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Royal One Right?? Somehow they always have an idea about how "I'm not ready for the commitment of marriage". Seriously?? Marriage can be broken of by divorce if everything is lost at some point. It shouldn't be easy, but it's possible as a last resort. Kids are for ever. They'll be there until you die.
A dysfunctional culture that celebrates more baby showers to unwed mothers than weddings is black folks biggest problem in America besides racism. This gives black women a pass to wear being a single unwed mother like a badge of honor.
Because, like an idiot, she thinks bringing another child into the world is gonna hold him down and make him behave. If he won't even act right after the first baby, why would he change after the 2nd? If anything, having more kids makes him think he can get away with cheating or whatever else. Smfh..
@@JeNn0mic0n please stfu. you have no idea what it's like to be her. No reason to be so damn judgemental and self righteous when you've never been where shes been. Why aren't you blaming the shitty boyfriend for not leaving her because he knows hes shity and she deserves better than him?
Lmao what? I really don't understand how someone can have kids with someone so casually but then flinch at the thought of marrying that same person. When did things get so backwards???
True. But she should have enforced marriage before popping out kids. Can't expect him to marry her now. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Lansana Camara -- That's a excuse that would have worked maybe 60 years ago. There are so many methods of birth control. It's impossible in most cases to say opps I "accidentally" had sex and didn't Renner that's how a baby is made. No such thing as accidentally got pregnant.
Potty Maybe I worded it poorly. I agree that there are obvious ways to prevent pregnancy. I was referring to the fact that said methods are not 100% preventative, and thus people can still get pregnant even when taking the right steps to avoid it.
hope so....sometimes stuff we think is just common knowledge to us may have never come across the mind of some other folks just because they are in a different part of their journey in life. Hopefully he can turn around for the sake of his girls
It always kills me when I hear couples like this say they are not ready for marriage and that kind of commitment, yet they have kids together. Having kids together is just as big of a commitment as marriage. If you're not sure about them for marriage, don't have kids with them either.
Judge Lynn never disappoints me. I've been watching a lot of those type of shows. The ONLY judge that can make me emotional like this is Judge Lynn. Nobody else comes even close to her. She is an absolute gem.
I totally agree! I was just telling my self that today no offense to Star ( she is like the newest divorce court ) but she ain't got nothing on Judge Lynn Toler 💕 she's awesome 😎
"Your daughters will put up w/ what their mother puts up w/ today." My lawd 🙉. That, is a man who just had a Damascus road moment. Truly hope they do better for the babies.
Here's good advice: Don't have a child before you get married (if you want to get married to your partner). More advice: people don't change, and ring doesn't mean anything. Last advice: Use protection if you are not ready to have children.
Arbitorriku2 AGREED!!! idk why women have kids with these boys and then after they have kids want to get married!! Did their parents teach or show them how it's supposed to be done. I got married first then we had our son. No cheating or lying in our marriage. Communication and trust are the best part to having a successful marriage.
I'm so glad that it all worked out for you but there are plenty of marriages where someone is cheating, and or lying. The divorce rate in America is around 50-60% so there is obviously no guarantee for a happily ever after even with marriage. But I do agree with you, marriage first, children afterwards is a better way to go, at least that way you may have a deeper commitment and some legal protection.
The guy may look stubborn, but I think he has an ear. He can listen when someone speaks, it is just that he is still young in some other issues of life. I do have hope for him. The lady loves the guy. Splitting is not an option for her. She wants to be with the guy, despite the fact that he's acting this way. I believe they will be fine together.
The guy is more mature than her, He was also able to listen and take good advice, but they are bout really young. So hopefully he can mature before he get his self in serious problem, Fighting the police is definitely not a good idea, that could of end real bad for him! I think he just need a serious older mentor to guide him alone the way! to show him that he has to change his dont care attitude! As that mentality will cause him his life!
@@tamianicoledoingme3007 No he,s not immature, He quite mature, just need some real man gidance, He,s young and spending tons on money on his bling, He opionated , and nieve, But as a black man growing up you have to be tuff to survive those streets! He jus need to wise up, fighting with the police is unacceptable that could of gone south real fast!
I got married at 19, but didn't have my daughter until I was 24 and then my son at 27. It was good that we waited and understood each other.. if it didnt work it would just be us seperating and no one else would suffer. When we felt the time was right, we had our 1st child..then had our 2nd and now im.expecting the third by the grace of God. And also 9 and a half years of marriage and continued on.
I saw it too! He experienced some epiphanies when the Judge was speaking to him! Hopefully he can start investing that $600+ every month instead of buying shoes! Good luck to him and her!
Honestly, they're just 2 good people, nothing wrong with them at all, all what they need is to get lessons from life in order to handle any issues they might face in the future...😊 i really wish you the best, you both are amazing and you gonna make it...😊
504Thickbeauty: I bet ya she has changed more weave than the number of shoes he got in the same time period. She needed to have been on some birth control. These folks acting the fool.
judge spoke to their souls with this one🫣 the way she told both of them to boss up was awesome🥰🥰🥰 I pray they work out, well mannered and beautiful souls they were
I really like that guy. He really listened & learned something. I feel his mom raised him right. He's going to turn out a good man with time, growing, and with this new understanding.
I love Judge Toler..she's going to tell you what it is, whether you like it or not. More people need to be like that. The reason people usually receive her rebuke or encouragement is because she actually cares about the people in front of her. She has boldness and confidence that we all could learn something from,
These two will not be happy if they get married. It's too bad that they already have two kids, they didn't give themselves time to be adults before having kids.
Wow!! That Young Man got a revelation as Judge was speaking into his Soul!!! That's Deep🙏. That sent everybody doing any kind if nusmanagenent of funds, or any wrong doing back to the alter. Thank Judge. I'm praying for you🙏
I love that guy, simple because he listened....I wish we could have more of these young couples who just need some perspective and direction...wishing them both all the best...The young lady should also listen...
I like him. I think he heard what the judge said. I think he will be okay. The person I was at 22 wasn't familiar to my 32 year old self. You change so much in 10 years. I hope the young woman works on herself and not have any more children until she gets husband.
How does a 22 year old have a sneaker collection worth $10 grand? Where did he even get that money? I swear, people's priorities are trash. They can't wake up on time for work/ won't go to school, but can find hundreds of dollars to get some Jordan's and will camp outside the damn footlocker for a week just to get a pair. Folks are goofy as hell.
+ASouthernWriter(JJTV) -- I clicked on your name and was just browsing your playlist. I was just wondering, are you a fan of tommy sotomayor, jesse lee Peterson, and Donald Trump? I'm just asking, and I won't have an opinion either way.
No Name Regardless of his economic status... those are ridiculous things to waste your money on... this is why there is no legacy, no fortune to leave to children so they can have a better life, because instead of investing young people are spending. Ridiculous.
When the judge said "women don't know how to leave men alone" especially after concrete evidence of stuff. smh! We got to do better ladies so that they will be forced to do better by us!
Children shouldn't have children! Your age doesn't make you an adult, your actions decide how old you are. I've seen 50 year old children and 19 year old adults. If you're child like in thought and behavior, please don't reproduce. 😑😒
Well i dont blame him, if he's unhappy and things are bad now , u can imagine wat well happen if they get married! By the way marriage is design for women not for men! Its society way of legally binding you to their corrupt system ,then turning you around, to get FUCK up your ass!
@@dwayneevans683 The man who got to marry the brilliant, beautiful, self-aware judge Lynn Toler didn't get screwed. He got the best deal in town. Men dismissing marriage out of hand like they know every last woman should be so lucky. Companionship, when it's good, enriches people immeasurably.
And the judge said "a man ain't a plan", so women could very easily give up on marriage, as very often we're the ones who end up losing out. It's not a zero sum game though, ultimately.
@@ileanasantamaria2364 Yea and how do you know he got the best deal in town, she's not not all there! She herself admits her short comings! She's not 100% stable! She has her psychologists on speed dail! Furthemore you dont know what goes on behind closed doors! She cant cook and im not sure if she cleans up at all! maybe he does all that, female stuff and wears an apron! People can put on fronts in public for many years, so u cant know what really goes on behind the scenes! Furthermore you goona pick a needle out of a hay stack and post a comment ! You wanna comment on one -in a million marriages, where the women is the bread winner, what about the 999,999.00 other relationship where we men bring home and control the money! Im sure there is animosity in their Relationship, because its a man ego that dictates that he should be the PROIVIDER and bring home the Big BUCKS to take care of his family! Thats the way GOD design it to be and thats the way it should be! He might not say anything to her about it, but im sure it eats at him! And like i said before marriage was design for women not for men!
@@dwayneevans683 And he's without any faults, sinless and spotless? How do you know, since you don't have any more of an insider view than I do into this particular marriage, how much she has supported him and tolerated his flaws? A good marriage consists of give and take, not in a transactional sense, but in a way that, on a day when one partner is weak, be it the man or the woman, the other holds him or her up. And for every marriage you mention where the woman falls short in the ways you mention (which includes a whole lot of stereotyping, because women and men have many different interests that aren't so strictly dictated by gender - what if a man prefers to cook and a woman ends up, say, earning more?), I've seen, up close, marriages where the woman is the breadwinner and the man is getting a degree and she's supporting him. Your utterly bleak, pessimistic view is obviously informed by your own experience, and I'm sorry it's been so grim. I've seen good marriages and bad, and the only available human beings are ones with flaws. Even so, God did say it is not good for man to be alone, so here we are. Blrssings and peace to you, Sir.
Judging from what the young man said outside the courtroom compared to what he said in the courtroom I got the feeling that he was really listening to her advice. I hope he puts it into action before that beautiful young woman who loves him, leaves him.
This was an amazing episode! I'm so glad he was able to have a reality check of that magnitude and I hope that they grow and do what's right for those babies!
I'm sure that these two young people heard what the judge told them. It will be fine in the future for them. I'm sure of this. God Bless you judge for your wisdom! Any child would be blessed to have a mother like you. That's why I love this show!
what I don't fucking understand is why people think marriage is a perpetual lockdown on your life but having kids isn't? you can get divorced from that person, be done with it and never see that person again. having kids, on the other hand, is a lifelong, forever commitment that WILL tie you to that person until the day you die. fucked up mentality.
Valerie H so true they rather have kids without getting married. than getting married without having kids. which is weird because they afraid of commitment but having kids all over the place with 60 different women
I bet the daughter's are GORGEOUS! Sigh typical 22 year olds. But they are good people. So with time one day they will wake up and realize they are not whom they use to be. Childish things grow old and having security in different aspects of life feel so liberating one wants nothing more for their family. I really hope they stay together. Being with your highschool sweetheart and growing together can be very hard, but keeping others out and the love in is the key to a successful future with one another. I believe in them and I hope they both will achieve in their future endeavors.
The fact that he was still in his daughter's lives, and with their mother is a great start...I hope they grow deeper in love and get married when the time is right
I love this episode. The look on both their faces at the end is the realization that they're not just in this for them but for the tiny humans they have created together.
I don't understand how teenagers will get themselves entangled with meaningless relationships 😏 get pregnant and still want to hang around with these no goods. Get a life, get a job, get your priorities straight, go to school, stay in school, get into meaningful relationships & make your own world beautiful. How hard is that ?
This judge she ought to be in the head of UN Supreme court, the way she solving issues its terrific brilliant, her humour and shining face, is stronger enough to heals the entire world problems.
best line of the show? "A MAN IS NOT A PLAN." Welfare offices, social security offices and high schools ought to post that simple but powerful message in very large print on the walls to impress upon women that very notion. there ought to be a STAMP with that message causd id stamp every young womans forehead with it. its all about having OPTIONS.
Walker Pantera Right! And the sad part is, the people who need welfare can't get it because of these procreate-for-profit whore moms know that babies are the way to get government money.
What no!! she just seems like a regular girl tryna have a family with a boy who wont grow up, she knows how to speka up for herself but she wants her 'man' to pick up the pace too. even though theyre both kids!
1234JANA The babies don't have time for them to mature. The parents need to grow up now. In most other countries, age 22 IS GROWN. These two are still playing "house".
#1..i bet she a leo....and #2 i LOVE the way Judge Lynn Toler not only give them a verdict but she ACTUALLY TEACHES OR “TRY” to teach them a life lesson💯🙏🏽🔥
everything Judge lynn had to say about his girls one day running into a him and accepting the bare minimum was DEAD ON!!! I think soulja boy fast forwarded into the future and saw exactly what she was describing and woke up. this was a good episode
I really believe being on this court show changed his life... He's a good guy and she means well. They more than likely will work and marry. Judge Lynn is a great Counselor.
This is why I love this judge. She just change that guy's life forever. She touched his soul with her words. That was beautiful to see, a tear came to my eye at the end.
I’m so glad these two had this opportunity. I feel the judge touched this young man and her words will forever be with him. Hopefully he can man up for his girls 🧡🧡
He actually listened, didn't get defensive no matter how difficult it was to hear. I know men 2-3 times his age who cant do that. He's grown within a matter of minutes.
Young women don’t know how to leave a man!! And the choir said amen! I ended a three year relationship in a telephone call AND I had an engagement ring When you have enough you’ve had enough..
There's nothing really too wrong with these two, but I think they are a little too young and immature right now (I think him a little more than her) You can't be scrapping with the cops and spending $100s a month on shoes when you've got kids at home. You just can't. They need to grow up before they start doing grown folks things like having more kids. Let's hope they wrap it up/use birth control. Let's hope they get it together for the sake of those little girls that they already brought into the world. I really hope it works out for them even if they don't end up together. The judge gave them some bomb ass advice. That was straight fire at the end there! 🔥🔥🔥
I actually really liked this young man. Sure he's young and immature but he came across as respectful and having the potential to take Judge Toler's advice and grow. I don't think that the young lady should stay by him enabling him and waiting for that growth but I honestly wish the two of them (four, including the daughters) the absolute best.
I'm very impressed by this couple especially the young man..They're young so their immaturity is evident but I can see them becoming contributing human beings down the line.
People tend to forget how 22 is. They are young, and I think they just have to go through life to learn. You people are so evil sometimes. I hope the judge opened his eyes... hers won't open until much later I'm afraid.
the only way to grow is to live..to experience. so they will grow, alongside their children. they just need to focus on their kids and their short/long term wellbeing, and love them, and they’ll be alright
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Well it was clear from the beginning that these two should not get married. Sad too because of the kids. I try to tell people all the time once you have kids being an idiot is over. Hanging out when you want, getting drunk all night and passing out behind the liquor store, taking it back to the college-day thinking and having a four day weekend instead of three, to really reflect on you and what you want and feel, pop up and decide to go play pool on your last money. Gone. The earlier you get that in your head the better everything will turn out.
you don't need a ring to be married when you have sex that is marriage buying a ring and getting marriage certificate is all bs man the government want you to get marrriage certifcate just to tax you.
Stephen Smith Sadly, having sex and making babies doesn't make anyone secure in case of emergency and death. Sadly that's the truth. You might have a kid or two with someone, but if that person die and papers aren't made, then you'll loose it all. House, car, everything your name isn't on.
Danggggg landed here in 2021 after all the other court video channels. I am a landscaper and am always on the move and unable to use my hands so I just listen and have been for months up to 8 hours or more everyday. It’s finally got to a point that I’ve developed a better understanding of perspectives on both sides. It all started because my ex cheated on me of 5 years. A lot of my insecurities needed answers and so hearing countless paternity court cases helped me a lot. It’s so refreshing to hear a judge be able to give such good stern advice. Lately it just feels like everyone wants to be at each other throats. I miss the good old days where the judge wouldn’t pick a side and actually care for both individuals regardless of who was right or wrong with out being prejudice towards the individual. She didn’t even question the young man as for why he attacked the cop and went straight into what he needs to change with some real advice that felt like it came from a real concern. I definitely would love to bring these types of cases In the spot light.
Why are people never ready for marriage, but ready for kids
Royal One Right?? Somehow they always have an idea about how "I'm not ready for the commitment of marriage". Seriously?? Marriage can be broken of by divorce if everything is lost at some point. It shouldn't be easy, but it's possible as a last resort. Kids are for ever. They'll be there until you die.
Royal One they think kids deserve seeing two people who are not even serious about each other raise them.
A dysfunctional culture that celebrates more baby showers to unwed mothers than weddings is black folks biggest problem in America besides racism. This gives black women a pass to wear being a single unwed mother like a badge of honor.
because biology is easy; just follow your instincts. But marriage is complicated.. not instinctual.
the woman has the child.. if anyone is getting a pass, it's the fathers... isn't it?
im baffled!! IF HE CHEATED WHILE YOU WERE PREGNANT WITH THE FIRST CHILD ....WHY HAVE ANOTHER!! UGH
Thirsty
Why stay with bim?
Girl bye.
Because, like an idiot, she thinks bringing another child into the world is gonna hold him down and make him behave. If he won't even act right after the first baby, why would he change after the 2nd? If anything, having more kids makes him think he can get away with cheating or whatever else. Smfh..
@@JeNn0mic0n please stfu. you have no idea what it's like to be her. No reason to be so damn judgemental and self righteous when you've never been where shes been. Why aren't you blaming the shitty boyfriend for not leaving her because he knows hes shity and she deserves better than him?
She’s an idiot.. women that have nothing else to then run after a guy and open there legs
Lmao what? I really don't understand how someone can have kids with someone so casually but then flinch at the thought of marrying that same person. When did things get so backwards???
True. But she should have enforced marriage before popping out kids. Can't expect him to marry her now. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
bribri0786 + When kids started having kids.
Sometimes people get pregnant accidentally, you know. Not everyone plans it.
Lansana Camara -- That's a excuse that would have worked maybe 60 years ago. There are so many methods of birth control. It's impossible in most cases to say opps I "accidentally" had sex and didn't Renner that's how a baby is made. No such thing as accidentally got pregnant.
Potty Maybe I worded it poorly. I agree that there are obvious ways to prevent pregnancy. I was referring to the fact that said methods are not 100% preventative, and thus people can still get pregnant even when taking the right steps to avoid it.
Judge Toler: "... a man is not a plan!"
Me: "Amen!" 🙌🏽
Jennifer Owens IT IS FOR ME BIIHHHH
Amen!
omg yes boiii
Jennifer Owens I love that! I had to take a mental note myself.
cough cough** unless hes rich
"Do your daughters have COLLEGE FUNDS?" Wow, she went RIGHT for the jugular. Love this woman.
This guy looked like he really had a few epiphanies while judge Lynn was speaking to him.
Mitylene Bailey hopefully so.
hope so....sometimes stuff we think is just common knowledge to us may have never come across the mind of some other folks just because they are in a different part of their journey in life. Hopefully he can turn around for the sake of his girls
Right Mitylene. That's why although he sounded pretty foolish, I kind of think he deserves the benefit of a doubt.
Interesting point Unicorn Cowboy.
That's what I said before I even saw your comment. He was actually listening to what she had to say and taking it to heart. I hope so.
It always kills me when I hear couples like this say they are not ready for marriage and that kind of commitment, yet they have kids together. Having kids together is just as big of a commitment as marriage. If you're not sure about them for marriage, don't have kids with them either.
MissesNova yes indeed!
MissesNova the young man proved teachable...that's a good thing
It seemed so. I hope so.
but who says these kids were planned...couldve been slipups.
well, plan not to have them; it's really that simple, trust me, i know
Judge Lynn never disappoints me. I've been watching a lot of those type of shows. The ONLY judge that can make me emotional like this is Judge Lynn. Nobody else comes even close to her. She is an absolute gem.
I totally agree! I was just telling my self that today no offense to Star ( she is like the newest divorce court ) but she ain't got nothing on Judge Lynn Toler 💕 she's awesome 😎
Judge talking to him like thats her son, she really wants better for him. This Judge is Amazing
"Your daughters will put up w/ what their mother puts up w/ today." My lawd 🙉.
That, is a man who just had a Damascus road moment. Truly hope they do better for the babies.
😁😁
YESS lol! This cracked me up.
Here's good advice: Don't have a child before you get married (if you want to get married to your partner).
More advice: people don't change, and ring doesn't mean anything.
Last advice: Use protection if you are not ready to have children.
Arbitorriku2 on point
Arbitorriku2 AGREED!!! idk why women have kids with these boys and then after they have kids want to get married!! Did their parents teach or show them how it's supposed to be done. I got married first then we had our son. No cheating or lying in our marriage. Communication and trust are the best part to having a successful marriage.
I'm so glad that it all worked out for you but there are plenty of marriages where someone is cheating, and or lying. The divorce rate in America is around 50-60% so there is obviously no guarantee for a happily ever after even with marriage. But I do agree with you, marriage first, children afterwards is a better way to go, at least that way you may have a deeper commitment and some legal protection.
YaYa thanks for the kind words. Marriage is a beautiful union and it's sad people don't keep their vows.
Well said :)
The guy may look stubborn, but I think he has an ear. He can listen when someone speaks, it is just that he is still young in some other issues of life. I do have hope for him. The lady loves the guy. Splitting is not an option for her. She wants to be with the guy, despite the fact that he's acting this way. I believe they will be fine together.
Agree and if they work on themselves
The guy is more mature than her, He was also able to listen and take good advice, but they are bout really young. So hopefully he can mature before he get his self in serious problem, Fighting the police is definitely not a good idea, that could of end real bad for him! I think he just need a serious older mentor to guide him alone the way! to show him that he has to change his dont care attitude! As that mentality will cause him his life!
I can't imagine being 22 and having two kids, wow.
He is so immature
@@tamianicoledoingme3007 No he,s not immature, He quite mature, just need some real man gidance, He,s young and spending tons on money on his bling, He opionated , and nieve, But as a black man growing up you have to be tuff to survive those streets! He jus need to wise up, fighting with the police is unacceptable that could of gone south real fast!
I got married at 19, but didn't have my daughter until I was 24 and then my son at 27. It was good that we waited and understood each other.. if it didnt work it would just be us seperating and no one else would suffer. When we felt the time was right, we had our 1st child..then had our 2nd and now im.expecting the third by the grace of God. And also 9 and a half years of marriage and continued on.
Lol I'm 20 and am flinching at the thought
@@dwayneevans683 well said 👏 👏👏
The judge is gorgeous!!
Beautiful Woman.Intelligent Educated Sophisticated. very Classy Now this is what You Call Diva.
ALWAYS doing it...
YESSSSS
Facts
She's a real woman and beautiful with brains
I saw a spark⚡️
There is some intelligence in that young man.
I saw it too! He experienced some epiphanies when the Judge was speaking to him! Hopefully he can start investing that $600+ every month instead of buying shoes! Good luck to him and her!
Honestly, they're just 2 good people, nothing wrong with them at all, all what they need is to get lessons from life in order to handle any issues they might face in the future...😊
i really wish you the best, you both are amazing and you gonna make it...😊
Islam Mirghani my thoughts exactly!
Thanks ,this is the most reasonable comment so far...❤ ...the world. is made up of bunch of people who don't shit.
I agree, they're young and aren't fully cooked yet. Having children makes it even more complicated.
I just posted the same thing
I love this comment
I love you judge toler, the advice you giving them is so deep and power almost got me in tears from relationship heartache, I hope he takes the advice
Lakia Reed Yes, I was teary too.
they still young and are definitely not ready for marriage. he can't even save money but got over 100 pairs of shoes smh. ridiculous.
I would love to see her say that to a woman
504Thickbeauty: I bet ya she has changed more weave than the number of shoes he got in the same time period. She needed to have been on some birth control. These folks acting the fool.
judge spoke to their souls with this one🫣 the way she told both of them to boss up was awesome🥰🥰🥰 I pray they work out, well mannered and beautiful souls they were
LOL.... when the girl took out the pictures of the closet the dude was like "where you get that from"
they're not ready. he's not a bad guy.. just hasn't matured
I love judge toler word of advice. Thats why i watch her everyday. Its wonderful to see a woman with so much wisdom and knowledge.
Mmm.... that speech at the end 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
bribri0786
Judge was preaching
That was deep.
bribri0786 she is so wise. love it
Britt Brat exact. but i think this kid is not a dummie he was verry respectful too
I love judge Lynn Toler! She is inspiring!
Rave Johnson yes she is!!!!
A Beautiful Woman.
I really like that guy. He really listened & learned something. I feel his mom raised him right. He's going to turn out a good man with time, growing, and with this new understanding.
His mom??? Men have to take care of their kids too!
@@Michelle-pn9xt exactly, that's the world today
I have watched MANY Divorce Court cases and this is the FIRST that I have seen where the man opens the gate for the lady upon exiting....
Mine too....he got kudos from me for that effort alone...
I hope these two can make it!
soulja boys cousin FOR REAL
CHIEDU .J OCHEI lol thought the same
CHIEDU .J OCHEI I was trying to figure out who he reminded me of.
CHIEDU .J OCHEI 💀💀💀💀💀💀 I kept saying to myself "This baby Soulja Boy looking kat." lol
OMG! YAS! my exact same thoughts.
Tell em'
I love Judge Toler..she's going to tell you what it is, whether you like it or not. More people need to be like that. The reason people usually receive her rebuke or encouragement is because she actually cares about the people in front of her. She has boldness and confidence that we all could learn something from,
Right on. The Judge shows her true character. Well said.
These two will not be happy if they get married. It's too bad that they already have two kids, they didn't give themselves time to be adults before having kids.
cant judge a relationship on a 20 min video
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Too young, yet they have 2 kids before marriage. Absolutely stupid...
They are just too young and niave, where are their parents to advise them...
Wow!! That Young Man got a revelation as Judge was speaking into his Soul!!!
That's Deep🙏.
That sent everybody doing any kind if nusmanagenent of funds, or any wrong doing back to the alter.
Thank Judge. I'm praying for you🙏
I love that guy, simple because he listened....I wish we could have more of these young couples who just need some perspective and direction...wishing them both all the best...The young lady should also listen...
I like him. I think he heard what the judge said. I think he will be okay. The person I was at 22 wasn't familiar to my 32 year old self. You change so much in 10 years.
I hope the young woman works on herself and not have any more children until she gets husband.
They sure are a Beautiful couple! I bet their kids are gorgeous😊
How does a 22 year old have a sneaker collection worth $10 grand?
Where did he even get that money?
I swear, people's priorities are trash. They can't wake up on time for work/ won't go to school, but can find hundreds of dollars to get some Jordan's and will camp outside the damn footlocker for a week just to get a pair.
Folks are goofy as hell.
MartianBlues - I know right. I accumulated $10k in student loans. Didn't have the extra $$$ to spend on shoes lol
+ASouthernWriter(JJTV) -- I clicked on your name and was just browsing your playlist. I was just wondering, are you a fan of tommy sotomayor, jesse lee Peterson, and Donald Trump? I'm just asking, and I won't have an opinion either way.
MartianBlues You can thank society for that: brainwashing people of color to become materialist and value a pair of sneakers than their own lives
Chris Porter not just in the black community, but in ever color community.
No Name Regardless of his economic status... those are ridiculous things to waste your money on... this is why there is no legacy, no fortune to leave to children so they can have a better life, because instead of investing young people are spending. Ridiculous.
When the judge said "women don't know how to leave men alone" especially after concrete evidence of stuff. smh! We got to do better ladies so that they will be forced to do better by us!
Amen !!! This comment by the judge was a standout one for as well.
So true!!!
Children shouldn't have children! Your age doesn't make you an adult, your actions decide how old you are. I've seen 50 year old children and 19 year old adults. If you're child like in thought and behavior, please don't reproduce. 😑😒
"I ain't giving her a ring and I'm unhappy." But, you'll have some babies?? That's crazy.
Well i dont blame him, if he's unhappy and things are bad now , u can imagine wat well happen if they get married! By the way marriage is design for women not for men! Its society way of legally binding you to their corrupt system ,then turning you around, to get FUCK up your ass!
@@dwayneevans683 The man who got to marry the brilliant, beautiful, self-aware judge Lynn Toler didn't get screwed. He got the best deal in town. Men dismissing marriage out of hand like they know every last woman should be so lucky. Companionship, when it's good, enriches people immeasurably.
And the judge said "a man ain't a plan", so women could very easily give up on marriage, as very often we're the ones who end up losing out. It's not a zero sum game though, ultimately.
@@ileanasantamaria2364 Yea and how do you know he got the best deal in town, she's not not all there! She herself admits her short comings! She's not 100% stable! She has her psychologists on speed dail! Furthemore you dont know what goes on behind closed doors! She cant cook and im not sure if she cleans up at all! maybe he does all that, female stuff and wears an apron! People can put on fronts in public for many years, so u cant know what really goes on behind the scenes! Furthermore you goona pick a needle out of a hay stack and post a comment ! You wanna comment on one -in a million marriages, where the women is the bread winner, what about the 999,999.00 other relationship where we men bring home and control the money!
Im sure there is animosity in their Relationship, because its a man ego that dictates that he should be the PROIVIDER and bring home the Big BUCKS to take care of his family! Thats the way GOD design it to be and thats the way it should be! He might not say anything to her about it, but im sure it eats at him! And like i said before marriage was design for women not for men!
@@dwayneevans683 And he's without any faults, sinless and spotless? How do you know, since you don't have any more of an insider view than I do into this particular marriage, how much she has supported him and tolerated his flaws? A good marriage consists of give and take, not in a transactional sense, but in a way that, on a day when one partner is weak, be it the man or the woman, the other holds him or her up. And for every marriage you mention where the woman falls short in the ways you mention (which includes a whole lot of stereotyping, because women and men have many different interests that aren't so strictly dictated by gender - what if a man prefers to cook and a woman ends up, say, earning more?), I've seen, up close, marriages where the woman is the breadwinner and the man is getting a degree and she's supporting him. Your utterly bleak, pessimistic view is obviously informed by your own experience, and I'm sorry it's been so grim. I've seen good marriages and bad, and the only available human beings are ones with flaws. Even so, God did say it is not good for man to be alone, so here we are. Blrssings and peace to you, Sir.
Judging from what the young man said outside the courtroom compared to what he said in the courtroom I got the feeling that he was really listening to her advice. I hope he puts it into action before that beautiful young woman who loves him, leaves him.
That bare minimum speech was so raw and beautiful it damn near brought me to tears.
I love Judge Tolin's advice. This young man is smart but immature and she is anxious to get married. She needs to go back to school, they both do.
The woman is the same age. She is also young.
Her last name is Toler.
This was an amazing episode! I'm so glad he was able to have a reality check of that magnitude and I hope that they grow and do what's right for those babies!
I'm sure that these two young people heard what the judge told them. It will be fine in the future for them. I'm sure of this. God Bless you judge for your wisdom! Any child would be blessed to have a mother like you. That's why I love this show!
she is so pretty...but she lacks wisdom and sense... with 2 kids she needs to grow up
M Lov It is her mama fault. She was not taught better. This would not be my daughter.
Pookienem Pooky it's always the mama's. always.
Pookienem Pooky Uh uh don't put that shit on her momma without no evidence.
Most of these women don't think before they start typing!
He needs to grow up too. Why do some people think men never have to grow up?
The judge gave me chills with this one.
what I don't fucking understand is why people think marriage is a perpetual lockdown on your life but having kids isn't? you can get divorced from that person, be done with it and never see that person again. having kids, on the other hand, is a lifelong, forever commitment that WILL tie you to that person until the day you die. fucked up mentality.
Valerie H so true they rather have kids without getting married. than getting married without having kids. which is weird because they afraid of commitment but having kids all over the place with 60 different women
Valerie H very well put. I will use this in my next speech
Valerie H facts💯
Valerie H Amen!
Valerie H ....I agreed with you 100% being married doesn't guarantee anything.
It wasn't wise to be violent with the cop but at least he was protective towards her. Wrong choice but perhaps right intention.
So wise! Judge Toller spoke so much truth!
did yall see him looking around like soulja boi 6:22 my life 😂😂😂😂
Prissy Brey bitch yes lol
hey dont call out my fav rapper
Prissy Brey I know u
I bet the daughter's are GORGEOUS! Sigh typical 22 year olds. But they are good people. So with time one day they will wake up and realize they are not whom they use to be. Childish things grow old and having security in different aspects of life feel so liberating one wants nothing more for their family. I really hope they stay together. Being with your highschool sweetheart and growing together can be very hard, but keeping others out and the love in is the key to a successful future with one another. I believe in them and I hope they both will achieve in their future endeavors.
The fact that he was still in his daughter's lives, and with their mother is a great start...I hope they grow deeper in love and get married when the time is right
I love this episode. The look on both their faces at the end is the realization that they're not just in this for them but for the tiny humans they have created together.
Can we get judge Lynn to write all this great speeches in a book please?
She’s written a lot of her wisdom down! Check out her books! They profoundly changed my life for the better!
I love her!! She tells it like it is and she would be a great motivational speaker
I like the dude...he's not a dummy
All his concerns were valid.
He sounds like a really conscious young man..
I don't understand how teenagers will get themselves entangled with meaningless relationships 😏 get pregnant and still want to hang around with these no goods.
Get a life, get a job, get your priorities straight, go to school, stay in school, get into meaningful relationships & make your own world beautiful. How hard is that ?
This judge she ought to be in the head of UN Supreme court, the way she solving issues its terrific brilliant, her humour and shining face, is stronger enough to heals the entire world problems.
best line of the show? "A MAN IS NOT A PLAN." Welfare offices, social security offices and high schools ought to post that simple but powerful message in very large print on the walls to impress upon women that very notion. there ought to be a STAMP with that message causd id stamp every young womans forehead with it. its all about having OPTIONS.
Walker Pantera Right! And the sad part is, the people who need welfare can't get it because of these procreate-for-profit whore moms know that babies are the way to get government money.
Despite all of his indiscretions I find him somewhat more tolerable than her
Adriana Alicia I agree
He's more intuitive than her, he is a thinker. She is immature and bratty. All of his concerns are very valid as to not wanting to marry her.
What no!! she just seems like a regular girl tryna have a family with a boy who wont grow up, she knows how to speka up for herself but she wants her 'man' to pick up the pace too. even though theyre both kids!
@@Shabzana lol why can’t people see this. This common has the most sense honestly
I love this lady Judge Lynn Toler. i believe she surely got to this young man. 👍👍👍
I think they'll be ok. They just need some time to mature.
1234JANA i think you're right
1234JANA The babies don't have time for them to mature. The parents need to grow up now. In most other countries, age 22 IS GROWN. These two are still playing "house".
And The Proper Positive Intelligent Guidance towards Life.
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Marriage is work but doesn't work like pixie dust to save a relationship filled with infidelity .
#1..i bet she a leo....and #2 i LOVE the way Judge Lynn Toler not only give them a verdict but she ACTUALLY TEACHES OR “TRY” to teach them a life lesson💯🙏🏽🔥
Proud of you black man for realizing learning & taking heed of wisdom provided to you. The best things in life are free!
I love how honest this judge is. It's obvious how passionate she is about her job and helping others:)
everything Judge lynn had to say about his girls one day running into a him and accepting the bare minimum was DEAD ON!!! I think soulja boy fast forwarded into the future and saw exactly what she was describing and woke up. this was a good episode
Judge Lynn is so wise and she is joy to watch. I hate that she is leaving and the new DC platform has changed so much.
I really believe being on this court show changed his life... He's a good guy and she means well. They more than likely will work and marry. Judge Lynn is a great Counselor.
Yeah, they just need some guidance...
Judge : Get your stuff and leave him, end of story
Me: Easier said than done
EvelynLove Fosu-Duah right!
EvelynLove Fosu-Duah True, but necessary.
I've been in her position and that's what I would do to, immediately! I waited 3 years and that was way too long.
EvelynLove Fosu-Duah no it's not lol step 1: found out he's cheating step2: get clarification step3: let the person know your decision. Step4: move on
it isn't, if you don't have tolerance for abuse, disrespect, and disloyalty
This is why I love this judge. She just change that guy's life forever. She touched his soul with her words. That was beautiful to see, a tear came to my eye at the end.
"He has to man up"
She wants him to love her out of obligation not volition.
He'll be leaving her asap if that's the definition of her mindset.
I’m so glad these two had this opportunity. I feel the judge touched this young man and her words will forever be with him. Hopefully he can man up for his girls 🧡🧡
He actually listened, didn't get defensive no matter how difficult it was to hear. I know men 2-3 times his age who cant do that. He's grown within a matter of minutes.
Honey, until he puts a ring on it, don’t have any children with him. Actually, it looks like neither one of you are ready for marriage or parenthood😢
I'm in love with judge Lynn...😍😍😍😍😘😎
man judge Lynn is one of the best judge out there. she is so real and down to earth!
Young women don’t know how to leave a man!! And the choir said amen! I ended a three year relationship in a telephone call AND I had an engagement ring
When you have enough you’ve had enough..
He seems like he took her advice to heart. I hope so cause it was great advice. 👏👏👏👏 JUDGE TOLER IS THE REALEST.
Judge Toler read him for filth. I think it triggered something in him though to help him change for his daughters.
Love how he was able to receive the constructive criticism and feedback from the judge and willingness to make changes
There's nothing really too wrong with these two, but I think they are a little too young and immature right now (I think him a little more than her)
You can't be scrapping with the cops and spending $100s a month on shoes when you've got kids at home. You just can't.
They need to grow up before they start doing grown folks things like having more kids.
Let's hope they wrap it up/use birth control.
Let's hope they get it together for the sake of those little girls that they already brought into the world.
I really hope it works out for them even if they don't end up together.
The judge gave them some bomb ass advice. That was straight fire at the end there! 🔥🔥🔥
MartianBlues but they both seem teachable and willing to move in an upward direction
Wow Judge is awesome getting her point across. She gives great advice
Good enough to procreate with but not marry? Blimey
HM S always
HM S why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
hey that's how she let it happen.
@@nwate7 your thinking is why women shouldn’t have sex with a man who isn’t her husband
That advise she gave them at 16:23 is straight truth. I love her. She is a role model, a incredible women, smart and thoughtful. She is a true boss.
I actually really liked this young man. Sure he's young and immature but he came across as respectful and having the potential to take Judge Toler's advice and grow. I don't think that the young lady should stay by him enabling him and waiting for that growth but I honestly wish the two of them (four, including the daughters) the absolute best.
Judge Lynn's advice was so on point! I love the fact that Josh actually listened to it and decides to treat his lady better. I hope he applies it.
Why are they dressed like they are going to the mall? 😂
MartianBlues lol!
MartianBlues young and dumb
MartianBlues dwl you sooo bad!!
MartianBlues lol cause it look like that's his favourite place lol he got all them damn sneakers and clothes.
Toni-Ann Stewart and hers is Weave! why do black women love Weave so much? smdh
Its an eye opener and am grateful they took it postive
Too much paperwork lolll 😂😂😂
Lol smart man
I love what the judge said at the end to them💯!
I also feel like he really heard the judge about his daughters!
Watching videos like this help me with my abstinence journey 😅
I'm surprised the judge's blood pressure isn't through the roof with talking to all these nut jobs! I applaud her🙌🏻
Ashtyn Emerson you have a beautiful smile!!
One of my favorites lot to think about and learn in this episode ❤️
I'm very impressed by this couple especially the young man..They're young so their immaturity is evident but I can see them becoming contributing human beings down the line.
I felt that last advice straight down to the core 👏 well said judge Lynn 👏 🙌 love u ❤
People tend to forget how 22 is. They are young, and I think they just have to go through life to learn. You people are so evil sometimes. I hope the judge opened his eyes... hers won't open until much later I'm afraid.
Krystal Roney no....they have children, so they need to remember that for better future of their children and the community, they need to grow up
Krystal Roney they have children. They don't have room to be 22 anymore.
exactly! all this needing to act like 22 thing is over
the only way to grow is to live..to experience. so they will grow, alongside their children. they just need to focus on their kids and their short/long term wellbeing, and love them, and they’ll be alright
Being young isn’t an excuse when it comes to kids
Loved his response to the judges criticism. I wish the best for them.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Keep trying, buddy don't give up! Wishing you the best
wowwwww just wowwww !!!! judge well said !! comes through my lung right AWAY!!!
Well it was clear from the beginning that these two should not get married. Sad too because of the kids. I try to tell people all the time once you have kids being an idiot is over. Hanging out when you want, getting drunk all night and passing out behind the liquor store, taking it back to the college-day thinking and having a four day weekend instead of three, to really reflect on you and what you want and feel, pop up and decide to go play pool on your last money. Gone. The earlier you get that in your head the better everything will turn out.
you don't need a ring to be married when you have sex that is marriage buying a ring and getting marriage certificate is all bs man the government want you to get marrriage certifcate just to tax you.
johnny bravo I'm sorry but "passing out behind the liquor store" made me lol.
Stephen Smith Sadly, having sex and making babies doesn't make anyone secure in case of emergency and death. Sadly that's the truth.
You might have a kid or two with someone, but if that person die and papers aren't made, then you'll loose it all. House, car, everything your name isn't on.
October3074 lmao it made me too and I can still do it cause I have no kids yet. Woohoo!!! Lol!
leave the couple alone, if they want to pop kids its their bodies. it is natural to have children..
Danggggg landed here in 2021 after all the other court video channels. I am a landscaper and am always on the move and unable to use my hands so I just listen and have been for months up to 8 hours or more everyday. It’s finally got to a point that I’ve developed a better understanding of perspectives on both sides. It all started because my ex cheated on me of 5 years. A lot of my insecurities needed answers and so hearing countless paternity court cases helped me a lot. It’s so refreshing to hear a judge be able to give such good stern advice. Lately it just feels like everyone wants to be at each other throats. I miss the good old days where the judge wouldn’t pick a side and actually care for both individuals regardless of who was right or wrong with out being prejudice towards the individual. She didn’t even question the young man as for why he attacked the cop and went straight into what he needs to change with some real advice that felt like it came from a real concern. I definitely would love to bring these types of cases In the spot light.