10 Cold Hard Life Lessons I Wish I Knew at 20

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @nathansamuel222
    @nathansamuel222 Месяц назад +66

    It’s very clear from the video how positive an impact your Mum had on your life. Sorry to hear of your loss. Hearing what you’ve been through makes your advice even more pertinent, especially with the important context that MBA/business isn’t the most important thing in life. Excited to follow your future content!

  • @superfootba1l
    @superfootba1l Месяц назад +5

    Honestly, rlly glad that you made this video. Being vulnerable makes you relatable, and when you make IB and career focused content, it's pretty easy to judge and come to negative conclusions about your character. Knowing that theres a genuine passion behind what you're doing makes me want to rlly support what you do. Your best video yet. Best of luck Ben.

  • @deniseyang9723
    @deniseyang9723 Месяц назад +3

    You’ve always come across as an easy-going, light-hearted, simple (in a good way) person.
    And that’s a testament to how you’ve lived and breathed the lessons shared here.
    Because anyone in your situation could easily become cynical, hateful, and defensive; but you’re the complete opposite.
    I don’t wanna say anything happens for a reason, but I think the way you go about life, will make you form the right connections & leave no regrets - which, at the end of the day, are prolly the most important.
    Thanks for passing on all the wisdom :)

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад

      thank you really appreciate this!

  • @ivannaths
    @ivannaths 8 дней назад +1

    i never comment on videos but this video hits really hard
    Thankyou for all that you do especially for sharing your experience
    RIP to your mother
    your mom must be proud of you

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  22 часа назад

      thank you i appreciate this

  • @MrDarren1242
    @MrDarren1242 Месяц назад +5

    Ben - you mum will be really proud of you, keep up the good work. Best of luck to your family and your business!

  • @AfzalHussein
    @AfzalHussein Месяц назад +11

    Great video man. Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss.

  • @rich_toad
    @rich_toad Месяц назад +4

    Sorry for your loss, bud. Courageous of you to get on camera and talk about this.

  • @sebastiancastano6770
    @sebastiancastano6770 Месяц назад +3

    Amen bro! RIP to your Mother. God bless you. Thank you for all that you do.

  • @explorewithCK
    @explorewithCK Месяц назад +2

    It’s not easy to be so open and honest to the public about the sacred relationship you had with your mum and what you went through. Really respect you for sharing this in the right time in your own approach Ben.
    As a content creator myself I could also relate to some of the things you alluded to such as the tenancy of over sharing/ being mindful.
    Some super inspiring points you mentioned in other parts of this video too. Really like this sort of content you put out. Thank you!

  • @AnonYmous-hu6jd
    @AnonYmous-hu6jd Месяц назад +2

    You’re a great person. Your mom did a wonderful job. Thanks for talking about this subject with us, and know you are having a positive impact on lots of people. Best,

  • @barryaherne215
    @barryaherne215 Месяц назад +3

    Every now and again when I'd watch your videos, I'd have that nagging thought about your mother in the back of my head - I hope everything's okay - and it saddens me to hear of her passing.
    I've struggled to word this correctly, but it can't have been easy to leave Korea and start the MBA with excitement and then have things go south literally as you'd just left. I'm sorry the start of something you'd been waiting years for got off to a rough start.
    But I'm glad that even within loss there is light, and rareliquid exists in part because of her - you'll always have that. The darkest grief only exists because of love.

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад

      thank you barry you've been there from the start

  • @ryanjohnson4515
    @ryanjohnson4515 Месяц назад +4

    Great points throughout the video. Your mom must be proud of who you have become.

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад

      🙏

    • @OoO-nv1lb
      @OoO-nv1lb Месяц назад

      @@rareliquid Greatest life lesson i've learned is that you shouldn't trust people online or they can scam you with a shitty cryptosite

  • @justinbest3198
    @justinbest3198 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you for providing your experience. It’s so inspirational to see how you have progressed this far in your career and you highlighted the concept of the things that make you happy aren’t always the easiest. Appreciate how much you opened up to share your story with your mom and your outlook after such a hard situation, may she rest in peace.

  • @AvisekAgarwal
    @AvisekAgarwal 18 дней назад

    Loss is a part of life , always keep sending good prayers to your mom wherever she is and i will do the same 😊 , everyone has go one day and we should have no attachment but still love the person the most

  • @danielhe7845
    @danielhe7845 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you for your vulnerability with your experiences, notably with your mom. I admire the love and care that you have for her. I know this was very difficult to share to us, but I’m very proud of you for doing so! Great job man.

  • @ekanem2954
    @ekanem2954 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you so much for sharing these lessons. Also understand that its not easy opening up about your loss and so sorry to hear about that. I love how you've kept a positive attitude and are able to be grateful about life. Excited to see your future growth and hope to see more wins in your future.
    Thanks Ben.

  • @user-uq5jk8es3l
    @user-uq5jk8es3l Месяц назад +11

    i never comment on videos, but damn this hit home. my mom has parkinsons and i've struggled with keeping a positive attitude and performing at a demanding job. really appreciate you sharing your perspective; i took away a lot of good stuff 🙏

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад +1

      i feel you. for me it was only after my mom passed that i felt i could really breathe, relax, and be more at peace. during her battle with ALS, it wasn't easy to remember that the little positive moments we shared together would be so important and something i miss now and would look back fondly on. hope you're able to enjoy as much time as you can with your mom and best of luck to you

  • @Whateversbro
    @Whateversbro Месяц назад

    I never comment on videos but this one hit so close to home. My condolences. Thank you for sharing Ben and I look forward to seeing your continued growth and success!

  • @rebeccaxliu
    @rebeccaxliu Месяц назад +4

    what a great reminder that life is beautiful 💓

  • @heenalaswani7104
    @heenalaswani7104 24 дня назад

    Ben , it's really strong of you to share your vulnerability & experiences. ❤

  • @mainulsabuj4982
    @mainulsabuj4982 Месяц назад +1

    The part about your mom really hit hard! Thanks for sharing your experiences!

  • @diegoballesteros8729
    @diegoballesteros8729 Месяц назад +1

    you are strong bro im really proud of you man, rn im pursuing IB my mom is in another country and i miss her so much and I can’t imagine her not being with me.

  • @ab31387
    @ab31387 Месяц назад +3

    Thank for sharing these advice and for being so candid.

  • @ravinduakalanka6834
    @ravinduakalanka6834 Месяц назад +6

    Thanks for the great content

  • @bdshx
    @bdshx Месяц назад +1

    Amazing video man. Thank you for sharing.

  • @VinhNguyen-tx4xv
    @VinhNguyen-tx4xv Месяц назад +1

    I’m so sorry for your loss!

  • @davidtranfinance3187
    @davidtranfinance3187 Месяц назад

    Really enjoyed the content. I like how you mentioned balancing mental health and happiness. There are tradeoffs to it but your sanity is important.

  • @ClayAndrewsVideos
    @ClayAndrewsVideos Месяц назад +1

    Being 27 and having been watching your videos from the start, this was an awesome and insightful video, Ben! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your insights. Your channel helped me get a corp dev job with zero banking experience. Keep everything coming!

  • @amineazzouni891
    @amineazzouni891 Месяц назад

    You're an inspiration, and what an important message, appreciate the little things. Everyone needs to remember this in their day to day lives.

  • @johndyrclassic
    @johndyrclassic Месяц назад +2

    Love this series! Should do a podcast on it. Keep doing this man!

  • @ChengchengHuangcici
    @ChengchengHuangcici Месяц назад

    Hi, Ben. Thank you for sharing as always. There are so many words i wanted to say, but in all, you are truly strong and inspirational. Your mom had must been so proud of you, as always!

  • @Afio1128
    @Afio1128 25 дней назад

    Great video, really appreciate hearing insights like this!

  • @adwaitrayate6197
    @adwaitrayate6197 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you for sharing this Ben! God Bless!

  • @marianacasas3749
    @marianacasas3749 Месяц назад

    Thanks for sharing your story, sorry for your loss.

  • @NodirbekIskandarov-e8j
    @NodirbekIskandarov-e8j Месяц назад +2

    Great job bro. Just respect

  • @Friendly_Face4u
    @Friendly_Face4u Месяц назад

    Thank you for sharing these lessons. I am 25 and still very much figuring things out. I don’t feel like I have accomplished much. I don’t exactly know what I want to do with my life. I feel like I’m falling behind the curve. This helped me reframe and feel optimistic about the broad range of possibilities for the future. Thanks man

  • @InvestingRobinhoodInvestor
    @InvestingRobinhoodInvestor Месяц назад +1

    Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable! I really appreciate you sharing your lessons learned 👏

  • @safiraofficial
    @safiraofficial Месяц назад +1

    You’re a real one Ben!!!

  • @tsheporadebe1695
    @tsheporadebe1695 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you for sharing this. Keep up the great content!

  • @nc.n952
    @nc.n952 Месяц назад +2

    17:25 I have faith in God whenever I feel anxious about the future, that's what helps me the most!

  • @TheCrazyPheonix99
    @TheCrazyPheonix99 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you very much for the video!

  • @cabdallecabdikaafi4215
    @cabdallecabdikaafi4215 Месяц назад

    Ben, thank you first. Secondly it's good to have space to feel vulnerable coz it's healthy and healing, we are honored to be your listeners. Thirdly lessons in ur 20s show pure wisdom of life and i got them deeply since i am in my 20s. Finally my condolences to you Ben.
    Thanks.

  • @nicholaspalin7708
    @nicholaspalin7708 Месяц назад

    Sending many prayers for you and your family 🙏🏼

  • @charliejackson6918
    @charliejackson6918 Месяц назад +1

    Love this video Ben!

  • @SiraSam
    @SiraSam Месяц назад +2

    ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing this story ben, YOUR FIGHT YOUR OVERCOMING STORY make my day of me facing a similar thing

  • @luis10pro
    @luis10pro Месяц назад +1

    Thank you very much for this video and in general for the content you provide in this channel. You´re making a real possitive impact in this world. Especially for young people like me. Your help is awesome.

  • @andriikorol4792
    @andriikorol4792 Месяц назад +1

    Best video on the channel ❤️ You are so kind, so humble ❤️ Love you

  • @priyankapandya7868
    @priyankapandya7868 Месяц назад

    Thank you for sharing this, Ben. Really loved this new video type. I have no words for how much respect I have for this more raw content, especially with something as personal as this. I love your content, hearing your advice through the years, and everything else in between❤

  • @ww-kq7nm
    @ww-kq7nm Месяц назад

    I don't know why i pressed on your video tonight as i don't usually watch youtube. But i'm glad i did. My Father passed away from ALS last year so this hit home. Enjoyed the video.

  • @alexwang4383
    @alexwang4383 Месяц назад +1

    Wishing for your success!!

  • @joeyjin4273
    @joeyjin4273 Месяц назад +1

    Really enjoyed this video and really needed it. Thanks

  • @cheol5231
    @cheol5231 Месяц назад +1

    thank you for sharing your story. I'm sure that you processed well what happened to you.

  • @smokelessnukez3556
    @smokelessnukez3556 Месяц назад +1

    love the video ben, god bless you!

  • @mohamedabdalla623
    @mohamedabdalla623 Месяц назад +17

    I started watching you in 2020 before I landed an IB internship at a BB, I stayed for the personal growth i've seen on the channel. Life is fragile and happiness is a choice, i'm glad you were able to realise this as many don't and unfortunately stay in a repetitive strut of hating their day-to-day. Kudos Ben

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад +1

      thank you for being a long time supporter!

  • @JGHjin14
    @JGHjin14 Месяц назад

    Hey Ben, I don't usually write comments but I hope you're okay reading this note that resonated with me after watching your video. First off, I just want to say thank you for sharing all these invaluable life lessons that you acquired while going through your 20s. I'm currently in my mid-late 20s who graduated from UC Berkeley (go bears!) in Fall 2021 and just landed my first job as a Database Architect a few months ago. Before then, I was struggling to find a job because I did not have a full time job offer lined up prior to graduating. Luckily, I did get one offer but I eventually turned it down because there were already a lot of people complaining about the work culture and how the seniors are merely pretending like they're all ruly and bossy. Who knows? I might have changed the company's work culture and made the company healthier haha, but I ultimately turned it down and I guess the price that I had to pay was two and a half years of waiting, countless anxious nights, and just like what you mentioned in your video, pain.
    I don't think I want others to go through the same experience that I've gone through, which is perhaps why I'm mentioning this part but do not to sacrifice your mental health for significant things like even one's career. Furthermore, I decided to join the Army (not Korean one) to enhance my career trajectory, which obviously requires a lot time, energy, and grit. All in all, I am where I am right now with the blood, sweat, and tears but because of your video it made me reflect back on the few years of my life. Thank you for this and I am sincerely sorry to hear about your loss. Even though you may be only a fews years older than me, there are so many aspects about you that I look up to and learn from. I just want you to say you're doing great and keep up the good work! :)

  • @DESTROYEROFENEMY
    @DESTROYEROFENEMY Месяц назад +1

    More power to you brother…

  • @chrisrwang
    @chrisrwang Месяц назад +2

    great life lessons ben, can't wait for 10 more in your 30's. also awesome shirt

  • @PhoneNHe
    @PhoneNHe Месяц назад

    I followed Ben for a long time, when starting learning excel. I'm 40 years old and did not expect that his wisdoms are so heavyweight before watching it. But I'm glad that I did.

  • @nabilanjum8557
    @nabilanjum8557 Месяц назад

    My friend I hope you are doing well. You sound like a lovely person! I love you man take care of yourself

  • @andrewabmmm5717
    @andrewabmmm5717 Месяц назад +1

    May she rest in eternal peace❤️

  • @thabangbanele6171
    @thabangbanele6171 Месяц назад +1

    Big Fan of your work bro 🇿🇦. I’m A Big Fan of the channel.🤝

  • @davidc4408
    @davidc4408 Месяц назад +2

    Some important from 20s and 30s 1. Never stop compounding your money in index and mutual funds, every month - time in market beats everything. 2. Health is king - gym and jogging several times a week beats depression and stress, no excuses. 3. Diet - increase carnivore intake to increase strengh and health 4. Plenty of water intake every day 5. Meditation, stretching, appreciation and god (if you are agnostic then just meditate) 6. Define your purposes in life. 7. Take out people in your life that are toxic or have no benefit

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад +2

      all good things to keep in mind

  • @ДмитрийГринёв-с4о
    @ДмитрийГринёв-с4о Месяц назад +1

    thx for sharing, Ben. you are a tough cookie

  • @aubreygraham6836
    @aubreygraham6836 Месяц назад +1

    200k subscribers coming soon ????? Happy for you big dog

    • @aubreygraham6836
      @aubreygraham6836 Месяц назад

      Damn just got to the end of the video… that was heavy. Feel like my comment was insensitive lol

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад

      all good man haha

  • @yechanyoon505
    @yechanyoon505 Месяц назад +1

    Have been watching your videos for years and finally noticed i hadnt subscribed lol… just subscribed! Thanks for an amazing video

    • @bigthangz5489
      @bigthangz5489 Месяц назад

      how does the algorithim give notofications to those who aint subscribed ? 😂

    • @yechanyoon505
      @yechanyoon505 Месяц назад +1

      @ nah i never got the notification, jst everytime ben’s new video would be in my recommended 😂🤣

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад +1

      that's more important than subscribing and not watching so thx! hah

  • @imeanmotivation
    @imeanmotivation Месяц назад +1

    You are my inspiration, i will make my carrer in finance

  • @pavani_n
    @pavani_n Месяц назад

    Your channel is great started binge watching some recently . Can you bring people or give some examples who got into MBA after 30s

  • @fourmargaritas1063
    @fourmargaritas1063 Месяц назад +2

    I don’t normally comment on RUclips posts, but this video could not have appeared in my life at a better time.
    As someone who’s just started their 20s, I’m still navigating so much and running into so many similar struggles and conclusions as you, but hearing about your experiences and how they shaped you as a person is helping me cement the view that everything I’m experiencing right now is a valuable lesson, and that all of this is shaping me up to be a stronger and more hardworking person.
    I’m really sorry to hear about your loss, but your mom and family must be so proud of the person that you are, the work that you’re doing for the community, and for following your dreams and making the most of so many difficult experiences.
    Thanks for sharing this thoughtful compilation, and hopefully you could upload more such content for some of your younger and more impressionable audience members who’ve still yet to gain important perspective on many of these matters :)

  • @theccft
    @theccft Месяц назад

    Good content! Just some feedback: the music in the beginning was a bit loud over your talking

  • @lakshyaghunawat9423
    @lakshyaghunawat9423 Месяц назад

    Could you get deeper into how people interested in being in the graduate student council have to do. Like about the things they do politically. Basically all the serious that a candidate has to do to get elected and also spill the secret stories?

  • @jeff90210
    @jeff90210 Месяц назад

    That thumbnail reminds me of that linus tech tips meme

  • @manavshah4078
    @manavshah4078 Месяц назад

    did you volunteer through aiesec?

  • @sumamachhotani
    @sumamachhotani Месяц назад +1

    Fire HAircut Ben

  • @bengee3519
    @bengee3519 Месяц назад

    In what ways was your Associate when you first started JPM not a good person to work with?

    • @rareliquid
      @rareliquid  Месяц назад +1

      big power tripper, picked favorites, rude, snappy, list goes on

    • @bengee3519
      @bengee3519 Месяц назад

      @ could you make a video about how to deal with bad/difficult supervisors? And maybe share some of your experiences. I also just started a new role and my manager has been with the team for 20+ years and is very resistant to change. Don’t know if you have had to work with people that were twice your age and very hard to work with

  • @BeamJadeniphit
    @BeamJadeniphit Месяц назад +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @alexwang4383
    @alexwang4383 Месяц назад +3

    Wait wtf ur 30??

  • @NadiaHamdani
    @NadiaHamdani Месяц назад

  • @giovanniceloni6145
    @giovanniceloni6145 Месяц назад +1

  • @brunovillagomezcaro388
    @brunovillagomezcaro388 Месяц назад

    Im starting a stablecoin onramp business at 24 yrs old and literally couldnt have asked for a better video cause i have an investor pitch tomorrow

  • @ravinduakalanka6834
    @ravinduakalanka6834 Месяц назад +1

    Ben, I like to work at a wall street investment bank I have few problems with Investment banking I want a good answer for them so How can I contact you as a video call? Please be kind enough to help me

  • @unpatchable6076
    @unpatchable6076 Месяц назад +1

    Hey, rareliquid. Could you get me an IB job at J.P. Morgan?

  • @DeoCross16
    @DeoCross16 16 дней назад +1

  • @husseinmansour5196
    @husseinmansour5196 Месяц назад +1