Interpersonal Hypersensitivity: Origins and Implications - John G. Gunderson, MD
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- Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2012
- Borderline Personality Disorder: Research Across the Lifespan and Clinical Applications for Treatment - October 18-19, 2008 Minneapolis, MN
Rest In Peace, Dr Gunderson. Thank you for your enormous contributions to the field of BPD.
My mother is a narcissist and my dad a sociopath. I became my mother's confidante at age 3. I heard of sex games, key parties etc.My mother thought it was great that I could solve all her problems since I was little. My dad was violent- he tried to control my mother and her self destruction with his fists, and I was in the middle physically during their fights. I had to replace my sense of self with my parents sense of self in order to survive. I balanced the emotional energies of my parents to protect my siblings, and hide them when my parents fought. My sister and I were repeatedly molested by a babysitter from age 5-8.
I learned I had BPD a year ago and it was a weight lifted off me. It made great sense. I am not ashamed at all. I was a little girl who was very brave and resourceful and although I lived another 55 years using my 3 yo childhood tools I am proud of me.
I find myself now at 60 struggling to figure what is me and what is others. My dysregulation is like being in a tornado of pain and fear . The terror I partitioned away from me so that I could survive comes swirling in and I come undone. Thank you for the support and kindness you give those of us w BPD. I am an eager psych patient as I want to learn all the tools that are available to me. I still haven't figured out what I want to be when I grow up, unfortunately every morning I awaken and realize that my life has no direction and the only thing I can do is to reassure myself and lean in Heaven to protect and guide me.
I often awake in panic wondering where everyone is and if they are safe, then I realize I'm all grown up and I missed out on being present in my life. God help me.
The worst part is what I neglected to do for my own children. God forgive me.
The shit he says around the 27 minute mark about doctors prescribing meds for personality issues getting the patient hopeful then the patient getting worse is something I've dealt with my whole life, and is such an accurate and insightful observation. I can't even begin to explain how much that validates my feelings on mental health treatment.
Same here . . . since 1983 I have three times wrecked myself by trusting doctors offering the new wonder drug.
Fast forward to 18:00 if you want to skip the intro and hear about hypersensitivity as it relates to BPD.
Paul Fiarkoski
Thanks😊
Thank you! This guy is sort of difficult to listen to for me. I know the content is good but he’s sort of boring to listen to.
No two ways about it. This guy SUCKS as a speaker.
Good to listen at 1.25 or 1.50 speed
lifesaver!
My therapist retraumatized me. No one will ever believe you that there's some bad practitioners out there.
Oh I believe you 💯
I believe you and I'm grateful to know I'm not alone on this but I'm sad you experienced whatever happened. Blessings friend
There are probably a lot more horrific therapists out there than actual great ones. I have personally gone through a couple of horrible ones, but my daughter has gone through too many to count. I could put all of the horrible ones in one group, they might listen but they don’t hear and their implicit bias is plugged in, and they have little curiosity or respect for their clients.
@@xenofonteinteragro Unfortunately the good ones move on and my income is not enough to afford them.
Oh dear, there are many bad ones out there, most are mediocre and a few that are actually great. Think of it as teachers, most teachers wont leave much of a mark on you, some will be remembered for how bad they were, and if you are lucky, you will have met one who profoundly inspired you... same with therapists...
What amazes me is how many non-professionals, without basic knowledge of the material and the terminology, object to what they see.
Thanks Paul - I was suffering through the first 6 mins before I read your note.
CityPriestess
Lol
No kidding. This guy's a TERRIBLE speaker.
Shit. Now I can't even blame my parents.
Lol
There’s definitely a generational issue at play I suspect in a majority of the cases.
Parents who’s own needs aren’t adequately met, maybe having kids to try to sort that piece out.
This material is at least 8 years old and lots of information has been changed and added. Try Bessel Van der Kolk
@@MaryHernandez-lq8kq / Christopher Columbus discovered Amerika many years ago & now people want to rewrite history. Same thing
This is literally my life story
That’s terrible for you. If you want another source of healing try codependents anonymous. It’s a world wide program for people wanting loving and healthy relationships. I go once a week and have been for nearly two years it’s a great source of comfort and help
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You have BPD?
The MRI stuff points to the physical obstacle's BPD persons have to face. I'd like to hear more about how drugs have been used with the therapy's to help the sufferers obtain more stability. I know of a friend with BPD who is on antidepressants and in therapy. It fascinates me. By the way I was diagnosed on the schizoid spectrum. There is very little understanding of this. Im on the same antidepressants as she is. Primarily very good for anxiety.
I hate being borderline ans love it . Great with work but bad for romantic relationships . I work around ppl but not the same everyday. I am old now and have chilled some. I remember a roommate sold me a TV later moved out ..I was 19 at the time 42 now . But he took the TV when he left . I went to his parents house with a can of gasoline . Told them what there son did and told them pay me the money right now or I will burn down this house with you in it ..my friends when I was young always said bro you are gangster as ahit and liked how I handled things . Being in my 4os and with mental help I don't do the same but know I could take it there if I let go . The bad part is the pain I would feel after a moment . Of hurting a friend or loved one I would cry in my room for days after thank you for the video
Same 🙂
Diagnosed w/BPD @40yrs old @ RI Hospital inpatient program> surpressed memories of ritual incest by my father thru age 7 re-emerged while I was observing suspicion behavior btwn my father & his 3yr old granddaughter. Im also diagnosed w/ PTSD, ADHD, hf depression & specific phobia (insect).
I've written down so many helpful notes while listening to this video thank you so much on this million words in my mind but the gyst is my gratitude 🙏❤️
I'm not the one making this complicated. But I understand what ewe r doing.
Likeable as an infant, my god. Is this strange analysis of human behaviour? So an infant has to be likeable or they deserve to be damaged. How about care providers care for all their children based on individual needs. We are not all alike and every child has a different personality with different levels of needs. Does this man work with people or is his research all in data.
The Lady is clearly not a professional in the field.
I'm in worse trouble now.
SN: 1010'92 p.231
My 4 year old daughter is doing well so I think. Even though she's been alienated from me for a year and upon getting her back her mom left for 3 months. What do I need to do for my kiddo to help her out? Does she need help? She is 4
Depending on where you live I would suggest calling the closest university and asking if they have a developmental psychology department. They will be the people with the most current understanding of how your daughter is doing. I'm having a similar problem with my daughters mother only letting me see her to comply with the order I had to get the court to declare so she'd not call the police when I tried to see my daughter for the first 6 months.
So I missed more than half her life so far and am having to figure out why people keep treating me like I'm the problem when I'm the one trying to make sure the baby can crawl and gets to the Dr.
I say that to kind of help you know that people will understand you're trying to help your kid if you find the right ones. So to be clear, from my understanding, at 4 years you're still within the time period many would say that treatment is most helpful for ensuring they understand how emotions work and being able to trust people. That's from my speaking with the University staff I'm lucky to have access to and they charge me based on my income so I'm able to get her checked out and still eat myself. Good luck with your girl.
If a child is to be considered for mental health treatment, the entire family system that interacts with child needs to be evaluated and in therapy too
This lecture paralyzes my Vagus Nerve. What a dark world you all live in.
What a bunch of rubbish that babies are sensitive and less likeable .
Yeah, when your narcissistic mother has no idea how to soothe another human , you don’t became regulated. They overfed me instead to soothe
On yt support:
The Crappy Childhood Fairy
Doc Snipes
Candace VanDell.
God bless us all.
Did he seriously say people with BPD are special-needs? Not "have special needs" but ARE special needs... wow.
Georgiana Cavendish shouldn’t that same standard apply to conventionally “special needs” children? They aren’t special needs, they just HAVE special needs? The distinction loses any meaning when you look at it that way.
What's the problem?
@@TempermentalTart the problem is that non- professionals watch these videos, and have no basic knowledge of the field and it’s terminology.
@@chaostheory16 they are special needs
Yes..I was offended.
what about scientific brain scans?
And while I have the floor I would like to say that "a 50 minute hour" is GASLIGHTING. STOP SCREWING W OUR ALREADY DAMAGED PSYCHE'S. Come on man.
Great psychiatrist
Oh whoa?! I feel asleep a third of the way into the video. Did I miss anything?
Is t just me or is he blaming it on the infant? This is not how I understood attachment theory. The infant may have a certain temperament but the contradictory response is related to the hostile caretaker response. This is lecture is total none sense. Where did you get the example of “you can do it” might be interpreted the sparing way by the “borderline offspring”. What does borderline offspring mean anyway? No one can be diagnosed BPD any way before the age of 18. Before that age any psychological souse with a child is either trauma or conduct disorder.
I have been learning they are looking into BPD in younger kids now.
@@shecat1964 This is impossible! No kid can be diagnosed with a personality disorder before the age of 18, only with conduct disorder.
@@claudine98052 I was diagnosed with a personality disorder at 15 , only saw it in black and white nhs records a few weeks ago (am 40 ) always believing I had been diagnosed at 26 but they do apparently... or did
@@graemekneale2624 This is unethical! The only diagnosis for kids is conduct disorder, not personality disorder, personality requires time to develop.
@@claudine98052 may be unethical, and against guidelines now but time and where you were historically plus who might be pushing for diagnosis help. I dont know.. I just know it happened when I was 15 not 26 like I thought
44:07 lol
LMAO this is the funniest shit I've ever heard. I think he is stuck in the 60's
Notice the date on the video...
"Likeable as an infant"... BWAHAHAHAH...
All infants are likeable you dinkus.
You cannot blame an infant for the parents lack of tools. That's just gaslighting. Come on man.
Thanks! Babies are blameless, and this is ridiculous! Who would blame an innocent baby for trying to get their needs met with the only tools they have? Babies are inherently helpless, and rely solely on others.
We don't need to see your face, when you are talking about what's on a slide. In fact, we don't need to see you at all. Because your voice is doing the talk anyways.
Are you okay Hun?
This guy needs psychiatric help
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