You are right. They feel shame and guilt due to their actions but cannot accept responsibility for those actions so they basically go into hiding and move on to the next person. What happens though is they stalk and keep feelers out there on you to see if you have healed and have forgotten what they did to you. It’s like waiting for an argument to blow over, then they may come back and test the water
You're blessed. This demon tried, but failed. At that point there are no more options for Satan. The last desperate weapon was sending the filthy narc. My personal destroyer from the fiery lakes of hell was more successful. She made sure there wouldn't be anything left of me and no chance whatsoever of recovery in this lifetime. It's good to know you made it. Really good. You're alive and the narc wasn't able to get you. The sad part is they'll prey on someone else.
I'll never hear from my narcissist because she knows I figured her out. I'll never give her supply again unless she admits to being a narcissist. She'll never do that.
She'll accuse you of being the narcassist ,mine did, I sometimes wish for the hoover, just to validate she was a 100% narcassist, so you get full closure, but I nw you have to make your own
I told mine I knew what she was and not to contact me ever again, once the next relationship fails, She even asked me what type she was.... She'll never contact either of us mate ,they would rather get new meat, I'd rather see pics of her with new supply and nasty messages to me,it makes it easier. She was a narcassist, that's why they stay away, as they will never admit it,her daughters are the same... Could be worse you could be with her🤣
A narcissist attaches themselves to you figuring that you will never find out their game. When you do figure it out and call them on it, everything turns to hate.
That's true. When I discovered all the lies of my wife during our 10-year marriage and I accused her of deceiving me so much, she just discarded me and started to hate me.
My wife did the same thing, but it only took me two years to question it. I dealt with it for a year before she filed a bullshit pfa against me because she didn't want to discuss the issues and it was the easiest way to get rid of me.
They are so brutal and malicious. I was fooled and manipulated way too long. At the discard he flat out told me "he faked loving me" the entire 12 years
Don’t worry, female, narcissist are just as bad. The last words I heard after eight years in a relationship with her was “ I don’t love you I don’t even like you”. I’m not really worried she’s just a callous person. I’ve spent 23 years in the ER saving peoples lives. What has she done for others. Nothing!!!
The bottom line is that you'll never get love from these people. They don't have the emotional, psychological, social, or spiritual maturity for love. They're stunted toddlers in these ways and you cannot fix them.
My narcissistic ex-wife had a profound impact on my life, leading me to believe she was the love of my life for several years. The aftermath of our tumultuous divorce left our entire family shattered, causing me to struggle for years with emotional distress, depression, and financial difficulties. Despite the challenges, I finally managed to break free from the emotional hold she had on me. Now, four years after the divorce, I have taken full custody of our teenage twin girls to protect them from their emotionally abusive mother. One of my daughters has completely cut ties with her mother, but the other remains emotionally connected to her, just as I once was. It's heartbreaking to see her fall for her mother's false promises of love and witness her getting hurt repeatedly. My ex-wife has completely cut off all contact and communication with me. She shows no interest in receiving updates on her own daughters' emotional well-being or their growth as they come of age. This situation has left me feeling distant and disconnected, and I can strongly relate to the sentiments expressed in the video. Despite my efforts to maintain a connection between my daughters and their mother, she remains disengaged, which adds to the emotional burden for all of us. It's disheartening to witness her lack of involvement in their lives, especially considering the impact her absence has on our daughters' emotional development. As a father, I will continue to do my best to provide a nurturing and supportive environment for my girls, even in the absence of their mother's active presence. I understand the importance of being there for them and helping them navigate through life's challenges with love and care. Though it's challenging to see my daughters experience disappointment due to their mother's disinterest, I will remain steadfast in supporting them and being their pillar of strength. My priority is to foster their emotional well-being and ensure they know they are loved and valued, regardless of their mother's choices. In the end, I hope my love and commitment will help my daughters grow into resilient individuals who can handle life's adversities with grace and confidence.
My ex has memory holed our 16yo son and 9yo daughter, he walks the other way if he sees us around town and told his friends and family I won't let him see the kids. I tried to keep in contact with him and gave up after he stood them up. It's my fault he doesn't see them at Christmas/birthdays because I don't invite him around. He won't do anything himself to maintain the relationships etc. And he's let himself go from any responsibility saying I'm hard work and start fights because I dared to ask why he didn't turn up when he was supposed to.
The very same story here. Only that it is the mother behaving like that...I often wonder why narcissists all seem to exhibit the same patterns of behavior. We are tearing ourselves apart, striving to provide our kids with the very basic sense of having TWO parents in the already difficult and painful situation of a broken family. Meanwhile, the other parent is living the time of their life, which leaves us feeling utterly helpless as we witness our kids suffering, with seemingly no room for reason. @@TheSparkySpitz
They can never do enough work on themselves. They want a YES/doormat, needy person. When we realize who they are and their behaviors, when they do see us and we ignore them, they will know we're DONE with them and there is no coming back.
😂😂😂😂 so true. I’m a model so they’re Always really beat or homely-looking. Well hey she’ll learn and maybe change her style when she re discovers herself through the abuse 😂
Once I moved out and blocked her, it took a while to start recovering, but my life has been a rocketship of succes ever since, and I have never heard from her again. I win.
They will Hoover...the first Hoover attempt is a test of your insecurity level. It’s ladened with admissions of bad behaviors without apologizing, future faking and false promises of change. If your response is no response they’ll test again and again. But If they are confronted to their face (must be done in person) and you injure their ego, it’s Game over! The look on their face after calling them out will show you they hate you for doing the opposite of what they want. They are immature fearful creatures, treat them accordingly
We don’t hear from our mother after 12 years no contact because we have it all figured out now and she knows that. If you have it figured out they basically give up.
My narcissist showed up while I was trying to talk my son out of suicide. He wanted a quickie so I could get back to my son as soon as possible. I opened my door....told him it wasn't a good time...and slammed the door in his face. I haven't heard from him since. That told me every last thing I needed to know about him.
She knows that I know who and what she is! "Princeless" Diana! Her last words to me; "I never want you to see my face again" Perfect! Finally we agree on something. Divorce is final, life is flowing again! Haven't heard a word for 3 months
I literally didn't want to lose the person. But they blocked and smeared me a little after I figured them out. All the lies and coverups. The double personality. I had to play dumb to keep the friendship. But they are just pure evil and it's a shame. I just can't imagine them being like that in their 30s and 40s.
A long time ago my sister asked me to pick her up at 4:30 am. She came to my house for a short visit than asked for a ride over to my other sisters house where she stayed for eight days. Never was invited to spend time with them. A few days into her trip she asked me to transport her back to the airport at 3am. All five sisters and one brother are in my MO contact list for years now. I have never felt so much peace
These narcissism videos are helping massively get over my ex. It's showing so many cracks in her I may have missed , ontop of the obvious unbelievable behavior. Good riddance. She'll never admit it as she's never been sorry for anything she has said or done. Narcissists need deporting on their own island!
I knew in my gut that he wasn’t going to come back. I went to no contact two months ago and he knows that I know he is a covert narcissist. Good luck out there buddy…. While watching all of these different videos and people saying they’re going to Hoover and come back for some strange reason I knew that wasn’t going to be my case. I guess I am way too strong for him to get any more supply from me…
He secretly thinks I gave him the biggest narcissistic injury of all time when in reality he did it to himself.👈🏻 I HAVE ZERO DESIRE TO hear from him ever again. He caused me so much trouble I wouldn’t even blink or care if he was hit by a bus tomorrow.
I love this! Never really understood why he didn’t come back, now I know. I told him we would never be friends and I stood by that. He sent me a package in the mail and I never thanked him. This makes me feels strong, thanks.
They want you to look for an explanation folks its part of the head game .do the inner work spiritually, physically, and watch some videos on how to emotionally detach
I recall a then-girlfriend who told me that she had spoken with her first boyfriend through text. That is, someone whom she dated more than ten years earlier. I asked whether that was common and if she had other exes in her contact list. She did. I knew at that point that I was simply a future ex-boyfriend.
Most people rarely been with one person. Why not just know the person before you date them. That's why most ppl have dating issues because they date someone too soon
These people are demonic be thankful they do not contact you I understand it's very painful pick yourself up dust yourself off and keep climbing that mountain 💪
Back in the day, when i made everything super easy, and i occasionally gave him $, he did always come back. When i started saying "noooo" and i removed the money and s$% he left and has not returned. So, i know youre right. TY for this important video❤
If you want the 11 minute explanation, then watch this video (it is very thorough). If you want the quick explanation then here it is: A narcissist stops contacting you when they realize that they can no longer play you.
Two years later…..two years……they do……I never believed it. He waited 2 years to think I’d forget or his shame fizzled out…..I have our child that he has never met He’s soooo looking for supply He sooo thinks 2 years might give me time to forget paaaaaa It’s so funny when you have the knowledge They need to be wiped out They are wreckless Bless me and my baby Pray we stay strong 💪
Mortification is the end game if you beat them to the punch, now many people will say don't stoop to their level but if you feel you need to make them feel pain then by all means
Because they create trouble cost you, they are cowards, they know you figured them out, scared running for you to pick up the pieces, when you stand up to them cold, call them out, they say can you be more caring? They finally heard you
I was able to expose my soon to be ex wife after 18 years. We have a 7 year daughter together that I want in my life. Saying that, I’m concerned my ex will disappear or make it extremely difficult for visitation with my daughter. So to play this safe, I’ve been able to educate myself and understand what NOT to do to keep her from moving far away. So far I’ve managed to keep my daughter close to see her and it’s a win win for both myself and the narcissist.
I didn't used to be transactional in my thinking with other people...but I have found over time that I will be used, not might but will and tossed away if I don't at least make some thought to what the other person can do for me. I hate the world I live in and what it's done to me.
It was an eye opening video on this topic Anoushka… Now that I am so much free, I wanna do whatever i wanted to do without giving a damn single thought about the Narc.
Two years no contact and it is now almost incomprehensible to me they would try ! I have come such a long way on my healing journey , and finally have my OWN sense of reality and truth ! I am sure it must have been a HUGE ego blow to them , especially I was probably the best audience they ever had ! If they did contact me now I think I would just stay calm and if they questioned why I walked I would make out it was my own situation and that I am in MUCH better place now ! What I would really love to do is tell them the truth , but I know that ANY kind of energy signals to them that I am still possible supply . Instead you have shut the door slowly whilst nodding and smiling , as you might do with a REALLY ANNOYING cold caller at you doorstep ! The only power they ever had was the power you gave them ! ❤️💪🙏
It’s really difficult to accept that as an answer, especially if you are going through a separation divorce or break up that they refused to have any communication with their “partner”
Positive thoughts of inspiration. Yes. I am definitely a believer in freedom from the chains of narcissistic behavior. Feelings blessed to enjoy the outcome and thank you so much for the therapeutic healing I have received during this time which was essential. I will always show empathy towards a healthy relationship, bearing in mind that I will never never need to entertain deceit and evil. This behavior goes against the fundamental values of my life. I pray that this individual will one day find the goodness in himself and serve the community with the God give talents he so truly deserve. He is a very special and intelligent man who needs to focus on a healthy lifestyle that brings in rewards of inner peace and well-being. May God bless him and keep him safe. Thanks for your message of enlightenment. ❤
The first time I dumped my ex narc was the last time. I told him when I was breaking up that he would never see me again. I have stood by my word and soon after the breakup I went no contact that’s never been broken. He has hovered me for 14 years now and I’ve never reciprocated as I got closure and need nothing from him. Total pest!
Anushka..Hi.. Yes you have their playbook, very well done. You went into hermit and healed..respect. And now you are educating the masses..kind ❤️ heart. It's not an easy journey with these people, and the thing is they are master manipulators and bye the time you ( if ever)..understand what they have done to you..there's plenty of damage 💔 😢 to repair..before you can come back. Thank you for putting this platform out their warrior woman. You are a credit 👏 to this world and the universe. Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
He tried (we were only friends) to visit me three weeks after he disappeared I did not answer his knock at my door. I was hurt when he disappeared but watching your videos helped me to get over the hurt when I realized that the help I was giving him was him using me. All the help was of no value because he wasn't using it. I also realized that I was investing my time in helping him look for a job (resume, use of my computer to apply for jobs), etc. I recall feeling drained as he was starting to reveal himself as needy. Before he disappeared I told him I was not going to help him anymore, that he was boring (he stopped talking), and asked him what happened to all the women, why can't they help him. He gave me a stare and a smirk at my last question and THEN he ghosted me. I had a funeral for him, he's dead. Thank you Anoushka.
Ghosted permanently for the last 7 months. Is for the best I know. Reached out Twice in the last 6 months to check on the ray of sunshine..she is unwell...narcissism is just the cherry on the sundae..if you know what I mean...and got hung up on, twice. I have to laugh at the situation. Expected it. Feel dumb to care and to reach out. Was hoping I could rise above hurt feelings knowing it's always a risk. It's on me. So hard to be cut off. Even if its saving my life. Rejection is rough, especially from a narc!!! For my own self respect I will not reach out again. I can't Love to all and thanks Anoushka.
You're 💯% correct. You got to be very mentally strong dealing with one, for It's always something With a narcissistic person, and they love to push buttons😂. I had enough got rid of mine. For I can do a whole lot better than that crap. New supply enjoy👍😂.
Totally, they don't like boundaries. I haven't heard from him for years. His last hoover was 4 years ago and that failed, I ignored it. He knows he can't get any supply here. He still watches from afar. Great video thanks.
I broke up with my Covert Narcissistic girlfriend 3 months ago. I was told she was grumpy all the time and moody so I reached out to see if she was ok. At this time I wasn't aware that Covert Narcissism was even a condition. Well I got idealised ,devalued and discarded within the space of an 1 hour consisting of a phone call then a message. Haha lesson learned.
Who wants to hear from these devils it's a blessing hopefully they don't come back and hoover to make sure you don't get up, or try to sabotage and secretly make you look bad. They have no value
I'm so happy to not be around any Narcissists I don't care who they are and I know who most of these Narcissistic people are and I don't want to see them or be around any Narcissists I don't like Narcissists and I can spot a Narcissist in less than a minute if I'm looking for a Narcissist I don't like Narcissists. GOD-BLESS.
Thank you so much you are not only just informative and knowledgeable but everything you said was right on the money I wish we had more people like you out there
This is 100% what is happening to me right now. This helped me to understand. But oh boy that moon affected me so much last night I almost called him, drove to him. Was so hard.
I was seeing a narcissist woman for 3 months, but i very quickly picked up that something was not right with her, in no time at all she was gasslighting me and would say something quite clearly and literally seconds later deny ever saying anything. she would then say you have problems and i needed to see somebody ? im like are you for real ? she had probably been with hundreds of men because she kept loads of photo,s and even bragged she has had lots of boyfriends but she was unlucky in finding happiness, but the truth being whenever we went anywhere together mostly at weekends should would outrageously flirt with any man she came into contact with like she had a mission to get a reaction from me, i soon worked her out and just let her proceed with her games and acted like i didnt even notice but i knew full well she was nothing but bad news. and i even told her so. i told her that her games wont work on me. i see her for what she is. and that im done with her., a month later i noticed some people she introduced me to and they simply saw me and gave me dirty looks that could kill. you can only imagine the utter BS that she had been telling them. well this was 3 yrs ago now and i havent heard from her since. shes probably been with another 10 men since me.
This is the one right here!🎯💪🏽💯 I was put out of a home that I put together for me and my ex narc ! On and off few months in between a lil over a year now(since the 3rd discard in a 14year relationshit) I’m back around in and out of the house! Come to find out it was because she was on the verge of being evicted! Now I have boundaries! Therefore I made her get help from the new supply and other supplies! I been all over top of everything exposed her and told her exactly what she’s doing etc! (She sent me a cash app for $1000 told me it was to hold so she didn’t spend it. Then ask me to send it back 2 hours later) I told her that was her way of triangulating me with the new supply to get him to give her the money she needed! Up until recent I loved her enough to still off and on deal because the sex is so great but now I don’t want absolutely no dealings! And of course she doesn’t because I don’t supply her at all nomore 🤣💪🏽💯
Exactly. Our mother still sends my sister and I a couple of emails every year, but it’s something totally random and stupid, like a funny blurb about Bob Ross the painter (because I liked him when I was THIRTEEN years old.). But as for anything genuine? Forget it. She’s done the same thing for over 12 years since we went no contact with her!! I feel like the effort she’s putting forth is an insult. Like “well, it’s not worth it for me to put any effort or demonstrate any real concern or change, so I’ll just send this stupid email. If it works it works, if not then, meh, who gives a crap”. She just doesn’t really give a crap. She tells all her flying monkey friends she does, but she doesn’t.
Why would y’all want to hear from them again? That’s rooted in EGO! I’m free at last! Thank GOD! I told his entire family what he did. Cuz I want him to leave me alone forever 💪🏾😬😬
I only want my narcissist to take accountability and get some closure. I have zero interest in being close with someone who can't accept responsibility.
I want to know why mine never tried to hoover me in the last 6 years, so I can keep doing whatever it is I'm doing to keep them from ever contacting me again. That's exactly why I watched your video.
I also have a theory as to why you don’t hear from them again is that they have a fear of rejection, which is a huge narcissistic injury for them.
Excellent Point and SO very true!!!
I agree. I am of the same opinion as it is the main reason
Right on point!
Indeed it is! I went no contact 5 weeks ago and now I'm no longer in their contacts. I got discarded! Woop woop!
Its a blessing.
You are right. They feel shame and guilt due to their actions but cannot accept responsibility for those actions so they basically go into hiding and move on to the next person. What happens though is they stalk and keep feelers out there on you to see if you have healed and have forgotten what they did to you. It’s like waiting for an argument to blow over, then they may come back and test the water
If the narcissist never contacts you again , congrats. You really stood your ground , and put them in their place.
Yay me 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Narcissists have transactions, not relationships!
That explains so much.
Yes, my spreadsheet relationship. Never again.
I’m glad my narcissistic ex hasn’t been in contact. He nearly destroyed me
Same. 12 years married and he up and left. Radio Silence
My ex has gone silent too now thankfully but not after hovering 17 times before 🤦🏼♀️
You're blessed. This demon tried, but failed. At that point there are no more options for Satan. The last desperate weapon was sending the filthy narc. My personal destroyer from the fiery lakes of hell was more successful. She made sure there wouldn't be anything left of me and no chance whatsoever of recovery in this lifetime.
It's good to know you made it. Really good. You're alive and the narc wasn't able to get you. The sad part is they'll prey on someone else.
Same here Lisa. She had me so close to going under. But 6months free and iam seeing the light at the end of the tunnel🙃❤️
I'll never hear from my narcissist because she knows I figured her out. I'll never give her supply again unless she admits to being a narcissist. She'll never do that.
She'll accuse you of being the narcassist ,mine did,
I sometimes wish for the hoover, just to validate she was a 100% narcassist, so you get full closure, but I nw you have to make your own
@@kirkhogan2688 I totally understand. Part of me wishes my ex narc would hoover me too so I could once again remind her she is a narcissist.
I told mine I knew what she was and not to contact me ever again, once the next relationship fails,
She even asked me what type she was....
She'll never contact either of us mate ,they would rather get new meat,
I'd rather see pics of her with new supply and nasty messages to me,it makes it easier.
She was a narcassist, that's why they stay away, as they will never admit it,her daughters are the same...
Could be worse you could be with her🤣
@@kirkhogan2688 Thank god we can watch from afar. 💪
Straight FACTS 🎯…
A narcissist attaches themselves to you figuring that you will never find out their game. When you do figure it out and call them on it, everything turns to hate.
That's true. When I discovered all the lies of my wife during our 10-year marriage and I accused her of deceiving me so much, she just discarded me and started to hate me.
My wife did the same thing, but it only took me two years to question it. I dealt with it for a year before she filed a bullshit pfa against me because she didn't want to discuss the issues and it was the easiest way to get rid of me.
I CELEBRATE every day that goes by if I don’t hear from any narcissists.
Buy some narcissist repellant.
Because there is nothing left for them to take/use/exploit! Best trick to get rid of one... Pretend you are borke and broken... - works everytime!
I know I haven’t heard from the narcissist bc I hold them accountable for their behaviors & that causes them shame which is a huge problem.
They are so brutal and malicious. I was fooled and manipulated way too long. At the discard he flat out told me "he faked loving me" the entire 12 years
Don’t worry, female, narcissist are just as bad. The last words I heard after eight years in a relationship with her was “ I don’t love you I don’t even like you”. I’m not really worried she’s just a callous person. I’ve spent 23 years in the ER saving peoples lives. What has she done for others. Nothing!!!
How miserable are you to where you spend 8 years not loving/liking your partner….
These people need their own island.
@tcbroussard9562 I agree, they are evil doers
@hawk4879 ugh! So brutal and they are fake. Too bad I didn't realize sooner that my husband was just playing a character
Mine’s 12 years as well, he told me, we didn’t have deep foundation which basically his love is superficial. Let’s be glad they’re out of our life. 💪🏼
The bottom line is that you'll never get love from these people. They don't have the emotional, psychological, social, or spiritual maturity for love. They're stunted toddlers in these ways and you cannot fix them.
My narcissistic ex-wife had a profound impact on my life, leading me to believe she was the love of my life for several years. The aftermath of our tumultuous divorce left our entire family shattered, causing me to struggle for years with emotional distress, depression, and financial difficulties. Despite the challenges, I finally managed to break free from the emotional hold she had on me.
Now, four years after the divorce, I have taken full custody of our teenage twin girls to protect them from their emotionally abusive mother. One of my daughters has completely cut ties with her mother, but the other remains emotionally connected to her, just as I once was. It's heartbreaking to see her fall for her mother's false promises of love and witness her getting hurt repeatedly.
My ex-wife has completely cut off all contact and communication with me. She shows no interest in receiving updates on her own daughters' emotional well-being or their growth as they come of age. This situation has left me feeling distant and disconnected, and I can strongly relate to the sentiments expressed in the video.
Despite my efforts to maintain a connection between my daughters and their mother, she remains disengaged, which adds to the emotional burden for all of us. It's disheartening to witness her lack of involvement in their lives, especially considering the impact her absence has on our daughters' emotional development.
As a father, I will continue to do my best to provide a nurturing and supportive environment for my girls, even in the absence of their mother's active presence. I understand the importance of being there for them and helping them navigate through life's challenges with love and care.
Though it's challenging to see my daughters experience disappointment due to their mother's disinterest, I will remain steadfast in supporting them and being their pillar of strength. My priority is to foster their emotional well-being and ensure they know they are loved and valued, regardless of their mother's choices.
In the end, I hope my love and commitment will help my daughters grow into resilient individuals who can handle life's adversities with grace and confidence.
My ex has memory holed our 16yo son and 9yo daughter, he walks the other way if he sees us around town and told his friends and family I won't let him see the kids. I tried to keep in contact with him and gave up after he stood them up. It's my fault he doesn't see them at Christmas/birthdays because I don't invite him around. He won't do anything himself to maintain the relationships etc. And he's let himself go from any responsibility saying I'm hard work and start fights because I dared to ask why he didn't turn up when he was supposed to.
The very same story here. Only that it is the mother behaving like that...I often wonder why narcissists all seem to exhibit the same patterns of behavior. We are tearing ourselves apart, striving to provide our kids with the very basic sense of having TWO parents in the already difficult and painful situation of a broken family. Meanwhile, the other parent is living the time of their life, which leaves us feeling utterly helpless as we witness our kids suffering, with seemingly no room for reason. @@TheSparkySpitz
With a father like you they will be alright bro just keep doing what ya doing n best of luck to ya
Thank you!@@steelesharpensteele6252
When they know you can see behind their toxicity they will remain gone. Consider it a blessing!
They can never do enough work on themselves. They want a YES/doormat, needy person. When we realize who they are and their behaviors, when they do see us and we ignore them, they will know we're DONE with them and there is no coming back.
This^^^
The biggest and best thing that they could ever give you is a discard no contact and no hoover! Time to live your best life! Heal and be happy!
I absolutely don't need anything from them. They don't have anything you need trust that.
I'm glad I'm not hearing from the ex narc...no more begging...no more drama...no more issues...and etc.
They don't want you to see them struggle or even with their new downgrade partner.
😂😂😂😂 so true. I’m a model so they’re Always really beat or homely-looking. Well hey she’ll learn and maybe change her style when she re discovers herself through the abuse 😂
Once I moved out and blocked her, it took a while to start recovering, but my life has been a rocketship of succes ever since, and I have never heard from her again. I win.
The narcissistic relationship, was never going to last...from the get go! 😮
Yep it was never gonna take off like that it was doomed from the start!
We have to learn to value ourselves-not rely on others
Suddenly they do ....when they want something or someone hasnt come along to replace u
Such joy to be free from being in prison.. a delight not to hear from the narcissist ever again 💕
Once a narc is identified they are better gone for ever regardless of who closed the door.
They will Hoover...the first Hoover attempt is a test of your insecurity level. It’s ladened with admissions of bad behaviors without apologizing, future faking and false promises of change. If your response is no response they’ll test again and again. But If they are confronted to their face (must be done in person) and you injure their ego, it’s Game over! The look on their face after calling them out will show you they hate you for doing the opposite of what they want. They are immature fearful creatures, treat them accordingly
It is wonderful and peaceful not hearing from narcissistic people that I unfortunately used to know!
Very well explained.
Stay strong and block the narcissist.
knowing this, i wont, im gonna play more with them..
I truly believe this…I mean what I say and say what I mean, don’t try me…when I say I’m exhausted I mean it. I’m done.
Broke up with my narcissistic ex in Dec 2019. So glad he’s stayed gone. 6 years of pure hell.
We don’t hear from our mother after 12 years no contact because we have it all figured out now and she knows that. If you have it figured out they basically give up.
My narcissist showed up while I was trying to talk my son out of suicide. He wanted a quickie so I could get back to my son as soon as possible. I opened my door....told him it wasn't a good time...and slammed the door in his face. I haven't heard from him since. That told me every last thing I needed to know about him.
You couldn't make this up, I truly believe they are evil and selfish. I'm sorry for your pain and mental suffering
She knows that I know who and what she is!
"Princeless" Diana!
Her last words to me; "I never want you to see my face again"
Perfect! Finally we agree on something.
Divorce is final, life is flowing again! Haven't heard a word for 3 months
Thank you $14,000 later and I said NO he BLOCKED you solved my problem thank you Diva. Love that block just saved me thousands.
That, and a narcissistic injury, a severe narcissistic injury.
You will not see, or hear from the Narcissist again
I literally didn't want to lose the person. But they blocked and smeared me a little after I figured them out. All the lies and coverups. The double personality. I had to play dumb to keep the friendship. But they are just pure evil and it's a shame. I just can't imagine them being like that in their 30s and 40s.
A long time ago my sister asked me to pick her up at 4:30 am. She came to my house for a short visit than asked for a ride over to my other sisters house where she stayed for eight days. Never was invited to spend time with them. A few days into her trip she asked me to transport her back to the airport at 3am. All five sisters and one brother are in my MO contact list for years now. I have never felt so much peace
My sister is allll about what I can do for her too. After 2-1/2 years of no contact she texts to ask “ when do I get my sister back” LOL
These narcissism videos are helping massively get over my ex. It's showing so many cracks in her I may have missed , ontop of the obvious unbelievable behavior. Good riddance. She'll never admit it as she's never been sorry for anything she has said or done. Narcissists need deporting on their own island!
I knew in my gut that he wasn’t going to come back. I went to no contact two months ago and he knows that I know he is a covert narcissist. Good luck out there buddy…. While watching all of these different videos and people saying they’re going to Hoover and come back for some strange reason I knew that wasn’t going to be my case. I guess I am way too strong for him to get any more supply from me…
Same here 😂
He secretly thinks I gave him the biggest narcissistic injury of all time when in reality he did it to himself.👈🏻 I HAVE ZERO DESIRE TO hear from him ever again. He caused me so much trouble I wouldn’t even blink or care if he was hit by a bus tomorrow.
😂😂😂
It's not sad it's glory it's happiness you win they loose you got your life live it
This is we’re I am now .
However I still look over my shoulder .
I love this! Never really understood why he didn’t come back, now I know. I told him we would never be friends and I stood by that. He sent me a package in the mail and I never thanked him. This makes me feels strong, thanks.
I’m with you on this one. Pleased finding this out helped you too ☺️✨✨
You told him you'd never be friends again and he steered clear. Leave it at that
o my lorddddddddddddd, someone does the same thing to me, but i thanked him like normal human being, and i wish him well on his life
Narcissist unbelievable they are lost in this world in this universe
12.5 years ago, i told him i was on to him, and i left. That was the END...👍
Consider yourself blessed 🎉
They want you to look for an explanation folks its part of the head game .do the inner work spiritually, physically, and watch some videos on how to emotionally detach
I recall a then-girlfriend who told me that she had spoken with her first boyfriend through text. That is, someone whom she dated more than ten years earlier. I asked whether that was common and if she had other exes in her contact list. She did. I knew at that point that I was simply a future ex-boyfriend.
Most people rarely been with one person. Why not just know the person before you date them. That's why most ppl have dating issues because they date someone too soon
@@Melbester9 I have no trouble with someone having exes. What is unhealthy is keeping a pool of exes to chat.
@@licmir3663it's what they do... They have some kind of access to their past supply.
it was all about power they took what they could get and went on to leech someone else.
Great job, explaining g this!!! It is a huge blessing!!! 29 months post narc, no contact.
My sister and I stopped talking to our mother 12 years ago. From day 1 she didn’t try. She knows she’s figured out so she doesn’t bother.
These people are demonic be thankful they do not contact you I understand it's very painful pick yourself up dust yourself off and keep climbing that mountain 💪
Back in the day, when i made everything super easy, and i occasionally gave him $, he did always come back. When i started saying "noooo" and i removed the money and s$% he left and has not returned. So, i know youre right. TY for this important video❤
Do not ever give a guy money. A real man would never take money from a woman.
brilliant observation
If you want the 11 minute explanation, then watch this video (it is very thorough).
If you want the quick explanation then here it is: A narcissist stops contacting you when they realize that they can no longer play you.
Thank you and great for all of us that finally woke up and realized all their fakeness!!!!!
Thank you for reminding me in a moment of weakness!
Congratulations on your silver button
Im not hearing anything either. I think God removed him, and i know thats a good thing
Two years later…..two years……they do……I never believed it. He waited 2 years to think I’d forget or his shame fizzled out…..I have our child that he has never met
He’s soooo looking for supply
He sooo thinks 2 years might give me time to forget paaaaaa
It’s so funny when you have the knowledge
They need to be wiped out
They are wreckless
Bless me and my baby
Pray we stay strong 💪
Mortification is the end game if you beat them to the punch, now many people will say don't stoop to their level but if you feel you need to make them feel pain then by all means
This is what I’m dealing with right now , and it’s horrible
wow , you describe exactly exactly about The Narcissist, ur not missing anythinggggggggggggggggggg
I'm so glad I haven't heard from him in 8 months. Thank God.
Because they create trouble cost you, they are cowards, they know you figured them out, scared running for you to pick up the pieces, when you stand up to them cold, call them out, they say can you be more caring? They finally heard you
I was able to expose my soon to be ex wife after 18 years. We have a 7 year daughter together that I want in my life. Saying that, I’m concerned my ex will disappear or make it extremely difficult for visitation with my daughter. So to play this safe, I’ve been able to educate myself and understand what NOT to do to keep her from moving far away. So far I’ve managed to keep my daughter close to see her and it’s a win win for both myself and the narcissist.
It's been a year now since went no contact, my brain feels so much better and doing well
I didn't used to be transactional in my thinking with other people...but I have found over time that I will be used, not might but will and tossed away if I don't at least make some thought to what the other person can do for me.
I hate the world I live in and what it's done to me.
It was an eye opening video on this topic Anoushka… Now that I am so much free, I wanna do whatever i wanted to do without giving a damn single thought about the Narc.
Two years no contact and it is now almost incomprehensible to me they would try ! I have come such a long way on my healing journey , and finally have my OWN sense of reality and truth ! I am sure it must have been a HUGE ego blow to them , especially I was probably the best audience they ever had ! If they did contact me now I think I would just stay calm and if they questioned why I walked I would make out it was my own situation and that I am in MUCH better place now ! What I would really love to do is tell them the truth , but I know that ANY kind of energy signals to them that I am still possible supply . Instead you have shut the door slowly whilst nodding and smiling , as you might do with a REALLY ANNOYING cold caller at you doorstep ! The only power they ever had was the power you gave them ! ❤️💪🙏
It’s really difficult to accept that as an answer, especially if you are going through a separation divorce or break up that they refused to have any communication with their “partner”
I hear you.
Narcissists don’t have “partners”
Positive thoughts of inspiration. Yes. I am definitely a believer in freedom from the chains of narcissistic behavior. Feelings blessed to enjoy the outcome and thank you so much for the therapeutic healing I have received during this time which was essential. I will always show empathy towards a healthy relationship, bearing in mind that I will never never need to entertain deceit and evil. This behavior goes against the fundamental values of my life. I pray that this individual will one day find the goodness in himself and serve the community with the God give talents he so truly deserve. He is a very special and intelligent man who needs to focus on a healthy lifestyle that brings in rewards of inner peace and well-being. May God bless him and keep him safe. Thanks for your message of enlightenment. ❤
I watched this to hopefully make sure I’ll never hear from them again
The first time I dumped my ex narc was the last time. I told him when I was breaking up that he would never see me again. I have stood by my word and soon after the breakup I went no contact that’s never been broken. He has hovered me for 14 years now and I’ve never reciprocated as I got closure and need nothing from him. Total pest!
Anushka..Hi..
Yes you have their playbook, very well done.
You went into hermit and healed..respect.
And now you are educating the masses..kind ❤️ heart.
It's not an easy journey with these people, and the thing is they are master manipulators and bye the time you ( if ever)..understand what they have done to you..there's plenty of damage 💔 😢 to repair..before you can come back.
Thank you for putting this platform out their warrior woman.
You are a credit 👏 to this world and the universe.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
P.S..Sorry for spelling your name wrong.
It's a blessing and a relief. 🙏♥️
No contact is valuable
Some will hoover
He tried (we were only friends) to visit me three weeks after he disappeared I did not answer his knock at my door. I was hurt when he disappeared but watching your videos helped me to get over the hurt when I realized that the help I was giving him was him using me. All the help was of no value because he wasn't using it. I also realized that I was investing my time in helping him look for a job (resume, use of my computer to apply for jobs), etc. I recall feeling drained as he was starting to reveal himself as needy. Before he disappeared I told him I was not going to help him anymore, that he was boring (he stopped talking), and asked him what happened to all the women, why can't they help him. He gave me a stare and a smirk at my last question and THEN he ghosted me. I had a funeral for him, he's dead. Thank you Anoushka.
Thank you for explaining this. It makes sense. Better to move on.
They found a great source.
Ghosted permanently for the last 7 months. Is for the best I know. Reached out Twice in the last 6 months to check on the ray of sunshine..she is unwell...narcissism is just the cherry on the sundae..if you know what I mean...and got hung up on, twice. I have to laugh at the situation. Expected it. Feel dumb to care and to reach out. Was hoping I could rise above hurt feelings knowing it's always a risk. It's on me. So hard to be cut off. Even if its saving my life. Rejection is rough, especially from a narc!!! For my own self respect I will not reach out again. I can't Love to all and thanks Anoushka.
No contact is the only way out. Imagine if you had children with her?
We have to return to the things we like doing. We simply must. All the best.
She doesnt give a damn about you and never will. Stop feeding her.
i was ghosted too, and a month later, something came in in the mail
@@cowboynohorse that would be hell. Good point
You're 💯% correct. You got to be very mentally strong dealing with one, for It's always something With a narcissistic person, and they love to push buttons😂. I had enough got rid of mine. For I can do a whole lot better than that crap. New supply enjoy👍😂.
Totally, they don't like boundaries. I haven't heard from him for years. His last hoover was 4 years ago and that failed, I ignored it. He knows he can't get any supply here. He still watches from afar. Great video thanks.
I think it's because we will not put up with their crap!
I broke up with my Covert Narcissistic girlfriend 3 months ago.
I was told she was grumpy all the time and moody so I reached out to see if she was ok. At this time I wasn't aware that Covert Narcissism was even a condition.
Well I got idealised ,devalued and discarded within the space of an 1 hour consisting of a phone call then a message.
Haha lesson learned.
Who wants to hear from these devils it's a blessing hopefully they don't come back and hoover to make sure you don't get up, or try to sabotage and secretly make you look bad. They have no value
Thank you so much for pointing this out,I new this is what I'm going through right now
I'm so happy to not be around any Narcissists I don't care who they are and I know who most of these Narcissistic people are and I don't want to see them or be around any Narcissists I don't like Narcissists and I can spot a Narcissist in less than a minute if I'm looking for a Narcissist I don't like Narcissists. GOD-BLESS.
Thank you so much you are not only just informative and knowledgeable but everything you said was right on the money I wish we had more people like you out there
This is 100% what is happening to me right now. This helped me to understand. But oh boy that moon affected me so much last night I almost called him, drove to him. Was so hard.
I was seeing a narcissist woman for 3 months, but i very quickly picked up that something was not right with her, in no time at all she was gasslighting me and would say something quite clearly and literally seconds later deny ever saying anything. she would then say you have problems and i needed to see somebody ? im like are you for real ? she had probably been with hundreds of men because she kept loads of photo,s and even bragged she has had lots of boyfriends but she was unlucky in finding happiness, but the truth being whenever we went anywhere together mostly at weekends should would outrageously flirt with any man she came into contact with like she had a mission to get a reaction from me, i soon worked her out and just let her proceed with her games and acted like i didnt even notice but i knew full well she was nothing but bad news. and i even told her so. i told her that her games wont work on me. i see her for what she is. and that im done with her., a month later i noticed some people she introduced me to and they simply saw me and gave me dirty looks that could kill. you can only imagine the utter BS that she had been telling them. well this was 3 yrs ago now and i havent heard from her since. shes probably been with another 10 men since me.
Thank you so very much for addressing this.
They don’t want to verbalize that they used you so they make themselves scarce
I don't care any longer either!
Just from the Title is great news.. I wouldn't question it one bit.
Thank you so much for this video. It’s cleared up the one thing that has been bothering me. Now it makes sense to me. Can’t thank you enough ☺️
Thank you, I needed to hear this today!
This is the one right here!🎯💪🏽💯 I was put out of a home that I put together for me and my ex narc ! On and off few months in between a lil over a year now(since the 3rd discard in a 14year relationshit) I’m back around in and out of the house! Come to find out it was because she was on the verge of being evicted! Now I have boundaries! Therefore I made her get help from the new supply and other supplies! I been all over top of everything exposed her and told her exactly what she’s doing etc! (She sent me a cash app for $1000 told me it was to hold so she didn’t spend it. Then ask me to send it back 2 hours later) I told her that was her way of triangulating me with the new supply to get him to give her the money she needed! Up until recent I loved her enough to still off and on deal because the sex is so great but now I don’t want absolutely no dealings! And of course she doesn’t because I don’t supply her at all nomore 🤣💪🏽💯
If you hear from them it’s because they want a free ride again.
Exactly. Our mother still sends my sister and I a couple of emails every year, but it’s something totally random and stupid, like a funny blurb about Bob Ross the painter (because I liked him when I was THIRTEEN years old.). But as for anything genuine? Forget it.
She’s done the same thing for over 12 years since we went no contact with her!!
I feel like the effort she’s putting forth is an insult. Like “well, it’s not worth it for me to put any effort or demonstrate any real concern or change, so I’ll just send this stupid email. If it works it works, if not then, meh, who gives a crap”.
She just doesn’t really give a crap. She tells all her flying monkey friends she does, but she doesn’t.
Why would y’all want to hear from them again? That’s rooted in EGO! I’m free at last! Thank GOD! I told his entire family what he did. Cuz I want him to leave me alone forever 💪🏾😬😬
I only want my narcissist to take accountability and get some closure. I have zero interest in being close with someone who can't accept responsibility.
I want to know why mine never tried to hoover me in the last 6 years, so I can keep doing whatever it is I'm doing to keep them from ever contacting me again. That's exactly why I watched your video.
And now I have learned why. Because I have nothing to offer her, except maybe a simple run-along kid you're bothering me.
I dumped my narcissist partner. I don’t want them to see me again!