I hope you have totally let her go. I know you love her, but she’s got a lot of emotional stuff going on. To go back to her or have her to come back to you isn’t about love, although it may surely feels like it. Real love doesn’t allow one’s experience to be the way they want it, instead it allows an experience to be what is supposed to be healthy which is generally helpful. Nor does it hope and wait, and stay stuck. Real love moves on by allowing life to be, not forcing it. It doesn’t try to manipulate our experiences, nor anyone else’s, it does what is right and healthy instead. When a relationship is based off what is right and healthy, then that is love. To truly love, is to allow anyone to find what is right for them, even if it hurts, and even if they’re lost. Love isn’t about us, it’s about doing what we believe is the healthiest approach. To find what is the healthiest approach, is to leave out neediness. The only one we truly need is ourselves, everything should come from that. She should be allowed to choose you, instead of trying or wanting or hoping to get her back, that’s not love. Besides, if she’s up and down, staying with you, then leaving you, even if one day she came back, there’s a chance she’ll do the same thing. In order to truly change, that takes a lot of time, Patience, and commitment. Rewriting the brain, integrating charged emotion, now that’s the process to true change. So keep up the good work. Allow yourself to feel, I’m sorry for how she treated you, and realize if love is present, then even holding hands, or looking in the eyes of another is in many ways all that is required. Love isn’t wishy-washy, it’s instead secure. Someone who truly loves you, will take their time getting to know you. Will want to know why you like certain things. Will find you unique, because there is only one of you. From your unique sound of voice to how you have facial mannerisms. Allow a relationship to blossom, not rush, and over time we build trust, and use our senses and instincts to serve us well if we are in touch with how a loving relationship is to be honored and unfold. In order to truly love another, or for anyone to truly love, to know deep levels of love, must love themselves, and not a façade that seems like love. Best of luck on your journey! And keep up the present process!
I just wanted to thank you for your thoughtful and genuine response to my situation I address during this video. So much has changed since this recording, but I wanted to acknowledge you and thank you for watching!
@@JoshuaJamesWagoner You're welcome. I was hoping that I wasn't invasive. This life isn't easy, and finding ourselves is a part of this. I hope you are well and to keep up your journey, you also seem happier. I also really did like that insight about fogginess you shared in your other video. So keep it up, it is helping me as well.
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I hope you have totally let her go. I know you love her, but she’s got a lot of emotional stuff going on. To go back to her or have her to come back to you isn’t about love, although it may surely feels like it.
Real love doesn’t allow one’s experience to be the way they want it, instead it allows an experience to be what is supposed to be healthy which is generally helpful. Nor does it hope and wait, and stay stuck. Real love moves on by allowing life to be, not forcing it. It doesn’t try to manipulate our experiences, nor anyone else’s, it does what is right and healthy instead. When a relationship is based off what is right and healthy, then that is love.
To truly love, is to allow anyone to find what is right for them, even if it hurts, and even if they’re lost. Love isn’t about us, it’s about doing what we believe is the healthiest approach. To find what is the healthiest approach, is to leave out neediness. The only one we truly need is ourselves, everything should come from that. She should be allowed to choose you, instead of trying or wanting or hoping to get her back, that’s not love. Besides, if she’s up and down, staying with you, then leaving you, even if one day she came back, there’s a chance she’ll do the same thing. In order to truly change, that takes a lot of time, Patience, and commitment. Rewriting the brain, integrating charged emotion, now that’s the process to true change.
So keep up the good work. Allow yourself to feel, I’m sorry for how she treated you, and realize if love is present, then even holding hands, or looking in the eyes of another is in many ways all that is required. Love isn’t wishy-washy, it’s instead secure.
Someone who truly loves you, will take their time getting to know you. Will want to know why you like certain things. Will find you unique, because there is only one of you. From your unique sound of voice to how you have facial mannerisms. Allow a relationship to blossom, not rush, and over time we build trust, and use our senses and instincts to serve us well if we are in touch with how a loving relationship is to be honored and unfold.
In order to truly love another, or for anyone to truly love, to know deep levels of love, must love themselves, and not a façade that seems like love.
Best of luck on your journey! And keep up the present process!
I just wanted to thank you for your thoughtful and genuine response to my situation I address during this video. So much has changed since this recording, but I wanted to acknowledge you and thank you for watching!
@@JoshuaJamesWagoner You're welcome. I was hoping that I wasn't invasive. This life isn't easy, and finding ourselves is a part of this. I hope you are well and to keep up your journey, you also seem happier. I also really did like that insight about fogginess you shared in your other video. So keep it up, it is helping me as well.