How to Emotionally DeClutter the Messes | Clutter Free Motivation
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- Опубликовано: 22 авг 2024
- It’s that time of the week again! It’s time to Declutter another section of this hoarded basement!! On today’s episode I talk about how to Emotionally DeClutter. This is something was doing subconsciously since I started decluttering. I didn’t have words to it before but I knew I was making decluttering decisions by this internal emotional scale. Once I realized I was doing that, this was the best way I could explain Emotional Decluttering.
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I don't think you know how important this is. Explaining how the proces works, the emotions and how to get through when conventional declutter methodes don't work for you. You explain it so well. Love the basement series.❤👍
Your sweet encouraging message means everything to me 💜🦄🙏🏼 I always pray before I speak, asking God to give me the words that will help people the most ❤️🙏🏼
You're the first person in my life (and I'm of a "seasoned" age) that's made sense in the emotional journey decluttering is. The light bulb just went off that I've had decades of traumas. Now it makes SO MUCH sense why i couldn't tackle it before like i can now! It HAD to be baby steps and only as my psyche would allow it at different times.
Today forward, I will STOP beating myself over why I didn't clean up my spaces, I'll STOP traumatizing that little girl inside, I'll STOP the belief that I've lived a wasted life, I'll give her grace and move forward in good health and healing
Thank you SO much for opening my eyes 😚
Keep up your ministry ❤️
You are getting so close to the front! Can't wait for that breakthrough moment. Way to go!
Can’t wait for that craft supplies konmari! i would love to go and help you out!!😁
The way you explained your emotional decluttering was really passionate and will be so useful to others. You have come so far now and the fact that you are helping others is beautiful. The basement is really coming along so well. I think you will definitely reach your goal of fully decluttering it this year.
Thank you so much my friend 🦄❤️🌟🙏🏼 Your message truly made my heart so happy!!
Baby steps are good especially when it comes to decluttering
I cannot wait to see the amount of Ribbon you have at the end of your decluttering adventure! 😊
Wow, your basement is getting so cleaned out and organized. You are doing such a good job with your baby step decluttering. Enjoy your Easter holiday!!!❤
Wow! great job! May you and your family have a blessed Easter weekend! i gave away a new printer today. a friend was trying to get me to sell. But i started feeling anxiety. i told myself no, im gifting. and the lady came, she was really nice. and she said if i ever needed a ride she would honor it. i have arthritis. and dont drive. It feels right in my soul. 🥰 🌿🌻🌺🌱🌷🌿🌼🌱🌺🍃🥀🌿🙏🙏🙏🐑✝
I can relate to so much of what you said. The emotions and triggers are real but to always remember that we are safe. Another huge pile, well done. Oh Miss Pepper is right. We have 3 cats and nothing is safe even with scratching tree. Wishing you all a happy Easter 🐣 Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐🐈🦄
I've felt that physical pain, too. 💜
Hi Melanie. Do you think in a future video you could put in more footage of you going through each item and saying why it's a keep and why it's not. I love seeing all of your treasures. It's like when you go to a store and you have the urge to want to look at everything. Maybe I'm just nosey lol. 🤷
@Green Gal Artist I had to watch with it muted because it was too distracting to listen and read at the same time!
Yes, I can absolutely do that!! I was trying something new to see if it flows better but I can totally go back to the way I normally do it!!
There was nothing wrong with this video at all. The message in this was very important. I love looking at people's treasures and what makes it special why it's not... obviously you can't do that every video. I would love almost like a show and tell video. I think it would be so fun. No matter what I will always watch and support your channel no matter what format you choose. ❤️
@@ahoardersheart I like the new way, is very nice and emotional.
@@ahoardersheart I did like the message behind it fro the parts I did hear, but I think maybe that in a video separately from decluttering videos would be less distracting! I just had a hard time following your spoken thoughts and your written thoughts at the same time :)
WOOOOOOOOW!!!!!!! That tossy, tossy pile was amazing and your explanation of how you go about your decision-making was very helpful. Great job!
Can I give some feedback? Is there any way you can maybe do half your basement declutters this style where you educate about hoarding, but also do some declutters where you just talk through the process live as you declutter? I really like that style of decluttering videos! Not sure if others prefer the educational videos or the “talk as you go” style.
I will never let anyone throw out my stuff. Having other people deal with my clutter is too stress inducing. It once broke out a fight because my emotions were not ready. It went sofar that my brothers threw out my passed away mothers diary which was very traumatic to me and they even tossed out old voice tape recordings of my grandparents. These are Things ment to keep. The other things I understand but throwing away actual sentimental Things...never again.
I feel your message on so many levels my friend, I truly do. I just want to say I’m sorry that was thrown away 🙏🏼 I pray you have another special item(s) from your mom ❤️ And I have to Declutter by myself too. Sometimes those waves of emotions hit you and you need to process them within yourself before you can even create words to explain it to someone else. Please know that I understand you and I will always cheer you on!
I started last weekend 15 minutes at a time .thanks for another video.
After watching your videos, when I see a cluttered space, I want to straighten it up. Have decluttered quite a bit and still going. Your videos really help. Thank you!😊😂
It’s absolutely dreadful that you were bullied and that it turned you into a hoarder but it made you into the lovely beautiful intelligent woman that you are today. A super RUclipsr with fantastic content and a mentor for others’ who suffer from the same condition. Your videos are fun, inspiring and I’m sure that just like me your other subscribers would jump at the chance to be in your basement with you. I’m in my 60s and live in London but would have loved you as a personal friend. God put you on this planet knowing that you would reach out to people hearts in such a tender manner. Bless you and your family.
Those bullies had no idea they were being mean to such a valuable, lovely person who would grow up to be such a beautiful, sweet woman with such a beautiful voice she would use to help the world! I had a wonderful teacher in those mean middle school days that addressed our bullies, telling them they had no idea who they were picking on and who they would become in the future! She told them they might really change their mind about who they would like to like them and might really regret ruining their chances. We were so lucky to have a good, aware teacher! We weren't in your middle school but we are all sitting at your lunch table now! You are so helpful and we appreciate you!
Thank you for being open to showing your before and after pictures. Thank you for showing your messes and how you actually live in your decluttered spaces, and how you clean them up after they get messy again...(I've looked at about 8 of your videos today, so I have a lot of your ideas in my mind!) I can be comfortable with you because of your explations of, and honoring of, the emotional ties to the things we hoard...I like that you are not a minimalist, that your house and clothes and decor are still colorful and varied. I like that you have craft supplies and project materials so that you can still be creative. Thank you!
This is such a wonderful video because it talks about your process which can help us with our process (those who live with hoarding disorder as well as those of us who don't), as well as watching you declutter which is inspiring as a real concrete demonstration that is can be done.
Good job! I spent this morning in my garage reorganizing another shelf section. Got rid of a bunch of packaging, switched some things around so I can better reach what I use all the time, checked some wood finish and paint cans, got rid of a few. On and off a ladder...Good work out! Always look forward to your videos, especially the basement ones..Keeps me motivated! ❤❤🤩👍
Look at you go 🌟🌟🌟 You did AMAZING 👏👏👏
You’re my favourite! I’ve learned so much from you. 💞💞💞
“Happy Easter”!🐰🌷🍗
I love your channel. Sometimes I think you are speaking just to me. I've come a long way in the past 10 years, but have a little more to go. Now I'm struggling with my late husband's stuff. There are thing I just can't part with yet.
I am going to watch this again. What you said was really important - and somehow confronting as well, because I couldn’t seem to take it all in. I will watch again after a bit to let this all soak in. ❤
In your next basement video would you please show us the whole basement? I'd love to see that to really see how far you've come!
A relative poked fun at my latest art project. She lashed out at various other people and upset my wonderful daughter in law. She's unhappy about her own life and
her own failures. Since I'm 73, I have insights into other people's behavior that I didn't have when I was a child. So proud of you. Tina, Al's wife
well done, you are so far in the decluttering the basement. so proud on you. i hope that we can see a tour in your basement again soon, big hug Ellen
"Once I release it (emotions) from myself, it's also released from that item and I can freely let it go." I needed to hear that this morning. I just broke off a friendship where they were mistreating me similar to how it was in my childhood. I did the work of processing what happened as a kid and that's what made me realize I was being mistreated now. With your words, I'm realizing that I can trust myself moving forward because I've truly honored how I've been hurt in the past... Thank you for doing what you do.
I found this channel in my You Tube feed and I am so glad. I feel nausea when it comes to some of my clutter. A lot of shame and overwhelming fatigue but I am chipping away at it. This podcast has allowed me to forgive myself. Thank you.
Thank you for your loving knowledge about the emotional attachment we put on our items. I have tried very hard to remember this when helping others declutter/categorize items. Also love how you don’t even touch the hubby’s items and say it’s for him to do. When helping my Mom go thru items I always tell her she can keep whatever she wants let’s just put like with like, no pressure to get rid of items. Thank you for shedding light on this disorder.
Something that must be positive in your life, I would think, is you've been married for how many years and have 2 beautiful boys. You ARE safe. Letting items go from your past life is actually freeing. It's emotionally and mentally freeing and not holding you back. I know I've heard the thought of....what if there was a fire. Could you grab 5 things quickly that you value/need? That always makes me get rid of more stuff. It's a motivator. Keep on trucking along. I look forward to seeing you freeing yourself of the past and enjoy what you have now right in front of you. I hope you have a wonderful weekend! 💛
Keep going with your declutering momentum and wish your family a happy holiday 🥰
I love that scale of emotions! So helpful!
I truly understand the emotional scale of 1 to 10. I have found items I evaluated several times, they were 10s on my sentimental scale. I have photographed them and safely returned them to their containers without regret this time. I feel I have plenty of excessive household items I can continue to remove without emotional attachment. Thank you Miss Heart. 😊
Good Job Pepper..
Your videos have been so helpful to me. I have saved basically every scrap of paper, photo, locker decoration, etc from grade school on up. I think part of it is feeling guilt for tossing it, and part of it is not wanting to let go of my things. You’re inspiring me to keep going.
I can totally relate to your explanation of emotional decluttering. Instead of physical pain, I feel physically sick....but with time & effort I'm getting better.
Just wanted to say a big THANK YOU because your channel has given me the confidence to try & kick hoarding (I know my triggers & causes) This weekend I'm doing my first ever car boot sale (kinda like a yard sale) & I'm actually looking forward to it! I've just filled both my car & my friends car & we've agreed that whatever we don't sell, we are immediately donating to the charity shop on the way home so that it doesn't come back into the house. Any money we make will go towards a house purchase 😊 xx
you have no idea how glad I am that I found your channel a few years ago! I remember exactly how terrible I felt when I had to deal with all my hoard and clutter. I held onto some things because they made me happy, some because I didn’t want to deal with traumas they represented, and I held onto other things because seeing them made me feel bad and guilty and that was my way of punishing myself. Now I’m doing so much better, like you are, now that I know I can let myself feel emotions, pass through them, and come out the other side unscathed…AND have a nice space to live too! ❤
Great job
I am so grateful that you are teaching me about this. You are very good at describing your feelings so I understand what you are going through ❤
I’m so grateful for your sweet encouraging message!! I hope it helps you 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
You are an inspiration and guiding light for others. Keep up your awesome work!
Nice declutter session. ☀️🐇☀️
Thank you my friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
Yey! Basement video- my favorite! You rock Ms Heart and Lil Pepper! :) Woo Hoo!
Thank you so so much my friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
This is so encouraging. It helps that you're taking time to do this. I always think I should be faster. It also helps to think about whether something has a story or not.
You are not only safe and a good person, you are also loved very much!
By your hubby, your kids, your family and your friends.
You are appreciated by your employer for all the extra miles you go, especially in December.
You are appreciated by your church, for the sharing table and all the other good deeds you do, as well as by your community.
And you have your heart healers, who support you on every step you take, and are proud of you for the looooong way you’ve come!
Some learn from you and maybe have more patience with a relative, or more understanding and support for a friend.
For others you are the good example who gives them courage to start their own journey, by opening up to a trusted person, by seeking therapy or by overcoming their hoarding trauma in any other way.
You have auch a big and positive influence, that this easily weighs out the few bullies who didn’t know better than to go after the sweet quiet girl. Some of them have not grown since then and maybe are still unhappy bullies, but you have grown SO MUCH 💜 And some of them most likely are ashamed of what they did to you, maybe they are even watching your videos and by now tell people they know you!
Anyways, you are doing great Miss M, I am one of those who love you and are very proud of you, and cheer you on 🥰
Just finished my workout. Perfect timing ❤
So happy for you! Your videos bring such hope! 😄💕
It's amazing and awe-inspiring to see you open up this basement. All the progress you've made over the past years is really adding up!
Beautiful job! And beautiful explanation of the emotional side. I appreciate your gentle honesty! ❤
I used to be into baking cakes and decorating them, I brought everything I saw. It piled up so I put on the Facebook marketplace and gave all the tins away for free, the person was really grateful
Thank you for sharing your strategy.
I couldn't understand (for years) why I struggle with this mess... this mess that I want to go away but obviously I have reasons for holding on.
Now I have hope
Great video!
Wonderful explanation and beautiful tidy space xxxx 🎉❤
Thank you so so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
Your patience is fabulous! I know it's taken awhile to get there but I'm so proud of you!! In my region there's programs for seniors for downsizing & hoarding. The hoarding one fills up the quickest & it's one on one. They go thru quite a program.
Decluttering my things with emotional ties have always been a struggle! Thank you for explaining the scale and that it’s ok to let go and still feel safe. You are doing so good! Have a wonderful Easter ♥️
Thank you for sharing the emotional side of deluttering. I get overwhelmed too! I find going through a few boxes at a time is manageable for me emotionally.
Have a wonderful and blessed Easter.
I hope you and your Family have a Happy Easter too 🌷
Ahhhh I've never been this early! So excited to watch ☺️☺️☺️
Yay! The basement looks so nice and organized! Way to go!
Oh man you should totally do a 90s clothing fashion show after you get all your old clothing bins organized together!
I was TOTALLY thinking that too!!!!! 🦄💜🌟 Great Minds think alike!!!
That would be fun! I like the part where you explain how you are using & enjoying your hoarded items - the ones that are important to you.
Thank you for the help! I am tackling so many areas of my home this year that I have neglected. Some areas have been neglected for 2 to 4years! Taking those baby steps and taking it slowly.
Yeah a basement video. I was going through withdrawals. Some people look forward to Friday as the last working day of the week but I look forward to Friday basement videos 😄
I always wanted one of those snails!! I can almost remember the song from the commercials! Something about "keepers"... I need to search for that ad after this video! Nostalgia rabbit hole, here I come! 😅💕💕💕
Yessssss!! They were called Keypers!! My nanny bought it for me for Christmas when I was a little girl!!! She passed when I was still young so I’m grateful I still have this!!
@A Hoarder's Heart Keypers, yes! I did find the commercials too, and many others! Lady Lovely Locks, My little pony, ahhh, good ol' days! 🥹💕😊
This made me cry. I just want to feel better. Doing some housework and deluttering with this video was so helpful. Thank you ❤
I hope when you get your craft space set up, you will have a place to display some of your special childhood things. One day I want a curio cabinet to display a very few of my favorite toys.
Yessss!! Oh I would LOVE a shelving area for my childhood items!! I have saved some pics on my Pinterest! I hope you have a Happy Easter 🌷🐰
Yes, you are doing great!! 🎉🎉🎉 I wish you a happy Easter! Lots of love! ❤❤❤ /Rebecka
Thank you so so much!! Happy Easter to you too my dear friend 🌷
Great progress
You don’t know how much your sweet words about your praying before you speak means to me . I had prayed to our precious Father for help because I found myself in a very difficult relationship and had started holding onto and buying things that would soothe my anxiety and depression but, today I realize I can now tossy tossy so much more and without the pain. I have been giving things away for about four months now and I’m seating here with tears but not of sadness but of great joy. Thank, thank you for your caring heart I love you so much 🤗♥️
My plan is one large garbage a day for my Easter break. Aiming for 8 large bags to get out the door. One bag is packed so far
Awesome I love your videos you are such a warm inspirational woman ❤
Fantastic job beautiful lady congratulations 💜🦄
Miss Heart, I am so glad I stumbled upon you. I am not a hoarder. But I love to watch. But your progress, success and words are so incredibly inspiring. Thank you for sharing. And by way of some items you've shown, maybe one day I will see you at the Wawa or Deptford Mall and introduce myself. Have a blessed day.
Oh I’m so glad you found me too!!! You’ll definitely find me in a Wawa 😋 And we were just at the Deptford Mall last Wednesday too!! Lol My son was with his friends!!
I am only 1 minute into your video. Have been watching since the beginning. Motivated to get to where you are with decluttering. Currently, I would not have let that pencil go and would have found where I have all the other pencils and put it there even though I have wayyyy too many pencils already. Bravo to you!! I still have some work to do emotionally. I have noticed for me when I declutter I freak out at a wide open space. When I declutter I noticed I tend to spread out what’s left and fill that open space up. Less items, but not completely clear. I have an uneasiness about the completely emptiness. Almost feel like I got rid of too much or something so it makes me feel better when I spread it out. Then little by little I come back to what’s spread out and slowly begin decluttering again. Hope that makes sense.
Please do continuous decluttering timelapse
Awesome job!
Thank you so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
Thank you for that amazing video! It does help me so much! perfect explaination!❤
Hi my friend , i'm happy to see you again as always , very proud of you and your progress🎉🎉🎉
Can you please make the video longer coz i'm enjoying it so much
And for the basement i think you should have a place to put only the craft supplies ,just saying , thank you for sharing ❤
Hello!! I do all my editing on my iPhone so all it can handle is 10-12 minutes! But I want to go purchase a new one so I can create longer videos!! I have definitely gotten this request before!! Thank you so much my friend!!!
@@ahoardersheart its so sweet that you respond to my comment , thank you so much , good luck 🥰
Hi Melanie and thank you so much! Subscribed immediately and set the bell notifications on :) Can't even describe how useful the topic of the video is. It's very special and it's better then many professional videos which focus on problem, not values.
My life have changed to some extent, your approach is precious!!
Wishing you all the best!
Although never a hoarder, I once felt that possessions protected me from childhood poverty. I still have to have a good supply of new towels since I only had an ugly rag for a towel as a child. I do not hoard them but they must be fluffy and in perfect condition.
Your secret keeper!!! 💞
Great job ….you would be a great motivational speaker…you could give seminars on hoarding and recovery…😊❤️…have a blessed Easter ❤️😊🐣🐇
I really appreciate what I’ve learned from you. I’m not a hoarder and all my life I’ve easily made logical decisions to get rid of stuff. But I found your videos a bit better we found it we can’t have any more kids. I was feeling really frustrated at myself for procrastinating on donating all our baby stuff, but because of your videos I realized I wasn’t emotionally ready to get rid of it. After I realized that I was able to slowly get rid of things bit by bit and now only the bed is left. But I’m ok with that; I know someday I’ll be ready to let it go too.
Thank you for explaining your journey so well. I recognise so much! Although I am not a hoarder on a big scale, I realise my emotional connection to stuff and the reluctancy of trowing them away... Our histories sound very similar and I am so happy you are in a better place and keep improving yourself :) It gives me hope for the future, where I am able to make the same steps as you. I am surely gonna use your methods, as I feel they are the best way for me too. Thanks so much again and God bless you
Yay love your basement vids!
Great job. U have can a long way in your new direction. God Bless you
Thank you so so much my friend 💜🦄🌟❤️🙏🏼
Great video. Thanks for sharing your process
I love your videos and have watched since the beginning. I just think you should not have them so choppy where if goes back and forth between you and the decluttering. Could be just me but it’s had to focus on both switching so much. Please don’t think I’m trying to be mean that’s not my intent at all just trying to help ❤
I actually appreciate this! I was trying something different just to see how it flows! I’m also ADHD so the jumping is also how my mind works too! Lol
@@ahoardersheart I have ptsd and severe anxiety but have been put on the right meds and have worked with wonderful people to help me learn techniques to help deal with my anxiety. Took a lot to comment and like I said previously it could just be me I have ocd tendencies due to the anxiety (how it was explained to me lol) so take my comment as my opinion alone I would NEVER want you to be untrue to who you are and how you create. Just throwing my opinion out there
Love your videos and your achievements.
Wow that was a lot!!
What amazing insight and advice. What about not wanting to get rid of things because of not wanting to waste. I hold on to things because there useful I might need them one day or there expensive items and maybe I should sell them ( never seem to get round to it ) or maybe it's a craft item and I might need it one day. It's almost like saving money has become a job for me 😢
I miss when you used to explain the individual decisions you were making. I found that so helpful.
Good job!!
I did the cupboard under my stairs yesterday 4 black bags of rubbish kept so much bubble wrap no idea why. So nice under there now and I feel great about the space
Way to go miss Heart! 🙌🌈
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You deserve all of this^ and more each time you go through and let more stuff go - and especially for sharing all that you’ve been learning along the way.
Your transparency and real life example are INVALUABLE. 💝💝💝
Oh my goodness, you just made my day!!!! Thank you so so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼💕
Great tossy tossy pile!
Thank you so much 💜🦄🌟🙏🏼💕
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Decluttering when a person's 'not ready' will be more harmful and make the hoarder accumulate MORE. From personal experience of hoarding for 20 years and I only just decluttered 70% of stuff (90 storage bins) last year over the course of 10 months. It requires weekly therapy as well as help from friends and love ones. It's true, decluttering does sometimes create physical pains when the emotions are so strong, we feel pains.
. One thing I don't do is to retrieve any item back. I either go straight to the dumpster, or give it to a shelter or if all else fails, hand it over to the local shop's recycling programs.
Ribbon! But not a roll. 🤭
Hehe!!! You get it 🎀🙏🏼💕
Can you at some point do like a very zoomed out view of your basement for us? And then maybe a full walkthrough? It’s hard to tell over all progress as much with being more zoomed in. 😊
Very helpful.