They're NOT your friends... Watch out!
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- Let me tell you a story about betrayal. There was a man I once called a friend. We spent years together, building what I thought was a solid friendship. But, as time passed, I realized he was only in it for what he could gain from me.
How can you tell who your real friends are? True friends value you for who you are, not for what you can give them. They enjoy your company without expecting anything in return.
In this episode, I'll share the signs to look out for and how to recognize those who pretend to be friends but only want to use you. It's a lesson in understanding true loyalty and the real meaning of friendship.
Friends are exactly that, friends, to go have drinks or food with or even enjoy camping on a weekend, playing games and laughing. A friends time is all you need.
Thanks for your comment, Frazer! You're spot on-time with friends is the real treasure. Not everyone gets that the best moments are just hanging out, laughing, chatting about everything, and of course, enjoying a cold beer!
BTW: (Talking about that) How is your leg? When you back in "big sport"?
I am a British Somali in uk and I have listened and you are so right people like that are not friends massive love and respect.
@@highburyslocalbadger8130
Respect to you, bro. I appreciate your comment.
Sometimes I have to speak my mind even if I'm not entirely comfortable with what I'm saying. 🙄
Ever felt that way yourself?🙂
You are right. Friends dont exploit eachother.
@@TheAutomaticelagence Thank you for your comment.
You're absolutely right! Friendship is about enjoying time together, laughing, and simply being in each other's company without any sense of ownership or obligation.
Real friends will also understand that everyone has to make a living, including paying taxes, VAT, materials, labor, and living expenses. John should not have spoken on your behalf and made promises to others. Like a plumber, I know about. Girls would ask him for free services and be all flirty and cute to try and use him as their "free plumber." He never heard from them again when he told them to call him on weekdays and set up an appointment during company hours. If the person is Slavic, Italian, or the King of Britain, it doesn't matter. They're not friends, end of discussion.
@@theguynextdoor4978 Thank you so much for your brilliant comment.
However, I still believe that in Eastern European cultures, especially in post-Soviet societies, the concept of friendship is somewhat different. Some of my friends from these regions still hold the belief that being friends comes with a sense of obligation and ownership. It seems like there's an expectation to share responsibilities like bills, VAT, family care, mortgages, and other payments.
That's why I appreciate the simplicity of friendships in Europe and the UK, where the understanding of obligations and ownership is much clearer and less complicated.
Remember only a friend can betray you!
Yeah, it's a deep and painful truth, isn't it? Thanks for your comment - it really got me thinking.
The word "friend" is a societal construct that humans use to make sense of people that are around our level in any given hierarchy. That is all.
Thanks for leaving your comment! I think these days we want "friend" to mean a lot more. We look for deeper connections and really value genuine relationships, not just labeling people based on where they stand in social circles. True friendships are about mutual support, trust, and understanding, not just being at the same level. Don't you think so?😉
@lexdemydov I agree that we "want" more, we romanticise... but ultimately its a fallacy that sets unrealistic expectations and ultimately disappointment. Describing it as hierarchy is sobering, but freeing and more healthy, I have found.
That was a great response to the man on the phone lol
@@pault3705 Thanks so much for your comment, mate!
You're spot on - if someone expects me to sacrifice something important, it's only fair to ask for something in return, right? Honestly, I wasn't trying to take advantage of anyone, just following a simple principle of give-and-take.
Would you do differently?
These experiences are for us to learn about ourselves, I have meany it is painful to look see clearly when in it, however some time passes and we learn from these adventures .
This is all I no, enjoy your adventures.
Gauranga.
Thank you for your comment.
You sbdo6right. Experience is for us to learn...
Love it!
Thank you.
Excellent response.
Thanks for listening. 😃
April 2017 I learned some of my oldest friend's weren't really friend's.
@@lv2465 Hey there!
Thank you for xxx our comment! 😮
😟Any chance you could share a quick story or memory with us? We'd love to hear something from your experiences!
@@lexdemydov In a nutshell. Social media ie Facebook reintroduced me to some old friends I hadn't seen in year's. It was great to catch up at first, so I thought. Unfortunately some of them had changed for the worse, they became false even narcissistic, other's lost their sense of humour. While some now middle aged were the same old sly selves they were in their youth. When Romeo (we'll call him that) was single the dude wanted to hang out but as soon as Romeo got a woman he dropped his pal. Just one bad week in April 2017 opened my eyes and I stopped contact. I feel better for doing so.
Never had a friend or a mum and dad in my life
That sounds really tough. 😟
We're all here to listen and support each other. If you feel comfortable, please share more about your experiences whenever you're ready.🙂 🤗
Getting into a business arrangement with a friend is a bad idea, in my opinion. When you do, you should realise that entering into it runs that risk that your friendship will be harmed, if not destroyed.
You're absolutely right, my friend. Burning bridges by mixing business and friendship is a painful lesson I've learned too. It's a double loss - a failed venture and a shattered connection, something you can't put a price on. It's a reminder to tread carefully and protect those precious friendships. Sometimes, it's better to keep those worlds separate, wouldn't you agree?
"Money and friendship: oil and water" michael corleone godfather 3
Sounds similar to my husband. He had a large van for his gardening business. At the time we attended a church, and lots of people at the church expected him to use his van to take rubbish to the rubbish dump for them for free. He was even asked by the leaders of the church to cut the lawn of some poor family that was severely over grown and the family will pay him. He did the job and the family didn't pay him. He went back to the church leaders to tell them and they didn't seem to want to know. Think they thought he should do it for free.
Thank you so much for your comment! This is a great example! First of all, I want to say that your husband is a great man, and you are an amazing wife for supporting him!
It's important for everyone to respect each other's time and effort, regardless of the context. I hope he finds more appreciation for his hard work in the future. And please don't get me wrong, I do believe that sometimes we should help other people, communities, schools, etc. However, it should come from a genuine desire to help. When people exploit our good intentions for their own benefit, it undermines the essence of true friendship and good relationships.
Your comment is great! Thank you. How regularly do you attend church?
I don’t trust anyone anymore
@@jasonaris5316 Do you mean after watching this video?😁
Or is it the kind of decision you made learning life in the hard way?
@@lexdemydov just something I’ve learned over the years (even people I considered close friends turn on you if things get tough)
@@jasonaris5316 It's always great to hear about others' experiences. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. I really appreciate it!
@@jasonaris5316I have learnt this too over the years, your on your own when it comes to it, and the only person you can really trust is yourself.
At the end of the day, if you know the guy and you can trust him, cash is king!
@@jonathangriffin1120 That's true, but some people genuinely believe that being friends means working for free. Apparently, that's what friendship is all about. It's amazing how many Eastern Europeans still have this ridiculous idea drilled into their brains.
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@@jonathangriffin1120 Do you charge your friends at normal rates?
Or special Friendsonlydisccount?
thank you for this. it all comes down to be able to walk in other peoples shoes and respect. you need to respect peoples time and dedication and pay them as fairly as you would want them to do to you. i have in the past let people take advantage of my kindness. but, not anymore. i grew a backbone and some self love and self respect. and i think doing these kinds of things you describe is a low form of bullying and disrespect. i do not like either. thank you for spreading awareness of this. and you are absolutely right; these people are not your friend and never will be. they just want to use you.
@@the144ooothdarklight
Thank you very much for those fair, true words. Sharing thoughts like yours is invaluable. Sometimes it's hard to admit, but the truth is the truth.
As an artist, I can relate to this lol...
@@TmHudsonArt
Thank you so much for your comment! I totally get what you're talking about since I have a background in drama. The deep friendships between artists can indeed be fascinating, intense, and sometimes hard to believe.
Amazing painting 🎨 🤩... 👏 BRAV0
By the way, I'm planning to include more episodes on my channel as part of my 30-day vlogging challenge, where I'll share my experiences at the Russian Institute of Theatre Arts. Stay tuned!
Hello Lex! Great video as always! I love watching you share your random stories. But I have a question about your past: In one of your videos, you mentioned that you finished university in Russia. What did you study? I’ve been trying to guess, but I can’t figure it out! Was it Finance and Marketing, Law, or Business Management and Administration?
Hello Mate.
Thank you for the comment and good question.
I'll do a spoiler... It was Russian Institute of Theatre Art GITIS, but it was branch on Latvia.
Bthw I'll do a video about that period of my life.
Soon...
Freinds Eh , Who Needs Them
Friends are like Wi-Fi; you don't appreciate them until they're gone...:)))
We all need friends like you.
@charlesponzi9608
Cheers mate.
I still believe there are a lot of good, beautifuland kind people around each of us... Sometimes, we just need to spot them.
i would not do the job at all , you could be too busy to fit them in
Haha,😄😄😄 I appreciate the suggestion! Telling a little white lie might be the easy way out, but I've got this whole thing about honesty. There's actually a video on my channel called "And then my father grabbed the KNIFE..." that explains it all. But I love that you're thinking outside the box!😜
I am your friend, friend.
Me too, Foxy!
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