Teen stress from a teen perspective | Michaela Horn | TEDxNaperville
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- Опубликовано: 12 дек 2017
- A simple experiment to discover what stresses high school students leads to disturbing results that soon become a story on their own. Michaela Horn shares her journey, results, and the alarming turn of events that unfolded.
A junior at Wheaton North High School, Michaela Horn is a cultural and philanthropic powerhouse. She plays piano and violin and is a member of the Wheaton North Sinfonia Orchestra and Elgin Youth Symphony Orchestra, having performed with her school at venues in Beijing and Shanghai. She’s a member of the Wheaton North speech team. She also writes for the school’s Falcon Flyer newspaper. She’s stood on five continents. She’s organized a book and donation drive, distributing more than 3,000 books to schools and orphanages in Ghana. She referees children’s soccer, was an assistant chess instructor for a grade school chess team, and sponsors a fellow student in Ghana, providing financial and personal support. She’s also a junior counselor at the Camp Invention summer education program. And that’s all before 18 years old.
Michaela was selected as a member of Oxford University summer educational program. She is looking forward to attending college after high school, possibly majoring in engineering. A junior at Wheaton North High School, Michaela Horn is a cultural and philanthropic powerhouse. She plays piano and violin and is a member of the Wheaton North Sinfonia Orchestra and Elgin Youth Symphony Orchestra, having performed with her school at venues in Beijing and Shanghai. She’s a member of the Wheaton North speech team. She also writes for the school’s Falcon Flyer newspaper. She’s stood on five continents. She’s organized a book and donation drive, distributing more than 3,000 books to schools and orphanages in Ghana. She referees children’s soccer, was an assistant chess instructor for a grade school chess team, and sponsors a fellow student in Ghana, providing financial and personal support. She’s also a junior counselor at the Camp Invention summer education program. And that’s all before 18 years old.
Michaela was selected as a member of Oxford University summer educational program. She is looking forward to attending college after high school, possibly majoring in engineering. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
What I learned in school:
1. Everyone hates themselves
2. Everyone hates each other
3. *The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell*
boyinaband?
Vaishnavi Joshi SAME UGH
Are**
And generated energy in the form of atp
Lol
i dont understand how school try to say “get 8 hours of sleep each day. always eat breakfast. blah blah” you drown me in homework and test and expect me to get 8 hours. i can barely get 3 hours.
Jayde Champion RIGHT!
Don't forget about the fact that kids need twelve hours of sleep!
I can never sleep because they keep piling me with homework, the teachers think that we should only do homework during our spare time... so I end up not sleeping for days on end and barely eating because I have too much homework. It really sucks
I made this for music. teenagers need around 9 hours
Teen overexaggeration*
Spends 5 hours on fortnite
Young people have been raised to believe their problems don't matter and aren't worth sharing with people.
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Snek Moonwatcher so true, but sad.
My problems don't matter
Yeah, its a huge issue that the internet makes fun of
You just feel like telling someone will make them less happy, even if you only want them to be happy, they take time out of their day to care for you...
You know what’s frustrating? When you tell somebody that you’re stressed and they respond with “Stressed? You don’t even KNOW what stress is”.
Julia_chip 11 Or they start rambling about how other kids have it much worse.
Just because you are hurting/stressed doesn’t mean that someone else’s hurt/stress isn’t valid. I think I heard that somewhere, I don’t know, I feel like it applies here a little bit.
It's not a contest Karen! Also, get help dude! That's not okay!
If I didn’t know it, why am I feeling it?
All the tiiiime!
“Oh, maybe it’s your phone that’s giving you depression. Here, let me take it.” No. This will only make it worse @ parents
Gracicle agreed
Gracicle agreed
Omg me
U guys sound like some babies. God forbid someone takes away your phone that you’ve been using majority of your adolescence. It might do u some goof
sus cheese the internet is our only safe place at this point. Its saddening yes but its true, and im sure it wont change quickly. So don’t be judgmental to others just because their opinion isn’t yours.
Parents: *judge kids and make them feel horrible about themselves at every turn*
Kids: *get depression*
Parents: •o•
Aidyn Simons 👏🏽
So freaking tru 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
underrated.
ikr
Parents: *iT* *mUSt* *Be* *tHe* *viDeOGAmEs!!!11!*
Me stressed about procrastinating cause I’m watching this instead of doing homework
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Same, except I have to go and eat dinner and then head to the library to do work.
i have a really difficult test tomorrow but guess who's not studying for it kms
Ikr I had a friend overseas that I met on the Internet and she ended up being depressed and suicidal at a point. One day, she was like I'm gonna kill myself and then she disappeared for like 2 weeks. Those were tbe scariest 2 weeks of my life. I felt like I lost something that I could've saved. Then she eventually replied and told me that she was fine.
(She actually committed a suicide attempt but was saved by her parents and was in the hospital )
That was literally what I was thinking lol
Knowing someone is going to commit suicide is so freaking scary
Tochtli you should tell someone. I’ve been in that situation and they may hate you at first but it will turn out better for them in the end
Tochtli you will never regret letting her know how you feel and how much she matters to you!!
My boy Bestfriend was thinking about it 🤦🏾♀️
Manijeh Binesh i know like all of my friends want to. That makes me want to do it first so i dont get deal with the pain
Tochtli tell her i care!
What I learned in elementary school:
-How to read
-How to spell
-That no matter what I happens I will never do anything right and I will only get yelled at if I fail so there’s no point in trying
-The colours of the rainbow
Accurate
no you learn this in like preschool or kindergarten
I learned that a long time before elementary school.
what i learned in elementary school
tHE mItOchoNDRia iS ThE PowERHouSe oF tHe CeLL
Cherry Cake and in middle school you learn about kids that take lunch money and that the mitochondria is the power house of the cell
It's truly terrible how much stress there is
- homework
- sleep
- tests
- projects
+group projects specifically
- communication
- social
- friendship
- family
- mental
- health
- appearance
- trends
- sports
- financial
- work
I even would freak out about the little things, though it could have just been me but I had and still have serious social inabilities simply saying "here!" Every class would make my hands sweat, I understand it's petty and a little sad but I have just grown up that way.
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Aiskys montrey and sports. Sometimes 2-3 hours a day on top of that
Aiskys montrey i dont have friend, so that doens’t count for me
Same. I can worry about little things a lot.
Aiskys montrey appearance
I cried in four classes today at school due to stress. Only one teacher asked me if I was okay (and then the only thing she did was pat my shoulder), and only one friend comforted me. My own parents yelled at me after school, saying it was my fault that I was stressed about my four AP tests coming up and that it was my fault I don’t get enough sleep.
Little Baby Owl Dang :(. You know you talk to someone, even if they're strangers on the internet about your issues, in an anonymous way that is.
I'm in the same situation... it gets so difficult this time of year and I don't know you but I have faith in you. Remember to take care of yourself too
Little Baby Owl, I am so sorry to hear you cried in four classes. I hope I was there. I would have wrapped my arms around you. It is definitely not your fault you are stressed. The work expectation of the modern teenager is overwhelming. I actually stay up late into the night studying with my kids to try and ease their stress. Parents also have to step in to do what they can to help. Remember, it is not your fault you are not getting enough sleep. Your work load is extensive. We just have to find a way to take away the stress. I know your classmates and fellow school mates are going through similar issues. I have two requests to ask. Firstly, If you like talk please share the link to as many people as possible because we will like to share this with others. Secondly, What can we do to help?
Little Baby Owl I understand this very strongly. Just know that everything will work out and this stress will pass. Stay strong and remember that I and many others are in your same shoes, even if you can’t see us.
Josephine Horn thank you, everyone, for your kind words. I wasn’t expecting anyone to see my comment, let alone respond to it. I’m feeling much better as my first AP test is tomorrow and they’ll all be done in a little over a week. After that, I know most of my stress will go away.
The day I cried in school, the friend that comforted me in class cheered me up by hanging out with me after school. Turns out she was having a bad day too, she was just hiding it more than me. This made me realize just how stress-inducing school is for all of my peers.
I know that it was my choice to get heavily involved in extracurricular activities and challenging classes, but I felt pressured to do it in order to gave a better chance of making it into a top-ranked university. A lot of kids at my school feel the same way, and there’s tremendous amounts of stress.
I agree with everyone in the comments but WHY IS THE MIC QUALITY SO BAD. Every breath I can hear
Skeleton Coolz18 I think she just has a lisp
Skeleton Coolz18 I can hear just fine
she has a lisp bc of her braces so it sounds bad but its fine
She has a lisp there for more air hits directly on the mic
The reason I believe that you can hear her breath is maybe because she has a lisp and partly because the microphone is too close to her mouth catching her exhale with every word
I do wish teenagers would be taken seriously when they speak about their problems without being called a 'special snowflake'.
Yo my mum is constantly calling me a special snowflake for getting nervous even though I've been diagnosed with social anxiety :')
space alien
It also annoying is when people say that people like us are attention seeking.. :(
I swear if I hear "you're just being dramatic, it's normal, must be your hormones" one more time I'll start throwing fists
Or an "attention seeker"
It’s because there are many people who actually do shi for attention. They’ve made the rest of us look like we’re attention seekers too, even tho we’re not.
I do mostly blame myself for my grades and lack of sleep... I mean, I am a procrastinating beast who goes to bed at midnight only to wake up at 5 in the morning to 6 alarms. But it's because I'm trying not to fall victim to the full student life, where I would have no goals or dreams or passions. I'm pushing school aside oftentimes just to keep my steadily decreasing playfulness from vanishing altogether just because I'm forced to do other things I often quite frankly render as useless.
Kristen Rasmussen I have to put my whole effort on school every week day and sometimes weekends and vacations bc I have to worry about getting to the next grade, getting all A's, making my parents proud, and most important to me not being pushed around at school bc I'm a nobody and don't have anything special. Also I may only be in middle school, but equally tied with that is college. My parents didn't save up money, and I can't start saving yet, so I have to get a full scholarship. And considering we don't have a lot of money i can't just ask them for a bunch of money on holidays. Most of the money I get ($20 on holidays) I spend on food and snacks.
Galaxy Gaming I'm... sorry? I can't tell if you want me to pity you and your situation, or praise the hard work you've achieved. Congrats for being so smart and being able to endure so much. I'm sorry you don't have time for much else. Frankly, very few can actually afford college. People will probably die from old age and still have student loans to pay off. I'm not sure if I can go to the one I'm planning to enroll in because it's so freaking expensive. That's life today. It sucks. If you really are in middle school, please don't worry about college just yet; you're still so young! Enjoy yourself a little. If you're worried about being consumed by nothing but school, do something about it! Write something, draw, paint, plant, maybe even tutor other kids who aren't as intelligent as you. You're only going to go so far if you sit down in a desk and do what everyone tells you and learn what everyone wants you to learn. How you grow your own passions is what makes you different than everyone, and how you won't be a "nobody." You won't be letting your parents down if you take a breath once in a while, I promise. And if your parents are really picky about your grades, just know that your life isn't defined by A's. :)
Galaxy Gaming, sometimes it helps to know you are not alone in this. There are so many kids going through a similar situation. If you are in middle school and already feel this pressure, we need to find a way to ease your pressure because the workload will let harder and multiple in High School. One thing I definitely do not want you to have is stress. We need to find out what you are doing and what you help you need to ease your stress. One thing that is worth noting is, normally your middle school grades do not show up on your high school transcript. If you happen to be taking high school courses, some schools list them. You have to check with your school. If your school does not list the middle school classes on your transcript, I will highly recommend you use your middle school years to work on things you do not know and not try to be a perfect "A" student all the time if that does not work out. You are a kid. You need to spend some time playing and putting a smile on your face. Let me know if I can help in any way. Please share the link to as many people as possible because we will like to share this important issue with others.
That is pretty accurately my view of school. Thank you for putting into words what I can't
Same, because of the fact I don't wanna live a boring life, only getting to live my life on Saturday or Sunday-- but certainly not both! I normally stay up late just to give me the chance to do something I wanna do. I'll procrastinate until the morning of the due date. So far, after finally getting prescribed for ADHD and taking the meds, I've been getting good grades. Though, I'm not sure how. Honestly I don't remember any of it! Most of the time in class I'll have to be reminded what to do. Then I can do it until I forget again.
A girl in my math class once had a mental breakdown while ranting to out teacher that he gives us too much work. He gives us 20 problems a night, and a quiz/test every week. This girl in particular started to tell us about how she is extremely busy after school. She goes to dance class for a few hours, practices for orchestra, and gets home at around 11pm, and still has to eat dinner and do homework. She has even said that she went to bed at 2 in the morning. That's about 4 hours of sleep. She does this and wakes up at 6 in the morning everyday and still comes to school and does her best. She is even the school councils president. Often she comes to school with bags under her eyes. I look up to her a lot. She hardly gets enough sleep and has so much responsibility and is always busy yet still puts a smile on her face, when deep inside she's struggling so much.
Downfall this is exactly the problem. Someone else’s stress does not make theirs invalid.
And the bad part is, the teacher has no control over how much homework or work they give.
The district has control over it.
Honestly, school needs to change big time. This is a new age, and school should be adjusted to different types of schedules so no matter what, people (especially teens) aren’t overwhelmed.
It completely hurts me when I see comments like this because I’ve had sleepless nights too.
But the Board Of Education is too far up their a** that they can’t even hear the complaints.
I’m so sorry this happened. 😔
I feel her.
I dont get much homework in biology, but physics and chemistry have an IMMENSE syllabus that students are expected to finish in a few months, then we are expected to practice past question papers. Oh and, we get 5 papers per subject, so for me and my classmates its 20 papers every semester. Three of them are from our syllabus from junior year, the other two are from the syllabus of the senior year. And one of them is the lab practical, where you get no guidance whatsoever. But wait, its not only that: the long 20 page assignments we need to do in like 1 day in physics and chemistry count as a large part of our grades. And apart from all this, we have to prepare for not only the SAT's, but UKCAT, IMAT, BMAT and all other entrance exams since we have to go to an abroad university. I want to do medicine, so I dont mind all of this but apart from all this I am also the head of my house, so I have to be responsible for about a quarter of the girls in the entire school. And I also practice chess, speedcubing, speedreading and aptitude reasoning every day. I have almost zero social life lol. And I get lucky with 4 hours of sleep each night. My routine consists of schoolwork, practice extracurriculars, prepare for entrance exams, run around disciplining toddlers and angsty tweens and teens, and stay calm even if I couldnt sleep last night. Throw in a vouple of coffee, youtube and snack breaks, and my day is full.
Coronacation has lightened my load a lil tho, I dont have to worry about screaming at kids all day.
The dangers of speaking with total strangers on the internet, it could be you can be lied to, and groomed. If you have decent parents ( meaning parents that care about you although they may be busy or wrapped in their own problems) PLEASE TALK TO THEM!! These are the people that love you the most and they will try to understand what’s going on! Tell them how you feel and if needed look up for a therapist! Have a little faith in your family first, or a good friend. Not all parents are bad. Most of us are willing to listen to you and try to help you but you have to tell us how it is, and every feeling you have! Sometimes you just want attention from your parents. Maybe they give more time to a sibling or they may get the impression you want nothing to do with them because you spend your whole day in the computer or on your phone and you don’t wanna even talk to us for a minute, and when asked you say everything is ok! Reach out! We love you and you are the reason we wake up in the morning and go to work because we want to give you at least the basics so you are, dressed, fed, educated etc etc. and sometimes we may forget that you need to be herd, and you need our time and attention because you deserve it.
You have it difficult, school, friends, social media. I understand so let’s help each other. Spend more time with your family, learn to cook, bake, language or a hobby.
Spend less time on the internet. That’s a source that gives you anxiety and stress. Read a book, listen to music, bring friends to your house. Play an instrument. Or if you have too many extra curricular activities, drop some.
Your sanity is first.
Good luck.
This is so me, our math teacher is considerate, but one student goes, we can do 25 sums today!
I spend 2 hrs for dance class, 2 for music, then eat, do homework, then worry about unnecessary things all night
I had a total breakdown at school and one of my friends who always teased me comforted me, the previous day, my brother took my music note and didn't share and I got so frustrated, I yelled at him and the music teacher scolded me plus,my best friend totally betrayed me that day, ignored me. As a result I didn't study for a test that day
The other friend was so sweet that day, honestly I don't know what I would have done if she hadn't comforted me
Once my teacher told : since ur so good at studying and extra curriculums, u are gonna be a prefect, I told no, and she scolded me for saying no. It was too much on my plate
Once I couldn't do the board work(we shifted every day,we hv to clean the board and write the time table)since I was volunteering for substituting for primary kids, she said this: just being good at studying isn't enough! It's ur turn and u just went on ur own job, u have a responsibility
𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗜 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗮𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲, 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗻𝗼 𝘂𝘀𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗶𝗿𝗹 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗼 𝘂𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗜 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜'𝗱 𝘃𝗼𝗹𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝘂𝘇 𝗜 𝗹𝗲𝗳𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗶𝗿𝗹 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘀, 𝘀𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻'𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲
Now I'm just in tears with my anxiety, helpless...
Ppl think that I'm always happy since I fake a smile, but they don't know what is really going on...
So sorry, never meant for it to go that long
I have 5 homeworks due for tomorrow and it's midnight and I don't understand any of it and I'm crying
Sonia Mamour me every night due to teachers just adding more to the pile
rip
THIS IS A MOOD
I can relate
I know my words probably aren’t gonna do much, but if you have a lot of tasks and dues and you break down that is a sign of your body to stop. Take a break for a solid 20-25 minutes and just breathe. This might clear your mind and get you back on track. If you think you can’t do all five tasks at least finish one. Even though you haven’t finished four out of five, you at least did *something*.
Also, if you don’t understand something of your homework try looking it up on the internet or even RUclips.
I hope this was a bit helpful and please don’t mind my English it’s not my first language😅
When I say I'm stressed my mother tells me that's only a thing adults experience. If only she knew.
big bruh
Cold Glass Of Milk I guess all teens are actually adults then :)
Cold Glass Of Milk 🥛 do you like milk?
I LIKE MILK
MILK IS LIFE
What I learned in school:
- How to read
- The colors
- Basic Math
- THE MITOCHONDRIA IS THE POWERHOUSE OF THE CELL
- How to gain depression
- You can suffer a lot from "education"
- The system is absolute rubbish
Thank you.
CELLS CELLS THEY ARE MADE OF ORGANELLES
TRY TO PULL A FAST ONE THE CYTOPLASM GELS
LIVING THINGS ARE MADE UP OF 1 OR MORE CELLS
Amen
Jesus Christ hey I didn't know that Jesus has depression.
Adults have spent our entire lives telling us not to complain and that it gets worse when we grow up like that somehow negates from our current stress. They ignore our mental illnesses and freak out when we do something to ourselves, blaming us and saying that we overreacted. Then when we grow up and leave them behind and never talk to them, they wonder why we want to cut them off.
Now that's straight facts
Sometimes it’s not even the parents, it’s literally the school, and the obsession of not wanting to let your parents down
Minellys Rosario yes that’s exactly what I’m feeling and I hate it, my parents have done so much for me and I want to make them proud but there’s just some teachers that don’t understand the struggles and then schools don’t focus on mental health at all
This is my junior year and I have become so anxious. Every time I hear a phone ring, every time I hear the door open, every sudden sound or movement keep me on edge because I feel guilty about how much work I pushed aside because I dont want to lose my passions and personality drowning in school. My parents have yelled at me for failing classes and lying about grades, and I feel like I should've gotten more severe punishments, but I just can't bring myself to do work regularly. My older sister was top 10 in her class, a class officer, got a high SAT score and got a full ride at her first choice college. Because of the pandemic, my junior year has been a huge flop, I'm in the third quartile, I'm no where near popular enough to become a class officer, and SAT is this Wedneday and I can only pray and study on the writing section. I've come to accept that I'm less than my older sister and that I'm just not cut out for student life, but I dont wanna disappoint my parents who worked so hard to come here to give us a better life. I've been trying my best to get out of that inferiority complex that is preventing me from being a good role model for my little sister and preventing me from being able to move forward independently, but every time I do I crash and burn. I've had thoughts that I was a burden as well and wished I could run away, but that would only bring more harm to my parents and little sister. I just wished my life didn't have to revolve around grades, especially now that the pandemic and a million other personal events have not helped with school. Ik my problems aren't that uncommon or that bad comparatively, but. I cant talk about this with anyone because my friend group is filled with prodigies and incredibly smart people, my parents' current best interest is my future now that I'm a junior and my siblings would probably not have the necessary tools to emotionally comfort me. Sorry for the rambling, just needed to physically put my thoughts into words so I could calm down a bit.
I know so many people who are suffering so much more than I am. But I still get stressed and upset. I never tell anyone, I don't know why.
Charlie, you need to tell someone about your stress and how you feel,. You will find out you are not alone. Try talking to your friends or family members. I need you to tell someone. You cannot carry such a burden with you all the time. I am glad to see there are so many people out there who are compassionate and share these concerns. I hope all is well with you. If you like the presentation, please pass on the link and share it with as many people as possible. Share the link with your friends and family and see how they respond. It will give you an idea how people feel and if you can share your concerns with them.
ARMY
Army
BECAUSE YOU DONT NEED TO
Tell someone, I really bealive there's somenoe who cares about you :)
Everything that was on my mind was always, ‘I need to get into a good college’, ‘I need to get amazing grades’, ‘I need to make my parents proud’, ‘I need to be successful in the future’, ‘I need to be a good student’. This always caught up to me that I barely get time to actually enjoy life. Multiple times, pressure got to me and I couldn’t handle it anymore. I was always tired and sleepy when going to school, but I always told myself to stay awake to listen to the teacher. Even if I was sick, I would always go to school just so I couldn’t miss a lesson. Just to get perfect attendance.
Yzza,School has become very stressful. I hope you have friends you can talk to about this. You are not alone. Parents want the best for their children and brlieve they are doing the right thing. Please talk to them and let them know how you feel. Your parents will be proud of you. I am glad to see there are so many people out there who are compassionate and share these concerns. I hope all is well with you. If you like the presentation, please pass on the link and share it with as many people as possible.
My mind : its ok , when I die atleast I don't have to deal with this
I'm crying. It's like you read my mind
actually me
Me too for me it was “impress my parents” now I’m depressed
i really wish schools took into account mental illness more often, and did it with care. Like, listen Miss Teacher-Who-I-Can't-Remember-The-Name-Of, if i'm hyperventilating and begging you not to hang up my painting because i'm paranoid to the point of vomiting that it is not up to my overly-high standards, don't tell me to go to the principals office to discuss a detention, and then the next day when i walk into your class, don't point to the goddamn painting i was so close to tearing into pieces hanging up on the wall. Seriously, i'm so sick and tired of being disrespected and regarded as a problem child, it's only making things worse.
@mc chicken , I don’t know what to say even though I experienced the same thing, thanks for being strong-
mc chicken it gets better in college trust me, school sucks.
Teachers are so... behind, sometimes. It’s like they have no understanding of the concept of mental health disorders. I had to have a signed paper with my diagnosis, just so teachers would leave me alone. Like...God, Karen. If a student is literally snapping their pencils in half to relieve stress, you can’t just deny they have anxiety. Get some help for them. Make some good in the world.
That bit about how hard it is for teenagers to share their issues with adults really got to me. Even after I decided to tell my parents about the problems I was facing, it still took me over six months to actually do it, and even then I couldn’t work up the nerve to tell them in person. I ended up getting up in the middle of the night, sneaking into the computer room, and crying my eyes out writing it all down, only to stick the note in my mother’s book that I knew she was reading. It’s so hard to say anything - like the fact that I couldn’t deal with it by myself made me weak or pathetic. I know my parents would never think of me that way - how hard must it be for teens who don’t have that assurance?
Omg Im so glad I'm not the only one. I haven't been diagnosed with anything, but my own research suggests that I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Sensory processing disorder. The only reason I have yet to be diagnosed is because I'm too triggered by confrontation to tell my parents. My whole life I've been taught that people don't care about my problems and that they aren't really important. I've picked up destructive habits and toxic thought processes from the sheer stress of even imagining telling my parents. I've written them many letters and never delivered them, always backing out at the last second because I think they won't care, as per what I've been taught. Do you happen to have any advice on overcoming these fears?
@@cjadams7548 I went through a similar issue about three years ago. I had dealt with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts off an on since late elementary school. It took me until I was 16 to finally tell my mom and to be honest with you it was probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I wrote a note too. I gave the note to my mom right before I went to sleep so I would know when she read it and so I wouldn't have to immediately talk about it. It gave me a sense of control and made it easier for me to go through with it. My thought process that night was basically just like "screw it what do I have to lose? I'm already miserable all the time."
Fair warning though: it wasn't an immediate sense of relief. The pressure just slowly lifted as I no longer had to suffer through the fear of what would happen if I told my parents. In the following weeks even before I got treatment it felt great knowing that there was a light at the end of the tunnel. Just that knowledge and the end of that dread about having to tell your family and/or friends made me feel so much better. It will relieve a lot of the emotional pressure you are under.
Also the feeling that no one cares could be from experience, but it is almost definitely being magnified by the mental/emotional trauma you're experiencing. At least you'll know for sure what will happen instead of suffering through that fear all of the time. And don't belittle what you've been through when you explain, it will only make it easier for others to belittle it. This is a serious issue so, at the very least, know that we hear you and what you feel does matter.
@@sydneypuente9195 Thank you so much. This will definitely make things easier for me when the time comes❤️
Lol stop trying get attention and crying over nothing
@@art-oq1pi at least they're talking about it. People like you are why we never talk to anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. If you dont like it then dont read the replies or skip the comment
I literally fall asleep in almost every single class. That is not okay
We definitely need to tackle this issue. I want you to do very well so please let's get rid of anything that is making you fall asleep in almost every single class. Once again, your grades come first. This is very important. This determines what happens to your future. I hope I can help in anyway.
Carlaeyyy, I am Michaela's mom. I wanted to check in with you to see how you are doing. I know this is exam period and I have been thinking of students like you and Michaela. I hope you are doing fine ans well. I wanted to let you know we are definitely thinking of you. Please share the link to as many people as possible because we will like to share this important issue with others.
That happens to me as well. I'm a night owl. I work better at night so I end up doing everything until 3 or 4 am homework that takes research and hours of work concentration. I have a short attention span which makes it hard to finish my homework in one sitting. I get about 3 1/2 or 4 hours of sleep every night. I fall asleep at school. From as little to a minute to the full class length. The teachers don't really care. They gave up on me the third time it happened.
Clara, I know you think it is better for you to work at night, but as you indicated you end up falling asleep in the class and miss out on what is being taught. This eventually makes things worse. I know this may be difficult at first, but I want you to try and do the opposite where you get the work done first when you get home, and hopefully have more hours sleep. You cannot carry on with 3 and half hours of sleep. It is not good for your health, and will also impact your grades. I wish you all the best. If you like the presentation, please pass on the link and share it with as many people as possible.
Same. I’m a morning and night person. Not a mid day person.
The stress that weighs down on me in school has made me suicidal. I honestly feel like I'm never going to make it through high school.
Ryan, you are never alone. We have to work on changing what makes you feel suicidal to making you feel proud of yourself and happy to be who you are. The fact that you left this little note tells me you have so much to live for. I have faith and confidence in you. You may feel school is the worst thing right now, but life has it's ups and downs. When we hit downs, the only way is up. I don't know you but I care for you. What are the issues that weigh down on you? We can always work these things out. It may feel that way sometimes but there are so many people who care for you. It is difficult to tell sometimes because we are all busy and running around and forget to take the time to show how much we care. It always helps to talk to someone. Do you have any family or friends you can share your feelings with? I am very sure they are not aware of how you feel and will love to hear how you feel. If for any reason you cannot talk to them, please reply and let me know. I will be more than happy to let you know we want you in this world because we need people like you. I want you to grow up to be whatever you want to be. You will make it through high school, and I will be honored to see you graduate. You have too much to live for, and I personally want to see all the greatness you will achieve. Stay blessed. Remember, I am always here for you.
Josephine Horn Thank you so much for these kind words. It means so much to me
I felt the same in high school but now I'm in college and doing well! There were moments when I didn't think I'd live long enough to make it to college but I guess I'm stronger than I thought and I'm sure you are too. :)
Sydney Puente please tell me college is better than high school.
@@whyamialwaystired3182 Well a big part of it depends on just learning to love yourself, that was a big thing for me. But yes, most people prefer college over high school. Difficulty level depends on your major--STEM majors are usually the hardest.
I’m stressed and lazy. So it’s my own fault. A have to read a book write like 2 papers, finish an art project make a scrapbook read a book and 10 packets of questions and geometry is everyday. And I just can’t bring myself to do it
Sometimes this happens because you do not like the class and just don't want to deal with it. I know you have to do a lot everyday but let's see if this can be structured so you have some fun doing it. Do you have anyone you can work with? It helps a great deal if you work with someone. Let me know how you are doing. If you like the presentation, please share the link to as many people as possible because we will like to share this important issue with others.
Lol big mood
Sameee
listen to the hamilton musical :) kills time too. i procrastinate too much myself and end up rushing everything one day before . im lazy too
Same
Unfortunately for many suffering suicidal thoughts and pressuring suicide.. a lot of families do not take it seriously.. my family told me to my face it's a phase and it will pass. Here I am grown and I still have suicidal thoughts and attempts on myself. It's not just a phase. My mother told me straight to my face I am too chicken and laughed about it.. the hurt I felt after she told me that had me torn.. and ashamed that I actually wanted to prove her wrong... but did I? Well I fought through my selfish wants of proving her wrong.. every single day I'm fighting against wanting to kill myself.. because I know I'd be hurting them... I have read too many horrible stories of kids who have committed and families torn broken and suicidal after their kid took their life. So I fight my selfish relief so that doesn't happen to my family. And for those fighting the want to leave this world, there are tons of people like you too. Tons who hate being where they are and who have seen the world and just want to give up because they feel utterly hopeless about it. I understand that feeling, and the feeling of having sweet release from all the stress and anxiety by just killing myself so all the thoughts end, and so we don't have to fight it anymore. But it doesn't end the fight, especially for friends and family, after you cave into the sweet release, it always leaves a huge depressing scar on the family and friends who know you. There is much more to our stories than that.. we feel no one really cares about them.. we feel no one really wants to see and hear about it.. but even then... we still have to fight it and live on. And I am so sorry if even after reading this it doesn't move you into wanting to stay here.. I guess I do not blame anyone for those feelings since I have them so often as well.. that's why I still have attempts myself, and sometimes I can't handle fighting the thoughts... there are drugs that can help this, but I don't feel like numbing my mind on them. There is also other substances you can take to numb it out, and if it works than go for it but not if it's affecting your behavior and life.. I would cut back on it.. that's why I don't take anything except sugar..my go to bad habit is sugar. It numbs my mind with the releases of dopamine and damages it at the same time. My other habits are video games and RUclips videos. Good Distraction and chemicals in the brain is key to helping fight the bad thoughts of wanting to die.. for me anyway it has. Hoping you get the serious help you need and friends who will talk and listen to you. Good luck to you.
I wish I know who you are. I read your piece and wanted to let you know it is difficult for most people to know what you are going through. I know it is not a phase and know it is very real. My daughter Michaela was trying to address this very issue in her talk. I know a lot of people like you struggle to find reasons to stay in this world. As bad as things might be, it is worth staying because the next day brings hope. There are times we just don't know what to do with ourselves, and in those very moments, it is very easy to give up. What I try to do each day is think of only one reason to brighten my life. It may be a s simple as, "the sun came up today". I know there is always a long list of things that go wrong, but I force myself to think of something good. This makes me feel better. I promise you I will always be here for you, even if it means sending you a daily reminder of something worth staying in this world to see or do. Hope to hear from you
Good luck
I belive in you
Just wanted to drop a note to see how you are doing today. Hope all is well.
Pikachu Love I felt that waybf9r a long time, in my early 20s, I had to take meds. I couldn't harm myself in such a way that it threatened my life, because it hurt, and deep inside I really didn't want tondie.
My sister attempted suicide a lot of times, I was at home 3 of those times, she did it in differently each time. She is doing much better now, because she is in love, it might sound like a fairy tale, but that's how it is. She's happier now and it shows.
As to me, I still feel hopeless sometimes, but I am better. I guess I love someone too now, I still haven't done everything I want to do with my life yet, that makes me feel useless but keeps me moving forward at the same time.
I hope you feel better.
I’m only 13 and I want to leave, and the even sadder thing is that other people my age and my own friends also feel this way. If schools didn’t force us to study and revise and do homework and if we didn’t also have to do other things that further raise our stress level we wouldn’t want to kill ourselves
I'm watching this acting like I don't have 15 missing assignments & a the semester ends right around the corner & I have hella stress imma go
Honestly, me right now
Same here
hahahahaha same here, I have 18 pages of assignments to do for today and now I watch this hahahshahhs
I have so much work that I am afraid to do it. I get home and all I want to do is sleep, eat, and have time for myself. Instead Im told to get work done. The issue is though, that teachers forget we're human, and that I find I'm unwilling to work when I get home, which results in more stress and piled up work I wasnt motivated to do. School's not easy...
When parents say “when you get into the real world it’ll be much harder” but I think school is even more stressful than the real world. It’s not social media it’s the school system!!!
Cameron Owen I wholeheartedly agree with you, I think it’s school that is the problem
It can be social media thats causing depression or sadness. theres videos on the problems with social media
School is to prepare us for the stress that may come in the future is what i assume.
So my school has a weekly newsletter where my principal has a section where she answers our anonymous questions, and one time my friend submitted a question about the amount of homework she had been receiving. She wrote that she had, quite literally, received 24 hours worth of homework over the weekend, which is absolutely ridiculous. And it wasn't that she was procrastinating during this time either. She was actually doing the homework she was assigned. And then my principal proceeded to say that she just wasn't managing her time well enough because "24 hours of homework is ridiculous".
thats sad
Thats the exact reply I get in school when I say it is too much. ''You did not make a timetable. That is why you can't complete the given tasks.'' OH COME ON! WHEN YOU EXPECT ME TO BE BEST AT EVERYTHING AND TELLING ME THAT IS MY FAULT?
That is literally what my school also said as well!!
Im a hardworking highschooler but somehow i dont get the grade i expected, my parents r pretty strict with school and i cant fail again again and again. I dont talk to anyone bc they dont understand me. They would probably laugh at me. the only thing i can do is drawing. Im smart as an individual but not academic. Standardtised test should be gone and we need more attention for students and arts (i dont have art anymore bc of my school)
You are not alone in this situation. It is very frustrating when you work so hard but your grades do not show how hard you worked. We are all different in the way we capture information. Some people have an easy time understanding information once it is taught, other people take a little longer. I am a visual person which means it takes me a little longer to process the information because I need to translate it into diagrams, pictures or anything that I can see to help me process the information. You definitely need to talk to your parents. I do not think they will laugh at you. Parents normally want to know why you are not getting good grades. If you do not understand the material, you need to let them know so you can work out a way to make learning easier for you. You indicated you like to draw. That is perfect. For example if you are doing math, try to translate it into a picture, table or something you can visually relate to. This helps me a lot. I hope it helps you too. Please talk to you parents. I hope I hear back from you to find out how it went. I will be here for you always. I also have some learning materials that will help you. I am waiting to hear from you. I have faith and confidence in you.
Josephine Horn omg thank u so much for this sweet message you wrote, i talked to my parents and it went pretty wel. Im glad that u said it because without that i just dont know who to talk to. I got my results back today! And i passed🤗🎉🎉 hard work pays off right. Thank you so much again, i really apprechiate it!
heyitshelin, you just made my day. I am so happy your conversation went very well with your parents. I am so proud of you for taking the steps to talk to them. I am also very proud of you for passing your tests. I know you worked very hard and was concerned. You deserve a very good summer. I am always here for you. If you ever need to talk to me, just reply to my message and I will respond. Remember so many people care for you. Stay Blessed.
Josephine Horn thank you so much again, i just dont know what to say! Even though it's just through a message, i am just grateful that actually somebody cared and encourage me to talk to my parents. God bless you and thank you for your words.
You are welcome. I have faith you will be a wonderful student. Stay Blessed.
I think most of us are afraid to not have a story to tell. That there is nothing special about us. Or we are scared of not achieving our dreams because those moments remind us just how special our stories really are. Those moments when we fail a big exam or that moment you have so much to do you start to break down. Slowly. And when you breakdown completely, you’re a different person entirely. A person that hates the surrounding world around them. A person who hates the people around you. But most importantly, a person that hates themselves. But you don’t complain because you tried but the only response you got was “it’s just a phase.” To so many people it’s “just a phase.” So... you keep quiet, slowly breaking down to the point you think and feel like you have no purpose in life. And you’re so afraid. Afraid of yourself. But the only person who can comfort you is yourself and how are you supposed to do that when you’re in so much stress. So much pain. So much...everything. You stress about not being good enough or not being worthy enough. But underneath all of that pain and hurt, you still feel a small simmer of hope. Maybe as small as an atom, but there still is hope inside of you. Hope to one day achieve everything you want in life. Wether that’s traveling the whole world or being a famous author, you still hope. So you know what I say. Hope. Hope so much that, that dream of yours does comes true. You know what I say to people who make you feel scared and afraid of doing what you really want to do. I say screw them. You should do what you want that is wanting to come out or wanting to do gosh knows what. I say do it. Do what you want and I know that’s easier said then done but take those risks. You may make a mistake, but it may end up being the best mistake of your life. But it may end up being the worst mistake of your life. Just kidding. Doing what you want to do will never end up being a mistake. Ever. And you know what? I’ve learned that it’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to be broken and to feel unworthy. But you know what’s not ok. To give up. To give up on your dreams, and most importantly, to give up on yourself. Because when you give up on yourself, you really give up everything. So screw stress. Screw. Tomorrow, is a new day and you will start new tomorrow. And I’m not asking you to do it for those who are still reading, I’m demanding you too because you deserve it. You deserve to feel joy. True joy. And that joy may not come tomorrow. Or in a month, a year, 5 years, but be patient because it will, come. So hold on and be a semi colon; you wanted to end the sentence, but you continued. But you’re not just a sentence. You’re a whole book and so much more. So screw it all and stop waiting.
“Before she became fire, she was water.
Quenching the thirst of every dying creature.
She gave and she gave
until she turned from sea to desert.
But instead of dying of the heat,
the sadness, the heartache,
she took all of her pain
and from her own ashes became fire.” -Nikita Gill
School: join clubs! Get involved with the school community! And don’t forget to take care of your mental and physical health ;)
Adults: enjoy your childhood while you can...
Students: I can’t. I get too much homework
What we learned in elementary school:
-basic math
-how to read, write and spell
-how to have fun
-how to make friends
What I learned I middle school:
-US history
-science
-algebra
-how to handle more homework
What I learned in high school:
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-matracies
-how to NOT get good rest
-how to spend all way working
I hate how my school ignores me and gives attention to those who don’t need it. I have dyslexia, Aspergers, depression and anxiety but I have to have 5 doctors to confirm each one to even apply for special provisions for exams and all they are is to be in a separate room for exams and to have a writer.
This is painful cause every time the school sees my parents to remind them that some of the work they give use for homework can take me twice as long to do due to my brain mixing up symbols they think it to be an excuse
My teachers usually use their students and make fun of em for other kids entertainment
I feel you. Even when a student is literally screaming and crying, teachers can’t accept it might not be for *attention* as they love to call it. Why would anyone embarrass themselves like that and risk losing all their friends? I swear, some teachers thought I was a spoiled brat who would just “choose” to have a panic attack if I felt like it. How those people got to where they are now is beyond me.
i hate my life when i am at school lol
life of a teen is hard.
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Hi, Loki........hope you are alive
I cry AT LEAST three times a day bc of all the stress and exhaustion
Teachers : Make sure to get 8 hours of sleep
Homework : I’m about to end this mans career
my grandfather told me i don't know what stress is because i don't work and the only thing i have to do is study ...i get so stressed out because i have to do a lot of homework and they 're always telling me that i have to go to one of the top universities and that i have to get honors and be the best in my class.they're always asking me what i am going to major in but like can't they just chill like i'm only a sophomore i still have a few more years to decide. i am already taking a college course and it's so stressful , sometimes i wish i could just drop out but can't disappoint your family right.....
Army 4Life I felt this so hard. I’m applying to colleges right now and it sucks.
I've literally did a essay on this and one I did the math based off a survey i did with 300 students at my school asking about how much time you spend doing homework, sports, daily chores, routines (such as eating showering ect), religious activities, family time, leisure , studying, ect and from the average times go as this 30 mins homework per subject(with eight subjects) is 4hrs another 2hrs for study,is 6hrs, 8hrs of school plus another 1hr for getting ready in the morning+driving and other miscellaneous activities you do throughout the day there's 15hrs then after school 45 mins of exercise/sport then 45 mins for dinner and hygiene stuff brings us to 16hrs 30mins and then for those who are religious another 30 mins for praying/church then there's the leisure/relaxation time we need to relieve the stress put on us so we don't break down completely which is 1hr and for our brains to properly develop we need to get the recommended 8hrs of sleep brings us to 26hours total, which as I'm sure we all know that there's only 24 hours in the day means we are just way overloaded with things to do and then we have to neglect time to something as I didn't account for having a social life/developing relationships which is also very important for our brains to properly develop or many of the other time consuming things we have to do which I'm sure there is plenty I missed and usually the thing we neglect is sleep which then impacts our capacity to do school work well which then means we usually have to do more homework or study to catch up something needs to change
Awesome speech but did she ever find out what happened to the student?
Yes I did. I am very happy to say the student is doing fine and well.
I'm very glad. Your speech was wonderful!
That's good. I was worried about them. If you see/ hear from them again. Feel free to let them know I care about them too :)
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Michaela Horn your speech was so inspiring
This is true and no one will do eny thing I get about five hours sleep at the maximum
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I get two hours of sleep at the maximum
Alessandra F. Moulin N. Santos this is so true! I find that I have to spend 16 hours dedicated to school everyday and I have 6 days of school! What do they want to do with us? Kill us? I mean I love learning and I really appreciated education, but I think that there is definitely better way than hurting students like this.
I stress about so many things like how people precieve me that i dont even have the time or energy to stress about homework
I hate the fact that we have so many expectation we hardly even get the chance to enjoy like I personally feel like if I don’t have the perfect grades than I’m not good enough society has so many expectation we feel we need to fit into and it sucks it really does
Very nice speech. Thank you for taking the time to shed some light on these issues.
This is so relatable for me, because it’s hard for me to talk to adults about problems, but I can easily talk to friends about my problems
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Now I also want to create a survey like that and try to help the people who are going through a hard time....
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I like how people say that “they learned so much from school and they want to go back again” but in reality they hated it just like everyone elese
Hi everyone! I know this is a little late but I would still like to give a big thank you to everyone who watched this video. Whether you liked it or not, I hope you took something away from it. I was really excited when I got the opportunity to do this talk and I wanted to make it about something I cared a lot about. I felt many people did not really like to talk about stress in high school, and many students used dark humor to talk about this subject. But I wanted to address an older audience with the particularly moving stories people sent me that I believed would give a different perspective on stress in high school. I know many adults often believe that students are exaggerating their experiences and I wanted to show that was not the case and many students just do not know how to express their trauma. Again I just want to thank all of you for the time you spent watching this video. It truly means a lot for you to listen to what I had to say.
the intention of the talk was great, it really seems like you care about the subject. however the structure of the speech was a bit off. somehow seemed like you're throwing facts at us without linking them together. I hope I will get to hear more talks from you in the future. :)
Telling kids that they don't get to feel bad because there are others who has it worse is the same way of telling kids that you don't get to feel good because there are others who has it better..
May I steal this quote for future references?
@@althe4564 yes... Let many people know
@@murali_krishh thank you, I’m definitely using this
I've been sleeping at 2am, sometimes no sleep at all.
Partly is my fault for staying up late doing other things that aren't school related. But I'm a freshman who has upper classes and advanced classes, they give me tons of homeworks and projects, lots of work. They give me so much, that I can't do the things I love and enjoy, I can't work on other things.
It's an honor for me to be top student, to be ahead of everyone else, and to have so much in me. But the price is costly, so much I want to quit. Top of the scale isn't my dream no more, it became a dream for others. I don't wanna be top, it's what others want and expect me to be.
So with all that, I do homework till around 2am and do other outside school things till I drop asleep or till it's time to leave to school. It what literally keeps me sane, it's a routine.
Hella stressed, I cry, I get mad, I'm an uncontrollable mess. But if we keep it going like this the days will pass and fly by.
Ximena Vazquez I’m essentially the exact same way (except I’m not considered the top of the top, but everything else resonates with me). Schools want to force students to do so much work, study for so many tests and quizzes, and expect us to get enough sleep and have good mental health. How is that even supposed to be possible? In this day and age, students are expected to be involved in more difficult courses and participate in several different extracurriculars in order for colleges to even consider you BUT only if you do well on important testing (SATs, ACTs, what have you). You get little to no time to do what you actually want to do because you need to get into a college to have the ability to get the majority of available jobs nowadays, and that’s not even considering the amount of experience they want you to have on top of it all. This world is run by money and unrealistic expectations that creates nothing positive for anyone, and the newer generations are suffering the most.
Sorry that was a bit long, there was just a lot that I felt the need to get out. You’re not suffering alone, we’ll deal with it together. Day by day, we’ll get through it all. We’ll get that break. It’ll be disrupted at some point, but we’ll get through that too.
*Stay strong*
And if you ever need someone to be there for you to let it all out, I’m always here and more than willing to hear whatever it is
i was literally listening to this whilst doing homework how ironic
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Same-
I agree with Michaela completely. I am super stressed. Whenever I tell people, most of them tell me that I have no reason to be stressed or tell me that it's all my fault. That is not at all what I want to hear. When I tell people I want to have encouragement, not have people tell me that I'm wrong about how I feel and that it's my fault. This only brings me down even more. When I get too stressed out about stuff I'll have an anxiety attack or panick attach depending on the situation, and most of the time people don't notice when I'm not ok and it's so not fair. I have only had one or two teachers notice that I wasn't "ok". All of the others either don't notice or they just brush it off. This really hurts. It shows me that really no one cares. So I bottle everything up inside me which only makes everything worse. Sometimes I have everything bottled up and can only think of the negatives and all the things people say to me and how I can't get everything done because I have too much to do. I sometimes wonder, "what's the point of even being here". Sometimes I really just want to die. Teachers need to realize how much there students are stressed. Parents and even our friends need to realize this too. We need people to be there for us. We need people to talk to.
what I learned from school
1. Social anxiety
2. Getting picked on
3. Nothing
4. The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
I never cry but this srlsy made my eyes tear, it's so simple and clear and just the exact truth it feels good to see people that understand 👏
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The maximum sleep I’m able to get is 2 hours, there are about 30 days in a month and I’m getting 60/720 hours of sleep in a month, they say you should get 8 hours of sleep a day with would be 240 hours in a month. I’ve missed 180 hours of sleep in a month and if you multiply that by 12 I’ll have missed 2,160 hours of sleep in a year
I know it is very difficult for students to get the recommended 8 hours of sleep. This is not good. We also need to take a look at what you are doing to see if there is anyway we can make things easier for you. Let me know how we can help. I work with my kids regularly to help them with their work and try to ease the stress. I will be very happy to work with you, if your parents agree. You will be just fine.
Welp that makes two of us. We're screwed
Maybe go to sleep earlier than 5AM then??? Thats youre problem lol
BQNG Kinda hard when you have so much homework, exams etc.. it’s not like most of us choose to go to bed that late
How do you even live ? 😵I can’t live when I get 5 hours of sleep. I’m in 10th grade and I have a lot of homework and exams but I go to bed max at 1am
"Mom, Dad, I'm stressed,"
"wHen I wAs a yOur aGe.."
Me: mom, I'm not ok. I think I'm depressed.
Mom:oh let me blame you,make you cry, and then yell at you because you cried and then compare you to every other teenager that I know
I could've listened to another hour of her speaking. What a beautiful and generous soul, I strive to be like her.
I am Michaela's(The speaker in the video) mom. Thank you for the wonderful words. You just made my day
Hello I am friends with this beautiful human and we sit together at lunch and SHE IS THE BEST I LOVE YOU MICHAELA
Hey if you really do know her I'd like to also be friends with her can you help me?
what i learned in school:
_how to draw those weird s things_
Students feel suicidal and the only thing adults do is say they have nothing to be stressed about
They need to filter out the pops and esses like damn that mic is bad
The mic wasnt bad she just had a lisp
CJcan'tART No ive watched different ted talks and this seems to be common. But im sure her braces make it worse
@@user-si6gs3ne8l braces don't actually do that
@@_tj For some people they do.
Phiphi Todebone you shouldn’t just assume she has braces, cause what if she doesn’t?
It’s even worse when you have to deal with things outside of school like mental health problems or family issues etc. Then you have to go to school and get homework after homework shoved down your throat and have to revise for ridiculously difficult exams and you are told ‘not to stress’. It’s so heartbreaking and is probably a factor to the increasing mental health problems in younger people nowadays
Those words are true. I also have the same problems of homeworks, extra classes, tests, projects and many more. But still there are many other students who have even deeper problems and I do care about them.
My teacher often says, we need a psychologist in every school for the students. And he's absolutely right. I would like add that we, the students, also need general psychology classes to take care of our mental health as well as supporting our friends and classmates.
It's so true that we can't share everything with everyone.
It’s annoying when people who claim they care about you only care when your happy
I'm constantly stressed because of all my year end tests and my piano and singing, I have a recital to go to in two weeks and I have no idea how to play my song and I have a duet to sing with another girl so I can't skip out.
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You know what makes my stress and depression worse? When my dad says I’m too young to be stressed. Oh what’s that? Now I have to go do my 3-6 hours of homework.
I can't believe I cried the moment she said she cared.
Shortest TED talk I've ever seen.
Best TED talk I've ever seen.
I’m a teenager and sometimes I don’t wanna open up about anything because adults think anything we do is just to call attention. Adults think that it’s just hormones and we are being over dramatic, some times they are right however there is just so much added pressure. They say they would rather be in our situation, and that these little things don’t matter. They are right however I’m failing geometry and physics. If I don’t pass those classes I won’t get into a good college. That’s where my snowball starts. I cry my self to sleep thinking about all this and therefore become sleep deprived. I think you can plan out the rest of my snowball from here.
Hi beautiful person looking through the comments please read down below if you’re stressed😉
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-if you’re stressed about school, pray. I don’t care what religion you come from God will always be with you and help you. You may not always get what you want people still love you. You are loved. I know I don’t always feel this way but my faith helps me through depression
Im not a teenager yet but I still have had depression heres some of the things i went through at school
-a rumour spread about me
-about idk 5-9 bullies(most of them dont even interact with me anymore)
-i began thinking i deserved to die
-getting hit
with a stick once recently(dont worry it was only one hit)
-student threatening me (this was years ago)
-seeing my friend become besties with the person who hit me with a stick and feelin betrayed
-being lonely as heck probably cause my anxiety made me shy away from people
-getting panicked whenever i was near my bully
Oh god its good im changing schools this year
It’s also stressful having friends who are suicidal and depressed, because it’s a lot of pressure when you’re the only one who knows and can help them. And you feel like it’s your responsibility because you care about them so obviously you want to help them, but we don’t have degrees and training in this! And not only that, it’s not like you can tell someone, be because that’s almost like betraying them. You kind of have to put your life on hold for them, answering texts and calls no matter where you are or what you’re doing, because it’s scary to think that they might kill themselves and it’s your fault.
It would help the most if parents were more open to their kids and made sure they weren’t giving off a judgemental image. It would help because then other teenagers don’t have to be put under high pressure situations like being told by their friend “I’m going to kill myself” and being the only person who can do anything about it.
Honestly, I think school staff need to take a day to watch this video and read all these comments.
Short, but strong and powerful. Well done.
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Thinking about this stress and looking at these comments made me cry.
My parents always say when I’m stressed that they were teenagers too and they dealt with stress so I need to get over it. I literally wake up, get ready while studying for a test, got to school, get home, do homework, go to sleep(not much sleep because I always have nightmares about school), and repeat. It’s come to a point where I can’t do extracurriculars because I barely have enough time to even eat because the amount of work piled on me daily. I cry everyday when I got to sleep because I don’t want my parents to worry about me if I cry while doing work.
Usually when I try to tell my parents what in stressed, scared or annoyed about, I'm always met with the answer "just don't think about it". That NEVER feels helpful and mostly makes me feel like my problems aren't heard nor important
true. you are overthinking and you can't help it then they'll say that. so frustrating.
I once told my mother about all the problems and stress I had been going through, and it took me a lot of strength and crying. But even she, who was a psychologist, told me that it was a common thing because I was a teenager and during this part of my life it’s usual to feel confused.
Well, I don’t know if it’s common or not, but waking up without a purpose to live most of the days for two years, breaking down crying like a mess alone in your room at least once a week or for many straight days and harming yourself every time you’re overwhelmed by emotions and stress, doesn’t sound really normal or healthy to me.
Even though things are a bit better now, I’m still waiting to be listened at.
Marina, I am listening. Sometimes comfort comes from places you least expect. We should never be stressed and should try and avoid it, but I know it is not easy with all the things you have to do, so we have to try our best to reduce the stress by looking through all the things you do to see if there is anything you can cut out which you do not need. For example if you do so many extra curricular activities, you need to truly look at the list to see if you need to do all of them. This is just an example. I will love to hear from you to see what you think.
Hey Michaela! Yes, I absolutely agree that the first step to reduce stress is to cut out those ‘unnecessary’ things that create it. But sometimes even the most little things put together can cause that person to lose their confidence, and in consequence stress them out because they feel they aren’t good enough. But of course, having too many extracurricular activities are a great contribution to stress.
Sometimes, all you need to do to get rid of those negative thoughts are some days off of all your responsibilities to look at your problems from another perspective. I also noticed that relying on things can help you. For example, I started to stan a music band and this helped me continue going, the same way you can rely on religion or a thing you’re passionate about. Having a little thing you enjoy or your special moment to relax every day is the clue to start working on your confidence and build the ability to control your emotions.
Marina, I am here to listen to you. Although stress is normal and we go through one form of it everyday, it is equally true that what you are going through concerns you, which means you have a sense it is not normal for you. You have to do so much work, less sleep and more work. The problem is, lack of sleep only makes things worse. I have been working hard with my kids to make sure they get enough sleep because when they do not, I notice it affects their emotions. Michaela Horn(the speaker in the video) is my daughter. She also goes through a lot of stress because of school work, so I made a deal with her to try and take some of her stress away. This involves identifying what she is having problems with, providing tutors to help her, and the most important thing is talking to her all the time and making sure I listen and do something about her concerns. I am here to listen, and I would love to hear from you to know how you are doing.
@@marinac.ll.4840 Um how are you doing rn?
@@josephinehorn235 thank you for your kind words! It’s been a long time since my comment, and am doing better in life now. You’re incredible for all you did for your daughter!
With time, I’ve learnt how to manage my own stress and, as you said, sleep is so important. For me now, a minimum of 7 hours is non negotiable. I also schedule free time purposely, and know when to cut off things when I’m starting to get overwhelmed.
However, I do think that everything I went through during those times has shaped who I am. I definitely tend to suffer a lot from anxiety, mainly caused by my own expectations and others’. So my mental health is something I’m always taking care of.
Thank you again for listening! I hope everything is going well in life for you and your daughter!
You know what's frustrating and keeps us from solving, sharing our problems? When you tell somebody that you're stressed and feel bad (cheated, stressed, hurt, facing problems and pain) and they respond with "Stressed?/ Pained?/ Problems?/ Hurt? You don't even know what it is. I know what it feels like!" OR simply ignore that because they've no answer when they themselves are at fault.
Start listening to my problems, ask me what they are, give a trial solution. Maybe it won't reduce my hurt or solve the problem but I would surely, definitely feel better. Ask me about my problems if you have any respect or regret or even want to behave as humane with me.
Yes. Even when I was in HS and tried to share my issues with my family, they never took me seriously and waved it off as me throwing a tantrum. So I stopped sharing anything with them personal. I'm already 29 and nobody in my family still to this day refuse to acknowledge or believe about any issues I might bring up. Thankfully I had online friends who stood by me. And that helped me tremendously. But how ridiculous it is? Adults need to help children to go though their problems, not scar them for life.
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Parents expect us to live a healthy life and get good grades
When really the schools give us so much work that we need to stay up late and barely get any sleep
School tells us that you need sleep and things, but they also teach us how everything we do in life is either pointless or perfect
Perfect grades or pointless scars
How do I send this to my mom without ending up homeless.
I am 15 y.o. I have had hard time mentally for the last 1.5 years, because I think I made to much mistakes in my life. I have really good mark and I love learning foreign languages, but I feel like I am not working good enough for everything I have. I have been online - schooling for the last 2 years and I feel like I am not working as hard as my peers cause I am studying from home. I got 3rd place in my school English competition and I did not really feel any happiness, because I thought that "another people work harder". I have loved biology for 7 years of my life and I am not that passionate now. The problem is that I am a graduation year student and I wanted to go to the medical uni, but I don't want anymore. My mom recommends me to study philology, I agree with her now. I have been obsessed with music since I was 6., i have been learning accordion and piano for 6 years there, now I play guitar. Anyway, I don't know, where all this thoughts come really from, but anyway I feel much better after telling you about it.🙂
i really wish i could hug everyone in the comments rn 😭💞
Teachers in grade 2: Creativity is important! Express your opinion!
Teachers in grade 8: yoUR OPINION DOESNT MATTER
Teacher: welcome to your first day of school. Here are your puppet strings, don't talk, keep all your emotions bottled up inside, listen to every word we say and you will be succesfull.
Every kid in the school system: ...............
I’m writing a speech on the problems with the school system. This helped so much!!
I just wished that my parents would understand. It really seem like all what matters is school school school school, future future future future. I'm almost done with my senior year and all they care about is school and my education. I've always told my mom, "mom I'm burnt out." but they just always brush it off. It's hurts the most when all they tell me is, "you have to care. You don't care. All you do is okay games and do nothing." I play games to keep me distracted from becoming the worst for myself. I doubt have my older sister to help me this time, and I feel even more alone to the point where I don't want to feel our think of anything. I think my plan is... To continue working and save to money, while doing that I want to try to find sunbathing that I actually enjoy doing. I'm planning to get at least my associates/masters then just work. For sure, I'm gonna cry so much 😂 I'm stressed enough, and no matter how many times I try to explain myself their response to it is, "that's an excuse."
Same its weird but I get so overwhelmed in school with everything they flood my brain with to many things this is why I would hate school because I would get so much anxiety and I would get so overwhelmed that I would start crying its too much for kids even if we are in high school like just give us a break with the assignments
Ilove giraffes honestly same. My anxiety sometimes gets out of control and I start sweating and my hand starts shaking when I have any socially demanding tasks. Whenever we have to say prayer I don’t because of my voice and how everyone will judge me for it. Then there’s raising my hand in class which gets daunting because then they’ll think of me differently depending on my answer.
The sound of her breath on the mic is stressing me out
short but extremely powerful talk
I used to be so creative but now that I'm a teenager, none of the things I create interest my parents. They always want me to study. When I tell my dad that I'm learning a programming language, he just dismisses it telling me to study for school. I've lost interest in 4 to 5 programming languages and an actual human language that way. I was trying to learn French through duolingo and I lost interest in it after not telling anyone that I was studying it.
I'm always anxious now and I feel guilty for no reason at all. I get sudden sparks of motivation for about 30secs but it doesn't do much.
I see this video explaining my whole life
I hope you are dong well. I don't know you but I feel you can relate to the video because you have similar issues. I hope and pray you have someone to talk to about your concerns. It is very important you talk to loved ones to let them know how you feel. I am glad to see there are so many people out there who are compassionate and share these concerns. If you like the presentation, please pass on the link and share it with as many people as possible.
❤️❤️ Amazing speech 💓💓💚
❤️❤️ Sending all my love to everyone💖 and ofcourse to everyone who is Going through a though time, either because of school Stress or because of other things . You are loved, you are worth it ❤️💜. You are so strong, and you will get through this! 💓💓
honestly, im jealous of the students who have b's, c's, or d's sometimes and their parents are okay with it. i know i should be thankful about my grades, but theres the constant pressure to keep them up from my parents. i also do not do any music related activities, and i know that my parents are disappointed in me when other parents talk about the awards their children get. I feel like that they do not understand that if i sincerely have no interest in something, it'll drag me down even more. My parents get mad at me when i go one point down on a test, and i can feel the disapproval radiating off of them. it also makes me feel bad that when my friends always think that just because i am asian, i am born to always have good grades. it makes me feel mad angry because they do not realise the amount of work i put in and the hours i spent studying. i also feel jealous when they do the minimal amount of work, yet their parents are always there to praise them. when i try to talk to my friends about my problems, they always brush it off as me overreacting just because i have good grades so they think that therefore i have a perfect life. my friends always try to rub it in when i get a lower score then them, even if it is by 1 point and it makes me disappointed in myself. i can not talk to my parents about this as they do not believe in "fake mental illnesses" [rant over]
Agreed on many levels bless this girl for giving us something to fight for