Life As a Buddhist Nun

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  • Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
  • This is a brief take about those interested in monastic life, for seekers and those who are interested. Its by no means an authoritative summary.
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Комментарии • 97

  • @Lunay08
    @Lunay08 9 месяцев назад +9

    I'm so sorry that you had to experience this. I've been wanting to become a nun for quite some time and this definitely turns me off quite a bit. It's like some of these monks forget that a woman gave birth to them. We are all human, and there is nothing wrong with a woman going and seeking the spiritual path.

  • @viddachan8940
    @viddachan8940 3 года назад +19

    Your vision is beautiful and one that I can more easily follow given its inclusive tenents and direction. Traditional buddhism with its patriarchal practices and outlooks is long overdue for retirement.

  • @SerahKhadijah
    @SerahKhadijah 2 года назад +35

    Wonderful! I am very attracted to the 'monastic life' but very not attracted to dogma and sexism. Fantastic to hear about ur organisation, will look up more 🥰

    • @hellboundtruck123
      @hellboundtruck123 6 месяцев назад +1

      Buddhism is antithesis to dogmatism.

    • @doctork1708
      @doctork1708 5 месяцев назад

      @@hellboundtruck123Buddhism is NOT antithetical to sexism and sexual assault.

    • @bp6942
      @bp6942 3 месяца назад

      @@doctork1708 Please don't generalize a religion of 450 million and many many different and diverse traditions, schools and sects.

  • @samisa00
    @samisa00 3 года назад +8

    Wonderful. So brave. Revolutionary.

  • @FifthKnowledge
    @FifthKnowledge 2 года назад +12

    You go girl! Beats to the rhyme and the rhyme I just made!!!!
    That said, my old man was a loser alcoholic, so the idea of mourning a drunk who dies young is alien to me, I was glad when I heard he died. Freedom and paying my own way are the only realities I've ever known. The Buddha's Dhamma has given me only peace and happiness for the last 25 years. Many blessings and best wishes to you Ayye!

  • @lizzieh5284
    @lizzieh5284 Год назад +7

    Thank you so much for your honest rendition of your journey.

  • @joanmarietsultrimparkin1821
    @joanmarietsultrimparkin1821 9 месяцев назад +2

    Ordained 32 years.. Yogini style is what occurred. We were not supported by
    the tibetan.patriarchy. in any way except ordaination
    So we became self.sufficient .Not monastic. Self .sufficient. We are a neurotic bunch. I am 75..
    I have.no regrets in seeking a life outside of the Box .. unlike the nun here I was a wife a mother a soldier a journalist and many other hats I wore.

  • @DorjePalmo
    @DorjePalmo 6 месяцев назад +4

    I hope to graduate as an acupuncturist and then ordain as a Buddhist nun. Hopefully somebody can grant me permission to be a nun and be an acupuncturist to impoverished people as well. But taking care of my health right now. I'm glad you inspire us!

  • @seidemsh
    @seidemsh 11 месяцев назад +6

    🙏Thank you for sharing your authentic experience. It seems like you are echoing some sentiments and observations shared by Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo. She acknowledges the difficulties of being an ordained nun in the West. I fully support your view, efforts, and journey. Thank you for all you do for all sentient beings. I've studied Tibetan Buddhism a bit over the years, but have just begun an actual practice. You are truly inspiring.

  • @mirsvima3
    @mirsvima3 9 месяцев назад +4

    This is very informative and eye opening. Thank you so much for sharing this. It's much needed.

  • @carollewis6989
    @carollewis6989 3 года назад +5

    Thank you for creating a new way. May blessing abound.

  • @worldview730
    @worldview730 9 месяцев назад +2

    A very Deep disturbing & revealing story, but necessary to move forward and heal/close the chasm between the sexes in the world.

  • @carlaisidoro2491
    @carlaisidoro2491 2 года назад +7

    I have just found your talks "by accident" and Im so glad I did. I've been looking for a more opened and inclusive approach to buddhism and l think you have created what I am looking for. Thank you for that and for being brave enough to question the status quo and create a system that is more fair to women. We deserve it. Do you give regular teachings online? Im interested in following.

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  2 года назад +1

      Hi Carla,
      We usually upload a class every 2 weeks on this chanel. I do events when invited.

    • @carlaisidoro2491
      @carlaisidoro2491 2 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 thank.you. Looking forward for the next talks. At the moment I dont have a sangha here in Portugal that I identify with, otherwise I would be glad to invite you to an online talk. But we never know what the future tells... I will think about possibilities.

    • @carlaisidoro2491
      @carlaisidoro2491 2 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 and anyway, in this talk you mentioned "lay monks". I never heard about it. How does a person become a lay monk/nun?

  • @athenassigil5820
    @athenassigil5820 Год назад +3

    You're like a modern day Alexandra David Neel! Strive to be your best, that is what you can do.

  • @racheljones9786
    @racheljones9786 10 месяцев назад +2

    Really interesting, thank you. I'm also on my buddism path. Suprised, saddned and grateful to hear your honesty about how women are viewed.....
    Thank you 🙏

  • @Mabatha
    @Mabatha 9 месяцев назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤😍😍😍😍🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @Asia-v4m
    @Asia-v4m 5 месяцев назад

    🌻🌻🌻🙏🌻🙏🌻🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @kyapruenumarma3006
    @kyapruenumarma3006 Год назад +3

    I'm a Buddhism in from Bangladesh Marmara indigenous. I proud of my Buddhist religion. Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Name Buddha🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹

  • @philbarone4603
    @philbarone4603 Месяц назад

    Wow, I’m shocked to hear some of this.

  • @vaishakhikamble6254
    @vaishakhikamble6254 3 года назад +3

    🌹vandami 🙏
    I am Vaishakhi... Student of pali and buddhisum. Am doing master of philosophy in buddhisum. I am buddhist. When I see you I really feel happy and excited to meet you. I am in Nagpur near Diksha Bhumi. I hope you replied me I think we do sumthing togethar. You are doing great thing... You understand the real Massge of bhagavan Buddha. Thanku so much 🌷🌺🌷🌺

  • @fionacrowe9216
    @fionacrowe9216 2 года назад +3

    Hi there are many things in this video that I have thought about over the years, particularly regarding cultural sexism in Buddhist communities and how western nuns support themselves financially. I wonder is there any such thing as an Ani Network? Or an online sangha that nuns can join?

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  2 года назад +2

      Hi Fiona I started the Kalyanamitra fund 20 years ago and its now a monastery. There is the non Himalayan nuns alliance, but they dint do much. There is the Alliance for Bhikkhunis that help theravada nuns but exclude everyone else. My advice would be just to support Western monasteries, of whichbthere ae only 3 in the world that dont charge us to stay.

  • @Merzui-kg8ds
    @Merzui-kg8ds 3 месяца назад

    To be clear, not all Buddhist monastics are celibate. There are monks who are married (in some traditions).

  • @havinfuntoday
    @havinfuntoday 15 дней назад

    🙏.

  • @AliciaMarkoe
    @AliciaMarkoe 8 месяцев назад +2

    thank you for what you are doing 🦋

  • @mirsvima3
    @mirsvima3 9 месяцев назад +1

    I love what you're saying.
    I realized some time ago that all well known enlightened people,guru's and such are men. And I always like to talk to people about it and ask why,how come? I know there's many reasons. What do you all think?

  • @samtinyhouse4701
    @samtinyhouse4701 3 года назад +6

    I found this really eye opening. I have been toying with becoming a buddhist nun in a different tradition for a while now, what are the safe schools or places you recommend to study at?

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  3 года назад +5

      Hi Sam,
      I have a monastery www.bodhicitta-monastery.com
      Plum Village in the tradition of Thich Nhat Hanh, ShravastiAbbey with Venerable Chodron if you like traditional Tibetan teaching style with a Western female abbess Thubten Chodron. Upaya Zen Centre if you would like a more informal "able to marry" Zen Ordination -Upaya USA

    • @samtinyhouse4701
      @samtinyhouse4701 3 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 Thank you so much!

    • @samtinyhouse4701
      @samtinyhouse4701 3 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 I wish there was something closer to where I live in Arizona 😊

    • @halcyon-cg2eb
      @halcyon-cg2eb 9 месяцев назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 Thich Nhat Han 🥰

  • @Che_Guna
    @Che_Guna 8 месяцев назад

    🙏☸️

  • @noonespecial4171
    @noonespecial4171 2 года назад +3

    Ajahn Sumedho and Ajahn Sucitto who created Siladhara Order. Ajahn Candasiri, she lives in Scotland now as she was refused full ordination. Its due to the Thai Sangha who refuses to acknowledge women as deserving of full ordination - we know Ajahn Brahm was excommunicated for going against the beliefs of the Sangha. Its not easy being in female form and I practice Forest Theravada Tradition due to the simplicity and as the Buddha lived - while aware the Bikkhunis in this tradition are severely marginalised so I'm torn there which makes practicing what the Buddha taught and what a bunch of male forms believe difficult. Its difficult to respect the male Ajahns and Lamas because they teach non-self Anatta, yet are heavily identified as male forms. A Theravada nun visiting Burma for example could be killed. Female monastics are not supported and are left open to abuse, unlike male monastics who are given all possible support. Bikkhunis like Venerable Canda are struggling to establish a monastery because of the Patriarchy system. Monks like Ajahn Sujato are making great progress with Bikkhunis in Australia and with also the Gay LGBT community, embracing all. I really like you, your heart is open and its so refreshing to hear a Buddhist Nun speak with full power and authority. You are a blessing and much needed figure for all to be inspired by. You make me feel included as a human. Not as an object. Metta.

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  2 года назад

      Hello, I agree, misogyny is still a huge problem. Nuns like Bhikkhuni Anandabodhi, Ayya Tathaloka, Ayya Hassapanya and others also need to be mentioned as working with Ajahn Sujato.

    • @noonespecial4171
      @noonespecial4171 2 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 Being a female form myself and older, I have sincerely tried to understand what the problem is concerning 'power' issues ... I believe its because we humans can bring nothing to earth, life, add to it, except for reproduction of new human forms, I suspect that male forms know they can not bring anything to earth, can not reproduce, so they cling to worldly power because for female forms to be able to reproduce AND be in full power of their own lives means males are simply used for seed and as a consort, as such. It doesn't seem to matter if a woman chooses celibacy and not to reproduce (as I have) my form represents a 'threat' to the male because he knows he truly has no genuine power. The female brain, heart is an endless source of love and giving, from a place that supports all. The societal constructs ensure that the 'dominant' males (white) are to uphold this code in order to be 'valid'. Yet the Buddha taught skillfulness and a monk who is suffering from cognitive dissonance is still attached to the worldly ideals/conventions. At the root, males feel useless and so attach to a semblance of power - pride. As you know, the Buddha only rejected the idea of female monastics due to the fact they would be living in the forest with all its dangers. Otherwise he was able to admit that females of course are able to realise Nibanna. It goes way back before the Patriarchy took hold, before the last ice age, when women fought, hunted and carried their babies while doing so, were nomadic, after the ice age women developed agriculture and settled in places, its here the development of women settling and males taking over agriculture where the roots of patriarchy were born. So what the Buddha teachs us about Sankaras and Vedanas and form as Anatta - the males are practicing transcending - while still attached to the fear of nothingness/an instrument of nature. We are a threat. Are encouraged/conditioned to be classified as a threat to survival (becoming) Simple as that. Blessings to you dear Sister, we are in this form as a blessing, not a curse, don't believe the narrative which we also have been conditioned to invest in, trust the Dhamma.

  • @moosmoosicformootualaid
    @moosmoosicformootualaid 6 месяцев назад +2

    yay thank you for lighting the way

  • @tomjohnson9095
    @tomjohnson9095 Год назад +4

    Your videos are really inspiring.

  • @amitsahare6777
    @amitsahare6777 3 года назад +2

    You are great......I always watch your video

  • @katarani9034
    @katarani9034 9 месяцев назад +1

    This is valuable for me to hear, as a woman if a woman has problems with women do not ordain in a nunnery. It all.ego in bread very bad. We care. Christmas ‘tis the season. Australian land Lion headed Dakini for myself and my husband. ❤

  • @VichirawatWein-ur4hs
    @VichirawatWein-ur4hs 10 месяцев назад +2

    Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu🙏

  • @LaetareIerusalem
    @LaetareIerusalem 10 месяцев назад +1

    You are speaking like from my heart

  • @rangari01
    @rangari01 3 года назад +2

    नमो बुद्धाय
    Namo Buddhay Bhikkuni 🙏🏻🙏🏽🙏🏿

  • @katrinna8426
    @katrinna8426 5 месяцев назад +1

    Your eyes are beautiful and you seem so peaceful. Sending love and gratitude for this video ❤😊

  • @petersullivan3467
    @petersullivan3467 2 года назад +1

    Is it uncommon for Buddhist monks to have a more secular approach?

  • @HBCrigs
    @HBCrigs 11 месяцев назад +1

    🏳‍⚧ thanks for your words i appreciate it

  • @lanascribe
    @lanascribe 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for this valuable insight. I wish you all the best on your path.

  • @thalweheranirodhamala2819
    @thalweheranirodhamala2819 Год назад +1

    I want to join with you I am sri Lankan Buddhist nun

  • @philbarone4603
    @philbarone4603 Месяц назад

    Would love to speak to this women

  • @matejaporenta3148
    @matejaporenta3148 2 года назад +2

    🌈✨🙏🕊️

  • @carmelbrain7399
    @carmelbrain7399 11 месяцев назад +1

    wonderful insights

  • @28105wsking
    @28105wsking 3 месяца назад

    I agree with everything you said. Western monastics must create their own way. In America, ordination is a very very very serious and dangerous decision. If you do not have independent means, I urge you NOT to get ordained. In this country you must work. The lamas all have job, even the great incarnations, and you must too. You must have medical insurance and retirement, investments and security first for your old age. If you know the teachings well enough, your job will be your monastery and your living practice until retirement, but if you give up working you are going to be in real trouble in every way. Conform to the pattern for a healthy, happy outcome and jump into a new type of renunciation. Being a homeless woman is not conducive to practice and is a serious danger in this uncertain economy. This is foundation time, so don’t feel bad about it. Help to build good foundations and all will be well for the future. HHDL told me, “ If everyone in your country works, you must work too.” I don’t see why we can’t figure out a way for monastics to work part time, from home, or off and on. But it is not healthy to think you can live as monastics of the past have done.

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  3 месяца назад

      I can understand that some nuns have no choice but to work, but I really disagree that this is conducive to the monastic life. We need lay people to be educated about the value of people who live in vows and who practice full time. If monastics live like lay people, there isn't much point in being a monastic and the whole tradition will be lost. Theravadin Westerners have many monasteries that thrive in the US. Its just a shift in educating lay people as well as less focus on Tibetan Lamas and a more balanced approach to value all monastics for the Dharma to take root in the West, we need the four fold sangha and we need people to support monasteries and places where people can practice full time. Being a monastic is hard and we will never have the problem of "what if everyone ordained." The protestant work ethic is not wjat the Buddha taught, its a capitalist fear tactic.

  • @Monster-wf7bh
    @Monster-wf7bh 7 месяцев назад

    I'm looking to be a Nun could u tell me how u became a nun? The process more in depth. I'm from England btw & I could use some guidance.

  • @lukemckean6155
    @lukemckean6155 9 месяцев назад +1

    Sadhu 🙏❤️💎

  • @spmoran4703
    @spmoran4703 Год назад +1

    Life as it is means that I am not finding time to meditate. I feel that as a nun I could do much . I can do celebrate and I can do meditation.

  • @racheljones9786
    @racheljones9786 10 месяцев назад +1

    Had to watch this three times as wasn't sure what to make of it..... I'm also on the buddist path and didn't know hardly anything about nuns. Also wondered about sexual abuse,etc and your post burst my bubble which I've been gutted about. Just watched it again and read peoples posts and now so grateful for your honesty. Dissolutioned to know sexual abuse does go on in the buddist communities , i suppose its obvious it would but I'm very dissallutioned dismayed and saddened.
    Thank you so much for your honestly and vision to challenge and bring nuns into the forefront of buddism.
    Namo buddhayo 🙏

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  10 месяцев назад +2

      Hi Rachel, sexual abuse is a fairly small portion and many Buddhist communities and teachers are good, I just have to be honest about the full spectrum. Its no more common in Buddhism than another community.

  • @ahinsak1993
    @ahinsak1993 3 года назад +1

    Okas vandami bhante 🙏

  • @mtran7
    @mtran7 9 месяцев назад +1

    Sadhu sadhu!

  • @orior3650
    @orior3650 8 месяцев назад

    we are all different vibrations / energies at different times / moods / state /hormones ... which is why not saying hello is okay and not "sexist"

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  8 месяцев назад +1

      Seeing someone and having a look of horror on ones face and then very deliberately turning around and walking away in the opposite direction is aversion and not equanimity. Making ones own issues with desire the burden women have to carry is also not wisdom.

    • @orior3650
      @orior3650 8 месяцев назад

      you have not mentioned the look of horror in your video@@bodhicittafoundation9473

  • @tribhuwanpriy8518
    @tribhuwanpriy8518 3 года назад +1

    Namo buddhay jay bhim 🙏🏻

  • @perrill5612
    @perrill5612 3 месяца назад

    Thank you, Venerable, these are invaluable insights. It takes great courage to step out of such a fixed, hierarchical system. But I could see in your eyes that you're not afraid of anything. ( Perhaps I should pray to be born as a woman in the next lifetime 🌻)

  • @spmoran4703
    @spmoran4703 Год назад +2

    I loved her story , maybe this is the life for me. I shall look into it more.

  • @sidhusalve1948
    @sidhusalve1948 3 года назад +1

    Tumhara contact number milega kya

  • @LaetareIerusalem
    @LaetareIerusalem 10 месяцев назад

    ♥️🙏♥️

  • @BuddhistMonkKhmer
    @BuddhistMonkKhmer Год назад

    🙏🙏🙏

  • @peaceful901
    @peaceful901 3 года назад

    Great

  • @urbaradhikari1539
    @urbaradhikari1539 2 года назад

    💙💝💙

  • @kevinjoseph517
    @kevinjoseph517 10 месяцев назад

    how many years has she been in buddhism?

  • @snehalsonawane4061
    @snehalsonawane4061 3 года назад

    VANDAMI MATA JI 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌕

  • @factspoken9062
    @factspoken9062 11 месяцев назад

    7.14 Tibetan teacher who advised you to wish for male life in next life is wrong. He mistakes Tibetan cultural view as that of Buddhism.
    Dalai Lama said "in Buddhism your family status, caste, creed, gender, tribe etc doesn't count"
    15. 33 you found the training "intellectual and dry" because you haven't finished the course. It is probably a gelug monastic institution. Their system is to finish all the intellectual and scriptual course before the contemplation, meditation, and the not-so-dry course starts.
    Traditionally nyingma sect takes you to non- intellectual course much faster. Each system has its own pros and cons

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  11 месяцев назад

      But the fact remains women are marginalised and have no real power in Tibetan Buddhism

    • @factspoken9062
      @factspoken9062 11 месяцев назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 Thats why Jetsuen Tenzin Palmo has initiated drive towards equality, it is a long road but in the right direction. I am sure you did many years of retreat, how many years and what lineage?

    • @mae9064
      @mae9064 2 месяца назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 and that’s sad 😞

  • @sudhirbodele6084
    @sudhirbodele6084 3 года назад

    JAY BHIM NAMO BHUDDHA

  • @bhavanareddy2157
    @bhavanareddy2157 2 года назад

    "venerable"iam 24 year old single women I have a strong desire to become a budhist nun please suggest me how to join or where to go whom should I meet for this...

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  2 года назад +2

      Hi Bhavana, Its hard in India. If you are in Nagpur there are many local temples but not good training. Best place to go would be Sri Lanka to train or Thailand, Venerable Dhammananda.

    • @bhavanareddy2157
      @bhavanareddy2157 2 года назад

      @@bodhicittafoundation9473 venerable can you be my teacher to attain this holy spiritual life path

  • @birsinghgautam3178
    @birsinghgautam3178 3 года назад

    I want to some more about bhante and her work namo buddhay

    • @bodhicittafoundation9473
      @bodhicittafoundation9473  3 года назад

      Hi Bir, on this chanel you will see a video called life in Red.. That has all my work in Nagpur and about life as a Western nun