I understand everything you said I'm fixated on my friend rn and we aren't friends anymore since November and my world just crumbled and I'm constantly wanting to talk to them and basically tried finding them on every social media and it's awful my heart feels broken without them
Trust me I totally get it! Friendship breakups hurts just as much as romantic relationships breakups! Be kind with yourself and remember you’re worthy of friendship and it will come to you when you are ready ❤️
When in the midst of scarcity (of friends) it’s difficult to not chase friendships instead of letting whatever about you attracted them to you continue to attract them.
I feel so validated in this video in just the first few mins. I’m not sure if this stems from severe RSD or if the RSD is due to constantly being rejected. There’s definitely anxiety around friendships, even friends who give me that validation because I’ve been burned and used SO MANY TIMES. I’ve also started to realize that the week before my cycle my RSD is almost unmanageable. Even the simplest things like a mutual friend getting a text and not me can send me into a spiral where I’m convinced that everyone hates me and they are all just tolerating me but don’t really want me around. It’s EXHAUSTING.
@@MollysADHDMayhem it took me a while to figure it out but now that I know, it helps me understand in the moment that maybe not everyone hates me and maybe it’s just my hormones and my brain. Also have you looked into the PDA profile of Autism, one of the characteristics of it is hyperfixation on people. That resonated with me a lot (as did much of the PDA profile) but unfortunately America doesn’t recognize PDA so I can’t get evaluated for that specific subtype of Autism.
I'm the same, if you can get past the negative rap it has I would suggest looking into BPD related content as it will very likly help you understand yourself better and you can evetually figure out strategies and coping mechanism to counter when you push boundaries or spiral in thoughts etc
You'r not alone it happens to me too, and it's like you can't stop thinking about it. It's like after a breakup and a breakup of a friendship it's hard to trust. Your Not Alone don't worrys. But then im like let me focus on other activites like gym and studys. And more dreams like skydiving and traveling the World doing New Stuffs. But its like amazing getting to know yourself. Thanks For The Video. Your Amazing. Stay Creative And Don't Stop Making Videos You Got This. You Got Us.
Growing up, I'm crushed with the realization that I never had any real friends. It's like... all this time, I've tried to live up to the standards of people who never had any. I try to do everything to make others happy, but... it seems like it's not enough. I don't really know if it's me or if I'm just that unworthy of a person. I mean, I did once hungout with 6 people in the past, but now, I have nobody. At this point, I just give up on trying to make friendships. People will just keep shutting me out or I unintentionally push others way without ever meaning to. Hyperfixation? Now that you mention it. Yeah, when it comes to certain interests or topics, I'm unafraid to express that explain something. Believe me, I'm a very knowledgeable person. 😂
I can 100% relate to this. I've always been all or nothing with friends, but the all is full on.. it almost feels like a romantic relationship. Not fancying them or whatever, but that pursuit I guess. I dunno how to describe it. I also realised that I used to get really jealous of my close friends having or hanging out with other close friends, like they where competition or something. I have gotten better with that luckily, but yeh I can deffo relate x
I’ve always had this problem. I’m always giving my all and a loyal friend but no one does that for me. It’s hard enough as adhd person to find a friend you put time in and they just move or drop you and move on. I take it hard because it’s difficult to be social and I push myself. I want a friendship but then I do want time to myself as well. Being a neurodivergent person is like being a prisoner of your own mind. You can’t escape.
Hi 👋 I know with my autism, I have a black and white way of doing things. I'm either intense with people/things or push people away. There's no in-between. I'm also a people pleaser. Plus, I struggle trusting people.
Hi Molly I don’t think you are sounding weird at all because I have been through the exact same situations through my life, I have never found it easy to connect with people, from when I was a kid until even now. So when someone is wanting to get to know me or is just really nice to me I suddenly get really attached to them, I hyper-fixate on being their best friend and I want to talk to them all the time and I message or phone them a LOT and when they don’t answer straight away I think that they don’t want to be friends anymore and then it feels like the end of the world and I have been known to get under my covers in bed and not want to do anything until I hear from them and then the immense happiness is a great feeling! But I have lost friends in the past because of how fixated I get, so I don’t even try anymore because the pain response I get from that rejection is too much to bear. So I can honestly hand on heart say, you are not sounding like a weirdo at all ❤❤😊😊
I hyper focus on a lot of friends, especially those who are nice and understanding to me or attractive lol. Makes things very awkward standing near people zoning out or talking too much to them, or always wanting to be near them and also vent to them about random thoughts. Ik it sometimes comes across weird, Which makes me overthink about it to the point where I shutdown and become shy then it’s hard for me to sleep. Trying to ask this person to hangout but it feels awkward and I keep putting things off to last minute, Then I regret it later.
I understand everything you said I'm fixated on my friend rn and we aren't friends anymore since November and my world just crumbled and I'm constantly wanting to talk to them and basically tried finding them on every social media and it's awful my heart feels broken without them
Trust me I totally get it! Friendship breakups hurts just as much as romantic relationships breakups! Be kind with yourself and remember you’re worthy of friendship and it will come to you when you are ready ❤️
You're not weird to me. I totally understand as I'm the same way!
When in the midst of scarcity (of friends) it’s difficult to not chase friendships instead of letting whatever about you attracted them to you continue to attract them.
Thank you for being real
@@FalloutStealth I really try to keep it real!❤️
@@MollysADHDMayhem hi I’m Autistic
I think your beautiful
I feel so validated in this video in just the first few mins. I’m not sure if this stems from severe RSD or if the RSD is due to constantly being rejected. There’s definitely anxiety around friendships, even friends who give me that validation because I’ve been burned and used SO MANY TIMES.
I’ve also started to realize that the week before my cycle my RSD is almost unmanageable. Even the simplest things like a mutual friend getting a text and not me can send me into a spiral where I’m convinced that everyone hates me and they are all just tolerating me but don’t really want me around. It’s EXHAUSTING.
I’ve noticed that my cycle has a HUGE impact on my rsd!! 🥹🥰
@@MollysADHDMayhem it took me a while to figure it out but now that I know, it helps me understand in the moment that maybe not everyone hates me and maybe it’s just my hormones and my brain. Also have you looked into the PDA profile of Autism, one of the characteristics of it is hyperfixation on people. That resonated with me a lot (as did much of the PDA profile) but unfortunately America doesn’t recognize PDA so I can’t get evaluated for that specific subtype of Autism.
This is 100% me I’ve got a diagnosis of adhd but I think I maybe have autism too. It’s nice to hear it’s not just me who feels this way. Xx
The sense of clarity that I’ve just got from you saying you can relate to me is amazing! Thankyou so much ❤️
I'm the same, if you can get past the negative rap it has I would suggest looking into BPD related content as it will very likly help you understand yourself better and you can evetually figure out strategies and coping mechanism to counter when you push boundaries or spiral in thoughts etc
Thank you SO much for your honesty, courage and candor. You're an inspiration to me!
Wow, thank you!🙏🏼
You'r not alone it happens to me too, and it's like you can't stop thinking about it. It's like after a breakup and a breakup of a friendship it's hard to trust. Your Not Alone don't worrys. But then im like let me focus on other activites like gym and studys. And more dreams like skydiving and traveling the World doing New Stuffs. But its like amazing getting to know yourself. Thanks For The Video. Your Amazing. Stay Creative And Don't Stop Making Videos You Got This. You Got Us.
Thankyou! 🥰💛
Growing up, I'm crushed with the realization that I never had any real friends. It's like... all this time, I've tried to live up to the standards of people who never had any. I try to do everything to make others happy, but... it seems like it's not enough. I don't really know if it's me or if I'm just that unworthy of a person. I mean, I did once hungout with 6 people in the past, but now, I have nobody. At this point, I just give up on trying to make friendships. People will just keep shutting me out or I unintentionally push others way without ever meaning to.
Hyperfixation? Now that you mention it. Yeah, when it comes to certain interests or topics, I'm unafraid to express that explain something. Believe me, I'm a very knowledgeable person. 😂
I can really relate to you! It’s such a shame because we have so much to offer!
I can 100% relate to this. I've always been all or nothing with friends, but the all is full on.. it almost feels like a romantic relationship. Not fancying them or whatever, but that pursuit I guess. I dunno how to describe it. I also realised that I used to get really jealous of my close friends having or hanging out with other close friends, like they where competition or something. I have gotten better with that luckily, but yeh I can deffo relate x
I’ve always had this problem. I’m always giving my all and a loyal friend but no one does that for me. It’s hard enough as adhd person to find a friend you put time in and they just move or drop you and move on. I take it hard because it’s difficult to be social and I push myself. I want a friendship but then I do want time to myself as well. Being a neurodivergent person is like being a prisoner of your own mind. You can’t escape.
Hi 👋 I know with my autism, I have a black and white way of doing things. I'm either intense with people/things or push people away. There's no in-between. I'm also a people pleaser. Plus, I struggle trusting people.
It can be such a struggle! Thankyou for sharing this with me❤️
I identify with everything you talk about in this video! I thought it was just me…
I saw your post on Threads and I am following you there and now here. ❤
I appreciate your support❤️
Hi Molly I don’t think you are sounding weird at all because I have been through the exact same situations through my life, I have never found it easy to connect with people, from when I was a kid until even now. So when someone is wanting to get to know me or is just really nice to me I suddenly get really attached to them, I hyper-fixate on being their best friend and I want to talk to them all the time and I message or phone them a LOT and when they don’t answer straight away I think that they don’t want to be friends anymore and then it feels like the end of the world and I have been known to get under my covers in bed and not want to do anything until I hear from them and then the immense happiness is a great feeling! But I have lost friends in the past because of how fixated I get, so I don’t even try anymore because the pain response I get from that rejection is too much to bear. So I can honestly hand on heart say, you are not sounding like a weirdo at all ❤❤😊😊
Thank you for the unfiltered sharing Molly, definitely some elements of your share help with my own self realization 🙏🏽
Molly very heartfelt video xx 😘
❤️❤️❤️🫣
I hyper focus on a lot of friends, especially those who are nice and understanding to me or attractive lol. Makes things very awkward standing near people zoning out or talking too much to them, or always wanting to be near them and also vent to them about random thoughts. Ik it sometimes comes across weird, Which makes me overthink about it to the point where I shutdown and become shy then it’s hard for me to sleep. Trying to ask this person to hangout but it feels awkward and I keep putting things off to last minute, Then I regret it later.
Sounds like me 😊