i like how tim doesn't change into a girl in eddie's imagination, he stays the exact same. i think it shows how he subconsciously doesn't want him to change, he just wishes he was a girl so it was acceptable
“i’m not saying we can’t be all those things for each other but it’s not the same cause you’re a man, and so am i.” of montreal paints a beautiful portrait of queer struggles hagagGgh
I love that in all the art, even though the lyrics say "I wish you were born a girl," Tim is drawn as a boy, implying that what the singer really wants is not for Tim to be any different, but for their relationship to be different.
@@jamwithme173that's a learned distinction, depending on the environment/who raised them, a child might think the opposite. When I was a kid girls had pretty short hair.
Yeah! Just my interpretation, I had always thought of the song as being about two boys/men, but I also love if the animation can still come across as gender-open and trans inclusive!
I had a Tim once. God It’s been about four years now since I really hung out with him. During the Covid lockdown I ended up moving away from a lot of my friends to a new town and because of the lockdown I wasn’t really able to see them much. But one of my friends got his license right before the lockdown went into full effect so some days he would drive over and me and him would go to the trails in the woods by my new house and just goof off and talk a lot. After a few months it got more “intimate”, we would often lay by a small stream or under a tree in an open field and cuddle with eachother while listening to music. Although we never really admitted that we had feelings for each other it was nice. The area we live in doesn’t have the most accepting people anyway so we weren’t gonna be open about it. But after the lockdown ended we kinda just drifted apart and stopped talking. We‘ll see each other every now and again when we’re at a party or something but we never talk about anything we did. We both have girlfriends now, but I admit I’ll think about our time together every now and again and it makes me happy. It’s bittersweet.
1. Do you love your girlfriend? 2. Why did you moved to a town if towns aren't the most accepting areas anyway? Or have you been living in rural areas for your whole life? 3. So, the area where you lived during that period of time is a very conservative town, am I right? If so, why? Please, explain your answer in detail. 4. Would you like to have a relationship with a guy like the guy you met? Or do you really love your girlfriend?
@@jmrabinez9254 1: I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade her for anything 2: I didn’t have a choice where I moved because I was still in high school and lived with my family. And no actually, I’ve generally lived in small townships most my life 3: yes it is a conservative area. As to why, that’s just how everyone there was raised? Idk I guess it is what it is 4: I’m bi and again, I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade anything for the relationship I have with her now. It’s just a guilty pleasure of mine to reflect on the past I suppose
@@jmrabinez9254 1. Bisexual people exist. 2. Well, yeah, people in conservative areas hide, what did you expect? Not everyone has the capacity to move.
It's really emotional for me because I remember as a kid thinking "wow Lisa is so beautiful, if I were a man I would have asked her out" and this song just felt really close to home. Great job
yes, this was always me too, growing up as a girl and realizing i was gay. it lead to a lot of gender dysphoria for me. for me the song is reversed: emily, i wish i was a boy so i could ask you out, etc...
I'm neurodivergent so attraction has always been confusing for me but subconsciously I knew that it was wrong to be anything other than straight...I don't even remember I specific point where I learned this..I guess I just subconsciously picked it up
The way they were holding hands on the bed and just being in love so casually, so tenderly, it made me think of all the crushes and chances I ignored and avoided for the sake of ‘normalcy’
One time in elementary school I was sleeping over at my friend's house and we were laying side by side on our makeshift beds on the floor talking. She said she felt like she wasn't pretty and boys didn't like her. I told her I thought she was pretty and I would have a crush on her if I were a boy 😢. Sometimes thinking about what could have been if I'd only known really hurts
a great representation of how discrimination isn't just people shoving you into the closet with pitchforks, it's also them convincing you that the closet is your room
@@justinisorange that people can often internalize biggotry, and this can lead to some queer ppl denying they're queer their entire lives because they think they must be "normal". like the kid in this song who clearly has feelings for Tim but wishes Tim was a girl because he can't imagine a relationship otherwise than between a guy and a girl. when they could very well date as guys (if Tim wants). but he thinks he can't access these feelings if Tim is a guy because he was taught "relationship is when guy and girl".
the fact that tim and eddie are made out of wiggly lines that move around a lot is great visual storytelling. it really represents how not straight they are
I always looked at this song as a gay child who doesn’t know that being gay is a thing and this is their first experience with falling in love and not knowing that they could date the same gender
I’m a girl and I’ve never gotten over my ‘tim’. We went to a catholic all girls school together, she joined later because her family moved around a lot and when I saw her it was like my heart stopped. She was the prettiest person I had ever seen, and when she held my hand I felt safe and at home. She kissed me once when we were skipping class and hiding out in the changing rooms. She said sorry after she kissed me. Said she didn’t know what came over herself and she left. I’ll always regret not going after her and saying that she didn’t need to be sorry, and that I had never felt the way I did now before. She moved to England a week later without telling me or even saying goodbye, but I wonder if the kiss was her way of saying goodbye.
i watch this video like once a month you dont even know how much this video means to me. i love this song so much so finding this video made me love it even more
Heh. I know it's my own video, but I love to go revisit it too. Thank you so much, I'm glad you're able to resonate with it so well. I think I made it in only a day or two, but it's good I did. I didn't let there be any time for me to lose whatever I wanted to express at the time, so I suppose it came quite naturally. Thank you again!
This reminds me of when I was 9 and had no idea what being gay was, but I really fell for this girl and every night I’d cry to my mum wishing I were a boy so that she could be my girlfriend lol. My mum said she’d suspected it all along but wanted me to figure out who I am by myself :] ❤️ edit: hihihiiii thank you all for the very kind replies !!!! I just wanted to say the girl I mentioned in this comment and I are in a relationship now and are very happy together :)
@@greentuff1531never seen anyone be more confused about words and ideas. Their mother didn't say anything to them, and if she did it would've been a good thing. It's impossible to turn someone gay, but it is possible to make gay kids happier by telling them that they can feel good about who they are
@@greentuff1531 and I’d prefer if you didn’t call my mother deranged. She’s done nothing but support me for being who I am, she’s never said a word about the lgbt+ community until I came out to her. So please just leave people alone and keep ur thoughts to yourself.
@@greentuff1531 Uh- okay? lol- think what u want man just don’t push ur opinions onto others. “Understand your emotions more” it took me years to understand my emotions, and now I’m here living happily alongside my partner who happens to be the same gender as me. If it really bothers you that much I think you need help lol
me personally, i would date someone who makes me spaghetti with tomato sauce with just a touch of oregano and a parsley stem regardless of their gender
This video recommends me. And I realised I also had a person who as same as Tim. He is a handsome boy and have a deep voice. There once, I sent a message to him by saying 'take care' and he said to me that I treated him like a girlfriend. Many days later he confessed me that he loves me. Then, we always do our love stuff, like when I hugged him and then he blushed, I kissed him and later he kissed me back, also we both dating and had a dinner, face-to-face, laughing at him how silly he eat. Then, after like 7 months later, he told me that he want to be friend with me, not a lover. After that incident, I'm getting farther away from him, because it's awkward to talk to him. Even worse, me and him are classmates. I hate it if someone pairs me and him in every group project. And now what? Today is his birthday as I write this comment. Why RUclips's recommendation always related to my life? Why? Why?
It's a part of life, you're not always in control of what goes on inside someone else, especially not when it comes to romantic feelings. Just roll with it, accept it, and some day there will be someone there who's special and ready to make a commitment. By them this will just be a memory you can laugh about.
@@helloeveryone4192 You have to be forward with someone to an extent - even if you don't particularly talk anymore. I'm not technically in a similar situation with a lover, but with friends [the whole awkwardness and farther away part]. Your feelings will be unnoticed if you continue to shelter them but consider Slash's words as well - you cannot control and take ownership in a person. Things will go awry, and that is life. A journey that we can partially control in our lanes, but not with others. Life isn't always related to love, and it isn't particularly a healthy standard to judge our worth towards. sorry if it's too late, i just want to voice my opinions.
"Wish you were born a girl so i could've been your boyfriend" has the same vibes as "i wish i could be a girl and that way youd with i could be your girlfriend, boyfriend"
I had a tim once. When I was 10 i went to this weird Viking role play festival camp thing with my grandma and a few freinds we had a camp site and next to our camp site was another camp the camp next to us was two sisters and their grandparents one of the sisters was also 10 like me so obviously she became like my best friend for the next week we spent every moment together and i REALLY liked her but me being a Christian girl at the time I had no idea what being gay was I knew I liked her more than my other friends that were girls I just didn't know why or how I just remember thinking she was the coolest prettiest person I had ever seen. The day we left I remember the two of us just hugging and crying the whole time my grandma packed up our stuff when we finally left the girl said she hoped she would see me at next years festival I said I couldn't wait to see her to but sadly I never did see her again. It's been almost six years now and I still think about her and I have a feeling she might still think of me to. Her name was skyler and I promise if I ever see her again I'll tell her how I feel. I have a feeling one day we will meet again.
I like how the lines are intentionally so wiggly. it perfectly communicates the feeling of grasping at an explanation for why it is the way it is and simply can’t be helped but every time you accidentally ask yourself “but why can’t it be helped?” your whole justification falls apart in your hands and you’re left scrambling for the pieces, jamming them back together in warped perspective just to make the picture whole and fine again. very cathartic to watch this and lose my mind along with eddie
The constantly shifting style of the animation makes this so homey and bittersweet. It feels like a little kid drew it. You captured the song’s feeling so well - I love this :)
I totally get what you are feeling. One of my art teachers said that her favorite kind of art is when the artist expresses something with the sensitivity of a child who saw the world for the first time but with the concepts and understanding of an adult. I feel the same way.
My best friend was a sheltered guy who said he wished my friend was a girl so he could date him. We let him figure himself out naturally without trying to push him in any direction and he’s figured out he’s pan and is with that guy now lmao
God, isn't it nice to be someone's Tim. My best friend one day came out to me, her being straight. I liked her too, so I accepted. A month and a half later she cut me off by text message, saying she was disgusted to be with another woman, but loved me anyway. A big part of the problem was her homophobic family, and even her thinking that way too. But there was nothing else that hurt me more than when she used to tell me verbatim, " Dammit, why couldn't you be born a boy?" In short, it hit too close to home.
my heart hurts for little squiggly drawn people and those who see themselves in them. i am manifesting a wave of self acceptance and self kindness and a welcoming world and i am turning this idea round and round in my head so fast its gonna pop into existence just gimme a minute
Can kind of relate, my friendships have always been far more beautiful and loving than my relationships to the point where I have stopped dating because platonic love has always felt more genuine, if we swung that way, we would definitely be married already…
I would type out a paragraph about how deep and lovely this is, but people have already done that. There's nothing else to say. It's really just lovely. It's sad, and lovely. Poor little dude. This is why we need to tell kids that being gay is real and valid and that their feelings are valid. It's not brainwashing, it's.. loving. And caring.
love as a construct is bullpoop. its origin is egoistic in nature. all love should be banned and prohibited, unnatural, which does not lead to procreation even more so. or maybe even less so if you consider procreation an act of evil, cause existence is suffering and poop. if you consider love's effect on mental health it's a lie every consumer tells himself. altruism is egoistic and vice versa. so just admit that your love for boys comes from sick affection as does every other feeling and stop romanticizing your dirty sinful existence as a human being that wants to put his stick in a hole and held safe under a protection of lesser minded or hold lesser minded under your control. admit you're evil and stop all this stupid bigotry vs bigotry war
this song is so comforting, cuz i miss my tim. im not sure if i was attracted to her romantically, since now im just sad and overwhelmed because i miss her. but regardless if my feelings were platonic or not, all im sure about is that i loved her more than anything at one point, and sometimes i still do. love the animatic tho, always one of my favorites to come back to :,)
i like the lyrics “i’m not saying you can’t be all these things for me, but it’s just not the same, cuz you’re a man, and so am i” at the end, cuz it shows a sense of internalized homophobia-not that the narrator doesn’t know what being gay is, or is homophobic, but that he can’t accept that about himself because of his own preconceived notions/outside prejudice
YESS i feel like thats what most of these comments are misunderstanding. Yes, there is a childlike innocence with not even having the vocabularity to describe it and the short and simple musical structure-- YET what hits the hardest is those last few lines. "[..]but its just not the same, cuz you're a man, and so am I" is such a simple yet self-aware declaration, highlighting the dissonance of fantasy and brutal reality that he can't overcome his own internalized shame. he is aware of a theoretical possibility for a relationship, but whats stopping him is his own guilt of what HE could never be.
ive never seen a view-to-like ratio like this video, an *eighth* of the people who have watched this, not even considering rewatches, have left it a like and i think that stands testament just how good this video is
bawling my eyes out as a closeted queer girl. almost dated my girl version of tim but she backed out due to religious trauma. she used to tell me how she’d sometimes pray to meet a boy version of myself one day and us being soulmates in a different universe. this hits so deep it’s genuinely unreal.
I like that this song is about love itself, and just wanting to be with the person. We tend to equate sexuality way to much to pure physical attraction and sex, when it is really love and caring for each other that’s important
This music made me cry a lot. Basically, the story you created is perfectly mine. I have a boyfriend, who isn't bisexual or homosexual. But even though I'm a boy, he loves me much more than any girl he's ever seen, but he's not attracted to my looks, and he always wishes I'd been born a girl as well as me. My masculine features make me cry every day, because I don't want that either. My mother is religious and doesn't help me in this matter, so, being a minor, living in Brazil and having very few conditions, I can't buy women's clothes on my own, let alone make a gender transition. We've been together for four years and this whole situation makes us uncomfortable and sad, because we're thinking of separating at once, and we've tried, but we can't stay away from each other. We love each other very much, we comfort each other, and finally... All these problems because of my masculine appearance. I "wish I'd been born a girl".
Yes. In our country (im Brazilian too) transsexuals still a gigant taboo. Principally with these alt-right protestants getting this huge popularity, and the Bolsonaro’s alt-right still being present as a strong ideology, unfortunately, this happens to all the minor and poor LGBT+ community on the nation. All luck of the world for you, greetings from Bahia, and keep going.
Deep down, he seems to have always known that u were a girl, which is really beautiful, i hope u can transition soon, im on the wait for that too, even if im an adult already
Thanks to all of you. :) I was embarrassed to reply these days, but I managed to find the courage! Thank you! This is a very delicate subject, and yes, we're still together and happy. With a little money that I got as a gift at the end of the year from family members, I managed to buy a beautiful women's wig yesterday. Now I'm waiting for it to arrive to see how it looks on me. My boyfriend and I are looking forward to it. My mother doesn't know yet, and it's very likely that her reaction will be terrible, but not to the point of kicking me out of the house, because she said she'd never go that far. But anyway, I'll finally be able to be happy with the way I look. I really hope that I'll have more opportunities to be happy in the future. Thank you for supporting me! ^^ I really need people like this in my life!
@@LeoAzevedo-yb4qu Muito obrigado!! As coisas realmente são bem dificeis aqui em nosso país sobre esses assuntos. :( Mas sabe, estou vivendo em uma bolha de pessoas saudáveis por enquanto. O problema, é quando eu me tornar adulto, e precisar cumprir minhas obrigações com empregos, trabalhos e etc, que eu irei ter que furar essa bolha e conhecer pessoas novas. Eu realmente não sei como será, mas espero que não seja tão ruim.
We all got that one friend in the homie group that would sing this in a cruise night to his passenger princess, staring directly to his eyes as he drives, nearly crashing along the way.
This is the first time I've heard this song and it really reminds me of the way I used to think when I was younger, not knowing what being gay was and just thinking that the people I liked had to be girls for me to "actually like them". That aspect both makes this video really sweet but also melancholic, reminding me of a time where I didn't understand much but still felt happier. I'm glad this little animation can take me back and give me the warm fuzzies of being a kid again. Thank you for making this.
By now, it will have been about one year ago since I decided to confess to my best friend that I loved her. I was initially told that she reciprocated those feelings, but when we went out for lunch the following day, she told me she didn't want a relationship simply because she hadn't planned on dating anyone. Honestly, being told someone shared the same feelings for me only to be turned down later felt worse than just being rejected out-right. I wish she had just told me that from the beginning. In the end, we're still really good friends and I've since gotten over my crush, but every time I think about that time now, it's still painful...I don't exactly connect with the part of wishing someone was another gender/identity as I could date basically anyone and I'm comfortable with my sexuality by now, but I connect with wanting your relationship with someone else to be different, and feeling like you'll never have that. This song made me really emotional and the scribbly animation only contributed to that rush of emotions. Thank you for making this, it's extremely unique and I bet it will bring a lot of other people some sort of connection or relatability or comfort.
Thank you... it is astonishing what responses I've gotten, yours included. The stories people have are so beautiful in a way, and terribly heartbreaking. if my silly animation can bring comfort to anyone it means so much to me. Thank you :]
Damn, your comment maks me emotional. Had a similar experience with a good friend where i confessed my love for him and he said yes. We was a couple for two months and then he said he is not ready for a relationship. It was painful for me but now we are good friends again. I had other crushes and relationships but i still have this feelings for him and its hurt.
I can relate. A few months ago, I had a crush on one of my friends, she's a girl. She is just so nice and friendly, you can be comfortable around her. We both take art class and she is always impressed by my work, and I'm always impressed by her work too. When you see her for the first time, I think you might be scared of her because she's an anime kid hahaha, but when you get to meet her she's just the most humble, funny, smart, talented, and sweet person you could meet. I started to question if I was straight a year ago quietly, and my feelings for her explained that I wasn't straight, I honestly never really felt straight ever. Still having a crush on her, I tried to come out to my parents. Obviously, they didn't accept me. They said "God made men and women for a reason." And "So you wanna have sex with a woman?" And "You're just confused. We won't accept lesbians here." (I'm not a lesbian mom, I'm Biromantic. I don't wanna have sex with anyone at this age.) After a few months, I tried to come out again to my parents to see if anything would change. To my surprise, they said the exact same thing. By this point, I was thinking if I should tell my crush my feelings since she was Bi too. Spoiler alert, I didn't. I got a friend to do it for me. Sadly, she said no. Honestly, I understand. Having a crush on your friend is weird, regardless of gender. Even though, my clingy self wouldn't let her go, until I finally understood she didn't like me anymore so I let her go. I'm a proud Biromantic person, but I still feel regret and sadness for having crushes on girls because I feel like a failure to my family sometimes; like if having these feelings are bad and for the confused. I wish they could just know that I can't do anything about it, I really can't. I still sort of wish my crush was born a boy so I can be accepted.
@@LadyVenus125 you are not a failure, you perfect as you are. And i hope you parents come to the Point, where they realize that have feelings for the same sax isn't bad or horrible.
heternormitivity has fucked up so many of us edit: heteronormitivity refers to the idea that being straight is normal. it is not the same as homophobia. heteronormitivity isnt a "thing" or a "trait of a person". it is a fact of how modern human society is built. most of us didnt know being gay was even a thing or that it was okay till we were older. it is introduced to us as something "different" and external, something we can never see ourselves being a part of. this genuinely harms queer people a lot. even as small children they are unable to comprehend this feeling for the same gender due to this.
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 Eddie wants Tim to be a girl, because it was frowned upon for a man to date a man, but Eddie didn't want Tim to change either, he just wanted to be with him. In the "Hetero normative" the name says it all, the norm was to be straight, meaning that something different from that was considered something bad.
@@PERSONA4GOLDENN No? That doesn’t make any sense. That’s not quite how it’s happenin! What does that have to do with what I just said 😂 and it’s not considered bad he’s just not into men. If it were the lyrics would be a lot more different.
I like that the first half of this song/video is just mundane trivialities of day-to-day life in a relationship (cooking, being sick), and the second half straight-up talks about feeling like a failure and the importance of love. Only saw this now, but I love this song and video so much. As an in-denial / closeted gay teen boy back in the day that was infatuated with my very own “Tim” in 2008-09, if I had discovered this song back then, it would have been my favorite song of all time.
i have a really really really good friend thats told literally me "why couldnt i have just been a girl" before. and he was like everything couldve been easier n shit. hes the only person ive ever told about how i felt sincerely and hes always listened. and ive been through thick and thin with him. all of that before i realized i was transfem then youtube drops me this song. i cant not cry to this song and ive been listening for months ugh. ive linked this song to him before and hes also cried to this. cool animation thanks for the tears (:
i had, well have, a tim too (or a tina cuz she's.. y'know a girl) i first met my tina in science class a couple years ago, she was and is so pretty. we became friends pretty quickly. a few weeks ago we had a kiss, our relationship is pretty unclear and it's like everything's normal with us and our friend group.
I already love this song and how other than its obvious reading as being about being a gay kid and not realizing that you have the option to date "your best friend who you think about more than any girl youve ever met", it can also be kind of read as a trans kid singing to themself, about themself, about "ah, I wish I was born as this gender, it would be great and I'd be so happy, too bad that cant happen" because a lot of my formative memories are wishing I'd been born a boy but "that's just not possible is it?" Basically, the childlike voice the singer uses reminds me of being a little boy when I didn't know I was allowed to be one. Also, I hope someday I'll also find a song that is specifically about that!
Ah yes... that's such a good way to think about it, from the perspective of a trans person. It's quite shocking when you find out, later on in life, that you actually are a man heh.
the trans community makes little gay kids like the one in this song think that they’re born in the wrong body so no, i dont think that should be celebrated 🥰
@@ellepalmer I'm sorry your experience was a negative one, but the fact that you've decided to invalidate others' experiences reveals your self centered nature.
@@ellepalmerthat’s flat wrong, considering cishet society is so heavily doing the *exact opposite*. The dumbest thing about your argument is it doesn’t make sense. Why would we want to force people to deal with the same dysphoria we have to go through. Your lack of knowledge and bias on the subject is incredible
Bro 2:13 is Crazy. I feel that one so hard. I remember always looking at my best friend and being like... "I'd ask him out but... I'm a dude! And he's not gay! So now we have an issue!" and just wishing I was girl instead.
Used to say things like "If you were a boy I would date you" (I'm female) to my friends as a kid. Nice to know I wasn't the only one. Love the animation and the lyrics. It displays that feeling perfectly.
i remember watching this when it was posted and it seriously changed me lol, like this video is so good and makes me cry. i think about it a lot, so thank you for making great art. ❤️
Wow. I grew up raised around hate and felt so broken and this song really helped me. It's nice to find it again after all these years. Sometimes it just hits different. It makes you want to smile and cry at the same time.
When I first heard this song, I was in my sophomore year of high school. I had had my heart broken a few months earlier. It was winter and I had fallen in love with Kevin Barnes’s early works. I remember reading somewhere that he would only sing this song “at a child’s birthday party.” I related so hard to this song, and though I’m sure him its just him moving on from his feelings, I took it as him continuing to see his feelings as silly and impossible. Thats his life with this Tim guy was something that was a frivolous daydream, and that terrified me. That I would only find a frivolous love I could only daydream about instead of pursuing something. I absolutely love this song and I’m so happy to see others love this song. I’ve found someone I’ve grown fond of now. Someone who I maybe don’t have to be afraid of loving anymore. It’s very nice, but I won’t forget this song, and my feelings. I absolutely adore your art. 🤍
I'm glad something like this is exists to comfort all those who are confused right now. I hope that you focus on love and not the sexuality part while experimenting so you all don't end up with more pain when you're old.
Man, everything in this makes me so sad. The fact that he secretly wishes he wouldn't change but their relationship would, the way the lyrics are written like a confused little boy would think in his head, the way all of this is drawn. And to know the exact feelings he is going through. Everything is so innocent and yet so tragic, because you KNOW everything is pure-intentioned, but still there are people picturing same-sex relationships as taboo/ bad/ satanic. Heartbreaking
I’m going to have a different opinion here- I think this song is helpful to a lot of straight men growing up just as it is gay people. From the time of birth, men are told they cannot love the same gender not just romantically, but PLATONICALLY like women do. So instead of a boy growing up thinking his male friend HAS to be a woman he cares for in a romantic manner, it should teach that boys can have friendships like girls- loving and caring and emotional without it always having to be considered gay.
@@penguin22penguin22not like girls do 😅 girls hold hands, embrace each other, cuddle, and are not considered, nor need to be lesbians. Two guys cuddling is automatically seen as gay.
@@PearlsAnneHeels Oh. i mean im a girl and i dont think i ever hugged a friend of mine unless it was a forcehug from when i was really young... But i dont have much friends so i guess i cant relate, but i guess i see what you mean, sadly people say that when it's boys and not girls, that's what you're saying right.? Ok.
I think that EMBEEAY's comment is the first top-level comment I have seen in this comment section that interprets the text in a way that is not obviously idiotic. That should not be a high bar, but apparently it is. So well done.
@@PearlsAnneHeelsLol I am glad to be from a country where holding hands or cuddling by men is not considered as gay. It may be because we're conservative country and that gay relationships are as good as negligible
I get so happy every time I see someone make art dedicated to of Montreal. This one was really beautiful and definitely the top one I’ve seen so far :) love this 💖💕
honestly i love the way you drew it, especially considering its supposed to be the internal thoughts of the main character. its messy and not well defined despite having a clear subject matter, and really respresents the way the character views themselves and their world, a messy scribble of lines that's supposed to be one thing, but it doesn't quite clearly show what it is. idk if that makes sense but it does to me
Exactly. And you know what? Both crushes are equally silly, elementary school stuff. I think it's great to let your kid grow up and be silly and do harmless stuff and not get mad because a book or your own parents taught you that one is right and one is wrong. AND also not to ascribe a label to any of it because kids are the definition of "still figuring it out". I think culture war has kinda ruined childhood whimsy on both sides. I think everyone should feel the need to "come out" to their parents. Straight, gay, mspec, ace, or anything. I think that ability to be curious is a person's greatest tool of self-invention and understanding of all the wacky systems in this universe. I even think people should kinda stop hardlining labels entirely, because, as Whitman so perfectly put it, "Do I contradict myself? / Very well then I contradict myself, / (I am large, I contain multitudes)". But that's enough of my meandering manifesto, buried in a comment section under a short animation of a song capturing a naive, but truly felt emotion. TL;DR: Good on'ya
Im not gay nor queer, Have never will never. but this strikes somewhere with me. I have a freind who i wish i could be a girl for, we've known eachother so long but yeah
i think u might be queer lol. you might not be, but "will never" is a way of thinking that will just cause you unnecessary pain. you do not have to commit to any label or identity and those are things that can change with time. just like in this song a lot of people view queerness as something external to them something that they can never see themselves being a part of, its how most of us are raised. even if youre not raised being taught homophobia and even if youre taught tolerance you were likely not raised to see yourself in queer people. i did not even consider the possibility that i was gay until a female friend in highschool started dating another girl and the concept of that sort of became real to me, if that makes sense. its hard to explain but its the way a lot of people think without even realizing it
@@BlisaBLisa Yeah, over the last 2 months a load of major things have happened. Falling out with said friend from political views (he’s alt-right) Very-very short stint and dating a female friend Grandmother dying and more, but during all this I’ve been spending a load of time on trans or queer spaces because they’ve been really great for support and has gotten me to open up a little more. I’m questioning a ton of stuff about myself right now but until I move out I can’t experiment. I’m not comfortable in my skin or with who I am currently so I have a deep rotted feeling that this might be an indicator that I’m trans. God knows though, I’ve had these feelings on and off for a long time and I just need the space to explore
@AnOrdinaryJoe im so happy for you! this can be a really intimidating and scary time but it can also be such a massive weight off of the shoulders. An important thing to remember is that understanding yourself and what you want doesnt exist on a timescale, you're never too early or too late to understanding who you want to be or why you feel a certain way. Its a lot to unlearn, but its also a lot to discover. Sending you love and support from a nb lesbian
So glad this blew up right now. As a closeted gay teen, it means the world to see stuff like this. I wish I had known I was gay sooner because it didn't even occur to me that guys could like guys before I realized I was gay. I feel like I could have had much deeper relationships with some people had I known. That intense despair I feel from knowing how much time I've wasted before I knew I was gay, and even now, being closeted, makes this song hit so ridiculously close to home. Your art so thoughtfully heightens the experience of the song. The visceral style feels to me like a stream of consciousness, looking at my life and all the boys I've liked, especially when I'm looking far back into the past and thinking about the boys I didn't even know I liked. I love the humor and beauty and clear passion in all of this. This is one of the only pieces of media to ever make me feel this deeply. Thank you so much for bringing your talent into this, heightening an already-perfect song.
Thank you this is an incredible comment and it warms my heart to read this. You're very right about the stream of consciousness thing. I had actually created this animation in only a few days, whilst I felt some strong emotional connection to that song, so to see that sort of "transferred" to you and others is astonishing!
and P.S. thank you for sharing your story, I know that it's extremely cheesy to say this, but the fact you have even realised you're gay and seemingly accepted it, within yourself at least, is so important. It's a bittersweet feeling to find that you understand yourself better (for all the years lost in which you didn't), but it's exciting for the future, too!
I’m not really attracted to how people look, I find romantic love with people I’m close to, so I feel this a lot. I’ve fallen in love with lots of Tims, and I regret never saying anything before they disappear.
I'm a girl. My tim was Anna. She was beautiful with long blond hair and blue eyes. Her family is homophobic and Orthodox. One night we were drunk watching ice hockey, she kissed me and confessed her love. After that day we never hang out 1 on 1. She got embarrassed everytime she saw me after. She has a bf now and I do too. Everytime I see her in public she hides from me. I miss her everyday.
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i like how tim doesn't change into a girl in eddie's imagination, he stays the exact same. i think it shows how he subconsciously doesn't want him to change, he just wishes he was a girl so it was acceptable
that's so sad :(
I think you got it right on the money friend
“i’m not saying we can’t be all those things for each other but it’s not the same cause you’re a man, and so am i.” of montreal paints a beautiful portrait of queer struggles hagagGgh
sometimes you b loving bro but like that's gay yn
@@amoraromero8430 Fr. The writing is really good. I’m straight and it still hits hard cause it’s articulated so well 🤌
I love that in all the art, even though the lyrics say "I wish you were born a girl," Tim is drawn as a boy, implying that what the singer really wants is not for Tim to be any different, but for their relationship to be different.
im confused, what other implication could there be?
no way to look like girl or boy though
@@aWERFRGT6545BGFGfrom the child's perspective there definitely is a way to look like a girl. long hair+ maybe wearing a skirt or smth
@@jamwithme173that's a learned distinction, depending on the environment/who raised them, a child might think the opposite. When I was a kid girls had pretty short hair.
Yeah! Just my interpretation, I had always thought of the song as being about two boys/men, but I also love if the animation can still come across as gender-open and trans inclusive!
I had a Tim once. God It’s been about four years now since I really hung out with him. During the Covid lockdown I ended up moving away from a lot of my friends to a new town and because of the lockdown I wasn’t really able to see them much. But one of my friends got his license right before the lockdown went into full effect so some days he would drive over and me and him would go to the trails in the woods by my new house and just goof off and talk a lot. After a few months it got more “intimate”, we would often lay by a small stream or under a tree in an open field and cuddle with eachother while listening to music. Although we never really admitted that we had feelings for each other it was nice. The area we live in doesn’t have the most accepting people anyway so we weren’t gonna be open about it. But after the lockdown ended we kinda just drifted apart and stopped talking. We‘ll see each other every now and again when we’re at a party or something but we never talk about anything we did. We both have girlfriends now, but I admit I’ll think about our time together every now and again and it makes me happy. It’s bittersweet.
What a nice comment
1. Do you love your girlfriend?
2. Why did you moved to a town if towns aren't the most accepting areas anyway? Or have you been living in rural areas for your whole life?
3. So, the area where you lived during that period of time is a very conservative town, am I right? If so, why? Please, explain your answer in detail.
4. Would you like to have a relationship with a guy like the guy you met? Or do you really love your girlfriend?
@@jmrabinez9254
1: I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade her for anything
2: I didn’t have a choice where I moved because I was still in high school and lived with my family. And no actually, I’ve generally lived in small townships most my life
3: yes it is a conservative area. As to why, that’s just how everyone there was raised? Idk I guess it is what it is
4: I’m bi and again, I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade anything for the relationship I have with her now. It’s just a guilty pleasure of mine to reflect on the past I suppose
@@jmrabinez9254 obviously not the op, but the interviewing is kinda weird. Life isn't black and white
@@jmrabinez9254 1. Bisexual people exist.
2. Well, yeah, people in conservative areas hide, what did you expect? Not everyone has the capacity to move.
It's really emotional for me because I remember as a kid thinking "wow Lisa is so beautiful, if I were a man I would have asked her out" and this song just felt really close to home. Great job
yes, this was always me too, growing up as a girl and realizing i was gay. it lead to a lot of gender dysphoria for me. for me the song is reversed: emily, i wish i was a boy so i could ask you out, etc...
I'm neurodivergent so attraction has always been confusing for me but subconsciously I knew that it was wrong to be anything other than straight...I don't even remember I specific point where I learned this..I guess I just subconsciously picked it up
I thought the song was gonna be dumb, but then it was...wow
The way they were holding hands on the bed and just being in love so casually, so tenderly, it made me think of all the crushes and chances I ignored and avoided for the sake of ‘normalcy’
One time in elementary school I was sleeping over at my friend's house and we were laying side by side on our makeshift beds on the floor talking. She said she felt like she wasn't pretty and boys didn't like her. I told her I thought she was pretty and I would have a crush on her if I were a boy 😢. Sometimes thinking about what could have been if I'd only known really hurts
a great representation of how discrimination isn't just people shoving you into the closet with pitchforks, it's also them convincing you that the closet is your room
‘It’s also them convincing you that the closet is your room’ -@atoucangirl I can’t stop think about this comment. Thank you
@@chloerose6842 i'm somewhat of a poet myself
that last sentence really stings in so many different ways
What does this mean
@@justinisorange that people can often internalize biggotry, and this can lead to some queer ppl denying they're queer their entire lives because they think they must be "normal". like the kid in this song who clearly has feelings for Tim but wishes Tim was a girl because he can't imagine a relationship otherwise than between a guy and a girl. when they could very well date as guys (if Tim wants). but he thinks he can't access these feelings if Tim is a guy because he was taught "relationship is when guy and girl".
Historians: “they were great friends”
This lmao 🤣
Best friends, even.
Roommates, even.
And I heard they threw the best of parties!
@@arturocordova5670 💀 I do not like what this is implying
the fact that tim and eddie are made out of wiggly lines that move around a lot is great visual storytelling. it really represents how not straight they are
Heehe yeaah! You read the description of his name! and lol thank you ;]
Or how demented kids are.
1,000TH!!! >:*)
@@JeremiahWdabullfrog
skill issue
Lol
I always looked at this song as a gay child who doesn’t know that being gay is a thing and this is their first experience with falling in love and not knowing that they could date the same gender
That's a great interpretation! I definitely can see that
Or maybe the other boy is trans
@@charlesancer6101 enby non binary its not your genitalia make you who you are its you gender expression
Or just bring a "straight" dude who wishes his good male friend was a girl 😭
Or just anyone who wishes things could be different than they are right now 💜
I’m a girl and I’ve never gotten over my ‘tim’. We went to a catholic all girls school together, she joined later because her family moved around a lot and when I saw her it was like my heart stopped. She was the prettiest person I had ever seen, and when she held my hand I felt safe and at home. She kissed me once when we were skipping class and hiding out in the changing rooms.
She said sorry after she kissed me. Said she didn’t know what came over herself and she left.
I’ll always regret not going after her and saying that she didn’t need to be sorry, and that I had never felt the way I did now before.
She moved to England a week later without telling me or even saying goodbye, but I wonder if the kiss was her way of saying goodbye.
@ed3_873 nah Irish Catholic all girls school is just wild
@ed3_873 At their core, movies are based on real life.
Everyone in Catholic school is gay
mf you had ur main character moment and you let it go
This made me cry damn 😢
"just a touch of oregano"
>absolutely fucks it full of oregano
as it should be
No salt either, or pasta water, or meatballs, just spaghetti + garnish, ( This might be missing the point of the video, Idk )
Same energy as “two shots of vodka 😊”
Just right.
the imagery is sending me 👼
i watch this video like once a month you dont even know how much this video means to me. i love this song so much so finding this video made me love it even more
Heh. I know it's my own video, but I love to go revisit it too. Thank you so much, I'm glad you're able to resonate with it so well. I think I made it in only a day or two, but it's good I did. I didn't let there be any time for me to lose whatever I wanted to express at the time, so I suppose it came quite naturally. Thank you again!
Same ngl
It's so unbearably cute
I hope Tim and Eddie get to live happily ever after.
Why has no one commented on this? I don’t get it.
Me too m8, me too...
This reminds me of when I was 9 and had no idea what being gay was, but I really fell for this girl and every night I’d cry to my mum wishing I were a boy so that she could be my girlfriend lol. My mum said she’d suspected it all along but wanted me to figure out who I am by myself :] ❤️
edit: hihihiiii thank you all for the very kind replies !!!! I just wanted to say the girl I mentioned in this comment and I are in a relationship now and are very happy together :)
That's so so sweeet : ]
@@greentuff1531are u okay??
@@greentuff1531never seen anyone be more confused about words and ideas. Their mother didn't say anything to them, and if she did it would've been a good thing. It's impossible to turn someone gay, but it is possible to make gay kids happier by telling them that they can feel good about who they are
@@greentuff1531 and I’d prefer if you didn’t call my mother deranged. She’s done nothing but support me for being who I am, she’s never said a word about the lgbt+ community until I came out to her. So please just leave people alone and keep ur thoughts to yourself.
@@greentuff1531 Uh- okay? lol- think what u want man just don’t push ur opinions onto others. “Understand your emotions more” it took me years to understand my emotions, and now I’m here living happily alongside my partner who happens to be the same gender as me. If it really bothers you that much I think you need help lol
me personally, i would date someone who makes me spaghetti with tomato sauce with just a touch of oregano and a parsley stem regardless of their gender
Then date me
i can do that and im a female so no homo
Us personally
Saucepansexual
shouldve added black pepper
This video recommends me. And I realised I also had a person who as same as Tim. He is a handsome boy and have a deep voice. There once, I sent a message to him by saying 'take care' and he said to me that I treated him like a girlfriend. Many days later he confessed me that he loves me. Then, we always do our love stuff, like when I hugged him and then he blushed, I kissed him and later he kissed me back, also we both dating and had a dinner, face-to-face, laughing at him how silly he eat. Then, after like 7 months later, he told me that he want to be friend with me, not a lover. After that incident, I'm getting farther away from him, because it's awkward to talk to him. Even worse, me and him are classmates. I hate it if someone pairs me and him in every group project. And now what? Today is his birthday as I write this comment. Why RUclips's recommendation always related to my life? Why? Why?
thats one heck of a story man, damn
@ed3_873 Nah, i don't want to, it makes more awkward with him, as i no longer chat with him 😬
It's a part of life, you're not always in control of what goes on inside someone else, especially not when it comes to romantic feelings. Just roll with it, accept it, and some day there will be someone there who's special and ready to make a commitment. By them this will just be a memory you can laugh about.
If you're still interested, just let him know he can come back to you no matter what, and the rest is in the air
@@helloeveryone4192 You have to be forward with someone to an extent - even if you don't particularly talk anymore. I'm not technically in a similar situation with a lover, but with friends [the whole awkwardness and farther away part]. Your feelings will be unnoticed if you continue to shelter them but consider Slash's words as well - you cannot control and take ownership in a person. Things will go awry, and that is life. A journey that we can partially control in our lanes, but not with others. Life isn't always related to love, and it isn't particularly a healthy standard to judge our worth towards.
sorry if it's too late, i just want to voice my opinions.
"Wish you were born a girl so i could've been your boyfriend" has the same vibes as "i wish i could be a girl and that way youd with i could be your girlfriend, boyfriend"
EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT NO WAY 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
@@ImTired17 oh hey it's you
WIM WOOL
@@Doveghost hello!
@@greatestyoutuber WILIM WO
I had a tim once. When I was 10 i went to this weird Viking role play festival camp thing with my grandma and a few freinds we had a camp site and next to our camp site was another camp the camp next to us was two sisters and their grandparents one of the sisters was also 10 like me so obviously she became like my best friend for the next week we spent every moment together and i REALLY liked her but me being a Christian girl at the time I had no idea what being gay was I knew I liked her more than my other friends that were girls I just didn't know why or how I just remember thinking she was the coolest prettiest person I had ever seen. The day we left I remember the two of us just hugging and crying the whole time my grandma packed up our stuff when we finally left the girl said she hoped she would see me at next years festival I said I couldn't wait to see her to but sadly I never did see her again. It's been almost six years now and I still think about her and I have a feeling she might still think of me to. Her name was skyler and I promise if I ever see her again I'll tell her how I feel. I have a feeling one day we will meet again.
Ah, I hope very much you see her again :,]
I hope more than anything that you see her again
I hope more than anything that you see her again
I need an update when that happens. This is now one of the most important matters in my life.
Mannn!!!! Now I'll always somewhere in my heart pray and hope that you two meet again. Please let us know if you ever do.
I like how the lines are intentionally so wiggly. it perfectly communicates the feeling of grasping at an explanation for why it is the way it is and simply can’t be helped but every time you accidentally ask yourself “but why can’t it be helped?” your whole justification falls apart in your hands and you’re left scrambling for the pieces, jamming them back together in warped perspective just to make the picture whole and fine again. very cathartic to watch this and lose my mind along with eddie
The constantly shifting style of the animation makes this so homey and bittersweet. It feels like a little kid drew it. You captured the song’s feeling so well - I love this :)
Thank you : ] I was going for the "kids drawing" look!
is it bad that i read homey as something else for a moment? not to ruin the mood or anything, but you know
@@reygenne1 It’s not bad but I’m not sure why you pointed it out haha
ohh you know it's just cause i like sparking things sometimes with fun and sometimes a little too much!@@shiny_cats2727
I totally get what you are feeling. One of my art teachers said that her favorite kind of art is when the artist expresses something with the sensitivity of a child who saw the world for the first time but with the concepts and understanding of an adult. I feel the same way.
My best friend was a sheltered guy who said he wished my friend was a girl so he could date him. We let him figure himself out naturally without trying to push him in any direction and he’s figured out he’s pan and is with that guy now lmao
You letting him figure it out and not pushing him to a conclusion is something everyone should do regardless of their views
Nice
HELP THATS SO CUTE
sh I'm pan too, pan love fr
AWWWWWW so cute 🥰
God, isn't it nice to be someone's Tim.
My best friend one day came out to me, her being straight. I liked her too, so I accepted.
A month and a half later she cut me off by text message, saying she was disgusted to be with another woman, but loved me anyway.
A big part of the problem was her homophobic family, and even her thinking that way too. But there was nothing else that hurt me more than when she used to tell me verbatim, " Dammit, why couldn't you be born a boy?"
In short, it hit too close to home.
😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🥨🥨🥨🥨🤔🤔🤔🤔😎😎😎😎✈✈🏢🏢🏢🏢✈✈✈✈🏢🏢🏢🏢9/11^_____^
This is incredible 💖I thought it was an official music video at first! Stellar job
THANK YOU!! That's a great compliment heh!!
IT ISN'T??
OMG YOU HERE?? I LOVE YOUR ART
Its not?
@@nova.millerno lol, the original song is by of montreal & came out in 1997
This art style fits so well with this song in a way I can't explain, just so sweet
0:39 “I coulda made you CHICKEN SOUUUPP😔”
Kill me now
Love ur profile pic so much
This is actually really sweet and sad at the same time. I just wanna give the poor guy a hug :(
poor guy needs it...
my heart hurts for little squiggly drawn people and those who see themselves in them. i am manifesting a wave of self acceptance and self kindness and a welcoming world and i am turning this idea round and round in my head so fast its gonna pop into existence just gimme a minute
Can kind of relate, my friendships have always been far more beautiful and loving than my relationships to the point where I have stopped dating because platonic love has always felt more genuine, if we swung that way, we would definitely be married already…
THIS IS SO CUTE WTF IM IN LOVE WITH THE STYLE OF THIS
Thank you so much :D
i love how he describes exactly describes how he's gonna make spaghetti
yummy
Me vibes
I like imagining these are all things Eddie has seen his parents doing for each other
AWWW😭😭😭😭😭
I guess i had a Tim, although it ended it bit differently when they transitioned. We're happy now
Cute
"I wish you were a girl"
"I am ?"
"Oh neat ... "
"Now what?"
I would type out a paragraph about how deep and lovely this is, but people have already done that. There's nothing else to say.
It's really just lovely. It's sad, and lovely.
Poor little dude.
This is why we need to tell kids that being gay is real and valid and that their feelings are valid. It's not brainwashing, it's.. loving. And caring.
Do teachers suppose to teach it?
It is brainwashing. You can maintain the boundaries of brotherhood and be close friends affectionate to each other but nothing beyond that.
love as a construct is bullpoop. its origin is egoistic in nature. all love should be banned and prohibited, unnatural, which does not lead to procreation even more so. or maybe even less so if you consider procreation an act of evil, cause existence is suffering and poop. if you consider love's effect on mental health it's a lie every consumer tells himself. altruism is egoistic and vice versa. so just admit that your love for boys comes from sick affection as does every other feeling and stop romanticizing your dirty sinful existence as a human being that wants to put his stick in a hole and held safe under a protection of lesser minded or hold lesser minded under your control. admit you're evil and stop all this stupid bigotry vs bigotry war
@@MrM0gus Teach what? Being gay? How is that even taught?
@@Flow-Fi-Teach students about gay history not teach them how to *be* gay 💀
this song is so comforting, cuz i miss my tim. im not sure if i was attracted to her romantically, since now im just sad and overwhelmed because i miss her. but regardless if my feelings were platonic or not, all im sure about is that i loved her more than anything at one point, and sometimes i still do. love the animatic tho, always one of my favorites to come back to :,)
i like the lyrics “i’m not saying you can’t be all these things for me, but it’s just not the same, cuz you’re a man, and so am i” at the end, cuz it shows a sense of internalized homophobia-not that the narrator doesn’t know what being gay is, or is homophobic, but that he can’t accept that about himself because of his own preconceived notions/outside prejudice
YESS i feel like thats what most of these comments are misunderstanding. Yes, there is a childlike innocence with not even having the vocabularity to describe it and the short and simple musical structure-- YET what hits the hardest is those last few lines. "[..]but its just not the same, cuz you're a man, and so am I" is such a simple yet self-aware declaration, highlighting the dissonance of fantasy and brutal reality that he can't overcome his own internalized shame. he is aware of a theoretical possibility for a relationship, but whats stopping him is his own guilt of what HE could never be.
Maybe he just doesn't like the d ever consider that?
Exactly. The other comments are just ignoring this like that seems super important to me
Or just not instinctively attracted to men
ive never seen a view-to-like ratio like this video, an *eighth* of the people who have watched this, not even considering rewatches, have left it a like and i think that stands testament just how good this video is
bawling my eyes out as a closeted queer girl. almost dated my girl version of tim but she backed out due to religious trauma. she used to tell me how she’d sometimes pray to meet a boy version of myself one day and us being soulmates in a different universe. this hits so deep it’s genuinely unreal.
omg i've been wanting to make an animation for this song for a while now too! you beat me to it, and very well done lol. great job
oh wow, hey you can still make your own version hehe! Thank you! 💞💖
I like that this song is about love itself, and just wanting to be with the person. We tend to equate sexuality way to much to pure physical attraction and sex, when it is really love and caring for each other that’s important
This music made me cry a lot. Basically, the story you created is perfectly mine. I have a boyfriend, who isn't bisexual or homosexual. But even though I'm a boy, he loves me much more than any girl he's ever seen, but he's not attracted to my looks, and he always wishes I'd been born a girl as well as me. My masculine features make me cry every day, because I don't want that either. My mother is religious and doesn't help me in this matter, so, being a minor, living in Brazil and having very few conditions, I can't buy women's clothes on my own, let alone make a gender transition. We've been together for four years and this whole situation makes us uncomfortable and sad, because we're thinking of separating at once, and we've tried, but we can't stay away from each other.
We love each other very much, we comfort each other, and finally...
All these problems because of my masculine appearance.
I "wish I'd been born a girl".
I'm so sorry, I hope when you are old enough to move out etc. you can pursue the life and gender presentation you want
Yes. In our country (im Brazilian too) transsexuals still a gigant taboo. Principally with these alt-right protestants getting this huge popularity, and the Bolsonaro’s alt-right still being present as a strong ideology, unfortunately, this happens to all the minor and poor LGBT+ community on the nation. All luck of the world for you, greetings from Bahia, and keep going.
Deep down, he seems to have always known that u were a girl, which is really beautiful, i hope u can transition soon, im on the wait for that too, even if im an adult already
Thanks to all of you. :)
I was embarrassed to reply these days, but I managed to find the courage!
Thank you!
This is a very delicate subject, and yes, we're still together and happy. With a little money that I got as a gift at the end of the year from family members, I managed to buy a beautiful women's wig yesterday.
Now I'm waiting for it to arrive to see how it looks on me.
My boyfriend and I are looking forward to it.
My mother doesn't know yet, and it's very likely that her reaction will be terrible, but not to the point of kicking me out of the house, because she said she'd never go that far.
But anyway, I'll finally be able to be happy with the way I look.
I really hope that I'll have more opportunities to be happy in the future.
Thank you for supporting me! ^^
I really need people like this in my life!
@@LeoAzevedo-yb4qu Muito obrigado!!
As coisas realmente são bem dificeis aqui em nosso país sobre esses assuntos. :(
Mas sabe, estou vivendo em uma bolha de pessoas saudáveis por enquanto. O problema, é quando eu me tornar adulto, e precisar cumprir minhas obrigações com empregos, trabalhos e etc, que eu irei ter que furar essa bolha e conhecer pessoas novas. Eu realmente não sei como será, mas espero que não seja tão ruim.
this is so cute I love the style so damn much, what a wonderful little video
aa thank you I truly appreciate that 💞💖 I'm happy especially you like my doodle style :D
I literally love this, I love your interpretation
Thank you
This is my first time listening to this song. This is such a well done animation that perfectly captures the spirit of the song. Excellent job
We all got that one friend in the homie group that would sing this in a cruise night to his passenger princess, staring directly to his eyes as he drives, nearly crashing along the way.
I’m the passenger princess
I think thats just ur homie group bro,,
Your Homie group sound sweet.
idk, sounds oddly specific...
This is the first time I've heard this song and it really reminds me of the way I used to think when I was younger, not knowing what being gay was and just thinking that the people I liked had to be girls for me to "actually like them". That aspect both makes this video really sweet but also melancholic, reminding me of a time where I didn't understand much but still felt happier. I'm glad this little animation can take me back and give me the warm fuzzies of being a kid again. Thank you for making this.
Thank you
Ofcourse you have a Jojo profile
were you ever molested
Sometimes I wish it wasn't as relatable for me as it actually is
By now, it will have been about one year ago since I decided to confess to my best friend that I loved her. I was initially told that she reciprocated those feelings, but when we went out for lunch the following day, she told me she didn't want a relationship simply because she hadn't planned on dating anyone. Honestly, being told someone shared the same feelings for me only to be turned down later felt worse than just being rejected out-right. I wish she had just told me that from the beginning. In the end, we're still really good friends and I've since gotten over my crush, but every time I think about that time now, it's still painful...I don't exactly connect with the part of wishing someone was another gender/identity as I could date basically anyone and I'm comfortable with my sexuality by now, but I connect with wanting your relationship with someone else to be different, and feeling like you'll never have that. This song made me really emotional and the scribbly animation only contributed to that rush of emotions. Thank you for making this, it's extremely unique and I bet it will bring a lot of other people some sort of connection or relatability or comfort.
Thank you... it is astonishing what responses I've gotten, yours included. The stories people have are so beautiful in a way, and terribly heartbreaking. if my silly animation can bring comfort to anyone it means so much to me. Thank you :]
Damn, your comment maks me emotional. Had a similar experience with a good friend where i confessed my love for him and he said yes. We was a couple for two months and then he said he is not ready for a relationship.
It was painful for me but now we are good friends again. I had other crushes and relationships but i still have this feelings for him and its hurt.
I can relate. A few months ago, I had a crush on one of my friends, she's a girl. She is just so nice and friendly, you can be comfortable around her. We both take art class and she is always impressed by my work, and I'm always impressed by her work too. When you see her for the first time, I think you might be scared of her because she's an anime kid hahaha, but when you get to meet her she's just the most humble, funny, smart, talented, and sweet person you could meet. I started to question if I was straight a year ago quietly, and my feelings for her explained that I wasn't straight, I honestly never really felt straight ever. Still having a crush on her, I tried to come out to my parents. Obviously, they didn't accept me. They said "God made men and women for a reason." And "So you wanna have sex with a woman?" And "You're just confused. We won't accept lesbians here." (I'm not a lesbian mom, I'm Biromantic. I don't wanna have sex with anyone at this age.) After a few months, I tried to come out again to my parents to see if anything would change. To my surprise, they said the exact same thing. By this point, I was thinking if I should tell my crush my feelings since she was Bi too. Spoiler alert, I didn't. I got a friend to do it for me. Sadly, she said no. Honestly, I understand. Having a crush on your friend is weird, regardless of gender. Even though, my clingy self wouldn't let her go, until I finally understood she didn't like me anymore so I let her go. I'm a proud Biromantic person, but I still feel regret and sadness for having crushes on girls because I feel like a failure to my family sometimes; like if having these feelings are bad and for the confused. I wish they could just know that I can't do anything about it, I really can't. I still sort of wish my crush was born a boy so I can be accepted.
@@LadyVenus125 you are not a failure, you perfect as you are. And i hope you parents come to the Point, where they realize that have feelings for the same sax isn't bad or horrible.
@@milch_mutter Thank you so much for your kind words. You just made my day.
Lovely, perfectly fits the themes in the song.
Thank you
heternormitivity has fucked up so many of us
edit: heteronormitivity refers to the idea that being straight is normal. it is not the same as homophobia. heteronormitivity isnt a "thing" or a "trait of a person". it is a fact of how modern human society is built. most of us didnt know being gay was even a thing or that it was okay till we were older. it is introduced to us as something "different" and external, something we can never see ourselves being a part of. this genuinely harms queer people a lot. even as small children they are unable to comprehend this feeling for the same gender due to this.
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@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 Eddie wants Tim to be a girl, because it was frowned upon for a man to date a man, but Eddie didn't want Tim to change either, he just wanted to be with him.
In the "Hetero normative" the name says it all, the norm was to be straight, meaning that something different from that was considered something bad.
@@PERSONA4GOLDENN No? That doesn’t make any sense. That’s not quite how it’s happenin! What does that have to do with what I just said 😂 and it’s not considered bad he’s just not into men. If it were the lyrics would be a lot more different.
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I'm going to assume you didn't see the video.
@@PERSONA4GOLDENN I did. 🤨
I'm so glad this is getting more popular :} I've loved this song for years and it makes me so happy to know that now even more people are loving it!!!
I like that the first half of this song/video is just mundane trivialities of day-to-day life in a relationship (cooking, being sick), and the second half straight-up talks about feeling like a failure and the importance of love.
Only saw this now, but I love this song and video so much. As an in-denial / closeted gay teen boy back in the day that was infatuated with my very own “Tim” in 2008-09, if I had discovered this song back then, it would have been my favorite song of all time.
This is such a sweet song and the animation is just precious. I feel for the poor fella.
I love this artstyle it’s reminds me of one of those 2000’s PBS Kids shows
Yess!!! I love kids animations heh
i have a really really really good friend thats told literally me "why couldnt i have just been a girl" before. and he was like everything couldve been easier n shit. hes the only person ive ever told about how i felt sincerely and hes always listened. and ive been through thick and thin with him. all of that before i realized i was transfem then youtube drops me this song. i cant not cry to this song and ive been listening for months ugh. ive linked this song to him before and hes also cried to this.
cool animation thanks for the tears (:
Thank you :, ]
glad to see this song getting love. Literally no one i know has even heard of this song.
i had, well have, a tim too (or a tina cuz she's.. y'know a girl) i first met my tina in science class a couple years ago, she was and is so pretty. we became friends pretty quickly. a few weeks ago we had a kiss, our relationship is pretty unclear and it's like everything's normal with us and our friend group.
This video looks so beautiful, i love everything about this, great choices made. I almost cried at the end, he looks so disappointed.
Incredibly bitter sweet
The style is PERFECTT for this!
Thank you :- o !!!!!
Ofc!! ^^ Great job!
this is so lovely. what a beautiful emotion this creates.
Ah thank you : ] I'm glad you feel the emotion from it
you portrayed this song so beautifully. Every time I watch it I'm like wow
I already love this song and how other than its obvious reading as being about being a gay kid and not realizing that you have the option to date "your best friend who you think about more than any girl youve ever met", it can also be kind of read as a trans kid singing to themself, about themself, about "ah, I wish I was born as this gender, it would be great and I'd be so happy, too bad that cant happen" because a lot of my formative memories are wishing I'd been born a boy but "that's just not possible is it?"
Basically, the childlike voice the singer uses reminds me of being a little boy when I didn't know I was allowed to be one. Also, I hope someday I'll also find a song that is specifically about that!
Ah yes... that's such a good way to think about it, from the perspective of a trans person. It's quite shocking when you find out, later on in life, that you actually are a man heh.
the trans community makes little gay kids like the one in this song think that they’re born in the wrong body so no, i dont think that should be celebrated 🥰
@@ellepalmer I'm sorry your experience was a negative one, but the fact that you've decided to invalidate others' experiences reveals your self centered nature.
@@ellepalmer Finally, some common sense
@@ellepalmerthat’s flat wrong, considering cishet society is so heavily doing the *exact opposite*. The dumbest thing about your argument is it doesn’t make sense. Why would we want to force people to deal with the same dysphoria we have to go through. Your lack of knowledge and bias on the subject is incredible
This is so sad, im genuinely so upset about this ! but i love how it made me cry.
i know this is 2 years old but i felt the need to say thank you for creating this. its a very beautiful video ❤
Thank you :, ] !!
Man, I haven't heard that song in so long, but I was obsessed with that entire album.
I'm sending this to someone named Tim.
Thank you.
Bro 2:13 is Crazy. I feel that one so hard. I remember always looking at my best friend and being like... "I'd ask him out but... I'm a dude! And he's not gay! So now we have an issue!" and just wishing I was girl instead.
Oops. I meant to put 1:23.
Used to say things like "If you were a boy I would date you" (I'm female) to my friends as a kid. Nice to know I wasn't the only one.
Love the animation and the lyrics. It displays that feeling perfectly.
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i remember watching this when it was posted and it seriously changed me lol, like this video is so good and makes me cry. i think about it a lot, so thank you for making great art. ❤️
aahw my goodness thank you!!!
That Guitar solo at the end is bittersweet as it is, it perfectly matches the animation. Love this
guys, fuck society, love has no gender 🥲
But society are judgemental.
No just love, just everything.
Then ignore it, live your life, be happy.@@TheFreakJessie
Love has no gender, but has limitations. If the other person is straight, you have to respect that and remain it as a platonic relationship.
This is so cute 🥺🥺, this animation makes song million times better! Love it so much, thank you for warmth!
Thank you
Wow. I grew up raised around hate and felt so broken and this song really helped me. It's nice to find it again after all these years. Sometimes it just hits different. It makes you want to smile and cry at the same time.
this video makes me so proud to be a fruity lil fella
When I first heard this song, I was in my sophomore year of high school. I had had my heart broken a few months earlier. It was winter and I had fallen in love with Kevin Barnes’s early works. I remember reading somewhere that he would only sing this song “at a child’s birthday party.” I related so hard to this song, and though I’m sure him its just him moving on from his feelings, I took it as him continuing to see his feelings as silly and impossible. Thats his life with this Tim guy was something that was a frivolous daydream, and that terrified me. That I would only find a frivolous love I could only daydream about instead of pursuing something. I absolutely love this song and I’m so happy to see others love this song. I’ve found someone I’ve grown fond of now. Someone who I maybe don’t have to be afraid of loving anymore. It’s very nice, but I won’t forget this song, and my feelings. I absolutely adore your art. 🤍
Thank you,,, and your comment is beautiful. I am genuinely happy for you!!
I'm glad something like this is exists to comfort all those who are confused right now. I hope that you focus on love and not the sexuality part while experimenting so you all don't end up with more pain when you're old.
Man, everything in this makes me so sad. The fact that he secretly wishes he wouldn't change but their relationship would, the way the lyrics are written like a confused little boy would think in his head, the way all of this is drawn. And to know the exact feelings he is going through. Everything is so innocent and yet so tragic, because you KNOW everything is pure-intentioned, but still there are people picturing same-sex relationships as taboo/ bad/ satanic. Heartbreaking
I’m going to have a different opinion here- I think this song is helpful to a lot of straight men growing up just as it is gay people. From the time of birth, men are told they cannot love the same gender not just romantically, but PLATONICALLY like women do. So instead of a boy growing up thinking his male friend HAS to be a woman he cares for in a romantic manner, it should teach that boys can have friendships like girls- loving and caring and emotional without it always having to be considered gay.
im confused though, boys usually have their homies and are friends with boys.
@@penguin22penguin22not like girls do 😅 girls hold hands, embrace each other, cuddle, and are not considered, nor need to be lesbians. Two guys cuddling is automatically seen as gay.
@@PearlsAnneHeels Oh. i mean im a girl and i dont think i ever hugged a friend of mine unless it was a forcehug from when i was really young... But i dont have much friends so i guess i cant relate, but i guess i see what you mean, sadly people say that when it's boys and not girls, that's what you're saying right.? Ok.
I think that EMBEEAY's comment is the first top-level comment I have seen in this comment section that interprets the text in a way that is not obviously idiotic. That should not be a high bar, but apparently it is. So well done.
@@PearlsAnneHeelsLol I am glad to be from a country where holding hands or cuddling by men is not considered as gay.
It may be because we're conservative country and that gay relationships are as good as negligible
The song says just a touch of Oregano meanwhile Eddie is aggressively slamming the Oregano down into the spaghetti
I get so happy every time I see someone make art dedicated to of Montreal. This one was really beautiful and definitely the top one I’ve seen so far :) love this 💖💕
Thank you : ] +!!!
damn, i've always envisioned this song like the animation, phenomenal job. loving the art style
Not only is the video absolutely precious but the comments are giving me life ❤
honestly i love the way you drew it, especially considering its supposed to be the internal thoughts of the main character. its messy and not well defined despite having a clear subject matter, and really respresents the way the character views themselves and their world, a messy scribble of lines that's supposed to be one thing, but it doesn't quite clearly show what it is. idk if that makes sense but it does to me
Thank you - yes, you're right it's from his perspective! I do imagine them to be kids/young people so it's a reflection of their childishness, too : ]
Why is this so wholesome...
I HAVEN'T HEARD THIS SONG IN FOREVER!!! Like, at least 10 years.
The art is perfect! Really captures the energy of the song!!
I always get SO sad listening to this, I don't know why but I'm crying help
One of my favorite songs! Love the animation, does the feeling of the song so much justice :) Great work!
Just realized this is from 2 years ago LOLL made my page late but love it anyway!
That's one of the most authentic things I've seen in a while, and with that style animation it's even better. Very good!❤
What an insanely sad song, I hope he got together with tim or at least found another guy to be with
More realisticly, he fond out he was not straight all along and found someone. Way after.
I'm pan, and have always told my 8 year old she can love whoever she wants. Last year she had a crush on a boy. This year, it's a girl.
You’re such a sweet parent😭🫶
THAT'S SO CUTE
Exactly. And you know what? Both crushes are equally silly, elementary school stuff. I think it's great to let your kid grow up and be silly and do harmless stuff and not get mad because a book or your own parents taught you that one is right and one is wrong. AND also not to ascribe a label to any of it because kids are the definition of "still figuring it out".
I think culture war has kinda ruined childhood whimsy on both sides. I think everyone should feel the need to "come out" to their parents. Straight, gay, mspec, ace, or anything. I think that ability to be curious is a person's greatest tool of self-invention and understanding of all the wacky systems in this universe.
I even think people should kinda stop hardlining labels entirely, because, as Whitman so perfectly put it, "Do I contradict myself? / Very well then I contradict myself, / (I am large, I contain multitudes)".
But that's enough of my meandering manifesto, buried in a comment section under a short animation of a song capturing a naive, but truly felt emotion. TL;DR: Good on'ya
AAAAH I love Of Montreal and to see this song animated is making me really giddy :D
Im not gay nor queer, Have never will never. but this strikes somewhere with me. I have a freind who i wish i could be a girl for, we've known eachother so long but yeah
i think u might be queer lol. you might not be, but "will never" is a way of thinking that will just cause you unnecessary pain. you do not have to commit to any label or identity and those are things that can change with time. just like in this song a lot of people view queerness as something external to them something that they can never see themselves being a part of, its how most of us are raised. even if youre not raised being taught homophobia and even if youre taught tolerance you were likely not raised to see yourself in queer people. i did not even consider the possibility that i was gay until a female friend in highschool started dating another girl and the concept of that sort of became real to me, if that makes sense. its hard to explain but its the way a lot of people think without even realizing it
@@BlisaBLisa Yeah, over the last 2 months a load of major things have happened.
Falling out with said friend from political views (he’s alt-right)
Very-very short stint and dating a female friend
Grandmother dying and more, but during all this I’ve been spending a load of time on trans or queer spaces because they’ve been really great for support and has gotten me to open up a little more.
I’m questioning a ton of stuff about myself right now but until I move out I can’t experiment. I’m not comfortable in my skin or with who I am currently so I have a deep rotted feeling that this might be an indicator that I’m trans.
God knows though, I’ve had these feelings on and off for a long time and I just need the space to explore
@@AnOrdinaryJoeStop for a second and realize that life stressors make you think a lot of things about yourself that may or may not be true.
@AnOrdinaryJoe im so happy for you! this can be a really intimidating and scary time but it can also be such a massive weight off of the shoulders. An important thing to remember is that understanding yourself and what you want doesnt exist on a timescale, you're never too early or too late to understanding who you want to be or why you feel a certain way. Its a lot to unlearn, but its also a lot to discover. Sending you love and support from a nb lesbian
the opposite end of "i wish i could be a girl and that way you wish i could be your girlfriend"
Loved this, thanks for sharing! I’ll have to check the band out!
This song makes my heart hurt in a nice way
Love that youtube recommended me this song, this is a great song and the art style is perfect for the song, like an innocent wish
This can be either understood as closeted guy lying to himself he's not gay, or openly gay guy wishing for easier life.
So glad this blew up right now. As a closeted gay teen, it means the world to see stuff like this. I wish I had known I was gay sooner because it didn't even occur to me that guys could like guys before I realized I was gay. I feel like I could have had much deeper relationships with some people had I known. That intense despair I feel from knowing how much time I've wasted before I knew I was gay, and even now, being closeted, makes this song hit so ridiculously close to home. Your art so thoughtfully heightens the experience of the song. The visceral style feels to me like a stream of consciousness, looking at my life and all the boys I've liked, especially when I'm looking far back into the past and thinking about the boys I didn't even know I liked. I love the humor and beauty and clear passion in all of this. This is one of the only pieces of media to ever make me feel this deeply. Thank you so much for bringing your talent into this, heightening an already-perfect song.
Thank you this is an incredible comment and it warms my heart to read this. You're very right about the stream of consciousness thing. I had actually created this animation in only a few days, whilst I felt some strong emotional connection to that song, so to see that sort of "transferred" to you and others is astonishing!
and P.S. thank you for sharing your story, I know that it's extremely cheesy to say this, but the fact you have even realised you're gay and seemingly accepted it, within yourself at least, is so important. It's a bittersweet feeling to find that you understand yourself better (for all the years lost in which you didn't), but it's exciting for the future, too!
this is gorgeously done. i love the style and the captions-something about it speaks directly to my inner child lol.
thank you for making this. reintroduced me to the song that made me realize being gay isnt bad.
I’m not really attracted to how people look, I find romantic love with people I’m close to, so I feel this a lot. I’ve fallen in love with lots of Tims, and I regret never saying anything before they disappear.
I'm a girl. My tim was Anna. She was beautiful with long blond hair and blue eyes. Her family is homophobic and Orthodox. One night we were drunk watching ice hockey, she kissed me and confessed her love. After that day we never hang out 1 on 1. She got embarrassed everytime she saw me after. She has a bf now and I do too. Everytime I see her in public she hides from me. I miss her everyday.