I'm 60 and have ruined my bones with stones on stones off, for 40yrs, ruined my gut, many other health issues. I wish id be so switched on at your age, diets aren't the answer, your doing you and you look great
Omg you are me 😮I am just 67 have yo yo diet all my life even had a heart attack because of it as my heart had enlarged 😢 had surgery I was only 34 nearly died 😢 haven’t done that since but still never been happier with my weight !! By the way I was only 11 stone and thought I was fat 😮😮 I’m heavier now still always trying !!! Wish I had your intelligence Jess you are amazing xxxx
Oh my god this is me right now! I see pictures of myself and I can't join the dots that it's me, because I don't feel I look like that! It's absolutely crazy and it's so nice to hear someone else describe it! ♥️♥️♥️
Yeah this is me too … I also see myself as being much slimmer than in reality. Just been diagnosed with advanced liver fibrosis - no doubt due to weight and lifestyle. This is a wake up call for sure but honestly - it’s sooooo hard to lose it isn’t it?? x
Back in 2020 i decided to change my eating habits and try to lose some weight. Whithin that year i went from a size 20/22 to a size 12. When i had lost that weight i felt brave enough to show my grown up sons (I'm 51, by the way) a pair of my old jeans....that looked like they could fit two of me in and my sons ( all three of them) said....they never remembered me looking that big. I knew i had a weight problem and its amazing how it just creeps up on you, but, its not until you look back that you realise how far you have come and how well you have done because its not easy. Like you i didn't go on a diet, i didn't even exercise for personal reasons, it's everything in moderation and a lifestyle change otherwise its too unrealistic to stick to and just becomes a vicious circle of regaining and losing weight again and again. Im more lenient with myself now but have managed to stay at a size 12 even going through the menopause, i think eventually our body settles where its supposed to be....if that makes sense. Anyway ....you are looking great jess, ive followed your journey trying different methods and this way has definitely worked for you and i hope you are feeling good about it xx
Hi - I am where you were, I have gone down hill since menopause. Any additional tips? I tried working out with a personal trainer online, with macros, ect - I could not be consistent, and did not like being called out.
🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻 yessss Jess! Absolutely love everything you have said in this video, 👌🏻it’s hard when you’re posting your foods for the day open for the public to critic and comment on, but you’re so right - when you bring it back to yourself, and do what ever it is that works for you, it starts to click. I’m totally on the train of listening more to my body too and not a huge fan of breakfast also but I always felt like I “needed” to eat breakfast and show that to be “healthy” and “balanced” so I totally relate to that. Well done you! I know it can be a bit 👀 to comment and support someone’s weight loss success but as someone who struggles with it, - I just want to say, you’re glowing, look amazing - and well bloody done 👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻❤️
You know Jess your absolutely smashing it you look great im doing exactly the same as you I don’t force myself to eat breakfast and I’ve lost nearly 2 stone and again in no rush xx😊
My goodness, Jess, thank you ❤ There is so much I could comment but for now I’ll just say that I really needed to hear this. You are an inspiration ❤❤xx
@@TheSliceOfJess BTW I am also a huge advocate of the 80/20 rule: 3 weeks per month in Germany eating a balanced diet, 1 week in UK ordering an Indian takeaway that could easily feed 5 people 👍
It's taken me to get to 70 before I realised yo yo dieting is wrong, I'm the slimmest I've ever been without even thinking about it. I realised many years ago that slimming clubs are the worst for getting slim but the best to make them rich!! I agree about weighing yourself don't do it more than monthly. Well done to you I really admire you.
OMGosh i havnt seen you videos for ages i thought you’d disappeared! You give off this whole new sense of comfort and confidence and it’s so beautiful to see. Congratulations on succeeding in making yourself happier and thank you for this video being so open and honest and inspiring. When you spoke about the gym you were speaking out of my mind, so relatable xx
Your mindset is so balanced and healthy! I can’t help but feel more obsessive and impatient to be at my goal weight - I think that is the major drive for society engaging in drastic measures. I am constantly trying to remind myself to take a more balanced approach but you seem to have it down to a tee!!
Absolutly loved this video, couldnt have come at a better time, this is what i need to do,my head is spinning, with calories, diet, waking up , thinking of food immediatly. Very motivating, thank you 😊
Totally agree with you about the ‘time’ thing. Our bodies don’t know what a ‘week’ is, so why do we think we should lose weight weekly!! We have been so so conditioned by the diet industry. If it takes years to get to a healthier place why not embrace it…….x
Yesss Jess! Completely agree with the sentiment of this video. I’m going through therapy for a binge eating disorder and have yo-yo dieted for years. Im 39 years old and finally feel like I’m free of diets! I actually said to my therapist that I wish all teens were taught this stuff in school. Loving yourself from within is the first step and one I’m still trying to work on. You look beautiful in all the photos x
I agree with what you said about SW, I experienced same as you and 20+ years of unlimited pasta, potatoes & rice, I'm now diabetic and am certain the unlimited carbs didn't help me over this time. In the end I felt I belonged to a religion I didn't want to follow. Like you I am chipping away, making healthy choices and feel so much better about myself. Thanks for being so open and honest, more people need to hear what you are saying.
Love your new positivity about your life and weight. My problem with Slimming World is they teach you how to lose weight but not how to maintain it. I lost 3.5 stone with them in about a year and when I asked about maintaining they didn't really have an answer. I guess it's not good business for their members to keep the weight off!! Had to learn how to do it myself. I'm about half a stone heavier than my lowest weight but have maintained this for about 2 years now. Wishing you all the best for the rest of your journey 🥰😸
You look fab. I read fast like a girl a month ago nearly and have lost over half a stone. Theres so much excellent science about fasting especially following your monthly cycle. Ive realised i need a lot less of food then i think and i really listen to my body now. And realising how dangerous sugar is. I cut out alcohol as well which was big game changer. Really good video and well done.
The internet is brutal especially if you’re on a health journey even if you don’t share content. I can’t imagine how hard it is for people who share their experience online.
Great vlog Jess an great advice.. ive actually not been on RUclips for a while so i really see the difference in you and you look fab.. your right its not a quick fix an changing little things really helps an we shouldnt be in a rush.. well done an good luck continuing your journey 😊❤
Oh my goodness Jess everything you have said is so true.Nobody is entitled to judge,because our journey is our personal busness.I love how you've found a lifestyle which works and is not labelled .just FABULOUS 😊💖
Hi Jess, great vlog and you are doing an amazing job on your weight loss journey; don't let anyone tell you differently! I started following you when you were doing your solo travels and you look so content and happy now that you've found love ❤ You are going to look absolutely stunning on your wedding day. Xxx
Wow Jess you look amazing, you're such an inspiration and I really needed this tonight. You have spurred me on to look after my health more. Keep being lovely you xx ❤
Amazing vlog, Jess. Your points resonated with me so much. I'm so proud of you. All your hard work, healthier choices, and commitment have truly paid off. You look so lovely, absolutely glowing x Thank you so much for this ❤
I always think that when you are ‘dieting’ all you think about is food! How much, how many calories, sins etc.. from the moment you wake up til you go to bed! Mindfulness is the way! You are inspirational ❤️
Jess congrats to you. Thank you for the honest and truly amazing insight a very thought provoking chat. Love how down to earth this is compared to so many others. You have touched on so many areas and totally agree with all you have said . Love this . xx
Great video Jess .i agree nobody looking everyone going through there own things. Iv been in gym for 25 years and anybody looks compliments my body and drive but I myself have been through gym addiction food addiction, body dysmorphia ortharexia terrible self esteem . You never know know why people are there and what they are going through . I try encourage my friends to go gym if they want to go . Nobody cares .well done you really have improved your health and life the healthy way .at 50 Iv finally stopped tracking food and steps ect , I eat what I want when I want but 90% healthy as it makes me feel nice and I enjoy it I still go gym daily but sometimes walk . Walk in water , walk outside . But look after my muscles . I’m trusting myself and my body not watches and other people ! Intuition is amazing if we can tune in and listen to our body ❤
I've been on and off on a few diets over the years. I did keto and it did work. Until you get bored of the same foods and quit. Then end up piling the weight back on. Not good. I agree with everything u said as this is exactly how I think now. Diets are restrictive and don't last. Telling you to quit the gym was terrible advice too. They seem more bothered about numbers than actually being healthy and fit. Now I just keep as natural as possible. I enjoy walking the dog and bike riding. The gym is too boring for me. And I try and eat more fruit and veggies now with more protein to fill me up and will treat myself to lots of ice cream if I want to.
I’ve been on a similar journey to you Jess, and I think my piece of advice for anyone reading is that you have to do it for yourself, and it needs to come from a place of love rather than hate. Don’t lose weight because you hate your body or yourself (for having poor will power and that negative self talk of ‘worthlessness’). You will fail if your goal is to punish yourself. Reframe the narrative: healthy eating and exercise because you deserve to look after yourself, you deserve to feel good in your skin, you deserve to feel strong, etc. It is tricky but positive self talk is key!
I learned through therapy that body dysmorphia works both ways - it’s not just smaller people thinking they’re big. It’s the overall difficulty you have with seeing yourself realistically, your reality is skewed. It helped me so much to realise that because always felt guilty for not realising that I was larger than I thought 🥰
Hi Jess, thankyou for sharing your personal story. I wish I could speak for others that are so cruel in the Internet wold but so glad you're 😊 and I totally respect your honesty. I've been a member of SW and got the exact response from joining a gym and upping my exercise and I would be a millionaire the number of times I got told drink more water I would have and always drink appropriately 4 litres a day . In the end it was so soul destroying I've not gone back and doing my own thing. I eat what or want live a normal life with no regrets. So thankyou again and take care jen xx
I believe body dismormphia goes both ways. Being a big person I also have no real idea how big I am until I see my reflection in public places and certain candid pictures. Since I tried losing weight I actually seek out those moments cause it keeps me motivated and reminds me to keep going. It always brings the public’s fat shaming back into context.
Well done jess you have done amazing, i feel the exact same i dont see it or feel it, until i look at photos. I just cant get motivated and know i will end up just giving in. But you have really motivated me
Very raw, very real, very deep and very brave 👏 and thankyou so much for sharing. It truly hit me in all the right places and was very inspirational and insightful.Well done Jess, and wishing you every happiness in the world ❤
Hi Jess. I've been following you for a few years & love all your videos. Well done on your 3 stone+ weight loss, you look fabulous ❤. I hope you don't mind me making a couple of points. Weight Watchers do not "shame" members if they don't lose weight or gain weight. The whole ethos of Weight Watchers is about supporting our fellow members. I think you are fortunate that your lovely fiancé is very health conscious (& gorgeous 🤩🥰) & I'm sure is super supportive of your journey. A lot of us don't have that at home so we join a group. On WW you can eat anything & if you go to the gym or exercise you can eat more. All the proteins & fruits, veg aren't even counted so it's all about healthy eating. It's basically what you are doing at home already 😀. Fortunately you have someone who is there for you, & psychology is a big part of weight loss. Sending much love & love your videos (& seeing your handsome fiancé xxx)
Thank you for sharing ☺️ though I’ve not been a member of WW myself, I’ve heard a lot of horrible and toxic stories, similar to the ones I had at slimming world, I think you’re lucky that you found a supportive group! I am also very lucky to have a supportive partner, though don’t get it confused he doesn’t eat healthy in the slightest 😂 it actually annoys me how he’s not the size of a house! 😂😂 I think if what you’re doing with WW is working for you then that’s amazing, keep doing it, a lot of people aren’t that fortunate ♥️♥️ thank you for the comment
I totally agree about fad diets. Last year, I lost half a stone, looked amazing, and felt fantastic, but it was a fad diet, and I couldn't stick to it. Iv gained a stone back, and I can't seem to lose it, I'm slowly gaining more. Iv become a slave of the scales, I'm obsessed. I dont think it helps being nearly 40, but still, I want to lose on a healthy way. Your story is inspiring.
Thanks for your honesty I can relate. Well done on achieving better health. Thank you for sharing how you felt about the gym. I felt like that too so it helps me so much to hear it wasn't just me 😅
How awful for you 😢people are so rude !your an amazing young lady .i know another lady who has recently left utube because of horrid people making comments !xxxtake care xxx❤
I can so relate to your past mindset regarding losing weight, unfortunately I am still in that mindset but after seeing your video I am going to try to lose weight without counting calories or a specific diet plan as I think it really does mess with your head and make you obsess about food. I hope I can ditch the diet culture and do as well as you have, thank you for your very helpful video Jess 😊❤xx
Totally related. I recently made a decision to stop dieting... I'm loving my life and myself. I don't shame myself with a scale on a weekly basis anymore
You have literally just had the same conversation online to what I’ve had with myself over this past week. You’ve hit the nail on the head! You look and ARE awesome. A true inspiration. xx
So good to listen to someone with lots of wisdom and common sense. I know you’ve had a challenging journey to get to that point but it will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life. Check out the Zoe podcasts for up to date nutritional information.❤
Slimming World has definitely caused me so many food issues. I can’t ever get past the point of “it’s all or nothing”. I still remember how many syns things are, I still find it so hard to have milk/ cheese more than twice 😂 and bread ?? Forget about it !!! I’ll get there but it’s a slow healing process !! My old leader asked a man who had hit target what his tips and tricks were, and he said that exercise helped. She whipped her head round like the exorcist and listed bullet points as to why that simply wasn’t true. This man was in the best shape he’d ever been, had ran several marathons, was the fittest of us all. That was the moment for me. It’s not about health for them, it’s simply what it says on the scales.
Hi Jess thanks for sharing this video with us I have really found it interesting to listen to and I glad you said a bout the gym I was the same now I enjoyed the gym thank you jess ❤️xxx
Hi there - how many days did you lift weights? Great video - I have an online trainer, it has become so monotonous to me, and I don't like being questioned like you did, and started feeling guilty and wanting to quit. I am going offline, I considered this before your video and now I am going to. Everyone has different ways of getting motivated, this really resonates with me.
Hi jess, nice to see your looking well and happy, I must say I really enjoyed your video and what you said made great sense, you do what makes you happy and ignore all the negative comments, you helped me alot with this video and made a lot of sense, I am also a yoyo dieter and all my plans start on a Monday 😂 x But I do what makes me happy and ignore any comments I may get and focus on myself, I Don, t use the gym but I put on my favourite music and dance like a looney in my front room 😂😂 x x who cares I, m happy xx You take care lovely lady x
Well done Jess you look amazing ❤❤❤Your so right what your saying , I am calorie counting but I find this one varies me on what I eat (not saying I’m 100% each week) I’m a size 18/20 at the moment and I would be happy in a size 16 !! Xxx
I felt the same about slimming world! Lost a lot of weight but got to a point where I was maintaining/ gaining a couple of pounds. The shame culture was awful, encouraged not to eat out, had to ‘book’ sessions off if on holiday, encouraged to buy the sugary slimming world bars and eat quark lol! It works short term but isn’t feasible!
Jess, Im 58 years older 😊 I have made massive mistakes about my weight 😢 when I was younger. Always covered myself up with Xxx xxx clothes 😮Still have issues about food but keeping myself at certain stomach fulness 😊❤
This video is so great! And I've said those exact words put loud opposite body dysmorphia. And I'm sure I've heard similar advice before but it hasn't landed and felt real before. You've really planted a seed in me thank you. And you do look great and are inspiring! If you ever do a follow up video, I've got questions: things like buying a large bar of chocolate or a box of 4 doughnuts are you able to save it til later if other half doesn't want to share or will you just finish it still? Or throw it away? Are you strong enough to keep "junk food" in the house and not have it? Or do you just buy a bit when you fancy it and then use it all and chuck the rest. I'm sure you get that I'm not trying to pry but these are things I struggle with... Well done! 😊 X
I love the honesty of this video. I feel exactly the same.....I keep buying bigger size clothes and not registering im actually getting bigger. Its madness. This video just shows that "diets" are utter crap unless you're willing to stick with them forever. Smart choices are the way forward. We're all human ❤❤❤
I know how you feel when it comes to gym anxiety. I jjoined the gym last week and I bought new clothes for it on Saturday and had plneed to go on Sunda.y. Sunday came I kept saying I will go in an hour I will go another hour, .I eventually left the house and started walking I got about half way and then started to feel ill and got a headache and so went back home so I never made it to the gym,. So tomorrow is another day and hopefully I will make it all the way to the gym. But I am anxious for all the same reasons you said and I just know I have to go either earlier or later times to help with getting used to it.
Get my fitness pal- put in the amount of protein you want to weigh- so say 130lbs. Put in 130g protein. Find a calorie calculator And get your daily calorie intake - so say 1400calories. Protein and carbs are 4 cals and fat is 9. Carbs are not needed, fat is essential. So 1400-(520 protein) 880 cals left) 55g fat (women need at least 35g a day)(495cals)+(520 cals protein)=1015 So remaining cals 385/4 (cals per gram of carb) 96g So your macros would be 1400 cals 130g protein, 55g fat and 96g carbs You’ll lose weight easy by prioritizing your protein - I swear!❤
You've done really well and I'm glad you got something that works for you, 24 hour gyms are so good. but I'm surprised SW told you to stop exercising, your leader needs reporting tbh so she is retrained as it sounds like she is running a different place. I always heard them explain you can gain fluid and to just chill and it will catch up with the weight losses etc. SW consoles when you gain and offers help not shames, so that too is a red flag you got a rogue one. I did a few different classes in different places over the years after having my kids, and found it most supportive. Just a shame copious amounts of chocolate wasn't a diet or I'd be slim for ever.
I love classes at gym. I like to do dance and body combat. I’ve started doing Pilates and yoga too. I do slimming world and feel like throwing them out of the window lol 😂we can stress so much about dieting etc. xxxx
Love this ❤ I read a wonderful book which inspired me on a similar journey to losing 3 stone "The Goddess Revolution by Mel Wells I'd highly recommended it. All about making peace with food, loving your body and reclaiming your life ❤. Well Done Jess you look so happy and healthy xx
I'm 60 and have ruined my bones with stones on stones off, for 40yrs, ruined my gut, many other health issues. I wish id be so switched on at your age, diets aren't the answer, your doing you and you look great
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Omg you are me 😮I am just 67 have yo yo diet all my life even had a heart attack because of it as my heart had enlarged 😢 had surgery I was only 34 nearly died 😢 haven’t done that since but still never been happier with my weight !! By the way I was only 11 stone and thought I was fat 😮😮 I’m heavier now still always trying !!! Wish I had your intelligence Jess you are amazing xxxx
I love everything you said in your video about weight loss and gain. Thanks for giving a realistic picture of what it’s like❤
Thank you, I think sometimes it can be painted online as being a lot easier than it actually is
Oh my god this is me right now! I see pictures of myself and I can't join the dots that it's me, because I don't feel I look like that! It's absolutely crazy and it's so nice to hear someone else describe it! ♥️♥️♥️
Yeah this is me too … I also see myself as being much slimmer than in reality. Just been diagnosed with advanced liver fibrosis - no doubt due to weight and lifestyle. This is a wake up call for sure but honestly - it’s sooooo hard to lose it isn’t it?? x
Back in 2020 i decided to change my eating habits and try to lose some weight. Whithin that year i went from a size 20/22 to a size 12. When i had lost that weight i felt brave enough to show my grown up sons (I'm 51, by the way) a pair of my old jeans....that looked like they could fit two of me in and my sons ( all three of them) said....they never remembered me looking that big. I knew i had a weight problem and its amazing how it just creeps up on you, but, its not until you look back that you realise how far you have come and how well you have done because its not easy. Like you i didn't go on a diet, i didn't even exercise for personal reasons, it's everything in moderation and a lifestyle change otherwise its too unrealistic to stick to and just becomes a vicious circle of regaining and losing weight again and again. Im more lenient with myself now but have managed to stay at a size 12 even going through the menopause, i think eventually our body settles where its supposed to be....if that makes sense. Anyway ....you are looking great jess, ive followed your journey trying different methods and this way has definitely worked for you and i hope you are feeling good about it xx
Hi - I am where you were, I have gone down hill since menopause. Any additional tips? I tried working out with a personal trainer online, with macros, ect - I could not be consistent, and did not like being called out.
🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻 yessss Jess! Absolutely love everything you have said in this video, 👌🏻it’s hard when you’re posting your foods for the day open for the public to critic and comment on, but you’re so right - when you bring it back to yourself, and do what ever it is that works for you, it starts to click. I’m totally on the train of listening more to my body too and not a huge fan of breakfast also but I always felt like I “needed” to eat breakfast and show that to be “healthy” and “balanced” so I totally relate to that. Well done you! I know it can be a bit 👀 to comment and support someone’s weight loss success but as someone who struggles with it, - I just want to say, you’re glowing, look amazing - and well bloody done 👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻❤️
Yesss girl and you know this as well as I do!! Thanks ♥️♥️
You know Jess your absolutely smashing it you look great im doing exactly the same as you I don’t force myself to eat breakfast and I’ve lost nearly 2 stone and again in no rush xx😊
Thank you!! And wow well done that’s amazing!
Soo happy you posted this :) ❤❤
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@@TheSliceOfJess you're welcome
My goodness, Jess, thank you ❤ There is so much I could comment but for now I’ll just say that I really needed to hear this. You are an inspiration ❤❤xx
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@@TheSliceOfJess BTW I am also a huge advocate of the 80/20 rule: 3 weeks per month in Germany eating a balanced diet, 1 week in UK ordering an Indian takeaway that could easily feed 5 people 👍
Doing what works for you works. I am proud of you.
It's taken me to get to 70 before I realised yo yo dieting is wrong, I'm the slimmest I've ever been without even thinking about it. I realised many years ago that slimming clubs are the worst for getting slim but the best to make them rich!!
I agree about weighing yourself don't do it more than monthly. Well done to you I really admire you.
They’re so awful! I hate slimming world and all that rubbish feed you so much crap
OMGosh i havnt seen you videos for ages i thought you’d disappeared! You give off this whole new sense of comfort and confidence and it’s so beautiful to see. Congratulations on succeeding in making yourself happier and thank you for this video being so open and honest and inspiring. When you spoke about the gym you were speaking out of my mind, so relatable xx
Your mindset is so balanced and healthy! I can’t help but feel more obsessive and impatient to be at my goal weight - I think that is the major drive for society engaging in drastic measures.
I am constantly trying to remind myself to take a more balanced approach but you seem to have it down to a tee!!
Fantastic video Jess, such wise words love. And i just want to say that you look flippin amazing, well done you ❤ xxxx
Thank you so much!!
This is so inspiring after being stuck in the cycle of dieting!! Going to implement some of these tips. You look amazing 🎉❤
Absolutly loved this video, couldnt have come at a better time, this is what i need to do,my head is spinning, with calories, diet, waking up , thinking of food immediatly. Very motivating, thank you 😊
Honestly such an awesome, chilled outlook. Thanks for sharing your experience.
You and Demi have done a great job losing weight slowly and in a healthy way
Totally agree with you about the ‘time’ thing. Our bodies don’t know what a ‘week’ is, so why do we think we should lose weight weekly!! We have been so so conditioned by the diet industry. If it takes years to get to a healthier place why not embrace it…….x
Yesss Jess! Completely agree with the sentiment of this video. I’m going through therapy for a binge eating disorder and have yo-yo dieted for years. Im 39 years old and finally feel like I’m free of diets! I actually said to my therapist that I wish all teens were taught this stuff in school. Loving yourself from within is the first step and one I’m still trying to work on.
You look beautiful in all the photos x
I agree with what you said about SW, I experienced same as you and 20+ years of unlimited pasta, potatoes & rice, I'm now diabetic and am certain the unlimited carbs didn't help me over this time. In the end I felt I belonged to a religion I didn't want to follow. Like you I am chipping away, making healthy choices and feel so much better about myself. Thanks for being so open and honest, more people need to hear what you are saying.
Love your new positivity about your life and weight. My problem with Slimming World is they teach you how to lose weight but not how to maintain it. I lost 3.5 stone with them in about a year and when I asked about maintaining they didn't really have an answer. I guess it's not good business for their members to keep the weight off!! Had to learn how to do it myself. I'm about half a stone heavier than my lowest weight but have maintained this for about 2 years now. Wishing you all the best for the rest of your journey 🥰😸
You look fab. I read fast like a girl a month ago nearly and have lost over half a stone. Theres so much excellent science about fasting especially following your monthly cycle. Ive realised i need a lot less of food then i think and i really listen to my body now. And realising how dangerous sugar is. I cut out alcohol as well which was big game changer. Really good video and well done.
I love this content so much, well done 🎉❤
Thank you! ♥️
The internet is brutal especially if you’re on a health journey even if you don’t share content. I can’t imagine how hard it is for people who share their experience online.
It really is! There’s so much contradicting information on the internet that it’s so hard to know what to do for the best!
Great vlog Jess an great advice.. ive actually not been on RUclips for a while so i really see the difference in you and you look fab.. your right its not a quick fix an changing little things really helps an we shouldnt be in a rush.. well done an good luck continuing your journey 😊❤
Oh my goodness Jess everything you have said is so true.Nobody is entitled to judge,because our journey is our personal busness.I love how you've found a lifestyle which works and is not labelled .just FABULOUS 😊💖
Great video! I could listen to you for hours, the way you talk is so soothing yet fun✨
I literally feel like you are talking about my journey. Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤
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OMG this is the most inspirational vlog EVER and so brave and honest you are an icon
The best mentality to have Jess ❤ Well done you, you look incredible and most importantly you radiate happiness 😍😍
I love everything about this ❤ and exactly the mind set I'm in right now don't have goal just do it and go with the flow ! Thank-you Jess ❤🎉
Hi Jess, great vlog and you are doing an amazing job on your weight loss journey; don't let anyone tell you differently! I started following you when you were doing your solo travels and you look so content and happy now that you've found love ❤ You are going to look absolutely stunning on your wedding day. Xxx
Wow Jess you look amazing, you're such an inspiration and I really needed this tonight. You have spurred me on to look after my health more. Keep being lovely you xx ❤
Amazing vlog, Jess. Your points resonated with me so much. I'm so proud of you. All your hard work, healthier choices, and commitment have truly paid off. You look so lovely, absolutely glowing x
Thank you so much for this ❤
I always think that when you are ‘dieting’ all you think about is food! How much, how many calories, sins etc.. from the moment you wake up til you go to bed! Mindfulness is the way! You are inspirational ❤️
Jess congrats to you. Thank you for the honest and truly amazing insight a very thought provoking chat. Love how down to earth this is compared to so many others. You have touched on so many areas and totally agree with all you have said . Love this . xx
Great video Jess .i agree nobody looking everyone going through there own things. Iv been in gym for 25 years and anybody looks compliments my body and drive but I myself have been through gym addiction food addiction, body dysmorphia ortharexia terrible self esteem . You never know know why people are there and what they are going through . I try encourage my friends to go gym if they want to go . Nobody cares .well done you really have improved your health and life the healthy way .at 50 Iv finally stopped tracking food and steps ect , I eat what I want when I want but 90% healthy as it makes me feel nice and I enjoy it I still go gym daily but sometimes walk . Walk in water , walk outside . But look after my muscles . I’m trusting myself and my body not watches and other people ! Intuition is amazing if we can tune in and listen to our body ❤
I've been on and off on a few diets over the years. I did keto and it did work. Until you get bored of the same foods and quit. Then end up piling the weight back on. Not good. I agree with everything u said as this is exactly how I think now. Diets are restrictive and don't last. Telling you to quit the gym was terrible advice too. They seem more bothered about numbers than actually being healthy and fit. Now I just keep as natural as possible. I enjoy walking the dog and bike riding. The gym is too boring for me. And I try and eat more fruit and veggies now with more protein to fill me up and will treat myself to lots of ice cream if I want to.
I’ve been on a similar journey to you Jess, and I think my piece of advice for anyone reading is that you have to do it for yourself, and it needs to come from a place of love rather than hate. Don’t lose weight because you hate your body or yourself (for having poor will power and that negative self talk of ‘worthlessness’). You will fail if your goal is to punish yourself.
Reframe the narrative: healthy eating and exercise because you deserve to look after yourself, you deserve to feel good in your skin, you deserve to feel strong, etc.
It is tricky but positive self talk is key!
Yes exactly this!!
This has helped me more than you will ever know!! Xx
I learned through therapy that body dysmorphia works both ways - it’s not just smaller people thinking they’re big. It’s the overall difficulty you have with seeing yourself realistically, your reality is skewed. It helped me so much to realise that because always felt guilty for not realising that I was larger than I thought 🥰
Jess this is such a great relevant vlog. Thank you ❤❤
Hi Jess, thankyou for sharing your personal story. I wish I could speak for others that are so cruel in the Internet wold but so glad you're 😊 and I totally respect your honesty. I've been a member of SW and got the exact response from joining a gym and upping my exercise and I would be a millionaire the number of times I got told drink more water I would have and always drink appropriately 4 litres a day . In the end it was so soul destroying I've not gone back and doing my own thing. I eat what or want live a normal life with no regrets. So thankyou again and take care jen xx
I believe body dismormphia goes both ways. Being a big person I also have no real idea how big I am until I see my reflection in public places and certain candid pictures. Since I tried losing weight I actually seek out those moments cause it keeps me motivated and reminds me to keep going. It always brings the public’s fat shaming back into context.
Defo needed to hear this… thank you xxx
This is an amazing video! Thank you for doing it and sharing. I really needed this x
Well done jess you have done amazing, i feel the exact same i dont see it or feel it, until i look at photos. I just cant get motivated and know i will end up just giving in. But you have really motivated me
Thank you! You’ve got this, just take it slow and you’ll get there!
I've been trying to lose 10 pounds for over a year.your doing fantastic on your own terms.thankyou for sharing 😊
This was informative. You look fit and healthy x
Thanks for sharing ur journey with us & really hope ure very proud of how far uve come both physically and mentally 💖 xx
Thank you ♥️ I am 🥰
Very raw, very real, very deep and very brave 👏 and thankyou so much for sharing. It truly hit me in all the right places and was very inspirational and insightful.Well done Jess, and wishing you every happiness in the world ❤
Hi Jess. I've been following you for a few years & love all your videos. Well done on your 3 stone+ weight loss, you look fabulous ❤. I hope you don't mind me making a couple of points. Weight Watchers do not "shame" members if they don't lose weight or gain weight. The whole ethos of Weight Watchers is about supporting our fellow members. I think you are fortunate that your lovely fiancé is very health conscious (& gorgeous 🤩🥰) & I'm sure is super supportive of your journey. A lot of us don't have that at home so we join a group. On WW you can eat anything & if you go to the gym or exercise you can eat more. All the proteins & fruits, veg aren't even counted so it's all about healthy eating. It's basically what you are doing at home already 😀. Fortunately you have someone who is there for you, & psychology is a big part of weight loss. Sending much love & love your videos (& seeing your handsome fiancé xxx)
Thank you for sharing ☺️ though I’ve not been a member of WW myself, I’ve heard a lot of horrible and toxic stories, similar to the ones I had at slimming world, I think you’re lucky that you found a supportive group! I am also very lucky to have a supportive partner, though don’t get it confused he doesn’t eat healthy in the slightest 😂 it actually annoys me how he’s not the size of a house! 😂😂 I think if what you’re doing with WW is working for you then that’s amazing, keep doing it, a lot of people aren’t that fortunate ♥️♥️ thank you for the comment
That was very inspirational and has made me think another way about my weight so thanks and well done to u!
So proud of you ! X
I totally agree about fad diets. Last year, I lost half a stone, looked amazing, and felt fantastic, but it was a fad diet, and I couldn't stick to it. Iv gained a stone back, and I can't seem to lose it, I'm slowly gaining more. Iv become a slave of the scales, I'm obsessed. I dont think it helps being nearly 40, but still, I want to lose on a healthy way. Your story is inspiring.
Thanks for your honesty I can relate. Well done on achieving better health. Thank you for sharing how you felt about the gym. I felt like that too so it helps me so much to hear it wasn't just me 😅
Thank you! And let me tell you I think everyone gets gym anxiety when they first go!
How awful for you 😢people are so rude !your an amazing young lady .i know another lady who has recently left utube because of horrid people making comments !xxxtake care xxx❤
Love your honesty. I really enjoyed listening you xx
I can so relate to your past mindset regarding losing weight, unfortunately I am still in that mindset but after seeing your video I am going to try to lose weight without counting calories or a specific diet plan as I think it really does mess with your head and make you obsess about food. I hope I can ditch the diet culture and do as well as you have, thank you for your very helpful video Jess 😊❤xx
Totally related. I recently made a decision to stop dieting... I'm loving my life and myself. I don't shame myself with a scale on a weekly basis anymore
Awesome video on an awesome lifestyle of basically an improved relationship with yourself!!!! ❤
You have literally just had the same conversation online to what I’ve had with myself over this past week. You’ve hit the nail on the head! You look and ARE awesome. A true inspiration. xx
Well done 👏👏 you are doing amazing xx
Thank you ♥️
So good to listen to someone with lots of wisdom and common sense. I know you’ve had a challenging journey to get to that point but it will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life. Check out the Zoe podcasts for up to date nutritional information.❤
Totally agree about slimming world, thank you for this for all us ladies struggling bless you xx
Slimming World has definitely caused me so many food issues. I can’t ever get past the point of “it’s all or nothing”. I still remember how many syns things are, I still find it so hard to have milk/ cheese more than twice 😂 and bread ?? Forget about it !!! I’ll get there but it’s a slow healing process !!
My old leader asked a man who had hit target what his tips and tricks were, and he said that exercise helped. She whipped her head round like the exorcist and listed bullet points as to why that simply wasn’t true. This man was in the best shape he’d ever been, had ran several marathons, was the fittest of us all. That was the moment for me. It’s not about health for them, it’s simply what it says on the scales.
Hi Jess thanks for sharing this video with us I have really found it interesting to listen to and I glad you said a bout the gym I was the same now I enjoyed the gym thank you jess ❤️xxx
Great video Jess x Well done to you x
Hi there - how many days did you lift weights? Great video - I have an online trainer, it has become so monotonous to me, and I don't like being questioned like you did, and started feeling guilty and wanting to quit. I am going offline, I considered this before your video and now I am going to. Everyone has different ways of getting motivated, this really resonates with me.
Hi jess, great video. Do you have the link to the walking pad?
It’s in the description ☺️
Hi jess, nice to see your looking well and happy, I must say I really enjoyed your video and what you said made great sense, you do what makes you happy and ignore all the negative comments, you helped me alot with this video and made a lot of sense, I am also a yoyo dieter and all my plans start on a Monday 😂 x But I do what makes me happy and ignore any comments I may get and focus on myself, I Don, t use the gym but I put on my favourite music and dance like a looney in my front room 😂😂 x x who cares I, m happy xx You take care lovely lady x
Some people feel better at putting others down. As you say, it says more about them than you. Xxx
Smashing it gyal 😘 ❤
Thank you! ♥️
Jess just like to say wow 😘 you keep doing you 🌸
I’m sorry completely of track I had to double take your water bottle on the bed 😂😂😂
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Well said, you look amazing and very happy, people who make nasty comment have nothing going on in their life😊 xx
Oh the good old SW “don’t go to the gym” I was told the same 😅
Well done Jess you look amazing ❤❤❤Your so right what your saying , I am calorie counting but I find this one varies me on what I eat (not saying I’m 100% each week) I’m a size 18/20 at the moment and I would be happy in a size 16 !! Xxx
I felt the same about slimming world! Lost a lot of weight but got to a point where I was maintaining/ gaining a couple of pounds. The shame culture was awful, encouraged not to eat out, had to ‘book’ sessions off if on holiday, encouraged to buy the sugary slimming world bars and eat quark lol! It works short term but isn’t feasible!
Jess, Im 58 years older 😊 I have made massive mistakes about my weight 😢 when I was younger. Always covered myself up with Xxx xxx clothes 😮Still have issues about food but keeping myself at certain stomach fulness 😊❤
What I needed to hear merci ❤
Well done…eat healthily, do some exercise of any type that you enjoy, stay happy. Cheers.
I loved this. Thanks so much for sharing xx
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People are so rude as you say they wouldn't say it to your face you do you xx
Some people just have no self control do they 😂
This video is so great! And I've said those exact words put loud opposite body dysmorphia. And I'm sure I've heard similar advice before but it hasn't landed and felt real before. You've really planted a seed in me thank you. And you do look great and are inspiring!
If you ever do a follow up video, I've got questions: things like buying a large bar of chocolate or a box of 4 doughnuts are you able to save it til later if other half doesn't want to share or will you just finish it still? Or throw it away? Are you strong enough to keep "junk food" in the house and not have it? Or do you just buy a bit when you fancy it and then use it all and chuck the rest. I'm sure you get that I'm not trying to pry but these are things I struggle with...
Well done! 😊 X
Well done Jess X
I love the honesty of this video. I feel exactly the same.....I keep buying bigger size clothes and not registering im actually getting bigger. Its madness. This video just shows that "diets" are utter crap unless you're willing to stick with them forever. Smart choices are the way forward. We're all human ❤❤❤
Yessss body combatttt! I love it! I need to get back to a class x
So good isn't it!! x
Hi jess wot walking pad would you recommend ? .plz
It’s in my description 🥰
Well done Jess you look amazing 🥰🩷
Thank you ♥️
I absolutely love this jess lovely. Everything you have said I totally agree with. Xxxx
Just started slimming world myself but doing it online and going by a measuring tape rather than scales
How long ago was the before pic Jess xx
Doesn’t matter what others say Jess. Not your circus, not your monkeys! Your body do with it as you please!
Well done Jess! Amazing lady c
Thank you ♥️
I know how you feel when it comes to gym anxiety. I jjoined the gym last week and I bought new clothes for it on Saturday and had plneed to go on Sunda.y. Sunday came I kept saying I will go in an hour I will go another hour, .I eventually left the house and started walking I got about half way and then started to feel ill and got a headache and so went back home so I never made it to the gym,. So tomorrow is another day and hopefully I will make it all the way to the gym. But I am anxious for all the same reasons you said and I just know I have to go either earlier or later times to help with getting used to it.
Get my fitness pal- put in the amount of protein you want to weigh- so say 130lbs. Put in 130g protein.
Find a calorie calculator
And get your daily calorie intake - so say 1400calories. Protein and carbs are 4 cals and fat is 9. Carbs are not needed, fat is essential. So 1400-(520 protein) 880 cals left) 55g fat (women need at least 35g a day)(495cals)+(520 cals protein)=1015
So remaining cals 385/4 (cals per gram of carb) 96g
So your macros would be 1400 cals 130g protein, 55g fat and 96g carbs
You’ll lose weight easy by prioritizing your protein - I swear!❤
You've done really well and I'm glad you got something that works for you, 24 hour gyms are so good. but I'm surprised SW told you to stop exercising, your leader needs reporting tbh so she is retrained as it sounds like she is running a different place. I always heard them explain you can gain fluid and to just chill and it will catch up with the weight losses etc. SW consoles when you gain and offers help not shames, so that too is a red flag you got a rogue one. I did a few different classes in different places over the years after having my kids, and found it most supportive. Just a shame copious amounts of chocolate wasn't a diet or I'd be slim for ever.
I love classes at gym. I like to do dance and body combat. I’ve started doing Pilates and yoga too. I do slimming world and feel like throwing them out of the window lol 😂we can stress so much about dieting etc. xxxx
Love this ❤ I read a wonderful book which inspired me on a similar journey to losing 3 stone "The Goddess Revolution by Mel Wells I'd highly recommended it. All about making peace with food, loving your body and reclaiming your life ❤. Well Done Jess you look so happy and healthy xx
Thank you! Sounds like a really good book!! xx