Shout Out to Good Men - Respect for Men Who Struggle and Keep Going
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- Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2018
- Hi I'm Melinda, a licensed mental health therapist making therapy videos for a mental health youtube channel! Thank you for stopping by!
Shout Out to Good Men - Respect for Men Who Struggle and Keep Going #mensmentalhealth
Shout out to good men. You are facing a variety of competing challenges, struggles and responsibilities. You get mixed messages from a confused society. You might have been raised by an overgrown boy who didn't know how to be a husband or father - or no father at all.
You may have learned not to show emotion- either because you would get beat, because you had to be the primary caretaker (and didn't have the luxury of expressing feelings), or because you knew that it would cost you.
You likely grew up, got married, had a couple of kids and thought that the family would love and appreciate you. Turns out, you don't flush the toilet right and you can never make enough money to support all the stylish necessities of life.
You might try to escape this pain of feeling unprepared, overwhelmed and inadequate by drinking, playing video games or looking at pornography. It's a downward spiral of pain-escape-shame-repeat.
Please know, I see you. I hear your pain. And, it's okay to reach out. Men's therapy (meaning therapy or counseling services that focus specifically on the challenges that men face in today's society) is becoming more popular. Not that I want you to be more popular- just that therapists are starting to focus more on learning and applying therapeutic techniques to help men in the real challenges they face each day. Besides, therapy is confidential.
You might start a group where men get together and share their struggles and triumphs in a real way. (I think it used to be called Poker Night, but I'm not sure.) In any event, reach out. Don't settle. You are not a horrible person because you have a certain appendage. I apologize for the male-bashing and man-hating you have had to endure in recent years. Some women do know that not all men are a**holes. Some of us actually do appreciate masculinity and the role of husband and father. (And it doesn't make me less of a woman to say that.)
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Thank you for finally informing
Society thAt we men are human not robots.
You are welcome, Ford! Thank you for being a man. I see you.
That was a very thoughtful reflection, thanks. To express one's emotions can mean different things and although it might not be very helpful in regard to what you were talking about, I think for most men the way we do it is often through love-m*king. Some women feel it and enjoy it too, which is when there is a special connection. In the context of therapy, art is often mentioned to express one's feelings. Is it something you would condone?
I’m not one to tell anyone if I agree with connecting during intimate encounters. (Is that what you were asking?) I do have a video coming up regarding only connecting with women in a seggual manner though.
@@healplaylove No, that part wasn't a question, it was more of a statement. Although there isn't an expression through words, I think we tend to live out our emotions in those intimate moments. My question was more related to the use of art for that expression of feelings. I know it is sometimes used in specific context, like in prison.
@@dalesco707 Gotcha. Not much of an artist myself, but yes I think art is a form of emotional expression. At least sometimes. Music, too.
@@healplaylove Great, thanks for answering 👍
Going back to the subject of sex, is it a theme that is easily approached during therapy? Since our sexuality isn't merely reproductive, I think it's an important and broad part of an individual's personal world. My therapist (a girl who is I imagine quite younger than me) and I have started to talk about it in my second session. We've talked about different aspects of sex and at least she doesn't seem to be uncomfortable with the topic.
@@dalesco707 It depends on the therapist and client. We talk about it during supervision to help new therapists get comfortable with the topic. Not all therapists get this training (the getting comfortable with the topic). Some people don't need any preparation; they are just ready to discuss s*x whenever. (I'm disguising the word due to youtube's algorithm. I don't think it understands the difference between corn and therapy.)