Why you shouldn't care about love

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Комментарии • 70

  • @akai.christo
    @akai.christo Месяц назад +8

    Thank you Rabbi Friedman!! Shavua Tov!!💪✡️🙏❤️🔥🎶

  • @BradyVaughn
    @BradyVaughn Месяц назад +3

    Really really good, rabbi! Thank you!!

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад +3

    Lets go home... Very powerful! 💜

  • @catherinem4130
    @catherinem4130 7 дней назад

    Thank you. I really needed this "study" for myself. It is exactly what I needed to hear.... GOD'S guidance for me. ♥

  • @user-pg1sb9km5n
    @user-pg1sb9km5n Месяц назад +1

    AGAIN ... WE HAVE WORK TO DO TO FIX OUR BACKWARDS UNDERSTANDING ... TO KNOWING ... GOD BLESS YOU RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN ... JUST ANOTHER GREAT TEACHING ... AGAIN ... KNOWING IS BETTER THAN UNDERSTANDING ... YOUR TEACHINGS ARE PROOF OF IT ...

  • @gustavogalindo4543
    @gustavogalindo4543 Месяц назад +4

    Thank you Rabbi for the amazing knowledge and wisdom. Everything makes sense. Jewish Rabbis can see what others cannot see. And everything comes from the Torah. They still find new meanings, many levels of wisdom, because the Hebrew Bible is alive it always was, is and will be.

  • @nenadradd
    @nenadradd 28 дней назад

    Rabbi Friedman's perspective on love and marriage is thought provoking. I think that love and commitment are not mutually exclusive, and a successful marriage often involves both. Love provides passion and commitment ensures stability. Partners should always discuss their expectations, values, and vision for the relationship. And we should also consider the love's quality instead of its intensity, whether it is selfless, enduring, and supportive. It should never be destructive or self-centered. What matters most is finding a balance that works for both partners, fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Rabbi Friedman's perspective encourages us to reflect on these aspects and appreciate the multifaceted nature of love and commitment in marriage. 💖

  • @cookeechoc8824
    @cookeechoc8824 Месяц назад +6

    He's onto something but I'm not quite sure yet what it is... He seems to find love disgusting when it's one of God's greatest gift to all living beings as it's what bonds us to each other. I think he's pointing more towards the fickleness of romantic relationships, the lack of commitment...

    • @jcqwater8713
      @jcqwater8713 Месяц назад

      was confused too but if he say selfish love/affection, it all makes sense

    • @maryw4609
      @maryw4609 6 дней назад

      Maybe your right because there are many forms of love I think it could turn s lot of people off he is right about respect

  • @elizabethbooth5446
    @elizabethbooth5446 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you rabbi

  • @alinagarcia7195
    @alinagarcia7195 Месяц назад +2

    Thanks...for your words plenty of humor and wisdom
    A Gift of God

  • @nipaparekh1678
    @nipaparekh1678 Месяц назад +1

    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽love this man
    ❤❤❤.. man if wise words

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад +1

    No one loves anybody if your going to put it like that.. serving others is good but in a relationship is becomes resentful and pressing because its only usually onesided but you dont realise that bit till its late in the day!

  • @Francesj399Maloney
    @Francesj399Maloney Месяц назад

    Thank you, Rabbi Friedman. Ditto on the Shavua tov.

  • @dessire1803
    @dessire1803 Месяц назад

    Thank you ugh so good hearing truth logic and common sense

  • @wallacesrdonegan9987
    @wallacesrdonegan9987 Месяц назад

    U r appreciated. Sometimes LISTENING over and over in an effort to rewrite my programming ,

  • @lapassion24
    @lapassion24 Месяц назад

    When we see someone in need of help, we tend to think I will help them, and that’s it!! This is something that I tend to do , I overlooked something that is very valuable, that is the part of who they are , how they feel, where they come from, their struggles, the very small part of the big/whole picture that we don’t see - I think it emphasizes more on desolation , two parts, help is because they need the actual help, but having the eyes to see the other part is there.. if you can.

  • @tjkatz
    @tjkatz Месяц назад +4

    The problem is not love. The problem is the definition of love we are using. The proof is in the Shema which we say twice a day, focusing specifically on the commandment to love G-d. So, the marriage of HaShem and the Jewish people involves mandatory love. And yet this is an eternal marriage that lasts LONGER than human marriage. Love is not the problem.

  • @polarisjustdothework2258
    @polarisjustdothework2258 Месяц назад

    When God says He wants us to live in safety and security, that is God saying He loves us.... And everything that God talks about in His Word revolves around us living in safety and security ❤

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    Aw wow 💧 yes.... Amazing!

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад +2

    I've always felt like that, like I'm passing through but still doing what im supposed to be doing, especially since i became a mum! It is fulfilling being a parent no matter how frustrating it can be!

  • @miguelsesma5778
    @miguelsesma5778 Месяц назад +2

    Saludos desde estados Unidos Tuczon Arizona

  • @shaun2222
    @shaun2222 Месяц назад

    God is love

  • @moocow8204
    @moocow8204 Месяц назад

    My parents and I are Christian and my parents have always taught me love is responsibility. You asked where in the Torah does God say I love you. Torah shows God's love from start to end, God claimed responsibility. My mother always said if a man really loves you it wouldn't be so easy for him to say it so easily and frivolously. Claiming responsibility through action and saying the words I love you is completely different. As there are false gods there are false love.

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    The love usually dissipates without a doubt. Novelty wears off

  • @ayimaayima2784
    @ayimaayima2784 Месяц назад

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    I never feel alone with my children especially the youngest .. I'm worn out...

  • @lilithsrainb23lionsrloose19
    @lilithsrainb23lionsrloose19 Месяц назад +1

    Our children our not our own in the UK
    Then the system smacks our heads
    What a world 🌎

  • @Aravis217
    @Aravis217 Месяц назад

    I understand and agree with what hes saying to a point. Im not jewish, but i like listening to the rabbi for his wisdom. But i dont agree completely with his understanding of love. You can love someone and hate them at the same time. Love isnt the bubbly, happy, butterflies in the tummy feeling. Love is friendship, its support, its accepting someone for who they are and not trying to change them, its giving. That type of love is built over time.

    • @silverlining6259
      @silverlining6259 Месяц назад

      That’s your understanding of love. Love is different for people depending on who you ask.
      For homosexuals and lesbians they equate love with sex. And for people that have been sexually assaulted and become promiscuous sex is love for them. For teenagers is romantic dreams,for older people might be friendship. Depending on the person.

    • @Aravis217
      @Aravis217 Месяц назад

      @@silverlining6259 but yet, in a truly loving relationship you will find the things i named. Those that equate love with sex have never truly experienced love, so while they may equate the two- it doesnt mean that theyve actually experienced love. Many use the words i love you and may actually believe that they do, but more likely they just think they do. To explain love in one word its "giving". You give your time, your ear, your shoulder, your encouragement, yourself- whatever they need (not physical things, you know what i mean) you give it to them. And just like in family- when you get really mad at your mom or dad or brother/ sister and say that you hate them, if anything were to hurt them you would defend them any way you could. Thats what i meant by loving and hating at the same time.
      If a couple breaks up, then it wasnt truly love. Love literally endures all things. It is a spiritual thing in the heart, its not a physical thing like sex. If youve ever truly been in love, then you will know exactly what im saying. If you dont, then you havent. I feel sorry if you havent experienced love, but hopefully soon you will.❤🙂

    • @silverlining6259
      @silverlining6259 Месяц назад +1

      @@Aravis217 I actually had the love of my life 12 years ago and still love him but I don’t like him,I think about him daily and not sure he will ever leave mg heart although that’s all I want at this point 💔

    • @Aravis217
      @Aravis217 Месяц назад +1

      @@silverlining6259 im very sorry to hear that. From your comment you seem to know exactly what i mean about loving and hating at the same time. Love is not something that we can ever get out of our hearts once we experience it. We just have to remember to not let it make us bitter, but better. I hope that you will find the one that will be what you need when you are ready. I will pray for you and your healing heart.🙏❤️‍🩹

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    💜

  • @heatherpreiss7369
    @heatherpreiss7369 Месяц назад

    as a gentile, learning about how God Loves Us, came through Song of Solomon...7:10-12, 8:6-7, so can we Love, as God Loves us? we can be Loving or at least try to if only in part❤🙏🌿🕊🌈🌻🙋‍♀️💞

  • @kathleenmolo4520
    @kathleenmolo4520 Месяц назад +1

    😂Marriage was my best journey!Both of us grew and became more expansive,together!

  • @ke11yke11z
    @ke11yke11z Месяц назад +1

    👋🏻👋🏻

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    This is probably why 1 party in a relationship will put up with a lot but say nothing .. they are there - period..
    So eye opening! Glory to god.. many thanks mr friedman.

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    The understanding of what you say is all there but I always believed you use the word love to encompass all the good feelings and how far limitlessly your willing to go for that someone, it's just instead of explaining all that everytime you feel you want to tell someone you love them just said 'i love you' doesn't it just depends how often you say it! Some people over use it for sure!

    • @mariebarrett7177
      @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

      I've only just started listening so...

    • @user-jn6jm4bb6f
      @user-jn6jm4bb6f Месяц назад +1

      You should listen to the lecture again.
      that you must distinguish between the person himself and the by-products of the person himself.
      He actually says that love (which you or the other party feels), is a by-product like money. It comes and goes.
      He says that you must concentrate mainly on the person in front of you, not on love, but on the person.
      When the person in front of you moves away/leaves, etc., what will you really miss? the person himself? the love (byproduct) he made you feel?
      When the person in front of you is the important thing, everything else is marginal. When the by-products from that person are important, the person is marginal.

    • @mariebarrett7177
      @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

      Ah ok... Yes I am going to watch the rest of it in a bit Thankyou

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 Месяц назад +1

    You don't want me here - you should give me a way out.

  • @user-cj1kz8jf4y
    @user-cj1kz8jf4y Месяц назад

    You serve without reward. Man n woman should only unite if there is truth. It's more than love.

  • @elysejosephs7302
    @elysejosephs7302 Месяц назад

    What about obedience? Guilting your children to love you. Demanding their love. Many parents demand that

    • @dudefrombelgium
      @dudefrombelgium Месяц назад

      Love is always selfish, there is no way around it. Other than putting your heart to the person and not to love itself.

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад +1

    Ive never experienced any man that wants my opinion lol

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 Месяц назад

    We really don't look at the world the same way - just accept painful prolong
    Vegetarian

  • @parishadnz.6048
    @parishadnz.6048 Месяц назад

    ..what is shathan???

    • @calmchill7583
      @calmchill7583 Месяц назад

      the balance between sanity and madness,
      someone who believes in the importance of making wise decisions

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 Месяц назад

    So have women with children or to have children always been a mum or did she become one? I'm just wondering what you say to that.
    Ah see 🙈

  • @latergator3777
    @latergator3777 Месяц назад

    I don’t care about love

  • @joewalsh4685
    @joewalsh4685 Месяц назад

    More like Beans and flatus.

  • @redskyintheafternoon
    @redskyintheafternoon 25 дней назад

    How about loving the children of Gaza too? Respect for every human being? Aren't they created by God? Religion...😳😳😳😳

  • @MarciaB12
    @MarciaB12 Месяц назад

    I Hate myself. I want my children to love me. I don't think my daughter loves me.

  • @abelchavez8786
    @abelchavez8786 Месяц назад

    It don’t exist .. attraction exists .. or is negligent .. even parents fail and especially spouses .. and people are weird at times just like animals therefore God is weird

  • @christianshield6029
    @christianshield6029 Месяц назад

    ah again not important topic

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 Месяц назад

    I'm never going to heaven - your such a B.S. artist

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 Месяц назад

      Thank you for not letting me cancel my
      classified and everyone should pray that an apartment comes available in a not so religious - Because like Adam - I have to get out of the garden.

  • @greendream246
    @greendream246 Месяц назад

    What a crock

    • @greendream246
      @greendream246 Месяц назад

      But he is right about porn. The best thing about modern living is better relationships based on loving connection. Strive for that not this miserable resignation.

  • @maorthekinglong
    @maorthekinglong Месяц назад