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- Опубликовано: 22 янв 2023
- About Nurse Hadley:
Hadley Vlahos resides outside of New Orleans with her husband and three children. With eight years of experience as a registered nurse, including six years devoted to hospice care, she has gained profound insights into the field of healthcare. Online, she is affectionately known as "Nurse Hadley," where she shares heartfelt stories from her experiences as a hospice nurse.
Beyond her nursing career, Hadley has achieved literary success as the author of the instant New York Times bestseller, "The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments" published by Ballantine/PRH.
Order ‘The In-Between’ here: nursehadley.com/book
Driven by her passion to make a difference, Hadley is currently working on establishing a nonprofit respite hospice house: hadleyhouse.org/
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It's OK to be stressed over a messy house & have your perspective shift. My heart goes out to the family
Yes!! I was about to comment the exact same things. I hope she sees it.
Yep! Someone else having it worse doesn't make your struggles invalid.
Perfectly said, thanks for your comment ❤
@@phoenixgate007 and you wrote exactly what I wanted to write.
@@nikki1400 I Say This Constantly Now!! We Shouldn't Compare Our Struggles And All Of Our Feelings And Problems Are Valid. I'm Teaching Myself This Too. Thanks For The Reminder And For Spreading The Word!! 🥰🥰💕💕
Once heard my friends Mom say "it's not messy it's lived in. I don't see a mess in the living room I see my babies smiles"
I will remember this forever. I needed this. Thank you so much
@@cass309 every mess involving children tells a wonderful story.
My mum used to say the same thing to my pedantic grandmother - “my house isn’t messy, my kids live here, it’s lived in”
My friend was afraid of me coming over for the first time because she had been struggling with her mental health because her dad and sister passed within about 6 months of each other. Her husband asked me to spend time with her which I gladly did. She apologized because the house didn’t look how she hoped for it to. They have 2 kids. I simply told her as long as kids are happy and fed I didn’t care what the house looked like. We had a nice day and visit with each other and our kids had a nice playdate
I love this ! I can’t wait to have a lived in house ❤
Oh momma. It’s totally okay to feel both stressed and blessed for and about the same things! Your capacity for empathy is clearly quite large, just don’t forget to reserve some of that empathy for yourself. And hug your sweet children, too. 🥰
best reply ever!
@@sallybrown-kitchen8387 thanks 😊
that’s how it started out with my cousin who had cancer. we didn’t catch on until much later into her sickness, and by then it was already too late. each of my family now have one of her toys to keep. the ones she’d play with and suddenly stopped all because of something we only thought to be a flu.
I lost a 26 year old daughter unexpectedly a few years ago and will be forever grateful that my last words to her were this-I love you with all of my heart and being your mother is such a privilege. 💛💛💛Her favorite color was yellow!
I'm so sorry for your loss. That is wonderful that you told her you loved her. That is so precious. God bless you!
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I’m so sorry for your losss
I am so sorry for your loss
I love how you used that experience to reflect & shift your perspective. It sent chills through because the impact of seeing how/what other’s experience is, is so great and can be life changing! God bless the family of that baby who was declining.
WELL SAID!!!!
Amen😢❤
what does declining mean ?
@@user-pq1to6fw2tI believe it means she’s on a steady path to becoming a little angel soon :(
@user-pq1to6fw2t her health was getting worse meaning likely she is going to pass away soon and her parents knew it so they called the hospice nurse to check on her
You are intuitive, empathetic, and self aware. I’m going to buy your book.
I’m a sixty eight year old grandfather. You made me cry!
It's hard isn't it? Imagining that a child will never reach the golden years that you are now in 💔
From one hospice nurse to another, this is nothing to be embarrassed about. We are the lucky ones who get these reminders of just how precious our messy lives are.
This!!! When people ask me how I do it I just think of all the things I’ve gained from being a hospice nurse ❤
(Not that it isn’t super hard some times but I do love it)
okay and? 😂
new hospice nurses are truly a gift from God because I don't know how you guys do what you do. God bless you and your family and thank you for everything that you do my mom was in hospice for a little over a week before she passed and those nurses were so fantastic so good
bro literally what is your problem🗿she’s out here dealing with DYING people knowing very dang well that she’s probably going to be one of the last faces those people see.
@@emmalinechavez5053 what did they say wrong?
After my daughter died I can't tell you how many people said they went home and held their children a lot more. It's the hardest thing in the world to bury you child. There is not grief that compares to it. God bless those parents
I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm sorry. I hope you all recover from this.
I am so sorry reading this comment my eyes water
rest in peace so sorru ops
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
My girlfriend was put on hospice and just recently passed dec. 16th. Her name was Tia but she went by lexy. She was 38 when she passed i tried to be as stoic as i could in her final weeks but since her passing all i wanna do is hold her hand and talk to her like we used too. Its amazing what we take for granted till its taken from us. life has a way of humbling you when you need it the most. Sometimes it teaches you the most valuable lessons in the hardest ways.
Keep talking to her, she hears you she just can’t be with you anymore in the physical form. She will be waiting for you on the other side when it’s your turn to cross over.
I appreciate the sentiment and I do talk to her a lot but the thing is we have different religions it was one of the things that brought us together but we've already agreed to passed letters between heaven and Valhalla
@@deanbartle1384the way i see it is like this:
Love is the strongest, purest emotion we Humans have. Love is SO pure and strong that not even death can sever the bond that love creates.
While we live, we have our religions and beliefs. When we pass on, we are limitless, without boundaries, and pure energy. I would think that, since love is the most pure and strongest bond we make with another person, that no matter the beliefs we hold while in our rented mortal vehicle (body), whatever in in charge of the Afterlife we believe in wouldn't be so callous and cold to keep loved ones apart.
We as spirit, as souls, as pure energy are much more than our mortal shells. I fully trust that you and she will unite, wrap around each other, and love for eternity. Only a cruel being who hates love and happiness would keep true love apart. ❤
It doesn't matter if you had 2 different religions, I believe that you will always have a way to be together! And yes keep talking to her she Will hear you 🥰♥️♥️!!!
I'm so sorry. And 38? So young. I'm 37 and just can't imagine. Hurts my heart
What a beautiful lady!
Inside and outside!
Prayers for that child and their family. Bless you
Let me guess. THAT was the prayer
God wanted it. Don't forget that
@@jawless7616to flat out murk a child?
@@jawless7616then gods a c*nt
@@jawless7616when did he say that
I spent 12 days with my daughter in hospice before she passed away. I'd give anything to hug her right now. The hospice staff was amazing.
@kyvrsii8531
You mean to say *praying.*
Preying it's when someone preys on other people, especially people who are unable to protect themselves, they take advantage of them or harm them in some way.
What's a hospice?
@@Shadow5408.g- care that specializes in those with terminal (late stage) illnesses.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry x
Bless hospice care workers. My best friend of 26 years died when we were 30 after a 3 yr fight with non smokers lung cancer and the hospice workers were all absolutely amazing. Thanks for everything you do.
Im sorry you went through that, and I'm sorry you have to actively point out that people can get lung cancer without smoking in order to avoid getting callous ignorant hateful inaccurate comments.
I loved the hospic nurses that took care of my husband.
I think it’s important to recognize two things can exist at once. You can feel frustrated that toys are everywhere and your house may be a mess, but also feel grateful and blessed. I don’t think you should feel embarrassed for what you said. You’re a mom, we have these moments and two emotions can and do exist at once. ♥️
Thiiiis! I've also been reminding myself of the beauty in duality. ❤️
Exactly 💯💯💯💯
This.
This is actually a therapy type called Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. It's really good for managing trauma.
Amen.
I am a hospice nurse too and your video made me tear up because I KNOW exactly how you are feeling. Hugs, sweetie. You make a difference in this world. I love your heart. ❤
thank you so much for all that you do for those coming close to the end. we appreciate you! ❤️
My mother is a hospice nurse and all the times she has lost a patient and judt cried and hugged me is just to many to count
What does hospice mean?
@@Thebeezzkneezz. o! Hospice is a part in the medical industry where they take care of patients at home! My moms company works specifically with cancer patients, but they can be other illnesses! Thats my basic knowledge though, and if you want more info i would do more research
My mom is on Hospice (just came home from a nursing home and we started Hospice)... I wish I could know the things to look for... Obviously my mom is declining... but is it "The decline" or just normal weakness and the disease?
I am going to be switching the Hospice team because the one that we were assigned to is very inappropriate, no compassion, and they have left us uninformed... I hope to find an amazing team that can help us walk through this scarey, yet beautiful process...
Your So humble! Stay beautiful my fellow nurse!!
May God bless that little one and her parents. 😢
I swear nurses have the duty of seeing unthinkable tragedies and the privilege of caring for those on their worst days ♥️
No, we all have that duty, we have just economically outsourced it to nurses and remain alone behind closed doors with truths only professionals are privy to.
Communities used to share these facets of life, yet we have lost much of this function.
I worked with families who suffered near to term pregnancy loss. Basically babies who died in utero or that had incompatible with life medical conditions and would die once born. These babies have to be born same as any other term baby, the majority of them are born via vaginal birth. I was the RN who assisted with these births and post birth care. It was in a quiet area of the hospital, away from any sounds of babies, and it was calm and we tried to make it as comfortable and loving as possible. The rooms looked like bedrooms, and we aimed at creating the least medical feeling environment as we could.
So many people have asked why anyone would choose to work in such a place, but it was as you said, such an honor and privilege to stand at the chaotic edge of immense human suffering and be able to show compassion, and sympathy. To know that you have the ability and the opportunity to make someone's very worst day a little tiny bit more bearable.
Privilege? If it was a privilege everyone would want to volunteer in hospices. This statement is often used to not pay nurses a fair salary.
It's a beautiful connection though honestly it's a privilege to be there
@@jesshakola read sone of the comments here esp the ones directed meanly towards nurses and there’s your answer as to why we’ve abdicated our responsibility to our elderly and frail. We’ve lost respect for each other as a society and overall have become ruder.
It made me cry seeing this. My mother never bothered with me and always (still does) complained about me and the stuff i did. Seeing a mom like this is so heartwarming.
I am so sorry for the pain you endured because your Mom was broken. Sometimes the things that hurt us the most are the things that makes us a better human being to others. It sounds like you are one of those people.
Me too! I feel you!!
I don’t know how old you are now, but as a mother, I apologize for everything your “mother” ever put you through! Please remember that it was never you as the problem. I see a lot of adults who were treated horribly as children and they’ll still sometimes make excuses for their parents and how they were treated. YOU were NEVER the problem!!!
I'm so truly sorry for all of the pain your mother causes/caused you.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ /hugs from a momma
I admire you for your strenght and what you do in your job❤
Life is brief and precious. My wife is a pediatric home health nurse. Several of her former clients are waiting to meet her in heaven. Her heart is full of precious, heartbreaking memories.
This woman is truly a saint. The work she does puts you through hell and back. I commend her for doing this and she deserves a lot of respect.
I was a hospice RN for 8 years. Had to quit working due to cancer and two major surgeries that left me disabled. You’re a wonderful hospice nurse. We don’t always keep things in perspective. For me, I don’t have to look far to see someone worse off than I am. Know that your work, compassion, empathy and presence will carry others when they most need it. Bless you!
Yes I was going to comment myself, but look at her face and her level of positive energy, when she’s headed into their house, and then the difference! That has got to be hard on a soul. 💜 To those who do this job, thank you you are saints, and we need you!
You have a special gift of grace that would shatter people like me
The hospice nurse is what got me through my dad's death, moelreso than the appointed therapists
God’s Will ❤Letting You Know! Take it easy on your self 💜
I'm in a hospice just now. I'm a mum of 5, and cancer sucks. It's so unfair. I never want to leave my babies in this world without a mum. If I can live long enough to see them as adults, my dreams and wishes and prayers will all be answered. Please pray for all with cancer but especially the children who have this horrible disease and the children affected by it 😢 🙏 😞 ❤🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Im so so sorry
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❤️ praying for you and your kids.
Send love and prayers your way ❤️
Prayers sent blessing to you and to all who fight this horrible disease that has tore too many families apart
Thank you for sharing Hadley❤
God bless you😊
Poor baby. I hope everything turned out alright for her. I couldn't imagine being a parent having to watch my child possibly slip away from me right before my eyes. I send warm hugs to any parents going through this. ❤
My special needs son used to yell all the time. He didn't speak but just babbled sounds every day all day. I lost him last February and there nothing i wouldn't give to hear him again. Embrace your babies every chance you get. Losing my baby boy was the worst feeling and the hurt stays with you forever
Wait, I read the rest of the comment, I believe you wrote the wrong word
But may he rest in peace, and may God be with hin
I’m so sorry for your loss! 😢 I know it mustn’t be easy, you had to be really strong and I’m proud of you for that! Wishing you all the best! I know this is a scar that will never go away but I hope you’re feeling better
This just made me cry for you. I have a non verbal son, and at times it hard…those babbles over and over. But your comment sparked something in me to truly cherish it, never take it for granted. I hope you and your family are healing the best you can. ❤❤
@@crystalgaming12the comment isn't edited. You misread it. Good thing you saved some face. Maybe you'll think before automatically going to correct someone again. You can really add to a person's trauma by such a flippant comment.
Today is my daughters first birthday it’s 6:47am and she’s going to wake up soon, i will be giving her extra hugs and kisses.
Happy 1st birthday to your little one!
Happy birthday to her and may all her dreams come true 🎉
Happy birthday to her!!❤
Happy late 1st birthday to her! Such a great milestone, I wish you all the best.
Happy belated birthday ❤❤
You are an angel on earth darling. My mother in law and stepsister are nurses and they are truly the most amazing and beautiful sweetest people I’ve ever known. Thank you for all you do. We need you. I don’t think my heart could take it. Not only are you sweet but you are so incredibly strong. ❤
This is the sweetest video ever. Thank you for focusing on what really matters! 💋. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Hospice nurses are a different breed. The ability to help patients and families go through the stages with such grace and kindness is unmatched. Definitely an underappreciated medical specialty.
Wow this literally made me tear up. So thankful that my children are healthy and playing. My heart goes out to all those parents with sick children. I can't even imagine what they go through.
It’s not easy. I was that parent with our daughter who at 9 days old went home on Hospice. She lived 7 weeks and 4 days. Now I have my handsome 15 month old Rainbow Baby boy who brings so much joy.
BTW, my daughter would have turned 5 this July.
@@butterflydream86 i hope your child has a beautiful long life ahead ❤
@@butterflydream86 Jesus loves you and is coming back soon pray m and ask him for forgiveness and repent today and join the kingdom of heaven!!! Isaiah 41:10 God tells us to not to fear. He says, Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.❤❤❤
@@butterflydream86it's July now! I hope your okay!❤
Thank you for sharing! We are living such a blessed life with our healthy 4 kids. Im so grateful for the endless dishes, laundry and toys... Oh the hugs and kisses never end too!❤
Seeing the world through another's eyes sparks gratitude for the life I lead. When I die, no one's gonna stand at my grave & say "She had the cleanest floors".
Gosh it sure does take a special person to be a nurse but especially a hospice nurse. I couldn’t ever see a child that’s that sick I’d be crying nonstop the entire time. God bless all the loving sweet souls that are taking care of sick kids!!! (And all the nurses and doctors period)
Yes, a text so bright person that puts their feelings ahead of others
Brave person
Thank you so much for all the nurses out there I wouldn’t be alive today without you guys. I am 12 and have bone cancer and I have two friends that have the same cancer as me and they both started declining in health and had to go to hospice care and even though they both passed I am forever grateful for the nurses that made it so they had a peaceful passing ❤
I love you Zara and Brook 🎗️
/momma hugs for you, baby girl ❤
I hope you get better and that your friends are doing great wherever they are now.
Prayers for healing 🎉
love you girl
so happy to know that youre here. 🩷 sending you much love and hugs
Thank you for doing what you do every day. God bless that patient and family.
My heart goes out to her family and YOURS. Prayers for you both!
Whenever I feel overwhelmed about the house or kids I take a deep breath and thank God that I have children and a house, it puts things into perspective
AMEN!!! Thank you for reminding me to stop and thank God for all that I have. I homeschool and sometimes I get overwhelmed and I stop and Pray but I something forget to be thankful.
God Bless you and Thank you for all you do! 🙏🏾❤️
That's beautiful! Blessings to you and your family.
I love that thank you I will do this too
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My mom was a hospice nurse for 20 years. We could always tell when she had a child patient. It was very hard for her. Nurses are human too.
Gentle hugs. It’s always the kids that hit the hardest. Give them an extra squeeze from me and take several for yourself. 🥺😔❤
What a SPECIAL girl this lady is. A rare heart.
I always made it my best to see all the kiddo patients on hospice bc no one wanted to. Then i realized I needed it more than they did. Bc it genuinely changed me. Prayers to them ♥️🙏🏼
Thank you. Our nurse was so wonderful. She took care of my son but was kind and answered all my questions kindly. The whole time I was thinking they were wrong that he would pull through. 😭💔❤️🩹
@@VC0598 I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️🩹 All my love to you and your family.
What’s hospice
@@Livy-mv9se end of life home care. 😔
@Livy-mv9se Hospice can also be end of life care in a hospital setting as well. Both of my parents died in home hospice, with me helping my mom take care of my dad passing from colon cancer (PLEASE GET YOUR COLONOSOPIES! HE DIDN'T & GREATLY REGRETTED IT). And I took care of my mom in home hospice. Hospice is very little help depending on where you are, but every little bit of help was SOOO appreciated & I truly loved all of my mom's nurses that helped. Bless all Hospice nurses bc that's not an easy job at all. You know the end result after caring for your patients & getting to know them, they will ultimately die. My mom had an absolute favorite & she was off for a few days when my mom passed & that was really difficult. 😇
You are a human. You are allowed to have your own stresses and still be empathetic about others struggles. Two things can be and are true at the same time. There’s no need to be embarrassed! You do amazing work
Counting my blessings 🙏🏾 and lifting that family up🙌🏾
OMG don't know how you nurses do that work! Brings a big strong guy like me to tears!
Thank you for being caring & compassionate...
It’s crazy to think that what most of us take for granted, others wish for.
They want the messy house, the screaming kids, the constant chaos, because that means there’s beauty & life all around you.
It really is the smallest things that we miss the most.
This is very true. My sister, who has always loved babies and little children, the oldest sister, has not been able to have biological children. She has a stepdaughter that was very attached to her when young and is selfish and sometimes cruel now... and is actually having her own health struggles that mean Nicole might not even have a chance to be a grandmother. Well, I am the baby of the family and had my 1st recently. I am determined that even though we were not always close, she gets to have some experiences with Dominic. I wish she could have her own. I feel for those that wanted but could not have and those that had but lost... I can not imagine.
We probably cannot afford a baby in our lifetime so we had a puppy.and my partner is in love with the toys all over the house it makes them feel at home
That's right but it's called life so enjoy what you have and who you are. Sick healthy it is still a miracle to ever excist
@@charizard7326 why can't you afford a baby really? It's not about affording. This world is just become f***** up when people are like. I can't afford a child so I won't have one. Well, hope he's got a lot of money to afford taking care of yourself when you're older
@@glitterarmy89 Really, so what do you recommend, having a child without sufficient economical support and have him miss many opportunities and a good enough childhood just for the chance he can take care of them when they're older?
People can decide if they are emotionally and economically stable enough to have children, and certainly shouldn't be shamed because of it.
There's tons of kids under the care of the state because parents couldn't take care of them because of lack of economic resources, were too young/psychologically unable or just abusive.
Children are great, they have tiny humans developing, and some people like them, others not so much. But they're also really expensive, counting for their schooling, food, doctors, etc and parents are also in charge making sure they're productive members of society.
And while it's true the standards for raising a child are hight than before, we also need to remember that of a lot of people are living paycheck to paycheck, or without a huge amount of money for the end of the month. A child for them would either live lacking a lot of things, or just be taken away.
Also, it seems to me pretty selfish to think a child should be born, no matter the place in life the parents are, just because they could take care of them when older.
You just ignore the fact that to reach that stage parents have to raise that kid for at least 18 years with all the money and patience it takes. Things like these, result in huge amounts of mental health issues and a lack of opportunities for them.
You're treating them less as the valuable developing humans they are and more like a crutch for your old age. And let's not talk about how if they where bad parents, chances are that kid as an adult will just cut contact with them.
You know what's messed up? People who think you should just have children to take care of you without caring if they can actually take care of them, leaving us unstable and broken adults.
Nurses who do hospice care are angels on earth. Two of my grandparents went through hospice before they passed and, I honestly think our nurses did more for us than they actually did for my grandparents. They made it okay for us to let go and say goodbye. You’re doing work that is incredibly hard, but ultimately wonderful for the families of your patients. So, thank you.
im so sorry for your loss and I don't mean to be rude but may I ask what hospice is
@Minniemouse-fo7ip it's a kind of facility where patients with terminal illnesses can stay. They're usually much more calming and comfortable that traditional hospitals, and the reason they exist is to provide an environment where terminally ill patients can feel comfortable and relaxed while still ensuring that medical staff are close by in cases of emergencies.
Hospice care can also refer to the care given to terminally ill patients in general, where the aim of care given is less of trying to cure their illness and more of making them as comfortable and taken cared of before the end of their life.
@@Minniemouse-fo7ip Not rude at all! As @mochibunnyan6556 said, its basically end of life treatment. For patients who have terminal illnesses and have been evaluated to know that death is near, you can opt for hospice care. My grandfather had congestive heart failure and my grandmother had vascular dementia, both of those conditions have definite signs when a person is approaching the end of their life. My grandfather had hospice at home, which meant we were given medications and items to keep him comfortable - we even were able to rent a hospital bed - and a nurse came to visit us at first once every few days and then slowly every day, to finally she was with us for nearly her entire shift. My grandmother by contrast had it in a nursing home, which meant the nursing home staff were the primary carers and a hospice nurse came in every few days.
Generally the idea is that you keep the patient comfortable and allow them to pass in a good way, free from pain and fear. You don't do things to extend life, you don't perform cpr or shock them back. You let them pass when they pass. As I said originally the nurses are also there for the families. My grandma was in hospice first and during her time in it she lingered for a lot longer than anyone expected. The nurse believed that she was still hanging on for her husband, my grandfather (the same one I mentioned above). He was absolutely dedicated to her, sacrificed so much for her and he didn't want to lose her. Our nurse is the one who was finally able to let him let her go. After he said goodbye to her, he got up to leave the room for a moment to catch his breath and she died moments later.
Some people out there really look down on hospice care, they think its terrible that we let people die but I think it makes for a good, peaceful death and gives the people left behind the opportunity to say their goodbyes and come to terms with the inevitable. My other two grandparents had very sudden deaths and they were so so much harder for me to come to terms with.
I can feel the pain she was in. I work at a retirement home and we have had several who have been on hospice and have a few who are on it right now. It is hard to see someone decline so quickly. But these nurses are there for the families and even for us at work. We become so close to these residents that when they pass it hurts us almost as bad as the families. When they come into our facility they become family. For a hospice nurse to be able to check on the individual one day and them be okay but then come back and the individual be completely different, that just takes a lot of mental strength to get through it.
Hospice isnt a job its a ministry. To maintain calm, compassion and balanced emotions in the face of this situation...i tilt my hat to everyone able and called to do this.
May god bless that kid and make it better 🙏🙏🙏🙏
You are blessed because you answered that wake up call.
My dad passed away at the beginning of this month. It happened so fast that Hospice only came 3 or 4 times. They were so wonderful. To all of the Hospice nurses out there who read this, please know how grateful we are for the kindnesses we were shown, and the care and dignity our father was treated with at the end. We appreciate it so much. 💖
I’m so sorry for your loss 💜🙏
my condolences ❤❤
What is hospice?
Lucky, hospice only came once for my dad
I'm so sorry, sending lots of love.
My mom was a hospice nurse for years and we knew when something had happened she would go to her room and close the door for a bit and come out crying and holding us. Have always had a ton of respect for my mother and anyone who works in places like this. Its mentally draining as well as physically. My mother has a herniated disc and a bunch of back problems from this job as well as being an EMT. Much respect and love to you all ❤❤
You made me cry. I could feel all the love while reading your post! Hats off, major kudos, and all my love and respect. I teach kindergarten, and I can't even imagine what y'all see in a day, week, month, or year! True heroes and heroines. BRAVO and BRAVA!!!
You're mom is an angel working for her wings like many of the medical professionals. Give her a huge hug for all of who know.
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Omg
How do you do it? Thank you for your service.
Your mom sounds amazing.
As I was a hospice nurse for 22 years it is the hardest job, you will ever love. Peace and hugs for you fellow lightworkers ❤
Prayers for the family.
Hospice nurses are a special type of people! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
PRAISE YESHUA NOT MAN.
i could never have the mental strength for your job. you are a hero
I'm with you she's A straight super hero .
no she’s not. she’s nothing.
@@dreamkitty oh … u mean u are nothing .. ok… cuz she is doing an amazing job and you are here trying to catch some attention.. I’ll give it to you so you can sleep tonight .. st*pid
@@dreamkitty projection🤢
looks like someone’s insecure 👀
You have a beautiful heart and "eyes to see" bless you and your family 💖
Hospice nurses are incredible human beings.
Wow I just cried. I’m glad you can hug your little ones a little tighter tonight. I know I will.
My dad passed away after 2 days in the ICU on December 12th, 2022. His main nurse was named Julie. For two days it was mostly just she and I and my unconscious dad. I don't know how I would have gotten through it without Julie. Sometimes she just held me and cried with me. Those were the worst days of my life and while she was working hard to care for my dad, she was also caring for me. I visited the ICU on Christmas to bring flowers and Julie was there. She sat and cried with me as we remembered those awful days. Nurses...I don't know how you do it. Thank you so much. Thank God for Nurses.
And every government in every country treats them like crap. Under appreciated, under paid and usually both.
@@stevegraham3817exactly!!!
- [ ] JESUS LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU, Repent, trust that God are has a plan for you, live it, enjoy, GOD IS GOOD AND MERCIFUL
Yes what a thankless job & what heroes they are. Not just nurses but all of the healthcare workers who do things like this. Really makes the human experience feel so connected.
Also, very sorry for your loss
damn thats my birthday
You are a blessing
Nurses are angels on earth. I always thought they came to help humans.
Just remember the house work will be there tomorrow, but our kids grow up in the blink of an eye. Or even worse. ❤
Thank you for being there for their family ❤
I was a very young mom. My mother, offering no advice or help, would rant at me because my house wasn’t spotless. It was clean, just chaotic with toys and shoes, etc. Soon, her behavior was so toxic and only added to my stress, I told her she could not come over uninvited. I had no intention of raising my children as she had. She was still unhappy and miserable. Her clean house did not fix that for her. Ironically, she died a hoarder. Turns out her house was only clean because she treated her kids like servants. Once we all left, she had no one to bully into doing her housework. Live your days fully by your own schedule. Raise happy children and let them be children. Occasional chores are fine, but the kids should not be doing the bulk of household work. Namaste.
That sick little girl, beautiful soul, gave You a blessing of loving perspective..and You in turn passed on this special gift to unlimited amounts of people by sharing Your video with Us.
Thank You and Blessings to You both ❤❤
Prayers for the lil beautiful Angel and her family for strength and love ❤😢
Love goes a long way, doesn't it?! ❤
This video came to me right at a moment when I really needed it so thank you for sharing 💙
You got the Message. That is what Matters..
it takes a special person to do hospice ..bless her heart
Don't be embarrassed. Just be grateful. I lost twin girls before my two now and I still get upset about their toys everywhere. It's life. Thank you for becoming a nurse. You have a good heart.
I'm sorry for your loss 🕊🕊
😭😭😭😭😭😭. Im in 8th grade and a kid in the 7th grade died last Thursday night in a four-wheeler accident. He was only 12. His celebration of life was today ❤. Levi Matthews, you will forever be loved and missed❤😭😭😭
rest in peace ❤
May he rest in peace ❤
Aw mate, I'm 48 and lost an old friend last week, it doesn't get easier, it's sad and I'm really sorry you lost your friend 🩷🩷🩷
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry honey 💗💗💗💗 sorry you lost your friend. Huge hugs to you.
Those visits that make you grateful for what you have. ❤
EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO SEE THIS, AND BE REMINDED,; LIKE YOU WERE. THANKS FOR SHARING
I'm fifteen but I have a brother 10 years younger than me and I've been sort of a second mom to him because my parents got a divorce a year after he was born. I love him more than life itself and I can't imagine losing him and I'm not even his mom. My heart goes out to those parents- the loss of a child is the worst grief of all. 💕💕
So kind of you to step up Alot of siblings do these days most end up being hateful thanks he needs you
This is so sweet. I'm 10 years older than my baby brother as well. He'll be 21 next month. He has always been a joy to me. Having a maternal bond with him helped to prepare me with my own children now. ❤
As I’m 22, I have a 13 year old sister and a 6 year old autistic brother. Typically I’d die for my siblings. It’s always been me and my mom as mom and dad. This video made me bawl my eyes out I couldn’t imagine not getting my clothes stolen from my sister or my brother pestering me after a long 12 hour shift to play pokemon. I can no longer feel annoyed. I’m just going to appreciate every little irritating moment. Some people don’t get that and from this perspective it hurts but raises a newfound appreciation for the difficult times
I just wanted to say that this was a really beautiful comment.
And let me tell you you are a smart young lady. God bless you you have your head on your shoulders and your feet on the ground. Please don’t ever change that about you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are truly blessed and gifted to have such good qualities at a very young age And to speak highly of your brother and your family says a lot about your character. Stay true to yourself regardless of what anyone says about you. You are much stronger than you know, and we love you from the bottom of our hearts and we don’t even have to know each other, but the love I have for you and the rest of the world is immensely, even when I get hurt by most people it’s OK I understand that some humans are ignorant but it’s OK. We all learn at our own pace and we are running our own race uniquely and differently and so these are the reasons I forgive and move on and that’s it. God bless your beautiful family and stay safe.❤🙏🏻
I'm so sorry for the family. I want you to know that it is perfectly fine to be frustrated with the toys being a mess, just because another family has it worse doesn't mean that you can't be frustrated with your own problems.
i dont think shes saying she doesn’t have problems, i think she’s saying that it’s important to be mindful, and that having perspective can make you more grateful for what you *do* have.
but i agree, comparison is not something that should happen in most circumstances - everyone is just doing their best and its okay to be upset.
@@dreamweaver444 In the same regard people need to be mindful that not everyone can handle stress as well as others. So for some, a messy house is nothing, but to others it can make them spiral in to a panic attack worrying about how bad of a parent they "are". 🤷♀️
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memento mori
My heart absolutely breaks for any family with a terminally ill child. No parent should have to bury their child. You do an amazing job❤❤
I had a moment like this. I was late for work and I live near a hospital and there was a car that pulled out in front of me. The lady driving the car was going about 5 mph and I was fuming in my car and finally, I got so mad. I run around her when I looked into her car. I saw a little child in a seatbelt all bundled up in the kid obviously looked really sick. I realized she was pulling out of the cancer part of the hospital. I felt like a monster. I imagine that woman was hanging onto every single second that she could be with that child. It was one of those moments that really hit home as to how precious time is. And how we shouldn't take it for granted.
Jesus loves you all has a plan for you all. He will never leave you nor forsake you trust Him😊
Glad you looked and had that realization. I bet she didn’t even see you since she had her priority in front of her. Cancer sucks. 🕊️
Screw cancer man
Stop being in a hurry all the time
This is also a lesson of being merciful to people you know nothing about. You never know what someone is going through! It’s easier said then done but please be merciful and kind to others.
My mum died Tuesday, I nursed her for the last 3 days, the nurses that came into help were absolutely amazing.
Sorry for your loss….🥺 said a prayer for you and family
so sorry to hear that, wish i could give you hugs and comfort, feel free to comment or reach out anytime, God bless you and keep you strong
I'm sorry for your loss
Sending you love all the way from India. May she rest in eternal peace. Xx
I’m so sorry for your loss… that has to be so hard to go through. Keeping you in my thoughts 🤍
Having a perspective is a blessing.
God bless the little girl the family and you ♥️
Don’t beat yourself up you’re a normal human being. You love your kids. Thank you for being the nurse you are, and taking care of others.
We lost our 13 month old after a 393 day NICU stay. We have 3 kiddos at home. Six month later and the mess doesn’t bother me anymore, getting woken up to someone crawling in my bed and being tired the next morning doesn’t bother me…even when I’m frustrated, I’m so grateful I have the opportunity to be frustrated. I wish I could have learned the lesson another way, but I’m glad to have learned it now. Thank you for tending to these families and holding space for them and educating so many people about this season. It is a beautiful thing.❤
I'm so sorry for your loss.. i know that's there's nothing i can say to ease your pain. Only your little darlings at home can do that. You are so right about what you said. Just hug your babies tight whenever you've got the chance and now that your angel is looking out for you all and is happy for you. God bless you and your family. ❤
sending best wishes ❤
Remember that every time you see a twinkle in one of your kids' eyes it's your baby sending you their love through their siblings ❤
I’m so sorry ❤
I’m not a mom but I get feeling grateful even for bad feelings because it means we still get a chance to experience life. This is something I never really thought about till recently. I’m 28. When I was younger I cared too much about the wrong things like appearance. But my perspective changed as I got older in a way that’s hard to describe. I’m so grateful I got the chance to experience that shift in thinking because it really is cool to notice the difference in perspective as we age
The way she's staring into the distance so as to keep from crying. So grateful for nurses, esp hospice nurses.
Lord bless that baby and let her passing be peaceful..bring comfort to her and the parents shes leaving behind
My boy passed 4 days after birth. I used to whine abt the other 3 I have. Got a wake up call right after his passing coz I realized those 3 naughty, messy, or whiny kids were a blessing
My daughter died in her sleep at 6 days. I know what you mean
Love & peace to both you heartbroken mama's. Super healing hugs from this parent being sent for the 2 of you 🫂⚘️
@@sandis8436 thank you so much that means the world
Praying for you mama
I have a 7 year old son and thought the same thing although it is so damn hard parenting when you're world is crumbling
@@Erika-kw7urmine did the same at 6 weeks. I miss him so much.
Im sorry too, for your loss.
I worked in funeral service for 12 years. We’d often get parents come in to preplan knowing their child was on hospice. At the time I didn’t have children and so I always took care of those services since the other directors found it difficult. After beginning my family the directors thought I was desensitized to child services but at the end of the day I’d come home feeling completely like crap. I haven’t been in service for almost 6 years because I’m raising my family and even though toys and clothes all over the place is overwhelming I’m still grateful
@@decodethevideo1619 I was thinking about it as well until I saw the above comment. Didn't factor in parents planning for their kid's death...
My brother has been a funeral director since the 90s, no kids, but kids funerals never get any easier even for him and he has truly seen it all. You are the last person to physically care for that child and the stress of that alone can be insane. I don't know how my brother does it... It ages you quick too.
Bless you for what you did. Your heart feeling change after having a child. God bless you.
God bless you for being so strong as a Mom and as a worker dealing with that.
You're the best.
You all are
You’re a wonderful person! I know that child saw nothing but your happy face….well done. ❤️. That’s love.
this is why i love old houses. there’s something about a worn interior that feels like home to me. it shows me that it’s been lived in, it was a loved home. it’s where someone grew up, where someone spent their childhood and made so many memories. i love seeing the evidence of someone enjoying their life in a home.
Amen to this.
I'm a 6'3" 250lb man and you are stronger than I will ever be. Thank you for doing what you do. I'm so glad there are people like you for those that need them.
You're an amazing person. Sincerely.
You can just see how much this beautiful soul shines .what she doesn't realise is how her aura brightens everyone's day if not just for a few minutes. Carerers are very very special human beings
What a sweet lady you are.
I once asked my grandmother (An RN for almost 40 years. Now in her late 60s. Still working night shift 5 days a week in the ER. Feet and legs swollen 3x the normal size.) If there was ever a time she considered quitting nursing.
She told me “Yes” and gave me the reason: When she was 28 years old and she had spent her nursing career assisting in the birth and delivery of babies. On a summer morning around 3AM a young couple in their 20s came into the hospital to have their first children. A set of twins, one boy and one girl. The hospital stayed short staffed so in the delivery room there was the doctor, 2 RNs (one was my grandmother), and 2 LPNs. That was the only staff available. Everything had gone smoothly until the doctor realized the first baby and probably the second we’re coming breech (feet first instead of head first). The doctor ended up tearing the mother’s tissue as he tried to remove the babies quickly.
The first baby (a little boy) was pulled out non responsive and was quickly passed to the other RN and she desperately tried to get him to breathe (suction, patting, etc.). The second twin (a little girl) came out blue and was also unresponsive, and was passed to my grandmother… My grandmother and her colleague worked side by side, desperately trying to resuscitate both babies… The doctor was saving the mother’s life because she had been hemorrhaging since the first baby was delivered.
After an hour and a half the team called it… Due to short staff my grandmother was instructed to take the babies herself to the morgue where they could be pronounced there (legally declared dead). My Grandmother carried both babies in her arms through the hospital. Each baby was swaddled in the blue and pink newborn attire and hats.
My grandmother says the worst part of that entire day was her trip through the halls down to the morgue. Other patients and staff members all looking in awe at my grandmother. Asking “Awe may I see the babies”.. With tears in her eyes she had to say no because the babies were deceased….
On a comforting note though: The mother recovered physically within a few hours and the couple was allowed to do something that was unusual for the time period: The doctor allowed the mother (to be wheeled in a wheelchair by my grandmother herself) alongside the father down to the morgue to see their babies and “say goodbye”… They were allowed one hour and they were able to hold and grieve physically with their children’s bodies.
Once they left the morgue the mother grabbed my grandmother by the arm and said “Thank you for being the Angel that led them home.”.
My Grandmother still has dreams about that day even though it’s been almost 40 years… She quit that hospital the same week and never worked in the delivery unit again… She became an emergency room nurse full time and dabbled in the OR when needed… She said “I never gave up nursing though because too many people needed what that momma called- An Angel”…
She has been an Angel in so many peoples lives. Including mine but for different reasons. I’m sure there are so many people who were, still are, and always will be grateful that she never said “maybe I’m too young for this”… Love you meme.
God bless your meme. A heart of gold 🥇 and a strong 💪 heart ♥️ too. She's made quite a difference in many lives, whether thru tragic or happy circumstances. She deserves all the best and I pray that she hss all the best
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aww share my love to her
Beautiful story. My Mom was a floor nurse too... some days were unbearable, and toward the end, it was the new staff coming in that almost made her retire early. They were just doing the bare minimum. She would see so many people saying "that's not my job" or passing the blame. Only there for the money, really. She would see patients suffer, or family get treated badly because by the time something got done, someone was made to do it. Can you imagine if someone today said about taking those babies "That's not my job, someone else do it"... and those sweet angels were taken down by someone who didn't understand and respect what just happened? Nursing is a calling, for this very reason. It is so much more than a job. I am so glad your grandmother stuck with it when she was younger. She probably helped so many people than she even knows about. Thanks for sharing.
@@regina_filange2.0 Preach 🙌… Is this not the story of seasoned nurse’s lives everywhere? They get so excited to FINALLY have additional support, new staff that they can teach and distribute the work amongst evenly; Just for them to be below sub-par & honestly making our veteran nurses feel as is they could be doing it better themselves… *Most* (not all) of the younger/newer nursing staff comes in with only money on their mind. Not a caring bone in their body. Limiting their service to only what the paperwork ascribes to them. Leaving it up to nurses like your mother and my grandmother, who truly understands what ALL comes with the territory.
As a nurse, you aren’t just there to check vitals, temperatures, and administer medicine. You are there to provide care… if you cannot provide care and comfort: IT IS NOT THE PROFESSION FOR YOU. Stop leaving the humanity side and “hard tasks” up to the seasoned nurses.
My grandmother even at 70 years old works her withered body to the bone, for more than just retirement… She continues to work because she worries for the safety of future patients. She comes home unable to walk, body swollen, eyes dilated from the bright lights, slurring her words in exhaustion, scarred from tears of traumatic sights… all because that is her job.
I’ve begged her so many times the past few years, twice while physically carrying her up her stairs to her bedroom while she cries in pain: “Meme please retire, I’ll help you financially, I’ll help you stay busy whatever you need…” & she looks me in my eyes and says “Baby I will when it’s time but God keeps telling me to keep going. To keep helping, this is what he put me here to do. And I won’t stop until he says I’m done”…. I am not a religious person. Nor am I Christian, but I believe her when she tells me this. My grandmother has definitely reserved her place. As much as she’s given for others… If there is a God then she will see them. She will serve at their feet for her good deeds. If I can even become a fraction of the woman she is, then I know I’ll be radiating greatness for years to come.
My grandmother wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and remind everyone that this is a dime a dozen story many nurses have- And while there are good and bad nurses, remember that most are simply overworked and exhausted. So next time you find yourself needing one- Give them the benefit of the doubt and be as good a patient as you can be given the circumstances. She thanks everyone humbly. 🙏 ❤️🩹
We really forget that nurses put on a smile and work so hard for the sick and don’t take into account the toll it takes to care for severely sick or declining patients. I don’t know who you are, you just popped up in my feed and I felt so much for you. I send love and support, just a person to person. You matter so much for what you do and you are absolutely entitled to human emotions. Bless your heart 🥰🥰🥰
My son is 50 and a nurse. He hardly ever speaks about what happens. He just said that most of it is so personal he would fell he was betraying patients most intimate personal details. I’m happy he says nothing on social media. This young woman did make you aware though, of real sadness, misery and loss: of children. I remember in the 1960’s my aunts baby boy died approaching 1 year old. She attempted suicide by putting her head in the turned on gas oven (that’s how we did it back then). She was found just in time. Eventually she had 2 more children but NEVER spoke of her bereavement, ever. So very personal and painful that you never wish to share it. I STILL hug my sons (50 yrs and above). That’s all that’s necessary. My sons still hug me too! That love and connection has kept us close. I’m 77 now. 👌🤗🌈❤️🙏😘
This is why so many of us left the field after Covid. All of it is..very HEAVY.
These Hospice experiences you will never forget. I was a Hospice nurse for almost 15 years. Children in Hospice will stay in your heart forever
What awareness!!!! I inspire to be like you!! Your name should be HOPE!!!!
Being grateful for EVERYTHING NO MATTER WHAT … stay humbled people. Prayers to everyone 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yes.. agreed. There's times with mt 5 Month old where it's hard to get up and do everything by myself. My husband works 16 hour shifts and is rarely home to ever see or help, so frustration and fatigue really get the best of me at times, but i have family in a 4th world country, and I know there are people who's babies are starving or with out homes. This video breaks my heart knowing there are families no matter how wealthy that just don't ever escape that kind of heart break. We truly are blessed and sometimes don't see it, just as how they can find blessings in us where we suffer that they might not see. We can all learn from eachother.
That is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Thank you for being so human and for allowing yourself to be seen as vulnerable. It helps all of us to know that this moment was an awakening. Heartbreaking but still beautiful
I can tell youre the best mum ever no need to beat yourself up!
Made me cry. What a helpless feeling when you are losing your sweet baby child and you can't save them.
God bless her Thank you so much for all of our nurses