Dear Grown-ups... Sincerely, Gen Z | Kimber Lybbert | TEDxSpokane
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- Опубликовано: 16 янв 2020
- Kimber Lybbert is National Board-certified teacher at Moses Lake High school, and her students keep telling her to write a book or give a TED talk. This year, her students argumentative research projects answer the question: What is it like to be a member of the class of 2020? Topics range from the lack of mental health counseling to the emerging mercantile nature of teen sexuality. Their stories reach down inside your core, draw the contents of your chest up through your sinus cavity, and lodge the debris somewhere behind your prefrontal cortex. They are beautiful and powerful and broken and patched together in ways that allow the best light of humanity to shine through them. In her talk she urges everyone to see the strength and potential in our young people. I am a National Board-certified teacher at Moses Lake High school, and my students keep telling me I need to write a book or give a TED talk. I don’t think this is because of who I am, but because of who they are. This year, their argumentative research projects answer the question: What is it like to be a member of the class of 2020? This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
"You can't treat us like infants and expect us to act like adults."
Joseph Schubert once when I was 7 years old my art teacher said “I wish I wouldn’t be here when they’re older” how was I supposed to believe in myself if at a young age someone who I supposed to trust doesn’t believe in me
Jeesem I felt that 😂
Yes but if you know better and choose to act like an infant ..... you are asking to be treated like an infant . So better decide how you would like to be recieved before you whine about how your are treated
Sounds like the millennial experience to me, tbh
EXACTLYYYY T v T
"If i'm wrong *educate* me dont *belittle* me"
-unknown
What all people should do
Yes
Kind of hard to educate without constructive criticism, but as a member of gen Z, I can say, it's gone a bit far.
@@nicholasstathos1387 constructive criticism shouldnt make you feel embarrassed and like your a failure,
@@nicholasstathos1387 you could argue that constructive criticism is, in and of itself, education.
Parents: Accuse me
Me: Respectfully defend myself
Parents: Are you *_aRgUiNg_* with me?!?!
frrr
Mine would always get mad and go with the phrase that "I always have something to say" when I defend myself in argument
This is infuriating and also universal I think... If I ever have kids, I swear I will listen to them properly and not shoot them down for being less experienced
@@Thebigcoffee yeah. i tell them that I do have something to say, write it down and walk away. have fun yelling at a piece of paper
My mom: (shouting)answer me am talking to you
Me : explaining
The same mom:don't talk back at me you're now a lied huh
There’s an old African proverb that I think applies to this, “if the youth are not initiated into the village, they will burn it down just to feel it’s warmth”
wait i thought it was like, "if the village is cold to the child, they will burn it down just to feel it's warmth"?
Reminds me of naruto
I thought the saying was "A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth"?
Ayyy 420th like
deeah khan
When I told my mom I felt like nobody takes me seriously she responded with "that's not true, you're making a big deal out of nothing"
Lemon my parents call me attention seeker. I just want to be heard
@Krii yeah I have people who care about me, and I'm glad, but my point is my mom said it out of annoyance and then started talking about how she had it way worse when she was young
My mom always says that too whenever I tell her about any bad emotions or something bad that happened. Then she tells me I can tell her anything.
I don't think I have resonated more with a comment, ever. This is my parents and everyone else every single day of my life. Thanks for putting this out there. And this doesn't have enough likes.
Krii I feel that parents should be the first ones to care for their children, because it is their duty as parents.
"stop treating us like infants and then expecting us to act like adults" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Love that quote
Don’t use the clap emoji
Yas qween preach
I was your 420 like ;)
@Leigha McGarrity do it
Am I the only one that hates when parents say stuff like “The adults are talking, don’t interrupt” ?
Good thing this never happened to me but I should start not doing that to my younger brother
SO MUCH. Like. Literally.
But worse, I'm saying something important, and they interrupt, then when they haven't said a word for ten seconds I try to finish and they say this.
Oml same but last time my friends and i were talking about something private and my mom came in like "what are you doing so secretively" and my friend literally said "The children are talking, don't interrupt."
frr
@@ivory-songbird517 lmao
The fact that "I wanna die" is humor to us gen Zers is probably an issue. But you know im still gonna find it funny.
Hey, if we already want to die we have nothing to fear for the future, in a sense. I mean what’s the worst they’re gonna do? Kill us? That’s kinda the standard threat right?
I'm blue
da ba dee da ba dy
no more breathe
i want die
@@suffering-everyday lol
@@suffering-everyday OMG IVE NEVER RELATED TO A BOP MORE
@@suffering-everyday lol
"he already knows he screwed up" THAT IS THE TEA
Omg yesss it’s like “yes. Fantastic. I knew I did a bad thing from the second I did it. I’ve been beating myself up about it plenty, trust me. You don’t need to yell at me for something that I clearly understand was wrong and that I won’t do again.”
@@certainlynotsav54 exactly! my parents don't understand how much I beat myself up all the time when I do something wrong and they make it so much worse, but when I try to tell them about it, they say I'm "talking back" and "making excuses"
@Jay dS So true. They only want to convince you they're listening, when they've already dismissed you. They’re not looking to help as much as they are looking to punish.
Savannah Smith when I tell them I already know I screwed up, they yell at me saying that I don’t, because I did it anyway
PERIODT!💅🏽
"idk"
"not question my abilities"
he's a gen Z that "idk" was sarcastic
Maïa yeah for us idk never means idk it’s either completely sarcastic or it just means i had to think about my answer for more than a second
Idk (pun unintended) about anyone else but for me I feel like 'idk' is more like 'I have an opinion but I'm not sure if it's valid' or 'this is my reply but I don't know if it's the right answer'. It just goes to show the insecurity we have (assuming others are like me) in the worth of our opinions and thoughts that the culture of adults ignoring gen z has caused.
@@mokang6859 THIS
This observation of yours is completely subjective lmao, gen z here.
Mo Ka Ng YES. This. 👌🏼
Why am I, a teenager, seen this instead of a group of adults and parents who REALLY need to hear this?
To boost the algorithm
I am a parent of 3 and my eldest is 17. I am here and listening.
Every Google Slides presentation, or other online presentation app that is sent to a teacher, put a link to this video. Or if your parents want to see how you did, put the link on several different pages, they will be interested in what it is and why. Or even if you have a typed essay, put the link on there, then if you must, you can delete it before submitting it. I want to send this to everyone, but I am lucky to have very nice parents along with all the other kids I associate with, but still sometimes (even though it’s often rare) they doubt me or tell me about how I can do better even thought I got a B or a low A on assignments and tests. I’m not sure what my friends parents would think of this, so I would leave it up to their kids to show them, and I will show my own if I feel it’s needed. I turned 16 on February 9th and I consider to be very lucky to have as good of parents as I do, but I would definitely love for them to see my side more. I want this to be recommended to everyone like Markiplier’s Meow was not too long ago.
@@jeniececook8704 That comforts me and upsets me at the same time.
@@jeniececook8704 but thanks, I guess.
"Teenagers have a 6th sense of hypocrisy."
Facts.
i agree
I didn't understand
@William Thomas lmao
this tends to be local phenomenon
"an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator." woah
Children like me get discriminated alot just because we are young they always say "You're too young for that" or "You wouldn't understand" or
"You don't deserve respect because you are small". I mean we're humans also right? We deserve respect but all we get is hate. Boomers destroyed nature and now they are saying "Protect Earth, It's in danger." Like our Generation is literally making solar cars but Boomers are saying "Why are you destroying Earth, stop doing that!" It is like they threw is in a fire and now they're laughing at us for being in the fire. Oh wait a minute I just wrote so much bye,bye.
- 11 year old :)
"My kid is doing badly in school, lets take away some of the things they like"
"They are doing worse, better take them away for longer"
A vicious cycle that we have all experienced in one way or another. The worst part about it is the hopelessness and despair knowing you won't ever live up to their expectations.
Also: Let's throw away all their precious toys, because they are bullied in school and can't do better after moving away from everything they knew/friends. That'll teach them.
@@sasha3010
"oh no! my kid is depressed and suicidal! must be those damn phones and social medias. lets take those aswell. they need to live with family!"
"my kid commit suicide. such a shame, there was nothing we could have done"
Good job, you just made ascetic philosopher.
Yes you take away some of the things they like (specifically those that are distractions) , then help them get better. Make time to help them with their homework.
"Stop telling me to try harder when i'm already at my limit."
"Stop being so dramatic your life"s not bad so stop saying your hurting and depressed when i know your not"
This hurts so bad.
@@princesscathrynannaliseeli4979 This, literally this. I have a lot of mental health concerns that are invisible to basically everyone but me, a select few around me who know the extent of what I've gone through, and my therapist (she's amazing, and I admire all therapists for having the mental fortitude to be able to help the people who come to their door so substantially). When people say that (or similar) to me or others, it hurts because they just can't see through the fence and see the person on the inside who's hurting.
Sorry that was kinda long i needed to get it out haha
this is sort of why most teens retreat to friends instead of talking to parents, which in turn confuses adults even though they probably did the same thing
me rn. I've stopped talking to them completely about my mental health and personal issues. I've cried so much in my room alone and they don't know a thing. They hurt me emotionally so much more by their unwillingness to change or acknowledge my issues. It's a hard balance (that I'm trying to figure out) to still keep a relationship with them and not resent and hate them but keeping a distance from them so that I don't get emotionally hurt anymore. Thank God I managed to find friends I can talk to. Otherwise I would've been in full on depression now
one, go to a party, although you'd probably have a meltdown.
but you will probably get adopted by cool extroverts.
The day I came out and heard my parents tell me I’m wrong to my face was the day I decided they don’t deserve my respect, and I resorted to my friends, who respect me and understand me.
@@EvanNeedsTherapy Honestly. I came out as trans to my aunt (legal guardian, long story) literally years ago now and she loves to bring it up randomly and harass me about it, and we have other issues. She probably wonders why I don't talk to her about what goes on in my head, because if that's how she treats me when I bring up things that I genuinely care about, why would I trust her with the rest? My friends have always (more or less) respected me enough to call me what I prefer to go by and understand me, so I respect them.
thats just adolescence in general.
My mom said last week “You’re still a child!!” I’m 16. Child or not don’t all humans deserve respect?
I was taught by my teachers (not my parents tho)
That children doesn't deserve respect
My mom said that when I was telling her my opinion on a topic... I’m 17 :/
When on earth did she say that she didnt respect you?
Discra Huro She has never said it outright, but she makes it clear in our interactions that I’m lesser-than since I’m younger. (Edit: punctuation)
@@Smoothjazz001 No, she hasn't lmao
It has nothing to do with your age, it's your incompetence
“but because they were born into a world they reject” wow, fax tho
More accurately - past generations designed a world that future generations would reject
Yeah, they thin they have no reason to put up with it, and honestly, that’s fair
But here’s the conflict they reject the world because they see the flaws. But then the generation that preceded theirs strong arms them into excepting it. Think of it as a sociological or anthropological coercion.
Then quit rejecting it
Discra Huro OH! OF COURSE!!! WHY DIDN’T WE THINK OF THAT! Have asthma? JUST BREATHE MORE! Depression? JUST BE HAPPIER! Cancer? JUST STOP MAKING CELLS!
“You and what army?”
The entirety of Gen Z: *us*
💪👏🏿👏🏿😎 Gen Z
like- we got anonymous on our side.
avengers
assemble
@@mya6014 😂😂
Not to mention half of us don’t care wether we live or die so we will fight to the death for our cause
Pro life boomers: “that baby’s life matters”
Also them: “you’re just being dramatic you aren’t suicidal”
What they refuse to understand will hit them hard when they finally decide to
All the pro-life people I know are not insensitive to mental health issues. And, there are many gen Z pro lifers also. We care about babies in the womb and all people outside the womb.
@@taylornicole5586 agreed!
Seriously?! Who says the latter? That's horrible! If you are suicidal, please get help. 😢
@Taylor Nicole , that's too bad. I'm a pro-life millennial who cares about both. Those outside of the womb are just as important as those who are inside of it.
A great quote I’ve heard- “Those who criticize this generation forget who raised it.”
In a similar vein, "Kids today, they have no one to look up to.... Because they're looking up to us." - Don Draper, Mad Men (s1e04).
This, tbh
true true.
Man this hit hard
On the contrary, I think it is precisely because older generations view us as a byproduct of whatever mistakes they made, it's hard for them to entirely let go of the responsibility they have of raising and shaping us. It's like how writers continually criticize their own work, except the line between WIP and publication is hella blurred.
I feel like a lot of the problem is the fact that our parents treat us like kids until we’re 17 and the second we’re 18 they do a 180 and push us out
too true
Sometimes yea. I definetely felt a shift there, but they still treat me like im 12
I got kind of the opposite. I am the oldest sibling and the oldest cousin and I've had responsibilities shoved on me from a young age. I was never allowed to be a kid. Now I look back and feel like I missed out on a huge part of my life; the part of life my parents constantly told me to stop and enjoy while simultaneously forcing me to speed through it.
Literally omfg 😒
YES.
I feel like everyone forgets that each generation is smarter than the last because they have all the knowledge of the previous and their own
My parents are gen x while I am a gen z
Ur pfp is cursed
@@peteryeeterson5766 yeah it's also about 8-9 years old now and I just haven't changed it lol
Every generation gets smarter by about 20 IQ points, this is call the Flynn effect, it's caused by increases knowledge of previous generations
This is a joke right
“Those who criticize this generation forget who raised it.” "stop treating us like infants and then expecting us to act like adults" "an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator." “ Stop blaiming the technology about your child's problems just because you dont want to see that you are the problem”
I like the quotes but you didn’t actually quote anyone
@@ianowens1905 they were from the video and from the comment section :)
That's right tell them
the technology is definitely the problem lol. letting instant stimulus raise your child is horrible.
"an idea should not be invalidated by the age of its creator."
inverse of "authority" argument... which states that an idea should not be validated by any quality, other than the idea itself.
consider that the next time you want to use the phrase "all scientists agree," in any context.
which is not nearly as often the case as it might seem, as data requires interpretation.
perhaps it isnt so much "the age" of the person, but that those who lack experience have such a high tendency to be wrong.
this projection of sorts, seems to me, to be just as much of a parenting issue as anything.
personally, i was never treated like this particular factor was reason i wasnt being agreed with... and this is an important distinction to make. disagreement is not invalidation.
fortunately for me, my parents had no issues explaining to me why they thought what they did and i was taught to ask question and not to be afraid what people think.
i force people to explain themselves so that i understand them and can properly judge if it makes sense to me. i was never that one who rebelled against the opinions of the more experienced "because" i felt misunderstood. afterall, theyve been there and are more often than not, in my experience, trying to help.
this isnt entirely altruistic, and should therefore necessarily be considered with suspicion, however, you should always consider the motivations of others...
emotionally, helping the younglings in this way, can feel like a sort of reconciliation with choices they regret.
its ok to be disagreeable.
its not ok to force others to agree with you.
Someone who drowns in 3 feet of water is just as dead as someone who drowns in 20. Just because you believe your problems are worse than someone else's, doesn't make their pain go away. Something my mom always said was, If everyone threw their problems in a pile, you would want to take yours back. You have no idea the daily struggle that people go through. Just because you go to work everyday, does not make me going to school any easier. Just because you have pay the bills, doesn't mean my math homework gets easier. I try to have a conversation, see your side of the argument and you tell me I'm talking back. Of course I'm talking back, that's how conversations work. All I ask is to be sincerely listened to, and I would give the same respect back. Respect is earned not granted to all whom are older than me.
I feel this. It's exactly how life was with my mother. I can't even count the number of times she reminded me that I have a roof over my head and food in my stomach. But that didn't make my childhood depression any less dangerous. Your opening sentence is inspired and captures an idea that I've never had words for. Well, I've had words, but your sentence is concise and they say "brevity is the soul of wit".
I know I'm missing the point here but
"Don't talk back to me"
"But that's how conversations work tho..."
Is fully a comeback that I'm going to use.
Im Just gonna write a song inspired by your comment. Totally feel you dude.
You could not have put how I feel into any better words. Thank you.
This is exactly what I'm going through. Everytime I say anything that mildly hurts their pride it's like I just started a war or when I make a small mistake like tripping or opening the door too loud they'd say I do everything wrong.
Hey RUclips, do is this one favour, just this one:
Recommend this video to everyone, no matter their age, race, gender, regardless of all demographics or even if your algorithm thinks they'd be interested or not, and keep recommending it until they've watched it.
pip jam
No. No murder.
Fandom Is Awesome
Well... if they clearly don’t know English, there’s no point...
RUclips did it with me. It was in my recommendation for like a month or so. It is possible that you made a difference with your comment, but I don't think it's plausible.
Worked for me! This video has been recommended to me about five times in the past month, I never see something more than once or twice unless it's by someone I've seen quite a few videos from.
Hey, this worked wonders. Seriously recommended it to me for weeks on end and here I am. Great video, glad I watched it!
“Your supposed to raise your kids, not lower them into depression.”
-Someone
"She's so lazy."
"Come here dear you have to study harder to get a good job because you won't be able to live. You are lazy and you can't do anything so study hard so you can pay people"
Words my parents tell me that hurts but there are other things they say to me that hurts more.
it would be better to show sympathy and go
"I understand it's hard- let's take a day off, do whatever you want get the courage, and go tear those exams and score the greatest grade you are possible to score"
good university or bad you will still get the qualification
" you are so annoying " ..... It's not just my parents who say it but still I feel scared that there will be more people who say it , it hurts because I am the one they come to when they need something but when I need something nobody is there , when I say I can't help them they say I am selfish , I can't even defend myself because if I do I am disrespecting them .
Stop blaiming the technology about your child's problems just because you dont want to see that you are the problem
PREACHHHHHHHHH
myparents take my phone and my computer when my lights are on at night. They think its because I was on technology instead of getting excersise so im not tired. its because I saw a demon watching me in the gorner of my eye and now im panicking. taking any way to contact my friends who understand that doesnt help, it makes me have an anxiety attack.
the most underrated comment i have ever seen
Right?!? My parents blame TV and books(I read a lot) for all my problems. Like, you must have done something wrong too and I must have too. You can’t just ignore it and throw the blame on stuff that have influenced me positively.
preachhhhhhh
i can relate to tht to an extent i can't explain in words
"Unpracticed does not equate with unworthy"
This hit different
XxChesire_CatxX almost 3 thousand likes and no replies wow
@@KK-jp5fu and then you had to ruin it didn't you.
Lmao
Been working in construction for the past 3 summer's full time and I'm 17 right now. One of the new guys on the crew has been treating me like I'm worthless while doing insulation which I've never done. Started putting me and my other coworker down and said the other three on the crew would make so much more money if it was them three. Yet were the ones learning and lifting beams for you. This quote is perfect for the scenario and I might mention it to him bc it really made me want to quit after 3 summers of breaking my back for someone to say I'm not giving my part in the company bc I haven't learned how to do one thing in which I could be taught?? Sucked. I stepped on a nail yesterday and worked all week with a sprained back and neck and it pisses me off I'm ruining my body for money that goes away so fast.
@@pluto1730 I'm sorry no one appreciates you at your job. You seem to work very hard and it's unfair how those guys are treating you. Also, 3 summers? God damn you're hella resilient. If it was me I would've quick the moment the first summer was over.
my teacher actually asked to quote me on this and im kinda proud “if someone feels like they’re not being heard, they’re going to stop talking.” - Me
(for context i was a 13yo and a freshman which is why im kinda proud)
@@nicop6951
Off topic but I love Pjo! Today is actually Nicos bday!
@@camrynkaercher66 Same uwu
This honestly hit so hard it made me cry
and then they ask why are you not talking, if u are not gonna listen to me just because my views are different from yours why should I waste the toxic air that I breathe in...idk I'm livid rn
There was one week of school where I had so many giant essay type assignments due, and so I started working on them as soon as I got them and tried tackling them as much as possible, becoming a vampire and staying up late to try and finish things early, and then nearly handing in things late. There was one day in that two week period where I spent time with a friend for five hours. That is the only time besides limited sleeping and eating that I took for myself. My mom told me that I shouldn’t have spent so much time with my friend, so it was my fault even though I tried hard and sacrificed sleep to get things done that one assignment would be handed in a little late. I talked to my grandmother about that and she told me that “that isn’t fair of her. You deserve much more than five hours of time for yourself to enjoy your youth” and I broke down in tears because that’s exactly what I think everyone in our generation needs to hear.
That's amazing
Your grandma got me in tears too, and I didn’t even hear that directly
i just started crying wtf
“Don’t tell me how my students are lazy, cowardly, or soft unless you want to sit down and discuss how to strengthen them.”
I love this so much!
Also known as constructive criticism.
Pablo the Commando ur kinda missing the point
Not really. Discussing why somebody is bad instead of saying somebody is bad is constructive criticism.
Telling it how it is, doesn't necessarily mean it's that person's job to strengthen them. People criticise me and don't help. Either ignore haters or take their criticism, with a grain of salt.
Im not trying to be a socialist here, but i do advocate respect not wholesale discounting of peoples value. i.e. simple respect carries a financial and psychological burden.
I loved the part of “stop crying weak when they cry for help”. This world is so uncertain and it takes a lot of strength to ask for help in the first place. To call someone weak or to make them feel like their need for help makes them less than is the same as turning a blind eye. All kids and students need the most support we teachers are capable of.
It's why I stopped crying for help. It never got me help; it just got adults to cry "weak," so I stopped crying for help because I thought they didn't care, and I knew it wouldn't get me anywhere.
I purposely shut off my ability to cry for years because I thought crying and any sensitivity was a sign of weakness and had to be hidden and bottled up. I cried in front of my mum for the first time in years this year and I think it scared her to remember that I had feelings aha. I'm so glad our generation invites conversation about feelings and mental health because we have learned from past generations that trying to seem tough all the time only makes you hard on the outside and is not cathartic.
I would also like to point out that America has a very sick obsession with competition. And social Darwinism. Teen suicide is a very real problem just as much is teen substance abuse yet America still adheres to its fanatical obsession with survival of the fittest yet scratches its collective head when kids shoot up their classmates or hang themselves in closets or become alcoholics before they are even of legal age to drink.
I have a real fear of asking for any help because every time I reach out it’s met with negativity
I actually kinda agree. The only thing I find weak, is when they let death take over. That's ultimate defeat. I think it should be a global goal to empower eachother and rise up against our common enemy, Negativity. We're all warriors. Those that fail to realize that, need hugs.
Imagine growing up hearing "You can be whatever you want" and when you do what you want you get laughed at
I just want adults to realize that we're smarter than they think. I want them to recognize that we can do more than they think we can. We're young, yes, but we're still humans, just like you. We can think, feel, and empathize. We aren't going to tolerate toxic behaviour from older generations anymore. We will make the change.
some of us are older than them - in soul
some of us lived more than they did, but our current bodies just didn't.
I was raised by the internet and my parents neglected me, therefore, my set of knowledge is all from the uncensored earlier days of the internet world 💀
We can do more than they think, we can be a part of the decisions they make for us, unless it's chores in which case I'm feeling kinda sick and woozy need to sit down ngl
bro you have a danganronpa pfp i cant take you seriously. cry about it as you wish but we will be EXACTLY the same as these older people.
@@wtfimcrying some of us will change and will do better, others (you), who, wrote off everything this guy said just because his profile pic was "cringe" will be the same losers who screw up the future. YOU are the people that will prove gen x was right to call us worthless because you are everything that gen x and baby boomers hate about gen z. You are clearly not a free thinker, so you probably won't have any good contributions or new ideas that will help the future. So I guess you're half way right. Don't try and change because your attempts at doing so will probably be pretty embarrassing for you.
When its a letter for grown ups from gen z but most of the people watching are gen z
Facts. I bet most non-Gen Z ppl just saw the title and kept scrolling.
I'm a gen x watching so I can support my son. We are here and you are being heard. Best wishes for you.
Millennials binge TEDx at 3am too
It’s because some grownups are filled with so much pride and so much of that ‘back in my day I did a, b, c, and d’ others don’t want to understand. But there are many others who want to understand and want to help. But as she said in the video, they are kids what do they know about being a grown up
I think we wanted to see if we were heard.
If we send this to our parents they'll just consider it "talking back"
Yes thats how it works
Facts
yeah fr tho
Unfortunately. Because this is exactly what I want them to know but I would get in some hot trouble if I ever said they were parenting me wrong.
fr
“Never in my childhood did I ever feel like a child, I felt like a person all along. The same person I am today”
Same, like. Crazy world we live in :”)
Before you lecture a teenager don't forget you were one too.
yeah but then they use the line "I know I did it but that doesn't mean you get to do it" or something of the sort.
it doesnt really matter though, cause they were teens in different times, so their views are different
Please remove that comma
Eater of Essence oh
But I can say to my teenagers, "I went down that road when I was a teen and it didn't end well. I urge you not to."
Teenagers are treated like adults without the freedoms. Maybe that’s why so many adults act like teenagers.
I’m tired of all these stereotypes that all teenagers are just depressed screenaholics with greasy hair and faces that thrive of off rebellion and controversy. We are NOT all like that; in fact, that’s probably less than one percent of teens. And there are adults like that too! So stop acting like it.
‘I’m older and smarter than you.’ ‘I don’t want to hear your opinion.’ ‘Don’t give me attitude or I’ll take away your phone, because that’s CLEARLY all that matters to you.’ Gen Z is the first generation to grow up with widespread and easily accessible tech, with phones and iPads and AirPods. This is gonna sound stereotypical, but most adults DON’T understand and don’t make efforts to. We promote not treating people differently if they’re old, but what about young people?
Why are you all so surprised that we reject the world when the world rejects us?
Why do you teach us to not listen to stereotypes if that’s all you treat us as?
Why is any concern we raise invalidated due to our youth and treated like nothing?
Why do you teach the future keepers of the world that our entire personality can be summarized into one eight letter word that I now despise?
‘Ugh. T-E-E-N-A-G-E-R-S.’
b a n a n a r a m a perfectly describes my life
You can always guess than whenever a high school age person is being addressed as "Young Man" or "Young Lady" that whatever follows is going to be patronizing and unpleasant.
If you wouldn’t use tech so much and constantly stare at a screen it wouldn’t be a stereotype
@@sierraa.bryant9322 Thanks for adding fuel to the fire...*insert eyeroll here*
Seriously, why -.-
@@sierraa.bryant9322 Well as of right now we don't have much of a choice do we? 😂
Once my I got grounded for 2 weeks for wearing a “boys button up shirt” the only difference between that and a “girls” button up shirt is the buttons are on opposite side I Told her that and was called sassy like bro chill I made a valid point against you and now you salty I asked for some “boy” jeans because the pockets are big and I like the way they fit and then my mom was like “no ❤️“ I’m rather peeved
Bruh that's literally so weird that your mom did that
@@abyss6484 ikr
my mother won't let me cut my hair because short hair "isn't a 'respectable' length for a girl"
@@waywardspire I’m a male with hair down to my shoulders, but I was fortunate enough to have parents who gave me freedom
@@waywardspire my hair is short and my parents don't care
when we tell adults something factual they call it disrespect because they dont want to admit that its true.
Unfortunately not all adults are as open minded as this
i’m trying so hard to figure out how to send this to my dad without him taking it as an attack like he does every time i try to start a conversation.
just send him, like 4 other ones with it 😂
Post it somewhere
Tell me about it. Every time I try to bring up something he thinks it's an attack on him. Then again, both of my parents are convinced that any characters I create for the stories I write are reflections of how much I despise them. At those times I just want to throw back that rant my father likes giving me when I bring up a concern I have and he's all "You need to learn this world doesn't revolve around you!" Well, my world doesn't revolve around you either father, I have other people in it that influence me and thanks for smacking my hand away when I bought into the "we'll always be here for you" talk you gave throughout my childhood. Nice to know when I needed help and reached out to you for it you were just looking for a reason to call me selfish and you actually had no intentions of being there for me.
@@RooftopRose079 I think it's best to speak your mind during these conversations. You have some valid points you can use. Also, if you respond calmly and with confidence about what you're saying it's more likely you'll be heard. Try to show them their flawed way of thinking and that sometimes you just want to communicate with them.
I feel this on a personal level
if i send my mother this she will cut the wifi
That’s ruff
FELT
That sounds about right. I once asked my mom to stop yelling at me while I was crying, so she yelled louder that I was just doing this to myself
I feel like almost all the parents that need to see this will do that
do it anyway
I'm a 13 year old girl who just put down a razor because of this. I can't promise I won't pick it up again but now k want to try to stop. Now I want to try.
i wish you all the best and send you my love and care.
@@chimmyslayin7130 🦍
@@donaldduck6943 lmao what
You can do it. You just need to keep your head above water. For as long as you can.💗
I wish you luck, please have a good day and if you think about using the razor again, don't. I don't know you but i hope you're okay, at least enough to keep going.
we didn't start the fire, you just tossed us straight in it and started laughing
They tossed us in then condemned us for burning
Preach. Also awesome song!
Coming from a millennial who's been wading through the fire for a while now, it doesn't get easier. However that doesn't mean you should stop trying. Our Generations were fed all sorts of nonsense like 'do what you love' and 'you can achieve anything you put your mind to', yet there is just a grain of truth in that. If you put constant work into self improvement then you can do alright, not great, but alright. Don't search for utopia, don't search for perfection because you won't get them. Just do the best you can everyday with the situation you've been dealt and hope to find meaning in that.
Finally, and I know I can't speak for everyone here, but your parents do try. I know it feels like they don't understand you, and you're probably right, but they do their best and you'll miss them when they're gone. Take that one from experience.
why did i read this to the tune of we didnt start the fire
NPC POP after all, it was always burning since the worlds been turning.
"alex did not ask for gender confusion" to anyone's who's ever said being lgbtq is a choice
Yeh I feel bad. Past generation have enforced gender roles and appearance so much that people that differ from the traditional way of thinking believe that there is something wrong with themselves. They believe this so much that they undergo surgeries and medical treatment.
its like being on an addiction. you're like: "i know everybody's gonna hate me for doing this; and this is probably really bad to do, but damn does it feel good to do it.
@@jackcolson4745 lol in a way i guess
I'm trans, so I know how much that sucks.... Ur right LGBTQ+ is not a choice!!!! If I could stop feeling this way I would.. Damn it people!
I use to think it was a choice but then I realized it's a way you feel ,and you can't control how you feelp
"Love me for who I am, not who YOU think I should be."
I've never commented on anything ever, but this just felt different to me. I love my parents, and I'm especially close to my mom, but sometimes I feel like I have no one to open up to. My solution to deppression and suicidal thoughts was always just making it into a joke, or tell myself that I'm being overdramatic, but in the end, my pain is just as real as anyone's. I know that my parents have had rough childhoods and that their loves have not been easy, but this does not mean that my life is. Even if my problems may be much more internal it does not mean they don't exist, and my parents have a very clear and "happy" vision for my life, but I'm not sure it would be MY life. I want to be happy for myself, not for others. So that means that if I'm 14 and bi my parents should love me for it, even if it isn't exactly what they envisioned for me. Everyone deserves respect and love. No matter who you are, or what you are going through, YOU, personally, deserve love and respect and I wish you the best. There is someone out there who will love the real you. Strive to find people like that, and find your own happiness.
@@thatonekid8261 Thank you for sharing your feelings. I wish that I could say that changing peoples visions for you is easy, however most of the time it takes time, effort and sadly some disagreements. I hope that your parents realise that their dream is not your dream. Know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it may just be the you need to find a different track first. However it is there. never be ashamed of who you are. You are beautiful, amazing and wonderful. never ever let anyone make you think otherwise. May love guide you to a happier place. :)
Thank you! You seem like an honestly amazing person and I wish you the best. My journey may just be at it's beginning, but I really appreciate those who are supportive and kind because they are getting harder and harder to find. It's so refreshing to find gems in daily life, and your comment truly made my day, I hope you have an incredible day and life!
E X A C T L Y
The only one who will love you like this with unconditional love is your Lord Jesus Christ. He died for us while we were yet sinners ❤
I told my mum that i was feeling really depressed and that i didnt want to be on earth anymore. She told me that i belong on a stage because i was being dramatic and attention seeking
I hope you're ok, I don't know you but I'm sure you're amazing, beautiful, and deserve basic human rights like everyone else, and I hope you can be happier :>
I was told to say sorry to god and repent when I was a 11 and super suicidal. Parents are weird.
As a gen Z myself this hit me hard I legit cried watching this cause I feel the pain that my generation has gone through, the wars we've been through doesn't define who we are, we are strong yet you treat us like children but in the times we need you the most you treat us as a grown-up that should know what to do, to the older generations what are we to you?
Leslie Snow yea I agree with all of that. I just started watching ted talk Thank god I found this.
Same I cried too
Me too. I was really close to crying the entire time.
I have a couple years to I liked her if we are gonna destroy people and take the goverment over spare her
they threat you like children because u are their son, daughter or whatever the other genders are. They raised you and helped you become who you are today, they feed you and give you shelter and a roof to sleep under. they are trying to make you a better person, even if it doesn't seem like it
I'm 15, sitting in my room, crying. I never realized how much I needed to know that someone realizes this about us
I'm 24, I have the highest hopes for Gen Z. I have no doubt that your generation will be smarter, and more compassionate than those who came before. I look forward to seeing what you guys do with this world. It has to be better than what we inherited. No pressure haha.
Sophie Shepherd Thank you!! That means so much to me and the rest of my generation!!!
@@SavageBear_YT Just turned sixteen last week... I wanna say I’m so grateful for this comment. Your hope for us means so much 💞
Me too except I'm 14
yeah i am crying too
I love how this video is for older people to understand us as gen z but all the comments are gen z, why arent the adults in our lives here???
Exactly
the boomer's feeble brains can't figure out "how to open the RUclips internet app site or whatever"
I´m kind of in the middle. As a Millenium Child and a mother of my 10 year old daughter. I personally have the same problems with my family as you guys have. I´ve tried to change my parents for 30 years. Only last year I realized that change can only come from within. Also our parents have experiences that shaped them the way they are today. They had to survive a cruel world and when you have to "survive" something, these features are extremely hard to change because they are the reason you made it this far in life. Your savety net. What the Gen Z is doing extremely right is to look at these Videos and make the future better. This is what I decided for myself and I see the fruits of this change when speaking to my little humans in class :)
You honestly believe most old people without an agenda actually care about us? Look how they treat each other what do you think they believe about us?
They call us millennials
Dad: "You need to be more independent."
'Can I walk 5 meters out the door?'
Dad: "Absolutely not. Do you know how hard I work? You are so ungrateful."
'Uhm- I just asked to leave the house for once in my life-'
Teenagers are people too
Most of them... jajaja jk.
True, also kids.
Some teenagers are adults.
first time I've heard that
I feel like an alien lol we're sometimes treated as such
Keoh 8 and are they not people? The elderly are the elderly, adults are adults, teenagers are teenagers, and kids are kids, but at the end of the day we are all people.
You don't need to ask me
" What's your problem "
when I'm struggling
A hug would do.
Not words of fear.
Not words of hate.
Not even words.
Your comment is so underrated. I wrote the exact same thing but in like 200 words. Just...perfect and to the point. I love it.
@@artificialgoodness aw thanks, that really means alot! ^w^//
also NANI I have 35 likes?!
thank you all :')
@@sleepysundew9544 Question. Are you japanese?? I'm just asking because of the NANI you wrote
True, sometimes I just want to feel someone's still there and I'll be fine.
@@artificialgoodness no hehe I’m not 😂 it’s actually funny you ask that because face to face I get asked the same dang thing
This is for the older generations in the comments here:
All we want is for you to not look down on us. Trust us. We dont want over protective parents. We just parents that will listen and be there. We dont want to feel like we have to hid everything from you.
Dont just instantly get mad at us. Try to talk to us. See what's going thru our head. Sure we dont like to talk much but that's because you all have made it feel like we cant trust anyone. You've made us feel like our best will never be good enough.
Please. Just listen to us and have some trust. Please
~from a 13 year old
I'm a teenager, and I feel this in my bones. I don't have anything smart or witty to say like others in the comment section, but thank you
whatever u say from ur heart will be smart because I will relate to you.
thank you. for your existence, for your understanding, for your voice.
on behalf of gen z, thank you so much.
nutella chickeee also on behalf on that weird awkward area where it's not quite gen z but not quite millennial
dagamerguyofawesome gen Z is 1997-2012... so that “awkward area” people talk about, that’s gen z. People think gen z is the “Jake Paul” generation or whatever but that’s mostly gen alpha.
Thanks from me as well. - I'm Gen Y ('83) and this hits close to home as well. No one is perfect. Or was. - Not even you boomer reading this maybe. Our economy doesn't work that way anymore. Looking forward to the change some of the Gen Z will make. And I am looking forward to the changes my Gen Z siblings will make. (I have two. And they're very social and hardworking individuals.) Life isn't always fair. As she said. But give a chance to the "rebels/different thinking/creative" and the "silent readers/softspoken". They can shape society.
Your profile pic gives me life😆💖 it's small and a tad blurry, but I know the batfam when I see them! 👀
Dont mind me, Im just commenting so the algorithm can recommend this to all the boomers
!!!
👏👏👏
May I join you?
Don’t mind me, just joining
Im joining in 🆒️
Go to any high school and see 15-18 year olds treated like inmate babies and then the second they graduate they’re expected to be grown smh
Exactly! I graduate in a week, and I know next to nothing about how to survive in the real world.
Yeah, its like the schools didn't teach you anything of resource. Parents may be teaching you life lessons, but they don't teach you the ways to get by in life. What am I supposed to do with Algebra when the job I want has nothing to do with algebra. How about teaching us things that will help us.
The fact that this is reality is why I, a high schooler, want to teach high school someday. I see how the kids are treated and it breaks my heart. How can an industry set children up to fail and then expect success?
When parents say "oh well, [insert reasons why your feelings aren't valid here]
I think they forget that this is some of the worst pain we've ever felt. because guess what WE AREN'T 45 YEARS OLD!!! we have not lived as long as you. Sure, you might've had a rough upbringing. sure, i might be ungrateful. this breakup is still hard for me because they were my first boyfriend. This ob is still really stressful because it's my first job. trying to balance my scheduel is still really hard, because i've never had this much going on. I haven't had to balance work, cooking, cleaning, and two screaming toddlers, but having to juggle a job, seven classes + homework and soccer practice is really rough. Parents, please take time to listen and validate your child
We aren't going to listen if we aren't being heard.
Lemme just pin this in my head real quick
i need this to get stamped on my head brb
FACTS
Now thats not right... What about this? "To be a friend is to be a friend" or "To be a parent is to be a parent". Think about that plz
@@kgesch6833 you missed the point they aren’t repeating the same phrase like you are they’re saying if you want us to listen then start listening to us too
i want to have a conversation where my parents can't talk.
Same but sadly I can't speak about my emotions because I know no one will listen to the only one who listen is my cousin but sometimes I wonder does she even care.....
I wish I could tell my mom and dad “ I hate living in a religiously divided household. Don’t you realize how confused I get? I’m supposed to honor and respect you both but how can I do that when you both have different views of religion? It’s not fair to me.”
Me to bc whenever I try my mom starts yelling then says get out my face and doesnt let me talk
Same like
@@lillylion1636 do you want to talk sweetie
Whenever I cry from my mom screaming at me for something I didn’t do (but she doesn’t give me enough time to explain that, she simply yells over me), she simply tells me to shut up and stop being so sensitive
I remember sitting there, desperately choking on my sobs and trying to stop the noises coming from me in fear that she’d do something if I didn’t, and it honestly sucked.
As a big sister, a severely misunderstood daughter, and a mommy, this really grabbed my heart tight. I worry so much about my youngest brother, knowing how much I was out through and him still being at home. He’s reserved unless he’s with friends, like I was. Hiding in his room when he’s home, like I did. He has dreams and ideas for HIS life that our parents don’t understand. Someone commented here something about if a person doesn’t feel heard, they’ll stop talking. And I feel like my baby brother has stopped talking. I feel like I don’t know how to make sure he knows I love him and I value his thoughts and dreams. Children need our support, and they deserve nothing less. They’re people too, whose lives and words are not worth less just because they’re smaller or younger. They deserve to be heard, and we need to listen. To the children and teens of the world, I love you and I’m sorry so many of us failed you. I hear you, I see you, and my heart breaks for you. You are not snowflakes. You’re so much more capable, so much stronger than you’re given credit for. I wish older people could see how much change this generation is making, in the way we view the world and each other, and so much more. They are so much more.
how do i send this to my parents without sending it to them
Lidia Baker - dude just send it, you’ve got a right to so do it. It’s your voice so use it.
I so wanna send this to my parents too... but I’m slightly terrified of the response
Lily Willette - I mean if your in a safe position then why not. Plz don’t risk ur safety tho
I’m fine. I just don’t want my parents to think I’m ungrateful. 🙃
Contact RUclips and tell them to put it everywhere on faceboomer
I think all adults should hear this.
I think everyone should hear this
Well most adults are too busy being scared of the internet to learn from it, and thus them being scared of the future leads o there not being one.
especially toxic adults
@@daybreak_eclipse7516 alright sure. But what good is it doing calling adults out when they can call us out too? For you to determine who's toxic and who isn't is toxic itself. How about we don't.
Silenced_Rain
Common sense dictates who should be considered toxic. Are they intentionally inflammatory? Are they seemingly incapable of compassion for the other side, and are being inflammatory whether or not they intend to? Are they being bigoted?
I hate how we get to have to be okay with our parents insulting us while we can't even joke about insulting them . Like Dad you can't tell me oh you're really acting like a grown up and immedately telling me that I'm such a child and that I should grow up like everyone around me. And Mom I don't need to hear about how short I am every time from you who is only 2 inches taller than me. My parents just gave me insecurities about stuff that I didn't even care about . smh
Some of us leech on to the internet and spend all our time on it because that’s all we have, when our adults disappoint us and refuse to listen.
The internet raised me, not my parents that sheltered me from the outside world.
Boomers: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.
The saddest thing is I’ve only seen Gen Z in the comment section, the only boomers/gen X I’ve seen are being really hostile and defensive. It’s upsetting that the people who really need to see this either aren’t watching it, or desperately defending their poor parenting skills.
I'm not trying to make anyone upset here, or be callous and unfeeling. However, with that said (and remember that I'm saying this with the knowledge that this includes all 4 of my grandparents that I dearly love), the Boomers will die within like 20 years for the most part. Getting them to change is, in my opinion, not as useful to do with your time than focusing on Gen X or even Millenials.
I remember one time in 7th grade. I'd gotten my algebra test back and saw that I'd score an A question. I was so happy because I usually do really bad on all math tests, barely even passing them but when I told my mom about it all she said was "that's great but you could've done better". I think I just gave up on math after that... What's the point in trying if I'm never good enough?
Ayyyyy same! *virtual highfive*
@@jadapisanilee1976 this is the saddest high five I've ever done
Exactly.
Heyy, don't listen to your parents. You did awesome! :)
I know right? Ever since I got out of elementary school, it hasn't been "I'm proud of you for getting an A!", it's been "ok whatever you'd better be getting good grades" or "why is your grade so low?!"
This woman has my utmost respect.
Absolutely, we need more people like her.
I´m 14, I didn´t stop cying the whole video, I feel this is just so true and accurate. I really wish my parents speak eanglish so i could show this to them and tell them how i feel
What language ur parent speak, i may know someone to interpreted ♥️♥️💐💐🙏💝❤️. U got such a kind heart ♥, take care 💝💝💝❤️🙏🙏💐💐💐
Yoooo same 😀
I’m 17 about to be 18 in a couple months I completely agree with you about this
@@yingka626 hey! if u still available, i want to show this to my mom and she speaks spanish!
I’m so sorry for the generational burden you have to carry. The Lord sees you
What hurts is that our parents make it VERY well known that they find no value in our opinions, that we don’t know what adulthood is like so we aren’t allowed to have dreams for what it should and we want it to be like. If we say something they disagree with they just tell us “we don’t have enough life experience”
I swear the other day I got into an argument with my mom about something and I was like my opinion matters do you think my opinion matters? and she flat out said no.
"We can still bill him for damages. We can still revoke driving privileges, but we must not do is revoke his self-respect."
...damn
Haha...
Too late for some...
🤣😂😅😓😭
i could show this to my parents and they would tell me this woman is wrong and that i'm just a hormonal and rebellious teenager. *yeah, mom i'm gonna rebel more if you continue to belittle me.*
as a gen z-er, i wish i had the freedom to be average, even below average once in a while
Fax
I remember when I was younger, I was cleaning the house with my mother. I accidentally dropped a large, dusty mat on the floor and it threw dust everywhere. The problem is, I had already moved it out of the way and was reaching for a vacuum before my mother started screaming.
EDIT: Another funny thing is that, before writing this, I thought: "What if my mother sees it? She'll be so angry". Because I already don't expect a guardian to recognize their own mistakes. I expect them to cover it up and make me the bad guy.
That reminds me about the time I tried my best to clean up spilled detergent. (Which was fine for the time being since I managed to clean up most of it before my mom came in and caught me) My mom came in and yelled at me for being so clumsy and didn’t even acknowledge the fact that I tried to clean it up myself. Like, this is what they wanted me to do, yet when I do it they just point out the mistake I made before it. She didn’t have to clean it up and blames me for adding jobs for her to do even when I didn’t even ask her to help me. I get where you’re coming from. 👌
This reminded me when one time I was sick and threw up knocking on my parents door, and instead of helping me they yelled at me, and made me clean it up, and then after that I was in trouble.
@@blakek.bailey5995 Millenial here, had a similar experience that I vividly remember as a TODDLER. Minus the cleaning it myself part. Some parents do not deserve kids. I feel you.
Don't get me started on how my mother made me drink wine as a toddler to "ruin" my taste for alcohol :^)
I’m so so sorry this is very off-topic but your Revali pfp makes me happy
@@haikjwnwhahaiowkwjan1949 Ravioli
gen z is so underestimated. this needs to be shown to all adults. we arnt little kids.
Well, some are. The point is it doesn’t matter if we are children we deserve respect
Ginger Luigi With No Moustache true
@@gingerluigiwithnomoustache7411 so i should respect a 6 year old who stabbed someone 4 times?
@@gingerluigiwithnomoustache7411 you have to earn that respect, if u have done good and helped anyone then respect will be granted
@@toybonniesfm wow you missed the point entirely great job
I just want my mom’s hug to feel warm again. I don’t want it if I can’t feel it.
Wow...this comment hit me hard. I know that exact same feeling :(
Why is this so relatable?
Damn… that hit me like a truck
I’m proud of my generation. We’re going to be the change our world needs
Just sent this to my parents 10 minutes ago. My dad just started playing video games. I guess he’s ignoring it. My mom should be free rn but she hasn’t responded to it, I guess she’s ignoring it too. They’ll both probably never end up watching it but... an attempt was made.
Edit: it’s been 3 hours. Neither have message back to talked to me about it. I guess they really don’t care.
Edit: thought this was gonna be buried tbh, thanks for the advice everyone
smileyclowd if you want your voice to be heard, ask them to watch it with you. They’ll know you care. And if a parent truly loves their child, they will put other things aside to listen when they sense that their child is saying something that matters.
@smileyclowd A tip for psychology and marketing is that it takes us an average of 3 exposures to pay attention to something. 1st time may not register. 2nd time may not make any impact. 3rd time? We may start to feel like the idea is familiar and even take real notice of it. Even if it didn't happen this time, it paved the way for a better future outcome.
It can be so scary to share something important to us with anyone. It's still worth it, especially if you love them, and I hope that you keep trying to be heard and seen (though it's heart-breaking that you have to try so hard). You're worth it whether anyone else realizes it or not. Also - sometimes people can love you and care about you and still be really, REALLY dense about what you need. Everyone's got things to learn and areas to grow up in, no matter how old they are.
Your parents are no different from other parents. They are deathly afraid of admitting they may not have done things right.
Have they watched it yet??? 🤣
Just did the same, currently dad is asleep and no response from mom.
My gosh I hope this woman knows how amazing she is. She speaks for all of generation Z, bless her. Thank you for not agreeing with everyone calling us failures and weak
edit: I really hope you check the comments and read this
This woman............God, just bless her. I am so deeply touched, I can't speak.
your just as week and strong as any other generation. right now the boomer generation is steel holding all the power atleat in America. and they don't wonna let it go.
@@kulsy Nah, Boomers are definitely the weakest of any modern generation. Both their parents and their kids agree, and that's saying a lot when you can get grandparents and grandkids to both agree that you're the worst.
@@TheChickenRiceBowl Nah, I wouldn't be so hard on them :) we simply want them to stop thinking the worst of us, rather than turn the knife on them. I like to think we're better than that, don't you agree?
Also, your username has me craving chicken and rice now haha
@@kulsy Sure, that's nice in theory, but that's implying that there isn't a clear victim and a clear perpetrator. Their incompetence and machiavellianism has real world consequences that has and will continue to negatively impact generations upon generations of all life on earth even long after they're gone. If it were simply a difference of view points between generations that'd be one thing. But, on a very general scale, they are fairly terrible. It'd be nice if it were so simple that I'd feel comfortable with agreeing to turn the other cheek. But, unfortunately it isn't. They have cannibalized their own children and grandchildren for their own personal gain. Personally, that is unforgivable. I can still appreciate your viewpoint though.
I tried to tell my mom that the way she acts and our finical situation has made me deeply depressed, she told me "it's self-inflicted and you don't actually feel this way. I don't understand you and your generation. No one knows who they are or what they want. How do you even know if you're actually depressed?"
"we must not cry weak, when they cry help."
lol my parents wouldn’t even watch this, they would just tell me i shouldn’t be on my phone so much and ‘just get a job’
same here. we're in the middle of a pandemic, and my dad was just complaining a few hours ago because i don't have a job
@@emmieauf Same here. My parents want me to get a job, so that I can pay for my future projects.
My parents get angry because I am apparently "rude at parties" and just a total hermit and how I should "go out more" when they literally lock me in my house for months with cameras inside and out. Like, you don't even let me speak to the neighbor let alone go buy the milk and you get mad at me when I don't know how to talk to other people or don't like to go to your grandmas sisters' friend wedding with a bunch of strangers.
if I sent this to my parents I would get my phone taken away for not studying or doing my homework instead
Emmie Aufderheide i relate- my dad is like “you can’t go in public rn (which i totally agree with btw) and then complains about how i don’t have plans for a job this summer. like... how am i supposed to get a good-paying job if i can’t leave the house?
What a great message. I was raised treated as a PERSON and not a child and it makes a huge difference. All my friends were treated and are still treated like children and they don’t have the relationship I have with my parents.
I don't have a good relationship with my parents because of that.
Razor that really sucks I’m sorry :(
That used to be true for me. And then one day I sat down with my mom and told her how I felt, and she heard me. My relationship with my parents has never been better.
Sadie Putnam Yeah, I’m being raised by parents who treat me as a person. I see all these stories about kids my age who aren’t treated as people by their parents and it honestly baffles me. I feel extremely lucky that I have the parents I do, and it shouldn’t be that way.
Same here, I know very few people who were treated as people by their parents, coming from a fellow Gen Z kid
"Treat us like infants, then expect us to act like adults."
Uh yes. Dude, this is so true tho
Gen X here with a Gen Z daughter. I hear, I acknowledge, I will do better. I am an imperfect person who has made mistakes, but my daughter knows without a doubt that I love her and respect her. I broke the abusive cycle from my Boomer parents, however, I will continue learning for her health and well being.
So sorry ❤
Thank-you for being there for yourself and your loved ones:) Truly, you are a wonderful parent.
Take care:)
Blessed this teacher. I've always told my mom to let me figure things out when I fail. But its always her way or the high way. I'm an artist and the one time I was proud of a drawing, she told me it was too dark and weird and that it needed more color and happiness. Now she gets mad when I refuse to show her what I make. She thinks I'm a bad kid even tho I never have done drugs or touched a cigarette like most teens in my school. There will be times she comes home and complains that it's too warm or there's a dish in the sink. I told her (nicely) that she should be grateful there's someone at home making the mess, eating meals with you, and turning up the heat. It beats coming home to an empty only shell of a house. I've accepted she won't change at this point. She won't hear my cries for love and affection. I shut my emotions off around her to avoid conflict and pain on both ends. She thinks I'm rude and inconsiderate now. I've learned to accept it.
Bless this teacher. I'm glad she understands.
I have a strained relationship (if you can even say I have one) with my mom and a lot of this rings true for me as well. Hang in there and find people who will love and appreciate you for who you are. 💞
I bet you art is beautiful because you made it, and I hope you are able to find people that will listen and support you in life.
Same. My dad and I have such a strained relationship that he will no longer believe anything I do for him that shows my affection is “genuine” I’m not even allowed to call him dad.
And I’m also an artist but I’m way too unmotivated and depressed to do art regularly enough so my dad whenever watching a movie and an artist is there or something he says”oh yeah drawing . You wouldn’t know what that is” so I just stopped showing him my work altogether . Same happened with singing. I always loved to sing. And even tho he’s tone deaf he would say “if u did that on the street ppl would pay u to shut up” so I stopped singing in front of people completely, to the point where I can’t Rembrandt the last time I sung at all.
"We must not cry weak when they cry help. We cannot write off as attention-seeking those who are simply lost for direction."
Not me trying to hold back my tears for 17 minutes and 58 seconds...
Let yourself cry
not me crying for 17 minutes and 58 seconds-
Monke is the answer
My soul and mental copasity are crying
I’m not physically crying though I want to
I thought I was overreacting. Reading this I realize the reality. I’m not alone! Stand strong!
It's bizarre to see the same kind of talks about gen z that used to come up about my generation. I can only hope my own generation does better at looking at future generations as people and don't too soon forget how older generations looked at us.
I have faith in Gen Z. Y'all are wicked smart and there's so much you can do to make the world a better place. Let no one tell you you're useless. We need you.
Thank you.
We appreciate it!
that means a lot to us
we don't need you to need us. we need everyone to stop making excuses and help us, we aren't at fault for most of what's happening around us and it's suffocating having everyone else's waste piled upon us. You don't need us. As much as I appreciate the incentive, we *need* the older generations we can't fix this by ourselves and most of you aren't willing to help and it hurts. Please don't put your hope on us, place your hope on yourself and be the change.
Thank you❤
At about 10 minutes in, when she talks about her students, and how they didn't ask for their hardships, I felt that. I get lectures and rack up tardies, because clearly it's my fault I'm injured. I didn't ask for a genetic disorder that turns walking into a risky activity. I stand up, or take a wrong step, and I need x-rays, and maybe an MRI. Because those simple tasks like standing up or walking can rip apart my joints. I ended up with a severely sprained ankle in a boot for 8 weeks, and that wrong step dislocated my knee in both the kneecap, and the actual joint. If you trip, you probably would be fine. I have to check my arms and legs. I'll end up with two dislocated knees, two turned ankles, dislocated hips, sprained wrists, etc. If I get bumped into, I dislocate my shoulder. It hurts, but not much more than they normally do. I am in constant pain. I show up at school, and what I call a headache blurs my eyesight, and makes lights glow fuzzy. A whisper is a shout. My headaches are what other people call migraines. When I'm falling asleep in class, it's because my asthma meds set off panic attacks all night, and I didn't sleep. I didn't ask for my body to be messed up. I never asked for sick elderly parents, or an autistic older brother that shouted with my parents until bed, or being so afraid of getting dragged into the fight that I hide in my room until bedtime. If I'm eating in class, I may not have gotten dinner last night, or breakfast that morning. If I was late to class, ask why. I was probably in the nurse's office for my meds. If you don't see me eating at lunch, I'm not being picky, my lunch was stolen, and I don't have money for lunch in my account. Don't judge my generation for their shortcomings, they are fighting battles behind closed doors you can't imagine. Don't call me a slacker because I walk into my final 15 minutes late, when school started 2 hours ago just because I had breakfast with me. I was late because I had been in the ER all morning, and had just gotten released. My meds make me really sick, and I hadn't dates in two days. Silent, invisible battles still need someone to fight them.
I hope and know you'll do something memorable like speaking about these kind of things for people. Lots more people need to hear someone say this. You're right, invisible battles are still battles none the less. They still cause damage and change lives no matter what that battle is. Please share what your comment says somewhere else, it’ll do good and open people’s eyes.
with all due respect...
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did anybody else cry through the video becuz they can't help but relate to all incidents related to this and a series of situation when we are treated like we know nothing by the people we love the most
RUclips, please recommend this to every user on the platform, we need this to be heard!!!
from a broken gen z to you: thank you