@@loisrabies8713 Id constantly be using my Fi, Ne, Si stack to relate to them; fighting to keep the session about them and not relating it back to me. Can be an effective method of empathy, in hindsight you realize it’s not really moral or professional.
@@Odysseus1999 yeah and I do that with people especially online so much so they start to hate me (probably) and think of me as especially selfish. But really it just helps me understand better as well.
I think as we get older, we recognize that lots of people use their values (Fi) to navigate life and learn to accept it. I don't know how to help someone who uses values to navigate life though. That's a question for someone else haha
As an INTJ, I would 100% sit there and listen to the INTJ therapists talk about how brains function as it would help me to actually understand my problems. Can't relate to the person who would rather discuss cats than understanding what is actually going on in our brains.
I’ve been to a few talk therapists and while discussion can help a little, I find talking concrete steps toward behavioral and cognitive changes is what actually gets results.
As an INFJ who works as a therapist, i enjoyed the INTJ's approach but i would NEVER use that during therapy sessions. But if I did go to an INTJ therapist, I would like to listen to them speak instead of me speaking.
Same as an INTP. I find such discussions very helpful actually. I tend to research psychological mechanisms incl neurobiology, hormonal stimulation etc a lot n it allowed me to function better!
As an ENFP there is true terror in the moment where you've told an entire story or analogy that is meant to have a very helpful and insightful message to it but have forgotten what that message is by the end and now you've wasted everyone's time and you feel really embarassed lol
@@dearkristin The solution is an INFJ best friend who listens attentively and gives a perfect thesis statement summary at the end 😆 "you're so right, I also think that *what I was trying to express but in two sentences instead of forty*"
INTP: Red alert, she's crying, oh my gosh she's crying. What on earth am I supposed to do in this situation? This was not part of the script. Do I offer her chocolates or tell her about the life of a cuttlefish? Ok, I'll tell her about the cuttlefish first, and if that doesn't work just offer her the chocolate.
"Yeah, no, I'm fine," she said, thinking "You ungrateful, vain, cowardly *%$&$#% we connected on ethical principles and morals and COURAGE and I took you home in my heart for the weekend and you discarded it for money and superficial expectation! In a month you'll come back crying as if I didn't tell you to quit that job, and wonder why I don't trust you like before!"
Ohh, I thought the look was disappointment that she didn't take the moral high ground. That the client didn't stick to her own conviction.. guess I read it as how I might have looked at it. - ISFP
INTP: "I try to use my Ne to figure out what to do in every possible, and even theoretical, situation." Kristin: "What about providing emotional comfort and support?" INTP: "...That's when I go get an XXFJ." *Nailed it*
I don't know, I've found that friends and acquaintances seek me out to play the counsellor role more than one might imagine (and I'm happy to help out by doing so). But it's in certain circumstances: I think they actively value the fact that they know I'll be utterly non-judgmental and naturally willing to be detached myself and centre the conversation on their perception as a kind of neutral sounding board, in situations where they want a talking partner to talk things through with them. But if they're after emotional validation or active advice, then yeah, they're going to ask someone else!
@@zak3744 Yes! One of my friends even calls her my personal therapist and I always have to remind her that I may be able to help but am not actually a professional and she should get other opinions from other people too.
@@zak3744 In thinking through your comment (I'm in a similar INTP boat m'self), I think I end up counseling loads through Ne. The connections give a new perspective to the person, and my enthusiasm for Ne provides a happier feeling than what they brought to it. So INTPs are good for frustrated/perplexed people, but not for sad people.
@@zak3744 Yeah, I listen, don't push my own values to the forefront, can balance different viewpoints and even suggest some possible things to do (again without pushing "this is what you should do"), so those all are valuable traits when someone wants to talk through their life situations. But for emotional support, it's pretty much the cheat sheet of generic inspirational quotes. I guess that's true, that it works better with perplexed than sad people.
@@freregregoire2685 I don't find myelf with the generic emotional quotes; when dealing with emotional support, I end up sounding like the INTP in the "16 personalities at the therapist" video. I end up finding ways to quell the emotional mess (by using Ne and Ti together, and Si too sometimes, one can come to understandings of why someone could be distressed about something with or without drawing from one's own experience,) so they're more receptive to something logical. ...but I usually bail when I see tears. lol
As an INTJ counselor, I can say that's pretty accurate. The upside is that I think a lot of clients like the medical model as it takes out the stigma of their issues. They're no longer "broken people" but just human beings dealing with an unhealthy physiology.
The Thinker therapists are so sweet lol. The way they're all trying to help by looking at the facts, but some coming up with funny conclusions is just 👌👌😂The INTJ made me melt. I'd be thinking "she really cares" lol
INTJ therapist here and I think that our monologues are quite useful if what you need is information, especially if we have been trained in a behavioral modality. The part I (and I suspect many other INTJs) lack is the whole... slowing down and sitting with the client, in the moment, in their feelings... In silence... Oof! That is my least favorite part! It's why I do short-term crisis work, where we really have to prioritize stabilization and then let my colleagues do the whole "being in the present moment" thing.
For the ISTP i can see how it would be a dream XD however i was at a similar spot and instead i listened to the person, then directly say i am not good at this so they might want to talk to someone else but ask for permission to give logical advice to them, then comes the logical advice. An ISTP
"The brain's ability to rationalize completely shuts down," -making all further trains of thought turn purely instinctual. It has the purpose of quickening your thoughts and making your brain hone in on the threat and any avenues of escape. From an evolutionary perspective, a sudden increase in adrenaline could mean the difference between life and death. So the next time you experience any stressful event, remember that your current reaction saved the lives of your ancestors. So be tHANKFUL BECAUSE YOU EXIST BECAUSE OF IT. LMAO JK JK. No, instead you should follow your instinct and SUCKER PUNCH WHATEVER'S MAKING YOU STRESSED. Haha jk jk again. Ok for real this time, whenever you're in those situations, it is important to remind yourself that there is no threat. Especially in the grand scheme of your life, these small, pointlessly stressful moments are nothing but a hindrance to your personal growth. So take slow deep breaths and focus on simple computations, a song, or whatever else relaxes you. This will help keep your brain from shutting down your frontal cortex, aka your trains of rational thought. There. Finished it for you :) ~ ENFP
Deadass, Dr. K is INTP but is pretty good at explaining psychology both in technical and laymen's terms. Look up HealthyGamergg. Oh, and this comment isn't sponsored lol, just trying to help a homie out.
You nailed the ISTP. I’m sure those are the exact expressions on my face when somebody wants me to respond to their emotional mess... even if it’s just in a dream 😆
I really resonated with the INTP skit on 8:12. I work in the IT sector and was once criticized because my emails were too blunt and terse. Our department bonuses depended on our clients good will and was voluntold to improve my manners. Deeply irritated, I wrote a small program that picks a random inspirational quote in a list of 2000 and slaps it on at the end of every email response. What was supposed to be a "middle finger" campaign actual ended up being a big hit in the office.
INTP here I actually have a lot of empathy for people, I’m just horrible at expressing it. I have the same problem with expressing gratitude. Whenever I genuinely thank someone for a gift I end up sounding sarcastic. Ironically, half the reason I can't come up with good responses is because I refuse to use clichéd or disingenuous sounding responses. However, one thing you almost be sure of when talking to me about your emotions is that I'll think about the things you say, abstract them to the point where they can be related to one of my experiences so I can understand them better, analyze from that standpoint, and then pat you on the back and say "yea, that sucks."
@@dearkristin thanks! I just realized what I do is sort of like what an infp does, but with more logical rigor/analyzing. Also, I generally don't like to try to verbalize similar experiences I've had for fear of seeming like I'm putting the attention on myself or not paying attention to them. This is all based on a handful of experiences however, because people generally don't go to me for emotional support.
Your INFJ was spot on again 😄 You even captured the little sigh of exhaustion and despair 😪😂 Although I think that most of us wouldn't even be a real therapist and get at least paid but just be the "therapist friend" 😅😂
Literal facts 🤣 when I was a 911 dispatcher already helping people, my work partner would unpack to me like every day. She was 10 years my senior and literally told me that our work sessions were like therapy for her. Needless to say, I WAS EXHAUSTED. But I never set any boundaries and just tried helping everyone 😅
@@emilyburkhead1515 you are a real trooper 😊😄 This reminds me of the meme with the guy calling 911 and the first thing he says is: "Hello 911? How are you?" 😂😂 This would also be a standard INFJ move 😄
Yapp.. I'm also an infj. I always be my friends place to talk about their problems. I just help them, bcs I always put me on their condition, and it's sad if I were them and none wanna listen. So, I listen to them, always. But sometimes I'm exhausted, and I don't wanna tell it to anyone as I don't wanna make them difficult too
As an infp I had to imagine myself in that situation really hoping I wouldn’t say that. In all honesty, I would probably end up sharing a personal story any way even though I should be listening. Probably just to show that I relate haha.
I'm infp too and I feel it comes from having too many pent up feelings that we don't usually discuss so when something comes up relating to that, we just find ourselves sharing our own experiences. However I am trying to work on that though😅
@@lightlumiere2335 Me too, I think for others it might be a super annoying trait of an INFP, and even when I'm with my friends, I sometimes feel like I talk a lot or that I have crossed a line where it is all about me. I don't know though, I always listen to them, too, so maybe it is just an INFP thing when you think you have overshared.
The INTP trying to adjust her hand while attempting to seem empathetic- I felt that so hard! And the awkward silence after her client finished her story? *chef’s kiss* I feel understood 😂
I thought the INTJ was INTP at first. But the "get out of my office" part really distinguished it. Also, I feel like the ESTJ therapist was talking to an INTP patient.
“Well, empathy isn’t what makes us succeed in life, Margaret!” I mean, truth. Sometimes I’d like to say these things, but being raised by a therapist and a life coach has given me a good EXFJ mask. Also, INTJ is perfectly acceptable! Don’t all people enjoy a science lecture on the brain explaining why you’re having gross emotions??? And lastly, don’t hurt yourself, ISTP. Stay safe! Fe is scary! This has to be one of the most accurate type parody videos I’ve seen. Excellent XD.
I'm an ISTJ, and I obsess over details in any scenario, and I'm purposefully restraining myself from correcting the grammar of these replies... : / In all seriousness, I do think we go overboard at times (I certainly do), but I would also think noticing a detail would be great, say, not driving the wrong way on a freeway, like some of my Intuitive friends have done when driving me...
I don't see how a INTJ would ever end up as a therapist to begging with, they know themselves and wouldn't let a parents make them be one either. maybe they would become a priest for easy money and sheer spite...only circumstances I could see them ever being any kind of therapist.
As an INTP, watching the ISTJ one made me think that was gonna be me up til the end. Finding and questioning every inconsistency is a hobby of ours. I also felt the ENTP, especially their confusion and line of "...because truth." :)
"I can't do another one" As an INTP, I concur. I can listen but I genuinely have a several lists of generic replies or quotes to hit someone up with and I list out few of them from authors and use them mostly only when I need to say something and I'm in no mood to say. Or my replies, "I understand"
I default to giving advice and/or playing Devil's Advocate to show how they were partially in the wrong too. It generally doesn't go over very well... .-.
Honestly maybe it's just me, but it seems to me that INTPs make great therapists. They are empathetic, rational, analytical and able to be very objective. They have all the necessary skills to become great at psychoanalysis, they are human enough to do the work and robot enough to stay objective and to healthily detach.
I can listen to one person's complaints and not in consecutive days. It's very taxing on my Fi. If I feel this person is emotionally needy and will continuously try to use me to full fill their needs I will go to extraordinary lengths to not see that person for a few days or maybe a week, just long enough for them to attach themselves to someone else. This may sound bad, but I just can't do it. It's like being psychologically smothered by a pillow.
@@colinrobertson7580 I'm not that empathetic though, atleast I think I'm not, I struggle to find the grounds to provide proper emotional care, I am just in solution mode that I consider to be logical. And my fear of saying something that will cause harm, makes me not talk unless I'm absolutely sure that the it won't hurt even if it doesn't benefit them
YEAHHHHH PLEAAAASE XD MUAHAHAHHA...oh funny story, my friend once played it with me and he was the questmaster and struggled so hard because I played so safe and never took a quest because I thought "I might be too weak and die O.O", so he decided to create a character that just took me by the hand leading me through quests XD me, infp type, what can i say...i am overcautious
As an ENFP that’s about to go to a therapist for the very first time, I hope he’ll be a combination of INTJ and ENFJ: practical and factual, to the point, sympathetic, non-judgemental, and understanding.
damn you always nail intp, i knew as soon as she did the awkward hand under chin listening face but you really had me at “you’re such a good listener” because people always tell me that and it’s literally only because i have no idea how to respond when someone starts unloading emotional baggage and i just encourage them to keep talking
The INTJ skit was on point. As a past tutor, and someone who gives courses, it is a good thing I possess the virtue of patience, as if I did not, I doubt I would be able to tutor or teach effectively. I imagine most teaching requires a good deal of patience. I derive much fulfilment from teaching though, and it is always rewarding to see students comprehend new ideas and gain more confidence in themselves. The INFJ skit actually made me feel a little bit bad for the therapist, but her willingness to put others first came across as quite endearing.
Get your details correct in any scenario-ISTJ! Some of my most frequent phrases lately have become "If I'm understanding you correctly..." and "I'm sorry, but what do you mean by that?"
Well, all the thinkers may not be the most supportive people ever, but they sure are entertaining! As an INTP who, uhm, tries to help people or at least be a good listening ear, I’m glad that hasn’t been lost on someone who has a good grasp of MBTI. @dear kristin, your friends are fortunate to have you!
2:10 LMAO, I have an ISTJ dad and I have dealt with that several times. For example (and this has happened) when I am trying to just tell a funny anecdote. I am like me: "This one time I was in a friend's house" him: "Who's house?" me: "A friend" him: "Yeah, but what friend?" Me: "x" him: "Oh, ok" Me: "anyway we were going to.." him: "When was that?" me: "hmm, I can't remember" him: "how can't you remember?" Me: "Anyway, that is irrelevant, so I was there with some other friends" Him: "who were those friends?" Me: "*sigh*... Just let me tell the anecdote" him: "ok" So a few more interruptions later, I rush through the anecdote and because I rushed through it I botch the ending. Me: "So that is what happened" Him: "Oh ok" Me(inside): "Dammit this anecdote was actually quite funny." Thankfully he has been doing that less and less the older he gets.
As an ENFP, my Si is what OPS would call masculine, and I swear, the only thing it’s good for is my insane memory... and for tripping me up in the middle of stories. I’m the one telling the story, and I’M your ISTJ dad. I’ll start telling it, and I’ll interrupt myself. “So yeah, when I was with my friend- this all happened around two years ago, by the way- and yeah, we were talking- well, actually, it was around a year and eight months ago, because I remember it was in May, and I remember that because it was a little while before school went out- anyway, yeah, we were talking- also we were in a cafe, we were in a cafe because we were supposed to be getting lunch at Chipotle, but the Chipotle didn’t work out- oh yeah! It’s because the Chipotle was closed that day and they weren’t taking in-person orders, so we just said, ‘yeah, no’ and decided to go to a cafe because we were hungry by that point. It was really funny because that was the same day that we ran into our other old friend right after we went to the cafe- remember that story? Yeah, that was the same day, because after we left the cafe we went to the park, but I’ll get to that after I talk about what happened at the- yeah. Actually, I remember that the both of us had a completely separate discussion about human nature in the car on the way there, and that was really important because it segued into the conversation at the cafe... maybe I should start there- okay, okay, so, we were both in the car and-“ How people ever understand anything I say is absolutely BEYOND ME. 😭 This happens every single time I try to tell a story.
Me ENTP : (explaining moral antinatalism to my wife) My wife: you must be living in a sad world... Me: I'd rather live in a sad but real world than in happy yet false one.
Lol, as an infp literally depressed, because I'm not ignorant, wish I knew how to handle these emotions. Maybe you entps have it good without fi so strong, wish I could relate!!
9:15 - that's so funny!!! I'm an ENFJ who just read The Body Keeps the Score. It's such a good book. I plan to become a therapist AFTER I've processed my own past so I can be there for my future clients. This is so accurate.
I'm an INFP who would never want to go to a therapist but I would actually enjoy hearing the INTJ's fact based view. Partially because it's interesting but would also make me feel like I was talking to an actual expert who is listening to what I'm saying and then putting it into an objective scientific context (something I struggle with). Rather than feeling like I'm paying someone to say what my friends would say to me for free.
ENFJ's shining when given the opportunity to help another person become more self aware and realize their true potential.. im an enfj and I worked as a mental health nurse for the homeless. I've got to say my Fe really shined
I love this one so much!! The acting for both the therapists and the patients was amazing. I even watched it at 1X speed as an ENTP (which is saying something haha). Really loved the “generic inspirational quotes”
Now here’s the craziest thing. When I had a serious mental health crisis, it was my ENTJ dad I leaned on the most. That blunt logic probably kept me from shutting all the way down because I knew I could trust him to think straight when I couldn’t. And since you’re Christian, I know you won’t think I’m crazy when I feel like God pushed me to do that, to do anything he said, and tell him the truth even when it was bad or embarrassing. That ultimately resulted in getting the help I needed. People assume ENTJs don’t care but they WILL move Heaven and Earth if a loved one is in trouble. ❤️
Okay but as an INTP I wanted to say that we are in fact not completely incompetent. I’m actually the most trusted person in my friend group and a lot of people come to me for help.They know that I can always find a way to solve a problem and I can explain why something is happening or why they’re feeling a certain way and what to do in that situation. Comforting someone is admittedly a little harder but my friends know it makes me uncomfortable and come in expecting an analysis and a logical answer. And contrary to popular belief I can even manage to actually comfort a person in extreme situations where I’m the only person available. I stop at a comforting hug. I know you’re sad but there are definitely people who are more willing to hug than me.
Okay, I took multiple therapy sessions and I could see glimpse of their mbti: (if what I assumed them to be true then..) - I met a mature ENTJ, she was comfortable to be around yet direct and cut to the chase type. She provided the best assignments (movies/books/sources) that I could learn from without being bored. I was at ease being blunt with my questions regarding the family systems and relationships (even though I admit they were controversial to the social standards) but she loved to answer them with complete logic behind! She loved how conscious I’m with myself about being able to admit that I’m greedy, selfish and so on (Didn’t say it directly). Personally, I think she loved how I’m able to counter her assignments with other questions I thought off after doing them. She always loved to ask “what do you think about that?” It give her space to improve the way she articulate her thoughts to convince/teach me with my questions I guess. -the ENFJ was the best overall for me, she had such a motherly vibes, she gave me a free session once cause I was running low in money. I wish her all the best from time to time as she crosses my minds. Such a beautiful soul indeed. Def suitable for the job. -the INTJ was good providing information that explains my situation with a lot of new terminologies and areas to research about later (the best part) but her method seemed a bit … cold in the long run. We had a deep talk once about my theories regarding life and what is it for .. blah blah. Her logic made sense, but at that time, I needed some emotional support even if life did have a reason. so I didn’t continue with her. She was very passionate the way she does her job to the fullest though. -finally the INFJ, after the ENFJ.. he was so comfortable even though he was a man.. (I had problems with toxic male figures in my life) he was so real and made me feel heard the most. the most one who gave honest genuine validation. The enfj before was more friendly in a bright way of approaching things trying to ask more questions about my situation. But the infj was like: “ it’s okay, no need to search for words, I understand this situation was hard.” Or “is it okay to talk about this with you more?” Kind of way. So yupp. -Intp
As an INTP interested in helping people I concur others do find us good listeners. They can talk hours without them realizing we have not shared anything about ourselves. All I do is ask them leading questions that inevitably gets them to answer their own questions.
I'm an ENFP but I think a pretty good friend group therapist. I have to be pretty intentional with everything, but I do catch myself sometimes using a story about myself and accidentally shifting the conversation. However, it can sometimes work out in my favor if the story shows a vulnerability of mine. Showing vulnerability in myself will make it a lot more comfortable for the other person to do the same. It just takes practice. I would really like to try being a therapist, I think I'd really find that fulfilling.
I love that "Let's unpack that" has become kind of the ENFJ's catch phrase in your videos, because it's so accurate for me 😂 I was waiting for it again in this video and then it was literally the ONLY thing the ENFJ said 🤣 love your skits! 😊
Kristin absolutely roasting herself and her fellow ESFPs omg. Well done. Are you sure you're not an INFP? Because you've got the INFP "distant pondering stare" down 100%. -INFP PS I know I say this every time, but thank you SO MUCH for all the time and effort you put into these videos. It really shows.
Same me as soon she talked about she stepped on bird I knew this is me bcz in childhood I also killed few Male Big Ants & I still Regrets that sometime 😅😅
@@Odysseus1999 only because the very concept of professions doesn't really gel with us, but hey these systems of society and money and stuff #shrug. We were born to frolic and to dream, not to work! So they choose airy stuff like "artist", "therapist" etc for INFPs "that'll do , try that. Good luck!" Gimme my lottery win so I can just run around hugging strangers all day plskthx
Hahaha I noticed that too! Why is that??? I thought as an INFP I’d be a good therapist bc I’ve had so much time in therapy (lol) and friends/therapists have told me I’m very emotionally intelligent…but with my own emotions??? Wtf is happening right now? Omg. I think I’m having an existential crisis.
@@gozzywozzy485 My work-ethic isn’t bad when it comes to hands-on things, physically I can go forever, but my attention-span has other ideas. I’ve been on ADHD medication for years but I still feel lost at times. I’d consider myself smarter than most, but sometimes I don’t see the point in things, y’know? I’ve been lost for clairvoyance after high school. There’s just so many things I *COULD* do, but also so many ways I could possibly screw it up. Why do I have to give to society anyway? What has society ever given me? Bullies? Animosity? Pain? Always being nobody’s favorite? Sometimes I dream of a world where I’m either completely self-sufficient or dead to starvation. These days I would do anything to show I’m independent. I’d crash into a guardrail if it meant I could exercise the ability to drive. I still haven’t gotten that ability at 22 years of age. I would’ve been a great addition to early civilization where the dude that did the farming and was nice to everyone got equal status in society. I’m not the type to stare at something boring and suck corporate’s d*** all day. I want to live life how I want to and make an impact where it’s felt by the people.
One of my favourite vids of yours ever! I found myself grinning and giggling throughout, but when the ISFP’s turn came, I felt a tingle travel through my entire body and then laughed out loud for so long that I had to rewind 🤣🤣. Thank you 🙏
Hahah, brilliant as always, kristin! Funniest thing is that whole "fight or flight" thing the INTJ was explaining? I once did the same, only as the client talking to my therapist. I mean, of course he knew what that was, but I felt the urge to establish how I understood it to make sure we were talking of the same things in the same manner, and that he fully understood how I saw it and what I was experiencing. Heh. That was fun. ;)
All you're doing is confirming what I already know about INTP - ESFJ pairing. This is what happens between us. I listen and listen and listen and listen and then she just loves me for it. And she as an ESFJ has such sound advice about relationships. I know many immature people on line hate the ESFJ but her social instincts have fixed relationships, made money, opened opportunities and much more. Even things that seem to be out of their scope. Buying a car for instance. I know about cars and she doesn't, she wants comfy seats good brakes and AC while I'm looking at turn diameter, fuel injection and so on. We get close to deciding and I tell her my opinion. Then I leave her with the salesmen while I awkwardly look at other cars. The salesmen comes back to me grinning and announcing that he'll get the papers ready ready to sign and he'd be happy to tint the windows, replace the tires, and lower the price by $5000. She bought an antique Art Nouveau Dining Table set for $4250 and I had it appraised, it's worth at least $8000. They are savants socially. If she has advice socially I just don't question it. It always works no matter what. They are unrecognized prodigies.
Woah I kinda wanna guess the type of the client in each one now. But awesome job!! As always, I could tell which types were which before the name even appeared
Oh my god, these were absolutely hilarious. You've really hit this out of the park well done! The final istp, the infp, oh that pain was palpable! I love it! But honestly, comedy gold and levels of cringe back to back **chefs kiss** bellissima! - entp
Very very well done, I could always immediately deduce what the type was because, from body language and tone to functions, it was all very on point. 👏🏻 As an ENTJ, I've lost count of the number of times I've told people that having a goal and direction is the solution. 😂 Though I should add that it's always followed by an elaborate plan with instructions on what they need to do to solve whatever it is and find that vision and motivate themselves to follow it. This is why my friends always run to me whenever they need help. It probably helps that, having an ESFJ mum, I've mastered the part where I have to silently listen, squeeze their hands, and nod along so their feelings feel validated enough that they can go on to focus on the logical solution.
My INFJ boyfriend: The way she portrays my type as the willing martyr - it's a little more accurate than I'd like. Me, INFP: Well, I'm the one that makes it all about myself, so. Me: Did you notice how I just made it all about myself? Him: That's okay - whatever you need. (We crack up)
You’re amazing, I always know who the ISTJ is! And I just can’t help noticing the incorrect details in people’s stories 🙃 but I try not to point them out lol
This Literature class I'm in is freaking amazing (The teacher is such a great, iNtuitive-like one ^^) but I managed to see the INFP part in this vid and it's really, really perfect, just yes, the poor bird T~T
@@dearkristin Anytime, I wouldn't miss your vids for the end of the world, they're the best XD (Also, the INTP part is just me ranting to my INTP friend-)
As an INTP inwpuldnt find it productive to use a list of quotes to dodge dealing with people's emotions. I'm naturally an attentive listener and my objective logical perspective helps me with psychoanalysis. I find it most productive to comfort people by understanding them and demonstrating that I understand their perspective. Though I will concede that demonstrating emotions would be my greatest weakness as a therapist, I don't think that is how I would choose to deal with the problem. I would have liked to have seen something more typically INTP like an overly analytical explanation. Regardless I do appreciate the videos.
INTP: You are being to emotional, you need to think rationally and make logically deduced decisions and you wont keep getting hurt. Client: So this is how you make yourself happy? INTP: Woah, now I said "wont get you hurt", not make you happy. Client: But I want to be happy! INTP: *rattles pill bottle* That's what xanax's for! now get out, I need at least 2 hours to recharge between clients.
YOU COULD NOT HAVE REPRESENTED ME ANY MORE ACCURATELY THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS I HAVE LITERALLY SAID "wow, those sure are...feelings" TO MY NF FRIENDS 10/10 👌 - an ISTP
ENFJ living their best life.
The two therapist i’ve seen before were both ENFJ !
"It's just natural!"
Yesss 🙌🏽✨❤️
Reminds me of my dad (ENFJ). He’s a personal coach XD.
As an ENFJ Life Coach I say, "let's get into it" lol
INFP after telling the bird story and seeing no reaction:
"shit I overshared again"
Hahaha exactly
I know as an infp I’d just turn it into a therapy session for myself.
And that’s what happened lol
@@loisrabies8713 Id constantly be using my Fi, Ne, Si stack to relate to them; fighting to keep the session about them and not relating it back to me. Can be an effective method of empathy, in hindsight you realize it’s not really moral or professional.
@@Odysseus1999 yeah and I do that with people especially online so much so they start to hate me (probably) and think of me as especially selfish. But really it just helps me understand better as well.
The ENFJ: “I WAS BORN FOR THIS MOMENT”
Ohhhh and yes this is so me. She even shows one of my favorite books.
Patient: I am feeling sad.
ENTP: That makes sense considering everything you believe in is wrong. Now I will list each one.
Literally so accurate
Pffft AHHAHAHAHHA lol yes
and if you disagree with me , you're in first stage of grief called denial
FACTS!
"Because... Truth" - the perfect answer to almost any question you could ask an ENTP.
👌👌👌
I think as we get older, we recognize that lots of people use their values (Fi) to navigate life and learn to accept it. I don't know how to help someone who uses values to navigate life though. That's a question for someone else haha
Omg spot on!
@@HungryChainChomp
Ur deep. That's cool.
I'm an INTP and could feel myself siding with the ENTP therapist, lol!
"In every grain of sand, there is a story of the earth"
I'm unironically having an existential crisis now
Hahahaha
Just listen to Architects: Unbeliever, and count them.
I love ISTP's facial expression, you can see how the life is being drained out of her body silently.
Accurate. That is a nightmare 😂
So is this a bit of "how it feels like to be an ISTP"?
Omg it's kinda crazy
As an INTJ, I would 100% sit there and listen to the INTJ therapists talk about how brains function as it would help me to actually understand my problems. Can't relate to the person who would rather discuss cats than understanding what is actually going on in our brains.
Why not both?
I think I'm INFP, sometimes ENFP and i like such advice too, cause it helps me understand better. But not allwaays😅
I’ve been to a few talk therapists and while discussion can help a little, I find talking concrete steps toward behavioral and cognitive changes is what actually gets results.
As an INFJ who works as a therapist, i enjoyed the INTJ's approach but i would NEVER use that during therapy sessions. But if I did go to an INTJ therapist, I would like to listen to them speak instead of me speaking.
Same as an INTP. I find such discussions very helpful actually. I tend to research psychological mechanisms incl neurobiology, hormonal stimulation etc a lot n it allowed me to function better!
ENTJ- 0:03
INFJ- 0:27
ESTP- 0:50
ESFJ- 1:26
ISTJ- 2:10
ESFP- 3:10
ENFP- 3:49
INTJ- 4:41
INFP- 5:10
ENTP- 6:31
ISFP- 7:11
ESTJ- 7:50
INTP- 8:11
ENFJ- 9:02
ISFJ- 9:29
ISTP- 9:54
Let’s just appreciate how much effort she put into this video, it’s much longer than her usual ones! ❤️
Aw, thank you! I appreciate you!!
No need for timestamps, 100% of viewers watch the whole thing
@Brett Remington WE'RE NOT LIKE ALL THE OTHER CHANNELS BRETT 😤😤😤
@Brett Remington or to watch their type first and then see the rest of the video or the ones the person is most curious about first and then the rest
Thanks for the timestamps! They help a lot!
As an ENFP there is true terror in the moment where you've told an entire story or analogy that is meant to have a very helpful and insightful message to it but have forgotten what that message is by the end and now you've wasted everyone's time and you feel really embarassed lol
Hahahaha I've seen this happen so many times
@@dearkristin The solution is an INFJ best friend who listens attentively and gives a perfect thesis statement summary at the end 😆 "you're so right, I also think that *what I was trying to express but in two sentences instead of forty*"
OMG I DO THAT EHEHEHE
~entp tho 👉👈
Hahaha this happens to me way too often :')
@@Izzy-yu2xw Yep, hello, I do this (INFJ)
INTP: Red alert, she's crying, oh my gosh she's crying. What on earth am I supposed to do in this situation? This was not part of the script. Do I offer her chocolates or tell her about the life of a cuttlefish? Ok, I'll tell her about the cuttlefish first, and if that doesn't work just offer her the chocolate.
No, chocolates first! Always chocolates first!
XDD Why do I see my INTP friend doing this-
Chocolate solves everything. Change my mind.
Chocolate can release more dopamine than sex 👍
That's what i would exactly react lmao
That ISFP strained expression was suuuuper funny. She was so hurt by the patient not following her advice that it internally wrecked the ISFP.
Haha we've all been at the receiving end of this Fi moment
"Yeah, no, I'm fine," she said, thinking "You ungrateful, vain, cowardly *%$&$#% we connected on ethical principles and morals and COURAGE and I took you home in my heart for the weekend and you discarded it for money and superficial expectation! In a month you'll come back crying as if I didn't tell you to quit that job, and wonder why I don't trust you like before!"
Ohh, I thought the look was disappointment that she didn't take the moral high ground. That the client didn't stick to her own conviction.. guess I read it as how I might have looked at it. - ISFP
@@optimist-ri1439 that’s exactly what I was thinking and I’m an Isfp too
INTP: "I try to use my Ne to figure out what to do in every possible, and even theoretical, situation."
Kristin: "What about providing emotional comfort and support?"
INTP: "...That's when I go get an XXFJ." *Nailed it*
I don't know, I've found that friends and acquaintances seek me out to play the counsellor role more than one might imagine (and I'm happy to help out by doing so). But it's in certain circumstances: I think they actively value the fact that they know I'll be utterly non-judgmental and naturally willing to be detached myself and centre the conversation on their perception as a kind of neutral sounding board, in situations where they want a talking partner to talk things through with them. But if they're after emotional validation or active advice, then yeah, they're going to ask someone else!
@@zak3744 Yes! One of my friends even calls her my personal therapist and I always have to remind her that I may be able to help but am not actually a professional and she should get other opinions from other people too.
@@zak3744 In thinking through your comment (I'm in a similar INTP boat m'self), I think I end up counseling loads through Ne. The connections give a new perspective to the person, and my enthusiasm for Ne provides a happier feeling than what they brought to it. So INTPs are good for frustrated/perplexed people, but not for sad people.
@@zak3744 Yeah, I listen, don't push my own values to the forefront, can balance different viewpoints and even suggest some possible things to do (again without pushing "this is what you should do"), so those all are valuable traits when someone wants to talk through their life situations. But for emotional support, it's pretty much the cheat sheet of generic inspirational quotes.
I guess that's true, that it works better with perplexed than sad people.
@@freregregoire2685 I don't find myelf with the generic emotional quotes; when dealing with emotional support, I end up sounding like the INTP in the "16 personalities at the therapist" video. I end up finding ways to quell the emotional mess (by using Ne and Ti together, and Si too sometimes, one can come to understandings of why someone could be distressed about something with or without drawing from one's own experience,) so they're more receptive to something logical. ...but I usually bail when I see tears. lol
As an INTJ counselor, I can say that's pretty accurate. The upside is that I think a lot of clients like the medical model as it takes out the stigma of their issues. They're no longer "broken people" but just human beings dealing with an unhealthy physiology.
Yes, I love this!
Definitely!
Yes I relate :)
The thing is, that was a therapy session, so it seemed out of context to explain problems through the lens of physiology rather than psychology.
Yes please the best part of psychology is learning there's a reason I'm feeling what I'm feeling.... ~enfj
The ISTP waking up from a nightmare was amazing.
I love how Kristin changes the tone of her voice to suit each personality type
She got better and better in each video. Soon she will be a professional actress - or a split personality
She is a natural performer herself as an ESFP but also I wonder if she have had some classes cause she is so good at this
And outfit!
A love the expression of her eyes, that´s crucial!
You can that an IxFx is being acted with the soft voice.
The Thinker therapists are so sweet lol. The way they're all trying to help by looking at the facts, but some coming up with funny conclusions is just 👌👌😂The INTJ made me melt. I'd be thinking "she really cares" lol
I would love to get the straight-to-the-point INTJ monologue! What a good use of money!
@@dearkristin IKR!! That's why I get along with so many lol
INTJ therapist here and I think that our monologues are quite useful if what you need is information, especially if we have been trained in a behavioral modality. The part I (and I suspect many other INTJs) lack is the whole... slowing down and sitting with the client, in the moment, in their feelings... In silence... Oof! That is my least favorite part! It's why I do short-term crisis work, where we really have to prioritize stabilization and then let my colleagues do the whole "being in the present moment" thing.
I can confirm that the ISTP is relatable on a whole other level 😂😂😂
- An ISTP 😗
Lmaao ikr
of course the ISTP was having a nightmare.
Yeah, nope, I got nothing.
Honestly though, if it's a problem that needs to be solved, even if it's an emotional one, it might catch my interest
@@imfly131 Agree with you. I'm an ISTP too
exactly, hahaha.
For the ISTP i can see how it would be a dream XD however i was at a similar spot and instead i listened to the person, then directly say i am not good at this so they might want to talk to someone else but ask for permission to give logical advice to them, then comes the logical advice.
An ISTP
I love that you can tell if the person is a T or an F just by Kristin's tone of voice. So perfect.
I like that she does that.
Wait no I want the INTJ therapist, come explain to me what on earth is going on with the electrical signals - INTP
Yeah , same , I need to understand what's going on in terms of science
The interruption was so unnecessary, the explanation was interesting!
"The brain's ability to rationalize completely shuts down," -making all further trains of thought turn purely instinctual. It has the purpose of quickening your thoughts and making your brain hone in on the threat and any avenues of escape. From an evolutionary perspective, a sudden increase in adrenaline could mean the difference between life and death. So the next time you experience any stressful event, remember that your current reaction saved the lives of your ancestors. So be tHANKFUL BECAUSE YOU EXIST BECAUSE OF IT. LMAO JK JK. No, instead you should follow your instinct and SUCKER PUNCH WHATEVER'S MAKING YOU STRESSED. Haha jk jk again. Ok for real this time, whenever you're in those situations, it is important to remind yourself that there is no threat. Especially in the grand scheme of your life, these small, pointlessly stressful moments are nothing but a hindrance to your personal growth. So take slow deep breaths and focus on simple computations, a song, or whatever else relaxes you. This will help keep your brain from shutting down your frontal cortex, aka your trains of rational thought.
There. Finished it for you :)
~ ENFP
Deadass, Dr. K is INTP but is pretty good at explaining psychology both in technical and laymen's terms. Look up HealthyGamergg. Oh, and this comment isn't sponsored lol, just trying to help a homie out.
@@SakuraTsukino27972 Lovely!
You nailed the ISTP. I’m sure those are the exact expressions on my face when somebody wants me to respond to their emotional mess... even if it’s just in a dream 😆
Always makes me wonder how no one catches up on it and just continues speaking...
You can just feel the misery radiating off her with every passing second.
SAME
I really resonated with the INTP skit on 8:12. I work in the IT sector and was once criticized because my emails were too blunt and terse. Our department bonuses depended on our clients good will and was voluntold to improve my manners. Deeply irritated, I wrote a small program that picks a random inspirational quote in a list of 2000 and slaps it on at the end of every email response. What was supposed to be a "middle finger" campaign actual ended up being a big hit in the office.
🤣
-INTP
"fortune | cowsay" is an incredibly useful tool.
I will cherish this story for as long as I remember it, thank you!
Big respect for your ability to use ur creativity to produce an original solution to deal with a social demand ~ ESFJ
When you're an NTP in an SF environment lmao
Imagine knowing the INTP just by how they try to show their empathy through pose and speech, it is, quite unskillfully.
INTP here
I actually have a lot of empathy for people, I’m just horrible at expressing it. I have the same problem with expressing gratitude. Whenever I genuinely thank someone for a gift I end up sounding sarcastic. Ironically, half the reason I can't come up with good responses is because I refuse to use clichéd or disingenuous sounding responses.
However, one thing you almost be sure of when talking to me about your emotions is that I'll think about the things you say, abstract them to the point where they can be related to one of my experiences so I can understand them better, analyze from that standpoint, and then pat you on the back and say "yea, that sucks."
A helpful insight!
@@dearkristin thanks!
I just realized what I do is sort of like what an infp does, but with more logical rigor/analyzing. Also, I generally don't like to try to verbalize similar experiences I've had for fear of seeming like I'm putting the attention on myself or not paying attention to them.
This is all based on a handful of experiences however, because people generally don't go to me for emotional support.
Your INFJ was spot on again 😄 You even captured the little sigh of exhaustion and despair 😪😂 Although I think that most of us wouldn't even be a real therapist and get at least paid but just be the "therapist friend" 😅😂
Literal facts 🤣 when I was a 911 dispatcher already helping people, my work partner would unpack to me like every day. She was 10 years my senior and literally told me that our work sessions were like therapy for her. Needless to say, I WAS EXHAUSTED. But I never set any boundaries and just tried helping everyone 😅
@@emilyburkhead1515 you are a real trooper 😊😄 This reminds me of the meme with the guy calling 911 and the first thing he says is: "Hello 911? How are you?" 😂😂 This would also be a standard INFJ move 😄
@@emilyburkhead1515 Aww please set boundaries and take care of your health!! Your needs matter too :(
Yapp.. I'm also an infj. I always be my friends place to talk about their problems. I just help them, bcs I always put me on their condition, and it's sad if I were them and none wanna listen. So, I listen to them, always. But sometimes I'm exhausted, and I don't wanna tell it to anyone as I don't wanna make them difficult too
It's actually a recommended career. (INFJ Therapist here) You just learn to set boundaries.
The ENFJ - the music -, I felt like laughing and crying (tears of joy 🤣) when I saw that! It's absolutely perfect!
Hahaha I couldn't resist!
@@dearkristin girl you captured us perfectly 😂
As an infp I had to imagine myself in that situation really hoping I wouldn’t say that. In all honesty, I would probably end up sharing a personal story any way even though I should be listening. Probably just to show that I relate haha.
Same, I do that a lot, it’s like I have to find some way to put myself in the story and then share it 😂
I'm infp too and I feel it comes from having too many pent up feelings that we don't usually discuss so when something comes up relating to that, we just find ourselves sharing our own experiences. However I am trying to work on that though😅
I've done this. 🤭
@@lightlumiere2335 Me too, I think for others it might be a super annoying trait of an INFP, and even when I'm with my friends, I sometimes feel like I talk a lot or that I have crossed a line where it is all about me. I don't know though, I always listen to them, too, so maybe it is just an INFP thing when you think you have overshared.
I do this too 😭 I always worry I’m a bad friend
The INTP trying to adjust her hand while attempting to seem empathetic- I felt that so hard! And the awkward silence after her client finished her story? *chef’s kiss* I feel understood 😂
I thought the INTJ was INTP at first. But the "get out of my office" part really distinguished it. Also, I feel like the ESTJ therapist was talking to an INTP patient.
Hahahaha
Ha ha same
“Well, empathy isn’t what makes us succeed in life, Margaret!” I mean, truth. Sometimes I’d like to say these things, but being raised by a therapist and a life coach has given me a good EXFJ mask. Also, INTJ is perfectly acceptable! Don’t all people enjoy a science lecture on the brain explaining why you’re having gross emotions??? And lastly, don’t hurt yourself, ISTP. Stay safe! Fe is scary! This has to be one of the most accurate type parody videos I’ve seen. Excellent XD.
Haha thank you!!
As an ISFJ I felt called out when she mentioned the lists. I have lists for everything imaginable😬
Same here, I often have to write a list containing all the titles of the actual lists... just to keep track of them xD
@@moritzs1052 thats smart!
*Fun fact: Kristin loves ENTP scripts and always get em fabulously accurate 100%!*
As an ENTP, I like how we're not super stereotyped.
The ISTJ's attention to those details, I can totally see that happening🤣. As an ENFJ I couldn't have clicked on this video faster, Great Job Kristin😄🙌
Thanks, Thomas!
Oh dude, they can drive me nuts sometimes. Just get it done uknow…
-entj
They are pretty reliable tho
I'm an ISTJ, and I obsess over details in any scenario, and I'm purposefully restraining myself from correcting the grammar of these replies... : /
In all seriousness, I do think we go overboard at times (I certainly do), but I would also think noticing a detail would be great, say, not driving the wrong way on a freeway, like some of my Intuitive friends have done when driving me...
@@EpicPaul64 well your talent can be really useful in some circumstances!
INTJ: "I need to find a new job immediately"
I don't see how a INTJ would ever end up as a therapist to begging with, they know themselves and wouldn't let a parents make them be one either. maybe they would become a priest for easy money and sheer spite...only circumstances I could see them ever being any kind of therapist.
As an INTP, watching the ISTJ one made me think that was gonna be me up til the end. Finding and questioning every inconsistency is a hobby of ours. I also felt the ENTP, especially their confusion and line of "...because truth." :)
"I can't do another one"
As an INTP, I concur.
I can listen but I genuinely have a several lists of generic replies or quotes to hit someone up with and I list out few of them from authors and use them mostly only when I need to say something and I'm in no mood to say. Or my replies, "I understand"
I default to giving advice and/or playing Devil's Advocate to show how they were partially in the wrong too. It generally doesn't go over very well... .-.
Honestly maybe it's just me, but it seems to me that INTPs make great therapists. They are empathetic, rational, analytical and able to be very objective. They have all the necessary skills to become great at psychoanalysis, they are human enough to do the work and robot enough to stay objective and to healthily detach.
@@colinrobertson7580 I thought the same, but this might just be too draining for them.
I can listen to one person's complaints and not in consecutive days. It's very taxing on my Fi. If I feel this person is emotionally needy and will continuously try to use me to full fill their needs I will go to extraordinary lengths to not see that person for a few days or maybe a week, just long enough for them to attach themselves to someone else.
This may sound bad, but I just can't do it. It's like being psychologically smothered by a pillow.
@@colinrobertson7580 I'm not that empathetic though, atleast I think I'm not, I struggle to find the grounds to provide proper emotional care, I am just in solution mode that I consider to be logical.
And my fear of saying something that will cause harm, makes me not talk unless I'm absolutely sure that the it won't hurt even if it doesn't benefit them
Poor Margaret 😆
Tough love? 😅
Now, hear me out, the 16 personalities play DND together
Oh HECK YES! That or each type playing chess :)))
YEAHHHHH PLEAAAASE XD MUAHAHAHHA...oh funny story, my friend once played it with me and he was the questmaster and struggled so hard because I played so safe and never took a quest because I thought "I might be too weak and die O.O", so he decided to create a character that just took me by the hand leading me through quests XD me, infp type, what can i say...i am overcautious
Ahhh such a good idea. I doubt my ability to execute it well!! 😅
@@dearkristin I DON'T. From a role playing player who apply mbti and enneagram to every single character
I imagine the INTJ would be either the DM or the player that always adds more than the DM planned to
As an ENFP that’s about to go to a therapist for the very first time, I hope he’ll be a combination of INTJ and ENFJ: practical and factual, to the point, sympathetic, non-judgemental, and understanding.
👌👌 Good on you for taking that step!
INFJ😄
damn you always nail intp, i knew as soon as she did the awkward hand under chin listening face but you really had me at “you’re such a good listener” because people always tell me that and it’s literally only because i have no idea how to respond when someone starts unloading emotional baggage and i just encourage them to keep talking
The "make them talk so they won't actually ask for my input" strategy
Love the subtle shade from the ESFJ! “Call your mother and apologize you barbarian!”
Hahahahaha
The INTJ skit was on point. As a past tutor, and someone who gives courses, it is a good thing I possess the virtue of patience, as if I did not, I doubt I would be able to tutor or teach effectively. I imagine most teaching requires a good deal of patience. I derive much fulfilment from teaching though, and it is always rewarding to see students comprehend new ideas and gain more confidence in themselves.
The INFJ skit actually made me feel a little bit bad for the therapist, but her willingness to put others first came across as quite endearing.
Needless to say, get your details correct when talking to an ISTJ therapist 😂
Get your details correct in any scenario-ISTJ! Some of my most frequent phrases lately have become "If I'm understanding you correctly..." and "I'm sorry, but what do you mean by that?"
Well, all the thinkers may not be the most supportive people ever, but they sure are entertaining! As an INTP who, uhm, tries to help people or at least be a good listening ear, I’m glad that hasn’t been lost on someone who has a good grasp of MBTI. @dear kristin, your friends are fortunate to have you!
Thank you, Joshua!!
Ey that's a nice compliment Pal. Might wanna write it down?
2:10 LMAO, I have an ISTJ dad and I have dealt with that several times. For example (and this has happened) when I am trying to just tell a funny anecdote. I am like
me: "This one time I was in a friend's house"
him: "Who's house?"
me: "A friend"
him: "Yeah, but what friend?"
Me: "x"
him: "Oh, ok"
Me: "anyway we were going to.."
him: "When was that?"
me: "hmm, I can't remember"
him: "how can't you remember?"
Me: "Anyway, that is irrelevant, so I was there with some other friends"
Him: "who were those friends?"
Me: "*sigh*... Just let me tell the anecdote"
him: "ok"
So a few more interruptions later, I rush through the anecdote and because I rushed through it I botch the ending.
Me: "So that is what happened"
Him: "Oh ok"
Me(inside): "Dammit this anecdote was actually quite funny."
Thankfully he has been doing that less and less the older he gets.
As an ENFP, my Si is what OPS would call masculine, and I swear, the only thing it’s good for is my insane memory... and for tripping me up in the middle of stories. I’m the one telling the story, and I’M your ISTJ dad. I’ll start telling it, and I’ll interrupt myself. “So yeah, when I was with my friend- this all happened around two years ago, by the way- and yeah, we were talking- well, actually, it was around a year and eight months ago, because I remember it was in May, and I remember that because it was a little while before school went out- anyway, yeah, we were talking- also we were in a cafe, we were in a cafe because we were supposed to be getting lunch at Chipotle, but the Chipotle didn’t work out- oh yeah! It’s because the Chipotle was closed that day and they weren’t taking in-person orders, so we just said, ‘yeah, no’ and decided to go to a cafe because we were hungry by that point. It was really funny because that was the same day that we ran into our other old friend right after we went to the cafe- remember that story? Yeah, that was the same day, because after we left the cafe we went to the park, but I’ll get to that after I talk about what happened at the- yeah. Actually, I remember that the both of us had a completely separate discussion about human nature in the car on the way there, and that was really important because it segued into the conversation at the cafe... maybe I should start there- okay, okay, so, we were both in the car and-“
How people ever understand anything I say is absolutely BEYOND ME. 😭 This happens every single time I try to tell a story.
Ha! This is my ISTJ father too! Where were u? When did u go? What did u do? Omg it was brutal sometimes...
I'm an ISTJ...much to the annoyance of my extroverted coworkers xD
I love you Kristin! You always get the ENTP spot on, like 100% accurately. TRUTH!!!!
Thank you! I do enjoy writing the ENTP scripts!
AHAHA Lol the way I flinched when I heard "But what about my feelings"
Me ENTP : (explaining moral antinatalism to my wife)
My wife: you must be living in a sad world...
Me: I'd rather live in a sad but real world than in happy yet false one.
@@TheAnared absolutely right. I would rather be depressed than delusional or ignorant.
Lol, as an infp literally depressed, because I'm not ignorant, wish I knew how to handle these emotions. Maybe you entps have it good without fi so strong, wish I could relate!!
I’m an ENFJ band director and whenever a kid comes into my office wanting to talk I’m gonna hear that music now.
Hahahahahaha
The INFJ representation is so on point. Down to the discomfort at having to cancel an appointment, but feeling like you have to.
I couldn't stop laughing at the INTJ 😆
Absolutely true tho for an INTJ but I'd be willing to make an exception for a cat.
LOL!!
Same. --INTJ
That INTP is exactly like me listening to anything overly emotional :D well done yet again!
Thank you!
9:15 - that's so funny!!! I'm an ENFJ who just read The Body Keeps the Score. It's such a good book. I plan to become a therapist AFTER I've processed my own past so I can be there for my future clients. This is so accurate.
I'm an INFP who would never want to go to a therapist but I would actually enjoy hearing the INTJ's fact based view. Partially because it's interesting but would also make me feel like I was talking to an actual expert who is listening to what I'm saying and then putting it into an objective scientific context (something I struggle with). Rather than feeling like I'm paying someone to say what my friends would say to me for free.
My brother is an ENTJ and I'm an INFJ and that's exactly how he dishes out his advice. Plain facts with little empathy😂
INFP : "I'll tell you a quick story,..."
If that's not me then idk what is.
9:16 "My child, the lock sings and the skunk smells, but they both look the same in the dark." *confusion*
Hahaha it was intentionally confusing 😂 also, it was my accent that made "lark" sound like "lock"
The INFJ would be an excellent counselor if they learned to set appropriate boundaries and stick to those boundaries.
Absolutely!
As soon as I saw the INTP unsure of what to do with her hands I knew who it was
-INTP
Hahahaha thank you for picking up on that detail
Lol at the random complaints made by the patients, “I saw a clown and it made me cry”
ENFJ's shining when given the opportunity to help another person become more self aware and realize their true potential.. im an enfj and I worked as a mental health nurse for the homeless. I've got to say my Fe really shined
I love this one so much!! The acting for both the therapists and the patients was amazing. I even watched it at 1X speed as an ENTP (which is saying something haha). Really loved the “generic inspirational quotes”
HUGE compliment from an ENTP. Thank you!
Now here’s the craziest thing. When I had a serious mental health crisis, it was my ENTJ dad I leaned on the most. That blunt logic probably kept me from shutting all the way down because I knew I could trust him to think straight when I couldn’t. And since you’re Christian, I know you won’t think I’m crazy when I feel like God pushed me to do that, to do anything he said, and tell him the truth even when it was bad or embarrassing. That ultimately resulted in getting the help I needed. People assume ENTJs don’t care but they WILL move Heaven and Earth if a loved one is in trouble. ❤️
Okay but as an INTP I wanted to say that we are in fact not completely incompetent. I’m actually the most trusted person in my friend group and a lot of people come to me for help.They know that I can always find a way to solve a problem and I can explain why something is happening or why they’re feeling a certain way and what to do in that situation. Comforting someone is admittedly a little harder but my friends know it makes me uncomfortable and come in expecting an analysis and a logical answer. And contrary to popular belief I can even manage to actually comfort a person in extreme situations where I’m the only person available. I stop at a comforting hug. I know you’re sad but there are definitely people who are more willing to hug than me.
Absolutely - I think all of the types can be great if their gifts are truly appreciated! Thanks for your comment 😁
Okay, I took multiple therapy sessions and I could see glimpse of their mbti: (if what I assumed them to be true then..)
- I met a mature ENTJ, she was comfortable to be around yet direct and cut to the chase type. She provided the best assignments (movies/books/sources) that I could learn from without being bored. I was at ease being blunt with my questions regarding the family systems and relationships (even though I admit they were controversial to the social standards) but she loved to answer them with complete logic behind! She loved how conscious I’m with myself about being able to admit that I’m greedy, selfish and so on (Didn’t say it directly). Personally, I think she loved how I’m able to counter her assignments with other questions I thought off after doing them. She always loved to ask “what do you think about that?” It give her space to improve the way she articulate her thoughts to convince/teach me with my questions I guess.
-the ENFJ was the best overall for me, she had such a motherly vibes, she gave me a free session once cause I was running low in money. I wish her all the best from time to time as she crosses my minds. Such a beautiful soul indeed. Def suitable for the job.
-the INTJ was good providing information that explains my situation with a lot of new terminologies and areas to research about later (the best part) but her method seemed a bit … cold in the long run. We had a deep talk once about my theories regarding life and what is it for .. blah blah. Her logic made sense, but at that time, I needed some emotional support even if life did have a reason. so I didn’t continue with her. She was very passionate the way she does her job to the fullest though.
-finally the INFJ, after the ENFJ.. he was so comfortable even though he was a man.. (I had problems with toxic male figures in my life) he was so real and made me feel heard the most. the most one who gave honest genuine validation. The enfj before was more friendly in a bright way of approaching things trying to ask more questions about my situation. But the infj was like: “ it’s okay, no need to search for words, I understand this situation was hard.” Or “is it okay to talk about this with you more?” Kind of way. So yupp.
-Intp
As an INTP interested in helping people I concur others do find us good listeners. They can talk hours without them realizing we have not shared anything about ourselves. All I do is ask them leading questions that inevitably gets them to answer their own questions.
A flawless tactic.
I can do this with my immediate family or someone I click with, but not everyone.
That does sum up the INTP life. We always look like we know what we're doing, but secretly we just make it up as we go and it just keeps working.
I'm an ENFP but I think a pretty good friend group therapist. I have to be pretty intentional with everything, but I do catch myself sometimes using a story about myself and accidentally shifting the conversation. However, it can sometimes work out in my favor if the story shows a vulnerability of mine. Showing vulnerability in myself will make it a lot more comfortable for the other person to do the same. It just takes practice. I would really like to try being a therapist, I think I'd really find that fulfilling.
I love that "Let's unpack that" has become kind of the ENFJ's catch phrase in your videos, because it's so accurate for me 😂 I was waiting for it again in this video and then it was literally the ONLY thing the ENFJ said 🤣 love your skits! 😊
Hahaha it is too good! I use it all the time irl
Kristin absolutely roasting herself and her fellow ESFPs omg. Well done.
Are you sure you're not an INFP? Because you've got the INFP "distant pondering stare" down 100%.
-INFP
PS I know I say this every time, but thank you SO MUCH for all the time and effort you put into these videos. It really shows.
Thank YOU for appreciating it 🥰
*Kristin: uploads new video-*
*Me: clicks faster than an INFP's scenario remake.*
Same me as soon she talked about she stepped on bird I knew this is me bcz in childhood I also killed few Male Big Ants & I still Regrets that sometime 😅😅
I pulled the legs of bugs in my younger years, i still regret it today so i try let them outside whenever i can (infp)
@@KafkaKappa lmao- i dont hurt a fly but i can debate with it- entp
You nailed INFP ahahha, we are more likely to be in the client's seat than in the therapist's one
So well said✌️
~Infp
True, but at the same time, our most likely stereotype profession is something like a therapist
@@Odysseus1999 only because the very concept of professions doesn't really gel with us, but hey these systems of society and money and stuff #shrug. We were born to frolic and to dream, not to work! So they choose airy stuff like "artist", "therapist" etc for INFPs "that'll do , try that. Good luck!" Gimme my lottery win so I can just run around hugging strangers all day plskthx
Hahaha I noticed that too! Why is that??? I thought as an INFP I’d be a good therapist bc I’ve had so much time in therapy (lol) and friends/therapists have told me I’m very emotionally intelligent…but with my own emotions??? Wtf is happening right now? Omg. I think I’m having an existential crisis.
@@gozzywozzy485 My work-ethic isn’t bad when it comes to hands-on things, physically I can go forever, but my attention-span has other ideas. I’ve been on ADHD medication for years but I still feel lost at times. I’d consider myself smarter than most, but sometimes I don’t see the point in things, y’know? I’ve been lost for clairvoyance after high school. There’s just so many things I *COULD* do, but also so many ways I could possibly screw it up. Why do I have to give to society anyway? What has society ever given me? Bullies? Animosity? Pain? Always being nobody’s favorite? Sometimes I dream of a world where I’m either completely self-sufficient or dead to starvation. These days I would do anything to show I’m independent. I’d crash into a guardrail if it meant I could exercise the ability to drive. I still haven’t gotten that ability at 22 years of age. I would’ve been a great addition to early civilization where the dude that did the farming and was nice to everyone got equal status in society. I’m not the type to stare at something boring and suck corporate’s d*** all day. I want to live life how I want to and make an impact where it’s felt by the people.
ISTP having nothing to say loo, totally on point!
ENFP in a therapist based role, totally there for wacky yet positive analogies for every client
One of my favourite vids of yours ever! I found myself grinning and giggling throughout, but when the ISFP’s turn came, I felt a tingle travel through my entire body and then laughed out loud for so long that I had to rewind 🤣🤣. Thank you 🙏
Hahaha amazing! Thanks for the comment!
“Eeeeeeagle”
Such an inspirational quote.
It's what I always tell people if they ask me for life advice.
I guessed the INFJ and ESTP right lmao 😭 the estp wearing a "i shouda stayed in bed" shirt and saying "lay it on me" and then her explanation 😭
hahah ENFJ holding up ‚the Body Keeps the Score‘ is so true
Incredible book!
@@dearkristin right, the empathy in van der kolks writing is beautiful!
Hahah, brilliant as always, kristin! Funniest thing is that whole "fight or flight" thing the INTJ was explaining? I once did the same, only as the client talking to my therapist. I mean, of course he knew what that was, but I felt the urge to establish how I understood it to make sure we were talking of the same things in the same manner, and that he fully understood how I saw it and what I was experiencing. Heh. That was fun. ;)
Haha amazing. It makes total sense that INTJs would do this to their therapists 😂
INTP awkwardly attempting to show *outward* expressions of empathy
All you're doing is confirming what I already know about INTP - ESFJ pairing. This is what happens between us. I listen and listen and listen and listen and then she just loves me for it. And she as an ESFJ has such sound advice about relationships. I know many immature people on line hate the ESFJ but her social instincts have fixed relationships, made money, opened opportunities and much more. Even things that seem to be out of their scope. Buying a car for instance. I know about cars and she doesn't, she wants comfy seats good brakes and AC while I'm looking at turn diameter, fuel injection and so on. We get close to deciding and I tell her my opinion. Then I leave her with the salesmen while I awkwardly look at other cars. The salesmen comes back to me grinning and announcing that he'll get the papers ready ready to sign and he'd be happy to tint the windows, replace the tires, and lower the price by $5000. She bought an antique Art Nouveau Dining Table set for $4250 and I had it appraised, it's worth at least $8000. They are savants socially. If she has advice socially I just don't question it. It always works no matter what. They are unrecognized prodigies.
The ESFP with a classic "S-ing out" as we have been taught in a previous episode 😁 It's just so funny to look at 😂❤️
I loved that part 😂
So very relatable.
Woah I kinda wanna guess the type of the client in each one now. But awesome job!! As always, I could tell which types were which before the name even appeared
Awesome! Hahaha
You absolutely nailed the ENFJ 😂
-sincerely an ENFJ
The client is going to be a reallllyyyy interesting person 5 years down the line.
Hahahahaha
When I saw the INTJ one I was like I’d love a therapist like this I get to learn AND heal lmaooo
-ENFP
Same TvT
I need a detailed explanation and story for everything
Otherwise how will I truly apply advice to myself?
INTP having a list to choose from for what to say lol, so perfect! I'm intp and I actually was studying to be a psychologist but changed my mind.
Dear Kristin,
You are HILARIOUS. We love you!
Warm hugs,
LK
Thank you!! 😁😁
Oh my god, these were absolutely hilarious. You've really hit this out of the park well done! The final istp, the infp, oh that pain was palpable! I love it!
But honestly, comedy gold and levels of cringe back to back **chefs kiss** bellissima! - entp
Thank you!! Glad you enjoyed! :D
I was waiting for the ISTP. Didn't disappoint. XD
Very very well done, I could always immediately deduce what the type was because, from body language and tone to functions, it was all very on point. 👏🏻
As an ENTJ, I've lost count of the number of times I've told people that having a goal and direction is the solution. 😂 Though I should add that it's always followed by an elaborate plan with instructions on what they need to do to solve whatever it is and find that vision and motivate themselves to follow it. This is why my friends always run to me whenever they need help. It probably helps that, having an ESFJ mum, I've mastered the part where I have to silently listen, squeeze their hands, and nod along so their feelings feel validated enough that they can go on to focus on the logical solution.
My INFJ boyfriend: The way she portrays my type as the willing martyr - it's a little more accurate than I'd like.
Me, INFP: Well, I'm the one that makes it all about myself, so.
Me: Did you notice how I just made it all about myself?
Him: That's okay - whatever you need.
(We crack up)
Hahaha. Thank you for your good humour 🙌
🙌 💯🥰 --sincerely, INFP married to an INFJ for more than 20 yrs
You’re amazing, I always know who the ISTJ is! And I just can’t help noticing the incorrect details in people’s stories 🙃 but I try not to point them out lol
Hahaha incredible
I know an ESTP, and this is every conversation with him..
As an intp, every time I see an entp skit, I think "that's exactly what I would be thinking, but I would never say that outloud." LOL
As an ISTJ, I could easily see myself on the INTJ scenario too
gotta feel bad for some of these clients man 😔
I live to encourage empathy!
This could serve as a weed out video for career day. "Are you sure you want to be a therapist?"
This Literature class I'm in is freaking amazing (The teacher is such a great, iNtuitive-like one ^^) but I managed to see the INFP part in this vid and it's really, really perfect, just yes, the poor bird T~T
🤣🤣🤣 thanks for watching despite being in class!
@@dearkristin Anytime, I wouldn't miss your vids for the end of the world, they're the best XD
(Also, the INTP part is just me ranting to my INTP friend-)
As an INTP inwpuldnt find it productive to use a list of quotes to dodge dealing with people's emotions. I'm naturally an attentive listener and my objective logical perspective helps me with psychoanalysis. I find it most productive to comfort people by understanding them and demonstrating that I understand their perspective. Though I will concede that demonstrating emotions would be my greatest weakness as a therapist, I don't think that is how I would choose to deal with the problem. I would have liked to have seen something more typically INTP like an overly analytical explanation. Regardless I do appreciate the videos.
INTP: You are being to emotional, you need to think rationally and make logically deduced decisions and you wont keep getting hurt.
Client: So this is how you make yourself happy?
INTP: Woah, now I said "wont get you hurt", not make you happy.
Client: But I want to be happy!
INTP: *rattles pill bottle* That's what xanax's for! now get out, I need at least 2 hours to recharge between clients.
YOU COULD NOT HAVE REPRESENTED ME ANY MORE ACCURATELY
THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS
I HAVE LITERALLY SAID "wow, those sure are...feelings" TO MY NF FRIENDS
10/10 👌 - an ISTP