All Empaths Have These 3 Personality Traits
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Empaths will theoretically score high in these three personality traits of the Big 5 Scale.
The Big 5 is the only personality test that is considered scientific at this time.
The five traits are:
Openness to Experience
Conscientiousness
Extroversion
Agreeableness
Neuroticism
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Oh Boy Franky! Well I didn't pay, but I took free test. Lol I don't think I'm very happy with results..lmao O= 81%, C= 50%, E= 37.5%, A= 73%, N= 50%...
I've been trying to push myself to be more logical, instead my empath abilities are skyrocketing. The caretaking I can understand, I am a mother most times, and not always to my own children; bad habit of mothering others who need help. With empath I feel others emotions like my own which is kinda right on, I can usually tell what a person needs, an I try to provide that support in most cases; using my judging to determine if it's true or not. Kinda okay with C & N being right on the 50% mark, cause ahh it could be worse...lol The extraversion I have been working on, but I can see with mbti having me at Infj why that wouldn't be high. Plus I spend most of my time alone inside my own mind. My skills in articulation have been improving, but I'm usually using it to relate to others, an seeking how they feel about a situation. Agreeableness is whatever, it is said in most science based studies women tend to dominate this personality anyways.
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Oh yeah definitely easy on the eyes . Total infj which is my kryptonite.
"people who are high-" "yes" "-in agreeableness" "...also yes"
lol everyone's ragging on me for my long pauses 😂
Same.
I am both high and agreeable. Empath confirmed.
@@FrankJames That pesky Ti
"Very high" also also yes
I've always said empathy is the greatest blessing and curse. We can see the beauty and good in everything, but are cut so deeply by the vile emptiness that also fills the Earth.
That’s a beautiful way to describe it. It does feel like a blessing and a curse. Especially when most of your family are not empaths at all. Setting boundaries has always been a problem until I started to resent myself for not standing up for myself enough. But I still struggle with it, because when I’m not agreeable, I tend to take it to the other extreme. I get angry when I sense someone is taking advantage of my kindness.
Learning boundaries and standing up for myself has been one of the hardest life lessons for me to learn as an Empath but it's gotten better since I've worked on it.
Im not an empath but i still struggle with this.
Same.
I am making baby steps. It's hard.
Yes it’s difficult but so worth the hard work
I am a very disagreeable infj. I score high in neuroticism and openness. I used to be the most agreeable person and now I have gone the opposite side after encountering so many narcisists and being bullied.
Chalk up another infj with lower agreeableness as I've gotten older. For most of my life, I was a pushover. It took being utterly decimated by a cheating partner for me to find my footing and learn how to stick up for myself. I'm probably still a pushover in a lot of ways, but I think you can be a disagreeable infj if you've developed your Ti enough to know that it doesn't make good logical sense to be so agreeable all the time.
@@DanielDavidAllenChannel Oh yeah true that. I believe it's when you have made peace with your darkness. If someone meets me they are probably going to assume I'm intp or intj, but nope got ni-ti.
Same. You can learn to be one of the least aggreeable people if taken advantage of enough. It's to the point now when I see someone who has controlling tendencies, I already know I'm gunna be their biggest pet peeve because I know how to lay boundaries and they see me as "extremely stubborn". They hate it
@@heatherleethomas4886 Haha yeah they do want someone to walk all over. I try not to be that person. But I also think it's about putting yourself in an environment where it's ok to be agreeable and people won't take advantage of you because of your agreeableness. I actually want to become more agreeable now. I felt for a while that I was turning into a mini Hitler (the most disagreeable infj) so now I'm trying reach a point where I can choose to be agreeable or disagreeable depending on the situation.
I score fairly high on agreeableness and really high on openness which makes sense...I hate confrontation and love discussing ideas and philosophies. However, I would not describe myself as a pushover, generally speaking. I have my limits, and my fault lies in maybe not making those boundaries clear enough to people.
I've been working on that recently though. So much so that one of my new life mottos is: "if you don't show people where your boundaries lie, they will cross them." As a non-confrontational person, my way of showing them a subject is not to be discussed with me can be perceived as passive-agressive (my main strategy is to just leave the room whenever I feel uncomfortable, letting the person/people know why I am doing so), but it's proven to be surprisingly effective.
3 traits:
1. Yup.
2. Yup.
3. YUUUUUP
Nodding along to everything lol
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Same 😆 I almost didn't recognize him. I couldn't even look at him without blushing 😂 I'm okay now 👌🏼
Oh. I’d date him... Iv always crushed on him..... but that look now..... yum.
Seems spot on. (INFP)
We be vidin
Yeah im infp-t and we are empaths but we also are confused with laziness
The thing is we are not lazy
We just do whatever our gut wants since we use more feeling instead of thinking
The fact we are introverts gives me this unseen vibe about us..... Idk
Like a silent rebel
"now being high............................in openness to experience"
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Being an ENFP empath is so hard 😔 I always want to help everyone, but I can never help myself, but when I try to talk to my friends, I feel like I'm being a burden to them, and that makes me feel even worse about myself 😔💔
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I hope things get better for you. Being an empath is soooo hard sometimes…but I guess I wouldn’t change it even if I could. PS How did you know that you’re an ENFP empath? Is there a test I can take to determine what kind I am? ❤
I'm so agreeable that I'm going along with people before they even know where they're going.
Damn son, this is me. I just left a 2 year relationship with a Narc, which is apparently common for unhealthy INFJ/Empaths. It however has given me a spiritual awakening. I was swallowed whole but I'm coming back with a very different view on life 🌈🕉️
That's crazy bro... Me too same story it was a ride until I started seeking the truth cuz I could put my finger on it and It explains why I felt cursed all my life
@@zerobutim1009 what a good way to describe it, "cursed all your life". I never understood why I attracted or gravitated towards so many unhealthy and dangerous people until the pain separated me from myself so I could be objective.
Interestingly enough my letters have changed as I've changed :). I am now INFP
I'm going through this now. It's a very valuable but very costly lesson. Takes a lot of strength to continue and learn to trust again ❤️
This is exactly happened with me. 🥺🥺🥺 I went through so much pain because he dump me like this, that happened so sudden that i even couldn't figure out in the starting & i was thinking i am wrong so he left me, i was clinging to him to save the relationship but he said you're nothing to me and blocked me. And he called me narcissistic because i was calling him, I was very unaware and i become so sad by thinking this that i am narcissist 🙁.... but then i started reading about Human Pyschology and Sprituality then i understood that i wasn't bad but i was Manipulated* emotionally. But in this process i got my Spritual Awakening and Self awareness.. 🥲
so awesome ♥️ @@the_free_Soul
These feel pretty spot on. As a young kid, I was always told I was “too sensitive” and it seemed like such a bad thing, but I didn’t understand what being an empath is. For a while as an adult I viewed it as a curse more than a gift, but I was talking to my younger brother one day and he was telling me about what he described as his “super power” to be able to connect with people because he could feel what they’re feeling- happy or sad. I hadn’t ever thought of it like that, but it made me appreciate having empathy for people.
This totally explains those moments I have when I think "This isn't my feelings, I just want to cry because my mum is feeling sad."
The whole compassion to a fault thing is a magnet to narcissists. I'm dealing with that fallout right now and it hurts like hell. Makes me want to shut down, become a hermit.
Icatz. The fault lies in ourselves. We need to know where our emotions stop, and others begin. We need to recognize other personality traits, and intent. Without protection, this is dangerous to us. It is a gift, not a fault. Gifts need to be tempered with wisdom. If its any help, most have been here. Work with your own abilities, and within them. Best wishes.
Frank I'm 52 and even though my discovery was 6 years ago I'm learning so much from you and this was point on. Thanks for all you do !
The most compelling part of being is the ability to direct my own life and not absorb all around me. I do not label myself and I am not critical of others or their uniqueness. I find you are a supportive person and feel for others. That is nice. As for myself , I have fought the empathy battle as an aware adult. I must look for the simplicity in life and find and accept the grace that flows from that simplicity. It is easy to become bogged down in layers of thoughts and perspectives....avalanches of intensities. The joy of life is sharing love and kindness with the ones who love you. It will come. It is simple. Embrace simplicity. Love to you and love to all who are here.
As an INFJ Empath and therapist who facilitates an Empath Group, this is all relevant. I really believe that connecting to and expanding your sense of self as an Empath is so helpful in setting healthy boundaries. You need to know where you begin and end to distinguish Self from Other. Thanks for the video!
If only I knew that
I have been told I'm an empath and I'm a injf
People who are high..............in agreeableness. I see what you did there.
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I thought I was the only one who noticed it. Pretty narcissistic for an empath...oh lord am I a dark empath? :O
Thank you for this video Frank💜
As an INFP who got into a relationship with someone I didn’t like so I didn’t hurt his feelings, this hits home hard.
Edit: I was also in the 8th grade and broke up w him 3 days later. Yes, I regret it. Yes, I did tell him I wasn’t really sure w the relationship and wanted to just “try it out” and he took that as me flat out saying yes.
Feather i am literally going through this rn. I am doing the exact same thing, but I actually receive something from him in order to stick around. I wish to help him in his place, but I can’t.
Thank you 😌
Before we make such a choice it is great to ask ourselves: would I recommend this choice to my beloved friend? If not - welll ;)
Please to all empaths involved with narcissistic sociopaths please get out. No amount of love compassion will work. They will destroy you. Much love ❤️. Take the jump
I agree with you 100%. I wasted 24 years of my life with a narcissist. Because I now recognize the signs and traits, I am better able to protect myself.
And, yes, I got out. :-)
@@CKnittingNewEyesQI wasted 14yrs in a relationship but still didn’t realise my traits would continue causing me problems. Only in the last week have I fully realised that I need to stop solving everyone’s problems!
Yeah, I consider myself highly empathic. It's often frustrating being the only empath around many people. But I learned to hug loneliness instead of pushing it away. I found out that I'm in fact not really lonely, I have myself. And I have to further establish the feeling that I'm enough for myself. Filling my hole with myself and not with others. And also I'm in the process of learning getting unlimited energy from myself. This also protects me from energy vampires. I'm on a good way, I know how I get to these goals.
Energy Vampires well Said.
I'm an empath but I have boundaries. I learned when to draw the line
That’s good, I recently realized I have none so I need to develop them!
I used to have no boundaries at all. Now I'm better at setting them.
I'm so glad you mentioned that it's the negative emotions we feel the most. That's the roughest part because it's not my emotions so I have to remove myself from a lot of situations for my own emotional wellbeing.
Also, I do believe there is a balance. I have become more disagreeable, confrontational and clear about boundaries as I get older - this for me was thanks to my faith. Now I feel more ME.
It’d be interesting to see if there’s any correlation between children who were abused as kids who became empaths from that. Because I was abused, and I’ve always assumed my ability to pick up on negative emotions or danger stemmed mostly from me having to do that constantly as a kid. Also the agreeableness, grew up trying to keep people happy for safety reasons. And high openness, I’m an artist and I’ve always read to escape into other stories to avoid my own.
But I also have terrible social anxiety which i don’t think is related to being an empath lol
You might have social anxiety because you’re picking up on everyone’s feelings all at once and it’s overwhelming?
Great Question.👍😎☝️I would say Yes.You are correct.& I think it's both.You also naturally pick up vibes .
I think you're exactly right. I think perhaps there is a natural tendancy towards sensitivity that becomes empathic when you have constantly had to take the temperature of the environment that you're in. I felt that it was as if my personality desires and integrity had to diminish away to make space for the explosions I was subjected to.
It is very similar to my life what you went through.. now having a narc ex and a abusive controlling husband married for 5yrs working on my way out it never gets better
I’m an empath and I had a fantastic childhood.
Highly neurotic INFJ here. You did it again. 😳 you explained neuroticism perfectly. I've just recently discovered your page and I've never felt so connected or understood.
You have basically described me in this video. I'm a sensitive person that was working in a very toxic place and it almost destroyed me. So I saw a therapist and was put on meds for anxiety and depression and have realized that I was so in tune with what others were feeling and trying to solve others problems throughout my life that I didn't really develop a separate identity. It's a blessing and a curse to be an empath. So I have pushed toxic people out of my life and it's definitely helping. Thank you for your videos
I found this video so encouraging because you described so clearly the way I experience the world. I have long suspected I could be an empath, but the only thing I'm still curious about is whether being a pushover is always inherent. I can be a pushover, but I also developed a rebellious skin around that and became fiercely independent. Also, I was diagnosed with OCD , and that feeds into the neurotic nature you so eloquently described. All in all, I like your down to earth, articulate style. I'm glad I subscribed, even though I'm an enfp instead of an infp, lol. I wish I could speak with you more to flesh out some of my questions. This is fascinating stuff
Frank, you're looking really good with the hair and the beard thing you got going on! I'm glad your vibe has been elevated, it's coming through in your videos lately.. nice job!
5:55 Wow! It's amazing how you got it right about the issue of us feeling responsible!
#relatable for empaths .😄 🎯This was spot on !
hey, thanks!
As an ENFJ and a highly sensitive person, I am not even surprised that my scores indicate I am an Empath. 😅 Thank you for the awesome videos, Frank!
Hello! This is my first time on this channel. I loved your video! I felt like you were talking about... me! Someone else commented below that being an empath is both a curse and a blessing: you see the beauty and the good in everything and everyone, but are deeply cut by the vile emptiness that fills the Earth. (see comment below from CheckeredGreen)
The odd time that I go out in public, I am so affected by what I see and hear that I stay home for long periods of time. The state of the world is worrying. Empaths can definitely feel the negativity and darkness out there.
Thanks for your video! I will subscribe to this channel!
What you said about not really being able to say no because you put other's feelings before your own and not being able to stand up for your own feelings is so so true. I've definitely struggled with that a lot and am working on it right now.
Also what you said about catastrophizing felt like a callout haha. I always got so mad when my mom said I did this but i've come to realize it's true.
I think being high in agreeableness is a sign of weakness and desperation, I used to be this way, but I got out of it. I refuse to be used anymore
i only discovered this channel in a serious way about a week ago. i love Frank's more vulnerable videos, which give a much needed dose of unengineered humanity on youtube. but no matter what the video, i always get a smile at seeing what new cool way Frank has styled his hair..
I feel like the only thing I’m good at and actually enjoy as a HSP/INFJ is to spend my whole day daydreaming. I don’t want to work a 9-5 anymore, it’s literally killing me. Why can’t I be a professional daydreamer? I also like to cuddle with my cats and photograph birds. It’s like I was born to be retired.
INFP empath here and I feel the same 😂 I can't do 9-5 type of work, I do freelance joba now.
The agreeableness stems from punishment in childhood. You were either intimidated or blackmailed in some way.
I know this video is a year old.
I just have to say your explanation of neurotisism is the best I have come across.
It explains so much in my life.
I always thought neurotisism was a mostly negative term.
I'm 56 and finally understand why I've felt so different and sensitive all my life.
You have beautiful eyes, Frank.
I started crying when you hit every mark , I recently started noticing my issues and why I feel how I do, understanding why I am who I am makes me feel better
I stood up for myself today (kinda) and I was like so proud of myself because we all came to an agreement and virtually hugged it out :D
FJ, I think you're oversimplifying. Empaths walk into a room and sence everyone's feelings through energy that they are putting off. I don't know why empaths can feel other people's energy. So, without even knowing one thing about that person an empath will walk away from or come closer to someone depending on how they feel that day and how open to dealing with someone's energy they feel they are in the mood for experiencing. I can be in bed alone for 5 hours and then I need to feel another person"s energy so I call my husband and he lays down and all I do is reach out and touch his hand. He never says a word and I don't need him to because I'm picking up the vibration of his energy. If there are any other empaths out there maybe you can attest that when you grow up you avoid negative energy coming from people because you don't have the time or the energy for it. Instead you start to look for and feel the positive energies that are coming off of people. And their positive emotion is absorbed into the empath and shared as if it's their own. It's almost always a wonderful thing at least to me. I guess I don't want to see any more ugliness or negativity in the world or in individuals. I pushed Mark in a wheelchair into a tiny room for a nurse to take his blood last week. She had her back to us in silence for the first three or four minutes and I never saw her face. As an empath, I immediately started feeling for her energy. She turned around and said show me your arm. A non empath might have thought she was a cold person at this point, but I hadn't felt her energy yet. Then it came at me like a wave and I knew exactly what to do to bring out that beauty in her. I watched her hand movements. I felt a sense of peace and sweetness where none was showing. She slipped a needle into Mark's arm and without looking into each other's eyes I said to her you had a calling to do this didn't you? And she looked up at me with a shocked look on her face and said yes I did. I simply said thank you for following your heart because it's important to have people that are doing what they need to do in their lives to feel fulfilled. She smiled big and said thank you for noticing. I said thank you for listening to your inner calling you just made the situation into something so much easier than it could have been. She immediately said why? Do other people hurt him? She was sitting perfectly still now and looking into my eyes. I said yes he is always full of bruises and it always takes at least two different people to try to get blood from him. Her lips got tight and she said there's no reason for that and within five more minutes we had become energetically bound with our shared sense of the importance of treating each person as if they are the best person that ever lived. We started out as a seemingly cold situation and ended up with her rubbing Mark's back and her leaning into me to say it was so good to meet you. So no, I rarely seem to move toward negative or hurting people. I have chosen to seek out that pearl that's in most people and join energies in order to have a moment that I will never forget. As for going along with others oh, I think it depends on how much maturity the empath has collected in life. I don't like drama. But there's something that I do love and that is witnessing and experiencing through feeling the joy of another person. Of course, people can choose to put up a wall and that's their choice. I just think that you're not looking deep enough into what a true empath is and what they do and how they do it. Maybe look up true empaths and see how much deeper the well goes. And by the way, our girl Frank :-) you are lacking in sleep. Not something you can catch up on so don't go to bed past your mom's given bedtime!! :-) And if you ever want to put down your wall, I would be pleased to meet you. Sincerely, Carly 💜
I loved this story.
Thank you for saying that about my story. Every word is true and today I needed someone to say something nice to me. Love, Carly :-)
@@simplyme7821 wow your story is so so beautiful. I am an empath but i attract negative energy more than positive. But it's opposite for you I guess. Can you teach me how to do this? Because being an empath feels more like a curse to me. Please talk to me if you can help me understand my own self and my emotions because everything is confusing for me.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. It was heart felt and motivating! Thank you!
Oh how wonderful the world could be with more people like you in it you're a lovely soul. Blessings!
Hi! ENFP here. Figured that since I scored the Empath, I would comment what my percentages are!
Openness: 92%
Conscientiousness: 50%
Extraversion: 62.5%
Agreeableness: 79%
Neuroticism: 58%
Another ENFP and an Empath
Openness: 100% (Don't ask me how I got 100%, I am not THAT open to know how that happened)
Conscientiousness: 48%
Extraversion: 79%
Agreeableness: 83%
Neuroticism: 15%
Disclaimer though: I might not really be an empath but just seem like I am because I am a "Natural" which means I can see microexpressions at VERY high rate. If you don't know what that is, watch the TV Show "Lie to Me". Before that show existed, I took Dr Paul Ekman's pretest and passed it with flying colors. I trained for about twenty mintues and realized that I sometimes confused the expression of Fear for Anger. I thought the test was full of crap because it had a disclaimer telling everyone that they would fail miserably the pretest when I got like two wrong. So I had my INTJ partner actually take the test but turned out he couldnt even see it and I spent the entire test training him to even be able to see SOMETHING was happening. So yeah I might not really be empathic, just can see things at a super high speed.
Maybe also why I am so Open and not that Neurotic.... Everything is highly predictable. Any other "Naturals" out there?
it was great to find this video! I started reading into what an empath was, enneagram, Meyers Briggs, etc. about 6 months ago. I studied Psychology at Cal Poly, Slo (graduated last June) and took many science classes focusing on personality, but I was never once told what an empath or HSP was. I had never taken this test but paused the video, went online and answered everything very honestly, and came back to see what was most common traits were. I got those exact results. I am also an INFJ, but sometimes I can get confused and think I am potentially an INFP.
For two INFP-T Emphatic Idealists this is all very recognizable... For me, especially the neuroticism. Sometimes it drives me crazy...
You have such a huge insight into Empaths that I feel good watching your videos. I now know there are people out there who completely understand my empath traits and it feels great. Everything you’ve said in the past 2 videos is me to a T and I’m glad my traits can be defined so I have a better understanding of myself and can now manage my life accordingly. Thank you ❤️
Love your posts.
You forgot one tiny point regarding open, giving, sacrificing empaths... no good deed goes unpunished.
I don’t know why, but as an INFJ, I can easily tell who are the good people, but I still attract the worst kinds-narcissists, sociopaths, frauds, obsessive friends, etc. and they corrupt my life. I’m turning 14 soon, but I’ve already encountered so many bad people who’ve ruined my life and who are putting me down a negative path. It’s wearing me down and I don’t know how to stop it.
Thank you for understanding me better than anyone else.
You are so great at explaining this stuff!. Wow, it makes me understand myself so much better. Thank you, thank you..
thanks for watching! 👊🙏
I think I’m a sigma empath. This fits pretty well, but I have a stronger method of execution. I appreciate the neuroticism explanation. That absolutely fits. I can always pick up on negative emotions and have used that skill in many ways. Mostly to keep safe lol. Friends always worry I’m going to get hurt talking to homeless people or whatever. I approach them when I know it’s ok. It’s been difficult to explain that intuition, but now you’ve nailed it ! Thank you 🙏🏽!
Interesting. Can’t believe I haven’t stumbled upon you discussing this before.
I am an intj can't tell if you were a ENFJ and infj I can't tell cuz you have amazing acting skills brother it means a lot when I watch this videos so keep up the great work thank you so much
I am a believer in reincarnation, I feel like us Empaths have “been here before”
I can’t help but think the neurotic behavior could be because we have seen things go wrong before. So now our souls are overly cautious.
Love and Light to all!!!:)
Being to agreeable is a trait I've been workin on lately. But i find tryin to change certain traits about myself is very difficult. Anyways, another great video bro
Almost 2 years later for me to comment... not surprising given the vastness of RUclips, and I cut across this video when I woke up early this morning (and had to watch it when I was more conscious). And while I've admitted to being an empath for more than 30 years now; I find myself at odds with the whole neuroticism part of it.
Looking at how I would've answered the questions 20 years ago versus how I answered the questions today from the big five personality test; I get the impression that with the extended time of seclusion -- both thanks to COVID as well as my personal love of me (read: alone) time this has helped me establish my personality without being a constant pushover to external forces and allow me to being more extroverted than I was when I was a teenager.
Thanks for the link and the information, and keep up the good work at the videos.
Dude. How do you get your hair so fking pretty? This video is perfect. I do all of this. Neuroticism. Catastrophic thinking. Agreeableness and openness. I have leaned to say no. I have curbed the worst of it. But I love the way you explain it. It sounds so factual.
What I learned from my experience is to think there is always a way to solve problems and to don't be afraid, sad, pessimistic because it gives us negativity and you'll finish to spread this energy to people we love too and this is something we don't want. Think positive and the good energy will reach the ones close to us too. Nothing is permanent, sadness too
Thanks FJ for your videos, much love from Anna, an INFJ too
That's 💯 percent me... nothing like a lie... En am thankful to God for helping me discover myself more coz I was also questioning myself some unexplainable feelings in my life that I can solve others problems and endure with mine😌😌 I've been asking myself as time went on if that's what they call being empathetic...but I now know and able to make more meaningful and positive changes by myself. Thank you so much brother 🙏🙏🙏. Please go on.
This assortment of traits, in my humble opinion, is only relevant to the codependent empaths.
The healthy empath might not be so high on agreeableness and neuroticism.
You can feel others deeply and still know where you end and where they start, and cherish that boundary.
Daya Tom - Agree! I was high in all 3, but have (too late) cultivated boundaries and being less agreeable. My life literally depends upon it, since I was used as everyone's free therapist until my energy was sucked dry and I got very sick.
@@meagiesmuse2334 I can so relate.. Kudos for changing for the better! 🌸
I absolutely agree
Frank, yep, you are RIGHT ON with this one. Pretty much everything you said was dead on accurate. Uh, thanks for staring into my soul, I guess! I have always had decent self-esteem, but since I figured out I am fairly high on the empath scale, I like myself even more. I care about other people, which in my opinion is sorely lacking in society these days. Guess I'm just saying I like myself for not succumbing to the pressures of society and becoming a complete money motivated/self absorbed jerk. I enjoy your channel, nice to be understood by at least one other human being!! Keep up the good work.
Hey there. Been an empath my whole life. The past few years I’ve been trying to learn as much as I can about this gift I have. I have a million questions but that’s another cocktail hour. I really enjoyed your videos. Thank you.
Dude you gave me answers that I was asking myself, why this, why the other. Thank you very much, god bless you
Thank you for this video, I did some research and I’m like 75% sure I am. So now I’m digging into what one is. This video definitely helped! And you got a new subscriber! 🙌💯
FJ, I would love to see a video about the rarest of the rare. That would be less than 2% of the population. INFJ males who are most in tune with aspects of their feminine qualities in their personality? How does that manifest? Most INFJs already feel different than most people. Weird people in a wierder world. How do they represent their true feelings without fearing rejection? Does hiding their true authentic self bring about suppressed anger or do they appear dismissive of others who they fear wouldn't understand? How can they reach self acceptance in a polarized society? I would guess that a true empath would be able to pick up on the dueling faces they have to project to have a sense of belonging. They would pick it up in the energies whenever they were around them. A true empath, not an empathetic person, would absorb any feelings of pain or sorrow or confusion and make them their own. They would feel that those emotions were coming from inside themselves. The male INFJ would apprear very gentlemanly but, know when to get dirty. Very intetesting topic.
Sincerely, Carly 🌱
FJ, would you say you are one of the 2 percenters who feel both the male and female parts of your personality at the surface and feel comfortable moving from one to the other? If the answer is yes and I think some empaths would say that they have gotten that vibe from you, how do you feel free to express yourself fully without fearing somebody mocking you? There are many women who feel more comfortable with men there are more in touch with there feminine then being entrenched in the masculine. I would say my ex-husband was that way yet you would never know it just by watching him. But, it was more comfortable for me not to have a dominant male around who couldn't have a deep conversation or understand my feelings. That's why I fell in love with him. He was very comfortable showing however he felt. Have you ever seen a very muscular man singing I'm Every Woman by Whitney Houston? He was just loved. Too bad he had such a strong addiction. When I needed to pick out a dress I didn't have a clue but he had an eye for that. It was like having the best of all worlds. Sincerely, Carly
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I hope you’re doing well:)
You just helped me out so much the answer to my prayers. I am an empath and a medium and its awesome. I just needed to somehow IDENTIFY where intuitively the negative emotions, thoughts, energies, and feelings are coming from.
Thank you. I needed this today 🖤
Hey dude I had to come on here because you give the first trait of an empath is being agreeable and open and we are however not all of us just go along with people to keep the peace, some of us actually do stand our ground and speak up
As an empath I believe that the sensitivity to negativity and positivity is a spiritual gift, being spiritually aware, I can feel when something’s off and there’s negativity in the room, thanks to the Lord’s grace and the authority I have been given, I can pray for those people who are struggling and if there is any sort of negative spirit that runs to me I can rebuke and cast it out in the Name of Jesus!
There was one time where a bunch of my friends were at my house and some of them had hatred and negativity towards eachother, and they were working out they’re issues all at the same time in different places within my dwelling, once all was forgiven and they no longer felt certain emotions towards eachother, I started crying, however I didn’t know why, I felt Sadness, overwhelmed anxiety, fear, distrust, confusion, and secretive. It hit me all at once and I wasn’t sure what was going on, so I prayed and my friend came in the room and hugged me, then the Lord put it on my heart to pray again with the moms, because I hadn’t bound the spirits that were attached to these feelings, so I prayed with the moms and rebuked those spirits and I felt peace knowing all was taken care of and I was protected by the Lord! Emotions aren’t just emotions, they are spiritual and it’s important to be aware that the spiritual warfare is very real.
Thank you for putting this out there.. the information is useful.
Thanks for this video :) I've noticed in my life that it's really hard to be completely free from toxic people and say NO to them.
Wow thank you so much for this. I’m an infp and you described the feels so perfectly that now there’s no question I’m also an empath 🙈😅 Well spoken, riveting content! New sub, looking forward to binging your channel 💗
In college psychology the instructor told us neuroticism is an outdated term much like hysteria. Have you heard this before? These theories are always evolving and changing. I really enjoyed this video. I enjoy most of your videos. 😁keep em coming
Thank you for your video @ Frank James. It cemented my thoughts. I've met several people who have this kind of personality. I understood them because I think I'm an empath to a certain degree. I never fully understood about an empath until it happened to me(with a real empath). I've realized how dangerous it could bring. Empaths solicit and even beg you to express your problems with them even if you are hesitant. The moment they'll know your situation, they are already on the streets looking for solutions. They would love to think that they are responsible for everything and that you have to listen to every word they say even if it hurts' you. They often end up being exhausted and worried. I have learned to avoid the situation by not dealing my problems with them because they will suffer more.
I'm happy to see your channel growing so fast!!
hey thanks!
I've broken up with my depressed girlfriend twice because I felt her energy creating contagion in me and it was bringing me down.
Both times she was so devastated and afraid of losing me that I took her back immediately. The pain of her pain was overwhelming.
Generally I'm a very assertive person, but with someone I care about, I'm screwed - totally powerless to their emotions.
Agreeableness: 87.5%
Openness: 73%
Neuroticism: 71%
As an Empath INFJ, this is spot on! Wow 🦋
Frank, I love your new haircut. It makes you look very handsome and in-charge!
I'm glad you don't paint Neuroticism in an entirely negative light. The way I look at it (like the turbulent score) is that the feelings that come with it really push one to develop themselves all the time and work hard at being better in the future, but they also give a neurotic person a great ability to empathize with others who are high in this trait. This can really help an empath relate and soothe people who are going through real hard times. I love other neurotics too, they're some of the sweetest people.
- INFP (O:100%, C: 42%, E: 15%, A: 100%, N: 98% - Truity big five)
This man is gorgeous
Funny you mention, because the first thing that caught my eye in this video was the fact that he has a mirror on his bedroom wall. My initial thought was, "Wonder what his thoughts are on how he looks?"
💯 % correct 😮 I’m always feeling for other’s emotions 😮 and feel an overwhelming need to bring them comfort 😮 Who am I ??
This is so accurate! I’m an empath and could really sense your care in your describing this and your understanding it exactly you must be an empath
Wow. I like how you broke this down. Thanks.
Wow. I just saw this. I knew I was an INFJ from doing the MB test. I found out 7 years ago (as an adult) that I'm on the autism spectrum. It felt great - freeing - to know why I always felt "different". I suspected I was an empath. Now I know for sure. More freeing. Thank you! 😸
I could say for sure I masterd openness
1:22 I really have a serious problem saying no, once a person asked me if i wanted to date them, they tried so hard and was so nervous that i just couldn't say no so we dated for like 6 months
Been there. It's crazy what we will go through for other man
that was a wrong move though, don't you think? You have been with him for 6 months just cuz you couldnt say no? it seems you didnt empathize what he would go through later on
5:50 was so spot on. He explained it so well
You're really coming along way in your videos, and dialog, an growing your videos Franky. Must of been a tuff choice on what you're choosing now to talk about, and share what you've found, then wondering if other people are just as interested for views. I think you've built up a good flow, an cool picks for topics. Definitely agree on the empath thoughts. When I was young it was allot worse trying to "find" where emotions where was at a lost as to what was wrong with me. I didn't understand emotions, or what they where to be able to articulate it, or understand it wasn't me feeling. Something as simple as being a child in a store, an my mom would start talking to someone, an I'd look at there face an see big smiles as they both were in conversation. An see smiles, but no one was really happy, an I just knew how they were feeling, an I didn't understand the smiles. Smiling laughing sad people inside wearing smiles is a weird childhood to experience...lmao An internet wasn't a big thing for me growing up, I kinda just had to figure it out on my own, once I became old enough to understand it literally wasn't me. Now internet an the more I read, searched online, an ability to interact with people, an learn that much quicker, compared to back then.
thanks so much!
As an INFP: Y E S.
Great video! Thank you for speaking about a topic that is backed by science. I think you’ll attract more sensors to your video with that title 😉😉. And, loving the edits! 🎞
I think I have become numb to negative emotions from other people. It doesn’t phase me anymore (unless it is someone I’m close to and they’re going through something difficult). I think that the military had something to do with that, as well as upbringing. You’re around angry people most of the time and you understand why they feel that way. Maybe you could do a video on how to master your emotions? It seems like the majority of people in this audience could benefit from that. Or, the importance of controlling your thoughts/feelings. Codependency is another topic that people might benefit from learning about, too. 🤷🏼♀️ Seeing as to how empaths/codependents always seem to end up with narcissistic people. A lot of people have mentioned that type of thing in your previous videos (...being the victims of toxic people).
thanks, Sam! Yeah a video about mastering emotions would be good. Just have to get a handle on it myself xD
Frank James 😂 I know, I know... I’m trying to help! 😇 Or, maybe I’m trying to force with my ISFJ ways 🤔😈... if that really is a thing 🙄. Speaking of mastering your emotions... why am I so volatile?!
I think I found my answer for now... www.sowhatireallymeant.com/2013/01/25/emotionally-volatile-people-he-can-be-so-charming-and-then-so-defiant/
I think it is important to stress the fact that there are levels of each of the traits that you mentioned. I say that because although it may have been different when I was younger, I was stopped in my tracks at the word "agreeable". I am not agreeable yet I am an empath. Most empaths have a very strong sense of right and wrong and a high degree of authenticity. I may have been more agreeable in the past but my sense of right and wrong keeps me from just agreeing to agree. I do believe everyone should have the chance to do what they want to do but if I feel that there is something wrong with it I will not just go along to go along. Yes I second guess myself and ruminate over a decision but similar to feeling negativity in a room, we have the same instant reaction to what is right and wrong and we do not just agree to fit in. The ability to "feel" negativity in a room is instantaneous. This is a very valuable ability. Not only does it pin point negativity it also protects us from it as we are prone to being thin skinned and take things very seriously - on the flip side we immediate put up a wall to someone who is either negative or toxic. We have the ability through experience and our depth of vision to actually identify what kind of negativity we are dealing with and project how it will play out.
this showed up at just the right time. I had an intense interaction at work today. this woman came into my line and she was all beat up from a car crash, or so she says. and she was saying she looked like death and was worthless. that shes been treated like she's worthless her whole life. I had help her with her transaction and she was getting flustered and started crying. I had to focus on helping her and not start crying myself. I gave her a hug even though she didn't initially want it cause she thought she didn't deserve it. I told her she was worthy of love and that she isn't worthless and that whoever told her that, they're ridiculous. just hugging her, I just felt that emotional energy flood through me and I had to go outside after she'd left to keep from bawling my eyes out in the middle of work.
I'm an ENFP and an empath (or HSP). Great video!
Hsp?
I've just decided to avoid most public places or look down, not into people's eyes when I take a walk outside. I just so tired of looking into people's troubled souls and picking up their emotions and hopelesness. I've had enough of it for 48 years. These days I just go home after work, spend tiime with my two dogs, work in the garden and try to avoid any urge to fix the world.
WOW.
You know how everyone has different moods and mindsets? I actually got to the point of naming and builting characters over mine when I was a teen to try to hack the struggle of "what AM I feeling, what is MY position over this, How did that affected me?" Cause is always so much easier understand/read others than myself, and I indeed find it harder to stand up for myself as I would jump in to protect someone I care about.... And also was a time when I needed something smart to think about and could't find anywhere cause all others kids were way to dumb, so kindda obcessed about it and it works really well, now I even can talk to myself when to analyse ideas, and a mindset can figure the other out. Got to the point were my subconscient works like this and do half the job, hacked my brain in a efficient way and can spend hours in internal reflection of a universe of interesting possibilitys happening to each one of my me's. Now THAT'S INTO!
I'm INTP btw, multiple possibilitys at the same time is kindda of a hobbie
This reminds me of my former psychology courses at uni, makes me nostalgic (I couldn't go on with those studies unfortunately).
Good to take out a scientific subject sometimes :)
Bull's Eye !! I agree with all points