@@jinjinldn2163 a hit dog hollers ...if the video does not apply to you ....please move on .... I'm not sure where you see a cult...but maybe you into something we don't care to know about.. ok...keep it moving...
I’m a guy and I believe too that online dating is GARBAGE. It causes you to treat other people as disposable. If you don’t like this particular person that you met of a dating app, you can just ghost them & swipe right on someone else. It’s insane…
why do people use the word discernment???? If you can't even get to know a person in person how do you get to know a person on line???? If you feel it is ok to do on line dating then this video is NOT for you .. now that would be discernment....
Exactly! We found dating coaches online does that mean they are faulty cause we found them on RUclips? I’ve seen women in my family and elsewhere be scammed from a man in person. In a nutshell the dating scene is trash and just wait for what God has for you, whether he is in the US, UK or Trinidad.
It's hard to accept, but ladies every one will not have a husband. It's NOT a reflection of you, it just the society we live in. Please don't be desperate. It's OK to be alone. It's very, very hard to accept, but you can have joyful life. God is good anyhow.
"Casually" is the operative word and I agree! Interact and operate sensibly and responsibly in the realm of online dating. Maintain your standards and have well established boundaries!
@@tracymiller6965 lol...yes, "desperate" is definitely a strong word! Not every woman who uses online dating is "desperate" and not every man on there views her as such.
@B Real When you realise that this happens in real life too, then you have to re-evaluate how much you want to be married with children because that man will bring you pain one way or another and can you handle that pain. I know women who cheated on their husbands because they were unhappy...because the married life they got wasn't what they signed up for. My marriage wasn't what I signed up for. It was abuse. The first and last time he physically assaulted me I left. I didn't have the strength to stay and "work it out" as many Christians tell women who have been abused and cheated on to do. Mentally I prepared for cheating but I never had the capacity to tolerate abuse. It broke me mentally and I nearly died because I stopped eating for 3 months after I left him. My beef with God is now: please don't send any more men my way. All they have ever done in my life is hurt me psychologically and physically. I'm one of the few women who have never been raped. There has been sexual assault but it didn't traumatise me.
@@trendiione8810 absolutely I use to get mad at God because I felt like he had me hidden and isolated now I understand that Gems are hidden , oil is hidden, anything precious is hidden and you have to dig to find it. That made me be ok with being hidden. God’s best isn’t seen with the natural eye, only the spiritual in tune can locate us.
It’s honestly so sad that this is what it came too. Mostly because most men today are not looking for wives! That’s why it’s so many single women. It shouldn’t be this hard to find pure love. The dating scene today is just a mess.
They aren’t and it’s sad! There’s no reason men shouldn’t want to but it’s the responsibility of having to be the man and “commit”. It’s sickening and super discouraging even though I want to married. They get everything for free and the women who don’t know there worth play as many games as they do. I also think the online dating is a generational thing to.
LADIES PLEASE LISTEN ! Anytime a grown MAN that's not your son ask you for some money BLOCK & DELETE! 🚨🚨🚨🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Like what more do y'all need to understand? Run sis!
Most of these men on these sites have been socially excluded due to their lack of social skills and any creep factor they possess. It’s literally a cesspool. Lowest of the low and most of them use it as a “black book” for men to easily find dates whenever they are bored or need someone to go with to an event etc. AND, because they’ve “dated” so much, they have become experts at planning dates, asking for dates, being “romantic”. They’ve become “professional daters” and are not interested in anything serious. 🤡 Stay Away Ladies!
It's true. I'm a professional dater. I literally have zero intention of having sex with these men, getting into relationships with them or becoming their friends. I just go on dates because my friends and family are either busy or broke. Lol! Literally, someone to go to the movies or a new restaurant with or a show. I don't have the capacity to tolerate letting men into my life where they can do damage.
@@panthergod it has to go that way. End of natural society and implementation the Matrix. Children will now be born and raised in a test tube because men and women can no longer form stable heterosexual relationships. MGTOW and WGTOW is the only way forward. Women in their twenties either want to sleep around or not sleep around. Men in their twenties will always sleep around but don't want women who sleep around and they don't meet the criteria for virgin church girls. The only people popping out babies are trauma bonded and dysfunctional hetero men and hetero women. Once into the single parent lifestyle, the chances of them living a long and prosperous life is limited.
I don't do online dating because people have a shopping cart mentality. They are out here talking to lots of people, but once they head to the checkout, they put you back on the shelf and purchase another item instead.
I have tried online dating and the guys I meet on there were either narcissistic or grown boys or just want a one night stand. Yeah no thank you!! I agree with your message, Tony. It’s no longer my cup of tea.
Please listen to Tony yall. I have a male cousin who met his wife online but like Tony said, he is a different kind if man. He’s basically a nerd but he’s a really good man. His wife is just like him and they fit. However, I dated online for a few months and met nothing but dogs. Out of all the men I met, I met one good one who brought me gifts in the beginning but he lived in another state. Ultimately, he just stopped reaching out and I never heard from him again. After that, I knew online dating was not worth my time. Tony telling the Gods honest truth.
@@moniqueliles3191 I meet men everywhere but no their not all relationship material. The last three I met all had various situations. One was literally married, the other was kind of girly and lazy and the last one was actually very nice and relationship material but just getting out of a relationship and not ready.
I heard a pastor say once that if he was a woman was looking to meet men he'd go to homedepot and other hardware stores regularly. He never lied, I went on a Saturday morning & it was raining hard working men the whole time I was shopping for 💡s. There are so many other ways to meet ppl..
Wholeheartedly agree. If it is God's will for us, it'll happen. I am so exhausted by all of the foolery at this point. My peace and sanity are optimal and priority.
One thing I’ve learned in dating is this: whether you meet someone online or in person they can still be all the things we aren’t looking for. It’s up to the actual person to truly be who they say they are. Crime against women are committed all the time unfortunately, whether or not they met online isn’t even a factor anymore. Crazy is everywhere smh
NephewTony you have never lied. It is very dangerous. My niece met someone online dating. When she tried to break up with him , he killed her and then killed himself. It is very sad. She was a single mother of two daughters. God bless you ladies out there, be safe. God bless you NephewTony for all that you do, to warn women of all the dangers. SDG
I dated on online first guy had BM issues, I fell for the " she won't let me see my child" line. For three yrs shamefully he kept running back and forth between the two of us. That was two years ago. A year after him I tried it again met a younger guy, and it was an on and off circus. Mainly bc when I would leave him alone he would say his apologies by mouth but not changed behavior. He couldn't get the basics of a relationship communication, quality time, and affection....I was constantly begging for the basics of getting to know one another and he just didn't want to oblige. I was informed by another male he probably was already in a relationship and he wanted a side piece. Yea online dating is not for the weak.
@@NC-jl4tn he said he was from north Carolina, but he lived in Baltimore the majority of his adult life I believe....he was 33yrs of age....I thought a country boy would be a delight, I was wrong...lol
you deserved everything you got trying to be a side piece. no sympathy this shouldn't have went on longer than 6 months. if he can't do the bare minimum in that time u wasting time
@@P03ticJustice lol, ewwwww that's cringy coming on a social sight to verbally attack someone you don't know. I gave you crib notes no real details, not looking for sympathy but you a little more upset than needed ma'am. This is probably why your single, ohhhh your single...lol. I may have a bad picker your nuts....lol
@@omozeidehenre239 no one on this post said anything negative about online dating. Although rare. People can hide an agenda for months and you not truly know who they are. Hell parents even say they didn't believe their serial killer kids could do the things the police said they did. Ask the wives and children of seemingly loving husband's who kill them just bc they want to be with a mistress or whatever the reason. Being in a relationship with anyone is a risk I was just telling my story....
I’ve decided against this also with all the crime against women and some missing after years and months! Social media/online is the narc’s playground since it allows your moves to be studied and they can adjust their approach. Get out if you must, travel, etc.
My advice is you can't handle online dating, you need to get your helmet before you travel and go out. I met my abusive husband in person and he was able to keep his mask covered for 6 years. To everyone, including 5 different priests, he seemed ok. He was not. He was a special kind...possible sociopath/psychopath. Incredibly subtle. Mostly good behaviour but his bad behaviour was life-threateningly destructive! Ask yourself why you want to be married so badly. It's usually down to trauma.
@@marleyhill34 I’m sorry that happened to you, but the proof is in the comments, online dating is a no go. Yes, you’ll meet jerks in person but way easier to vet.
I'm 53, very involved in church, volunteer with the kids, food pantries, I go out dancing, workout, working on my life coach business and I have not met anyone who have a humble servant heart as I feel I have become. So yes, I am thinking of on line dating but will invite the Lord into it but in all honesty I do not want to meet my husband online but to see me in person. And I believe that is what most women want. I think this video, the timing of it, answers my questions and thoughts of my decision. Thank you Tony!
Where do you meet new people? I know people who have met con artist men in church and been engaged and right before the wedding had their bank account cleaned out.
I know young women in my church in their 30’s who dated online. They got engaged then got let down. Men can sense desperation. Learn to be okay with yourself.
@@omozeidehenre239 Do you meet a lot of men during your daily activities? If so, how? That has been my approach primarily but I don't meet many people this way.
It’s crazy because there is so much pressure in today’s society for women. Every time I went to a get together with friends or went to family functions they would ask about my dating life. Always asking why I was single as if something was wrong with me.Then immediately everyone would suggest I get online to meet someone. Every single get together I would experience this. Online dating always felt gross to me but after so much peer pressure I finally gave in. I immediately regretted it. Listen to Tony, its just not worth it ladies. Stay single until your god ordained spouse makes himself known to you.
Have you asked your family and friends to stop pressing you about your love life? I don't care how close a person may be to his/her family, dating life is a very private thing. I don't like that, sis I am sure it makes you feel like crap when they do it and it's very uncomfortable. Try to set boundaries with them and if they can't stop asking you about it fall back on going around them. Folks a mess.
@@chellej.1592 I stopped going to family functions and cut back my circle of friends. Too much mess and drama all around disturbing my inner peace. Not anymore. Nope. No thanks
So the Holy Spirit nudged me that online dating would be fruitless for me earlier this week/end of last week. Then this video came up on my recommendations as confirmation. Deleted my match and upward profiles yesterday . Went to my sons homecoming football game tonight ( we live in a predominantly white area) and a tall black father of one of the kids that plays on the team whom I've never seen before came up to me and talked to me the whole game . Now I'm not saying he's my husband or even future romanctic interest but it is interesting that when I shut down the foolishness I remember that I am very much capable of attracting men in public
Online dating just isn’t safe not just financially but your playing with your life. This lady I worked with meant a guy online and he robbed and killed her on the 1st date. My homegirl meant her now baby daddy online and after finding out she was pregnant she found out he had a 60 something year old wife that had paid to bring him to this country and that he had emptied this lady bank account.
I've always felt like online dating definitely gave desperate vibes. Women/men have to get on and practically sell yourself or tell why they should pick you. It's pretty much like putting yourself on display and hoping someone picks you.
Soooooo, THIS was my first official video of listening to Tony, and I thought it would be my last. I was MAD at Tony and wanted to give him a piece of my mind. But at the time, I had met a guy online and thought he was the “One.” I gave the video a good listen and although I was still angry, I kept what he said in my back pocket. Turns out, the guy was NOT it. I thank God for your brotherly advice, Tony. You don’t have to do it. But you do. And we appreciate you for it! ✨
Outstanding advice! I know a woman in her 60s that got involved with a man online. She really believed that this man loved her. He was a scammer/money launderer. The woman was sending him money. Her grown kids tried to tell her the truth about this man, but she ignored their advice. The kids had to get their local sheriff involved and there is an investigation going on. The woman is now not speaking to her kids; she believes everything the scammer is telling her. It's major drama. Too many lonely women can easily get sucked into these online scams. Thank you so much, Mr. Gaskins, for all the timely advice you present. Everyone of all ages (especially older women) would benefit greatly from all your content. We all need more raw truth! God bless you and your family!
So glad I didn't get caught up in online dating. I was on a site for about two weeks and saw one guy there that I know is married and another I had previously dated pretending to be 38 (he's 55). I was done with that whole scene.
I clutched my pearls when Tony said, “Men see women who date online as desperate “. Men who date online are lazy or looking for. Something casual I agree. I’ve tried it three times and all three guys were playing games. One of them Dated myself and another young lady and turns out we were all going to the same church! I’m starting to think Tony’s right it’s like a needle in a haystack. The men are getting to play more games.
It can be hard enough meeting someone in real life. Getting to know them trying to feel them out ,vet them to see if they would be husband material. As Tony G says a real man who is actually looking for a real woman will take the effort to meet her in real life.
WOW Tony’s messages always come right on time! His last couple of videos literally fit exactly what I just experienced!!!! I tried online dating because of this pandemic and I met all types of spirits! Don’t want to be found washed up or get caught up out here… it’s NOT safe!!! I am going to just lay low for now! Thank you once again ❤️
@@lovelyladyleo9205 Exactly! I got tired of waiting for the pandemic to end and jumped out there and almost got caught up with an extremely seductive man who knew how to use the Bible! I swear they listen to Tony and uses it to their advantage! It’s a lot of these type of characters online. WE have to be safe and protect ourselves❤️
I online date but I don’t do it with any expectations just to pass time but I’ve met some great guys but I agree it’s easy for people to get scammed if they’re looking for love.
These men “prey” on older women. These women seem more desperate based on their experience. It’s the wolf that preys on the lone sheep. What you saying is true Tony.
@@missj5564 Sometimes the age is vulnerability. I've been married so I'm not desperate to go down that road again. I've never been a mother so men use that against me to try to entrap me. Promising children and that they can be a good provider. I've been to therapy and I'm currently in therapy. Being a good father and a good husband takes more than being a sperm donor, being able to put a ring on it and being able to provide financially. My father was a fantastic provider. He never married my mother and he was an abusive alcoholic parent.
As a personal banker, it reminded me of a sad older woman who’d send thousands of dollars to a man in a different country whom she never met. It was so sad, and I kept asking her questions to determine if she’s in a sound mind (obviously not). Every time I filed a report about the unusual activity/potential elder abuse, and haven’t seen her since. I only hope she’s okay. 🙁
I'm not going to totally dismiss online dating. I know people who have found their wife/husband through online dating. It's just another outlet in order to meet new people. Most people are probably going that route because of the pandemic. I personally prefer meeting people the old school way. I just think whether you first met online or in person, just be careful. Be safe.
I've told God don't send any more men my way. That's my beef with God. My husband turned out to be abusive despite the praying and laying on of hands-on him, me and the marriage. I have other things I want to do in my life and I don't want to spend time on men anymore. Trying to date men with marriage in mind is not only exhausting for me, but it also takes away from my time spent doing more productive things and God-serving things.
Agree. I don’t agree with the absolute notion that online dating is completely bad. I think it can be unhealthy if used the wrong way. I know plenty of happy couples who met online, so it can work. I think it becomes a problem when it begins to mess with people’s self esteem and when it starts becoming physically draining to use. If it’s just used as another way to meet people, I think it’s fine.
@@80sports20 Never look at other couples and assume they are happy you really don’t know what they put up with and if you would be willing to do the same.
@@la6136 In the same vein, never look at couples and assume they are unhappy either. You really don't know what they are going through. Bottom line is, "don't assume" either way
I am laughing right now, I was just thinking about starting an online profile (like 5 minutes ago) because so many people say the times call for new technologies to be used to meet people. So timely. I really do not feel good about online dating and I am 51. Thank you Tony☺
I’m 51 also and I’ve had a two year relationship with a guy off of an online dating app. I knew I did not want marriage with this particular person and ended up breaking it off for that reason and a couple of other reasons. I’ve recently met another gentleman online and we’ve been having a great time for two months and he wants marriage I’m not sure if I want marriage or not but we’re having a great time and we respect each other and he’s a good guy. Just because you meet someone online does not mean that you are meeting the devil. You can meet the devil or a man that will take it advantage of you at the grocery store and you dang sure can meet a devil of a man on the church grounds. I like Tony but do not let anyone sway you from finding the person for you whether it’s online or whether it’s at the mall.
Online dating for people is all about instant gratification. It’s not about building something real. It will feel real to YOU, while he is dating and talking to tons of other women because they are always looking for the “next best thing” It’s all about physical looks and it’s not real life.
I was talking on and off with a guy for a few months. He was a decent looking guy with a great personality so I knew he was talking to other women for sure lol. Got back in contact with him bc I really liked him and he told me he’s trying to get serious with one girl he met online. I saw her and was shocked, he wasn’t into looks at all just personality. I projected my insecurities on him and feel like I missed out on a really great guy 😭 I pray God brings him back into my life somehow
@@smiles9599 thanks but me and the guy started talking again, he’s no longer with the other girl and I’m sure we’ll be together together any moment now
I was on WhatsApp and this guy I was talking to for a month or so said “he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I am his soulmate “ 😂 mind you I never met him . He was long distance and once he said that I stop talking to him and deleted the app .Got to go 🏃
I have been to four dates with Nigerian men. I wonder why among ALL FOUR of them, suddenly in the middle of the first date, they receive a call from someone asking them for money, like making a big payment 🤔 and they be there saying "Yes yes, I'll transfer to you one hundred thousand, yes, tonight..." pretending that they're big shots, and then at the end these men confess that they're very broke that their "multi million dollar company" suddenly went bankrupt. I wonder why, ALL FOUR OF THEM. So when the second guy did it, I said, "Hold up, this sounds familiar..." then when the third guy did the same, I was dying inside with laughter. But when the fourth one did it, I ended the date really quickly. So far I haven't dated a Nigerian since.
Thank you for confirming my feelings about online dating. To me it is hard to make an assessment of a person’s character or even chemistry over the internet. I dated two men I met unintentionally on social media and both were nightmares to get rid of.
Please don't stop sharing this particular message Tony. There is a new woman that joins the blessed tribe every day and may not know this but it's important! Stop online dating!
He is telling the truth. Please create your own site so we wont be scammed. I got off that mess a year ag I could read through the false perceptions that was put out All Lies. Thank you Tony.
The same men you meet online dating are the same men you can meet at Target. Please remember that. If your discernment isn't on point, don't date PERIOD! I don't recommend online dating. Most men are on there to vet women to increase their roster 🤷🏾♀️
That’s where y’all go wrong by thinking that. A man who will approach you at Target doesn’t do online dating, and the man who does online dating doesn’t approach women at Target. Targets are everywhere. So if a man has the courage to approach women at Target, he literally can go pick up an item everyday. What I’m trying to tell y’all is that it’s a DIFFERENT type of man all together who is doing online. Both can turn out bad, but the man online got on there with the wrong intentions to begin with. But yes, discernment is necessary in both cases, but it’s two totally different type of men.
@@TonyGaskins true...all the men I know who date online wouldn't talk to a woman in person if you'd paid them! One guy told me "it's not socially acceptable to do that". 😒
Just don’t do online dating. Realized he was fresh out of a relationship and still stuck on a woman who ghosted him after I caught him in a lie. I had to trip him up w questions. Also he is extremely emotional abusive. Blocked me after an argument and said “He’ll reach out in two weeks. He’ll respect if I reply or not”. He ain’t getting nothing but radio silence from me.
I usually open the first date with onliners with, ‘where do you see yourself in a year’. If a committed relationship or marriage isn’t on the cards I’m out. It also scares off the players. Overall though, online dating is depressing. Tony is right, finding a good man there is highly improbable.
I completely agree that it is not normal. With Covid & being in the hospital for 4 months I was just curious and right when I was going to delete everything I met my boyfriend and we have been together for 6 months. He’s given me a promise ring and we have talked about the future. 🧿❤️ I completely understand the turmoil when it comes to online dating though. I wasted so much energy and time on guys. You have to be careful and remember to make yourself priority always!
I think social media should be included in this conversation as well...A lot of predators are using social media as an online dating platform too and it is just as bad...Meet your man in person, you still need to carefully vet them but ANY type of online introductions should be avoided imo...
“You cannot tell me that you are going to meet a man online, and you’re going to talk to man hours on end, and you’re gonna fall in love with this man, and then when he ask you for $500 to help his sick mom, you cannot tell me you’re gonna say no.” TG
Thank you for this video Tony. I was thinking about doing online dating again. Because I am a single mom and it's very hard for me to really go out and go anywhere all I do is mostly work from home and go to the store and come back home and spend time with my son. My sister met her husband online I think that day she was blessed. And I do feel when your due date regardless of his online or offline. I had met a couple online but they mostly like bread crumbling or want situationships. I will prefer to meet my future husband offline. I am just waiting on God to send him at this point.
I'm 37 and I've tried online dating. I have met some really decent guys and I've met some real a**holes as well, and that's life and it's going to happen on or offline. Although I don't believe it's abnormal ( because we are living in and among the tech generation) I do agree that it's not for everyone. You absolutely must have a very polished sense of decernment and a standard of operation as to how you want things to develop. Be whole and healed before you delve into that mode of dating... and it should not be your only mode for dating! There are decent and well-meaning men and women online and there are also shiftless no-accounts on there too, it's up to you to use your common sense and intuition to sift through the nonsense. Above all, be safe...if it doesn't feel right, it's probably not right!
Never felt like I could do online dating even though some people have successfully acquired what they wanted with the tool. I just personally don’t trust it. Never, ever even considered it. I actually met a man who uses online dating as his playground. He literally told me this. 🤔😏
Confirmation 💯💯💯 people have been trying to pressure me into online dating and it doesn't feel natural to me. I was beginning to think I had to bc a lot of my girlfriends are saying it's the new way and only way. Still it just did not seem natural or organic so I prayed to God about this and boom this video popped up. Stay connected to God at all times and He'll always show the way and give you answers. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
It took me a minute to be honest enough with myself to realize online dating is all a game you're telling the absolute truth I hope women really listen
Well I guess the people I know are all mega millionaires 😂. Because I know a lot of people who have great spouses they met online. However, most of them didn’t realize how not so close they were from meeting their spouses because they had a lot of mutual connections they didn’t realize they had until they met. One of my cousin l actually met his wife online and they went to the same church and didn’t know it. They never crossed paths because it was a big church. They went to different services and kept just missing each other. Lol Soooo I’m not saying don’t do it God can use any avenue to lead you to the right person.
Thank you for this! Online dating is not something I'm interested in even though people try to get me to do it! Hoping to meet that special someone organically.
I agree with you Tony. I’m 26 and I did online dating 2 years ago the man I met there made me go to therapy to heal from his abuse. My friend who’s my age did online dating too and got scammed of money. Online dating is a no go for me. I’ll rather be single at this point.
Hey Tony, I never had the desire to do Online Dating because of ALL the horrible stories That I've heard personally. SMH. Just got to get myself more out there and continue to have faith. Thank you again Tony for these real lessons, Been off my back for six years and NO regerets!
Men don’t need anyone to tell them they should make plans in advance. If he didn’t then I accept he isn’t that into me and I move on. I don’t spent time trying to teach a man to to treat me. He knows!
I'm over 60! But absolutely not desperate. Never, praise God online dated! But your instructions give all the details necessary. Before I thought it was ridiculous for a Christian man to be dating online when there is a multitude of women in their churches, jobs, community etc. Somethings wrong with this. "Lions snacking on gizelles." Right Tony.... WISDOM!!! DO NOT ONLINE DATE!! Oh, and at this season of my life meeting multiple excellent prospects, I chose which one....
Hey Tony, Why do you think women aren’t having luck in real life? This would be a great video! What is leading women to go to online dating that they aren’t having luck in dating in real life?
My guess would be the pandemic definitely started a new wave of online dating because people were bored/lonely couldn’t meet in person. I’ve never dated online until last year because a friend suggested it was the best way to still get to know someone during the pandemic. I tried it but stuck to the “elite” dating sites were you have to pay etc. Still a mess! Other people have social anxiety and prefer to do it behind a screen for comfort. So many reasons I would think. Also people just looking to hook up will go online.
I think it’s all the hate mongering men are doing online about women and vs versa..it’s carrying over into the real world! Just look at the views a lot of these men are getting from negatively talking about women..like whew! It’s a real war so please be careful when dating and rejecting them, women are coming up missing or hurt!
its not about luck unless you line up with God and his word, most women are settling for triangulation, baby mama drama, abuse n neglect..i know 3 women married to narcs and they are miserable!! one of them , her husband asked her for a divorce 4 days after she was discharged from the hospital they have 3 kids
Guess am desperate ! I qualify 54. I meet guys all the time organically and it’s not all that great either. So I just signed up and got date this Saturday. We’ll see what happens.
Online dating is not something to take lightly which is why you should have a plan. I text a couple time then I talk on the phone and go to FaceTime. After that we meet within a week. If we don’t meet within a week they get cut. I don’t play!
Wise woman. I've run into situations where I had 2 be the one to initiate all that. All of guys on these apps are cool with just being " text penpals". I'm not here for that shit.
Tony you forgot to add crazy to the list. I tried online dating and it was totally not for me. I know a couple people who have gotten married and been in longterm relationships from online matches, but then they complain all the time 🤷🏽♀️
"Its unfortunate for the women whose going to change their "basic concept of reality to falsehood. "The question is how long is too long for you to live a life of deceitfulness at the hands of scammer. "If I don't learn from my mistakes I will continue to show up for the "con-man. "I was married to someone for 5 1|2 years, who was a "con-man. The "sole purpose for his agenda was to galvanize on the vulnerable women. After more than thirty one years of divorce, he's still trying to get back with me. He believes "Forgiveness and kindness is something other than what it is not. There's not enough money in the world or the lack thereof even if he, had combination of money, of Bill Gates, Jeff Bezo, and Warren Buffet, I would not go backwards.
Thanks for your guidance Tony! I am 32, I have NEVER online dated and never had interest in it. I do not trust it. I see so many woman and friends say I should but no. it is not for me.
I have never considered online dating because I need to meet a man organically. I need to discern his spirit and his intentions. When I engage a man face to face, eye to eye I am able learn more about who he is and if I want to continue the dating process.
I tried online dating in 2018 after a divorce and again in 2020. The men were either scammers or looking to replace their dead wives for sex, or as a nursemaid, cook, housecleaner, etc. The two I dated briefly in 2020 ghosted me, and I never looked back. I wasted a whole lot of time and money on online sites.
Thank you Tony - another great video. Just in the news “NJ serial killer who murdered women he met for sex sentenced to 160 years” -- it is serious out here in the real world!
I’m so proud that I have understood long time ago that what is mean for me will never pass me by. I’m not in any rush, I’m good with me myself and I before I meet the man God have created for me. Stay save sisters may God keep blessing and protecting us🙏🏽
I have a female friend that goes online to meet men . She meets them way out of town which is extremely dangerous then she let's them stay at her house, sometimes overnight, sometimes a couple of days like over the weekend or something like that, which is also extremely dangerous. That goes on for a week or so then the guy either drops her like a bad habit, or he ghosts her completely. Then after this she comes back to hanging out with me, and were back to going out shopping and eating out until she meets another clown online. I believe she has even given these men money,and of course sex. None of them are ever relationship material. She always gets emotionally drained and hurt by these men, but won't stop the online dating, no matter what I tell her or what advice I give her. So all I can do is love her and pray for her at the same time. I really wished she would watch your video Tony. I'm so worried to death that one day she will get killed, slaughtered, raped, or be left somewhere for dead.
Pray for here but also know if these scary men comrs after her one day it could be a day you both are toghter send here this video and you should keep your distance from her and love her from a distance its scary becarful what you involve in yourself friend or not if its chance to pur your life in danger you most protect yourself
Honestly I’ve never had a good experience from online dating. I’ve met the worst kinda men possible and the last incident was enough for me. I will never online date again
It seems like the message should be ‘ladies, do not give your money to a man you have never met’. If a man asks for money, is that not a turn off…a HUGE RED FLAG? I have dated from meeting online several times, however, if I’m interested in meeting someone, I meet them out in person within a few weeks of messaging. I have never spent hours talking on the phone or chatting with someone I have not met in person. Having an online profile does not mean a woman is desperate. Most men today (actually since the invention of smartphones) are socially awkward and do not approach in person, so what’s the difference? Any woman willing to send money to a man she hasn’t met may be desperate. I find that people who have been married since early 20s don’t have the best gauge on the dynamics out here. Those who have commented that every woman won’t have a husband….this is true. I would add, every black woman will not have a black husband if marriage is a true desire.
You are right. It is a delusion. For women, it is dangerous. Due to the fact that they are the ones that are vulnerable and physically weak. Overall, no one can't be finding love on the internet. Let love come to you.
There is a news story today about a man that killed 3 woman he found online. Name is Khalil wheeler -weaver. He also did other crimes.
I think you’ll find more women are killed by their spouses they met in REAL LIFE, what’s your point here?
@@jinjinldn2163 what's your point ????
@@clarkclarke not y’all moving real cultish lol
oh oh, we found a triggered one
@@jinjinldn2163 a hit dog hollers ...if the video does not apply to you ....please move on .... I'm not sure where you see a cult...but maybe you into something we don't care to know about.. ok...keep it moving...
On line dating is a playground for the cheaters, scammers and sociopaths.
From the stories in these comments this is 1000% true!!! It's scary!
Wise gold words!
and this is different from mean in general...how....? lol
@@amaliasafaryan4256 in person, the woman is using wisdom... not desparate, men smell blood in the water....
You're right about that. However they're out there organically as well.
The books 8 Dates and Attached are excellent books.
I’m a guy and I believe too that online dating is GARBAGE. It causes you to treat other people as disposable. If you don’t like this particular person that you met of a dating app, you can just ghost them & swipe right on someone else.
It’s insane…
this
Online or in person...DISCERNMENT is key.
This right here ^ in person can result in the same thing without fully vetting people and for months to a year not a few weeks
why do people use the word discernment???? If you can't even get to know a person in person how do you get to know a person on line????
If you feel it is ok to do on line dating then this video is NOT for you .. now that would be discernment....
@@clarkclarke perhaps a clear definition of the term would help you. There's an app for that.
Exactly! We found dating coaches online does that mean they are faulty cause we found them on RUclips? I’ve seen women in my family and elsewhere be scammed from a man in person. In a nutshell the dating scene is trash and just wait for what God has for you, whether he is in the US, UK or Trinidad.
@@eshaa828 great point
It's hard to accept, but ladies every one will not have a husband. It's NOT a reflection of you, it just the society we live in. Please don't be desperate. It's OK to be alone. It's very, very hard to accept, but you can have joyful life. God is good anyhow.
Agree 100%!! 😊
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Preach!!! This is the absolute truth - period!
This needs to be TOP comment!
Amen!!!
That online dating is nothing to casually play with at any age. I agree with your message.
"Casually" is the operative word and I agree! Interact and operate sensibly and responsibly in the realm of online dating. Maintain your standards and have well established boundaries!
@@tracymiller6965 lol...yes, "desperate" is definitely a strong word! Not every woman who uses online dating is "desperate" and not every man on there views her as such.
@B Real When you realise that this happens in real life too, then you have to re-evaluate how much you want to be married with children because that man will bring you pain one way or another and can you handle that pain. I know women who cheated on their husbands because they were unhappy...because the married life they got wasn't what they signed up for. My marriage wasn't what I signed up for. It was abuse. The first and last time he physically assaulted me I left. I didn't have the strength to stay and "work it out" as many Christians tell women who have been abused and cheated on to do. Mentally I prepared for cheating but I never had the capacity to tolerate abuse. It broke me mentally and I nearly died because I stopped eating for 3 months after I left him. My beef with God is now: please don't send any more men my way. All they have ever done in my life is hurt me psychologically and physically. I'm one of the few women who have never been raped. There has been sexual assault but it didn't traumatise me.
People have to wait on God . Just be Patient. When God gets ready to put someone in our lives he will.
Hidden on purpose for a purpose ✊
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I'm trying lol
@@trendiione8810 absolutely I use to get mad at God because I felt like he had me hidden and isolated now I understand that Gems are hidden , oil is hidden, anything precious is hidden and you have to dig to find it. That made me be ok with being hidden. God’s best isn’t seen with the natural eye, only the spiritual in tune can locate us.
It’s honestly so sad that this is what it came too. Mostly because most men today are not looking for wives! That’s why it’s so many single women. It shouldn’t be this hard to find pure love. The dating scene today is just a mess.
A mess.
Well said
So true.
They aren’t and it’s sad! There’s no reason men shouldn’t want to but it’s the responsibility of having to be the man and “commit”. It’s sickening and super discouraging even though I want to married. They get everything for free and the women who don’t know there worth play as many games as they do. I also think the online dating is a generational thing to.
Sis you hit it right on the nail!!! Pure mess it's sad girl!!!
LADIES PLEASE LISTEN ! Anytime a grown MAN that's not your son ask you for some money BLOCK & DELETE! 🚨🚨🚨🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Like what more do y'all need to understand? Run sis!
So true Cher.....a man asking a woman for money is so unattractive.....ewww!👎
@@beefaye6861 right! That's a straight up turn off. In Tony's voice, "he don't need to be dating"
@@cherh 😂😂😂😂....right.... Bye bum ✌
@@beefaye6861 😂😂😂
That’s not a real man. And is not ready
Most of these men on these sites have been socially excluded due to their lack of social skills and any creep factor they possess. It’s literally a cesspool. Lowest of the low and most of them use it as a “black book” for men to easily find dates whenever they are bored or need someone to go with to an event etc. AND, because they’ve “dated” so much, they have become experts at planning dates, asking for dates, being “romantic”. They’ve become “professional daters” and are not interested in anything serious. 🤡 Stay Away Ladies!
Well said!!
It's true. I'm a professional dater. I literally have zero intention of having sex with these men, getting into relationships with them or becoming their friends. I just go on dates because my friends and family are either busy or broke. Lol! Literally, someone to go to the movies or a new restaurant with or a show. I don't have the capacity to tolerate letting men into my life where they can do damage.
" AND, because they’ve “dated” so much, they have become experts at planning dates..." this comment here...I laughed ... :)
@@marleyhill34 thanks for guaranteeing that men should not date corrupt modern women they haven't had sex with.
@@panthergod it has to go that way. End of natural society and implementation the Matrix. Children will now be born and raised in a test tube because men and women can no longer form stable heterosexual relationships. MGTOW and WGTOW is the only way forward. Women in their twenties either want to sleep around or not sleep around. Men in their twenties will always sleep around but don't want women who sleep around and they don't meet the criteria for virgin church girls. The only people popping out babies are trauma bonded and dysfunctional hetero men and hetero women. Once into the single parent lifestyle, the chances of them living a long and prosperous life is limited.
With all the horror stories of things happening to women especially lately , every woman should take this advice seriously . Be safe yall.
Hello nicky you stay safe as well blessings
Amen sis. So true
@@olikiahill260 thank you ❤🙏🏾
How about we all be ok with being SINGLE ladies these men are out of control
I don't do online dating because people have a shopping cart mentality. They are out here talking to lots of people, but once they head to the checkout, they put you back on the shelf and purchase another item instead.
The BEST analogy ever!
I have tried online dating and the guys I meet on there were either narcissistic or grown boys or just want a one night stand. Yeah no thank you!! I agree with your message, Tony. It’s no longer my cup of tea.
Please listen to Tony yall. I have a male cousin who met his wife online but like Tony said, he is a different kind if man. He’s basically a nerd but he’s a really good man. His wife is just like him and they fit. However, I dated online for a few months and met nothing but dogs. Out of all the men I met, I met one good one who brought me gifts in the beginning but he lived in another state. Ultimately, he just stopped reaching out and I never heard from him again. After that, I knew online dating was not worth my time. Tony telling the Gods honest truth.
Where do you meet men. Are they all relationship material?
@@moniqueliles3191 I meet men everywhere but no their not all relationship material. The last three I met all had various situations. One was literally married, the other was kind of girly and lazy and the last one was actually very nice and relationship material but just getting out of a relationship and not ready.
They won’t lol
Exactly,Tony is telling the truth.
I heard a pastor say once that if he was a woman was looking to meet men he'd go to homedepot and other hardware stores regularly. He never lied, I went on a Saturday morning & it was raining hard working men the whole time I was shopping for 💡s. There are so many other ways to meet ppl..
Ayyyy I like this one, I think I need a new set of light bulbs this Saturday afternoon 🥹👗
I feel like what is meant for me will come. I’m just not stepping on God’s toes hunting for just anyone…I’ll wait my turn
I feel the same way 👌
Wholeheartedly agree. If it is God's will for us, it'll happen. I am so exhausted by all of the foolery at this point. My peace and sanity are optimal and priority.
Right!
I’ve always felt this same way hence I haven’t been on dating apps.
One thing I’ve learned in dating is this: whether you meet someone online or in person they can still be all the things we aren’t looking for. It’s up to the actual person to truly be who they say they are. Crime against women are committed all the time unfortunately, whether or not they met online isn’t even a factor anymore. Crazy is everywhere smh
Exactly!
Absolutely
PREACH
@@LA-wv7gf That’s no different than meeting someone in person, setting up a date and then meeting them.
But I hope women heed the warning about being desperate and online dating....
Makes sense because every man online treats me as if they think im desperate. Then ghosts when they see that I'm not
NephewTony you have never lied. It is very dangerous. My niece met someone online dating. When she tried to break up with him , he killed her and then killed himself. It is very sad. She was a single mother of two daughters. God bless you ladies out there, be safe. God bless you NephewTony for all that you do, to warn women of all the dangers. SDG
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Wow, that's horrifying. Sorry to hear that, I hope your family is doing well, especially her two girls. This is a sick world we live in smh
It’s scary out there, I’m so sorry for your loss. Can’t trust anyone these days.
I dated on online first guy had BM issues, I fell for the " she won't let me see my child" line. For three yrs shamefully he kept running back and forth between the two of us. That was two years ago. A year after him I tried it again met a younger guy, and it was an on and off circus. Mainly bc when I would leave him alone he would say his apologies by mouth but not changed behavior. He couldn't get the basics of a relationship communication, quality time, and affection....I was constantly begging for the basics of getting to know one another and he just didn't want to oblige. I was informed by another male he probably was already in a relationship and he wanted a side piece. Yea online dating is not for the weak.
@@NC-jl4tn he said he was from north Carolina, but he lived in Baltimore the majority of his adult life I believe....he was 33yrs of age....I thought a country boy would be a delight, I was wrong...lol
you deserved everything you got trying to be a side piece. no sympathy this shouldn't have went on longer than 6 months. if he can't do the bare minimum in that time u wasting time
@@P03ticJustice lol, ewwwww that's cringy coming on a social sight to verbally attack someone you don't know. I gave you crib notes no real details, not looking for sympathy but you a little more upset than needed ma'am. This is probably why your single, ohhhh your single...lol. I may have a bad picker your nuts....lol
@@omozeidehenre239 no one on this post said anything negative about online dating. Although rare. People can hide an agenda for months and you not truly know who they are. Hell parents even say they didn't believe their serial killer kids could do the things the police said they did. Ask the wives and children of seemingly loving husband's who kill them just bc they want to be with a mistress or whatever the reason. Being in a relationship with anyone is a risk I was just telling my story....
im waiting on GOD !! they can have that online crap
I’ve decided against this also with all the crime against women and some missing after years and months! Social media/online is the narc’s playground since it allows your moves to be studied and they can adjust their approach. Get out if you must, travel, etc.
My advice is you can't handle online dating, you need to get your helmet before you travel and go out. I met my abusive husband in person and he was able to keep his mask covered for 6 years. To everyone, including 5 different priests, he seemed ok. He was not. He was a special kind...possible sociopath/psychopath. Incredibly subtle. Mostly good behaviour but his bad behaviour was life-threateningly destructive! Ask yourself why you want to be married so badly. It's usually down to trauma.
@@marleyhill34 I’m sorry that happened to you, but the proof is in the comments, online dating is a no go. Yes, you’ll meet jerks in person but way easier to vet.
I'm 53, very involved in church, volunteer with the kids, food pantries, I go out dancing, workout, working on my life coach business and I have not met anyone who have a humble servant heart as I feel I have become. So yes, I am thinking of on line dating but will invite the Lord into it but in all honesty I do not want to meet my husband online but to see me in person. And I believe that is what most women want. I think this video, the timing of it, answers my questions and thoughts of my decision. Thank you Tony!
Where do you meet new people? I know people who have met con artist men in church and been engaged and right before the wedding had their bank account cleaned out.
You just have to be smart about it. I’ve dated guys I met online who were genuine guys.
I know young women in my church in their 30’s who dated online. They got engaged then got let down. Men can sense desperation. Learn to be okay with yourself.
@@omozeidehenre239 Do you meet a lot of men during your daily activities? If so, how? That has been my approach primarily but I don't meet many people this way.
Don't waste your time. Keep doing what you're doing and TMH will help you with everything you need.
It’s crazy because there is so much pressure in today’s society for women. Every time I went to a get together with friends or went to family functions they would ask about my dating life. Always asking why I was single as if something was wrong with me.Then immediately everyone would suggest I get online to meet someone. Every single get together I would experience this. Online dating always felt gross to me but after so much peer pressure I finally gave in. I immediately regretted it. Listen to Tony, its just not worth it ladies. Stay single until your god ordained spouse makes himself known to you.
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Thats right
Have you asked your family and friends to stop pressing you about your love life? I don't care how close a person may be to his/her family, dating life is a very private thing. I don't like that, sis I am sure it makes you feel like crap when they do it and it's very uncomfortable. Try to set boundaries with them and if they can't stop asking you about it fall back on going around them. Folks a mess.
@@chellej.1592 I stopped going to family functions and cut back my circle of friends. Too much mess and drama all around disturbing my inner peace. Not anymore. Nope. No thanks
Yes a lot of pressure. Agreed.
Deleted my dating apps and I feel so much better. I'm going to listen.
So the Holy Spirit nudged me that online dating would be fruitless for me earlier this week/end of last week. Then this video came up on my recommendations as confirmation. Deleted my match and upward profiles yesterday . Went to my sons homecoming football game tonight ( we live in a predominantly white area) and a tall black father of one of the kids that plays on the team whom I've never seen before came up to me and talked to me the whole game . Now I'm not saying he's my husband or even future romanctic interest but it is interesting that when I shut down the foolishness I remember that I am very much capable of attracting men in public
I just took my profile down this past weekend. Something did not seem right and I felt like a meat market.
Online is not for the weak. Have wisdom and common sense and stop being desperate. You have to vet wether in person or online
Online dating just isn’t safe not just financially but your playing with your life. This lady I worked with meant a guy online and he robbed and killed her on the 1st date. My homegirl meant her now baby daddy online and after finding out she was pregnant she found out he had a 60 something year old wife that had paid to bring him to this country and that he had emptied this lady bank account.
See.....like Tony said..."its a certain type of man that do online dating"...no thx dude ✌
A friend also died from online dating. He also committed crimes towards other women. Its a no for me
Heartbreaking! 😔
Wowww that’s sick
i heard the horror stories i will never go online looking for a man
Some of those online guys are hiding families these ladies need to do research before you get into anything with anyone online
This!
I've always felt like online dating definitely gave desperate vibes. Women/men have to get on and practically sell yourself or tell why they should pick you. It's pretty much like putting yourself on display and hoping someone picks you.
@@LA-wv7gf exactly
So true! Exactly why I just can’t do it
@@Nectarine333 exactly
Work on you! Prepare and Position! And in due season you will get what belong to you!
Amen!
This is just confirming what the Holy Spirit already told me
Soooooo, THIS was my first official video of listening to Tony, and I thought it would be my last. I was MAD at Tony and wanted to give him
a piece of my mind. But at the time, I had met a guy online and thought he was the “One.” I gave the video a good listen and although I was still angry, I kept what he said in my back pocket. Turns out, the guy was NOT it. I thank God for your brotherly advice, Tony. You don’t have to do it. But you do. And we appreciate you for it! ✨
Outstanding advice!
I know a woman in her 60s that got involved with a man online. She really believed that this man loved her. He was a scammer/money launderer. The woman was sending him money. Her grown kids tried to tell her the truth about this man, but she ignored their advice. The kids had to get their local sheriff involved and there is an investigation going on. The woman is now not speaking to her kids; she believes everything the scammer is telling her. It's major drama.
Too many lonely women can easily get sucked into these online scams.
Thank you so much, Mr. Gaskins, for all the timely advice you present. Everyone of all ages (especially older women) would benefit greatly from all your content. We all need more raw truth! God bless you and your family!
So glad I didn't get caught up in online dating. I was on a site for about two weeks and saw one guy there that I know is married and another I had previously dated pretending to be 38 (he's 55). I was done with that whole scene.
"Dated pretending to be 38 (he's 55)" 🤣🤣🤣
@@t.j6433 😂😂😂 i laughed at that part too
I clutched my pearls when Tony said, “Men see women who date online as desperate “. Men who date online are lazy or looking for. Something casual I agree. I’ve tried it three times and all three guys were playing games. One of them Dated myself and another young lady and turns out we were all going to the same church! I’m starting to think Tony’s right it’s like a needle in a haystack. The men are getting to play more games.
Times are so bad.....I just can't do it....good luck to whoever don't take this advice 👍
It can be hard enough meeting someone in real life. Getting to know them trying to feel them out ,vet them to see if they would be husband material. As Tony G says a real man who is actually looking for a real woman will take the effort to meet her in real life.
WOW Tony’s messages always come right on time! His last couple of videos literally fit exactly what I just experienced!!!! I tried online dating because of this pandemic and I met all types of spirits! Don’t want to be found washed up or get caught up out here… it’s NOT safe!!! I am going to just lay low for now! Thank you once again ❤️
@@lovelyladyleo9205 Exactly! I got tired of waiting for the pandemic to end and jumped out there and almost got caught up with an extremely seductive man who knew how to use the Bible! I swear they listen to Tony and uses it to their advantage! It’s a lot of these type of characters online. WE have to be safe and protect ourselves❤️
I online date but I don’t do it with any expectations just to pass time but I’ve met some great guys but I agree it’s easy for people to get scammed if they’re looking for love.
Same
The apps generate an evil spirit in ur life. Any issues u have with dating u will eventually run there to find love . Delete the stuff
Learned from experience! The worse relationship I ever had! He was a Narcissist. I never knew that word until I met this person!
Right....but I met my narcissist ex at a store...I never knew. The word neither until I dated him 🤦♀️
These men “prey” on older women. These women seem more desperate based on their experience. It’s the wolf that preys on the lone sheep. What you saying is true Tony.
Older women should know how to spot fakes real quick.
They prey on anyone with a vulnerability.
@@missj5564 Sometimes the age is vulnerability. I've been married so I'm not desperate to go down that road again. I've never been a mother so men use that against me to try to entrap me. Promising children and that they can be a good provider. I've been to therapy and I'm currently in therapy. Being a good father and a good husband takes more than being a sperm donor, being able to put a ring on it and being able to provide financially. My father was a fantastic provider. He never married my mother and he was an abusive alcoholic parent.
As a personal banker, it reminded me of a sad older woman who’d send thousands of dollars to a man in a different country whom she never met. It was so sad, and I kept asking her questions to determine if she’s in a sound mind (obviously not). Every time I filed a report about the unusual activity/potential elder abuse, and haven’t seen her since. I only hope she’s okay. 🙁
I'm not going to totally dismiss online dating. I know people who have found their wife/husband through online dating. It's just another outlet in order to meet new people. Most people are probably going that route because of the pandemic. I personally prefer meeting people the old school way. I just think whether you first met online or in person, just be careful. Be safe.
I've told God don't send any more men my way. That's my beef with God. My husband turned out to be abusive despite the praying and laying on of hands-on him, me and the marriage. I have other things I want to do in my life and I don't want to spend time on men anymore. Trying to date men with marriage in mind is not only exhausting for me, but it also takes away from my time spent doing more productive things and God-serving things.
Agree. I don’t agree with the absolute notion that online dating is completely bad. I think it can be unhealthy if used the wrong way. I know plenty of happy couples who met online, so it can work. I think it becomes a problem when it begins to mess with people’s self esteem and when it starts becoming physically draining to use. If it’s just used as another way to meet people, I think it’s fine.
@@80sports20 Never look at other couples and assume they are happy you really don’t know what they put up with and if you would be willing to do the same.
@@la6136 In the same vein, never look at couples and assume they are unhappy either. You really don't know what they are going through. Bottom line is, "don't assume" either way
I am laughing right now, I was just thinking about starting an online profile (like 5 minutes ago) because so many people say the times call for new technologies to be used to meet people. So timely. I really do not feel good about online dating and I am 51. Thank you Tony☺
I’m 51 also and I’ve had a two year relationship with a guy off of an online dating app. I knew I did not want marriage with this particular person and ended up breaking it off for that reason and a couple of other reasons. I’ve recently met another gentleman online and we’ve been having a great time for two months and he wants marriage I’m not sure if I want marriage or not but we’re having a great time and we respect each other and he’s a good guy. Just because you meet someone online does not mean that you are meeting the devil. You can meet the devil or a man that will take it advantage of you at the grocery store and you dang sure can meet a devil of a man on the church grounds. I like Tony but do not let anyone sway you from finding the person for you whether it’s online or whether it’s at the mall.
Online dating for people is all about instant gratification. It’s not about building something real. It will feel real to YOU, while he is dating and talking to tons of other women because they are always looking for the “next best thing”
It’s all about physical looks and it’s not real life.
I was talking on and off with a guy for a few months. He was a decent looking guy with a great personality so I knew he was talking to other women for sure lol. Got back in contact with him bc I really liked him and he told me he’s trying to get serious with one girl he met online. I saw her and was shocked, he wasn’t into looks at all just personality. I projected my insecurities on him and feel like I missed out on a really great guy 😭 I pray God brings him back into my life somehow
@@TatyanaBuie you're meant for someone else. May God bring him into your life.
@@smiles9599 thanks but me and the guy started talking again, he’s no longer with the other girl and I’m sure we’ll be together together any moment now
@@TatyanaBuie oh okay they broke up. Okay if he's good for you, then may God let it happen.
I tried it. It's not for me. I told my church group I was going to try online dating and one of the elders posted "🤦🏾♀️". Lol
LMAOOOOO
Lol....I’ve tried it as well. It ain’t for us. These “men” are crazy. Times and people have completely changed. 🥴🤦🏾♀️
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1st of all if a man is asking you for money, then 🏃 he's scamming you. Can't no man play me or give me a sob story into handing over my bread
Exactly. I ain’t sending no man no money.
PERIOD
I was on WhatsApp and this guy I was talking to for a month or so said “he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I am his soulmate “ 😂 mind you I never met him . He was long distance and once he said that I stop talking to him and deleted the app .Got to go 🏃
🤣🤣 I heard that sis! That’s my que to exit stage left with the quickness!! 🏃🏾♀️💨
I have been to four dates with Nigerian men. I wonder why among ALL FOUR of them, suddenly in the middle of the first date, they receive a call from someone asking them for money, like making a big payment 🤔 and they be there saying "Yes yes, I'll transfer to you one hundred thousand, yes, tonight..." pretending that they're big shots, and then at the end these men confess that they're very broke that their "multi million dollar company" suddenly went bankrupt. I wonder why, ALL FOUR OF THEM. So when the second guy did it, I said, "Hold up, this sounds familiar..." then when the third guy did the same, I was dying inside with laughter. But when the fourth one did it, I ended the date really quickly. So far I haven't dated a Nigerian since.
Thank you for confirming my feelings about online dating. To me it is hard to make an assessment of a person’s character or even chemistry over the internet. I dated two men I met unintentionally on social media and both were nightmares to get rid of.
Please don't stop sharing this particular message Tony. There is a new woman that joins the blessed tribe every day and may not know this but it's important! Stop online dating!
He is telling the truth. Please create your own site so we wont be scammed. I got off that mess a year ag I could read through the false perceptions that was put out All Lies. Thank you Tony.
The same men you meet online dating are the same men you can meet at Target. Please remember that. If your discernment isn't on point, don't date PERIOD! I don't recommend online dating. Most men are on there to vet women to increase their roster 🤷🏾♀️
That’s where y’all go wrong by thinking that. A man who will approach you at Target doesn’t do online dating, and the man who does online dating doesn’t approach women at Target. Targets are everywhere. So if a man has the courage to approach women at Target, he literally can go pick up an item everyday. What I’m trying to tell y’all is that it’s a DIFFERENT type of man all together who is doing online. Both can turn out bad, but the man online got on there with the wrong intentions to begin with. But yes, discernment is necessary in both cases, but it’s two totally different type of men.
@@TonyGaskins true...all the men I know who date online wouldn't talk to a woman in person if you'd paid them! One guy told me "it's not socially acceptable to do that". 😒
Exactly, people act like it’s a separate set of men online. Same ones on and off line!
Just don’t do online dating. Realized he was fresh out of a relationship and still stuck on a woman who ghosted him after I caught him in a lie. I had to trip him up w questions. Also he is extremely emotional abusive. Blocked me after an argument and said “He’ll reach out in two weeks. He’ll respect if I reply or not”. He ain’t getting nothing but radio silence from me.
Agreed on line dating is trash. The men on there are not looking to settle down they looking for hookups.
Yep just pitiful
I usually open the first date with onliners with, ‘where do you see yourself in a year’. If a committed relationship or marriage isn’t on the cards I’m out. It also scares off the players. Overall though, online dating is depressing. Tony is right, finding a good man there is highly improbable.
I tried it once. You’re 100% correct. Nothing but losers & scammers. I am 58 years old….I live a good & full life. God loves me…that’s all I need
I completely agree that it is not normal. With Covid & being in the hospital for 4 months I was just curious and right when I was going to delete everything I met my boyfriend and we have been together for 6 months. He’s given me a promise ring and we have talked about the future. 🧿❤️ I completely understand the turmoil when it comes to online dating though. I wasted so much energy and time on guys. You have to be careful and remember to make yourself priority always!
Well, this is perfect timing! Thank you Tony!
I think social media should be included in this conversation as well...A lot of predators are using social media as an online dating platform too and it is just as bad...Meet your man in person, you still need to carefully vet them but ANY type of online introductions should be avoided imo...
“You cannot tell me that you are going to meet a man online, and you’re going to talk to man hours on end, and you’re gonna fall in love with this man, and then when he ask you for $500 to help his sick mom, you cannot tell me you’re gonna say no.” TG
I just made a POF profile and then video popped up on suggested video. Tony has scared me off online dating. I need to delete my POF profile.
Thank you for this video Tony. I was thinking about doing online dating again. Because I am a single mom and it's very hard for me to really go out and go anywhere all I do is mostly work from home and go to the store and come back home and spend time with my son. My sister met her husband online I think that day she was blessed. And I do feel when your due date regardless of his online or offline. I had met a couple online but they mostly like bread crumbling or want situationships. I will prefer to meet my future husband offline. I am just waiting on God to send him at this point.
😂😭😭 I signed up for online dating then this video appeared. Lol I'm gonna have to delete my account now 😘😂😂 Thanks Uncle Tony
I'm 37 and I've tried online dating. I have met some really decent guys and I've met some real a**holes as well, and that's life and it's going to happen on or offline. Although I don't believe it's abnormal ( because we are living in and among the tech generation) I do agree that it's not for everyone. You absolutely must have a very polished sense of decernment and a standard of operation as to how you want things to develop. Be whole and healed before you delve into that mode of dating... and it should not be your only mode for dating! There are decent and well-meaning men and women online and there are also shiftless no-accounts on there too, it's up to you to use your common sense and intuition to sift through the nonsense. Above all, be safe...if it doesn't feel right, it's probably not right!
Never felt like I could do online dating even though some people have successfully acquired what they wanted with the tool. I just personally don’t trust it. Never, ever even considered it. I actually met a man who uses online dating as his playground. He literally told me this. 🤔😏
Confirmation 💯💯💯 people have been trying to pressure me into online dating and it doesn't feel natural to me. I was beginning to think I had to bc a lot of my girlfriends are saying it's the new way and only way. Still it just did not seem natural or organic so I prayed to God about this and boom this video popped up. Stay connected to God at all times and He'll always show the way and give you answers. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
It took me a minute to be honest enough with myself to realize online dating is all a game you're telling the absolute truth I hope women really listen
Well I guess the people I know are all mega millionaires 😂. Because I know a lot of people who have great spouses they met online. However, most of them didn’t realize how not so close they were from meeting their spouses because they had a lot of mutual connections they didn’t realize they had until they met. One of my cousin l actually met his wife online and they went to the same church and didn’t know it. They never crossed paths because it was a big church. They went to different services and kept just missing each other. Lol Soooo I’m not saying don’t do it God can use any avenue to lead you to the right person.
Absolutely agree
I haven't even finished watching this and I already agree! I know from experience online dating is bullsh*t , 95% of the time.
Thank you for finally breaking your silence about the dangers of online dating. Stop online dating devils!
I pray whoever reads this will meet their husband in person ❤️
Thank you for this! Online dating is not something I'm interested in even though people try to get me to do it!
Hoping to meet that special someone organically.
I agree with you Tony. I’m 26 and I did online dating 2 years ago the man I met there made me go to therapy to heal from his abuse. My friend who’s my age did online dating too and got scammed of money. Online dating is a no go for me. I’ll rather be single at this point.
Hey Tony, I never had the desire to do Online Dating because of ALL the horrible stories That I've heard personally. SMH. Just got to get myself more out there and continue to have faith. Thank you again Tony for these real lessons, Been off my back for six years and NO regerets!
Men don’t need anyone to tell them they should make plans in advance. If he didn’t then I accept he isn’t that into me and I move on. I don’t spent time trying to teach a man to to treat me. He knows!
I'm over 60! But absolutely not desperate. Never, praise God online dated! But your instructions give all the details necessary. Before I thought it was ridiculous for a Christian man to be dating online when there is a multitude of women in their churches, jobs, community etc. Somethings wrong with this. "Lions snacking on gizelles." Right Tony.... WISDOM!!! DO NOT ONLINE DATE!! Oh, and at this season of my life meeting multiple excellent prospects, I chose which one....
I clicked with the Quickness🗣🗣‼️‼️‼️
Me too!
Hey Tony,
Why do you think women aren’t having luck in real life? This would be a great video! What is leading women to go to online dating that they aren’t having luck in dating in real life?
Brain🧠 brand and body💕
My guess would be the pandemic definitely started a new wave of online dating because people were bored/lonely couldn’t meet in person. I’ve never dated online until last year because a friend suggested it was the best way to still get to know someone during the pandemic. I tried it but stuck to the “elite” dating sites were you have to pay etc. Still a mess! Other people have social anxiety and prefer to do it behind a screen for comfort. So many reasons I would think. Also people just looking to hook up will go online.
I think it’s all the hate mongering men are doing online about women and vs versa..it’s carrying over into the real world! Just look at the views a lot of these men are getting from negatively talking about women..like whew! It’s a real war so please be careful when dating and rejecting them, women are coming up missing or hurt!
I agree. This would be a good video. That indeed is the real question 🤔 Pre-pandemic, online dating was still a thing
its not about luck unless you line up with God and his word, most women are settling for triangulation, baby mama drama, abuse n neglect..i know 3 women married to narcs and they are miserable!! one of them , her husband asked her for a divorce 4 days after she was discharged from the hospital they have 3 kids
Guess am desperate ! I qualify 54. I meet guys all the time organically and it’s not all that great either. So I just signed up and got date this Saturday. We’ll see what happens.
Online dating is not something to take lightly which is why you should have a plan. I text a couple time then I talk on the phone and go to FaceTime. After that we meet within a week. If we don’t meet within a week they get cut. I don’t play!
Wise woman. I've run into situations where I had 2 be the one to initiate all that. All of guys on these apps are cool with just being " text penpals". I'm not here for that shit.
Was just going to sign up online dating today but it didn’t allow me so I figured that was God protecting me from it.
Tony you forgot to add crazy to the list. I tried online dating and it was totally not for me. I know a couple people who have gotten married and been in longterm relationships from online matches, but then they complain all the time 🤷🏽♀️
"Its unfortunate for the women whose going to change their "basic concept of reality to falsehood. "The question is how long is too long for you to live a life of deceitfulness at the hands of scammer. "If I don't learn from my mistakes I will continue to show up for the "con-man. "I was married to someone for 5 1|2 years, who was a "con-man. The "sole purpose for his agenda was to galvanize on the vulnerable women. After more than thirty one years of divorce, he's still trying to get back with me. He believes "Forgiveness and kindness is something other than what it is not. There's not enough money in the world or the lack thereof even if he, had combination of money, of Bill Gates, Jeff Bezo, and Warren Buffet, I would not go backwards.
Right....Karma will get him....smh
Thanks for your guidance Tony! I am 32, I have NEVER online dated and never had interest in it. I do not trust it. I see so many woman and friends say I should but no. it is not for me.
Thank you Tony for this message. I am single and I have been for a while. I will continue to wait and not be talked into doing it by friends
I'm over 50. Sadly, online Romance scams are a real thing, no matter what app. Please beware as scammers come in all ages.
I have never considered online dating because I need to meet a man organically. I need to discern his spirit and his intentions. When I engage a man face to face, eye to eye I am able learn more about who he is and if I want to continue the dating process.
I agree. I've attempted, never executed a date with anyone. It's just weird to me. There's so many creeps, in an uncontrolled environment.
I tried online dating in 2018 after a divorce and again in 2020. The men were either scammers or looking to replace their dead wives for sex, or as a nursemaid, cook, housecleaner, etc. The two I dated briefly in 2020 ghosted me, and I never looked back. I wasted a whole lot of time and money on online sites.
Unbelievable. Outrageous. All the truth. Have mercy,
Thank you Tony - another great video. Just in the news “NJ serial killer who murdered women he met for sex sentenced to 160 years” -- it is serious out here in the real world!
I’m so proud that I have understood long time ago that what is mean for me will never pass me by. I’m not in any rush, I’m good with me myself and I before I meet the man God have created for me. Stay save sisters may God keep blessing and protecting us🙏🏽
I am over the age of 50 and all women should follow the same dating standards and safety rules no matter what age they are.
I have a female friend that goes online to meet men . She meets them way out of town which is extremely dangerous then she let's them stay at her house, sometimes overnight, sometimes a couple of days like over the weekend or something like that, which is also extremely dangerous. That goes on for a week or so then the guy either drops her like a bad habit, or he ghosts her completely. Then after this she comes back to hanging out with me, and were back to going out shopping and eating out until she meets another clown online. I believe she has even given these men money,and of course sex. None of them are ever relationship material. She always gets emotionally drained and hurt by these men, but won't stop the online dating, no matter what I tell her or what advice I give her. So all I can do is love her and pray for her at the same time. I really wished she would watch your video Tony. I'm so worried to death that one day she will get killed, slaughtered, raped, or be left somewhere for dead.
Please start sending her all of Tony Gaskin’s videos and also Pastor RC Blakes videos. Obviously she needs to hear it from someone else.
Pray for here but also know if these scary men comrs after her one day it could be a day you both are toghter send here this video and you should keep your distance from her and love her from a distance its scary becarful what you involve in yourself friend or not if its chance to pur your life in danger you most protect yourself
I've done online dating on and off for years. I'm 40 now and hung up my swiping finger. May God send me Mr. Right while I'm enjoying everyday life.
Honestly I’ve never had a good experience from online dating. I’ve met the worst kinda men possible and the last incident was enough for me. I will never online date again
It seems like the message should be ‘ladies, do not give your money to a man you have never met’. If a man asks for money, is that not a turn off…a HUGE RED FLAG? I have dated from meeting online several times, however, if I’m interested in meeting someone, I meet them out in person within a few weeks of messaging. I have never spent hours talking on the phone or chatting with someone I have not met in person. Having an online profile does not mean a woman is desperate. Most men today (actually since the invention of smartphones) are socially awkward and do not approach in person, so what’s the difference? Any woman willing to send money to a man she hasn’t met may be desperate. I find that people who have been married since early 20s don’t have the best gauge on the dynamics out here. Those who have commented that every woman won’t have a husband….this is true. I would add, every black woman will not have a black husband if marriage is a true desire.
Happy Wednesday blessed tribe. Blessings 👋🏽👋🏽
Hey CK... ✋😁
You are right. It is a delusion. For women, it is dangerous. Due to the fact that they are the ones that are vulnerable and physically weak. Overall, no one can't be finding love on the internet. Let love come to you.