Too shy? Too quiet? Nope. You're you and there's nothing better than being yourself. It's better to be alone than surrounded by people who don't care. Please keep doing what you're doing. You're absolutely wonderful 😊
As a counsellor, I attend to many students with social anxiety issues. I think u got yourself together nicely. Just be kind to yourself n do the things u enjoy doing. Pace yourself n no rush to compete with what others are doing. U are not missing out on life for sure. Just chill. Love your videos.
I'm also an introvert, so I completely relate to your experience. I used to feel insecure and socially anxious around others, but over time, I’ve slowly come to accept and embrace who I am. Always stay true to yourself. Thanks for sharing ❤
"After spending time out in the real world for a while makes coming back to home feel a million times batter." That's exactly the meaning of "stepping out of the comfort zone" to me. Same as relaxing/sleeping after exercise/running, and enjoy peace at personal place after socialize.
I feel a lot of wisdom in what you share in this video. It seems that wisdom can come out of a lot of experiences and years or through an "epiphany" as you say. Amazing! So sincere your sharing.
People express themselves and communicate in different ways. Your video is a form of one way verbal communication and it is very effective. You look relaxed, comfortable, and confident. Enjoyed it.
I can totally relate; I used to be totally shy, always overthinking (still do!), and am a textbook introvert. Doesn't help that in society, the extroverts shape everything (kinda like how most things are designed for right-handedness), so everything is about being outgoing, sociable, aggressive, proactive, yada yada yada... Over the last 10-15 years, I think I came to the same realizations you mentioned and learned to break out of my comfort zone more. I now socialize like a "normal" person, and I still feel that butterfly & fear of being awkward every now and then, but I think I can stomach it better. Kudos to us introverts!
I like your teaching! Please keep up. This video is also very good, I like it that everyone should have their own life, the world doesn’t need everyone to be extrovert. Also, you are very beautiful!!!
You remind me of my youngest daughter. We're all a quiet bunch, but she takes it to a whole new level. I hope she can learn to be as comfortable in her own being as you seem to be.
真善美的姑娘！You’re correct; humans can be dangerous and rude to angels. Sometimes it’s not just about comfort zones, but rather the question of whether I will become one of them. 😊
Totally agree. The more you interact with people, the more confidence you will have doing it, and one day the anxiety will be gone. Small steps are the best way to go. I'm still a quiet person, but I don't fear public speaking or social situations anymore.
Don’t know why this/your video popped up in my RUclips recommendations, but it did. Although, I look socially outgoing on the outside, I really love to be alone in my home with my two Pembroke Corgis 😂 they are my best friends: the advantage of pets is that they don’t judge and love you how you are. They even Prefer you being at home with them! Haha. For you: if you feel good, about how you live, thats key. No one should give you advise how to live your life! I subscribed to your channel: cheers from The Netherlands!!
Beautiful video. Thank you! In my experience being defenseless and vulnerable became a way to experience relief and joy. Children walk in the world without many barriers between them and others, I've always found this fact extremely fascinating. The method (😅) I've created consists in this: when I meet people, whoever they are and wherever I am, my only and unique "effort" is to reduce my defences as much as I can. Shutting down your defenses as a shy introvert person is something you have to do on purpose. I've started doing this when I realized how much of a barrier I was. I was inspired by the little ones and by my faith, christianity. Thank you again for this video and congrats for your beautiful channel which I hope will grow even more in the future
Feel the same way, avoid crowded and social situations, even with close friend and if their is a guest coming, i run away. I prefer staying in my own space and it's true, the fear I had I realised everyone is too busy dealing with their own problems and they don't care. I came across your videos randomly and truly, your videos are kind of a therapy. Keep up the good work, best part is the videos are too the point and short. I am learning to apply these things in life.
I completely agree the world does sometimes feel like they are alienating us. I also love to travel and I like going to libraries as well but am now in a season where I can't go out and the anxiety is just more intense. I really enjoyed your perspective on this topic and agree that I should take it one day at a time and try to be confident in my own skin even when I feel the alienation from others. (I am learning Mandarin and RUclips recommended thinking I don't speak english 😅)
There's this song by Audioslave called "Be yourself". For some weird reason, it played in my head when you mentioned about being yourself and balancing life.
I used to feel the same way-super self-conscious just walking down the street. But then I realized, it's totally okay to be seen. Once I stopped obsessing over how I looked or what people might think, I started paying more attention to the world around me. That simple shift pulled me out of my own head and helped me stop overthinking everything.
Thanks a lot for ur sharing ! Somehow the best thing in life is to gettint understand who we are . Hope u enjoy your life ! i m also try my best to learn about it even i m already 43 years old and a 2 kids father 😅
Yes, you are right, no need to force yourself to change. Each individual got his/her own Character and as long as we are happy with what we are, no need to care about other people suggestions because it is not their business. 😄
Cannot agree more! Sometimes I still cannot control myself to think what other people thinking about me. I accept this feeling and I also fight against this feeling. No matter what, this is the real me. 讲得真好！INFJ深有同感～❤
my understanding is, usually, only the kind and super nice people are shy, and the kinder, nicer, warmer people are more shy, or even having social anxiety. seeing more the dark side of human beings could help overcome. best wishes from Europe.
I was very introverted throughout my 20s, I had to work really hard on trying to go out and do things. I watched a lot of YT vids on how to talk to people and how to feel a little more confident. Sometimes, strangers really like when you say a random thing to them in a friendly way, and sometimes they don't. The main thing is to not care about how they feel towards you, just don't be mean and if they like you then you might make a friend and if they don't, you just move on and who cares. At this point it is kind of fun stepping out of the comfort zone once in a while.
Thanks for your sharing! As an introvert i gain a lot from this video. Hope all of us could step out to a bigger world. Here's some suggestions. The Chinese subtitles is an obstacle for me to learn English since I am a native Chinese speaker myself. People always prefer the easiest way to get the comprehension. And that i just can't help my eyes looking at the Chinese subtitles though your English speech is easy to understand. So i hope if you will shut the subtitles in the next videos. Thanks again!
I think that if it's not making it difficult for you to live your life, then it's okay. If you can communicate with people as little as possible to be understood and do the things you need to do, then it's okay. I used to be VERY shy, but after I moved out on my own I had to learn how to deal with people and that changed everything.
Growing up I was a very shy kid. However, the more I exposed myself to situations that scared me the more I learned how to deal with uncomfortable situations. Prior to Covid I worked as a fundraiser and was forced to socialize 8+ hours a day for an entire year. I became more of an Ambivert, but do think it’s important to strike a balance between taking time for yourself and finding the time to cultivate relationships.
I will never understand how someone like you has no friends. You are so sweet and kindhearted, intelligent and beautiful. I would 100% rather hang out with you then with most of these draining extroverts who always act like they are the center of the universe.
You can speak fluent Chinese, which means you are smart and eager to communicate with others. You are not introverted, you just lack an environment to express yourself. I hope language learning can help you open the door to communicate with the world. Keep it up.
The realization is so helpful. Nobody care what you looks like.That was what I've said to my wife.And now we have a son ,she can take our son to anywhere,and talk to anyone.
You have a beautiful inter perspective personality and you seem to be super sensitive to your feelings, and those of others. I too am an introvert, but I push myself to get myself “out there”, well as much as I can tolerate. My advise, let yourself go a bit, everyone with a good and kind character will gravitate towards you, but you have to push yourself just a little.
莉雅, awesome content, fresh perspective and the way you talk cater to the orientals really well. If you wonder what's next, would like to see longer ones, in-depth into the topics, talks converge daily life, culture, philosophy, current/local dynamics, social rules/expectations, life of the people that you are familiar with, aspects that are big in US but not well covered by media/film/not-well-known by the foreigners, because these are the most valuable things. The life may be so different between Chinese and Americans, but there is a common thing that can link both sides past and future, it's the content that can go long and short, shallow and deep, repeat and rediscover. As your audience ages, they will appreciate that, at least, I hope, and it can attract more people to your channel.
Too shy? Too quiet? Nope. You're you and there's nothing better than being yourself. It's better to be alone than surrounded by people who don't care. Please keep doing what you're doing. You're absolutely wonderful 😊
I could't agree with you more
内向的人不会去强迫外向的人变成内向，而大部分外向的人总是喜欢强迫内向的人变成外向。这就是尊重以不尊重他人的两者区别。我们理解外向的你们，你们有没有理解内向的我们吗？
但这也是其者本质的自然特征呀。
内向的人不主动而外内的人主动。
如不传染的病和高传染的病的区别。😂😅
因为这涉及从上到下的歧视制度，你可以在国内一大堆招聘软件上看到招聘要求明确指出，拒绝录用性格内向者，有些甚至直接在招聘公告中羞辱性格内向者，哪怕这个岗位和性格外向内向没半毛钱关系，但对内向者的歧视是刻入大多数国人骨子里的。
要想证明中国人歧视性格内向这件事有所改善很简单，国外有很多专门针对性格内向者的生活细节的纪录片或者影视，中国如果能够积极地拍摄很多专门针对性格内向者生活细节的电影电视或者纪录片，就证明人们开始正眼看这群人了，但中国人不敢拍，也不屑于拍
善良，真诚是最重要的，你很棒，喜欢老师！❤
再加1一个明智！否则会受骗上当。😂
我觉得内向的女生最吸引人。我认识一个女生，她也是很内向，每次和她去酒店都非常的害羞，就是我头像这位女生，是不是非常漂亮？真的很怀念他那段时光啊。
@@我的回忆不是我的 你有几个腰子啊，还每次去酒店，你这个sb
As a counsellor, I attend to many students with social anxiety issues. I think u got yourself together nicely. Just be kind to yourself n do the things u enjoy doing. Pace yourself n no rush to compete with what others are doing. U are not missing out on life for sure. Just chill. Love your videos.
每個人有不同個性，我覺得做真實自我很好，過得幸福快樂最重要❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Not only supper attractive but also an introvert. Perfect ❤
yes
虽然在不同国家，虽然说着不同的话，但是听着就是那么亲切，仿佛另一个自己
安静的力量能让自己更专注自己喜欢的事情，我的小男孩也是这样，我希望他更自信活泼，但是不会push他，因为内心自在、快乐更重要❤
是的，我小時候也一直被要求大方表現，因此對於自己的內向害羞感到沒自信，但長越大越覺得那真的是大人不懂得欣賞和教育內向特質的小孩而已。不過還好我是生在台灣，亞洲人還是普遍比較內斂的，只要成績好，是學霸，人也很友善樂於助人，基本上人緣都還不錯，但在美國應該會比較辛苦吧，因為是一個更崇尚外向特質的社會。據說芬蘭人都很社恐😂 但那對我來說好像又太過疏離，內向人其實還是很需要一些知心好友，也更擅於深度交流，所以某種程度我很慶幸自己生在台灣，很熱心但也頗內斂的社會。
人漂亮，会表达，会多种语言，你有足够的条件在任何人面前自信地注示着对方并与其侃侃而谈。你拍得视频发表，证明你的问题不严重，再者，不是公众人物实在不需为这个而害怕。人们只关注自己，对别人的行为衣着兴趣不大
Well said ! Thanks for sharing and I totally agree with what you have said ! You have a kind heart and God bless !
I'm also an introvert, so I completely relate to your experience. I used to feel insecure and socially anxious around others, but over time, I’ve slowly come to accept and embrace who I am. Always stay true to yourself. Thanks for sharing ❤
"After spending time out in the real world for a while makes coming back to home feel a million times batter." That's exactly the meaning of "stepping out of the comfort zone" to me. Same as relaxing/sleeping after exercise/running, and enjoy peace at personal place after socialize.
I feel a lot of wisdom in what you share in this video. It seems that wisdom can come out of a lot of experiences and years or through an "epiphany" as you say. Amazing! So sincere your sharing.
以前小時候長輩們也是不斷這樣跟我說 但現在我知道 我做我自己就好
People express themselves and communicate in different ways. Your video is a form of one way verbal communication and it is very effective. You look relaxed, comfortable, and confident. Enjoyed it.
听莉雅老师说话真是舒服 沁人心脾
老师的眼神很真诚👍
我也是内向的人，不需要改变自己。性格是上帝赋予每个人的情感配方。安静的人喜欢思考，专注做事。加油！
做自己就好！ 你很棒，做喜欢的事，也帮助了很多的人👍。
做自己是主线，尝试改变是直线，平衡取舍，也可以偶尔任性... 总之，做自己 你是独一无二的自己，是最棒的自己！
Being an inteovert is a blessing❤❤❤❤❤It allows people to use their time in the best way❤❤❤❤Life isn't always about being around people tooo much
知道外面世界的事情變化，但不一定要事事自己參與。社交很多是假象，做一個善良的自己，比做其他表面功夫重要。
喜歡聊天型的影片
尤其我也是內向的人
看到妳分享的影片感到窩心 溫暖感
謝謝妳的影片陪伴著我
然後還可以學一點點英文❤❤❤❤😂😂
没有到过中国，中文居然这么好，真的下了很大的功夫，不容易！佩服！
我也是这样的一个人。事实上，当你出门在外面的时候，没人会关注你在做什么，我也是在不久前才顿悟的。我有关注你的抖音，我会看你的直播在早晨，你讲的很好，很真挚，对我来讲很有吸引力。让我们打开窗户接受更多的阳光吧！
I enjoy your sharing, thank you
I can totally relate; I used to be totally shy, always overthinking (still do!), and am a textbook introvert. Doesn't help that in society, the extroverts shape everything (kinda like how most things are designed for right-handedness), so everything is about being outgoing, sociable, aggressive, proactive, yada yada yada...
Over the last 10-15 years, I think I came to the same realizations you mentioned and learned to break out of my comfort zone more. I now socialize like a "normal" person, and I still feel that butterfly & fear of being awkward every now and then, but I think I can stomach it better.
Kudos to us introverts!
I like your teaching! Please keep up. This video is also very good, I like it that everyone should have their own life, the world doesn’t need everyone to be extrovert. Also, you are very beautiful!!!
内向的人其实是通过自我内心的寻觅而找到平衡，他们细腻，不需要太多向外交互；而外向的人，他们是需要不断的与外界去交互来得到内心的平衡。
哈哈哈~~~原來麗雅老師也會做嘟嘟嘴的表情！太~~~~可愛了😍勁鍾意（粵語）
Thanks for your sharing.👍👍😊
这个视频 非常真诚，我产生共鸣了
❤ Excelente , chava !
Realmente tienes mucha Luz , gracias por compartirla !!
做最真实的自己是最正确的，不需要为了某某人或事而改变自己❤❤❤
感谢你和你的视频！对我的英语学习帮助很大！
Thank you for sharing. Even introvert, you are perfect just the way you are
You remind me of my youngest daughter. We're all a quiet bunch, but she takes it to a whole new level. I hope she can learn to be as comfortable in her own being as you seem to be.
在这个充满阳光灿烂的世界里，每种性格都可以 自由自在的体验这个美好的世界。😊😊😊
Everyone is different, and this diversity makes the world colorful.
真善美的姑娘！You’re correct; humans can be dangerous and rude to angels. Sometimes it’s not just about comfort zones, but rather the question of whether I will become one of them. 😊
莉雅老师的视频，有种奇幻的魔力。你会很自然地想接着看下去，不用像真的在学习英语
I used to be an extrovert, now days I'm a introvert and enjoy my alone time. Great video!
我也是不喜歡去人很多的聚會，一兩位好朋友的小聚還行。
跟人相處會讓我十分恐懼，但跟小動物們就不會，因為小動物們總是比人還要純真❤
人類太可怕了！
你的分享非常有共鸣 我要全文背诵记起来鼓励和提醒自己 顺便练习英文哈哈哈
完全贊同妳的觀點
Totally agree. The more you interact with people, the more confidence you will have doing it, and one day the anxiety will be gone. Small steps are the best way to go. I'm still a quiet person, but I don't fear public speaking or social situations anymore.
为啥你说的英语我听的特别清楚❤。谢谢！
因为说得太慢了
Give the beautiful teacher a thumbs up
Don’t know why this/your video popped up in my RUclips recommendations, but it did. Although, I look socially outgoing on the outside, I really love to be alone in my home with my two Pembroke Corgis 😂 they are my best friends: the advantage of pets is that they don’t judge and love you how you are. They even Prefer
you being at home with them! Haha. For you: if you feel good, about how you live, thats key. No one should give you advise how to live your life! I subscribed to your channel: cheers from The Netherlands!!
She's lovely! 🙂 Introversion and peaceful is a good thing and should be cherished. I would love to hang out with her.
Beautiful video. Thank you! In my experience being defenseless and vulnerable became a way to experience relief and joy.
Children walk in the world without many barriers between them and others, I've always found this fact extremely fascinating. The method (😅) I've created consists in this: when I meet people, whoever they are and wherever I am, my only and unique "effort" is to reduce my defences as much as I can. Shutting down your defenses as a shy introvert person is something you have to do on purpose. I've started doing this when I realized how much of a barrier I was. I was inspired by the little ones and by my faith, christianity.
Thank you again for this video and congrats for your beautiful channel which I hope will grow even more in the future
You really are good teacher, I like you! Thank you for sharing!
very wonderful message, especially the last sentence!!!!
Feel the same way, avoid crowded and social situations, even with close friend and if their is a guest coming, i run away. I prefer staying in my own space and it's true, the fear I had I realised everyone is too busy dealing with their own problems and they don't care. I came across your videos randomly and truly, your videos are kind of a therapy. Keep up the good work, best part is the videos are too the point and short. I am learning to apply these things in life.
I completely agree the world does sometimes feel like they are alienating us. I also love to travel and I like going to libraries as well but am now in a season where I can't go out and the anxiety is just more intense. I really enjoyed your perspective on this topic and agree that I should take it one day at a time and try to be confident in my own skin even when I feel the alienation from others. (I am learning Mandarin and RUclips recommended thinking I don't speak english 😅)
莉雅很美！講話腔調很好聽！喜歡妳的頻道！
There's this song by Audioslave called "Be yourself".
For some weird reason, it played in my head when you mentioned about being yourself and balancing life.
我也是內向人，看到這集真的感同深受😊😊😊
I used to feel the same way-super self-conscious just walking down the street. But then I realized, it's totally okay to be seen. Once I stopped obsessing over how I looked or what people might think, I started paying more attention to the world around me. That simple shift pulled me out of my own head and helped me stop overthinking everything.
我太理解你的感受了，我也是一样的性格，但我过得挺好。有很多社交，也有朋友，但我很多时候更喜欢在自己的小空间过一下小日子。
You're deeply insightful and introspective. You understand yourself quite well.
Thanks a lot for ur sharing !
Somehow the best thing in life is to gettint understand who we are .
Hope u enjoy your life ! i m also try my best to learn about it even i m already 43 years old and a 2 kids father 😅
I find listening your speaking is absolutely a good way to learn English!
you're so good 你很好 你说的观点也很棒 我听了之后很受用 -- 为什么人非要是外向的 -- 谢谢你分享你的观点 我很认同你的说法
Yes, you are right, no need to force yourself to change. Each individual got his/her own Character and as long as we are happy with what we are, no need to care about other people suggestions because it is not their business. 😄
Hi Leah, thank you for sharing. I find you honest, calm, beautiful and brave. I'd like to be a friend of you ❤
Cannot agree more! Sometimes I still cannot control myself to think what other people thinking about me. I accept this feeling and I also fight against this feeling. No matter what, this is the real me. 讲得真好！INFJ深有同感～❤
You speak well on YT. I can't see anything wrong with you. Your honesty is a big plus.
我觉的华人女孩的内向可能是限于对异性的内向。 对闺蜜或女性朋友gossip 时话可多了😂
而美国内向的女孩或者外向的女孩子则是自身的性格特点， 不分性别。
my understanding is, usually, only the kind and super nice people are shy, and the kinder, nicer, warmer people are more shy, or even having social anxiety. seeing more the dark side of human beings could help overcome. best wishes from Europe.
I was very introverted throughout my 20s, I had to work really hard on trying to go out and do things. I watched a lot of YT vids on how to talk to people and how to feel a little more confident. Sometimes, strangers really like when you say a random thing to them in a friendly way, and sometimes they don't. The main thing is to not care about how they feel towards you, just don't be mean and if they like you then you might make a friend and if they don't, you just move on and who cares.
At this point it is kind of fun stepping out of the comfort zone once in a while.
Shy,and gentle and elegant,so you’re a elegant introvert ❤
I like this video. It's easy for me to understand what the topic you talked
Thanks so much to share your concepts and American culture to us. I often feel wow,my understanding of America is extremely incorrect.😅
hhhh，metoo😢
看起来内向的人都喜欢看书。。。看书真的是最轻松的活动了
Thanks for your sharing! As an introvert i gain a lot from this video. Hope all of us could step out to a bigger world.
Here's some suggestions. The Chinese subtitles is an obstacle for me to learn English since I am a native Chinese speaker myself. People always prefer the easiest way to get the comprehension. And that i just can't help my eyes looking at the Chinese subtitles though your English speech is easy to understand. So i hope if you will shut the subtitles in the next videos. Thanks again!
同感❤
我還是學生的時候也是很內向，很難融入團體，出社會後年紀漸長，我不再內向，變得很愛說話，但是依然還是會有人不喜歡我。所以我覺得只要保持自己覺得舒服的方式生活就好，別人的想法真的不重要…
Interesting and intelligent channel pure information ever thank you♥♥♥
To grow yet to stay true to who you are. Well said ❤
I think that if it's not making it difficult for you to live your life, then it's okay. If you can communicate with people as little as possible to be understood and do the things you need to do, then it's okay. I used to be VERY shy, but after I moved out on my own I had to learn how to deal with people and that changed everything.
从抖音看到RUclips，很好的老师。
Leah, you have all the gifts god give you. Be yourself, be happy.
Growing up I was a very shy kid. However, the more I exposed myself to situations that scared me the more I learned how to deal with uncomfortable situations. Prior to Covid I worked as a fundraiser and was forced to socialize 8+ hours a day for an entire year. I became more of an Ambivert, but do think it’s important to strike a balance between taking time for yourself and finding the time to cultivate relationships.
I will never understand how someone like you has no friends. You are so sweet and kindhearted, intelligent and beautiful. I would 100% rather hang out with you then with most of these draining extroverts who always act like they are the center of the universe.
voice so soft,like it
Amazing information
You can speak fluent Chinese, which means you are smart and eager to communicate with others. You are not introverted, you just lack an environment to express yourself. I hope language learning can help you open the door to communicate with the world. Keep it up.
The realization is so helpful. Nobody care what you looks like.That was what I've said to my wife.And now we have a son ,she can take our son to anywhere,and talk to anyone.
莉雅真漂亮。知性又美
I feel you. You are amazing the way you are!😊
You have a beautiful inter perspective personality and you seem to be super sensitive to your feelings, and those of others. I too am an introvert, but I push myself to get myself “out there”, well as much as I can tolerate.
My advise, let yourself go a bit, everyone with a good and kind character will gravitate towards you, but you have to push yourself just a little.
老师的性格非常好，祝你快乐，我爱你老师。
U R right,be yourself is the most important thing,cuz only yourself can stand by you during whole life
Please be yourself. That's the one people like. Everyone is different, don't force you to change. We like your show and always support you.
莉雅, awesome content, fresh perspective and the way you talk cater to the orientals really well. If you wonder what's next, would like to see longer ones, in-depth into the topics, talks converge daily life, culture, philosophy, current/local dynamics, social rules/expectations, life of the people that you are familiar with, aspects that are big in US but not well covered by media/film/not-well-known by the foreigners, because these are the most valuable things. The life may be so different between Chinese and Americans, but there is a common thing that can link both sides past and future, it's the content that can go long and short, shallow and deep, repeat and rediscover. As your audience ages, they will appreciate that, at least, I hope, and it can attract more people to your channel.
我也不喜欢社交，比较喜欢独处！有时候觉得一个人待着会很放松，人多的时候总感觉到不自在...哪怕有的时候刻意的让自己跟他人交流也是为了不让气氛变得不会尴尬而已...
Hi Leah! I also attended Cornell, and I love your videos! Would you ever consider visiting China? You'd be very welcome here.
We are much alike to the point except I may be worse as I have lost my skill of maintaining eye contacts in conversations 😅