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- Опубликовано: 10 май 2023
- Sarah Millican reveals to the audience that she received a surprise email from one of her school bullies!
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Someone made a good point about this. The woman is still trying to bully Sarah even after all this time. By going through that list of what she clearly things are "achievements", what she is really saying is, "you might be on the tele but look at what I have done." It is a meaningless and dull list of vacuous life "milestones." Sarah's response was perfect.
Yup. Humble brag, pure and simple.
Yup, and all only possible because of her husband's job.
@@belladupont6777 Indeed. Once a bully always a bully.
Her children are probably gonna be fucked up from being thrown from one social circle to the next every few years
I did find it odd how many times she mentioned that she had a husband and why she went into details about the move and such. Like what was the purpose of sending that to someone you haven't seen for awhile in the very first email?
The real genius of this is that she knows the lady's kids follow her, and she called her out by name.
I noticed that too. I wish more people would name their bullies.
Probably didn't use real names
@@xant8344 heck, the letter is likely fake too. :P
And the kid's names!
Yup, ultimate burn. 😂
Since leaving school I've met two of my former bullies. The first had matured quite a lot, he'd grown into a wonderful person and deeply regretted the way he treated me in school. The second tried to start a fight with me in the middle of a Walmart.
Sometimes people change. Sometimes they don't.
Bullying is a ridiculously awful thing to have to put up with, especially as a child. But can I tell you I laughed out loud when you said the second tried to fight you in Walmart. People are ridiculous. Wishing you the best!
lucky. My bully went to military and joined special forces. No way I'm confronting this one :D
To be honest, I can see Walmart as one of the best places to start a fight...
So one grew up and the Walmart fool stayed a immature child. Hope your day goes well.
I looked up one of my old bullies and found out he'd never moved more than 10kms in the decades after school, and that he was in jail for selling meth to highschoolers. Still yet to discover if he dealed at our old school... but going back to the hometown in about a month and, if he's still in jail, might arrange a visitation and go ask him.
15+ years on, my worst bully still looks, dresses and acts like Biff Tannen from Back to the Future. As far as I'm concerned, that's punishment enough.
Thats heavy
You should have made like a tree and got out of there 😉
😂😂😂that’s great. The universe works in amazing ways.
That is good 😂😂😂
Is his name Donald?
As someone who also was the target of bullying I just clapped when I saw this bloody brilliant reply to a bully who was obviously hoping to ride the coattails of someone who she tried to destroy.
And the thing is, it’s conventional wisdom to say “oh, they were just kids…everyone has grown up and moved on.” EXCEPT, I’ve often found the kids who were bullies have either stayed bullies as adults and are raising bully children or have become tragic emotional basket cases that are intolerable to have around as an adult. 🤷♂️
my bullies sent me friend requests on facebook and I rejected each and everyone of them. All I can think of now is I seriously hope none of their children went through what I went through. 4 eyes and ugly thats what I was called making fun of the way I talked etc. By the time I finished school I ended up with social anxiety disorder.
I agree with you; this woman simply wanted to ride the coattails of Sarah! Has she grown up and learned the errors of her ways, perhaps yes. But did she write to others she bullied? Bet not.
@@ashleywright8686 what an excellent opportunity for her to teach her 2 sons not to bully but I bet it's a missed opportunity.
Ain’t that for sure
Well done Sarah, bullies are often social climbers and this one thought she could capitalise on her victim's success. This was a classy move and an opportunity for her kids to learn from you and not turn out like their mother.
The way she emailed was also like... Shoving it in ur face like im doing great
@@NabilahOthman You know most comedians stories are made up, right?
@@NabilahOthman Yeah, she went on and on about running all over the world. Of course it was her husband's job it was done on but she still frames everything based on herself.
@@lauralishes1 And then there are those who capitalize from their own life stories.
@@lauralishes1 It's an interesting fact that many comedians have some personal trauma, or depression, anxiety etc. and use comedy to either hide it or overcome it. John Cleese is a good example.
Love it. I actually had one of my secondary school bullies find me on facebook, she sent me a message to apologise for the years she bullied me. Yes, I messaged back and thanked her and said it takes a brave person to admit they did wrong and that I appreciated her for doing so.
Wow! Bullies grow up and learn they were wrong! I hope more can do the same.
@@SL-lz9jr Some do.
One I know must have had a turning point of some kind because he apologised to everybody with a known connection to his former victim. Even the girlfriend who turned all white when she realized who she was speaking to.
Drop a plate on the floor so that it smashes. Tell it 'I'm sorry.' Does the plate fix itself?
It may seem selfish to hear, but as much as the bullies redeem themselves and become better people after the fact, so many of their victims are still as broken years later as they were as little kids. What could have been?
I worked with my bully’s husband and he made her apologize. It turns out she hadn’t changed much because she later abandoned him and their children after he had put her through college (she was supposed to do the same for him). Now I just found out her younger sister has moved into my apartment building so I might see her in the hallway sometime. 🫤
Many of us have a tendency to write long explanations when responding to someone who has wounded us, which almost never works, nor gets us the peace we're looking for ... THIS is brilliant!!!
Yes, and the shorter response means less attention to someone who sounds like a narcissist. A longer response would have made her feel more important.
Now her kids are gonna be like "why doesn't she remember you fondly?" That's if she even tells them about the reply.
@@juliebraden6911 well this video currently clocks in at 1.2 million views, I have a feeling they may find out about the reply.
Key component of recovery from PTSD: realising that you dont have to forgive your abusers, you owe them nothing
true, but some people may benefit from an apology
You don’t have to restore a relationship with your abuser, but I don’t think anyone has ever benefitted from holding onto resentment. Forgiveness frees the one letting go!
@@AlinaTowersnah that's some Disney channel nonsense. you can let go without forgiving.
@@xant8344 I agree. You don’t have to forgive or forget, you just have to acknowledge that it happened, how it affected you, and then make a conscious decision to leave it behind and not allow it to affect you when moving on.
Alternatively you could use that pent up rage and re arrange their face for them.
Just an idea 🤷🏻♂️
When I was in 8th grade I was at an event with a group of friends for the day at a local high school. There were students from multiple middle schools in attendance. We walked across the street at lunch time to purchase some food at a fast food place. When I walked in the restaurant there were a group of boys waiting in line to order. One of the boys turned around and said to me, “Hey, no dogs allowed.” Now that statement can crush a middle school girl but I grew up with four brothers and learned how to handle this situation. I looked at the boy that said this and said, “Then how did you get in?” Shut him up right away. Way to handle your email.
Nice!!!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
😆Brilliant! 👏👏
Yep, that's the way it's done.
😂❤
I do not think there can be a better reply to an email from a bully than this one. Well done!
Honestly, I don’t remember who you are at all would have been just a tad better.
@@nysunflower9439 I disagree. If you say you don't remember the bully, then you don't remember the bullying which may lead to the bully thinking what they did wasn't bad. Sarah's way says I remember you and what you did.
@@nysunflower9439 Lynn's letter is all "me, me, me", classic narcissist. It is important for her to be liked. Telling her "I don't remember you" would just give her an excuse to talk even more about herself, to jog your memory. "Oh, let me tell you more about me, then; I just know you'll love to hang out with someone like me." But to be told "I don't remember you very favourably", from someone whose friendship she seeks, that's devastating, because no amount of reminding can remedy the situation. "How is it possible not to like ME?"
@@nysunflower9439 I totally agree with you. I would have said I didn't remember her. --- The opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of Love is apathy
@NYsun flower this is literally a video about someone having low self esteem and you come in the comments saying that their response/action could have been better! Why would you decide to do that!?
I suspect a lot of bullies don’t realize or remember their bullying. I went to college with mine, and she once commented to me how I disliked her when we were younger. I was speechless-she had no idea how hard I tried to win her favor, and how much she hurt me! I just hope I can teach my kids not to fawn for anyone!
Sounds more like a gaslighting thing
@@AlexShiro could be, but immature people like kids and teenagers sometimes don't recognise their actions as bullying at the time, and can have trouble recontextualising it as such in hindsight after maturing past that stage. It can take an actual "hey, do you realise you *bullied* me" conversation for the penny to drop.
Did you inform her about the actions she supposedly forgot?
I remember when I encountered bullying in my first year of college -- my response was: "Well, I'm not sure how long ago it was that you graduated from high school, but I took two gap years so I'm at least two years ahead of you maturity-wise." It REALLY is amazing the maturity difference between 17 & 19.
“The axe forgets but the tree remembers” is a charitable interpretation there
God the tone of Lynn's e-mail as well - "Anyway, enough about me, please get back to me at your earliest convenience thanks."
I remember the school bully in my class, everyone was scared of him, he fought with anyone who even looked at him. It's only years later I found out that his dad used to abuse him at home. His dad died quite young and he changed practically overnight, now the school bully is one of the most hard working likable people you could ever wish to meet.
If you look a bit deeper problem children often have a difficult home life and most bullies have been bullied themselves
Loved her one sentence reply. I still hate my junior high bullies - it's been 40 years, and they can still f all the way off.
Some bullies are ashamed of what they did in the past. People who are bullied grow up mentally faster and for us its unimaginable to do something like that but for bullies; they realize what they've done in early adulthood and try to act like they never did anything wrong.
Not that it excuses them, god forbid, but its kinda common.
@Meiru Of course. Doesn't mean I forget what they did, or excuse their behavior.
@@meiru2453 Yes! When I saw the girls who had bullied me at our 35-yr hs reunion, they all acted normal & friendly. It was weird lol
@@meiru2453 I agree. Their ignorance is the biggest sign of their failure to grow up properly; in that alone you've outshined them 100%
I was bullied, physically and mentally, for most of my high school years by a group of 4 girls. After 4 yrs of it I broke down at school. Cried so much no one could understand what I was saying. After about 2 hours i eventually calmed down enough to tell my principal what the issue was. Usual replies- move away from them, play somewhere else, etc etc. That day I went home and told my parents, and an appointment was made to discuss with the principal. Not much came from it, one of the bullies parents worked at the school as a cleaner. At the end of that year, 3 of the bullies when to another school to finish the last year of school. The sole bully left at the school tried to make friends with me as her cohorts weren't there to back her up. I declined. It's been over 35 years and as Michelle said "they can still f all the way off"
That was such a diplomatic but scathing British reply, I love it. 😂
This woman just grasped my attention for seven minutes and I didn't even notice them pass. A comedic genius!
SAME!!!
@@muntingianinja3210 bold to think comedy is simply telling jokes, simply dire
You get a lot of words within that time too. Way funnier than some random removing hi-vis vests that's for sure.
@@muntingianinja3210 oh, shoosh.
@@Nerdchacho You, too. Just be shoosh.
Once upon a time, a long, long time ago . . .
My school bully applied for a job with the company I worked for at the time. And I was on the interview panel . . . He He He
More details please!! Did he remember you?? What happened?
KARMA..HEY.😂😂😂
It’s a small world.
I wonder if they were err umm qualified enough for the job…
Actually, I should have explained that I was questioning him about his relations with his intended subordinate employees and whether he would possibly be inclined to bully them . . .
@@nickwyatt3243 did he look awkward?
I hope so.
That bully letter was so self involved. It was all about her. No wonder she was a bully.
I’ve run into this as well. I was horrendously bullied in school to the point where my life was threatened and I had to leave home at around 15 and was homeless for about five years. I’m actually quite smart and resourceful and ended up being successful in my field, writing several books and speaking around the world. It’s absolutely gob smacking how many of the very worst bullies came out of the woodwork to suddenly be my “friend.” While generally I have accepted well-intentioned apologies, I make it clear that I want nothing to do with them because my life is too full and I have people close to me who have always loved me for who I am.
I hope that Lynn has seen this clip.
So do I 😅😅😅
I hope her kids have.
Yes I have! Thanks for thinking of me. 😂
But I'm not that Lynn...
@@lynnduncan6139 🤣🤣🤣 Well done!
Saving “I don’t remember you very favorably” for later. Thanks, Sarah. 😊
Speaking as someone who was bullied for years, I applauded that. Actual clapping and everything.
Waaaait a second, do you mean... Am I applauding wrong? I thought clapping was all there was to it!
Personally I just gave a lengthy “Oooooh!”, because a single line response like that has to be absolutely crushing!
I whooped and punched the air :) I was also bullied for years.
@@monicamac2122 On behalf of the air, we understand you were under duress and did not mean your apparent idiopathic enmity towards us, as a premeditated attack against us _in particular,_ so much as undirected venting of your understandably frustrating circumstances, that just happened to catch us in the crossfire.
I used to google one of my worst bullies every few years. I admit I felt some devilish glee when I learned she and her husband were in legal trouble. But a few years later I saw she had OD’d and died, leaving behind four young daughters. Then I realized I had been carrying around my grudge from 7th grade long enough.
THAT is a powerful story!!! Thank you so much for sharing!!🙏🏻
Hey, you knew where to draw the line between, "Ha, screw you." and "Ok you probably didn't deserve that."
Too many would take pleasure in the latter also. 😬
If she had bullied you much worse when she was older, then maybe. But ya no, she was too young at the time of bullying you to deserve that harsh an ending. Then again, idk if she was a psychopathic child who threatened to kill your pets or anything so-
I mean she was dead after all, time to let go indeed
@@Sly-Moose A little short sighted perhaps. In regards to deserving it...
Even had this girl done something horrible enough to somehow deserve death, by overdose of all things, you have to consider the people in her life also.
Not every bad egg is a product of a bad upbringing. Her parents may well be decent people who don't deserve to go through that.
Sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents.
And that's just family.
If they went to school together there's a good chance they have mutual friends.
Could you take pleasure in seeing a friend upset by the death of another friend. Even if latter friend was an awful person?
Not a judgement, personal attack or huge criticism btw. Just my thoughts. ✌️
Absolute class. I was expecting, I guess like most of us, that there would be a long reply to make us laugh and to make the bully feel small but it wasn't needed. That one sentence was absolute perfection.
WOW, she is so much more graceful than I would have been. What a CHAMP!
I bullied the hell out of a kid in high school, and one day I had an epiphany watching Billy Madison. I sent an apology to the guy, and he was really grateful.
It's never too late to admit you did something wrong, and try to reach out to those you've harmed. Without bragging about all the places you've lived.
Thanks for trying to own it, it does make a difference sometimes, better to try than not.
Good on you for doing that. What a wonderful letter to receive!
That's actually quite brave & wonderful. Knowing what I do about the "stereotypical bully" I imagine that there was a bit of a journey to traverse.
Excellent destination to achieve.
You did a good thing. Thank you.
Perfect reply to a bully! :-)
'Just Seventeen, a magazine you read til youre fifteen.' 😂
“one brown arm” 😂
I love this! So satisfying. Like so many other commentators, I was bullied too. When I was 30, I was a presenter at a conference. When I arrived, I was surprised when one of the organizers rushed out to greet me-she'd been one of my 8th-grade bullies (!), she'd been waiting for me, and she immediately gushed her apologies for times past. Fascinating, right? Well, I was up for forgiveness and saw this theatrical apology as a legit opening for connection. So I thanked her and shared briefly (like 1 minute) about both myself and news of a mutual friend of ours. Her eyes glazed over, and she made excuses to zip off-and I never saw her again. The lesson? The bullying was never about me-It was all about her, right on down to her fakey "I want to confess and feel better" apology. Folks, remember this: It's never about the merits/goodness/worthiness of the one being bullied. It's all about the inner life (or lack of one) of the bully. 💚
I remember being bullied at college by the same 4 lads every day. They spread a rumour that I was a virgin, made fun of my weight and made my life hell. I had no way to prove I wasn’t as I had just split from my ex a few months before as she was moving to Australia with her parents. I had put on a bit of weight as well because I was missing her. It was an awful time.
I joined the forces not long after and got super fit after 6 months training and became a stronger more confident person but even now when I think back, I could happily switch the light off, binge eat and not speak to anyone. It’s horrible the effect they can leave on you. I’d love to bump into them now
Being bullied IS torture. It leaves scars & damage. Hopefully, we get to a place where we can be proactive & do the opposite of what those screwed up excuses for human beings wreaked.
Now THAT is a great response (to the email)! The best part of it is that it allows the bully to fill in the blanks themselves, and they will have much harsher wording than you ever could have.
If she's as narcissistic as this, she will probably have no moment of self-reflection whatsoever and blame Sarah for getting snotty or something.
Best come back ever - very classy Sarah ❤❤❤
The best form of revenge is success ❤
True. I have a loving wife, daughter, granddaughter and the most amazing in-laws. I do wonder (not really) what my bullies have?
When social media first took off, one of my old school bullies messaged me. Was a really nice message, said he couldn’t apologise for what his mates had done, but he had felt guilt for years over his own actions. I’d love to say I forgave him there and then, but honestly it took years to get over being bullied and it took me years to conquer my issues. So balls to to that guy. But… I’m glad he feels bad, good for him.
yeah but now you just sound bitter
@@juki6377 Has anyone ever told you to just not say things?
@@shtarpark7938 I'm not sure i would listen but yeah it doesnt sound like the poster is letting go, so it sounds bitter. Fair enough its their choice but i wouldnt let it stand in the way of happiness
Is it insecurity that makes you reach out to complete strangers on the internet for validation? Maybe they were right.
@@shano6613how am i asking for validation ?! ( i know its a trendy thing to say online but look up definitions of words before using them) i explained my point about bitterness clearly above, prior to that its just an opinion. So as a reply, no its not insecurity i do like discussing things but everyone seems to be so touchy and defensive these days
🤣🤣😂
One of my bullies was my older brother. That is until I came home one April afternoon in my senior year.
I graduated high school weighing in at 122 pounds, 55.338Kg, and he was about twice my weight and a bit taller. When I walked into the kitchen he and our sister were there. As soon as I put my books on the table he started trying to hit me. I kept telling him to stop as I blocked his punches. He said that he wanted to see if I had learned anything in my Tang Soo-Do classes. After one of his punches I struck him in the solar plexus with a heel of palm strike. I was tired and what not so I didn't care how hard I did it but he went back up against the preheating stove. Oh, he was also shirtless.🤣 The look on his face was priceless. I think he found out if I had learned anything.
That was the last time he did that. Our sister didn't help him much with, "I bet you'll leave him alone now, won't you?" She also had a smile...
Good for you.
My bully was my older brother too. But I’m female and he’s 5 years older than me… After our mom died in 2019 I went no contact.
@@calisongbird, we could be related! I haven't had contact with him in a decade or so. The last message I got from him was an invite to a Thanksgiving dinner in which he says I can bring my wife but she can't curse, smoke, etc. In other words, she can't be herself. The look on her face when she heard that! Needless to say we didn't go.
I had two prior bullies apologize to me later in life. They both said they were going through bad times and took things out on me. People do change and I actually appreciated the insight they gained as it could only make them better humans.
I love the joke about the maths teacher cutting the cake.
Someone who almost got me expelled from highschool sent me a friend request on Facebook, I simply asked her why she did since it is called a"friend request". She responded because we are friends, my response was: "we were never friends so please don't try to befriend me now". She apologized and that was that.
So you stooped to her level then.
@@juliebraden6911 If I would have stooped to her level it would have been a different story. I just preserved my boundaries 😊
@juliebraden6911 So people that got bullied are not even authorised to be petty and make their bullies realise that they did something awful ? Being bullied leaves scars and trauma.
@@claravignaud8119I mean.....I wouldn't even call that petty though. They were standing up for themselves and refusing to let a bully try to whitewash past interactions. That's not petty, it's assertive.
@@claravignaud8119
so u acknowledge that it's petty?
Great response, at no point did the bully acknowledge or apologise for the bullying, so got the reply she deserved. She probably told her husband and kids about the email, without thinking she would get that kind of reply.
She probably lied and said she got no reply. Hopefully they will see this.
The email sender inviting the family around the computer to read the email from 'my friend Sarah Millican' was my hopeful vision too.
In reality I'll bet they are probably too self centred and would read it on their own first.
Oh to be a fly on the wall when that email was opened! 😂
That is an all-around excellent response to hearing from a past bully. Bullies being as they are, chances are good that she didn't even remember you, beyond the very general memory of having gone to school together. A lot of bullies target others as a means of passing time. So, for them, it's just another day-to-day event that gets forgotten soon after.
Yup. "To you, it was the worst day of your life. To me, it was Tuesday."
@@ImVeryOriginal M Bison, nice!
But I agree, there are likely plenty of cases where the bully doesn't even realise the impact of what they are doing (not that that makes it ok in any way, but probably don't appreciate what they did)
I always wanted to win the lottery and have more money than I needed then not give anything to all the mofo's who had the gall to diss me 😂😂
@@guvnor1 Yep. There are also plenty who do realize the impact of what they're doing--in that moment--but they aren't the ones being hurt by it. Thus, years go by & they've forgotten b/c, though they fully meant to hurt you, it wasn't a life-changing event for them. Victor Hugo is quoted as saying "The malicious have a dark happiness."
Someone who means to hurt you can find great joy in doing so, for that short time; but, when you graduate, or even just reach the end of that school year, & go your separate ways, they can forget after a while b/c it was just a means of passing their time. They may even vaguely remember "being mean" to you and/or others; but, they usually won't remember the full depth of it.
@@mandytrouten3296 yep, fully agree. My own experience is that, in most cases, it was likely a mixture of boredom/their own insecurity as, looking back, there was nothing special about any of the people who did it, so putting someone else down is an easy way to try and make yourself look/feel better
I was bullied too. If one of my former bullies ever tries to friend me, I'll use an answer similar to yours. I love it. Simple, to the point, and the chances of a rebuttal are minimal. ❤
I was bullied too, now about 20 years later we're actually friendly. Not friends but aquaintances.
He said sorry and Id much rather forgive him for something that happened half a lifetime ago than have some small "victory" by denying him his apology. :)
@@andreaskarlsson5251 true, if someone apologies, I could accept being polite and somewhat friendly (as you are with your former bully). It would depend if they apologize in the first place, which isn't the case in this video, and whether or not the apology is sincere. In this video, it sounds more like the former bully wants to be friends with a star and doesn't realize what she's done to her. It happens quite a bit with people who have toxic personalities. They normally apologize for the wrong reasons, if you even get an apology at all. I would still be careful around someone who bullied me for a while, then apologized. They might just want to make themselves look like the good guy in the situation, thinking that saying 'I'm sorry' is sufficient to make everything right. It's not always the case, since some really do come around and change their behaviour. That is what matters most.
@@annieesther8405 was respondibg to your comment that if your former bully tries to befriend you that youd use a similar diss.
And if a sorry isnt enough after 20 years I think youre part of the problem, honestly. :P
@@andreaskarlsson5251 lol you don't owe your abusers anything, seems like your experience wasn't that bad if you talk of it so lightly and belittle others for not wanting to let their bullies off the hook so easily. Being bullied can cause PTSD and serious trauma or mental illness. "You're part of the problem" is the worst you can say to a victim of abuse and really, you're being a bully yourself for doing that.
@@andreaskarlsson5251 As someone who did in fact repair their relationship with their abuser (successfully), time does not automatically heal wounds. This kind of stuff can impact you for life, and the victim doesn’t owe the bully or abuser anything including accepting an apology. I’m glad you got on neutral terms with your bully, and I’m glad I’m friends with my dad now, but please don’t judge people for not accepting an apology from the person who hurt them as every situation is different. No one is automatically entitled to forgiveness, and for some people forgiving those who hurt them can be helpful and for others it can just make things worse.
Nearly 30 years after HS graduation, a very physically punishing bully from those days tried to friend me on my (now shut down) Facebook account. It was an easy ignore, done and done. I don't know what he'd be thinking ... that he's more mature and a better person now? The thing is, those were very formative years for me, and although I've forgiven those people for my own sanity, they collectively fucked up my psyche pretty good and it took a long time for me to recover. But forgiven as they may be, they're not coming back into my life. Forgiving is not forgetting.
good for you! That's basically what I do, too
Some people are narcissists!
Well said😊
I have complex PTSD from being bullied for about 14 years. There was also other traumas but the bullying was one of the worst. I am also on the Autism Spectrum and didn't get diagnosed until I was 27
hope life is on the up now, wishing you well.
Look into brain spotting therapy. It's really affective. Good luck. X
🥺😣😞💗❤
I also have complex PTSD from severe bullying for about 12 years. I'm with you 💜
@@braveatheart I hope you have found the excellent work of Lily Hope Lucaria
I was bullied in middle and early high school, physically for the most part, because I was very very small for my age and im a guy. While I was able to keep myself from ever getting hurt since I knew how to fight, I was never able to get it to stop or to hurt the people doing it. Then I grew from 4’10 to 6’2 in high school. Things stopped rather quickly as the bullies realized that they were now the ones who would loose the fights they picked with me. I consider myself lucky for being able to get complete closure while still in school, and not having to carry around the feelings of being a victim into my adult life.
Yeah they all come grovelling when they see your doing well. 😂
Sarah wins the internet, standup comedy *and* email replies! Well, done, Sarah, bravo!
Such an excellent reply!! In her face and you have the last word.
Having being bullied at school, I understand how it feels when there are things that reminds me of the unwanted memories as it is still hurts after a long time. Very brave of her to speak about this encounter on stage with the audience seeing the funny side.
When you get old you look at a woman like you and think " Ahh, to be young and beautiful again". It is a shame that when I was young I didn't realize that I was beautiful. You are beautiful so don't waste your youth putting yourself down.
The email from the bully reminds me of the annual Christmas letters that we get here in the US. Always about how successful the spouse is, how many talents the children have, what prestigious schools the children attend, what fancy high class neighborhood they live in, blah, blah, etc., etc. Every year wished I could have thought of some clever letter to write about my kids being normal, living in a nice small town neighborhood, and the husband working years in a job that didn't pay much but he loved it.
OMG yes!! My sister-in-law does those every Christmas!! 🤮🤮🤮 Never a mention about how we might be, how our kids or grandkids are getting along. Just a brag from beginning to end. 🤮🤮
My husband and I find 99% of those Christmas letters to be nauseating. Every once in awhile it is true news that I am happy to know about. Rare, though.
My bestfriend's (F) bully (M) was horrible and called her a fat freak in highschool. She was in no way either of those things, but she had a big glow up as an adult. Fast forward to us being 20, and him cracking on to her regularly at bars and online. She loved knocking him back. She still smiles thinking about it 10 years later.
This Lynn sounds exhausting.
You can tell she inserts "I lived abroad, I am so cool" in every possible conversation.😂
One of the funniest comedians around,she should always appreciate the fact she cheers everyone up,a rare talent these days.
I was always the fat kid. Bullying started really bad grade 7-8 . With not having a good home life no one to turn to. Teachers even laughing at the bullying I received . I have seen a few of the bullies over the years and didn’t handle it as classy as she did. It’s a hard place to be, thankfully it does get better ❤
😢 That is so awful. I hope you are very happy, fulfilled and supported now. ❤
@@leelandluver ❤️❤️ By the grace of God . Thank you for your kind words
Well to be fair to you, she had time to read and digest her bully’s email before composing a reply.
All the problems seem to start in 6-8 grade. Kids can be really vicious and good friends for years can turn on you and stab you in the back just to move up in social standing. My daughter was a very confident and vivacious kid and a decent gymnast. She did not embrace pending adulthood as rapidly as her friends and they just crapped on her. She really lost confidence, became withdrawn and got out of shape when she quit the gym. Broke our hearts. She still has trouble having good friend relationships and not letting other girls walk all over her.
I am sad to hear that. I feel incredible strongly about how many people feel it’s okay to lessen a purely innocent ‘receiver’ of bully tactics and allow them to become a ‘lesser’ person , meaning the potential they would have generated for themselves - had they not been interfered with and had been left alone to be all that they could be. Everyone deserves the right to feel safe. Your daughter should have had the chance to fulfil her dreams and not have to worry about insecure, mean and gormless others. Good for you being a support system and caring Mum😊
I'd have worried that after answering "yes" to the question regarding one's feelings about having one brown arm, that the career the computer would choose as appropriate would be, Large Animal Veterinary Medicine.
😏…..sweeet.
Evidently the programmer read "Bill the Galactic Hero" by Harry Harrison.
@@madwhitehare3635 Noooo, you're not supposed to lick it afterwards.
I was bullied in HS by the POPULAR (aka MEAN) girls. Then, I got a scholarship to college and a adjunct lectureship in Grad School, followed by the highest entry level IT engineering starting salary ever offered in NYC to that date. I never went back to the HS reunions but I did laugh all the way to the bank every time I got an invite. Plus, I "blossomed" at 18 and stayed "hot" well into my 50's. Guess who is still laughing....
I absolutely loved that she named her. Great work Sarah.
If people want to be remembered well and with warmth, maybe they should treat people well.
I also had psychological bullies. I have since taken the family motto, "Unto bullies as they deserve."
My son still calls his bully satan....his bully was a guy, so hands on and visible. My bullies were all girls. Much harder to pinpoint, psychological bullying.
I found Margaret Atwood's Cat's Eye very cathartic when I read it as a young woman.
3 separate times in my life I've had the privilege of responding to someone who used to either bully me or had taken advantage of me when I was younger - and each time was in person when they approached me with a "friendly" attitude. To see each of their reactions to my closed off responses didn't provide me any closure or anything like that, but it shown me that they were fully aware of what they did to me and just hoped it wouldn't be a big deal anymore. One of them did have the balls to apologise and we ended up shaking hands, but the other two couldn't even muster a shred of remorse... Ah well, life goes on.
I recently learned that my childhood bully got arrested and sentenced to 24 years in prison for SA against her own 3 year old son
That’s one twisted biscuit. Jeez.
Glad you survived and can go on to greater things.
Egad!
That’s wonderful & well done to you! The last time I spoke to my school bully, I said, “how did you get this number?”. And the last thing I said was, “why would I come to the class reunion when I live all the way across the country?” I then called my mom to find out why she gave out my number. Didn’t make any sense to me. I did go to one reunion after we moved back to that side of the country, and it was a huge waste of time & money, & we won’t bother doing that again.
Reunions are ridiculous. Sitting talking with people who you would never be friends with anyway. A waste of time and MONEY. Here, for whatever reason, our reunions are organized by a third party organization that charged very high prices.
@@marylyn3081 I agree. I went to the 10 and 20 year reunions for my secondary school here in Norway. The 20 year one I really didn't want to go to, but I went anyway. And all it did was remind me of why I hadn't had any contact with any of them in 10 years since the last reunion. I don't want them in my life in any way, shape or form. The only one from school that I still keep in touch with is my best friend that I have known since we were 10, and we are 41 now.
I’ve never attended any of my school reunions, even when I lived a 15 minute drive away. Why would I want to go and relive some of the worst years of my life? I was the plain brainiac with glasses. I don’t need any reminder s, I’ve moved on with my life. Love, love Sarah’s response!❤
I think most of us clapped to the ending of that... That is exactly how I would have dealt with them! 🤣🤣
I have watched this short clip at least 10 times, and oh my God, she leaves me in hysterics every single time! This just does not get old! Her timing, her delivery, everything about her is perfection! What is gem I stumbled upon! 🤣🤣🤣
At a nightclub, I ran into a guy from school who apologised to me for how shitty he had been and spent the evening buying me drinks. The thing is, when the bullying was happening, he was more a bystander who never really did or said anything nasty to me himself. I even liked him because he didn't make my life difficult. I explained this to him but he didn't believe me. In the end I just gave up and let him buy the drinks. 😂
I had a persistent bully from 3rd grade until my junior year of high school when I called her out on her threats. No violence ever occurred, but from that point on, she only made snide comments occasionally and pretty much left me alone. Many years later she came to me in person to apology for her treatment of me. Found out she had a pretty unhappy home life, which she did not use as excuse, but genuinely felt sorry for all that happened. We didn’t become friends, but I did accept her apology and thanked her for it. I have always taught my children and now grandchildren to stand up for themselves. I’ve told them my story, and always did my best to give them the self confidence to know they are not what anyone else says they are.
My favourite clip from her. I am surprised she wasn’t popular at school. I would have thought the ability to make people laugh would have been enough on its own.
You don't understand. Being funny is the defence mechanism. It is what I used to survive. I'm not in Sarah's league though.
@@PanglossDr Well I didn’t have it easy either, but I’m not funny. You have a rare talent, even if it isn’t in her league. I would love to have it.
I wonder if I got funny because I was fat. If you're funny, people like you, and at least you're then "the funny fat one" and instead of just "the fat one"
A comedy routine is an act. It may not in any way relate to her real life.
@@lilybliblablubb5023 I think I got funny because I was bullied badly at school. I was bullied because I did well at school and that was a bad thing during the 1970s in China. I think some kids just were mean and they would pick on anyone if they could get away with it.
Good for you Sarah. One of my primary school bullies repeatedly asked me out when I was an older teenager, I took great delight in turning him down. Your response was class 😂
was bullied 3 years in grades 6th,7th, 8th . was beaten , made fun of and in 8th grade it turned sadistically sexual, all of it from the same boy, all these years later and i decided to look him up on facebook , he has pancreatic cancer and is going blind , i decided i didnt need to say anything
Jesus, he molested you???? I hope you got therapy. I’m so sorry. Hope your bully rots in hell.
sounds like karma got him back
🙏🏽
One of my worst bullies chose to end his life at the age of 25. I celebrated that day with cake and a party.
Karma's a bit**, and sometimes I rather like her.
50 years on, my living nightmare bully is 67, like me, but she looks 80, while nobody believes I'm older than 50! 😊😊😊
I was bullied all throughout grade school and high school. I didn’t get over it until I was around 35, when I realized that all the ones who had bullied me came from broken or abusive homes. Hurt people hurt people.
Not true at all. Studies show that bullies bully not because they are suffering but because they feel entitled. Lots of kids are abused and don't become bullies, too. Going from victim to victimizer is a willful and deliberate CHOICE. And even if a bully grows as a person or whatever and stops bullying and apologizes, they are not entitled to have their apology accepted. Their victims owe them nothing.
I was able to reconcile with my worst bully. We both grew up pretty decent, and he has daughters now. I've encouraged him to share our experiences with them to hopefully help protect them and prevent them from being bullys themselves.
i am 40 now and never have seen the bullies again since school. if so i would probably hate them like i was 25 years ago. don´t think it´s possible to ever forgive them.
@Matthias It can be, depending. His regret was genuine. He didn't know how to approach me, I suppose us, but I shared this video, and it opened the door for him to feel comfortable reaching out to me.
@@Zireael83 I've met several severely traumatised bully victims. Some as far as not remembering the bullying because of memory repression. I also met several people who were bullied who spoke to their bullies later and reconciled, not always 100%, but seeing each other as adults (not bully and victm anymore) certainly helped.
It's personal.
But in general, staying in the child like state of bullying victim instead of moving on as good as you can (I know how hard it is), and keeping seeing your bullies as the extremely cruel children they were then (but still: children) whereas they may have changed a lot as people do when they grow up... that isn't helping anyone, you the least.
Wishing you all the best though, you do you.
I knew a woman whose husband didn't want to go to his reunion because he had been a bully and he felt so bad about it. He didn't know what to say to the people he bullied. I hope all bullies grow up like that.
Classy. As. F*ck. Awesome response!!!!!
Parents are the best. My mom's line was "You've got the face for radio" 😂😄😢
OMG, I got one of those “newsletter” type emails from one of my bullies. It was about 15-20 years after our high school days. It was disturbing. And she was a disturbing person way back back when, and I can’t imagine she had changed, so I didn’t allow any notable reconnection and happily, I haven’t heard from her since.
Several of my past bullies tried to be all buddy-buddy with me later in life. It is so f'ing bizarre...and gross.
Well done on your response to the email! Wish I'd thought of that!
I got bullied at school and one of the bullies went on to represent the UK at a major international singing competition but got pipped to the post by another competitor and she was blatantly not happy. I'll be honest, I cheered!
I had bullies that later acted friendly. How strange. No, I didn't fall for it either.
Brevity is the soul of wit. She gets it. Love it.
Nicely said!!
@@bev9708 I dunno who said it first. Wasn’t me, but I love the quote.
@@christopherparks2987 Oh that’s Shakespeare, Hamlet!!! 😊👍🏻
@@bev9708 oh yeah…I forget to read his stuff because I hated Romeo and Juliet so much. I happen to have a copy of Othello sitting around. Maybe I should take the hint. Thanks 😊
@@christopherparks2987 I LOVE Othello!!! However it does take quite a bit of training to enjoy reading Shakespeare, though once you get there it is SUCH a massive joy!! He wrote his works to be performed, not read, so better to let great actors do all the hard work for you!! So so many of those great quotes we all know so well actually come from Hamlet, possibly the greatest work ever written!!
The fact that she didn’t apologize to Sarah, and tried to be friendly like it never happened, is a huge sign that she regrets nothing. As a former bully myself, I would do anything to contact the kids I went to school with. I was an angry 11-year-old being raised in an abusive household, and I don’t know why, but I took it all out on this one boy in particular. I was never a violent kid before or after that, it was an anomaly, and it’s one of my biggest regrets. If I had the chance to talk to him, I’d be grovelling like hell, not using it as an opportunity to weirdly flex my achievements.
I would have just typed two words to Lynn 😂
I was bullied by many different people throughout my school years. Not a single one has ever reached out to me to apologize, or for any reason. I'm 45 now.
Would you want them too?
@@lumupf4786 Not necessarily.
Another 45 year old here, same situation. If they reached out to me in order to apologize, I would accept their apology and forgive them - though I still wouldn't be interested in hanging out with them. But that is still a purely hypothetical scenario.
I remember back when I was 15-16 years old, one of my bullies - who had bullied me since Kindergarten - was killed in a car crash. I rejoiced. But then my parents forced me to attend his funeral, even though they knew I absolutely hated the guy. But I had to go, because I _knew_ him. It still pisses me off to think about it.
Let them live in ignorance man. Trust me they will have to endure exactly what they did to you in other ways
Well said, Sarah. Often less is more (something I am always working on).
It's not always about being bullied yourself. Seeing others bullied and embarrassed can last a lifetime too.
Aw, it hurts that her self esteem is so low. I always thought Sarah was very cute and her personality really makes her shine!
Good for her for getting back at her bully, not a lot of us will be presented with an opportunity like that in life!
I was bullied by four girls in sixth grade. Two of the girls were immediately genuinely remorseful when confronted and went on to be pretty friendly throughout the rest of school. Two girls were not really but said the right words. Years later in high school one of those two still blamed ME for her getting in trouble and would make passive aggressive remarks. I pittied her but really stayed away when possible; I had no time for that negativity. The fourth, who I considered the ring leader, never really gave me the time of day which was fine by me. I still held that grudge until in college and I thought I let it go when we shared a class and she seemed nicer and more mature. Then the next year she was diagnosed with cancer. That’s when I actually forgave her and finally felt like I’d let go of the hard feelings from so many years ago against any of them.
I saw a bully of mine at the 10yr reunion, where I innocently happened to hit it off with her husband, who thought I was great fun. That still gives me a very gratifying chuckle.
The build up was absolutely 100% worth it. Fantastic!
"...like a fooked up Oprah" 🤣🤣🤣
I thought she said opera.
Oprah is better.
"And she came, she made sure the cake was all evenly divided" 😂 oh my gosh I love you
I was bullied so badly that I still suffer from it. I won’t say PTSD because I’m not diagnosed or anything and I don’t want to throw terms around. But I will say that if a certain song comes on, I shake and cry so badly I vomit because that was playing back when these girls circled me during the chorus and closed in slowly before beating me. So, do with that what you will.
Years ago, one of them reached out via Facebook and apologized. She talked about how she was haunted by it. How she didn’t know why she did it or why it seemed so funny at the time. She has two kids and she’s afraid both that someone will do to them what she did to me AND afraid that they will do the things she did.
It was genuine and heart wrenching honestly. I was able to tell her that I don’t hold a grudge against a twelve-year-old and that she must have been going through things to be that way. I told her I forgave her and that I’m glad she has a happy family.
This would have the desired effect regardless of her sincerity. If she really meant her apology, then I was able to release her from her guilt. That’s a wonderful feeling.
If she was just full of bs, then my kind reply made her feel powerless and downplayed the impact of her actions.
I respect the hell out of the fact that u don't want to throw terms around since so many do. That said that definitely sounds like PTSD & if u haven't already u might want to get that checked by an expert
that's a very classy response & it's good if it bought u just a little bit of closure
hope ur doing good overall
Bravo for the way you handled this. That is class and maturity. Well done.
Yes I did that computer career thingy too and I was told to be a Prison guard!!😂😂😂 you are an absolute legend and bloomin gorgeous ❤❤❤
I got prison guard too! lol
Good for you. 😊 👏 I was merciless bullied in high school and then my Mum and brother at home. I'm so happy that you put her in her place without giving her ammunition as it were. We all love your genuine spirit, your funny when it's hard. When I manage to return to the UK I will do my best to come along to your shows. Bravo.
Excellent response. Sarah is always spot-on with the truth she speaks in her humour.
I love absolutely everything about this brilliant woman.❤
I love this lady - she is so funny
Best way to humiliate the bully. Shame on you, Lyn.
When I was in school, I was physically bullied by this girl in physical education. PE was a nightmare and a half with this girl. She was absolutely terrible to me, would beat me up for no reason and I always seemed to get in trouble with the coach, who of course never saw what this girl was doing. Fast forward about ten years. I had studied abroad, met my soon to be husband and had just returned to Texas from a two week trip to Europe. In other words, I was riding on top of the world and as luck would have, I had been invited to attend an informal five year class reunion. This girl was there and came up to me wanting to get the dirt about what I was up to. I gladly milked it for all it was worth. At the end of the encounter with her, she looked me squarely in the eyes and said 'Wow, I wish I was you!'. Instead of responding in a snarky manner (which I was seriously tempted), I politely excused myself, went into the ladies room, locked myself in a stall and began to laugh like a hysterical ninny. It was the best revenge I could have imagined, and I wasn't even trying to get revenge, it just happened.