What Most DIVORCED Women Don't KNOW
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My ex-wife tried that and the judge told her that since she committed adultery and had an affair baby she go no alimony, child support, assets, or part of my pension.
I am honestly surprised the court did the right thing in your case considering how courts favor women over men in general.
Very good
Hmmm
I’m shocked 😳 that the judge did the right thing.
What state was this in?
My best friend pays $3,500 a month in child support. His wife considers herself independent. That's the part about all of this that bothers me the most. The blatant hypocrisy. Living off of someone else while claiming to be independent. It's ridiculous.
Child support is not alimony is it?
What it is is slavey. Your friend is a slave now force to work for someone who will never love him are see him as equal.
@@ektasharma3520 it's a little bit of both because she refuses to get a real job. She's very intelligent. College-educated. Works as a seamstress at a quilt shop because it's her hobby and lets him pay her bills. The government chips in as well, so it's coming out of our pockets too. Good times. Got to love that equality.
Well then he is making roughly 180k a year
@@ShaunHensley you are assuming he wants it/has time to. 91% of custody battles are settled outside of court,chances are he chose this arrangement
My x listen to divorced women and tried to get the money. She lost her children. Completely burnt the bridges to her own flesh and blood for money and claimed I was toxic
Same situation bruh
My aunt did this to my uncle. They're both doctors and she went after him in court for years. Both of my cousins moved in with my uncle and cut off all contact with her. The same woman stopped talking to her sister because she voted for Trump. Completely toxic.
Wait wait wait are you telling me that nobody is gonna pay my bills for me??? But I'm a princess????
Me 2
A strong independent one too.🤣🤣🤣
Preaty sure in time its gonna vhange the law
Nobody want to marry cause women now want just money
Not my problem
my ex learned this the hard way. She died alone, broke, in her van after driving away everyone. Even her kids refused to speak to her. She celebrated her wins in court, but once the dust settled she was entirely alone.
Damn lol. Most of my exes, just gfs nothing ever got to that point by design, are single moms now. Yeah they have bfs they live with and whatever, but if they're not married they might as well be a single mom, cuz he can drop them at any time back at their parents and get someone else. One of my exes understands though, her bf cheats constantly rofl.
Crazy how she didn't indicate that's her true nature when you first proposed to her lol
Peefect
It's sad! But again she brought it upon herself. No one else. Thank you for being Yu for yr kid's. 💪
@@jeffmatson5616 I wish it were enough. Thank you for the kind words, but she destroyed my kids worse than she did me. No one was safe.
Funny how married women that tend to hang out more with single women end up becoming single again
Not the other women's fault. The wife is an adult she can make her own choices, take responsibility for them and the consequences.
@@warpedreflection3650 no one said it's not her fault
But if you don't think the influence around you makes an impact on your decision making then you're very naive
@@warpedreflection3650 people take on characteristics from the people they hang out with a lot. If your friends are all telling you that your husband is bad whenever you vent to them, it would definitely affect her choices in some way.
Are you the type to say it's solely someone's fault when he was encouraged to kill himself by his friends?
I agree with both perspectives. You should be able to control yourself, but hanging out with certain people for prolonged periods of time will have an influence on you. That's why you have to cut them off.
@@acceleratorrank0016 very true
This happened to my ex-wife and this happens to a lot of women what I'm about to tell you. The minute they start expressing any kind of discontent with their marriage a lot of other women who may or may not be married who are also discontent start encouraging her to leave him they give her advice on how to do it sneakily, they give numbers to good lawyers, and they work to sabotage her marriage.
Yes I worked at a restaurant and would often see this happening. Terrible. I will never marry.
When I got divorced , many many of my exs friends would push her to divorce because they were already divorced.
Misery loves company. Nothing more toxic than a bitter, divorced woman scorned.
What I love is this...
"Grrl, YOU gave up YOUR body. YOU gave up YOUR career. YOU gave up YOUR life. To raise HIS kids. He OWES you."
Then SHE plays to system & prevents HIM from seeing "HIS" kids despite him paying.
I once let a woman take anything she wanted of mine because getting rid of her was such a bargain...
Talking to one of my older coworkers about his marriage:
2 things he said he'll never forget: her saying "you've always paid, and you will always pay." & "I wish we had money to pass on to the kids and send them to college."
Him: "we did."
👏👏👏
It's not the men filing. 80% of the time, 4 out of 5, it's the woman trying to re-deal her cards when often she should've doubled down. Either way, EVERYBODY suffers. But, the kids suffer most of all. REAL abuse should never be tolerated. However, now a days, simple household budget conversations are projected as controlling and abusive. These emotionally triggering words are tossed around and left up to the audience to fill in their own horrendous version. It boils down to a power play of control and the end result is a destruction of the family. But, hey, like any other team... put yourself first and see if you guys win the championship.
Yep. And ur right. It hurts the kids the most. That's why it's so disgusting to us men. Watching a woman be so selfish to ruin her own children's lives for her own gratification. I would never be able to look a woman like that in the face. How disgusting.
Agreed! Well written! As a child of parents who divorced, remarried, and then separated (yet are legally still married...) due to my dad's job loss/health issues/depression and my mom's decision to go back to work and then of course inevitably committed adultery: IT HURTS. It's made me the weird type of woman who sees, knows, and empathizes with lonely single men who lack trust. 💔😔
Always looking for better in some cases. SMH
my ex wife is alone and 600 pounds. I'm writing this in bed with a great woman and happy as a fucking skylark
Last time I truly read about real rape victim was in the 80s. Today rape victims are proud and glorified. In fact theyre dying to come out and tell their stories....when money shows up. The real victim still in hiding
If you destroy your family you're not entitled to anything IMO. Saying you deserve alimony and child support is like saying you quit your job but expect to still receive your prior salary and benefits from the company you left. Make it make sense.
Spot on! Well said!
Divorce laws need to change as no one deserves a life-time of payments for signing a piece of paper.
Agreed.
Totally agree!
Yeah I'm more than willing to bet that if they took away alimony payments divorces would drop off by a lot especially if a woman had two or three alimony payments from two or three different guys even if they keep alimony payments around they should at least make it so once the woman marries a new husband previous husband's alimony payments end love prevent a lot of women from trying to trick multiple men into giving her ring only for her to divorce them and find a new sucker to add to her multiple streams of income
I agreed 👍
100%. But the government benefits from this, & achieves the agenda they have through it
"You fomo'd at fifty."
Exquisite. Thank you.
Yeah. What is with that? A spouse provides a stable platform from which the other one decides to dive head first into the shallow end of the dating pool.
Not everyone fomo'd at 50 some of us are widows. Just sayin.
I was making 50k when I was married in a Blue collar job. Took the leap and started my own business in my field. She protested. She got an inheritance, the resentment escalated. After the divorce I made 75k. This coming year I'm set to make over 100k. And I'm 6 foot 5 too. Working on losing weight as well.
Keep going. Do it for you. Forget these women. Most are just life support for a uterus anyway, the way they act towards men.
But were you nice to her? Because obviously money is not enough to keep some women
@@sundown6748 the therapist caught her in her lies and gaslighting. The worst I did was withdraw emotionally from the abuse. She withheld sex and slept with the neighbor.
You can become..... Batman. Dooooit!!
@@mshafer1021 thank you
My mom did this and is ALWAYS complaining about being broke. She got 250K and 3 rent houses. My dad got the other half of retirement and their main home. Instead of selling the houses in a hot selling market, she is renovating them etc. and wanting to rent them. Problem is, they are eating up her entire capitol ! When she complains I always tell her this. " You cheated, you thought you would be happy, you are miserable. If you were loyal, you and dad would be pulling down 5K a month debt free as a retired couple. But no.....You had to wreck it all. Its ALL your fault!" She will not take blame. Its sooooo frustrating!
It is important that you who is the child of divorced parent are doing okay, does not let herself into depression, resentment, suicidal, doing vices or drugs, etc. Try to be easy on your momma, i know how much you want her to agree with you on that particular point about their divorce in the past, you already knew she will never admit her poor decision or her refusal to take some responsibility for it, the fact that you keep on puttting her on the deck , not only it wont change anything, my fear is that it could make everything worse than before.
She knows it. She hates she failed her husband and her marriage even though she refuses to admit it. You don't need to keep reminding her of her failure. it hurts. If you could help, please help her. Don't keep pushing her down the slide of failure. It might lead to deep bitterness and depression.
best thing my ex wife ever did for me. with a great woman now. I would have stayed and been miserable
Update
@@timmyblock6785 update? she died of leukemia. but it was a precious year
My last 2 ex wife’s are still trying to figure out where my money is !
Hopefully you’re done getting married by now. Get rid of your relationship thirst and travel overseas.
Prenup? I need advice?
@@darinwilson7854 sure , you don’t know if loves still in the house after a couple years , it’s not fair to give away what you got before the marriage and vice versa ! Start marriage together , build something together from day zero
2???
I guess it is still in your pocket and not theirs! Lol!
If a guy signed contract with company and then canceled the contract he wouldn't expect for that company to keep paying him for life. Only women could think that way
Women think whatever benefits them. There is zero morality or cobsistency or character involved. They are painfully solipaistic. By design.
Very good point.
Yes and no. If that company is a nuclear plant and you were radiated to the point of no return or difficult return to a healthy body, then you get pretty compensated. Also, in France and most likely in other European countries as well, actually you get compensated 80% of your salary for many months which is from your taxes you have contributed during your working period there. Also, if the company fires you, they have to pay a BIG fee to the government for ONE YEAR (unless you did a horrible professional mistake that can be PROVEN in court that it was detrimental to the company) which makes it very hard to fire people.
Also at every "specified duration contract" (say it's 6 months), no matter the field and profession, they have to compensate you extra for the time you WASTED on them while you could have found a "undetermined/ longterm contract". It's about 15% of the total sum of all your salarieSSS til that point, even if it's 2 years. As long as it's "specified" / it's considered short term.
Basically, your point makes sense for USA for sure and maybe other countries as well, but western europe is very generous with employees.
Translated to women, wasting their youth and suffering body changes that makes them less desirable once back on the market would mean they need to be compensated at the time of breakup. BY WESTERN EUROPEAN logic :)
If a woman sacrificed years of earnings and career growth to to raise the couple's children and support her husband's career and which is positively affected by the children (dad's tend to get raises & promotions), you don't think the woman should get any support to get back on her feet?
Yet conservatives wonder why women are so hesitant to be stay at home moms.
@@MissSaikoYoure right.
So men should hire cheaper but better specified temp workers(maid, house keeper, escort) for 1/10 the pay instead.
Absolutely right! Why not "stay with him." There's alot of narcissistic women out here trying to provide their venomous advice to another woman to divorce her husband. Message! LOL!!! 🤣
And there are a lot of narcissist men on this site, saying that women have to put up with their narc bullshit for the rest of their lives.
Why not stay with him? Why assume the man is such a great husband? A happy marriage doesn't end in divorce.
@@aimeekrause Noone is saying that women should stay with abusive husbands. You misinterpreting it as such shows your disposition towards men and your hatred of men. Get help.
If you see anyone saying women should stay with abusive husbands, point them out. Go ahead. You wont find a single comment implying as much.
You WILL however find comments of men that are relaying their own experiences of how their exes friends pushed her to divorce over trivial marital issues or of men whose exwives sought after greener grass and only found dissappointment. None that implore women to stay with abusive men though.
Stop misconstruing statements to align with your narrative. Get a grip.
@@munkqiking7207 These sorts of women always try and turn it around to try and justify their actions because in their heads they are justified in everything they do.
I’ve been listening to her since the viral video she did with Pearl asking her questions. Aly is on some Gretzky - Jordan - Brady - Bonds like stuff with accuracy and consistency. 👍👍
Definitely Narcissistic I’m dealing with that now she filed for child support but never filed for the divorce , so I took action COMMUNICATION IS KEY , UNDERSTANDING IS THE DOOR!!! Mind you she cheated and she “upset” with me 🤦🏽♂️ damn Narcs!!!
My financial advisor is going through a divorce. His wife wants everything. She literally wants the house, all the investment money, the kids and all his future earnings. Out or his guilt I told him to not give her a penny more then the law expects him to pay. It’s amazing how these women think that the man is just their slave and he should work for the rest of his life to just give her his money. It’s scary really. They are so attached to his money they never think they should have to let go of it.
That is the price to play, the man has to pay.
I just want to thank the Lord for a woman that's got real actual common sense and I know the wolf crowd would say the opposite but you know what this is the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth thank you
Amen to that one.
What's hilarious is there are great traditional women out there...but men don't want us...they to busy chasing ho's and thinking they can turn them into a wife and mom.
Also for unicorns. Amen
A lot of wymmin file for divorce and later regret it soon after. But feminist and the media don’t tell us that.
*wermin
They’re happy when the judge gives them all sorts of goodies. Then the realization that they’re older with kids and a divorce on the record, and that child support and alimony will eventually dry up, and suddenly they aren’t so happy anymore
Yeah i cant find any info about it anywhere. Its all pushing the idea that women will be happier alone
Why take his half when you can get everything when you stayed his wife ? Duh, most husbands usually spends all of their money on their family anyway.
Yeah my husband can be annoying sometimes but i would be very stupid to divorce him lol. He spoiled me and our kids. Men want nothing much, just happy wife and kids and they would do everything.
Haha men want nothing much?? Sure ok
@@irocksup123 clearly by your comment you just let us know you are hateful, resentful, jelous, bitter ect ect. If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all .
@@irocksup123 oh and by the way just because you picked at shitty man doesn't mean everyone else makes your mistakes.
You find your husband annoying but he spoils you and comes home every night after work🤔. Idk if my wife said or thought of me as being "annoying' or went around saying that behind my back that would be worse than annoying to have a wife that spoke behind my back in such a way. There is this thing called respect for one another. What I am trying to say is that you should be careful when speaking about a man when he is not around. You can say he is annoying or whatever to his face or when he is around but it's what you say about him when he is not around is much more of concern. I am not judging you it sounds like your doing ok and on the happier side of marriage. But it probably seems like nothing calling him annoying but I know if my wife(not married btw.... probably because I have high standards not in beauty but loyalty honesty Bonnie & Clyde is best I can reference is how it has to be for me. Anyway this is hard to explain it's guy thing and weakening him by announcing his faults or short comings is not good. Best I can describe it as if he talked about a part of your body that he seen flaws or your weight that he found unattractive....sane kind of thing(I am sure you would not like it even if it was online). Just a fyi only letting you know what may seem like nothing to you will seem a lot different to him for your are his wife and your opinion means more than anyone in this world. Longer explanation but hopefully you understand and maybe save your relationship down the road if nothing else. Best wishes.....
@@somethingcool7903 wow. You got a lot out that innocent comment. My husband annoys me sometime s too. Guess what? I annoy him too. It's what happens when you live with someone. It's called life. I love my husband and he also spoils me. I, in turn, spoil him. Doesn't mean we don't want to strangle each other on occasion. It happens. We've been married for 15 years, and I know why I'm still with him. He's a great dad too. I'm sure that Doesn't mean the kids don't annoy him sometimes too. Again. It's called life.
You want Equality your getting it. Judges are catching up. I got the kids, full custody, and she's supposed to pay child support.
What do you mean supposed to? Dont men do jail time when they cant pay child support?
My ex wife just found this out 🤣 She's a single mother of 3 & overweight ! She can do better 😁 I told her shoot for the Stars 🌟 🌟
Why didn’t she want to be w you anymore?
@@HeresMyBit cause hypergamy
My ex - in her late 40's - has hit the wall pretty hard. "There aren't any good men out there" she laments. "All the men are gross" she says. "I refuse to lower my standards" she insists.
Meanwhile, I'm quietly dating an attractive Asian woman 10 years younger than her.
@@ghosttheprogram6973 your a good family member for supporting him like that
@@jimmyjuju Asian women are the best. Never going back to the great American land whales
It usually happens when they're about to turn 40
40 is when they lose it
Just don't get married. It's a pain in the ass these days. Nothing but a contract.
Humans are always dependent on others, we serve each other all the time, and some people don't get that....
I think youre just as confused as her.
This is why, if I ever get married, I'm doing a prenup!
Because I am *NOT* going to be some women's ATM machine when she divorces me because she is bored!
My kids mother wasn't in our daughters life for years. I took care of my daughter by myself until her mother moved back to the area. As soon as she moved back she took our daughter from me, wouldn't let me see her, and demanded I pay child support and that until I do I can't see my daughter. It took several thousand dollars and multiple court cases but I have primary custody of our daughter now. She never paid child support or bought anything for our daughter for those years I took care of her. I still don't get child support but if the roles were reversed she would take everything I have.
Bro there is other woman who want to have husband like you because you take care of your kids like husband does. Woman put there want love and husband not money or silver or gold or handsome man.
@@johnparker7663 Funny, cause there sure are a lot of men with experiences proving otherwise.
My ex-wife knew that
She'd threaten divorce but never wanted it. Why lose access to a paycheck 😂
My soon-to-be ex-wife always said that any time and argument started she threatened divorce. Finally I woke up stop taking her shit and told her we are divorcing.
@@mattc3510 Nice.
Had to google FOMO’d lol! I learned something new.
That’s what I’ve been sayin. Divorce women are seen as something nasty, widower women are seen as great wives regardless if they were not but they were there til death so yea
It's definitely not a plus. You got married and failed. Divorce is a failed marriage. It's selfish.
As a man, when a woman tells me she's been married and divorced I instantly think: "What did you do?"
Not quite. I'll give you the breakdown.
Single moms are the nasty ones. They make poor decisions and let random guys bust in them. They have no value and are a detriment to society.
Divorced moms fall into 3 categories. 1 is equivalent to the first. 2nd would be they try and coparent and aren't toxic with their ex regardless of why they divorced. The 3rd are where the man dips after 20+ years to chase younger girls and she's just left there with the kids and no proper course of action or she gets sick. Basically he leves her because of circumstances she has no control over.
Widowed women overwhelmingly fall into the latter part of divorced women. But still better by circumstance.
Obviously exceptions apply with all things socially constructed but this is a rule of thumb I follow when dating.
Widows are often great, they don’t have all that anger, I dated married and divorced after my divorce, but divorcees were too angry added to my anger, nope.. The widows were just happy to have a man again on their arm and they often have money to pull their own weight… I’m with one now, but, everyone has a history and issues..lol
@@eddieanthony6886 the problem is that what if the women wasn’t the issue but since she’s divorce we all assume she was the problem. My mom is widower and is seen with respect but she wasn’t a great wife and that’s a fact, she’s the masculine type that made my dad feel like shit but they stayed together. So not all widowers are or we’re good women
Found out that my ex wife was cheating on me so we got a divorce we were 16 years into the marriage as well as 16 years into military service for me. She questioned how much of my retirement she would get and I told her absolutely none! She knew and I knew that she was horrible at maintaining bills so if she ever needed anyone to bail her out from time to time she would be coming to me and if she took any of my military retirement then she would get absolutely no help from me. Needless to say she did not get my retirement and I still don't help her whenever she messes up the bills lol.
What sucks the most is that almost all women tend to get married with the option for divorce.
Yeah this has happened in every one of the divorces I've seen personally. The divorced woman gets her cash & prizes at the divorce, then for up to eighteen years afterwards.
Then when the gravy train grinds to a halt, she has pissed it all into the wind and is now old and poor.
The husband on the other hand has taken the setback of the divorce, then clawed his way back up to about where he was before or better.
Not saying all women are bad with money, but perhaps the ones that divorce without a proper reason are more likely to be.
I'm sure there are divorced women out there who have done well for themselves financially. But they're busy making bank, not having a whinge to TicTok while sitting in their car 😂
Bingo. Nailed it precisely.
When Mother divorced Father, she got a pay out, but ended up giving her pay out to her next husband 🙄 Next husband cleaned her out and took EVERYTHING 💰
Better to be alone then in a toxic relationship.
But why is a man paying for a woman who is no longer a part of his household in the first place?
Exactly. You can be independent and equal or you can be dependent and less than. Pick one.
My mom was divorced after a abusive relationship. She had three kids and met my dad who also had a son, they have been married now for 31 years. So, idk about if no one is going to want you. My mom also did not ask for child support and worked on her own. Unfortunately, I had to leave with no real support, moved to another state thinking we could recover our relationship but he did not want to attend therapy for the abuse any longer. So, here I am working on my career with two kids and continuing my business, trying to think about the kids instead of staying and allowing someone to abuse us both. So, idk if this is a great way to approach divorced women, most divorces are due to abuse, statistically. Can we stop shaming women for choosing to let go, and to be honest, even marriages that appear to great and the woman is doing her part eventually fall apart for many reasons.
Agree. It's too convenient to blame only women.
My ex lives with a man over twenty years his senior. He is a cancer survivor and makes her cook all his meals. She complains she is a maid to him. Well you made your choice.
Seems like the man knows what he's doing. She may have made the right move
my unmatched perspicacity coupled with sheer indefatigability makes me a feared opponent in any realm of human endeavor
Such ebullient use of words... such alacrity in using them as well.
That happened to me with my ex husband! I had full custody of our kids and finally supported us all. When he was ended up meeting his low life girlfriend who convinced him he should take out youngest to get child support when he let me do everything by myself, I told him I’d go back to court to get all my back pay he finally stopped. Until recently he’s now for whatever reason trying to get full custody from me on grounds I was abusive. Too bad God fights my battles. Doesn’t just happen to the men but women too. 😮
They love to say toxic masculinity. No one ever brings up toxic feminism and how horrible that is.
Here's an idea. We drop alimony entirely and cap child support at a reasonable amount?
How about child support based on childs needs, not his earnings? How about child support credit card, that can be used only for childs needa, utilities etc?
I don’t understand why men are forced to pay anything after a divorce unless you have kids once ya split you don’t owe the other person shit
They typically don't. Only 10% of marriage settlements include alimony. As far as she "getting half" he is getting the other half. I am not sure why men feel entitled to not only his share of the assets accumulated during the marriage but the Women's too.
@@ms.c6821 ... When the guy bought the house and made almost all of the money it absolutely is his shit. You're talking about entitlement while pretending that doing the dishes once a month means that stuff was actually yours.
Well it is in the marriage vows to protect to provide cherish all of that so if a woman helps make the man and the man makes money then yeah she's deserved something there wasn't no prenups if he had a lot of money he would have a prenup but most men see their relationship as being able to provide for the woman no matter what happens in the relationship the marriage vows never change it is pretty sad that men think that they can spend 20 years with a woman 10 years with a woman five years with a woman and that woman helped them in every aspect of their life but if a divorce happens the woman is supposed to be out on the street with nothing? Did you ever care for that woman in the first place or was it just to say you had a woman?
@@RyanOManchester doing dishes once a month? No it is household management. The salary of a typical household manager is 50-70k a year so that is her contribution converted to dollars. I mean I would be okay with you reimbursing her for years of service too
Money should never be a reason to “stay” or “love” someone period.
My ex-wife tried to get me but it backfired
I got the kids
The house
Everything in the house
The judge even gave me her car ( I did give it back to her )
I had divorce papers that said she could have the house and we would have joint custody of the children all she had to do was sign them BUT she said " fuck that !! The judge all ways sides with the woman"
She refused to sign and ended up getting fucked
😊
kinda like amber heard 🤣 "nobody is gonna believe you because you hit me"
@@diana-dp6jf yeah
In a way she was about as nutty as Amber
You're a honorable man
Moral of the story is dont get married
The saying is cheaper to keep her but it's also cheaper to keep him.
Yup. My ex always complained about me not making enough. Lol she still complains I dont give her enough😂 recently asked me to sign for a house for her, too if you can beleive that😅
I'm not even going to lie bro when she said that women break up and say oh I wish I could have got more money I didn't even occur to me that they would have had more money if they would have stayed together
once you devorced your life is your responsibility. why do you need somebody to take care of you no wonder your marriage if over. you can't build a foundation with half the foundation needing the other half to to support the whole building
Someone I know had a 25 year marriage with a younger man, in her fifties he had an affair (bc she worked nights all the time and made ramen for dinner, I'm assuming!) so she left him and talked all this crap on the way out. She was pretty malicious and a hot mess too. Her life was downhill from there and now she is fighting cancer. I don't know what he's been up to, but at the time he was the foreman at Honda doing over 100k, sooo ....
Well he cheated so he ended the marriage not her. This is the problem men want women to accept their bad behavior
@@ms.c6821 In some cases this may be true, but in this particular example, what came first the wife's bad behavior or a loyal husband who was fed up and finally broke? At her age, it was probably wiser to forgive and work things out. I don't believe cheating is the non-negotiable in marriage, I think abuse or pedophelia are the true deal breakers.
two mature people should be able to work it out, especially for an otherwise deserving husband who works 14 hour days.
@@Iamfrancelys ya no. My mom got both gonorrhea and sphipholis that way. Bad behavior? You mean working? Yes, women have to work when men can't afford to keep her home, it is just reality. He had to eat Ramen? So he put his wives health at risk? Oh but your assuming? You don't even know if she commited these "offenses" Dying of cancer? Ya I know a lady who died of cervical cancer....from her husband cheating on her from the HPV her husband gave her. If you want to put your health at risk that is one thing but don't be judgemental of the women who don't. Regardless of age, any women should be able to decide whether or not she is willing to tolerate a man who put her health at risk for his pleasure
@@ms.c6821
I knew her enough. I'm not saying she deserved cancer, I'm saying that's what she's going thru. She was not the kind of wife who was devoted, she was the kind of wife who took him for granted. I don't know their whole story, but I knew her very well and she was a very manipulative person. I'm sorry you and your mother went thru all this, and no I don't think people should be put at risk on their health. But I very much like the way Aly encourages people to think things thru. Sometimes automatic divorce for one offense is not the wisest choice.
@@Iamfrancelys personally, I think infidelity is probably one of the quickest ways to ruin your marriage,committing to stay with one person is what marriage is. If you can't do that,then you should be single. Once that trust is broken, it will never be the same and at that point you are just wasting eachothers time. Men leave their wives with cancer at significantly higher rates. 90% of abandoned spouses with health issues are women. So really, it is questionable he would have stayed anyways. Men honestly just as flakey as women, it is just they will go out and have another relationship instead of getting divorced.
Aly sounds like such a poetic singer, she makes everything sound so musical
wow this is harsh. I divorced an abusive husband who also almost bankrupted our family as well. I know nobody wants me now and it sucks and it hurts and makes me feel like shit. I won't even try. He is not in my child's life and a lot of soul searching tells me it's for the best. I also don't get squat in child support. Now my child is just another fatherless girl and my heart breaks daily and breaks more knowing my chances of getting married again are virtually zero especially in today's cultural environment. Not every divorced woman is some evil narcissist. I was a good wife and tried hard.
I believe you did. And also see it is not a welcoming dating environment for anyone these days much less older women. But who knows?
Wishing you well.
Dont see anyone shaming women for leaving abusive husbands. Thats you misconstruing their opinions to suit your narrative.
We ARE discussing women who listen to their single friends advice and giving in to the crabs in a bucket mentality or women who divorce on petty whims and fantasize about greener grass after they are well past their prime.
Also, you definitely shouldnt give up. If you are a kind, supportive, caring woman, you will absolutely have more value, regardless of being divorced or not. You may have to accept that some men are looking for women that havent been married already as a default because it is likely easier than trying to work with someone that already has been married.
But if youre being honest and are truly a kind woman, you will find a man that appreciates you if you look. Just dont look in the same places you found your abusive ex (which where most women go wrong, ie. go back to dating in clubs or bars when that is where they found their abusive ex in the first place)
You are too good bi brave add face the circumference. God bless you
Lawyers and Judges benefit the most from divorce. Those paid professional get a lot of money from you breaking up your marriage.
The tax breaks from the government don't seem worth it for marriage, compared to divorce proceeds. Plus then it's walking on egg shells when you marry, and she loses interest in the man, cause now he's taken and whipped by her. ✝️
Before they get divorced because they are bored they should understand that Chad didn't wait for them.
well, my 40 yr old ex wife had a Chad lined up within two months of me leaving my house complete with sudden sleep-overs that confused our four year old daughter. “Daddy, (he) was sleeping in YOUR bed.” …the mother: “Don’t talk to be about MY relationship.” Cluster B abounds these days. 7 toxic man-hating sisters. Grandiose narc Dad left them and raised by neglectful mom who went on a bender w/married men destroying hines including the pastor of a church. (church dissolved) Must be demons. But anyway…point is that she’ll still get a younger Chad if she’s in shape and wears enough makeup. Don’t be bitter about it. Just level yourself up and realize how toxic she probably was.
I've been trying to tell folks for years. What a divorced woman tells a single man and divorced man are two completely different things. Every single divorced woman I know who didn't leave their husband over abuse or infidelity regret leaving. They won't let a single person know for obvious reasons but they will fess up to a married man.
Ppl.have been reduced to dollars. The relationships we have with those in the world around us are the true gold to chase. Money...money just facilitates that pursuit. But does not stop us from loving one another.
Young men out there listen up......when you marry your sweetheart, you ALSO marry the state. Get a prenup. If she really loves you and respects you she wont have a problem.
I left my ex-husband and never asked him for anything, during or after the marriage.
I don't need or want anything from that guy.
God bless you but you’re the very rare exception not the rule.
know a dude who's wife divorced him because did didn't spend enough time with her, and this dude begged her to stay, now he's doing a lot better making double what he was making before, he said he just start consecrating on himself and stop worrying about making things work with her, now 2 houses later new wife he's loving life, but i thought he was gonna take himself out after the divorce.
You came so close to actually understanding then skipped right past it. People do the cost benefit analysis before making decisions even if they aren't aware they're doing it. The benefits of leaving clearly outweigh the costs of staying or they would stay. If finances were their priority, they would not have divorced.
If you are unhappy, leave but don't go back to your ex spouse.
Here's the actual only fact we need to know God hates divorce. You go girl you have a very lucky husband and I bet he knows it
It’s funny people always want to bring up god hates this and that but I bet you still sin on a daily basis lol and you bring up god but probably dont know the truth about the Bible (and no I’m not saying that god doesn’t hate divorce)
This woman is divorced
Wrong.
Lol dingbat is such an underrated insult.
SSSSOOOOOO TRUE come on girl keep it REAL its TRUE I TOTALLY AGREE ❤️
I've heard more than one woman say, "...take him for a short ride, then clean him out."
You are too divorced. How much did you take from him?
As increased taxation and hyperinflation move us all away fron first world conditions, divorced women and single mothers will increasingly become more dependent on the government for the resources and protection a husband would have provided.
There won't be a limit as to how much this demographic will demand others be taxed for them to "maintain a lifestyle they're used to."
What do you guys think about abusive men or women? Should someone who was abusive have to pay out? I think so because if you are forced out by abuse you should get enough to support yourself. Abusers are horrible people.
unless criminal violence is proven, that will never fly.
You can tell ur young because first of all the first thing you said was about know body wants a woman with kids. I got out of a toxic marriage with my five children. I’m now married and my children are grown and my second marriage has lasted 34 years. Never was a kind of person to totally depend on someone else for what I wanted. If you looking for someone to carry you and your kids find a adult. #A grownup. And start anew with things that you have in common and bond emotionally before you get physical. Have your own so there’s no need for leaning or burdening someone else with your baggage.
These women disgust me. There’s women who need to divorce for serious reasons & they make a mockery of these women. My mom had legit reasons for divorcing my dad. She had to as he was abusive & cruel. She struggled so hard to save the marriage & etc. she had & has no intention of ever being with a man ever again. She’s grateful for my sister & me & our kids. That’s it. My heart breaks for what I saw her go through. She didn’t deserve it.
That's an exception and cheating.
Divorcing just because you're bored or you fell out of love isn't a reason. Yet the courts somehow allow feelings to be an arbiter of court decisions.
@@SeviathTheHumanDrago that’s why I mentioned that these women, who divorce for stupid reasons, disgust me.
@@triplejmom7826 Pardon me. I missed that.
You hit the nail on the head
Well most of the time that’s not why women divorce tho lol I feel bad for you situation but most women do not go through that
LOL, “you FOMO’d at fifty” 😂😂😂😂 👏👑😎
Those are the women you never want to marry and those are the ones when they finally look to get remarried or date again you need to turn around 180° and run because they’re worthless they’re only gonna do to you what they’re doing to the racks and it goes both ways
If a man or woman is physically violent with you… you don’t stay for money. Cause you can’t spend it when you are dead. I knew a neighbor who’s husband was beating the crap out of her. She stayed for the reasons you listed: no one would want her, she had kids, she had no money to leave… she is dead now.
It must be nice to sit in your ivory tower of privilege. Most women don’t choose divorce because there bored in some people’s lives there are actual hardships and things that can not be overcome. Usually abusive behaviour. Telling women they should have stayed not knowing why they left is asinine
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You better keep your man. The men out here today doesn't want to deal with another man's child. Those kids are not going to listen to him anyway. The mother will let the children run wild and not have structure or discipline in the house because she's to tired to do it. Also the female's that's in her ear will tell her to leave him because of all the stuff she told her friend/ family about you!
I have one that’s almost unbelievable;
I was married 8 years, she started hanging out with some single girl friends late, I kept warning her to stop or I would file. Her comeback was
“If you divorce me, I will take you to the cleaners!”
I finally filed...
Upon my court date, I was the ONLY one to show up, as a result the judge granted me the divorce!
A few weeks later I called the ex to thank her for not showing up and allowing me to exit FREE and CLEAR!
She was visibly shaken, says she NEVER RECEIVED that court appearance letter!!
She called it an unfair turn of events!
I called it a BLESSING from GOD and a MIRACLE!!!!!
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That is why Kobe’s wife stayed with him, she is a smart women.
Yes she even stayed with him after he raped someone 😍 a true fairytale
@@xxUkiyo actually he was cleared of that in a court of law. But he did have sex with the girl. But she stayed with him a kept all the money.
I’m 30 and about to divorce a narcissist don’t want to take his money but after the abuse i am happy I legally get money. If the world was perfect I’d stay and have more money but I’d be depressed. And I know not now but when I’m ready plenty of men will be happy to date me❤
So so you saying you going to stay with a Serial cheater you only 27 you got a lot to learn ain't nobody going to stay with no cereal cheater I don't like divorce as well but there are circumstances where it's best to get out early before the children come my pastor said what a man does before you marry him will multiply 100 times after you marry him so ladies pay attention to all the little and the big red flags you ain't got to ask and make sure you looking them straight in the eye too much just observe just watch what he do and how he is and how he treat his mother but most importantly make sure you are ready to commit for better or worse I would definitely rewrite my marriage vows because when they get worse I ain't about to be there no pun intended but no
Time is non refundable (21 years). If you waste my time, you’ll compensate me. He cheated, he’s paying.
Lies. I know women with children from previous marriages that got married again AND the second husband is way better than the first. Ex. My grandmother. She was married to my biological grandfather, they had five children together. He kept mistreating her and she divorced him. Moved back down south where she’s from and awhile later came back in touch with a high school sweetheart. They fell in love and got married. They were married for 31 years until he passed last year. He took great care of her and she was treated like a queen everyday. She’s still in good health at 77, still has the big beautiful house he left behind for her. As for the cheating 1st husband. He lost everything. Had to depend on other women to survive after the divorce, ended up with bad health and now lives with his daughter and her husband. Has had no wife since that divorce. Same for my aunt. Married a man that turned out to be a clown. She had three babies and still left. She celebrating 15 years of marriage soon with my amazing uncle Kenny who she adores. My dad and mom were married until he got himself in trouble. He was a soldier for awhile and for some reason when he got home he wanted to be seen as “the big guy” so he started spending more time and money on his friends in the street instead of coming home to us. My mother got tired and dumped him. He later got in trouble for being in a car that had drugs in it. I was about four or five. My dad got locked up and spent the rest of my childhood in prison. He got out when I was 18. He and my mom finalized their divorce when I was about 19. She never looked back and has a great man who is also a father. We just celebrated his birthday together with the grand babies last night. Ladies, you will be fine. What I’ve seen is that you can find a better man WITH MORE MONEY, a way better attitude and end up living even more happily ever after. If he’s toxic and won’t stop hurting you let him go.
Yes you are right.
Wow, huge explanation to NOT prove a point
@@claytonwatts3518 Or you have low comprehension skills. The point is that woman divorcee can definitely have a chance at a greater home life with a greater man after a divorce.
@@Autumn-zd9nq Sorry to burst your bubble, but many, many studies have been done on this and the data just doesn't reflect that. The data shows us most women DO NOT remarry or become more financially secure. You're obviously entitled to your opinion, but facts just don't care about your feelings.
@@Autumn-zd9nq So essentially, you are counting the exceptions to the rule as valid cases for overruling the rule.
Sorry, thats not rational.
If men are abusive, tell us miss guru, what is the reason for them staying. Money doesn't replace safety of the wife or children. Divorce is not always that simple.
Divorcing was the best gift my mother ever gave me. She's thriving and I had a better childhood
A lot of people are wishing others to get divorced!
It’s like children wishing their own parents to get divorced!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
But why did they divorce
Why does it matter? As an adult she can go get her own money.
@@dionearnold6047 the law says she’s entitled to some of his money
@@Unknown69874 just be sure you keep that same energy and worry about what the law says the rest of the time too then
@@dooolaay most men don’t even want to be full time dads
@@dooolaay and it doesn’t matter the law says she is
Most would never leave if they were not grossly compensated.
So she's comparing about gold diggers but she's telling women to only be in relationships where they value nothing but the money their partner provides... what?
Short term fast money has a long term cost that you cannot afford
Be careful.. karma is real.. sitting around talking shit about people.. you may be that woman at 50 w kids.. women don’t plan that shit lol it’s life.. I don’t believe in that either but the vibe is off here for real.. disrespecting ppl half ur age who lived more life than you.. check ur ego
We don’t even have to wish karma for this sis, I see it coming already and we’ll be here to give the same energy she’s been haha 😆
I think many are greedy.
But if you are in a sad, mirsible, bad, lonely marriage where both are suffering someone needs to be brave enough to know when to call it quits for both their sake. In that case no amount of money would make it worth it. And you than shouldn't be more greedy by taking more than is your share/worth. Especially when no one is at fault.
Too many greedy people.