There’s literally a button to call a nurse within arm’s reach at any given time. We’ve all been to a hospital at least once. We all know that’s how it works. Christ, lady.
Because they don’t come that fast because they are actually helping someone! So she knows it will make them come right away! The first time she should have been kicked out!
If she can unplug her baby's machine without hesitation, just imagine the stuff she could do to her baby once they're sent home. She'd probably be an awful mother.
I agree. She seems like she is going to be a garbage excuse for a "mother." I hope CPS takes that child & give her to someone who actually Loves & will provide excellent, COMPETENT care to that poor, poor, precious child. In my opinion.
My mom was a NICU RN and then a supervisor for years before leaving the NICU. When I told her, she whipped around and looked at me like I confessed to murder. She was appalled!
@@saltydinonuggies1841i think since she didn't do it with the intention of killing the baby it'd be child endangerment or negligence but idk I'm not a lawyer either
Not really, they slip off all the time, it’s wrapped around their toes. I’m an stna. I worked on a vent unit. They come off if the patient do something as little as rub their feet together. It’s the same alarm as unplugging it. If the oxygen was dropping, it’s a different alarm.
@@jessicadean5654yeah a lot of the time its equipment slipping/being weird. i worked as a vet nurse and its pretty common for the pulse oxi to not pick up readings from time to time, we just change the location of the clip.
I’ve floated to the NICU and it’s different from a adult on a vent. It’s not uncommon for a premature baby to suddenly stop breathing due to prematurity and unfortunately for parents to move and hold them in a way that cuts off oxygen. I would have explained it the first time, but the second time she would have been escorted off the unit and I would have filed a report and I would have gladly explained to CPS what she had done. In years of nursing I’ve never seen a parent due this.
Yeah. I cant imagine... I know it's only the meter not actually the child's oxygen itself so it for most part perfectly safe for child. There's obviously the small chance somthing does change bad on the child while it's unplugged and now doctors can't know probably what and when it actually changed. It's more the fact that you don't want it on as much as possible just in case and to purposely do it for a stupid reason. Like I do know that as a first time mommy expesally of a child who's so tiny and sick on top it can be nerve wrecking to get up woth the baby. Your afraid you might accidentally hurt the baby or something... but seriously how starving can you be? You either learn to get up with the child slowly and carefully like you eventually gotta learn anyway or you freaking wait for a nurse. In nicu there will be a nurse coming around atleast every hour eitherway even more often when a parent is in the room is the ussual standard. Heck mist nicu rooms don't even give you opportunity to be alone with your child at all because how sensitive small babies are and knowing moms can panic or have problems already expesally with a sick child... the one my son was it all children were together and you sat down inside that room with one nurse constantly in room with the multiple children at all times and more in room next door with glass walls. Could not get privacy even if breastfeeding. Like seriously my hubby come in to see our son and another child was eating 2 feet away off momma and when I fed my son people were in and out. Only thing that would happen is if anyone did act creepy or stare at any of us moms who were feeding in a uncomfortable way they were no longer allowed to vist any time and had to wait for times no one was feeding and when there's 20 kids somone is likely eating at most all points.... get up or wait isn't that difficult. The child might starve if it doesn't eat within a few hours but momma should be able to go days without food atleast once without any health issues for most part... if diabetic or something yeah maybe you need something but you should have candy bars or something in your bag at all times if diabetic anyway. I seriously never met a person who had issues that caused them to not be able to easily wait a bit to eat not have a big purse or diaper bag filled with snacks. So I don't believe that was problem here.
@Truecrimecafe that's difficult too. Really no good reason for her to have done that. There's only a handful of situations where it would and needing a turkey sandwich absolutely isn't one of these
@@Truecrimecafe did you read the entire comment? I don’t think that they’re trying to defend her. Their way of wording things kind of confused me, but it seems that they’re saying it was just the monitor that was unplugged and not the oxygen so hopefully nothing bad would happen to the baby but that’s still no reason to do what she did and they don’t know why she couldn’t just get up or wait for a nurse. That’s the gist of what I got from their comment. Nothing in there seems like they were defending her.
@@Truecrimecafe I apologize I do not mean to make you think that I’m “rationalizing unplugging the monitor of a sick baby” I just think that you jumped to conclusions. Nothing in that person’s comment is defending the mother at least in my opinion. And you jumping into conclusions and accusing them of that can get them into trouble. People can be very mean on the Internet.
@Truecrimecafe I didn't see anyone trying to make excuses for it. It's absolutely insane to do for a sandwich. I said there are only a handful of situations where it would be nessesary and since it it's likely to cause any physical damage if it was an emergency and truly wasn't another way to get help then it be one thing but it clearly wasn't an emergency and she should have waited for a nurse to come back or get up herself like she absolutely could do.
It's always great when your clients document their child-endangerment. This makes the social workers job so much easier and it's great to have concrete evidence like this when arguing for intervention
@@PrimateProductions her doing this could make the nurses take it less seriously if something actually happened to the baby because unplugging it makes it look like the baby is dead.
@@Ang3licc_ you sound ridiculous! It absolutely does not make the baby look dead, genius! The sensor slips off the babies foot all the time. They know that if it is no longer making contact that is what has happened. A baby is not going to go from having a good pulse rate and O2 sat to zero in a second if something is wrong. You have no idea what you are talking about...neither does the guy who made this video. I have been a nurse for over 20 years.
@tyraebowie6175 Do they have call buttons in the US? I’ve never given birth (in the US or otherwise) but here in the U.K., every hospital bed I’ve ever been in has had a call button.
@@trala8911 yes we have call buttons. My aunt had access to a call button in her hospital room after birth, I have practically lived in the hospital due to kidney failure and I had a call button if I needed my nurse. So there is NO excuse for the mother
12:46 Her eyes scare me. They look so lifeless and psychotic like she enjoyed risking her child, and tormenting a possibly poor overworked nurse just for “half a million views”. This woman is crazy, no doubt about it.
I was just about to comment this. Like its terrifying. Theres no life in those eyes no concern or anything. I mean iv seen videos of exhausted mothers days or weeks after giving birth but thats not a tired look thats like seeing theres no soul behind those eyes like holy shit
She wasn’t trying for a baby because she really wanted one, she wanted an accessory she could use for attention. She used a 19 year old to get one is worse.
I was 19 yrs old when I had my child . I had enough common sense that you don't unplug breathing machines!! Nurses frequently check in on mothers when they have their children in the room . Woman should be charged with attempted murder and child neglect. I'm hopeful she will be charged!!
@@tracyholloman5271 I'm sorry people forget 19 years are not brain dead morons. I have never in my life met a 19 yr old who would do this unless on drugs.
@@tracyholloman5271 It’s not a breathing machine, it’s just a monitor, and those monitors slip all the time for a variety of reasons. It is kind of stupid to unplug it intentionally, but it in no way harms the baby.
The way she stared directly into the camera with dead eyes as she unplugged the monitor, then making a smug face- It's definitely making me feel like she is truly capable of ending this baby's life. That and her admitted sadism and "evil thoughts" is enough to send shivers down my spine. I hope that someone loving and protective will take the baby in and provide everything that little one needs.
Thank god. Her already filming herself putting her NEWBORN BABY in danger should be setting off alarms. This isn’t just ignorance, she did it on purpose
18:56 Oh my goodness. The way those cats are meowing ISNT normal. Not even my cat meows like that when he’s hungry, so imagine how hungry THOSE cats are. Poor babies…
Seriously. The only similar thing I've heard is when my cat would be hungry in the middle of the night and yell for me to come down and feed him on the off chance that my mom did forget to feed him dinner. (3 kids, cat, and dog by herself. I don't blame her since it wasn't common) and he STILL never sounded like that.
Former NICU baby is horrified at what watching this video will bring. Legitimately though, my mother and I both almost died, I stopped breathing often in my sleep. I was in hospital until I was 4 months old. My parents watched other babies who were just as sick as me pass away. I had to have a lot of medical treatments and therapies until well into my toddler hood. I still have sensitivities as consequence of my birth. I’m chronically ill and weaker than I would have been if I had been born three months later. And I’m one of the better outcomes when it comes to children born premature. What she was doing is just wildly inappropriate
i hope you and your family are healthy and well. sending you so much love! but i couldn’t imagine experiencing that while living with the negative effects and watching people do shit like this :(
My little sister's twin were in the NICU for weeks. They were so tiny and helpless, I couldn't imagine for a second using my very delicate baby's health equipment/status to manipulate people. Especially for something so trivial. She's definitely going to end up hurting that baby in some way.
We didn’t need a life story. It’s beyond annoying when y’all center yourselves just bc u feel compelled. This video is about a baby girl, not you. Have some fuckin compassion for Christ sake
I DID have a baby at 34 weeks, complete with NICU stay. My baby weighed less than a 5 lb bag of sugar! She was too small for preemie-sized diapers and clothes! It was absolutely terrifying! I cannot even imagine how much more fragile my child would have been if I would have given birth at 33 weeks instead of 34! Holy hell! My NICU baby just made 19 YEARS a few weeks ago and I STILL have nightmares and flashbacks to that time. It's literally a traumatic and crippling experience that I would never wish on anyone. The nonchalance she's existing in is next level.
I was the weight of a bag of sugar and the size of my mom’s hand when I was born and I was in the nicu and my heart stopped multiple times. I can’t imagine what this little baby is fighting through let alone what their mother is making worse
I was a micro premie and NICU baby (mom was in a car accident and went into labor at 24 weeks and had me at 25 weeks) and this woman has NO CLUE how lucky she is to even be holding her baby! There are some parents who never even get that far or have to wait due to their babies complications. I’m also disabled due to being premature I shutter to think what growing up with this woman could be like for this poor sweet child that didn’t even ask to be here. My parents had me when they were super young in the 90’s and I came home on an oxygen monitor after 3 months in the NICU, the way my mom would’ve absolutely slaughtered anyone who went near it and this woman just goes and deprives her UNDERDEVELOPED BABY of oxygen, amplifying the potential dangers such as ROP which I have and can result from too much or too little oxygen and cause blindness all because she would have to get up for a sandwich! She could’ve called a nurse using the call button!
The pulse oximeter just measures the pulse and oxygen, it doesn't give the baby oxygen. She wasn't depriving it of oxygen, she was stopping the monitoring, which notifies the nurses that something is wrong, or the oximeter has slipped off.
My babies were a week overdue and healthy and I still watched them breath and was paranoid about them stopping breathing. I can't imagine what mothers go through with premature babies, but this woman was completely fine, its unreal
People are misunderstanding exactly what she unplugged. An oximeter doesn’t give the baby oxygen, it just monitors the blood oxygen level. The baby being healthy and stable enough to be held implies that briefly unplugging it is unlikely to be dangerous in any way, just stupid because it triggers an alarm that scares the nurses.
In August 2024 I went into labor way too early and had my baby at 24 weeks.. She was in the NICU & anytime the nurses needed to come in and care for her I would get out of the way and even leave if I needed to to keep the amount of people in her room to a minimum. I did that for the safety and health of my baby, I did whatever the nurses and doctors told me was best for her. My daughter only lived for four days. 😢 I KNOW the nurses and doctors did everything they could to save her. I commend all NICU staff because that job has to be so emotionally draining. You know what I didn’t do?! Unplug her monitors because I didn’t want to leave the room for a freaking turkey sandwich! This woman is lucky that she gets to hold her baby, and she’s lucky those NICU nurses don’t have her escorted out immediately. Her baby is the patient, not her! She honestly might be worse than Ash Trevino!
@@Sursie_Metzger it's a pulse oximeter genius! It did not deprive her baby of oxygen. It does not provide oxygen. It is simply a monitor on their foot that records their pulse rate and their O2 sat.
In August 2024 I went into labor way too early and had my baby at 24 weeks.. She was in the NICU & anytime the nurses needed to come in and care for her I would get out of the way and even leave if I needed to to keep the amount of people in her room to a minimum. I did that for the safety and health of my baby, I did whatever the nurses and doctors told me was best for her. My daughter only lived for four days. 😢 I KNOW the nurses and doctors did everything they could to save her. I commend all NICU staff because that job has to be so emotionally draining. You know what I didn’t do?! Unplug her monitors because I didn’t want to leave the room for a freaking turkey sandwich! This woman is lucky that she gets to hold her baby, and she’s lucky those NICU nurses don’t have her escorted out immediately. Her baby is the patient, not her! She honestly might be worse than Ash Trevino!
As a nurse (not even a critical care nurse) what she did is absolutely insane! These kinds of patient’s loved ones get on my nerves! I’m here to care for the patient that is in need of care not entitled family. Also there is a thing called call button, it will actually annoy me having to step away from caring for sick people for a sandwich though and not even for the patient but their loved ones
@@TradBarbie why? Because I don’t like tending to entitled family members? I will always tend to patients, what ever they need and I’m never rude to the family members but it doesn’t mean I’ll let them treat me like I’m their to care for them all. If I’m not busy, and if the family members are polite, then I don’t mind doing what they ask
@TradBarbie nah they're 100% right. When I'm at work, my job is to keep my patients alive... I'm not a waitress for their family. Editing to add' I'm never annoyed by patients using their call bells for legit needs, and I'll go out of my way to make them as comfy and calm as I can. I also don't mind doing things for family members if I'm not swamped. They're usually stressed and didn't expect to have a loved one in the hospital. A person like this, though?? I'd get her a sandwich just to keep the baby safe, tell her never to unplug anything, and then go call social services to report her. Most NICU parents are so scared and freaked out and feel helpless because they can't help their little one. This lady isn't right.
I wouldn’t be surprised if that nurse was in straight up shock. like have you ever been in a situation where someone does something so outrageous you just don’t know how to respond and then you think about it a minute later and it’s like that really did just happen.
I had my first child 2 weeks early. His heart stopped during my labor and I was in a panic, waiting until I heard it again. He stayed in the NICU for a few days due to his oxygen being low. I never once asked for anything extra from the nurses. I was grateful he was even alive, I'd never have done something idiotic like pull any of the plugs. My second child had severe jaundice and they kept us for four days. She was still jaundice when were allowed to go home and I had to take her daily to the hospital to have her bilirubin levels checked. Didn't matter that I had just given birth to her, I got into my car and drove her to every appointment until she was cleared. It impacted my healing but I didn't care. This woman would never bother to do any of that. All children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children and this is a prime example of that.
My first was born at term, but had low oxygen at the last stage so they got baby with the forceps. Not at all fun, but luckily little one is all good, I did ask a lot of questions while we were in hospital about all kinds of things I wasn't sure of though. The nurses were really patient with me thankfully😅 but also we were just in regular post birth stay, no nicu or anything like that
@@janetrawlings1691 yeah I am not happy about that at all. However, we used to have kings who would just say “off with their head” and burn “witches” for no reason except he felt like it. It is better than it used to be because it used to be too horrible to even imagine to us. It’s still horrible now.
Imagine 10-15 years from now, when that child finds the videos of their MOM critically risking their life for FOOD. 😬 Even worse (as if it couldn’t be worse), HOSPITAL FOOD.
honestly that'd just be the terrible cherry on top of the shit cake of a life this poor baby will have. they gotta live with the knowledge that their mother is a creep who manipulated a 19yr old boy and used him like breeding stock, too.
19yrs ago years ago my baby was born and taken to the NICU where he stayed for a month. I was so sick that I couldn’t even see him for 3 days. Afterwards he remained in the NICU as they waited for him to develop certain essential milestones, like the ability to “suck, swallow, and breathe”. The nurses repeatedly called him “the healthiest baby in the NICU” but I had seen bigger, seemingly more healthy, babies suddenly crash in front of me and never return to that spot in the NICU. I had listened to other mothers talk about how they had lost their babies. I spent that entire month completely terrified and completely unable to think about my own my own recovery because I was was entirely consumed with terror that at any moment he might develop a complication or an infection and die. He is alive, healthy, and prospering right now. However, TO THIS DAY I am still racked with trauma and (completely misplaced) guilt over the fact that I developed severe pre-eclampsia. I CANNOT FATHOM HOW THIS WOMAN COULD BEHAVE THIS WAY!
What a selfish evil mom , my daughter was in the NICU and I was always worried about her I stayed by her side as much as possible and I didn't bother the nurses unless it was an emergency. Unplugging your baby is crazy as hell.
As someone who has WORKED IN AN EMERGENCY ROOM don't unplug anything or take anything off that you're not supposed to. The pulse/ox is to monitor a patients' pulse/HR and Oxygen intake. If under 90% can lead to what Danky said, low oxygen. Weather it's for monitoring or not. That's what the CALL LIGHT is for. Also, using that of all things to get the attention of staff FOR A TURKEY SANDWHICH??? A few slices of bread and turkey. No condiments nothing. As a tech I used my call lights to determine what tasks to do first. If s babies O2 is dropping or isn't read... You're dropping everything you're doing to help the emergent thing. I'd be livid as the nurse too.
I’m in the same boat and I’m incandescent with rage. It breaks my heart that she could take such risks with her babies life over a sandwich. I’m actually shocked.
I'm so sorry that you don't get to have a baby. I got one Miracle baby, because I was very, very, very lucky. I would have been devastated had that not been the case. I was very, very sad to not get my precious child any siblings, but I am still grateful beyond measure to get one. (Who is now a beautiful, amazing young adult.) My heart aches & breaks for you, my sister. I am praying that you will get your Miracle baby, as well. And, if not, I pray that you can find another way to become a Mother. Clearly, you are the kind of person to *_DESERVE_* a child.
@@feryalthepirate437 I'm so sorry, sister that you have not been able to have a child. I will pray that you get a precious, little Miracle. ❤ And, if you don't get to Birth a child, I hope that you will find another way to become a Mommy. Clearly, you care about children & their well-being & that's the type of person who _DESERVES_ to be a Mommy, not freaks who would *_~ENDANGER~_* the safety & well-well-being of a poor, poor, precious, _very _*_~FRAGILE~_*_ tiny baby._ God be with you in your search for Motherhood.
As a chronically ill person who is often in hospitals I'd like to point out that ALL rooms have a nurse call button and you can request a mobile call button (usually on a lanyard or remote) instead of... hurting your baby.
As a retired nurse I’m so furious. There is so much I could say, but her behaviour is reprehensible on so many levels 🤬🤬🤬 I think you said it all, but more politely than I would. The selfishness and sense of entitlement is off the scale. She wouldn’t have got a Turkey sandwich from me, she’d have been the filling in a police sandwich for child endangerment. One thing I will add (as a former ICU nurse), is that monitoring is recorded and when doctors do their rounds they look back at the monitor info over the past few hours to see if there have been any significant events, such as periods of tachycardia/bradycardia, hypo/hypertension AND hypoxia. They would immediately see there have been sudden dips in the child’s oxygen levels (when the monitor was removed), which may lead to further UNNECESSARY tests and investigations being carried out on a very sick baby, because they won’t know that this f-wit had unplugged the monitor. Holy effing Christ.
She looks and acts exactly like my previous best friend who had BPD and she was addicted to drugs. She had a baby and then 7 months after the birth she was celebrating being out of inpatient rehab on Facebook. I hope this girl gets the help she needs and the baby lives a long and fulfilling life
This is like calling the police on false pretenses... there are other babies that actually need help and their lives are hanging in the balance and need the nurses' attention.. shes crying wolf for food ? CPS . Now. Is she planning on donating all the money she got to other nicu babies and their families? At the expense of her own childs well-being... This is despicable.
My first child was born with gastroschisis and spent a month in the NICU after birth. Those nurses were absolutely my saving grace, I could not imagine treating them like butlers. Also I’m sorry, but I think you’ve got to be a psychopath to be able to tolerate your child’s vitals monitor showing what it would look like if they were ACTUALLY DECEASED with the alarms going off like that. I’ll never forget the sounds of the alarms going off. My son had persistent tachycardia so whenever he got upset his heart rate would go up to 220 and the alarms would blare. I heard them in my sleep for years afterwards.
She shouldnt get that baby or any baby ever. Shes like that babysitter who let a baby die only to send him home with his parents saying he was just sleeping in the carseat. I have given birth 2 times and they never ever tell you to unplug things. They give you a call button, a remote with a call button and there are ways to call for Emergecny help and then just some asstiance. They even have a thing in the restroom incase you fall, there is a button by the toilet with a long red rope for if you fell you can still reach to call.
As a pharmacist who did multiple hospital rotations including a busy ICU, I greatly appreciate that you're able to comment on this situation properly and from personal experience! I'm glad you brought up so many consequences of the baby potentially lacking proper oxygenation for any amount of time. I really don't think that's common knowledge, and I know there's women out there who don't bother to seek out any information once they become pregnant and just wait until something happens. This woman felt entitled to the nurse's time, taking her away from a patient who may have actually needed her. The comment, "Because I do need my drinks," was so irritating to hear. No, she doesn't, and it wasn't some clever line that made her sound cool to her potential audience. That baby DOES need the oximeter readings to be accurate, tho! I wonder where the call button is in that room. I'd imagine it's one that is at least somewhat movable and not on the wall. But maybe she doesn't use it because the nurse will "take too long" to respond. :l She definitely doesn't seem to understand the reason a nurse would come into the room so quickly when an oximeter stops displaying a reading. Imagine if the baby does start to have problems and the nurses think it's just the mom abusing their compassion and professionalism again. The nurse has to (wants to) give distressed parents some leeway for acting in ways they may not normally act, but they also have to keep the person holding the baby calm for the baby's safety. That's why she kept getting away with it. -.-
When you said “she doesn’t have any use for this baby” I almost screamed “EXACTLY” cus my point I’ve been making since I learned about this is she now doesn’t benefit from this baby anymore, so what is she doing to do now? She only cares about getting attention, and money, so what is she gonna go and do to that baby to get what she wants again without her tiktok? Something more drastic, something possibly horrible and that baby is the target.
Omg I had twins in the NICU and when I was there with them the last thought on my mind was having the nurses bring me food or unplugging my babies for ANY reason people make me sick! I haven't finished the video yet but was so bothered by what I just heard I had to say something. Thanks for bringing awareness to these POS people because they need to be stopped and ashamed!
Came from Louis channel. No longer a watcher. I enjoy how much time and research you put into your videos. And your chill vibe just suits me better. Will be subscribing 😊
Im a former NICU baby, thank you for speaking out about this! I spent months in an incubator as a premature baby and i still have issues as a teen, this woman is crazy! She looked at the camera as if she knew exactly what she's doing is wrong! I hope the baby is okay, she doesn't deserve any kids
When I was in labor my husband accidentally pressed the emergency call button rather than the normal call button and I felt so guilty making all the nurses rushed in just because I needed more water. I couldn’t imagine putting my baby in harms way and causing a panic intentionally just for a sandwich.
My baby was in an ICU for just 4 hours and I was already panicking. Ridiculous when you are about to spend precious time with your newborn and distracting yourself social media.
I'm not condoning her behaviour, but she wasn't actively hurting the baby, just unplugged the thing that monitors the pulse and oxygen, not the thing that gives the baby oxygen.
I had a premie so I've been in this exact position so there's definitely a few things being misunderstood here. (Not the sandwich stuff, but being in the NICU) 1. She did not unplug this baby's oxygen, or any other medical equipment providing life. No pain, no suffering, baby was ok. That is the cord for the oxygen reader which in a velcroed sensor on their foot, so what she affected was the monitor reading so it would look like the babies 02 was dropping causing the nurse to come check. I still see some people thinking it was the 02 it's self, I promise nobody was being suffocated. 2. These rooms do not have call buttons, or at least mine didn't and it's one of the best in the nation. This was also 11 years ago, but even then hospital rooms still had them. If we needed somebody, we'd have to poke our heads out, or wait till somebody walked by, because you really didn't matter at all as the parents. 3. You can't get up when you are holding them, and if you do the baby goes back for good. No moving, no moment down on the bed, nothing. Either baby is skin-to-skin with a parent, or baby is in their heated oxygen box, and either way moving is a nurse-required activity. That's sometimes the only time you'll have with them that day, and for several days at a time. With those things understood, was this still fully showing what she was willing to do with her medically sensitive baby, and therefore her case is fully warrented? Absolutely, that's bonkers. Most of these babies go home with oxygen still for a while so she just proved in 10 seconds why she should not be trusted with her babies care, at least while they are still that fragile. I know better than anybody not wanting to lay them back down, because you don't know when you'll next get your baby...But I wasn't trying to eat a whole freakin sandwich while doing it! Most they allowed was water, because we still had to pump milk every 2-3 hours. Non. Stop. I didn't even have a sandwich fridge, I'd have to leave my baby for the cafeteria 3 floors down! She's got it easy by comparison, and she still decided to FAFO.
My kiddo spent a month at Nationwide Children’s in Columbus Ohio 8 years ago and they had call buttons, I hate that your hospital didn’t. They also let me stay from 5am (was there every day for rounds) until 2am and then I went to Ronald McDonald house for sleep before doing it again. I couldn’t hold my son until he was 9 days old but as soon as I could, we did skin to skin as long as I could go between pumps or meals and then I’d come right back and hold him again.
@emilyturner5985 That mostly sounds like my experience, I was at Peace Health at Riverbend in Oregon. They were so strict about me holding him though! I also was in for 97 days, and I don't think I was allowed to do a single thing by myself till the last 2 weeks. At the same time they were weirdly super focused on having me dressing him, and doing crafts to decorate the room, and were not huge fans of me for not doing crafts?? Like I was barely holding it together, I'm tired, my boobs hurt, sheesh lol 😅 Age probably had a lot to do with it, they weren't a fan of that either.
Can't she have her food and drink right by her side before she starts handling the baby? Parents are required to poop and pee before that right? Why can't she have the food and drink ready too?
@iagreewithyou3478 If they let her eat during I guess she could, but to me it would kind of be like if you used grandpa on his deathbed as a plate. Like even if their being premature means they are just a couple weeks under baked and need some time on oxygen, you're still caring for a medically unhealthy baby who's lungs aren't done yet. Holding them is also for their benefit not the parents, it helps them grow and develop properly, so really she should be totally focused on their care when they're awake. Talking, reading to them, touch, it's all incredibly important for premies to thrive outside the womb. There would be days I wouldn't eat till I'd gotten back to the Ronald McDonald House, because I didn't want to leave my baby for a second while I was there with him, much less try to eat a sandwich on their head! If she could pee first, she could also have eaten first, but I don't even know how she's not an absolute wreck who's not already zeroed in on her baby as it is. Like your child is covered in wires 24/7, oxygen tube or even a full on mask, IVs, leads glued to their skin, and my son was 15 weeks early so for most of his time he had a feeding tube, and for the first long while all his IVs went through his belly button which was really risky, and she's entirely too chill about it all. It's just a show of incredible immaturity to even be trying to get a sandwich instead of waiting, let alone unplugging the monitor to do it.
also, ain’t no way in hell i would prioritize saving money over the health of my child. my son was born at 34 weeks and that’s the soonest, even with preeclampsia and being a type 1 diabetic, that my obgyn would let me deliver.
i also stg that not having that skin to skin because i was deathly sick and my baby had to be rushed to the nicu was the single most cause of my post partum depression and anxiety. this woman is insane.
omg i was so confused by you saying youre a "mother of a nice baby" before i realized you meant "nicu baby" !! lmao i was like wdym are there mean babies too?
The nurse not reprimanding her for unplugging the machine was the first issue the moment I walked in and knew it wasn’t anything but a sandwich that you can’t even eat in there I would have told her off no way she took me away from helping other babies for a sandwhich that’s a nurse not a butler.
My daughter was born prematurely with a diaphragmatic hernia and had to have life saving surgery four days after birth. We were in the NICU for a long time and we also live in Texas. My mom is a nurse and a pediatric nurse at that, so I grew up knowing basic medical information. For the things I didn't know,i had my mom there to guide me. Sometimes it's necessary to unplug some of the monitors, but it was always done by a medical professional or with their permission. The staff is extremely kind and helpful, they try to ensure both mother and baby are taken care of. But they also have a nurse call button...one that is easily accessible. On top of that, they come to check on you and your baby every hour and usually in between their scheduled checks. So it's not like she would have had to pull that stunt anyway, someone would have been by shortly to check up on them anyway. This was both unnecessary and dangerous. This wasn't about a sandwich, it was about views, plain and simple. I am surprised that neither of the nurses discussed not doing that again, because my mom would have went off on her. She and her baby who is in stable condition, aren't the only babies in that NICU. There were other families (that you inevitably meet) that have been in there for weeks, months and even years. Families who's children aren't stable, who crash multiple times a day, and by pulling that stunt, she could have been pulling medical staff away from another emergency... thinking they have another baby crashing. That is beyond cruel to the other families around her, it's cruel to the medical staff who lose babies everyday to complications, and it's mainly cruel to her child...who could suffer one of a hundred different breathing complications for a baby with underdeveloped lungs. It's beyond irresponsible. It's beyond selfish. It literally shows what a piece of trash person she is. I truly hope that the father saves recording of everything and takes her to court for custody. One last thing, I think the rumor about her breaking her own water is false. This person only cares about herself, her pain, her comfort. If she googled how to do it, she would have seen how dangerous it was and all the ways it could go wrong. She could lose the baby, she could scrape her uterus, cause a placental abruption, and die. I doubt she would risk harm to her new cash cow, but mainly she wouldn't risk harm or pain to herself. Just my humble opinion.
My water spontaneously broke at 35 1/2 weeks. I literally put in my 2 week's notice at work, went home, sat down, and my water broke. I was in labor for 20 hours before my doctor said we needed to do an emergency C-section. My daughter needed 3 days in the NICU. All of that was well over $100,000. Ultimately we ended up having to pay almost $30,000 out of pocket. Took almost 5 years to pay that off.
YOU WERE WORKING AT 35 WEEKS!!!!!!! why didn't you take your maternity leave well before then? I don't know how much maternity Americans get but, in my country, the government only provides 52 weeks(full pay) or 73 weeks (26 weeks at half pay). I would assume America has better maternity than us... So, why not take a few months before having your baby? That's what women normally do no?
@@Leleche Oh loooooooooord don't get me started lol. Maternity leave in the US is UNPAID and it's only 12 weeks. Also I was quitting my job because even if I did maternity leave and came back, the cost of childcare would completely negate the money I made at that job. AND, fun fact, I texted my boss that I was in the hospital in labor, and he asked me if I was coming back THE NEXT DAY. And then got annoyed when I said I wasn't coming back at all, and said he didn't want to have to cover my shifts. He literally expected me to come back to work THE DAY AFTER GIVING BIRTH. I wasn't even DONE by the time my next shift would have started. Even if I had taken the 12 weeks, by 12 weeks out I was still in a considerable amount of pain from the massive invasive surgery I'd had.
So they made the doctors and nurses think the baby might be critical and not breathing because... reasons? Does she realize how awful it is to think a baby might be dying under your care? She's only talking about the views. I don’t believe in removing someone's reproductive capabilities, but... she is testing me.
My son was in the NICU for over 2 months. I had to wait 10 days to hold him for the first time for about 10 minutes, then wasn't allowed to hold him again for weeks since he stopped breathing and had to be re-intubated. They didn't have sandwiches or even enough chairs for sitting but this is disgusting. I also was not thinking about any food while holding my child who was literally fighting for his life 💔
Yeah I was very surprised by this too cause she was incredibly lucky to have such an opportunity to be able to hold her son alone in peace. When my son was born all babies and any visiting family were all in same room with atleast one nurse at all times. Even when feeding our children we had men and women and occasionally even children tracing in and out of the room. Nicu is often very strict and on high alert about everything and watch new moms like freaking hawks anyway because sadly some moms have mental problems expesally wien there children are born early and or I'll. She for most part didn't really do anything likely to harm her child since it didn't really matter unless the child's oxygen or whatever started changing during the time it was unplugged from them but it is a potential issue and rude to nurses and it is part of the reason why us good mentally stable mommy's could not have time alone with our children because people like her. Like seriously learn to get up with the child like you will need to learn how to do regardless or freaking wait. I guarantee a nurse would have been around very soon cause again nicus are ussually really really on point about babies and she was incredibly lucky to have time to be alone and in private enough to even have a moment to consider having to do anything to ask for someone to help. Nurses are there to help the child and in turn mommy when able and possible and they usually dont mind but making them think there's a possibility for even a second they they might be having a flat lined child on there watch is crazy. Some think nurses would get used to it but I've heard and could imagine that a potential death of a child during your shifts never become an easy thing to deal with. And yeah they do have to assume the child is flat lining and not that the mother is tampering with there own child's equipment. Extremely sad to think that they would ever need to think a mom would tamper with equipment.
Right? I could have sworn the nurse said "Oh, Ummm... you're not actually supposed to be eating those in here" I have a NICU grad & we weren't allowed to eat in the room.
I had an infection that required me to stay after an emergency c-section for a week and I still paid to stay an extra day so I went home the same time as my baby. He’s my everything. My stayed for 3 weeks. She kept saying to me you know you can set the baby down right . This was my first live baby after 3 lost pregnancies. I might have someone else video but yeah no this is ridiculous love your babies. They are a miracle. A gift that we should cherish. I hope this baby gets adopted to someone who loves this baby.
I never want kids, I don't really have a strong maternal instinct personally but like when someone harms a child I feel like regardless of who you are or how you feel about kids I think you can acknowledge this is fucked. I would sooner take the child in myself and find it a new family than let that shit slide. I feel like this could warrant criminal charges.
You don't have it because "maternal instincts" don't exist. It's an outdated misconception of cognition and physiology. They're nothing more than desires and emotions, like empathy, compassion, being hormonal or being fond of one's young. It's not a force, it's just feelings and emotions. So there's that. In case you ever had someone tell you that there's "something wrong" with that, they're wrong. Not wanting offspring is completely normal and fine. And yes! What you describe is basic empathy once more. Most people think that harming a child is bad because it is objectively unethical.
I also heard from a pretty good source so I believe it, that she wanted a premature baby. She was saying in her whole pregnancy and from what I hear she broke her own water to have the baby premature
I know this is a pretty serious accusation, but she genuinely gives major meth vibes. I wouldn't be surprised if the people defending her are also involved with it and she might have some kind of leverage. Like, they may lose their access to it. That and her baby being born so early. I dunno.
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Look you get the right quality of turkey. You get some good condiments on there some lettuce some onion maybe even a little tomato. Just to be clear there will never be a turkey sandwich good enough to unplug a baby’s oxygen monitor, but I’m just saying.
You don't grow out of being a sadist. It's similar to being a sociopath or psychopath in that it's a core personality trait, you can't out grow it it's literally a physical defect in how your brain is structured. Source: The Behaviour Panel I'm also a biology undergraduate with an education in neuroscience I worry to no end for that child.
playing with the health of your NICU baby is actually so insane. even crazier to record yourself for the internet on top of all that. every baby deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a baby :(
I am happy that people are bringing awareness, I just cannot watch such selfish cruelty. It is heartbreaking, specially watching how accommodating the nurse is being and how much help they have at the hospital to help with that unit in the hospital because of how desperately premie babies need the extra help and care.
My son was born six weeks premature, he had to be in the NICU for almost an entire month, he had severe complications at the time of birth he almost died, I find this woman's actions absolutely inexcusable and I pray to God someone takes that baby away from her and it is given to a family who would actually love and care for it. This is one of the most horrifying things I've seen that wasn't direct child abuse or assault etc.... she is beyond disgusting....
If she didn’t have 100’s of people from social media reporting her to CPS, the nurses would’ve definitely called on her. I hope that innocent, little baby gets a chance to live a better life with decent and loving parents.
The extra week can be crucial. 37 weeks is early term. As a new mom, I went through hell to help my baby come through into the world safely. I went through 2 cook balloons, 2 cervidil, 2 pitocin rounds, epidural, and an unplanned C-section. I then was up over 24 hrs to take care of my child,and he was born perfectly healthy just small. Luckily. And I would do that again for my child. I couldn't imagine being such a irresponsible mother
I was born as a premature kid in 09 of 8/24, and my due date was supposed to be on thanksgiving weekend. Born at six months, my lungs weren’t properly developed, and without this new medication of sorts coming in any later, I wouldn’t have gotten out alive. My parents were worried like crazy for me until I was good enough to get out, and a year later, my brother was born just fine. Even as someone who hasn’t had a child yet or doesn’t have an inkling of the feeling of worrying for your child, this makes me feel as though she doesn’t deserve to be a parent. If you are willing to set your PREMATURE baby in danger OVER HOSPITAL FOOD then you don’t deserve to be a parent for at least another few years, if not then at all.
I’m a NICU baby I am 23 years old and my birth STILL affects my parents. My time in the NICU after I was born scarred my parents and is a deep trauma that they never fully healed. My mother holds so much guilt over not being able to carry me to term to this day. With such caring parents in my life, I can’t even fathom this level of neglect and apathy
My brother was a former NICU baby (I think, I’m not fully sure. I know he was kept longer for extra surveillance bc his head was way too big and they thought it was full of water. Thankfully it wasn’t, he’s just got a weirdly big head.) I can’t even describe how disgusted I would be if I heard my mom had done this sort of thing to my brother. Over a sandwich and some views?? Disgusting, absolutely horrible. That woman does not deserve to have any children.
She chose the dad AND chose to leave him. She failed her daughter. She obviously had an absentee dad and a sus mom. Not diagnosing them but I've seen this so many times. They burn all their bridges and then cry when no one wants to save them
that sandwich is not worth it. THAT IS A CHILD, SHE LITERALLY WENT INTO LABOR TO BRING IT INTO THIS WORLD, WHY WOULD YOU RISK KILLING IT?! that's so cruel, my mouth is agape.
I had my son at 32 weeks. He was in the NICU for five weeks and I was in the hospital for nearly two weeks myself. I had a very complicated pregnancy and when I had gone into the hospital, I wasn’t expecting I’d have to stay and have my baby in such an urgent situation. The doctor wanted me to wait until 34 weeks but the circumstances got worse and my son absolutely had to be born as early as possible. When we were at the NICU, the nurses were so wonderful, but I could never bring myself to even bother to ask for anything unless it was for my son. They are HIS nurses, not yours. Unplugging the equipment is so irresponsible. My son had to be on oxygen for three months after he was born because he was born so early. He had dips in oxygen levels that came on so suddenly so it’s hard to imagine a person so irresponsible. Unplugging your baby’s equipment for a turkey sandwich is wild. My response to her wanting to have her baby earlier is actually insane to me. A week of development can do so much for a baby. It doesn’t make sense morally for her to want to have her baby earlier, but also financially. The earlier you have your baby, the longer they have to be in the NICU. It’s incredibly selfish and irresponsible to push to have your baby that early when it’s not necessary. She wants to get out the hospital as soon as possible, but she’s not even considering the things her baby will have to go through in the NICU. Also, like I said before, financially it’s a stupid decision. It makes me really angry to see parents like this, who don’t put their child first. Not all parents deserve to have their children and this is so apparent in this situation. If I could’ve given birth to my son at 34 weeks, I’d absolutely would’ve rather done that than have him at 32. He would’ve been more developed and his stay at the NICU wouldn’t have been as long. As a parent, I’m so incredibly thankful my son is healthy. I can’t imagine not even considering my child’s health, especially after trying to have a baby. This whole situation makes me so angry and it’s honestly disgusting.
I was born early. Sounds like it's a similar situation, cause my lungs hadn't fully developed. Had to go straight to the NICU for two weeks due to a "tear" in my lung. I'd be horrified if my mother chose a turkey sandwich over me
I’m so glad Allie has been thrown into the spotlight. There been a group of people trying to bring awareness about her for over a year. She’s a horrible person and a scammer.
To me it’s not just the pulling of the plug, it’s what else will she be willing to do for views. It’s starts off seemingly harmless for rage bait views then moves to actually causing the child harm for views and money. She is insane.
My little one was born at 24 weeks. 1 pound 7oz. It was the most scary thing in our lives. She is now healthy and thriving. I would not wish this on anyone. To see this person acting like this makes my stomach turn. Those nurses, aids, and doctors are amazing. And very hard workers.
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If it was just about the turkey sandwich, she would have used the call bell. Ringing the call bell doesn’t cut off your child’s oxygen supply and she could still have her turkey sandwich.
it also causes 'boy that cried wolf' issues. The nurses will stop being so quick to respond thinking it's just mom wanting a sandwich. Then when the baby does have an issue, where every second counts they wont respond as quickly
So like... I have two kids, and my youngest was in the NICU for 3 days because she had to be delivered slightly prematurely (36 weeks 6 days) via C-section. And I just don't understand why this woman wouldn't have a normal call bell. Every single time that I've been in a hospital, especially after I had my kids, I have had a call bell to call the nurses whenever I need them, usually it's part of the TV remote or hospital bed. There have been instances where I've been unable to get to the call bell, but nine times out of 10 you have a cord connected to your TV remote that has a button on it specifically to call the nurse if you need to talk to them. Why did she not just use the regular call bell? She literally unplugged the thing that monitors whether or not for kid is breathing because she wanted to rage bait of just using the button designed to call the nurse...
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There’s literally a button to call a nurse within arm’s reach at any given time.
We’ve all been to a hospital at least once. We all know that’s how it works.
Christ, lady.
Ummm...
... I think that "lady" is a vast overstatement for this creature.
In my opinion.
Fucking hell I'm not going insane... I was just about to say... Jesus... god knows what unplugging did for those few seconds to that baby...
Came here to say this... fucking despicable. Take that lil person away from her. Far too selfish to have a child😢
Because they don’t come that fast because they are actually helping someone! So she knows it will make them come right away!
The first time she should have been kicked out!
yes, but doing that wouldn’t bring any clout and views! that’s what she basically wanted
If she can unplug her baby's machine without hesitation, just imagine the stuff she could do to her baby once they're sent home. She'd probably be an awful mother.
Do you get an check for your IQ??
Are you able to read?
@@TradBarbie why?
I agree.
She seems like she is going to be a garbage excuse for a "mother."
I hope CPS takes that child & give her to someone who actually Loves & will provide excellent, COMPETENT care to that poor, poor, precious child.
In my opinion.
Right she will probably end up like that Australian woman who drugged her baby for views!
My mom was a NICU RN and then a supervisor for years before leaving the NICU. When I told her, she whipped around and looked at me like I confessed to murder. She was appalled!
Id argue this could be charged as attempted murder but im not a cop or lawyer so
@@saltydinonuggies1841more like child endangerment.
Aw I'm sorry, your mom has lost all faculties?
@@saltydinonuggies1841i think since she didn't do it with the intention of killing the baby it'd be child endangerment or negligence but idk I'm not a lawyer either
@@saltydinonuggies1841agreed.
If that meter was reading the baby’s vitals unplugging it reads as dead. Thats why the nurses came in so quickly. They thought the baby died.
Right like nurses don't have it hard enough especially working with babies
Not really, they slip off all the time, it’s wrapped around their toes. I’m an stna. I worked on a vent unit. They come off if the patient do something as little as rub their feet together. It’s the same alarm as unplugging it. If the oxygen was dropping, it’s a different alarm.
It doesn’t read as dead.
@@jessicadean5654yeah a lot of the time its equipment slipping/being weird. i worked as a vet nurse and its pretty common for the pulse oxi to not pick up readings from time to time, we just change the location of the clip.
I’ve floated to the NICU and it’s different from a adult on a vent. It’s not uncommon for a premature baby to suddenly stop breathing due to prematurity and unfortunately for parents to move and hold them in a way that cuts off oxygen. I would have explained it the first time, but the second time she would have been escorted off the unit and I would have filed a report and I would have gladly explained to CPS what she had done. In years of nursing I’ve never seen a parent due this.
the way she stared at the camera while unplugging it shows that she knows she doing something wrong and its on purpose
Yeah. I cant imagine... I know it's only the meter not actually the child's oxygen itself so it for most part perfectly safe for child. There's obviously the small chance somthing does change bad on the child while it's unplugged and now doctors can't know probably what and when it actually changed. It's more the fact that you don't want it on as much as possible just in case and to purposely do it for a stupid reason. Like I do know that as a first time mommy expesally of a child who's so tiny and sick on top it can be nerve wrecking to get up woth the baby. Your afraid you might accidentally hurt the baby or something... but seriously how starving can you be? You either learn to get up with the child slowly and carefully like you eventually gotta learn anyway or you freaking wait for a nurse. In nicu there will be a nurse coming around atleast every hour eitherway even more often when a parent is in the room is the ussual standard. Heck mist nicu rooms don't even give you opportunity to be alone with your child at all because how sensitive small babies are and knowing moms can panic or have problems already expesally with a sick child... the one my son was it all children were together and you sat down inside that room with one nurse constantly in room with the multiple children at all times and more in room next door with glass walls. Could not get privacy even if breastfeeding. Like seriously my hubby come in to see our son and another child was eating 2 feet away off momma and when I fed my son people were in and out. Only thing that would happen is if anyone did act creepy or stare at any of us moms who were feeding in a uncomfortable way they were no longer allowed to vist any time and had to wait for times no one was feeding and when there's 20 kids somone is likely eating at most all points.... get up or wait isn't that difficult. The child might starve if it doesn't eat within a few hours but momma should be able to go days without food atleast once without any health issues for most part... if diabetic or something yeah maybe you need something but you should have candy bars or something in your bag at all times if diabetic anyway. I seriously never met a person who had issues that caused them to not be able to easily wait a bit to eat not have a big purse or diaper bag filled with snacks. So I don't believe that was problem here.
@Truecrimecafe that's difficult too. Really no good reason for her to have done that. There's only a handful of situations where it would and needing a turkey sandwich absolutely isn't one of these
@@Truecrimecafe did you read the entire comment? I don’t think that they’re trying to defend her. Their way of wording things kind of confused me, but it seems that they’re saying it was just the monitor that was unplugged and not the oxygen so hopefully nothing bad would happen to the baby but that’s still no reason to do what she did and they don’t know why she couldn’t just get up or wait for a nurse.
That’s the gist of what I got from their comment. Nothing in there seems like they were defending her.
@@Truecrimecafe I apologize I do not mean to make you think that I’m “rationalizing unplugging the monitor of a sick baby” I just think that you jumped to conclusions. Nothing in that person’s comment is defending the mother at least in my opinion. And you jumping into conclusions and accusing them of that can get them into trouble. People can be very mean on the Internet.
@Truecrimecafe I didn't see anyone trying to make excuses for it. It's absolutely insane to do for a sandwich. I said there are only a handful of situations where it would be nessesary and since it it's likely to cause any physical damage if it was an emergency and truly wasn't another way to get help then it be one thing but it clearly wasn't an emergency and she should have waited for a nurse to come back or get up herself like she absolutely could do.
It's always great when your clients document their child-endangerment. This makes the social workers job so much easier and it's great to have concrete evidence like this when arguing for intervention
@@mael2039 at no point did she endanger the baby
@@PrimateProductionssay psych rn
@@PrimateProductions her doing this could make the nurses take it less seriously if something actually happened to the baby because unplugging it makes it look like the baby is dead.
@@sarahjones732 what?
@@Ang3licc_ you sound ridiculous! It absolutely does not make the baby look dead, genius! The sensor slips off the babies foot all the time. They know that if it is no longer making contact that is what has happened. A baby is not going to go from having a good pulse rate and O2 sat to zero in a second if something is wrong. You have no idea what you are talking about...neither does the guy who made this video. I have been a nurse for over 20 years.
As a former NICU baby and a decent human being, I am beyond appalled.
There are SO many different ways to get the nurses attention. This was definitely for views. This generation is disgusting.
@tyraebowie6175 Do they have call buttons in the US? I’ve never given birth (in the US or otherwise) but here in the U.K., every hospital bed I’ve ever been in has had a call button.
@trala8911 yeah, they do. She's just selfish.
@@trala8911 yes we have call buttons. My aunt had access to a call button in her hospital room after birth, I have practically lived in the hospital due to kidney failure and I had a call button if I needed my nurse. So there is NO excuse for the mother
You must have had a LOT of asphyxia.
12:46 Her eyes scare me. They look so lifeless and psychotic like she enjoyed risking her child, and tormenting a possibly poor overworked nurse just for “half a million views”. This woman is crazy, no doubt about it.
She is undoubtedly a psychopath, a dead eyed freak,
💯evil!
I was just about to comment this. Like its terrifying. Theres no life in those eyes no concern or anything. I mean iv seen videos of exhausted mothers days or weeks after giving birth but thats not a tired look thats like seeing theres no soul behind those eyes like holy shit
She wasn’t trying for a baby because she really wanted one, she wanted an accessory she could use for attention. She used a 19 year old to get one is worse.
INSANITY
I was 19 yrs old when I had my child . I had enough common sense that you don't unplug breathing machines!! Nurses frequently check in on mothers when they have their children in the room . Woman should be charged with attempted murder and child neglect. I'm hopeful she will be charged!!
@@tracyholloman5271 I'm sorry people forget 19 years are not brain dead morons. I have never in my life met a 19 yr old who would do this unless on drugs.
@@tracyholloman5271 It’s not a breathing machine, it’s just a monitor, and those monitors slip all the time for a variety of reasons. It is kind of stupid to unplug it intentionally, but it in no way harms the baby.
We can hope the baby's father sues for custody. Even if he's young he has to be better than her.
The way she stared directly into the camera with dead eyes as she unplugged the monitor, then making a smug face- It's definitely making me feel like she is truly capable of ending this baby's life. That and her admitted sadism and "evil thoughts" is enough to send shivers down my spine. I hope that someone loving and protective will take the baby in and provide everything that little one needs.
I'm glad to announce that CPS is investigating her.
Thank you
Thank god. Her already filming herself putting her NEWBORN BABY in danger should be setting off alarms. This isn’t just ignorance, she did it on purpose
@@xanderwinn7018 Good. In my opinion, unplugging her child's oxygen is the same as smothering the poor thing. She's depriving her child of oxygen.
The source I found it on is The Express Tribune.
Just when I think people can't get slower... THE BABY WASN'T IN ANY DAYNGER.
It's a PULSE OXIMETER!!!!!!
18:56 Oh my goodness. The way those cats are meowing ISNT normal. Not even my cat meows like that when he’s hungry, so imagine how hungry THOSE cats are. Poor babies…
Like actually wtf is going on?! I’ve never heard my cats make these sounds
Seriously. The only similar thing I've heard is when my cat would be hungry in the middle of the night and yell for me to come down and feed him on the off chance that my mom did forget to feed him dinner. (3 kids, cat, and dog by herself. I don't blame her since it wasn't common) and he STILL never sounded like that.
@ Exactly!
They sound like they could be in heat 🙃 I had a friend growing up and her cat would scream like this at night time when she was in heat.
Sounds like the beginning of a fight, or stand off
Former NICU baby is horrified at what watching this video will bring. Legitimately though, my mother and I both almost died, I stopped breathing often in my sleep. I was in hospital until I was 4 months old. My parents watched other babies who were just as sick as me pass away. I had to have a lot of medical treatments and therapies until well into my toddler hood. I still have sensitivities as consequence of my birth. I’m chronically ill and weaker than I would have been if I had been born three months later. And I’m one of the better outcomes when it comes to children born premature. What she was doing is just wildly inappropriate
Also they prove people with call buttons in hospitals, if she was so pressed about a sandwich she could’ve used that
She's incredibly lazy and greedy i genuinely never seen something like this in real life
i hope you and your family are healthy and well. sending you so much love! but i couldn’t imagine experiencing that while living with the negative effects and watching people do shit like this :(
My little sister's twin were in the NICU for weeks. They were so tiny and helpless, I couldn't imagine for a second using my very delicate baby's health equipment/status to manipulate people. Especially for something so trivial. She's definitely going to end up hurting that baby in some way.
We didn’t need a life story. It’s beyond annoying when y’all center yourselves just bc u feel compelled. This video is about a baby girl, not you. Have some fuckin compassion for Christ sake
I DID have a baby at 34 weeks, complete with NICU stay. My baby weighed less than a 5 lb bag of sugar! She was too small for preemie-sized diapers and clothes! It was absolutely terrifying! I cannot even imagine how much more fragile my child would have been if I would have given birth at 33 weeks instead of 34! Holy hell!
My NICU baby just made 19 YEARS a few weeks ago and I STILL have nightmares and flashbacks to that time. It's literally a traumatic and crippling experience that I would never wish on anyone. The nonchalance she's existing in is next level.
My youngest was born at 34 weeks aswell and weighed 3lb and I used to buy doll clothes for her untill she was 2 months old.
I was the weight of a bag of sugar and the size of my mom’s hand when I was born and I was in the nicu and my heart stopped multiple times. I can’t imagine what this little baby is fighting through let alone what their mother is making worse
I was a micro premie and NICU baby (mom was in a car accident and went into labor at 24 weeks and had me at 25 weeks) and this woman has NO CLUE how lucky she is to even be holding her baby! There are some parents who never even get that far or have to wait due to their babies complications. I’m also disabled due to being premature I shutter to think what growing up with this woman could be like for this poor sweet child that didn’t even ask to be here. My parents had me when they were super young in the 90’s and I came home on an oxygen monitor after 3 months in the NICU, the way my mom would’ve absolutely slaughtered anyone who went near it and this woman just goes and deprives her UNDERDEVELOPED BABY of oxygen, amplifying the potential dangers such as ROP which I have and can result from too much or too little oxygen and cause blindness all because she would have to get up for a sandwich! She could’ve called a nurse using the call button!
The pulse oximeter just measures the pulse and oxygen, it doesn't give the baby oxygen. She wasn't depriving it of oxygen, she was stopping the monitoring, which notifies the nurses that something is wrong, or the oximeter has slipped off.
My babies were a week overdue and healthy and I still watched them breath and was paranoid about them stopping breathing. I can't imagine what mothers go through with premature babies, but this woman was completely fine, its unreal
People are misunderstanding exactly what she unplugged. An oximeter doesn’t give the baby oxygen, it just monitors the blood oxygen level. The baby being healthy and stable enough to be held implies that briefly unplugging it is unlikely to be dangerous in any way, just stupid because it triggers an alarm that scares the nurses.
In August 2024 I went into labor way too early and had my baby at 24 weeks.. She was in the NICU & anytime the nurses needed to come in and care for her I would get out of the way and even leave if I needed to to keep the amount of people in her room to a minimum. I did that for the safety and health of my baby, I did whatever the nurses and doctors told me was best for her. My daughter only lived for four days. 😢
I KNOW the nurses and doctors did everything they could to save her. I commend all NICU staff because that job has to be so emotionally draining.
You know what I didn’t do?! Unplug her monitors because I didn’t want to leave the room for a freaking turkey sandwich!
This woman is lucky that she gets to hold her baby, and she’s lucky those NICU nurses don’t have her escorted out immediately. Her baby is the patient, not her! She honestly might be worse than Ash Trevino!
@@Sursie_Metzger it's a pulse oximeter genius! It did not deprive her baby of oxygen. It does not provide oxygen. It is simply a monitor on their foot that records their pulse rate and their O2 sat.
In August 2024 I went into labor way too early and had my baby at 24 weeks.. She was in the NICU & anytime the nurses needed to come in and care for her I would get out of the way and even leave if I needed to to keep the amount of people in her room to a minimum. I did that for the safety and health of my baby, I did whatever the nurses and doctors told me was best for her. My daughter only lived for four days. 😢
I KNOW the nurses and doctors did everything they could to save her. I commend all NICU staff because that job has to be so emotionally draining.
You know what I didn’t do?! Unplug her monitors because I didn’t want to leave the room for a freaking turkey sandwich!
This woman is lucky that she gets to hold her baby, and she’s lucky those NICU nurses don’t have her escorted out immediately. Her baby is the patient, not her! She honestly might be worse than Ash Trevino!
Im so sorry for your loss.
(((((Hugs))))))) from one mother of lost children to another. I feel your pain. My daughter died 2002. It’s a horrible thing to live with .
I am so, so, so, so, so sorry for your loss.
As a nurse (not even a critical care nurse) what she did is absolutely insane! These kinds of patient’s loved ones get on my nerves! I’m here to care for the patient that is in need of care not entitled family.
Also there is a thing called call button, it will actually annoy me having to step away from caring for sick people for a sandwich though and not even for the patient but their loved ones
Either you're making that up, or you need to lose your license.
@@TradBarbieWhat did Ahmad say that was worth “losing their license?” I don’t see anything wrong with their statement.
@@TradBarbie why? Because I don’t like tending to entitled family members? I will always tend to patients, what ever they need and I’m never rude to the family members but it doesn’t mean I’ll let them treat me like I’m their to care for them all. If I’m not busy, and if the family members are polite, then I don’t mind doing what they ask
@@thishappycrafter272 ahahah im so confused with what i could have possibly said that will result in me loosing my licence
@TradBarbie nah they're 100% right. When I'm at work, my job is to keep my patients alive... I'm not a waitress for their family.
Editing to add' I'm never annoyed by patients using their call bells for legit needs, and I'll go out of my way to make them as comfy and calm as I can. I also don't mind doing things for family members if I'm not swamped. They're usually stressed and didn't expect to have a loved one in the hospital. A person like this, though?? I'd get her a sandwich just to keep the baby safe, tell her never to unplug anything, and then go call social services to report her. Most NICU parents are so scared and freaked out and feel helpless because they can't help their little one. This lady isn't right.
I wouldn’t be surprised if that nurse was in straight up shock. like have you ever been in a situation where someone does something so outrageous you just don’t know how to respond and then you think about it a minute later and it’s like that really did just happen.
Yeah…imagine the conversation at the nurses station after That!
I had my first child 2 weeks early. His heart stopped during my labor and I was in a panic, waiting until I heard it again. He stayed in the NICU for a few days due to his oxygen being low. I never once asked for anything extra from the nurses. I was grateful he was even alive, I'd never have done something idiotic like pull any of the plugs. My second child had severe jaundice and they kept us for four days. She was still jaundice when were allowed to go home and I had to take her daily to the hospital to have her bilirubin levels checked. Didn't matter that I had just given birth to her, I got into my car and drove her to every appointment until she was cleared. It impacted my healing but I didn't care. This woman would never bother to do any of that. All children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children and this is a prime example of that.
I hope your babies are healthy and happy.
I'm so sorry I can only imagine how terrified you were 🥺
@@off-gridsimplyhappyrodriguez They're a very happy and healthy 9 and 6 year old now. Thank you, I was horrified.
My first was born at term, but had low oxygen at the last stage so they got baby with the forceps. Not at all fun, but luckily little one is all good, I did ask a lot of questions while we were in hospital about all kinds of things I wasn't sure of though. The nurses were really patient with me thankfully😅 but also we were just in regular post birth stay, no nicu or anything like that
Yup I don’t remember ever asking for anything I was too worried about my son
Some say that social media turned us into idiots, monsters, but we've always been like this. You just get to see it more
Exactly
Look who is president 😢
@@janetrawlings1691 yeah I am not happy about that at all. However, we used to have kings who would just say “off with their head” and burn “witches” for no reason except he felt like it. It is better than it used to be because it used to be too horrible to even imagine to us. It’s still horrible now.
Imagine 10-15 years from now, when that child finds the videos of their MOM critically risking their life for FOOD. 😬
Even worse (as if it couldn’t be worse), HOSPITAL FOOD.
Fr like a literal turkey sandwich means more then her NICU baby to her it's crazy
it’s not even for food technically, she risked the babies life so she could stay seated🤡
👏🏾👏🏾 Exaccctlyyyy u hit the nail on the head
@@shadowcalamarithank you!!! She’d do this for a phone charger to make sure her riveting content gets out there.
honestly that'd just be the terrible cherry on top of the shit cake of a life this poor baby will have. they gotta live with the knowledge that their mother is a creep who manipulated a 19yr old boy and used him like breeding stock, too.
19yrs ago years ago my baby was born and taken to the NICU where he stayed for a month. I was so sick that I couldn’t even see him for 3 days. Afterwards he remained in the NICU as they waited for him to develop certain essential milestones, like the ability to “suck, swallow, and breathe”. The nurses repeatedly called him “the healthiest baby in the NICU” but I had seen bigger, seemingly more healthy, babies suddenly crash in front of me and never return to that spot in the NICU. I had listened to other mothers talk about how they had lost their babies. I spent that entire month completely terrified and completely unable to think about my own my own recovery because I was was entirely consumed with terror that at any moment he might develop a complication or an infection and die. He is alive, healthy, and prospering right now. However, TO THIS DAY I am still racked with trauma and (completely misplaced) guilt over the fact that I developed severe pre-eclampsia. I CANNOT FATHOM HOW THIS WOMAN COULD BEHAVE THIS WAY!
What a selfish evil mom , my daughter was in the NICU and I was always worried about her I stayed by her side as much as possible and I didn't bother the nurses unless it was an emergency. Unplugging your baby is crazy as hell.
As someone who has WORKED IN AN EMERGENCY ROOM don't unplug anything or take anything off that you're not supposed to. The pulse/ox is to monitor a patients' pulse/HR and Oxygen intake. If under 90% can lead to what Danky said, low oxygen. Weather it's for monitoring or not. That's what the CALL LIGHT is for.
Also, using that of all things to get the attention of staff FOR A TURKEY SANDWHICH??? A few slices of bread and turkey. No condiments nothing. As a tech I used my call lights to determine what tasks to do first. If s babies O2 is dropping or isn't read... You're dropping everything you're doing to help the emergent thing. I'd be livid as the nurse too.
As a ‘not through choice’ childless woman, this’s both enrages and devastates me 🤬😭💔
I’m in the same boat and I’m incandescent with rage. It breaks my heart that she could take such risks with her babies life over a sandwich. I’m actually shocked.
Much love sister 💜
@ Thank you for being so kind. I’m sending love and positive vibes through the internet
I'm so sorry that you don't get to have a baby.
I got one Miracle baby, because I was very, very, very lucky.
I would have been devastated had that not been the case.
I was very, very sad to not get my precious child any siblings, but I am still grateful beyond measure to get one.
(Who is now a beautiful, amazing young adult.)
My heart aches & breaks for you, my sister.
I am praying that you will get your Miracle baby, as well.
And, if not, I pray that you can find another way to become a Mother.
Clearly, you are the kind of person to *_DESERVE_* a child.
@@feryalthepirate437
I'm so sorry, sister that you have not been able to have a child.
I will pray that you get a precious, little Miracle. ❤
And, if you don't get to Birth a child, I hope that you will find another way to become a Mommy.
Clearly, you care about children & their well-being & that's the type of person who _DESERVES_ to be a Mommy,
not freaks who would *_~ENDANGER~_* the safety & well-well-being of a poor, poor, precious, _very _*_~FRAGILE~_*_ tiny baby._
God be with you in your search for Motherhood.
As a chronically ill person who is often in hospitals I'd like to point out that ALL rooms have a nurse call button and you can request a mobile call button (usually on a lanyard or remote) instead of... hurting your baby.
As a retired nurse I’m so furious. There is so much I could say, but her behaviour is reprehensible on so many levels 🤬🤬🤬 I think you said it all, but more politely than I would. The selfishness and sense of entitlement is off the scale. She wouldn’t have got a Turkey sandwich from me, she’d have been the filling in a police sandwich for child endangerment.
One thing I will add (as a former ICU nurse), is that monitoring is recorded and when doctors do their rounds they look back at the monitor info over the past few hours to see if there have been any significant events, such as periods of tachycardia/bradycardia, hypo/hypertension AND hypoxia. They would immediately see there have been sudden dips in the child’s oxygen levels (when the monitor was removed), which may lead to further UNNECESSARY tests and investigations being carried out on a very sick baby, because they won’t know that this f-wit had unplugged the monitor. Holy effing Christ.
She looks and acts exactly like my previous best friend who had BPD and she was addicted to drugs. She had a baby and then 7 months after the birth she was celebrating being out of inpatient rehab on Facebook. I hope this girl gets the help she needs and the baby lives a long and fulfilling life
This is like calling the police on false pretenses... there are other babies that actually need help and their lives are hanging in the balance and need the nurses' attention.. shes crying wolf for food ? CPS . Now. Is she planning on donating all the money she got to other nicu babies and their families? At the expense of her own childs well-being... This is despicable.
LITERALLY BOY CRIED WOLF TOO
what happened if her baby DID have an emergency after multiple times of her false alarming
My first child was born with gastroschisis and spent a month in the NICU after birth. Those nurses were absolutely my saving grace, I could not imagine treating them like butlers.
Also I’m sorry, but I think you’ve got to be a psychopath to be able to tolerate your child’s vitals monitor showing what it would look like if they were ACTUALLY DECEASED with the alarms going off like that.
I’ll never forget the sounds of the alarms going off. My son had persistent tachycardia so whenever he got upset his heart rate would go up to 220 and the alarms would blare. I heard them in my sleep for years afterwards.
She shouldnt get that baby or any baby ever. Shes like that babysitter who let a baby die only to send him home with his parents saying he was just sleeping in the carseat. I have given birth 2 times and they never ever tell you to unplug things. They give you a call button, a remote with a call button and there are ways to call for Emergecny help and then just some asstiance. They even have a thing in the restroom incase you fall, there is a button by the toilet with a long red rope for if you fell you can still reach to call.
As a pharmacist who did multiple hospital rotations including a busy ICU, I greatly appreciate that you're able to comment on this situation properly and from personal experience! I'm glad you brought up so many consequences of the baby potentially lacking proper oxygenation for any amount of time. I really don't think that's common knowledge, and I know there's women out there who don't bother to seek out any information once they become pregnant and just wait until something happens.
This woman felt entitled to the nurse's time, taking her away from a patient who may have actually needed her. The comment, "Because I do need my drinks," was so irritating to hear. No, she doesn't, and it wasn't some clever line that made her sound cool to her potential audience. That baby DOES need the oximeter readings to be accurate, tho! I wonder where the call button is in that room. I'd imagine it's one that is at least somewhat movable and not on the wall. But maybe she doesn't use it because the nurse will "take too long" to respond. :l
She definitely doesn't seem to understand the reason a nurse would come into the room so quickly when an oximeter stops displaying a reading. Imagine if the baby does start to have problems and the nurses think it's just the mom abusing their compassion and professionalism again. The nurse has to (wants to) give distressed parents some leeway for acting in ways they may not normally act, but they also have to keep the person holding the baby calm for the baby's safety. That's why she kept getting away with it. -.-
DUDE IVE BEEN WAITING SO LONG FOR SOMEONE (that i watch alot) TO DO A VIDEO ON HER IM SO GLAD YOU DID
When you said “she doesn’t have any use for this baby” I almost screamed “EXACTLY” cus my point I’ve been making since I learned about this is she now doesn’t benefit from this baby anymore, so what is she doing to do now? She only cares about getting attention, and money, so what is she gonna go and do to that baby to get what she wants again without her tiktok? Something more drastic, something possibly horrible and that baby is the target.
Omg I had twins in the NICU and when I was there with them the last thought on my mind was having the nurses bring me food or unplugging my babies for ANY reason people make me sick! I haven't finished the video yet but was so bothered by what I just heard I had to say something. Thanks for bringing awareness to these POS people because they need to be stopped and ashamed!
This is like Pre-Munchausen by proxy.
YES
Nope it isnt
I cannot imagine being her daughter and growing up to see this video of your own MOTHER unplugging your monitors
Came from Louis channel. No longer a watcher. I enjoy how much time and research you put into your videos. And your chill vibe just suits me better. Will be subscribing 😊
Im a former NICU baby, thank you for speaking out about this! I spent months in an incubator as a premature baby and i still have issues as a teen, this woman is crazy! She looked at the camera as if she knew exactly what she's doing is wrong! I hope the baby is okay, she doesn't deserve any kids
When I was in labor my husband accidentally pressed the emergency call button rather than the normal call button and I felt so guilty making all the nurses rushed in just because I needed more water. I couldn’t imagine putting my baby in harms way and causing a panic intentionally just for a sandwich.
My baby was in an ICU for just 4 hours and I was already panicking. Ridiculous when you are about to spend precious time with your newborn and distracting yourself social media.
She's doing it to upset people. I can't imagine hurting my sick baby just to rage bait.
I'm not condoning her behaviour, but she wasn't actively hurting the baby, just unplugged the thing that monitors the pulse and oxygen, not the thing that gives the baby oxygen.
Oh my god I literally gasped out loud when she did it AGAIN???
As a person in health care it’s people like this that affirms why I could never be a floor nurse. I’d get fired very quickly and call it self defense.
Now THIS is diabolical. Clout is one hell of an addiction…
I had a premie so I've been in this exact position so there's definitely a few things being misunderstood here. (Not the sandwich stuff, but being in the NICU)
1. She did not unplug this baby's oxygen, or any other medical equipment providing life. No pain, no suffering, baby was ok. That is the cord for the oxygen reader which in a velcroed sensor on their foot, so what she affected was the monitor reading so it would look like the babies 02 was dropping causing the nurse to come check. I still see some people thinking it was the 02 it's self, I promise nobody was being suffocated.
2. These rooms do not have call buttons, or at least mine didn't and it's one of the best in the nation. This was also 11 years ago, but even then hospital rooms still had them. If we needed somebody, we'd have to poke our heads out, or wait till somebody walked by, because you really didn't matter at all as the parents.
3. You can't get up when you are holding them, and if you do the baby goes back for good. No moving, no moment down on the bed, nothing. Either baby is skin-to-skin with a parent, or baby is in their heated oxygen box, and either way moving is a nurse-required activity. That's sometimes the only time you'll have with them that day, and for several days at a time.
With those things understood, was this still fully showing what she was willing to do with her medically sensitive baby, and therefore her case is fully warrented? Absolutely, that's bonkers. Most of these babies go home with oxygen still for a while so she just proved in 10 seconds why she should not be trusted with her babies care, at least while they are still that fragile. I know better than anybody not wanting to lay them back down, because you don't know when you'll next get your baby...But I wasn't trying to eat a whole freakin sandwich while doing it! Most they allowed was water, because we still had to pump milk every 2-3 hours. Non. Stop. I didn't even have a sandwich fridge, I'd have to leave my baby for the cafeteria 3 floors down! She's got it easy by comparison, and she still decided to FAFO.
My kiddo spent a month at Nationwide Children’s in Columbus Ohio 8 years ago and they had call buttons, I hate that your hospital didn’t.
They also let me stay from 5am (was there every day for rounds) until 2am and then I went to Ronald McDonald house for sleep before doing it again. I couldn’t hold my son until he was 9 days old but as soon as I could, we did skin to skin as long as I could go between pumps or meals and then I’d come right back and hold him again.
@emilyturner5985 That mostly sounds like my experience, I was at Peace Health at Riverbend in Oregon. They were so strict about me holding him though! I also was in for 97 days, and I don't think I was allowed to do a single thing by myself till the last 2 weeks. At the same time they were weirdly super focused on having me dressing him, and doing crafts to decorate the room, and were not huge fans of me for not doing crafts?? Like I was barely holding it together, I'm tired, my boobs hurt, sheesh lol 😅 Age probably had a lot to do with it, they weren't a fan of that either.
Thank you for this. I said this in a previous comment.
Can't she have her food and drink right by her side before she starts handling the baby? Parents are required to poop and pee before that right? Why can't she have the food and drink ready too?
@iagreewithyou3478 If they let her eat during I guess she could, but to me it would kind of be like if you used grandpa on his deathbed as a plate.
Like even if their being premature means they are just a couple weeks under baked and need some time on oxygen, you're still caring for a medically unhealthy baby who's lungs aren't done yet. Holding them is also for their benefit not the parents, it helps them grow and develop properly, so really she should be totally focused on their care when they're awake. Talking, reading to them, touch, it's all incredibly important for premies to thrive outside the womb.
There would be days I wouldn't eat till I'd gotten back to the Ronald McDonald House, because I didn't want to leave my baby for a second while I was there with him, much less try to eat a sandwich on their head! If she could pee first, she could also have eaten first, but I don't even know how she's not an absolute wreck who's not already zeroed in on her baby as it is. Like your child is covered in wires 24/7, oxygen tube or even a full on mask, IVs, leads glued to their skin, and my son was 15 weeks early so for most of his time he had a feeding tube, and for the first long while all his IVs went through his belly button which was really risky, and she's entirely too chill about it all. It's just a show of incredible immaturity to even be trying to get a sandwich instead of waiting, let alone unplugging the monitor to do it.
love you danky, thank you for covering this! as a mother of a nice baby, i am beyond horrified.
also, ain’t no way in hell i would prioritize saving money over the health of my child. my son was born at 34 weeks and that’s the soonest, even with preeclampsia and being a type 1 diabetic, that my obgyn would let me deliver.
i also stg that not having that skin to skin because i was deathly sick and my baby had to be rushed to the nicu was the single most cause of my post partum depression and anxiety. this woman is insane.
omg i was so confused by you saying youre a "mother of a nice baby" before i realized you meant "nicu baby" !! lmao i was like wdym are there mean babies too?
The nurse not reprimanding her for unplugging the machine was the first issue the moment I walked in and knew it wasn’t anything but a sandwich that you can’t even eat in there I would have told her off no way she took me away from helping other babies for a sandwhich that’s a nurse not a butler.
My daughter was born prematurely with a diaphragmatic hernia and had to have life saving surgery four days after birth. We were in the NICU for a long time and we also live in Texas. My mom is a nurse and a pediatric nurse at that, so I grew up knowing basic medical information. For the things I didn't know,i had my mom there to guide me. Sometimes it's necessary to unplug some of the monitors, but it was always done by a medical professional or with their permission. The staff is extremely kind and helpful, they try to ensure both mother and baby are taken care of. But they also have a nurse call button...one that is easily accessible. On top of that, they come to check on you and your baby every hour and usually in between their scheduled checks. So it's not like she would have had to pull that stunt anyway, someone would have been by shortly to check up on them anyway. This was both unnecessary and dangerous. This wasn't about a sandwich, it was about views, plain and simple. I am surprised that neither of the nurses discussed not doing that again, because my mom would have went off on her. She and her baby who is in stable condition, aren't the only babies in that NICU. There were other families (that you inevitably meet) that have been in there for weeks, months and even years. Families who's children aren't stable, who crash multiple times a day, and by pulling that stunt, she could have been pulling medical staff away from another emergency... thinking they have another baby crashing. That is beyond cruel to the other families around her, it's cruel to the medical staff who lose babies everyday to complications, and it's mainly cruel to her child...who could suffer one of a hundred different breathing complications for a baby with underdeveloped lungs. It's beyond irresponsible. It's beyond selfish. It literally shows what a piece of trash person she is. I truly hope that the father saves recording of everything and takes her to court for custody.
One last thing, I think the rumor about her breaking her own water is false. This person only cares about herself, her pain, her comfort. If she googled how to do it, she would have seen how dangerous it was and all the ways it could go wrong. She could lose the baby, she could scrape her uterus, cause a placental abruption, and die. I doubt she would risk harm to her new cash cow, but mainly she wouldn't risk harm or pain to herself. Just my humble opinion.
My water spontaneously broke at 35 1/2 weeks. I literally put in my 2 week's notice at work, went home, sat down, and my water broke. I was in labor for 20 hours before my doctor said we needed to do an emergency C-section. My daughter needed 3 days in the NICU. All of that was well over $100,000. Ultimately we ended up having to pay almost $30,000 out of pocket. Took almost 5 years to pay that off.
YOU WERE WORKING AT 35 WEEKS!!!!!!! why didn't you take your maternity leave well before then? I don't know how much maternity Americans get but, in my country, the government only provides 52 weeks(full pay) or 73 weeks (26 weeks at half pay). I would assume America has better maternity than us... So, why not take a few months before having your baby? That's what women normally do no?
@@Leleche Oh loooooooooord don't get me started lol. Maternity leave in the US is UNPAID and it's only 12 weeks. Also I was quitting my job because even if I did maternity leave and came back, the cost of childcare would completely negate the money I made at that job. AND, fun fact, I texted my boss that I was in the hospital in labor, and he asked me if I was coming back THE NEXT DAY. And then got annoyed when I said I wasn't coming back at all, and said he didn't want to have to cover my shifts. He literally expected me to come back to work THE DAY AFTER GIVING BIRTH. I wasn't even DONE by the time my next shift would have started. Even if I had taken the 12 weeks, by 12 weeks out I was still in a considerable amount of pain from the massive invasive surgery I'd had.
So they made the doctors and nurses think the baby might be critical and not breathing because... reasons? Does she realize how awful it is to think a baby might be dying under your care? She's only talking about the views. I don’t believe in removing someone's reproductive capabilities, but... she is testing me.
it’s insane how i’ve heard absolutely NOTHING about this until now..
Its terrifying that this... thing... masquerading as a human could be in charge, alone, with a tiny defenceless innocent baby 😭
My son was in the NICU for over 2 months. I had to wait 10 days to hold him for the first time for about 10 minutes, then wasn't allowed to hold him again for weeks since he stopped breathing and had to be re-intubated. They didn't have sandwiches or even enough chairs for sitting but this is disgusting. I also was not thinking about any food while holding my child who was literally fighting for his life 💔
Yeah I was very surprised by this too cause she was incredibly lucky to have such an opportunity to be able to hold her son alone in peace. When my son was born all babies and any visiting family were all in same room with atleast one nurse at all times. Even when feeding our children we had men and women and occasionally even children tracing in and out of the room. Nicu is often very strict and on high alert about everything and watch new moms like freaking hawks anyway because sadly some moms have mental problems expesally wien there children are born early and or I'll. She for most part didn't really do anything likely to harm her child since it didn't really matter unless the child's oxygen or whatever started changing during the time it was unplugged from them but it is a potential issue and rude to nurses and it is part of the reason why us good mentally stable mommy's could not have time alone with our children because people like her. Like seriously learn to get up with the child like you will need to learn how to do regardless or freaking wait. I guarantee a nurse would have been around very soon cause again nicus are ussually really really on point about babies and she was incredibly lucky to have time to be alone and in private enough to even have a moment to consider having to do anything to ask for someone to help. Nurses are there to help the child and in turn mommy when able and possible and they usually dont mind but making them think there's a possibility for even a second they they might be having a flat lined child on there watch is crazy. Some think nurses would get used to it but I've heard and could imagine that a potential death of a child during your shifts never become an easy thing to deal with. And yeah they do have to assume the child is flat lining and not that the mother is tampering with there own child's equipment. Extremely sad to think that they would ever need to think a mom would tamper with equipment.
as a former baby this is pretty bad
Having my triplets at 23 weeks and one of my daughters passed my boys will be 10 next month. This makes me soooo mad
Sorry for your loss. Rest in peace your baby girl
That’s so sad. I’m sorry to read this.
Im surprised the nurse in the first clip didnt tell her not to touch the monitoring equipment or she will have to leave
Exactly. If you're going to be a nurse, you can't be a pushover when it comes to a patient's safety.
Right? I could have sworn the nurse said "Oh, Ummm... you're not actually supposed to be eating those in here"
I have a NICU grad & we weren't allowed to eat in the room.
I'm so glad you made a video on this woman, and in such an informal way too. Love your channel Dankyjabo, keep up the good work!
I had an infection that required me to stay after an emergency c-section for a week and I still paid to stay an extra day so I went home the same time as my baby. He’s my everything. My stayed for 3 weeks. She kept saying to me you know you can set the baby down right . This was my first live baby after 3 lost pregnancies. I might have someone else video but yeah no this is ridiculous love your babies. They are a miracle. A gift that we should cherish. I hope this baby gets adopted to someone who loves this baby.
I never want kids, I don't really have a strong maternal instinct personally but like when someone harms a child I feel like regardless of who you are or how you feel about kids I think you can acknowledge this is fucked. I would sooner take the child in myself and find it a new family than let that shit slide. I feel like this could warrant criminal charges.
You don't have it because "maternal instincts" don't exist. It's an outdated misconception of cognition and physiology. They're nothing more than desires and emotions, like empathy, compassion, being hormonal or being fond of one's young. It's not a force, it's just feelings and emotions. So there's that. In case you ever had someone tell you that there's "something wrong" with that, they're wrong. Not wanting offspring is completely normal and fine.
And yes! What you describe is basic empathy once more. Most people think that harming a child is bad because it is objectively unethical.
I also heard from a pretty good source so I believe it, that she wanted a premature baby. She was saying in her whole pregnancy and from what I hear she broke her own water to have the baby premature
I know this is a pretty serious accusation, but she genuinely gives major meth vibes. I wouldn't be surprised if the people defending her are also involved with it and she might have some kind of leverage. Like, they may lose their access to it. That and her baby being born so early. I dunno.
That is diabolical. 😢
0:14 Im so glad you're covering this
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I'M SORRY A TURKEY SANDWICH!?
Right like not even a chicken 🤨
Look you get the right quality of turkey. You get some good condiments on there some lettuce some onion maybe even a little tomato. Just to be clear there will never be a turkey sandwich good enough to unplug a baby’s oxygen monitor, but I’m just saying.
You don't grow out of being a sadist. It's similar to being a sociopath or psychopath in that it's a core personality trait, you can't out grow it it's literally a physical defect in how your brain is structured.
Source: The Behaviour Panel
I'm also a biology undergraduate with an education in neuroscience
I worry to no end for that child.
playing with the health of your NICU baby is actually so insane. even crazier to record yourself for the internet on top of all that. every baby deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a baby :(
I am happy that people are bringing awareness, I just cannot watch such selfish cruelty. It is heartbreaking, specially watching how accommodating the nurse is being and how much help they have at the hospital to help with that unit in the hospital because of how desperately premie babies need the extra help and care.
My son was born six weeks premature, he had to be in the NICU for almost an entire month, he had severe complications at the time of birth he almost died, I find this woman's actions absolutely inexcusable and I pray to God someone takes that baby away from her and it is given to a family who would actually love and care for it. This is one of the most horrifying things I've seen that wasn't direct child abuse or assault etc.... she is beyond disgusting....
If she didn’t have 100’s of people from social media reporting her to CPS, the nurses would’ve definitely called on her. I hope that innocent, little baby gets a chance to live a better life with decent and loving parents.
The extra week can be crucial. 37 weeks is early term. As a new mom, I went through hell to help my baby come through into the world safely. I went through 2 cook balloons, 2 cervidil, 2 pitocin rounds, epidural, and an unplanned C-section. I then was up over 24 hrs to take care of my child,and he was born perfectly healthy just small. Luckily. And I would do that again for my child. I couldn't imagine being such a irresponsible mother
what are cook balloons
I’m glad the nurse was like, “well you can go get it yourself”, in the nicest way possible 😂
I was born as a premature kid in 09 of 8/24, and my due date was supposed to be on thanksgiving weekend. Born at six months, my lungs weren’t properly developed, and without this new medication of sorts coming in any later, I wouldn’t have gotten out alive. My parents were worried like crazy for me until I was good enough to get out, and a year later, my brother was born just fine. Even as someone who hasn’t had a child yet or doesn’t have an inkling of the feeling of worrying for your child, this makes me feel as though she doesn’t deserve to be a parent. If you are willing to set your PREMATURE baby in danger OVER HOSPITAL FOOD then you don’t deserve to be a parent for at least another few years, if not then at all.
I’m a NICU baby I am 23 years old and my birth STILL affects my parents. My time in the NICU after I was born scarred my parents and is a deep trauma that they never fully healed. My mother holds so much guilt over not being able to carry me to term to this day. With such caring parents in my life, I can’t even fathom this level of neglect and apathy
As a close to finish med student if someone does that to my patient im calling the cops
A good parent would always prioritize the baby's health!
Not even a good parent, a complete stranger would prioritize a baby’s health
Recording yourself doing the most unthinkable is WILD to me.
My brother was a former NICU baby (I think, I’m not fully sure. I know he was kept longer for extra surveillance bc his head was way too big and they thought it was full of water. Thankfully it wasn’t, he’s just got a weirdly big head.) I can’t even describe how disgusted I would be if I heard my mom had done this sort of thing to my brother. Over a sandwich and some views?? Disgusting, absolutely horrible. That woman does not deserve to have any children.
She chose the dad AND chose to leave him. She failed her daughter. She obviously had an absentee dad and a sus mom. Not diagnosing them but I've seen this so many times. They burn all their bridges and then cry when no one wants to save them
that sandwich is not worth it. THAT IS A CHILD, SHE LITERALLY WENT INTO LABOR TO BRING IT INTO THIS WORLD, WHY WOULD YOU RISK KILLING IT?! that's so cruel, my mouth is agape.
They need to ban influencers who exploit their kids. This is getting dangerous.
2:03 BRO! You couldn’t have called a nurse!?!?! Omfg.
Is she in America? DYFS would be in there in under an hour. The nurses would HAVE TO LEGALLY call them!
I had my son at 32 weeks. He was in the NICU for five weeks and I was in the hospital for nearly two weeks myself. I had a very complicated pregnancy and when I had gone into the hospital, I wasn’t expecting I’d have to stay and have my baby in such an urgent situation. The doctor wanted me to wait until 34 weeks but the circumstances got worse and my son absolutely had to be born as early as possible.
When we were at the NICU, the nurses were so wonderful, but I could never bring myself to even bother to ask for anything unless it was for my son. They are HIS nurses, not yours. Unplugging the equipment is so irresponsible. My son had to be on oxygen for three months after he was born because he was born so early. He had dips in oxygen levels that came on so suddenly so it’s hard to imagine a person so irresponsible. Unplugging your baby’s equipment for a turkey sandwich is wild.
My response to her wanting to have her baby earlier is actually insane to me. A week of development can do so much for a baby. It doesn’t make sense morally for her to want to have her baby earlier, but also financially. The earlier you have your baby, the longer they have to be in the NICU. It’s incredibly selfish and irresponsible to push to have your baby that early when it’s not necessary. She wants to get out the hospital as soon as possible, but she’s not even considering the things her baby will have to go through in the NICU. Also, like I said before, financially it’s a stupid decision.
It makes me really angry to see parents like this, who don’t put their child first. Not all parents deserve to have their children and this is so apparent in this situation. If I could’ve given birth to my son at 34 weeks, I’d absolutely would’ve rather done that than have him at 32. He would’ve been more developed and his stay at the NICU wouldn’t have been as long. As a parent, I’m so incredibly thankful my son is healthy. I can’t imagine not even considering my child’s health, especially after trying to have a baby. This whole situation makes me so angry and it’s honestly disgusting.
I was born early. Sounds like it's a similar situation, cause my lungs hadn't fully developed. Had to go straight to the NICU for two weeks due to a "tear" in my lung. I'd be horrified if my mother chose a turkey sandwich over me
I’m so glad Allie has been thrown into the spotlight. There been a group of people trying to bring awareness about her for over a year. She’s a horrible person and a scammer.
To me it’s not just the pulling of the plug, it’s what else will she be willing to do for views. It’s starts off seemingly harmless for rage bait views then moves to actually causing the child harm for views and money. She is insane.
Why is she in a private room? That female needs surveillance! As the mom of NICU twins, 24 wks now 22 yo, this makes me feel physically emotional.
As a former NICU momma I was in labor for 48 just to give my baby that extra day or so to help develop her longs this is ridiculous
My little one was born at 24 weeks. 1 pound 7oz. It was the most scary thing in our lives. She is now healthy and thriving. I would not wish this on anyone. To see this person acting like this makes my stomach turn. Those nurses, aids, and doctors are amazing. And very hard workers.
Arent there usually call buttons?
"I need my drinks" oh shut up
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If it was just about the turkey sandwich, she would have used the call bell. Ringing the call bell doesn’t cut off your child’s oxygen supply and she could still have her turkey sandwich.
But the nurses come so much faster this way!
unplugging the monitor doesn't cut off the oxygen supply either? im not defending this woman. it was a monitor though
does she not know what a freaking call light is?! A LITERAL BUTTON TO CALL THE NURSE
I'm 13 minutes in and she's sooooo proud of the traction the video is getting. As someone with fertility issues, this makes me so mad lol
I have Endo and will have fertility issues as well. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I wish you success and sending you love!
it also causes 'boy that cried wolf' issues. The nurses will stop being so quick to respond thinking it's just mom wanting a sandwich. Then when the baby does have an issue, where every second counts they wont respond as quickly
So like... I have two kids, and my youngest was in the NICU for 3 days because she had to be delivered slightly prematurely (36 weeks 6 days) via C-section. And I just don't understand why this woman wouldn't have a normal call bell. Every single time that I've been in a hospital, especially after I had my kids, I have had a call bell to call the nurses whenever I need them, usually it's part of the TV remote or hospital bed. There have been instances where I've been unable to get to the call bell, but nine times out of 10 you have a cord connected to your TV remote that has a button on it specifically to call the nurse if you need to talk to them. Why did she not just use the regular call bell? She literally unplugged the thing that monitors whether or not for kid is breathing because she wanted to rage bait of just using the button designed to call the nurse...
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