i couldn’t stand emily! she wasn’t even bothered to learn french and would constantly talk about how they’re rude and selfish- which are the most unoriginal and overused stereotypes for french people. it’s really insensitive and obnoxious of her. anyway i’m not here to rant but, lily collins is a BABE and she has amazing acting skills but this tv show....was horrible.
I'm a 24yo french girl living in Paris and everything you say is so true lol 1. I have NEVER in my life called the police, and I hope I'll never have to cause I really don't trust them, they often don't come or don't take you seriously unless it's a real emergency. I'm always to surprised when I see the police coming right away in american movies haha 2. The money is very taboo here, even in family we don't talk about income, i still don't know how much my parents earn. Our realtionship with money is very different from the US, I think it comes from the catholic/protestant culture differences 3. You learn the "bonjour" rule the hard way even as a french kid. I would often start the conversation right away when I was a kid/teenager and would receive the same upset "bonjour" until I learnt my lesson haha. And now I myself find it rude when people don't say bonjour PS : I really love you style, it is so original and refreshing !
The point of the police is ONLY to call if its a REAL emergency lmao 911 is an emergency number, for nonemergency issues, go to the station to file a report. Filing a report in Paris is the same experience as filing a report in the Bronx lol I'm glad that Europe police don't entertain bullshit like US police are forced to deal with.
@@ALEX-pg1hb The call 18 (fireman) is the equivalent of 911 in the USA. This is the number we teach our children. In France if there is a fight, a shooting or a car accident we call the firefighters first rather than the police. Firefighters specialize in all types of rescues and move quickly. There is an idea to first rescue before looking for responsible/criminals.
@@ALEX-pg1hb ”The point of the police is ONLY to call if its a REAL emergency lmao” So you're trying to say that when a stranger is trying to break into your apartment that's not a real emergency or am I missing something?
I think the “bonjour” effect is so interesting! I like it that two people are agreeing to talk to each other first. I feel that in the U.S., people would find it unnecessary or rude that you wasted more of their time with the exchange of hellos first haha. Anyways, thanks for sharing, Shayna!
I remember i was in France ordering a drink and I didn’t say “bonjour” first I just asked and the guy looked at me and said “bonjour” and I repeated what I said and he said it again and I was like “oh bonjour” then he allowed me to order ahha I felt so rude and so bad after !!
yeah if someone stops me saying hello first here i assume they are trying to sell me something lmao. if they want directions they should just get right to the point haha
In the U.S. we have to exchange “How are you” and respond “fine” even to strangers. It is so irritating and a waste of time. It is inauthentic and unimaginative IMHO
Leaving the US is so intimidating to me. Like no friends, gotta find a job, and a place to live, no help from anyone?? But also I wanna live in Europe!!! It’s such a catch 22. Your channel is such an inspiration though 🖤
it can be overwhelming at first but I recommend joining Facebook groups! they can be super helpful and insightful. for example there is Americans in France on FB which is really good
there are MANY places in Europe where you will find the people MUCH more warm initially (Italy, Greece, Spain, etc...). France (Paris, especially) can be very depressing... try Barcelona (my fave),, Rome (or any place in Italy other than Milan), Amsterdam, Lisbon (one of my FAVES)....people tend to be very warm, patient and great food and culture. Paris is far from the best option....XOXO
Some of the scariness is what makes it so invigorating, but it's for sure an adjustment. I'd also recommend dipping your toe in by living somewhere like the UK or Ireland so that you don't have to learn a new language along with so many other things, and you're still able to take short trips around EU and language classes as well. I moved from Hawaii to Switzerland, and then to N. Ireland and to suddenly be able to speak my mother tongue in N.Ireland again made adjusting and finding a job/living quarters/friends SO much easier than it was in Switzerland.
I lived in southern France for a year & what I noticed is that things just don’t open before 10:30 and it’s totally ok to take your time with things which was a nice change of pace for me (being Swiss means time = money & money is our religion so being in southern France really gave me a much needed break from that mindset)
After living in Southern France i would so agree Kiera, life is chiller than the north and it’s so nice being able to do things in a leisurely manner :)
When you said that in Paris police occasionally doesn't come when you call them ,I actually felt that because in Greece it's really rare for you to report something and have the police to actually come .
''The police never showed up'' hahaha that made me laugh because i live in mexico and we don't even call sometimes because we know for a fact they wont show up and idk if its sad or funny
I live in the US. The police come when they are called----most times when they are needed, and many times it can take a while. I suppose that is why most Americans have guns. I live in a rural area. It will take police at least 30 minutes to get to my home.
@@jamesbinns8528 Only if you live in the suburbs (which is most of America) but if you live in the city, they aren't coming unless you're dying. In LA, Chicago, NYC, New Orleans, they will never come
I love the last point! I'm always taken aback when people claim Paris is a disappointment. I get where they're coming from though. You can create this elaborate fantasy in your head of what a place will be like, but what works best is to accept what is. When I visited Paris, I remember being so grateful to be there at all because I had never been out of the country besides Canada many years before. It is still one of my greatest memories and that's why I second the point that "it's what you make it"
For dealing with administration, and anything else, to get around the "non, c'est pas possible/ non, on est pas responsable/ non, whatever" attitude: always ask a second or a third person, always ask multiple times, since it's common that people don't tell you how something actually works or there is simply no strict rule. Then go with the person/ answer that brings you forward. I find this works pretty well, but I also find it terrible as a principle and had a hard time to get used to the attitude of people in administration and customer service. I'm from Germany (now living in Paris for a few years), people there are very task oriented and tell you usually what to, even without you having to ask them, to find a solution for the situation. So at the beginning of my time in France, I lost a lot of time and opportunities because I took the first answers to my problems for the reality. But this also taught me to not accept NOs so easily :) (just wished in administrative stuff everybody would be treated equally, still)
This is "terriblement vrai" (very true), France has changed a lot since 30 years ago, the new generations and others, don't care about anything and have a look completly indifferent. I can see that daily .
The American society is way more easygoing imho, as a teen I spent several summers in the US, after only 3 months there I had a hard time readapting to France and it's complex rules,,-and I'm a French national, by the way.
Europe is interesting....right NOW, it is super dangerous in much of the countries....funny enough that MANY Europeans feel that way about the U.S. Everyone seems to want to live HERE
Europe is not all that. I’ve lived in both UK and Sweden (im swedish) and it’s not that big of a deal. I’m moving to France permanently tho. Europe is superior to the US in many ways in terms of culture.
T'es mal poli. Pas étonnant que les gens te détestent. Sérieux et la politesse ??!! Ma banquière m'a pas dit bonjour je l'ai remise en place directe cette voleuse
We can also say: "excusez-moi" first to get the attention of the person and then "bonjour" before asking something because sometimes saying "excusez-moi" immediatly translates to someone needing attention when on the other had you can pass by people saying "bonjour" to each other (not needing attention). My point is you might be seen as rude if you forget to say " Bonjour" but don't forget the "excusez moi" otherwise you might see people walking away without even noticing you. (which sometimes people will do even if they've heard you, specially in Paris but to be fair it's not that common). And would advise guys to avoid asking direction to a woman in a deserted strret or empty metro wagon if possible wait for a guy to show up. You'll spare her an anxiety rise.
@@MrKLeBlanc It is my expérience that when one says "excusez moi" instead of "bonjour", one gets ignored. If you are going to say "excusez-moi" you have the say "bonjour" in the same breath. As in: "excusez-moi-bonjour".
@@mameh4243 Thank you for the clarification. From my experience (it can differ from region to region. The tone can play a huge role as well here. I mean "excusez moi" alone is often used to ask someone to let you pass through a crowded place or if one happen to be too much in someone else personal space or if you bumped in someone,etc. Generally speaking if you use the "excusez moi alone" with the right tone and(repeatidly if necessary), the person will aknowledge you and try to answer with or without a "bonjour" BUT "Bonjour" is a plus that shows you are polite and you'll improve your chances get a better, none rushed (expeditive), answer using it. That being said I couldn't have said it better: If you are going to say "excusez-moi" you have the say "bonjour" in the same breath. As in: "excusez-moi-bonjour". That is what i usually do...
I am French and moved to Paris when I was 17, I loved it but went through most of what you're talking about... And after 7 years I was definitely blaming the city for all my troubles. You are just so much stronger than I was haha.... I miss Paris though...
I'm not sure if you had already, but I'd love to hear you telling stories about your life in the US, how you decided to move to France, your moving story.. etc. Really love your channel and enjoy your content!
My friends in France are always shocked that I have a masters in French and am now a paralegal lol. Didn’t study law at all. I slowly built a resume as a paralegal and I am now 10+ years in. They make it sound impossible in France.
the job part is true in italy too. it's horrible, I think there's nothing wrong with changing path in life, here when you chose a career people expect you stick with it till retirement.
yes...but Italy...oh my dear Italy....the BEST food in Europe, art, music, opera, museums, so many beautiful towns, wonderful people.....I just adore it
Girl... I've had someone try to open my home door too! It was a bunch of youth and my husband was obviously at work. There were about 4-5 of them and were trying to open up and they persisted about 15 minutes. I would have been crying if I called the police and they never came! Here I was holding a knife in my hand!
@@thepurplepalace85 I'm in Annecy. I've lived here for 7 years. When this was happening, we lived on the other side of the lake and of course none of the neighbors saw. I was so scared. Now I know that if I would have stabbed one of them, I could have gone to jail! Go figure!
The thing with answering in English when you speak French is universal I guess. I'm French, I speak German and English and when I go to Germany, even if my German is pretty good, when they hear the French accent the Germans often answer in English. And it's so frustrating to me too!
You are spot on. I’ve been here five years and it can be difficult, but the good out ways the bad. I’m probably forty years older than you but feel the experience you describe. It can be so difficult to do get a Carte de Sejour, but getting a health card (carte verte) is heavenly, they cover me for health insurance, way better than than the US. I live here as a retired person who can actually live off my Social Security. I too, wish my French were better, but I work on it daily. And yes, the Bon Jour thing is so true. Oh girl, I feel your pain. My first video of you was after your breakup, and I had just moved to a new city where I knew no one, keep on girl, I see so much promise in you.
I am a french girl who moved to ireland, and your video is really helping me to understand that all expatriates struggle for different things during their stay abroad! It really motivates me! Love this kind of video! Merci beaucoup pour cette vidéo! Bonne chance pour la suite! Hâte de regarder ta prochaine vidéo !
I'm french, and I have to say people in Paris are insane ! We don't like them because of that... You have to go to Lille in the North, this is where the people are the most welcoming if you want to have friends quickly and the town is amazing ! Have a great evening 🥰
i love this video sm! i'm only 14 and living in australia, but i hope to be able to move there one day. it's so refreshing to see someone genuinely point out how it isn't always perfect. you seem so genuine :)
Thank you for the ending. I really needed to hear that. I'm one of those people who stays in her apartment because she's scared to go out... Too many experiences have happened to make me feel this way and it has traumatized me. But thank you so much for your positive outlook!
This is a brilliant video, thank you @The purple palace. I have lived in France for 7 years and I have adopted your same attitude, adapt or die!! This is a very helpful blog, thank you so much.
I also had an experience where someone tried to get inside my apartment. At 3-4am, banging my door or ringing my doorbell non stop! I was only living in Paris for like a month??? Spoke absolute no french.....and panic dialled the police to please come and help me! I think the only reason the police came to me that time was because I sounded so scared. But this guy, ringing my doorbell would keep at it in different times of the day or night and I would never be able to catch him....it terrifies me to hear a doorbell now or I get jumpy! UGH. I even complained to the manager of the building and all they told me was, oh its impossible to know who this person is, there is nothing I can do......LIKE C'MON! I left that place as soon as I could. DAFUQ.
don’t usually comment but you seem like such a wonderful person to be around! was feeling a little anxious today (def from my coffee) but now am currently watching your videos & feel so calm. 🌙🌹❤️ a breath of fresh air!
I am French but I have lived in the UK for the last 13 years (pretty much my whole adult life). I have recently moved back to France and this video literally teaches me how to behave like a French again!!
I was listening to this and paying much attention, then I remember I was french 😂😂 Btw what you said about the police is kinda sad, cause there are so many cases of women being beaten up who call the police (or neighbors most of all) without having anyone coming for help
Having a decent understanding of the language is a good way of getting along with the people there. They tend to get a bit offended when foreigners don’t even attempt to try to speak their language.
Thanks for the video! I really enjoyed this! I can relate to some of the things you said in the video! Like when I met up with French people and I spoke in French with them they would switch to English all the time. But a lot of them complained about Americans not being able to speak a second language or speaking bad French. It kinda hurt my feelings but it's a good thing not all of them are like that and I met some really nice ones who supported me a lot. Also the bonjour effect is so true. My French friends all get super mad if someone does not say bonjour first. Also the paperwork and all that is a mess. My friends complain about it all the time lol. Haha but I learned a lot from this video! Thanks!
yes I totally relate! some hate when you can't speak French, some love it, and some well...haha in Paris I feel it is even more difficult to get people to speak French with you in the beginning. I wonder if its the same in a little village?
Salut Purple Palace ! J'adore tes vidéos, c'est toujours amusant de voir un point de vue extérieur ! J'aimerais réagir à certains propos que je trouvais drôle ( du point de vue d'une Française) : 1- making friends : c'est marrant car je n'ai pas cette impression. Pour avoir beaucoup déménagé je trouve que les gens viennent te parler facilement, en particulier à l'université ou au lycée. Après je dirais qu'il ne faut pas avoir peur d'aller vers les autres, proposer des sorties... en général après 2 semaines tu peux rencontrer du monde. Mais si tu es timide, ou que tu n'oses pas ça risque d'être compliqué. Et oui s'inscrire dans des clubs, des activités c'est presque indispensable si vous voulez rencontrer du monde car dans la rue les gens en général aiment leur tranquillité :) 2 police : hahaha . Oui, en France la police ne va pas se déplacer ( pareil pour l'ambulance) à chaque fois. Dans un premier temps ils vont analyser la situation (est ce que tu es en danger immédiat etc). S'ils pensent que non il peuvent te donner des recommandations (rester chez vous par exemple) sinon de les rappeler et dans ce cas ils vont venir. Par contre si tu étais en train de te faire agresser en principe ils auraient été plus réactifs. 4- speaking french : c'est vrai que si j' ai une amie qui ne parle pas bien français je vais avoir tendance à lui parler en anglais sauf si elle me demande de parler en français. Aussi, les personne de plus de 50 ans ne parlent pas anglais 🤣Les personnes plus jeunes vers 20 ans vont parler plus facilement anglais. 5- dire bonjour : c est tellement vrai! Mais n'est-ce pas plus agréable? 8- l administration : true true trueeee !!! Ouiii, si vous venez en France vous allez découvrir un nouvel enfer : l'administration. C' est simple vous allez devoir vous battre, sinon, vous n aurez rien . Ne vous laissez pas faire, et n'attendez pas! 😂 💞💘bisouss
Love the ending thoughts! You get to create your reality! France is just a backdrop. I had the opposite reaction about Paris when I went. I fell in love with it, and didn't think much about it before I went. My expectations were not high. I am going back to France as an English Teacher once I graduate college. Not Paris specifically, but I will definitely be making many visits when I get back :)
omg we need a storytime with all the chelou stuff that has happened to you, please! I loved the story about the guy trying to pick your lock. I'd have totally freaked out, start shaking and invent the worst scenarios whereas you were like yo, whatcha doing?! in your pjs. GOALS!
You really nailed life advice towards the end. Saying your life & reality is your own creation no matter where you live 💕 that really hit home to me! Overall a great informative video, too thank you!
Saw some of your videos last year (I think they were paint with me's?) and thought it was pretty cool that you moved to France but thought little of it. Now I am studying French as hard as I can, and planning to move there in the next two or so years to persue art and screenwriting in a new environment. Thank you for your videos!
Hello everybody. I'm a french man of 63y. The main point to know concerns the way of life the french had 50 years ago. Life was one thousand times easier and more pleasant than nowadays.
I'm moving to Paris in December from England to be an Au Pair for 8/9 months :) Thank you for this wonderful content, it helps me feel less nervous about my new start!
@@noreenmae5779 I'm having the best time! My family are the most lovely people, the parents were so welcoming and the children are really polite and sweet. I've been travelling to meet au pair girls during my weekends so it's been good for making friends too!
@@sophiepalmer1887 aww I'm so happy for you! That must have been a scary step. Glad you like it! I'm german and looking forward to graduating this spring and I'm always looking out for inspirations and ideas to do during my gap year.
Yesss, je suis complètement d'accord avec toi : Paris (ou n'importe quelle autre ville du monde d'ailleurs) c'est vraiment ce qu'on en fait ! Il suffit juste de ce bouger un peu et tout peu changer très vite (en bien). Merci beaucoup pour ta bonne humeur quotidienne, ça fait du bien ! :)
I live in LA!! I moved to LA from Europe 5 years ago. Although I have dual citizenship, the apartment situation was also the same as yours in France! Especially since I was a student when I moved here and didn't know a single soul. A nightmare!! And yes to your last point about creating your own reality, you summed it up beautifully. My first year was the hardest but LA is what you make it! I hear so many people say the cliche LA is so fake cliche I just roll my eyes. I have like four friends but I'm very appreciative and thankful of my journey thus far.
Ah Shayna, I love this so much. I've had so many ups and downs in this city, not necessarily through its merits or its faults, but it does feel like things are intense here. I will contest also though, that recently I had my electricity out in my apartment while i was also stuck there in quarantine. After several nice, polite cool/calm/collected conversations with EDF and a week of cold showers, I threw the biggest fit I've ever thrown in my life (not directed at the person, but they had to bear witness to it) and somebody came and fixed the problem 15 minutes later. You never know what they actually want here lol. Gros bisous
In France if you want to report something that happened to you, you have to wait a very very long time in the police's building without any appointment. The when they finally, take your report you will have to choose between one of the several reports existing in France (main courante, deposition, plainte etc...), depending on how much you think that what happened to you is grave. Each report involves something else in the proceedure, so you have to well know each report, in order to not make mistakes about what you would like to be happening with your case.
I would love to seem more sit down conversations in French! I always love getting to practice my French by listening to all of your fun stories and experiences!
this was actually really informative lol. could you make a video about your experience as an au pair, ive heard you talk about it a bit before but Idk if ive seen anything on your channel specifically about that experience. Love your channel btw!
yes! Paris is definitely what you make it and what mind set you're in. All the times i've been has been so magical and romantic lol (as I made the best of my time and through myself out there on the first day)
I agree with the last thing you said about creating your own reality 🌝 When I moved to NY for an internship I had super high expectations and I wasn't really proactive , which caused lots of anxiety and a depressive episode. I want things to be different now that I move to Paris this January. Thanks for posting this !
I have been in Paris for 3 months. In this Covid time is even worse to find a job. Your video is so true, what I see here. Fortunately my boyfriend is Parisian, so we are meeting his friends often and they all welcomed me with open arms :D. Thank you for this video and thank you for the last words in the end. I was also very negative about many things in Paris l as is to find a job, authorities, prices... But now I try to keep positive, actually doing yoga every day :D and hoping for better future.
Hi, great tips! I wish I knew them before I moved here too but after 2 years here i have learned a lot. The french are polite and at times rude but not so much once you realize where theyre coming from. I also notice how people just expect to have everyone stop and answer your questions without a "excuse me or Bonjour". thank you for your fun video
I’ve been learning French since I was a kid, my grandparents had a house there and lived there for most of the year and we would visit. It’s crazy to me that so many Americans don’t learn other languages and many stay in America for their whole life (I’m from the uk btw).
Hello 😉 Great video. I'm Norwegian and lived in Paris for nine years. Your points about politesse really resonate with me. I am very impressed with much of this part of French culture. I really appreciate the way the French behave themselves in public. Talking at low volume makes for a stress-free atmosphere at restaurants, and not EVER making or taking calls in the passenger cars on trains are but two examples of how they have truly mastered the art of living civilized in large groups. Politesse at its best makes life easier for everyone. However... the other side of the coin is the dogmatic politeness where it serves no useful purpose and is actually just pretense. For me, coming from the Arctic north of Norway which is even in Norway infamous for its extreme directness, the pretense was killing me..! Now I'm sure to French people they don't think of it in those terms, but to my mind, in a context like a job interview, it is very obvious that both parties are going to really care about the salary, and they'll both have thought about it well ahead of the interview, so it feels like this insane kind of theater to sit around pretending "obviously I don't care about the money!" is, as you pointed out, just a waste of everyone's time. I do remember one time when the money taboo led to a laugh. As a fairly recent arrival, I was sitting in a bar looking at apartments for rent in a classified ads magazine, and I expressed shock and disbelief at some of the prices at the Île de la Cité, where a fairly small place could well be 25 000 francs (~3500€) a month. The barmaid, a beautiful and lovely brunette named Eleanor, didn't bat an eyelid, but smiled and asked: charges compris? By asking if charges, basically the cost of electricity, were included, she elevated the pretense to a satirical level. This is something I think the French were doing between each other a lot of the time, sadly without me being able to detect it. Their sense of humor generally was a challenge for me; it's subtle and often involves word play, which makes it incredibly amusing IF you can get it, but creates a high bar for slapstick foreigners... 😂
I've been thinking about doing a semester abroad in Paris for uni and since I'm from Quebec I thought it would be pretty easy to catch up because I already speak french but these are some big differences that I will have to get used to haha, this is a great video and I adore your mug
I think it's pretty rare for French people to report stuff to the police on the phone. Usually we call them for emergencies only ;) then if you want to report something you go to the police station, but you wouldn't expect them to come if it's not like reaaaally urgent.
I found it so easy to make friends when I lived abroad however have struggled when I returned to England after 12 years away and during a pandemic lol.
My friend spent time in France . He said Parisians were so stuck up and difficult with outsiders. It wasn't until he moved to the countryside that the French were more friendly.
American Girl at a Fashion School in France, the struggle is so real! Thank you for making these videos they help me not feel so alone with these things lol
The timing of this! I'm from the UK and last week I had an interview for this role with an American company and the lady asked me what my salary expectations were and my head almost flew off my shoulders.. it's like she knocked every sensible word of out my head 😂 I have never in my life been asked about salary expectations in an interview, it's interesting to hear the French are similar in that way.
Wait, I’m a Canadian moving to the UK next year, I’ve lived in Canada and Australia and they both ask you that question... they don’t ask you in the UK?
@@safiamerali5400 I have personally never been asked in my life, most employers mention it within the job advert but if they don't it seems bold to just bring it up in the interview. If you are moving from abroad I would expect the process to be different because there are soo many other elements to consider to ensure the move and job makes sense and I would expect any given company to acknowledge that significant difference.
hi Purple! your videos helped me lot. it's been 2 year that i live in France and i'm on this stage right now ; Blaming on this country , my circumstances .. depressed -> try to being pro active to make me feel "Happy"-> feel tiring to Being trying -> (Repeat) . but you are right girl, gotta lay back and live my very own life. Thank you so much, bisoussss 🌞
I can't believe it (esp. in corona times) but I've just signed up for a language school in Montpellier. I don't want to wait to start my life in France!! I love your channel so much and you have given me so much confidence since I've found you this summer (and watched your whole channel haha). Life/France/everything is truly what you make of it. I love everything you produce so any video topic is encouraged...but these vids in particular are such a huge help to all of us getting our feet off the ground..
Montpellier is SO different. Paris and its people are really different than the rest of France. Especially South, you will see, it's much chiller and people really love foreign students, it will definitely be easier for you to have French friends! Congratulation :)
Which language school did you decide to enrol in Montpellier? Is the course more than 3 months? Planning to move to France... going the student visa route. Still looking for a good language school. Cheers
About the police, I’ve actually had that experience in the United States, here in Maryland. In fact I should have been thankful, because it was not such an emergency in the end, but at first I thought it was, and had called 911. They did say someone would be dispatched, but in fact no one ever came.
i live in VA and it hasn’t happened to me but i’ve heard those stories around the DMV area. really sucks because we pay that stuff and someones life could be on the line and they just don’t care :(
Planning to go abroad for grad school (particularly France, since I’m learning the language) so this was SO helpful especially bc I’m also visiting Paris for a few days in January 😌 thank you sm for this info
Hi, lovely to hear this from someone who went through similar struggles. I have been living in the city for 4 years now and I can relate a lot to your points. I have never understood the customer service in France though, god help me. "Bonjour for starting a conversation with a stranger courtesy" is so true and I find it a little bit funny as it doesn't come naturally, but well... faster you get this city survival skill better for you ;). Lots of good thoughts for you and happy new year (I suppose for French it would be some kind of "faut pas", since here we announce any new year wishes at the beginning of an actual new year if I'm not wrong ;)) Thanks again for the video, bisous!
Thank you for this wonderful video! Your tips are not only helpful for Paris but anywhere in the world. Please do more helpful life tips videos like this. I am motivated and inspired.
I love your energy so much! You have this amazing free spirit about you 💜 I always feel inspired to live authentically after watching any of your videos. Thank you!
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What did you find the most surprising about the things I wish I knew? ALSO have y'all seen Emily in Paris? 😂 What did you think?
Yes, I just finished watching Emily in Paris, and it's so relatable and funny.
i thought the emily character was so obnoxious and annoying i had to stop haha
i couldn’t stand emily! she wasn’t even bothered to learn french and would constantly talk about how they’re rude and selfish- which are the most unoriginal and overused stereotypes for french people. it’s really insensitive and obnoxious of her. anyway i’m not here to rant but, lily collins is a BABE and she has amazing acting skills but this tv show....was horrible.
omg i finished emily in paris is one day. LE VAGIN is not male! hehe
do that many people speak english in pairs? like in emily in paris?
I'm a 24yo french girl living in Paris and everything you say is so true lol
1. I have NEVER in my life called the police, and I hope I'll never have to cause I really don't trust them, they often don't come or don't take you seriously unless it's a real emergency. I'm always to surprised when I see the police coming right away in american movies haha
2. The money is very taboo here, even in family we don't talk about income, i still don't know how much my parents earn. Our realtionship with money is very different from the US, I think it comes from the catholic/protestant culture differences
3. You learn the "bonjour" rule the hard way even as a french kid. I would often start the conversation right away when I was a kid/teenager and would receive the same upset "bonjour" until I learnt my lesson haha. And now I myself find it rude when people don't say bonjour
PS : I really love you style, it is so original and refreshing !
The point of the police is ONLY to call if its a REAL emergency lmao 911 is an emergency number, for nonemergency issues, go to the station to file a report. Filing a report in Paris is the same experience as filing a report in the Bronx lol I'm glad that Europe police don't entertain bullshit like US police are forced to deal with.
@@ALEX-pg1hb
The call 18 (fireman) is the equivalent of 911 in the USA. This is the number we teach our children. In France if there is a fight, a shooting or a car accident we call the firefighters first rather than the police. Firefighters specialize in all types of rescues and move quickly. There is an idea to first rescue before looking for responsible/criminals.
yes NEVER talk about money.
@@ALEX-pg1hb ”The point of the police is ONLY to call if its a REAL emergency lmao”
So you're trying to say that when a stranger is trying to break into your apartment that's not a real emergency or am I missing something?
@@trorisk the number 18 is the fire department and 17 is the police department ‘s number, the equivalent of 911. The ambulance’s called Samu is 15.
I think the “bonjour” effect is so interesting! I like it that two people are agreeing to talk to each other first. I feel that in the U.S., people would find it unnecessary or rude that you wasted more of their time with the exchange of hellos first haha. Anyways, thanks for sharing, Shayna!
yes I didn't get it at first but now it makes so much sense to me!! thanks for your kind words :)
I remember i was in France ordering a drink and I didn’t say “bonjour” first I just asked and the guy looked at me and said “bonjour” and I repeated what I said and he said it again and I was like “oh bonjour” then he allowed me to order ahha I felt so rude and so bad after !!
yeah if someone stops me saying hello first here i assume they are trying to sell me something lmao. if they want directions they should just get right to the point haha
@@ihatehandles111 yep, I only use 4 French words, Bonjour, Aviour, Merci, Salut, always greet with bonjour and then I ask, do you speak English?
In the U.S. we have to exchange “How are you” and respond “fine” even to strangers. It is so irritating and a waste of time. It is inauthentic and unimaginative IMHO
Love hearing about your experiences! 💗💗 Makes me feel like I am living vicariously through you
pls upload more!!!! Ily😍😍
why the hell do i see your comments on every single video i watch lmao i love your videos pls never stop
Hey, I’m an expat living in Italy and as I watched you talk I saw myself in every single word. Tx for this video.
Leaving the US is so intimidating to me. Like no friends, gotta find a job, and a place to live, no help from anyone?? But also I wanna live in Europe!!! It’s such a catch 22. Your channel is such an inspiration though 🖤
it can be overwhelming at first but I recommend joining Facebook groups! they can be super helpful and insightful. for example there is Americans in France on FB which is really good
there are MANY places in Europe where you will find the people MUCH more warm initially (Italy, Greece, Spain, etc...). France (Paris, especially) can be very depressing... try Barcelona (my fave),, Rome (or any place in Italy other than Milan), Amsterdam, Lisbon (one of my FAVES)....people tend to be very warm, patient and great food and culture. Paris is far from the best option....XOXO
@@jnewmark41 thank you so much!!! I will look into the places you listed :)
@@dourbabi I would suggest Barcelona first. SO FANTASTIC!
Some of the scariness is what makes it so invigorating, but it's for sure an adjustment. I'd also recommend dipping your toe in by living somewhere like the UK or Ireland so that you don't have to learn a new language along with so many other things, and you're still able to take short trips around EU and language classes as well. I moved from Hawaii to Switzerland, and then to N. Ireland and to suddenly be able to speak my mother tongue in N.Ireland again made adjusting and finding a job/living quarters/friends SO much easier than it was in Switzerland.
Your hair is so beautiful, it reminds me of the silver hue of the moon just pouring off your shoulders
Her smile is literally intoxicating!!
I lived in southern France for a year & what I noticed is that things just don’t open before 10:30 and it’s totally ok to take your time with things which was a nice change of pace for me (being Swiss means time = money & money is our religion so being in southern France really gave me a much needed break from that mindset)
In America time= money, too. I understand!
After living in Southern France i would so agree Kiera, life is chiller than the north and it’s so nice being able to do things in a leisurely manner :)
Where you from ? In Vaud we have le quart d’heure vaudois
When you said that in Paris police occasionally doesn't come when you call them ,I actually felt that because in Greece it's really rare for you to report something and have the police to actually come .
trueee or it takes them 3-5 hours to do so, even if the station is 10 minutes away...
yes, but the Greeks are SO warm and patient....i LOVE your country
Honestly it's because they're scared.. They wait for the situation to be over and then they arrive, ολο μαλακιες δηλαδή 😂
''The police never showed up'' hahaha that made me laugh because i live in mexico and we don't even call sometimes because we know for a fact they wont show up and idk if its sad or funny
Yea i dont even think theres a police where i live, they dont even answer the phone lok
Lol*
Same in Brasil lol
I live in the US. The police come when they are called----most times when they are needed, and many times it can take a while. I suppose that is why most Americans have guns. I live in a rural area. It will take police at least 30 minutes to get to my home.
@@jamesbinns8528 Only if you live in the suburbs (which is most of America) but if you live in the city, they aren't coming unless you're dying. In LA, Chicago, NYC, New Orleans, they will never come
I love the last point! I'm always taken aback when people claim Paris is a disappointment. I get where they're coming from though. You can create this elaborate fantasy in your head of what a place will be like, but what works best is to accept what is. When I visited Paris, I remember being so grateful to be there at all because I had never been out of the country besides Canada many years before. It is still one of my greatest memories and that's why I second the point that "it's what you make it"
For dealing with administration, and anything else, to get around the "non, c'est pas possible/ non, on est pas responsable/ non, whatever" attitude: always ask a second or a third person, always ask multiple times, since it's common that people don't tell you how something actually works or there is simply no strict rule.
Then go with the person/ answer that brings you forward.
I find this works pretty well, but I also find it terrible as a principle and had a hard time to get used to the attitude of people in administration and customer service. I'm from Germany (now living in Paris for a few years), people there are very task oriented and tell you usually what to, even without you having to ask them, to find a solution for the situation.
So at the beginning of my time in France, I lost a lot of time and opportunities because I took the first answers to my problems for the reality.
But this also taught me to not accept NOs so easily :) (just wished in administrative stuff everybody would be treated equally, still)
great tips!!! thanks girl :)
This is "terriblement vrai" (very true), France has changed a lot since 30 years ago, the new generations and others, don't care about anything and have a look completly indifferent. I can see that daily .
The American society is way more easygoing imho, as a teen I spent several summers in the US, after only 3 months there I had a hard time readapting to France and it's complex rules,,-and I'm a French national, by the way.
If something is inefficient, it's French.
Europe is just on another level
Europe is interesting....right NOW, it is super dangerous in much of the countries....funny enough that MANY Europeans feel that way about the U.S. Everyone seems to want to live HERE
@@jnewmark41 chill, John
@Paulina Sałek as an Irish person I second this, when americans treat Europe like its all one country i just have to laugh lmao.
Europe is not all that. I’ve lived in both UK and Sweden (im swedish) and it’s not that big of a deal. I’m moving to France permanently tho. Europe is superior to the US in many ways in terms of culture.
The glass is never half-empty or half-full, the glass is refillable.
I'm French and I still forget alllll the time to say "bonjour" before "excusez-moi" ^^'
Moi aussi! Hier encore...🤷♀️
T'es mal poli. Pas étonnant que les gens te détestent. Sérieux et la politesse ??!!
Ma banquière m'a pas dit bonjour je l'ai remise en place directe cette voleuse
We can also say: "excusez-moi" first to get the attention of the person and then "bonjour" before asking something because sometimes saying "excusez-moi" immediatly translates to someone needing attention when on the other had you can pass by people saying "bonjour" to each other (not needing attention). My point is you might be seen as rude if you forget to say " Bonjour" but don't forget the "excusez moi" otherwise you might see people walking away without even noticing you. (which sometimes people will do even if they've heard you, specially in Paris but to be fair it's not that common). And would advise guys to avoid asking direction to a woman in a deserted strret or empty metro wagon if possible wait for a guy to show up. You'll spare her an anxiety rise.
@@MrKLeBlanc It is my expérience that when one says "excusez moi" instead of "bonjour", one gets ignored. If you are going to say "excusez-moi" you have the say "bonjour" in the same breath. As in: "excusez-moi-bonjour".
@@mameh4243 Thank you for the clarification.
From my experience (it can differ from region to region. The tone can play a huge role as well here.
I mean "excusez moi" alone is often used to ask someone to let you pass through a crowded place or if one happen to be too much in someone else personal space or if you bumped in someone,etc. Generally speaking if you use the "excusez moi alone" with the right tone and(repeatidly if necessary), the person will aknowledge you and try to answer with or without a "bonjour" BUT "Bonjour" is a plus that shows you are polite and you'll improve your chances get a better, none rushed (expeditive), answer using it.
That being said I couldn't have said it better:
If you are going to say "excusez-moi" you have the say "bonjour" in the same breath. As in: "excusez-moi-bonjour". That is what i usually do...
I am French and moved to Paris when I was 17, I loved it but went through most of what you're talking about... And after 7 years I was definitely blaming the city for all my troubles. You are just so much stronger than I was haha.... I miss Paris though...
I'm not sure if you had already, but I'd love to hear you telling stories about your life in the US, how you decided to move to France, your moving story.. etc. Really love your channel and enjoy your content!
I've done a few videos in that realm but always more to share :) thanks for the encouragement!!
@@thepurplepalace85 Oh that's such a wonderful news! I'll make sure to watch them, and looking forward to watch more.
My friends in France are always shocked that I have a masters in French and am now a paralegal lol. Didn’t study law at all. I slowly built a resume as a paralegal and I am now 10+ years in. They make it sound impossible in France.
omg i was ordering beer once at a festival and paris and didn’t say bonjour before ordering and the bartender got so mad at me for that
omg hahah we've all been there!!
Yes it's a typical Gallic neurosis😎
I really appreciate how you timestamp the sponsor stuff!
of course! :)
the job part is true in italy too. it's horrible, I think there's nothing wrong with changing path in life, here when you chose a career people expect you stick with it till retirement.
yes...but Italy...oh my dear Italy....the BEST food in Europe, art, music, opera, museums, so many beautiful towns, wonderful people.....I just adore it
@@jnewmark41 :-)
Same in Spain
Same even in Argentina. I think this mindset is more common than the other way around
Girl... I've had someone try to open my home door too! It was a bunch of youth and my husband was obviously at work. There were about 4-5 of them and were trying to open up and they persisted about 15 minutes. I would have been crying if I called the police and they never came! Here I was holding a knife in my hand!
omg!! that's crazy..are you also in Paris?
@@thepurplepalace85 I'm in Annecy. I've lived here for 7 years. When this was happening, we lived on the other side of the lake and of course none of the neighbors saw. I was so scared. Now I know that if I would have stabbed one of them, I could have gone to jail! Go figure!
@@retrobarbie9028 what that seems so backwards that you could get in trouble for protecting yourself and your home
Thats terrifying. I would have shot them probably
@@retrobarbie9028 I couldn't live in a place that didn't allow me basic self defense.
The thing with answering in English when you speak French is universal I guess. I'm French, I speak German and English and when I go to Germany, even if my German is pretty good, when they hear the French accent the Germans often answer in English. And it's so frustrating to me too!
You are spot on. I’ve been here five years and it can be difficult, but the good out ways the bad. I’m probably forty years older than you but feel the experience you describe. It can be so difficult to do get a Carte de Sejour, but getting a health card (carte verte) is heavenly, they cover me for health insurance, way better than than the US. I live here as a retired person who can actually live off my Social Security. I too, wish my French were better, but I work on it daily. And yes, the Bon Jour thing is so true. Oh girl, I feel your pain. My first video of you was after your breakup, and I had just moved to a new city where I knew no one, keep on girl, I see so much promise in you.
I am a french girl who moved to ireland, and your video is really helping me to understand that all expatriates struggle for different things during their stay abroad! It really motivates me! Love this kind of video!
Merci beaucoup pour cette vidéo! Bonne chance pour la suite! Hâte de regarder ta prochaine vidéo !
I'm french, and I have to say people in Paris are insane ! We don't like them because of that...
You have to go to Lille in the North, this is where the people are the most welcoming if you want to have friends quickly and the town is amazing ! Have a great evening 🥰
i love this video sm! i'm only 14 and living in australia, but i hope to be able to move there one day. it's so refreshing to see someone genuinely point out how it isn't always perfect. you seem so genuine :)
Thank you for the ending. I really needed to hear that. I'm one of those people who stays in her apartment because she's scared to go out... Too many experiences have happened to make me feel this way and it has traumatized me. But thank you so much for your positive outlook!
so glad it can help you!! sending love
This is a brilliant video, thank you @The purple palace. I have lived in France for 7 years and I have adopted your same attitude, adapt or die!! This is a very helpful blog, thank you so much.
I also had an experience where someone tried to get inside my apartment. At 3-4am, banging my door or ringing my doorbell non stop! I was only living in Paris for like a month??? Spoke absolute no french.....and panic dialled the police to please come and help me! I think the only reason the police came to me that time was because I sounded so scared. But this guy, ringing my doorbell would keep at it in different times of the day or night and I would never be able to catch him....it terrifies me to hear a doorbell now or I get jumpy! UGH. I even complained to the manager of the building and all they told me was, oh its impossible to know who this person is, there is nothing I can do......LIKE C'MON! I left that place as soon as I could. DAFUQ.
I think the person saw you living alone ...
Glad you left
no thank you
No, they came because you were not from France and they didn't want it to become a international news story.
Could u pls do a review of your thoughts on Emily in Paris???
It is absolutely not the real life in paris. Such an American view
C’est un cauchemar.
No , please!!! We have enough from that fake movie.
don’t usually comment but you seem like such a wonderful person to be around! was feeling a little anxious today (def from my coffee) but now am currently watching your videos & feel so calm. 🌙🌹❤️ a breath of fresh air!
I am French but I have lived in the UK for the last 13 years (pretty much my whole adult life). I have recently moved back to France and this video literally teaches me how to behave like a French again!!
Your enthusiasm cures my depression
i’m moving to france ... tomorrow! 😩 these videos will really come in handy
Omg how’s it going living there!
Is it just me or she looks like Carol from F.R.I.E.N.D.S?
Nope - she looks like Betty from Riverdale 😉
Wait wow i kinda see it 😳
Yeeeeessssssss
Definitely!
Yes!! I was just thinking this a few days ago
"It's the setting for the play" i love that
I was listening to this and paying much attention, then I remember I was french 😂😂
Btw what you said about the police is kinda sad, cause there are so many cases of women being beaten up who call the police (or neighbors most of all) without having anyone coming for help
France is a dream place to me but hearing that and reading this made me really saaaad.
@@lynn436 it is FAR from a "dream".
@@jnewmark41 lol 😂
@@lynn436 Don't worry! Most times I called, they came. Don't let negative french people tell you otherwise! French people complain too much 😂😭
Having a decent understanding of the language is a good way of getting along with the people there. They tend to get a bit offended when foreigners don’t even attempt to try to speak their language.
Thanks for the video! I really enjoyed this! I can relate to some of the things you said in the video! Like when I met up with French people and I spoke in French with them they would switch to English all the time. But a lot of them complained about Americans not being able to speak a second language or speaking bad French. It kinda hurt my feelings but it's a good thing not all of them are like that and I met some really nice ones who supported me a lot. Also the bonjour effect is so true. My French friends all get super mad if someone does not say bonjour first. Also the paperwork and all that is a mess. My friends complain about it all the time lol. Haha but I learned a lot from this video! Thanks!
yes I totally relate! some hate when you can't speak French, some love it, and some well...haha in Paris I feel it is even more difficult to get people to speak French with you in the beginning. I wonder if its the same in a little village?
Girl, I;\'m loving these tips! I can wait ti check it all out next summer, hopefully!
Salut Purple Palace !
J'adore tes vidéos, c'est toujours amusant de voir un point de vue extérieur ! J'aimerais réagir à certains propos que je trouvais drôle ( du point de vue d'une Française) :
1- making friends : c'est marrant car je n'ai pas cette impression. Pour avoir beaucoup déménagé je trouve que les gens viennent te parler facilement, en particulier à l'université ou au lycée. Après je dirais qu'il ne faut pas avoir peur d'aller vers les autres, proposer des sorties... en général après 2 semaines tu peux rencontrer du monde. Mais si tu es timide, ou que tu n'oses pas ça risque d'être compliqué. Et oui s'inscrire dans des clubs, des activités c'est presque indispensable si vous voulez rencontrer du monde car dans la rue les gens en général aiment leur tranquillité :)
2 police : hahaha . Oui, en France la police ne va pas se déplacer ( pareil pour l'ambulance) à chaque fois. Dans un premier temps ils vont analyser la situation (est ce que tu es en danger immédiat etc). S'ils pensent que non il peuvent te donner des recommandations (rester chez vous par exemple) sinon de les rappeler et dans ce cas ils vont venir. Par contre si tu étais en train de te faire agresser en principe ils auraient été plus réactifs.
4- speaking french : c'est vrai que si j' ai une amie qui ne parle pas bien français je vais avoir tendance à lui parler en anglais sauf si elle me demande de parler en français. Aussi, les personne de plus de 50 ans ne parlent pas anglais 🤣Les personnes plus jeunes vers 20 ans vont parler plus facilement anglais.
5- dire bonjour : c est tellement vrai! Mais n'est-ce pas plus agréable?
8- l administration : true true trueeee !!! Ouiii, si vous venez en France vous allez découvrir un nouvel enfer : l'administration. C' est simple vous allez devoir vous battre, sinon, vous n aurez rien . Ne vous laissez pas faire, et n'attendez pas! 😂
💞💘bisouss
I just moved to France four months ago! I live in the south of France near Cannes 😁😁
Love the ending thoughts! You get to create your reality! France is just a backdrop. I had the opposite reaction about Paris when I went. I fell in love with it, and didn't think much about it before I went. My expectations were not high. I am going back to France as an English Teacher once I graduate college. Not Paris specifically, but I will definitely be making many visits when I get back :)
Ta chaîne est devenue ma source d'inspiration, merci beaucoup pour le merveilleux contenu que tu partages❤️
ça fait vraiment plaisir!!! merci, contente que tu sois la
This was THE most helpful video i’ve watched on moving to Paris, thank you so much!
omg we need a storytime with all the chelou stuff that has happened to you, please! I loved the story about the guy trying to pick your lock. I'd have totally freaked out, start shaking and invent the worst scenarios whereas you were like yo, whatcha doing?! in your pjs. GOALS!
This is Emily in Paris gone right hahaha
Like you highlight cultural differences in a very personal and yet neutral way, loved it!
Oh my I’m early but I love this channel, it has helped me so much with my French and it honestly motivates me to learn more :)))
Aw yay!! Glad it can help you ❤️
You really nailed life advice towards the end. Saying your life & reality is your own creation no matter where you live 💕 that really hit home to me! Overall a great informative video, too thank you!
Saw some of your videos last year (I think they were paint with me's?) and thought it was pretty cool that you moved to France but thought little of it. Now I am studying French as hard as I can, and planning to move there in the next two or so years to persue art and screenwriting in a new environment. Thank you for your videos!
Hello everybody. I'm a french man of 63y. The main point to know concerns the way of life the french had 50 years ago. Life was one thousand times easier and more pleasant than nowadays.
That is so truee! A city can really be what you make it!
I have 0 plans to move to France but I watched the entire video 😳
Her beauty is ethereal ❤️🌈
I'm moving to Paris in December from England to be an Au Pair for 8/9 months :) Thank you for this wonderful content, it helps me feel less nervous about my new start!
Omg how is it?
@@noreenmae5779 I'm having the best time! My family are the most lovely people, the parents were so welcoming and the children are really polite and sweet. I've been travelling to meet au pair girls during my weekends so it's been good for making friends too!
@@sophiepalmer1887 aww I'm so happy for you! That must have been a scary step. Glad you like it! I'm german and looking forward to graduating this spring and I'm always looking out for inspirations and ideas to do during my gap year.
Parisian people when you don’t say bonjour: 👁👄👁
For me it was the opposite when I said bonjour they didn't reply
I swear every time I watch your videos, I just want to buy a one way ticket to France lol
ahahah im glad I didn't discourage with this video!!
I’m planning to go to college in France and I feel like you’re videos have really helped me develop a better understanding of what to expect! Thanks 😊
Yesss, je suis complètement d'accord avec toi : Paris (ou n'importe quelle autre ville du monde d'ailleurs) c'est vraiment ce qu'on en fait ! Il suffit juste de ce bouger un peu et tout peu changer très vite (en bien). Merci beaucoup pour ta bonne humeur quotidienne, ça fait du bien ! :)
oh merci Céline! ça fait vraiment plaisir
I live in LA!! I moved to LA from Europe 5 years ago. Although I have dual citizenship, the apartment situation was also the same as yours in France! Especially since I was a student when I moved here and didn't know a single soul. A nightmare!! And yes to your last point about creating your own reality, you summed it up beautifully. My first year was the hardest but LA is what you make it! I hear so many people say the cliche LA is so fake cliche I just roll my eyes. I have like four friends but I'm very appreciative and thankful of my journey thus far.
Ah Shayna, I love this so much. I've had so many ups and downs in this city, not necessarily through its merits or its faults, but it does feel like things are intense here. I will contest also though, that recently I had my electricity out in my apartment while i was also stuck there in quarantine. After several nice, polite cool/calm/collected conversations with EDF and a week of cold showers, I threw the biggest fit I've ever thrown in my life (not directed at the person, but they had to bear witness to it) and somebody came and fixed the problem 15 minutes later. You never know what they actually want here lol. Gros bisous
aw!! I love this comment. Just when you think the city is kickin' you to the curb it shows you it's beauty and goodness
That last point was FACTS!! it really is what you make of it, this was inspiring af!!!! Thank you!
Great tips and you are a great communicator and keep your audience entertained. Merci bien :)
In France if you want to report something that happened to you, you have to wait a very very long time in the police's building without any appointment. The when they finally, take your report you will have to choose between one of the several reports existing in France (main courante, deposition, plainte etc...), depending on how much you think that what happened to you is grave. Each report involves something else in the proceedure, so you have to well know each report, in order to not make mistakes about what you would like to be happening with your case.
I agree. I made a couple friends in a hip hop class I took in Paris.
I would love to seem more sit down conversations in French! I always love getting to practice my French by listening to all of your fun stories and experiences!
this was actually really informative lol. could you make a video about your experience as an au pair, ive heard you talk about it a bit before but Idk if ive seen anything on your channel specifically about that experience. Love your channel btw!
yes! Paris is definitely what you make it and what mind set you're in. All the times i've been has been so magical and romantic lol (as I made the best of my time and through myself out there on the first day)
Your videos are a ray of light in my days! I love you energy and this channel. Sending you lots of love! 💗
I'm so glad! sending love to you
I agree with the last thing you said about creating your own reality 🌝 When I moved to NY for an internship I had super high expectations and I wasn't really proactive , which caused lots of anxiety and a depressive episode. I want things to be different now that I move to Paris this January. Thanks for posting this !
I have been in Paris for 3 months. In this Covid time is even worse to find a job.
Your video is so true, what I see here. Fortunately my boyfriend is Parisian, so we are meeting his friends often and they all welcomed me with open arms :D.
Thank you for this video and thank you for the last words in the end. I was also very negative about many things in Paris l as is to find a job, authorities, prices...
But now I try to keep positive, actually doing yoga every day :D and hoping for better future.
Hi, great tips! I wish I knew them before I moved here too but after 2 years here i have learned a lot. The french are polite and at times rude but not so much once you realize where theyre coming from. I also notice how people just expect to have everyone stop and answer your questions without a "excuse me or Bonjour". thank you for your fun video
I’ve been learning French since I was a kid, my grandparents had a house there and lived there for most of the year and we would visit. It’s crazy to me that so many Americans don’t learn other languages and many stay in America for their whole life (I’m from the uk btw).
Hello 😉
Great video. I'm Norwegian and lived in Paris for nine years. Your points about politesse really resonate with me. I am very impressed with much of this part of French culture. I really appreciate the way the French behave themselves in public. Talking at low volume makes for a stress-free atmosphere at restaurants, and not EVER making or taking calls in the passenger cars on trains are but two examples of how they have truly mastered the art of living civilized in large groups. Politesse at its best makes life easier for everyone.
However... the other side of the coin is the dogmatic politeness where it serves no useful purpose and is actually just pretense. For me, coming from the Arctic north of Norway which is even in Norway infamous for its extreme directness, the pretense was killing me..! Now I'm sure to French people they don't think of it in those terms, but to my mind, in a context like a job interview, it is very obvious that both parties are going to really care about the salary, and they'll both have thought about it well ahead of the interview, so it feels like this insane kind of theater to sit around pretending "obviously I don't care about the money!" is, as you pointed out, just a waste of everyone's time.
I do remember one time when the money taboo led to a laugh. As a fairly recent arrival, I was sitting in a bar looking at apartments for rent in a classified ads magazine, and I expressed shock and disbelief at some of the prices at the Île de la Cité, where a fairly small place could well be 25 000 francs (~3500€) a month. The barmaid, a beautiful and lovely brunette named Eleanor, didn't bat an eyelid, but smiled and asked: charges compris?
By asking if charges, basically the cost of electricity, were included, she elevated the pretense to a satirical level. This is something I think the French were doing between each other a lot of the time, sadly without me being able to detect it. Their sense of humor generally was a challenge for me; it's subtle and often involves word play, which makes it incredibly amusing IF you can get it, but creates a high bar for slapstick foreigners... 😂
I've been thinking about doing a semester abroad in Paris for uni and since I'm from Quebec I thought it would be pretty easy to catch up because I already speak french but these are some big differences that I will have to get used to haha, this is a great video and I adore your mug
OMG this was seriously so helpful. Moving to France in September but I have so much to learn
"Each person has two countries, his own and France" Thomas Jefferson - 3rd President of The United States and 1st American ambassador to France.
wut? lol
What about the French, then? 😂
@@perrine1496 they have other origins i guess
I think it's pretty rare for French people to report stuff to the police on the phone. Usually we call them for emergencies only ;) then if you want to report something you go to the police station, but you wouldn't expect them to come if it's not like reaaaally urgent.
I LOVE that last point. Attitude is everything. And stay zen haha
I found it so easy to make friends when I lived abroad however have struggled when I returned to England after 12 years away and during a pandemic lol.
My friend spent time in France . He said Parisians were so stuck up and difficult with outsiders. It wasn't until he moved to the countryside that the French were more friendly.
American Girl at a Fashion School in France, the struggle is so real! Thank you for making these videos they help me not feel so alone with these things lol
Yay! I’m early 😚😚😚😚 I think it’s hard to make friends even when you not living abroad! Good tips for this too! 🌺🌸🌼wow that break in attempt , 😬
It really is!
The timing of this! I'm from the UK and last week I had an interview for this role with an American company and the lady asked me what my salary expectations were and my head almost flew off my shoulders.. it's like she knocked every sensible word of out my head 😂 I have never in my life been asked about salary expectations in an interview, it's interesting to hear the French are similar in that way.
Wait, I’m a Canadian moving to the UK next year, I’ve lived in Canada and Australia and they both ask you that question... they don’t ask you in the UK?
@@safiamerali5400 I have personally never been asked in my life, most employers mention it within the job advert but if they don't it seems bold to just bring it up in the interview. If you are moving from abroad I would expect the process to be different because there are soo many other elements to consider to ensure the move and job makes sense and I would expect any given company to acknowledge that significant difference.
The hair is glowing girl!
I just moved to Poland and i find your advices really helpful!!! Thank you so much for sharing them with us ❣️
You're so welcome! have fun
this is beyond fantastic! so helpful and humor-filled. I cannot wait to move to France. thank you so much!
hi Purple! your videos helped me lot. it's been 2 year that i live in France and i'm on this stage right now ; Blaming on this country , my circumstances .. depressed -> try to being pro active to make me feel "Happy"-> feel tiring to Being trying -> (Repeat) . but you are right girl, gotta lay back and live my very own life. Thank you so much, bisoussss 🌞
I'm moving to France in one week to teach English, so thanks for the advice!! :) p.s. you are so inspiring and i love your videos
Ahhh how exciting :) Have fun!
@chellymrdillon congrats!! I am applying right now, do you have any advice for me?
I can't believe it (esp. in corona times) but I've just signed up for a language school in Montpellier. I don't want to wait to start my life in France!! I love your channel so much and you have given me so much confidence since I've found you this summer (and watched your whole channel haha).
Life/France/everything is truly what you make of it. I love everything you produce so any video topic is encouraged...but these vids in particular are such a huge help to all of us getting our feet off the ground..
Montpellier is SO different. Paris and its people are really different than the rest of France. Especially South, you will see, it's much chiller and people really love foreign students, it will definitely be easier for you to have French friends! Congratulation :)
Which language school did you decide to enrol in Montpellier? Is the course more than 3 months? Planning to move to France... going the student visa route. Still looking for a good language school. Cheers
Police ghostin you: France🤝South america
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About the police, I’ve actually had that experience in the United States, here in Maryland. In fact I should have been thankful, because it was not such an emergency in the end, but at first I thought it was, and had called 911. They did say someone would be dispatched, but in fact no one ever came.
i live in VA and it hasn’t happened to me but i’ve heard those stories around the DMV area. really sucks because we pay that stuff and someones life could be on the line and they just don’t care :(
Planning to go abroad for grad school (particularly France, since I’m learning the language) so this was SO helpful especially bc I’m also visiting Paris for a few days in January 😌 thank you sm for this info
After living in France for 6 months I can say I definitely AGREE with you !
Hi, lovely to hear this from someone who went through similar struggles. I have been living in the city for 4 years now and I can relate a lot to your points. I have never understood the customer service in France though, god help me. "Bonjour for starting a conversation with a stranger courtesy" is so true and I find it a little bit funny as it doesn't come naturally, but well... faster you get this city survival skill better for you ;).
Lots of good thoughts for you and happy new year (I suppose for French it would be some kind of "faut pas", since here we announce any new year wishes at the beginning of an actual new year if I'm not wrong ;)) Thanks again for the video, bisous!
Thank you for this wonderful video! Your tips are not only helpful for Paris but anywhere in the world. Please do more helpful life tips videos like this. I am motivated and inspired.
Thank you! Will do!
Yes please move more!! I am going to be an Au Pair next year in the south of France and I am kinda scared but super excited!!
Thank you for this video, my dream is to live in Paris, it was wonderful to hear your experience.
I love your energy so much! You have this amazing free spirit about you 💜 I always feel inspired to live authentically after watching any of your videos. Thank you!
I'm from Uruguay, and most of the points mentioned here applies to my country too