That's not a real quote. The "code" can't be cited, it's not the Bible. Bushido isn't a book. It's an abstract set of philosophical concepts that were popular among the samurai class.
Wife: honey get the keys, my water broke!! Husband: okay!!! *they both leave* Wife: why are we at the BJJ dojo?!? Husband: cuz Jocko said tha.... Wife: HOSPITAL NOW!!!!!!! Husband:......
For parents, don’t tell your kid to “let them swing first”. All it takes is one swing to get knocked out. Tell them to establish a 3 foot bubble. if they establish a distance, and tell the aggressor that if they come forward it will be initiating the fight, then it’s on.
I would say learn Judo first. If you are planning to be a life long martial artist you can always learn BJJ after. In Judo you learn fundamental ground grappling as well as solid standing grappling. JiuJitsu can be done even when you are old and gray, the same thing really can’t be said about Judo because of the demand on the body.
As a person who started out as a wrestler and moved on to BJJ and Muay Thai, I think the answer is more simple than just jiu jitsu. I think it really should be whatever martial art that has the gym closest you (excluding traditional East Asian martial arts). Proximity leads to more consistency in showing up to practice which will allow you to learn the most
As a kid that was told never to get in fights(or get bashed by my father) and that was singled out because I wouldn't fight back... I can tell you that being the kid that "runs away" or "ignores it till it goes away" is the worst thing you can say to a kid. Running away makes you a bigger target, ignoring it lets everyone know they can attack you(even just mentally) without consequence. When you force that mindset onto someone year after year it becomes instinct... It took me many years as an adult to actually work around to being assertive and facing conflict... because thats what telling kids to run away and avoid things does... Its teaching them to be submissive and avoid conflict. Taking a hit emotionally day after day is far worse then any physical pain. How many people were successful in life by being submissive and avoiding conflict? How many people were successful in love by being submissive and avoiding conflict? Don't f your kids up, sorry Jocko but your first advice was BAD. Tell kids, if someone insults them, throw a insult back, if someone hits them, hit them back, don't worry about getting in trouble with the teachers, they wont get in trouble at home as long as they didn't start it.
I agree 100% with this. Especially this bit - "Taking a hit emotionally day after day is far worse then any physical pain". Especially as a kid - you are basically locked in a form of prison for most of the day, and in some places it functions just like that. You CAN'T just run away forever.
100%. It won't ever stop unless you put the foot down, better for kids to learn that sooner, rather than later when they're stronger & enough buttons are pushed that they can't stop the rage and hurt. BUT, I totally get where Jocko is coming from here, a normal kid fight rolling around on the ground like cats (usually over and done with within 40 seconds), to establish borders, well that's ONE thing. Imagine a kid put into the same situation as described by OP, learning deadliest legal moves practiced into muscle memory & instinct, acting out on that same instinct. Remove sugar coating, what martial arts is, is learning to put maximum momentum & bodyweight into a hit where the most damage can be applied.
I would definitely consider enrolling your kids in wrestling beforehand. The only thing is, wrestling isn't really a fun sport but in terms of learning dicsipline early on its probably the best. And later on after laying foundations with wrestling, BJJ will seem a lot easier to grasp and will compliment your wrestling skills
Have always wondered why wrestling was not part of regular gym classes from the get-go...It's not just a sport, but seems to be a solid base option for Self defense to expand from.
I quit for a minute due to toxic peers and teaching. It's not BJJ, it's the attitudes and stereotypes My journey in martial arts is to build confidence and manage emotions in bad situations. Lots of bad attitudes rubbed off and I became a punching bag to gym bully trainer and developed a temper. Martial arts are for values and yes we need it to be effective but we also need an effective team. Anybody searching for a team, know the characters that grow you. Pick a team you can hang with and not bring you down.
My 5 year old niece and myself are 2 weeks in. We started jiu jitsu about 15 days ago and Jocko is a big reason for that. I'm 26 and wish I started sooner.
how times have changed, a navy seal telling a kid to run away from bullies, my father was in the military and he told me " if i ever catch you crying about any bully, i will F*** you up, big time" this from man hat never laid a hand on me and was a shoryn ryu and boxing practicioner, so i fought my bullies and won, i am 5 3´m 130 pounds as and adult, a jiu jitsu black belt also, god how i miss my old man.
Edit: Definitely agree with both of your guys' analysis of traditional martial arts vs. BJJ. My particular dojo and sensei weren't super strict about talking before/after class or during class, as long as it wasn't when he or one of our senpai were talking and we weren't disrupting an ongoing class. But while training with the head of our dojo's organization, who runs the head dojo in Okinawa, it was definitely as you guys described to a T, atleast during class. We were encouraged to gather and socialize outside of the tournament and class sessions. I'm lucky in a way that as a little girl, I wasn't interested in typical sports and a friend of mine invited me to a Bring a Friend night at his karate dojo in first grade. I immediately loved it and raced home and my parents were just happy that I wanted to be active. I stayed in karate for around 15 years and also trained in BJJ, Eskrima, and MMA for around 4-5 years in my mid-teens, along with a smattering of traditional Japanese weapons training, self-defense training, and a bit of Krav Maga. My dad always joked he'd never have to worry about me dating because I knew about 20 different ways to seriously maim and/or kill someone by the time I was 12 (when my class got bumped up into the adult class after going through the process of earning our second degree junior black belts) thanks to my sensei and senpai. Parents of any child, I recommend martial arts. It gave me alot of confidence as a kid and it also taught me responsibility, meditation, and great life values and techniques, such as how to give a proper handshake and how to keep eye contact when you're nervous/anxious/etc.
BJJ will teach you how to avoid a fight and will teach how to actually fight. Boxing or muay thai would be effective with striking so you can take on more than one person
Yeah definitely depending but one thing you always need to remember is how big are they and how many are they since a certain point you can’t fight more then a certain amount of people
I started Jiu-Jitsu back in November and then In March I received my first stripe. It felt like I had been accepted by the gym and the work was now really about to begin, and then boom lockdown. I'm 34-35 in August and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life. Straight up. OSS 🤙 EDIT: Perfect example why you should join a Jiu-Jitsu school. I live in the UK and I've been self isolating now for nearly 4 months. Long story short I deleted all my social media (other than youtube) and my professor had noticed and directly got hold of me, and asked if I was ok, and if I ever needed anything he was there for me. Yes, he may also be protecting his monthly income, BUT I am certain that was 95% towards actually caring about another individual. Now I'm 100% ok, but just the fact that my professor, who I've only known over a 5 month period, and let's be honest 3 hours a week over a 5 month period isn't exactly getting to know someone properly. Took the time to get in contact with me to see if I was ok. That alone is worth signing up for. It's a family ladies and gentlemen. SIGN UP! OSS 🤙
"Karate" dad here looking to raise a little warrior myself and this is the kind of topics I think about. I remember the rigidity of my Shotokan dojo, how we needed to adhere to the rules and respect our superiors. Even though I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything in the world, I still feel something more practical like BJJ, boxing and Muai Thai can serve as a better educator in discipline and humility. Like you said, it's not about learning to fight and I completely agree that learning to get out of a bad situation is important when they're young (hell, any age really). I'd love to find a gym where there's more of a sense of community because that can help my child develop a growth mindset.
Wow great comment. Im an old Dad, 52, with a daughter 9 and boy 6 yrs of age. I just watched a documentary with Mr. Jocko, RESPECT. Help me please, what is BJJ and the distinction from jujitsu?... I am realizing that my son appreciates "honor" ...how i do not know... But Mr. Jocko has resonated with my son... Help please. Thank you sir.
@@mcjok88 In a nutshell (and as far as my knowledge goes) BJJ is Jiu-Jitsu without the striking. It focuses on grapples and holds. Japanese JJ schools would have a more traditional approach compared to BJJ gyms. Honor is an interesting topic to discuss with children as popular culture tends to overdramatise it. The way I'd approach it with my daughter is that honor is essentially being a decent human being. It has nothing to do with using what you can to succeed/win (movies and books would have you believe that honor means playing "fair"). Being respectful towards others is honorable. Being accepting towards others is honorable. Being helpful towards others is honorable. This is my view on the matter. I'd be interested to hear how you've addressed it with your child.
I have a 3 year old son as well, but I talked to my wife and we both agreed not to send our child to a dojo when he is older. I don't know if it's the right choice but I have a vast experience with martial arts and what they actually mean. I did boxing, Kempo , MMA, Kyokushin and Jujutsu for many years. I learned that there is no such thing as self defense. There is only combative art. And that the discipline and humility thing is a myth. The main gym I went to had a very strange crowd. It was frequented by cage fighters, bodyguards and ex-convicts. I learned a lot of moraly questionable techniques (Eye gouging, bone breaking, etc). I basically learned to maim and kill people. My Jujutsu sensei had a very toxic personality. He would often belittle us, he made fun of us a lot and he knew how to nurture frustration and aggressiveness in all of us. It was psychological warfare. He was a fucked up person and 8 years later, I still dream about killing his family in front of him, then finishing him also. That's how much I hate him. I never learned any self discipline, all of us were dying for a fight after practice. I've seen many small children with dislocated shoulders in the dojo, and broken noses. And this happened to big students as well. I had broken ribs, dislocated shoulder, fucked up ankle. And I don't want all this for my son. So I have no idea what you all talk about when you mention discipline and respect and so on. Maybe it's a cultural difference, I'm from Eastern Europe, I don't know.
been going bjj for two months now, learning humility and getting humbled is absolutely true, I get destroyed regularly every session i go, i even got tapped out by a couple of the girls (both blue belts) which I didn't even think would be possible, but its been so good for me and i finally got my first tap yesterday, am feeling a little bit more confident than before. Thanks Jocko
I have to say that his first answer after jiu-jitsu was probably my favorite. "Just run". Hell, not even just as a kid, as an adult, being aware of a possible situation and avoiding it will always have the best outcome.
I commented on one of your more recent videos on this subject. We don't have jujitsu around very close and I live in a rural area. We have Taekwondo. Taking any martial art discipline should teach you to defend yourself. We have basic self defense that we teach. I'd have to drive about 45 minutes to the nearest Jiujitsu school. Some day... Or someone would move into the area that would teach us. I've talked with the Sheriff he would be willing to teach us the basics that he teaches to the local law enforcement. Just getting people to want to learn is the key. Many will start but few will stick with it.
I think boxing/kickboxing instruction received as a child will severely limit ones experiences being bullied. However, Judo and Jujitsu are very cool and highly effective. And honestly, probably less dangerous for the student and less intimidating, allowing for more types of students to be trained and longer participation by the students. So, they will probably stay around long enough to learn to be effective. Plus, they have belt systems that seem to encourage some younger students to stay involved. If you, or your child, likes boxing though, it will definitely work and usually leaves a lasting impression on would be bullies that they will never forget. It’s truly is a sweet science.
My plan is to start them in TKD to build that kicking dexterity. Then into boxing or muay thai. For a couple years. Then change gears and put them in bjj and have them wrestle in high school
@Jocko Could you recommend something more specific? There are so many BJJ classes everywhere, BJJ this and that... I´m not sure where to start. What defines a good BJJ class? I heard that not all BJJ classes teach the same stuff. Also thoughts on Krav Maga?
Thank you for adding to the Understanding of Jujitsu...Funny, too, I was just thinking of a way to spend time with my 4 yo granddaughter, & Self-defense has been the consistent answer to the pondering, and then this popped in...Love when that happens! Thanks again...subbed. :)
Run away from a fight? That’s TERRIBLE advice when it comes to bullies, because they’ll chase you away EVERY time. You DON’T run away! You stand stand your ground. And you FIGHT!!!
Another essential point is that Ju Jitsu, Aikido and especially Judo teach people how to fall. Knowing how to fall in a way where where you don't hurt yourself is good, training that to the point where its instinctive is incredibly important. Especially for kids. I think its as important as learning to swim.
@@chelu7868 Nope. Some hardly teach it at all. And the stand up striker ones doent teach it anywhere as near as thoroughly as the ones who expect to fall down or be thrown down often.
My main concern is cauliflower ear, knees and elbows. Anybody want to school me on that? What should I look for in a gym for injury prevention? Hopefully that all makes sense.
I've done Ju Jitsu and Tae Kwon Do for seven years, and then I stopped and began Krav Maga. I've been training for two years and it is incredibly effective in a streetfight.
I agree. I did "Tiger Claw" Kung Fu as a kid, it was fun. At 20, started BJJ, fun too, but it's a sport, not self defence. Then moved to Su Lum Kung Fu, self defence based, turns out to be similar to Krav Maga. Makes BJJ look like a kindergarten class.
If the town doesnt have a good jiu jitsu place...would it be ok to send him to a judo school? Or is there another martial art i should look for instead (karate, taekwondo, etc)... what is the minimal age to start?
He makes great comments, but I would strongly suggest that a parent should sit through a few classes from a few different schools in their area before making a choice. In my experience, the tone and conduct of the instructors is at least as important as the specific style of martial art for both kids and adults.
I think wrestling is better for young kids. All of the good things Jocko says about jiu jitsu are also true of wrestling. The difference is that in wrestling you don’t have to worry about a young kid not “honoring the tap.”
Growing up I did karate and jiujitsu made me a better person and a confident young girl. I was 5 when I started karate. Couple years later started doing JuJitsu.
Honestly what could increase a girls confidence more than knowing how to beat up most of the boys? Not only that but the kid really has the respect of her peers especially if she stands up against the bullies.
I started in taekwondo and I think just the discipline and technique is a good beginning. But if my kids can get that from jiujitsu while also learning actual skills obviously that would be better.
HI can someone please help? My son is turning 13 and he was in his first fight yesterday at school, a larger student repeatedly punched him in the head and face, I think my son only got one punch in, he is not a fighter. Im not sure if I should put him in May Thai, boxing or BJJ, the fight never ended on the ground. I was thinking something for striking and kicking but not sure what to do. Thanks!!
I started mma last August and fuck up my knee training at least 3 times a week. With alot of gym rock climbing. Start slow other wise you will fuck up your knees. After 3 months i can almost walk again.
Another great benefit of jiu jitsu over other martial arts is also when a kid is in school, that's not a fight to the death kind of thing, they don't need to "punch someone till they aren't a threat anymore" as my krav instructor says, in most school fights it's just petty grappling, so if your kid knows how to do that effectively without hurting the other kid that will save you from a lot of trouble
i think best martial art for a kid -or adult can relate to their personality or other interests once upon a time, my niece would have had zero interest in 'martial arts'. somehow, she got turned on to capoeira, which she likes because of the dance tie-in.
I would agree. Jujitsu and wrestling are good for kids to learn. But I'll give my kids the chance to pick what they wana do. Boxing, karate, jujitsu, etc. Theres so many options, and I'd want them to want to he there. Even if they have to do one of them.
Jocko I love you man, but this would've been more interesting if you also mentioned other martial arts even if it was to explain why you shouldn't put your kids in X, Y, Z. This just sounds like "You should put your kids in Jiujitsu because I'm a black belt in Jiujitsu and this is all I know". I'm BJJ player so I know everything you said is 100% true, but would've made for a stronger argument is my point. Not all martial arts match your "traditional martial arts" example.
I am always confused when today people speak about Jiujitsu and actually mean BJJ. For me Japanese Jiujitsu is the real jiujitsu and i hope my daughter will find a dojo and an instructor like I had in the past. I practiced it 3 times a week for 15 years (from 10 to 25). We learned striking, kicking, grappling, groundwork, fighting with sticks and self-defence. Additionally we got several seminars where we also have been introduced to "fighting" with knives. We were also recommended to do some gym session to develop more strength and a better mind-muscle-connection. I always thought that this kind of training was normal. But after I left my hometown I never found a dojo like this one.
I started my kid in bjj as soon as I could find a class for him. What age would be ideal in starting him in competition. He started at the end of 3 and has almost been a year anniversary and he will be 5 years old. He has been in one competition. I am reluctant to sign him up to the all the quarterly competition his coaches always advertise. What would Jocko do?
I know this is an old video, however, I have been on a mission to find a martial arts online class for me and my 3 kids. 2 boys 12 & 9 & girls 8. I’ve had a passion for martial arts most my life. I was put into situations growing up where I had to fight. I am a prayer warrior now and I stay away from most people. I chose to stop watching ufc bc I saw my oldest as he watched it and got more mouthy he wanted to get aggressive. But now he’s settled down some. And my middle boy needs to get some muscles. I got him a punching bag for Christmas. I’ve had my sparing gloves out w them for fun! My daughter can already hold her own w brothers. I want them to learn the discipline of martial arts and how to defend themselves. It’s just me raising my kiddos with a firm God fearing way. I truly feel like this is a good option for us as a family. I’m trying to decide what would be the best beginner option for us for at home classes. I don’t want to steer them wrong in anyway. I’m all the way BJJ!! But I’m not financially ready to enroll all 4 of us into an actual class. It’s hard enough allowing 1 kiddo to do a sport each year. But I am trying. With all this said does anyone have some advice for me? I signed up for some Free online classes with muay Thai along with tai chi. I’m just getting started. I ask googled what would be the best option for family and it led my to this podcast. I am truly serious about getting started with one or the other this upcoming week. I think it’ll be interesting and fun for us to try. I’m wanting to build up my youngins as humble good people. Learning any martial art would be better than none at all. Does anyone have any suggestions on which classes would be better online? I’d like to work on them daily. And have something to check off as accomplished. GMAU has some free classes online. That’s where I started. Please no mean words here. I’m just a momma trying to keep my family together & safe & well mannered. I’d love to grapple with my little ones but I want to make sure I’m moving correctly. Just wanting to get started somewhere. Thank you in advance for all opinions! Hope you all are blessed in this new year!!🔥
I'm a former judoka, black belt, and in my family we have a judo tradition (my father was also a judoka). I have a 4 yo son and I will soon take him to judo classes as well. I might be subjective but, imo, Judo is a better choice over BJJ. It teaches you ground fighting but it is more dynamic and has a variety of throws you won't find in BJJ. In a street fight you will end everything with a throw, no need for rolling on the ground. It is the reason Judo is taught to police forces around the world (including Japan).
I have two daughters and they are in traditional karate ATM and I think it's a good martial art for young children I do plan to let them do BJJ till they are 12
fun arts. for kids kids. If they at 12 and above Id say enter karate. TKD, BJJ but kids bellow 12. Judo and capoeira so they get fit, learn body coordination and all. That would be my take
I have been studying, practicing and teaching a form of American Kenpo since 1978. Before that, I earned my black belt in Tracy kenpo. I teach AKJ-Americcan Kenpo and I never teach kids. Mainly teaching kids is baby sitting. But of course Jocko is going to say Jujitsu. This is fine, but the kid may be too small for Jujitsu or not want it. Reality speaking, the kid should be about ten or twelve before you take him to a martial art. Take him to jujitsu for a month, Taekwondo for a month, and American Kenpo for a month and see which one he rally gravitates to. To keep them in something they don't like, will not counter productive. Just my opinion. Sifu (Puyallup, WA)
Im sure glad I was never bullied as a kid - we grew up my friends n I beating the tar out of each other - n then moved on - served my country - I took ny NYC upbringing with me everywhere around the world n employed the same tactics - "Someone leering, staring, acting in an aggressive manner - Get up close - look em in the eye n let him know through eye contact - "Its going to cost you something" --------- bullies, macho wanna beez, same reaction - "I didn't think so." Or as Steve Martin once told us - When living in the Bowery in NYC he would just get a shopping carriage fill it with newspaper and light it on fire n walk down the street - murmuring incoherently, same result - LOL - Im 68 it worked well - still does
I'm 41 and never done any martial arts before - is it too late for me to take up Jiu Jitsu? Is there a better martial art for someone like me to take up?
I would like to know Jocko... what do you guys think... BJJ or just Ju Jitsu (Japanese). I am not trying to create discussion, just wanna know opinions.
I did traditional japaneese jujitsu and nimpo bugui thaijutsu u narmed combat. I fout it very worth while expierience we also used sticks and samuraui swords. It was a traditional japaneese do jo. It was brilliant. Only did bjj briefly but they did comiment eachother. But japaneese was far better i think.
Bjj lover here, but my kids do judo. Takdowns and throws take more toll on the body and are harder to master in my eyes. And a good judoka kan hold his/her own against a bjj practisioner. When they are 16/18 then i let them transition to bjj.
Very interesting video don't fully agree with 3:50 though, I've practised a few traditional martial arts and maybe I was blessed with good dojos, but those lessons were quite often the opposite. You're not being humble, here spar with the older senpai for some free humility, you don't know when you should bow, no problem, you won't forget next time if your legs and shoulders don't work the next day, etc etc. I can see how some dojos would be too conceptual, but I wouldn't say it's the majority
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“The only solution for bad and violent people, are good people that are more skilled in violence”
-Samurai code Bushido
sounds fun but that is really not true
@@Jonathan-si2nd My father works with violent men as a trauma therapist. Countering violence with violence is not the only way nor the best.
That's not a real quote. The "code" can't be cited, it's not the Bible. Bushido isn't a book. It's an abstract set of philosophical concepts that were popular among the samurai class.
Hendrik Veerbeek “it is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war”
There is no bushido code that's hollywood
“Put your kid into jujitsu, put them in immediately.”
Puts 10 month old in BJJ
*rolls embryo onto the mat*
Embryo rolls mom
Lol
Wife: honey get the keys, my water broke!!
Husband: okay!!!
*they both leave*
Wife: why are we at the BJJ dojo?!?
Husband: cuz Jocko said tha....
Wife: HOSPITAL NOW!!!!!!!
Husband:......
It’s kids fight club lol
As a kid I was taught that I should never start a fight, but I should finish it.
Yep same and if they start a fight with you, you finish it
Definitely.
me too.
Then Dad handed me a pistol
Yes, you hit them back IMMEDIATELY , no exceptions.
For parents, don’t tell your kid to “let them swing first”. All it takes is one swing to get knocked out. Tell them to establish a 3 foot bubble. if they establish a distance, and tell the aggressor that if they come forward it will be initiating the fight, then it’s on.
Excellent point!
Not only knocked out, but they could die from the fall.
Forget kids I'm using that for me. Lol
"Jocko, what marti--"
"Jiu-jitsu"
Totally
"Where's the bathr-"
"ON THE MAT!"
Dumbest question anyone’s ever asked him. Ha ha ha.
haven't watched but he's probably gonna say jiu jitsu lol
Same😂
I was thinking maybe Rex Kwon Do but yeah you're probably right
I came to the comments to say the same.
You know it
5:11 😂😂
I would say learn Judo first. If you are planning to be a life long martial artist you can always learn BJJ after. In Judo you learn fundamental ground grappling as well as solid standing grappling. JiuJitsu can be done even when you are old and gray, the same thing really can’t be said about Judo because of the demand on the body.
As a person who started out as a wrestler and moved on to BJJ and Muay Thai, I think the answer is more simple than just jiu jitsu. I think it really should be whatever martial art that has the gym closest you (excluding traditional East Asian martial arts). Proximity leads to more consistency in showing up to practice which will allow you to learn the most
very good point
I want to do muay thai with bjj
@@mattc236 BJJ is almost worthless compared with Judo on the street. Pile drive their head into concrete and its a wrap.
This is wise advice
You are right! 👍☝️
before i clicked i said to myself "i'll leave once he says jiu jistu", only took 15 seconds
Why do you leave so early tho? Maybe he has some extras to tell
wrestling...bottom line. what does this jughead know?
Then you took the time to write this comment. 🤦♂️
@@danarmando537 The fact that he's a Navy Seal and you're a nobody online
@@natekelly770 Navy Seal = Bullet Catcher...LOL!!!
“Hey Jocko-”
“Jiu Jitsu”
“I was just gonna ask-“
“Jiu Jitsu”
Imagine being the guy who headlocked and punched Jocko as a kid and seeing how he is now lol
> change name
> have plastic surgery
> move to Singapore
> keep cyanide pill under tongue at all times
You won’t see him, you won’t even feel it.
And he’s had him under surveillance the whole time, waiting to pick his moment to strike back
RUN!
Do we even need to watch this one 😂
It's cool hearing Jocko say it x)
As a kid that was told never to get in fights(or get bashed by my father) and that was singled out because I wouldn't fight back...
I can tell you that being the kid that "runs away" or "ignores it till it goes away" is the worst thing you can say to a kid.
Running away makes you a bigger target, ignoring it lets everyone know they can attack you(even just mentally) without consequence.
When you force that mindset onto someone year after year it becomes instinct...
It took me many years as an adult to actually work around to being assertive and facing conflict... because thats what telling kids to run away and avoid things does...
Its teaching them to be submissive and avoid conflict.
Taking a hit emotionally day after day is far worse then any physical pain.
How many people were successful in life by being submissive and avoiding conflict?
How many people were successful in love by being submissive and avoiding conflict?
Don't f your kids up, sorry Jocko but your first advice was BAD.
Tell kids, if someone insults them, throw a insult back, if someone hits them, hit them back, don't worry about getting in trouble with the teachers, they wont get in trouble at home as long as they didn't start it.
Your story sound a lot like mine. Well said.
I agree 100% with this. Especially this bit - "Taking a hit emotionally day after day is far worse then any physical pain". Especially as a kid - you are basically locked in a form of prison for most of the day, and in some places it functions just like that. You CAN'T just run away forever.
100%.
It won't ever stop unless you put the foot down, better for kids to learn that sooner, rather than later when they're stronger & enough buttons are pushed that they can't stop the rage and hurt.
BUT, I totally get where Jocko is coming from here, a normal kid fight rolling around on the ground like cats (usually over and done with within 40 seconds), to establish borders, well that's ONE thing.
Imagine a kid put into the same situation as described by OP, learning deadliest legal moves practiced into muscle memory & instinct, acting out on that same instinct.
Remove sugar coating, what martial arts is, is learning to put maximum momentum & bodyweight into a hit where the most damage can be applied.
Agree the world we live in is filled with evil now a days
Well said
I would definitely consider enrolling your kids in wrestling beforehand. The only thing is, wrestling isn't really a fun sport but in terms of learning dicsipline early on its probably the best. And later on after laying foundations with wrestling, BJJ will seem a lot easier to grasp and will compliment your wrestling skills
Any random person: hey Jocko, do you have the time?
Jocko: jiu-jitsu
I’ve heard Jocko doesn’t cut his grass, it just bows down to him
😂😂😂😂😂
Wrestling first to have discipline and then jiu jitsu to have fun and to compliment your wrestling. Also to defend yourself even better.
Also for the takedowns, a wrestlers hips feel like bricks on top of you
Wrestling will make you tough
Have always wondered why wrestling was not part of regular gym classes from the get-go...It's not just a sport, but seems to be a solid base option for Self defense to expand from.
Catch Wrestling
Wrestling in a street fight is never good.
I quit for a minute due to toxic peers and teaching. It's not BJJ, it's the attitudes and stereotypes My journey in martial arts is to build confidence and manage emotions in bad situations. Lots of bad attitudes rubbed off and I became a punching bag to gym bully trainer and developed a temper. Martial arts are for values and yes we need it to be effective but we also need an effective team. Anybody searching for a team, know the characters that grow you. Pick a team you can hang with and not bring you down.
My 5 year old niece and myself are 2 weeks in. We started jiu jitsu about 15 days ago and Jocko is a big reason for that. I'm 26 and wish I started sooner.
how times have changed, a navy seal telling a kid to run away from bullies, my father was in the military and he told me " if i ever catch you crying about any bully, i will F*** you up, big time" this from man hat never laid a hand on me and was a shoryn ryu and boxing practicioner, so i fought my bullies and won, i am 5 3´m 130 pounds as and adult, a jiu jitsu black belt also, god how i miss my old man.
Judo. Kids need to learn break-falls. Nothing hits harder then the ground.
Yep especially since well bone can absorb impact when hit the ground stays where it is you ain’t making a dent in the ground if you fall
Judo > jiu jitsu
I did 12 years Taekwondo. And I would take them to a gunrange.
*Ukemi
The art of falling
@The Infidel You exemplify the Dunning-Kruger Effect perfectly. Please leave your comment up as an example for others.
Edit: Definitely agree with both of your guys' analysis of traditional martial arts vs. BJJ. My particular dojo and sensei weren't super strict about talking before/after class or during class, as long as it wasn't when he or one of our senpai were talking and we weren't disrupting an ongoing class. But while training with the head of our dojo's organization, who runs the head dojo in Okinawa, it was definitely as you guys described to a T, atleast during class. We were encouraged to gather and socialize outside of the tournament and class sessions.
I'm lucky in a way that as a little girl, I wasn't interested in typical sports and a friend of mine invited me to a Bring a Friend night at his karate dojo in first grade. I immediately loved it and raced home and my parents were just happy that I wanted to be active. I stayed in karate for around 15 years and also trained in BJJ, Eskrima, and MMA for around 4-5 years in my mid-teens, along with a smattering of traditional Japanese weapons training, self-defense training, and a bit of Krav Maga. My dad always joked he'd never have to worry about me dating because I knew about 20 different ways to seriously maim and/or kill someone by the time I was 12 (when my class got bumped up into the adult class after going through the process of earning our second degree junior black belts) thanks to my sensei and senpai. Parents of any child, I recommend martial arts. It gave me alot of confidence as a kid and it also taught me responsibility, meditation, and great life values and techniques, such as how to give a proper handshake and how to keep eye contact when you're nervous/anxious/etc.
BJJ will teach you how to avoid a fight and will teach how to actually fight. Boxing or muay thai would be effective with striking so you can take on more than one person
Yeah definitely depending but one thing you always need to remember is how big are they and how many are they since a certain point you can’t fight more then a certain amount of people
@@skullhead2327 My max is around 8 or 9 at once wbu
@@leonflorence118 my max is one dude, if its more than one and i dont have my buddies with me... im out.
Going to the ground in Brazilian jiu-jitsu when there are more than one attackers for example 2 or three you're dead
@@leonflorence118 😕😕😕
Haven’t watched yet but my guess is Shaolin Kung fu
That's Ranton field of expertise
You fool, he recommends Tai Chi! 😈
Nope, Nike Kung Fu
@@zxp3ct3r41 Rantoni pepperoni
I started Jiu-Jitsu back in November and then In March I received my first stripe. It felt like I had been accepted by the gym and the work was now really about to begin, and then boom lockdown.
I'm 34-35 in August and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life. Straight up.
OSS 🤙
EDIT:
Perfect example why you should join a Jiu-Jitsu school.
I live in the UK and I've been self isolating now for nearly 4 months. Long story short I deleted all my social media (other than youtube) and my professor had noticed and directly got hold of me, and asked if I was ok, and if I ever needed anything he was there for me. Yes, he may also be protecting his monthly income, BUT I am certain that was 95% towards actually caring about another individual. Now I'm 100% ok, but just the fact that my professor, who I've only known over a 5 month period, and let's be honest 3 hours a week over a 5 month period isn't exactly getting to know someone properly. Took the time to get in contact with me to see if I was ok. That alone is worth signing up for.
It's a family ladies and gentlemen.
SIGN UP!
OSS 🤙
You just want free hugs (jk)
34, wow
That’s great to hear. I’m 34 and have really been wanting to start learning Jui-Jitsu, but it’s a little intimidating getting to the game so late.
Never ever too late.
PanchoLFC
this exactly!
When jocko went to boot camp, his drill instructors called him sir
😂😂😂😂
"Karate" dad here looking to raise a little warrior myself and this is the kind of topics I think about. I remember the rigidity of my Shotokan dojo, how we needed to adhere to the rules and respect our superiors. Even though I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything in the world, I still feel something more practical like BJJ, boxing and Muai Thai can serve as a better educator in discipline and humility. Like you said, it's not about learning to fight and I completely agree that learning to get out of a bad situation is important when they're young (hell, any age really). I'd love to find a gym where there's more of a sense of community because that can help my child develop a growth mindset.
Wow great comment. Im an old Dad, 52, with a daughter 9 and boy 6 yrs of age. I just watched a documentary with Mr. Jocko, RESPECT.
Help me please, what is BJJ and the distinction from jujitsu?...
I am realizing that my son appreciates "honor" ...how i do not know... But Mr. Jocko has resonated with my son...
Help please.
Thank you sir.
@@mcjok88 In a nutshell (and as far as my knowledge goes) BJJ is Jiu-Jitsu without the striking. It focuses on grapples and holds. Japanese JJ schools would have a more traditional approach compared to BJJ gyms.
Honor is an interesting topic to discuss with children as popular culture tends to overdramatise it. The way I'd approach it with my daughter is that honor is essentially being a decent human being. It has nothing to do with using what you can to succeed/win (movies and books would have you believe that honor means playing "fair"). Being respectful towards others is honorable. Being accepting towards others is honorable. Being helpful towards others is honorable.
This is my view on the matter. I'd be interested to hear how you've addressed it with your child.
It's all about that growth mindset. 🙌
I have a 3 year old son as well, but I talked to my wife and we both agreed not to send our child to a dojo when he is older. I don't know if it's the right choice but I have a vast experience with martial arts and what they actually mean. I did boxing, Kempo , MMA, Kyokushin and Jujutsu for many years. I learned that there is no such thing as self defense. There is only combative art. And that the discipline and humility thing is a myth. The main gym I went to had a very strange crowd. It was frequented by cage fighters, bodyguards and ex-convicts. I learned a lot of moraly questionable techniques (Eye gouging, bone breaking, etc). I basically learned to maim and kill people. My Jujutsu sensei had a very toxic personality. He would often belittle us, he made fun of us a lot and he knew how to nurture frustration and aggressiveness in all of us. It was psychological warfare. He was a fucked up person and 8 years later, I still dream about killing his family in front of him, then finishing him also. That's how much I hate him. I never learned any self discipline, all of us were dying for a fight after practice. I've seen many small children with dislocated shoulders in the dojo, and broken noses. And this happened to big students as well. I had broken ribs, dislocated shoulder, fucked up ankle. And I don't want all this for my son. So I have no idea what you all talk about when you mention discipline and respect and so on. Maybe it's a cultural difference, I'm from Eastern Europe, I don't know.
@@77goofball that doesn't sound like psychological warfare... That sounds like a psychopathic gym leader. Sorry to hear you went through that.
been going bjj for two months now, learning humility and getting humbled is absolutely true, I get destroyed regularly every session i go, i even got tapped out by a couple of the girls (both blue belts) which I didn't even think would be possible, but its been so good for me and i finally got my first tap yesterday, am feeling a little bit more confident than before. Thanks Jocko
I have to say that his first answer after jiu-jitsu was probably my favorite. "Just run". Hell, not even just as a kid, as an adult, being aware of a possible situation and avoiding it will always have the best outcome.
Absolutely, there are a lot of crazy people around and some of them have guns. Just get away from these nutcases.
I commented on one of your more recent videos on this subject. We don't have jujitsu around very close and I live in a rural area. We have Taekwondo. Taking any martial art discipline should teach you to defend yourself. We have basic self defense that we teach. I'd have to drive about 45 minutes to the nearest Jiujitsu school. Some day... Or someone would move into the area that would teach us. I've talked with the Sheriff he would be willing to teach us the basics that he teaches to the local law enforcement. Just getting people to want to learn is the key. Many will start but few will stick with it.
Which age should I send em???? Thanks a lot, i love your podcasts!!!!
I think boxing/kickboxing instruction received as a child will severely limit ones experiences being bullied. However, Judo and Jujitsu are very cool and highly effective. And honestly, probably less dangerous for the student and less intimidating, allowing for more types of students to be trained and longer participation by the students. So, they will probably stay around long enough to learn to be effective. Plus, they have belt systems that seem to encourage some younger students to stay involved. If you, or your child, likes boxing though, it will definitely work and usually leaves a lasting impression on would be bullies that they will never forget. It’s truly is a sweet science.
My plan is to start them in TKD to build that kicking dexterity. Then into boxing or muay thai. For a couple years. Then change gears and put them in bjj and have them wrestle in high school
Judo. Judo first creates multiple beneficial outcomes.
@Jocko Could you recommend something more specific? There are so many BJJ classes everywhere, BJJ this and that... I´m not sure where to start. What defines a good BJJ class? I heard that not all BJJ classes teach the same stuff. Also thoughts on Krav Maga?
Thank you for adding to the Understanding of Jujitsu...Funny, too, I was just thinking of a way to spend time with my 4 yo granddaughter, & Self-defense has been the consistent answer to the pondering, and then this popped in...Love when that happens! Thanks again...subbed. :)
I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess he says Aikido.
Nah Aikido is just too outdated to be practical. Very much deserves an overhaul
Hapkido
Rex kwon do
Run away from a fight? That’s TERRIBLE advice when it comes to bullies, because they’ll chase you away EVERY time. You DON’T run away! You stand stand your ground. And you FIGHT!!!
Daughter just started at 14. I’m in there too at 54. And I love it!
Another essential point is that Ju Jitsu, Aikido and especially Judo teach people how to fall. Knowing how to fall in a way where where you don't hurt yourself is good, training that to the point where its instinctive is incredibly important. Especially for kids. I think its as important as learning to swim.
ALL martial arts does that ...Karate ,Muay Thay.
@@chelu7868 Nope. Some hardly teach it at all. And the stand up striker ones doent teach it anywhere as near as thoroughly as the ones who expect to fall down or be thrown down often.
@@davideason3976 I teach kids in primary school how to fall..Thats basics in sports. As a sensei,coach,trainer,instructor u need to study alot.
Wrestling, more wrestling, and more wrestling after that. Everything else comes easy
Yes absolutely, every kid needs to learn how to wrestle FIRST, and at a young age too.
Dan Gable
@Daniel R Phillips learning how to wrestle at a young age should be a requirement for both boys and girls.
@Paul Schramm why not?
Wrestling & boxing can't go wrong.
When I get older and eventually have kids, I always thought about putting them into wrestling , or karate classes
My main concern is cauliflower ear, knees and elbows. Anybody want to school me on that? What should I look for in a gym for injury prevention? Hopefully that all makes sense.
Ameri-Do-Te. Get Master Ken on the podcast.
I’m a Judo guy personally but the principal is the same: grappling gives you the power to control a shitty situation if it is thrust upon you.
I expected this video to last about 3 seconds, with Jocko just saying "Jiu Jitsu"
I've done Ju Jitsu and Tae Kwon Do for seven years, and then I stopped and began Krav Maga. I've been training for two years and it is incredibly effective in a streetfight.
Good to know brother, that shit does look really badass.
I agree. I did "Tiger Claw" Kung Fu as a kid, it was fun. At 20, started BJJ, fun too, but it's a sport, not self defence. Then moved to Su Lum Kung Fu, self defence based, turns out to be similar to Krav Maga. Makes BJJ look like a kindergarten class.
@@colind7678 HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAH lmfao good one
If the town doesnt have a good jiu jitsu place...would it be ok to send him to a judo school? Or is there another martial art i should look for instead (karate, taekwondo, etc)... what is the minimal age to start?
He makes great comments, but I would strongly suggest that a parent should sit through a few classes from a few different schools in their area before making a choice. In my experience, the tone and conduct of the instructors is at least as important as the specific style of martial art for both kids and adults.
Fight sporadically breaks out on the blacktop. Kid taking the beej as first martial art: "can we move it over to the grass please?"
I like to generate a ball of energy in between my hands and throw it at my enemy.
I think wrestling is better for young kids. All of the good things Jocko says about jiu jitsu are also true of wrestling. The difference is that in wrestling you don’t have to worry about a young kid not “honoring the tap.”
Bear independent would like to get you on his program. As retired navy I would too
haven’t finished it but my guess is wrestling
Same
That's a weird way of saying jiu jitsu
Getting piledrived onto concrete is worse than getting a head kick from Mirko Cro cop.
Zenith depends which leg is Mirko kicking with
I was gonna guess Aikido
Growing up I did karate and jiujitsu made me a better person and a confident young girl. I was 5 when I started karate. Couple years later started doing JuJitsu.
Honestly what could increase a girls confidence more than knowing how to beat up most of the boys? Not only that but the kid really has the respect of her peers especially if she stands up against the bullies.
Wish i had a good BJJ school close when i was a young man. But having said that i wish i was a better student in wrestling.
I started in taekwondo and I think just the discipline and technique is a good beginning. But if my kids can get that from jiujitsu while also learning actual skills obviously that would be better.
HI can someone please help? My son is turning 13 and he was in his first fight yesterday at school, a larger student repeatedly punched him in the head and face, I think my son only got one punch in, he is not a fighter. Im not sure if I should put him in May Thai, boxing or BJJ, the fight never ended on the ground. I was thinking something for striking and kicking but not sure what to do. Thanks!!
Wrestling. Strength, stamina, work ethic. Build from there.
Kickball & crochet
Answer: Ancient Chinese Kung Fu
@Semper Fortis ballet specifically
I started mma last August and fuck up my knee training at least 3 times a week. With alot of gym rock climbing. Start slow other wise you will fuck up your knees.
After 3 months i can almost walk again.
Another great benefit of jiu jitsu over other martial arts is also when a kid is in school, that's not a fight to the death kind of thing, they don't need to "punch someone till they aren't a threat anymore" as my krav instructor says, in most school fights it's just petty grappling, so if your kid knows how to do that effectively without hurting the other kid that will save you from a lot of trouble
i think best martial art for a kid -or adult can relate to their personality or other interests
once upon a time, my niece would have had zero interest in 'martial arts'. somehow, she got turned on to capoeira, which she likes because of the dance tie-in.
I would agree. Jujitsu and wrestling are good for kids to learn. But I'll give my kids the chance to pick what they wana do. Boxing, karate, jujitsu, etc. Theres so many options, and I'd want them to want to he there. Even if they have to do one of them.
Jocko I love you man, but this would've been more interesting if you also mentioned other martial arts even if it was to explain why you shouldn't put your kids in X, Y, Z. This just sounds like "You should put your kids in Jiujitsu because I'm a black belt in Jiujitsu and this is all I know". I'm BJJ player so I know everything you said is 100% true, but would've made for a stronger argument is my point. Not all martial arts match your "traditional martial arts" example.
Just put my 4-year-old into jiu-jitsu yesterday. He already loves it.
I am always confused when today people speak about Jiujitsu and actually mean BJJ.
For me Japanese Jiujitsu is the real jiujitsu and i hope my daughter will find a dojo and an instructor like I had in the past.
I practiced it 3 times a week for 15 years (from 10 to 25). We learned striking, kicking, grappling, groundwork, fighting with sticks and self-defence. Additionally we got several seminars where we also have been introduced to "fighting" with knives. We were also recommended to do some gym session to develop more strength and a better mind-muscle-connection.
I always thought that this kind of training was normal. But after I left my hometown I never found a dojo like this one.
I started my kid in bjj as soon as I could find a class for him. What age would be ideal in starting him in competition. He started at the end of 3 and has almost been a year anniversary and he will be 5 years old. He has been in one competition. I am reluctant to sign him up to the all the quarterly competition his coaches always advertise. What would Jocko do?
I know this is an old video, however, I have been on a mission to find a martial arts online class for me and my 3 kids. 2 boys 12 & 9 & girls 8. I’ve had a passion for martial arts most my life. I was put into situations growing up where I had to fight. I am a prayer warrior now and I stay away from most people. I chose to stop watching ufc bc I saw my oldest as he watched it and got more mouthy he wanted to get aggressive. But now he’s settled down some. And my middle boy needs to get some muscles. I got him a punching bag for Christmas. I’ve had my sparing gloves out w them for fun! My daughter can already hold her own w brothers. I want them to learn the discipline of martial arts and how to defend themselves. It’s just me raising my kiddos with a firm God fearing way. I truly feel like this is a good option for us as a family. I’m trying to decide what would be the best beginner option for us for at home classes. I don’t want to steer them wrong in anyway. I’m all the way BJJ!! But I’m not financially ready to enroll all 4 of us into an actual class. It’s hard enough allowing 1 kiddo to do a sport each year. But I am trying. With all this said does anyone have some advice for me? I signed up for some
Free online classes with muay Thai along with tai chi. I’m just getting started. I ask googled what would be the best option for family and it led my to this podcast. I am truly serious about getting started with one or the other this upcoming week. I think it’ll be interesting and fun for us to try. I’m wanting to build up my youngins as humble good people. Learning any martial art would be better than none at all. Does anyone have any suggestions on which classes would be better online? I’d like to work on them daily. And have something to check off as accomplished. GMAU has some free classes online. That’s where I started. Please no mean words here. I’m just a momma trying to keep my family together & safe & well mannered. I’d love to grapple with my little ones but I want to make sure I’m moving correctly. Just wanting to get started somewhere. Thank you in advance for all opinions! Hope you all are blessed in this new year!!🔥
It is to learn to fight for yourself.
His arm, my goodness 🥰
My 6 year old girl had her first 2 lessons this week, she loves it
5:26-5:28 too POWERFULLLL
I'm a former judoka, black belt, and in my family we have a judo tradition (my father was also a judoka).
I have a 4 yo son and I will soon take him to judo classes as well.
I might be subjective but, imo, Judo is a better choice over BJJ. It teaches you ground fighting but it is more dynamic and has a variety of throws you won't find in BJJ.
In a street fight you will end everything with a throw, no need for rolling on the ground.
It is the reason Judo is taught to police forces around the world (including Japan).
ABSOLUTE EXCELLENCE
Read the title and went buhurhur. 😂
That kid in 4th grade has been dealt with, I assume.
He's a no factor now
The best is not to limit yourself to one martial art and take all the knowledge you can get as early as it is possible
Also, the thing people miss is that Jiu-jitsu is actually really fun.
I have two daughters and they are in traditional karate ATM and I think it's a good martial art for young children I do plan to let them do BJJ till they are 12
I’d like to also recommend judo and kickboxing just because breaking falls and basic striking skills are also important.
fun arts. for kids kids. If they at 12 and above Id say enter karate. TKD, BJJ but kids bellow 12. Judo and capoeira so they get fit, learn body coordination and all. That would be my take
I have been studying, practicing and teaching a form of American Kenpo since 1978. Before that, I earned my black belt in Tracy kenpo. I teach AKJ-Americcan Kenpo and I never teach kids. Mainly teaching kids is baby sitting. But of course Jocko is going to say Jujitsu. This is fine, but the kid may be too small for Jujitsu or not want it. Reality speaking, the kid should be about ten or twelve before you take him to a martial art. Take him to jujitsu for a month, Taekwondo for a month, and American Kenpo for a month and see which one he rally gravitates to. To keep them in something they don't like, will not counter productive.
Just my opinion.
Sifu (Puyallup, WA)
Im sure glad I was never bullied as a kid - we grew up my friends n I beating the tar out of each other - n then moved on - served my country - I took ny NYC upbringing with me everywhere around the world n employed the same tactics - "Someone leering, staring, acting in an aggressive manner - Get up close - look em in the eye n let him know through eye contact - "Its going to cost you something" --------- bullies, macho wanna beez, same reaction - "I didn't think so." Or as Steve Martin once told us - When living in the Bowery in NYC he would just get a shopping carriage fill it with newspaper and light it on fire n walk down the street - murmuring incoherently, same result - LOL - Im 68 it worked well - still does
Jiu Jitsu and Wrestling. Best foundational Combat sports right there.
I'm 41 and never done any martial arts before - is it too late for me to take up Jiu Jitsu? Is there a better martial art for someone like me to take up?
Jiu-jitsu is perfectly fine for your age. It has the lowest injury rate of all combat sports
Don't even mess with
Jesse-Jane McParland "JJ Golden Dragon"
I would like to know Jocko... what do you guys think... BJJ or just Ju Jitsu (Japanese).
I am not trying to create discussion, just wanna know opinions.
My karate Sensai as a kid pinched my inner thigh.. It hurt lol bad.
I did traditional japaneese jujitsu and nimpo bugui thaijutsu u narmed combat.
I fout it very worth while expierience we also used sticks and samuraui swords. It was a traditional japaneese do jo.
It was brilliant.
Only did bjj briefly but they did comiment eachother. But japaneese was far better i think.
Strike first
Strike hard
No mercy
- Cobra Kai
Bjj lover here, but my kids do judo. Takdowns and throws take more toll on the body and are harder to master in my eyes. And a good judoka kan hold his/her own against a bjj practisioner. When they are 16/18 then i let them transition to bjj.
What about Kali or Silat?
I pu my kids in Bjj before this video
You don't need Jujitsu if you have Wolverine's claws
Mutants need not apply
Very interesting video don't fully agree with 3:50 though, I've practised a few traditional martial arts and maybe I was blessed with good dojos, but those lessons were quite often the opposite. You're not being humble, here spar with the older senpai for some free humility, you don't know when you should bow, no problem, you won't forget next time if your legs and shoulders don't work the next day, etc etc. I can see how some dojos would be too conceptual, but I wouldn't say it's the majority
Imagine jocko and David Goggins working out together
Run once, run forever.
Everything said about BJJ applies to any good Judo dojo as well. Just make sure you've got great health insurance.