Hope you all enjoyed watching my latest video! Although there are a few things I don't like about living in China, it's not enough to make me leave! Next week I'll be dropping a video sharing a few things I love about being in China. One of the things I love is having enough free time for self-care and improvement. One way I'm working on bettering myself is through therapy. Wherever you are in the world, you should have access to professional advice from a licensed therapist if you are feeling like you need it. Check out BetterHelp by clicking my link here to save 10% off your first month! www.betterhelp.com/aleeselightyear
Thanks for covering the issue with only native teachers being recruited by many companies! It is unfair, especially considering there are many native teachers that aren’t necessarily qualified or experienced in the area but get hired regardless 🙈😪
Great video as usual 😘😘. Aleese I have been wondering where you’ve been getting your hair done, cos I know it’s not easy for the Chinese to handle our Afro hair, so please take us on a ride these days when you go to get your hair done.
Thank you!!! I'm in the process now of editing a video about getting my hair braided. And I have no idea how a Chinese stylist would handle afro hair because I have never gone to one!! I refuse to let an untrained stylist try to experiment in my hair!!
I FEEEL THAT last point!...Took a TEFL course before coming over(to accompany my wife for her work). And just because I'm holding a Singaporean passport, I was denied ALL sorts of teaching opportunities-.-
I love that you started off with talking about the mental health situation! It’s so true that it is looked down upon here. I just hope that soon China will be able to accept those with mental disabilities and have more resources available for them.
I mean, the Covid situation in Shanghai right now is a perfect example. All the madness of forced lockdown, lack of food, working from home and miscommunication takes such a toll on peoples mental health. But once It’s over people are just expected to go back to their jobs and school as if they hadn’t just experienced something traumatic.
I am thankful that in the U.S., the conversations about mental health have increased greatly in the past couple of decades. I'm also thankful for technology that allows me to connect with my therapist. She is ABC, and she reminded me that the culture in China is to suppress negative emotions. While China is not the only country that has that tendency and while I don't agree with this tendency, it is helpful to keep that in mind when I am navigating and learning about how to live life in China. Temporary hate for me: Shanghai lockdown. Please end soon. Thank you again for your content and perspective!
The culture In China and eastern countries don't tend to suppress negative emotions but to deal with the situation positively and talk with your family, relatives or friends about whatever you are going through, in the West the family structure is mostly destroyed that's why the mental health industry has grown over there so much and the pharma companies and the systems there benefit greatly from that which is destructive to the individual and society as a whole.
As for schools requiring native speakers, I think it is understandable. Because we have too many local English teachers already, what's the point of hiring English teachers from non English speaking countries.😂😂Personally when I'm studying English, I prefer native speakers as my teachers.
Aleese, please do not apologise for the constructive criticisms. It is how some society move forward and improve itself and China is not an exception. It is good to do so and I am sure overtime the spitting will eventually stop as more and more of the older generations are told that it is not a good and pleasant sight. It is mindless and unfair criticisms that the Chinese will see that the basis is none other than racism. Stay safe and thank you for the video. Irrespective enjoy yourself and carpe diem in China.
you should first understand a society before you criticize it.If she doesnt speak fluent mandarin ( i dont know if she does or not ) she will never undstand the chinese people and you must always be prepared to be a Foreigner because thats what she is its not America and never will be. When you fly to a new area and you want to be there you have to learn to accept that country for where it currently is its called Respect. But if she cant deal with how she is treated there and it makes her feel uncomfortable she can go back to where she is comfortable.
@@edwardj3864 What atid nonsense. No country is beyond reproach including my motherland. The stupidity of quite a sizable proportion of Chinese, both men and women, in smoking is both reckless and stupid. Your comment is another another example that being Chinese is no antidote to stupidity.
@@edwardj3864 The other heinous practice of femicide of killing female offspring have rightly been outlawed by the Central government. Likewise the kidnapping of individual female by the rural folks for marriage should never be cordoned. In your stupidity and ignorance, you probably think this is customary and traditional to Chinese society. Let me assure you they're not. Never was and never should have been.
havent been living in china for long, i feel like the younger generations are changing China (the image of China) in fast or slow pace because of whatever reason it may be (studying/traveling overseas, internet, creativity, interactions with outside world, etc). this is a good thing - more awareness toward many things in general in life in China 😊
@@AleeseLightyear totally understand what ur saying too even tho Im not an expat in China - Im Chinese but living overseas (I studied and did work related to social work, so i do easily get what ur saying re mental health :) ) but mental health as a topic hidden or not being understood - this fact exists in more countries (ppl think if they are "stuck" or feel unwell, they wont be cluey about what may not be good in mental health aspect, they often think a good rest/sleep will help). also, social work (including counsling) has started taking its shape in recent years in China but maybe limited to big cities where more ppl studied this overseas or came from overseas with this background).
I’m loving your braids. That’s crazy that you had those people recording you in the bathroom. That’s so wrong on so many levels. Especially with a glove on that they might have been washing the toilet out with.
Thank you!!! It’s really frustrating when people seem to just forget what respect and get overly worked up when they see me. Some people just have to learn the hard way
I definitely relate to the first problem. Even as a Chinese myself, it is also very difficult and expensive to find an appropriate therapist or any institutions that can help me on this. If you choose to go to these public hospitals, doctors there would just ask you to do some test forms and give you some medicines immediately.
Absolutely! I am a Chinese-born student living in the UK and people in mainland China always give you a weird look when you talk about those mental health problems ( which are normal to say in Britain for example), even my parents. I don't know why. My grandmother, who is in her seventies, always indoctrinating me with those extreme views that having mental health issues are weird, and a healthy person will not even be psychologically unstable sometimes. Lack of education, low social awareness, and seniors indulging in their orthodox, conservative and stubborn views certainly made younger generations pay the price in terms of their mental health.
@@therealaugustine9849 I total understand what you said hahah. Sometimes people like us who are suffering from mental heath really need the support and understanding from our families the most, it hurts more when you find out they are not just showing zero empathy but also jduge you for how you feel.
I keep to myself and I don't like people touching me fr, so the personal space part would definitely be an issue. It's crazy how people think it's cool to walk up on you and start touching you and taking photos. Like, the bathroom incident... Hands would've been thrown and I would've went to jail!
You got admit that life is pretty easy for native English speakers sometimes. You don't even need to know any technical skills but you can still find a job in Asian countries as English teachers. You don't even need a legit bachelor's degree. But you can still earn way more money than local people and the cost of living is way cheaper than their original countries. Local English teachers can only earn 5000RMB per month or less, and they also need to experience fierce competition before getting that job.
the thing is I don't stand out that much bc I look Chinese and speaks it, but the habits I've developed living here in the west (personal space etc) does gives away that I'm just a foreigner that looks Chinese.
Spitting is one of my biggest pet peeves as well. I almost threw up on a plane from Beihai to Shanghai because the guy beside me kept spitting into his cup. Seriously, that story about the bathroom is so crazy!! What the heck goes through people's minds...
My dear Aleese.. mental health is taboo in the Asian pacific region period.. not just in China.. the issue is cultural.. i do not recommend any body to seek help in that part of the world if you have depression issue even if you can find a psychotherapist.. just avoid it.. their approach to mental health will make you feel worst.. i have bipolar.. i know what i'm talking about.. but than again that's just me.. but that insensitive physical touching sounds horrendous.. i'm so sorry to hear that.. but one can only hope it will get better as China opens up.. and foreigner no longer be looked at as something from outer-space.. they used to do that in other Asian countries a few decades ago.. but i think in China all that will recede much quicker.. may be before the decades ends.. in some place where there are plenty of foreigners its already a reality.. keep up the good work.. i always enjoy your very diplomatic video..
If you moved to live in Vietnam my native country, you would face the same cons. In Vietnam, people are curious about the differences especially about the hairs or skins. In Vietnam, personal privacy is not always respected, I hope one day you visit my native country. English teaching job in Vietnam is still good.
Sometimes it feels like ppl didn't learn much about how germs spread during covid. But we can't think too much about this....just an annoyance that can be avoided by wearing a mask
I am learning a lot from you. ❤️ Thank you for mentioning important topics like mental health, and China’s perspectives on native English speaker over those that have been in their shoes, and can learn from each-other. I agree with you that English is an international language. ❤️
For your *#1* you are definitely not out of luck. Try traditional Chinese medicine, because the herbs they use usually contain the same stuff as the drugs used in modern medicine, except in smaller and natural form which usually means much fewer side effects, and if you are experienced I don't have to tell you the side effects are the biggest problem with stuff like antidepressants.
You're right-- not out of luck and I have found success in finding the right mental health doctors and meds but I think for someone just coming to China and not knowing what to expect, it can be a struggle.
The thing is that if you want to learn English, especially speaking English, you don't necessarily need teachers to know a lot of grammar knowledge or teaching methods, all the local verified English teacher in public schools are like that. Just by chatting and having casual conversation with native speakers, your English can still improve a lot.
The 3rd can be avoid if you move to Shanghai. It's rare for a lot of Chinese ppl to see a foreigner, like my parents in my hometown may have never met people of other skin colors. and many old people have not received an education in the old time. Hope it can be better in the future.
nice to see ppl talking about actual issues experienced in China its good to see ppl talk about good things, but the bad things should be talked about too, so that others can at least have a grasp of what china is really like
You echoed my thoughts there regarding native level English speakers whose home language is not English. I am one of those. I always think that I am in a better position to teach English to non-speakers, precisely because I have the experience of learning English as an additional language, and had excellent teachers who did not just stick to the syllabus, but found ways of getting us to pick up the grammar naturally rather than through memorisation. I also actually did a one year university course called English Language Studies, as well as two years of English at university. which means that I know all there is to know about grammar, intonation and all the important goodies. That probably earned me a response, but I have no British or American accent. I sent a video to the school, in Korea, and never heard back from them again. I just assumed that my halfway British and half neutral accent was probably the reason they ghosted me. I think that grown ups (specifically Asians, in this context)trying to speak with an American accent, that they did not pick up as kids, sound really weird, and I find them harder to understand than an Asian speaking with an Asian or neutral accent. My country is regarded as having a neutral accent, and that’s why it has always been included, but lately it is not, probably because people/parents just want an American accent, even more than a British one. As for Australia!! I speak English fluently but often struggle to decipher the words when many Australians speak, thanks to their accent. It would be easier for everyone if they would just say that they want people of European descent, really.
In practice its "native English speakers" and/or those who look the way a native English speaker is 'supposed' to look like. The focus should be on qualifications, period. The ability to speak isn't the same as the ability to teach a language. I find value in a combination of native/non-native English speakers to be ideal. We have different strengths and insights to offer.
100000000% agree!! The insight of a non-native English speaker is so unmatched when it comes to understanding English grammar, or tips and tricks on how to "hack" English.
Some US/UK passport holders don’t speak “the best grammar”, you know those simple but very common errors that some US/UK jobs screen people out for. I follow a few TEFL teachers that teach in Asia, and often find myself “correcting them”, as if they can hear me through my screen.
Must be nice if you are young and naïve, and are oblivious and unaware that you don’t have freedom of speech, or have a right to a jury trial if you accused of a crime. Put maybe you live in a isolated unawareness.
@@AleeseLightyear you are a brave young lady, and I wish you good luck with and all the best, making a brave decision to live in China. Not everyone can make a move like that.
Some bond hell of honesty there. My worst is the loud throat-clearing in addition to spitting. I don't know what could be the cause but heavy smoking could be one of the contributing factors, especially among some elderly men. It's not very common among women and the younger generation who are non-smokers. I hope there will be an improvement in the future. Otherwise, China is such a wonderful country to be in.
@@AleeseLightyear It's really educational differences where they don't get taught manners and being polite. I believe the younger and more educated generation will learn better after COVID time when they will have more opportunities to meet and see more foreigners in their cities. The UK, US, AU, and a lot of countries always have a lot of foreigners and immigrants in a multicultural environment and I think that's also why Chinese are unaware and not used to the "lao wai" situation.
Thanks for saying that! I was very hesitant to speak about the negative things, but I want to paint an accurate picture of what life is really like here!
Great video. Me and my daughter watch you videos nonestop. You are so honest and so lovely. you skin looks amazing can you do skin care routine please! you Taboo unboxing was so helpful for me. Love from me and my family.
Hiiiii! Thank you sooo much for the love! You've made my day so much brighter!! As for my skin care routine, maybe I will do a video about that!! Thanks for the idea!
The "native speaker" thing really gets me. Also a teacher in an international school here in China. So many of my colleagues are not native speakers and are excellent educators. But unfortunately China has just tightened its rules for professional work permits...and now if you don't come from Australia, USA, UK or Canada they will not grant you a working permit for your visa.
hahahahahahahaha And here I thought that cutting in line was a thing of the past and forming a single file was something people have learned especially in the age of Covid and Covid testing...
Yeah, personal space is definitely something one has to get use to. I was born in China, moved to the States at 12 years old. Going back to China now, I am still not really use to the concept of smaller personal space.
@@AleeseLightyear China has much more mountains, so the habitable area is much less compared with the States, while it is over four times more populated. Larger personal space is also important to us, but it is also luxury for us.
Thank you for sharing your Journey with us I believe things are going to get super better for you. I love your beautiful heart and personality and being courageous I think China has besides some it flaws has a certain beauty and uniqueness to it.. I'll love to move and live another country for a certain period of time (I have a natural high and desire to travel the world). I'm curious why you decided to move to China if you don't mind me asking?
I have also heard that some people from Russia or Ukraine who speak bad English but still pretending like native speakers and earn a lot of money in China. That happened a lot especially in small cities.
lol my supervisor and I onced visited Beijing and went to the Forbiden City, he was asked to take photo with A LOT, and he joked that he's a celebrity now in China
LOL I can relate some of your bad experiences when we were in China 2016-2017. For mental health issue, not sure in BJ, but you can find HK/Shenzhen University Hospital in Shenzhen. This hospital is running by HK University and private. It's very affordable for expats without insurance. Most of the Chinese you had encountered while traveling around China were old and not much of educated, was I correct? In SZ/Guangzhou/SH, people were going daily businesses without even notice who you are. There are so many expats on those big cities. Most of the younger generations in those big cities are very polite and helpful when asking for assistances. I think it will better for you taken a break and coming back to States after 3 years away from home. There is so much demanding of teachers now in CA and other states but preparing for shocking high cost of living! In short, it's good that you let it out in this video and nothing wrong with it, totally supporting you!
People always assume that bad or annoying experiences come from old and uneducated people. This is not always the case. Young adults constantly ask for photos so they can look cool posing with a black foreigner. Young kids see me and yell "foreigner!!!" Adults who can speak English come up to me asking crazy questions. This happens in Beijing on a regular basis, doesn't matter if they see foreigners everyday or not lol!!! Just wanted to get that out there! BUT very happy to hear that about affordable mental heath care in the south!
I would flip out as well if somebody with a cleaning glove stuck in freaking hair! That deserves a slap you are cleaning a toilet and you are touching me gross.
Re: Mental health, in many parts of the world there are significant and well resourced mental health systems, but they deal with severe mental health conditions that disrupt social function and daily living or pose a risk to life and safety. Not every culture sees relationship problems, dissatisfaction, or general anxiety as mental health problems, or view psychophaceuticals as comsumer products that should have a mass market. And this of course sidesteps massive cultural differences in what is "mental" health, what different conditions look like, etc.
This is what I thought too. Asians have usually very strong family ties that we don't deal similar a gravity of a problem as the west. But it is creeping in and Asians are slowly catching up especially in urban cities. Not as fast or at the same level of awareness as the west but it's slowly improving.
om gosh ur so articulate! i enjoyed hearing ur comments about things you hate/dislike - there are reasons explaining why if we look at things in China context. There are certainly things for improvement for sure - having said that, its not consistent if you compare places in China & who you come across - it varies hugely depending on many factors. more and more ppl study or travel overseas, things will change in the way they look at the world/the diversity/the differences, etc. Thanks for sharing your experiences :)
Sorry but you can't beat native speakers. You can tell the difference. Non natives just don't understand idioms, nuance etc. China is right to prefer native speakers.
I think it's important for students to be exposed to qualified teachers who are not native speakers. Everyone learns differently and I believe that non native teachers could have the ability to tap into the different ways of explaining and demonstrating things, in a way that maybe, a native english speaker wouldn't. Plus it's vital for students to recognize and understand that English is an international language that millions people speak and we all sound different, so it's totally acceptable to learn from teachers who have different accents outside of British, Australian, South African and American.
Four minutes out of a 12 minute vlog devoted to your sponsor IS excessive imho. Otherwise a good video that encapsulated some of my own pet peeves on living in China when I lived there pre-Covid.
Couldn't stop laughing when you imitated the sound of your second point. I agree with you, it is extremely annoying and eyesore to watch someone spitting and making irritating throat sound especially in public places. Hope they can improved on these aspects through public awareness. Btw, enjoyed the video.
Hi Aleese, love your videos! Good to know from one of your videos that you are from Detroit. I’ve been living in and near Detroit for almost ten years. Due to covid, I also haven’t gone back home for almost three years. I totally agree with most of your “complaints” in this video, such as cutting lines, spitting and being way too “curious” about things or people without boundaries. Anyway, good luck for your time there! Happy Halloween 🎃🎃
I hope your enjoying the Michigan fall!! I miss driving around and looking at the trees! Fall is lovely in Beijing too, but nothing beats Michigan in my eyes.
Absolute agree what you saying in the video, especially the problem of lacking mental health problem. Sometimes Chinese parents do not treat depression as a mental health disease but a type of histrionic way to express 'unhappy' or 'complaining'. This is totally WRONG! However, thanks for the internet and the young generations, more people are getting noticed about the mental health problems, hope everything can be improved! Thanks for sharing your experience with us Aleese!
Thanks for agreeing! You totally understand the problem, it can get really sad and people have no where to turn. I know that lots of international schools have therapists, counselors and outlets for students so I hope that is something public schools will implement in the future.
Omg I can totally relate to you about the spitting and over crowed place where some asian people are so rude an will run you over without even saying “excuse me”
Watching a lot of your videos lately. Love them!! I'm a Chinese living abroad. I can't agree more about the spitting. I used to live in Beijing for 4 years and felt the condition is better in certain college-y districts where there're high density of young people. But splitting does happen a lot... whenever i witnessed one that just ruined my mood and I can't help but angrily glared at them haha
@@AleeseLightyear I live in NYC ^ ^. I can't compliment the cleanliness here haha. But before NYC I lived in a California suburb which has ZERO spitting!
hahah thanks for making me feel NORMAL! There's a lot of defensive people in the comments today and it's nice to hear that we're on the same page. When I talk to my Chinese friends and coworkers, we all share the same feelings about these issues too
Totally valid points. About spitting: Don't they have a lot of surveillance cameras around everywhere and facial recognition technologies? They should those into use for catching spitters and fining them! Also sorry about being treated as a spectacle - I wish I could make a Chinese video to persuade them not to do that....
Asia is a bit late in mental health awareness because it is not as prevalent in Asia, at least when compared to Western countries. In general, we almost always have the whole extended family and neighbors to talk to - grandma, grandpa, auntie, uncle, mother, father, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, cousins and everyone else usually live close together. That's one big support system. Families are close-knit and views on privacy usually is very different in the west. Such that it gets annoying at times. So there are people we can share our emotions with. Talking to neighbors is quite normal too and even a past time - neighbors are easily considered family and would gather around in the afternoons to just talk. Kids play in streets with other kids everyday and it is not considered weird. There are basketball courts in streets where teens go and play together. Neighbors know a lot about each other such that they are not considered strangers. But yeah, in urban cities where life is more fast-paced and people live away from family, it can be different - it gets lonely and people come and go. Social media is also keeping people out from engaging with people face to face now especially younger people, so that too is changing the landscape. No need to apologise Aleese! Asia is getting there!
I totally understand what you're saying. I think as a teacher to older students I see a lot of young people struggling with anxiety and depression and they have no where to turn. Their problems can be brushed off as "they are students and this is what they have to endure" when that is not always the case. I do see a lot of changes in schools happening so I know it will take time.
4:37 Aleese come to Malaysia and Indonesia you will find the same 😂😂😂 lol. 7:17 lol well. People just amazed by how beautiful you are to be honest. I understand them, it's just cultural gap. not to belittle you and not respect you. Just amazed by you. In southeast Asia itself, if you don't respect people or underestimate someone, we will totally ignore that person, just like a garbage, not valuable. It's just the way of respond how people amaze to us is different. That's all I can say. And I understand how you feel annoyed by that. Hope everything will be oke with you. Have a nice day Aleese. 10:53 I think it is school's policy, not government rule. Lol Southeast Asia also do the same. But not Malaysian or Indonesian government who decide to only hire native speaker, but the school management arrange it.
I had to laugh about being the focus of attention for looking different. I'm white but have red hair-a magnet for whole families with or without cameras. Never got ganged up on in a bathroom, though. That would freak me out, too.
@@AleeseLightyear I didn't know enough Chinese to communicate when I was there, but whole families would cluster around me, giggle, and take pix. One family in a park dragged me over to a stand where a guy was printing out photos and they gave me a print of one they'd taken. All in good fun.
Loved the video as always aleese! I agree about how nowhere is perfect and everywhere has its positive and negatives! I always wondered how their locals react to seeing foreigners when they are in lockdown and even though It sucks, I do kinda see where they are coming from. I also from ny btw! Hoping to one day to visit China as well!
I love how you handle yourself with class and grace especially when placed or having to endure uncomfortable situations! Touching someone without their consent is not acceptable in any culture! SMH Tfs
100 years of colonial humiliation, civil war, become an illiterate society, experience a lot of hardship and suffering, During those hard times if compared to the westen world they literally falling behind in many ways, Understand bit more and have patience ,I'm sure they will improve and constant change ,think about it only been 40 years of development still a lot of room for improvement , Worry free they're quick learners that's why the government itself insist schools to hire as many as possible foreign teachers to teach them specially the young generation, you'll see in the near future China will become one of the prestige well respectfully society bec. they love to learn and improve !
Hope you all enjoyed watching my latest video! Although there are a few things I don't like about living in China, it's not enough to make me leave! Next week I'll be dropping a video sharing a few things I love about being in China. One of the things I love is having enough free time for self-care and improvement. One way I'm working on bettering myself is through therapy.
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Thanks for covering the issue with only native teachers being recruited by many companies! It is unfair, especially considering there are many native teachers that aren’t necessarily qualified or experienced in the area but get hired regardless 🙈😪
I totally agree! It's very unfair and and qualifications should come before home country!
Thank you for making this video!! My husband and I are watching and agreeing with literally everything you're saying.
Great video as usual 😘😘. Aleese I have been wondering where you’ve been getting your hair done, cos I know it’s not easy for the Chinese to handle our Afro hair, so please take us on a ride these days when you go to get your hair done.
Thank you!!!
I'm in the process now of editing a video about getting my hair braided. And I have no idea how a Chinese stylist would handle afro hair because I have never gone to one!! I refuse to let an untrained stylist try to experiment in my hair!!
I FEEEL THAT last point!...Took a TEFL course before coming over(to accompany my wife for her work). And just because I'm holding a Singaporean passport, I was denied ALL sorts of teaching opportunities-.-
I'm so sorry that you had such a shit experience. It really is crazy and unfair that you couldn't find work.
I love that you started off with talking about the mental health situation! It’s so true that it is looked down upon here. I just hope that soon China will be able to accept those with mental disabilities and have more resources available for them.
I mean, the Covid situation in Shanghai right now is a perfect example. All the madness of forced lockdown, lack of food, working from home and miscommunication takes such a toll on peoples mental health. But once
It’s over people are just expected to go back to their jobs and school as if they hadn’t just experienced something traumatic.
@@AleeseLightyear Shanghai’s response is absolutely catastrophic.
I am thankful that in the U.S., the conversations about mental health have increased greatly in the past couple of decades. I'm also thankful for technology that allows me to connect with my therapist. She is ABC, and she reminded me that the culture in China is to suppress negative emotions. While China is not the only country that has that tendency and while I don't agree with this tendency, it is helpful to keep that in mind when I am navigating and learning about how to live life in China. Temporary hate for me: Shanghai lockdown. Please end soon. Thank you again for your content and perspective!
The culture In China and eastern countries don't tend to suppress negative emotions but to deal with the situation positively and talk with your family, relatives or friends about whatever you are going through, in the West the family structure is mostly destroyed that's why the mental health industry has grown over there so much and the pharma companies and the systems there benefit greatly from that which is destructive to the individual and society as a whole.
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Good lighting and lots of makeup!
Stop it you’re beautiful and you know it ❤️🥰
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As for schools requiring native speakers, I think it is understandable. Because we have too many local English teachers already, what's the point of hiring English teachers from non English speaking countries.😂😂Personally when I'm studying English, I prefer native speakers as my teachers.
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吐痰这个我也受不了,老一代的陋习
It’s just so gross
Im sorry love but the country doesnt need to change to accomadate you but also you should not be disrespected i do agree with you on that.
Hopefully I will also working at a camp this summer to make some extra $$
Aleese, please do not apologise for the constructive criticisms. It is how some society move forward and improve itself and China is not an exception. It is good to do so and I am sure overtime the spitting will eventually stop as more and more of the older generations are told that it is not a good and pleasant sight. It is mindless and unfair criticisms that the Chinese will see that the basis is none other than racism. Stay safe and thank you for the video. Irrespective enjoy yourself and carpe diem in China.
you should first understand a society before you criticize it.If she doesnt speak fluent mandarin ( i dont know if she does or not ) she will never undstand the chinese people and you must always be prepared to be a Foreigner because thats what she is its not America and never will be. When you fly to a new area and you want to be there you have to learn to accept that country for where it currently is its called Respect. But if she cant deal with how she is treated there and it makes her feel uncomfortable she can go back to where she is comfortable.
@@edwardj3864 What atid nonsense. No country is beyond reproach including my motherland. The stupidity of quite a sizable proportion of Chinese, both men and women, in smoking is both reckless and stupid. Your comment is another another example that being Chinese is no antidote to stupidity.
@@edwardj3864 The other heinous practice of femicide of killing female offspring have rightly been outlawed by the Central government. Likewise the kidnapping of individual female by the rural folks for marriage should never be cordoned. In your stupidity and ignorance, you probably think this is customary and traditional to Chinese society. Let me assure you they're not. Never was and never should have been.
havent been living in china for long, i feel like the younger generations are changing China (the image of China) in fast or slow pace because of whatever reason it may be (studying/traveling overseas, internet, creativity, interactions with outside world, etc). this is a good thing - more awareness toward many things in general in life in China 😊
I agree with you 100%!!! As a South African living in China I’ve experienced all of the things you’ve mentioned.
Comments from other expats in China are the best! Cus you ALREADY know what it's like! Happy to paint an accurate picture
@@AleeseLightyear totally understand what ur saying too even tho Im not an expat in China - Im Chinese but living overseas (I studied and did work related to social work, so i do easily get what ur saying re mental health :) ) but mental health as a topic hidden or not being understood - this fact exists in more countries (ppl think if they are "stuck" or feel unwell, they wont be cluey about what may not be good in mental health aspect, they often think a good rest/sleep will help). also, social work (including counsling) has started taking its shape in recent years in China but maybe limited to big cities where more ppl studied this overseas or came from overseas with this background).
I’m loving your braids. That’s crazy that you had those people recording you in the bathroom. That’s so wrong on so many levels. Especially with a glove on that they might have been washing the toilet out with.
Thank you!!! It’s really frustrating when people seem to just forget what respect and get overly worked up when they see me. Some people just have to learn the hard way
I definitely relate to the first problem. Even as a Chinese myself, it is also very difficult and expensive to find an appropriate therapist or any institutions that can help me on this. If you choose to go to these public hospitals, doctors there would just ask you to do some test forms and give you some medicines immediately.
Absolutely! I am a Chinese-born student living in the UK and people in mainland China always give you a weird look when you talk about those mental health problems ( which are normal to say in Britain for example), even my parents. I don't know why. My grandmother, who is in her seventies, always indoctrinating me with those extreme views that having mental health issues are weird, and a healthy person will not even be psychologically unstable sometimes. Lack of education, low social awareness, and seniors indulging in their orthodox, conservative and stubborn views certainly made younger generations pay the price in terms of their mental health.
@@therealaugustine9849 I total understand what you said hahah. Sometimes people like us who are suffering from mental heath really need the support and understanding from our families the most, it hurts more when you find out they are not just showing zero empathy but also jduge you for how you feel.
I keep to myself and I don't like people touching me fr, so the personal space part would definitely be an issue. It's crazy how people think it's cool to walk up on you and start touching you and taking photos. Like, the bathroom incident... Hands would've been thrown and I would've went to jail!
It's very crazy how respect and personal space just go out the window when people see me. It's like they are hypnotized by my presence hahahaha
You got admit that life is pretty easy for native English speakers sometimes. You don't even need to know any technical skills but you can still find a job in Asian countries as English teachers. You don't even need a legit bachelor's degree. But you can still earn way more money than local people and the cost of living is way cheaper than their original countries. Local English teachers can only earn 5000RMB per month or less, and they also need to experience fierce competition before getting that job.
I am Chinese citizen living in China and I agree with every thing you said especially after living in US for 12 years. It’s just annoying
the thing is I don't stand out that much bc I look Chinese and speaks it, but the habits I've developed living here in the west (personal space etc) does gives away that I'm just a foreigner that looks Chinese.
True ,good English shouldn’t be based on country but weather They took English as an official language in school 🏫
I wish more people here believed that!
Spitting is one of my biggest pet peeves as well. I almost threw up on a plane from Beihai to Shanghai because the guy beside me kept spitting into his cup. Seriously, that story about the bathroom is so crazy!! What the heck goes through people's minds...
Very true about HEEEEAAAAA.... DUUUU.... Can hear that everywhere
I love your honesty.
The spitting…it’s a no for me. 🤪💦🚫
Honesty is the best policy!!
@@AleeseLightyear Totally agreed.
That's a issue, the mental health aspect because it is something I struggle with.
My dear Aleese.. mental health is taboo in the Asian pacific region period.. not just in China.. the issue is cultural.. i do not recommend any body to seek help in that part of the world if you have depression issue even if you can find a psychotherapist.. just avoid it.. their approach to mental health will make you feel worst.. i have bipolar.. i know what i'm talking about.. but than again that's just me.. but that insensitive physical touching sounds horrendous.. i'm so sorry to hear that.. but one can only hope it will get better as China opens up.. and foreigner no longer be looked at as something from outer-space.. they used to do that in other Asian countries a few decades ago.. but i think in China all that will recede much quicker.. may be before the decades ends.. in some place where there are plenty of foreigners its already a reality.. keep up the good work.. i always enjoy your very diplomatic video..
Thanks for your honesty in the comment.
If you moved to live in Vietnam my native country, you would face the same cons. In Vietnam, people are curious about the differences especially about the hairs or skins. In Vietnam, personal privacy is not always respected, I hope one day you visit my native country. English teaching job in Vietnam is still good.
Ur not wrong. OMG it's abolutely insane and sometime they don't cover when they sneeze or cough on you.
Sometimes it feels like ppl didn't learn much about how germs spread during covid. But we can't think too much about this....just an annoyance that can be avoided by wearing a mask
Haaayyyy.... I can really relate re: teaching jobs in China. Hopefully, that mindset of hiring "native speakers only" will change soon!
It's really frustrating to have to deal with!
I am learning a lot from you. ❤️ Thank you for mentioning important topics like mental health, and China’s perspectives on native English speaker over those that have been in their shoes, and can learn from each-other. I agree with you that English is an international language. ❤️
So happy that you enjoyed this video! I think some of these topics are rarely talked about by expats living here and transparency is soooo important!
For your *#1* you are definitely not out of luck.
Try traditional Chinese medicine, because the herbs they use usually contain the same stuff as the drugs used in modern medicine, except in smaller and natural form which usually means much fewer side effects, and if you are experienced I don't have to tell you the side effects are the biggest problem with stuff like antidepressants.
You're right-- not out of luck and I have found success in finding the right mental health doctors and meds but I think for someone just coming to China and not knowing what to expect, it can be a struggle.
The thing is that if you want to learn English, especially speaking English, you don't necessarily need teachers to know a lot of grammar knowledge or teaching methods, all the local verified English teacher in public schools are like that. Just by chatting and having casual conversation with native speakers, your English can still improve a lot.
From a second language native level English speaker, you are absolutely right.
You have some good points here, no country is perfect. I hope you do enjoy the good thing staying there, all the best!
Thank you for recognizing that!!!
The 3rd can be avoid if you move to Shanghai. It's rare for a lot of Chinese ppl to see a foreigner, like my parents in my hometown may have never met people of other skin colors. and many old people have not received an education in the old time. Hope it can be better in the future.
I was annoyed!! After a long day of travel and exploring.....I just wanted to chill lol
nice to see ppl talking about actual issues experienced in China
its good to see ppl talk about good things, but the bad things should be talked about too, so that others can at least have a grasp of what china is really like
Thanks for saying that!! It's definitely important for me to be transparent cus it's not all rainbows and butterflies out here!
You echoed my thoughts there regarding native level English speakers whose home language is not English. I am one of those. I always think that I am in a better position to teach English to non-speakers, precisely because I have the experience of learning English as an additional language, and had excellent teachers who did not just stick to the syllabus, but found ways of getting us to pick up the grammar naturally rather than through memorisation.
I also actually did a one year university course called English Language Studies, as well as two years of English at university. which means that I know all there is to know about grammar, intonation and all the important goodies. That probably earned me a response, but I have no British or American accent. I sent a video to the school, in Korea, and never heard back from them again. I just assumed that my halfway British and half neutral accent was probably the reason they ghosted me.
I think that grown ups (specifically Asians, in this context)trying to speak with an American accent, that they did not pick up as kids, sound really weird, and I find them harder to understand than an Asian speaking with an Asian or neutral accent.
My country is regarded as having a neutral accent, and that’s why it has always been included, but lately it is not, probably because people/parents just want an American accent, even more than a British one.
As for Australia!! I speak English fluently but often struggle to decipher the words when many Australians speak, thanks to their accent.
It would be easier for everyone if they would just say that they want people of European descent, really.
In practice its "native English speakers" and/or those who look the way a native English speaker is 'supposed' to look like. The focus should be on qualifications, period. The ability to speak isn't the same as the ability to teach a language.
I find value in a combination of native/non-native English speakers to be ideal. We have different strengths and insights to offer.
100000000% agree!! The insight of a non-native English speaker is so unmatched when it comes to understanding English grammar, or tips and tricks on how to "hack" English.
Some US/UK passport holders don’t speak “the best grammar”, you know those simple but very common errors that some US/UK jobs screen people out for. I follow a few TEFL teachers that teach in Asia, and often find myself “correcting them”, as if they can hear me through my screen.
You are hilarious! I can relate to too much of this.
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totally agree all points! even I'm Chinese. luckily new generations are getting better and better
Great video Aleese, from spitting to touching our hair, lack of personal space and the ESL industry being rigid.
Yes! Thank you!
Must be nice if you are young and naïve, and are oblivious and unaware that you don’t have freedom of speech, or have a right to a jury trial if you accused of a crime. Put maybe you live in a isolated unawareness.
hmm......so am I supposed to but those things on the list of things I hate about living in China?
@@AleeseLightyear you are a brave young lady, and I wish you good luck with and all the best, making a brave decision to live in China. Not everyone can make a move like that.
Some bond hell of honesty there. My worst is the loud throat-clearing in addition to spitting. I don't know what could be the cause but heavy smoking could be one of the contributing factors, especially among some elderly men. It's not very common among women and the younger generation who are non-smokers. I hope there will be an improvement in the future. Otherwise, China is such a wonderful country to be in.
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Good video
还有部分中国人对外国人的态度,像参观动物园里的动物一样,很不礼貌。无论如何,现在中国的年轻人不断在变好
不幸的是,我认为一些像对待外国人这样的坏习惯也会传给年轻一代。
@@AleeseLightyear It's really educational differences where they don't get taught manners and being polite. I believe the younger and more educated generation will learn better after COVID time when they will have more opportunities to meet and see more foreigners in their cities. The UK, US, AU, and a lot of countries always have a lot of foreigners and immigrants in a multicultural environment and I think that's also why Chinese are unaware and not used to the "lao wai" situation.
Brilliant opinions!! Nowadays fewer and fewer people dare talk about negative ideas publicly. We really need this kind of voice!
Thanks for saying that! I was very hesitant to speak about the negative things, but I want to paint an accurate picture of what life is really like here!
@@AleeseLightyear No worries. I am a Chinese, I love your objectiveness.
Great video. Me and my daughter watch you videos nonestop. You are so honest and so lovely.
you skin looks amazing can you do skin care routine please!
you Taboo unboxing was so helpful for me.
Love from me and my family.
Hiiiii! Thank you sooo much for the love! You've made my day so much brighter!! As for my skin care routine, maybe I will do a video about that!! Thanks for the idea!
The "native speaker" thing really gets me. Also a teacher in an international school here in China. So many of my colleagues are not native speakers and are excellent educators. But unfortunately China has just tightened its rules for professional work permits...and now if you don't come from Australia, USA, UK or Canada they will not grant you a working permit for your visa.
hahahahahahahaha And here I thought that cutting in line was a thing of the past and forming a single file was something people have learned especially in the age of Covid and Covid testing...
Single file lines when Covid testing are pretty normal, but lines in the supermarket or at the airport can get unruly really quick!
Yeah, personal space is definitely something one has to get use to. I was born in China, moved to the States at 12 years old. Going back to China now, I am still not really use to the concept of smaller personal space.
It's definitely a huge adjustment. Maybe in a country of a billion people, personal space just isn't that important to people, I guess?
@@AleeseLightyear China has much more mountains, so the habitable area is much less compared with the States, while it is over four times more populated. Larger personal space is also important to us, but it is also luxury for us.
Thank you for sharing your Journey with us I believe things are going to get super better for you. I love your beautiful heart and personality and being courageous I think China has besides some it flaws has a certain beauty and uniqueness to it.. I'll love to move and live another country for a certain period of time (I have a natural high and desire to travel the world). I'm curious why you decided to move to China if you don't mind me asking?
Intrusive and common sense doesn’t exist everywhere. I’ve been to several countries and have never experienced that. You are good I couldn’t do w
Also, triggered by the bathroom attendant story…I got a full on BUTT GRAB while washing my hands in a mall I worked in 😤😩
I have also heard that some people from Russia or Ukraine who speak bad English but still pretending like native speakers and earn a lot of money in China. That happened a lot especially in small cities.
lol my supervisor and I onced visited Beijing and went to the Forbiden City, he was asked to take photo with A LOT, and he joked that he's a celebrity now in China
Lol that’s a feeling I know so well! I wonder how many photos he appeared in!!
Lol. I’m 2nd generation chinese living in US. Spitting is soooo gross.
LOL I can relate some of your bad experiences when we were in China 2016-2017. For mental health issue, not sure in BJ, but you can find HK/Shenzhen University Hospital in Shenzhen. This hospital is running by HK University and private. It's very affordable for expats without insurance. Most of the Chinese you had encountered while traveling around China were old and not much of educated, was I correct? In SZ/Guangzhou/SH, people were going daily businesses without even notice who you are. There are so many expats on those big cities. Most of the younger generations in those big cities are very polite and helpful when asking for assistances. I think it will better for you taken a break and coming back to States after 3 years away from home. There is so much demanding of teachers now in CA and other states but preparing for shocking high cost of living! In short, it's good that you let it out in this video and nothing wrong with it, totally supporting you!
People always assume that bad or annoying experiences come from old and uneducated people. This is not always the case. Young adults constantly ask for photos so they can look cool posing with a black foreigner. Young kids see me and yell "foreigner!!!" Adults who can speak English come up to me asking crazy questions. This happens in Beijing on a regular basis, doesn't matter if they see foreigners everyday or not lol!!! Just wanted to get that out there!
BUT very happy to hear that about affordable mental heath care in the south!
I would flip out as well if somebody with a cleaning glove stuck in freaking hair! That deserves a slap you are cleaning a toilet and you are touching me gross.
Re: Mental health, in many parts of the world there are significant and well resourced mental health systems, but they deal with severe mental health conditions that disrupt social function and daily living or pose a risk to life and safety. Not every culture sees relationship problems, dissatisfaction, or general anxiety as mental health problems, or view psychophaceuticals as comsumer products that should have a mass market. And this of course sidesteps massive cultural differences in what is "mental" health, what different conditions look like, etc.
This is what I thought too. Asians have usually very strong family ties that we don't deal similar a gravity of a problem as the west. But it is creeping in and Asians are slowly catching up especially in urban cities. Not as fast or at the same level of awareness as the west but it's slowly improving.
om gosh ur so articulate! i enjoyed hearing ur comments about things you hate/dislike - there are reasons explaining why if we look at things in China context. There are certainly things for improvement for sure - having said that, its not consistent if you compare places in China & who you come across - it varies hugely depending on many factors. more and more ppl study or travel overseas, things will change in the way they look at the world/the diversity/the differences, etc. Thanks for sharing your experiences :)
Sorry but you can't beat native speakers. You can tell the difference. Non natives just don't understand idioms, nuance etc. China is right to prefer native speakers.
I think it's important for students to be exposed to qualified teachers who are not native speakers. Everyone learns differently and I believe that non native teachers could have the ability to tap into the different ways of explaining and demonstrating things, in a way that maybe, a native english speaker wouldn't. Plus it's vital for students to recognize and understand that English is an international language that millions people speak and we all sound different, so it's totally acceptable to learn from teachers who have different accents outside of British, Australian, South African and American.
Four minutes out of a 12 minute vlog devoted to your sponsor IS excessive imho. Otherwise a good video that encapsulated some of my own pet peeves on living in China when I lived there pre-Covid.
Appreciate your opinion
4 great points. Would have loved to see their faces when you lost it 😂 😂 they Out of order
Couldn't stop laughing when you imitated the sound of your second point. I agree with you, it is extremely annoying and eyesore to watch someone spitting and making irritating throat sound especially in public places. Hope they can improved on these aspects through public awareness. Btw, enjoyed the video.
Ohhhhhh I love your hair
I need you to stay 2more years I was talking to my husband and seeing If I can come visit a week next summer?
Please do!
Hello. New subscriber here, love your personality.
Now, you know what it feels like to be celebrity. 😆
that's one way to look at it lol
Beautiful video 😍
Thank you! Cheers!
The native speaker point does not get brought up enough! You elaborated that so well! 💚
Glad you think so!!! It's disheartening to see so many qualified people get passed over because of their nationality!!
Hi Aleese, love your videos! Good to know from one of your videos that you are from Detroit. I’ve been living in and near Detroit for almost ten years. Due to covid, I also haven’t gone back home for almost three years. I totally agree with most of your “complaints” in this video, such as cutting lines, spitting and being way too “curious” about things or people without boundaries. Anyway, good luck for your time there! Happy Halloween 🎃🎃
I hope your enjoying the Michigan fall!! I miss driving around and looking at the trees! Fall is lovely in Beijing too, but nothing beats Michigan in my eyes.
Are you kidding it's a commercial....
You know you can skip right thru that part if it bothers you so much 🙃
Totally agreed. Spitting in public is absolutely gross. Fortunately, the younger generation in China has much better social manners than the elder's.
A fair assessment. Having watched your video and many expat videos... I still want to (re) visit China! 🚀
You should! Hope it's a possibility to visit in the near future!
I think your video is really interesting. Lots of love from Monterrey, Mexico 💕
Thank you so much!!
Absolute agree what you saying in the video, especially the problem of lacking mental health problem. Sometimes Chinese parents do not treat depression as a mental health disease but a type of histrionic way to express 'unhappy' or 'complaining'. This is totally WRONG! However, thanks for the internet and the young generations, more people are getting noticed about the mental health problems, hope everything can be improved! Thanks for sharing your experience with us Aleese!
Thanks for agreeing! You totally understand the problem, it can get really sad and people have no where to turn. I know that lots of international schools have therapists, counselors and outlets for students so I hope that is something public schools will implement in the future.
Great video 👍
Thanks 👍
Strongly hope you can join china's congress
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my husband is chinese and his and his families ideas on mental health issues is just bewildering to me everytime...
I hope you guys are able to talk together and find some common ground.
Thank you for saying the truth, not a big fan of China tho.
It's not for everyone
Omg I can totally relate to you about the spitting and over crowed place where some asian people are so rude an will run you over without even saying “excuse me”
it can be soooo annoying at times!
All valid concerns :) You don't have to love everything about China - just tell the truth.
No one likes 100% of anything....except Cheese Itz cus they are perfect in every way lol!
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The disrespect of personal space would set me off. And I see you, getting that sponsorship! So happy for you 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
THANK YOU!!! I never set out to be in the business of RUclips, but I'm trying to make that $$$$!!!
@@AleeseLightyear yasssss! Get that coin! You deserve it ♥️
Watching a lot of your videos lately. Love them!!
I'm a Chinese living abroad. I can't agree more about the spitting. I used to live in Beijing for 4 years and felt the condition is better in certain college-y districts where there're high density of young people. But splitting does happen a lot... whenever i witnessed one that just ruined my mood and I can't help but angrily glared at them haha
Thanks for the support!!
Where do you live aboard? And is spitting a problem there? lol
@@AleeseLightyear I live in NYC ^ ^. I can't compliment the cleanliness here haha. But before NYC I lived in a California suburb which has ZERO spitting!
fair enough
These are like the four of the many things I hate about China too as a Chinese native lol.
hahah thanks for making me feel NORMAL! There's a lot of defensive people in the comments today and it's nice to hear that we're on the same page. When I talk to my Chinese friends and coworkers, we all share the same feelings about these issues too
Totally valid points. About spitting: Don't they have a lot of surveillance cameras around everywhere and facial recognition technologies? They should those into use for catching spitters and fining them! Also sorry about being treated as a spectacle - I wish I could make a Chinese video to persuade them not to do that....
Yes, those things are annoying!
Glad we are on the same page! lol
I have gotten used to the spitting and the weird noises 'cause i have been here half my life ( Six years) this is my sixth year here in Beijing, China
And I'd love to see you make one too: A few things I LOVE about living in China
It's coming!
lmfao very relatable XD
Thanks!!!
Asia is a bit late in mental health awareness because it is not as prevalent in Asia, at least when compared to Western countries. In general, we almost always have the whole extended family and neighbors to talk to - grandma, grandpa, auntie, uncle, mother, father, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, cousins and everyone else usually live close together. That's one big support system. Families are close-knit and views on privacy usually is very different in the west. Such that it gets annoying at times. So there are people we can share our emotions with. Talking to neighbors is quite normal too and even a past time - neighbors are easily considered family and would gather around in the afternoons to just talk. Kids play in streets with other kids everyday and it is not considered weird. There are basketball courts in streets where teens go and play together. Neighbors know a lot about each other such that they are not considered strangers. But yeah, in urban cities where life is more fast-paced and people live away from family, it can be different - it gets lonely and people come and go. Social media is also keeping people out from engaging with people face to face now especially younger people, so that too is changing the landscape.
No need to apologise Aleese! Asia is getting there!
I totally understand what you're saying. I think as a teacher to older students I see a lot of young people struggling with anxiety and depression and they have no where to turn. Their problems can be brushed off as "they are students and this is what they have to endure" when that is not always the case. I do see a lot of changes in schools happening so I know it will take time.
China has been developing SO FAST in the time of ONE generation,so the public etiquette could not catch up with it, it is understandable
I agree--It will be VERY cool to see what this country is like in 30 years. I'd love to come back and see if the things I dislike have changed
4:37 Aleese come to Malaysia and Indonesia you will find the same 😂😂😂 lol.
7:17 lol well. People just amazed by how beautiful you are to be honest. I understand them, it's just cultural gap. not to belittle you and not respect you. Just amazed by you. In southeast Asia itself, if you don't respect people or underestimate someone, we will totally ignore that person, just like a garbage, not valuable. It's just the way of respond how people amaze to us is different. That's all I can say. And I understand how you feel annoyed by that. Hope everything will be oke with you. Have a nice day Aleese.
10:53 I think it is school's policy, not government rule. Lol Southeast Asia also do the same. But not Malaysian or Indonesian government who decide to only hire native speaker, but the school management arrange it.
Funny, cool, and straightforward video.
I think so too!
I feel you😅
I had to laugh about being the focus of attention for looking different. I'm white but have red hair-a magnet for whole families with or without cameras. Never got ganged up on in a bathroom, though. That would freak me out, too.
local people seem to be very intrigued by our various hair colors and textures!! Do they also ask you if it’s real or not?!?
@@AleeseLightyear I didn't know enough Chinese to communicate when I was there, but whole families would cluster around me, giggle, and take pix. One family in a park dragged me over to a stand where a guy was printing out photos and they gave me a print of one they'd taken. All in good fun.
😂😂😂I hate it too,I think only old people do this.4:05
It's just the WORST sound in the world!
Loved the video as always aleese! I agree about how nowhere is perfect and everywhere has its positive and negatives! I always wondered how their locals react to seeing foreigners when they are in lockdown and even though It sucks, I do kinda see where they are coming from. I also from ny btw! Hoping to one day to visit China as well!
Thanks for the love!!! And thanks for understanding where I’m coming from!
I love how you handle yourself with class and grace especially when placed or having to endure uncomfortable situations! Touching someone without their consent is not acceptable in any culture! SMH Tfs
Thanks so much! I’ve just kind of learned to accept it and deal with it.
@@AleeseLightyear You have great personalities.
100 years of colonial humiliation, civil war, become an illiterate society, experience a lot of hardship and suffering, During those hard times if compared to the westen world they literally falling behind in many ways, Understand bit more and have patience ,I'm sure they will improve and constant change ,think about it only been 40 years of development still a lot of room for improvement , Worry free they're quick learners that's why the government itself insist schools to hire as many as possible foreign teachers to teach them specially the young generation, you'll see in the near future China will become one of the prestige well respectfully society bec. they love to learn and improve !