“Please help me, I think I’m going mad” - Menopause and Mood
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- Опубликовано: 17 окт 2024
- Meg Mathews, Diane Danzebrink, Dr Rebecca Lewis and Dr Sarah Ball discuss the impact of the menopause on mood and personality, the benefits HRT can bring to your emotional wellbeing, the inappropriate use of anti-depressants and your rights as a patient.
Learn more about the symptoms of the menopause at: www.menopaused...
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Omg the not being able to drive, and just simply function because your mental health is declining is so scary.. this is me… crippling anxiety and depression
Seven years of feeling rubbish constantly telling the GP that I haven't felt right since I started the menopause. Told I needed antidepressants 🤔 and all the time it was menopause symptoms they didn't listen. Finally had enough of feeling rubbish,dizzy shaky bad mood, lack of joy, palpitations etc.i finally had a chat with the menopause nurse at my surgery and agreed to start oestrogen/progesterone patch this week already fuzzy head feeling has gone. I was passed onto Nurse as GP said not his speciality (why not) After watching numerous RUclips videos I actually felt more informed than the Nurse this can't be right. Thank you for informing women it all makes so much sense now. 👍
Heart felt thanks I've been paralysed in life for most of my 50s and dropped out of care sector work. I really want to return to work and now have hope. Ty 😊
My GP didn't listen to me , he diagnosed me with depression, taking antidepressants for 5 months, I stopped taking antidepressants now for a few months now.
“But you have to be in a state where you can string you words together…”. Such truth!
Thank you for bringing this to light!
we save each other by sharing our stories...thank you x
Still nothing as changed, for me I started perimenopause when I was 45 yrs I've told female gp and male don't take any notice, have repeatedly done so for over 10yrs now. It's disgusting when your over the age of 40 you're either crazy or depressed both are medical gaslighting. For now I'll keep trying to be heard. Take care y'all
Hugs hun...im so sorry....im 45 and started at 40.....its only because the syptoms got so bad and I broke down at work that someone spoke to me about it (an older lady)....iv been shocked by all iv watched and read ever since....I really hope ul get the help you need
Yep. It still feels like nobody knows, and nobody cares.! I’m considering finding alternative routes back to full health.
@@janetsmith8566 still no better for me!. I sincerely hope you find your help your way! Take care
@@angelaspeirs595 Hugs right back! Glad you've been helped, unfortunately some of us still fight to be heard. Take care
I couldn't take it anymore.... Sore joints, depression, exhausted, sweats, the worst thing is my brain fog worse than any preg brain... HRTs have helped so much
It's horrible. Night sweats. Severe mood swings. Crying alot.
Diane explans the 'dark place' it drives you too, no one could tell me why I feel this way, no one talks about this and with lack of seeing GP with Covid women going through this need help ! Thank you for putting the puzzle together ❤ 💕 💜
I'm here because I feel terrible physically and mentally I'm 53 and have spent the darkest 3 wks of my life. My body joints ache I literally have no energy to do the simplest of tasks yet am awake all night. I'm sooo psychoticand and angry feel like I'm loosing the will poer and control to contain my anger... I'm at the end of my tether I can't go on ....
I am in the same boat as so many of us are, so sorry you have such pain too. love and hugs to you my dear.
I have felt totally the same. My god I hope you are ok?
@@emmadando9568 thankyou. I seem to have flare ups the pain in my joints muscles keep me awake at night. I hope your ok too xxx
This is where I am currently. But I believe God is going to heal and restore me. Im seeing a certified menopause specialist at the end of the month and a endocrinologist in August
I’m with you sister, exactly the same. How are you doing now? Have you found what helps you? X
Since going through menopause I feel that I have lost my old self, and I'll never get it back.
Same here! Horrible
So glad I saw your discussion on Menopause, actually post menopause. Saw my female Gyn and she said there is nothing for women, I'm certain if it was a man's issue, there would be treatments. Women are mistreated in every aspect of life. Horrible being treated as we don't matter.
It’s staggering to me that real solutions aren’t available in 2022. It almost seems deliberate.
l agree Indiekiwi
They don't have a cure for the common cold or flu either.
Yup
Amen!!!
There are solutions.
AWARENESS NEEDED as we shouldn't have to self diagnosis ourselves all the time, thank to clips like this to HELP
Thank you!!
This should also be taught in high schools when you learn about the reproductive system in women. Us women are not taught about this at all. I was put on anti depressants at 44 when I was suddenly hit with anxiety and depression and also an undiagnosed hypothyroidism. The Gp never tested any of my hormones to see why I felt so awful. I only ever suffered previously with post natal depression. Clearly there was a hormone related reason for this again in my life when life was going good. It took 8 years to come off antidepressants at the age of 52. I was tested and diagnosed with hypothyroidism. It took 5 months abscence of periods and a return of menopause symptoms that led me to see a gynaecologist. She finally prescribed me bio identical hormones after the Gp refused them offering me different antidepressants instead. I am due to start them soon and cannot wait to get the old me back aswell as protecting my bones and heart. Us women live longer now and the health risks of going without vital hormones for half our lives is a major health risk. GPS especially men need refresher training in understanding the need to boost are hormones when they are declining.
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How are you did you get back to your old self again.
Really need some relief from this depression.
People are actually dying more now then 15 years ago. Its actually being reversed. You ever hear of the opioid crisis raging in the States? Not to mention the disgusting food all processed and poisoned. GMO= Bayer= Monsanto. Everyones endocrine system is skewed because of the hormone disruptors in our environment.
Women go through hell. Before perimenopause I was social, outgoing and confident person. Now I'm an anxious hermit who is afraid of the world. I cry for no reason at all. I wake up at 2am every day and can't get back to sleep. I used to love exercising and now I couldn't be bothered. My entire personality has changed forever
Know the feeling then when I do exercise takes longer to recover. I wish there was much more support coffee mornings and peer support for menopause. Doctors that are specialists just for women with menapause.
I suffer a lot already with ocd but ever since I turned 42 it’s crippling and I’m losing joy in things. I’m not sure if it’s perimenopause but I think it could be! It’s just feels the worst ever this time! Thank you for this. It never dawned on me
THANK 🙏 YOU ... this is the first time I totally understand what is happening with my body ! The best clip ever to clearly explain and Meg your great 👍 👏 in being so open and honest to explain how I felt in being and feeling overwhelmed !
Early onset menopause is FAR more common than realized.
Its maddening & heartbreaking when I approached the traditional medical community and was told I LOOK Good and am too YOUNG to experience what is now referred to as Peri or PRE Menopause. I was in my early thirties when my body betrayed me in so many ways and I blame the Birth control pill for screwing up my hormones initially. Preventing pregnancy should not blow up or bomb your hormones indefinately, so saddening and maddening 😰
This makes me wonder if menopause is actually my issue. I am dealing with mood swings, depression, anxiety, extreme fatigue, etc. But on top of having a hysterectomy, I have to take tamoxifen which further rids my body of estrogen. I can’t take anything to help with the menopause because it could make the cancer come back-however, I think I would rather take the risk of stage 4 cancer (and dying) than dealing with these mental health issues and ideations.
Excellent discussion, may I just add it's not just GPs but mental health services also need more training about the effects of the menopause on mood, far too much misdiagnosis.
Boy. What awful feelings.
Need to talk to someone in charge.
Can a woman have menopause symptoms over 60.
@@janisseymour4525i need to know this also
I went through menopause in 2020 during the peak of covid. My daughter and her husband were both doctors, so they took time to explain to me. All the doctors in the state were too busy with emergencies. I was too scared of submitting myself to medical procedures for fear of catching covid and dying.. Menopause symptoms were horrid too. But I returned home and did my own research. Im fine now. But i struggle with weight and I keep it off with intermittent fasting and exercise.
Menopause during the pandemic has been absolute crap.
The hospitals weren't busy at all. They were told clear their books and stop taking on patients and surgeries etc. So many people went without help on purpose and many died or committed suicide. You should look up what actually occurred in the years of 2020-22.
@@jessicahitchens6926 thank you! I simply cannot believe more people aren't aware of the carnage.
Since last year march I'm going through menopause and my life as not be the same until today sometime i feel like I'm going mad for real my heart race headache heavey headed feeling fatigue pain and i could go on and on I'm just praying and hoping for all these symptoms to go away but the bible say all this shall pass 🙏🙏
These videos are SO helpful a breath of fresh air thanks for sharing blessings
TY Ladies 4 understanding and Championing women' TRIUMPH through the dark devastating transition with low mood, depression and high anxiety.. Don't let declining or absence of hormones steal your JOY, your Peace , your Vitality, your ability to FUNCTION day to day. Thinking clearly, making sound decisions and feeling stable, competent and confident are Essential.
Do you think we need clinics and specialist dr for mid to older womens health that we can go to so we know their well informed and will investigate beyond just low mood or depression
Antidepressants dont balance hormones 💥 HRT does
Life can be overwhelmingly frightening when we're moody & unstable.
Peace of Mind is Priceless ☮☯
I thought I was the only 1 going through this by myself (you talk to your husband about whats going on but they just don't understand) hot, cold, brain fog and very emotional
There is no answer I don't care how many people I listen to they don't have no real help. I turned to God the universe to give me the strength to get thru this
I agree. These videos are countless and wonderful but most of us are on our own. Because even if you find a hormone specialist, it’s hard to trust them.
Give over.
I'm sick of them all pointing you towards HRT as well. I tried hrt for 18 months and it made me feel worse so had to come off it 6 weeks ago. I've suffered horrific anxiety, depression and exhaustion since. If I didn't have faith in God I don't think I'd be here now.
How long does hrt take to work to help with depression?
My gp doesn't recommend hrt due to it may increase breast cancer risk. He prescribed antidepressants which don't help much. Obviously I don't want to increase the risk of breast cancer so I took his advice but I hate feeling depressed & anxious too. I'm not sure what to do.
@@josephmanning1647 we don't prescribe unregulated hormones in the UK. I actually took progesterone cream at one point and it did absolutely nothing. Not a thing. Please don't come on here being rude and disregarding of our menopause specialists , who are, in point of fact passionate about relieving women's suffering at their most vulnerable times. From your name, I am assuming you are male. So, working on that assumption you have absolutely no clue what women go through. Unregulated hormones can be really problematic. Thats why they are not commonly used here, unless you want to pay a small fortune at a private clinic. Thanks for you opinion. But seriously, take a seat. Say less
@@yasmindavidson5171 Point Taken. And I wasn't being Rude. I was just emphasizing the fact that you are doing your HRT for women backwards and you are condemning possibly millions of Brits or other women watching from around the world, very preventable bone disintegration as well as muscle wasting for many women and as well as the mood boosting that comes from when women have adequate levels of progesterone and testosterone which many menopausal women do not have. I never said that women may not need estrogen supplementation. But if you don't get the order of testing and treatment done properly and in the right order....you are just condemning women to much more pain and misery. If you think it's too expensive because of "unregulation" then regulate it and make the progesterone creams and testosterone therapies standard for women and start using it. But I don't think you will because your doctors that do hip replacements; for example; would hire the italian mafia to break your kneecaps. That is metaphorical...but you are in a hopelessly compromised situation with HRT. (So in some ways I feel for you). But in other ways...you are promoting lies and misery. I'll come back here and just delete all my messages....you don't want the truth anyways or are afraid of much stronger political forces . I'm just a man who loves women and spent a lot of time around pre and post menopausal women and have helped them on their journey. Estrogen only is a Band aide HRT
I am going through this stuggler it so hard I feel so helpless I have appointments next week can't wait to get help
My story exactly!
We need more info about this!!!
Good for her speaking out women need to help each other xx
So I stumbled upon this and I am so thankful. I am 43 and have been experiencing some night sweats but only when I'm leading up to my period and during. However, the anxiety is just awful and taking its toll on me, my hubby, and my kids. I've been taking natural supplements which have we been helping but coming up to my period and during it seems like nothing helps. I'm still looking for the right help. Today my Dr. prescribed me an antianxiety med but I'm kinda wonder if I should take it. I need to feel better, I want to feel better. Any suggestions please 🙏
For anxiety, deep belly breaths. Also holding the breath in and out for three seconds. For example, inhale and fill your lungs, hold the breath in three seconds, exhale and empty your lungs then hold the breath out for three seconds. Do eight times every day. An anxiety expert gave me that breathing exercise! Also cut out all caffeine and alcohol!! They both increase anxiety, studies have shown. Moderate exercise also helps. I mean moderate intensity. But doing it often is helpful!
@jean6460 I was started on birth control to help level out my hormones. Only been on it for 6 days as if 7/30/23 and been having low mood, mixed emotions 😕, and my anxiety well its off and on. Not sure if it's side effects from the pill or if my body is just trying to adjust. How long does it take for it to balance hormones out?
Ladies you have to work ok breatheork and yoga this has kept me sane for past 2 yrs age 49
When I fly off the handle. I get no support. I've been told I was crazy. I've been told I was Possessed. I get no support. I am 50 now. This menopause started for me at 45 due to a hysterectomy at the age of 44. So how do I deal with that?
Body identical hrt treatments
Am experiencing all the horrible feelings of perimenopause It's the worst journey of my life I just need to feel like my real self
Oh wish I new this a few months back 😩
I wish I knew it years ago - have spent years living so unhappy and sad because my FEMALE GP didn't help me
@@jeansmith3367 same here. I was given antidepressants which did nothing and I’m trying to wean myself off them now.
Louise Newsome (Dr) is brilliant.... She saved me
Thank you very much 😊 ladies very helpful 😊 great talk 👍
Thank you soooooo much for this great Video! I am 53 and really need information about menopause, because I feel I have changed and I am not having much joy in my life anymore. Sadly I can't Tage any hormones because my mother got cancer from it.
What can I do?
If these symptoms are anything to go by I've been going through the menopause since I was seventeen.
Thank you so much for sharing. I'm wondering if you can take HRT when you're only perimenopausal? Or do you have to be in menopause? What HRT do you recommend?
Hello! Dr Newson has written a booklet on the topic of perimenopause and HRT that you might find helpful, you can find it on our website here: bit.ly/3dp93Eg
@@balanceMenopause Thank you so much for replying I'll get into the book
@@balanceMenopause The link above is no longer working. Is there a new link to the booklet?
The earlier you start, the better. Estrogen protects your brain.
We are not just talking about the debilitating, sometimes life threatening perimenopausal symptoms. We are talking about brain lingevity.
Very helpful thank you ladies 👌👌
Thank you so much for this!! 💚
Does hormone therapy help if you’re 60 and went through menopause around mid 50
What form of HRT do you recommend?
If only I was supported emotionally, mentally & physically ...if I was given the option of balancing my hormones to stabilize my moods it would have removed years...decades of struggle and needless suffering 💥💣💥
Thank you for this. I just turned 50 and it has been over a year since I had a period. How can I get my husband to understand this is a thing? There have been one or two times where it has been really close to him giving up on me and vice versa.
Dr Newson has actually created a few different resources on this topic that you may find helpful. You can find a video, podcast and booklet on Dr Newson's website, here is the link: www.menopausedoctor.co.uk/search?query=partners
Best wishes.
@@balanceMenopause thank you!
I'll be 50 in October and I'm still getting periods, but I am so happy I am single at this time, lol. I couldn't deal with a relationship. My last child moved out 3 weeks and I am so happy to live alone. I wish you all the best!
Ladies....get ur men to watch these vids.Period
@@vyvyienewalser6798no pun intended 😂
Brilliant, thank you so much, xxxx
I had every single symptom but ONE! Because I didnt have hot flashes my Dr. would not give me anything. Another Dr. (an older woman no less) told me to have a glass of wine!! two years later and symptoms much worse I will be seeing a new dr. tomorrow.
You can have your hormones checked. Thats what I will do before taking hrt. Good luck.
Yes! Me too!! I'm 54 with no hot flashes, but miserable. It's been so hard to find help because of this!!
you have the same symptoms of when you was pregnant cranky craving fluid retention mood swings ugh i hate menopause with a passion glad to see this an im not the only one going through this my husbands understanding though bless him its terrible wish there was a magic pill for it id overdose lol God bless all us menopausal women
What can i do in the meantime whilst i wait for hrt to kick in? Ive started higher hrt. Just wondering if it might not be compatible with me too.
How are you feeling now?
@@Sillysausage17 It's been 3 years since upping hrt. I'm in the highest level patch. And I use Estrogel to top up when needed. I have times of major stress and it messes with the amount of estrogen absorbed..
Ive started supplementing with ashwaghanda, vitamin B12, bs and enough vitamin D. It all helps. But anxiety isn't what it once was. It can still be very difficult. Menopause is a trying time of life.
@ktcee803 That's good to hear, I'm also on the highest patch and top up on the gel , it sure is a very trying time indeed. I was hoping things would ease up in post menopause.
@@Sillysausage17 yes, I thought post would mean things are better but NO. I get terrible symptoms if I forget a patch. Even for a few hours. It's ridiculous. I eat very healthy/low carb, take the sups and still battle. I do have other health issues - autoimmune conditions, which do not help matters! Thankfully we have access to hrt. Women in the 1800s, early 1900s were put in mental asylums for menopause. As a society we have progressed a little 😐
@ktcee803 that's so true ,I can't go without my patch either , I've now developed ocular migranes also which are absolutely awful , this journey is a nightmare 😢
🙏🏼thank you for this 🙏🏼
So what do we do when our doctor won't put us on HRT but insist we take antidepressants. Do you we just try to live with it?
Find another doctor. I found a hormone specialist.
I'm suffering from premenopausal my period is all over the place and I've gone of sex completely
Thank you
I feel so much desperation despair. I’ve even had an extreme nutrition change and that isn’t doing it either. 😢😢😢😢
Go low carb and intermittent fasting.
Please help me I think I'm going crazy
Please get in touch with your doctor. Also if you’re on Facebook or similar then join a menopause group. You will see how many of us feel like that. You’re not mad but hormone changes can make you feel that way and lose touch with who you are. It’s a horrible feeling so please speak to someone and get help. The lack of joy is awful and I think becoming insular is one of the symptoms. Good luck, please do this for yourself, you can feel so much better.
Hi Sharlene, Elizabeth has offered some very helpful advice below - you might find it helpful to speak to a doctor that specialises in the menopause. There is also lots of support available online, you can get the very latest overall menopause information and advice at www.menopausedoctor.co.uk. You can also download Dr Newson's 'balance' menopause app on Apple Store or Google Play or at www.balance-app.com which will help you track your symptoms, access personalised expert content, share stories and more. Best wishes.
Hi,i feel the same way..I dont want to take any drugs ,i dont even smoke.When i feel like im going "nuts",i go for a drive,walk or go shopping.And focus on the good things in my life. MENOPAUSE IS HORRIBLE ,IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL...AND IT SUCKS THAT MY FRIENDS ARE NOT FEELING ANY SYMPTOMS AND IM SUFFERING...I hope that you can find a way of coping...Hang in there!!!!!!And take care...❤
@@celerinanicholls9656 why would you want your friends to feel as awful as you do?? What a shit thing to say!
I am in perimenopause and I think I am now getting into internet shopping and buying things for myself. I was never in the habit of doing this, but I am now having this internet shopping habit. Maybe I feel I have missed out on certain things and now I want to do it.
Same as me ...thanks for sharing
Thank you!
Can pre-menopause worsen candida?
Please help. I have always been hormonally sensitive no artificial hormones so is it safe for someone like me.
Me too. I tried a few types of hrt and they didn’t help/made me feel worse. Nhs provision for menopausal women is shockingly lacking. At the moment I’m winging it and doing lots of exercise, eating healthily, etc, but nothing really helps and I’m suffering from low mood and anger a lot of the time.
It's sad that these National Menopausal conferences of doctors do not know about anything except estrogen and synthetic progestins (like medroxyprogesterone-acetate).
They are either ignorantly or on purpose (for profit) keeping women in the dark about the right way of doing HRT.
Bad mood / Low Mood can often be fixed by just putting on 50 mg of natural progesterone cream on the skin every day. (you should be able to buy that online0
Of course many women also have problems with very low testosterone. If your testosterone level is like
This is me now 😞
where is the substitles?
I am fifty and I am on hrt it doesnt do much I still suffer from severe anxiety and just bizarre moods up and downs so scary at times.,
Hi Jocelyn, it may be that your type or dose of HRT needs adjusting. You may find it helpful to take a look at the resources on Dr Newson's website: www.menopausedoctor.co.uk
Best wishes.
It could be your HRT doctor doesn't look at things like testosterone, natural Progesterone, DHEA and pregnenolone. Get these 4 balanced first before adding estrogens (which you still might need) and absolutely get off of any non-bioidentical synthetic hormones like megastrol, medroxyprogesterone-acetate, spironolactone and levonorgestrel and get that crap flushed out of your body. Also; do not take oral hormones except maybe for hydrocortisone for some things like adrenal fatigue and some others (but that is a rarity compared to what most menopausal women need ). Oral Steroidal Hormones that you swallow are like playing Russian roulette with your liver. 95+% of the steroidal hormones taken orally will stress your liver and that is something you don't want in older age. Plus the metabolites of oral hormones can themselves disrupt you hormone balance...but your standard doctors don't know or won't tell you that.
This is the CURSE that was put on the first woman Eve when she disobeyed GOD our Creator.
A Curse It Is!!
Wouldn't we like to have a talk with her!!
Awesome thank u 😊
I take paxil for my body heat and it also helps my mood
What about the liver
what do mean ? what about the liver?
Estrogen gel does not even reach the liver, therefore it cannot harm or burden the liver.
Use the gel forms, they do not affect the liver. They bypass it.
I have rage
HRT not antidepressants 💥🎯💥
I love my gf....but atm shes bat crap crazy....at some point people refuse to be a punching bag.
Can a raw vegan diet help?
I thought a vegan diet would help, but no amount of raw plant based diet or exercise (in my case, yoga) can bring your ovaries back to life. You need hormones.
@@BeingReal1 yep
@@BeingReal1 Hi there, keto diet, please watch Doctor Berg on this subject 💕
This is why lots of women turn to drink in their 40s and 50s