Kinda yeah, when i was small, before i even knew what self harming even was i bit myself whenever i was frustrated, i still do, bad habit to break. Tho, when i was in my teens i self harmed (not biting, cutting) just to feel pain somewhere else, it hurt too much in my chest(?) I just needed it somewhere else.
I think one thing that wasn't mentioned enough was the myth of self harming for attention. I will never forget the day my friend group first saw my scars, and afterwards one of my (former) friends said to me, "Look, if you want to kill yourself then go get help, but don't make it our problem." I also think it's important to educate teens about self harm as well as bullying and all the rest, so that everyone can start to understand it better. Edit: I know that some people do it for attention, but I think it's wrong to automatically assume so without giving them a chance.
After seeing slitwt i do think it is a possibility though. Those pre-teens doing "cat scratches" and sharing the pictures/videos, or those asking "omg guys, am i scarspo?". It's an entire community, and seeing that tight-knit group might inspire some to join in. I do think they're asking for validation from others to some degree.
@HollowBird-s6v I'm really sorry you went through this. No one without empathy should know of our pain. We might not even consider if a cut will be visible because we simply have so much pain we want to go away at that moment.
Sh-ing for attention is just as valid as every other form of sh in my opinion. At the end of the day you are still hurting yourself and you still need help- and sometimes the ‘attention’ that they are looking for is comfort, or maybe they feel no one cares about them, or they just want praise even if it’s from bad people who encourage sh.
im so sorry you had to go through this. its not easy for your friends to say such things, hope you had someone else to help you like i did when everyone else made fun of it.
As Someone Who Self Harms, There are so many times I have wanted to die, but every time I self harm, I find myself trying to stop the bleeding after a few minutes.. so that I don’t die. Saying that we are Suicidal doesn’t help, because not all of us are. Yeah I am Suicidal, But I don’t Really want to die. I only want to stop the pain, or just make it not feel as bad.. Thank you for this Video, It really helps to inform people and make them more aware of it. This stuff is hard to talk about, yeah. But Still, thank you for making this. Much love to everyone at Psych2Go. And to anyone reading this, You deserve to be here, and you are perfect. No matter what anyone tells you. Because You are here for a reason, and you bring so much Light and Joy into everyone else’s lives! You are Amazing, and Brilliant! and I would Never lie about that to anyone. Stay Safe and look after yourself. Go get a drink of water and a snack, take a break, it’s what you deserve.
I used to self-harm. My mom realized and forced me to stop. Yet, now, I’m getting urges to do it again. I have no idea why, so I’m watching this. Thank you for being so kind
Not to mention the fact that being able to cut deep gives u a sense of control and power, like “I can hurt myself more than anyone has ever hurt me”. It really makes u feel safe and secure.
Before I became friends with one of my classmates, he used to hurt himself. He said once he cut himself so bad he was rushed to the hospital. He apparently spent a year in a mental hospital (but I am unsure I kinda forgot), but once we became friends, he stopped self-harm. Hopefully he never has to go through this again...
My friend would also self harm. Unfortunately, I had only known her for a few months when she vented to me, so I was confused, heartbroken and had no idea what to do. I simply hugged her and told her I was there for her. She had been receiving a lot of pressure from her parents due to bad grades, so I believe it was a way to cope with stress. She has also told me a couple of stuff that made me concerned about her homelife, I'm not gonna get into detail because I promised not to. Recently her arms have had some scratches again and I'm worried she may have relapsed. I haven't talked to her about it because I feel like it's none of my business unless she wants to make it my business. Can I get some advice please?
My friend was 5 days clear according to his dc bio when we became friends. He later basically threatened me he will continue if I'm not telling him what he wants to hear, then he announced 5 times in a row that he's ending it. Then he disappeared for a week. I had to leave even tho he came back. I'm fairly certain he's trying to find a way to dm me to this day, too bad I no longer trust anyone on the internet, and get a fight or flight reaction every time I see someone with Ben as their username.
Hey lady doing the voice over I hope this wasn't too difficult to get through. I heard your voice waver at times and it just felt this was a more difficult one to go through. Just checking much love ❤️
I was thinking the same, especially when she talked about cutting or the piercing of skin. Thank you though for reading And bringing More attention to this topic
As someone that has been clean for over a year, this is really accurate and it's refreshing knowing people genuinely understand how you don't know how to explain.
I’ve been clean for ab 7 months I think, I only did sh a couple of times because I had horrible anxiety. I stopped because I thought it would take my pain away, but when I looked at what I did to the body that God made for me, I felt guilty and horrified at myself. However have been getting treatment and it’s better :) ) but I’m proud of you! Good job for a whole year clean, that’s a big achievement :) praying for you and wishing you the best 🙏🏻
For me self harm was to gain the validation, happiness and the attention i lacked as a child, at some I got bad attention like being laughed at for scoring less or bullying but self harm used to make me feel that sense of good attention when people asked me how I was or actually talked to me rather than sitting all alone trying to fit in, however my mother tears and desperate persistence saved my life, it took me a lot of time but I learned to love and who actually love me, tbh now I don't really care whether anyone talks to me or nobody want to be friend with, as long as I have my mom and myself in control I don't need anyone I have the most powerful element on earth and that's love
But honestly, people shame on doing it for attention but there's really no point in being judgemental, whatever reason it is, is a problem that should not be criticized but helped and understood
Another unmentioned self harming habits can be: Emotional eating, under eating or over eating, dangerous sex behaviours and of course drug and alcohol use
Under eating is one I'm definitely struggling with, constantly going between 24-72 hours between meals. it's not a quick sharp feeling of pain, it's a long sustained discomfort I find satisfaction in. It affects my physical health and my mental health, and strangely I like the fact that it does. It's not something I have to take steps to do, my inaction is what perpetuates it. It's not visible to the human eye. It's not something that will get me rushed to a hospital because I need stitches or I'm bleeding out. I have some friends who are aware of it, and tell me frequently to stop what I'm doing and go get food. It's becoming all the more tempting to lie about it.
It’s no coincidence that this video was the first one I saw when opening RUclips after relapsing. I hope that anyone else struggling with SH is able to get the help they need and deserve. And, to the people who have been able to tell someone about how they’re struggling. I’m proud of you. I wish I could be as brave as you guys
Then there’s me who has to stab them self multiple times a day if I desire to continue breathing, diabetes is great. I quit doing classic sh stuff over a year back, couldn’t feel enough pain for it to be worth it anymore, bloody nerve damage. Running is a really good alternative though, hurts things I can still feel, you know the nerves that are more intact. There’s also a chance my sugar will drop and then I will drop which is always a funny thought (I’m joking, I’m usually careful).
6:39 IMPORTANT: while yes, some people still suffering show their scars as a cry for help. If you see someone who have visible healed scars, they are most likely recovered. It would be rude to comment on anyone’s healed scars. And I think there is something to be said for how nobody ever talks about the after of self harm. Nobody talks about how you are supposed to live your life even if you get better. Those scars will follow you for the rest of your life, and so will the stigma. Not everyone wants to wear long sleeves for the rest of their life because of something they did when they were ill. People with visible scars deserve to wear a dress in summer without having strangers staring or assuming they know what happened. This is just to say that I think the video should have differentiated between fresh cuts and scars and healed old scars. Because there is nothing worse than being asked by someone you don’t know well if you need help because they saw scars that are years old. Just remember to always be respectful and not to assume.
I think this depends on the person though. As someone who has healed scars, it makes me very proud when someone asks about them and I can tell them that I've gotten better.
Hey, thank you. I really needed this today. Trying to go on day 2 SH free and I feel like this is even harder than overcoming my other addictions. 10 months sober. Day 2 clean. It has to be worth it… somehow.
Common u can protect yourself you are doing good, no matter what others say u deserve to see yourself as a 80 years old person, u deserved and you can make it into your 80s untill then keep holding on hope tightly so that in 80s you good memories to look back and feel proud, u also deserve to get old no matter what other say make it into your 80s don't give up on yourself just because other have.
0:25 this used to be me when i was younger "why would someone hurt themselves?" And here I am now, 4 months clean Edit: thank you for the support!! Reminder that relapses are apart of the healing process and don't feel ashamed if you relapse
@Wenixa I'm so happy and proud of you! I'm about 2 years. It's been such a struggle, but it's so worth it! Sending support and love! And remember, relapses do not make you a bad person. Life is tough. Be kind and patient with yourself. 💕
I used to self harm. From 11 to 13, and I do it occasionally still but not everyday like I used to. What I never understood about myself was that I felt scared, or reluctant, to stop. I felt like it was all that defined me. everything else in my life was scheduled for me, school, sports, but cutting was the one thing I had control over. This video helps me understand myself a little better, so thank you
I saw this video recommended and was reminded of how far I’ve come. I’m 5 years clean this month. Half a decade. It was one of the toughest things for me to do, but I found ways to cope that don’t require harming myself. I still struggle, and I will always live with the scars, but I look at them now and recognize that they tell a story of strength and perseverance. 💕
I’ve struggled with self harm for almost a year now. It’s hard to talk about. It’s hard to describe. This video helped put into words what I have not been able to. Thank you.
@cr1cket_on_p4ws I love you, I hope you'll be alright. Your loved ones will always be there to help you, because they need you and care about you. Again, I love you so much, have a nice day/night 🫂💙
It's so painful to think that some people feel they need to turn to self-harm for solace. I wish more people could find the comfort and care they truly need and deserve.
Dear Amanda, this is clearly a tough topic for you. Please take care of yourself and take enough breaks if needed. We‘d all understand if there are topics were you‘d rather not do the voice overs off. You are teaching us so much about mental health, so please don’t forget your own, okay? Sending lots of love your way❤️
Thank you. When i was younger I used to not understand how someone could do such a thing to themselves and now I’m a week clean and trying to stay strong. I wish the best for all of you guys!!
I’m proud of you, mate! Been clean for a few years now and your statement still rings true: It is SO much better, especially after the initial stages. I wish you the best, mate. You’ve got this!💛💛
Timestamps 1). Self-harm 0:54 2). Substitution and relief 1:53 3). Persistence 2:56 4). Low self-esteem 3:39 5). A cry for help 4:22 6). Suicidal 5:05 6.1). Desire to live or fear of death 5:53 6.2). Communication 6:23 6.3). Coping mechanism 6:42 7). How to stop self-harm 7:07 7.1). Reach out 7:19 7.2). Identify triggers 7:41 7.3). Find alternatives 8:07 7.4). Mimicry 8:18 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@@spookyraine Do you have anyone to talk about right now? - If not seek help from a telephone-hotline which provides psychological aid and advice - and if you have severe injures from it go to the emergency room in your nearest hospital immediately! - And for God's sake try to get proper help and avoid it to do something like that! Try to find an other way to get peace with yourself! Lovely greetings from Captain Sarah Sutter (Boeing 747-400, Boeing 747-8F)
I hope you remember that relapsing isn't a failure. Each time you work towards moving away from it, you're going to learn more about what works for you. Don't be sad that you slipped, be proud that you're willing to keep trying.
After seeing that a lot of people are not psychologically in the best space right now, Psych2Go almost immediately makes a video on self harm and suicide. I've always liked your guys' videos but this is truly deserving of respect
I am crying over this video, i am clear about a half year, but when i am in a hard situation i often want to hurt myself, see blood or anything, its really hard not to do. Seeing this video made clear that it wasnt all my fault, that it wasnt weakness. Thank you for the video.
We’re two. Over two years clean and sometimes I still get the urge, but the frequency decreases over time and you learn how to manage it better even at your worst. You’re not alone, dorka.💛💛💛
the problem with me is that i have been suicidal since age 8 which is slightly concerning but it's my abusive parents' faults. here i am now. Thank you so much psych2go for your content
I did SH and had an attempt of SUI in November. I opened up to my parents, long story short, I spent the entire moth of December in a Crisis Recovery Center, and got discharged on Jan 11, 2025. I used to hate my family, but all I needed was for them to go away for me to realize how much I love them.
I’ve suffered with self harm and suicidal thoughts, and this video helped me quite a bit. The final bit with instructions to stop self harm helped me a ton. I can’t say how long I’ve wanted to get rid of the pain, but I’m gonna try to get clean of self harm. This video helped me. Thank you.
My advice, throw away your kit, all at once container and all. Throw away the tools you threw in anger, the one you know is there just in case, yeah gone. It's freeing and gives a sense of heck yeah I feel good about this. Find something that is calming like coloring with classical music, and take that to your hiding place. Make your secret space a neutral zone instead of a shameful hate place. Cause you own yourself and can control everything you put your mind to. Our minds live for repeat. Teach yourself that the past scars are battles you won, you don't need new ones for new battles anymore. You are stronger than the scars, the pain, the weight of the world. Healing looks fabulous on you. 😊
I understand, and I wish you all the best recovering from self harm. Just know that you absolutely matter and there are always people who care about you, even if you think there aren't, I promise you they are there.
May the universe give you strength and an understanding of your children's thought process that got them here. Hugs, give them all the hugs especially when you are out of time or busy. That's how my mom helped me, sometimes by force she would hug me, hold me, made me feel valid without words. She would also buy children's play sets, like bowling and have a silly competition, play or don't she would play regardless. She brought back childlike bliss with no worries, it's never that serious and if it is walk away, think, talk, write, color, clear that head. Yell, scream, chop wood whatever it takes. I lived with therapy my whole youth but it was her love, patience and willingness to understand without pushing that broke me free. She's gone for many years now, I still buy children's toys to bring back joy and clear my head. Happiness breaks down the seriousness. Best of luck to you. Remember it's their first time feeling some of these emotions and might not understand them or why they happen. High feelings are intense no matter the emotion. It's tough growing into yourself 😊
Try starting a conversation by asking them why they feel like doing it and what emotions they feel when they do it. Sometimes the most healing thing is just having someone to talk to and who will listen.
Might be a really harsh and controversial take, but bear with me. Maybe you or someone else is being too soft on them enabling it. By any means, that doesn't mean that someone has to be harsh towards them. Find balance. People do it for countles of reasons, and kids love the validation.
thank you!! i used to X majorly my freshman year of highschool, and now have all of these ugly and visible scars all over my arms. i’m incredibly insecure and embarrassed about them, since i’m a totally different person now, but this video reminds me of how much progress i’ve made since then, and how i’m doing better now. that i’m okay, and my scars can remind me of those things. thank you
I understand you i also have a lot of scars, but i also like them cause its a reminder that i (and you as well) have been through hell, and made it. If someone judges you on that, well you missed a bullet then, cause if they are so stupid they actually don't care what you've been through, then the best they can do is being clear about their intentions. Anyway, scars are a symbol of your resilience as a human being, and your strength. So you (and i) should learn to see it that way, and be proud.
@@jayscka4938 I never had this problem of X, but I am suicidal and do want some scars to be taken more seriously as no one does it. I have a bald eyebrow from a cut when I was an infant and I believe it’s ugly and want to cover it with a scar that makes it look like I been in a more recent accident. Perhaps a nice cosmetic to it but idk.
I used to self harm every two to three days when I was 11-12. I guess that is quite a young age but at least now I do it much less. Only once in a blue moon like a few weeks ago. I know it’s not right but I used to mention my previous self harm quite often as a coping mechanism. I spoke of it almost jokingly, like “oh this is just another wierd part of my life haha” kind of thing. It reminds me to not do it again, but then people would question whether I really did it. How I lacked any obvious, visible scars. How I seemed so happy now that they just couldn’t fathom how I could’ve possibly ‘resorted to that’. When I self harmed, I would always slit my right wrist over and over again. It was never deep enough to scar, but always deep enough to draw blood. It relieved my stress, but no one around me would think that a child would do such a thing to herself. Hence, it took over a year before anyone found out.Laughing has long since become my default action. Whenever I’m nervous, angry sad it’s always met with laughter. Because in the past, when I self-harmed, people saw me as gloomy, unsociable, unstable. But now, I just end up isolating myself despite being surrounded by people that I believe don’t know me. Because I’m afraid that if they know who I really am, they wouldn’t stay by my side like my family does. Even after all the growth I thought I experienced, I am still a coward.
2:00 ive seen people describe how that actually works (i have never self harmed) as "pain in the body quiets the pain in the head. like a killswitch for your brain." so like, what you were thinking about (well, and trying not to think about) goes fuzzy or quiet because your brain thinks about the physical pain instead. Also it probably feels like you've let it out, maybe? Like when youre angry and you punch your pillow or scream into it, nothings changed but you feel like you expressed it physically so it calms down a bit
I self-harmed for 10 years. I remember the hardest part was stopping. I could stop for a little bit but I'd always go back to the habit and at one point I remember thinking. "Is this going to be my life?". But like the video says, most of us who do this are very resilient. A lot of treatments didn't work for me but I kept trying until I found what did work. I've been clean now for 5 years. While the urge still comes back every now and again I refuse to go back. And I wish nothing but happiness and strength to anyone who is going through this.
this video made me cry. My boyfriend is extremely suicidal and harms himself a lot and he's currently in a mental hospital. I wish the best for him and anybody else in his shoes ♥ (edit: thank you everybody for the support and i will be updating this when he gets back ❤🩹)
@@Alexa-e8f7x You're very brave and caring for still remaining by your boyfriend's side. But do remember to take care of your own health as well. I wish the best for you both.
@ yeah i do take care of myself. But he's been gone for over 167 days or so and its been really rough. And without him I've also been experiencing a lot of gender dysphoria and stuff like that
I think the best part about these videos is how they make us feel seen. When you are so lost inside your head and your thoughts with nowhere to run, you start to consider doing stuff that's just bad for yourself. Sometimes, just the though of ending yourself can release the pressure of your current mood and problems...
I am someone who has dealt with mental health issues including self harm for the majority of my life, this video does a pretty good job of explaining it. As someone who has marks ranging from scratches all the way up to needing stitches, the only main thing I would add is that sometimes self harm is a way to feel something when you’re unbelievably numb. There’s a rush that can come from it that is incredibly appealing when you lack all emotion. Needless to say, self harm is not way. It can be beneficial in the moment, but doesn’t help out long term. Stay safe out there guys!
I'm in my early teens, and my best friend recently told me that she's been thinking about suicide. She's done self-harm quite a bit, I think so I've wanted to learn why. This channel has helped me so much as I learn how I can help her. Thank you for all you do ❤
Hey! I’m not much older than you, and I’ve had a few if the same experiences including love life friendship and myself. I hope you’re managing okay, it sounds really hard and I want to start by saying that sometimes it can be a lot for even you to process so talk to people about it too. It can be anonymous or you can just not say specific details which shows who and what the situation is if you don’t want to as they can’t force you to. Second thing is, that your best friend is in a very dark place as I’m sure you know, and some days will be better than others. It may seem she’s getting better in the future and then she suddenly relapses, and I just want you to know that that does not mean you’re failing as a friend or anything like that. It’s completely normal and you simply need to be there for her every step of the way but make sure you’re there for yourself too. Also id advise telling someone like a teacher at your school if she harms herself as this is definitely a sign of an underlying mental health condition that may require professional intervention. Finally, like this video says the main reasons people do self harm is to regain control of themselves as when they feel empty or numb it feels like they’re in the wrong body so the pain brings your mind back to your body and makes you more aware of your surroundings and simply provides a sense of relief, so instead if just telling her to stop (which if you’re already doing these things then that’s great you’re doing great and if not that’s also okay don’t worry
@EllieHaines-h6k Thank you so much for taking the time to write all that! I think me and her are both super lucky because her dad is a therapist, so he has the resources and knows the best way to help. She's unfortunately also tried to take her life twice and was really in the trenches. Turns out her medication was making it worse, and so her provider quickly changed it. She seems to be doing way better, and I'm glad that I can be someone for her to lean on. On top of all this, I recently found out that another of my closest friends was cutting herself a lot last year. Since then, she's gone 46 days clean. I have been making sure to take care of myself the best I can. These experiences have helped me learn and better empathize with my peers and helped me understand that it's ok if you need to vent to a friend, a family member, or even anonymously online. So, thank you again for taking the time to give advice to a complete stranger. People like this give me hope for the future ❤️
I have no experience helping with SH but with sewer slide I can give you some recommendations. For one, DO NOT tell a teacher because they will probably just end up putting her in a mental hospital and from some people I’ve known those places are not fun AT ALL. Instead I’d recommend, and this may seem counterintuitive, explain to her how yes life is pointless and existence is futile but out of that empty desert that is life is where you build amazing things. Or you could go straight to therapy but I myself have had therapy for years but it’s just been a waste of time and money because it feels inauthentic and talking to a friend about personal things like that is much better than talking to some random person who has other people to worry about and who probably just sees you as numbers in their paper rather than a person because remember medicine and mental health is a business to these people they don’t do it for the sake of helping you. I would look into philosophy like Nietzsche or Albert Camus that give insight into life itself and don’t ever try to deny reality for what it is and never EVER tell teachers or anyone like that about her problems because she is most likely to go to a mental institution. Sorry if this got ranty but please don’t deny how dark and sad life is and don’t try to be all “there is so much to live for!” With any suicidal person because they are most likely either numb and SH to feel something again or too lacking of ignorance to be optimistic about life. Please take this advice and I want you to remember this quote next time you allow her to vent to you: “one must imagine Sisyphus happy”
i think you should tell someone that she told you about that. i think her telling you her plan of it was her asking for help, her wanting to see if someone cares enough to try and stop her from going through with it.
@@ExaggeratedDecline23 hey I’m a little older than you so I want to give some advice from a totally counterintuitive lens that works for me and maybe will work for her! I am assuming A LOT of what you are doing to help her here and I’m not that big of an expert on sh but I can help with helping suicide problems. So I would recommend, instead of denying that reality is kind of futile and we are small specs in a vast universe that doesn’t care about us, I would acknowledge that fact (that is assuming of course you are trying to be optimistic with her) if she is numb and empty inside (which is normally why I see or hear people sh themselves) or she is hit hard by the reality of life and the absurdity of it. To not make it too philosophical or existential I would recommend you read Camus myth of Sisyphus or Nietzsche because I could not do them justice here and I think being realistic with her (which, from my experience with mental health issues, is probably what she wants) will be awesome for her instead of trying to bring up her spirit with optimism. Next time you talk to her you should also remember this phrase from myth of Sisyphus and remind her to find joy in her suffering like Sisyphus has because “one must imagine Sisyphus happy”.
I struggled with self-harm through my late teens and early 20s. It loomed in the back of my mind constantly as a way to deal with my depression. It took almost ten years, therapy and a lot of mental work on myself to outgrow it, but now when things go wrong my first impulse is no longer to hurt myself. It doesn't even cross my mind anymore.
This genuinely made me cry. I've been struggling with this for a while and I'm a little more than a month clean but I don't know how much longer I can last. Thank you for spreading awareness ❤
Ive never self harmed but I have recently been getting some urges and I also know some stuff about it from Charlie spring in heart stopper and so I know that relapsing is apart of the healing process and that you should stay strong because you can make it through this ❤
Hey I don’t self harm and I rly cant completely understand it but my best friend self harms. She went to a mental hospital likeee 2 months ago and she was doing a lot better. But she told me the other week that she relapsed. Idk how to describe this from an outside view, but ppl rly do care. As someone who cares abt my best friend more than I care about myself u will never know how truly loved and important u are to the ppl around u. When my best friend told me i just wanted to throw up and cry and scream(not bc i was disappointed or smth) i was just mad, like mad at myself for not helping her enough, not being there for her ever moment of the day. I was sad bc i rly thought that the healing process would be easy and quick and have no problems. But that didn’t happen, and I’ve come to the realization that my best friend will never know how much she actually means to me and the ppl around her. I don’t have the intention to stress u out or anything that’s not the purpose of this. I’m just saying I love and care for u even though I don’t know u. Also if u do end up reading this paragraph, pls tell me something’s that will help me take care of my best friend.
@@imsome1.736 Thank you, thank you so much! You don't understand how much better this makes me feel, that some random stranger cares about me lol. I really appreciate it. And I love you too now because you're too nice
Maybe someone will need this but here’s a strange advice which helped me avoid self-harming a lot. I threw out everything I had to heal myself afterwards and haven’t bought anything since. It may sound strange but since I have nothing to heal my wounds, I found it quite bothersome to do it at all, or at least not as badly as I used to. I haven’t done much since then and it’s been a few months now. It may not be 100% safe nor effective for everyone but it may help someone. You got this !
Seems risky when those would be the same things required for dealing with accidental injuries, but I see how the added mental barrier could certainly raise the bar required to do something.
@@Isaac-hm6ih Yes! Of course my advice may not help everyone and isn’t really safe, but self-harm in general isn’t safe either. Of course, if you do self harm even after throwing all bandages and stuff, GO BUY SOME or CALL FOR HELP!! Do not let your wounds risk being infected, that’s awful to deal with afterwards
hey, i personally don't struggle with X, so it's difficult to imagine the pain that you guys are going through, even though i know a few people that used to/ still are harming themselves. This video helped me with understanding your problem, also just wanted to say that i'm soo proud of everyone here, just for clicking on this video, sharing your story, just for TRYING! If anyone needs to vent or talk to a stranger, i'll be here! Take care honeys and i repeat, i'm really proud of all of you!💖💖💖
interesting that this video came up while I was trying to find a distraction to stop myself from relapsing. I’m nearly a month clean. somehow hearing someone acknowledge my struggles in this way is oddly comforting.
hey, I just want to say that while I don't personally struggle with SH, I have people close to me who do. It's definetly something really challenging to deal with. I don't understand everything about it to full extent but well, I always try to learn more. I always try giving support in the ways I can. Even if it's hard, I try giving my best. I know it's scary to reach out for help, but please do it. There will be always someone that will listen and care about you. What I want to say is that I wish all support in the world to whoever struggles with this and also to everyone who has someone they care about struggling this way. You can make it, you can heal from this. I know that simple words can't do miracles but I just want to show support and care. I'm already proud of you for being here. Take care.
Sadly, when I was 10 I used self harm as a way of punishment, even when something wasn’t even my fault. Gladly, I have gotten over it. My heart goes out to anyone who is dealing with it.
boosting!!! this was insanely helpful as someone who has been clean for years but still feels the need to do it whenever I’m feeling really negative. Thank you for making things make a little more sense
I started SH in my second year of high school, and though I've yet to completely go clean I've been doing it less and less. I really agree with the part where you said that it is addictive, probably even more so than alcohol and weed in my opinion. I've been trying out several ways to distract myself from SH whenever the urges come to me, but sometimes it just gets a bit too overwhelming for me and I need to release. It's not like I like having scars on my body, it's just the process of doing it became a crutch for me to rely on through tough times. If you have someone you know who is going through tough times, honestly just be there for them. You don't need to force them to talk about their emotions or make them go for a walk, but just be present there with them. Watch a movie, play some games, give them a hug, or even just sit and read a nice book together. Your presence means a lot more to them than you think it does.
Last year I was set on stepping out of life. What kept me from it is that I was always so extremely tired. Instead, I self harmed regularly and even mindlessly by picking and tearing my skin. It’s so weird looking back today because I’m in a better place now, but I’m not sure how that happened. Sending everyone a tight hug, you are important and the world wouldn’t be the same without you.
I have been struggling with sh and suicidal thoughts since I was 11. I get stressed really easily, mainly because of school. I hurt myself pretty bad one night after a breakdown and that was the only way I know how to take out my anger without break something. And the only time someone noticed my scars I didn't know what to say. I have been clean since the first of this year and I hope it stays that way. Please you don't have to tell someone if your not ready to tell anyone yet, don't rush things. You will get better, we are rooting for you
I immediately started crying when it said “reach out to a loved one” bc I’ve tried that but…smtms it just feels like they don’t care. Smtms it actually makes it worse…
for anyone that suffers self harm like me here are some tips i use to try cope: -watch comfort videos/movies -try find a new hobby (like drawing!) -talk to someone about it! -try cutting paper instead -spend time with family and friends! -try take periods time of it (make sure the time gets longer each time so you don’t harm yourself as often! (works for me) just remember everyone is loved, everyone is perfect and please talk to someone about this if your struggling! YOU ARE WORTH EVERYTHING ❤️❤️
To the people who have a history of SH: you are not alone. This is nothing to be ashamed of. I believe you can recover and get the support you need. Just take it one step at a time. I may not have personal experience with this, but I do know it’s anything but a straight-line process to recovery. It takes time and patience. You may relapse, but what matters is that you keep trying to recover. However long you’ve been clean, that is a wonderful accomplishment. Even if it doesn’t feel like a long time, you’re still making progress. Keep going, I believe in you. ❤
I may be unusual, but I use it myself to a degree and have a quibble with your message. I certainly appreciate your intent, but there's an element of your tone which may inadvertently be causing different problems. I thought you might want to know my perspective on why so much work around this topic doesn't help those who need it as much as it's meant to. I don't think this is always a sickness to recover from. Probably for some people, but not in all cases. For me it's an added tool, drawn on in times of desperation when the side-effects can be worth the benefits. I use as little as I need, so simply encouraging me to use less would be asking me to lose a coping tool without replacing it with another. If I'm using this, I've already exhausted the healthier options I think I have available in that circumstance and am desperate for SOMETHING to help. Since you want to help (which I appreciate), I suggest trying to provide alternative options or address the things the person is trying to get relief from. We already know we're expected to not use it, but when the only available alternative is worse that just adds shame and secrecy. Possibly to the point of suffering the worse option because the shame ruined a somewhat effective coping tool. My perspective is often unusual (I'm autistic, for a start), so this view might not apply to many people. But it seemed worth bringing up.
This is an extremely difficult topic, thank you for discussing it. When I was in high school, I had gotten out of a toxic environment, but didn’t recognize that what I went through wasn’t normal until I had almost committed to self harm. I don’t know what led my own voice to come back to me and challenge the idea before I committed, but I’m glad it did and gave me a different, more productive distraction- rabbit hole research. As of six or eight months ago, I finally decided on a college major after a lot of reflection, now it’s just a matter of fighting my way to there. It’s not hopeless, give yourself the chance to explore, and you’ll see potential within yourself again.
In March I´m gonna be 2 years clean from SH. I still sometimes have the urge to do it again, it really is an addiction. But I´m still holding on. And I can tell you that IT IS WORTH IT! Although I still have the urge, I´m feeling better when not doing it. My self esteem and my mental state in general has improved so much since. For all the people who have problems with sh: It´s gonna be a long hard road. But you need to understand that YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE IT!!! And remember that you are not alone in this - there are so many people out there fighting for a happy life, still trying and slowly but surely getting better. Including me. YOU CAN DO IT!!!🖤🖤🖤
This video made me realize I actually do harm myself, and that I don’t just want attention when I feel like I want to show my pain to others. I feel seen, and that is more than what I expected
Thank you for this video. I’m currently five months clean, which is a pretty big deal for me since this is about the second or third time I’ve made it this long since the beginning of 2022. Everyday I am glad to just be alive.
one thing ive never heard anyone mention is the difference between self harming because your sad and because of anxiety.When its anxiety it's more of a relief it kind of stops it and will feel better after just one or 2 cuts, but when it's depression its more personal, feels more serious its still relief but a different kind , kind of having control of something in your life especially during depressive episodes and is more like around 10 or more cuts
@@jsmithy643 what a stupid way of thinking dude. you don’t know this person, what if they were fortunate to receive help before it was too late? what if they realised that there were better ways to deal with it? what if they thought that it would make them or their family feel guilty since something has clearly happened for them to feel like their only escape was harming themselves? you should be happy that they never went through with it or at least respect it instead of refuting the things they said. it can be taken in a way that you’re trying to compare what you’ve been through since apparently they’ve never thought about harming themselves. it might seem fine to you but what you said was condescending and in a way kind of rude. use your brain and think about things before you say it, as this is a sensitive topic.
When I was at a hiking camp that topic of scars came up. I trusted the people around me because I had been on trail with them for a few days now so I opened up about it. I was called an attention seeker, which just made me think about hurting myself more. For me it’s all of the above, most of all a release, punishment, or cry for help. If anyone talks to you about this kinda thing, be greatful they trust you and treat us with compassion. It is so fricking hard to stop. I started at 12 and would do it for almost a year straight because i felt if i stopped I would loose myself. I still do it, only on occasion, no more than 1 every couple of months. It’s a process and it doesn’t have to be perfect. Be strong out there
I was around 11-12, my previous years had lot of dirt that was now collected at the age of 12, i did seIf harm A LOT(i still have a bruises), i had lot of suicidal thoughts and attempts, which non of them ofcourse were successful. I didn't had anyone to say my struggles openly, I live around people who believe those "mental health isnt real", "Kids dont have problems" , i used to heurt myself as to ask of help and escape. I stopped doing just one day, i was never rude to myself, but internet helped me A LOT, i talked to some random people, wasn't like trauma dumping or anything, just playing games together and going out hesring others with their struggles, and it gave me a lot of meaning to live, i started doing art again, which i left at 10, and i grew in my art, now i just draw to cope with my emotions, and i talked to myself(ik it's weird), but hearing myself express emotions and my needs was all that i needed, even if it was with myself. Im very greatful for internet, i know people say internet isnt a good place, but for me it saved my life. I can't be more greatful. Thank you
HUH?? WTH WE HAVE THE SAME LIVE?! I'm currently 14 and also started to cut myself at 12 and kept thinking about comitting suicide almost every day! I mean im still not clean but i also felt alone and they also told me that thing of "you're a kid you probably don't understand this" and I used to be bullied frequently in school and they keep going but i dont care about that anymore, i was also alone with almost no friends and abusive parents and my first time feeling a great amout of happiness was also when i met someone online who would play games with me at that time! :O AND I also do art and left it at around 10 or 11 LIKE What a coincidence!! And also I hope that you are better now, hope the best for you! ❤
IM CRYING RN NO ONE HAS HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE AS I HAD OF THE INTERNET BEING THE BEST PLACE EVER IM SO GLAD THAT PLACES EXIST WHERE I CAN TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE
@cozybeanic ikr, im so glad other people also relate because i've always been told how internet is bad, but it depends in which community of people you are in
I have a friend who is suffering in an abusive household that wont let him pursue help. This video was really helpful in understanding him, and i think it would help him understand himself.
Over the last two years I’ve been through inpatient and outpatient treatment for major depression. Being understood and understanding myself, as well as learning coping skills, has helped tremendously. I am almost a year clean from self harm. It took a lot of work to get here, but now I know my worst day healing is still better than my best day suffering. It’s worth the work to get better and it IS possible. There is hope. I’m living it.
I was tearing up while listening to this video. As someone with some visible self-harming scars I often get overwhelmed when people ask about my scars and some even view it as me just wanting attention. Thank you for posting these videos. It makes me feel feel and understood. I hope all of the people who have hurt themselves overcome this struggle! It isn't easy, but as someone who's been clean for 3 years I'm rooting for y'all
I’ve always thought it was just me who self harmed as a cry for help. I would purposely pull up my sleeves because I was too scared to ask for help, but I thought if people saw how much I was going through, maybe someone would help me. People tell me I was doing it for attention, and I started ti believe it. But after this video, I’ve finally understood exactly why I need people to notice. Thank you.
Thank you shedding light on this. It took me years to overcome SH and get to root of the problem, which I’m working on and this was nearly 20 years ago. I hope anyone battling with SH knows they aren’t alone, they have amazing internal strength and deserve all the care, support and love ❤
Hey! Former (still slips up sometimes) SHer here. My favorite methods to replace my urges over the years has been - chew toys to help my chain smoking. -drawing to ground myself and remind me of my goals/reasons to live. -and playing with Play-Doh TW: age regression. As taboo as it is i also use age regression as a means to keep life bearable. I revert back to a time where things didnt matter. and play with the things that fulfilled me at the time like dolls and coloring books and surround my body with very soft and cute stuffed animals. I have to do all of this pretty regularly to stay on track but now ive found myself married ,Working a nice day job while i work on my art career, and blessed with very good friends who are willing to help me navigate when things are hard. Life is, difficult. But with the right tools FOR YOU, nothing is impossible. Keep your head up, and someday, you can get a SICK coverup tattoo ❤
People around me used to think that I do self harm for attention while actually I do it as a coping mechanism... Thank you ;) I will love myself and stop this behaviour 😊
This; especially right now; Is a great thing to be talking about and I’m glad you guys did. There’s a lot going on right now; and talking about something like this i feel is very important. I still feel urges or a desire to harm myself sometimes; It’s a journey but I can proudly say I’ve been a bit over 6 years clean from self harm. If anyone reading this is struggling with it; Know that things can and will get better. A journey to recovery maybe not be linear; you might trip sometimes but that’s okay- no one is ever perfect. Know that you can get better; it is possible and there will be plenty of people out there rooting for you; Myself included. Remember everyone to watch out for yourself and others ❤
I'm three months clean in a few days! Hope everyone here is doing alright, or doing better ❤ I've struggled with this for nearly two years now,since I was twelve, and last year was probably the worst for me, so I'm really happy that this year has been better for me so far, and I hope for anyone who needs it too
Threw months is soon going to turn into three years, I believe you can keep going, you’re going to look back and see how far you’ve come, and this community is very proud of you, keep up the great work
I struggle with self-harm and anytime I hear anything about it I have an urge to do it. I watched this video anyway because I didn't realize that seeing things about self-harm triggers the urge. The end of the video really helped me pinpoint what triggers the urge and the replacing harming objects with blankets and comforting items really helped me not feel the urge to self-harm especially because most of why I do is it for the aftercare to feel cared for.
I have history with it and it helped me a lot to- have more empathy with myself and stop punishing myself for having that marks in both my skin and past, thanks for this.
To anyone who's struggling with sh or poor mental health right now, things do get better, really. Over time you'll learn how to cope and relapsing will be less frequent, give yourself time and don't be afraid to ask for help
Proud to say that I am two months clean, it’s been extremely difficult for me especially since I am still quite young but listening to things like this helps me under stand my self better and why I am drawn to these unhealthy coping mechanisms. To anyone who is reading this and feels like you don’t deserve to let yourself heal, do it, it’s worth it Sending love and support for anyone who is to afraid to reach out, people will listen, people will help. You just have to let’s them
Don't lose hope you never know what tomorrow may bring ❤❤❤❤ I completely understand I also suffer from Adhd, anxiety and depression and trauma Thank you so much for this video!!!!
When I was young, my dad told me about how one of his collegues self harmed in the office, and he was confused why, and so was I. But here I am, striving to be clean this year (since I broke my streak last fall) Glad this video exists, and im proud of my father for trying to understand me If you are reading this, and you are clean for a while, good job! Keep it up! If you are reading this and you just broke your streak, thats okay, you did well keeping yourself clean for a while.
kind of insane that "self-harm" has to be censored to "x" so the video doesn't get demonitized. i think you should be able to freely talk about these kinds of issues on this platform without the fear of being punished for it...
to anyone currently struggling with this: i see you. I've been there too, and it is possible to find other ways to get similar feelings/results that aren't harmful. Mine came from a lot of shame and self hatred, so I want you to know you are worth it. You are loved. I sincerely mean that. You are not weak, and talking about it with someone you trust with not automatically get you sent away somewhere. People will support you, as will I. You can do it
I think it’s cuz it feels good, it lets out that rage that you can’t outwardly express.
it’s mostly because of that sting, its a good feeling tbh
Yeah, its like the bl--d is your feeling that you cant get out verbally, so you get it out in form of bl--d
it doesn't feel good, it makes you feel less bad
Kinda yeah, when i was small, before i even knew what self harming even was i bit myself whenever i was frustrated, i still do, bad habit to break. Tho, when i was in my teens i self harmed (not biting, cutting) just to feel pain somewhere else, it hurt too much in my chest(?) I just needed it somewhere else.
Yeah, it kinda does.
I did self harm when I was a teenager and people don't really understand that the root of the problem is really deep. I have been 7 years clean ☺️
Congratulations on 7 years! I hope one day I can make it to that. Going on day 2 at the moment.
That's so freaking awesome! I'm so happy and proud of you, dude! I'm about 2 years! Progress!
@@Chance.Melodies thank you dear, I'm sure you will ☺️ take your time to live this process and remember you deserve love and happiness ✨❤️
@@L3m0nB33 thank you 😀also congrats 👏 happy to hear that ✨❤️
Congratulations🎉🎉🎉🎉
I think one thing that wasn't mentioned enough was the myth of self harming for attention. I will never forget the day my friend group first saw my scars, and afterwards one of my (former) friends said to me, "Look, if you want to kill yourself then go get help, but don't make it our problem." I also think it's important to educate teens about self harm as well as bullying and all the rest, so that everyone can start to understand it better.
Edit: I know that some people do it for attention, but I think it's wrong to automatically assume so without giving them a chance.
After seeing slitwt i do think it is a possibility though. Those pre-teens doing "cat scratches" and sharing the pictures/videos, or those asking "omg guys, am i scarspo?". It's an entire community, and seeing that tight-knit group might inspire some to join in. I do think they're asking for validation from others to some degree.
@HollowBird-s6v I'm really sorry you went through this. No one without empathy should know of our pain. We might not even consider if a cut will be visible because we simply have so much pain we want to go away at that moment.
Sh-ing for attention is just as valid as every other form of sh in my opinion. At the end of the day you are still hurting yourself and you still need help- and sometimes the ‘attention’ that they are looking for is comfort, or maybe they feel no one cares about them, or they just want praise even if it’s from bad people who encourage sh.
I'm a self harmer too. Don't off yourself, it's not worth it. I'm 14, btw. ❤
im so sorry you had to go through this. its not easy for your friends to say such things, hope you had someone else to help you like i did when everyone else made fun of it.
As Someone Who Self Harms, There are so many times I have wanted to die, but every time I self harm, I find myself trying to stop the bleeding after a few minutes.. so that I don’t die. Saying that we are Suicidal doesn’t help, because not all of us are. Yeah I am Suicidal, But I don’t Really want to die. I only want to stop the pain, or just make it not feel as bad..
Thank you for this Video, It really helps to inform people and make them more aware of it.
This stuff is hard to talk about, yeah. But Still, thank you for making this. Much love to everyone at Psych2Go.
And to anyone reading this, You deserve to be here, and you are perfect. No matter what anyone tells you. Because You are here for a reason, and you bring so much Light and Joy into everyone else’s lives! You are Amazing, and Brilliant! and I would Never lie about that to anyone. Stay Safe and look after yourself. Go get a drink of water and a snack, take a break, it’s what you deserve.
@beewitching___0196 i hope you recover from sh soon. you also matter to your family, your friends, and to the world. there is much to discover.
same with me..I had to text the suicide hotline last night, because, I didn’t want to die, it’s a strange feeling.
thanks dude i needed this
Ow this made me cry... thanks
I used to self-harm. My mom realized and forced me to stop. Yet, now, I’m getting urges to do it again. I have no idea why, so I’m watching this. Thank you for being so kind
Not to mention the fact that being able to cut deep gives u a sense of control and power, like “I can hurt myself more than anyone has ever hurt me”. It really makes u feel safe and secure.
real, i was like, nobody can hurt me worst that i have done for more than a year
this!!
watching this because I wanna understand myself
I have no idea what I am my family just pushing me to be another
@@ishratjahan5973 sometimes people do not know how to apreciate something they do not know
@@solariyaxcz samee
Same
Samesies friend
Before I became friends with one of my classmates, he used to hurt himself. He said once he cut himself so bad he was rushed to the hospital. He apparently spent a year in a mental hospital (but I am unsure I kinda forgot), but once we became friends, he stopped self-harm. Hopefully he never has to go through this again...
You must be one hell of a friend bro
@couch_potato9265 pretty ironic that except for him I have no friends
@@funnyfish1982 I'm glad you two found each other ❤️
My friend would also self harm. Unfortunately, I had only known her for a few months when she vented to me, so I was confused, heartbroken and had no idea what to do. I simply hugged her and told her I was there for her. She had been receiving a lot of pressure from her parents due to bad grades, so I believe it was a way to cope with stress. She has also told me a couple of stuff that made me concerned about her homelife, I'm not gonna get into detail because I promised not to. Recently her arms have had some scratches again and I'm worried she may have relapsed. I haven't talked to her about it because I feel like it's none of my business unless she wants to make it my business. Can I get some advice please?
My friend was 5 days clear according to his dc bio when we became friends. He later basically threatened me he will continue if I'm not telling him what he wants to hear, then he announced 5 times in a row that he's ending it. Then he disappeared for a week. I had to leave even tho he came back. I'm fairly certain he's trying to find a way to dm me to this day, too bad I no longer trust anyone on the internet, and get a fight or flight reaction every time I see someone with Ben as their username.
Hey lady doing the voice over I hope this wasn't too difficult to get through. I heard your voice waver at times and it just felt this was a more difficult one to go through. Just checking much love ❤️
I was thinking the same, especially when she talked about cutting or the piercing of skin. Thank you though for reading And bringing More attention to this topic
Yeah I've noticed it too. It must be really hard to talk about these topics while maintaining a friendly tone. I thank them for what they do.
I noticed too, I'm sorry if these are hard to read, but I thank you from the bottom of my heart that's no longer there for doing this.
I noticed too and I hope they are okay and everyone els is
Who sweet of you😊
As someone that has been clean for over a year, this is really accurate and it's refreshing knowing people genuinely understand how you don't know how to explain.
Of course, it has to be an omori pfp.
@@TheCoolGuitarRiff STOP 😭😭
i feel like the pfp relates to what your game choice is
and the game choice might have a slight play in that recovery
W omori life lesson chat
@@DustedDustSans i love omori
I’ve been clean for ab 7 months I think, I only did sh a couple of times because I had horrible anxiety. I stopped because I thought it would take my pain away, but when I looked at what I did to the body that God made for me, I felt guilty and horrified at myself. However have been getting treatment and it’s better :) ) but I’m proud of you! Good job for a whole year clean, that’s a big achievement :) praying for you and wishing you the best 🙏🏻
i’m currently 107 days clean, to anyone struggling i know you can make it through and i’m proud of you
congratulations, proud of you!!! stay strong 🫶
💕💕💕💕
That is incredibly impressive❤️
For me self harm was to gain the validation, happiness and the attention i lacked as a child, at some I got bad attention like being laughed at for scoring less or bullying but self harm used to make me feel that sense of good attention when people asked me how I was or actually talked to me rather than sitting all alone trying to fit in, however my mother tears and desperate persistence saved my life, it took me a lot of time but I learned to love and who actually love me, tbh now I don't really care whether anyone talks to me or nobody want to be friend with, as long as I have my mom and myself in control I don't need anyone I have the most powerful element on earth and that's love
@@ikahayakawa yeah that's how I started it, attention. Though, I don't know why because I get enough attention at home...
I once saw a video of someone self harming and the video shamed them for seeking attention. I used to self harm for attention so it hurt.
Same!!! I stopped for my mom. Moms are the best
But honestly, people shame on doing it for attention but there's really no point in being judgemental, whatever reason it is, is a problem that should not be criticized but helped and understood
Another unmentioned self harming habits can be: Emotional eating, under eating or over eating, dangerous sex behaviours and of course drug and alcohol use
Sorry, but "Sexual sex behaviours" distracted me from the premise of your comment xD
Hahah... Yeah, yeah. -scout
Under eating is one I'm definitely struggling with, constantly going between 24-72 hours between meals. it's not a quick sharp feeling of pain, it's a long sustained discomfort I find satisfaction in. It affects my physical health and my mental health, and strangely I like the fact that it does. It's not something I have to take steps to do, my inaction is what perpetuates it. It's not visible to the human eye. It's not something that will get me rushed to a hospital because I need stitches or I'm bleeding out.
I have some friends who are aware of it, and tell me frequently to stop what I'm doing and go get food. It's becoming all the more tempting to lie about it.
Wait Wdym, can u explain the sexual, overeating and emotional behaviours??
@@Snackeroid fixed, sorry I'm not a native English speaker
It’s no coincidence that this video was the first one I saw when opening RUclips after relapsing. I hope that anyone else struggling with SH is able to get the help they need and deserve. And, to the people who have been able to tell someone about how they’re struggling. I’m proud of you. I wish I could be as brave as you guys
talking about sh online made it easier to tell someone about it. Recovery is hard, but i believe in you🫶🏽🫶🏽
You've got this, just because you relapsed doesn't mean you can't still work towards quitting, don't give up!
popped up for me literally 10 minutes after
I relapsed today too
Then there’s me who has to stab them self multiple times a day if I desire to continue breathing, diabetes is great. I quit doing classic sh stuff over a year back, couldn’t feel enough pain for it to be worth it anymore, bloody nerve damage. Running is a really good alternative though, hurts things I can still feel, you know the nerves that are more intact. There’s also a chance my sugar will drop and then I will drop which is always a funny thought (I’m joking, I’m usually careful).
6:39 IMPORTANT: while yes, some people still suffering show their scars as a cry for help. If you see someone who have visible healed scars, they are most likely recovered.
It would be rude to comment on anyone’s healed scars. And I think there is something to be said for how nobody ever talks about the after of self harm.
Nobody talks about how you are supposed to live your life even if you get better.
Those scars will follow you for the rest of your life, and so will the stigma. Not everyone wants to wear long sleeves for the rest of their life because of something they did when they were ill.
People with visible scars deserve to wear a dress in summer without having strangers staring or assuming they know what happened.
This is just to say that I think the video should have differentiated between fresh cuts and scars and healed old scars.
Because there is nothing worse than being asked by someone you don’t know well if you need help because they saw scars that are years old.
Just remember to always be respectful and not to assume.
THIS!!! i absolutely wholeheartedly agree with you. thank you.
@ no problem, ♥️
I think this depends on the person though. As someone who has healed scars, it makes me very proud when someone asks about them and I can tell them that I've gotten better.
@@abruulita but unless you know the person it’s better not to comment on their bodies.
Hey, thank you. I really needed this today. Trying to go on day 2 SH free and I feel like this is even harder than overcoming my other addictions. 10 months sober. Day 2 clean. It has to be worth it… somehow.
I'm so proud of you! Sending positivity your way!
You got this! Always be compassionate with yourself. You life and your body is so worth it. ❤️
Wow, that's awesome how you went 2 days clean! You're amazing and you can do this!
Common u can protect yourself you are doing good, no matter what others say u deserve to see yourself as a 80 years old person, u deserved and you can make it into your 80s untill then keep holding on hope tightly so that in 80s you good memories to look back and feel proud, u also deserve to get old no matter what other say make it into your 80s don't give up on yourself just because other have.
Ik I’m just a random stranger but I believe in you! ❤️❤️
it feels good to know that my reasoning behind hurting myself wasnt based on nothing.
😭😭
0:25 this used to be me when i was younger "why would someone hurt themselves?" And here I am now, 4 months clean
Edit: thank you for the support!! Reminder that relapses are apart of the healing process and don't feel ashamed if you relapse
@Wenixa I'm so happy and proud of you! I'm about 2 years. It's been such a struggle, but it's so worth it! Sending support and love! And remember, relapses do not make you a bad person. Life is tough. Be kind and patient with yourself. 💕
Congratulations. You got this !!!
@@L3m0nB33 thank you!!! Congrats to you aswell for the 2 years!! Relapses are always apart of the healing process
Heck yeah!! Congratulations 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 so proud of you and your journey!! You did the thing!!
@@L3m0nB33yay!!! 🎉🎉🎉 Congratulations!! You're amazing, strong and tough.
I used to self harm. From 11 to 13, and I do it occasionally still but not everyday like I used to. What I never understood about myself was that I felt scared, or reluctant, to stop. I felt like it was all that defined me. everything else in my life was scheduled for me, school, sports, but cutting was the one thing I had control over. This video helps me understand myself a little better, so thank you
I saw this video recommended and was reminded of how far I’ve come.
I’m 5 years clean this month. Half a decade.
It was one of the toughest things for me to do, but I found ways to cope that don’t require harming myself. I still struggle, and I will always live with the scars, but I look at them now and recognize that they tell a story of strength and perseverance. 💕
8 months clean rn !! hope everyone currently struggling can make it thru this. i believe in u !!🔥🔥🔥
Hope you are okay after what you've been through, you are doing a great job stay proud
@@r0secoloredg1rl I’m so proud of you, keep going!!!!
PROUD OF YOU GURL‼️‼️
Yo same
Same here, I believe in you
I’ve struggled with self harm for almost a year now. It’s hard to talk about. It’s hard to describe. This video helped put into words what I have not been able to. Thank you.
@cr1cket_on_p4ws I love you, I hope you'll be alright. Your loved ones will always be there to help you, because they need you and care about you. Again, I love you so much, have a nice day/night 🫂💙
❤hey how are you today?
@@juliaanderson7779it’s been a good day but it’s nighttime now so things are getting a bit rough. I’ll be okay though. Thanks for asking ❤
It's so painful to think that some people feel they need to turn to self-harm for solace. I wish more people could find the comfort and care they truly need and deserve.
Dear Amanda, this is clearly a tough topic for you. Please take care of yourself and take enough breaks if needed. We‘d all understand if there are topics were you‘d rather not do the voice overs off.
You are teaching us so much about mental health, so please don’t forget your own, okay?
Sending lots of love your way❤️
Thank you. When i was younger I used to not understand how someone could do such a thing to themselves and now I’m a week clean and trying to stay strong. I wish the best for all of you guys!!
im so proud of you! good luck in your path forward, even relaps is apert of recovery🫶🏽🫶🏽
@@imhereigess7325 thx it means a lot💞
Almost two months clean, for anyone who need this, IT DOES GETS BETTER
im so proud of you!🫶🏽🫶🏽
I’m proud of you, mate! Been clean for a few years now and your statement still rings true: It is SO much better, especially after the initial stages. I wish you the best, mate. You’ve got this!💛💛
I don't know how I got here, but I'm glad I did
me too
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Timestamps
1). Self-harm 0:54
2). Substitution and relief 1:53
3). Persistence 2:56
4). Low self-esteem 3:39
5). A cry for help 4:22
6). Suicidal 5:05
6.1). Desire to live or fear of death 5:53
6.2). Communication 6:23
6.3). Coping mechanism 6:42
7). How to stop self-harm 7:07
7.1). Reach out 7:19
7.2). Identify triggers 7:41
7.3). Find alternatives 8:07
7.4). Mimicry 8:18
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@@A55a551n tysm
relapsed yesterday, feeling like shit but i’ll get better, i have to. i love you all, be strong ❤
@@spookyraine Do you have anyone to talk about right now? - If not seek help from a telephone-hotline which provides psychological aid and advice - and if you have severe injures from it go to the emergency room in your nearest hospital immediately! - And for God's sake try to get proper help and avoid it to do something like that! Try to find an other way to get peace with yourself! Lovely greetings from Captain Sarah Sutter (Boeing 747-400, Boeing 747-8F)
you've got this! just keep trying :D wish you the best of luck
@@spookyraine stay strong, you got this 💗 you WILL get better, i wish you nothing but happiness!
I hope you remember that relapsing isn't a failure. Each time you work towards moving away from it, you're going to learn more about what works for you. Don't be sad that you slipped, be proud that you're willing to keep trying.
Recovery is never linear. Relapse is a common and expected part of the process. We believe in you ❤
As someone who has been clean for almost a year now this made me feel seen.
After seeing that a lot of people are not psychologically in the best space right now, Psych2Go almost immediately makes a video on self harm and suicide. I've always liked your guys' videos but this is truly deserving of respect
I am crying over this video, i am clear about a half year, but when i am in a hard situation i often want to hurt myself, see blood or anything, its really hard not to do. Seeing this video made clear that it wasnt all my fault, that it wasnt weakness.
Thank you for the video.
Me too... you are not alone ...
We’re two. Over two years clean and sometimes I still get the urge, but the frequency decreases over time and you learn how to manage it better even at your worst. You’re not alone, dorka.💛💛💛
the problem with me is that i have been suicidal since age 8 which is slightly concerning but it's my abusive parents' faults. here i am now. Thank you so much psych2go for your content
I'm right there with you on this. I never thought I'd make it this far. Never give up!
Just know that you have a community of people who will help you no matter what, we all believe in you, good luck amazing person 😊
Hope you're alright now!!!! Good luck on your life!!!!
@@val38294 I feel less alone now. I awang suicidal when i was 8, but I started self-harming at that age. Wish you the best!
I did SH and had an attempt of SUI in November. I opened up to my parents, long story short, I spent the entire moth of December in a Crisis Recovery Center, and got discharged on Jan 11, 2025. I used to hate my family, but all I needed was for them to go away for me to realize how much I love them.
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I’ve suffered with self harm and suicidal thoughts, and this video helped me quite a bit. The final bit with instructions to stop self harm helped me a ton. I can’t say how long I’ve wanted to get rid of the pain, but I’m gonna try to get clean of self harm. This video helped me. Thank you.
My advice, throw away your kit, all at once container and all. Throw away the tools you threw in anger, the one you know is there just in case, yeah gone. It's freeing and gives a sense of heck yeah I feel good about this. Find something that is calming like coloring with classical music, and take that to your hiding place. Make your secret space a neutral zone instead of a shameful hate place. Cause you own yourself and can control everything you put your mind to. Our minds live for repeat. Teach yourself that the past scars are battles you won, you don't need new ones for new battles anymore. You are stronger than the scars, the pain, the weight of the world. Healing looks fabulous on you. 😊
I understand, and I wish you all the best recovering from self harm. Just know that you absolutely matter and there are always people who care about you, even if you think there aren't, I promise you they are there.
@@Denzler1718Thank you. I can’t begin to tell you how much this means to me.
@@iDontKnowAnymore555 Of course. No one should have to go through this alone.
@@iDontKnowAnymore555 I’m so proud of you for taking these steps forward! Good luck ❤️🩹
Thanks for this video.
Currently struggling to support my son (14) and daughter (12) who have been doing this for the past few months to a year.
May the universe give you strength and an understanding of your children's thought process that got them here. Hugs, give them all the hugs especially when you are out of time or busy. That's how my mom helped me, sometimes by force she would hug me, hold me, made me feel valid without words. She would also buy children's play sets, like bowling and have a silly competition, play or don't she would play regardless. She brought back childlike bliss with no worries, it's never that serious and if it is walk away, think, talk, write, color, clear that head. Yell, scream, chop wood whatever it takes. I lived with therapy my whole youth but it was her love, patience and willingness to understand without pushing that broke me free. She's gone for many years now, I still buy children's toys to bring back joy and clear my head. Happiness breaks down the seriousness. Best of luck to you. Remember it's their first time feeling some of these emotions and might not understand them or why they happen. High feelings are intense no matter the emotion. It's tough growing into yourself 😊
Try starting a conversation by asking them why they feel like doing it and what emotions they feel when they do it. Sometimes the most healing thing is just having someone to talk to and who will listen.
Might be a really harsh and controversial take, but bear with me. Maybe you or someone else is being too soft on them enabling it. By any means, that doesn't mean that someone has to be harsh towards them. Find balance. People do it for countles of reasons, and kids love the validation.
I hope you are doing okay, and taking care of yourself as well
May God give you and your children the strength to get through this. ❤
thank you!! i used to X majorly my freshman year of highschool, and now have all of these ugly and visible scars all over my arms. i’m incredibly insecure and embarrassed about them, since i’m a totally different person now, but this video reminds me of how much progress i’ve made since then, and how i’m doing better now. that i’m okay, and my scars can remind me of those things. thank you
That's awsome! I'm glad your clean
I understand you i also have a lot of scars, but i also like them cause its a reminder that i (and you as well) have been through hell, and made it. If someone judges you on that, well you missed a bullet then, cause if they are so stupid they actually don't care what you've been through, then the best they can do is being clear about their intentions.
Anyway, scars are a symbol of your resilience as a human being, and your strength. So you (and i) should learn to see it that way, and be proud.
@@jayscka4938 I never had this problem of X, but I am suicidal and do want some scars to be taken more seriously as no one does it. I have a bald eyebrow from a cut when I was an infant and I believe it’s ugly and want to cover it with a scar that makes it look like I been in a more recent accident. Perhaps a nice cosmetic to it but idk.
I used to self harm every two to three days when I was 11-12. I guess that is quite a young age but at least now I do it much less. Only once in a blue moon like a few weeks ago. I know it’s not right but I used to mention my previous self harm quite often as a coping mechanism. I spoke of it almost jokingly, like “oh this is just another wierd part of my life haha” kind of thing. It reminds me to not do it again, but then people would question whether I really did it. How I lacked any obvious, visible scars. How I seemed so happy now that they just couldn’t fathom how I could’ve possibly ‘resorted to that’.
When I self harmed, I would always slit my right wrist over and over again. It was never deep enough to scar, but always deep enough to draw blood. It relieved my stress, but no one around me would think that a child would do such a thing to herself. Hence, it took over a year before anyone found out.Laughing has long since become my default action. Whenever I’m nervous, angry sad it’s always met with laughter. Because in the past, when I self-harmed, people saw me as gloomy, unsociable, unstable. But now, I just end up isolating myself despite being surrounded by people that I believe don’t know me. Because I’m afraid that if they know who I really am, they wouldn’t stay by my side like my family does. Even after all the growth I thought I experienced, I am still a coward.
Great job!!! You are doing so well:)))
2:00 ive seen people describe how that actually works (i have never self harmed) as "pain in the body quiets the pain in the head. like a killswitch for your brain." so like, what you were thinking about (well, and trying not to think about) goes fuzzy or quiet because your brain thinks about the physical pain instead. Also it probably feels like you've let it out, maybe? Like when youre angry and you punch your pillow or scream into it, nothings changed but you feel like you expressed it physically so it calms down a bit
JUST ME TRYNA UNDERSTAND IT dont take my word on any of this
@chaoschaoschaoss yep ! I’m about a month clean from sh and this is how it works for me.
@Tony-Macoroni yay, a month clean!! Im proud of u! :D
Haha same here
I self-harmed for 10 years. I remember the hardest part was stopping. I could stop for a little bit but I'd always go back to the habit and at one point I remember thinking. "Is this going to be my life?". But like the video says, most of us who do this are very resilient. A lot of treatments didn't work for me but I kept trying until I found what did work. I've been clean now for 5 years. While the urge still comes back every now and again I refuse to go back. And I wish nothing but happiness and strength to anyone who is going through this.
this video made me cry. My boyfriend is extremely suicidal and harms himself a lot and he's currently in a mental hospital. I wish the best for him and anybody else in his shoes ♥ (edit: thank you everybody for the support and i will be updating this when he gets back ❤🩹)
@@Alexa-e8f7x i hope he'll get out of this ❤️
@@Alexa-e8f7x You're very brave and caring for still remaining by your boyfriend's side. But do remember to take care of your own health as well. I wish the best for you both.
@ yeah i do take care of myself. But he's been gone for over 167 days or so and its been really rough. And without him I've also been experiencing a lot of gender dysphoria and stuff like that
@@Alexa-e8f7x im so sorry
@@Alexa-e8f7x I truly hope it'll get better for you! It will! You have so many people who care about you and your boyfriend ❤️❤️
I think the best part about these videos is how they make us feel seen. When you are so lost inside your head and your thoughts with nowhere to run, you start to consider doing stuff that's just bad for yourself. Sometimes, just the though of ending yourself can release the pressure of your current mood and problems...
I am someone who has dealt with mental health issues including self harm for the majority of my life, this video does a pretty good job of explaining it. As someone who has marks ranging from scratches all the way up to needing stitches, the only main thing I would add is that sometimes self harm is a way to feel something when you’re unbelievably numb. There’s a rush that can come from it that is incredibly appealing when you lack all emotion. Needless to say, self harm is not way. It can be beneficial in the moment, but doesn’t help out long term.
Stay safe out there guys!
Stay safe, too, Caleb!💛💛💛
I'm in my early teens, and my best friend recently told me that she's been thinking about suicide. She's done self-harm quite a bit, I think so I've wanted to learn why. This channel has helped me so much as I learn how I can help her. Thank you for all you do ❤
Hey! I’m not much older than you, and I’ve had a few if the same experiences including love life friendship and myself. I hope you’re managing okay, it sounds really hard and I want to start by saying that sometimes it can be a lot for even you to process so talk to people about it too. It can be anonymous or you can just not say specific details which shows who and what the situation is if you don’t want to as they can’t force you to. Second thing is, that your best friend is in a very dark place as I’m sure you know, and some days will be better than others. It may seem she’s getting better in the future and then she suddenly relapses, and I just want you to know that that does not mean you’re failing as a friend or anything like that. It’s completely normal and you simply need to be there for her every step of the way but make sure you’re there for yourself too. Also id advise telling someone like a teacher at your school if she harms herself as this is definitely a sign of an underlying mental health condition that may require professional intervention. Finally, like this video says the main reasons people do self harm is to regain control of themselves as when they feel empty or numb it feels like they’re in the wrong body so the pain brings your mind back to your body and makes you more aware of your surroundings and simply provides a sense of relief, so instead if just telling her to stop (which if you’re already doing these things then that’s great you’re doing great and if not that’s also okay don’t worry
@EllieHaines-h6k Thank you so much for taking the time to write all that! I think me and her are both super lucky because her dad is a therapist, so he has the resources and knows the best way to help. She's unfortunately also tried to take her life twice and was really in the trenches. Turns out her medication was making it worse, and so her provider quickly changed it. She seems to be doing way better, and I'm glad that I can be someone for her to lean on. On top of all this, I recently found out that another of my closest friends was cutting herself a lot last year. Since then, she's gone 46 days clean. I have been making sure to take care of myself the best I can. These experiences have helped me learn and better empathize with my peers and helped me understand that it's ok if you need to vent to a friend, a family member, or even anonymously online. So, thank you again for taking the time to give advice to a complete stranger. People like this give me hope for the future ❤️
I have no experience helping with SH but with sewer slide I can give you some recommendations. For one, DO NOT tell a teacher because they will probably just end up putting her in a mental hospital and from some people I’ve known those places are not fun AT ALL. Instead I’d recommend, and this may seem counterintuitive, explain to her how yes life is pointless and existence is futile but out of that empty desert that is life is where you build amazing things. Or you could go straight to therapy but I myself have had therapy for years but it’s just been a waste of time and money because it feels inauthentic and talking to a friend about personal things like that is much better than talking to some random person who has other people to worry about and who probably just sees you as numbers in their paper rather than a person because remember medicine and mental health is a business to these people they don’t do it for the sake of helping you. I would look into philosophy like Nietzsche or Albert Camus that give insight into life itself and don’t ever try to deny reality for what it is and never EVER tell teachers or anyone like that about her problems because she is most likely to go to a mental institution. Sorry if this got ranty but please don’t deny how dark and sad life is and don’t try to be all “there is so much to live for!” With any suicidal person because they are most likely either numb and SH to feel something again or too lacking of ignorance to be optimistic about life. Please take this advice and I want you to remember this quote next time you allow her to vent to you: “one must imagine Sisyphus happy”
i think you should tell someone that she told you about that. i think her telling you her plan of it was her asking for help, her wanting to see if someone cares enough to try and stop her from going through with it.
@@ExaggeratedDecline23 hey I’m a little older than you so I want to give some advice from a totally counterintuitive lens that works for me and maybe will work for her! I am assuming A LOT of what you are doing to help her here and I’m not that big of an expert on sh but I can help with helping suicide problems. So I would recommend, instead of denying that reality is kind of futile and we are small specs in a vast universe that doesn’t care about us, I would acknowledge that fact (that is assuming of course you are trying to be optimistic with her) if she is numb and empty inside (which is normally why I see or hear people sh themselves) or she is hit hard by the reality of life and the absurdity of it. To not make it too philosophical or existential I would recommend you read Camus myth of Sisyphus or Nietzsche because I could not do them justice here and I think being realistic with her (which, from my experience with mental health issues, is probably what she wants) will be awesome for her instead of trying to bring up her spirit with optimism. Next time you talk to her you should also remember this phrase from myth of Sisyphus and remind her to find joy in her suffering like Sisyphus has because “one must imagine Sisyphus happy”.
I struggled with self-harm through my late teens and early 20s. It loomed in the back of my mind constantly as a way to deal with my depression. It took almost ten years, therapy and a lot of mental work on myself to outgrow it, but now when things go wrong my first impulse is no longer to hurt myself. It doesn't even cross my mind anymore.
I am proud to say I’ve been clean for almost a month now. Healing is possible. 💗
i’m 10 months clean today. thank you for this
This genuinely made me cry. I've been struggling with this for a while and I'm a little more than a month clean but I don't know how much longer I can last. Thank you for spreading awareness ❤
Ive never self harmed but I have recently been getting some urges and I also know some stuff about it from Charlie spring in heart stopper and so I know that relapsing is apart of the healing process and that you should stay strong because you can make it through this ❤
@@DelphicCanvas67 Thank you! I have a lot of people in my life who are supporting me, but this really means a lot. I'll try to stay strong ❤
Hey I don’t self harm and I rly cant completely understand it but my best friend self harms. She went to a mental hospital likeee 2 months ago and she was doing a lot better. But she told me the other week that she relapsed. Idk how to describe this from an outside view, but ppl rly do care. As someone who cares abt my best friend more than I care about myself u will never know how truly loved and important u are to the ppl around u. When my best friend told me i just wanted to throw up and cry and scream(not bc i was disappointed or smth) i was just mad, like mad at myself for not helping her enough, not being there for her ever moment of the day. I was sad bc i rly thought that the healing process would be easy and quick and have no problems. But that didn’t happen, and I’ve come to the realization that my best friend will never know how much she actually means to me and the ppl around her. I don’t have the intention to stress u out or anything that’s not the purpose of this. I’m just saying I love and care for u even though I don’t know u. Also if u do end up reading this paragraph, pls tell me something’s that will help me take care of my best friend.
@@imsome1.736 Thank you, thank you so much! You don't understand how much better this makes me feel, that some random stranger cares about me lol. I really appreciate it. And I love you too now because you're too nice
Maybe someone will need this but here’s a strange advice which helped me avoid self-harming a lot. I threw out everything I had to heal myself afterwards and haven’t bought anything since. It may sound strange but since I have nothing to heal my wounds, I found it quite bothersome to do it at all, or at least not as badly as I used to. I haven’t done much since then and it’s been a few months now. It may not be 100% safe nor effective for everyone but it may help someone. You got this !
Seems risky when those would be the same things required for dealing with accidental injuries, but I see how the added mental barrier could certainly raise the bar required to do something.
@@Isaac-hm6ih Yes! Of course my advice may not help everyone and isn’t really safe, but self-harm in general isn’t safe either. Of course, if you do self harm even after throwing all bandages and stuff, GO BUY SOME or CALL FOR HELP!! Do not let your wounds risk being infected, that’s awful to deal with afterwards
hey, i personally don't struggle with X, so it's difficult to imagine the pain that you guys are going through, even though i know a few people that used to/ still are harming themselves. This video helped me with understanding your problem, also just wanted to say that i'm soo proud of everyone here, just for clicking on this video, sharing your story, just for TRYING! If anyone needs to vent or talk to a stranger, i'll be here! Take care honeys and i repeat, i'm really proud of all of you!💖💖💖
interesting that this video came up while I was trying to find a distraction to stop myself from relapsing.
I’m nearly a month clean. somehow hearing someone acknowledge my struggles in this way is oddly comforting.
To the person who needs to hear this :- YOU CAN DO THIS,DON'T GIVE Up!!!! ❤
Thank you
@belladonna9145 no problem:3 *send hugs* (if you are ok with it)
hey, I just want to say that while I don't personally struggle with SH, I have people close to me who do. It's definetly something really challenging to deal with. I don't understand everything about it to full extent but well, I always try to learn more. I always try giving support in the ways I can. Even if it's hard, I try giving my best.
I know it's scary to reach out for help, but please do it. There will be always someone that will listen and care about you.
What I want to say is that I wish all support in the world to whoever struggles with this and also to everyone who has someone they care about struggling this way.
You can make it, you can heal from this. I know that simple words can't do miracles but I just want to show support and care. I'm already proud of you for being here. Take care.
Thank you for your support. It's pretty difficult to reach out for help. And remember to take care of yourself as well. My best wishes.
3:26 i always wondered why i loved seeing my blood
@@Lily_kip same
@@Lily_kip same
@@Lily_kip realzies 😭
Four!!
@@Diangelooz ye :D
Sadly, when I was 10 I used self harm as a way of punishment, even when something wasn’t even my fault. Gladly, I have gotten over it. My heart goes out to anyone who is dealing with it.
boosting!!! this was insanely helpful as someone who has been clean for years but still feels the need to do it whenever I’m feeling really negative. Thank you for making things make a little more sense
I started SH in my second year of high school, and though I've yet to completely go clean I've been doing it less and less. I really agree with the part where you said that it is addictive, probably even more so than alcohol and weed in my opinion. I've been trying out several ways to distract myself from SH whenever the urges come to me, but sometimes it just gets a bit too overwhelming for me and I need to release. It's not like I like having scars on my body, it's just the process of doing it became a crutch for me to rely on through tough times. If you have someone you know who is going through tough times, honestly just be there for them. You don't need to force them to talk about their emotions or make them go for a walk, but just be present there with them. Watch a movie, play some games, give them a hug, or even just sit and read a nice book together. Your presence means a lot more to them than you think it does.
I started self-harming around the same time. I’m happy to hear you’re doing better and I wish you the best of luck getting clean.💛💛💛
@anonymouscausewhynot Thank you bro, all the best to you too ❤
I’m watching because I’ve punched /hit myself mostly in the legs when I’m extremely upset or depressed..,thank you for this video🙏🏾💕
Thankfully I've overcome that stage, I used to do that as a child 🙂
Congratulations! I'm glad you've stoped😊
i'm proud of you!!! stay strong 💗
The narrorator sounds very emotional in this one compared to the others. Its very comforting.
Last year I was set on stepping out of life. What kept me from it is that I was always so extremely tired.
Instead, I self harmed regularly and even mindlessly by picking and tearing my skin.
It’s so weird looking back today because I’m in a better place now, but I’m not sure how that happened.
Sending everyone a tight hug, you are important and the world wouldn’t be the same without you.
2 months clean , and for anyone struggling , I hope things get better for you too❤❤❤
I have been struggling with sh and suicidal thoughts since I was 11. I get stressed really easily, mainly because of school. I hurt myself pretty bad one night after a breakdown and that was the only way I know how to take out my anger without break something. And the only time someone noticed my scars I didn't know what to say. I have been clean since the first of this year and I hope it stays that way. Please you don't have to tell someone if your not ready to tell anyone yet, don't rush things. You will get better, we are rooting for you
Psych2go Just want to say thank you for these videos. It actually helps me and other people. Thank you❤
I’m kinda hoping no one i know sees this, but I have really been considering actually hurting myself. This video helped me out a lot. Thank you
I immediately started crying when it said “reach out to a loved one” bc I’ve tried that but…smtms it just feels like they don’t care. Smtms it actually makes it worse…
for anyone that suffers self harm like me here are some tips i use to try cope:
-watch comfort videos/movies
-try find a new hobby (like drawing!)
-talk to someone about it!
-try cutting paper instead
-spend time with family and friends!
-try take periods time of it (make sure the time gets longer each time so you don’t harm yourself as often! (works for me)
just remember everyone is loved, everyone is perfect and please talk to someone about this if your struggling! YOU ARE WORTH EVERYTHING ❤️❤️
i love these!!
@ yw!!
To the people who have a history of SH: you are not alone. This is nothing to be ashamed of. I believe you can recover and get the support you need. Just take it one step at a time. I may not have personal experience with this, but I do know it’s anything but a straight-line process to recovery. It takes time and patience. You may relapse, but what matters is that you keep trying to recover. However long you’ve been clean, that is a wonderful accomplishment. Even if it doesn’t feel like a long time, you’re still making progress. Keep going, I believe in you. ❤
@Sweetandpsycho932 thank you ;
I may be unusual, but I use it myself to a degree and have a quibble with your message. I certainly appreciate your intent, but there's an element of your tone which may inadvertently be causing different problems. I thought you might want to know my perspective on why so much work around this topic doesn't help those who need it as much as it's meant to.
I don't think this is always a sickness to recover from. Probably for some people, but not in all cases. For me it's an added tool, drawn on in times of desperation when the side-effects can be worth the benefits. I use as little as I need, so simply encouraging me to use less would be asking me to lose a coping tool without replacing it with another. If I'm using this, I've already exhausted the healthier options I think I have available in that circumstance and am desperate for SOMETHING to help.
Since you want to help (which I appreciate), I suggest trying to provide alternative options or address the things the person is trying to get relief from. We already know we're expected to not use it, but when the only available alternative is worse that just adds shame and secrecy. Possibly to the point of suffering the worse option because the shame ruined a somewhat effective coping tool.
My perspective is often unusual (I'm autistic, for a start), so this view might not apply to many people. But it seemed worth bringing up.
@Isaac-hm6ih Thanks for the insight, I appreciate hearing constructive feedback. I’m also autistic by the way.
@Sweetandpsycho932 phew, I was concerned I hadn't masked my comment enough and would offend you 😅
@@Isaac-hm6ih it is better to offend with the truth than to soothe with a lie, even if society has us convinced otherwise.
This is an extremely difficult topic, thank you for discussing it. When I was in high school, I had gotten out of a toxic environment, but didn’t recognize that what I went through wasn’t normal until I had almost committed to self harm. I don’t know what led my own voice to come back to me and challenge the idea before I committed, but I’m glad it did and gave me a different, more productive distraction- rabbit hole research. As of six or eight months ago, I finally decided on a college major after a lot of reflection, now it’s just a matter of fighting my way to there. It’s not hopeless, give yourself the chance to explore, and you’ll see potential within yourself again.
In March I´m gonna be 2 years clean from SH. I still sometimes have the urge to do it again, it really is an addiction. But I´m still holding on. And I can tell you that IT IS WORTH IT! Although I still have the urge, I´m feeling better when not doing it. My self esteem and my mental state in general has improved so much since. For all the people who have problems with sh: It´s gonna be a long hard road. But you need to understand that YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE IT!!! And remember that you are not alone in this - there are so many people out there fighting for a happy life, still trying and slowly but surely getting better. Including me.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!🖤🖤🖤
This video made me realize I actually do harm myself, and that I don’t just want attention when I feel like I want to show my pain to others. I feel seen, and that is more than what I expected
Thank you for this video. I’m currently five months clean, which is a pretty big deal for me since this is about the second or third time I’ve made it this long since the beginning of 2022. Everyday I am glad to just be alive.
5 months is really great!
one thing ive never heard anyone mention is the difference between self harming because your sad and because of anxiety.When its anxiety it's more of a relief it kind of stops it and will feel better after just one or 2 cuts, but when it's depression its more personal, feels more serious its still relief but a different kind , kind of having control of something in your life especially during depressive episodes and is more like around 10 or more cuts
I’ve never actually hurt myself but used to think about it, and I’m watching this video to better understand why so that it doesn’t happen again.
With the scars to prove it, I can say I wear mine with pride as reminders of my battles with depression. Look, I'm still here and moving forward.
If you never did it, you never had the thoughts. 😃
@@jsmithy643 Sorry but I dont think thats how it works
@@jsmithy643 what a stupid way of thinking dude. you don’t know this person, what if they were fortunate to receive help before it was too late? what if they realised that there were better ways to deal with it? what if they thought that it would make them or their family feel guilty since something has clearly happened for them to feel like their only escape was harming themselves? you should be happy that they never went through with it or at least respect it instead of refuting the things they said. it can be taken in a way that you’re trying to compare what you’ve been through since apparently they’ve never thought about harming themselves. it might seem fine to you but what you said was condescending and in a way kind of rude. use your brain and think about things before you say it, as this is a sensitive topic.
@@Iouisebelcher Ok...
When I was at a hiking camp that topic of scars came up. I trusted the people around me because I had been on trail with them for a few days now so I opened up about it. I was called an attention seeker, which just made me think about hurting myself more. For me it’s all of the above, most of all a release, punishment, or cry for help. If anyone talks to you about this kinda thing, be greatful they trust you and treat us with compassion. It is so fricking hard to stop. I started at 12 and would do it for almost a year straight because i felt if i stopped I would loose myself. I still do it, only on occasion, no more than 1 every couple of months. It’s a process and it doesn’t have to be perfect. Be strong out there
Her voice is so calming I’m planning on telling my parents tomorrow to find the help they I need
I was around 11-12, my previous years had lot of dirt that was now collected at the age of 12, i did seIf harm A LOT(i still have a bruises), i had lot of suicidal thoughts and attempts, which non of them ofcourse were successful. I didn't had anyone to say my struggles openly, I live around people who believe those "mental health isnt real", "Kids dont have problems" , i used to heurt myself as to ask of help and escape. I stopped doing just one day, i was never rude to myself, but internet helped me A LOT, i talked to some random people, wasn't like trauma dumping or anything, just playing games together and going out hesring others with their struggles, and it gave me a lot of meaning to live, i started doing art again, which i left at 10, and i grew in my art, now i just draw to cope with my emotions, and i talked to myself(ik it's weird), but hearing myself express emotions and my needs was all that i needed, even if it was with myself. Im very greatful for internet, i know people say internet isnt a good place, but for me it saved my life. I can't be more greatful. Thank you
HUH?? WTH WE HAVE THE SAME LIVE?! I'm currently 14 and also started to cut myself at 12 and kept thinking about comitting suicide almost every day! I mean im still not clean but i also felt alone and they also told me that thing of "you're a kid you probably don't understand this" and I used to be bullied frequently in school and they keep going but i dont care about that anymore, i was also alone with almost no friends and abusive parents and my first time feeling a great amout of happiness was also when i met someone online who would play games with me at that time! :O
AND I also do art and left it at around 10 or 11
LIKE What a coincidence!!
And also I hope that you are better now, hope the best for you! ❤
REAL THE INTERNET SAVED MY LIFEEEEE
IM CRYING RN NO ONE HAS HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE AS I HAD OF THE INTERNET BEING THE BEST PLACE EVER IM SO GLAD THAT PLACES EXIST WHERE I CAN TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE
@cozybeanic ikr, im so glad other people also relate because i've always been told how internet is bad, but it depends in which community of people you are in
@cozybeanic i hope you're doing well
I have a friend who is suffering in an abusive household that wont let him pursue help. This video was really helpful in understanding him, and i think it would help him understand himself.
oh, that's sad, maybe call child services or something to give him the support he needs?
@@Quaticco that's a sweet suggestion but unfortunately in a lot of places and cases, CPS aren't helpful and can actually worsen the situation :(
@Chairiations You are a good friend, keep doing what you're doing to be there for him
@@iamsorry5884 yeah exactly.
@ oh :(
Over the last two years I’ve been through inpatient and outpatient treatment for major depression. Being understood and understanding myself, as well as learning coping skills, has helped tremendously. I am almost a year clean from self harm. It took a lot of work to get here, but now I know my worst day healing is still better than my best day suffering. It’s worth the work to get better and it IS possible. There is hope. I’m living it.
I was tearing up while listening to this video. As someone with some visible self-harming scars I often get overwhelmed when people ask about my scars and some even view it as me just wanting attention.
Thank you for posting these videos. It makes me feel feel and understood. I hope all of the people who have hurt themselves overcome this struggle! It isn't easy, but as someone who's been clean for 3 years I'm rooting for y'all
I’ve always thought it was just me who self harmed as a cry for help. I would purposely pull up my sleeves because I was too scared to ask for help, but I thought if people saw how much I was going through, maybe someone would help me. People tell me I was doing it for attention, and I started ti believe it. But after this video, I’ve finally understood exactly why I need people to notice. Thank you.
Props to the animation team. This is a difficult topic to communicate without falling into the twin traps of understatement or sensationalizing.
Thank you shedding light on this. It took me years to overcome SH and get to root of the problem, which I’m working on and this was nearly 20 years ago. I hope anyone battling with SH knows they aren’t alone, they have amazing internal strength and deserve all the care, support and love ❤
Hey! Former (still slips up sometimes) SHer here.
My favorite methods to replace my urges over the years has been
- chew toys to help my chain smoking.
-drawing to ground myself and remind me of my goals/reasons to live.
-and playing with Play-Doh
TW: age regression.
As taboo as it is i also use age regression as a means to keep life bearable. I revert back to a time where things didnt matter. and play with the things that fulfilled me at the time like dolls and coloring books and surround my body with very soft and cute stuffed animals.
I have to do all of this pretty regularly to stay on track but now ive found myself married
,Working a nice day job while i work on my art career, and blessed with very good friends who are willing to help me navigate when things are hard.
Life is, difficult. But with the right tools FOR YOU, nothing is impossible. Keep your head up, and someday, you can get a SICK coverup tattoo
❤
love this message!!!
People around me used to think that I do self harm for attention while actually I do it as a coping mechanism... Thank you ;)
I will love myself and stop this behaviour 😊
I watched this to better understand my partner and I cried so much because of just knowing they are feeling like this
This; especially right now; Is a great thing to be talking about and I’m glad you guys did. There’s a lot going on right now; and talking about something like this i feel is very important.
I still feel urges or a desire to harm myself sometimes; It’s a journey but I can proudly say I’ve been a bit over 6 years clean from self harm.
If anyone reading this is struggling with it; Know that things can and will get better. A journey to recovery maybe not be linear; you might trip sometimes but that’s okay- no one is ever perfect. Know that you can get better; it is possible and there will be plenty of people out there rooting for you; Myself included.
Remember everyone to watch out for yourself and others ❤
I'm three months clean in a few days!
Hope everyone here is doing alright, or doing better ❤ I've struggled with this for nearly two years now,since I was twelve, and last year was probably the worst for me, so I'm really happy that this year has been better for me so far, and I hope for anyone who needs it too
Threw months is soon going to turn into three years, I believe you can keep going, you’re going to look back and see how far you’ve come, and this community is very proud of you, keep up the great work
Tysm I really appreciate it
I struggle with self-harm and anytime I hear anything about it I have an urge to do it. I watched this video anyway because I didn't realize that seeing things about self-harm triggers the urge. The end of the video really helped me pinpoint what triggers the urge and the replacing harming objects with blankets and comforting items really helped me not feel the urge to self-harm especially because most of why I do is it for the aftercare to feel cared for.
I have history with it and it helped me a lot to- have more empathy with myself and stop punishing myself for having that marks in both my skin and past, thanks for this.
To anyone who's struggling with sh or poor mental health right now, things do get better, really. Over time you'll learn how to cope and relapsing will be less frequent, give yourself time and don't be afraid to ask for help
Proud to say that I am two months clean, it’s been extremely difficult for me especially since I am still quite young but listening to things like this helps me under stand my self better and why I am drawn to these unhealthy coping mechanisms. To anyone who is reading this and feels like you don’t deserve to let yourself heal, do it, it’s worth it
Sending love and support for anyone who is to afraid to reach out, people will listen, people will help. You just have to let’s them
Don't lose hope you never know what tomorrow may bring ❤❤❤❤
I completely understand
I also suffer from Adhd, anxiety and depression and trauma
Thank you so much for this video!!!!
You're awesome for being so strong!
Stay away from The-rapists thats probably your only problem, hanging out with judgy failures
@Quaticco thank you very much for your kind words 🙏😊❤️☺️
I suffered though depression, anxiety, and self harm. A lot of this rings true.
I’m sorry you went through that no one deserves that hope you’re in a better place mentally 💗💗
It’s so nice hearing your feelings spoken instead of stuck inside, knowing but psychically not being able to find the words
Somehow, thank you very much for shedding light on this. Please record this before RUclips would remove it and RUclips itself is selfish.
THE TIMING IS INSANE (i literally relapsed 2 days ago after being clean for around 4 months.)
4 months is sooo long!! Im proud of you :D and relapsing is a normal part of healing, you can do this.
Same, man. Stay strong.
you're better than this addiction, keep going.
When I was young, my dad told me about how one of his collegues self harmed in the office, and he was confused why, and so was I.
But here I am, striving to be clean this year (since I broke my streak last fall)
Glad this video exists, and im proud of my father for trying to understand me
If you are reading this, and you are clean for a while, good job! Keep it up!
If you are reading this and you just broke your streak, thats okay, you did well keeping yourself clean for a while.
kind of insane that "self-harm" has to be censored to "x" so the video doesn't get demonitized. i think you should be able to freely talk about these kinds of issues on this platform without the fear of being punished for it...
I don’t. Horrible idea.
@catsareexcellent why's that?
It doesn’t get deleted it just makes the video have a warning. If it doesn’t have one kids could possibly watch this and get ideas
Exactly! Freedom of speech. Plus, there’s a trigger warning!
@@stribgcheeerge Exactly!
i readed the comments and realized im actually very VERY happy person 💀
to anyone currently struggling with this: i see you. I've been there too, and it is possible to find other ways to get similar feelings/results that aren't harmful. Mine came from a lot of shame and self hatred, so I want you to know you are worth it. You are loved. I sincerely mean that. You are not weak, and talking about it with someone you trust with not automatically get you sent away somewhere. People will support you, as will I. You can do it
Got this on my fyp before I was going to SH, it was a sigh I shouldn’t. Thanks.