What to Say to Someone Who is Dying - a New Perspective from the Founder of Death Cafe

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  • Опубликовано: 9 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 58

  • @viwanton
    @viwanton 8 лет назад +66

    You don't need to say anything, just be present and ready to listen.

  • @eb1266
    @eb1266 2 года назад +29

    I didn't like the music in your video. It's too .upbeat for such a sensitive subject

  • @ell1395
    @ell1395 3 года назад +24

    Watching this just before going to see my grandad for the last time, I’m thankful for advice 🥺❤️

    • @erikawhipple
      @erikawhipple 2 года назад

      Same.

    • @luisapaza317
      @luisapaza317 Год назад

      Im now in the way of seeing my dear grandma for the last times 😔. Things are really really hard

  • @kathyabeauty
    @kathyabeauty 8 лет назад +28

    Thanks for bringing up this subject. Most folks are just not prepared to discuss with those in that delicate state between life and death.

  • @MrCanigou
    @MrCanigou 6 лет назад +11

    I would love to have such warm conversation - thank you for airing them !

  • @JaneStanton
    @JaneStanton 2 месяца назад

    I love the idea for a death Cafe. Thank you for the tips on how to be with someone who is dying.

  • @prabhapillay5817
    @prabhapillay5817 3 года назад +12

    How to do it....let them know
    "Its ok to set your self free "..

    • @DeeLite220
      @DeeLite220 2 года назад +1

      Thank you for this ❤

  • @reginabroughton5917
    @reginabroughton5917 4 года назад +19

    Well Corona virus is robbing many of us of our final moments with this quarantine..which is how I got here. searching for strength to endure and cope with not being there for the transitioning.

    • @Heatherlily
      @Heatherlily 4 года назад +2

      Me too, my uncle is in the hospice on end of life where he used to work, we aren't allowed to see him until they think he's definitely gonna pass on that day. I don't want him feeling alone at the very end..

    • @Heatherlily
      @Heatherlily 4 года назад +1

      Hope your okay

    • @auniversalwoman
      @auniversalwoman 4 года назад +3

      We beef to fight fit our right to be with our loved ones in the hospital

    • @auniversalwoman
      @auniversalwoman 4 года назад +3

      For our right, I mean

    • @DeeLite220
      @DeeLite220 2 года назад +1

      I am so sorry. This really is a trauma to you, so please keep an eye on your mental health.

  • @skystruck236
    @skystruck236 2 года назад +2

    I’m about to see my great aunt/god mother tomorrow. She was diagnosed with a rare and terminal brain cancer, she decided to have an emergency surgery otherwise she would have had a few days to live, I’m not sure how much time this surgery has given her, but it’s given her more time. She’s a lively, spunky, fun, and loving woman who was always so strong. We are worried for her husband whose never been without her for over 50 years. I’m incredibly heartbroken something like this happened to her, and for the rest of the family she’s leaving behind. This has been really helpful, as I’m really anxious and unsure of what to say since she is still here…but dying…I’ve only seen family members when they are alive and well then attend their funeral to say goodbye. I’ve never had to say goodbye to someone who is still here with someone I love very much. I know it’s not about me at all, and there are other family members who had more memories and time with her but it’s still been very hard especially without very much support from friends and my immediate family.

  • @prabhapillay5817
    @prabhapillay5817 3 года назад +16

    A feel ..a dying person should be aware of death so that the dying person can connect from inside to the higher authority. Its only the body which dies not Soul.. .

    • @Archas1000
      @Archas1000 3 года назад

      According to God, the soul is the flesh and is the blood so yes the soul dies too

    • @Archas1000
      @Archas1000 3 года назад +1

      Ecclesiastes 9:5 reads, “For the living know that they will die, / but the dead know nothing; / they have no further ...

    • @normanchristie4524
      @normanchristie4524 5 месяцев назад

      Where is your evidence?

  • @tinamcintyre6797
    @tinamcintyre6797 3 года назад +18

    My mum is dying ,she has suffered mental illness for years ,but seems so clear minded at the moment .the hospital says she’s facing delusional episodes ,but she’s there .she’s not feeding but when I feed her she eats , not a lot but I know she’s doing it for me .it’s a very excruciating experience ,but what do you do ...

    • @audriiiiroberts3030
      @audriiiiroberts3030 2 года назад

      Guys I am terrified. My stepdad is in his final days of cancer. The doctors said two weeks and it’s been five days since we found out. Does anyone have any advice for me

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 2 года назад

      @@audriiiiroberts3030 I'm sorry I missed this. I hope your instincts helped you say goodbye. I know mine helped with my mom. I held her hand and sang to her. I later learned that touch and sound are the last things they still recognize.

  • @shannonperry3831
    @shannonperry3831 6 лет назад +13

    It's very hard as the hospital told me I am dying from a poorly heart

    • @onelove750
      @onelove750 5 лет назад +4

      Sending love to you ❤️

    • @michellelohde8729
      @michellelohde8729 5 лет назад +2

      @@onelove750 my uncle is dying of cancer everyone take it hard but i take it hardset he been there for me for everything he live in port pirie i live live in swan reach he have cacer for 4 years it went go but this time it bad they say he wont make to christamas . he best uncle in world we talk on phone every night he loves me and he will watch over me when gone.

  • @MaritMakeupManicure
    @MaritMakeupManicure 8 лет назад +9

    Hm.. deffinitely to be open for conversation -if there still is a possibility to communicate of course..
    and - not to be afraid of feelings and sharing those with the loved one.
    But really after 'all is said' -again -if possible- just beeing there -holding hands -and also I believe to tell the dying person - that it's ok to 'leave' and 'let go' when the time to leave this place is near.
    I was blessed to spend the last 2 weeks with my mom in a hospice home after 3 years of canserfight..
    but - every body's journey is different..

  • @shirleylake7738
    @shirleylake7738 3 года назад +3

    Thank you for the information.

  • @michelleeasterly1985
    @michelleeasterly1985 4 года назад +4

    Thank you for this interview.. I have been to a few death cafes where I live and they are invaluable..so appreciate the movement..just opening the space and being present for the flow..and get out of our own way..divine oneness.

  • @devbachu7072
    @devbachu7072 2 года назад +3

    My mom died on the 5 the February did not know she were dying an died home in my arms so sad

  • @ghopkins7928
    @ghopkins7928 6 лет назад +7

    This is so helpful.

  • @DaddyProvolone
    @DaddyProvolone 5 лет назад +28

    Your intro music is a little too positive... honestly this video is not comforting at all. It seems like you're trying to hard to get views and in doing so you've lost all sensitivity. This is not at all beneficial compared to other videos.

    • @steves9130
      @steves9130 3 года назад +1

      What other videos-can you post a link?
      I would honestly be very interested in seeing them.

    • @KTYewTube
      @KTYewTube 2 года назад +1

      Yeah the intro music was sooo inappropriate. I am dealing with a loved one dying of cancer and when I heard the music I was like wtf. Almost felt like a cruel joke. I'm sure they didn't mean it to sound like that though. The commentary wasn't too bad though.

  • @motherofwands
    @motherofwands 2 года назад +5

    The upbeat music of the intro and interviewer really feel insensitive to the topic, I’m here to help my fathers passing today and I want to listen to get the info but her chipper attitude is wildly off putting to those who would be here in the process of this, valuable info though once I got over my blocks, thank you

  • @guymandude999
    @guymandude999 3 года назад +4

    I'm going to sit with my mum tomorrow. I loaded some Robert Frost up to read for her if she likes.

  • @goofyah153
    @goofyah153 2 года назад

    I like to think that we dont have to be afraid of death. What are we afraid of anyway? That we wont see the upcoming things in the world? The fact is we never could nor will see and experience everything. however it still happens. Life happens. The earth will keep on spinning. The edge of the universe will keep turning and twisting creating new things. So what are we afraid of? losing our integrity? just write a book or just a few pages on who you are, what you think and just upload it to the cloud. As long as we do our best on helping others and feeling well we cant ask for more of a person.

  • @p.palmerpaints
    @p.palmerpaints 4 года назад +2

    Is there a name for a profession for people who talk and help usher living souls to the other side?

  • @zap241
    @zap241 4 года назад +2

    My grandfather is going through same .thing and i dont know how to take care of him 😥

  • @shadowBanned2023
    @shadowBanned2023 Год назад +1

    Great advice from both of you. Thanks

  • @savannahw3373
    @savannahw3373 3 года назад +8

    i’m calling my grandma to say goodbye in a few minutes because of covid

    • @sassysoprano
      @sassysoprano 3 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry 😔

    • @raquelpinheiro6300
      @raquelpinheiro6300 3 года назад +2

      That must have been extremely difficult. I praise your strength. I'm sure it made her feel better to have your support.

    • @chewie1355
      @chewie1355 3 года назад +1

      My friend is dying friend from cancer, so yes it’s hard.

  • @RS-io6vm
    @RS-io6vm 6 лет назад +7

    At what level is it I have to go through to say I'm failing and for you to go on family vacation with the momey

  • @sarahstrong7174
    @sarahstrong7174 Год назад

    We used to have a brilliant death cafe where I live but unfortunately it died with the covid.

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  Год назад

      Hi Sarah. Yes, I think a lot of people benefited from the Death Cafe’s. Perhaps they’re coming back now or. I hope so. Great way to have a conversation about a topic that we try to avoid sometimes. Thanks for sharing.

  • @katie4335
    @katie4335 2 года назад

    can you please pick new music for a subject like the one being explained in this video? IT'S too upbeat and fun.

  • @immerensis222
    @immerensis222 3 года назад +2

    Ye my friends dying rb

  • @robertaj4815
    @robertaj4815 Год назад

    You should start the video with a different music…

  • @r.i.ptechno7403
    @r.i.ptechno7403 2 года назад

    I think it's a bit late now uhm -

  • @upro12
    @upro12 4 года назад +2

    Death cafe...cannibles