You truly inspire SO MANY MILLIONS OF MELANATED WOMAN TO BE GREAT IN THIS WORLD❣️Thank you really, it doesn't say enough IMO🫂 Amanda Seales you are AMAZING💞
its not bull-shit. If you’re a public figure, people are going make commentary for how you come off. I also said I liked you, hope thats not bullshit too? “a hit dog will holler”
@@beardedham5983If I call you a cornball for your statement and you do not agree you are in your right to call it bs. The constant effort to belittle me and make assertions on how I behave in a relationship based on literally ZERO experience of me in a relationship is NOT someone who likes me. Just becuz I am a public figure does not mean I have to accept any claims the "public" makes abt me. And I would a GOODT chunk of money down you didn't watch the entire intrvw. The level of ego to legit say "it's my right to talk about you" is BONKERS. MOVE AROUND.
“When you got mama issues, you ain’t never gonna be able to look at another woman like she’s on your team” Chile! Speak 🗣️ I think this goes for men and women with mama issues
Amanda Seales is ALWAYS a master class in transparency and intuition. Often, women who are perceived as “masculine” or “difficult” or whatever the haters want to call her, are actually highly sensitive, deeply feeling, deeply loving people who just want the energy they give to be reciprocated. Sadly, most people just don’t have the emotional capacity (or capability) to show up like that and that’s what makes it hard for someone like our girl. It’s cold out there in them streets!
I forgot how much I enjoyed certain interviews. Amanda is such a bright individual who literally carries a majority of the thoughts I’m thinking of. She’s a breath of fresh air honestly. I love that she’s unapologetically her!
I’ve never felt so seen or had someone describe or name this unknown phenomenon known as “Smart Woman, Dumb Girl”. Amanda’s self awareness is so endearing. She’s such a treasure and niggas don’t even know. I hope an amazing & enduring love finds her. She deserves that and more ❤️❤️
them folks could never make me hate amanda. the amount of introspection and analysis she has for issues outside of her, she has even more intentional reflection for herself as well as what she deserves ♥️ she’s open to share what she’s learned in order to affirm others and help open the door to healing.
Amanda Seales never seizes to amaze me with her articulate, yet rugged lexicon. She is a gem. And big ups to the hosts for keeping up with her for her to express herself comfortably. Hats 👒🎩 off!
@wandaluyando5181 That could be the case, i respect how she expresses herself. I'm flawed like a mug, hence despite @Jamilah1117 answered with a opinion regarding what my comment said, they proceeded to only give the spotlight to my misspell. I respect the process and the discovery of learning what not to do, being better.
amanda seales is such a gem. say what you want but this woman is so intelligent and i’m grateful to have a black woman like this to look up to and learn from.
12 minutes in, and I *know*, I am sending this episode to my therapist. And saying, "I am Amanda, she has articulated my experiences and my insights perfectly, so once you're done watching let's have a session."
This made me cry😭I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve been rocking with Amanda since 2017 and I’m constantly inspired by her and empowered by her and how vulnerable she is.The part about society not being ready for a woman like her hit hard and also the part about men not liking women…tore me up😭So many gems and healing moments in this episode!Thank you Amanda for being pro Palestine and for being so vulnerable.
Amanda is set in her ways at 42 and less likely to take an introspective look at herself......unfortunately Amanda will be single off and on until she's 50ish then she'll just be single forever.......she don't understand the opposite sex AT ALL...... you're only 30, you still have time to work on yourself.....understand that men are not all the same
When Amanda, said men don’t like women, I felt affirmed. As a black woman I’m faced with this reality of vitriol from black men, and I’m left dismayed and appalled every time.
She don't seem to like men either. Black women are marrying black men every day. The fact that YOU are having such issues may just be tied to YOU. Black men can't be the issue everytime things don't go your way
A revolutionary woman’s love will not be won passively. I don’t exist in this world passively, so do not come at me passively. And don’t give me another task. Barsssss!!!
Dre, I can relate regarding having parents that divorced BUT remained friends until my Mama's death in 1995. My Daddy stated after they rolled her casket out, "There goes my best friend." They talked on the phone about me, they laughed and reminisced. I didn't know you're supposed to be angry with a person after breakup as it wasn't shown by my parents.
“Meet somebody in the maintenance level of thier healing”. PHEWWWWWWW. 🔥🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤❤❤ I don’t watch relationship podcasts, but this was a treat! Amanda is amazing. Thank you!
“I have not met a man in a romantic space that like women…..they like 🐱 but they don’t “like” women”. I would wholeheartedly agree with that statement.
The woman has the P... so by association men like women. You just need to leave that attitude that makes you want to compete with men. See where Amanda is? No man...
Wow! What she’s saying is so on the money! That adversarial energy! Even with some of my closest male friends. I found myself saying to them “I am not your enemy” one too many times until I realized that they were set in that default energy and I just needed to EXIT entirely.
The ability to swiftly end things that are "not for us" and not feel guilty... It's rough. Especially for those neglect and abandonment wounds. *To add: Society also fosters insecure attachments. Understanding that is a "game changer".
She is so special and clear in her intensions to provide ppl knowledge, joy, and laughter while she is speaking her truth and sharing her stories and yet ppl treat her with disrespect and disregard. I wish the clowns that talk smack would really think how hard it is to be honest and transparent in your life and put in the work to reflect instead of throwing commentary her way. We are lucky that she does all of this. She deserves better; and respect her journey and how she choses to share it with us.
I genuinely pray that love finds Amanda. She deserves. And I pray that she’s just really really open to love. There are great men out there and I hope she meets one amazing man that loves, and cherish her forever.
If marriage is the ultimate goal for most relationships, I’m going to make an unpopular statement. As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾
So true. I’m 33 years in. We have good and bad times. Being respectful and acceptance good and bad is an absolute in a marriage. If you cannot accept that in a person, keep moving. Amanda clearly does not want to deal with a man’s traumas and I get it, but let’s get real, she’s all over the place and she takes everything to heart. She is extremely sensitive and speaks on everything. Not saying she should shut up since she has the right to speak, but my god she could drive someone crazy. Is she ever just happy about something. It must feel exhausting just wanting for things to change in society No one wants to hear constant complaints. Man or woman.
Replace marriage with a healthy relationship - everyone deserves that. JUST BE NICE. That's all....pick your battles. She fights them all, and it pains her to be nice.
They're not, but yet wanna "stick and roll" constantly which makes them even more worse for marriage and then worse for a regular relationship. The ignorance has to stop and individuals need to keep their legs closed and open their minds.
Honestly I follow her on Instagram and I could tell he wasn't her equal. I can tell from her post that he didn't bring much to the relationship. I'm glad she let him go. Its ok to be single and unmarried. She shouldn't have to make herself small to accommodate a basic dude. She is 100% the prize ❤
I really love and respect Amanda's willingness to stay brave and vulnerable in uncomfortable and heartfelt conversations. Just love that about her. She shows up fully.
When men say they like me because I challenge them, that is a 🚩 Not a deal breaker, but my eyes are wide open. A lot of people who say that are actually saying "I see *you* as a challenge that I want to conquer. This will be fun. Game on." They aren't interested in learning from you and becoming a team with you, you are the opposing team and they want to break you down and dominate you.
Man here. The guys that are saying that to you, are only saying that because they think that's what you want to hear. No man wants a woman who "challenges" them. We want a woman who inspires us... Unfortunately, black women (most American women) live in delusion, so men play along to get what they want from her... If a man says you "challenge" him, eventually he's gonna grow annoyed of your challenges, and he will check out, and seek an inspiring women...
No man desires a woman that challenges him, we desire women who inspire us. That's your role as the helpmate on the team. This is why women like AS can't keep a man, she's too challenging, to the point where it's received as competition, disrespectful. And no man will compete with a woman, we'd rather just leave which is why AS can't keep a man. She's likely always debating him, cutting him off mid-sentence, questioning even the basic of requests that he makes, and always rolling her eyes when he shares his perspective while telling him he's wrong. That's AS all day, and that's why she can't keep a man... And y'all are taking her advice smh Good luck with that...
The two ladies sleeping on dude dropping truth bombs (@ 1h:26m/1h:27m) >> “accomplished” men of today DO feel like they’re the catch and that women should court them. They/women may not like to hear it, but that’s the reality of today. And that distance between the high/low men is a huge gap. But overall, dating today in general is just… wild, over complicated and combative. 🫤
LAWD - @ the mark of the last 10min (1hr:38m) she starts talking about she knows too many men that don’t like women (they like P🤭ssy), but not women. LAWD- that part!!
I've learned that if you are head over heels for him from the jump, he is not what you want. He is going to sense you are sprung and he can't resist taking advantage. Get involved with someone you kind of like, it stands a much better chance of working.
I Agree. A friends mom told me It’s Not Who You Love, But Who Loves You! It went over my head when I was in my 20’s and even 30’s, but when it registered I knew she was sharing true wisdom. ✨
I would love to watch Amanda and Kimberly from “for Harriet” talk about life, and the state of geopolitics, and just chill. Both are just so amazing and powerful and thoughtful.
I love Amanda!! Feels like she and I dated the SAME man, went through a very similar experience, and learned the same lessons! There's a reckoning happening... Men need to evolve because women are waking up and not tolerating the poor behaviour that a lot of men today demonstrate. Great interview!
This was sooo nourishing and helpful and growing. The chemistry between you three was so lovely. I watched the first episode when it first came out (I’m a huge Amanda Seales fan), and I am glad I watched this one too. As someone who almost lost the use of my heart but is still out here trying, I appreciate all of the wisdom, vulnerability, and fruitful reminders that this episode contained. Love to you all.
We ALL need to stop calling Black men n-s and Black women b-s ASAP. It's just disrespectful. We have to use loving words for and about each other in order to give and receive love from one another. 😊
Love the conversations around trust and having a safe space/person to share that with. I’ve learned to share my trauma experience(if ever) later in the relationship for the purpose of bonding… sharing trauma early on in my opinion gives some people a playbook to trigger us or be as they think you want them to be, rather than them just being who they are.
This conversation was soo refreshing and introspective! Absolutely loved to hear it! Amanda You should write a book about approaching relationships today as a perpetually healing being.
she hit the nail on the head towards the end, dating today feels like people love to play games in hopes of winning someone or seeing where they can go/what they can get out of someone instead of just being real. and when you're upfront and honest about what you want & how you feel, they no longer wanna play the game bc now it's "too much". so tragic 😪
I think it’s *time* for women to understand, the system has told men that they are *ENTITLED* to treating women the way they internally feel the system at large is treating *THEM* like an afterthought 🤷🏽♀️ As long as the woman maintains her ‘place’ then the man can feel like he has some power in his life. That’s why so many of them are all over the internets acting up and out because women no longer even want to be *bothered* so that means they don’t have anyone to take their frustration out on. Also, in a particular community *survival* is always paramount and therefore even romantic partnerships become a zero sum game. That’s why the man used the host’s vulnerability against her because in our community it’s *always* about who can win in most men’s minds because they’re not ‘winning’ in society at large.
This is absolute Truth.and especially with black men. We need healing as a black community, not saying it stems from white supremacy but it's a contributing factor as well.
Ooooh...My God, I'm only half way through this but I GET this. We're ALL trying to unlearn cultural and societal conditioning that talks us out of being our true selves in order to be accepted. I am a 50+ Black women who is hopeful about finding love but finding satisfaction in being single. Thank you for this interview.
I have only watched this podcast with Amanda as a guest. This couple is doing great work and I think they should have Amanda on every season. Great, enlightening and thought provoking conversations.
I can completely relate to what she is saying. I feel her pain, I think maybe it's best for me to stay single. Just because I don't want to have to shrink just to make a man feel seen. I naturally operate out of my masculine side as well.
Same… I feel like my own men are always in competition with me… even ones that are spoken for and they feel they know everything just because they are a man. I know not all black men are like this but I never experienced competition with Caucasian and Latino men, trying to control me or rule over me, they were always so supportive and wanted to see me win and wanted to learn from me and I learned from them. The black guys who wanted to date me it was always because of something I possessed that they wanted that they felt could make their life easy. They were opportunist and saw me as an opportunity to get what they want but I recognize it and shit it down from day one. Always trying to rush to get me in bed, talking about babies and wanting me to be the man, their mother, provider and protector. These guys were older than me but everything was my resources and sex. They mad bad choices in women and wanted me to fix it. Or if their significant other wasn’t giving them six they wanted to try and get it from me. Unbelievable!
Everything she’s said just in the 20 min I can relate too 10000% at this very moment . It’s so pro found an appreciated to hear a strong women be honest with herself an hold herself accountable. Thank you 🙏🏽 Amanda ❤❤
This is my first time hearing an Amanda Seales interview and my God it’s refreshing, her assessments are so spot on, love the transparency and self insight about abandonment issues and traumas.. Just super dope! Thank you for YOU Amanda Seales 🙌🏾🫶🏾💯
This was such a powerful conversation. I hope this level of transparency, reflection, and vulnerability is fully appreciated because it can help both men AND women.
36:18 i dont often pay attention to ppl's relationships but this is what was disappointing about Amanda, 's breakup. outside looking in, it looked like she finally connected with a man who appreciated all of the dynamic aspects of her personality. he didn't seem threatened by her intelligence, success, or activism. they worked through their loss, stayed together, and then this happened. 💔 prayers for lasting love 🙌🏾hope for her and all the dope black women like her (myself included)
So many gems in this podcast. Especially the last part about Black men making it a priority to get therapy and figure out their stuff. We could be so further along. Sigh. Thank you all of you for sharing!
I honestly just love Amanda! She is so incredibly self aware, transparent, and well versed. It’s rare to hear anyone’s minimally filtered opinions in this day and age.
Fantastic episode. @theamandaseales is not only an amazing artist but also a remarkable person. She's a true force. It was great that the hosts allowed her to fully express herself without interruptions. Great job! This podcast just gained a new follower.
Thank you for your honesty Amanda. I learned a lot from this. We all have work to do. Relationships are very hard, they teach us a lot about our self, and no matter how smart, successful, wealthy, beautiful, whatever….no one can escape this.
1:40:28 💯 Yes, our ancestral experiences & DNA play a huge part in the chasm between Black men & Black women... _AND_ it's also true that a lot of folks really just don't be friends. Close friendship before becoming partners is all I knew until my mid 30s when I started "dating from scratch." Then I started seeing all the games, ghosting, and goofiness people complain about. Love is always a gamble, but it's much harder to disrespect, disregard, and betray someone you consider a true friend.
Sometimes I thought Amanda was annoying but this interview showed me how deep and articulate your use of words are and it’s very impressive. We need more ladies like you in media spaces. I hope to be one, someday.
This is an incredible interview. Very open, honest and transparent. I commend her for having the courage to share. It also lets me know that the communication gap between men and women is vast..
1:38:40 - 1:40:30 is literally the saddest yet realest shit that I’ve heard in a long time! This honestly has been one of the best podcast episodes I have ever seen. Thanks to the hosts and thanks mostly to Amanda for being so vulnerable, honest and transparent!
Sending love Amanda’s way. Saw her interview with Marc Lamont Hill and now this one and her eyes look so low and her energy seems more performative than authentic. I’ve followed her for some time and it seems her light is dimming. Sis I’m praying for u because you give so much I pray you get back what u give out 10fold. I know u ain’t all about the prayer thing but I’m still sending restoration your way. 💕
This interview was just... wow. Insightful, intelligent, articulate, moving... All the things. I wish it was a longer conversation. Definitely hope she's back on again. I love her passion and simultaneously her ability to be objective yet still vulnerable. Some people are hell bent on misunderstanding her simply because she is bold and unapologetic and still acts with integrity in spite of fear, but these are some of the very things that make Amanda such a gem. Excellent interview.
First time watching! Loved it so much! You kept me company today while I was running errands, dinner and bed time! Thank you! It was such a great episode ! Thank you for the company! 🥰
.....this ...has my laughing, crying, and WOW! Amanda Seales...we are > < --- everything she said. Consistency, people telling you who they are (AND WE SHOULD LISTEN. and exit stage left if you hear something that ain't you). You (we, us) deserve someone who accepts you as you are. You won't be "a lot" for the one(s) who is enough. Thank you ALL for the real conversation. I hope we all are and attract good love. ❤
This whole conversation made me feel seen and mad at the same time simply because in so many scenarios I felt like Amanda is me. Smart talented women, trying to me transparent and trying to communicate but the opposite sex receive it in such a weird way
It might be because we're both Cancers. I don't know. However, when I say Amanda is speaking to way too many parts of my situation or past situations. Good Lord!
I remember "the reel" and it was freakin brilliant..and prophetic? Cause ppl did EXACTLY those things, smh. Love you, Amanda! Great pod episode. Praying your continuing healing, peace, and joy.
Here come the, "Amanda is too masculine" comments. Yall ain't wast no time with the bullshit. 😂
You truly inspire SO MANY MILLIONS OF MELANATED WOMAN TO BE GREAT IN THIS WORLD❣️Thank you really, it doesn't say enough IMO🫂 Amanda Seales you are AMAZING💞
its not bull-shit. If you’re a public figure, people are going make commentary for how you come off. I also said I liked you, hope thats not bullshit too? “a hit dog will holler”
You inspire me ❤
1:27:21 this part
@@beardedham5983If I call you a cornball for your statement and you do not agree you are in your right to call it bs. The constant effort to belittle me and make assertions on how I behave in a relationship based on literally ZERO experience of me in a relationship is NOT someone who likes me. Just becuz I am a public figure does not mean I have to accept any claims the "public" makes abt me. And I would a GOODT chunk of money down you didn't watch the entire intrvw. The level of ego to legit say "it's my right to talk about you" is BONKERS. MOVE AROUND.
“I have traumas, I have behaviors that are standing in the way of my access to joy” …. Beautifully introspective .
Thissss
“When you got mama issues, you ain’t never gonna be able to look at another woman like she’s on your team” Chile! Speak 🗣️ I think this goes for men and women with mama issues
It’s the same with Daddy issues
EVER!
BEEN THERE. HEALING THROUGH IT.
Amanda Seales is ALWAYS a master class in transparency and intuition. Often, women who are perceived as “masculine” or “difficult” or whatever the haters want to call her, are actually highly sensitive, deeply feeling, deeply loving people who just want the energy they give to be reciprocated. Sadly, most people just don’t have the emotional capacity (or capability) to show up like that and that’s what makes it hard for someone like our girl. It’s cold out there in them streets!
Facts!!
Facts people equate gender to behaviors way too much smh
@@TheAmandaSeales Thank you for making US special women feel seen. We love you sis! ♥️
😊😅😅😅@@shaunettewilliams4432
True but with no emotional intelligence, what is the outcome generally speaking?
"A revolutionary woman's love will not be won passively." 😩❤
😂🤣😂🤣😂
Lmao what has she done to revolutionize anything 😂
What man wants to win her? Apparently not working.
@@rncgsu ... me
@@doublecuppin20 Do you know what a revolutionary is?
who's here after her club shay shay interview?
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Me!
😎 but I've always been a fan of her.
I like the Amanda sealed Shay Shay interview. I love how Amanda expresses herself and her passion
🖐🏾
I forgot how much I enjoyed certain interviews. Amanda is such a bright individual who literally carries a majority of the thoughts I’m thinking of. She’s a breath of fresh air honestly. I love that she’s unapologetically her!
My thoughts exactly
Exact thought!❤
She will eventually apologize.
She is a breath of fresh air. I hear and see myself in her, and in a way she has given me permission to be. Unapologetically.
Bruh, her "back in the streets" announcement was brilliant! So creative and well executed
Agree!!
Excellently done!
That video was funny AF . She is literally the female Eddie with all them characters
I love this because she was definitely playing into everyone saying she do too much.
I’ve never felt so seen or had someone describe or name this unknown phenomenon known as “Smart Woman, Dumb Girl”. Amanda’s self awareness is so endearing. She’s such a treasure and niggas don’t even know. I hope an amazing & enduring love finds her. She deserves that and more ❤️❤️
them folks could never make me hate amanda. the amount of introspection and analysis she has for issues outside of her, she has even more intentional reflection for herself as well as what she deserves ♥️ she’s open to share what she’s learned in order to affirm others and help open the door to healing.
Amanda Seales never seizes to amaze me with her articulate, yet rugged lexicon. She is a gem. And big ups to the hosts for keeping up with her for her to express herself comfortably. Hats 👒🎩 off!
*ceases* not seizes
It’s all about the bs. Girl please! She’s an overthinker and can’t be happy. Poor thing.
@Jamilah1117 I'm human, it didn't kill anyone
@wandaluyando5181 That could be the case, i respect how she expresses herself. I'm flawed like a mug, hence despite @Jamilah1117 answered with a opinion regarding what my comment said, they proceeded to only give the spotlight to my misspell. I respect the process and the discovery of learning what not to do, being better.
@@iamtheholycity_meccaseriously 😂😂 we get your point and something tells me you know the difference between the two words.
"We live in a society that has not caught up to women like me." Wow...if feeling seen was a person 🙋🏾♀
Oh u delusional too
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Somebody finally said it! Amandalacians 20:24
@@EyeRollTroll😂😂😂😂😂
The world doesn’t revolve around you
Narcissism strikes again. Women like her are in healthy relationships up and down the globe. SHE isn't. Stay focused
"Don't add to my task." So many men I've dated have tried to misuse my talents and abilities. This is exhausting.
What I appreciate about Amanda is she acknowledges her own issues. People who dislike her simply don’t listen to her. She speaks about her baggage
I like what you said 🤔
Seriously? There's NOTHING unlikable about her?
@@jakblk That's your opinion, but I'm ok with her.
@Beyloveseverybody apparently the men are not.
@@rncgsu ok
amanda seales is such a gem. say what you want but this woman is so intelligent and i’m grateful to have a black woman like this to look up to and learn from.
Shoutout to Amanda’s outfit. 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸
YESSSSSS! Way to represent!
Now the outfit makes sense. I was wondering what is she wearing
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
12 minutes in, and I *know*, I am sending this episode to my therapist. And saying, "I am Amanda, she has articulated my experiences and my insights perfectly, so once you're done watching let's have a session."
Me too…
Yes! Yes! Yes! This is me all the way plus I'm the same sign as her and experiencing very similar and people call me smart etc men this is complicated
This made me cry😭I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve been rocking with Amanda since 2017 and I’m constantly inspired by her and empowered by her and how vulnerable she is.The part about society not being ready for a woman like her hit hard and also the part about men not liking women…tore me up😭So many gems and healing moments in this episode!Thank you Amanda for being pro Palestine and for being so vulnerable.
Amanda is set in her ways at 42 and less likely to take an introspective look at herself......unfortunately Amanda will be single off and on until she's 50ish then she'll just be single forever.......she don't understand the opposite sex AT ALL...... you're only 30, you still have time to work on yourself.....understand that men are not all the same
When Amanda, said men don’t like women, I felt affirmed. As a black woman I’m faced with this reality of vitriol from black men, and I’m left dismayed and appalled every time.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I've had some very kind, considerate and loyal men. They exist. Just too far and few between apparently.
She don't seem to like men either. Black women are marrying black men every day. The fact that YOU are having such issues may just be tied to YOU. Black men can't be the issue everytime things don't go your way
I feel the same and we just gotta remain hopeful 😩🤞🏽
@@jenz_world we just have to always prioritize the longest and most important relationship in our lifetime which is the one with ourselves.
That sounds bitter.
A revolutionary woman’s love will not be won passively. I don’t exist in this world passively, so do not come at me passively. And don’t give me another task. Barsssss!!!
❤️🔥 loved this
Modern women like Seales are far from revolutionary😂😂 delusion is rampant with modern women@@Luver4lyfe
Barssss for real‼️
Dre, I can relate regarding having parents that divorced BUT remained friends until my Mama's death in 1995. My Daddy stated after they rolled her casket out, "There goes my best friend." They talked on the phone about me, they laughed and reminisced. I didn't know you're supposed to be angry with a person after breakup as it wasn't shown by my parents.
Wow ❤
So hurtful when you realized they never really liked you. I can relate to Amandas' experiences in many ways.
“Meet somebody in the maintenance level of thier healing”. PHEWWWWWWW. 🔥🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤❤❤
I don’t watch relationship podcasts, but this was a treat! Amanda is amazing. Thank you!
yes I truly enjoyed it
“I have not met a man in a romantic space that like women…..they like 🐱 but they don’t “like” women”. I would wholeheartedly agree with that statement.
They don’t see the humanity in us
Exactly!!
No they don't like your behavior
The woman has the P... so by association men like women. You just need to leave that attitude that makes you want to compete with men. See where Amanda is? No man...
😢sad
Wow! What she’s saying is so on the money! That adversarial energy! Even with some of my closest male friends. I found myself saying to them “I am not your enemy” one too many times until I realized that they were set in that default energy and I just needed to EXIT entirely.
The ability to swiftly end things that are "not for us" and not feel guilty... It's rough.
Especially for those neglect and abandonment wounds.
*To add: Society also fosters insecure attachments. Understanding that is a "game changer".
Yesssss 😭😭😭
This is so true. Well put 👍
Amanda is so real, raw and well spoken with it all the time. I love her
The Palestinian Drip is Legendary. She was My TA in African American studies in college. She’s been the same person the whole time. Legend.
Ayyyyyeee!!!! ✊🏽❤️
She is so special and clear in her intensions to provide ppl knowledge, joy, and laughter while she is speaking her truth and sharing her stories and yet ppl treat her with disrespect and disregard. I wish the clowns that talk smack would really think how hard it is to be honest and transparent in your life and put in the work to reflect instead of throwing commentary her way. We are lucky that she does all of this. She deserves better; and respect her journey and how she choses to share it with us.
Thank you so much for this kindness. They truly have No idea.
I see you, and thank you@@TheAmandaSeales
Amanda is such a entertaining character and I appreciate her candor.
I genuinely pray that love finds Amanda. She deserves. And I pray that she’s just really really open to love. There are great men out there and I hope she meets one amazing man that loves, and cherish her forever.
If marriage is the ultimate goal for most relationships, I’m going to make an unpopular statement. As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾
Wow! Thank you for sharing your perspective!! People need it
So true. I’m 33 years in. We have good and bad times. Being respectful and acceptance good and bad is an absolute in a marriage. If you cannot accept that in a person, keep moving. Amanda clearly does not want to deal with a man’s traumas and I get it, but let’s get real, she’s all over the place and she takes everything to heart. She is extremely sensitive and speaks on everything. Not saying she should shut up since she has the right to speak, but my god she could drive someone crazy. Is she ever just happy about something. It must feel exhausting just wanting for things to change in society No one wants to hear constant complaints. Man or woman.
Replace marriage with a healthy relationship - everyone deserves that.
JUST BE NICE. That's all....pick your battles.
She fights them all, and it pains her to be nice.
They're not, but yet wanna "stick and roll" constantly which makes them even more worse for marriage and then worse for a regular relationship. The ignorance has to stop and individuals need to keep their legs closed and open their minds.
Honestly I follow her on Instagram and I could tell he wasn't her equal. I can tell from her post that he didn't bring much to the relationship. I'm glad she let him go. Its ok to be single and unmarried. She shouldn't have to make herself small to accommodate a basic dude. She is 100% the prize ❤
I really love and respect Amanda's willingness to stay brave and vulnerable in uncomfortable and heartfelt conversations. Just love that about her. She shows up fully.
I trust Amanda Seales so much. She's a real one. So smart and honest...so much depth, vulnerability, and warmth. Loved this episode.
When men say they like me because I challenge them, that is a 🚩 Not a deal breaker, but my eyes are wide open. A lot of people who say that are actually saying "I see *you* as a challenge that I want to conquer. This will be fun. Game on." They aren't interested in learning from you and becoming a team with you, you are the opposing team and they want to break you down and dominate you.
Man here. The guys that are saying that to you, are only saying that because they think that's what you want to hear. No man wants a woman who "challenges" them. We want a woman who inspires us... Unfortunately, black women (most American women) live in delusion, so men play along to get what they want from her... If a man says you "challenge" him, eventually he's gonna grow annoyed of your challenges, and he will check out, and seek an inspiring women...
Wow. I never saw it like that. Great perspective.
Wow! This!
No man desires a woman that challenges him, we desire women who inspire us. That's your role as the helpmate on the team.
This is why women like AS can't keep a man, she's too challenging, to the point where it's received as competition, disrespectful. And no man will compete with a woman, we'd rather just leave which is why AS can't keep a man. She's likely always debating him, cutting him off mid-sentence, questioning even the basic of requests that he makes, and always rolling her eyes when he shares his perspective while telling him he's wrong. That's AS all day, and that's why she can't keep a man... And y'all are taking her advice smh Good luck with that...
Exactly! Immediately got the ick when she told that story.
I absolutely love Amanda and her transparent honesty. 💙 U a real one, girl 👌🏾 Top tier. Holding people accountable is heavy.
…and I’m only 20 min in 😩🤣
She a Cancer it’s what we do, too honest if anything 😅
@@teresajackson3806 Girl say that 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
The two ladies sleeping on dude dropping truth bombs (@ 1h:26m/1h:27m) >> “accomplished” men of today DO feel like they’re the catch and that women should court them. They/women may not like to hear it, but that’s the reality of today. And that distance between the high/low men is a huge gap.
But overall, dating today in general is just… wild, over complicated and combative. 🫤
LAWD - @ the mark of the last 10min (1hr:38m) she starts talking about she knows too many men that don’t like women (they like P🤭ssy), but not women. LAWD- that part!!
This is intelligent. I am growing my brain cells.
It's the Amanda Seales effect.
okayyyyyy she made me think about so much.
I've learned that if you are head over heels for him from the jump, he is not what you want. He is going to sense you are sprung and he can't resist taking advantage. Get involved with someone you kind of like, it stands a much better chance of working.
I Agree. A friends mom told me It’s Not Who You Love, But Who Loves You! It went over my head when I was in my 20’s and even 30’s, but when it registered I knew she was sharing true wisdom. ✨
Thanks for coming through Amanda! Thank you for hosting R | R!
I did not see this skit when Amanda posted it but it was HILARIOUS! Just genius honestly!
I would love to watch Amanda and Kimberly from “for Harriet” talk about life, and the state of geopolitics, and just chill. Both are just so amazing and powerful and thoughtful.
Yes please!!!!
I absolutely loved this conversation. I agree with Amanda, be intentional or go away at this stage in my life.
I have been a fan for a while now, but THIS episode is just...***Chef's Kiss*** I am forwarding this to everyone I know. Great episode!
Thank you sooo much!
I love Amanda!! Feels like she and I dated the SAME man, went through a very similar experience, and learned the same lessons! There's a reckoning happening... Men need to evolve because women are waking up and not tolerating the poor behaviour that a lot of men today demonstrate.
Great interview!
probably did date the same men tbh
I don't even live in the same country as her@@Wade178
I’m such a fan of Amanda! This was a great discussion.
This was sooo nourishing and helpful and growing. The chemistry between you three was so lovely. I watched the first episode when it first came out (I’m a huge Amanda Seales fan), and I am glad I watched this one too. As someone who almost lost the use of my heart but is still out here trying, I appreciate all of the wisdom, vulnerability, and fruitful reminders that this episode contained. Love to you all.
We ALL need to stop calling Black men n-s and Black women b-s ASAP. It's just disrespectful. We have to use loving words for and about each other in order to give and receive love from one another. 😊
Love the conversations around trust and having a safe space/person to share that with.
I’ve learned to share my trauma experience(if ever) later in the relationship for the purpose of bonding… sharing trauma early on in my opinion gives some people a playbook to trigger us or be as they think you want them to be, rather than them just being who they are.
It's always a pleasure listening to Amanda
This conversation was soo refreshing and introspective! Absolutely loved to hear it! Amanda You should write a book about approaching relationships today as a perpetually healing being.
🤣I told my sister that last week. "Your genitals don't make you a leader"! Play to your strengths... it's about partnership.
@@j.jha-gnessaaudena615 🤣SMH
That is a good one😅
Amanda, Thank you for your transparency. Completely relate to "Smart woman, dumb girl."
You have no idea how much you’ve freed me.
she hit the nail on the head towards the end, dating today feels like people love to play games in hopes of winning someone or seeing where they can go/what they can get out of someone instead of just being real. and when you're upfront and honest about what you want & how you feel, they no longer wanna play the game bc now it's "too much". so tragic 😪
I think it’s *time* for women to understand, the system has told men that they are *ENTITLED* to treating women the way they internally feel the system at large is treating *THEM* like an afterthought 🤷🏽♀️
As long as the woman maintains her ‘place’ then the man can feel like he has some power in his life.
That’s why so many of them are all over the internets acting up and out because women no longer even want to be *bothered* so that means they don’t have anyone to take their frustration out on.
Also, in a particular community *survival* is always paramount and therefore even romantic partnerships become a zero sum game. That’s why the man used the host’s vulnerability against her because in our community it’s *always* about who can win in most men’s minds because they’re not ‘winning’ in society at large.
☝🏾this the one. Something I already understood but based on how this was said I now overstand.
This is absolute Truth.and especially with black men. We need healing as a black community, not saying it stems from white supremacy but it's a contributing factor as well.
Ooooh...My God, I'm only half way through this but I GET this. We're ALL trying to unlearn cultural and societal conditioning that talks us out of being our true selves in order to be accepted. I am a 50+ Black women who is hopeful about finding love but finding satisfaction in being single. Thank you for this interview.
I’m in the same space, too. I desire a long-term relationship, but I will live a full life, with or without a man.
"How do you know when it's truly a safe space?"
SUCH a great and valid question...
With other human beings there's never such a thing as a definite safe space. Relating to other people and opening up is always a risk.
Amanda STAY dropping gems 💎 can’t wait to run it back
This is so appreciated. Thanks to Amanda for her transparency and humor. Great episode. Thank you all 💙
I needed this interview. I needed this comment section. Its all reassurance to what I'm feeling right now
I love how relaxed Amanda looks as opposed to the Club Shay Shay interview. This is what happens when people validate you, see you, and hear you!
I could resonate with everything you said. You actually put words to some of my thoughts. Thanks for being so candid, Amanda.
I have only watched this podcast with Amanda as a guest. This couple is doing great work and I think they should have Amanda on every season. Great, enlightening and thought provoking conversations.
It’s absolute bananas how I’m 49 and Amanda is 42 and I have had the exact same interactions with men.
You are in the same generation! Also, this has been going on forever. Has nothing to do with generational groups. 😊
The skit she did to announce her being single was soooooooooooooo funny to me. I just love her!!
Amanda got me in here HOLLERIN!! PREACH PLEASE!
I love her so much. She’s so great.
Found her in middle school & now out of grad school and STILL love her. 😭❤️
I can completely relate to what she is saying. I feel her pain, I think maybe it's best for me to stay single. Just because I don't want to have to shrink just to make a man feel seen. I naturally operate out of my masculine side as well.
Same… I feel like my own men are always in competition with me… even ones that are spoken for and they feel they know everything just because they are a man. I know not all black men are like this but I never experienced competition with Caucasian and Latino men, trying to control me or rule over me,
they were always so supportive and wanted to see me win and wanted to learn from me and I learned from them. The black guys who wanted to date me it was always because of something I possessed that they wanted that they felt could make their life easy. They were opportunist and saw me as an opportunity to get what they want but I recognize it and shit it down from day one.
Always trying to rush to get me in bed, talking about babies and wanting me to be the man, their mother, provider and protector. These guys were older than me but everything was my resources and sex. They mad bad choices in women and wanted me to fix it. Or if their significant other wasn’t giving them six they wanted to try and get it from me. Unbelievable!
Everything she’s said just in the 20 min I can relate too 10000% at this very moment . It’s so pro found an appreciated to hear a strong women be honest with herself an hold herself accountable. Thank you 🙏🏽 Amanda ❤❤
This is my first time hearing an Amanda Seales interview and my God it’s refreshing, her assessments are so spot on, love the transparency and self insight about abandonment issues and traumas.. Just super dope! Thank you for YOU Amanda Seales 🙌🏾🫶🏾💯
This was such a powerful conversation. I hope this level of transparency, reflection, and vulnerability is fully appreciated because it can help both men AND women.
36:18 i dont often pay attention to ppl's relationships but this is what was disappointing about Amanda, 's breakup. outside looking in, it looked like she finally connected with a man who appreciated all of the dynamic aspects of her personality. he didn't seem threatened by her intelligence, success, or activism. they worked through their loss, stayed together, and then this happened. 💔 prayers for lasting love 🙌🏾hope for her and all the dope black women like her (myself included)
@@TheAmandaSeales. “From the outside looking in” it did look like you found your person is what she was saying…i had the same perception also.
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So many gems in this podcast. Especially the last part about Black men making it a priority to get therapy and figure out their stuff. We could be so further along. Sigh. Thank you all of you for sharing!
I honestly just love Amanda! She is so incredibly self aware, transparent, and well versed. It’s rare to hear anyone’s minimally filtered opinions in this day and age.
Fantastic episode. @theamandaseales is not only an amazing artist but also a remarkable person. She's a true force. It was great that the hosts allowed her to fully express herself without interruptions. Great job! This podcast just gained a new follower.
Thank you for your honesty Amanda. I learned a lot from this. We all have work to do. Relationships are very hard, they teach us a lot about our self, and no matter how smart, successful, wealthy, beautiful, whatever….no one can escape this.
Watching over and over again. Love you guys❤
1:40:28 💯 Yes, our ancestral experiences & DNA play a huge part in the chasm between Black men & Black women... _AND_ it's also true that a lot of folks really just don't be friends. Close friendship before becoming partners is all I knew until my mid 30s when I started "dating from scratch." Then I started seeing all the games, ghosting, and goofiness people complain about. Love is always a gamble, but it's much harder to disrespect, disregard, and betray someone you consider a true friend.
❤❤❤❤ yes. I just said this what is hard to be friends for real ....
Sometimes I thought Amanda was annoying but this interview showed me how deep and articulate your use of words are and it’s very impressive. We need more ladies like you in media spaces. I hope to be one, someday.
Great interview: I enjoyed hearing everyone’s authenticity especially Amanda’s.
This is an incredible interview. Very open, honest and transparent. I commend her for having the courage to share. It also lets me know that the communication gap between men and women is vast..
I love Amanda! Say it like you mean it Sis! Give Amanda her flowers she's been in the game 30yrs. My girl is 🔥🔥
Right!!!!! Way back since she was Amanda Diva…..she is such a friend in my head ❤
1:38:40 - 1:40:30 is literally the saddest yet realest shit that I’ve heard in a long time! This honestly has been one of the best podcast episodes I have ever seen. Thanks to the hosts and thanks mostly to Amanda for being so vulnerable, honest and transparent!
Sending love Amanda’s way. Saw her interview with Marc Lamont Hill and now this one and her eyes look so low and her energy seems more performative than authentic. I’ve followed her for some time and it seems her light is dimming. Sis I’m praying for u because you give so much I pray you get back what u give out 10fold. I know u ain’t all about the prayer thing but I’m still sending restoration your way. 💕
Cancers going thru a time currently. After this moon ...
This interview was just... wow. Insightful, intelligent, articulate, moving... All the things. I wish it was a longer conversation. Definitely hope she's back on again. I love her passion and simultaneously her ability to be objective yet still vulnerable. Some people are hell bent on misunderstanding her simply because she is bold and unapologetic and still acts with integrity in spite of fear, but these are some of the very things that make Amanda such a gem. Excellent interview.
Loved every second of this conversation! 👏🏾
I wish you peace and healing Amanda
This was SUCH a great interview!! Everything she stated is exactly on point and very helpful for me in my journey.
As a recovering good girl who walked away from a toxic marriage 6 months back, I can relate to this! Also looooove Amanda!
First time watching! Loved it so much! You kept me company today while I was running errands, dinner and bed time! Thank you! It was such a great episode ! Thank you for the company! 🥰
.....this ...has my laughing, crying, and WOW! Amanda Seales...we are > < --- everything she said. Consistency, people telling you who they are (AND WE SHOULD LISTEN. and exit stage left if you hear something that ain't you). You (we, us) deserve someone who accepts you as you are. You won't be "a lot" for the one(s) who is enough. Thank you ALL for the real conversation. I hope we all are and attract good love. ❤
I saw the thumbnail and clicked on this video so damn fast 🏃🏻♀️
Good conversation, thanks! Amanda we rock with you regardless ❤
This whole conversation made me feel seen and mad at the same time simply because in so many scenarios I felt like Amanda is me. Smart talented women, trying to me transparent and trying to communicate but the opposite sex receive it in such a weird way
I'm not sure how I found this episode, but I'm glad I did. I love Amanda, and I appreciated this conversation ❤
Thanks for watching! ❤️🙌🏾
The amount of times I had to rewind a couple times to really process and let some stuff just sit with me. Whew, this was a CONVERSATION.
"The Amanda Seales Troll Center" is pure GOLD!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
It might be because we're both Cancers. I don't know. However, when I say Amanda is speaking to way too many parts of my situation or past situations. Good Lord!
❤❤❤ oh cancer 🦀🦀 I am too explains🧐 alot.
I know…. Because this is hitting close to home on everything. People have told me that we are similar in our thinking. That’s how us Cancers are.
Now that was a great show!!! That was for the culture....fo real!!!! Love Amanda, Love Dre and Rhonda!! 10's across the board🥰
I remember "the reel" and it was freakin brilliant..and prophetic? Cause ppl did EXACTLY those things, smh.
Love you, Amanda! Great pod episode. Praying your continuing healing, peace, and joy.
I just know i'm gonna need to journal this one. Amanda be making me have to grab my pen and paper.