The birthday thing hurts a bit. I tried so hard to make sure all of my friends had surprise parties for their sweet 16s (guys and girls). No one showed up on my 16th except the super poor kid--he showed up in a nice suit after my family took me to the movies just to give me a present, that I still have today (I'm 37 now), and then leave again as he had to go to work since he lived by himself at 16. I have never forgotten how that guy, who hates fancy clothes with the firey burning passion of ten thousand suns, wore a suit just for me to make me feel better. just a note: they didn't show up because they didn't care, they were just too busy as my birthday is in the middle of the summer. It still hurt tho. The guy's bday is actually 3 days after mine, so I got him a cool shirt from the show he loved (still does) and he also still has it. :')
@@EvadoCouto not sure what kind of response that is. But for clarity, his dad was in a biker gang, his mom only cared about/for his little sister, and both of them were crack addicts. He had literally no money, but still spent some of his hard earned cash on me because he cared so much. All of the rest of my friends were from upper middle-class families and didn't work. My family was lower-middle class at the time. For reference, I had invited everyone, but no one was able to make it. Ty (the kid) still had to work that day but showed up after his shift. When I say "super poor," I really mean it as factual. Not degrading. He worked his ass off and lived through hell and I have mad respect for him.
I was half expecting you to say that you married him lol. Most of my 'friends' didn't even acknowledge my birthday... I don't care about presents, fun times building fun memories is worth more to me than any present. (Well, okay, one present from my parents was totally worth it - a puppy who became my best friend and secret keeper).
I run a homeless vet house my late father started in 1972, 5 years ago I threw a birthday party for a vet. Here he was 80 homeless and grew up so poor he never had a birthday party or gift! My entire community showed up, the church gave us the hall local shops donated everything!! This man cried the entire time and was so humbled writing down everyone’s names and yes I helped him send out thank you cards he had to send to all ! One of the best memories I ever had in my life! He passed around 5 months later!
My 30th my best friends threw me a "death to my youth" birthday party. They showed up while I was at work decorated my house, made a coffin cake, coffin and skull shaped cookies. My birthday gift was 30 bottles of cheap wine. I loved every minute. Never had anyone do that for me.
That's super awesome! Love the theme and the whole idea very much 😊😂 Also, those are some killer friends, hope they're still around and you're all still good friends! ❤
In Germany when it is your birthday you pay for it. You buy the food and the drinks. So if you want to celebrate with your friends and family you pay for them to be there.
@@dalpz205 , I've never known anyone in the States who celebrates in the way you describe. It's always been that others treat the person whose birthday it is. What part of America do you live in?
The most entitled I've ever been on my birthday: Husband and I were at an all-inclusive on holiday. I went around asking people from all over the world to wish me a happy birthday in their native language. It was a gas, and nobody refused. Met a lot of. nice people.
That sounds awesome to me. I’ve had so many horrible birthdays with my family growing up , that as an adult, I’ve chosen to celebrate my birthday, in other countries alone. Now i go with my husband.
I learned in my 20s to not go all out for your friends with the expectations that they will do the same for you. My friends never reciprocated the effort. I realized it’s not that they don’t love you they just didn’t have the capability or time. If you do something for your friends it’s because it makes you happy not to get something back in return.
@@ceeshnia this is what I do with my friends as well, maybe not as many gifts but just as much care and acknowledgment. Realistically we’re all just busy people trying to do the life thing.
i once had my birthday and I was the only one turned up! i had to work but all my friends were going to an out of town meeting by bus, they ended up snowed in 30 miles away for 2 days! the next year my only request was a demand that NO ONE WAS ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE CITY FOR AT LEAST 3 DAYS BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY! lmao, ps this was the pre mobile phone era so i had no idea what had happened till the following day when they rang me at home. it was a touch traumatising!
@@ceeshnia this is how I am too. I care and will happily do things throughout the year, but I'm not going to remember a certain day and I don't expect anyone to remember mine. We are all busy with life. Even my partner only got a hug, but we like it that way.
These entitled birthday stories remind me of my mom. I was born on her birthday and every year she liked to call or message me to remind me how I ruined her 28th birthday. I never celebrated on my birthday, it always had to be nearly a month later and she still made it about her, that went on for 39 years and I had to finally cut contact with her. When I met my husband I found out my MIL has the same birthday as me and she was ecstatic when she found out. We live several states apart but we always have a FaceTime birthday party and each have a cupcake with a candle in it. It still does kind of make me sad that I couldn’t have this kind of relationship with my mom but I’m so grateful for my MIL and was able to enjoy my 40th and 41st birthday
Awe man that's so horrible of your mother! I'm so sorry that you grew up like that smh. My youngest child was due on on my bday (Jan 18th 2010) and I would have loved to share a bday but I also didn't want to take away his special day by sharing it though, I felt that he should still get his own day & not have to share it with me (mind you that I already have a half sibling that was Born on my bday, my sweet 16 to be exact & my bio father only called to tell me he was born didn't even say happy birthday to me at all, yes he is & still is a jerk, the bio dad) anyway I talked to my gyn about it & he was legally allowed to induce me up to 2 weeks before the due date so I decided to do that & I had him on the 12th of January. So now our bdays are right near each other so we have the option to combine them or to celebrate separately. I just wanted him to have a choice ya know?
wow i'm so sorry u went thru that. too bad u didn't cut contact earlier. i had to cut contact with my father and both siblings because of being treated like dirt too. my mother died 3 days before my 18th birthday and was upset she couldn't get me a card and present. she made my dad get me a card. I didn't get a cake or present though because mom always took care of that and dad was an A hole. and instead of signing it love dad he signed it with his signature and nothing else. so it was meaningless anyway. then he proceeded to have her funeral and burial on my birthday instead of moving it by one day. so for the next like 10 yrs every birthday all i remembered was losing my amazing mother to cancer. this july will be 40 yrs my mother has been gone. your mother is a narcissist and its all about her. imagine telling your child you ruined her birthday. she didn't deserve u. glad to hear things were so different with your MIL. that's a good woman.
Thats so messed up! Your own mom !! Urgh! My due date was two days after my dads, and my dad WISHED I would born his b-day. Well, I did not. I did arrive my due date spot on XD But when I turned 30 (gosh, so long ago!) I had huge party and saturday was my dads real b-day that year. So as a suprice I had a speech for him and we sang for him too.
OMG! That’s so sad 🥺 You were her birthday present! The best present a mama could get! Neve forget that you are a gift 💝 (My daughter was born on my husband’s birthday- he and I agree I can’t top that for a birthday gift 😊)
When I was 13 my uncle made it a tradition to make a Saturday to take me to his favorite bar & grill to eat and take me shopping. I got to spend $100 on whatever I wanted. He got struck with cancer but I always thought he would bounce back cause I thought he was invincible. He managed to beat it but he was never the same and sadly he died of a heart attack. The thing that I miss the most about that tradition is that he took the time to spend OUR birthday with me. He would talk to me like I mattered and he would tell anyone he could that I was his niece he was so proud of me. I remember my birthday now hoping I make someone's day like he made mine.
Aww I that’s the best present imho !!such nice ,happy memories,I’m sorry u lost a great man.my aunt used to do the same ,she is my god mother and we are really close,I have 2 younger siblings so one on one time was precious,every year my aunt would take me out to a pub/nice restaurant of my choice,we’d chat ,eat far to much ,then we’d go bk to hers and watch a scary film,we both love to read ,Stephen king ,Richard Lamont etc ,pet cemetery ,it , and candy man were our faves ,we’d snuggle up and eat ice cream !!I absolutely looked forward to my birthday every year and those memories are so precious to me ,💜💜💜💜💜
To be fair organizing a birthday party and no one showing up is heartbreaking. I'm birthday person definitely. I organized one such party, everyone declined with rather vague reasons. I still managed to have good time with my sister. We made cool cake, nice drinks and did some other interesting things. Haven't even tried to organize a birthday party since then. Now I plan the day for myself with nice massage or good restaurant, treating myself to new book or something I wanted anyway. No stress of accommodating others. Works better for me and I can highly recommend :)
This year I successfully managed to make everyone forget my birthday. I got to spend a whole day doing normal shit and not being treated like I'm something special. I loved it. I hope I can repeat the success next year.
My husband sets up a post on Facebook that his friends can comment on, and locks down everything else. That is the only post people can wish him happy birthday on. It's his compromise because he doesn't like all the attention, but also knows other people want to give him a special shout out on the day. 😃 I make him a birthday dessert of his choice, he gets a birthday card from our kids, which he DOES want, and either useful gifts, or a t-shirt with a good pun on it. One of his favorite shirts to wear has a silhouette of a hammer and the text reads, "This is not a drill!" Gotta love Dad jokes!
I forgot my own birthday this year, until my son wished me "Happy Birthday". That was good enough for me. It's been at least 8 years since I've gotten a gift for my birthday. The older I get, the less I care about it.
lol that is the story of my life - they don't think about my birthday until Halloween and then swear that they thought my birthday was the 31st. I'm glad you had a great day!!!
@@LazyIRanch dude, same. I don't like the attention. I don't want anything either. I just want a normal day and maybe buy some slightly fancier dinner than normal. Haha
@@tats763 sounds super nice! I removed my birthday from Facebook entirely. It's pretty effective because most people don't remember your birthday on their own. I'd recommend that for him if he wants to take it a step further. Useful gifts are always a plus! I'm glad he has such a loving family in you and the kiddos :D and my God.... that dad joke is painful haha, but in the best way possible. I think the absolute worst/best gift to give any man, but especially a father, would be a pocket sized book with dad jokes. I'm not saying this is a suggestion for next year's birthday! More like a warning of the potential horrors that can come with a man getting his hands on a pocket sized dad joke book! Fun anecdote: My dad fled to a hotel for his 80th this year and took my mom with him. He had told my sibs and I two months in advance that he was going to do this, so no surprise parties because he wouldn't be there! Hrmpf! So instead we made a gag video where we pretended to have forgotten his birthday while our surroundings were covered in flags (in my country, we use our national flag as a birthday decoration so we associate it more with birthdays than national pride by default). He really liked that video and seemed amused by it. Haha. I think I inherited my adversity to birthdays from him.
My birthday was a few weeks ago and I was in hospital. I wasn't concerned about gifts and tbh at 52 it's just another day. But the cafeteria sent me up a sugar free (I'm diabetic) piece of cake and a birthday card. It really made me smile it's not the gift it's the thought. Idk why people forget that
"You're grounded" "I'm not even your mother but your grounded" I love you and your videos so much Charlotte. I have that same mentality with my friends.
“You’re grounded.” “Considering what they did, they’re lucky Charlotte just grounded them. I would have hid something radioactive under their bed to give them actual cancer 😂
I had a similar cake story. I gave my baker a picture from Pinterest for my 30th. It really didn’t look at all the way I expected, but I never said anything because my mom paid for it and I was grateful to have a cake. At the end of the day, that was the best white cake I have ever eaten (it’s been ten years). That cake lives in my head rent free. Don’t be an entitled twat on your birthday!
I love you said twat! No one uses that word anymore, especially where I am (the UK), they all say the c-word these days and twat is just...its blunt, its to the point, and I'm so pleased I'm not the only one who says it still! Also, I'm glad you enjoyed your cake - it's a shame it didn't look how you wanted but I'm glad it tasted so good! 😊
In Britain, lots of people have other people who will throw birthday parties for them, planning and preparing and paying for everything. However, this is usually restricted to people we call 'children' and 'parents', respectively. Although, these roles are often reversed, later in life.
Yep. It seems like a lot of these people were spoiled by, and had no respect for their parents. Then expected the rest of the world to treat them the same.
My 53rd birthday was a couple of days ago. I worked, because my coworkers and customers are super fun and loving. That's all I wanted was smiles and joy around me, which I get all of the time anyways. What was I going to do, take the day off and do nothing? I made money while having fun with friends! I loved it; it was magical! The highlight was a coworker singing happy birthday over the PA system. No presents, no money, just LOVE! 💜💜💜 It was PERFECT!
I’ve had people tell me “why didn’t you take off work on your birthday??” “Because I didn’t have plans that day…?” 😅 Mine always used to fall around finals week when I was in school, so I’m used to waiting to celebrate the weekend after. And when you have coworkers who do stuff like that to make sure you have a good day, all the better! 😊
Most of my adult life I have wished for someone to thrown me a nice birthday party. Nothing over the top, just something I didn't have to plan on my own and then have nobody show up. It hasn't ever happened. I finally decided I was going to plan myself a HUGE birthday bash for my 50th birthday... I turned 50 during Covid lockdown.
All my adult life I’ve wished for a birthday party. Tried to have one once… 1 couple came…. I’ve given parties to my daughters till they were 21… 21 years of birthday parties… when I turned 60 I was hoping… those same daughters said they were not giving me a party…. I didn’t need one to just brag to friends! My husband was no help… claims he didn’t know how to throw a party… he has had several…. I won’t throw myself one… tried that once…. It’s actually on my bucket list to have a surprise party….🎃
You know what baffles me about this? I had a stressfull year and horrible planning of my birthday which for reasons was very important to me this year. Everything went wrong... and i mean EVERYTHING. Couldnt get the right ingredientce for cake, had a bad recipe cause the other one was lost, decoration, and house wasnt clean when guests arrived.... but it made me remember why we celebrate birthdays. I got to see my favourite people in the world and they saw my mess and helped me clean, they all politely ate my horrid cake with a smile before making soft fun about not wanting more. THEY made it a great day and time for me and thats way more important. In the end it might have been one of my worst birthdays but in all the right ways it also was the best one for sure! Keep your friends tight and treat them right! They'll give it back to you! :)
Every year for my Dad’s birthday, I would make him a cherry cream pie. On his last birthday ( age 91) I asked him what he wanted to do for his birthday. He told me he didn’t want any damn party, just pie and I could invite Tippy ( my little Yorkie). Same Dad, same😂😂 The only money I ever wanted was the one dollar bill my Granny sent me every year until she passed away when I was 40❤️❤️
I don’t celebrate my bday, but I do look forward to two phone calls - one from each brother (I’m the baby at 49yrs old). I also look forward to the one card I get every year from birth to present from my Aunt Holly (used to be from Uncle Larry too, but we lost him a few years back) and dinner or lunch with my son. Inevitably my son insists on getting me something I want or need since my bday is always a week (or so) before Mother’s Day. Last year he got me two new pairs of glasses and paid for the eye exam as well. It was my choice. ❤❤❤ And last, but not least…my mom is still with us and she always calls and takes me out for a meal for my bday. To me that is a bit overkill, but I still enjoy it. Oh- my very best friend also never forgets. She is the best! I get a happy bday and usually something that she knows I’d never get for myself or something that I need desperately but won’t spend the money on. 😂❤
Adults who are this obsessed with their birthday are a huge red flag for me. My mother in law is currently not speaking to me because I missed her birthday... While I was in the process of being diagnosed with cancer and was... You know...a little distracted and sick as shit. I love this for me
I'm in cancer treatment as well and people get mad at me for not replying to their messages or attending their events. I'm fighting fot my life, I don't have time even for myself (I only have time for Charlotte bc she makes me laugh). Some people have no self awareness. Wishing you speedy recovery Drixi.
@@mermaidlifeonearth right?? I would never treat someone going through this like they owed me anything!! It's really so all consuming. I hope your treatment is going well❤️
@@macgirl1234 and when I needed them they were mia to take me to my chemos/ infusion after promising me that they would. I have infusions into next year. I was suddenly diagnosed and am very young so really could've benefited from their support. I have doc appointments all day and don't even have time to rest/ eat. I legit had people block me bc i wasn't replying to their messages fast enough or bc my words would be filled with typos/jumbles bc I have very bad chemo/brain fog. Thankfully there are some good people that actually care and check up on you.
@@mermaidlifeonearth oh my gosh this is so relatable! I'm young too, and a mom of a7 year old. Getting babysitting is like pulling teeth and I'm so exhausted. To hear them complaining that I missed their birthday when I'm just trying to stay afloat, mentally and physically, is so laughable!! I am glad you found some better support. I will say, the cancer has certainly showed me who my real friends are. And, in a way, it's a gift to get to cut the others out and free myself!
@@macgirl1234 there is no good that comes from cancer except you learn who truly values you. I go to my Infusions and appointments alone 😔 Mostly I cry from the pain and then talk to my AYA cancer friends I befriended during this ordeal. Cancer sucks, it disrupts your life. I don't know why I got cancer bc I led such a healthy lifestyle and don't even have the genes. Having to advocate bc no one takes you seriously when you're AYA is so draining. I hope it gets better for you. How much longer is your treatment? I have 1 more year of active treatment left and then 5 years of endocrine therapy which is causing so much pain, brain fog and depression for me. If I get off that, my survival rate decrease significantly. I just can't function being brain dead with no energy and fatigue all the time. So hard to go to work like this.
I grew up w.o. much birthday fanfare. As an adult, I enjoy giving myself permission to throw a proper party every year; complete w. streamers, balloons, a home-catered spread, punch & cake. Often even themed! I'm kind of known for my parties. But I try to balance this extra-ness w. also making sure individual friends know that nothing is unfairly _expected_ of them; I know my birthday is only _my_ birthday, & I don't demand anyone else's world stop for it. _This_ year, I was too broke to afford to even host a small dinner-party, & the weather was wrong for a picnic - I was pretty bummed about it, because developmental baggage. And then...some friends threw me an amazing surprise party, so I wouldn't have to miss out. It was incredible, I got a bit verklempt, & I really feel like all those years of not being a self-absorbed, demanding tosser paid off. I don't get how ppl like this manage to make it to adulthood seeming never to have learned that being polite + humble pays off so much more than being a callous egotist. Good things happen when you're not an arsehole.
You have really sweet people in your life 😊 I’ve always tried to be a nice person, but I guess I’m not very likable. I don’t know… Maybe my friends are the arseholes…
Today is my birthday and I don't have any family member congratulating me or anything but my grandma. Even in this situation I don't see myself doing these kind of things entitled people do. I'm happy at least one person with pure love called me for my birthday, I'm blessed.
My birthday is a week-long celebration for me. I take time off, go out and do what I want, travel, and don't deal with others because my birthday is about me. I buy my cake, get my champagne, and then I am great. If others want to join me, then okay, but I will still do what I want for my enjoyment. If you want the best birthday, you plan it, pay for it, and make sure you make time for yourself.
When my mom turned 40 she threw herself a birthday party. I was there with a bunch of her friends and we all had a great time. So when I was turning 40, I wanted to do the same thing. I offered to provide all the food, drinks, etc. I told everyone, that nobody had a bring a gift, just themselves. I gave all of my friends plenty of notice ahead of time. 1 person showed up. And it was one of my kid's friends whom I was friendly with. No I didn't rant about it on facebook or anything. I was just super depressed for the rest of the week. They had to do nothing but show up and they didn't care.
@Queina1: So sorry about your I’ll-treatment, but I hope you’ve had better days since then and have found some new and better friends. You deserve more❤.
@@lindahind2205 I'm 50 now and have never tried to throw myself a party since. Most of my best friends all live in other states or even countries. Who were all aghast when they heard what happened. I haven't actually had a birthday party since my teens.
I think it's better to have tighter contact, knowing who will come for sure (say its so that you know how much food you'll need to prepare). And of course it's better if you have a SO to help you. When in doubt, just celebrate with family.
Ya know. My birthday is Tuesday. Now I feel called out 😂 My kids asked what I wanted. I said plants. I have 30+....so they asked what else they could get. I said a steam mop 😂😂
When the cancer thing was brought up, it just reminded me of a pal of mine; he has a cousin, who is both his best friend, and an absolute saint. My friend was super excited to have his 21st birthday with his cousin, he dreamed of it ever since he was 18. But two years before that, his cousin was diagnosed with cancer. On my pal’s 21st, his cousin was going to be in a chemo appointment, and couldn’t make it. My pal was gutted, and we didn’t see him for a couple of weeks. Then the week before, he texted me that “I won’t be able to make it to my party, have fun for me”. Obviously, I was like WTF, and he just said “it’s cause of private shit, I’ve already paid for stuff, so no one will be out of pocket”. It wasn’t until the day after where he finally explained himself; the bastard had isolated himself for two weeks, just so he could be safe to come in and see his cousin on his birthday. They even had a little cake, and he shared some pictures with the group. I was just… honestly, I felt kinda bad, cause I was initially frustrated cause he had changed plans at the last second (It’s stupid, I know, but I had planned stuff, and I’m neurotic about planning. I’m getting better with it, and I don’t take it out on people), but… yeah, it was genuinely sweet, cause he just wanted to have his 21st with his cousin. His cousin is doing much better now, the absolute legend.
In a wonderful twist of fate my only daughter was born at 44.45 weeks on my 28th birthday. For the last 19 years my birthday has been all about my baby girl. This year we took a mini vacation to the Mall of America. We went to all the makeup shops I got a new outfit we made keepsake teddybears at build a bear, went to the aquarium it was fabulous 😇
My son was also born on my 27th birthday . Always tell him his birth was my favorite gift and I don't need anything more. He turned 41 this year so we just go out to dinner together, don't tell anybody just talk and catch up. Peace and quiet is my goal in life...
That sounds like a perfect celebration to me! My son was born on my grandmother's birthday. I never met her because she died in 1932 when my mom was eleven. My mother loved talking about her, so I feel like I knew her. My grandmother was left handed, and each of her kids had one southpaw child except for my mom. Me and my siblings are all right handed. Mom was the first person to notice that my son is left-handed, when he was less than a year old. His pediatrician told me she was wrong because you can't tell until a child is at least 4-5 years old. Of COURSE my mom was correct (as usual). She also told me I was having a son, and when I came to her house to tell her she was going to have a new grandbaby, I never got a chance. I walked in the door, and she said, "You're pregnant!" I was about 3 weeks along, so I still don't know how she knew. I had told no one. She was funny like that. I never got away with any mischief as a child because she just always seemed to know because of her "spidey sense" I sure do miss her and those fun shopping trips. She was my best friend.
For my birthday this year, I took my birthday week off since I work on the weekends and my birthday was on a Saturday. My brother asked what I planned to do on my birthday and I asked if he and my sister-in law could take me to their vacation home in PA for the weekend. That's what happened and both surprised me with many unexpected delights including going antiquing😃. I got to relax sitting on a bench and enjoying hearing the river running. I got more than I expected, but being with the family, including their kitten, was wonderful.
I celebrate me on my birthday. I take the day off work, go do something fun, eat special food, and definitely have dessert. No worries about disappointing gifts, messy parties, or family/friend drama.
Whoever is editing Charlotte's voice to sound like Mr. T deserves a raise. I chuckle every time. And yes, I am easily amused. 🥳Happy birthday, everyone!
I use to work with an entitled woman. She announced she wanted a popcorn maker for her birthday...this was a long time ago when electric popcorn makers were kinda new...so a coworker bought her a Jiffy Pop. She didn't see the humor.
Hey My Birthday is extremely important to tons of people. Every year, thousands of people dress up and/or go trick or treating in honor of it. They don't know it's my Bday, but I am pleased that they are having fun also while I am too! :) Seriously, just hearing a Happy Bday should be enough after high school. I don't understand forcing folks to be miserable cause of how your acting on your Bday. If I have a Bday party, it's so everyone can kick back and relax and enjoy the fall season. It's always a blessing just to be able to find the time to hang out with folks as you get older, raising kids, retiring etc. Enjoy the folks surrounding you and make the year wonderful!
Just because it's their birthday, doesn't mean the world revolves around them. My parents planned my birthday on September, and I helped them. I'm just grateful for what I have.
Oh dear lord 🙈 this sounds like my sister every October. She celebrates the entire month - I tell her mommy gave birth to you on one day, not over 31 days. 😂
@@candismith2826 make it even more petty by talking about important people. Like real celebrities and stars everyone knows. And add a little "Wow, they really achieved something there. Really impressive, don't you think?" And then casually ask what great achievements she has done so far. Bet there aren't that many. 😝
I just put together a a little bday gathering for my twin brother & me. I spent a lot of time and effort making it super cute & special. & At my grandmas house. She died of COVID in January, but i love her house for so many reasons & we spent our 1st bday there. The love & laughing & storytelling etc. made everything so happy 🥰 … I cried for two days following bc it meant so much to me. My brother, Eric, throughout our early adulthood (before he had his own twins who came) always put together parties for us & always would say, “this is for uuuuuuu” 😭 💕. Aaaallsooooo, my grandma has a gallery & the end date was 10/2.. our bday… & she left Earth at 102 (I moved home from CO to be w/ her & care for her) & the exhibit in her gallery that honored her life was called “gratitude”. The morning of the 2nd I went to a yoga class & the discussion/intention happened to be “gratitude”. Synchronicity all over the place. I also ushered my 17 y/o dog goodbye in her home with Lap of Love the month before. I know this is TMI & emotional for a comment section…. Just still feeling a lot. Happy/missing/grateful/loved/heartbroken❤ All the stuff.
I can’t imagine taking my birthday this seriously. I get anxious when everyone’s attention is on me anyways, but I don’t expect or even really want anything other than maybe a cake and a little party with family or a few friends. As an adult, everyone I know has bills to pay and families to care for. Any gifts I receive are a lovely treat, not something I expect. Certainly can’t imagine demanding people spend a specific amount of money on me…wtf, just be grateful that someone thought to get you something!!
I have been the one baking the birthday cake for all my family members since I started baking in my teens. I'm almost 50! So I have noticed that no one has ever taken the time to bake me a cake for over a decade and I'm tired of it. So this time I made nonfrosted cupcakes for both Bro and Mom (Dad died years ago). Banana Bread cupcakes for Mom, Strawberry Shortcake (with real strawberries added in the mix) for my bro. They are in their own ziploack baggies and when anyone wants a cupcake, they can get one themselves. Tired of making everyone's BDAY great when no one makes mine even the smallest bit special.
I am 70. I am watching this video and trying to remember if I’ve ever had a birthday party outside of a quiet family setting (either parents + siblings or later wife + kids). The only thing that comes to mind was a cake & ice cream celebration at work when I turned 40 as CTO of a software startup. This is not to say I haven’t hosted large gatherings of friends and neighbors. When my wife & I lived in a large house on several acres of land in Colorado, I would put on two or three BBQs each year - smoked brisket, smoked pork, grilled burgers & dogs, Mexican beans, chips, bottled soda on ice - and we’d have 50 to 150 people attend. I paid for everything & did all the food prep & cooking. Those who wanted to could bring any side dish or dessert they wanted; a true potluck. It’s been a decade since we moved away, but some of our dearest friends are from those years. I would no more try to solicit friends, acquaintances, and/or strangers for a party or presents than I would publicly urinate off the top of a double-decker bus.
Leave it to Charlotte to drop THIS video TODAY 😂 celebrating my birthday this weekend and this is a great reminder to not be entitled lmao. Perfect timing💯 Good looking out! Love you girl!🖤
Welp...happy birthday!! 🎂 🥳 🎉 hope you have a lovely and fun one.... while it's not nice to be entitled it's perfectly OK to feel special on your birthday! 😊
My boyfriend threw me a Batman themed birthday party that went so hard and was so awesome that it went viral on Twitter and, honestly, now he never has to throw me a birthday party ever again. 😂 He's good. He's set for life. It was that amazing.
This year I turned 21. I wanted the girls in my a Cappella group to be there with me. Unfortunately most were busy or out of town/the country. Only one person showed up out of the entire 16 person group. I still had a lot of fun with her, even though I was a bit disappointed. I felt a lot better when my best friend who lives 3 hours away rode up with my parents and my sister to spend the night with me. Love her dearly and I’m so sorry that I spit a lemon drop shot all over the table. Unfortunately my friend from the a cappella group couldn’t come with us after dinner because she was still under age, but she and my best friend actually got along pretty well, which was awesome.
The one with the vehicle cake really makes me angry. Vehicle cakes are so hard to make. That probably took the better part of a full day to make and he wanted to sell it for 20 bucks. The baker probably charged 200 dollars for this. So infuriating.
Yeah I thought of that too. Sorry they couldn’t make something made of flour and eggs and fondant that looks exactly like your actual Range Rover. Jeez. 🙄
When I turned 70 eight years my best friend took me to NYC for a play, a visit to MoMA and dinner. The only thing I asked for was dinner at the Algonquin hotel. I had a wonderful time, he paid for everything including train fare and museum admission
The past 2 birthdays have been rough for me…just a lot of terrible things going on. This year was even worse so I canceled it. I requested no birthday celebrations or acknowledgment of it, because I didn’t want to become triggered (last year I had a missing relative so I was sleep deprived from looking for them and dealing with the police so when I was presented with a cake and flowers at work I was so emotionally overwhelmed I cried…I thanked them but it was pretty awkward so I was trying to avoid it this year because my office is big on birthdays). This year they slipped me a card and wished me a happy bday, even though I requested no acknowledgement of it. I took that as a reasonable compromise because my office goes balls to the walls for people’s birthdays, so I was glad that they respected the request not to go overboard.
I never cease to be astonished that people expect that an extraordinary effect be put for on their birthday when throughout the year you show them that you care for them by words and deeds. I guess that simplifies it, do nothing for them all year and only do something on their birthday.
Ngl the second one just sounds like someone who has been unappreciated for a long time and decided enough is enough! It sounds like the friend who’s always there for everyone else but can’t count on their friends to do the same. Can absolutely relate 😩
Ive recieved one cake in all my 59 years, the one i did get was from my husband & it was a choo choo train! I dont like trains, but still appreciated the thought. I had my 3rd child on my 30th birthday, so since i always get her a cake, well, we dont need two! But still would be nice! Id love any of those cakes! Appreciate what you do get!😊
Some friends threw me a surprise party one year. It was hilarious, as I got there AFTER going out to eat with my family, so I was STUFFED and honestly almost didn't even show up. They had said it was a house/apartment warming. I'd helped them move in a few weeks prior. Every single time I ever entered this apartment, I turned and entered through the kitchen. Apparently they never noticed, and I came in to find a croud of people with their backs to me. 🤣🤣🤣 They were the ones surprised, as they all jumped while holding a huge cake with those "can't blow them out" candles sparkling away on it. 🤣🤣🤣 They did this hilarious juggling act while trying (and succeeding) not to drop the cake. I loved it, it was so ME. And the other really weird thing was that a friend attended with a guy she'd literally just met. It was their 1st date after having met and talked for hours. He brought me a bouquet of longstem red roses, the number matched my age. 🤔 I'd never met him before, nor did I ever see him again.
"Birthdays are kind of like a bittersweet thing. You tend to find out who actually cares about you." 100% Learned that early, about halfway through high school. Mine & another friends birthdays were two days apart. We had a tight knit friend group of about 10. We'd all met in middle school. My birthday I got maybe 3 "HBD" texts from that friend group (not including the other bday girl). Her birthday comes along and everyone shows up at her house, including me. I thought it was going to be a simple hang out day. Nope. People showed up with baked goods they made themselves. Cookies, cupcakes, brownies, etc. I was there for a half hour, sitting on the couch, looking at everything & got a little upset. I just left. Cried the whole walk home. Slowly distanced myself from that group with time. My brothers friends have, with time, become my family. My 30th birthday was a couple years ago. I haven't liked to make a big deal out of my birthday since I turned 20. Didn't want anything big, we simply went bowling. Some of my brothers friends called up my mother, asking her to ask me if they could come & celebrate. It was really nice and a bunch of fun.
In all my 40+ years, I've had 1 special birthday. My daughter was 5. She and I made cupcakes, bought a couple balloons, she sang for me and drew me a birthday card. The only beautiful memory I have of my many birthdays.😊 Happy, Happy Blessed Birthday To Everyone Out There & I Hope You All Get What You Wish For ❤
I remember how I tried so hard to give all my friends a nice birthday gift one year, and I know you're not supposed to except something back and stuff, but it still came as a shock that only one of my friends gave me a gift, and I have over 15 friends. The crazy thing is the fact that over 70 percent of my old friends(I moved away) wished my happy birthday and I never reminded them, I'm not really mad about it (maybe a little bit). But I'm still not giving them presents this year
First off, I so appreciate all that you do, does help get a laugh out! When I was a child growing up, we didn't have much money, but, my Mom would cook your favorite dinner, plus a HOMEMADE cake! And maybe we would get a little gift. I was grateful! I LOVED that as a kid! Plus, yeah there's more, you didn't have to do any chores, and chose what programs to watch on t.v.
Best Birthday I had was when I was 9. My own mother forgot my birthday, and even when reminded didn't really care at all. My grandma decided to stop by for my birthday and was appalled that my mom wasn't even going to have a dinner, let alone a cake, so she decided to take me with her to get a regular cheese pizza pie. This was back in the 90's mind you, so a large cheese pie was only 10 bucks or so. We got there, ordered the pizza, but grandma was short about 50 cents, so we handed the guy all the money she had on her and then went into the parking lot to pick up dropped change while the pizza was being made. Within a few mins we had found 2 quarters and went back in to give the guy the rest of the money and take out pizza back to the house. I didn't have a cake, but grandma found one regular candle and put it in a little tub she fashioned out of tin foil to protect the pizza from the wax drip, set it in the center of the pizza and she and my 5 younger siblings sang me happy birthday.
I feel ya. *Hugs* Your grandmother sounds amazing. ❤️ When I was in high school, my whole family forgot my birthday (I had 8 people in my family). I wouldn't even care but not one person even said happy birthday. When I told my mom that night, she just looked shocked but then no one did anything. No dinner. No cake. No card. No well wishes. During school that day, a classmate saw I was emotional, so she asked me if I was ok. I stupidly told her that my family forgot my birthday. My last class at school got me a cake. I felt embarrassed because it was a pity party. I kinda wish I had ditched school that day instead of trying to get through my classes. Since then, I learned not to expect anything from my birthday. I don't even talk about it with anyone other than my husband and kids. No one else needs to know.
I strive to be this kind of grandma. My only one right now calls me Bob, because he’s only 15 months and saying the ‘gr’ is difficult. I say ‘I’m Grams. Can you say Grams?’ He looks at me, cocks his little head, pats his hands on me and says, loudly and clearly, BOB! So I’m Bob. I don’t mind at all and I’m so glad your grandma made you feel special, because all children need to feel special. ❤
One year I came home from a full eight hour day in the kitchen making food for other people. It was a rough one and nothing went right. Got home and my parents were going out for the evening. Neither mom or dad said happy birthday but my mother did let me know that she wanted the lawn mowed by the time they got back. Grumpy as hell, I started mowing the lawn and got about halfway through when I realized the long grass was FULL of tiny frogs that I had just been mowing my way through. Left the lawnmower right where it was, went inside and went to bed. Got apologies the next day that she forgot and that all she said to me was "mow the lawn." However, that kind of cemented the idea that I had long felt that birthdays are for children. There is no need for me to ever get excited beyond being happy that I'm here and as lucky as I am to have what I have.... and that I'm not some tiny, unnoticeable frog in someone's yard. As far as I know.
I have worked most of my birthdays and now that I am disabled I generally go out to eat with my mom and drink a Long Island ice tea. I know what you are thinking, I am living on the wild side, well jokes on you with my meds it is wild! Some days I just can't handle the raw excitement in my life.
On my 40th birthday I was taken out by all my friends. It was a complete surprise to me. Lovely food and company. I was then asked to pay for myself and my partner. I had no idea that the meal was planned, but had brought my purse with me. Thank goodness. My partner was unimpressed and has since refused to do anything like that again.
This is so funny- I was feeling a bit sorry for myself because my step brother got married on my birthday this weekend- I traveled home for it (I live abroad), and he was obviously very busy so he also forgot to say happy birthday. Oh well, at least I got some time with my dad and a lovely dinner out of it 🤣.
This is a long comment/story lol sorry. My little brother made my 18th birthday about him and my mum and stepdad let him. I turned 18 in 2021, so restrictions where I’m from had been lifted for a few months. I asked if I could go out drinking with my friends, 18 is legal age where I live, my mum said no (she never let me and the one day she did she wanted me home at literally 11pm because I’m a girl). So instead I could choose what I wanted for dinner (or tea or supper, whatever you call it). I chose my favourite meal. Brother complained that he didn’t like it, so mum and stepdad made me change it to accommodate everyone. I changed it. Stepdad and little brother went out to buy the stuff to make it and get a cake. Came back with one of those Tesco caterpillar cakes. I said I didn’t like them cakes, and it would’ve been nice for stepdad to call me and ask what I wanted. Stepdad said “I know but (brother) wanted this one.” I said “then get it on his birthday, not mine.” I then got yelled at for being “rude” and “just because it’s my birthday and I’m legally adult doesn’t mean I’m allowed to be a brat.” I ate none of my own cake. I asked my mum and stepdad if they could play my board game that I got for Christmas (I continually asked them to play it and kept getting a no). They agreed. We played it for 10 minutes total. Brother kept coming downstairs (was supposed to be asleep), then my parents didn’t “get” the game (I explained it to them 5 times) so we stopped. Took it upstairs and came back downstairs to them spending time with my brother. All my birthdays have been pretty shitty tbf but it’s a shame that one of the most important birthdays in my life was ruined by my brother. The only decent one was my 19th (2022) and I went out with my bf and our uni friends. My flatmates forgot about my bday though and blamed it on being busy with lessons even though it was a Sunday. But yeah. If you read all that, here’s a cookie 🍪
@@MsLovelybeats Nah it’s cool. I got some sort of payback by not going to his birthday which is on New Year, I went out instead. Mum and stepdad weren’t happy about it but shut up when I reminded them about what they let him do on my birthday.
I just like having a birthday dinner at home with my family and sometimes close friends. I was actually kind of sad this year because I wasn’t able to do it. I was in a play that had a show that night, but my cast mates were awesome in wishing me a happy birthday! I also brought chocolate muffins my mom made that we could all share to celebrate! It was a pretty good birthday overall.
I'm thinking of being entitled this year... But then again my birthday falls at the beginning of the semester. Books B4 gifts. Especially when my family is in a different country from me. So yes. Thinking about it, but don't have the flesh for it. Edit: Shout out to October babies 🥳
It’s been my yearly birthday event that I take my friends to a lake near my house, cook burgers and dogs, rent paddle boards and just have fun for my birthday… all at my own expense. It’s my way of thanking my friends for caring.
I love you for this!!! My son’s bday is my favorite day of the year!!!!! He is my only child and I treat his bday like a national and religious holiday all rolled up in one!!! He doesn’t live with me anymore as he’s almost 30 years old…but it doesn’t matter. I still absolutely love February 13th the MOST!!!! ❤❤❤❤
I agree!! The Mom spends hours in labor and before that never knowing when the baby is coming out. Believe me, you REALLY want to love them outside of your body!! They can be early, they may be late (like both of mine were). The birthday is a totally random day. If your parents didn't have sex on "your" day, at that moment, or the next day, you wouldn't exist. It would be a totally different you that you are unaware of. Hopefully more gracious, though.
@@melissadunton3534 That is so sweet!!! My daughter's one month "birthday" was on February 14th so it was a Valentine's themed little party (it was more for us!!). I used to send Valentine's and Birthday balloons and treats to the school every year. The classmates loved it but the kids were a little embarrassed but never said anything. I celebrate other people.
As a kid, I never really had birthday parties.... Maybe 3 times ever. As an adult, I hate my birthday and always tell people not to buy me anything and to pretend it's just a normal day, because it literally is 🤷🏼♀️ birthdays just seem silly to me.... But I do really enjoy throwing parties for my kids and friends/family.
I have the opposite problem. My real friends know not to say anything on my birthday cause it's just a reminder of trauma and brings pain. So every year I have to dread people telling me happy birthday even though I've told them before to pretend my birthday doesn't exist.
I'm so sorry you feel like that on your own birthday. A day when loved ones can celebrate how glad they are that you were born and let you know how your very existence brings them joy. I hope they show those feelings on the daily instead. ❤❤❤😢
On my birthday I had friends and family call and text me best wishes throughout the day, which was nice that they remembered. I treated myself to a good steak dinner and had cheesecake for dessert. I cuddled with my dog as we watched TV from the sofa. It was the perfect chill birthday.
I work in hotel reservations in a luxury hotel. People often lie saying it's their birthday/anniversary in order to get free stuff (we normally provide champagne, a cake and a personalized note.) This we sort of accept, however you then get people thinking they can haggle on the rate, get a free upgrade to one of our huge suites or get complimentary access to the executive lounge. We then say "I'm afraid not, sir/madame" and they go all Karen, asking for the manager, thinking that'll make a difference. Same thing with Bridezillas...
When people make reservations for hotels couldn't you tell them they need to provide proof of it when they check in? Everyone should have an ID but they could bring their marriage certificate in. If it's legitimate, it should be a problem. I have a copy of mine. Then your hotel doesn't lose money on liars.
@@WeAllLiveInTheTwilightZone Well, Reception deals with that side of things. Haha. They do ask for passports/ID, but by that point we tend to already have the treat set up in the room. It at least stops them from asking for further free stuff throughout the stay because they can't really lie once we know their real birthday. I don't know if they check marriage certificates at Reception, but we've never had to ask for it.
I always throw a small potluck party 🥳 on my birthday and invite my best friends. I bring ice cream and cake, friends bring everything else. Everyone has a great time. When I was younger I felt sorry for myself if ppl didn't come through on my bday.
Last year I was spending my first birthday away from my family, and I just wanted to go out to dinner and maybe watch a movie with my roommates because they were my closest friends. However, I guess that was too much to ask because they all left to go on a fun day trip while I was in class, so I spent the majority of my birthday alone until my cousin found out it was my birthday and took me out for ice cream 😅 It was definitely the saddest birthday I've ever had, so let's hope my next birthday I at least don't get ditched by my only friends haha
True friends wouldn’t do that to you! They would have made sure to be there after you were done with school to spend time with you on your Birthday. I am glad that your cousin took you out to get ice cream at least. I know it is a difficult lesson to learn… who are true friends versus fair-weathered friends, but it seems that your roommates are fair-weathered friends instead of friends that will be there for you no matter what.
The fact you posted this ON my birthday is gold haha. I’m gonna have a blast watching this one! I got my wisdom teeth pulled yesterday so no entitlement going on on my birthday. In fact I’ve spent it laid in bed all day! 😂😂😂
All those 30 year olds getting mad when their friends won’t pay for a birthday party as expensive as a wedding…and here I am celebrating my day for the past decade with a tub of ice cream and Netflix. 😂
People need to appreciate what they have, smh. Last year, I had a parent who was on a vent in the ICU with breakthrough covid. Did my usual call for update in the AM and PM. I told AM nurse that she had me at that very hospital x years ago and that I only want her to get well. They said "do something for yourself". The PM nurse actually asked what I did that evening. Hubby is EMS and took the day so we could be together. It was very low key, just a couple of presents and some cake..and it meant the world. I would have given away the cake and all of the presents to have gotten my one birthday wish. Sadly my mother passed away less than a month later. People need to remember that birthdays are a day to celebrate life and that cake and presents are just part of that celebration. ♥️ Not sure what I will do on the next birthday. 😔
I’ve always hated my birthday because, as you said, you find out who really cares about you. When no one really does, not even your family, that hurts. But the worst birthday I ever had was the year my husband really messed up. We started this tradition of going to my favorite Japanese restaurant on my birthday for dinner. That’s all, just a meal at my favorite place. This was about 6 months after my mother-in-law passed away, so when we were at my father-in-law’s house, I wrote on his calendar that it was my birthday and told him I’d done it so he knew what day dinner was. He also liked that restaurant and he’d been depressed, so I wanted him to come with us. I did that about a month in advance. So a few days before my birthday, I found out my father-in-law had asked my husband if he wanted to get together to watch the wrestling pay per view, he’d pay for it and buy pizza and we’d all watch it here at our house. Of course my husband said yes. I was flabbergasted! I said, “You do realize that’s my birthday, right?” He said he knew and when I said we go out to eat, he said we could do that another night… Now, I don’t like to act entitled, but I called BS on that whole thing. In the end, it turned into me telling my jackass husband what kind of a jerk he was (of course I used harsher language than this) on my actual birthday because he thought that I would want to spend my special day sitting at home being stuck watching wrestling and watching them all eat a food I could no longer eat. Yeah, THAT’S fun. I also told him I thought his father did all this on purpose (he’d been doing all sorts of weird things to get attention) and that I’d written my birthday on his calendar right in front of him a month before and told him it was so he’d know when dinner was. I was so pissed, I ended up going into our bedroom and crying for 2 hours. The only one who came to ask me if I was okay was my youngest. My oldest went downstairs and told my husband I was crying (mind you, the kids were late teens and young adult). But my husband didn’t come up until after I finally stopped crying and told me to get dressed, we were going to dinner. Seriously?! No apology, just that. I told him no. I knew how that would play out, I’d be accused of being selfish and ruining his father’s night just because it was my birthday. Nope, not happening. But he just kept telling me to get dressed, we were going to dinner. I finally got tired of it, so I got ready and we went out. It was the worst dinner and birthday I ever had there… On the upside, my husband checked the calendar the next time he went to his father’s house and saw that I did write my birthday on it. Then he apologized to me. I’m still bitter about it to this day and that was about 4 years ago.
So you pitched a hissy fit to someone who was in the first year of mourning for their mother for wanting to be there for his father...damn, you have 0 emotional intelligence.
I'm sorry you were upset. I don't want to upset you with what I'm going to say but I just want to throw some potential perspective out there. I lost my Mum 6yrs ago. She and my Dad had been married for 47yrs. A month after she died my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. Because of the stress of the diagnosis and then the treatments my Dad didn't really get a chance to grieve for a year. My Dad missed my birthday 3yrs after my Mum died because he felt ill and I know grief had a big part in it, too. You know what I did said? I hope he felt better, he should rest, I'll have other birthdays and we can celebrate then. I know he's struggling, he sees no point in living without the love of his life. Any time he invites me over I go. 6yrs on we are both still devastated as we were extremely close to my Mum. All that makes me think that your husband put his grieving Dad first as, like I said, you're going to have other birthdays and at 6 months the grief is pretty rough. Could they have been a bit more considerate and planned to watch the wrestling next time? Sure (though if they're favourites were in the ring maybe they wouldn't get another chance, like maybe they wouldn't be wrestling each other in the future). Should he have spoken to you before your birthday? Absolutely. But do I think he was wrong to say y'all could celebrate another night so he could spend time with his Dad to try and boost his morale, make him feel less alone, take his mind off the fact his wife is gone? No. Frankly, I'd have possibly done the same thing, though I would have also pointed out that was your birthday to the Dad. I dunno, I just think they were both grieving and your birthday could have been celebrated on another night. I might have had a little grumble to myself if I'd have been you, but I wouldn't have taken it so personally, and I certainly wouldn't be so bitter about it. Like, I put my Dad before everyone and everything now because I'm all he has - when I was offered a job that would require me moving across the country I didn't tell him, instead I asked if he'd ever want to move to that area and he said no, so I turned the job down. I got a two bed apartment so he has a place to stay even though he never leaves his house and I have no need for a second bedroom, at least if he needs somewhere to stay and not be alone he's got a bed waiting. We've skipped Christmases and both our birthdays because he's devastated and can't bring himself to even try and be happy (we get together, maybe get take out and watch a movie but I'm not gonna make him celebrate if he's struggling. I've tried celebrating his birthday and he just can't bring himself to). It sucks, but I want to support him and I feel that's all your husband was doing with the thought that you could do dinner another night. Maybe it's time to let this one go. I'm sure if they weren't both still grieving the recent loss of their mother and wife things would have been different. On the other hand, I do think they both should have spoken to you before the actual day. I'd still give them a pass, but I'd completely understand if you would have been upset during the convo. But then I'm also giving them a pass and they didn't speak with you beforehand. All I'm saying is it had only been 6 months, give them a break. I hope I've not upset you with my comment, I do see your side, too.
My birthday is on 1st of October. I booked a little yacht trip with my friends but the person we booked with mad a big mistake and in order to compensate, the owner of the company booked us a better one (which was yesterday) and promised to bring a cake and celebrate my birthday. Another lady had her birthday the same week so he gave her a shout out. Only she took the cake, wouldn't give it to me even to take a picture with it, kept telling the captain that myself and my group of friends "had enough fun already" and that it was her and her friends' turn at any given activity although their group got to redo the same activity over and over unlike us. She even took MY GIFT without my permission and took pictures with it as if it was hers.
These all remind of my brother on his sixth birthday. My aunt made a cake, he was furious because he didn’t get a cake from the bakery with cars and trucks on it. Then he didn’t get a some kind of Mongoose Bicycle. First off my parents couldn’t have afforded that at that time but secondly the little brat never even told my mom he wanted that. He had the biggest fit, he got a spanking and sent to his room. Everyone else had a fun time at the party after he left. My grandma told me years later that it took years for her to like him again after he acted like that. She said she was so embarrassed. 😳🤣
I like my birthday because I share it with my dad. It was yesterday and we are celebrating tomorrow since I wasn't home due to school. I have loved sharing it with someone so special.
I had a housemate that when her birthday declared on the friday before it was her "birthday weekend" ... then decided she enjoyed it so much that she proclaimed her "birthday week" would be extending until the following sunday. As the end of her "week" approached (tbh no one cared after the first weekend) she then said that she was going to be having a follow up birthday week ... at which point I told her "Oh hell No. You aren't cutting into MY birthday week". Then to be passive aggressive the night before my "day" I quietly put up lots of Happy Birthday banners and festive decorations around the common areas and walked in acting all "surprised and touched" the look of fury on her face was too worth it. XD
@@GamerGrrrlAlex_2.0 Yeah it was a Victorious reference. Tori's sister Trina is a bit of an entitled brat. She doesn't think one day is enough celebrations so she calls it her birthweek. And she was totally ungrateful when Tori wrote and performed for her a beautiful song about how awesome she is and how much she cares about her. I'm an only child and always wanted a sibling, if I had one and they wrote and performed a song like that for me I would cry.
@@truthseeker9249 @Truth Seeker Ok, sorry. I don't watch TV ... thank you for taking time to explain it to me. I wasn't an only child, but would have loved having a kind and caring sibling like the one you described from that show.
I never really make a deal over my birthday. I learned early that it didn't really matter to my friends then as they all never showed up for two of my birthdays in a row. Now I'm just thankful that I have real friends who care. All that matters is the company.
When I was living with my parents (as a teenager) they forgot my birthday a couple times (including going away with the rest of the kids and leaving me to just stay home alone with the dog). As an adult when I moved out they often would not even text and if they did, it was days late. As a result I have very low expectations for birthdays. I can't imagine being this needy XD
For my birthday this year, I spent it with my 2 best friends and niece, my best friend went to 3 different stores and called my mom to see where she could get my favourite cake ❤️ she cooked me dinner and we had a great day ❤️❤️
I just remembered! This makes me think of the Key and Peele sketch about a rich girls birthday. "You brought me a birthday gift at my birthday party on my birthday..."
Best birthday card I got was from my sister. It said on the front "There is no money in this card". You open it and it says "See. And there is none on the back either." On the back it said "Boy you are hard to convince." Had a good laugh.
The birthday thing hurts a bit. I tried so hard to make sure all of my friends had surprise parties for their sweet 16s (guys and girls). No one showed up on my 16th except the super poor kid--he showed up in a nice suit after my family took me to the movies just to give me a present, that I still have today (I'm 37 now), and then leave again as he had to go to work since he lived by himself at 16. I have never forgotten how that guy, who hates fancy clothes with the firey burning passion of ten thousand suns, wore a suit just for me to make me feel better.
just a note: they didn't show up because they didn't care, they were just too busy as my birthday is in the middle of the summer. It still hurt tho. The guy's bday is actually 3 days after mine, so I got him a cool shirt from the show he loved (still does) and he also still has it. :')
I know the feeling I had that feeling for many years. That friend is MVP. I hope its better now. Quality people is better than yearly loud parties
“No one showed up except the super poor kid” um, wow
That guy is a true friend. Hold on to him.
@@EvadoCouto not sure what kind of response that is. But for clarity, his dad was in a biker gang, his mom only cared about/for his little sister, and both of them were crack addicts. He had literally no money, but still spent some of his hard earned cash on me because he cared so much. All of the rest of my friends were from upper middle-class families and didn't work. My family was lower-middle class at the time.
For reference, I had invited everyone, but no one was able to make it. Ty (the kid) still had to work that day but showed up after his shift. When I say "super poor," I really mean it as factual. Not degrading. He worked his ass off and lived through hell and I have mad respect for him.
I was half expecting you to say that you married him lol. Most of my 'friends' didn't even acknowledge my birthday... I don't care about presents, fun times building fun memories is worth more to me than any present. (Well, okay, one present from my parents was totally worth it - a puppy who became my best friend and secret keeper).
I run a homeless vet house my late father started in 1972, 5 years ago I threw a birthday party for a vet. Here he was 80 homeless and grew up so poor he never had a birthday party or gift! My entire community showed up, the church gave us the hall local shops donated everything!! This man cried the entire time and was so humbled writing down everyone’s names and yes I helped him send out thank you cards he had to send to all ! One of the best memories I ever had in my life! He passed around 5 months later!
Thank you, you are a truly decent person. Your father taught you well 🩵
"It only took 20$ to get rid of you, you leech" is the best insult that could have been given at that point. I love it! ❤
Do you have the time stamp?
@@starryy_nightz 8:25
$20
Wish I’d thought of that😂😂
@@chrismazz75 I’m
My 30th my best friends threw me a "death to my youth" birthday party. They showed up while I was at work decorated my house, made a coffin cake, coffin and skull shaped cookies. My birthday gift was 30 bottles of cheap wine. I loved every minute. Never had anyone do that for me.
That’s a great bday theme ! I love it! 😂
That's super awesome! Love the theme and the whole idea very much 😊😂 Also, those are some killer friends, hope they're still around and you're all still good friends! ❤
In Germany when it is your birthday you pay for it. You buy the food and the drinks. So if you want to celebrate with your friends and family you pay for them to be there.
That's how it's worked in the US too. Weddings too. But some people want change this to suit themselves.
Kinda opposite in thailand. When its your birthday, friends split the bill in the restaurant except you. Yehey
Netherlands too :)
Same in Canada unless your friends do a surprise party
@@dalpz205 , I've never known anyone in the States who celebrates in the way you describe. It's always been that others treat the person whose birthday it is. What part of America do you live in?
The most entitled I've ever been on my birthday: Husband and I were at an all-inclusive on holiday. I went around asking people from all over the world to wish me a happy birthday in their native language. It was a gas, and nobody refused. Met a lot of. nice people.
That sounds awesome to me. I’ve had so many horrible birthdays with my family growing up , that as an adult, I’ve chosen to celebrate my birthday, in other countries alone. Now i go with my husband.
@@candicemonique5927Please begin each new birthday by looking in the mirror and saying out loud,
💛🕊"The Angel's Danced
The Day I Was Born"🕊💛
I learned in my 20s to not go all out for your friends with the expectations that they will do the same for you. My friends never reciprocated the effort. I realized it’s not that they don’t love you they just didn’t have the capability or time. If you do something for your friends it’s because it makes you happy not to get something back in return.
Yes but when they don't even bother texting you a birthday wish that's when you realise they just don't care.
@@WeirdSnakeGal get new friends, I did and life is cooler now
@@ceeshnia this is what I do with my friends as well, maybe not as many gifts but just as much care and acknowledgment. Realistically we’re all just busy people trying to do the life thing.
i once had my birthday and I was the only one turned up! i had to work but all my friends were going to an out of town meeting by bus, they ended up snowed in 30 miles away for 2 days! the next year my only request was a demand that NO ONE WAS ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE CITY FOR AT LEAST 3 DAYS BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY! lmao, ps this was the pre mobile phone era so i had no idea what had happened till the following day when they rang me at home. it was a touch traumatising!
@@ceeshnia this is how I am too. I care and will happily do things throughout the year, but I'm not going to remember a certain day and I don't expect anyone to remember mine. We are all busy with life. Even my partner only got a hug, but we like it that way.
These entitled birthday stories remind me of my mom. I was born on her birthday and every year she liked to call or message me to remind me how I ruined her 28th birthday. I never celebrated on my birthday, it always had to be nearly a month later and she still made it about her, that went on for 39 years and I had to finally cut contact with her. When I met my husband I found out my MIL has the same birthday as me and she was ecstatic when she found out. We live several states apart but we always have a FaceTime birthday party and each have a cupcake with a candle in it. It still does kind of make me sad that I couldn’t have this kind of relationship with my mom but I’m so grateful for my MIL and was able to enjoy my 40th and 41st birthday
It's always great to hear about a great MIL story.
Awe man that's so horrible of your mother! I'm so sorry that you grew up like that smh. My youngest child was due on on my bday (Jan 18th 2010) and I would have loved to share a bday but I also didn't want to take away his special day by sharing it though, I felt that he should still get his own day & not have to share it with me (mind you that I already have a half sibling that was Born on my bday, my sweet 16 to be exact & my bio father only called to tell me he was born didn't even say happy birthday to me at all, yes he is & still is a jerk, the bio dad) anyway I talked to my gyn about it & he was legally allowed to induce me up to 2 weeks before the due date so I decided to do that & I had him on the 12th of January. So now our bdays are right near each other so we have the option to combine them or to celebrate separately. I just wanted him to have a choice ya know?
wow i'm so sorry u went thru that. too bad u didn't cut contact earlier. i had to cut contact with my father and both siblings because of being treated like dirt too. my mother died 3 days before my 18th birthday and was upset she couldn't get me a card and present. she made my dad get me a card. I didn't get a cake or present though because mom always took care of that and dad was an A hole. and instead of signing it love dad he signed it with his signature and nothing else. so it was meaningless anyway. then he proceeded to have her funeral and burial on my birthday instead of moving it by one day. so for the next like 10 yrs every birthday all i remembered was losing my amazing mother to cancer. this july will be 40 yrs my mother has been gone. your mother is a narcissist and its all about her. imagine telling your child you ruined her birthday. she didn't deserve u. glad to hear things were so different with your MIL. that's a good woman.
Thats so messed up! Your own mom !! Urgh! My due date was two days after my dads, and my dad WISHED I would born his b-day. Well, I did not. I did arrive my due date spot on XD But when I turned 30 (gosh, so long ago!) I had huge party and saturday was my dads real b-day that year. So as a suprice I had a speech for him and we sang for him too.
OMG! That’s so sad 🥺
You were her birthday present! The best present a mama could get! Neve forget that you are a gift 💝
(My daughter was born on my husband’s birthday- he and I agree I can’t top that for a birthday gift 😊)
When I was 13 my uncle made it a tradition to make a Saturday to take me to his favorite bar & grill to eat and take me shopping. I got to spend $100 on whatever I wanted. He got struck with cancer but I always thought he would bounce back cause I thought he was invincible. He managed to beat it but he was never the same and sadly he died of a heart attack. The thing that I miss the most about that tradition is that he took the time to spend OUR birthday with me. He would talk to me like I mattered and he would tell anyone he could that I was his niece he was so proud of me. I remember my birthday now hoping I make someone's day like he made mine.
Aww I that’s the best present imho !!such nice ,happy memories,I’m sorry u lost a great man.my aunt used to do the same ,she is my god mother and we are really close,I have 2 younger siblings so one on one time was precious,every year my aunt would take me out to a pub/nice restaurant of my choice,we’d chat ,eat far to much ,then we’d go bk to hers and watch a scary film,we both love to read ,Stephen king ,Richard Lamont etc ,pet cemetery ,it , and candy man were our faves ,we’d snuggle up and eat ice cream !!I absolutely looked forward to my birthday every year and those memories are so precious to me ,💜💜💜💜💜
To be fair organizing a birthday party and no one showing up is heartbreaking. I'm birthday person definitely.
I organized one such party, everyone declined with rather vague reasons. I still managed to have good time with my sister. We made cool cake, nice drinks and did some other interesting things.
Haven't even tried to organize a birthday party since then. Now I plan the day for myself with nice massage or good restaurant, treating myself to new book or something I wanted anyway. No stress of accommodating others. Works better for me and I can highly recommend :)
I think that's a good plan. You sound like a vibe honestly. 🎉
This year I successfully managed to make everyone forget my birthday. I got to spend a whole day doing normal shit and not being treated like I'm something special. I loved it. I hope I can repeat the success next year.
My husband sets up a post on Facebook that his friends can comment on, and locks down everything else. That is the only post people can wish him happy birthday on. It's his compromise because he doesn't like all the attention, but also knows other people want to give him a special shout out on the day. 😃
I make him a birthday dessert of his choice, he gets a birthday card from our kids, which he DOES want, and either useful gifts, or a t-shirt with a good pun on it. One of his favorite shirts to wear has a silhouette of a hammer and the text reads, "This is not a drill!" Gotta love Dad jokes!
I forgot my own birthday this year, until my son wished me "Happy Birthday". That was good enough for me. It's been at least 8 years since I've gotten a gift for my birthday. The older I get, the less I care about it.
lol that is the story of my life - they don't think about my birthday until Halloween and then swear that they thought my birthday was the 31st. I'm glad you had a great day!!!
@@LazyIRanch dude, same. I don't like the attention. I don't want anything either. I just want a normal day and maybe buy some slightly fancier dinner than normal. Haha
@@tats763 sounds super nice! I removed my birthday from Facebook entirely. It's pretty effective because most people don't remember your birthday on their own. I'd recommend that for him if he wants to take it a step further.
Useful gifts are always a plus! I'm glad he has such a loving family in you and the kiddos :D and my God.... that dad joke is painful haha, but in the best way possible. I think the absolute worst/best gift to give any man, but especially a father, would be a pocket sized book with dad jokes. I'm not saying this is a suggestion for next year's birthday! More like a warning of the potential horrors that can come with a man getting his hands on a pocket sized dad joke book!
Fun anecdote: My dad fled to a hotel for his 80th this year and took my mom with him. He had told my sibs and I two months in advance that he was going to do this, so no surprise parties because he wouldn't be there! Hrmpf! So instead we made a gag video where we pretended to have forgotten his birthday while our surroundings were covered in flags (in my country, we use our national flag as a birthday decoration so we associate it more with birthdays than national pride by default). He really liked that video and seemed amused by it. Haha.
I think I inherited my adversity to birthdays from him.
My birthday was a few weeks ago and I was in hospital. I wasn't concerned about gifts and tbh at 52 it's just another day. But the cafeteria sent me up a sugar free (I'm diabetic) piece of cake and a birthday card. It really made me smile it's not the gift it's the thought. Idk why people forget that
"You're grounded"
"I'm not even your mother but your grounded"
I love you and your videos so much Charlotte. I have that same mentality with my friends.
Lol I was going to put the same thing when she said your grounded 🤭😁😆😂🤣
“You’re grounded.”
“Considering what they did, they’re lucky Charlotte just grounded them. I would have hid something radioactive under their bed to give them actual cancer 😂
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I had a similar cake story. I gave my baker a picture from Pinterest for my 30th. It really didn’t look at all the way I expected, but I never said anything because my mom paid for it and I was grateful to have a cake. At the end of the day, that was the best white cake I have ever eaten (it’s been ten years). That cake lives in my head rent free. Don’t be an entitled twat on your birthday!
I love you said twat! No one uses that word anymore, especially where I am (the UK), they all say the c-word these days and twat is just...its blunt, its to the point, and I'm so pleased I'm not the only one who says it still!
Also, I'm glad you enjoyed your cake - it's a shame it didn't look how you wanted but I'm glad it tasted so good! 😊
In Britain, lots of people have other people who will throw birthday parties for them, planning and preparing and paying for everything. However, this is usually restricted to people we call 'children' and 'parents', respectively. Although, these roles are often reversed, later in life.
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what about people with no kids?
Hahahahahaha! 😂
Yep. It seems like a lot of these people were spoiled by, and had no respect for their parents. Then expected the rest of the world to treat them the same.
@@SpamEggSausage We plan our own birthdays friend XDD
My 53rd birthday was a couple of days ago. I worked, because my coworkers and customers are super fun and loving. That's all I wanted was smiles and joy around me, which I get all of the time anyways. What was I going to do, take the day off and do nothing? I made money while having fun with friends! I loved it; it was magical! The highlight was a coworker singing happy birthday over the PA system. No presents, no money, just LOVE! 💜💜💜 It was PERFECT!
Happy late birthday hun❤ sounds like you had one lovely day! I’m glad you work where you feel that everyday! ✨✨
I’m the same way! My best friends are my coworkers. 😂
Happy belated birthday !!
I’ve had people tell me “why didn’t you take off work on your birthday??” “Because I didn’t have plans that day…?” 😅 Mine always used to fall around finals week when I was in school, so I’m used to waiting to celebrate the weekend after. And when you have coworkers who do stuff like that to make sure you have a good day, all the better! 😊
Haaaaapppy Birthday!!!!💖🎂
Most of my adult life I have wished for someone to thrown me a nice birthday party. Nothing over the top, just something I didn't have to plan on my own and then have nobody show up. It hasn't ever happened. I finally decided I was going to plan myself a HUGE birthday bash for my 50th birthday... I turned 50 during Covid lockdown.
Happy belated birthday! 🎂
Awwww!! Me too..
All my adult life I’ve wished for a birthday party. Tried to have one once… 1 couple came…. I’ve given parties to my daughters till they were 21… 21 years of birthday parties… when I turned 60 I was hoping… those same daughters said they were not giving me a party…. I didn’t need one to just brag to friends! My husband was no help… claims he didn’t know how to throw a party… he has had several…. I won’t throw myself one… tried that once…. It’s actually on my bucket list to have a surprise party….🎃
I turned 21 during COVID (I live in the US so it’s a pretty important birthday) so I feel your pain on the timing 🫠
Happy belated birthday!
That's why I treat myself 😌
When we were kids, my grandmother once said that my sister thinks her birthday is a national holiday. Nothing has changed.
You know what baffles me about this? I had a stressfull year and horrible planning of my birthday which for reasons was very important to me this year.
Everything went wrong... and i mean EVERYTHING. Couldnt get the right ingredientce for cake, had a bad recipe cause the other one was lost, decoration, and house wasnt clean when guests arrived....
but it made me remember why we celebrate birthdays. I got to see my favourite people in the world and they saw my mess and helped me clean, they all politely ate my horrid cake with a smile before making soft fun about not wanting more. THEY made it a great day and time for me and thats way more important. In the end it might have been one of my worst birthdays but in all the right ways it also was the best one for sure!
Keep your friends tight and treat them right! They'll give it back to you! :)
Every year for my Dad’s birthday, I would make him a cherry cream pie. On his last birthday ( age 91) I asked him what he wanted to do for his birthday. He told me he didn’t want any damn party, just pie and I could invite Tippy ( my little Yorkie). Same Dad, same😂😂 The only money I ever wanted was the one dollar bill my Granny sent me every year until she passed away when I was 40❤️❤️
I don’t celebrate my bday, but I do look forward to two phone calls - one from each brother (I’m the baby at 49yrs old). I also look forward to the one card I get every year from birth to present from my Aunt Holly (used to be from Uncle Larry too, but we lost him a few years back) and dinner or lunch with my son. Inevitably my son insists on getting me something I want or need since my bday is always a week (or so) before Mother’s Day. Last year he got me two new pairs of glasses and paid for the eye exam as well. It was my choice. ❤❤❤
And last, but not least…my mom is still with us and she always calls and takes me out for a meal for my bday. To me that is a bit overkill, but I still enjoy it.
Oh- my very best friend also never forgets. She is the best! I get a happy bday and usually something that she knows I’d never get for myself or something that I need desperately but won’t spend the money on. 😂❤
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Adults who are this obsessed with their birthday are a huge red flag for me. My mother in law is currently not speaking to me because I missed her birthday... While I was in the process of being diagnosed with cancer and was... You know...a little distracted and sick as shit. I love this for me
I'm in cancer treatment as well and people get mad at me for not replying to their messages or attending their events. I'm fighting fot my life, I don't have time even for myself (I only have time for Charlotte bc she makes me laugh). Some people have no self awareness. Wishing you speedy recovery Drixi.
@@mermaidlifeonearth right?? I would never treat someone going through this like they owed me anything!! It's really so all consuming. I hope your treatment is going well❤️
@@macgirl1234 and when I needed them they were mia to take me to my chemos/ infusion after promising me that they would. I have infusions into next year. I was suddenly diagnosed and am very young so really could've benefited from their support. I have doc appointments all day and don't even have time to rest/ eat. I legit had people block me bc i wasn't replying to their messages fast enough or bc my words would be filled with typos/jumbles bc I have very bad chemo/brain fog. Thankfully there are some good people that actually care and check up on you.
@@mermaidlifeonearth oh my gosh this is so relatable! I'm young too, and a mom of a7 year old. Getting babysitting is like pulling teeth and I'm so exhausted. To hear them complaining that I missed their birthday when I'm just trying to stay afloat, mentally and physically, is so laughable!! I am glad you found some better support. I will say, the cancer has certainly showed me who my real friends are. And, in a way, it's a gift to get to cut the others out and free myself!
@@macgirl1234 there is no good that comes from cancer except you learn who truly values you. I go to my Infusions and appointments alone 😔 Mostly I cry from the pain and then talk to my AYA cancer friends I befriended during this ordeal. Cancer sucks, it disrupts your life. I don't know why I got cancer bc I led such a healthy lifestyle and don't even have the genes. Having to advocate bc no one takes you seriously when you're AYA is so draining. I hope it gets better for you. How much longer is your treatment? I have 1 more year of active treatment left and then 5 years of endocrine therapy which is causing so much pain, brain fog and depression for me. If I get off that, my survival rate decrease significantly. I just can't function being brain dead with no energy and fatigue all the time. So hard to go to work like this.
I grew up w.o. much birthday fanfare. As an adult, I enjoy giving myself permission to throw a proper party every year; complete w. streamers, balloons, a home-catered spread, punch & cake. Often even themed! I'm kind of known for my parties. But I try to balance this extra-ness w. also making sure individual friends know that nothing is unfairly _expected_ of them; I know my birthday is only _my_ birthday, & I don't demand anyone else's world stop for it. _This_ year, I was too broke to afford to even host a small dinner-party, & the weather was wrong for a picnic - I was pretty bummed about it, because developmental baggage. And then...some friends threw me an amazing surprise party, so I wouldn't have to miss out.
It was incredible, I got a bit verklempt, & I really feel like all those years of not being a self-absorbed, demanding tosser paid off. I don't get how ppl like this manage to make it to adulthood seeming never to have learned that being polite + humble pays off so much more than being a callous egotist. Good things happen when you're not an arsehole.
You had me laughing at the "verklempt" part because I had a flashback to Mike Myers 🤣😂
This is so sweet
TLDR. Damn, I am delighted to see anyone remember...a simple HAPPY BELATED text message makes me smile. Birthdays are for children.
I think it's awesome that your friends realized your struggle and made your day special anyway!! Politeness and humility does go a long way!!
You have really sweet people in your life 😊 I’ve always tried to be a nice person, but I guess I’m not very likable. I don’t know… Maybe my friends are the arseholes…
Today is my birthday and I don't have any family member congratulating me or anything but my grandma. Even in this situation I don't see myself doing these kind of things entitled people do.
I'm happy at least one person with pure love called me for my birthday, I'm blessed.
My birthday is a week-long celebration for me. I take time off, go out and do what I want, travel, and don't deal with others because my birthday is about me. I buy my cake, get my champagne, and then I am great. If others want to join me, then okay, but I will still do what I want for my enjoyment. If you want the best birthday, you plan it, pay for it, and make sure you make time for yourself.
When my mom turned 40 she threw herself a birthday party. I was there with a bunch of her friends and we all had a great time. So when I was turning 40, I wanted to do the same thing. I offered to provide all the food, drinks, etc. I told everyone, that nobody had a bring a gift, just themselves. I gave all of my friends plenty of notice ahead of time. 1 person showed up. And it was one of my kid's friends whom I was friendly with. No I didn't rant about it on facebook or anything. I was just super depressed for the rest of the week. They had to do nothing but show up and they didn't care.
@Queina1: So sorry about your I’ll-treatment, but I hope you’ve had better days since then and have found some new and better friends. You deserve more❤.
@@lindahind2205 I'm 50 now and have never tried to throw myself a party since. Most of my best friends all live in other states or even countries. Who were all aghast when they heard what happened. I haven't actually had a birthday party since my teens.
I think it's better to have tighter contact, knowing who will come for sure (say its so that you know how much food you'll need to prepare). And of course it's better if you have a SO to help you. When in doubt, just celebrate with family.
Ya know. My birthday is Tuesday. Now I feel called out 😂
My kids asked what I wanted. I said plants. I have 30+....so they asked what else they could get. I said a steam mop 😂😂
Happy early birthday! 🥳
Lucky October birthday people!!! My favorite month lol... im stuck in hot July... happy early birthday! 🎂 🥳
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They're missing a great opportunity to gift you broccoli. LOL
Birthday twin! 😊🥳
When the cancer thing was brought up, it just reminded me of a pal of mine; he has a cousin, who is both his best friend, and an absolute saint. My friend was super excited to have his 21st birthday with his cousin, he dreamed of it ever since he was 18. But two years before that, his cousin was diagnosed with cancer. On my pal’s 21st, his cousin was going to be in a chemo appointment, and couldn’t make it. My pal was gutted, and we didn’t see him for a couple of weeks. Then the week before, he texted me that “I won’t be able to make it to my party, have fun for me”. Obviously, I was like WTF, and he just said “it’s cause of private shit, I’ve already paid for stuff, so no one will be out of pocket”. It wasn’t until the day after where he finally explained himself; the bastard had isolated himself for two weeks, just so he could be safe to come in and see his cousin on his birthday. They even had a little cake, and he shared some pictures with the group. I was just… honestly, I felt kinda bad, cause I was initially frustrated cause he had changed plans at the last second (It’s stupid, I know, but I had planned stuff, and I’m neurotic about planning. I’m getting better with it, and I don’t take it out on people), but… yeah, it was genuinely sweet, cause he just wanted to have his 21st with his cousin. His cousin is doing much better now, the absolute legend.
In a wonderful twist of fate my only daughter was born at 44.45 weeks on my 28th birthday. For the last 19 years my birthday has been all about my baby girl. This year we took a mini vacation to the Mall of America. We went to all the makeup shops I got a new outfit we made keepsake teddybears at build a bear, went to the aquarium it was fabulous 😇
That sounds amazing!!! What a perfect day.
My son was also born on my 27th birthday . Always tell him his birth was my favorite gift and I don't need anything more. He turned 41 this year so we just go out to dinner together, don't tell anybody just talk and catch up. Peace and quiet is my goal in life...
@@gl15col that's beautiful. As a parent, I can fully agree that children are a gift.
That sounds like a perfect celebration to me!
My son was born on my grandmother's birthday. I never met her because she died in 1932 when my mom was eleven. My mother loved talking about her, so I feel like I knew her. My grandmother was left handed, and each of her kids had one southpaw child except for my mom. Me and my siblings are all right handed. Mom was the first person to notice that my son is left-handed, when he was less than a year old. His pediatrician told me she was wrong because you can't tell until a child is at least 4-5 years old.
Of COURSE my mom was correct (as usual).
She also told me I was having a son, and when I came to her house to tell her she was going to have a new grandbaby, I never got a chance. I walked in the door, and she said, "You're pregnant!" I was about 3 weeks along, so I still don't know how she knew. I had told no one. She was funny like that. I never got away with any mischief as a child because she just always seemed to know because of her "spidey sense"
I sure do miss her and those fun shopping trips. She was my best friend.
My son was born on my birthday, and my daughter was born 4 days after my birthday. I'll never have to celebrate my own birthday ever again 🤣
For my birthday this year, I took my birthday week off since I work on the weekends and my birthday was on a Saturday. My brother asked what I planned to do on my birthday and I asked if he and my sister-in law could take me to their vacation home in PA for the weekend. That's what happened and both surprised me with many unexpected delights including going antiquing😃. I got to relax sitting on a bench and enjoying hearing the river running. I got more than I expected, but being with the family, including their kitten, was wonderful.
I celebrate me on my birthday. I take the day off work, go do something fun, eat special food, and definitely have dessert. No worries about disappointing gifts, messy parties, or family/friend drama.
Me too
I'm already planning on taking my birthday off so I can have fun.
Whoever is editing Charlotte's voice to sound like Mr. T deserves a raise. I chuckle every time. And yes, I am easily amused. 🥳Happy birthday, everyone!
I use to work with an entitled woman. She announced she wanted a popcorn maker for her birthday...this was a long time ago when electric popcorn makers were kinda new...so a coworker bought her a Jiffy Pop. She didn't see the humor.
Hey My Birthday is extremely important to tons of people. Every year, thousands of people dress up and/or go trick or treating in honor of it. They don't know it's my Bday, but I am pleased that they are having fun also while I am too! :) Seriously, just hearing a Happy Bday should be enough after high school. I don't understand forcing folks to be miserable cause of how your acting on your Bday. If I have a Bday party, it's so everyone can kick back and relax and enjoy the fall season. It's always a blessing just to be able to find the time to hang out with folks as you get older, raising kids, retiring etc. Enjoy the folks surrounding you and make the year wonderful!
My sister's birthday is Halloween 😊
Just because it's their birthday, doesn't mean the world revolves around them. My parents planned my birthday on September, and I helped them. I'm just grateful for what I have.
I’m always happy to be told happy birthday when ever they can or remember. All month long. I’m 36, 37 next month and I still get excited for it. 🤣
Oh dear lord 🙈 this sounds like my sister every October. She celebrates the entire month - I tell her mommy gave birth to you on one day, not over 31 days. 😂
Every morning you should Google who else's birthday it is and talk about them .. never forget to stay petty .. 😂✌️🧡
@@candismith2826 yaaas!! Love that
@@candismith2826 make it even more petty by talking about important people. Like real celebrities and stars everyone knows.
And add a little "Wow, they really achieved something there. Really impressive, don't you think?" And then casually ask what great achievements she has done so far. Bet there aren't that many. 😝
I just put together a a little bday gathering for my twin brother & me. I spent a lot of time and effort making it super cute & special. & At my grandmas house. She died of COVID in January, but i love her house for so many reasons & we spent our 1st bday there.
The love & laughing & storytelling etc. made everything so happy 🥰 … I cried for two days following bc it meant so much to me.
My brother, Eric, throughout our early adulthood (before he had his own twins who came) always put together parties for us & always would say, “this is for uuuuuuu” 😭 💕. Aaaallsooooo, my grandma has a gallery & the end date was 10/2.. our bday… & she left Earth at 102 (I moved home from CO to be w/ her & care for her) & the exhibit in her gallery that honored her life was called “gratitude”.
The morning of the 2nd I went to a yoga class & the discussion/intention happened to be “gratitude”. Synchronicity all over the place. I also ushered my 17 y/o dog goodbye in her home with Lap of Love the month before. I know this is TMI & emotional for a comment section…. Just still feeling a lot. Happy/missing/grateful/loved/heartbroken❤ All the stuff.
I can’t imagine taking my birthday this seriously. I get anxious when everyone’s attention is on me anyways, but I don’t expect or even really want anything other than maybe a cake and a little party with family or a few friends. As an adult, everyone I know has bills to pay and families to care for. Any gifts I receive are a lovely treat, not something I expect. Certainly can’t imagine demanding people spend a specific amount of money on me…wtf, just be grateful that someone thought to get you something!!
Gifts just become clutter. I'd rather just have the person/ know they're thinking of me
I have been the one baking the birthday cake for all my family members since I started baking in my teens. I'm almost 50! So I have noticed that no one has ever taken the time to bake me a cake for over a decade and I'm tired of it. So this time I made nonfrosted cupcakes for both Bro and Mom (Dad died years ago). Banana Bread cupcakes for Mom, Strawberry Shortcake (with real strawberries added in the mix) for my bro. They are in their own ziploack baggies and when anyone wants a cupcake, they can get one themselves. Tired of making everyone's BDAY great when no one makes mine even the smallest bit special.
The sooner you start making your own life special, the happier you will be.
I am 70. I am watching this video and trying to remember if I’ve ever had a birthday party outside of a quiet family setting (either parents + siblings or later wife + kids). The only thing that comes to mind was a cake & ice cream celebration at work when I turned 40 as CTO of a software startup.
This is not to say I haven’t hosted large gatherings of friends and neighbors. When my wife & I lived in a large house on several acres of land in Colorado, I would put on two or three BBQs each year - smoked brisket, smoked pork, grilled burgers & dogs, Mexican beans, chips, bottled soda on ice - and we’d have 50 to 150 people attend. I paid for everything & did all the food prep & cooking. Those who wanted to could bring any side dish or dessert they wanted; a true potluck. It’s been a decade since we moved away, but some of our dearest friends are from those years.
I would no more try to solicit friends, acquaintances, and/or strangers for a party or presents than I would publicly urinate off the top of a double-decker bus.
Leave it to Charlotte to drop THIS video TODAY 😂 celebrating my birthday this weekend and this is a great reminder to not be entitled lmao. Perfect timing💯 Good looking out! Love you girl!🖤
Happy birfday tater tot!!!
Happy birthday! 🎂
Happy birthday honey! 💛
Thank you guys!🖤✨
Welp...happy birthday!! 🎂 🥳 🎉 hope you have a lovely and fun one.... while it's not nice to be entitled it's perfectly OK to feel special on your birthday! 😊
My boyfriend threw me a Batman themed birthday party that went so hard and was so awesome that it went viral on Twitter and, honestly, now he never has to throw me a birthday party ever again. 😂 He's good. He's set for life. It was that amazing.
😂😂 good one I hate people who think because it’s there birthday they want everything done for them at a lot of people’s expense too 😂
This year I turned 21. I wanted the girls in my a Cappella group to be there with me. Unfortunately most were busy or out of town/the country. Only one person showed up out of the entire 16 person group. I still had a lot of fun with her, even though I was a bit disappointed. I felt a lot better when my best friend who lives 3 hours away rode up with my parents and my sister to spend the night with me. Love her dearly and I’m so sorry that I spit a lemon drop shot all over the table. Unfortunately my friend from the a cappella group couldn’t come with us after dinner because she was still under age, but she and my best friend actually got along pretty well, which was awesome.
The one with the vehicle cake really makes me angry. Vehicle cakes are so hard to make. That probably took the better part of a full day to make and he wanted to sell it for 20 bucks. The baker probably charged 200 dollars for this. So infuriating.
Yeah I thought of that too. Sorry they couldn’t make something made of flour and eggs and fondant that looks exactly like your actual Range Rover. Jeez. 🙄
A Range Rover on its own screams entitlement. On his next birthday or the anniversary, which ever comes first, gift him with divorce papers.
When I turned 70 eight years my best friend took me to NYC for a play, a visit to MoMA and dinner. The only thing I asked for was dinner at the Algonquin hotel. I had a wonderful time, he paid for everything including train fare and museum admission
The past 2 birthdays have been rough for me…just a lot of terrible things going on. This year was even worse so I canceled it. I requested no birthday celebrations or acknowledgment of it, because I didn’t want to become triggered (last year I had a missing relative so I was sleep deprived from looking for them and dealing with the police so when I was presented with a cake and flowers at work I was so emotionally overwhelmed I cried…I thanked them but it was pretty awkward so I was trying to avoid it this year because my office is big on birthdays). This year they slipped me a card and wished me a happy bday, even though I requested no acknowledgement of it. I took that as a reasonable compromise because my office goes balls to the walls for people’s birthdays, so I was glad that they respected the request not to go overboard.
I never cease to be astonished that people expect that an extraordinary effect be put for on their birthday when throughout the year you show them that you care for them by words and deeds. I guess that simplifies it, do nothing for them all year and only do something on their birthday.
Ngl the second one just sounds like someone who has been unappreciated for a long time and decided enough is enough! It sounds like the friend who’s always there for everyone else but can’t count on their friends to do the same. Can absolutely relate 😩
Reminded me of my sister. She just can't say "no" to people.
Ive recieved one cake in all my 59 years, the one i did get was from my husband & it was a choo choo train! I dont like trains, but still appreciated the thought. I had my 3rd child on my 30th birthday, so since i always get her a cake, well, we dont need two! But still would be nice! Id love any of those cakes! Appreciate what you do get!😊
With my birthday being in January, I can't afford to be entitled 😂😂
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Some friends threw me a surprise party one year. It was hilarious, as I got there AFTER going out to eat with my family, so I was STUFFED and honestly almost didn't even show up. They had said it was a house/apartment warming. I'd helped them move in a few weeks prior. Every single time I ever entered this apartment, I turned and entered through the kitchen. Apparently they never noticed, and I came in to find a croud of people with their backs to me. 🤣🤣🤣 They were the ones surprised, as they all jumped while holding a huge cake with those "can't blow them out" candles sparkling away on it. 🤣🤣🤣 They did this hilarious juggling act while trying (and succeeding) not to drop the cake. I loved it, it was so ME. And the other really weird thing was that a friend attended with a guy she'd literally just met. It was their 1st date after having met and talked for hours. He brought me a bouquet of longstem red roses, the number matched my age. 🤔 I'd never met him before, nor did I ever see him again.
"Birthdays are kind of like a bittersweet thing. You tend to find out who actually cares about you."
100% Learned that early, about halfway through high school. Mine & another friends birthdays were two days apart. We had a tight knit friend group of about 10. We'd all met in middle school. My birthday I got maybe 3 "HBD" texts from that friend group (not including the other bday girl). Her birthday comes along and everyone shows up at her house, including me. I thought it was going to be a simple hang out day. Nope. People showed up with baked goods they made themselves. Cookies, cupcakes, brownies, etc. I was there for a half hour, sitting on the couch, looking at everything & got a little upset. I just left. Cried the whole walk home. Slowly distanced myself from that group with time.
My brothers friends have, with time, become my family. My 30th birthday was a couple years ago. I haven't liked to make a big deal out of my birthday since I turned 20. Didn't want anything big, we simply went bowling. Some of my brothers friends called up my mother, asking her to ask me if they could come & celebrate. It was really nice and a bunch of fun.
In all my 40+ years, I've had 1 special birthday. My daughter was 5. She and I made cupcakes, bought a couple balloons, she sang for me and drew me a birthday card. The only beautiful memory I have of my many birthdays.😊
Happy, Happy Blessed Birthday
To Everyone Out There & I Hope You All Get What You Wish For ❤
I remember how I tried so hard to give all my friends a nice birthday gift one year, and I know you're not supposed to except something back and stuff, but it still came as a shock that only one of my friends gave me a gift, and I have over 15 friends. The crazy thing is the fact that over 70 percent of my old friends(I moved away) wished my happy birthday and I never reminded them, I'm not really mad about it (maybe a little bit). But I'm still not giving them presents this year
First off, I so appreciate all that you do, does help get a laugh out! When I was a child growing up, we didn't have much money, but, my Mom would cook your favorite dinner, plus a HOMEMADE cake! And maybe we would get a little gift. I was grateful! I LOVED that as a kid! Plus, yeah there's more, you didn't have to do any chores, and chose what programs to watch on t.v.
Best Birthday I had was when I was 9. My own mother forgot my birthday, and even when reminded didn't really care at all.
My grandma decided to stop by for my birthday and was appalled that my mom wasn't even going to have a dinner, let alone a cake, so she decided to take me with her to get a regular cheese pizza pie. This was back in the 90's mind you, so a large cheese pie was only 10 bucks or so.
We got there, ordered the pizza, but grandma was short about 50 cents, so we handed the guy all the money she had on her and then went into the parking lot to pick up dropped change while the pizza was being made. Within a few mins we had found 2 quarters and went back in to give the guy the rest of the money and take out pizza back to the house.
I didn't have a cake, but grandma found one regular candle and put it in a little tub she fashioned out of tin foil to protect the pizza from the wax drip, set it in the center of the pizza and she and my 5 younger siblings sang me happy birthday.
I feel ya. *Hugs*
Your grandmother sounds amazing. ❤️
When I was in high school, my whole family forgot my birthday (I had 8 people in my family). I wouldn't even care but not one person even said happy birthday. When I told my mom that night, she just looked shocked but then no one did anything. No dinner. No cake. No card. No well wishes.
During school that day, a classmate saw I was emotional, so she asked me if I was ok. I stupidly told her that my family forgot my birthday. My last class at school got me a cake. I felt embarrassed because it was a pity party. I kinda wish I had ditched school that day instead of trying to get through my classes. Since then, I learned not to expect anything from my birthday. I don't even talk about it with anyone other than my husband and kids. No one else needs to know.
Your grandma is great!
At my 9th birthday my mother gave me a beating...
I strive to be this kind of grandma. My only one right now calls me Bob, because he’s only 15 months and saying the ‘gr’ is difficult. I say ‘I’m Grams. Can you say Grams?’ He looks at me, cocks his little head, pats his hands on me and says, loudly and clearly, BOB! So I’m Bob. I don’t mind at all and I’m so glad your grandma made you feel special, because all children need to feel special. ❤
One year I came home from a full eight hour day in the kitchen making food for other people. It was a rough one and nothing went right. Got home and my parents were going out for the evening. Neither mom or dad said happy birthday but my mother did let me know that she wanted the lawn mowed by the time they got back.
Grumpy as hell, I started mowing the lawn and got about halfway through when I realized the long grass was FULL of tiny frogs that I had just been mowing my way through. Left the lawnmower right where it was, went inside and went to bed. Got apologies the next day that she forgot and that all she said to me was "mow the lawn."
However, that kind of cemented the idea that I had long felt that birthdays are for children. There is no need for me to ever get excited beyond being happy that I'm here and as lucky as I am to have what I have.... and that I'm not some tiny, unnoticeable frog in someone's yard. As far as I know.
I would just like to have a birthday party with more people than just my parents. Some people just don't realise how lucky they are to have friends.
I have worked most of my birthdays and now that I am disabled I generally go out to eat with my mom and drink a Long Island ice tea. I know what you are thinking, I am living on the wild side, well jokes on you with my meds it is wild! Some days I just can't handle the raw excitement in my life.
On my 40th birthday I was taken out by all my friends. It was a complete surprise to me. Lovely food and company. I was then asked to pay for myself and my partner. I had no idea that the meal was planned, but had brought my purse with me. Thank goodness. My partner was unimpressed and has since refused to do anything like that again.
If they were taking you out for birthday, they should have paid
This is so funny- I was feeling a bit sorry for myself because my step brother got married on my birthday this weekend- I traveled home for it (I live abroad), and he was obviously very busy so he also forgot to say happy birthday. Oh well, at least I got some time with my dad and a lovely dinner out of it 🤣.
This is a long comment/story lol sorry. My little brother made my 18th birthday about him and my mum and stepdad let him. I turned 18 in 2021, so restrictions where I’m from had been lifted for a few months. I asked if I could go out drinking with my friends, 18 is legal age where I live, my mum said no (she never let me and the one day she did she wanted me home at literally 11pm because I’m a girl). So instead I could choose what I wanted for dinner (or tea or supper, whatever you call it). I chose my favourite meal. Brother complained that he didn’t like it, so mum and stepdad made me change it to accommodate everyone. I changed it. Stepdad and little brother went out to buy the stuff to make it and get a cake. Came back with one of those Tesco caterpillar cakes. I said I didn’t like them cakes, and it would’ve been nice for stepdad to call me and ask what I wanted. Stepdad said “I know but (brother) wanted this one.” I said “then get it on his birthday, not mine.” I then got yelled at for being “rude” and “just because it’s my birthday and I’m legally adult doesn’t mean I’m allowed to be a brat.” I ate none of my own cake. I asked my mum and stepdad if they could play my board game that I got for Christmas (I continually asked them to play it and kept getting a no). They agreed. We played it for 10 minutes total. Brother kept coming downstairs (was supposed to be asleep), then my parents didn’t “get” the game (I explained it to them 5 times) so we stopped. Took it upstairs and came back downstairs to them spending time with my brother. All my birthdays have been pretty shitty tbf but it’s a shame that one of the most important birthdays in my life was ruined by my brother. The only decent one was my 19th (2022) and I went out with my bf and our uni friends. My flatmates forgot about my bday though and blamed it on being busy with lessons even though it was a Sunday. But yeah.
If you read all that, here’s a cookie 🍪
Oh that sucks, what a crappy 18 th birthday... Sorry
@@MsLovelybeats Nah it’s cool. I got some sort of payback by not going to his birthday which is on New Year, I went out instead. Mum and stepdad weren’t happy about it but shut up when I reminded them about what they let him do on my birthday.
There are some parts of the world where you celebrate your mother on your birthday. You know, the person who did all the work getting you here.
I just like having a birthday dinner at home with my family and sometimes close friends. I was actually kind of sad this year because I wasn’t able to do it. I was in a play that had a show that night, but my cast mates were awesome in wishing me a happy birthday! I also brought chocolate muffins my mom made that we could all share to celebrate! It was a pretty good birthday overall.
What's funny is that I clicked on this video and today is April 29th and it's a monday! Happy birthday entitled person!
I'm thinking of being entitled this year... But then again my birthday falls at the beginning of the semester. Books B4 gifts. Especially when my family is in a different country from me.
So yes. Thinking about it, but don't have the flesh for it.
Edit: Shout out to October babies 🥳
It’s been my yearly birthday event that I take my friends to a lake near my house, cook burgers and dogs, rent paddle boards and just have fun for my birthday… all at my own expense. It’s my way of thanking my friends for caring.
Watching Charlotte is more important than cleaning. 😂
Too true.
I won't clean either
I listen to Charlotte while I clean.
@@Alberto-wu1mj over achiever.... lol 😜
"or what, you gonna be big mad?" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😭 I love it!
Ive always thought birthdays were a mother's celebrated day. So I just call and tell my moms happy birthday. Since I loathe celebrating the day.
I love you for this!!! My son’s bday is my favorite day of the year!!!!! He is my only child and I treat his bday like a national and religious holiday all rolled up in one!!! He doesn’t live with me anymore as he’s almost 30 years old…but it doesn’t matter. I still absolutely love February 13th the MOST!!!! ❤❤❤❤
I agree!! The Mom spends hours in labor and before that never knowing when the baby is coming out. Believe me, you REALLY want to love them outside of your body!! They can be early, they may be late (like both of mine were). The birthday is a totally random day. If your parents didn't have sex on "your" day, at that moment, or the next day, you wouldn't exist. It would be a totally different you that you are unaware of. Hopefully more gracious, though.
@@melissadunton3534 That is so sweet!!! My daughter's one month "birthday" was on February 14th so it was a Valentine's themed little party (it was more for us!!). I used to send Valentine's and Birthday balloons and treats to the school every year. The classmates loved it but the kids were a little embarrassed but never said anything. I celebrate other people.
As a kid, I never really had birthday parties.... Maybe 3 times ever. As an adult, I hate my birthday and always tell people not to buy me anything and to pretend it's just a normal day, because it literally is 🤷🏼♀️ birthdays just seem silly to me.... But I do really enjoy throwing parties for my kids and friends/family.
I have the opposite problem. My real friends know not to say anything on my birthday cause it's just a reminder of trauma and brings pain. So every year I have to dread people telling me happy birthday even though I've told them before to pretend my birthday doesn't exist.
Hugs!
Darn.. This is sad. I wish I could hug you. Birthdays are supposed to be about happiness. Not this
I'm so sorry you feel like that on your own birthday. A day when loved ones can celebrate how glad they are that you were born and let you know how your very existence brings them joy. I hope they show those feelings on the daily instead. ❤❤❤😢
i make sure everyone know i will never celebrate bdays nor do i care about my own. its worked so far.
2:57 This one is actually quite funny 😂 I feel the whole 'don't buy me chocolate or be enlisted as an enemy of my weight loss progress' situation 😂😂😂
My birthday was October 1st, it was my first truly happy birthday ever and all I asked for was cards. It was beautiful ❤️
On my birthday I had friends and family call and text me best wishes throughout the day, which was nice that they remembered. I treated myself to a good steak dinner and had cheesecake for dessert. I cuddled with my dog as we watched TV from the sofa. It was the perfect chill birthday.
I work in hotel reservations in a luxury hotel. People often lie saying it's their birthday/anniversary in order to get free stuff (we normally provide champagne, a cake and a personalized note.) This we sort of accept, however you then get people thinking they can haggle on the rate, get a free upgrade to one of our huge suites or get complimentary access to the executive lounge. We then say "I'm afraid not, sir/madame" and they go all Karen, asking for the manager, thinking that'll make a difference.
Same thing with Bridezillas...
When people make reservations for hotels couldn't you tell them they need to provide proof of it when they check in? Everyone should have an ID but they could bring their marriage certificate in. If it's legitimate, it should be a problem. I have a copy of mine. Then your hotel doesn't lose money on liars.
@@WeAllLiveInTheTwilightZone Well, Reception deals with that side of things. Haha. They do ask for passports/ID, but by that point we tend to already have the treat set up in the room. It at least stops them from asking for further free stuff throughout the stay because they can't really lie once we know their real birthday. I don't know if they check marriage certificates at Reception, but we've never had to ask for it.
I always throw a small potluck party 🥳 on my birthday and invite my best friends. I bring ice cream and cake, friends bring everything else. Everyone has a great time. When I was younger I felt sorry for myself if ppl didn't come through on my bday.
Last year I was spending my first birthday away from my family, and I just wanted to go out to dinner and maybe watch a movie with my roommates because they were my closest friends. However, I guess that was too much to ask because they all left to go on a fun day trip while I was in class, so I spent the majority of my birthday alone until my cousin found out it was my birthday and took me out for ice cream 😅 It was definitely the saddest birthday I've ever had, so let's hope my next birthday I at least don't get ditched by my only friends haha
So sorry to hear that!! That's when you quickly realize that they are just roommates and not actual friends. Now you know what to get each of them!!
True friends wouldn’t do that to you! They would have made sure to be there after you were done with school to spend time with you on your Birthday. I am glad that your cousin took you out to get ice cream at least. I know it is a difficult lesson to learn… who are true friends versus fair-weathered friends, but it seems that your roommates are fair-weathered friends instead of friends that will be there for you no matter what.
This just reminds me why I don’t expect gifts on my birthday. Would much rather get a nice text or card…
The fact you posted this ON my birthday is gold haha. I’m gonna have a blast watching this one!
I got my wisdom teeth pulled yesterday so no entitlement going on on my birthday. In fact I’ve spent it laid in bed all day! 😂😂😂
Happy birthday 🎉🧡
All those 30 year olds getting mad when their friends won’t pay for a birthday party as expensive as a wedding…and here I am celebrating my day for the past decade with a tub of ice cream and Netflix. 😂
People need to appreciate what they have, smh.
Last year, I had a parent who was on a vent in the ICU with breakthrough covid.
Did my usual call for update in the AM and PM. I told AM nurse that she had me at that very hospital x years ago and that I only want her to get well. They said "do something for yourself". The PM nurse actually asked what I did that evening. Hubby is EMS and took the day so we could be together. It was very low key, just a couple of presents and some cake..and it meant the world.
I would have given away the cake and all of the presents to have gotten my one birthday wish. Sadly my mother passed away less than a month later.
People need to remember that birthdays are a day to celebrate life and that cake and presents are just part of that celebration. ♥️
Not sure what I will do on the next birthday. 😔
Well said.
"Or what? You're going to be 'big mad'?" LMAO!!!
Haha, it's my sister's 40th birthday today and she watches your channel! I'm so sending this to her! 🤣
I’ve always hated my birthday because, as you said, you find out who really cares about you. When no one really does, not even your family, that hurts. But the worst birthday I ever had was the year my husband really messed up. We started this tradition of going to my favorite Japanese restaurant on my birthday for dinner. That’s all, just a meal at my favorite place. This was about 6 months after my mother-in-law passed away, so when we were at my father-in-law’s house, I wrote on his calendar that it was my birthday and told him I’d done it so he knew what day dinner was. He also liked that restaurant and he’d been depressed, so I wanted him to come with us. I did that about a month in advance. So a few days before my birthday, I found out my father-in-law had asked my husband if he wanted to get together to watch the wrestling pay per view, he’d pay for it and buy pizza and we’d all watch it here at our house. Of course my husband said yes. I was flabbergasted! I said, “You do realize that’s my birthday, right?” He said he knew and when I said we go out to eat, he said we could do that another night… Now, I don’t like to act entitled, but I called BS on that whole thing. In the end, it turned into me telling my jackass husband what kind of a jerk he was (of course I used harsher language than this) on my actual birthday because he thought that I would want to spend my special day sitting at home being stuck watching wrestling and watching them all eat a food I could no longer eat. Yeah, THAT’S fun. I also told him I thought his father did all this on purpose (he’d been doing all sorts of weird things to get attention) and that I’d written my birthday on his calendar right in front of him a month before and told him it was so he’d know when dinner was. I was so pissed, I ended up going into our bedroom and crying for 2 hours. The only one who came to ask me if I was okay was my youngest. My oldest went downstairs and told my husband I was crying (mind you, the kids were late teens and young adult). But my husband didn’t come up until after I finally stopped crying and told me to get dressed, we were going to dinner. Seriously?! No apology, just that. I told him no. I knew how that would play out, I’d be accused of being selfish and ruining his father’s night just because it was my birthday. Nope, not happening. But he just kept telling me to get dressed, we were going to dinner. I finally got tired of it, so I got ready and we went out. It was the worst dinner and birthday I ever had there… On the upside, my husband checked the calendar the next time he went to his father’s house and saw that I did write my birthday on it. Then he apologized to me. I’m still bitter about it to this day and that was about 4 years ago.
So you pitched a hissy fit to someone who was in the first year of mourning for their mother for wanting to be there for his father...damn, you have 0 emotional intelligence.
So he messed up 1 time.. just months after his dad's wife, his mother, died. They were grieving and you are still mad about it. Okey...
Sorry you had to deal with him being so inconsiderate. Hope he learned to not do that again. My partner would always put me as first priority.
I'm sorry you were upset. I don't want to upset you with what I'm going to say but I just want to throw some potential perspective out there. I lost my Mum 6yrs ago. She and my Dad had been married for 47yrs. A month after she died my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. Because of the stress of the diagnosis and then the treatments my Dad didn't really get a chance to grieve for a year. My Dad missed my birthday 3yrs after my Mum died because he felt ill and I know grief had a big part in it, too. You know what I did said? I hope he felt better, he should rest, I'll have other birthdays and we can celebrate then. I know he's struggling, he sees no point in living without the love of his life. Any time he invites me over I go. 6yrs on we are both still devastated as we were extremely close to my Mum.
All that makes me think that your husband put his grieving Dad first as, like I said, you're going to have other birthdays and at 6 months the grief is pretty rough. Could they have been a bit more considerate and planned to watch the wrestling next time? Sure (though if they're favourites were in the ring maybe they wouldn't get another chance, like maybe they wouldn't be wrestling each other in the future). Should he have spoken to you before your birthday? Absolutely. But do I think he was wrong to say y'all could celebrate another night so he could spend time with his Dad to try and boost his morale, make him feel less alone, take his mind off the fact his wife is gone? No. Frankly, I'd have possibly done the same thing, though I would have also pointed out that was your birthday to the Dad. I dunno, I just think they were both grieving and your birthday could have been celebrated on another night. I might have had a little grumble to myself if I'd have been you, but I wouldn't have taken it so personally, and I certainly wouldn't be so bitter about it. Like, I put my Dad before everyone and everything now because I'm all he has - when I was offered a job that would require me moving across the country I didn't tell him, instead I asked if he'd ever want to move to that area and he said no, so I turned the job down. I got a two bed apartment so he has a place to stay even though he never leaves his house and I have no need for a second bedroom, at least if he needs somewhere to stay and not be alone he's got a bed waiting. We've skipped Christmases and both our birthdays because he's devastated and can't bring himself to even try and be happy (we get together, maybe get take out and watch a movie but I'm not gonna make him celebrate if he's struggling. I've tried celebrating his birthday and he just can't bring himself to). It sucks, but I want to support him and I feel that's all your husband was doing with the thought that you could do dinner another night. Maybe it's time to let this one go. I'm sure if they weren't both still grieving the recent loss of their mother and wife things would have been different.
On the other hand, I do think they both should have spoken to you before the actual day. I'd still give them a pass, but I'd completely understand if you would have been upset during the convo. But then I'm also giving them a pass and they didn't speak with you beforehand. All I'm saying is it had only been 6 months, give them a break.
I hope I've not upset you with my comment, I do see your side, too.
My birthday is on 1st of October. I booked a little yacht trip with my friends but the person we booked with mad a big mistake and in order to compensate, the owner of the company booked us a better one (which was yesterday) and promised to bring a cake and celebrate my birthday. Another lady had her birthday the same week so he gave her a shout out. Only she took the cake, wouldn't give it to me even to take a picture with it, kept telling the captain that myself and my group of friends "had enough fun already" and that it was her and her friends' turn at any given activity although their group got to redo the same activity over and over unlike us. She even took MY GIFT without my permission and took pictures with it as if it was hers.
These all remind of my brother on his sixth birthday. My aunt made a cake, he was furious because he didn’t get a cake from the bakery with cars and trucks on it. Then he didn’t get a some kind of Mongoose Bicycle. First off my parents couldn’t have afforded that at that time but secondly the little brat never even told my mom he wanted that. He had the biggest fit, he got a spanking and sent to his room. Everyone else had a fun time at the party after he left. My grandma told me years later that it took years for her to like him again after he acted like that. She said she was so embarrassed. 😳🤣
I kind of feel bad for your brother from this
I like my birthday because I share it with my dad. It was yesterday and we are celebrating tomorrow since I wasn't home due to school. I have loved sharing it with someone so special.
I had a housemate that when her birthday declared on the friday before it was her "birthday weekend" ... then decided she enjoyed it so much that she proclaimed her "birthday week" would be extending until the following sunday. As the end of her "week" approached (tbh no one cared after the first weekend) she then said that she was going to be having a follow up birthday week ... at which point I told her "Oh hell No. You aren't cutting into MY birthday week". Then to be passive aggressive the night before my "day" I quietly put up lots of Happy Birthday banners and festive decorations around the common areas and walked in acting all "surprised and touched" the look of fury on her face was too worth it. XD
You sure your housemate's name wasn't Trina? Hahahahahahaha. But seriously I would have cut her if I were you. You're much nicer than me.
@@truthseeker9249 Lol. It was Patricia, but will definitely be wary if I ever meet a Trina who wants a month long birthday week. Haha.
@@GamerGrrrlAlex_2.0 Yeah it was a Victorious reference. Tori's sister Trina is a bit of an entitled brat. She doesn't think one day is enough celebrations so she calls it her birthweek. And she was totally ungrateful when Tori wrote and performed for her a beautiful song about how awesome she is and how much she cares about her. I'm an only child and always wanted a sibling, if I had one and they wrote and performed a song like that for me I would cry.
@@truthseeker9249 @Truth Seeker Ok, sorry. I don't watch TV ... thank you for taking time to explain it to me. I wasn't an only child, but would have loved having a kind and caring sibling like the one you described from that show.
@@GamerGrrrlAlex_2.0 Hey that's okay! And yeah. It's lonely being an only child but I'm sure having terrible siblings is miserable.
I never really make a deal over my birthday. I learned early that it didn't really matter to my friends then as they all never showed up for two of my birthdays in a row. Now I'm just thankful that I have real friends who care. All that matters is the company.
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I’ve learned to meet my own birthday expectations and spend my own money on what I want. Anything anyone chooses to do for me after that is a bonus.
'all monetary funds are acceptable' just give her a bag of currency from all over the world
One penny or equivelent from each country. lol
Give em 200 rupees
@@Dobviews haha yep no amount high enough to be worth exchanging
When I was living with my parents (as a teenager) they forgot my birthday a couple times (including going away with the rest of the kids and leaving me to just stay home alone with the dog). As an adult when I moved out they often would not even text and if they did, it was days late. As a result I have very low expectations for birthdays. I can't imagine being this needy XD
My 31 year old daughter in law wears a tiara all day, in public, shopping, everywhere when it is her birthday. Not narcissistic at all .... /s
Good for her! She gets to be Queen For A Day,( which is the name for an old American radio and TV show). I love her attitude regarding this!
Like it’s not hurting anyone else so what’s the issue?
@@ginnysvec4809 who said it was an issue?
For my birthday this year, I spent it with my 2 best friends and niece, my best friend went to 3 different stores and called my mom to see where she could get my favourite cake ❤️ she cooked me dinner and we had a great day ❤️❤️
I just remembered! This makes me think of the Key and Peele sketch about a rich girls birthday.
"You brought me a birthday gift at my birthday party on my birthday..."
Best birthday card I got was from my sister. It said on the front "There is no money in this card". You open it and it says "See. And there is none on the back either." On the back it said "Boy you are hard to convince." Had a good laugh.