Also, if you do have a husband/wife/significant other, be sure and post a picture with you spouse/significant other or if you have a family, your family picture. That might help too!
bro no its too hard to talk with japanese I am just getting nervous to talk to them they dont reply and I am not even bothering them with flirting or messages, maybe their people is jsut like that I text 40 different people and just 2 of them talking regularly@@555-y3t6p
yes can you talk is a scam application I will make a VIP member then they take money and bank me from normal function even though I don't make anything wrong
I once had a guy ask if I was married, or wanted to marry or date someone in my target language, red flags, but then he asked the same question of the guy who entered the chat party next, it turned out he and another girl in my target language were discussing dating and marrying foreigners from various countries. That just happened to be that day's topic. I think we should be cautious, but also avoid being over zealous. The guy and the girl have become friends who I love speaking with, and have helped me improve my speaking very rapidly.
There needs to be an app like this, but for dating. There's no neutral ground for people to talk in mainstream dating apps. I'm there because to improve fragmented Japanese, but the friendships component omg xD
yes can you talk is a scam application I will make a VIP member then they take money and bank me from normal function even though I don't make anything wrong
It’s really frustrating when you are trying to learn a language and culture but you are just met with harassment. I tried looking for someone to help me learn German but all I got was creepy messages from guys (mainly Indian guys) who had no interest at all in teaching me and I don‘t think they even knew German or have ever lived in Germany 😕. It’s good that some websites are trying to keep these sort of guys out but there is just that many in the language exchange/ learning community that it’s difficult to catch them all.
How odd that Indian guys were trying to contact you when you were trying to learn German! Was that on HelloTalk or a different app/website? At least all the creepy messages I get are at least from native speakers of my target language..
@@SomedayKorean I was surprised too. I sort of expected creepy guys from the target language I was learning but they were from other countries far from my target language. It’s very bewildering and frustrating. Yes, it has happened on HelloTalk but also other apps/websites as well like MyLanguageExchange.com, Tandem and Pen Pal websites. I have stated clearly on my profiles that I’m only interested in communicating with speakers of my target language but unfortunately that still doesn’t stop them.
@@Victoria-qb3dr Hi! I don't know if you've seen it already but there's a setting that allows only people of your target language to message you. Hope this helps!
Put a profile picture of nature or something other than yourself. It helped a lot. It doesn’t prevent them 100% , but it will limit it. I just ignore the rest who don’t seem legit to learn.
yeah these guys are so annoying. i just block them at any of these signs: if they don’t speak the language i’m learning, if they say i’m pretty/cute, if they flirt in another way/ ask if i have a partner. Instant block, i don’t even feel bad anymore.
I've met some really nice people on HelloTalk. But after awhile of meeting someone and talking to them for awhile. They all of a sudden stop responding to my messages. That's the only bad thing about the app.
I don’t use HelloTalk but I have found a similar pattern on another language exchange website. So story is a guy messaged me and asked if I could practice English with him, and I agreed. He asked me what my age and birthday was, my age was already on my profile so I just told him. Next message he went on about how our zodiac signs were compatible and asked if I had a boyfriend… btw the guy was 34 and I just told him I was 16. I was weirded out but I didn’t get many chances to talk with foreigners since this was my first time using a language exchange service and I don’t live anywhere near tourist sites, so I tried not to make my feelings obvious and said something like “I don’t know why you’re asking a teen that if you’re 34” then went on about the story/legend behind his zodiac sign to keep conversation going. I guess he got the message and stopped talking back assuming I’d blocked him, though I never did. Thankfully most the people on the site I use aren’t trying to date but that was an odd experience for sure
There aren't any other apps to meet people from foreign countries, learn their language and find a partner though. Tinder and pretty much any other "dating" specific apps are superficial. It hardly works for guys. What's exactly wrong with forming connection through these apps? Women often give relationship advice to guys to join meetup groups so it increases our chances to form a connection through a shared/mutual interest. That's exactly what's happening here - a shared interest in learning about each other's culture and language, except its online. So why is this frowned upon? Genuinely curious.
I've had a few real-life friendships come from the app, and I think it's possible people can connect romantically through the app as well... BUT I think it's the way it happens that's more important. If you talk with someone for a while and then express interest down the road when there is actually a connection, that's fine. But a lot of the people I get frustrated with are the ones who say "oh you're so pretty" or ask if I'm in a relationship in the first few messages they send. To me that sends a pretty clear signal that the person isn't as interested in an actual language exchange and is more interested in my appearance. If I were to go to a language meetup group, I would think the same thing if someone walked up to me and immediately commented on my appearance or relationship status rather than having a more typical get-to-know-you conversation.
I've had a girl asking me about my background before talking to me, I found it strange but during the Language Exchange, she told me that she was bombarded with messages from Indians, Pakistani, Algerians, Moroccans etc looking for language exchanges that often either pretend to come from the UK and hardly speak the language or have actually no interest in learning anything. Once I went into a Chat Room and it was just full of the said group, telling the girls how beautiful they were. So cringe. Never returned.
I've used it on and off for Spanish. I'm nearly forty and extremely married, but I still prefer taking to women not because I want to flirt, but because, well, women are nicer, more empathetic and nurturing. I ain't got time for the macho crap. My best conversations have been with married women over 30, because we kind of get each other. But I would feel like a creep if I said "I am especially interested in talking to married women over 30."
It's not creepy to have general preferences for who you talk to based on your past experiences. It's just creepy if you then say creepy things to them haha. I don't care if my language exchange partners are guys or girls as long as they're respectful :)
I normally prefer to talk to women initially. I found they pronounce words slower and clearer. I then talk to guys, when my level has gone up. After the guys, I will talk to non native speakers, guys or girls. Finally low level learners last. I attended conversation practice classes a few times, but stopped going, as I found the level too low for me.
I’m a guy and I ran into two creeps so far on HT one from Italy and another from Colombia back when I was using for Spanish, Italian and Portuguese. After updating my mobile I’ve re-downloaded HT to practice my Turkish so far I haven’t encountered any weirdoes yet.
Actually, especially if the number of messages is not totally overwhelming yet :D, what truly helped me personally, was being very straightforward in such conversations from the get-go. So if someone was starting with: oh you are so pretty, you look so young, are you married...? I was like: ok, so I see you already covered the "flirting in English" part :D, which language do you wish to learn, and how I can help you now? Literally proposing some language exercises :D. And making exclamation I am a serious learner and I expect the same from my "students". :D And trust me... that makes those creeps stop writing very quickly too :D. OR, especially if someone knows languages I am not interested in and wishes to learn languages I don't speak, I simply say: you can't help me, I can't help, let's not waste our time ;).
Being straightforward is probably the way to go. I'm always afraid it will come off as rude over text, but it's probably the most effective way to weed out people who are more interested in dating than language learning.
Thanks girly for this video! I just joined last night and I'm super excited! :D I already can see the benefits this will have for my language learning. I know creeps will come though.
I just joined HelloTalk and I've been getting lots of message from guys who are (1) either in the US (why would I want to talk to another American? I'm trying to learn Korean), or (2) their profile says that they are in S. Korea but their time zone says they are in the US (so I guess they are lying about their location?). And also their profile pics all look like idols ... looks awfully fishy to me.
There are Korean Americans (American born and raised) and Korean Canadians (born & raised in Canada) Then like she said there are Korean immigrants in Canada and the U.S..
A lot of people have messaged me. I am a guy. Most have been women but some men. They like to chat but I kind of just want to call them. I’m really bad and texting though that’s why. 😂
What's your opinion about tandem? As a man, i'm fortunate to say i don't have this problem with creeps. BTW, you can't really ghost people you never have talked with. So don't feel too bad.
Haha I’ll try to keep that in mind. I have the tendency to feel guilty about things that I shouldn’t... 😅 I’ve never tried Tandem, although I’ve heard the name a few times before. Have you tried it? How is it?
@@rafnaegels8913 Hmm, maybe I should check it out someday. These days I'm feeling kind of antisocial, but the next time I get the urge to find language buddies, I'll give it a shot! As an introvert, I totally understand not feeling social enough. Whenever I go on HelloTalk and get flooded with messages, I always get socially overwhelmed and exhausted super fast.
Wow, I'm a 21 y/o dude who has an intense love for Spanish. Looking to find a language exchange partner but all the articles I'm reading are bringing this issue up, lol. I don't expect to have this problem because of my sex, but that must be really frustrating and I'm so sorry! Since I'm someone who's never done language exchange before, do you have any tips for how I can help people feel at ease when I approach them to start a conversation (e.g. profile tips)? I'll be trying to find 2-3 people I can have long-term language exchanges with and I want to avoid any (totally reasonable) defensive presumptions by natives
I would say that if you approach the language exchange with that attitude, you won't have too many problems. If from the beginning you clearly express your love for and interest in the Spanish language, talk about what you do to study/practice, and mention that you're looking for someone to have long-term language exchanges with, then you can probably end up weeding out the people who aren't interested and find some people that have similar interests. Also, if you use HelloTalk specifically, you could use the "Moments" feature to help find people that have the same intentions as you more easily perhaps. You could post the type of language partner you're looking for, and ask if anyone else is interested in an exchange like that. Then you could message the people who respond and might have more success that way. It's more the people who right away comment on my looks, ask if I have a boyfriend, or get angry if I take a while to respond that make me frustrated. So if your main focus is truly Spanish, I think it'll be pretty clear to your language partners that you're not just trying to chat up girls or something.
I'm a middle aged guy, and like 90% of the messages I receive are from women (and a handful of gay guys), although not many have come across as seriously creepy. After chatting about this with a few language partners, we all have the same story regardless of gender. I guess due to sheer numbers we're going to see some of this.
Interesting to see that it's a similar experience for men as well! Maybe it's due to the fact that people often make the decision to reach out to people based on the initial photo that they see, so the kind of people they are usually attracted to end up being their first choice, even if they are purely interested in language exchange.
Guys, i ll tell you another thing about this app which is pretty sad and frustrating. The concept of this platform is to not promote RACISM, but by choosing one country to get closer of, you already neglect the other nice people who text you. Appareantly this platform encourages everbody to meet new people, but i will tell you one thing. Almost everybody is obsessed on meeting only koreans, americans and british ( as if they are the most important there and stuff) , fact which automatically excludes the other nationatilies which might deserve a chance to get themselfs known. You will see loads of desciptions like ,, If you re not korean, don t text me,, which is pretty unappealing for somebody who really has good intentions, but guess what, he s ignored and ghosted because it doesn t have that ,, premium nationality,,. On the other hand, the restrictions there are too hard. You call somebody racist, and you get reported then cancelled. There s not even freedom of speech. Calling somebody racist suggests an opinion, it s not an insult. That s why Hellotalk is trashy. If you re not from a big country, you don t matter. That s what HelloTalks is all about.
@@sivasankari5084 Even Omegle is better than this helloshit. Honestly, i have no idea which app you might use considering that each one is almost the same in terms of people and nationality options.
I'm 14 and I really don't want creepy old men tryna chat 😭 that's why I wanna only chat with girls, it's true that girls can be creepy but it's just less common idk
Im a dude, I had to block a Colombian guy from 3 different accounts. I will say I try to go out of my way to talk to more of the dude because they apparently have a hard time getting people to talk to them, and like 95% of the people talking to me are female.
In my first day of using the app I received 100+ messages and only about 6 were from women... Also, so many people told me that their MAIN reason for using the app is to "make friends". I don't think its bad to eventually become friends with someone through the app, but it really bothered me because these people were usually not focused in learning nor teaching at all! Unfortunately, I had to follow your advice and change my pfp and bio...
Yeah, honestly the worst part of the app for me is that I get so overwhelmed with messages. I can barely keep 3-4 conversations straight with people I don't know well, much less respond to the dozens of people that will message me in a day if I use the app. I end up ignoring a lot of people just because I can't handle it all, which makes some people feel hurt or offended (I don't ignore people I'm in a conversation with -- just new people reaching out). And even with just limiting myself to a few conversations, as an introvert I start feeling drained after a while of endless small talk with strangers lol. You can make yourself disappear from the search function, but if you use Moments then people can still reach out to you so that's not a perfect solution either...sigh.
I have gotten visitors right away but it won’t let me talk with them if I don’t pay, I’ll pay in the future bc I have no money but 60 over is too much for me!! I want help learning Japanese so I will pay when I am older
My dilemma Talking to Males - They might think I'm creepy Talking to females - They might think I'm creepy It also adds to the problem if they look good or having a profile that looks like a dating profile lol
If I delete a message or a photo I shared does that delete for both side? Even after deleting they still reply to that specific message it's weird lol. Also the 'delete conversation' does it delete it for both parties?
When you delete a conversation, I think it only deletes it from your end. So if you're concerned about people being creepy with you, my advice would be to block them, not just delete their messages. If you delete their messages and do nothing else, they'd still be able to message you. Hope this helps.
I have had a few users who contacted me and knew they never looked at my bio.....in my bio I specifically wrote that I am married, and only looking for language messaging. I like taking to people across sexes and ages because i like hearing from different groups of people.
I agree! I enjoy talking to a variety of people, and I've actually met an amazing group of friends in person by meeting up with a male contact from the app. But what drives me crazy is when I've specifically put info in my bio that people clearly don't read or ignore.
I didnt understand this app, why the hell would they allow ppl to even see your gender your age and worst your location???????!!!! Those thing doest help in anything other then a date app. And why the fuck you can DM someone too, its a app for strangers learn a language so it should have a check box for both party to start the conversation. The design is so weird for theirs supposed goals for the app, unless they want that mixed thing. Pretty sure in the future they gonna add a match system too.
The location part has actually been helpful in the past for me, since it helped me find a language partner at my same graduate school. You can also hide your location pretty easily if you don't want to share that information. But now they've made the location-based search feature premium only...
I downloaded it a few months ago to learn other languages but there was a creep and though he was around my age he made me extremely uncomfortable so I made up a fake boyfriend so he would leave me alone and deleted it quickly afterwards I'll stick to duolingo from now on :)
@@SomedayKorean yeah I totally agree, it made me so upset that meer language app isn't taken seriously I have extremely anxiety and the creeps made it worse 😕
I’m 16 currently trying to learn Japanese and I’m trying to make some friends too. I have my name (chosen, not dead name Wich is my legal name) I havnt met anyone creepy yet
If you let the app show your location, I'm pretty sure it uses your phone's GPS, so I'm not sure how it could be fake. I'm not sure why it matters what their real location is, anyways.
It's a shame. This explains why so many females are guarded on this app. I feel that this app has become a second Facebook with so many unwilling to talk but ready to shit-chat that goes nowhere and makes me want to spend my money on iTalki. Don't bother using this app if you're a "serious language learner".
i am using this hello talk app frm two days and so much creep are thr boys are just stocking me.. well i want to knw about VIP upgrade it is safe to upgrade. well one more question should i use this app or not... love u frm india❤️
I've never tried the premium version, but I think it has some nice features. As for whether or not you should use the app, I think that's your personal decision :) Is it worth it to deal with the creepers to get language practice? Then keep using it! If it's not worth it to you, then don't.
Most all guys are creepy, especially now days. No one knows how to talk to each other. Sometimes I like to think it's because of this ignorance that we get such awkwardness in our interactions with each other. Y'all need to develop some swag. Also I will add at first when you are trying to court someone it's almost always awkward in some way. It's supposed to be. Use it as a learning experience. Men, be gentleman and treat ladies with respect. We need some moral fortitude from our young men now. Especially if you ever want to be regarded with respect. $0.02
Men are going to shoot their shot regardless of the platform, that's just how it is. I know plenty of people who found their spouses through insta, Facebook etc but none of these apps are oriented for dating. If women want this to stop, they need to share some responsibility for this issue and approach men at the same rate, so that we don't feel the need to approach them often. I've been part of this conversation for several years, but from the looks of it, they aren't really looking for a pragmatic solution. All they do is whine, whine, whine incessantly hoping that men will stop and accept their fate to die alone. And it seems that's what's happening based on recent stats and studies.
Very typical bias way, their are also female creeps on that app, they are only on there to flirt and get a man. I am so tired of feminist calling men creeps if they don't like the man. But he is not a creep if they like him. I have had many female creeps wanting videos and photos, and absolutely foul.
Excellent point. Its a recurring pattern I've been noticing in every aspect of life, its only "creepy" if the woman isn't interested in him, otherwise she wouldn't care about him flirting. On the other hand, men don't go around making videos on how they are disgusted by female "creeps" just for expressing interest. That's the difference.
That is definitely one solution, but I've always been reluctant to do so because I've actually made several close in-person friendships due to male HelloTalk users that I chatted with. Guys aren't all bad apples, right? :)
I'm not currently learning Arabic, so I don't think we could help each other much. Maybe you can try to find people learning Arabic on the HelloTalk app or on other language learning communities!
Haha I’m definitely not qualified to teach Korean, sorry. 🙈 But I strongly recommend Talk to Me in Korean’s website! They have a TON of free resources, and their podcast is honestly where the foundation of my Korean knowledge came from.
It can be really frustrating when people don't respond. But I've also not responded to people when I felt overwhelmed by messages before, so I can understand their side, too. Maybe try posting in Moments to find serious Korean language partners!
I'm not sure what you mean by "a girl like me", but if you're referring to how I look, then I don't know why that matters. After all, it's a language exchange app, not a dating app, so my native language and personality is all that matters, not my face or body. If you do download the app, then I hope you treat your language partners with kindness, since insulting people isn't very attractive either :)
Also, if you do have a husband/wife/significant other, be sure and post a picture with you spouse/significant other or if you have a family, your family picture. That might help too!
That didn't help me at all lol
Have a profile photo with some random guy. Not in your profile where they don't look anyway. Has to be your profile photo.
I think it's best not to post a family picture publicly on an app like hellotalk, especially since it probably won't help too
Briliant man, smart man
Fun fact: when you’re a minor, you can only talk to other minors on HelloTalk. Makes me feel a whole lot safer as a 14 year old on the platform
im also a minor lol, trying to learn japanese- would you recommend the app?
bro no its too hard to talk with japanese I am just getting nervous to talk to them they dont reply and I am not even bothering them with flirting or messages, maybe their people is jsut like that I text 40 different people and just 2 of them talking regularly@@555-y3t6p
Yeah, but I guess there's no option to prove that someone is a minor. So I will still be a cautious.
@@sonyastefanova5785 There is! You have to send in a video of yourself introducing yourself and saying your country of residence n stuff
yes can you talk is a scam application I will make a VIP member then they take money and bank me from normal function even though I don't make anything wrong
I once had a guy ask if I was married, or wanted to marry or date someone in my target language, red flags, but then he asked the same question of the guy who entered the chat party next, it turned out he and another girl in my target language were discussing dating and marrying foreigners from various countries. That just happened to be that day's topic. I think we should be cautious, but also avoid being over zealous. The guy and the girl have become friends who I love speaking with, and have helped me improve my speaking very rapidly.
There needs to be an app like this, but for dating.
There's no neutral ground for people to talk in mainstream dating apps.
I'm there because to improve fragmented Japanese, but the friendships component omg xD
yes can you talk is a scam application I will make a VIP member then they take money and bank me from normal function even though I don't make anything wrong
I am a boy and i hate that type of boys who are using these educational platform for their crazy things and for bothering girls.
#RESPECT_WOMEN
Wow bro all boys should be like u👍🏻
#RespectMen
#TeamGirls
ur not gonna get any b1tchEz saying stuff like this
Bro, maybe you are one of them? Lol
It’s really frustrating when you are trying to learn a language and culture but you are just met with harassment. I tried looking for someone to help me learn German but all I got was creepy messages from guys (mainly Indian guys) who had no interest at all in teaching me and I don‘t think they even knew German or have ever lived in Germany 😕. It’s good that some websites are trying to keep these sort of guys out but there is just that many in the language exchange/ learning community that it’s difficult to catch them all.
How odd that Indian guys were trying to contact you when you were trying to learn German! Was that on HelloTalk or a different app/website? At least all the creepy messages I get are at least from native speakers of my target language..
@@SomedayKorean I was surprised too. I sort of expected creepy guys from the target language I was learning but they were from other countries far from my target language. It’s very bewildering and frustrating. Yes, it has happened on HelloTalk but also other apps/websites as well like MyLanguageExchange.com, Tandem and Pen Pal websites. I have stated clearly on my profiles that I’m only interested in communicating with speakers of my target language but unfortunately that still doesn’t stop them.
@@Victoria-qb3dr Hi! I don't know if you've seen it already but there's a setting that allows only people of your target language to message you. Hope this helps!
The same thing happened to me no matter what I did, it was so weird... ;-;
Put a profile picture of nature or something other than yourself. It helped a lot. It doesn’t prevent them 100% , but it will limit it. I just ignore the rest who don’t seem legit to learn.
There's creeps everywhere in life, don't let it ruin your learning
Be careful girls i met a lot of aggressive people there .
Once a guy asked me what religion I was and I said "Christian" and he said "I'm Christian too" and the conversation just ended there
That's it?? Lol how bizarre
Lol I guess xD
People just wanna know in advance what you have in common
yeah these guys are so annoying. i just block them at any of these signs: if they don’t speak the language i’m learning, if they say i’m pretty/cute, if they flirt in another way/ ask if i have a partner. Instant block, i don’t even feel bad anymore.
I've met some really nice people on HelloTalk. But after awhile of meeting someone and talking to them for awhile. They all of a sudden stop responding to my messages. That's the only bad thing about the app.
I don’t use HelloTalk but I have found a similar pattern on another language exchange website. So story is a guy messaged me and asked if I could practice English with him, and I agreed. He asked me what my age and birthday was, my age was already on my profile so I just told him. Next message he went on about how our zodiac signs were compatible and asked if I had a boyfriend… btw the guy was 34 and I just told him I was 16. I was weirded out but I didn’t get many chances to talk with foreigners since this was my first time using a language exchange service and I don’t live anywhere near tourist sites, so I tried not to make my feelings obvious and said something like “I don’t know why you’re asking a teen that if you’re 34” then went on about the story/legend behind his zodiac sign to keep conversation going. I guess he got the message and stopped talking back assuming I’d blocked him, though I never did. Thankfully most the people on the site I use aren’t trying to date but that was an odd experience for sure
Omg that's so creepy!! Some people are just weirdos...
Bruh HelloTalk is for language exchange. These people should go back to being swipped on Tinder
I guess they really want to date people who speak a different language or who are "foreign" or "exotic" or something..
@@SomedayKorean I guess that's "fair", but I'm sure there are other apps that focus on foreign dating.
@@acumennova3929 Yeah I definitely still agree that they shouldn't be using HelloTalk for dating purposes.
There aren't any other apps to meet people from foreign countries, learn their language and find a partner though. Tinder and pretty much any other "dating" specific apps are superficial. It hardly works for guys. What's exactly wrong with forming connection through these apps? Women often give relationship advice to guys to join meetup groups so it increases our chances to form a connection through a shared/mutual interest. That's exactly what's happening here - a shared interest in learning about each other's culture and language, except its online. So why is this frowned upon? Genuinely curious.
I've had a few real-life friendships come from the app, and I think it's possible people can connect romantically through the app as well... BUT I think it's the way it happens that's more important. If you talk with someone for a while and then express interest down the road when there is actually a connection, that's fine. But a lot of the people I get frustrated with are the ones who say "oh you're so pretty" or ask if I'm in a relationship in the first few messages they send. To me that sends a pretty clear signal that the person isn't as interested in an actual language exchange and is more interested in my appearance.
If I were to go to a language meetup group, I would think the same thing if someone walked up to me and immediately commented on my appearance or relationship status rather than having a more typical get-to-know-you conversation.
I've had a girl asking me about my background before talking to me, I found it strange but during the Language Exchange, she told me that she was bombarded with messages from Indians, Pakistani, Algerians, Moroccans etc looking for language exchanges that often either pretend to come from the UK and hardly speak the language or have actually no interest in learning anything.
Once I went into a Chat Room and it was just full of the said group, telling the girls how beautiful they were. So cringe. Never returned.
I've used it on and off for Spanish. I'm nearly forty and extremely married, but I still prefer taking to women not because I want to flirt, but because, well, women are nicer, more empathetic and nurturing. I ain't got time for the macho crap. My best conversations have been with married women over 30, because we kind of get each other. But I would feel like a creep if I said "I am especially interested in talking to married women over 30."
It's not creepy to have general preferences for who you talk to based on your past experiences. It's just creepy if you then say creepy things to them haha. I don't care if my language exchange partners are guys or girls as long as they're respectful :)
I normally prefer to talk to women initially. I found they pronounce words slower and clearer. I then talk to guys, when my level has gone up. After the guys, I will talk to non native speakers, guys or girls. Finally low level learners last.
I attended conversation practice classes a few times, but stopped going, as I found the level too low for me.
I’m a guy and I ran into two creeps so far on HT one from Italy and another from Colombia back when I was using for Spanish, Italian and Portuguese. After updating my mobile I’ve re-downloaded HT to practice my Turkish so far I haven’t encountered any weirdoes yet.
Best of luck! It can be a great app if you can avoid the weird interactions.
I'm a guy and get so many women in my DMs telling me I'm handsome and stuff. It's a blessing and curse
I just wish people would focus more on language learning… ya know, the point of the app??
@@SomedayKorean mhm, I get dms asking for my age and they act weird when they know im a minor.
Actually, especially if the number of messages is not totally overwhelming yet :D, what truly helped me personally, was being very straightforward in such conversations from the get-go. So if someone was starting with: oh you are so pretty, you look so young, are you married...? I was like: ok, so I see you already covered the "flirting in English" part :D, which language do you wish to learn, and how I can help you now? Literally proposing some language exercises :D. And making exclamation I am a serious learner and I expect the same from my "students". :D And trust me... that makes those creeps stop writing very quickly too :D. OR, especially if someone knows languages I am not interested in and wishes to learn languages I don't speak, I simply say: you can't help me, I can't help, let's not waste our time ;).
Being straightforward is probably the way to go. I'm always afraid it will come off as rude over text, but it's probably the most effective way to weed out people who are more interested in dating than language learning.
Thanks girly for this video! I just joined last night and I'm super excited! :D I already can see the benefits this will have for my language learning. I know creeps will come though.
I put up a Bitmoji of myself by the way, to let people know I have a face and am real, but also not show my actual face.
That’s a good idea!! What language are you studying?
@@SomedayKorean Thanks! I'm studying Mandarin. 🙂
@@digthewarmth Ooh fun! Good luck with your language studies! 加油！
I just joined HelloTalk and I've been getting lots of message from guys who are (1) either in the US (why would I want to talk to another American? I'm trying to learn Korean), or (2) their profile says that they are in S. Korea but their time zone says they are in the US (so I guess they are lying about their location?). And also their profile pics all look like idols ... looks awfully fishy to me.
I chatted with many people on HelloTalk who were Koreans living in the US. Are you saying that non-Koreans are messaging you?
There are Korean Americans (American born and raised) and Korean Canadians (born & raised in Canada) Then like she said there are Korean immigrants in Canada and the U.S..
A lot of people have messaged me. I am a guy. Most have been women but some men. They like to chat but I kind of just want to call them. I’m really bad and texting though that’s why. 😂
What's your opinion about tandem?
As a man, i'm fortunate to say i don't have this problem with creeps.
BTW, you can't really ghost people you never have talked with. So don't feel too bad.
Haha I’ll try to keep that in mind. I have the tendency to feel guilty about things that I shouldn’t... 😅
I’ve never tried Tandem, although I’ve heard the name a few times before. Have you tried it? How is it?
@@SomedayKorean honestly, i couldn’t tell you.
I don’t have the social skills for these kinds of platforms.
But there are more people on it.
@@rafnaegels8913 Hmm, maybe I should check it out someday. These days I'm feeling kind of antisocial, but the next time I get the urge to find language buddies, I'll give it a shot!
As an introvert, I totally understand not feeling social enough. Whenever I go on HelloTalk and get flooded with messages, I always get socially overwhelmed and exhausted super fast.
I am not a creep, but i don't know how to talk girls, thats why i look like a creep 🤪🤪
As long as you don’t immediately ask about their boyfriend or mention how they look, you should be fine haha
@@SomedayKoreanthanks for your advice
It's a language app. Your objective should be to learn a language, hence someone's gender should be irrelevant.
Wow, I'm a 21 y/o dude who has an intense love for Spanish. Looking to find a language exchange partner but all the articles I'm reading are bringing this issue up, lol. I don't expect to have this problem because of my sex, but that must be really frustrating and I'm so sorry! Since I'm someone who's never done language exchange before, do you have any tips for how I can help people feel at ease when I approach them to start a conversation (e.g. profile tips)? I'll be trying to find 2-3 people I can have long-term language exchanges with and I want to avoid any (totally reasonable) defensive presumptions by natives
I would say that if you approach the language exchange with that attitude, you won't have too many problems. If from the beginning you clearly express your love for and interest in the Spanish language, talk about what you do to study/practice, and mention that you're looking for someone to have long-term language exchanges with, then you can probably end up weeding out the people who aren't interested and find some people that have similar interests.
Also, if you use HelloTalk specifically, you could use the "Moments" feature to help find people that have the same intentions as you more easily perhaps. You could post the type of language partner you're looking for, and ask if anyone else is interested in an exchange like that. Then you could message the people who respond and might have more success that way.
It's more the people who right away comment on my looks, ask if I have a boyfriend, or get angry if I take a while to respond that make me frustrated. So if your main focus is truly Spanish, I think it'll be pretty clear to your language partners that you're not just trying to chat up girls or something.
I'm a middle aged guy, and like 90% of the messages I receive are from women (and a handful of gay guys), although not many have come across as seriously creepy. After chatting about this with a few language partners, we all have the same story regardless of gender. I guess due to sheer numbers we're going to see some of this.
Interesting to see that it's a similar experience for men as well! Maybe it's due to the fact that people often make the decision to reach out to people based on the initial photo that they see, so the kind of people they are usually attracted to end up being their first choice, even if they are purely interested in language exchange.
@@SomedayKorean That's more or less my guess. Makes sense on the surface.
There are also many rude people on there, especially young lads that are full of pride and argue about everything with you. It’s very annoying
Im a guy and just download the app. On the first day, yes the first day, 2 women randomly called me.
Guys, i ll tell you another thing about this app which is pretty sad and frustrating. The concept of this platform is to not promote RACISM, but by choosing one country to get closer of, you already neglect the other nice people who text you. Appareantly this platform encourages everbody to meet new people, but i will tell you one thing. Almost everybody is obsessed on meeting only koreans, americans and british ( as if they are the most important there and stuff) , fact which automatically excludes the other nationatilies which might deserve a chance to get themselfs known. You will see loads of desciptions like ,, If you re not korean, don t text me,, which is pretty unappealing for somebody who really has good intentions, but guess what, he s ignored and ghosted because it doesn t have that ,, premium nationality,,. On the other hand, the restrictions there are too hard. You call somebody racist, and you get reported then cancelled. There s not even freedom of speech. Calling somebody racist suggests an opinion, it s not an insult.
That s why Hellotalk is trashy. If you re not from a big country, you don t matter. That s what HelloTalks is all about.
@octavianbulai4265 which app is best to learn english?
@@sivasankari5084 Even Omegle is better than this helloshit. Honestly, i have no idea which app you might use considering that each one is almost the same in terms of people and nationality options.
@@octavianbulai4265 k tq
I'm 14 and I really don't want creepy old men tryna chat 😭 that's why I wanna only chat with girls, it's true that girls can be creepy but it's just less common idk
Im a dude, I had to block a Colombian guy from 3 different accounts. I will say I try to go out of my way to talk to more of the dude because they apparently have a hard time getting people to talk to them, and like 95% of the people talking to me are female.
I don't trust it at all... It goes far beyond creepy guys...
I've made real friendships from the app, so it's not all bad, but there definitely are some negative aspects..
Literally had a dude who wanted to call cause he wanted to hear if my voice was cute. Luckily I sound like a 14yr old boy. Lol
Can you also do a guide for creeps? Asking for a friend.
In my first day of using the app I received 100+ messages and only about 6 were from women... Also, so many people told me that their MAIN reason for using the app is to "make friends". I don't think its bad to eventually become friends with someone through the app, but it really bothered me because these people were usually not focused in learning nor teaching at all!
Unfortunately, I had to follow your advice and change my pfp and bio...
Yeah, honestly the worst part of the app for me is that I get so overwhelmed with messages. I can barely keep 3-4 conversations straight with people I don't know well, much less respond to the dozens of people that will message me in a day if I use the app. I end up ignoring a lot of people just because I can't handle it all, which makes some people feel hurt or offended (I don't ignore people I'm in a conversation with -- just new people reaching out). And even with just limiting myself to a few conversations, as an introvert I start feeling drained after a while of endless small talk with strangers lol.
You can make yourself disappear from the search function, but if you use Moments then people can still reach out to you so that's not a perfect solution either...sigh.
I have gotten visitors right away but it won’t let me talk with them if I don’t pay, I’ll pay in the future bc I have no money but 60 over is too much for me!! I want help learning Japanese so I will pay when I am older
Yup that’s why I don’t talk to men in HelloTalk
My dilemma
Talking to Males - They might think I'm creepy
Talking to females - They might think I'm creepy
It also adds to the problem if they look good or having a profile that looks like a dating profile lol
Just downloaded it and so far so good, then again I am a man so that's probably why. And I do not use a profile picture, that probably helps my case.
If I delete a message or a photo I shared does that delete for both side? Even after deleting they still reply to that specific message it's weird lol. Also the 'delete conversation' does it delete it for both parties?
When you delete a conversation, I think it only deletes it from your end. So if you're concerned about people being creepy with you, my advice would be to block them, not just delete their messages. If you delete their messages and do nothing else, they'd still be able to message you. Hope this helps.
@@matthewwiederspan3025 thanks so much :)
@@nazd223 You're welcome. 👍
I have had a few users who contacted me and knew they never looked at my bio.....in my bio I specifically wrote that I am married, and only looking for language messaging. I like taking to people across sexes and ages because i like hearing from different groups of people.
I agree! I enjoy talking to a variety of people, and I've actually met an amazing group of friends in person by meeting up with a male contact from the app. But what drives me crazy is when I've specifically put info in my bio that people clearly don't read or ignore.
Hello... I have a trouble to delete my account in HelloTalk. Can you tell please how please. Thank you
I'm actually not sure how to delete it, but you can probably contact HelloTalk's support team with this question and have them help you!
When you delete a message
It'll delete for others too?
Please answer me😭
Yes
I didnt understand this app, why the hell would they allow ppl to even see your gender your age and worst your location???????!!!!
Those thing doest help in anything other then a date app.
And why the fuck you can DM someone too, its a app for strangers learn a language so it should have a check box for both party to start the conversation.
The design is so weird for theirs supposed goals for the app, unless they want that mixed thing.
Pretty sure in the future they gonna add a match system too.
The location part has actually been helpful in the past for me, since it helped me find a language partner at my same graduate school. You can also hide your location pretty easily if you don't want to share that information. But now they've made the location-based search feature premium only...
I know Russian girl who married Korean from this app
I have a question
Why do I always find only one gender people on hellotalk talk?
I think you can search by gender!
This is why we need to eliminate Hello Talk.
I downloaded it a few months ago to learn other languages but there was a creep and though he was around my age he made me extremely uncomfortable so I made up a fake boyfriend so he would leave me alone and deleted it quickly afterwards I'll stick to duolingo from now on :)
Yeah I can never bring myself to use it consistently... I get overwhelmed too fast.
@@SomedayKorean yeah I totally agree, it made me so upset that meer language app isn't taken seriously I have extremely anxiety and the creeps made it worse 😕
I’m 16 currently trying to learn Japanese and I’m trying to make some friends too. I have my name (chosen, not dead name Wich is my legal name) I havnt met anyone creepy yet
Glad to hear it! Hopefully you can avoid the creeps :)
Same.
Mhm, me too and it clearly has my age and they are so creepy….. I’m a minor too.
I have one question the location of users on the app are real or fake how could we fine between fake one or real one
If you let the app show your location, I'm pretty sure it uses your phone's GPS, so I'm not sure how it could be fake. I'm not sure why it matters what their real location is, anyways.
I wish I could filter by country too
It s really discustinng when people does not focsous their skill
It's a shame. This explains why so many females are guarded on this app. I feel that this app has become a second Facebook with so many unwilling to talk but ready to shit-chat that goes nowhere and makes me want to spend my money on iTalki. Don't bother using this app if you're a "serious language learner".
Your advice is very useful...❣️❣️❣️
Can you give me one to one English classes like cambly. I'll pay you because cambly is so expensive
Some disrespectful women on there too❤
How to remove block in hello talk
Hey
Why my moment don’t visible public on hellotalk??
I don't know. Try reaching out to hellotalk support!
Red dot n blue dot. Below lang.
Why it's not fully coloured
#respectwomens
but womens never respect me when they type first ç_ç
Everyone should respect others, regardless of gender.
i am using this hello talk app frm two days and so much creep are thr boys are just stocking me.. well i want to knw about VIP upgrade it is safe to upgrade. well one more question should i use this app or not...
love u frm india❤️
I've never tried the premium version, but I think it has some nice features. As for whether or not you should use the app, I think that's your personal decision :) Is it worth it to deal with the creepers to get language practice? Then keep using it! If it's not worth it to you, then don't.
@@SomedayKorean okk thanks lots of love frm india ❤️
You are right sister
Most all guys are creepy, especially now days. No one knows how to talk to each other. Sometimes I like to think it's because of this ignorance that we get such awkwardness in our interactions with each other. Y'all need to develop some swag.
Also I will add at first when you are trying to court someone it's almost always awkward in some way. It's supposed to be. Use it as a learning experience.
Men, be gentleman and treat ladies with respect. We need some moral fortitude from our young men now. Especially if you ever want to be regarded with respect. $0.02
Men are going to shoot their shot regardless of the platform, that's just how it is. I know plenty of people who found their spouses through insta, Facebook etc but none of these apps are oriented for dating. If women want this to stop, they need to share some responsibility for this issue and approach men at the same rate, so that we don't feel the need to approach them often. I've been part of this conversation for several years, but from the looks of it, they aren't really looking for a pragmatic solution. All they do is whine, whine, whine incessantly hoping that men will stop and accept their fate to die alone. And it seems that's what's happening based on recent stats and studies.
Yeah I experience creeps 😑
Very typical bias way, their are also female creeps on that app, they are only on there to flirt and get a man. I am so tired of feminist calling men creeps if they don't like the man. But he is not a creep if they like him. I have had many female creeps wanting videos and photos, and absolutely foul.
In the video I was just talking about my personal experiences. I didn't mean that females can't be creeps.
@@SomedayKorean oh ok my friend.
Excellent point. Its a recurring pattern I've been noticing in every aspect of life, its only "creepy" if the woman isn't interested in him, otherwise she wouldn't care about him flirting. On the other hand, men don't go around making videos on how they are disgusted by female "creeps" just for expressing interest. That's the difference.
I only converse with women on the app
You are such a friendly and cute person ^^ Thank you for your advice
Background music should be lower
Wait a sec... You can turn on opposite gender only
That seems to completely solve the problem 🤔
That is definitely one solution, but I've always been reluctant to do so because I've actually made several close in-person friendships due to male HelloTalk users that I chatted with. Guys aren't all bad apples, right? :)
I am an Arab and I want to learn English. Can you help me in return, so I can help you to learn the Arabic language?
I'm not currently learning Arabic, so I don't think we could help each other much. Maybe you can try to find people learning Arabic on the HelloTalk app or on other language learning communities!
@@SomedayKorean don't freak off her name is shams she's a girl not creepy guy i know her question was quite creepy
Hello i am a creep 😂 can you teach me Korean there? I wanted to learn japanese or korean but its not working for me out there.
Haha I’m definitely not qualified to teach Korean, sorry. 🙈 But I strongly recommend Talk to Me in Korean’s website! They have a TON of free resources, and their podcast is honestly where the foundation of my Korean knowledge came from.
@@SomedayKorean okay thank you for the info I'll try that "CREEP" 🤣
Mostly Koreans do not reply you back. And it's very rude
It can be really frustrating when people don't respond. But I've also not responded to people when I felt overwhelmed by messages before, so I can understand their side, too. Maybe try posting in Moments to find serious Korean language partners!
Because they get a lot of messages
I need your help sister
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Wanna learn Japanese anyone ?
Me , Can we help eachother?
Thank youu
U believe?
Thanku mam
great video🙏🙏 from india
I am from india
Hiiii
ok Karen
If even a girl like you can receive lots of messages on that app then I don't feel bad anymore. I'll go right now and download that app right now
I'm not sure what you mean by "a girl like me", but if you're referring to how I look, then I don't know why that matters. After all, it's a language exchange app, not a dating app, so my native language and personality is all that matters, not my face or body.
If you do download the app, then I hope you treat your language partners with kindness, since insulting people isn't very attractive either :)
@@SomedayKorean yeah, I know you're that type of girl!
I don't know whether u are a boy or girl trust me soon u will get to know how bad she felt with your words, karma will return back.