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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @7GeorgeB1
    @7GeorgeB1 4 года назад +1380

    Damon you are probably the only male on this planet I will ever say this to: START A PODCAST GIRL!

    • @damondominique
      @damondominique  4 года назад +351

      imma put these on spotify in the next week hopefully!

    • @Zyswest
      @Zyswest 4 года назад +5

      @@damondominique something to consider from a musician who cares: Spotify sucks; join the Bandcamp side

    • @Paulo-bh2rx
      @Paulo-bh2rx 4 года назад +4

      @@Zyswest why?

    • @carolinaalves2843
      @carolinaalves2843 4 года назад +12

      @@Paulo-bh2rx not a musician or a content creator but from my understanding spotify doesn't pay the artists or pays them a very very slim amount despite the amount of plays (not sure tho)

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique  4 года назад +860

    ALSO: YOU *ALL* DESERVE RED WINE TONIGHT.

    • @classicclaire5247
      @classicclaire5247 4 года назад +37

      I'm under age but okay

    • @CecilysPerspective
      @CecilysPerspective 4 года назад +2

      Don't worry huney. bout to go get my helping in les marais ;) gotta celebrate it's friiiiiday

    • @janayanderson1229
      @janayanderson1229 4 года назад +2

      It's a chardonnay kinda night! Trying to avoid those red wine headaches.

    • @CanalconCdeCami
      @CanalconCdeCami 4 года назад +1

      I'm in Spain now and wine is not as good as French wine! But for real watching these videos makes me feel like I'm hanging out with y'all... We'll meet someday in Paris hopefully 🤣

    • @AxelStar
      @AxelStar 4 года назад

      BET

  • @aimeegoodship9553
    @aimeegoodship9553 4 года назад +632

    You're watching Call Me By Your Name. You get to the volleyball scene in the garden and you spot two characters chatting on a picnic blanket. You press pause, zoom in on them, and listen to the REAL TALK...

    • @chantellalexander933
      @chantellalexander933 4 года назад +14

      I love this🥺

    • @7GeorgeB1
      @7GeorgeB1 4 года назад +11

      I just got butterflies omg

    • @ajayiayomide4401
      @ajayiayomide4401 4 года назад +15

      This is the comment I didn’t know I was waiting for

    • @swimawaylittlefish1542
      @swimawaylittlefish1542 4 года назад +2

      ? (if it's tiring to explain it i don't want to bother you)

    • @aye2987
      @aye2987 4 года назад +8

      janet's babyshower because in call me by ur name in the volleyball scene towards the beginning of the movie there are 2 people sitting in the grass talking and they r just saying this is them

  • @kalliniki_
    @kalliniki_ 4 года назад +715

    "its never a dialogue its always a critique"
    this. just this.

    • @mina-du6fi
      @mina-du6fi 4 года назад +35

      i don’t blame people for not having the energy for a dialogue though

    • @purpleowl2075
      @purpleowl2075 4 года назад +41

      @@mina-du6fi The pain of critique one day vs the pain of experiencing racism everyday doesn't compare though - to be an ally, you need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable so you grow and develop as an anti-racist

    • @aye2987
      @aye2987 4 года назад +3

      purple owl exactly

    • @soyboycowboy
      @soyboycowboy 4 года назад

      @@purpleowl2075 mhm!!

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique  4 года назад +690

    yo *WHAT* is so difficult to understand about just helping another h-u-m-a-n-b-e-i-n-g out? damn.

    • @chester14rw
      @chester14rw 4 года назад +12

      so many different realities to understand. people don't wanna change their perspective and have dialogue. smhh

    • @johannawallin4167
      @johannawallin4167 4 года назад +5

      Let’s just be kind, don’t overdue things, practise being genuine 💪

  • @mattdoman2261
    @mattdoman2261 4 года назад +383

    Would love to see discussion on being black or any minority in the USA vs France/Western Europe.

    • @jesusisapisces
      @jesusisapisces 4 года назад +31

      There's a filmmaker called Cecile Emeke who did a series where she interviewed different groups of black people from Italy, France, UK and etc to talk about their experiences as black people growing up in those countries. I'm pretty sure the videos are still up on RUclips.

    • @pabloreguilon6068
      @pabloreguilon6068 4 года назад

      @@jesusisapisces how is it called?

    • @pabloreguilon6068
      @pabloreguilon6068 4 года назад +1

      @Naomi Madan ok thanks

    • @jesusisapisces
      @jesusisapisces 4 года назад +2

      @@pabloreguilon6068 I didn't get the notification for your response. So sorry but I'm glad you got your answer!

  • @renaribeiro
    @renaribeiro 4 года назад +424

    Damon you’re the friend everyone wishes they had. So open minded, loving, and respectful of every kind of human 💛 hope to see you and Jo together again!

    • @chester14rw
      @chester14rw 4 года назад +7

      that last part! LMAO ... aanndddd we wanna see u back together w/ ur YT wife

    • @cherriesgirl
      @cherriesgirl 4 года назад +4

      This got me thinking and let's all try to be that amazing friend or even just a respectful person *It takes a lot of understanding and time to have meaningful conversations trying to comprehend other realities but we can tryyy

    • @TCt83067695
      @TCt83067695 4 года назад +5

      I doubt they will. It seems to have been an acrimonious end of (business) relationship/friendship

    • @ThelifeofDrew
      @ThelifeofDrew 4 года назад

      @@TCt83067695 based on what?

    • @TCt83067695
      @TCt83067695 4 года назад +1

      @@ThelifeofDrew just the fact they act like the other doesn't exist.
      Even Jo's BLM video was taking subtle shots at Damon.
      I might be reading too much into it but it seems like it really was a bad breakup.

  • @alexiabalan7216
    @alexiabalan7216 4 года назад +213

    I love the way Malika emphasises and understands individuality of people and their ways of communication, I felt my eyes open wider and it's only been 10 minutes.

  • @sofiatorresaranda8963
    @sofiatorresaranda8963 4 года назад +312

    I recommend the TED talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie! She talks about the danger of having a single narrative. It pertains so much to the postcolonial society we live in today and it is SUPER eye-opening :)

    • @matthew5489
      @matthew5489 4 года назад +15

      her book "half of a yellow sun" slaps like no other

    • @avocadoobrigado1448
      @avocadoobrigado1448 4 года назад +5

      that's literally my favorite ted talk of all time

    • @notWhiteFerrari
      @notWhiteFerrari 4 года назад

      I was just thinking about this last night! This is so important to recognize in yourself and other people

    • @nicolasbuitrago6562
      @nicolasbuitrago6562 4 года назад

      What's the TED talk called?

    • @margotbaumgartner266
      @margotbaumgartner266 4 года назад

      This is a very good TED talk!!! My college professor had us watch it in my culture class

  • @abcxyz4653
    @abcxyz4653 4 года назад +143

    I would have guessed malaika is 26-28. I don’t mean this as shade to younger people. she just seems mature

    • @LizzKillian
      @LizzKillian 4 года назад +4

      Totally agree.

    • @paigee4819
      @paigee4819 4 года назад +9

      so true! I'm older then her, but I hope I can be as wise, fun, and well spoken as her when I grow up. She's also just so cool

  • @annafre1789
    @annafre1789 4 года назад +75

    I went to primary & secondary school in Britain and we were taught that "at the height of the British Empire we owned a third of the world's landmass" almost said with pride, absolutely disgusting considering the horrors of colonialisation, wars and human rights abuses that would have lead to that fact. And nobody gives a shit about how the USA gained independence honestly, that wasn't mentioned in school. Also in British school we were proudly taught that we were one of the first to abolish slavery - completely ignoring the fact that we were still financing the whole thing decades after!

  • @jadahp922
    @jadahp922 4 года назад +101

    a lot of nonblack people have an issue saying BLACK and they will literally call a black french person african american which is really sad.Also, Im black american and dont like to be referred to as african american. i really like this red wine chat

    • @elizabethbread4021
      @elizabethbread4021 4 года назад +3

      Honestly, I had no idea this was such a huge issue, but this video opened my eyes and now I just have to say that I've grown up with people telling me it's okay to say black or african american and it doesn't really matter and just listening to Malaika and reading your comment on how it does matter blows my mind and I'm so glad I got to hear from you two. Also, I remember a couple times when a nonblack person would tell me I say Black because they prefer African American and they weren't even black and I was like ??? how do u know how they feel? anyhow thank you if you read this comment; have a nice day :)

    • @kenidiharrison1787
      @kenidiharrison1787 4 года назад +3

      Yeah I don’t like the term African American either

    • @jadahp922
      @jadahp922 4 года назад +1

      @@elizabethbread4021 Yeah it really depends on your preference.

    • @potmki6601
      @potmki6601 4 года назад

      10 (maybe even 5) years ago it was a slur, do you mean it is not now? Anyway, give me the ok word and I'll use it

    • @floorberendsen3567
      @floorberendsen3567 4 года назад +1

      Also in the Netherlands people are also scared to say it. They usually say the Dutch word ‘getint’ which means tinted instead of black and I’m not sure why

  • @kizukeyos
    @kizukeyos 4 года назад +126

    About European countries not saying "X-European" like in the States: they do it for convience but they will call you an immigrant or "person of this origin" when you do something wrong and they will call you French eg. when you win the world cup or sum :')

    • @medsammy1237
      @medsammy1237 4 года назад +11

      Preach! These people over here really think that only American has these racist discriminatory beliefs.

    • @tididi5600
      @tididi5600 4 года назад +6

      @caekeu Sadly true. The hypocrisy is unbelievable.

    • @kizukeyos
      @kizukeyos 3 года назад

      @Nicolas B. Henry Vas y ya pas a mentir comme ca ptdr

  • @fbspin
    @fbspin 4 года назад +133

    DAMON you have the most beautiful friends, inside and out 😭

  • @denisdenchev413
    @denisdenchev413 4 года назад +109

    Malaika's so intelligent and good looking omg. Does she speak Ukranian?

  • @TCt83067695
    @TCt83067695 4 года назад +13

    For such a young lady, her intellect is astounding. I am humbled by the way she articulates herself.

  • @_lenny_____leonardo
    @_lenny_____leonardo 4 года назад +43

    I was definitely taught the "WE WON! USA!" version of the American Revolution. Being from Massachusetts, it was in my face all throughout grade school (yet, such a watered down version, I didn't learn until much later that a lot of the battles happened well outside of Massachusetts). Also, the fact that Americans call it "The Revolutionary War" points to how USA-centric our education and our thinking is. There have been many revolutions throughout history.

  • @moneyinvestingwithvandi7727
    @moneyinvestingwithvandi7727 4 года назад +114

    Damon always have the coolest of friends, I like her honesty and vibe

  • @lauranaut
    @lauranaut 4 года назад +34

    I think one thing to keep in mind is that when she was presenting the Puerto Rican Day Parade example as the U.S. reminding Puerto Ricans they're not all the way American--uh, these events are community-led. When have white people ever led the charge to say, yes, let's celebrate this other community? They are not reminding us that we are separate from them; we are reminding them that we exist and we can celebrate our community's achievements, with or without them.

  • @rebeccabrodkey
    @rebeccabrodkey 4 года назад +81

    I totally agree about feeling younger the older you get, I think it’s that you feel more secure in your age the older you are. Like physical aging also comes with added wisdom and experience that I wouldn’t trade to be 19 again

    • @kay2239
      @kay2239 4 года назад +3

      As a 19 Yr old I'm actually super afraid of like getting older aha help!

    • @rebeccabrodkey
      @rebeccabrodkey 4 года назад +5

      Kayleigh Palmer don’t worry it makes sense once you get there 🤗

    • @sherey431
      @sherey431 4 года назад

      my older sister is 31yo and whenever I ask her how it feels like to be her age, she'd always say that she doesnt feel old at all and feels like 25 or 26yo.

    • @Lena-rk3ph
      @Lena-rk3ph 4 года назад +1

      I recently turned 17 but I feel much older, so I think this is definitely a thing. Did you feel older when you were younger as well?

  • @labcoatofpaint
    @labcoatofpaint 4 года назад +58

    Damon, can you turn these into podcasts as well? I feel like the uncut hehe version would be super cool to hear.

    • @Alex-od9fk
      @Alex-od9fk 4 года назад

      oh yes i think that’s a great idea

  • @des_antilles
    @des_antilles 4 года назад +28

    I connect to the deleted scene about death. I've noticed that a lot of older people, at least in my life, believe that we're nearing the end of time. It makes me wonder if the "oppressors of the world" share a similar mentality which is why they exploit the natural and human resources of the earth because they think nothing matters

  • @dulcetghost
    @dulcetghost 4 года назад +2

    I love Malaika's thoughtfulness and honesty. People are so single-minded today and it was very refreshing to hear someone speak with an open mind and being considerate of multiple perspectives. Thank you.

  • @howlette
    @howlette 4 года назад +10

    As an American, I definitely agree that history is taught with bias toward ourselves. And war is very glorified, which was probably started with the Revolutionary War like you were saying. I hope as we move toward the future, we can add more perspectives (and dialogues!) into the conversation.

  • @apples.281
    @apples.281 4 года назад +2

    ahhh okay 1. damon i adore you 2. could you please have an asian-american guest on a red wine talk? i’d like to hear you two exchanging your experiences in america and france!! thank you for the amazing video, as always xoxo

  • @patriciaWmonteiro
    @patriciaWmonteiro 4 года назад +10

    You guys are balanced and talk as if you could be right or wrong and that is how I talk to my friends. I’d dare say most people are like us, most people like us do not comment or post that much on twitter or instagram. I have a strange hope that most of us are balanced and able to have different opinions on different complex subjects

  • @bettyreads222
    @bettyreads222 4 года назад +8

    I really enjoy how open and honest these conversations are.

  • @urfavoritesnack
    @urfavoritesnack 4 года назад +30

    You should tell us what they taught you in the French History class and their perspective because I NEED to know all the lies America’s History class is telling us.

  • @nikkiu.2148
    @nikkiu.2148 4 года назад +2

    "It's never a dialogue, it's always a critique or an extremely aggressive debate." so very true

  • @paulinekeane3888
    @paulinekeane3888 4 года назад +7

    That last part you mentioned about subjective reality: I’m Irish and it is CRAZY to hear British people talking like they weren’t our brutal, violent, genocidal overlords for over 700 years lol. But on a real level I think that a huge part of opening up to people and being open-minded is acknowledging that what you perceive as reality might be a fantasy you’ve been taught for whatever reason and being ok with having that reality no longer work in your life.

  • @sorchaoconnor3750
    @sorchaoconnor3750 4 года назад +13

    I feel like, just with the concept of white fragility and not knowing wether or not to speak up, there's probably a difference between speaking for the black community, and using your voice to amplify the many voices of the black community.

  • @tomaliekyte9896
    @tomaliekyte9896 4 года назад +1

    Malaika is such a exceptional individual. Like she literally put into words things i couldn't say outright (bc of fear of not being "politically correct") for years with such ease and confidence. The things she said about the defensive nature of these difficult discussions concerning moral and systematic issues, perfectly encapsulates what the biggest struggles are in these types of fights.

  • @danijeljovic4971
    @danijeljovic4971 4 года назад +127

    I know many people say this as a joke but I’ve never clicked on a video this fast after getting the notification

    • @denisdenchev413
      @denisdenchev413 4 года назад +3

      I love your name 'je ne sais pas'

    • @danijeljovic4971
      @danijeljovic4971 4 года назад

      Denis Denchev Haha thanks. I have it for almost 2 years and this is the first time someone noticed what it's supposed to meanb

    • @denisdenchev413
      @denisdenchev413 4 года назад

      @@danijeljovic4971 haha no way! I've never seen it written that way but I immediately knew what it was

  • @juliannanichols
    @juliannanichols 4 года назад +10

    Yes! I've gotten the "you talk white" all my life, and that has been primarily from other black women. However, I always asked "why is white right?" and no one ever had an answer for me. Thankfully, I had a mom that taught me what to do/say in those situations, but imagine how damaging that is to people who didn't have that growing up.
    Also, the conversation around African-American really made my head spin. I had thought about this topic a little when I was younger (why do I have to identify as A-A?), but I had never looked into why white people don't need a hyphen, or why can't I just be called American? Every time I think about it I feel like my thoughts are moving in a circular motion. I can't really make sense of it at all.

  • @kayodeadetutu5009
    @kayodeadetutu5009 4 года назад +22

    Damon this might be a crazy idea but I am moving near Paris soon and I need someone to show me around and just get to know the town. Would you be down? I think that could be super fun! I am Ellie btw from Germany🌻

  • @AnnaLitkovska
    @AnnaLitkovska 4 года назад +3

    As Ukrainian I'm quite excited to find out Malaika has Ukrainian roots! Thank you guys for bringing these important topics to light. Quite refreshing to hear them from this angle

  • @christyclarissemercier6359
    @christyclarissemercier6359 4 года назад +26

    We're being blessed with another red wine talk on this dayyyyyyyyyyyy

  • @ThanhMaiOFFICIAL
    @ThanhMaiOFFICIAL 4 года назад +11

    Great to see you use your platform to raise awareness regarding social justice and equality. Real change happens when we unite and fight for a common cause. Let’s keep the momentum going 🙌💯

  • @kaileebroadway7723
    @kaileebroadway7723 4 года назад +11

    Yeah I took a break from social media for two weeks now because it was overwhelming, every post was just ahhh, it was a lot of drama on social media so I was like too much noise. I did take off the black square eventually because I didn't think it was helpful.

  • @wastedad7123
    @wastedad7123 4 года назад +6

    I wanted to say about the people feeling ownership about time, that people don't need to explain topics that you don't understand. Its not their job. So I get that some people thing that educating is important, sometimes you have to do that on you own or seek out the people who want to spend their time educating others.

  • @carolinashoemaker5938
    @carolinashoemaker5938 4 года назад +4

    There was a time when people from European descent were also called things like "italian american" "irish american" and so on and so on, the purpose of that was because back in the 19th century being "italian american" or "irish american" was considered a different race than white. Labeling people as "x-american" has always being an alienation strategy.

  • @saguaro2231
    @saguaro2231 4 года назад +5

    This is one of the most powerful conversations I've heard...from wonderfully creative individuals with meaningful, thoughtful ideas...for this I thank you....and am hopeful that like conversations are happening in many more places....& that I'm part of it too.

  • @Coconutsky131
    @Coconutsky131 4 года назад +9

    I absolutely love Damon. His vibe and his aesthetic in his videos are so amazing and funky and the red wine talks just really help me unwind I feel like I’m chatting with friends. Makes me feel way less lonely this quarantine and I’m so glad he speaks up on important issues like BLM. Also I have notifications on but I didn’t get one for this video 🤔🤔🤔 Sus. Anyway! Great video as always.

  • @christinac4472
    @christinac4472 4 года назад +1

    so many gems were dropped wow, these talks (and your vids in general) encourage me to be a better version of me - to be more educated, more open and more caring. much love from NY xx

  • @lostinoctober23
    @lostinoctober23 4 года назад +2

    I literally love Red Wine Talks because I love questioning social issues and looking at things from different angles and perspectives, AHHH Damon keep doing what your doing boiiii !!

  • @squirrel_friend9829
    @squirrel_friend9829 4 года назад +7

    I didn’t even know u could divide a video up into sections with subtitles! Damon out here being innovative🤪

  • @gloriabloise1618
    @gloriabloise1618 4 года назад +10

    "the older I get, the younger I feel" UM YES SO FEEL THIS

  • @camiliau6881
    @camiliau6881 4 года назад +3

    You guys, I would love to hear you talk more about how films shape our percepsions, I think its a really deep thought to think about

  • @matcardoso
    @matcardoso 4 года назад +2

    Talking about seeing others perspective considering their background and surroundings, social mídia takes that away, is like we are living in a single country in the same house with different families.

  • @AutumnRusso
    @AutumnRusso 4 года назад +4

    THIS IS A CONVERSATION EVERYONE NEEDS TO HERE! 🖤

  • @rebeccamononen4132
    @rebeccamononen4132 4 года назад

    I love the way that these videos either change my perspective on certain subjects or validate them. They're also very beautiful to watch...

  • @reece0
    @reece0 4 года назад +7

    Damon Dominique I live and breathe for these videos thank you that is all.

  • @john_barton_
    @john_barton_ 4 года назад +3

    Hi! Thank you for being open-minded and unafraid to speak up, mess up, correct and continually learn more. It's very clear while watching this that you are approaching these conversations from a place of humility--not "everyone listen to me because I'm right" but rather a willingness to have conversations that aren't always easy or comfortable. That trait is extremely important and admirable.
    A few things I would say/add are these: Something I think about with white fragility is that rather than worrying so much about whether you're saying exactly the right thing or not, why don't you just stop talking and amplify the voice of someone else who has lived these experiences when you have not? I am learning more and more as a white person who has been studying anti-racism for a few years now is that what is more important than me trying to speak on *behalf* of people of color on these issues or use my privilege to "protect" or defend them in some fictitious way in these conversations is simply to pass the mic--people of color don't need me to be their mouthpiece. Of course I have a responsibility to use my white privilege to draw attention to these issues and to participate in these conversations, but that doesn't mean drawing attention to ME. How I want to use my privilege is not to use my seat at the table (the importance given to white voices which you address in this video) to speak as people of color's ambassador, but rather to make sure that THEY have a seat at the table and that they are listened to. I think a lot of times the best way I can do that is by giving up my seat for them--getting out of the way rather than trying to control how and when they are heard and inserting my own opinions and voice where they aren't needed.
    Another metaphor to think about this is that instead of sitting on a person of color's shoulders to make my voice heard on their behalf, why don't we just switch positions? By letting them shout from atop my shoulders, I can use my privilege to ELEVATE their voice; to give their voice a platform that would usually listen to mine first. I just say all this to say that I don't think we white people need to try to be the ones who always steer these conversations; I think our role is a supportive one, not the ones who should be in the spotlight. We should educate ourselves, make sure that due attention is put onto the issues which disproportionately affect people of color and then support people of color and stand with them as they use their voices without us getting in the way. White people are so used to being at the forefront of everything, but I don't think we need to be front and center in these conversations. I think our place is to make sure other white people aren't turning a blind eye, and then directing their attention to people who can educate them so much better than we can--elevating the best voices, which I don't think are ours.

    • @maria6451
      @maria6451 4 года назад

      And can u give me any examples of how u r priviled by being white?? and if u r going to include stats they please make sure they take socioeconomic bacmround into account.

  • @hanasuckz
    @hanasuckz 4 года назад +2

    I agree so much with what you guys were saying. I believe that we experience and see situations based on how we are treated and what our environment looks like. I grew up in Jordan (Everyone in Jordan are literally either Jordanian or Palestinian and a *very* small percentage of other ethnic groups) up until I was 15, and it wasn't until I was living in Canada I realized that racism is very very real and not a thing of the past. I learned about racism in Jordan through films and google, not through school. My history classes consisted of what was going on in the Middle East and Europe, and barley touched on Canadian and American history. Even in Canada, racism and the treatment of indigenous people was brushed upon in a way that made it appear as though it's not an issue anymore which it definitely is. I always was passionate about Politics and history from a young age because I'm a Kurd, so I actively researched a lot about these things. Social media has definitely helped me a lot as well because you're hearing from the people themselves. Systemic racism is very real and I really hope we make changes there because that's honestly the only hope we have to fix things; it has to be from the very root.

  • @Shes.A.Sagittarius
    @Shes.A.Sagittarius 4 года назад

    Damon!! Holy crap! "you have the right to other people's time" is the EXACT reason Ive deactivated my social media platforms. Whenever I would skip a weekend of posts, people would legit ask me where have I been etc.
    I FEEL LIKE YOURE THE ONLY SOUL WHO KNOWS!!!

  • @kaileebroadway7723
    @kaileebroadway7723 4 года назад +8

    I grew up in D.C. in the inner city, not the nicest part and I didn't talk like everyone else, my voice did sound not like someone from the inner city of D.C. I had a friend who would used to ask me why I talk like I talk. I mean Idk, I cant change that. I was called a OERO so I understand where your coming from girl, it's annoying! Also totally agree about the Miley Cyrus, ever since she twerked it was in but when Black people do it, white people won't hop on it calling it ghetto and also Big lips! Black people have some big plump lips but when Kylie Jenner or whoever started with trying to make lips bigger, white people got hip on that too. As a lot of black communities would say " they want our culture and style but just not us."

  • @Emanuil97
    @Emanuil97 4 года назад +13

    Is there a chance to get an episode like this one in French? 😁😁

  • @lluviaproa-granillo781
    @lluviaproa-granillo781 4 года назад +89

    Hello! I noticed a frequent use of saying that all “Americans” are treated differently and some unfairly. Even though I was born in “America,” being that I’m an indigenous person I still don’t identify w/ the identity of “American” because it was and is only truly reserved and created for white colonizers. The “American” identity is completely colonial. Also, the point about what you were saying, about not knowing what to say or “how to fit” as a white person into the conversation of race, I think it’s not really white folks job to fit or take up room in BIPOC spaces, but to just listen and reevaluate that race is a problem created by white people and y’all really need to start enacting change and conversation with one another about how sick this system of white supremacy is in all of its forms and inheritance. Other than that, I overall enjoy your channel and frequently wait for your red wine talk sessions because it’s like talking to my friends. In that we talk about how everything means anything or nothing and multiple truths exist but that we are unreliable narrators so in a way we also lie. Anyway, until next time!

    • @maria6451
      @maria6451 4 года назад +2

      American just bloody describes the country u were born in theres no need to be so anal about it. Almost every territory has been invaded, there have been empires all over the world that supressed minor cultures. Almost every country is a result of this and i dont see why cant we all just move past that and see that an american described someone born in the us the same way a slovakian describes someone born in slovakia for example.

    • @nabe___99
      @nabe___99 4 года назад +1

      I don't know how that would work in the english language, but in portuguese we definitely have words to distinguish people from the USA and not call everyone just american.

    • @darukona7218
      @darukona7218 4 года назад

      @@nabe___99 how do you call them then ?

    • @nabe___99
      @nabe___99 4 года назад

      @@darukona7218 estatadunidense, it's literal translation would be united statian. We also use americano (american) sometimes, it just depends on the conversation we're having.

  • @suzaney241
    @suzaney241 4 года назад +3

    always w the best videos that talk about things that NO ONE EVER addresses .... thank youuuuuuuuuuu damon

  • @cyn341
    @cyn341 3 года назад

    this is without a doubt my favorite RWT… I really enjoyed hearing Malaika’s point of view and hope you have her on again! Thank you for this series and for your amazing work Damon ❤️❤️

  • @cestlavie1324
    @cestlavie1324 4 года назад +1

    Excellent conversation. Very serious content yet delivered in a very entertaining way!! Ya’ll really listened to each other..... you certainly practice what you preach!!! Thank you. Loved this!!!! Please discuss race in the USA 🇺🇸 -vs- race in Europe or France 🇫🇷 & maybe include 2-3 more people. BTW I’m 60 years young lol 😝 and my mother is French (white) and father is African American in their 80’s now. They are still married 65 years later living in the USA for most of their marriage. First 2 years they lived in France (Alsace Lorraine) or just la Lorraine now. My brother Alain 63, was born in France and their 3 daughters were all born in the USA. We are all New Yorkers now living in Arizona together 🌵🌞
    I love, love your channel Damon Dominique!!🌈🥰♥️🇫🇷🇺🇸

  • @sangui2314
    @sangui2314 4 года назад +2

    thanks so much for making this video! You and Malaika have talked about certain topics I haven't seen brought up as much. Love the wine talks

  • @polaolichwier4517
    @polaolichwier4517 4 года назад +5

    damon saying how malaika is only 19 and my 16 years old ass sitting here like: 👀
    also such a great convo i loved every single second of it

  • @SecretTwilightGirl
    @SecretTwilightGirl 4 года назад +103

    6 minutes in but it’s very funny Europeans sit here and say “We’re all X-nationality.” But then turn around and exclude “immigrants” (mostly from African countries that they colonized so their home country is basically unliveable from colonial exploitation) from being “ really” X-nationality. I know black ppl in France particularly are constantly questioned or assumed to not actually be French because there isn’t the same U.S. history of a melting pot but a particular entrenched national (ie: racial) identity.
    The U.S. does otherize groups with hyphenizing everyone but at least there’s been so much work done of being a “country of immigrants” (which is a problematic statement in itself considering not all of us came here willingly or are even accepted) and we have these categories. I’ve noticed a lot of European countries don’t even have these conversations about racism or xenophobia and or white exclusion because “We are all French/Danish/Swedish/etc.” It also forces marginalized groups to assimilate and abandon their cultural ties in pursuit of a “higher,” race-blind colonial-blind, culture-blind national identity. Which is a lie because even European national identities are burdened by the ghosts of white supremacy, colonialism, xenophobia, etc.

    • @warisdirie7976
      @warisdirie7976 4 года назад +20

      @@BooksRebound Europeans can definately call themselves "French-Senegalese" or "Dutch-Morroccan" and so on... No one is forcing you to forget about your origins and its traditions... However it's logical to define yourself first by your nationality than your origins since you grew up here and you only know the country of your parents through their own vision of it, or the times you spent while on vacations there. It would be disrespectful to the locals of the country of your origin to act like you're fully from there when you don't know the reality of life 24/7 over there. While you know the reality of life in the country you grew up in and this country has shaped you counsciously and uncounsciously way more than the country of your parents (even if it has too but to a lesser extent since it's through your parents). Aknowledging you're more French for example doesn't mean you're ashamed of being Senegalese as well for example. French-Italians can decide to call themselves French-Italians or just French and no one bats an eye or think they're ashamed of their country of origins if they do so. White Americans don't call themselves "European-Americans" but just "Americans" even though they're not native from the land either. And most Europeans don't identify with the way White Americans are and think, so they wouldn't like if they started doing that. Plus Africans feel the same about African-Americans. Europe and Africa are two entire continents with a lot of diversity and different traditions to be generalized like that. And the term African-American could very well be used for a White Afrikaaner or a Tunisian/Algerian/Moroccan living in the US and they wouldn't be wrong. Let's not even forget the french caribbeans that were brought to those islands (Guadeloupe, Martinique...) as well as Americans but have no other nationality than French since they decided to stay part of France, so what other country should they claim ? Now racism exist in Europe, but it's different. I'm not saying it's better or worse, it's different in every country, and therefore shouldn't be observed through an American perspective. They all have a different history, mentality, there's a need of knowing the different types of racism and how it can be noticed and approached differently thoughout europeans countries (some were not colonizers or were even colonized) you need context before trying to dismantle it.

    • @warisdirie7976
      @warisdirie7976 4 года назад +1

      And nowhere in the french Constitution does it talks about a "racial identity". Some racists might think so, but who cares about them, "French" was never a "race" or ethnicity to begin with.

    • @lauranaut
      @lauranaut 4 года назад +1

      @@warisdirie7976 genuinely curious about what French history class looks like and whether this approach improves things. are French people of color and their achievements fully represented and integrated into lessons throughout schooling years?

    • @warisdirie7976
      @warisdirie7976 4 года назад +1

      @@BooksRebound Yeah sorry my comment was mostly for the original comment. And well you can be seen as an "other" by some racists but France has had generations of immigrants as well so most of the time if you grew up in France and speak french with no accent you are seen as French. I think it's worse in some other countries in Europe which are not as used to diversity, even though France is not perfect.

    • @warisdirie7976
      @warisdirie7976 4 года назад +1

      @@lauranaut Some are represented but not that much to be fair. We talk about colonialism of course, but briefly as we're aware it's not gloryfing. We mostly learn about WW1 and WW2. Most of the time the teachers are neutral, we don't glorify our achievements as much as the anglophone do, but we don't go into details about our negative actions as well. Depends on what kind of teachers we had, or schools we attended too I guess...

  • @fauxpas4u
    @fauxpas4u 4 года назад +1

    love the colors and the overall shot in general. so pretty. also love her outfit!!!!! and of course the red wine talk i love this

  • @ethanperkins2491
    @ethanperkins2491 4 года назад +1

    everything about this video was incredible and I love how well you guys were able to put everything in such a clear and human way. I also feel like it's necessary to say that that damon's outfit really do be poppin' off in this video too. I mean the pants - *chefs kiss*

  • @barbiegirl1090
    @barbiegirl1090 4 года назад +1

    the content i needed. thank you so much! sending u both lots of love and an abundance of even more wisdom (as if ya need it)

  • @sjnothing253
    @sjnothing253 4 года назад +6

    first, THANKS for the cool channel!!! now about: “Black” vs “African-American” - and why we don’t call white Americans ‘European-American.’ / malaika is so right about the use of this terms. this race classifications were created and have supported the whole racist mentality.

  • @lifeofselma3843
    @lifeofselma3843 4 года назад +12

    6:29 "nobody calling you Norway-ish" IM DEADD 😂

  • @hopeanne543
    @hopeanne543 4 года назад +1

    I just love every point Malaika makes in this

  • @skyblue3263
    @skyblue3263 4 года назад +1

    That girl knows how to speak and think properly. Chapeau!

  • @ipsilonia
    @ipsilonia 4 года назад

    i almost came for malaika in the comments bc i didn't think she was militant enough about the black struggle, but i really appreciated how she calmly talked about thinking about other perspectives (i.e. how social media is hella tense/aggressive when people show solidarity "the wrong way"). all ima say is that strong/aggressive messages get seen n heard, in the same way riots yield stronger reactions than peaceful protests do.

  • @TiffanieDavis
    @TiffanieDavis 4 года назад

    Loveeedd this chat - had a similar convo with my french friends about black people in the states being recognized as african american vs. here, they're not really being recognized as afro-french + totally agree with your thoughts on alll things social media w/black lives matter. great vid!!

  • @yfreeman08
    @yfreeman08 4 года назад +1

    I so enjoyed the perspective that you both offered. This video has given me insight on matters that i had not considered. Thanks!

  • @user-lk5zl4ts2c
    @user-lk5zl4ts2c 4 года назад

    i was binge watching ur videos a week ago and enjoy them so much, but this week ive been doing nothing but feel bad for myself idk why lol but i started watching ur red wine talks again and it made me feel so much better idk what it is exactly but i found these videos calming but still entertaining. i usually avoid topics like these coz i feel like i'll go into a spiral but its honestly what got me out of bed and feel something again. thank you so much for this type of content!!!

  • @levisena8106
    @levisena8106 4 года назад +3

    why did I learn more thing in 33:02 mins then 1 semester of history class. Thank you, please do more of these.

  • @tokidoki1029
    @tokidoki1029 4 года назад

    These videos are some of my favorites because there’s such a chill vibe to it. It feels like I’m really with you guys and I’m part of these discussions

  • @tiffanip5047
    @tiffanip5047 4 года назад

    Please do more of these sit down talks. I love them so much❤️ such interesting topics and things I always think about that’s not really discussed between people is nice to see

  • @el.visuals
    @el.visuals 4 года назад

    These red wine talks are so informative and interesting to hear and I feel like throughout this video, I learned so many genuine facts that the media doesn't show at ALL. Thank you both for sharing this, love you Damon and Malaika and if you guys are seeing this...girl that would be a blessing.

  • @filmfauxtos
    @filmfauxtos 4 года назад

    I'm super into the discussion at 31:39 where you talk about death being significant because of what happens afterwards (humanity continuing). it got me thinking how there are so many things that get their significance purely on what precedes or follows them, an example i discussed in a video i've made, discusses the significance of dessert coming after a meal

  • @_ritabarata
    @_ritabarata 4 года назад +1

    yessss, perspective and dialogue!! 💯💯💯💯

  • @beril9539
    @beril9539 4 года назад

    the whole damon dominique channel is everything i’ve been looking for my entire life

  • @itsntok6071
    @itsntok6071 4 года назад +1

    for me, the black square silenced the ‘white noise’ and made a whole day of social media dedicated for black lives matter. it removed the feed and highlighted to stories which shared information

  • @jordiblu2131
    @jordiblu2131 4 года назад

    So true! I thought this was just me but there WAS a craaazy social media frenzy around this movement that I couldn’t wrap my head around so I just came off EVERYTHING because It just turned into people ordering you to do SOMETHING or nastiness and I just checked out for a little.

  • @Victoria-dd5lu
    @Victoria-dd5lu 4 года назад

    ONE OF MY FAVORITE RED WINE TALKS HANDS DOWN

  • @lemongacha
    @lemongacha 4 года назад +1

    yo so glad for these different perspectives on issues!!! i was so eager to write someone off and not listen bc they weren’t willing to do “x” action to help “y” cause 👁 mind expanded eye opened

  • @dominiquemeeus2008
    @dominiquemeeus2008 4 года назад +1

    every word that @malaikanasimok is saying in this video is resonating with me so much. Really, this is the first time I've heard a black person talking about #BlackLivesMatter like this, like actually explaining what their/your thoughts are as a black person on how white people should react right now, other than the "it's not enough to not be racist, you have to be anti-racist". Like every time I hear that I'm like "yeah, I know, & I want to, but how do I do that right now?" Especially since I also don't live in the US, like, if I did, I would go out & protest & try to help people, but since I don't live anywhere where stuff like that happens (I mean protests and such, not racism, racism is everywhere), how do I be an ally without being a copout or something like that. I'm sorry, this is really becoming a rant, but just really thank you @damondominique for making this great video & especially @malaikanasimok for sharing your thoughts on this subject. This video made me feel a lot better (really sorry if that's sounds super "white girl offended on behalf of #BLM uh" but yeah. Thanks :)

  • @skznprcnk204
    @skznprcnk204 4 года назад +1

    the concept of stories being told from many perspectives is fascinating. i recommend the book Sapiens by Harari, in which he digs into the stories being told. Everything is story, we just choose to believe it. Religion is a story, human rights are a story. some stories are better to believe and act to accordance with but still they are abstract reality. choose your stories well y'all

  • @kale9912
    @kale9912 4 года назад +6

    Tuning in with my grape juice lol. I've been waiting for this one!!

  • @mdiet5544
    @mdiet5544 4 года назад +1

    19?? holy damn, she is so well spoken, mature and intelligent. I‘m 18 and my goal is now to speak so articulately wow

  • @lanam5604
    @lanam5604 4 года назад +9

    Damon cosplaying as a glossier employee

  • @YB-bw1oi
    @YB-bw1oi 4 года назад +2

    This could easily be a weekly podcast! I would love that :$

  • @auntiecodie
    @auntiecodie 4 года назад +6

    hell yes! i’ve been waiting on this video all week. 🥺😭

  • @harvey8316
    @harvey8316 4 года назад +7

    “our past is a story we tell ourselves” sounding a lot like the film ‘her’

  • @sarallorente5216
    @sarallorente5216 4 года назад +2

    I truly love this episodes

  • @mariaeduardaanjosmoura5420
    @mariaeduardaanjosmoura5420 4 года назад +1

    Sup! So as a brazillian, what we are taught about the USA in school is pretty scarse but a lot on how the usa influenced our independence (basically they were allies of ours and they would help us fight the portuguese if they ever try to colonize us again) and how they were kind of the closest reflection of the enlightment movement that was happening in Paris. I honestly only heard about the revolutionary war that you guys are talking about in' Hamilton' lol. Plus our culture is really francophilic so we study europe as a continent primarily from the french perspective, and if you ever get to study about communication and media in brazil you will lear that our press is highly connected to the french press from its origens (amazing how we enherited the style of press but not the sense of democracy #forabolsonaro)

  • @itsalexandramartin
    @itsalexandramartin 4 года назад +4

    These red wine talks are the best!

  • @amberquinn5407
    @amberquinn5407 4 года назад

    This is the best series on RUclips hands down!
    I can't wait for the next episode!

  • @Eli-eg3jd
    @Eli-eg3jd 4 года назад

    I love this series cause it opens the door to listening to the perspective and experiences of other people. When Malaika was talking about people saying she "talked white" it reminded me of a poem by Michèle Lalonde titled "Speak White". It's about the phrase "speak white". Anglo Quebecers used it to tell Francophone Quebecers that they should be speaking English. Even with regards to language, those in power are the ones deciding what language and dialects are acceptable and proper and what dialects and accents are not. This is used to further distinguish people from each other and vulgarize minority groups who do not conform.

  • @mariainchs
    @mariainchs 4 года назад +1

    i love thèse types of vidéos they are great to watch especially during quarantine thank you for the ongoing content that is also constructive discussions about current events