Preserving Your Self Worth 💖 in New Relationships✨ by Matthew Hussey
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
- Finding Love: Invest in Yourself First!" 💖✨
Learn the secret to building fulfilling relationships in this captivating video inspired by Matthew Hussey's insights. Discover why it's essential to focus on self-development and maintain a balanced life, even when meeting someone attractive. Find out how prioritizing your needs and setting boundaries can lead to finding the love and respect you deserve. Join us on this empowering journey! 🌟
Credits: "Want More From Someone? DO NOT Chase; Do THIS Instead!" by @thematthewhussey 
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This is honestly very important, and very hard to do
@Alex Alex , why you think it's hard?? ❤
@@walkingbyfaith2885 It’s hard to do, as when you meet said person and your mind and heart feel it’s who you want, and they don’t feel the same, knowing you have to stop perusing the relationship or get hurt more, that is the hard part. The letting go hurts.
@pennylocal5289 My dear heart that's Your mind set , Man's Rejection is GOD'S PROTECTION, YOUR MAN will find YOU , He will pursue you, Protect you, Provide for you, don't overlook the non obvious, It took me over 60 years to Let go and Let God, He was right under my nose for over 25 years, He waited and waited I got married and Divorced, He was still waiting, The Absolute Best Man I've known Ever ❤️ 💙 💖 💜
True 😢
@@pennylocal5289Well said❤
They might not be bad, but they aren’t giving you enough energy! That was my reason!
Maybe you like the bad boys!!
This is so very important to understand.....invest in yourself so much you have the level of confidence to tell them to f*** off..... truly great advice.
Not always they are bad nor need to be so rude with them. Just not a good match so moving on is best for both in long run
It does seem counterintuitive for me to focus on me when all I want to do is focus on them. Thank you for validating that.
Thankfully my daughter took this advice when I told her. She bought her first home at 23, got her degree in dental hygiene and now has 3 businesses. She married to her high school sweetheart but never lost sight of her own dreams...so super proud of her 🙏
(Working on applying my own advice)
This is important for anyone who tends to draw in narcissists
This is the core advice for women! The CORE! Everything we do, or don’t do, must be decided with this in mind.
This advice is for both women and men.
One of the best pieces of advice ever
Listen we standing with or without that leg. This table gonna be set with or without that leg.💯
Exactly!
😂😂😂true though
Best advice I’ve ever heard ! Double down on self investment , so that you are strong in the F%^ department . Hopefully you won’t need to use those funds but it’s good to have the back up .
LOVE THIS ❤, I don't have time for pieces, I'll keep my PEACE 😉
Very very well put!!
Love that quote
@@jocolby1395 💯❤️
This is so true. It’s rare that I meet someone who gives me that excited feeling so when I do I run towards them as opposed to walking and staying in my lane. I must stay in my lane and simply feel them out first over time to assess their level of consistency and investment. I haven’t before and that’s why I’m 38 and completely lonely. It’s time to put me first.
Thank you. Now I realize that it's important that I'm happy in my life. Do things that will make me feel good about myself. Don't waste my time with someone that is not into me. Walk away.
Even if they stay never stop investing in you and moving up!!!! They could abandon you like my ex did. Lesson learned!
One biggest thing most women don’t realize is that a man can be attractive charismatic intelligent and successful, AND he can be emotionally broken, emotionally unavailable, selfish and dishonest all at the same time, they are NOT mutually exclusive. Always prioritizing emotional availability over amazing traits and work on all your other legs regardless if that guy pans out or not. Your self love must always be greater than your need to be loved by others. ❤
Also don't think women are the only ones to deal with this from men... Men are also hearing this type of healthy message regarding women 💜 we're all doing our bloody best.
It is amessage that says this: Give what you want to recieve, you have a better chance of getting it back!
this is very important. i started dating my best friends sister (she asked me out) and i was taken a back because i didn’t think someone so beautiful would go for me when i wasn’t at my best. needless to say i had to break it off because i soon realised although she was beautiful she wasn’t going to be bringing much into my life and that wasn’t enough. it’s better to walk away than stay for the wrong reasons, as difficult as it can be
That felt like fatherly wisdom for his daughter. Thank you ❤
Cheers🎉
I ❤ this mindset, applicable to a woman or a man. Thank you Matthew! We needed to hear this.
Hardest thing for me to do is just walk away. I feel emotions so deeply and become so attached to the love I feel for people. It’s so hard choosing myself even though I do have an F you mentality. I love myself but choosing myself is such a difficult thing for me 😭
I relate 😢
As a man just ending a 10yr relationship, prior to that was in a 23 yr relationship. Im now 53 years young, & this is a lesson I wish I had learned in my 23 yr relationship and carried it on to the next one. Nothing is more important than self worth. Speaking from experience here.😉
Glad you learned this and wish you the best in the future!
Great Scott, you've got it! See what I did there? I wish I could have loved myself more in the past, but I do now, and that's most important!! The now is all we have❤😊
And all I ever asked for you was please sit down and communicate and let me know the truth because I firmly believe you did not know what was going on, and you did not really do this, but you wouldn’t give me that time I asked you over a year
Basically the best advice ive ever heard when it comes to dating
Bro, thanks for helping me put the peaces back together in my life and transforming into who i am, ongoing progress ❤
Was in a very dark place in a one-way relationship, am now single and ready to move on as I tried to do this with my ex fiance. I should have walked a long time ago because they never saw me. As you once said, "My wants and needs aren't being met, and your reasons as to why that is, dosent matter."
You have literally given me the tools needed to change my life for the better. Thank you 😊❤
Now it's time to work on that F U confidence and get back in the dating game at the age of 36. Thought she was the one. Sad because she is such a beautiful person. I hope she can heal as a DA
Give what you want to receive.Chances are better you will get it back!
Unfortunately, not in my case. So I hit the road!❤
You are right! I want the best for me. Go for the gold- in the relationship
Thank you. I'm crying my eyes out. I don't have confidence. I was ok for awhile, laughing I had joy. It's gone. One day I'll be there.❤❤❤❤❤❤
What I understand when it comes to relationship is that, there's no perfection but you have to work it out and try to maintain it
You give the BEST relationship and dating advice I’ve ever heard. I’m all ears & listening to you. Thank you, Matthew!
Appreciate that. Stay subbed👍🏼
This is gold!
Just love this message because it's taken me ..well a good part of 60 years give or take few years of childhood to realise this .
Yup, I know what you mean.
You are not alone. 👍😎 🕊️ ❤
I agree been physically attracted to someone is great BUT for me personality is the most important thing. Also, think about this scenario. You have a date, you feel you are totally NOT attracted to him or her but his or her personality & values are amazing then give that person a chance. Have another date, see if that person grows on you. Trust me, Looks fade, character doesn't. We live in a materialist & plastic world, "Everything will be ok if I have botox, sparkly over the top white teeth, a facelift or if I stay skinny & I have big tits"....More to life than that. Apart from looks, there are some cultures, people who would not entertain having a relationship with someone who didn't want children, what if both people wanted children then found out when they were married one of them couldn't have children? Do you divorce? You could be with the most beautiful person in the world but that person has an accident & is disfigured what then? Ok ok maybe this sounds slightly doom & gloom but I think people put too many restrictions or rules in their path when at the end of the day nobody knows what life has in store for us. Life can change in the click of a finger, it's happened to me. Be Real, Be Realistic & Be Happy with who YOU are❤❤
Well said. ❤
I'm finding not many are as accepting of single mothers as they claim to be.
YES! I was in a car accident,
hit by two cars and now not
desirable. It is hard.
@@millafin9469 Then I feel for you. You understand so well what I wrote and thank you for reading it, I appreciate it. You are amazing to get through that. I hope you are at a point in your life where you have accepted what happened & are at peace with it. They say, "There's someone for everyone" I believe that, please try to believe it too. Love & hugs to you XxX
@@millafin9469i feel you. After 3 falls and a fracture , i don't look physically attractive anymore. It is tough. But I learnt the hard way that you need to love and accept the new you . And people will be attracted to you eventually. This happened to me. Today I give a f** to those who look at me coz I am confident in who I am. People do treat me well and kindly. Like Matt said, keep investing in yourself and love yourself. Took me a couple of years to be that person.❤❤🎉
I invest in myself all the time. Focus on all aspects of my life, professional and personal. To be the best version of me for myself and my child. That is the person I want to be for my long term partner.
I used to think supporting and being there for someone else was the right thing to do.. which it is but I always forgot about myself and my needs till it was too late. They got used to me being there and doing all for them and didn't get even love back.. I woke up now
That's exactly what i did. Focused on myself while with him, kept growing and expanding my business.
His other side started showing up, but by then i was much more established so i was bold and courageous to tell him he's crossed my boundaries too too much and tell him I'm done with him.
He couldn't believe it.😮
,,,, and i never turned back.
It's unfortunate that when some men financially invest in a woman they think they that gives them the license to talk and treat her anyhow. NO, NO, it doesn't work that way!!
When she walks out, who looses?
You are the loving energy beating nu heart . I love you nattthew
Yes you have to have something esle than love for somebody
Thank you for sharing!
I agree 👍
This is the realest talk ive ever heard in my life
So true. It took many tears of mistakes to learn this but it’s the only way. I know from experience it’s hard but you’ve got to keep your life together. When your lying with her in bed at 2.00 in the morning, it’s bloody hard to separate yourself from her, keeping your life together achieving in your life, but you’ve got to do it.
Defo willing willing walk away when things aren't what aligns with u is what ensures u do align and achieve wbays right for you eventually
Advice I really needed to hear tonight ❤
If they are not giving you enough energy I agree keep moving on, look the other way. Keep moving forward and find someone who you gave that mental chemistry as well as the physical chemistry. 😀
Good! AMAZING!
NCELY PUT.
Where I am now.
Dropped a guy I was extremely interested in because his enthusiasm wasn’t whole hearted. His energy dropped and it got very awkward at the same time too.
I wasn’t mad at him, I was disappointed in both of us because I KNEW he was 💯 percent a waste of my time and I knew it BEFORE that occurred. 🎯
It was so difficult, but I was forced to cut him off. Don't do like i did and keep pointing out to them the ways they're mistreating you. It has just made the agony worse. They KNOW exactly what they're doing. It was a huge waste of my time. Please love yourself more.
This is powerful!
Hallelujah I am over it!
good advice - thoughts out to people who learned this the hard way
You are the one making him special .
I love this thank you!
This is so important!
This is very, very good advice! It's not being selfish to do this, it's being wise, and valuing yourself.
Attractive does not always mean physical . At first they may not look impressive. But they have great personality which makes them attractive. So don't be fooled by looks. Personality is more important and keep learning new things in life, investing in personal development, finances, watever brings the best version of you as well.
💯💯💯 learnt this lesson the hard way
Needed to hear this, too spot on
This is true thank you for wise words
Literally the best advice I've ever heard. ❤️
❤ Great advice, thanks
❤The best advice that I needed to hear today. Thanks so much. An eye opener....
This guy is so amazing at so many levels
So very right on point
you are spot on
Best piece to advice .....😮
I wish I had gotten this advice 18 years ago.
Thank you so much. Really needed to hear. I've been doubting my self worth so much these days.
This is true dont fall for someone just because they may have the qualities. Fall for someone who wants to SHARE those qualities WITH YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE
Needed to hear this !! ❤
I fell in love with this beautiful woman at work, and she showed interest first in me, which obviously made me like her more. Then we started going out on dates and after I told her I was very interested in her, she told me that she can’t offer me a relationship. We tried the friend route (I figured if she got to know me, she’d see how great we could be) but even in a friendship setting, she wouldn’t invest much energy. I took her to Chicago (to show her where I came from) but I saw the imbalance in this relationship and had to say to myself “you can’t keep hoping that she will love you” so I ghosted her. She will text me here and there but I don’t reply.
Great message!
I like this analogy
Was just in this. He gave me all the right signs and I took down my walls, told him I liked him and wanted to spend more time to get to know him. He couldn’t give me any predictability at all, didn’t show interest traveling down to be with me when he had time even tho I would do it for him. He has some issues he has to work out and I sat expectations which he couldn’t handle. I hate it, it hurts showing myself so vulnerable, and he isn’t a bad guy at all, he just have bad problems that scares him from moving it forward in a way I need it to (safety and predictability)
You are amazing -
Thanks 🙏🏻 just what I needed today
I've watched dozens of your videos and this might be the best one.
Thank you exactly 💯 percent right! We are different but we deserve the best from a partner. If they don't bring you love F them and keep moving forward!
I need to hear and remember this
Thank you very much for your advise. Yes I can’t keep going. I’m done.🙏
You are so smart!
THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS . ♥️
So right.
Invest in the 3 other legs of the table, so if even the 4th one doesn't add up finally, the table does not fall.
Well said ❤
Love, love this to remind me that I’m worthy - Thank you
GOD BLESS ALWAYS...
AMEN 🙏 🙏.. .
Thanks Matthew!
I forgot all about that for a while. 🤔Ooooops.
My dining table does need another leg!
My guy wants to give me all the affection and energy he can, but his complacated mental health makes doing so difficult. I'm still living life in a way thats best for me, but I'm not going to leave him behind simply because hes sometimes to depressed or anxious to interact sometimes.
Some might argure that it could just be an excuse, but I knownhim well enought to know thats not the case. Hes the most genuine, thoughtful, caring man I've ever met and a breath of fresh are compared to my narcissistic sire.
Thank you brother
💓 thank you Mathew Hussey
Yes you right sir Matthew Hussey I believe what you advice
Love this ❤️
Very good message. Absolutely true! Thank you for sharing.
Love the work you’re doing for men and women
It’s exactly what I need it to hear thank YOU for the advice.
Matthew,
You are amazing , as always
💕 Thank You for your honest advice. ❤ Greatly appreciated
Just love your advice. I does always invest. But I don't get enough energy from them. They don't treat me well and it's not enough. Lord please help me to remain calm. I'm always smiling outside but crying inside.😂😂😂
YES! YES! YES!
The more energy you give yourself, the more energy people will be willing to give you. Seems weird but it really does work, I've had irrefutable proof of that.
Yess 💯🎯🙌🏼🔥
Excellent advice 💋🌹
This is so important to make part of my DNA...thank you M.H.
Exact wprds I needed to hear tbh
Wow Gods timing is perfect.
Thank you ❤
Wow! Powerful message, thank you ❤
Love this
Thank you. ABSOLUTELY TRUE.