of your parents when you can just tell them about it regardless of their response and move out when you want to?
True, in most cases sana ganun pero unfortunately due na lang din siguro sa conservative culture here sa Philippines the idea of emancipation isn't actually too common. So for most people as sad as it is kaylangan pa rin ng permission :(
Most Filipino parents do still oblige themselves to fund for their emancipated teens' education so there's still a hidden 'utang na loob' that can't be severed too easily, which makes sense for the ambiguity behind the idea of it. Thanks kuya for replying, I'll have to carefully scheme for getting my independence as best and soon as I could.
Actually one of the topics I have lined up is talking about being an adult in the Philippines though most likely 3rd week of July ko pa sya ma-rerelease. Hopefully may matulong yung insight ko dun even if onti lang.
Kung nasa toxic family ka talaga, palaging rebelde naman tingin sayo :'>
Sad...tho depende rin minsan kasi pwedeng ganun tingin mong tingin nila sayo.
Maganda sana mentality ni sir aqi kaso lang people have to recognize that there are those who grew up in a toxic family. Not everyone is privileged, not talking about financially but the privilege of having a safe space. Tama naman na you should move out for yourself and not against your parents. But it moving out to save yourself from that kind of damage lalo na you should live your own life is okay. Pwedeng madaan sa usapan to save the relationship but mahirap na talaga lalo na kung hindi ka susuportahan ng parents mo in any decision and keep you leashed. Sana lang maging open ka rin sir Aqi. You might want to ask why some children act this way and maybe you can also gain a deeper perspective if you listen to these people. Nevertheless, happy to find this video and goodluck in life!
I'm already 19, and I was planning of moving out since I was just a kid, seriously. I grew up in a nightmare house. Ilang beses na ako umalis sa bahay, but my mom always want to have me back at house that I thought I can call a "home" but no, I'm so tired of staying with my nagger and narcissist mom, so overprotective, I don't even know how to socialize, I'm an only child, I don't even have friends, I just wish I have someone who can support me from moving out, someone that will be there for me and someone who believes in me. I really have no one right now. But I'm so desperate to move out, I'm saving more money, and I have packed some of my important things, I'm planning to move out on October. I hope I could make it. Also, thank you for this video, it helps me and made me feel that I'm not alone. Thank you po ulit🥺🙏
Hi Snowzel medyo wala sa lugar kung magsalita ako for what you're going through. My hope is that things work out, I just want to say that even though medyo mahirap marinig to pero moving out isn't the solution to everything. It plays a huge role in helping you gain a sense of independence but outside of that mga emotional and social problems are best dealt with in other ways. Still, I hope it worked out for you and I'm glad my video helped.
If you have the resources, go ahead. If you don't, stay in your mom's place until you get everything you need to live on your own.
Living with roommates is also a viable option. You can split the rent cost 3 way.
I'm already 21, and have moved out at the age of 20😊 that was a hard journey but I've made it and it was one of the best decisions I've made.🥰
@@snowzel2457 hope you can make a vlog about it ^^ I'm very interested with your life as I can somehow relate to some extent. Would love to connect with you if that's alright.
I'm turning 21, and it's hard to get off my moms side. i feel like we're on a leash. she'd say we're free but we're really not.
That's collectivistic culture in a nutshell.
Some people are lucky to be independent at certain age, yung iba nakapag-aral na at may stable job, yung iba may kakayahan talaga mag move out because of their rich parents. in my case, I moved out from my parents when I was still studying in JHS, naalala ko 16 palang ako non. Umalis ako hindi dahil gusto, umalis ako because I have to. Mahirap sa probinsya and decided na umalis samen papuntang maynila para maghanap ng better opportunity I have done a lot of side jobs actually, I first stayed at my sister for two years(on,off) Pero basically parang nagrerent naren ako kase kelangn ko mag-ambag sa bills, rent pagkain etc. Nagtratrabaho ako non bilang service crew, luckily I was hired kahit na totoy pako non haha, pero expected na mababa sahod 180 per day, gabi trabaho umaga aral. walang support sa kapatid, magulang o kanino man. I was on my own, paalis-alis den ako sa ate ko that time kase masyadong demanding at lagi akong nadadamay when she was in a bad mood o nag-aaway sila ng bayaw ko there are times na minsan napapalayas den ako haha, lalo na kapag may mali ako sa utos na nya di nagawa. I decided to find another job na at the same time may tirahan at makakapag focus ako ng maayos. luckily nakahanap ako ng magbabantay sa computer shop and got immidiately hired,as mas mababa sahod pero oks na. after that the computer shop got closed kase humina, kaya nilipat ako sa motorparts center nila para magbantay, I wasn't able to continue kase hirap magfocus sa pag aaral minsan nagtratrabaho ako more than 12 hours at nag-aaral SHS. decided to go back from my sister and found a work as a gamer, the payment was good kaya nakapaghanp ako ng rentahang bahay na 500 a month. mahirap kase skwater area, madaming adik, magnanakaw, hiwalay ang cr. tiniis ko yun gang tumagal ako months lang. Luckily, landed a job in bpo, and after that I was able to rent a good room, was able to buy my dream bike, a laptop at nakakapag invest naden. planning to become a web design freelancer or kahit anong VA job.
sorry sa mala mmk story bro, Idk if it's already relevant but anyways just to share my experiences on moving out and independence. I just shared it because most often nakikita ko sa socmed niro-romanticized ang pagiging independent o pag momove out, little did they know it's hard as fuck, some are lucky if they have rich parents or has a stable job pero moving out when its uncertain, or forcing yourself to do so is not rational dahil gusto molang magrebelde or any other reasons. thinking that prices of goods and commodities are spiking nowadays due to inflation and other stuff. There's a lot of pros and cons na kelangan ikonsider, but during those times I learned a lot and hoping I will learn more sa darating pang panahon.
hey pre! salamat sa kwento and actually sobrang na move din ako dun. I completely get yung iba iba circumstances ng mga tao some have it hard some have it easy, in the end kanya kanyang diskarte yan. Sobrang totoo din yung against ako dun sa gustong gawin tong decision na to para lang mag rebelde as I said dun sa video masmabilis pa sa alas otso babalik ka sa pinangalingan mo. There’s definitely a rational way to go about it. Kasi I think para kahit kanino anlaking bagay ng decision na to para sa personal development mo as a person. Yun lang naman pre, sobrang salamat sa pag share!
@@aqicamagong Indeed bro, at the end of the day we have to solve our own problems and there's no one to rely other than ourselves. You're welcome!
40 and single. Gustong-gusto to live independently. Pero dami nilang reasons to stop me like, mas delikado panahon ngayon, sayang ang bayad ng renta (ipunin ko nalang daw kesa umupa). Kaya 'til now, I feel so weak & I am not growing as a person. BTW, I didn't expect na may ganito palang video. Tnry ko lang i-search. Thanks!
It’s not too late. You can do it.
I feel you girl. 😢
I'm turning 30 soon and i really felt i t was time to move out na and grow personally, nung una para mas malapit lang sa pinapasukan ko, then it developed na to something more complex, this has been helpful.. hopefully by May ready set na to move, prepping nalang finances :)
That's great to hear man! Might make a video about that next 😅
2am na ako nakatulog last night, dahil sa pag-iisip ng ganito.
Love this! Hopefully to be financially & mentally ready soon. My goal is to move out this year. Wish me luck!
Hopefully may naitulong tong video ng slight, Good luck! 😊
I've been debating whether or not I should move out but the more I think about it, the more it looks like a bad idea. The cons just outweigh the pros. My job is literally a 15 minute jeep ride from my house, my dad cooks for me, I only have to clean my own room and wash my own clothes, my salary is 70% my own (the rest i give to my dad for groceries [though I also do groceries too] and internet fees). I don't have a good enough reason to move out. My biggest reason for wanting to do so is so that I can have some uninterrupted peace and quiet (even though I'm pretty much already mostly uninterrupted when I'm in my room). How the hell do I justify that. It sounds selfish and utterly unnecessary. I'm stuck in an unhappy loop. The worst part is that I'm not even sure if moving out will give me the satisfaction I'm expecting or if I'll be wasting thousands of pesos and still be miserable.
Same bro. I have days that I wanted to stay but I sometimes I also imagine what would happen if I move out.
I salute you for doing this! I'm turning 36 now and hopefully in the next 2 years I can save to finally move out!
this has been really insightful, thank you for sharing. ngl, I carry a lot of resentment for my family but you're right, my reason shouldn't come rebelling. i'm gonna have to work on what I say lol
Glad to have helped!
Love your voice! Make it about you and not against them. But I still find it disgusting that some people especially extended fam relatives, will make an issue about it. They’re making it look like living alone means freely inviting your boyfriend over and sasabihin “may kinakasama na” nag tanan na” nag “bahay bahayan”. They said those things when my sister moved out (not with her bf though). They know nothing.
Thanks so much Camille! at the end of it din kasi people will always have their own opinion on things happening to other peoples lives lalo na sa kultura natin, usually I see it as a sign that kung sinuman nagsasabi nun and gumagawa ng issue usually just doesn't have anything remotely interesting going on for them. Make the most mature choice you could and go about it as maturely and as adult as possible, then move on.
It's wild that such parents think they're entitled to have that much control over an adult's autonomy. Even if someone was living alone to have private fun time with their boyfriend/girlfriend, it's none of the parent's damn business because there's nothing inherently "bad" or "evil" about it since nobody is being victimized by it. But old fashioned minded parents just love to play victim when their adult offsprings exercise their right to go against their ideals.
22 yrs old and planning to move out soon, i just want to say THANK YOU! you're videos did enlighten me super!! and I think i have to rethink and analyze my decisions and plans in life ulit. more power sir! stay safe.
Thank you so much Jenny! that means a lot!
I'm at this edge 🤏🏻 right now to snapped up to my family. I'm stressed out and I admit that all I did is to study so well and help out in the house. I'm 18 years old and now under pressure to find a freaking job because my fucking 'brother' who's already 25 is a sloth. I'm sorry for sharing and I'm already mature enough to know this but I'm just too frustrated and burned out. I still don't have a part time job because of my summer school schedule. I really want now to move out so I will have my freedom and all but I'm scared. This may seem like a rebellious pace of mine but to be honest, I really don't care anymore.
I just move out at the age of 25 and still adjusting…… very insightful for us newbie in this new life adventure …..
congrats on taking the step pre!
The knock scared the shit out of me
To become more independent and to live in a more quiet place
Huy relate much ako sa mga sinabi mo! Ang hirap talaga mag paalam sa parents, ayaw talaga ako payagan but I insisted. I just moved out last April 1 and pinaprocess ko pa tong buhay na pinasok ko hahaha!
Ive been wanting to move out since the age of 13-14 im 16 right now starting senior high in a few weeks i want to save up a LOT and live far away (even considering moving/working in a different country, big dreams i know) since i want to get away from my parents and my whole family in general as if i never existed its an extreme word but i hate them from the bottom of my heart im the eldest of three but i dont want to be stuck here being the breadwinner and getting taken advantage of by my guilt tripping parents it sounds selfish yes i know you can even call me many more hateful things but its hard, if you were in my place and you're genuinely not ignorant of how disgustingly toxic my family can be you would also say that moving away far from them would be the most sane decision ever. Ive always felt stuck, not in control, always na inaalalayan, walang independence, and suffocated ive always dreaded and feared that i would end up like my uncles and be in their shoes i hated the thought of it
Tl;Dr: I wanna move out cuz of a shitty family and i want to be able to do something significant for my life and be independent.
hey pre! i’m not going to begin to pretend to know where your coming from and the way I see it you simply wanted to vent and let your feelings be heard. I hear you man, hindi ako babanat ng advice or anything. i’ll just say I get it, it’s tough and you seem to have at least a rough idea of where you wanna be. Good luck pre!
@@aqicamagong Thank you for being considerate, and yeah let's just say i was in a weird headspace when i typed my comment and came off as very "vent-y" (?) and totally forgot to add the obligatory "sorry vent" text at the end, though my feelings haven't changed at any way since its my literal life goal to move out but i have a much clearer mind today and im just physically cringing reading back lol. Again thank you im definitely gonna keep a look out for your new videos from now on sir aqi!
ayo. same. im 27 now and doing whatever the fuck i want lol.
moved out when i was 19. but before i moved out I made decisions that i cannot do the things a teen would usually do like study (nasira pamilya namin dahil sa kabit and i did not have the chance to finish college kasi wala na pera lmao) or enjoy some of the things we want and need.
you need to get some useful skills that you can use when you move out. prepare and work part time and save money kahit gano kaliit and when you decide to go. you'll be free and not worry about your future.
also when you work make sure that the place you are working at is hindi abusado and low paying job (dapat laging temporrary jobs yan and settle for bpo work muna for higher pay but stressful pero maraming opportunities for good companies at laging mag apply kahit hindi mo kelangan) laging may upskills laging may pag hahasa ng skill and jump form one job to another to support your self until the salary you have is more than enough for you.
and if you are studying and have the chance to go to college MAKE SURE na matapos mo kahit di mo gusto kurso mo, malay mo maka tulong sayo or can take a temporary job from that course and use the money for what you really want to do.
to get what we want is to sacrifice some things and that shit is hard.
but you'll get to where you want to be because you did it by your self.
also live below your means pero have fun once in a while.
i wish you the best sa journey mo :D there's gonna be alot of sad moments but it will be alright.
i feel you bro, in the eldest too and you described fully what i am experiencing
Found this while planning to move out, big up man 🙏
Thanks man! hopefully maysaysay naman mga pinagsasabi ko 😅
Hoping you make more vidoes man 🙏
@@raiiinmusic Hoping rin pre 😅 but I am cooking something up tagal malaga eh 😆
Insightful for someone younger than me. Good job bro. Hoping to move out this year
Good luck pre!
Thank you for this! Napaka hirap gawin nito specially for breadwinners like me. :(
Yeah, unfortunately. Kaya na-clarify ko sa vid yun ☹️
i really wanna have my own place already. pero after calculating the prices/cost of what i need every month, natakot ako. kasi my estimated salary from the jobs i most likely to get once i graduate college isnt enough. kahit na mag-ipon ako for 2 years while i live in my parent's home, it's still scary to move out since grabe talaga gastusin. imagine 80k a month. di pa sure yun. 100k talaga need ko per month if i need to live on my own. kasama kasi jan gastusin sa basic needs ko, car, yung house, yung electricity, water, phone, etc. im so scareddd. if im gonna rely sa sweldo. d ko talaga kaya. tangina ng buhay, bakit kasi ang baba ng sweldo sa pilipinas tapos ang high class ng requirements. buti pa sa US. you can literally be stable just having a fast-food chain job. idk what to prioritize first. lahat kelangan at the same time 😭😭😭
literally an engineering degree isnt enough 😭😭😭
I'm 18 and in my 20 I know I will move out. I am too exhausted with my own fam. hinihintay ko na lang talaga magkapagtapos at least high school para more chances of work and side hustles.....
Most Filipino parents are toxic enough to misconstrue moving out as an affront against their own being. With this in mind, it's hard to move out as a Filipino without having gotten pregnant/getting someone pregnant. Even in those circumstances, it's a toxic reason to move out of the house.
Filipino parents are still unable to grasp that moving out for the sake of oneself and not against them.
Thank you for this im 17 years old right now, im planning to work abroad (us) after i finish my studies luckily my parents always says to me that na "pagbutihan mo pag aaral mo kasi para sayo din yan di para samin" and im really disappointed about my brother and sister having a child when they're not even financially stable so yun lang sorry sa rant
no probs pre
Hopefully Makakamoveout na This Year.
Same! WFH! I'm thinking about moving out na this month.
Good luck on your journey Lind say!
Yes very difficult.
Grabe! Nasa-30s na ako and I still cant move out kasi breadwinner ako. 😭 Also, I would like to spend time with my Mom. Alam nating mabilis ang buhay kaya torn ako kung panahon na bang umalis sa bahay. 😔
Hey Charles! no worries naman it's definitely not a race. As I said din dun sa video unfortuantely wala rin akong mabibigay na tulong for breadwinners kasi I know na your case is completely different. I do hope things work out for you tho!
Sana someday meron akong lakas ng loob, gaya ng sayo.
Relate sa topic na ito.
Bakit parang naiiyak ako?
I moved out this year still struggling haha though my work naman kaso hindi ka parin sure jan bes need ng side income just in case mawalan ka ng work.
hey pre congrats! i’ll add na lang siguro na essential din yung emergency fund. it’s one of the first things na pinagipunan ko bago ako lumipat and it helped me survive through a lay off ng hindi na stress. again tho congrats! kaya mo yan pre!
thank you for the insight ❤️
Thanks Aqi.
nice vid i like the aesthetic & the topic of this video coz im currently moving out and i think this vid help me a lot ! btw new subs here!
That's means a lot. Salamats! Thank you for subscribing even though 7 months old na tong video na to 😅
@@aqicamagong hindi ko napansin ih nood lng ako ng nood hahaha! keep it up!
Hello! I like the audio so much! Just want to ask what the brand of your mic is and where did you buy it? Thanks!
Thank you!
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2:41 OMG! kala ko talaga may kumatok sa pinto ko, watching your vid in the night. Grabe
Love your content po! ✨
Thank you so much!
I'm moving out soon at the age of 22...
Im just saving up some money bfore leaving.
this is very helpful!
Glad na may naitulong!
I'm moving out next month, goodluck to me, I'm only 20 yrs old
Hey man! good luck! hopefully things go well! 💪
I just want move out but i can’t
Very well said! :)
Thank you! 😊
Haha gusto ko yung walis ng Nanay 😂
I'm think to move at 18 kaso baka pag nag paalam ako baka palayasin lang ako
eh di win-win aalis ka naman din 😂
ang dami naman pala natin....
2:40 jeez akala ko may kumatok talaga haha
Bago lang sa channel mo sir
Welcome pre!
@@aqicamagong it’s my pleasure Brother
@@aqicamagong alam mo pwede ka sa mga seminar.
Maging speaker or motivator.
Nag follow ako sa IG mo brother
moving out soon, and im pretty much just on the fence about telling my (very) abusive father about that ngl
on one hand, i could give him the courtesy of letting him know before i move all my stuff
on the other,, 😵
Hey man, as I said dun sa vid if you make this decision because you want to rebel to some extent I don't think it'll do well for you but hey iba yung circumstances mo and I think it'll be best to go with how you feel. Ako personally it didn't really matter to my parents what I did, sinabi ko na lang sa tatay siguro mga 2 weeks into living here 😅
Hey kuya Aqi, if I may ask though, aren't you legally allowed to do anything you want from 18 since you're an emancipated individual by that point? So it'd be needless for the difficult conversation, or the permission of your parents when you can just tell them about it regardless of their response and move out when you want to?
True, in most cases sana ganun pero unfortunately due na lang din siguro sa conservative culture here sa Philippines the idea of emancipation isn't actually too common. So for most people as sad as it is kaylangan pa rin ng permission :(
Most Filipino parents do still oblige themselves to fund for their emancipated teens' education so there's still a hidden 'utang na loob' that can't be severed too easily, which makes sense for the ambiguity behind the idea of it. Thanks kuya for replying, I'll have to carefully scheme for getting my independence as best and soon as I could.
Actually one of the topics I have lined up is talking about being an adult in the Philippines though most likely 3rd week of July ko pa sya ma-rerelease. Hopefully may matulong yung insight ko dun even if onti lang.
Do you have podcast?
Used to...pero di na active ngayon. I think nakatambak pa somewhere sa Spotify 😅
Hello! New subscrber here!!!
Welcome to the club pre! 🍻