I'm nonbinary and I agree. Sorry y'all, you don't get free passes for being toxic. We should be all judged by the contents of our character; not by the shape that our soul and identity.
Unlike it is portrayed in this video, DO NOT BIND WITH BANDAGES. Use a binder or sports bras. (Edit: this kind of turned into a support system in the replies, so if anyone sees this and wants tips on safe binding, consider putting your questions on here :D)
How to get Badger to listen: 1. Threaten to dump his wine. But on a serious note, do you still struggle with this from time to time? Just asking out of curiosity.
Lol xD Yes :/ But now it's more about not feeling feminine enough. I always was more into guys stuff and I guess I'll always will be. If I would have a chance to change my gender tho, I doubt I would, because I have straight boyfriend, I want to have children and I always was a slave to people opinions :/ But in the end, everyday I find myself wishing I was born as a guy. I feel like I would fit in more.
@@BrainOfRott This is what egg is talking about.. why do they have to make labels in order to wear "girl cloths"? I also hate that *some* people thing that they have to be gay in order to wear "girl cloths". It's OKAY to wear whatever, or act whatever.
3:35 please no one bind your chest like this. Use a binder or sports bras. Just not bandages or anything like that. edit: so this got a lot of attention to i think i need to clear something up the reason you dont bind with bandages is because bandages aren't made to let you move they are made to be tight and become tighter. this can cause muscles damage, rib bruising, damage to your lungs and spine. so yah don't bind with bandages. Also don't bind while asleep, don't wear a binder of more than 8 hours, don't excises with a binder on and LISTEN TO YOUR BODY.
Just Ozzy Okay, so Im doubting my gender identity and Ive wondered how wearing a sports bra or binder would work and help. If you know, please respond :)
@@marsbaur3564 Binders are always good but make sure to get the right size and not to small because u would not get better results just pain. But u could also use sports bras. I suggest to wear the backwards. Either one is fine. But always remember to only binder for 8 hours max and to never wear them while u sleep
@@marsbaur3564 also if u are routing your identity them I suggest talking to someone or doing some research. But if your heart is telling u somthing then listen.
as a trans guy, I really support this video. it’s totally okay to question your gender! I grew up playing with girly toys, wearing girly things. but I was obsessed with a lot of “boy” things. my interests don’t make me trans. my dysphoria does. a trans person can come from any background. and even if you aren’t trans, it’s okay to experiment with gender expression. do NOT medically transition until you are sure; especially if you plan on starting T. male puberty is extremely hard to reverse (trans women can definitely agree) and if you turn out wrong, you could be stuck with real dysphoria for the rest of your life and that’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. stay safe :-(
No, no no, shut up. In also trans än your dysphoria does not make you trans. Like, thats so fucking excluding to say and i hope that anyone trans without dysphoria didn't have to see such a hurtful thing. Trans people can have whatever body they feel comfortable with and to say that your dysphoria is what makes you trans is widely problematic.
Devenline Demoncore thats completely normal! dysphoria is NOT constant; as in it’s not the same day to day. that’s normal! and please be safe when experimenting. binding unsafely can irreversibly damage your chest!
The video is spot on I see people tryna be what their not on reality all it is is a shot glass to hide behind. The more you hide the more misery they feel. When reality is blurred it's not ever a good thing. Yeah I'd like to be a women but I commonly except that I am not. I'ma straight guy and there is nothing wrong with that just accept what you are and accept reality and you'll be ok. you'll ruin your lies you ever think about who you want to be rather than who you can be and be the best you can be
Cody Sullivan if you’re telling me that i’d be happier just living as my biological sex, which is female, then you’re wrong. i’ve attempted suicide for the hope of being reincarnated as biologically male. the best treatment for me is to transition so that I can live as male. there’s a difference between wanting to be the opposite gender and having gender dysphoria. I hope that you’re able to safely explore your own identity and find peace with that. but for me, living as my biological sex is a death sentence.
I was playing with a my little pony toy and giving it a haircut, and I accidentally cut it too short. So my peanut brain decided to CUT OFF MY OWN HAIR AND TAPE IT TO THE PONY. My grandma was babysitting me at the time.
i didnt murder the dolls. *MY DOG DID.* (true story) so i was at school, not thinking about dolls but lunch. i came home from school, thinking about dolls now. i go into my room, greet max (my dog), go to the dollhouse, and.. there they are, lying on the floor, DESTROYED like it was a dang GODZILLA movie. one had no hair whatsoever, one had limbs bitten off, and the other one just had a messed up face like it got attacked by the monster from stranger things and he had a hunger for faces that day.
I shop in the boy section too. I just don't like how girl clothes look. The jeans are awesome. They have pockets where i can fit something inside and the fit is perfect for my body type. It should be okay to wear clothes we like just like hairstyles.
Yep, i hate the female clothes they are like, tight¿ and meh... I don't want to be there and here with something that makes me fell unconfomtable for... resalting my body? Lol
I'm having a gender crisis because people keep telling me that your interets don't matter and anyone can like anything, and that gender doesn't define you and all that. But I don't like my body. It's about my anatomy, not my interests. It's about how I think and feel, not interests. People are giving me a lot of dysphoria and I don't know how to handle it. Sorry for ranting y'all
Np you beautiful person. I... Guess I am having a crisis too. Like, I am bi... But I just don't know. It's confusing really. Like I hate trying to be manly. It sucks ass and I have to be toxic to fit in.
man nothing defines gender but you, obv your interests n likes arent gonna define you, and neither does your body!! however its incredibly valid to feel like those things do define you i despise being afab, but that isnt just me, thats my body and not me, im a man, and the fact my /body/ is female doesnt change who i really am yknow??
I'm going through a gender identity crisis at the moment but I'm scared to tell my parents because I know that they'll say "oh your too young to understand"
I did tell my parents and they came at me with the “oh you’re just a tomboy” so honestly just tel them when you’re ready I’m telling them again later in life
You're never too young or too old to start figuring yourself out. Don't worry about telling other ppl until you understand yourself. If you need help figuring it out, I'd ask ppl who might be going through the same thing. Find some LGBT online communities or in-person friends, and then you can figure out how to tell them.
@Dat øne derpy bøi Thankfully rlly short haircuts on girls and long haircuts on guys are trends nowadays and it isn't weird to see ppl with atypical haircuts. So if you're scared to tell them WHY you want a haircut, you can simply tell them you want to try (whatever cut you want) just to see what it's like. You can also test the waters a bit by telling your parents you met someone (u could say it was online if you're worried about them wanting to meet them or anything) who's (whatever your situation is) and see how they react to it. It's a subtle and fairly safe way to find out who around you will be supportive and who won't.
Best advice I can give you is - don't rush, but in the end - stay true to yourself. Think about your past, see if theres any links to this. Because if there is, it might be temporary. But if there's none, do what makes you happy and go for whatever your heart desires!
Videos like these make me feel fake and like im in a phase. I’ve been struggling with my gender for years. Even as a little girl i was so happy when my mom told me i looked like a boy at one point. I ended up identifying as trans. I go by He/Him and a different name with my friends and it really makes me happy. I hate my deadname, it’s like a punch in the gut and i occasionally breakdown after hearing it. But im also Neurodivergent so phases and special interests can play a huge part in my own gender identity crisis. Which confuses me further whether im really trans or not.I do want to fully transition but I’m also very scared I’ll regret it because im simply in a phase. I used to think i was in a phase. I stopped identifying as trans for a lil bit after i came out to my family and they broke my dreams and confidence at all in this. They aren’t accepting. But yea i thought it was a phase afterwards buy them i bounced back and dysphoria can back. I hate shower, i hate mirrors. I hate my long hair and i hate my chest. Yea i do want a d*ck but again i dont know if it’s a phase. It scares me that it is cuz i do really really wish i was born a guy. I feel like like would’ve been better. Less depressing and self-hating. I just wanna figure out who I am without the struggle in it. And these type of videos dont help. I loved the video regardless and watched all through because it’s amazing and I support it. It just makes me question myself. I really hate myself for not just being a girl like everyone else like i should. But that’ll be constant ig
Well I obviously can't tell you what you are, but I've also felt this to a slightly lesser extent. After I told my dad and found out that he had felt like that in his teenage years but it went away, I got worried that maybe it was genetic and I only felt like this because of puberty. I felt ok later though. And seeing stories of people who had gender dyphoria but don't now. I didn't like how confused and worried that got me. So I dunno. The way I see it, it's best to just do the things you like and act like yourself in your best mood because if I focus on trans then I start acting different trying to be and act like all the dude stereotypes. So it might be better not to think of it as trans vs not trans, and just think of it as you currently. If you feel sick or whatever being called feminine things, then I think you should do what makes you feel less terrible inside. Things like surgery are permanent, but without parental consent you would need to be 18 and with the money it might take longer, so if you still feel like that once you're at that age then you probably will continue to feel like that. But anyway, I don't think you should stress about the trans thing cause we're all just people trying to do what makes us happy, and that shouldn't have a gender. Even if this is a phase, your feelings when you were in it were real at least to you, so the whole 'are you really trans' or 'am I trans enough' doesn't matter. Having a label to call yourself is nice until that's all you can be. So try to have fun! Listen to good music, play fun games, if you like books or cooking or gardening or martial arts, you should do it! Since we only have one life, it'd be a waste to spend it all stressing about things that are out of our control. And even if you find out later that maybe you are a female or something else, that doesn't mean that you're one like on tv. You'll still be yourself no matter the gender. Anyway geez this was long! I suck at writing normal lengthed replies -_-. So I'm sorry for this horrendous mess if you end up seeing it. My thoughts always get really jumbled when I'm writing. Hope you have a nice week and holiday season! Peace
For a long time I was confused about my gender and thought I was a trans guy, but once i figured out i could be nonbinary/genderfluid and not restricted to masculinity or feminine traits. I felt more free and happier
Maestrul Gamer its called butch. it’s appealing to the eye because a female will normally have feminine traits and take on the role of being petite and small. however when it comes to specific girls, like me, they have very masculine traits and other women can find it attractive. now normally those “straight gurls” are bi/les/pan/etc that are closeted.
i dont thnik if u look like boy and a girl fall for well she LESBIAN or BI cause if she know u girl it gonna hurt u a lot....I already try and well she dont want be my friend anymore i was just pranking and now im alone with my girly friend ;-;
For girls that want to try to be a guy it's simple for a guy telling you this all you have to do is play a lot of video games eat junk food stay up just act like a fool we don't really care what people think of us are us guys if we enjoy it that's all that matters
My family kinda supports me and I'm too scared to tell my friends. I also need a (chest) binder, I look like a girl with short hair. I'M ALSO NON-BINARY BUT PEOPLE DON'T CARE CUZ I LOOK LIKE A GIRL RIGHT!?
same but my bio parents got jailed because... yknow... that.... and my "new" (I've lived with them for like 8 years) family is super lgbt (2 moms, 1 gay and 1 pan bro, a trans lesbian sis, a L O T of gay and bi animals) and super supportive :D
This video really's shown me how lucky I am with how I've handled my life. I'm a cis-guy who grew up with lesbian mothers both of whom loved me and I still love. At a young age I mostly had girl friends with one boy friend and I played with dolls as well as trucks and playfighting. I've never been uncomfortable with the feminine side of myself, I don't see myself as masculine, but I'm a man, it doesn't matter if girly shit is awesome sometimes. It sucks that you went through so much hardship, and also, I hope you don't just act feminine because you feel you need to, do what you want! Also: This one audio drama series I love to death has an episode where the maincharacters wind up fighting against a corrupt tyrant who oppresses women and forces them to be the workhorses of the kingdom/country/whatever and where the men are all lazy drug addicts who never have to do anything. At the end it's revealed that the tyrant, despite being the 'king' is actually a woman who watched her life get torn apart by a divorce caused by her father's drug addiction and then blamed her mom and her gender in whole. She acted as a man and subjegated the women because she wanted to men to be allowed to have their drugs and be in control because she saw her dad as being in the right. Just though I'd bring up this story since I thought of it when you described your toxic friend. Also Also: You have a new subscriber!
Roseローズ Well good luck having the struggles we guys have,good luck being an emotionless person that everyone expects to protect them and to be manly in everything they do,also,don't forget the constant rejections.
As a trans person i can say we in the trans community don't claim that person. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a toxic person. Also edit: i think the reason the person in question cried and was spiteful is bc of hid gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is a pain, i have it myself. Not saying his behavior is excused in any means.
@@aggressivepie6860 its rediculous to put a tag on it. So a girl who likes cars is a tomboy? Or a girl that games? Or wears mens clothing? How far have we humans become to put labels on people? Its still a girl.
@•Cleetus McYeetus• the term tomboy is rediculous. It is still a female human, with interests in male things. Sole enjoy having a label so they can get special treatment, while in practice it remains a woman. The DNA is the evidence of that. A transgender that was a male will always be a male. Still the same XY chromosomes. I wonder what other abominations humans will invent
I’m transgender, I hate living in this female body and I’ve done terrible things just by that alone.. But now, I’m going on like.. ah soz not native English speaking but basically where u can get hormone pills and eventually undergo surgery. Stay strong lads! The worst will be waiting but.. that’s just life.. Edit: tysm for the likes and support guys
When you're a tomboy, yet you have a ton of guy friends who play video games with you and basketball and aren't even sexually attracted to you and treat me like a fellow homie, not a princess: (yeah, that's my life. I'm comfortable with being a girl, I just like to do boy stuff and wear boy clothing. I despise dresses. They don't feel right for me 😅)
And THAT kiddos, is why you need to be sure you have gender dysphoria before you fully transition (i.e. Change your genitals), luckily they didn't, but *PLEASE* get diagnosed (by a professional) first.
Ehh, Not everyone changes genitals but yeah getting diagnosed is key. If you deciede on Hormone Replacement Therapy (Main treatment for most transfolk) then a doctor supervision is require for a bunch of reasons towards making sure you're on the right does and staying healthy. At that point if you're not really trans and the underlying cause it different you should notice the hormones causing you to get worse and not feel better about yourself. Since detransitioning in the first 3-6 months really only carries minor symptoms in most cases; simple due diligence is often all that's needed.
Oh god same with the hair dressers , had long hair. Hated it and had to go to 3 different places for them to eventually had it cut shorter each time . Ehh in your case I wouldn't says it's a gender crisis, more of a want to please others crisis ??
i went to this random hairdresser they just did it like damn you are brave like one of those asian mums andd also they donated my hair cuz there were lots. im happy with the result and it went to a good cause yeys
HOLY COW this is shockingly similar to my life, the dysphoria, the toxic relationship, everything, the heck?? But I am glad people are bringing problems like these up to help those who may be in similar situations, not knowing what to do.
I don't know if this is too personal, but did you feel better when you were more masculine or do you feel better now? Are you happier with being feminine?
It seems shes happier with the feminine. She started her social transition because a transguy was telling her he hated his body and femininity, it seems she internalized what he was saying for a very long time.
I'm a girl and I feel like a girl. I also wear dresses and skirts, because I don’t like wearing pants. But I hate Makeup and the color pink. So I’m not that stereotypical girl some think. I just like being natural and vintage cause that’s my style. But I’m totally okay with transgender people or tomboys. I hate when people are homophobic, because people should do what they think is right for them. I actually think tomboyish girls are kinda cute. So there’s nothing wrong with being girly or being tomboyish.
Hey this might be kinda late but, id advise you not to use the term transgenders, not that it's offensive but it isnt really correct since transgender isnt a gender. It would be better to use 'transgender people'
same! i dont mind what ur gender is, ur sexuality, or whatever. i just want u to be able to tolerate my tomboy style/personality/moments and my girly ones. and another thing, be a good friend. and even if ure a stereotype, i dont give a flying fuck about it, just be nice and thats it
wait why is everyone sayin y'all can bind with sports bras when i'm over here wearing em because they comfortable af. no wonder i'm flat. also i'm a girl and i have guy friends. this doesn't mean i'm a guy.
Some sport bras create a bit of compression affect on breast and cant help people who can afford or cant buy a binder, the padding can also taken out in a lot of them and they are more comfy than under wire bras! Hope this answers the question
I think part of the greatest issue with this thinking is that certain clothes, toys, colors, etc, belong only to one gender or the other. Accept yourself for what you are and be what you want to be and do what you want to do. Thinking that things will be easier by being something different is not a good idea, or as the saying goes "grass is always greener on the other side" sure the things you take issue with may be better but there is other baggage that you probably have not even considered.
I might have fkd up on that one. Im still not sure. in my language putting a word in between " makes it the opposite meaning. like sarcasm or something 😅
@@NeroTMAnimations oh, I didn't know. Just some people in my country makes it sound like being trans is so easy and they make jokes about it. I can't stand it. So I got angry...
I'm a dude (dont ask) in high school and I were my hair in a ponytail and I like it although some people dont and make jokes I couldn't get a f*ck about what they say.
If there are any transgender people who have gone throw the surgeries in the comments, do you regret it or would you recommend. Depending on your answer would you please explain why you think that way??
I don't think that anybody can "recommend" anything. For me getting a top surgery is a necessity because I have a really bad gender dysphoria about my chest. People who regret getting surgeries are usually the people who thought they were trans but actually were going through something else mentally or who's surgery had gone wrong and they are dissatisfied with the results.
I havent had them but I will tell you that i have been wanting top (chest masculinization) surgery since I was... 12 or 13, and im almost 17, so im doubting im making the wrong choice. I have my reservations about bottom surgery, but every day my bottom dysphoria gets worse and worse, so ill probably do something about that later, too.
Cant speak for people who have had surgeries, but transitioning socially and medically is saving my life right now. My gender dysphoria has always been bad, and i always get a burst of euphoria when I am gendered correctly. I am starting hrt in about a week, and i couldn't be more excited. It feels like I'm finally becoming the person that i was always meant to be. I strongly recommend transitioning for those who experience gender dysphoria, as its the one true cure to it.
I do not regret having surgery at all. It was the best decision of my life. However, I would NOT say I "recommend" surgery. Surgery is a huge decision that can improve someone's life but could also worsen another's. In the video, this girl is not transgender. She was confused about her gender identity, which is totally fine and I'm happy for her that she was able to explore her gender before deciding what was right for her. To anyone who thinks they may be transgender and/or is considering surgery, I would say the best thing you can do is wait before taking any medical steps and try to figure yourself out. This may be through crossdressing or telling a close friend or therapist how youre feeling. Overall surgery is an extremely personal decision that should be well thought out before someone engages in it.
Someone can be a "girly girl" (very feminine is probably the better term you're looking for) and still be a strong mother just as much as a tomboy. And behavior wise, if there already is a man in the house, a more effeminate mother might be more fitting because you'd already have a role model filling out the masculine role so with a tomboyish mother, there'd be a bit of a shortage of femininity in terms of a role model in the house. Why that would matter is because in psychology, it's been proven statically that households with a strong feminine motherly figure and strong masculine fatherly figure tend to have kids that are better well rounded and do better throughout life compared to those households lacking one of those two figures.
KinG Dee While what you say has some grit, it is practically worthless compared to simply having caring, and decent parents. Homosexual parents that both fill the same masculine or feminine niche are better then heterosexual parents who fill stereotypical gender roles, but are simple bad parents.
@@notyetdeleted6319 ... My response was based on factual information, so no it isn't "useless". And in my example, of course I'm referring to the parents playing their roles well. I wasn't saying homosexual people can't raise good kids.
@@notyetdeleted6319 and I wasn't implying that if there is a strong masculine father and a strong feminine mother, they'd automatically be good parents. Of course it takes proper love and care to raise a child well no matter the gender(s).
@@shawnm.7450 I completely agree with you on all points. Equally, you can be very womanly but strong. For instance, most of my Familys female are like Margaret Thatcher. Womanly but you certainly wouldn't want to disappoint. Hence the strong desire to become the best man you could be, a Gentleman and to not let your standards drop. This also means the Husband has to be extremely 'prim and proper' who has respect and class coming from him.
AAHAHHHH I'm starting middle school in like 4 weeks and I'm confused on my gender so that's fun Edit 5 months later😅:I've sort of figured out that I'm okay with any pronouns used for me, he/him is okay, she/her is also okay with me so it kinda helps
You're still young, take your time to figure out your identity man. It took me an eternity to figure out mine (I'm 16 now btw) and I'm still kind of confused but eventually you'll know what's best for you
There is nothing wrong with being confused at all. One of the letters in lgbtq+ that being “q” stands for questioning. It basically means that there are plenty of people who are questioning things like that. So feel free to explore in the best way you can. If you turn out to be non-binary or trans that’s great! If not, that’s great too! That just means you’ll get to have a perspective that not a lot of cis-gender people get! That’s pretty cool if you ask me.
im going through a gender crisis where im not sure if im nonbianary or just butch. i like they/them pronouns a lot more than female ones and i have a fake name i use online that's more unisex. but in real life i can still tolerate being considered female by everyone around me so idk. i wear mens clothes, I've changed my posture, the way i talk, cut my hair, and make my voice lower too. i dont want to be a man but i do want to be androgynous looking. ive never liked the size of my chest either and ever sence puberty ive been subconsciously slouching in baggy t-shirts to try and hide it, ended up giving myself really bad spinal issues. but i am going slow with things, i dont want to label myself until i know for sure what i am, my closest friends respect my journey and they refer to me as whatever i need them to without judgement, im really scared that if i make a label official and come out, then change my mind, everyone would ridicule me.
It's hard :( my friends used to hate this part of me 2. But now, afer 7 years, as I am now a 22 years old, if I even mention something about this, that I still feel not that good about it, that maybe I sometimes do get doubts, I get way more hate and ignorance. So I keep it to myself now. Dont do the same mistake, once you will feel it, go for it ;) it's your life. People just need some getting used to. Ps about the booby thing, maybe try wearing sports bras? They make them a lot more flad, they would stay in place, without making you feel them around so much and t-shits woul cover up the rest. Also under a nice baggy tshit you no one will see them and you can really can some plane designs that are not so feminine.
@@NeroTMAnimations thank you so much, you're really sweet :) and yeah i do wear sports bras and I'm actually planning on getting a light binder soon from a friend
I believe the word ‘tomboy’ can be taken in many ways depending on what the person who says it means. When I used that word, it is more of a term to empower me, as I lived in a very toxin masculine community. So having that label on me, was my safety net to know that I am feminine but with masculine traits or features. Either way, the word tomboy is an “each to their own” term. Remember, the world is full of colours, and with that comes various perspectives and views.
anime Edits No it is not. When you say sexist, it connotes that whatever it is is offensive or shouldn’t be said, although it actually denotes that whatever it is, encourages prejudice, stereotyping and discrimination. It doesn’t encourage any of these things, if it encouraged stereotyping, the term tomboy would have to mean something along the lines of “a woman who does manual labour instead of cooking”. And it doesn’t imply that being a masculine woman is abnormal, it literally just defines a woman as having traits similar to males ( usually to do with things like toys ), this doesn’t mean “abnormal”, it just means “different”. My mum was a tom boy because she played with toys that were made for boys, because yes, some toys are made for ( but not exclusive to ) boys, and some are made for girls. That’s the way it has been for years and there is nothing wrong with that.
MEME IZZ DAILY VIDEOS Yeah i get you. Thanks for respecting what i said and such. I expected people to start bombarding me with replies telling me to kill myself lol.
I'm a trans boy but you know I still like long nails and nail polish still it acts up my dysphoria but I like it its okay to like things of the opposite gender
This reminds of the truest solution to your problems: if you let go your human mindset, problems or state then you will not have to worry about most things. Also self-esteem is usually the cause of your problems. Complement and get complement frequently
Me, a transmasculine dude who has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria: watches this My brain: maybe you're faking it.... maybe this is just a phase...
Im pretty sure Im a boy?? When I was growing up mum gave me dolls and stuff but I hated them and ripped out the batteries..I really only played with toy cars.. in the middleschool ages, I acted like a dude, I did parkour, video gaming, even as young as age 7. I did typical boy things. Im in my teenagehood and I don't wear makeup EVER not even at formal events, I hate dresses, I constantly imagine what it be like to be a male, the jokes I say are better when a guy does it, I act exactly like a dude not just a tomboy but a full on dude, I have no desire to be feminine ever, I do skateboarding, Boys hate me because I'm too masculine, Girls hate me because I'm not feminine at all, I don't even know how to do my hair, my room is a mess. I grew up with my brother and his my role model, my mum was naturally very tomboyish so I never had any feminine figures in my life. Every feminine thing I do just feels wrong, I just wish I could be like one of the bois..because when I do that as a girl everyone just sees it as cringey or weird...In my experience every girl Ive met just starts drama and gossip and how I argue is more in a masculine way where I will fight for one day but the next day wanna be friends again, I give no shits about appearance. So yeah pretty sure Im trans..not sure yet though...could just be extremely tomboyish and people have said "Maybe you're gay" But I'm not attracted to females....I just don't know anymore...even the boyfriends Ive had in the past have been like "Sorry you're too boyish for me" and it sucks...cause I completely agree... Im terrified though..because all my life Ive said "Oh but females can be as masculine and they want and still be girls" but Im starting to realize that maybe there are certain traits that make someone a girl and someone a boy...and I lack the ones that make me a girl...like comparing myself to girls.. I've never acted like them..not even once.. But ..I don't want my mum to see me different..and I don't want to get bullied :(....Im just so confused now....I dont want to be seen as different....but...I am getting so sick of being seen as a girl... someone help me...I want to make sure that Im not just a really masculine girl...but ugh....was it because I was raised like a boy or copied my brother.... And to be fair I have no interest in babies or children either..My mum also put me in dancing classes and I hate waking up early, putting my hair in a bun and putting on makeup and then performing...it feels so freeking wrong... I have no problem with females..the ones im really good friends with are so great and caring..but I just don't feel as I fit in with them.. theres just something I feel like I lack...I don't even know what makes a girl a girl anymore and what makes a boy a boy anymore...... My parents never really raised me..they were more like my friends tbh... Sorry for ranting about my problems
THANK YOU though this is not me Ive been diagnosed with severe gender dysphoria but I feel like when young girls have low self esteem like this and think being a guy would make them happier they end up being sadder and end up detransitioning
As I guy I can confirm that you don’t get the help you need when you’re having a rough time, whatever the duration of time is. Got hurt, “man up”, got dumped hard and feel like shit “just get over her”. No one really tries to help, and if you ask for help you just get called a “pussy”.
I have situation like you im really a tomboy i hate skirts, dress, make up, and other girly thinks :/ Im tomboy and NOTHING stoping me from begin my self !! I even cut my hair but i have little longer hair than you... Wish you all amazing life !
Paulina Migowska just because you’re a tomboy doesn’t make you less of a girl. It just means you don’t like girly things. Being a tomboy doesn’t make you transgender or anything but they assume this now and that’s dangerous
The thing is- I have crises' all the time. One day I feel like a super girly-girl, the next a tomboy, then a feminine male, then I identify as male. HELP.
i wanna look like a boy whenever i want i wanna look like a girl whenever i want sometimes i wanna be a guy and be gay and sometimes i wanna be a girl and look cute idk anymore what i want... welp im only 12 almost 13 maybe ill finf out why im like this? cant really talk to anyone about this qwq 2020 : now 13'-' And ur replys as helped me a little so ty!^^ I understand myself a little much more now=w=
Tbh right now you are not an adult so you won't actually be sure or make good choices so I'll advise you to wait till you are sure and old enough to make the decision
you can check out this model, called Rain Dove. They're an androgynous person and they have the freedom to be whatever they feel like that day. That's something I do slightly envy, ngl. That may not be you, and you will figure things out eventually. I'm just saying she is very inspirational and I think you would enjoy listening to her experience :)) Best wishes to you my friend!
@wav. רויז dressing in a neutral way is a great idea! But don't try to talk yourself into anything. Believe me, I've been there and you can make yourself think you are something that you are not. don't focus yourself too much on the thought that you're trans or something. I'd be great if you could let go of it just for some time, dont try to label yourself and just be yourself, do and wear what you like without worrying too much, to clear your thoughts.
I am Bigender but It's hard because My mom don't support me. I cut my hair, start wear baggy clothes and started make my Voice boyish she hated it and screamed me, but I that didn't stop me because I know who I really am. Be strong, Be you and never stop being who you are.❤️
How old are you? If you are already 18, you are not a minor anymore, so you can live by yourself if you want. If you're not, then wait some time to do it, or if you have people from your family close and that support you, you can live with them
@@turtlezcatz1651 bigender is another term for "two souls" meaning people that were born with one soul being male and one being female. If you don't have that then you're not bigender
Do you have any dysphoria with this? Qnd how can you feel like a male one day and female the next? It just sounds like you might feel like wearing a skirt one day and then pants. It's not anything to change your identity about.
as a trans boy who is still forced to live whit his homophobic parents the part where people didint accept you when you were questioning your gender hits close to home
I had similar problems, but not quite... while talking to my big bro, I eventually decided that I can't fill either role. I'm not feminin enough to be the ideal women and I'm not masculin enough to be a guy... And my brother, surprisingly got me. He said something about how those role we think of when we think of men and woman are stupid and I don't have to fit them. So I decided I wouldn't be a woman or a man, I'd be me. This weird mix of both. And I'm bi, so yay for me!
People be saying that girls needs to be feminine, and guys needs to be maskuline I'm over here thinking why we can't be a mix of both, and if you want to have more of the one and the other then that's cool to As a girl that likes being more feminine (though I'm working to get more of that masculinity), I'm way more comfortable around guys that let their femininity show (I'm working on that too tho, so that I can be comfortable with maskuline guys too)
Hi I'm nonbinary and really like this! I have struggles with choosing what sides I am.. I like masculine and feminine things! I like wearing skirts but don't want to be assumed as a girl, and I want to wear boy clothes but I don't wanna be seen as a boy. It gets really annoying being stereotyped into the gender roles. I'm still choosing my name tho and it's rlly hard!
i'm non-binary, leaning more to a feminine appearance and expression, it's been more than 2 years since i came out and i can only say... don't force it, just take tiny steps until it feels right, either if you're trans or cis. i hate the idea that every thought, every interest, every piece of clothing and every physical feature has to be linked to a gender. i like make up and i like "girls' clothes" and i like seeing how my body changes slowly thanks to hormones, but i'm definitely not into all the girly stuff people want me to be into, and same with the boyish or manly stuff. they're MY interests, MY thoughs, MY clothes and MY body. and they'll be whatever i'm comfortable with, nothing more, nothing less.
I am a trans boy, but my parents say that I can't be one because when I was little I wore dresses and played with dolls. But when I was little I would not only play with "girl" things, but I also liked sports, cars and trousers. Trans boys can be feminine, just as how trans girls can be masculine. It really bothers me that people relate 100% gender only with style.
This is so sad... U dont need to let the sexist pressures of the world rule you. Your young, you don't need to be a girly girl or a tough boy. U can be what ever u want. Taking hormones and transitioning dosnt always have the answers. I'm glad you came to the closlusion to give it time. Never rush into something like gender sugary.
Im glad there are people out there who understand where I'm coming from. I was worried people who see it as me pushing down trans people. Im just a strong believer in taking your time and letting your brain mature and allowing your body to catch up. Surgery is a big step for any human.
@@Jennifer-tx6dj absolutely! Im trying to step back and relate to what other people are saying, instead of getting defensive over a misunderstanding, y'know. It is a major issue and I can see why others would want to defend ourselves, but it wont get us anywhere if we're fighting people who are agreeing with us lol
Exploring who you are is so important. I'm so glad for you that you ended up being happy with how you were born, not all of us are that lucky. I'm finally out after nine years in the closet, and It's been a ride.
Girl I stuggle with the same thing- in a different context though, but with some similarities,like my family not wanting me to cut my hair. And it's weird, because, right now, I think of me as a girl and just the thought of being a guy gives me anxiety. But sometimes I feel better thinking of me as a guy and wearing manly clothing. Also I hate dresses and skirts or showing my chest. Sorry that I'm saying this here, you probably don't care, bit you are the first person sharing a similar experience to mine.
Maybe your gender fluid?I don't know.Seems like the most logical explanation to me.But i don't know all that much about gender identity and all that so...hope you figure it out👍 I'm not good with emotions
I think you should try butch fashion. I think a lot of young girls are told and taught that their bodies arent beautiful or that they should hate themselves or that they should compare themselves to other girls, and a lot of them think being a guy will fix that. (Btw, as a trans guy, ill tell you one thing: it doesnt work lol) If still presenting female, but with a manly style still makes you feel bad, id suggest trying light binding with sporta bras and things like that.
Because when I do the video, I don't use shadows, and I want a nicer finish to the thumbnail. Ps, sometimes I do take them from the video, if the composition and stuff is a thumbnail material. This video does have a similar frame as the thumbail, but while I was sketching thumbnail ideas, I just really liked the idea of that frame. But I wanted thid thumbail to represnt me, so I changed some things up.
It's so interesting to see these opinions on gender, as a trans guy myself i understand how you may have felt confused and i can see where it was just imposed toxic femininity. Not gonna lie but even i have doubted my own gender identity before but now i know that i do feel comfortable as a man who isn't afraid to show a feminine side. Also, you kind of perpetuated the toxic behavior your toxic friend made you go through and you repeated the cycle with your friend. I'm really glad you are not confused anymore and are comfortable with yourself
This radiates “I’m not like other girls” but sadly Okay, I don’t like that this is very similar to me, well besides those two issues they have and the self esteem thing- I’m just scared cause I don’t think my dad would react kindly to me being a guy- lol.. Edit: And I like that “e-boy hair” I want it 😳 and suits are just 😳 and like- girls are just 😳 lol-
Honestly giving kids the freedom to explore their gender without having to commit to anything is so important for stories exactly like this! There should be no pressure to do anything for kids going through a crisis!
Honestly, when it comes to LGBT, there are two things I would like people to think about. First, regardless of your identity, understand that it is only one part of who you are. Everyone is made different, but no one is special. Two, gender identity and the cultural binary on gender are two separate things. So, if you're questioning, please try to look at both things and see what is bothering you.
"Toxic personality doesnt have a gender" i feel that
I'm nonbinary and I agree. Sorry y'all, you don't get free passes for being toxic. We should be all judged by the contents of our character; not by the shape that our soul and identity.
Patch Patch
*everybody liked that*
Oof
Why am I here ;P
So true!
Unlike it is portrayed in this video, DO NOT BIND WITH BANDAGES. Use a binder or sports bras. (Edit: this kind of turned into a support system in the replies, so if anyone sees this and wants tips on safe binding, consider putting your questions on here :D)
Layla Darksweets good child.
Wait wut?
Diamond .001 Binding with ace bandages isn’t safe. They constrict your chest and can cause breathing issues, back pain, even bruised ribs.
@@rainbowsforbreakfast7155 Yo.. Chill Dont worry i dont use it i use Bras
@@rainbowsforbreakfast7155 i use sports bras but i still have back pains, breathing problems and all
How to get Badger to listen:
1. Threaten to dump his wine.
But on a serious note, do you still struggle with this from time to time? Just asking out of curiosity.
Lol xD
Yes :/ But now it's more about not feeling feminine enough. I always was more into guys stuff and I guess I'll always will be.
If I would have a chance to change my gender tho, I doubt I would, because I have straight boyfriend, I want to have children and I always was a slave to people opinions :/
But in the end, everyday I find myself wishing I was born as a guy. I feel like I would fit in more.
I thought you were still talking about getting Badger to listen 😂
@@kyleep9788 lmao
Neon Dreamer nope hehe try to eat him that’s my way
@@NeroTMAnimations this is so relatable to me
I feel like it’s a lot easier to get away with wearing “boy clothes” as a girl, but a lot harder to wear “girl clothes” as a boy..
One way to get away with it is if you go for a goth look
*Femboy*
@@BrainOfRott wtf
@@BrainOfRott This is what egg is talking about.. why do they have to make labels in order to wear "girl cloths"? I also hate that *some* people thing that they have to be gay in order to wear "girl cloths". It's OKAY to wear whatever, or act whatever.
True..😂😂😂😂😂😂
3:35 please no one bind your chest like this. Use a binder or sports bras. Just not bandages or anything like that.
edit: so this got a lot of attention to i think i need to clear something up
the reason you dont bind with bandages is because bandages aren't made to let you move they are made to be tight and become tighter. this can cause muscles damage, rib bruising, damage to your lungs and spine. so yah don't bind with bandages. Also don't bind while asleep, don't wear a binder of more than 8 hours, don't excises with a binder on and LISTEN TO YOUR BODY.
Just Ozzy You’re completely right! Always be safe!
Just Ozzy Okay, so Im doubting my gender identity and Ive wondered how wearing a sports bra or binder would work and help. If you know, please respond :)
@@marsbaur3564 Binders are always good but make sure to get the right size and not to small because u would not get better results just pain. But u could also use sports bras. I suggest to wear the backwards. Either one is fine. But always remember to only binder for 8 hours max and to never wear them while u sleep
@@marsbaur3564 also if u are routing your identity them I suggest talking to someone or doing some research. But if your heart is telling u somthing then listen.
But why? I do it I mean I don't have a very big chest but I still need to bind
Me: [Grows up on La-La-Loopsies, dollhouses, and barbies]
Also me: *[Is FTM]*
Same
Same
Same but is non binary
Same but non-binary
same
I would rather be a dad: so you can go to the shop for milk and not come back for 5 years
Ore be the houseman
Bruh
LMAO
JORGE GAMIPRAIS
;-)
Bruh 😂
as a trans guy, I really support this video. it’s totally okay to question your gender! I grew up playing with girly toys, wearing girly things. but I was obsessed with a lot of “boy” things. my interests don’t make me trans. my dysphoria does. a trans person can come from any background. and even if you aren’t trans, it’s okay to experiment with gender expression. do NOT medically transition until you are sure; especially if you plan on starting T. male puberty is extremely hard to reverse (trans women can definitely agree) and if you turn out wrong, you could be stuck with real dysphoria for the rest of your life and that’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. stay safe :-(
No, no no, shut up. In also trans än your dysphoria does not make you trans. Like, thats so fucking excluding to say and i hope that anyone trans without dysphoria didn't have to see such a hurtful thing.
Trans people can have whatever body they feel comfortable with and to say that your dysphoria is what makes you trans is widely problematic.
Y'all gay
Devenline Demoncore thats completely normal! dysphoria is NOT constant; as in it’s not the same day to day. that’s normal! and please be safe when experimenting. binding unsafely can irreversibly damage your chest!
The video is spot on I see people tryna be what their not on reality all it is is a shot glass to hide behind. The more you hide the more misery they feel. When reality is blurred it's not ever a good thing. Yeah I'd like to be a women but I commonly except that I am not. I'ma straight guy and there is nothing wrong with that just accept what you are and accept reality and you'll be ok. you'll ruin your lies you ever think about who you want to be rather than who you can be and be the best you can be
Cody Sullivan if you’re telling me that i’d be happier just living as my biological sex, which is female, then you’re wrong. i’ve attempted suicide for the hope of being reincarnated as biologically male. the best treatment for me is to transition so that I can live as male. there’s a difference between wanting to be the opposite gender and having gender dysphoria. I hope that you’re able to safely explore your own identity and find peace with that. but for me, living as my biological sex is a death sentence.
When I had dolls I would have murder scenes
A BODY HAS BEEN DISCOVERED!
I used to brutally chop their hair off
I was playing with a my little pony toy and giving it a haircut, and I accidentally cut it too short. So my peanut brain decided to CUT OFF MY OWN HAIR AND TAPE IT TO THE PONY. My grandma was babysitting me at the time.
@@SkittyDangerzne YES
i didnt murder the dolls.
*MY DOG DID.* (true story)
so i was at school, not thinking about dolls but lunch. i came home from school, thinking about dolls now.
i go into my room, greet max (my dog), go to the dollhouse, and..
there they are, lying on the floor, DESTROYED like it was a dang GODZILLA movie.
one had no hair whatsoever, one had limbs bitten off, and the other one just had a messed up face like it got attacked by the monster from stranger things and he had a hunger for faces that day.
Nero: "Why can't I have melons?"
Me: Why can't *I* have melons?
*i despise having a chest*
boo !
*sadly it don’t work like dat* ;w;
AidenPlayzGacha35 what chest. You’re like 11
Sunkissed Showers LPS I’m 12 now XD I had hit puberty when I was 10 or 11
Sunkissed Showers LPS my life wanted me to have it at a pre teen age I guess TwT
I shop in the boy section too. I just don't like how girl clothes look. The jeans are awesome. They have pockets where i can fit something inside and the fit is perfect for my body type. It should be okay to wear clothes we like just like hairstyles.
True. I do 50/50 now. But most clothes are way better at male sections. Nottt to mention cheepeelr lol
Same!
Same
Yup most girl clothes don’t fit me or I don’t feel comfortable in them
Yep, i hate the female clothes they are like, tight¿ and meh... I don't want to be there and here with something that makes me fell unconfomtable for... resalting my body? Lol
I'm having a gender crisis because people keep telling me that your interets don't matter and anyone can like anything, and that gender doesn't define you and all that. But I don't like my body. It's about my anatomy, not my interests. It's about how I think and feel, not interests. People are giving me a lot of dysphoria and I don't know how to handle it.
Sorry for ranting y'all
Np you beautiful person.
I... Guess I am having a crisis too. Like, I am bi... But I just don't know. It's confusing really. Like I hate trying to be manly. It sucks ass and I have to be toxic to fit in.
@@nevada_tomato yeah I understand where your coming from. Society puts pressure on people to be typically feminine or masculine and honestly, it sucks
Don't be sorry to rant
@@nevada_tomato " I hate being manly" bruh stfu just be you
man nothing defines gender but you, obv your interests n likes arent gonna define you, and neither does your body!! however its incredibly valid to feel like those things do define you
i despise being afab, but that isnt just me, thats my body and not me, im a man, and the fact my /body/ is female doesnt change who i really am yknow??
I'm going through a gender identity crisis at the moment but I'm scared to tell my parents because I know that they'll say "oh your too young to understand"
@Dat øne derpy bøi I suggest that you should tell them when your ready, that's what I'm doing, just don't rush, take it slow
I feel you I'm non binary but no one would understand my gender there are only few people on my family that supports me..
I did tell my parents and they came at me with the “oh you’re just a tomboy” so honestly just tel them when you’re ready I’m telling them again later in life
You're never too young or too old to start figuring yourself out. Don't worry about telling other ppl until you understand yourself. If you need help figuring it out, I'd ask ppl who might be going through the same thing. Find some LGBT online communities or in-person friends, and then you can figure out how to tell them.
@Dat øne derpy bøi Thankfully rlly short haircuts on girls and long haircuts on guys are trends nowadays and it isn't weird to see ppl with atypical haircuts. So if you're scared to tell them WHY you want a haircut, you can simply tell them you want to try (whatever cut you want) just to see what it's like. You can also test the waters a bit by telling your parents you met someone (u could say it was online if you're worried about them wanting to meet them or anything) who's (whatever your situation is) and see how they react to it. It's a subtle and fairly safe way to find out who around you will be supportive and who won't.
Actually going through a gender crisis right now
Best advice I can give you is - don't rush, but in the end - stay true to yourself. Think about your past, see if theres any links to this. Because if there is, it might be temporary. But if there's none, do what makes you happy and go for whatever your heart desires!
1 RUclipsr has a problem, suddenly all of ya'll have the same problem
@@recklessidiot8042 what's that
@@yspy_1801 non binary is when you don't fit in with either gender roles
So like an in between
I consider myself gender fluid
ySpy_ well anyone can be whoever the hell they wanna be. Just because what genitals you have doesn’t mean someone has to be that gender
Girl, just be you. Tomboy or not, that trans guy should not tear you or anyone down just because he used to have the body of a girl. Love yoself!
This is so true
@@cucumbersoda Thanks!
trans guys didn't "used to be girls".
Yoda Gaming could you PLEASE shut up?
åŁilåcSky no 💜 snowflake
Videos like these make me feel fake and like im in a phase. I’ve been struggling with my gender for years. Even as a little girl i was so happy when my mom told me i looked like a boy at one point. I ended up identifying as trans. I go by He/Him and a different name with my friends and it really makes me happy. I hate my deadname, it’s like a punch in the gut and i occasionally breakdown after hearing it. But im also Neurodivergent so phases and special interests can play a huge part in my own gender identity crisis. Which confuses me further whether im really trans or not.I do want to fully transition but I’m also very scared I’ll regret it because im simply in a phase. I used to think i was in a phase. I stopped identifying as trans for a lil bit after i came out to my family and they broke my dreams and confidence at all in this. They aren’t accepting. But yea i thought it was a phase afterwards buy them i bounced back and dysphoria can back. I hate shower, i hate mirrors. I hate my long hair and i hate my chest. Yea i do want a d*ck but again i dont know if it’s a phase. It scares me that it is cuz i do really really wish i was born a guy. I feel like like would’ve been better. Less depressing and self-hating. I just wanna figure out who I am without the struggle in it. And these type of videos dont help. I loved the video regardless and watched all through because it’s amazing and I support it. It just makes me question myself. I really hate myself for not just being a girl like everyone else like i should. But that’ll be constant ig
Well I obviously can't tell you what you are, but I've also felt this to a slightly lesser extent. After I told my dad and found out that he had felt like that in his teenage years but it went away, I got worried that maybe it was genetic and I only felt like this because of puberty. I felt ok later though. And seeing stories of people who had gender dyphoria but don't now. I didn't like how confused and worried that got me. So I dunno. The way I see it, it's best to just do the things you like and act like yourself in your best mood because if I focus on trans then I start acting different trying to be and act like all the dude stereotypes. So it might be better not to think of it as trans vs not trans, and just think of it as you currently. If you feel sick or whatever being called feminine things, then I think you should do what makes you feel less terrible inside. Things like surgery are permanent, but without parental consent you would need to be 18 and with the money it might take longer, so if you still feel like that once you're at that age then you probably will continue to feel like that. But anyway, I don't think you should stress about the trans thing cause we're all just people trying to do what makes us happy, and that shouldn't have a gender. Even if this is a phase, your feelings when you were in it were real at least to you, so the whole 'are you really trans' or 'am I trans enough' doesn't matter. Having a label to call yourself is nice until that's all you can be. So try to have fun! Listen to good music, play fun games, if you like books or cooking or gardening or martial arts, you should do it! Since we only have one life, it'd be a waste to spend it all stressing about things that are out of our control. And even if you find out later that maybe you are a female or something else, that doesn't mean that you're one like on tv. You'll still be yourself no matter the gender. Anyway geez this was long! I suck at writing normal lengthed replies -_-. So I'm sorry for this horrendous mess if you end up seeing it. My thoughts always get really jumbled when I'm writing. Hope you have a nice week and holiday season! Peace
yess this is exactly how i felt when i watched this ur totally valid
So how's it going now?
For a long time I was confused about my gender and thought I was a trans guy, but once i figured out i could be nonbinary/genderfluid and not restricted to masculinity or feminine traits. I felt more free and happier
6:35-So a girl who just dresses like a boy can look attractive to straight girls??How i can't do this??
Maestrul Gamer its called butch. it’s appealing to the eye because a female will normally have feminine traits and take on the role of being petite and small. however when it comes to specific girls, like me, they have very masculine traits and other women can find it attractive. now normally those “straight gurls” are bi/les/pan/etc that are closeted.
@Kimberly White am confused what you said really know am trying to think what you met
Kimberly White no it isn’t.
i dont thnik if u look like boy and a girl fall for well she LESBIAN or BI cause if she know u girl it gonna hurt u a lot....I already try and well she dont want be my friend anymore i was just pranking and now im alone with my girly friend ;-;
For girls that want to try to be a guy it's simple for a guy telling you this all you have to do is play a lot of video games eat junk food stay up just act like a fool we don't really care what people think of us are us guys if we enjoy it that's all that matters
I love how the father is drawn with shirt tanned-skin😃
He used to work outside a lot, so he always had those xD
I'm non-binary and I'm more on the feminine side than the masculine. I'm glad I have friends that support me because my family doesn't.
🤝
My family kinda supports me and I'm too scared to tell my friends. I also need a (chest) binder, I look like a girl with short hair. I'M ALSO NON-BINARY BUT PEOPLE DON'T CARE CUZ I LOOK LIKE A GIRL RIGHT!?
same but my bio parents got jailed because... yknow... that.... and my "new" (I've lived with them for like 8 years) family is super lgbt (2 moms, 1 gay and 1 pan bro, a trans lesbian sis, a L O T of gay and bi animals) and super supportive :D
Night Mare I have the same problem
👏
This video really's shown me how lucky I am with how I've handled my life. I'm a cis-guy who grew up with lesbian mothers both of whom loved me and I still love. At a young age I mostly had girl friends with one boy friend and I played with dolls as well as trucks and playfighting. I've never been uncomfortable with the feminine side of myself, I don't see myself as masculine, but I'm a man, it doesn't matter if girly shit is awesome sometimes. It sucks that you went through so much hardship, and also, I hope you don't just act feminine because you feel you need to, do what you want!
Also: This one audio drama series I love to death has an episode where the maincharacters wind up fighting against a corrupt tyrant who oppresses women and forces them to be the workhorses of the kingdom/country/whatever and where the men are all lazy drug addicts who never have to do anything. At the end it's revealed that the tyrant, despite being the 'king' is actually a woman who watched her life get torn apart by a divorce caused by her father's drug addiction and then blamed her mom and her gender in whole. She acted as a man and subjegated the women because she wanted to men to be allowed to have their drugs and be in control because she saw her dad as being in the right. Just though I'd bring up this story since I thought of it when you described your toxic friend.
Also Also: You have a new subscriber!
The idea for the drama series is so interesting! What's the name?
@@Kirio_Dorito It's the third episode of Jenny: The Doctor's Daughter. it's an official Doctor Who spin off audio drama series.
@@MaxEllSibSwe Thank you!
How're you now?
I don't know why but
*I despise that bagder*
Mood
LMAO
That's a good name you have I wish I hade it :(
But she is the badger she was talking to herself 😐🤨
@Emmons Lauren 🧠
Lesson learned: Badgers like fine Italian wine
I'm Italian..
@@aperson0345 Badger sama
@@carlito8582 buongiorno xD
Lesson learnt: badger is transphobic
Struggle with being a girl and wanting to be a dude ?
*_Welcome to the waiting room_*
Roseローズ well I’m here in the waiting room then
@@eileenvelez5428 also here
Roseローズ Well good luck having the struggles we guys have,good luck being an emotionless person that everyone expects to protect them and to be manly in everything they do,also,don't forget the constant rejections.
I'm here
Waiting
@@gladiusbladeofthenorth9939 I don't expect that from guys because it would make them push themselves I would want them to be them.
As a trans person i can say we in the trans community don't claim that person. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a toxic person.
Also edit: i think the reason the person in question cried and was spiteful is bc of hid gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is a pain, i have it myself. Not saying his behavior is excused in any means.
Am a HUGE tomboy and my friends used to call me “ gurl “ In messages now they call me “ boi.. “ I AM CONFUSION .-.
The fck is a tomboy?
@@WorivpuqloDMogh a tomboy is a girl who does boyish things
@@aggressivepie6860 its rediculous to put a tag on it. So a girl who likes cars is a tomboy? Or a girl that games? Or wears mens clothing?
How far have we humans become to put labels on people? Its still a girl.
@•Cleetus McYeetus• the term tomboy is rediculous.
It is still a female human, with interests in male things. Sole enjoy having a label so they can get special treatment, while in practice it remains a woman. The DNA is the evidence of that.
A transgender that was a male will always be a male. Still the same XY chromosomes.
I wonder what other abominations humans will invent
@•Cleetus McYeetus• ...
I’m transgender, I hate living in this female body and I’ve done terrible things just by that alone..
But now, I’m going on like.. ah soz not native English speaking but basically where u can get hormone pills and eventually undergo surgery.
Stay strong lads! The worst will be waiting but.. that’s just life..
Edit: tysm for the likes and support guys
Stay strong, bro. 🌈❤️💜
I'm cis, but I support you
Mudkip Lex I’m trans as well! Some reason I don’t think I can accept it but I’m learning too!!! You got this my dude
Death By Senpai stay strong! God gives his hardest tasks to his strongest soldiers ^^ (don’t believe in god but, I still appreciate the quote)
J Nuy
Transvestites men in discuise
Bro Im a tomboy and wen my friends tell there friends who don't go to my school they think I'm a boy!
EDIT : glad it is not just me!
Hahahha, been there 😅 when I came back after a summer break( that's when I transformed the most) even my classmates where shocked lol
People Think sometimes I am a Boy too
SAME I come to school and everybody I’m a boy or I’m lesbian or bisexual or “gay” lol
Lol also *when sorry
WolfQueenKali /King Ziggy! Glad it is not just me lol
When you're a tomboy, yet you have a ton of guy friends who play video games with you and basketball and aren't even sexually attracted to you and treat me like a fellow homie, not a princess:
(yeah, that's my life. I'm comfortable with being a girl, I just like to do boy stuff and wear boy clothing. I despise dresses. They don't feel right for me 😅)
whishh!!!^^^ ive always benn like a "tomboy" and anything i had guy friends they liked me...every..single..one.
That’s me
*You know what else makes you question your gender?*
K-pop....and Ricardo
Yo
*your everywhere*
ew okay
*especially Ricardo tbh*
Just Ricardo
Oof i love kpop but i am trans but ive been trans
The end of school:
Boys and Girls from my class : WEAR A SKIRT
me:
WHAT THE- NO I WANT PANTS >=(
Fortunately I don't have to wear an uniform in my school. God, I try to be the most boyish I can and then I have to wear a freaking skirt.
@@samubluu_ i mean we Wear White shirt and black skirt / pants on the end of the school. On the normal days we Wear what we want
@@lustoria oh, we always wear things we want to wear :) (so much "w" omg-)
I always wear pants these days
I use a stupid skirt on 3 days in the week... (I hate it 7-7)
And THAT kiddos, is why you need to be sure you have gender dysphoria before you fully transition (i.e. Change your genitals), luckily they didn't, but *PLEASE* get diagnosed (by a professional) first.
make it multiple professionals,
Ehh, Not everyone changes genitals but yeah getting diagnosed is key. If you deciede on Hormone Replacement Therapy (Main treatment for most transfolk) then a doctor supervision is require for a bunch of reasons towards making sure you're on the right does and staying healthy. At that point if you're not really trans and the underlying cause it different you should notice the hormones causing you to get worse and not feel better about yourself. Since detransitioning in the first 3-6 months really only carries minor symptoms in most cases; simple due diligence is often all that's needed.
Armyyyy
BasicTinySeal including genderfluid people
i wanna ask my therapist for a gender dysphoria test and i wanna do a MRI scan but i don't know how to and it also costs $400 to $3,500
ah im literally opposite of you, i always imagined it would have been perfect if i were a girl
in the end it might be my low selfesteem too
It happened to me too.
I'm a transwoman, you can do it.
It would be better to be able to change genders whenever I want :^
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I would like to switch male/female voice. Because it is not that hard (for me) to look like a girl, but voice. Hahaha.
Oh god same with the hair dressers , had long hair. Hated it and had to go to 3 different places for them to eventually had it cut shorter each time .
Ehh in your case I wouldn't says it's a gender crisis, more of a want to please others crisis ??
That's what she said...
i went to this random hairdresser they just did it like damn you are brave like one of those asian mums andd also they donated my hair cuz there were lots. im happy with the result and it went to a good cause yeys
HOLY COW this is shockingly similar to my life, the dysphoria, the toxic relationship, everything, the heck?? But I am glad people are bringing problems like these up to help those who may be in similar situations, not knowing what to do.
Casual why
@Casual So what ? Why wouldn't she have the right talk due to her being a furry ?
@Casual Well, then it was a horrible joke.
@Casual that wasnt a joke. That was a delibrate insult. If you think "HEY ITS A FURRY!!" Is a joke then you need to take a step back in life.
So you're cis too?
I don't know if this is too personal, but did you feel better when you were more masculine or do you feel better now? Are you happier with being feminine?
It seems shes happier with the feminine. She started her social transition because a transguy was telling her he hated his body and femininity, it seems she internalized what he was saying for a very long time.
imagine not likin ur own gender
trans LOL LOL
I'm a girl and I feel like a girl. I also wear dresses and skirts, because I don’t like wearing pants. But I hate Makeup and the color pink. So I’m not that stereotypical girl some think. I just like being natural and vintage cause that’s my style.
But I’m totally okay with transgender people or tomboys. I hate when people are homophobic, because people should do what they think is right for them. I actually think tomboyish girls are kinda cute. So there’s nothing wrong with being girly or being tomboyish.
I agree the archetypal hyper feminine woman doesn’t actually exist imo. It’s an archaic stereotype that only exists in ads and fiction.
Hey this might be kinda late but, id advise you not to use the term transgenders, not that it's offensive but it isnt really correct since transgender isnt a gender. It would be better to use 'transgender people'
Oh, of course. I'll edit it ^^
same! i dont mind what ur gender is, ur sexuality, or whatever. i just want u to be able to tolerate my tomboy style/personality/moments and my girly ones. and another thing, be a good friend. and even if ure a stereotype, i dont give a flying fuck about it, just be nice and thats it
Thank you, I am not trans. I don’t even truly know what trans means. I am a HUGE tomboy! Thank you for respecting people like that ❤️
wait why is everyone sayin y'all can bind with sports bras when i'm over here wearing em because they comfortable af.
no wonder i'm flat.
also i'm a girl and i have guy friends. this doesn't mean i'm a guy.
I think the point was that having male friends made them seem more masculine
Some sport bras create a bit of compression affect on breast and cant help people who can afford or cant buy a binder, the padding can also taken out in a lot of them and they are more comfy than under wire bras! Hope this answers the question
Why am I relating to this comment so much
JW ha same just I’m genderfluid
oh shit same
I think part of the greatest issue with this thinking is that certain clothes, toys, colors, etc, belong only to one gender or the other.
Accept yourself for what you are and be what you want to be and do what you want to do.
Thinking that things will be easier by being something different is not a good idea, or as the saying goes "grass is always greener on the other side" sure the things you take issue with may be better but there is other baggage that you probably have not even considered.
When I heard #gay it sounded like #gang
Haha. "Becoming a boy" is the easy way, huh? Just ignore me. Nevermind...
I might have fkd up on that one.
Im still not sure.
in my language putting a word in between " makes it the opposite meaning. like sarcasm or something 😅
@@NeroTMAnimations oh, I didn't know. Just some people in my country makes it sound like being trans is so easy and they make jokes about it. I can't stand it. So I got angry...
You can't become a boy, you're either born with it or you aren't. If you try to become a boy then you're just fooling yourself.
@@animposter4971 yikes
@@animposter4971 so you're not educated on the matter I see
I'm a dude (dont ask) in high school and I were my hair in a ponytail and I like it although some people dont and make jokes I couldn't get a f*ck about what they say.
Dude i love guys with long hair!
Lots of men have long hair. Nothing wrong with it.
Flashbacks to that one gum ball episode
Long hair is very beautiful no matter the gender 💕💕
I also wear my hair in ponytails and some people even think I'm a girl XD
I'm Emo!. Anyone else Emo??. Love the video
Im here
Whats your favourite band
@@garlic3961 bvb
Im here to
Me I'm the only emo person in my family
This girl is amazing she’s not afraid to show who she is and it’s so obvious because of her voice
me: accidentally clicks on video
*welp, guess im watching this now*
mood
The style that you have now is the same as me
I spy with my little eye. . .
Karma Akabane!
Karma ^^
@@mob756 yass
If there are any transgender people who have gone throw the surgeries in the comments, do you regret it or would you recommend. Depending on your answer would you please explain why you think that way??
Up! Hope you will get your answers! ;)
I don't think that anybody can "recommend" anything. For me getting a top surgery is a necessity because I have a really bad gender dysphoria about my chest. People who regret getting surgeries are usually the people who thought they were trans but actually were going through something else mentally or who's surgery had gone wrong and they are dissatisfied with the results.
I havent had them but I will tell you that i have been wanting top (chest masculinization) surgery since I was... 12 or 13, and im almost 17, so im doubting im making the wrong choice. I have my reservations about bottom surgery, but every day my bottom dysphoria gets worse and worse, so ill probably do something about that later, too.
Cant speak for people who have had surgeries, but transitioning socially and medically is saving my life right now. My gender dysphoria has always been bad, and i always get a burst of euphoria when I am gendered correctly. I am starting hrt in about a week, and i couldn't be more excited. It feels like I'm finally becoming the person that i was always meant to be. I strongly recommend transitioning for those who experience gender dysphoria, as its the one true cure to it.
I do not regret having surgery at all. It was the best decision of my life. However, I would NOT say I "recommend" surgery. Surgery is a huge decision that can improve someone's life but could also worsen another's. In the video, this girl is not transgender. She was confused about her gender identity, which is totally fine and I'm happy for her that she was able to explore her gender before deciding what was right for her. To anyone who thinks they may be transgender and/or is considering surgery, I would say the best thing you can do is wait before taking any medical steps and try to figure yourself out. This may be through crossdressing or telling a close friend or therapist how youre feeling. Overall surgery is an extremely personal decision that should be well thought out before someone engages in it.
A tomboy, strong mother. Perfect (sometime men dont like that over girly girls)
Someone can be a "girly girl" (very feminine is probably the better term you're looking for) and still be a strong mother just as much as a tomboy. And behavior wise, if there already is a man in the house, a more effeminate mother might be more fitting because you'd already have a role model filling out the masculine role so with a tomboyish mother, there'd be a bit of a shortage of femininity in terms of a role model in the house. Why that would matter is because in psychology, it's been proven statically that households with a strong feminine motherly figure and strong masculine fatherly figure tend to have kids that are better well rounded and do better throughout life compared to those households lacking one of those two figures.
KinG Dee While what you say has some grit, it is practically worthless compared to simply having caring, and decent parents. Homosexual parents that both fill the same masculine or feminine niche are better then heterosexual parents who fill stereotypical gender roles, but are simple bad parents.
@@notyetdeleted6319 ... My response was based on factual information, so no it isn't "useless". And in my example, of course I'm referring to the parents playing their roles well. I wasn't saying homosexual people can't raise good kids.
@@notyetdeleted6319 and I wasn't implying that if there is a strong masculine father and a strong feminine mother, they'd automatically be good parents. Of course it takes proper love and care to raise a child well no matter the gender(s).
@@shawnm.7450 I completely agree with you on all points. Equally, you can be very womanly but strong. For instance, most of my Familys female are like Margaret Thatcher. Womanly but you certainly wouldn't want to disappoint. Hence the strong desire to become the best man you could be, a Gentleman and to not let your standards drop. This also means the Husband has to be extremely 'prim and proper' who has respect and class coming from him.
Believe me, being a man may look easy. But you know what they say?
"Easier said than done."
ya being a man comes with strong expectations from everyone your not allowed to show emotion ever and people pretty much dont give af about you lol
AAHAHHHH I'm starting middle school in like 4 weeks and I'm confused on my gender so that's fun
Edit 5 months later😅:I've sort of figured out that I'm okay with any pronouns used for me, he/him is okay, she/her is also okay with me so it kinda helps
You shouldn’t worry
@@turtlezcatz1651 well are ya surrrrreee cuz I'm like 12
Yes I’m sure cuz i’m 13
You're still young, take your time to figure out your identity man. It took me an eternity to figure out mine (I'm 16 now btw) and I'm still kind of confused but eventually you'll know what's best for you
There is nothing wrong with being confused at all. One of the letters in lgbtq+ that being “q” stands for questioning. It basically means that there are plenty of people who are questioning things like that. So feel free to explore in the best way you can. If you turn out to be non-binary or trans that’s great! If not, that’s great too! That just means you’ll get to have a perspective that not a lot of cis-gender people get! That’s pretty cool if you ask me.
im going through a gender crisis where im not sure if im nonbianary or just butch. i like they/them pronouns a lot more than female ones and i have a fake name i use online that's more unisex. but in real life i can still tolerate being considered female by everyone around me so idk. i wear mens clothes, I've changed my posture, the way i talk, cut my hair, and make my voice lower too. i dont want to be a man but i do want to be androgynous looking. ive never liked the size of my chest either and ever sence puberty ive been subconsciously slouching in baggy t-shirts to try and hide it, ended up giving myself really bad spinal issues.
but i am going slow with things, i dont want to label myself until i know for sure what i am, my closest friends respect my journey and they refer to me as whatever i need them to without judgement, im really scared that if i make a label official and come out, then change my mind, everyone would ridicule me.
WTF
It's hard :( my friends used to hate this part of me 2. But now, afer 7 years, as I am now a 22 years old, if I even mention something about this, that I still feel not that good about it, that maybe I sometimes do get doubts, I get way more hate and ignorance. So I keep it to myself now.
Dont do the same mistake, once you will feel it, go for it ;) it's your life. People just need some getting used to.
Ps about the booby thing, maybe try wearing sports bras? They make them a lot more flad, they would stay in place, without making you feel them around so much and t-shits woul cover up the rest. Also under a nice baggy tshit you no one will see them and you can really can some plane designs that are not so feminine.
@@NeroTMAnimations thank you so much, you're really sweet :) and yeah i do wear sports bras and I'm actually planning on getting a light binder soon from a friend
I know butch nonbinary ppl, to me butch and femme aren't just for cisgender people
sounds like... me
Imagine saying “wow girl you’re such a cute boy”
My relatives: *Gives me a doll*
The doll: *Sitting in the cupboard waiting for it's death to come*
3:57
Casually declines a paying customer cause he wants short hair
😂
just a reminder if you’re a ftm and grew liking girly stuff, you’re still a boy and you’re valid :D im a ftm and i grew up liking feminine things!!
What's a ftm
I know how you feel. I'm going through the same thing too. I'm more tomboyish than girly.
I believe the word ‘tomboy’ can be taken in many ways depending on what the person who says it means. When I used that word, it is more of a term to empower me, as I lived in a very toxin masculine community. So having that label on me, was my safety net to know that I am feminine but with masculine traits or features. Either way, the word tomboy is an “each to their own” term. Remember, the world is full of colours, and with that comes various perspectives and views.
Thats okay!!! U are wonderful regardless ✨
anime Edits No it is not.
When you say sexist, it connotes that whatever it is is offensive or shouldn’t be said, although it actually denotes that whatever it is, encourages prejudice, stereotyping and discrimination.
It doesn’t encourage any of these things, if it encouraged stereotyping, the term tomboy would have to mean something along the lines of “a woman who does manual labour instead of cooking”.
And it doesn’t imply that being a masculine woman is abnormal, it literally just defines a woman as having traits similar to males ( usually to do with things like toys ), this doesn’t mean “abnormal”, it just means “different”.
My mum was a tom boy because she played with toys that were made for boys, because yes, some toys are made for ( but not exclusive to ) boys, and some are made for girls.
That’s the way it has been for years and there is nothing wrong with that.
MEME IZZ DAILY VIDEOS Yeah i get you. Thanks for respecting what i said and such. I expected people to start bombarding me with replies telling me to kill myself lol.
@@MrbigPnslolisaidpns I know right you can literally comment anything and people will start cursing u out for it😂
I'm a trans boy but you know I still like long nails and nail polish still it acts up my dysphoria but I like it its okay to like things of the opposite gender
yes its ok.. u dont have to be the boy stereotypes they have nothing to do with gender u can be a boy but wear pink dresses :)
Same I am a masculine nonbinary and I like nail polish but my dysphoria gets bad when wearing it
I’m nonbinary. I know the feeling
Me too fam
I'm trash
@@notmaddy6370 No you're not😂
@@notmaddy6370 You're a somebody who loves everything I think?☺️
non binary is not a gender
Everyone looks good in a suit especially a tuxedo suit. :)
She's so underrated on views
This reminds of the truest solution to your problems:
if you let go your human mindset, problems or state then you will not have to worry about most things.
Also self-esteem is usually the cause of your problems. Complement and get complement frequently
When you where staring at the mirror 4:08 I was thinking about Mulan
WHOOOOO IS THAT GIRL IIII SEEEE STARING STRAIGHT BACK AT ME, WHEN WILL MY REFLECTION SHOW WHO III AMM INSIIIIDE
@@kymera7088 Nani... /(o.o> )
@@kymera7088 when.....will...my....reflection....show.......who i am..........inn.........s.ide........
This video was recommended to me at the right time when I felt I don't accept my gender as a girl...This helped me alot
RUclips knows all
0:10 AHRIIII, what is wrong with me XD
I need more league friends cri
@@cookieinsanity9031 I can be your friend. You play on EUNE?
Oof I'm on NA
@@cookieinsanity9031 oof
ya :'D
Me, a transmasculine dude who has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria: watches this
My brain: maybe you're faking it.... maybe this is just a phase...
Im pretty sure Im a boy??
When I was growing up mum gave me dolls and stuff but I hated them and ripped out the batteries..I really only played with toy cars..
in the middleschool ages, I acted like a dude, I did parkour, video gaming, even as young as age 7.
I did typical boy things.
Im in my teenagehood and I don't wear makeup EVER not even at formal events, I hate dresses, I constantly imagine what it be like to be a male, the jokes I say are better when a guy does it, I act exactly like a dude not just a tomboy but a full on dude, I have no desire to be feminine ever, I do skateboarding, Boys hate me because I'm too masculine, Girls hate me because I'm not feminine at all, I don't even know how to do my hair, my room is a mess. I grew up with my brother and his my role model, my mum was naturally very tomboyish so I never had any feminine figures in my life.
Every feminine thing I do just feels wrong, I just wish I could be like one of the bois..because when I do that as a girl everyone just sees it as cringey or weird...In my experience every girl Ive met just starts drama and gossip and how I argue is more in a masculine way where I will fight for one day but the next day wanna be friends again, I give no shits about appearance.
So yeah pretty sure Im trans..not sure yet though...could just be extremely tomboyish and people have said "Maybe you're gay" But I'm not attracted to females....I just don't know anymore...even the boyfriends Ive had in the past have been like "Sorry you're too boyish for me" and it sucks...cause I completely agree...
Im terrified though..because all my life Ive said "Oh but females can be as masculine and they want and still be girls" but Im starting to realize that maybe there are certain traits that make someone a girl and someone a boy...and I lack the ones that make me a girl...like comparing myself to girls.. I've never acted like them..not even once..
But ..I don't want my mum to see me different..and I don't want to get bullied :(....Im just so confused now....I dont want to be seen as different....but...I am getting so sick of being seen as a girl... someone help me...I want to make sure that Im not just a really masculine girl...but ugh....was it because I was raised like a boy or copied my brother....
And to be fair I have no interest in babies or children either..My mum also put me in dancing classes and I hate waking up early, putting my hair in a bun and putting on makeup and then performing...it feels so freeking wrong...
I have no problem with females..the ones im really good friends with are so great and caring..but I just don't feel as I fit in with them.. theres just something I feel like I lack...I don't even know what makes a girl a girl anymore and what makes a boy a boy anymore......
My parents never really raised me..they were more like my friends tbh...
Sorry for ranting about my problems
MissesKitty so are you a girl or a boy? The gender not how you act btw
@@fern1550 idk dude
MissesKitty well this os weird to say but have you looked down?
MissesKitty and btw just do or be what you feel you need to be :3
@@fern1550 idk what i feel tbh
THANK YOU though this is not me Ive been diagnosed with severe gender dysphoria but I feel like when young girls have low self esteem like this and think being a guy would make them happier they end up being sadder and end up detransitioning
As I guy I can confirm that you don’t get the help you need when you’re having a rough time, whatever the duration of time is. Got hurt, “man up”, got dumped hard and feel like shit “just get over her”. No one really tries to help, and if you ask for help you just get called a “pussy”.
Butterlicker 444 exactly not only being in a different body you don’t connect with but also men have a hard time in society too
I have situation like you im really a tomboy i hate skirts, dress, make up, and other girly thinks :/
Im tomboy and NOTHING stoping me from begin my self !!
I even cut my hair but i have little longer hair than you... Wish you all amazing life !
Paulina Migowska just because you’re a tomboy doesn’t make you less of a girl. It just means you don’t like girly things. Being a tomboy doesn’t make you transgender or anything but they assume this now and that’s dangerous
#TOMBOYTEAM yay im like u but i dont cut my hair cause i dont get a long hair lol
May I call you Paul
@@nnpizzaperi4233 no i prefer felix like name lol
@@eugeneguetah7034 lol i wasn't talking to you 😂
The thing is- I have crises' all the time. One day I feel like a super girly-girl, the next a tomboy, then a feminine male, then I identify as male. HELP.
The fact that when they was describing 'boyish emo hair' they showed Johnnie Guilbert killed me
4:21
Ok, but why is that hot? 😂
4:43
MMM 😂
........
#gay 😂
So i'm not the only one...good to know
Dude same,,, ive always wanted scene hair but with my jawline id be called a girl so 😂
im 22 and i still dress like a boy and i cant shake the feeling that im in someone else's body, ever since i was 8. i feel you hun.
You're possessed yooo what's going on here
i wanna look like a boy whenever i want i wanna look like a girl whenever i want
sometimes i wanna be a guy and be gay
and sometimes i wanna be a girl and look cute
idk anymore what i want...
welp im only 12 almost 13
maybe ill finf out why im like this?
cant really talk to anyone about this qwq
2020 : now 13'-'
And ur replys as helped me a little so ty!^^
I understand myself a little much more now=w=
superbhoomi'splayz! I can totally relate I’m genderfluid and I feel like this
Same
Tbh right now you are not an adult so you won't actually be sure or make good choices so I'll advise you to wait till you are sure and old enough to make the decision
you can check out this model, called Rain Dove. They're an androgynous person and they have the freedom to be whatever they feel like that day. That's something I do slightly envy, ngl. That may not be you, and you will figure things out eventually. I'm just saying she is very inspirational and I think you would enjoy listening to her experience :))
Best wishes to you my friend!
@wav. רויז dressing in a neutral way is a great idea!
But don't try to talk yourself into anything. Believe me, I've been there and you can make yourself think you are something that you are not. don't focus yourself too much on the thought that you're trans or something. I'd be great if you could let go of it just for some time, dont try to label yourself and just be yourself, do and wear what you like without worrying too much, to clear your thoughts.
I am Bigender but It's hard because My mom don't support me. I cut my hair, start wear baggy clothes and started make my Voice boyish she hated it and screamed me, but I that didn't stop me because I know who I really am. Be strong, Be you and never stop being who you are.❤️
What is “bigender”
@@turtlezcatz1651 It's when you are man and woman at the same time or it moves between them
How old are you? If you are already 18, you are not a minor anymore, so you can live by yourself if you want. If you're not, then wait some time to do it, or if you have people from your family close and that support you, you can live with them
@@turtlezcatz1651 bigender is another term for "two souls" meaning people that were born with one soul being male and one being female. If you don't have that then you're not bigender
Do you have any dysphoria with this? Qnd how can you feel like a male one day and female the next? It just sounds like you might feel like wearing a skirt one day and then pants. It's not anything to change your identity about.
Awwwwwww
And that hair is great
YAY YOU POSTED!!!!
Yes, finally! 😥😅
@@NeroTMAnimations .....sad u
You work all days for that....
New suubbb
as a trans boy who is still forced to live whit his homophobic parents the part where people didint accept you when you were questioning your gender hits close to home
I’ve never seen any of your videos before but the first thing I thought of when the video did start was “ohmyga I love her voice!!!!”😍😂
I've started questioning whether I'm gender neutral or not
I had similar problems, but not quite... while talking to my big bro, I eventually decided that I can't fill either role. I'm not feminin enough to be the ideal women and I'm not masculin enough to be a guy... And my brother, surprisingly got me. He said something about how those role we think of when we think of men and woman are stupid and I don't have to fit them.
So I decided I wouldn't be a woman or a man, I'd be me.
This weird mix of both. And I'm bi, so yay for me!
People be saying that girls needs to be feminine, and guys needs to be maskuline
I'm over here thinking why we can't be a mix of both, and if you want to have more of the one and the other then that's cool to
As a girl that likes being more feminine (though I'm working to get more of that masculinity), I'm way more comfortable around guys that let their femininity show (I'm working on that too tho, so that I can be comfortable with maskuline guys too)
Ok * breaths in and out * her animation and drawing style is so good
Hi I'm nonbinary and really like this! I have struggles with choosing what sides I am.. I like masculine and feminine things! I like wearing skirts but don't want to be assumed as a girl, and I want to wear boy clothes but I don't wanna be seen as a boy. It gets really annoying being stereotyped into the gender roles. I'm still choosing my name tho and it's rlly hard!
i'm non-binary, leaning more to a feminine appearance and expression, it's been more than 2 years since i came out and i can only say... don't force it, just take tiny steps until it feels right, either if you're trans or cis.
i hate the idea that every thought, every interest, every piece of clothing and every physical feature has to be linked to a gender. i like make up and i like "girls' clothes" and i like seeing how my body changes slowly thanks to hormones, but i'm definitely not into all the girly stuff people want me to be into, and same with the boyish or manly stuff.
they're MY interests, MY thoughs, MY clothes and MY body. and they'll be whatever i'm comfortable with, nothing more, nothing less.
The emo boy photo you showed is My celeb crush Johnnie Guilbertty
Saaameee
He's awesome
Eyyy. I was wondering if anyone noticed. XD He's awesome.
I will admit, when I got my first period... I sorta wished I was born a guy for the next 5 days.
I am a trans boy, but my parents say that I can't be one because when I was little I wore dresses and played with dolls. But when I was little I would not only play with "girl" things, but I also liked sports, cars and trousers.
Trans boys can be feminine, just as how trans girls can be masculine. It really bothers me that people relate 100% gender only with style.
This is so sad... U dont need to let the sexist pressures of the world rule you. Your young, you don't need to be a girly girl or a tough boy. U can be what ever u want. Taking hormones and transitioning dosnt always have the answers. I'm glad you came to the closlusion to give it time. Never rush into something like gender sugary.
Jennifer Dunn I totally agree with your opinion! Never rush into something, that isn't you! ;3
Im glad, as a tran person, that she only socially transitioned. Medical transition is difficult in its own right and REVERSING it is nigh impossible.
Im glad there are people out there who understand where I'm coming from. I was worried people who see it as me pushing down trans people. Im just a strong believer in taking your time and letting your brain mature and allowing your body to catch up. Surgery is a big step for any human.
@@Jennifer-tx6dj absolutely! Im trying to step back and relate to what other people are saying, instead of getting defensive over a misunderstanding, y'know. It is a major issue and I can see why others would want to defend ourselves, but it wont get us anywhere if we're fighting people who are agreeing with us lol
@@fermii63 ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Exploring who you are is so important. I'm so glad for you that you ended up being happy with how you were born, not all of us are that lucky. I'm finally out after nine years in the closet, and It's been a ride.
Her:My eyes are always glued to the boys section.
Me:My hands are always hooking on the boys section.
Girl I stuggle with the same thing- in a different context though, but with some similarities,like my family not wanting me to cut my hair. And it's weird, because, right now, I think of me as a girl and just the thought of being a guy gives me anxiety. But sometimes I feel better thinking of me as a guy and wearing manly clothing. Also I hate dresses and skirts or showing my chest.
Sorry that I'm saying this here, you probably don't care, bit you are the first person sharing a similar experience to mine.
Merchu57 57 never apologize abouttalking about your feelings. I wish the best for you and we are all here to support you
I feel ya...
Maybe your gender fluid?I don't know.Seems like the most logical explanation to me.But i don't know all that much about gender identity and all that so...hope you figure it out👍
I'm not good with emotions
I think you should try butch fashion. I think a lot of young girls are told and taught that their bodies arent beautiful or that they should hate themselves or that they should compare themselves to other girls, and a lot of them think being a guy will fix that. (Btw, as a trans guy, ill tell you one thing: it doesnt work lol)
If still presenting female, but with a manly style still makes you feel bad, id suggest trying light binding with sporta bras and things like that.
WHY DO YOUR VIDEOS NEVER HAVE THE THUMBNAIL IN THEM
Because when I do the video, I don't use shadows, and I want a nicer finish to the thumbnail. Ps, sometimes I do take them from the video, if the composition and stuff is a thumbnail material. This video does have a similar frame as the thumbail, but while I was sketching thumbnail ideas, I just really liked the idea of that frame. But I wanted thid thumbail to represnt me, so I changed some things up.
It's so interesting to see these opinions on gender, as a trans guy myself i understand how you may have felt confused and i can see where it was just imposed toxic femininity. Not gonna lie but even i have doubted my own gender identity before but now i know that i do feel comfortable as a man who isn't afraid to show a feminine side. Also, you kind of perpetuated the toxic behavior your toxic friend made you go through and you repeated the cycle with your friend. I'm really glad you are not confused anymore and are comfortable with yourself
This radiates “I’m not like other girls” but sadly
Okay, I don’t like that this is very similar to me, well besides those two issues they have and the self esteem thing- I’m just scared cause I don’t think my dad would react kindly to me being a guy- lol..
Edit: And I like that “e-boy hair” I want it 😳 and suits are just 😳 and like- girls are just 😳 lol-
@TheCottonCandyBreedCreature ohm- ily :,,,,,
I feel like one of my old friends went/is going through this
Unfortunately they moved before i knew it
SO THEY AND YOU MUST FIGHT THE MPLA
Omg this is so realatble. I had that long hair, horrible conflicts, binding, and hitting that low pitch voice.
Honestly giving kids the freedom to explore their gender without having to commit to anything is so important for stories exactly like this! There should be no pressure to do anything for kids going through a crisis!
Her : I know how girls brain works i have a one myself. BUT im a boy tho i have short hair!
Honestly, when it comes to LGBT, there are two things I would like people to think about.
First, regardless of your identity, understand that it is only one part of who you are. Everyone is made different, but no one is special.
Two, gender identity and the cultural binary on gender are two separate things. So, if you're questioning, please try to look at both things and see what is bothering you.
I totally feel you, having a beard would be hella cool..
oh yeah I'm a dude btw
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It’s always interesting hearing people stories that go through gender identity crisis. Most people have had really interesting lives.