Thinktank Indi No, but it don't hurt! Matter of fact it helps a great deal. That is why I suspect she is having a hard time finding a man. Key word "Man" not freeloader.
@@complexone2542 dumbass stop the ''not ALL!" shit! We can generalize because black women are generally like that. That super simp costume fits your simp ass
It's not hard for black women to find love. They have a twisted view on what love is. Instead of finding a man too love. They're looking for everything in a black man accept love.
+redpilllifesaver "It's not hard for black women to find love. They have a twisted view on what love is. Instead of finding a man too love. They're looking for everything in a black man accept love." Aren't you MGTOW? Are you still going your own way? I'm curious as when that will be.
Cindy John the reason why I say not all black male are like that because my dad and my friends are married and not once had problems.the point is there are good bm out there u just got to be patient
Good Lord, That guy was so calm when she started throwing stuff around. Any other man would just rip her apart. If this is what a man has to put up I am guessing she will be lonely forever.
Toni Martin I question what any woman brings. They all despise everything directly involved in building the home and desire to be providers like men while ignorant of the associated loss. The loss is huge.
Exactly they wanna rule the men...emasculate them. Then after that they wanna cheat and do w.e. they want without anyone telling them that their wrong.
@Toni Martin It's always the other side's fault. Notice how calm her husband was when they were bickering over something presumably mundane while she was being totally aggravated.
That's because most of these women put their happiness first at the expense of the man's happiness. When a woman is not happy, everybody around them isn't either.
i actually know alot of black women who are married i'm haitian and maybe its less of a racial issue than it is cultural. alot of black Caribbean women get married
They are specifically talking about African American women in this segment but and America as a convenience it is just and America as a convenience we just We just call them black women.
Wow how can you expect a marriage to work and you never met them before? Of course it is not going to work. Monet needs to stop going on TV for love that's her problem. She wants fame more than love. I don't feel sorry for her
Please am sorry to say this but I have to say it, they is no market where one can go and fund a partner, I think easy to found a partner online it really work
Over the past couple of decades, black men had to deal with gangs, drugs , crime and a fourth of them have gone to college. Black women meanwhile has loaded college campuses, gotten degrees, masters and doctorates and have successful careers. Now there's a major Paradigm shift in Black America. No one has seriously addressed it. Women are still looking for men making more than them like the old days. Now corporate world has 3 to 1 black woman to man. And almost double in the population. There are more women and more women making more money. These women however despite the shift are still very picky. Even at 50 and 60.
Black women all have different personalities. We are individuals, but society does not allow us to be. Growing up I was reserved and quiet and avoided anything that could cause me to be stereotyped, but I still experienced racism and hate. Still was accused for having an "attitude" when I was minding my own business and didn't smile or laugh often. If we stand up for ourselves against racism, we are still attacked. As a Black woman you cannot win unless you have light skin are fit racist beauty standards.
Monet constantly tried to emasculate Vaughn on their season of married at first sight. There was absolutely nothing wrong with Vaughn. He truly dodged a bullet.
+Llama Llama Men like women who are building them up and pleasant when necessary not be competitive with us. She could lose a few pounds because most men will pass her.
It DOESN'T matter the level of accomplishment their male counterparts have or don't have. The main problem regarding this situation is that MOST of us in the black community DON'T know what it takes to find a suitable mate or make a life with each other work. Black women romanticized love so much that they forget a large part of this union is based on it being a partnership. Most black women were NEVER taught what black men need in a mate. They USUALLY learn by word of mouth, trial and error or bad advice past down from friends and family. Setting themselves up to be traumatized in the process. Most black men dred the commitment, responsibility and FEAR being taken advantage of, being disrespected and being taken for granted. Most of us have no accessible role models to mentor us or go to with questions..
You're right. Because no matter how many books, be his peace, accept the bare minimum, the consistency in seeking a partner or applying what I've learned (which is ongoing) I cannot find a healthy or even a ok black partner.
@@gino2221 Plenty of black women have been hurt. I don't want a man who challenges my femininity, is overly aggressive, and generally difficult. Goes both ways.
I mean if you had married someone you had never seen and didn't know very well for a tv show expirement how long do you think it would last? Marriage for people who know each other already has severe challenges in the beginning years. I'd NEVER marry a man I didn't know and hadn't seen. It's absurd.
They wouldn't have to if their men just acted like men and married their women . Whites will marry white ,Chinese will mary Chinese etc... no other group of men are supposed to replace you to marry African American women. Instead you are chasing other races of men women and not taking care of your own.
Something that's way too common among black women. I won't generalize and say "all" but it's something when the sentiment is shared across the US from one black man to the other. Loud, obnoxious, and just want to wear the pants under the dress. In my experience it always starts off how it's supposed to be, but after a while of getting comfortable it like you're fighting to prove who's more of a man on a daily basis. A man fights the world every time he steps out into it... the last place you want to fight is at home.
@@justinp9170 I once heard an older black woman say, relating to black women who are single and end up by themselves, "There is a reason why they are alone".
@@TheWinterShadow True. And my grandmother always said "Women these days love to talk themselves out of getting a good man" never knew what that meant until I found out for myself.
They went to school and make a lot of money. Even though one doesn’t mean the other, they all think they are entitled to have a Superman. But there are few Supermen out there. That’s why they are single.
Stay off the got damn reality shows.....😂 You want a fast food path to love.....Quit with the IM THE SUCCESSFUL black women and just be a person looking for a person to love....People have the personalities of robots and the expectations of a god 😂
They are to picky! They want the 6'5 guy with a beautiful body, makes over $100,000 a year and looks like Shemar Moore! They will not settle for anything less!
The first black woman in the video wants to know what's wrong with her, why she can't find a good black man. Ok let me try to answer her question. But first she must answer a question for us, why would a good black man choose her? What qualities does she have which would attract him to her? Girls look for money, but we already knew that. Some might say "don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, they’re gonna spend the rest their life with someone, so make the right decision". Well hmm..... yes in some cases that's wrong. Yes, a pretty girl demanding for such qualities is fine, but a girl who is fat, over age and not so pretty looks ridiculous with such demands. People make fun of such women. It’s not that difficult to find a nice guy out there, if one tries to find someone at par to what she herself is. One the other side if she doesn’t want to compromise, then she should work hard on herself. Men and women have expectations, partners that they’ve dreamt off. A boy would dream of marrying a beautiful girl one day, a girl would dream of a prince charming and when those expectations are not meant, frustrations occur. There are many cases where men and women marry down, but it results in unhappy marriages. He/she might say to himself, I could have done better. Get married to a person who is on your own level, if you are fat; get married to a fat guy. If you are not so pretty get married to a guy who is not very wealthy, that is if you are looking for a strong and long lasting marriage. Marrying up means destruction in a marriage, because the person positioned above would never let your life be easy with him/her.
Didn't here anything about what they bring to the table besides their careers and I guess good looks. I'm an educated black man who makes 6 figures. Why should i be interested in any of them? Don't tell men, "this is what i want in a good man?" instead tell them "this is what a good man would want in me" ...when you can say and mean the latter that's when you will get that good man.
Black women are very strong willed. They have high expectations. When all some people need to do is just grow together and empower one another. They also have the worst attitudes.
While I generally agree with the author concerning interracial dating, the problem for many sisters is that she will not be the first, second or third choice. Successful men of other races simply have more options, and they will explore those first.
It’s because black women don’t know how to love they don’t know how to deal with a man because they’ve never had a man in their household and mother ran them out and spoke negative to them. This is majority of all black women. what they can do to change it stop blaming other people and hold themselves accountable and change
Are we still doing this in the new year? I thought we were past this, fellow Black women. No more TV shows claiming depicting us as unable to find anyone. I don't get it. Why keep putting this stuff out here? Crazy.
The way that first woman talked to her husband is exactly the reason why she isn't married. Calling her husband names and being disrespectful will guarantee you are single your entire life. Her terrible, overbearing attitude and is an epidemic among Western women today.
One main reason most blk can't find real love is because they never look further than a man's wallet.Money comes & goes but character stays with a person for life .
mo jo Using white mens mgtow talking points I see. Black men are broke and benefit from marriages more than any other men since other men are breadwinners
Did y'all notice... The dude she picked on her own .... was... VERY... different from the dude... The PROFESSIONALS... picked for her... I NOT! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👊👊👊👊👊
@@God.sDaughter 6.5, 250lbs,with swagger and a baseball cap on his head - notice she leads him into the restaurant as he walks behind her - real men don't do that but black womens definition of a mans is all jacked up
Spend one hour at Prospect park in Brooklyn on a crowded Sunday and its very rare to see a black family/couple. In fact you can count them on your hands. Keep in mind the park is in the black neighborhood of Flatbush. You will see crowds of white families/young couples, Jewish families, blackmen dating out, and lonely black single mothers in groups with no man in sight. You can see the lonelyness on their faces. At this point there is nothing that can be done. Maybe the next generation can learn from the train wreck of the current generation.
Incognito Never said that I represented all Black women. You threw me in that equation. Reread your previous comment with that "serves y'all right" crap. Doubt me all you want. He's with me and he's not going anywhere and last I checked, the problem is Black men. Most of you abandon your families (interracial or not), explain that 92% out of wedlock rate with interracial women? Also, what's with that extremely high divorce rate with White women? All of these problems follow your side.
Incognito Now you tell me, can you see my picture? Last I checked, it's a profile pic of a drawing of 2 Black women who aren't me. So you assume that I'm overweight and on my appearance? How typical. Here's the thing, all Black women don't want nor do they need Black men. I am one of those women who repeatedly rejected Black men to date out and you know who happened to be interested? White and Asian men. I don't need a Black man, I've got better. I'm still trying to find out why a lot of Black women are for men like you. It's strange that a lot of you like to think so lowly of your counterpart, and yet the women are the ones that are actually making progress, not your side, who's seen as only good for a one night stand and not even worth protesting for. The other women don't seem to support your claim of the women being the problem. Where's your support on Black men issues?
Incognito It's really sad that you have to say all of this just to make yourself feel better, but let's put some truth to your lies, shall we? Single motherhood? Now, I wouldn't know anything about that because I chose not to have kids, but last I checked, it takes two people to make a child. Yeah, the women aren't perfect, but at least they're actually trying to raise their kids instead of running off because of most of you have commitment issues and don't even want to support your kids. Debt? Not really my area either, but I could've sworn that went both ways with the college debt. Not to mention at least Black women buckle down and pay for their stuff, rather then trying to scam their own through drugs, sex, stealing, or anything else. Diseases? No experience there, but I could've sworn that came from Gay Black men that like to keep their sexual preferences a secret, or stupid Black men that prefer to go in raw after they've been with everything that has a vagina because your type is obsessed with sex and that's the only way most of you see yourselves as men, which is pathetic in itself. Obesity? Not my forte, but it seems as though a lot of Black women eat because of stress...induced by useless Black men. Why do they let things like you in? No idea, but I could've sworn that Black women are raised to expect Black men as a partner. Even though, I tuned these lessons out and met a nice Korean guy at the Korean church that I go to. Lack of feminity? Oh, you mean that trait that comes from Black women constantly having to fend for themselves because their counterparts decided to be feminine by choice and want to compete with their own women for the benefits of being a woman? Or did you mean the way that we look, which history already disputes your claims with the Tigon Law of 1786 in Louisiana? Basically, it implied that all Black women were a threat and had to be subdued. Go ahead and look up that fact. You say that we're the bottom of the barrel, but why do Black men get mad at us dating out, like you are? Why do they attack us like what you're doing to me, right now? Can you explain how common it is for Black women to be sexually assaulted or raped by Black men, alone? Weird. Why would you give something of little worth (in your opinion) so much attention? I find it funny though. If we are so low, then why do you guys keep trying to convince Black women who are dating out that they have no worth to them or that they're lying, as if you Black men are that important to lie to? You must really need to feel like Black women are below you because why would you be so set on devaluing someone that you've never met? It makes you look like the jealous and bitter one, but I know you. Being stubborn and hateful as you are, you will pursue this sad mission of yours, anyway. Go on, I'm waiting. Throw every statistic you've got. It won't phase me (mostly because they don't apply to me). I suggest that you better yourself as a person, rather than wishing that strangers you talk to online have a horrible life, just to make you feel better about yours. Get some self-esteem, too. Insecurity is not attractive, but these days, it is expected from men like yourself, who fail in every way to other races. If I were in your shoes, I guess I'd be pretty bitter too. So, I understand your anger at someone doing better than you. Simply put, I'm your worst nightmare. I'm a pretty Black women with an amazing guy who's pursuing a medical career, right now. His parents adore me and respect me and I'm happy. Don't shrivel up and die from the goodness in my life, ok? It'll only get better from here.
TV black love: Cosby's, Jeffersons', Good Times, Family Matters, My wife and kids, Fresh Prince, Martin, Everybody Hates Chris, The Bernie Mac Show, 227, Moesha, Roc, Family Matters, these are all examples of black love.
It’s too late for many of them. They decided to play the field throughout their twenties, buying into what feminism and this society enabled. Wanting to be a wife is like wanting to be a doctor. You don’t find out you want to be a doctor at 30, you know at 18,19 years old. Same goes for being a wife. Find a quality man early and commit or Suffer the consequences of your actions. don’t cry about it.
Option 1: Keep the thinking that got you in the situation you are in now, and likely end up lonely. Option 2: Expand your options and become an interracial jump off Option 3: Look for a good man with POTENTIAL in your early 20's instead of partying like it's 1999.
Let's be honest, there's a lot of great black men out there staying out of trouble and busting their ass trying to make ends meet but you don't want them, you want black men with money... Any black woman that claims to be beautiful, intelligent, successful and independent but can get a black man is either lying to herself or is oblivious...
The pretty black women who can't get a man. They can't get the swaggy or bad boy dude to marry them or commit to them long term. Pretty women have virtually every option to pick from sexually and they essentially end up sleeping with the highest status guys in their circle. In black circles that is gonna be a Swaggy dude with some clout! Whether its high school, college, black professional organizations, etc. This is the real reason why these women are single! They want to feel intense emotions for the man they marry and when they have been having sex with Swaggy for 8-10 years, they become numb to the men who are considered lower in social popularity in black culture.
If u actually have any options, the options y’all do have are comical. Y’all purposely suck & fuck on filth & then try to date outside y’all race to men with characteristics y’all consider corny in black men because y’all view these other race of men just like u view your fake hair
Black women literally have the lowest IR marriages due to non black men not puruing them. So how can they find love easier dating out when 95% nonblack men wont date black women?
Bitch you're delusional. You bitches refuse to admit that black men are NOT the problem. That's why EVERY other race of men that try to deal with y'all end up hating black women...
@@Incognito-jl3jk that's the problem right there, they have the lowest interracial dating, meaning most of them desire black men, but most black men aren't getting married to anyone, look at all the biracial children being raised by single moms
@@sheree1994sa That sounds personal. You also forgot to say they have the lowest because by and large non black men dont want them. Also where are the biracial children raised by single moms? Where are your stats and sources? Or are you just regurgitating the same tired line all other angry incel black feminist say?
@@Incognito-jl3jk don't need stats and source look around you, by the way, where are your stats that says Nobody wants black women? Black men are not getting married in high numbers, look at the stats compared to other races of men vs black men, you are the least to get married, but hell, you are the least in many things when it comes to other races of man.
Listen to her say it's too much work! She is not marriage material for the marriages I know have been through the fire and came out together with 18, 20, and 12 years of marriage. It takes team work, love as a choice, accountability, self improvement from both sides, patience, understanding, most importantly God leading the way. Every great marriage has had its test but those who endure receive the greatest marriage ever.
It is the AMOUNT of this behavior that is the problem. Black women GENERALLY are combative. Nobody is making this up. Men are not seeking out combative women. BW like to use the word "strong," a woman's strength is measured in her man's absence not his presence. In the man's presence it is called "combative." What do I want my woman to be strong about TO ME??? That word is not valuable to me at all in reference to me from her...
How comes they only look at “Black Love” from the perspective of the SBW??? What abt SBM they’ve never covered that point of view... How abt Married couples??? 30,40,50 years, isn’t that where we are all trying to get??? They’re the examples we should emulate, not TV, not entertainers. Find an old couple in your neighborhood, sit down & LISTEN 👂🏾
Man with the glasses hesitated before he said I do. I know he regretted saying that. Sometimes we should follow our first thought. Marriage is not a joke when your not compatible.
The Entitlement these Sistas have since they have a job and not necessarily a good job is outrageous. Now let's assume the BW does have a good job, why not get a poor decent Black Man with the looks, character and sex appeal you looking for and help build him up using your money and influence. Affluent Men have been building up Broke Women for years and this is very socially acceptable.
BEMarty Three Haha! "build him up" so he can leave her once he's on; seen that happen way too many times. An adult man should have his life together by a certain age and if he falls pick himself back up like a man not expecting a woman to do it for him that's the cowardly and infantile mentality that's killing black men in America.
In the end, most men resent the woman who builds him to where he needs to be... most men resent being MOTHERED by a partner and THEN when they are built go get the woman they really want. This is why it is not worth building an adult man... He needs to be pursuing growth for HIMSELF.
@@hymnodyhands He should be pursuing growth for himself as his primary motivation. Still many BW are looking for the one and since he has not presented himself and if you're still single plan b says maybe underneath that average Joe is that great man I've been looking for. Help is help regardless of who gives it as long it's used wisely. You ladies want it all with little to no investment on your part and I'm not talking about just money.
50yr single in gr8shape beautiful home 2vechin.3bank account and free spirit loves life . my brothers my advice to you avoid these traps that await you .we only have one life to live .Liv it in peace .
Please please can someone give a breakdown of strength, because my definition of strength is not undesirable. So why is the strength you speak of a turn off.
Black men and women haven't been taught how to understand each other's struggle for the most part, in many societies. Also, I think our community is suffering heavy generational mental damage from not only slavery but systematic racism, that has gone untreated. I see damage and division that's been around for centuries, still poisoning our branches. I do think too many of us are broken and don't know how to make ourselves whole, teaching our kids the same. On top of all this, the pool of black men is systematically compromised like they mentioned and largely contributes to this distance. Of course, I'm speaking generally and making observational inferences. I'm not sure I actually know or can articulate how deep the disconnect is and why. I only know 2 healthy, happy black couples-one 10 years married-and a SLEW of struggle love stories. My boyfriend and I have a deep sentimentality for black love; we feel disheartened when we see folks unhappily single or stuck in struggle love. We've been together 5 years and are best friends; we pretty much always enjoy each other's company and are very affectionate. He's the only man I've ever felt emotionally and physically safe enough with; I'm the first person he was comfortable enough to be emotionally vulnerable with. Life has thrown illness and grief that have ended marriages at us, yet we've grown as individuals and a team. We built our love on consistent compassion, respect, trust, support, and commitment-everything we wish we saw. We have a strong devotion to end damaging cycles in our family histories, and take setting a good foundation for future generations very seriously. I have faith in the strength of black people, but I don't think the black family will be healed anytime soon unfortunately. I hope we find our harmony again, because we go hard when we have unity.
Get a load of this, Just because I simply stated that I tend to receive a warmer welcome from women outside my race most of the time. A black woman responded by calling me ugly stating that I wouldn't be missed. There's an irony there, I'm not of the gender that has the reputation for being belligerent, squeamish and prudish in the bedroom, so ask yourself who is the one that truly wouldn't be missed lol
Sad to say but I married 2 black women and I had to divorce both of them. I'm handsome, well built, artist etc.. I paid all the bills. Still got treated like shit.. 🤔🤔
The first thing I'd like to mention is that love is not a color, but a decision of something that you practice unconditionally consistently. You have to first be dedicated and committed to God Almighty and be walking in the Holy Spirit truthfully. It's not the skin you're in, it's who you are within that matters. What are your reasons, motives and agenda for wanting to get married? You don't go out and find love, you have to become love and then, love will find you. You can't provide or give away something you don't practice and are not yourself.
This is just depressing. I'd like to see more positivity in the media around this situation. Show Black women being the main love interest in sitcoms, find and show relationships, both intra and interracially where the Black woman and her significant are cohesive and productive. The media places too much emphasis on the negative aspects of Black women in relationships, and unfortunately people are swayed by that. Plus, us talking about the negatives isn't going to make people feel bad for us and date us...We aren't defined by all this negativity! We're more than this crap the media spews.
The media places too much negative emphasis on black men, women and children. Next it might be after black babies. And the media puts this negative image or stigma on the black race far more than any other race if people. The sad reality is that black people believe it to the detriment if their own race
Well, their first mistake is looking for black love. Love who loves you ladies; regardless of his race. I was rejected by a black dude, who was a struggling attorney and the guy that came along behind him; just happened to be a white man; who earns 6 figures; which is almost 3xs what I earn as a Therapist. My point is that my guy is a hardworking, mature man, who's a great leader and provider. The other guy was just too immature and not the best match for me. Stop dating a race and date for character.
You dont have a man. Black women are terrible at lying about who they are dating and who wants them when in reality nobody does. You know how many black women on here lie and say they have a white guy who is making 6 figures or a millionaire. Shit doesnt add up nor make any sense nor is believable.
Why is it that when a predominantly black show is released the majority of them have "black" in the title? Not only does it sound like they were made by the same team of people but it unnecessarily mentions the race of the characters in the show as the viewer will SEE its black people once it airs! This is an example of why it's harder to market all black shows worldwide bc we make our race the focus and the story second. It makes the average potential viewer assume that they must be "black" to relate to relate or have interest in this show. It's already a show about women, which cuts out the male demographic and then your putting "black women" in the title eliminates your chance of getting non-black women views/ratings. Keep the all black cast just take "black" out of the title and be business savvy. Further more is "black love " that different from any other love? Why so insecure?
Black women are not submissive and have to much masculine energy.. not all but enough to have a stereotype ☹️.. no one wants to deal with a combative woman
I don't feel empathy for these women. They met quality responsible men in early in life. However, they chose a career or chose to be a party girl. Now, they complain there are no good men to marry. Well quality men work towards their purpose and have selected cultured submissive women.
Thank you!!!! They really do make it hard. Some of us good women are single and we are fit, college educated, friendly, very little attitude and anger and etc. Some of us are calm minded and just play video games go to work and pay our bills
Stop looking for the "right man", if you aren't the right woman. Work on yourself, put yourself and your happiness first and make sure you are in a right spot mentally, emotionally, physically and financially ready for marriage first. If you're in a right mindset and mentally you will attract the right man towards you. But pray. Love yourself and be open in life. Stop being out here looking for what you want and become what you need! This has nothing to do with race but more to do with who your are as a person.
She talks about being a professional black woman that can't find a man but picked the most unprofessional man she can find. Yep, she picked the guy 6.5ft guy with swagger and a baseball cap on his head, who lets her lead him - cuz that's a real man to her. This same guy with impregnate 10 of them then she'll demonize all black men for being no good. What's wrong with her ex husband, he's calm and seem like a desceant man. But black women don't want normal, THEY WANT CRAZY. Black women have lost their minds..
I WAS MARRIED FOR 48YEARS TO THE SAME BLACK WOMAN / SHE DIED OF CANCER & I STOOD BY HER ALL THE WAY TO HER DEATH !!! --- WHAT ARE THESE COMPLAINING BLACK FEMALES COMPLAINING ABOUT ??
Sadly that’s what a lot of black women think. There college degree or degrees, six figure salary job equates to being a suitable mate for somebody and it doesn’t. Morals, core values, standards,, being humble, loyalty, respect not just for the man but yourself to, etc.
Okay, we have an outspoken, nagging, and extrovert divorcee. Can you tell me what's wrong? I sense the problem is an aggressive and domineering character but maybe some men like that demeanor? No, they do not. There are far more black women that display this posture, and this character is given to the female demographic of black women as a whole in North America. I don't recall ever hearing this position on any other ethnic group of any race in the world, except in the States, but I believe it's spreading throughout the western world. Okay, after saying all that. The problem is ultimately selection, preference, and availability. Men and women should date anyone period. If you say he/she must be a religion, must be a certain age, must be educated, must be a certain height, must be wealthy, must prefer the sex you like, must like the things you like, etc. then you are insane to think you will not be hunting for a long time.
They are to picky that's why! They start dating the bad guys and expect them to turn into Mr. Right! The point is let the black man be a man know your role in the relationship and allow him to be the man in the marriage. I keep seeing these black women trying and feeling like they need to be independent which is great but you still need to let the man do his job! Women don't wear the pants in the marriage for a reason we are the weaker vessel we need the man to guide and mold us as women! When you do your part in the household everyone is happy and they always say "happy wife happy life"!
It's interesting to see all the "black women experts" in these comments 😑... Watching TV can tell you everything you need to know about a people I guess... -This is a shame
love life I don't think they get it only from TV. It happens in real life more often than not. I've seen so many miserable/mean/angry bw in my lifetime it's sad.
And another note, it is not Black Women's job to lift up Black Men. That idea and mindset is a big part of the problem. A lot BW believe they are better than BM, based on their degrees, their money, things that ultimately have proven not to be important to BM and a long term relationship. When you go into a relationship thinking you're superior or wanting to be in control, even while pretending you want the man to lead, the relationship is doomed from the jump. BW should ask themselves, why do you want to get married? What purpose am I looking for a man to fore fill in my life? I think if BW would honestly answer that question, it would go a long way in helping them see what the problem really is.
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Edjucation and finance don't make you eligible for marriage either.
Straight up you can have both and look like shit or on the verge of looking like shit.
Thinktank Indi No, but it don't hurt! Matter of fact it helps a great deal. That is why I suspect she is having a hard time finding a man. Key word "Man" not freeloader.
@@AttackGamingDog you think men give a shit about a woman status ? Health status yes but everything else nah.
@@iam_kennybiggs we care about if she's attractive to us. Is she kind, loyal, feminine, honest etc. We don't care if she's a waitress or jobless.
@@gamble278 exactly
The world is already tough enough, I don't need to be at war in my own household.
With a Black woman..you'll get that on a Daily basis.
tom11zz884 not 100% of the time. Don’t stereotype an entire race and gender of people.
But it does sometimes happen.
@@complexone2542 always happen...ugly simp
That's why the best black men don't typically date black women
@@complexone2542 dumbass stop the ''not ALL!" shit! We can generalize because black women are generally like that. That super simp costume fits your simp ass
It's not hard for black women to find love. They have a twisted view on what love is. Instead of finding a man too love. They're looking for everything in a black man accept love.
+redpilllifesaver "It's not hard for black women to find love. They have a twisted view on what love is. Instead of finding a man too love. They're looking for everything in a black man accept love."
Aren't you MGTOW? Are you still going your own way? I'm curious as when that will be.
Lana 2016 Talking about women and being with women is two different things.
True very true they want a brother that has all the requirements
@Cindy John um not all black males are like that
Cindy John the reason why I say not all black male are like that because my dad and my friends are married and not once had problems.the point is there are good bm out there u just got to be patient
Good Lord, That guy was so calm when she started throwing stuff around. Any other man would just rip her apart. If this is what a man has to put up I am guessing she will be lonely forever.
Why you think most of them are single. Think about it everyone can find somebody whether it's man or woman and of different race but them.
+De Jaye why does this woman represent all black women to you. You fail to understand there are plenty of crazy people of different races and genders.
chevon1920 hmmm
Lucky Blogger agree she was out of line
Agreed Lucky Blogger.
There’s plenty of good black men out there. They just don’t want to put up with her ass. Sounds like she wants to be the man in the relationship
Lol
Toni Martin
I question what any woman brings.
They all despise everything directly involved in building the home and desire to be providers like men while ignorant of the associated loss.
The loss is huge.
Cindy John self hating ass
Exactly they wanna rule the men...emasculate them. Then after that they wanna cheat and do w.e. they want without anyone telling them that their wrong.
@Toni Martin It's always the other side's fault. Notice how calm her husband was when they were bickering over something presumably mundane while she was being totally aggravated.
That's because most of these women put their happiness first at the expense of the man's happiness. When a woman is not happy, everybody around them isn't either.
Wise man
i actually know alot of black women who are married i'm haitian and maybe its less of a racial issue than it is cultural. alot of black Caribbean women get married
African women too
I agree. It’s definitely the immature, anti-commitment culture we tend to have.
Izzie's World how when less than half of black men even have kids. Stats don't lie. Ya sharing the same bums. Stfu. And stop curving decent black men
Kim_All_Naturelle it already is. Smfh
They are specifically talking about African American women in this segment but and America as a convenience it is just and America as a convenience we just We just call them black women.
Wow how can you expect a marriage to work and you never met them before? Of course it is not going to work. Monet needs to stop going on TV for love that's her problem. She wants fame more than love. I don't feel sorry for her
she makes her self look bad , she needs to marry a man who will kiss her ass 24/7.
Charmaine Espeut YOU GUYS STAY MAKING EXCUSES 😂😂😂😂
Please am sorry to say this but I have to say it, they is no market where one can go and fund a partner, I think easy to found a partner online it really work
I was thinking the same thing. Right.
I would smash the hell
''What's keeping them from finding love?''
Their personality!
facts
Thank You 💯
OH, you steppin' on toes. Preach HS.
Over the past couple of decades, black men had to deal with gangs, drugs , crime and a fourth of them have gone to college. Black women meanwhile has loaded college campuses, gotten degrees, masters and doctorates and have successful careers.
Now there's a major Paradigm shift in Black America.
No one has seriously addressed it. Women are still looking for men making more than them like the old days. Now corporate world has 3 to 1 black woman to man. And almost double in the population. There are more women and more women making more money. These women however despite the shift are still very picky. Even at 50 and 60.
Black women all have different personalities. We are individuals, but society does not allow us to be. Growing up I was reserved and quiet and avoided anything that could cause me to be stereotyped, but I still experienced racism and hate. Still was accused for having an "attitude" when I was minding my own business and didn't smile or laugh often. If we stand up for ourselves against racism, we are still attacked. As a Black woman you cannot win unless you have light skin are fit racist beauty standards.
Monet constantly tried to emasculate Vaughn on their season of married at first sight. There was absolutely nothing wrong with Vaughn. He truly dodged a bullet.
You didn't watch the series.
He don't know how lucky he is.
Yes monet you are turning men off, u come across wanting to wear the pants in the relationship
+Llama Llama Men like women who are building them up and pleasant when necessary not be competitive with us. She could lose a few pounds because most men will pass her.
Certified G Not me, her weight is perfect
Sterling LOL. She has a bad shape when she walks She would be as big as the woman with the world largest hips.
Yeah why can't that BW act like the interviewer Lindsey Davis she is very nice men want that kind of BW
She has a shitty attitude and is hella abrassive cut and dry.
Aquire funds, don't marry, don't cohabitate.. ever.
Sharon Segal basically go MGTOW IBMOR SYSBM
Sharon Segal #SYSBM #MWWIOC 🤷🏾♂️
Dolls don't show love
Sharon Segal Why would a woman say this “Sharon”
I actually agree with this, until you start having bastard babies.
It DOESN'T matter the level of accomplishment their male counterparts have or don't have. The main problem regarding this situation is that MOST of us in the black community DON'T know what it takes to find a suitable mate or make a life with each other work.
Black women romanticized love so much that they forget a large part of this union is based on it being a partnership. Most black women were NEVER taught what black men need in a mate. They USUALLY learn by word of mouth, trial and error or bad advice past down from friends and family. Setting themselves up to be traumatized in the process.
Most black men dred the commitment, responsibility and FEAR being taken advantage of, being disrespected and being taken for granted.
Most of us have no accessible role models to mentor us or go to with questions..
I'm a black woman. I prefer white men, I don't know why. I'm not 100% black, though. I like brown hair blue eyes. 😍
Facts.
You're right. Because no matter how many books, be his peace, accept the bare minimum, the consistency in seeking a partner or applying what I've learned (which is ongoing) I cannot find a healthy or even a ok black partner.
@@gino2221 Plenty of black women have been hurt. I don't want a man who challenges my femininity, is overly aggressive, and generally difficult. Goes both ways.
@@shimmer4771 qui
Married then divorced after 5 weeks?!
RIP
Are you married to a black women, and only date black women??
Brother he is blessed that it was ONLY five weeks.
She was on a reality show called, “Married at First Sight” where 8 people marry a complete stranger.
I mean if you had married someone you had never seen and didn't know very well for a tv show expirement how long do you think it would last? Marriage for people who know each other already has severe challenges in the beginning years. I'd NEVER marry a man I didn't know and hadn't seen. It's absurd.
Stop trying to be the man in the relationship
Exactly
D Dubb Then stop acting like a woman and build something for your women and children.
They wouldn't have to if their men just acted like men and married their women . Whites will marry white ,Chinese will mary Chinese etc... no other group of men are supposed to replace you to marry African American women. Instead you are chasing other races of men women and not taking care of your own.
Right. The reverse psychology that kills everything. Rebecca Pope was right. Like my grandma would say: most women talk THEMSELVES out of a good man.
Just like with racism OBVIOUSLY there's a problem with the women's thinking. Maybe y'all should ask black men what they want.
She said, 'I am looking for a gentleman'. But she was calling her husband names and throwing stuff? O.o
Something that's way too common among black women. I won't generalize and say "all" but it's something when the sentiment is shared across the US from one black man to the other. Loud, obnoxious, and just want to wear the pants under the dress. In my experience it always starts off how it's supposed to be, but after a while of getting comfortable it like you're fighting to prove who's more of a man on a daily basis.
A man fights the world every time he steps out into it... the last place you want to fight is at home.
@@justinp9170 I once heard an older black woman say, relating to black women who are single and end up by themselves, "There is a reason why they are alone".
@@TheWinterShadow True. And my grandmother always said "Women these days love to talk themselves out of getting a good man" never knew what that meant until I found out for myself.
@@justinp9170 Your grandma, my grandma = What they used to call women with respectable character...beautiful women.
SYSBM ALLDAY WITH NO DELAY STRONG..
When she said “I deserve something better” I knew she has a bad sense of entitlement.
They went to school and make a lot of money. Even though one doesn’t mean the other, they all think they are entitled to have a Superman. But there are few Supermen out there. That’s why they are single.
@@terrancethomas9792 they don’t understand that Superman is Clark kent
TRUE THAT 110%
Stay off the got damn reality shows.....😂 You want a fast food path to love.....Quit with the IM THE SUCCESSFUL black women and just be a person looking for a person to love....People have the personalities of robots and the expectations of a god 😂
Truth
True
They are to picky! They want the 6'5 guy with a beautiful body, makes over $100,000 a year and looks like Shemar Moore! They will not settle for anything less!
Black Tiger meanwhile most of them are subpar in looks
Not true for me
peachycalmable
That's the woman's anthem.
If it's bad she's the exception.
If it's good she's the rule.
My perfect man would have never been a Black man. Not ever. But love is out there. Some women want a business deal.
@@Moonewitch black women are played out the be bringing out in clubs and things
Black Women will be waiting a long time if they don’t open their options .
Shantasha Alexander #slowclap
@@travelandluxlifeexpat855 bitch foh
@@travelandluxlifeexpat855 imma slow clap in u
She said she was willing to date out and still has no success. Yall hate to admit non black men as the majority dont want yall.
The key is to pray for the one black man to
I met a wonderful BLACK man who I want to share my life with.
Take your time and think outside the box.
How did you think outside the box?
Im glad for you. Keep praying. The most high draws close to those who draw close to them
I'm a Black woman, and if I were a man, I wouldn't date or marry some of the women in this clip. They are way too aggressive.
The first black woman in the video wants to know what's wrong with her, why she can't find a good black man. Ok let me try to answer her question. But first she must answer a question for us, why would a good black man choose her? What qualities does she have which would attract him to her?
Girls look for money, but we already knew that. Some might say "don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, they’re gonna spend the rest their life with someone, so make the right decision". Well hmm..... yes in some cases that's wrong.
Yes, a pretty girl demanding for such qualities is fine, but a girl who is fat, over age and not so pretty looks ridiculous with such demands. People make fun of such women. It’s not that difficult to find a nice guy out there, if one tries to find someone at par to what she herself is. One the other side if she doesn’t want to compromise, then she should work hard on herself.
Men and women have expectations, partners that they’ve dreamt off. A boy would dream of marrying a beautiful girl one day, a girl would dream of a prince charming and when those expectations are not meant, frustrations occur. There are many cases where men and women marry down, but it results in unhappy marriages. He/she might say to himself, I could have done better. Get married to a person who is on your own level, if you are fat; get married to a fat guy. If you are not so pretty get married to a guy who is not very wealthy, that is if you are looking for a strong and long lasting marriage. Marrying up means destruction in a marriage, because the person positioned above would never let your life be easy with him/her.
Did she specify that she was looking for "a black man"? Or did she say she was looking for LOVE? Those aren't synonymous
Didn't here anything about what they bring to the table besides their careers and I guess good looks. I'm an educated black man who makes 6 figures. Why should i be interested in any of them? Don't tell men, "this is what i want in a good man?" instead tell them "this is what a good man would want in me" ...when you can say and mean the latter that's when you will get that good man.
Well said
Spot on
I see she went from the calm good guy to the tall guy with a beard and swagg
Yea...l notice that too... Very different from the dude... The professional picked for her...#blackwomennature
Exactly
She got a Tyrone. He beating them guts and not committing
Zero accountability from these delusional broads. All the men's fault. Maybe its YOU!!
What’s keeping Monet single is her attitude it’s way too masculine! That’s the problem learn to behave like a wife if you want to be one!
Black women are very strong willed. They have high expectations. When all some people need to do is just grow together and empower one another. They also have the worst attitudes.
While I generally agree with the author concerning interracial dating, the problem for many sisters is that she will not be the first, second or third choice. Successful men of other races simply have more options, and they will explore those first.
I'm curious why black women are less of a choice for dating
Black women dont have trouble finding love, in a "good" black man. It's their superficial mindset that's keeping them single.
It’s because black women don’t know how to love they don’t know how to deal with a man because they’ve never had a man in their household and mother ran them out and spoke negative to them. This is majority of all black women. what they can do to change it stop blaming other people and hold themselves accountable and change
Are we still doing this in the new year? I thought we were past this, fellow Black women. No more TV shows claiming depicting us as unable to find anyone. I don't get it. Why keep putting this stuff out here? Crazy.
+Lana 2016 My goodness, a systa who loves bioshock? Where are you in my life?
Amen to that!!👍
The way that first woman talked to her husband is exactly the reason why she isn't married. Calling her husband names and being disrespectful will guarantee you are single your entire life. Her terrible, overbearing attitude and is an epidemic among Western women today.
Be a woman and stop trying to be the man
Lmao why not men r out here acting like females dressing like females
@@Lala-vp5wy yeah its sad and the fucked up thing is alot of them have single mothers who encourage it. Just sickening
One main reason most blk can't find real love is because they never look further than a man's wallet.Money comes & goes but character stays with a person for life .
They too stuck up and think they better then everyone
Kenny Man nah that’s black men
So, what percentage of black men get married?
Captain Everyman
Get married for what? Lose 1/2 our assets and pay child support for 18 years? Please
Not many, nobody EVER explores this angle of it.
mo jo Black men are broke and end up well off when THEY divorce a woman
mo jo Using white mens mgtow talking points I see. Black men are broke and benefit from marriages more than any other men since other men are breadwinners
Did y'all notice... The dude she picked on her own .... was... VERY... different from the dude... The PROFESSIONALS... picked for her...
I NOT! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👊👊👊👊👊
Terrence Sanders tbh I didn't notice
What’s wrong with the guy she picked?
@@God.sDaughter I didn't say that she was wrong! Just a snapshot of how she thinks... For...HERSELF! 🤣🤣
Terrence exactly
@@God.sDaughter 6.5, 250lbs,with swagger and a baseball cap on his head - notice she leads him into the restaurant as he walks behind her - real men don't do that but black womens definition of a mans is all jacked up
Spend one hour at Prospect park in Brooklyn on a crowded Sunday and its very rare to see a black family/couple. In fact you can count them on your hands. Keep in mind the park is in the black neighborhood of Flatbush. You will see crowds of white families/young couples, Jewish families, blackmen dating out, and lonely black single mothers in groups with no man in sight. You can see the lonelyness on their faces.
At this point there is nothing that can be done. Maybe the next generation can learn from the train wreck of the current generation.
SprayMillion
The horse has already left the barn. They chose white liberal feminism over black men. Let them be strong & independent on their own.
You can never find love on a TV show. #realblacklove
I'm trying to figure out why they're trying for a Black guy to begin with...especially, in these days.
Kira Lunar They are all obsessed with finding love.
Incognito I've got a Korean guy...so, what's your next lie to make yourself feel better? Lol.
Incognito Never said that I represented all Black women. You threw me in that equation. Reread your previous comment with that "serves y'all right" crap.
Doubt me all you want. He's with me and he's not going anywhere and last I checked, the problem is Black men.
Most of you abandon your families (interracial or not), explain that 92% out of wedlock rate with interracial women? Also, what's with that extremely high divorce rate with White women? All of these problems follow your side.
Incognito Now you tell me, can you see my picture? Last I checked, it's a profile pic of a drawing of 2 Black women who aren't me. So you assume that I'm overweight and on my appearance? How typical.
Here's the thing, all Black women don't want nor do they need Black men. I am one of those women who repeatedly rejected Black men to date out and you know who happened to be interested? White and Asian men. I don't need a Black man, I've got better.
I'm still trying to find out why a lot of Black women are for men like you. It's strange that a lot of you like to think so lowly of your counterpart, and yet the women are the ones that are actually making progress, not your side, who's seen as only good for a one night stand and not even worth protesting for. The other women don't seem to support your claim of the women being the problem. Where's your support on Black men issues?
Incognito It's really sad that you have to say all of this just to make yourself feel better, but let's put some truth to your lies, shall we?
Single motherhood? Now, I wouldn't know anything about that because I chose not to have kids, but last I checked, it takes two people to make a child. Yeah, the women aren't perfect, but at least they're actually trying to raise their kids instead of running off because of most of you have commitment issues and don't even want to support your kids.
Debt? Not really my area either, but I could've sworn that went both ways with the college debt. Not to mention at least Black women buckle down and pay for their stuff, rather then trying to scam their own through drugs, sex, stealing, or anything else.
Diseases? No experience there, but I could've sworn that came from Gay Black men that like to keep their sexual preferences a secret, or stupid Black men that prefer to go in raw after they've been with everything that has a vagina because your type is obsessed with sex and that's the only way most of you see yourselves as men, which is pathetic in itself.
Obesity? Not my forte, but it seems as though a lot of Black women eat because of stress...induced by useless Black men. Why do they let things like you in? No idea, but I could've sworn that Black women are raised to expect Black men as a partner. Even though, I tuned these lessons out and met a nice Korean guy at the Korean church that I go to.
Lack of feminity? Oh, you mean that trait that comes from Black women constantly having to fend for themselves because their counterparts decided to be feminine by choice and want to compete with their own women for the benefits of being a woman? Or did you mean the way that we look, which history already disputes your claims with the Tigon Law of 1786 in Louisiana? Basically, it implied that all Black women were a threat and had to be subdued. Go ahead and look up that fact.
You say that we're the bottom of the barrel, but why do Black men get mad at us dating out, like you are? Why do they attack us like what you're doing to me, right now? Can you explain how common it is for Black women to be sexually assaulted or raped by Black men, alone? Weird. Why would you give something of little worth (in your opinion) so much attention?
I find it funny though. If we are so low, then why do you guys keep trying to convince Black women who are dating out that they have no worth to them or that they're lying, as if you Black men are that important to lie to? You must really need to feel like Black women are below you because why would you be so set on devaluing someone that you've never met? It makes you look like the jealous and bitter one, but I know you. Being stubborn and hateful as you are, you will pursue this sad mission of yours, anyway.
Go on, I'm waiting. Throw every statistic you've got. It won't phase me (mostly because they don't apply to me).
I suggest that you better yourself as a person, rather than wishing that strangers you talk to online have a horrible life, just to make you feel better about yours. Get some self-esteem, too. Insecurity is not attractive, but these days, it is expected from men like yourself, who fail in every way to other races.
If I were in your shoes, I guess I'd be pretty bitter too. So, I understand your anger at someone doing better than you.
Simply put, I'm your worst nightmare. I'm a pretty Black women with an amazing guy who's pursuing a medical career, right now. His parents adore me and respect me and I'm happy. Don't shrivel up and die from the goodness in my life, ok? It'll only get better from here.
TV black love: Cosby's, Jeffersons', Good Times, Family Matters, My wife and kids, Fresh Prince, Martin, Everybody Hates Chris, The Bernie Mac Show, 227, Moesha, Roc, Family Matters, these are all examples of black love.
I've watched half of those shows and I live in Australia! I haven't seen Moesha, Roc!
Nikki C
Those shows are all old
All fiction. None real.
T Martin. Let's not forget Jaleel White (Steve Urkel) was rejected by BW because he is nice guy with no swag and he is famous
That's the most stupidest comment I have ever heard......All of that is TV....get real and get into reality.
The pool of black men is not small, the pool of decent black women is
It’s too late for many of them. They decided to play the field throughout their twenties, buying into what feminism and this society enabled. Wanting to be a wife is like wanting to be a doctor. You don’t find out you want to be a doctor at 30, you know at 18,19 years old. Same goes for being a wife. Find a quality man early and commit or Suffer the consequences of your actions. don’t cry about it.
She want a Thug like most Women.💯
Option 1: Keep the thinking that got you in the situation you are in now, and likely end up lonely.
Option 2: Expand your options and become an interracial jump off
Option 3: Look for a good man with POTENTIAL in your early 20's instead of partying like it's 1999.
Let's be honest, there's a lot of great black men out there staying out of trouble and busting their ass trying to make ends meet but you don't want them, you want black men with money... Any black woman that claims to be beautiful, intelligent, successful and independent but can get a black man is either lying to herself or is oblivious...
The pretty black women who can't get a man. They can't get the swaggy or bad boy dude to marry them or commit to them long term.
Pretty women have virtually every option to pick from sexually and they essentially end up sleeping with the highest status guys in their circle. In black circles that is gonna be a Swaggy dude with some clout! Whether its high school, college, black professional organizations, etc. This is the real reason why these women are single! They want to feel intense emotions for the man they marry and when they have been having sex with Swaggy for 8-10 years, they become numb to the men who are considered lower in social popularity in black culture.
I think we as black women should start dating outside our race.
Brooke Lee y’all been saying that for 20 years. If you could you would. Other races of men aren’t checking for y’all.
If u actually have any options, the options y’all do have are comical. Y’all purposely suck & fuck on filth & then try to date outside y’all race to men with characteristics y’all consider corny in black men because y’all view these other race of men just like u view your fake hair
Incognito We can and we do...
@@Neon-Indian86 You actually dont. Black women have the lowest interracial pairings in the world. Literally nobody want you.
@ᦔ𝓲ꪜꫀ𝘴𝓽ꫀᦔ ꪖ𝘴𝓲ꪖꪀ no stats speak for you
2:20 that response there is already a turn off. She is already laughing in the woman's face.
Lies. Black women don’t have trouble finding love especially if they’re willing to date outside of black men.
Black women literally have the lowest IR marriages due to non black men not puruing them. So how can they find love easier dating out when 95% nonblack men wont date black women?
Bitch you're delusional. You bitches refuse to admit that black men are NOT the problem. That's why EVERY other race of men that try to deal with y'all end up hating black women...
@@Incognito-jl3jk that's the problem right there, they have the lowest interracial dating, meaning most of them desire black men, but most black men aren't getting married to anyone, look at all the biracial children being raised by single moms
@@sheree1994sa That sounds personal. You also forgot to say they have the lowest because by and large non black men dont want them. Also where are the biracial children raised by single moms? Where are your stats and sources? Or are you just regurgitating the same tired line all other angry incel black feminist say?
@@Incognito-jl3jk don't need stats and source look around you, by the way, where are your stats that says Nobody wants black women? Black men are not getting married in high numbers, look at the stats compared to other races of men vs black men, you are the least to get married, but hell, you are the least in many things when it comes to other races of man.
I am still stuck at the point she says " I deserve" something better
Listen to her say it's too much work! She is not marriage material for the marriages I know have been through the fire and came out together with 18, 20, and 12 years of marriage. It takes team work, love as a choice, accountability, self improvement from both sides, patience, understanding, most importantly God leading the way. Every great marriage has had its test but those who endure receive the greatest marriage ever.
Black women are confrontational, trust me. I work with a lotta 'em! 😁
How are you
I've never seen a socioeconomic breakdown of this. Not an abundance of black women who are wife material out there either, but that's never addressed.
Lol you know they’ll never address that
These women is not marriage material. Their stuck up and forgot where they came from
Mike 10452 exactly
It is the AMOUNT of this behavior that is the problem. Black women GENERALLY are combative. Nobody is making this up. Men are not seeking out combative women. BW like to use the word "strong," a woman's strength is measured in her man's absence not his presence. In the man's presence it is called "combative." What do I want my woman to be strong about TO ME??? That word is not valuable to me at all in reference to me from her...
How comes they only look at “Black Love” from the perspective of the SBW??? What abt SBM they’ve never covered that point of view... How abt Married couples??? 30,40,50 years, isn’t that where we are all trying to get??? They’re the examples we should emulate, not TV, not entertainers. Find an old couple in your neighborhood, sit down & LISTEN 👂🏾
Her standards are too high, end of the story.
Man with the glasses hesitated before he said I do. I know he regretted saying that. Sometimes we should follow our first thought. Marriage is not a joke when your not compatible.
The Entitlement these Sistas have since they have a job and not necessarily a good job is outrageous. Now let's assume the BW does have a good job, why not get a poor decent Black Man with the looks, character and sex appeal you looking for and help build him up using your money and influence. Affluent Men have been building up Broke Women for years and this is very socially acceptable.
Don't be philosophically extreme, it's just another option; since according to BW there's a serious Black Man Issue.
BEMarty Three
Men want a hot body; women want cash and prizes. Been that way since the beginning of time
BEMarty Three Haha! "build him up" so he can leave her once he's on; seen that happen way too many times. An adult man should have his life together by a certain age and if he falls pick himself back up like a man not expecting a woman to do it for him that's the cowardly and infantile mentality that's killing black men in America.
In the end, most men resent the woman who builds him to where he needs to be... most men resent being MOTHERED by a partner and THEN when they are built go get the woman they really want. This is why it is not worth building an adult man... He needs to be pursuing growth for HIMSELF.
@@hymnodyhands He should be pursuing growth for himself as his primary motivation. Still many BW are looking for the one and since he has not presented himself and if you're still single plan b says maybe underneath that average Joe is that great man I've been looking for. Help is help regardless of who gives it as long it's used wisely. You ladies want it all with little to no investment on your part and I'm not talking about just money.
But what is Monet fighting about in the house with her new husband? Will she really find someone to put up with the manic behaviour?
now she'll definitely not find a man after being on that show lolll
50yr single in gr8shape beautiful home 2vechin.3bank account and free spirit loves life . my brothers my advice to you avoid these traps that await you .we only have one life to live .Liv it in peace .
Please please can someone give a breakdown of strength, because my definition of strength is not undesirable. So why is the strength you speak of a turn off.
Black women usually wait too late to look for marriage. You cant be looking for a husband at 33, most good black men are taken by then.
Black men and women haven't been taught how to understand each other's struggle for the most part, in many societies. Also, I think our community is suffering heavy generational mental damage from not only slavery but systematic racism, that has gone untreated. I see damage and division that's been around for centuries, still poisoning our branches.
I do think too many of us are broken and don't know how to make ourselves whole, teaching our kids the same. On top of all this, the pool of black men is systematically compromised like they mentioned and largely contributes to this distance. Of course, I'm speaking generally and making observational inferences. I'm not sure I actually know or can articulate how deep the disconnect is and why.
I only know 2 healthy, happy black couples-one 10 years married-and a SLEW of struggle love stories. My boyfriend and I have a deep sentimentality for black love; we feel disheartened when we see folks unhappily single or stuck in struggle love.
We've been together 5 years and are best friends; we pretty much always enjoy each other's company and are very affectionate. He's the only man I've ever felt emotionally and physically safe enough with; I'm the first person he was comfortable enough to be emotionally vulnerable with. Life has thrown illness and grief that have ended marriages at us, yet we've grown as individuals and a team. We built our love on consistent compassion, respect, trust, support, and commitment-everything we wish we saw. We have a strong devotion to end damaging cycles in our family histories, and take setting a good foundation for future generations very seriously.
I have faith in the strength of black people, but I don't think the black family will be healed anytime soon unfortunately. I hope we find our harmony again, because we go hard when we have unity.
Slavery and racism has nothing to do with black people's dysfunction, this is self inflicted
Get a load of this,
Just because I simply stated that I tend to receive a warmer welcome from women outside my race most of the time. A black woman responded by calling me ugly stating that I wouldn't be missed. There's an irony there, I'm not of the gender that has the reputation for being belligerent, squeamish and prudish in the bedroom, so ask yourself who is the one that truly wouldn't be missed lol
Sad to say but I married 2 black women and I had to divorce both of them. I'm handsome, well built, artist etc.. I paid all the bills. Still got treated like shit.. 🤔🤔
You weren't a thug
Lol or submissive
The first thing I'd like to mention is that love is not a color, but a decision of something that you practice unconditionally consistently. You have to first be dedicated and committed to God Almighty and be walking in the Holy Spirit truthfully. It's not the skin you're in, it's who you are within that matters. What are your reasons, motives and agenda for wanting to get married? You don't go out and find love, you have to become love and then, love will find you. You can't provide or give away something you don't practice and are not yourself.
This is just depressing. I'd like to see more positivity in the media around this situation. Show Black women being the main love interest in sitcoms, find and show relationships, both intra and interracially where the Black woman and her significant are cohesive and productive. The media places too much emphasis on the negative aspects of Black women in relationships, and unfortunately people are swayed by that. Plus, us talking about the negatives isn't going to make people feel bad for us and date us...We aren't defined by all this negativity! We're more than this crap the media spews.
The media places too much negative emphasis on black men, women and children. Next it might be after black babies. And the media puts this negative image or stigma on the black race far more than any other race if people. The sad reality is that black people believe it to the detriment if their own race
The Cosby show
The Black women want a Will Smith or Denzel Washington...
Or a pookie/Ray Ray...
Well, their first mistake is looking for black love. Love who loves you ladies; regardless of his race. I was rejected by a black dude, who was a struggling attorney and the guy that came along behind him; just happened to be a white man; who earns 6 figures; which is almost 3xs what I earn as a Therapist. My point is that my guy is a hardworking, mature man, who's a great leader and provider. The other guy was just too immature and not the best match for me. Stop dating a race and date for character.
Exactly
You dont have a man. Black women are terrible at lying about who they are dating and who wants them when in reality nobody does. You know how many black women on here lie and say they have a white guy who is making 6 figures or a millionaire. Shit doesnt add up nor make any sense nor is believable.
How is it working out for you now in 2022 ?
I don’t know how these women still care to find a black man ... don’t they understand it’s not obligated? Too much struggle love... I could never.
Why is it that when a predominantly black show is released the majority of them have "black" in the title? Not only does it sound like they were made by the same team of people but it unnecessarily mentions the race of the characters in the show as the viewer will SEE its black people once it airs! This is an example of why it's harder to market all black shows worldwide bc we make our race the focus and the story second. It makes the average potential viewer assume that they must be "black" to relate to relate or have interest in this show. It's already a show about women, which cuts out the male demographic and then your putting "black women" in the title eliminates your chance of getting non-black women views/ratings. Keep the all black cast just take "black" out of the title and be business savvy. Further more is "black love " that different from any other love? Why so insecure?
Preach #lovehasnocolor👏🏽🙏🏽😻✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
Blackploitation in the modern age....cheered on by ignorant blacks.
Yep I have been asking these for long.
3:51 "Chato Waters." I can't take this anymore HAHAHAHAH
We are such a beautiful people the division in our culture is just soo sad I’m keeping it 💯
Black women are not submissive and have to much masculine energy.. not all but enough to have a stereotype ☹️.. no one wants to deal with a combative woman
As a black man why the hell should I care about someone who doesn't care about me, is a waste of time and energy. Mgtow for life. ✊🏾
Real talk
I don't feel empathy for these women. They met quality responsible men in early in life. However, they chose a career or chose to be a party girl.
Now, they complain there are no good men to marry. Well quality men work towards their purpose and have selected cultured submissive women.
I feel sorry for black women's especially the good ones because there are so many bad black women's and they make it so so hard for the good one's.
Thank you!!!! They really do make it hard. Some of us good women are single and we are fit, college educated, friendly, very little attitude and anger and etc. Some of us are calm minded and just play video games go to work and pay our bills
TheSnowFoxParty you’re beyond stupid
Seems like only Black American women have this problem
Stop looking for the "right man", if you aren't the right woman. Work on yourself, put yourself and your happiness first and make sure you are in a right spot mentally, emotionally, physically and financially ready for marriage first. If you're in a right mindset and mentally you will attract the right man towards you. But pray. Love yourself and be open in life. Stop being out here looking for what you want and become what you need! This has nothing to do with race but more to do with who your are as a person.
She talks about being a professional black woman that can't find a man but picked the most unprofessional man she can find. Yep, she picked the guy 6.5ft guy with swagger and a baseball cap on his head, who lets her lead him - cuz that's a real man to her. This same guy with impregnate 10 of them then she'll demonize all black men for being no good. What's wrong with her ex husband, he's calm and seem like a desceant man. But black women don't want normal, THEY WANT CRAZY. Black women have lost their minds..
Love is not what makes you happy
I WAS MARRIED FOR 48YEARS TO THE SAME BLACK WOMAN / SHE DIED OF CANCER & I STOOD BY HER ALL THE WAY TO HER DEATH !!! --- WHAT ARE THESE COMPLAINING BLACK FEMALES COMPLAINING ABOUT ??
Outward appearance and the kind of work a person does, is not a qualification for a relationship.
Sadly that’s what a lot of black women think. There college degree or degrees, six figure salary job equates to being a suitable mate for somebody and it doesn’t. Morals, core values, standards,, being humble, loyalty, respect not just for the man but yourself to, etc.
We are all in trouble when tall, dark and handsome can't cut it.
Look at how they display us on the media
Yup!!!!
You mean how black women display themselves...
@@ksager123 No! I said what the fuck I meant
@@laneylaney9985 lol you're being the angry black woman stereotype and you are too stupid to realize it
You not gonna find a lot of 6 figure black men. You not gonna find some who make as much as you do. Long as he is a provider whats the problem?
Okay, we have an outspoken, nagging, and extrovert divorcee. Can you tell me what's wrong? I sense the problem is an aggressive and domineering character but maybe some men like that demeanor? No, they do not. There are far more black women that display this posture, and this character is given to the female demographic of black women as a whole in North America. I don't recall ever hearing this position on any other ethnic group of any race in the world, except in the States, but I believe it's spreading throughout the western world.
Okay, after saying all that. The problem is ultimately selection, preference, and availability. Men and women should date anyone period. If you say he/she must be a religion, must be a certain age, must be educated, must be a certain height, must be wealthy, must prefer the sex you like, must like the things you like, etc. then you are insane to think you will not be hunting for a long time.
It's black women fault . Am a strong black woman
The internet is literally full of videos of black female and asian male dating struggles
Black woman are at the bottom of the list for desirable partners. Sad fact
34 is too old for a woman to be looking to get married. Those eggs are dried up
They are to picky that's why! They start dating the bad guys and expect them to turn into Mr. Right! The point is let the black man be a man know your role in the relationship and allow him to be the man in the marriage. I keep seeing these black women trying and feeling like they need to be independent which is great but you still need to let the man do his job! Women don't wear the pants in the marriage for a reason we are the weaker vessel we need the man to guide and mold us as women! When you do your part in the household everyone is happy and they always say "happy wife happy life"!
Myloveformystery yup
Why do we have to be weak to get a good man. This is sad that these women feel like they have to go outside their race to be happy
What do you mean by weak?
They are the problem
It's interesting to see all the "black women experts" in these comments 😑...
Watching TV can tell you everything you need to know about a people I guess...
-This is a shame
love life
Likewise to their sources of information.
Cannot condemn others for assumptions then make assumptions of them.
love life I don't think they get it only from TV. It happens in real life more often than not. I've seen so many miserable/mean/angry bw in my lifetime it's sad.
Its her, no brother wants to be with a woman who wants to be the head if him.
In short.... MGTOW
Jeffrey Stern lol
I'd like to know the divorce parameters involving these reality shows. Is there a prenup or not?
And another note, it is not Black Women's job to lift up Black Men. That idea and mindset is a big part of the problem. A lot BW believe they are better than BM, based on their degrees, their money, things that ultimately have proven not to be important to BM and a long term relationship. When you go into a relationship thinking you're superior or wanting to be in control, even while pretending you want the man to lead, the relationship is doomed from the jump. BW should ask themselves, why do you want to get married? What purpose am I looking for a man to fore fill in my life? I think if BW would honestly answer that question, it would go a long way in helping them see what the problem really is.
Everything is wrong with her that's why they don't want you