I wish I could take your advice Lucid but I can’t I am trans female so my body isn’t right I need to get it to match my mentally. So my money will have to go to getting hormones for a feminine body and pu$$ in bottom surgery Edit: I have been disconnected from social media for so long and still barely use it.
My 14 year old daughter sent this to me. Her exact words "this makes sense" I have told her this, she doesn't hear me. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
As a girl I didn’t expect only 12% of ur viewers were females 😭 This is something that isn’t really talked about to young girls, it’s something many need to hear so I really appreciate this message 🤍
I thought he had more female viewers lol, as a woman myself his videos r inspiring even if they may be about issues males deal with. His messages are truly powerful
@@kurade1096 what does that even mean. im gonna walk into school tmr run up to my female friends "dId YoU kNow ThAt LuCiD hAs A 12% fEmAle AuDiEnCe? iF yOu DiDn'T uR vErY sHoRt-SiGhTeD
To be honest… I’ve never hated myself because of the way I look. I’ve been called ugly, fat and all that. But I realize that just because there is somebody prettier, doesn’t mean that I am ugly. I’ve also been called pretty, hot and so on but none of it matters. I am a person. I am not “pretty, hot, ugly, fat”. I am a fucking person. I think it’s more important to focus on the connections I make and what I learn and achieve. The most beautiful thing that is the most attractive to me is having a good social circle and goals. I have posted in bikinis and completely covered up. In sexy dresses and in winter jackets. And the likes? They are the same every time. Because most of the people liking know me. Social media is for texting, sharing with friends and INTERACTING. Not for comparing and following people you don’t know. How many strangers do you follow for their content versus for their looks? Looks get boring eventually.
I remember this one time I actually felt confident and pretty I went out to the mall and some guy ran up to me touched my butt and ran off. I have a fear of being confident again.
@@SidVacant69 I'm sorry that happened. Guys in my class used to slap my butt all the time. Once I was wearing a strapless overall and this one dude pulled down my top. I was not wearing a bra because it was ruffly so it wasn't noticeable. It pissed me the fuck off anytime dudes would do anything similar but I do realize that it is not my fault. It is theirs. It made me uncomfortable so I snapped and he hasn't done it again as far as I know. Any time I'd kneel down, they'd also try and stand in front of me with their crotches forward and they'd put their hands on my head so it looked like I was getting down to give them a blow job. I have many other stories of dudes being creepy but the one thing I learnt is that you should not fear being confident. Guys don't want you to be confident because if you are, it'll get to a point where you stop taking their shit. They want you to remain small, soft-spoken and submissive. Don't give in. Being confident is never a bad thing and you should not fear it. It took me a lot of harassment to learn how to stand my ground. The only thing I'd change about it is that I wish I realized sooner.
@@lbgvic135 I weight 57 kgs, have relatively visible muscles on my stomach and I'm 5"5'? And even if I were overweight, you still sound stupid as fuck❤️
I always tell my girlfriend to get off social media because all these fake “models” make her feel ugly even though she’s insanely beautiful and I always do my best to convince her that she is really beautiful inside and out, to not compare herself with others and that she needs to love herself! Thank you for making this video, this is a real problem
as a 15 year old girl, I went through hell during 6th and 7th grade when it comes to insecurities. hell. I truly mean it. It destroyed my mind. I fell into deep depression. I hated the world, people around me.. how everything is just poisoned. as if I’m around robots and not humans. during 14 I isolated from everything and everyone, I healed. I explored the spiritual world,philosophy etc. It’s mindblown how everything you said is something I said to the new people I found. keep opening eyes to the ones who can’t do it themselves. I wish I discovered you at 12,13, but that’s fine. I’ve done this myself. Somebody else that age needs you now.
I literally switched my account to reply to this . This is exactly me . Middle school was just like that for me . I am 14 (turning 15 soon) and I consider this year to be really helpful since I worked on myself like you! Have a great day/night :)
I’m so used to seeing incel-related videos with similar titles, telling “females” they’re everything possibly negative they can think of, that I thought this video would be the same. I was pleasantly surprised to find out it was the opposite. thank you
@@___xyz___ mostly come up in my recommended, you’ve never heard of any channels like fresh and fit? they seem to pop up everywhere I look, it gets boring after the first few times
@@Symora fresh and fit actually helps guys to stay clear of 304s because most women out there feel their high promiscuity is akin to female empowerment lol
As a member of that 12% of your fanbase, it’s extremely sad to see my girlfriends who are all so beautiful and amazing seeing themselves as inadequate and unworthy. It’s devastating seeing the impact that instagram and tiktok have caused on so many girls’ mental healths. It’s taken me years to finally get to a place where I feel comfortable and confident and I don’t use facetune or makeup or anything artificial to enhance my beauty unless it’s for myself and no one else. It shouldnt take that long and should be something that shouldnt take effort. Even now i have to remind myself every once in a while that i’m adequate and the girls on instagram arent realistic depictions of beauty. If another girl is reading this, you are beautiful and wonderful and don’t let anyone else make you think any less. You dont need to hand over your money, mental health, or physical health for beauty.
Sending this to my girl to get her confidence going, she’s a very kind, and mentally beautiful person but all this shit makes her so insecure about her body and it’s making me worried. Thanks lucid for making this vid, I absolutely love you as a homie, you’ve helped me improve so much already as a person. I can’t thank you enough man
The best thing I've ever done is delete all my social media. I've been ridiculed by family members for it and I simply don't care anymore. I never realised how much social media was ruining how I saw myself until now. Thank you for this video. I'm going to send it to my best friend. It really hits deep man.
As a woman, I know. That's why I'm not on any socials and work out every week for myself. Girls can call me a pick me all they want, at the end of the day I'm happier without socials and an excess of low quality people in my life. Quality over quantity in every which way.
@@KshipsinKchups sometimes a "pick me girl" doesnt know she was a pick me or doesnt know misogyny it always happen in elementary and highschool girls because it was a stem internalize from very start at young age then when a girl or woman start growing up she will outgrow that and understand to be more supportive to other woman u know when u were jealous because u cannot do to shine when she got attention but it was not only skin deep theres more why a woman behaving like that
@@KshipsinKchups They think I support "Misogyny" because I only want high quality people in my life, male or female. I don't want people in my life that complain all day, I want to be friends with people who live in the real world & work hard to create the life they want. All they do is moan about how hard life is instead of actually putting in the work to live a great life, or about how bad "men" are when they chase the lowest quality man and have his kids.
@@chiwawa7189 lmao that's just common sense! If you're a pick me then so am I ( I thought they were suggesting that you were faking being off social media to be "different from other girls" bc that's what a pick me would actually do. All these people are jealous and don't understand people like us. We're better off alone until we find our group
Thank you for this. I've hated my appearance since I was 12 and I still don't like who I see in the mirror, but I'm slowly learning to love myself a little more. I did give up on trying to find someone though, but accepting my situation has helped me learn how to be alone with myself.
Start meditating also...it will change your life. Check out Dr Joe Dispenza. I started meditating from what I learned from him and I healed an aneurysm on my thoracic artery, an aneurysm that the doctors told me the only option was to cut my chest open and put a stint in it. Along with the healing came a life of loving myself, joy, bliss, compassion for others and nonstop synchronicity and coincidences that are just amazing. When I say it will change its really an understatement.😄
@@stoopidhero7728 i understood, i completely agree that our bodies dont define us but i was just pointing out that everything about us is temporary. Even the parts of us that DO define us. sokay, wasnt a very serious comment anyway (my reply, not yours)
A female teenager and fan here, absolutely love what Lucid is trying to convey. I’ve always been insecure of my body and still am and I try to use all these filters and wear makeup to fit with other girls and seem pretty, and you really made me realized I shouldn’t suck myself into these social media stuff. And I’m trying to attract people to make myself feel better which I should stop. Thank you Lucid 🙏🏼 social media is scary and toxic
i deleted tiktok last year, this might sound very dramatic but its one of the best things that happened to me thanks sm for posting this video bro, ive been feeling horrible lately but this helped me a lot
I love your content because you’re so authentic, raw and talk about real world problems. This is the truth but also sad as to how many young souls get affected and grow to be insecure. Comparison is really a thief of joy.
The thing is, we as a society decide a woman's value or worth based on how attractive she is. And sadly that gives the pressure where we try really hard to attain to these standards. But ladies, and everyone else, let's remember that we're so much more than our looks and our looks are not even something that's under our control. What IS under our control is who we choose to be. :) have a good day!
I saw this video floating around for a bit and didn't want to watch it, but dang, I feel like I got a virtual hug when I was expecting an angry rant. It's crazy that the moment I decided to watch this was when I needed it the most. It hits different when you hear it from someone who doesn't even know you. God bless you 💙
I'm so happy that someone finally said it. Girls in my class talk about bodyshaming and how bad it is. that's okay, I support that. But when you scroll down their Insta profile and see what they post, I get very sad. It shows that they are so insecure about their bodies. But I never dare to talk to them about it, because they don't realize it themselves. and i don't think i am able to explain that to them. thank you for phrasing it so well. I'm going to send them this video now
As a teenage female, this makes me feel a lot better, I get this very insecure feeling every time I go on social media 😢 (edit: how did this get so many likes?!)
@@beastcarleeto707 yea they exist in your head when influenced by social media your surroundings in the really word are up to you. You decided what’s around you, same way you decided what your watching. Social media is the main problem bro, suicides have increase since the invention of it. And social media is a straight distraction for what you really wanna do, whatever insecurities you have you can focus more on them if social media wasn’t in the picture.
Thank you lots! :3 Im a female and I rarely take pictures of myself because I dont like my face, but some years ago I started taking pictures of my body and it gave me a little confidence because for the first time I liked how I looked. But still, everytime I look at pictures of my friends on Instagram, I always feel bad about myself... this video helps tho, thank you
Thank you Lucid. I've been struggling with my self-esteem for as long as I remember. It started off with a guy rejecting me based off how I looked then it spiraled through social media. I can barely look at myself in the mirror without crying. Thank you for reminding me that I don't need anything external to fill the void in my heart. I need to fill it myself through bettering myself and I'm going to take steps toward that goal. I love you Lucid, thank you for always keeping it real.
Start looking in the mirror and telling yourself you love yourself. Say shit like, "I know I don't feel this, but I love myself. I know I feel ugly, but I love myself. I know this seems like bullshit but I love myself." And say that over and over until it breaks you into tears, then say "I love you" straight into your eyes as many times as you can. Then spend a few minutes EVERY DAY doing essentially the same thing... until you can smile at yourself in the mirror when you see yourself and FEEL worthwhile and loved. It may seem silly or stupid, and you may feel ridiculous or worse, but it's WORTH YOUR TIME and has the capacity of altering your entire life.
As a female who has struggled with body image issues for a long time and battled with eating disorders this is a really enlightening video thank you lucid for posting this
I'm trying to get my sister to watch this. I love your channel man, I wish you the greatest. Your nofap videos have convinced me to start and I'm already going strong! Love you man!
i cannot say this enough, i love you lucid. you are criminally underrated. i cried like 2-3 times watching this video man. i hope you hit 1 million bro ive been subscribed for a while now because i liked your dark web videos but you truly a character. i lvoe you man
A wise guy called MrCraftastic once told me, "it is our perfect imperfections that make us individually perfect". Think of it as a jigsaw puzzle. If all pieces were perfect squares they would easily sit next to one another, but nothing would truly hold them together. However in a real puzzle, not all pieces compliment one another, but when there is a true connection, the pieces are inseparable. Non of us is really perfect folks. But when we truly embrace that, we can go ahead and make perfect bonds with people we care about. P.S. Give yourselves a pat in the back cause yall are fine af
More people should watch this. I got rid of all social media two weeks ago and I don't ever wanna go back again. Also, I really appreciate that you just talk. It gives completely different vibes without editing. 🌷
I would like to commend myself for clicking on your video because I needed a quick reminder that I'm spending too much time scrolling out of boredom. You delivered this message beautifully. Keep opening the eyes of your viewers love!
I didnt know I was 12% of your viewership. I appreciate your concern and I’m sure you would make a great big brother. For myself, I do see how I’m influenced by it. It’s nice to hear a perspective from a male.
yup, since our parents didn’t grow up with them they don’t see how dangerous it really is. I hope for us, we all get unblinded and educate our kids about how bad it really is
Word of the day "Everything comes from within" Loving this big bro, homebodies here thanks for reminding me again that I'm not weird, I'm just different to others enjoying a lot of time alone and not posting pics in social media just using it for communicating👍☺
I'm A Girl And I Already Knew This, Ever Since I Was A Child I Would Always Question Everything And Was So Fascinated By My Own Mind. But All The Other Girls Around Me Felt Like Robots And Like They Only Cared About How They Looked. Thanks For This Video, We Need Girls And Boys Coming Together To Create A Better Future.
Be proud and glad you accomplished to find this lad. Now make sure you use the amount of proudness you felt to spread this message to the girls around you. They damn depend on it and are actually reaching the sound barrier at speed which burns them each day further more than yesterday.
@@bullymaguire9100 well said and thank you dude. I fight to stay patient till I'll reach godlike level of keeping positive attitude till I can have therapy and detoxify my brain from my past habits which had to do with porn at least a year go which I'm glad but nofap 2 days ago. Upcoming year will be a poggers journey
I am one of the small ppl percentage of females that view your content . I had anorexia for a long time due to constantly comparing myself. I’m in recovery now and thanks for the advice
Thank you so much for this video Lucid. Often times when I see videos with men addressing women I am always hesitant because although I am sure some of them have good intentions they execute their main idea horribly. The words the use, the hypotheticals they create, the comparisons, their tone, it makes the video seem as if it was made to bash, reveal all the faults about women in this society and ultimately provide no answers. I felt emotional when watching this video because it felt as if you really do care and what to see us women love and respect ourselves more. This has been the best video I have seen dedicated to women made by anyone and I would love to see more discussions like this done in such a way. I can not thank you enough.
I have been binge watching your yt channel later and I stumble upon this video that i think is sooo important. This message is for both males and mostly females who feel this certain way. I've had an eating disorder for 3 years now beacuse of these pressure i putted on myself for not being "beautifull" enough. Luckly I reacived I'm on my journey to overcome this horrible mental illness but I don't think other people get how awfull and concerning this whole situation trully is. I was hosptalized and almost die of inanition/starvation beacuse of trying to look "perfect". It took me a long time for me to realize the real size of this problem, but it is not impossible. I aint gonna lie, It is hard to overcome this type of situations when everysingle person (even friends and family) surrounding you is trying to fit in modern beauty standards that are not even realistic, but i encourage you to stop being so harsh on yourself and spread this video with other relatives that may be stucked in a similar situation. Please keep loving yourselves unconditionally.
The best thing I did on Instagram was unfollowing every model, and start posting casually again. I used to post pics of what made me look the most "fuckable," and now I just post photo dumps of pictures that make me happy and are filled with good memories. That is the sole PURPOSE of photos--to capture sweet memories, not to show a smoke and mirrors effect of the perfect life. Thanks for the vid! Good shit. More young people need to hear this.
Honestly I really needed this video rn bc I’ve been comparing myself to other girls a lot lately I’m glad I don’t have social media bc I would feel a lot worst
That’s a lovely message and I love your warm energy behind it. But unfortunately, it is vastly harder to move through the world when you are objectively ‘unnattractive’. Even if you see yourself as beautiful, if society doesn’t, then not as many people will want to date you, you have a lower chance of getting (some) jobs, people are not as kind, etc. Sometimes getting work done is not about feeling better about ones self on the inside, but is about getting opportunities that would otherwise be off limits in the real world. It’s sickening, but sadly true.
Yeah this is the sickening part of our human nature. And this issue is, it will always be around whether we like it or not as it is our survivalist nature to want to create offspring with those we deem healthy for the continual of our race. I feel like Alex’s message is that although society beats the average person down (especially woman), with crazy expectations just to be accepted and given opportunities, Happiness does not need to come from the expectations of others, but even in the midst of the cruelty of society you can find happiness in yourself without having the toxicity of comparison. I am just a 17 year old guy, and if what I wrote sounded retarded, well it is what it is. On a serious note, this is just my perspective and I am not a female so I truly have no idea what life is like on your side, but I do know us guys also often have a lot of expectations put on us. I wish you the very best!
okay why would you want to date people if they find you unnattractive and dont appreciate you for outward beauty as much as your inward beauty (which is the most important). The point isn't about how people view you, it's about how you view yourself. Forget about the rest of the world and own who you are. Why would you want a job that will belittle you because of "objective beauty." You're viewing this all wrong and I hope that you can be more optimistic here despite what the world's agenda is.
@@AnEpicFatalityArchives I was a lot more pessimistic at the time when I wrote this comment and my thought process has evolved since then. I definitely lean more towards your tune these days.
thank you!! this is the exact reason i deleted instagram & tiktok a few months ago. even though i can still feel the negative effects these apps had on my self-confidence, life has become 100x better. i keep telling people that social media is killing us and that we forgot how to be human but most of them don't listen - i hope this will soon change. thank you for your video. very insightful.
thanks so much dude. hopefully u really opened up eyes to this major problem. as a teen girl i can totally relate and this made me feel a lot better. ❤️
Bro I wish I could sit down and have a convo with Lucid hes so intelligent and such an insightful dude. Its like he's always speaking from the realest part of his heart and I love it. I dont use social media much for the very reasons he talks about in this video. It was all so overwhelming I avoided it a lot rather than engaging in it because it made me have so many complicated feelings about myself and my friends. He definitely hit the mark on women comparing themselves to each other; its why so many of my friendships with other women ended. Us (my previous friends and I) comparing each other to ourselves not only made us more insecure about our own bodies but it also made us hate each other for the aspects of each other that we became jealous of. I feel bad a lot because I wasn't as impacted by social media and by that I mean I didn't grow up glued to it and concerned about it so I didn't compare myself to them like they did to me and it often caused MORE problems because then it became the case of, "Well I'm comparing myself to her but she doesn't compare herself to me, she must think she's better than me," like it was an attack I didn't feel insecure around my own friends. In reality my sense of self worth just wasn't dependent on feeling like I was just as good or better/prettier/hotter/whatever than they were. Its a horrible cycle that literally rips friendships apart. To this day there's a friend of mine who does nothing but compare us. I try to break her from the cycle and remind her we're both equals but its like its so engrained into her sense of self worth that nothing will help it and it makes me sad. We've been friends for about a decade and everything is a competition for no reason. She will grasp at literally anything to make herself somehow higher or better than me for no reason. An example for anyone whos curious; we both got brand new TV's at about the same time, almost the exact same TV no less. I was super excited for both of us cause my old one had died and she just got a new one as a present. "Yay we can play video games together again!" Was my first thought, but instead of just being happy for both of us she immediately tried to convince me hers was bigger and mine was smaller when they're the exact same size TV. I showed her the box that has it in big giant letters and she said to me, "They must've put a smaller TV in the bigger box." WHAT THE FU ??? OK. Could not actually believe my ears so I broke out a TAPE MEASURE and proved they're exactly the same size TV. When she finally realized she ran out of options and was wrong, she pulled the brand card instead. "Well mine is a Samsung." So I went online - and grabbed the boxes again - and showed her the specs which are the exact same as well, the only difference is mine has a Roku installed and was cheaper priced, just to show her and she serisouly said to me "Mine must be better somehow because mine cost more money than yours," and I was hoping this would wake her up to the fact that yeah, price doesnt mean anything. Whoever bought yours paid $300 extra for this brand name on the front rather than grabbing something off brand that was just as good, but instead she used it to reinforce her idea that my TV, with the same exact model and serial number on the box BTW, was somehow placed in the wrong box and shipped to Walmart with the rest of the TV's that were all correctly boxed and labeled *SIGH* People who live in a cycle like this unfortunately dont always realize how badly it impacts them and their relationships. It can literally make them delusional wit a capital D. They end up giving more of a shit about material bullshit than the people they care about or the situation they're in. Like this example I gave: at the end of the day it doesnt fucking matter who has what TV. We both are lucky we have people who love us and are generous enough to gift us such nice things and we shouldn't argue over whos is better because the answer is neither. They're just different. Bro i love this video because Ive been watching all my friends exist like this for years and it makes me bonkers crazy because nobody stops to appreciate what they already have or the people around them
Didn’t expect this when I clicked on the video. I formed an eating disorder because of social media. It is so mentally deteriorating to compare yourself to things that aren’t real. Ladies, men, whatever you are. You are so beautiful. If you are comparing your physique to people online, I seriously recommend you take a break from it. Find the beauty in you, not in others. Especially not in social media. Who you are as a person is infinitely worth more than how others see you at face value.
I love and appreciate this a lot. Been trying to be off social media less for these exact reasons, but it’s hard when even going through the day you still hear other girls complain and feel bad about not looking like blank or not having a bigger/smaller xyz. I’m not alone when I say that it means a lot that you and so many guys agree with these issues and want the best for all the girls out there 💙
Hi, part of that 12%. I don’t share things with people normally but I came across your video and had to watch it. I at first was like, ‘he’s another one of those guys to tell me I don’t need makeup’ but I watched it and I am blown away. I am 15 right now and during seventh the grade my mental health took a turn for the worst. My “friends” at the time were extremely toxic and didn’t understand my anxiety. I am heavily medicated for anxiety and other mental shit. I nearly took my own life several times that year by a combination of what others and myself thought about me. I am so happy to be in this life where us women can be respected and understood more. Not all the time, but you guys are more of gentlemen then men were. I’ve dealt with so much shit that I am not gonna get into, but I just wanted to say thank you and I really appreciate that.
Sent this to my female friends. You’re honestly my favorite RUclipsr. You get straight to the point you’re completely honest and you go over extremely serious topics. Love you bro no homo.
Sameee bro I sent this to my friends right as I saw this video I even sent it to my ex that's now my friend cause it's exactly what I wanted to say to her while we dated but since I suck at explaining things I didn't know how
My ex broke up with me because I tried to tell her this. She had nipple piercings and men would stare at her every where we went. And she said she needed to feel confident. I think it’s the social media problem. And I hear her friends talking about onlyfans. Everything you said in this video is what took her away from me. Thankyou lucid for this information
This was true confirmation because I just deleted social media an hour ago because I felt like I needed to for my own sanity and then I see this video pop thinking it was going to put down women just for it to confirm that me deleting social media was the best thing for me! Thank you!
@@sonal4753 a BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) is a plastic surgery procedure where fat from the stomach is extracted threw a needle and then injected into an individual butt to give them an hourglass figure. It’s is the most dangerous plastic surgery procedure and is just as dangerous as open heart surgery. (It’s especially more dangerous from men or trans women. Kim K has one.
Thank you Lucid, I really appreciated this and feel heard. I would think I am quite resilient, but the things you touched on in this video hit home ngl. It can get to you from time to time, especially when you see the majority of young people doing it. Thanks again, for being that older brother figure. All love
I think eventually there will be a social credit system, with or without removing likes on social media. I feel lucky my algorithm pushes out 3D art more than Instagram models. Thank you for drawing attention to the topics nobody seems to talking about. You have such a great message, can’t believe only 12% of your viewers are female :O
Thanks for this Lucid. I swear I always forget about "you attract what you show", I always forget it, and I'm learning to respect myself more. GALS, the 12% of y'all, you are so beautiful.
As a young female who does happen to fall into the trap of social media and the unrealistic lifestyle and beauty expectations, this was very helpful and eye-opening. You're absolutely right, it does rely on the algorithm and turns into a game of comparison. Thank you for this!
I saw this in my recommended, and even as a guy I decided to watch it anyway. And I love everything he's said because I can't even comprehend how right he is. I myself have never really cared about looking at social media often or even posting, and even when I did likes were just likes y'know? I really wish a lot more people would worry about actually connecting with people instead of their reputation on the internet, I think it'd make a lot of good and healthy changes. People wouldn't need to worry about looks as much, or need to have such big of an ego that they think they are above others. I wish I could go back and tell my ex this because she'd always be worrying about it and I'd always try and reassure. Thank you times a million for this video bro, you're a damn legend. And to the females who could be reading this, I know sorry doesn't mean much, but I'm sorry on behalf of the people who objectify you, just know you're a person just like the rest of us. Don't change yourself just for some reputation or something, have it be your own choice on how you want to change. But anyway, again, awesome video man. It's good to realize people are taking caution of this huge problem now.
I wasn't a part of that 12% of the fans until now. My boy best friend just sent me this and.. Im literally crying right now. This guy is one in a billion that understands us. "Be the best version of yourself, and not anybody else", thank you so much for this amazing speech and thanks for standing out for us and making this video. You really helped me feel more comfortable and loved, and big thanks to my best friend Markus who understands me and wants to help❤😭 also this is amazing, the message in this video, the speech and everything. You are amazing for doing this for us🙏🏽😔 thank you very much, i love you
This came up on my recommended and I’m really thankful. I had a tough schedule today and so I didn’t have time to get ready and cover up my acne before going out to get groceries and I hated every moment of it, feeling so inadequate with my messy hair, makeup free face and baggy clothing. So much shame really. When I got home I felt so drained and anxious and stupid for even feeling like this in the first place. This is not healthy and I’ve been fine running errands like this before. I think I needed this today
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I wish I could take your advice Lucid but I can’t I am trans female so my body isn’t right I need to get it to match my mentally. So my money will have to go to getting hormones for a feminine body and pu$$ in bottom surgery
Edit: I have been disconnected from social media for so long and still barely use it.
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@@TylinaMusic may I ask why you became trans gender?
im a guy here and i have to say every female needs to watch this its so true as well
My younger bro just sent this to me nd I’m speechless. Thank u to all the males who are so understanding nd I hope more ppl can see the light
why u here Sara I told u don’t comment just watch 💀
@@Adam-ij6dd shut up u sent it I’ll do what I want lol
Guys I’m the brother nd my sister is stupid
@@Adam-ij6dd I’m telling mama rn
This is hilarious
Dont say "we need more people like him"
Be like him
Be yourself
That contridicts his message saying "be the best you". So you clearly haven't learnt anything from that
@@rootsofrapheal5594 he didn’t say “be lucid” he said “be *like* lucid”
@@deejasart7766 Oh yeah good point
@@Clapity be a goof version of yourself
“You attract what you show..”
Thank you for such an enlightening message.
Hey hi
Are you a doctor?(｡◕‿◕｡)➜
@@tant0nsylph225 panjabi?
@@tant0nsylph225 yo I thought she is candian or american
Miss/Mrs Gurleen Bhullar where are you from
@@tant0nsylph225 btw panjabi means india right?
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
-President Theodore Roosevelt
Only if you make it, your ego that is. If you accept others being better then you wont be affected.
so ur saying comparing myself to eminem is unhealthy? how?
My 14 year old daughter sent this to me.
Her exact words "this makes sense"
I have told her this, she doesn't hear me.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
she hears you :), that's why it made sense! you and lucid worked in tandem
Bro Lucid is lowkey the big brother we all needed when we was kids
Facts
Facts
Facts
Big FACTS 💫
I feel it
for real though my three little sisters will be watching this today thank you
You dropped this king 👑
xD
I like turtles
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Same my boy
Lucid is the most no filter person i know
he made me sus hes hadsome asf
@@davie_wavy4726 well, go watch some horsemeet videos, this guy actually has no filter. But i get wdym. I just like the metuoned gy:)
As a girl I didn’t expect only 12% of ur viewers were females 😭
This is something that isn’t really talked about to young girls, it’s something many need to hear so I really appreciate this message 🤍
I thought he had more female viewers lol, as a woman myself his videos r inspiring even if they may be about issues males deal with. His messages are truly powerful
More girls need to be told that only 12% of Lucid's viewer's are female. Man, women really are short-sighted
@@kurade1096 Your comment makes absolutely zero sense
@@jannareminded8449 shush, you're probably female
@@kurade1096 what does that even mean. im gonna walk into school tmr run up to my female friends "dId YoU kNow ThAt LuCiD hAs A 12% fEmAle AuDiEnCe? iF yOu DiDn'T uR vErY sHoRt-SiGhTeD
To be honest… I’ve never hated myself because of the way I look. I’ve been called ugly, fat and all that. But I realize that just because there is somebody prettier, doesn’t mean that I am ugly. I’ve also been called pretty, hot and so on but none of it matters. I am a person. I am not “pretty, hot, ugly, fat”. I am a fucking person. I think it’s more important to focus on the connections I make and what I learn and achieve. The most beautiful thing that is the most attractive to me is having a good social circle and goals. I have posted in bikinis and completely covered up. In sexy dresses and in winter jackets. And the likes? They are the same every time. Because most of the people liking know me. Social media is for texting, sharing with friends and INTERACTING. Not for comparing and following people you don’t know. How many strangers do you follow for their content versus for their looks? Looks get boring eventually.
that is actually true i get that i did the same to me
I remember this one time I actually felt confident and pretty I went out to the mall and some guy ran up to me touched my butt and ran off.
I have a fear of being confident again.
@@SidVacant69 I'm sorry that happened. Guys in my class used to slap my butt all the time. Once I was wearing a strapless overall and this one dude pulled down my top. I was not wearing a bra because it was ruffly so it wasn't noticeable. It pissed me the fuck off anytime dudes would do anything similar but I do realize that it is not my fault. It is theirs. It made me uncomfortable so I snapped and he hasn't done it again as far as I know. Any time I'd kneel down, they'd also try and stand in front of me with their crotches forward and they'd put their hands on my head so it looked like I was getting down to give them a blow job. I have many other stories of dudes being creepy but the one thing I learnt is that you should not fear being confident. Guys don't want you to be confident because if you are, it'll get to a point where you stop taking their shit. They want you to remain small, soft-spoken and submissive. Don't give in. Being confident is never a bad thing and you should not fear it. It took me a lot of harassment to learn how to stand my ground. The only thing I'd change about it is that I wish I realized sooner.
m’aam stfu u prob that fat girl in each school
@@lbgvic135 I weight 57 kgs, have relatively visible muscles on my stomach and I'm 5"5'? And even if I were overweight, you still sound stupid as fuck❤️
I always tell my girlfriend to get off social media because all these fake “models” make her feel ugly even though she’s insanely beautiful and I always do my best to convince her that she is really beautiful inside and out, to not compare herself with others and that she needs to love herself! Thank you for making this video, this is a real problem
same bro it’s a real issue wish my girl knew how beautiful she was
thankfully my girl doesn’t use social media because as close minded as it is i don’t go for females that use any of them i wish y’all the best tho
Cool bro hope your girl realizes that nothing needs to change
hopefully she changes and begins to love herself. it’s a long process though, so make sure you both are patient
What a great bf show this to her
as a 15 year old girl, I went through hell during 6th and 7th grade when it comes to insecurities. hell. I truly mean it. It destroyed my mind. I fell into deep depression. I hated the world, people around me.. how everything is just poisoned. as if I’m around robots and not humans. during 14 I isolated from everything and everyone, I healed. I explored the spiritual world,philosophy etc. It’s mindblown how everything you said is something I said to the new people I found. keep opening eyes to the ones who can’t do it themselves. I wish I discovered you at 12,13, but that’s fine. I’ve done this myself. Somebody else that age needs you now.
It’s never too late, I discovered that at 22
I’m taking all this down💯this is facts for real
I literally switched my account to reply to this . This is exactly me . Middle school was just like that for me . I am 14 (turning 15 soon) and I consider this year to be really helpful since I worked on myself like you! Have a great day/night :)
Same thing I did too
I'm happy you're ok now! Keep going!
This guy is actually a legend.
Hi checkmark
go sleep
Yeah
Yes
for having female viewers?
I’m so used to seeing incel-related videos with similar titles, telling “females” they’re everything possibly negative they can think of, that I thought this video would be the same. I was pleasantly surprised to find out it was the opposite. thank you
Incels are ironically going through the same thing they just chose to direct their frustrations on women.
ooh it was the one time saying female was not in a dismissive way
Where do you find incel-related videos? I've never seen one. I thought most guys were ashamed of it.
@@___xyz___ mostly come up in my recommended, you’ve never heard of any channels like fresh and fit? they seem to pop up everywhere I look, it gets boring after the first few times
@@Symora fresh and fit actually helps guys to stay clear of 304s because most women out there feel their high promiscuity is akin to female empowerment lol
big homie SPITTING
Only Facts
As a member of that 12% of your fanbase, it’s extremely sad to see my girlfriends who are all so beautiful and amazing seeing themselves as inadequate and unworthy. It’s devastating seeing the impact that instagram and tiktok have caused on so many girls’ mental healths. It’s taken me years to finally get to a place where I feel comfortable and confident and I don’t use facetune or makeup or anything artificial to enhance my beauty unless it’s for myself and no one else. It shouldnt take that long and should be something that shouldnt take effort. Even now i have to remind myself every once in a while that i’m adequate and the girls on instagram arent realistic depictions of beauty. If another girl is reading this, you are beautiful and wonderful and don’t let anyone else make you think any less. You dont need to hand over your money, mental health, or physical health for beauty.
appreciate you for this, you're amazing!
These apps are designed to bring us to the next level for the nwo
@Timmy the sad truth
Girlfriends?? How many girls do u have at the same time u f***boy?🤣
Insta makes peapole insecure and tiktok is fucked up in its own way
Sending this to my girl to get her confidence going, she’s a very kind, and mentally beautiful person but all this shit makes her so insecure about her body and it’s making me worried. Thanks lucid for making this vid, I absolutely love you as a homie, you’ve helped me improve so much already as a person. I can’t thank you enough man
"mentally" beautiful bro wtf do u even mean
@@lostplug her personality and way of thinking is beautiful
@@S1ghtL3ss what about the way she looks😭😭
@@lostplug ofc she looks good aswell, what you on about?
@@S1ghtL3ss Bet what's her snap
The best thing I've ever done is delete all my social media. I've been ridiculed by family members for it and I simply don't care anymore. I never realised how much social media was ruining how I saw myself until now.
Thank you for this video. I'm going to send it to my best friend. It really hits deep man.
good job
This is social mediaz
what about youtube?
you lie. youtube is social media
As a woman, I know. That's why I'm not on any socials and work out every week for myself. Girls can call me a pick me all they want, at the end of the day I'm happier without socials and an excess of low quality people in my life. Quality over quantity in every which way.
thats great
How is that pick me. Please search the meaning. Pick me is a girl that supports misogynists
@@KshipsinKchups sometimes a "pick me girl" doesnt know she was a pick me or doesnt know misogyny it always happen in elementary and highschool girls because it was a stem internalize from very start at young age then when a girl or woman start growing up she will outgrow that and understand to be more supportive to other woman u know when u were jealous because u cannot do to shine when she got attention but it was not only skin deep theres more why a woman behaving like that
@@KshipsinKchups They think I support "Misogyny" because I only want high quality people in my life, male or female. I don't want people in my life that complain all day, I want to be friends with people who live in the real world & work hard to create the life they want. All they do is moan about how hard life is instead of actually putting in the work to live a great life, or about how bad "men" are when they chase the lowest quality man and have his kids.
@@chiwawa7189 lmao that's just common sense! If you're a pick me then so am I ( I thought they were suggesting that you were faking being off social media to be "different from other girls" bc that's what a pick me would actually do. All these people are jealous and don't understand people like us. We're better off alone until we find our group
Girl: "Mom am I pritty?"
Mom: "You saying that dumb shit because of that damn phone"
One of the rare occasions where they might be right
@@erenyeeagah204 fr 🤣
pretty*
Lol this sounds like a boondocks quote 🤣
Mom kinda spitting doe
Thanks!
Thank you for this. I've hated my appearance since I was 12 and I still don't like who I see in the mirror, but I'm slowly learning to love myself a little more. I did give up on trying to find someone though, but accepting my situation has helped me learn how to be alone with myself.
Start meditating also...it will change your life. Check out Dr Joe Dispenza. I started meditating from what I learned from him and I healed an aneurysm on my thoracic artery, an aneurysm that the doctors told me the only option was to cut my chest open and put a stint in it. Along with the healing came a life of loving myself, joy, bliss, compassion for others and nonstop synchronicity and coincidences that are just amazing. When I say it will change its really an understatement.😄
@@FuckJootube joe dispenza is a gem. I can really vouch for him.
My man or my girl lemme tell u this if you learn to love yourself love will come your way, keep your head high.
I accepted that I will be alone for a very long time that it no longer bothers me.
Never give up on loving yourself.
"our body don't define us, they are temporary"
- Melanie Martinez
so is everything else about us no? But nice quote- first half is good
@@nikopencil2847 pls i-
i was talking about the body i didn't say that everything else defined us
@@stoopidhero7728 no no I was saying temporary
@@nikopencil2847 ohh well i was talking about our body
@@stoopidhero7728 i understood, i completely agree that our bodies dont define us but i was just pointing out that everything about us is temporary. Even the parts of us that DO define us. sokay, wasnt a very serious comment anyway (my reply, not yours)
A female teenager and fan here, absolutely love what Lucid is trying to convey. I’ve always been insecure of my body and still am and I try to use all these filters and wear makeup to fit with other girls and seem pretty, and you really made me realized I shouldn’t suck myself into these social media stuff. And I’m trying to attract people to make myself feel better which I should stop. Thank you Lucid 🙏🏼 social media is scary and toxic
Already know this is gonna be solid advice.
There will never be another lucid so appreciate him will he’s still here
Fr a RUclips that keeps it 100% real
Lucid isn't any kindoff Einstein but he still gives some of the best life lessons out there
i deleted tiktok last year, this might sound very dramatic but its one of the best things that happened to me
thanks sm for posting this video bro, ive been feeling horrible lately but this helped me a lot
Why do I feel like lucid would own a good and interesting podcast
Fax
I love your content because you’re so authentic, raw and talk about real world problems. This is the truth but also sad as to how many young souls get affected and grow to be insecure. Comparison is really a thief of joy.
The thing is, we as a society decide a woman's value or worth based on how attractive she is. And sadly that gives the pressure where we try really hard to attain to these standards. But ladies, and everyone else, let's remember that we're so much more than our looks and our looks are not even something that's under our control. What IS under our control is who we choose to be. :) have a good day!
Society does that to everyone, which is why ut needs to change
I will be showing this to my sister when she gets older and understands more
I'll let you know how it goes lucid thanks
My younger sister is watching this tonight when she gets back home. Thanks bro, from the bottom of my heart for this.
I saw this video floating around for a bit and didn't want to watch it, but dang, I feel like I got a virtual hug when I was expecting an angry rant. It's crazy that the moment I decided to watch this was when I needed it the most. It hits different when you hear it from someone who doesn't even know you. God bless you 💙
A lot of us girls need to start valuing ourselves outside social media , thanks Alex for spreading love 💯💯
I'm so happy that someone finally said it.
Girls in my class talk about bodyshaming and how bad it is. that's okay, I support that. But when you scroll down their Insta profile and see what they post, I get very sad. It shows that they are so insecure about their bodies. But I never dare to talk to them about it, because they don't realize it themselves. and i don't think i am able to explain that to them. thank you for phrasing it so well. I'm going to send them this video now
Yeah.
Love the pfp by the way, Eve for the win.
@@reese8050 ahhaha right?
So if they get mad at you, screw them. Make your own future bright and see them die by their lack of knownledge they rejected.
As a teenage female, this makes me feel a lot better, I get this very insecure feeling every time I go on social media 😢 (edit: how did this get so many likes?!)
I hope you are feeling better now
Delete that before you destroy yourself if that's the case.
Get off social media then, problem solved
@@Cesarbeannn beauty standards and stereotypes exist far beyond social media, not saying your advice is bad just not a "problem solved" kinda thing
@@beastcarleeto707 yea they exist in your head when influenced by social media your surroundings in the really word are up to you. You decided what’s around you, same way you decided what your watching. Social media is the main problem bro, suicides have increase since the invention of it. And social media is a straight distraction for what you really wanna do, whatever insecurities you have you can focus more on them if social media wasn’t in the picture.
I saw the title and was a little worried ngl but this was actually such a great message. Social media is toxic, love urself ur awesome
Thanks
Needed this Lucid. Thank you.
Np 😁
Thank you lots! :3
Im a female and I rarely take pictures of myself because I dont like my face, but some years ago I started taking pictures of my body and it gave me a little confidence because for the first time I liked how I looked. But still, everytime I look at pictures of my friends on Instagram, I always feel bad about myself... this video helps tho, thank you
Stop putting yourself down like tgat dont disrespect yourself.
Thank you Lucid. I've been struggling with my self-esteem for as long as I remember. It started off with a guy rejecting me based off how I looked then it spiraled through social media. I can barely look at myself in the mirror without crying. Thank you for reminding me that I don't need anything external to fill the void in my heart. I need to fill it myself through bettering myself and I'm going to take steps toward that goal. I love you Lucid, thank you for always keeping it real.
Start looking in the mirror and telling yourself you love yourself. Say shit like, "I know I don't feel this, but I love myself. I know I feel ugly, but I love myself. I know this seems like bullshit but I love myself." And say that over and over until it breaks you into tears, then say "I love you" straight into your eyes as many times as you can. Then spend a few minutes EVERY DAY doing essentially the same thing... until you can smile at yourself in the mirror when you see yourself and FEEL worthwhile and loved.
It may seem silly or stupid, and you may feel ridiculous or worse, but it's WORTH YOUR TIME and has the capacity of altering your entire life.
This video got me crying, it hits home.
You are probably the perfect candidate for a medication like olanzapine and clonazepam as depressants and ropinirole and modafinil as stimulants
👁👄👁
i just realized i’m a boy
@@MaybePookie huh
As a female who has struggled with body image issues for a long time and battled with eating disorders this is a really enlightening video thank you lucid for posting this
I'm trying to get my sister to watch this. I love your channel man, I wish you the greatest. Your nofap videos have convinced me to start and I'm already going strong! Love you man!
i cannot say this enough, i love you lucid. you are criminally underrated. i cried like 2-3 times watching this video man. i hope you hit 1 million bro ive been subscribed for a while now because i liked your dark web videos but you truly a character. i lvoe you man
A wise guy called MrCraftastic once told me, "it is our perfect imperfections that make us individually perfect". Think of it as a jigsaw puzzle. If all pieces were perfect squares they would easily sit next to one another, but nothing would truly hold them together. However in a real puzzle, not all pieces compliment one another, but when there is a true connection, the pieces are inseparable.
Non of us is really perfect folks. But when we truly embrace that, we can go ahead and make perfect bonds with people we care about.
P.S. Give yourselves a pat in the back cause yall are fine af
Oohh daddy chill....
@@something992 I feel like I’m interrupting something
@@lilytheflower-4004 not if u read the end...
he bannned me
Thanks nice message for a Saturday morning
More people should watch this. I got rid of all social media two weeks ago and I don't ever wanna go back again.
Also, I really appreciate that you just talk. It gives completely different vibes without editing. 🌷
This is social media…
I would like to commend myself for clicking on your video because I needed a quick reminder that I'm spending too much time scrolling out of boredom. You delivered this message beautifully. Keep opening the eyes of your viewers love!
I didnt know I was 12% of your viewership. I appreciate your concern and I’m sure you would make a great big brother. For myself, I do see how I’m influenced by it. It’s nice to hear a perspective from a male.
you didnt know you were a girl?
@@gertrude27 yes that’s exactly what I mean, you are so smart.
@@coniferous6330 How did you do not know you were a girl 😂😂 Just look down bro
@@gertrude27 😃😃😃😃
@@gertrude27 sarcasm ✨
Your one of the rare RUclipsrs that actually care about their followers. And I respect you a LOT for that. Thank u lucid, love u (I have socks on)
Lucid is a whole legend bro, he knows what he's saying. Thank you Lucid, we needed this!
Waitttttttt dark that u ???
As a woman in my mid-thirties I’m glad when I was a teenager we didn’t have smartphones. Parents should be careful and warn their children about this.
yup, since our parents didn’t grow up with them they don’t see how dangerous it really is. I hope for us, we all get unblinded and educate our kids about how bad it really is
Word of the day
"Everything comes from within"
Loving this big bro, homebodies here thanks for reminding me again that I'm not weird, I'm just different to others enjoying a lot of time alone and not posting pics in social media just using it for communicating👍☺
Sending this to my sister right now
She might need this
I'm A Girl And I Already Knew This, Ever Since I Was A Child I Would Always Question Everything And Was So Fascinated By My Own Mind. But All The Other Girls Around Me Felt Like Robots And Like They Only Cared About How They Looked. Thanks For This Video, We Need Girls And Boys Coming Together To Create A Better Future.
Be proud and glad you accomplished to find this lad. Now make sure you use the amount of proudness you felt to spread this message to the girls around you. They damn depend on it and are actually reaching the sound barrier at speed which burns them each day further more than yesterday.
Also head pats and stay lucid 😁😉
You deserve good and you're beautiful the way you are every girl is
@@bullymaguire9100 well said and thank you dude. I fight to stay patient till I'll reach godlike level of keeping positive attitude till I can have therapy and detoxify my brain from my past habits which had to do with porn at least a year go which I'm glad but nofap 2 days ago. Upcoming year will be a poggers journey
Yeah, you are right.
This is premiering on my birthday. I’d call this an early present
happy birthday my g!!
Happy birthday!!
I am one of the small ppl percentage of females that view your content .
I had anorexia for a long time due to constantly comparing myself. I’m in recovery now and thanks for the advice
How do you recover? I have bulimia and I tried to recover 4 times in the past 2 months
Thank you. Even though I wasn’t subscribed to you before watching this, I am now. More girls need to see this im sharing this with my friends 🥺
Thank you so much for this video Lucid. Often times when I see videos with men addressing women I am always hesitant because although I am sure some of them have good intentions they execute their main idea horribly. The words the use, the hypotheticals they create, the comparisons, their tone, it makes the video seem as if it was made to bash, reveal all the faults about women in this society and ultimately provide no answers. I felt emotional when watching this video because it felt as if you really do care and what to see us women love and respect ourselves more. This has been the best video I have seen dedicated to women made by anyone and I would love to see more discussions like this done in such a way. I can not thank you enough.
Speaking facts as always
Long videos FTW, great message as well even though I'm not a female
I have been binge watching your yt channel later and I stumble upon this video that i think is sooo important. This message is for both males and mostly females who feel this certain way. I've had an eating disorder for 3 years now beacuse of these pressure i putted on myself for not being "beautifull" enough. Luckly I reacived I'm on my journey to overcome this horrible mental illness but I don't think other people get how awfull and concerning this whole situation trully is. I was hosptalized and almost die of inanition/starvation beacuse of trying to look "perfect". It took me a long time for me to realize the real size of this problem, but it is not impossible. I aint gonna lie, It is hard to overcome this type of situations when everysingle person (even friends and family) surrounding you is trying to fit in modern beauty standards that are not even realistic, but i encourage you to stop being so harsh on yourself and spread this video with other relatives that may be stucked in a similar situation. Please keep loving yourselves unconditionally.
The lines on his hoodie were so perfect with the “i” in virgim
Lucid always make me think how he's just 19. You're a wonderful wonder person brother!
Every second was Lucid spittin, nothin new
Thank you so much my boy for the banger video. AMAZING STUFF MY BOY!
yoo asta pfp
@@ahmar. YES MY BOY ITS MY FAV ANIME
The best thing I did on Instagram was unfollowing every model, and start posting casually again. I used to post pics of what made me look the most "fuckable," and now I just post photo dumps of pictures that make me happy and are filled with good memories. That is the sole PURPOSE of photos--to capture sweet memories, not to show a smoke and mirrors effect of the perfect life. Thanks for the vid! Good shit. More young people need to hear this.
This man is woke! Thank u Lucid for the message🥰
Honestly I really needed this video rn bc I’ve been comparing myself to other girls a lot lately I’m glad I don’t have social media bc I would feel a lot worst
That’s a lovely message and I love your warm energy behind it.
But unfortunately, it is vastly harder to move through the world when you are objectively ‘unnattractive’. Even if you see yourself as beautiful, if society doesn’t, then not as many people will want to date you, you have a lower chance of getting (some) jobs, people are not as kind, etc. Sometimes getting work done is not about feeling better about ones self on the inside, but is about getting opportunities that would otherwise be off limits in the real world. It’s sickening, but sadly true.
Yeah this is the sickening part of our human nature. And this issue is, it will always be around whether we like it or not as it is our survivalist nature to want to create offspring with those we deem healthy for the continual of our race.
I feel like Alex’s message is that although society beats the average person down (especially woman), with crazy expectations just to be accepted and given opportunities, Happiness does not need to come from the expectations of others, but even in the midst of the cruelty of society you can find happiness in yourself without having the toxicity of comparison. I am just a 17 year old guy, and if what I wrote sounded retarded, well it is what it is. On a serious note, this is just my perspective and I am not a female so I truly have no idea what life is like on your side, but I do know us guys also often have a lot of expectations put on us. I wish you the very best!
okay why would you want to date people if they find you unnattractive and dont appreciate you for outward beauty as much as your inward beauty (which is the most important). The point isn't about how people view you, it's about how you view yourself. Forget about the rest of the world and own who you are. Why would you want a job that will belittle you because of "objective beauty." You're viewing this all wrong and I hope that you can be more optimistic here despite what the world's agenda is.
@@AnEpicFatalityArchives I was a lot more pessimistic at the time when I wrote this comment and my thought process has evolved since then. I definitely lean more towards your tune these days.
@@laurabetts4924 ok forgive me i got a little passionate. i am glad youre doing well
This is the best video ever, I'm not even a girl and this video is so informative
thank you!! this is the exact reason i deleted instagram & tiktok a few months ago. even though i can still feel the negative effects these apps had on my self-confidence, life has become 100x better. i keep telling people that social media is killing us and that we forgot how to be human but most of them don't listen - i hope this will soon change. thank you for your video. very insightful.
thanks so much dude. hopefully u really opened up eyes to this major problem. as a teen girl i can totally relate and this made me feel a lot better. ❤️
Bro I wish I could sit down and have a convo with Lucid hes so intelligent and such an insightful dude. Its like he's always speaking from the realest part of his heart and I love it.
I dont use social media much for the very reasons he talks about in this video. It was all so overwhelming I avoided it a lot rather than engaging in it because it made me have so many complicated feelings about myself and my friends.
He definitely hit the mark on women comparing themselves to each other; its why so many of my friendships with other women ended. Us (my previous friends and I) comparing each other to ourselves not only made us more insecure about our own bodies but it also made us hate each other for the aspects of each other that we became jealous of.
I feel bad a lot because I wasn't as impacted by social media and by that I mean I didn't grow up glued to it and concerned about it so I didn't compare myself to them like they did to me and it often caused MORE problems because then it became the case of, "Well I'm comparing myself to her but she doesn't compare herself to me, she must think she's better than me," like it was an attack I didn't feel insecure around my own friends. In reality my sense of self worth just wasn't dependent on feeling like I was just as good or better/prettier/hotter/whatever than they were.
Its a horrible cycle that literally rips friendships apart. To this day there's a friend of mine who does nothing but compare us. I try to break her from the cycle and remind her we're both equals but its like its so engrained into her sense of self worth that nothing will help it and it makes me sad.
We've been friends for about a decade and everything is a competition for no reason. She will grasp at literally anything to make herself somehow higher or better than me for no reason.
An example for anyone whos curious; we both got brand new TV's at about the same time, almost the exact same TV no less. I was super excited for both of us cause my old one had died and she just got a new one as a present. "Yay we can play video games together again!" Was my first thought, but instead of just being happy for both of us she immediately tried to convince me hers was bigger and mine was smaller when they're the exact same size TV. I showed her the box that has it in big giant letters and she said to me, "They must've put a smaller TV in the bigger box."
WHAT THE FU ??? OK. Could not actually believe my ears so I broke out a TAPE MEASURE and proved they're exactly the same size TV. When she finally realized she ran out of options and was wrong, she pulled the brand card instead. "Well mine is a Samsung."
So I went online - and grabbed the boxes again - and showed her the specs which are the exact same as well, the only difference is mine has a Roku installed and was cheaper priced, just to show her and she serisouly said to me "Mine must be better somehow because mine cost more money than yours," and I was hoping this would wake her up to the fact that yeah, price doesnt mean anything. Whoever bought yours paid $300 extra for this brand name on the front rather than grabbing something off brand that was just as good, but instead she used it to reinforce her idea that my TV, with the same exact model and serial number on the box BTW, was somehow placed in the wrong box and shipped to Walmart with the rest of the TV's that were all correctly boxed and labeled *SIGH*
People who live in a cycle like this unfortunately dont always realize how badly it impacts them and their relationships. It can literally make them delusional wit a capital D. They end up giving more of a shit about material bullshit than the people they care about or the situation they're in. Like this example I gave: at the end of the day it doesnt fucking matter who has what TV. We both are lucky we have people who love us and are generous enough to gift us such nice things and we shouldn't argue over whos is better because the answer is neither. They're just different.
Bro i love this video because Ive been watching all my friends exist like this for years and it makes me bonkers crazy because nobody stops to appreciate what they already have or the people around them
Just so you know, nobody is reading that
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Thank you for doing that. I’m a part of this 12%, and I think that a lot of other girls in that 12% need to hear that.
Didn’t expect this when I clicked on the video. I formed an eating disorder because of social media.
It is so mentally deteriorating to compare yourself to things that aren’t real.
Ladies, men, whatever you are. You are so beautiful.
If you are comparing your physique to people online, I seriously recommend you take a break from it.
Find the beauty in you, not in others. Especially not in social media.
Who you are as a person is infinitely worth more than how others see you at face value.
I love and appreciate this a lot. Been trying to be off social media less for these exact reasons, but it’s hard when even going through the day you still hear other girls complain and feel bad about not looking like blank or not having a bigger/smaller xyz. I’m not alone when I say that it means a lot that you and so many guys agree with these issues and want the best for all the girls out there 💙
Hi, part of that 12%. I don’t share things with people normally but I came across your video and had to watch it. I at first was like, ‘he’s another one of those guys to tell me I don’t need makeup’ but I watched it and I am blown away. I am 15 right now and during seventh the grade my mental health took a turn for the worst. My “friends” at the time were extremely toxic and didn’t understand my anxiety. I am heavily medicated for anxiety and other mental shit. I nearly took my own life several times that year by a combination of what others and myself thought about me. I am so happy to be in this life where us women can be respected and understood more. Not all the time, but you guys are more of gentlemen then men were. I’ve dealt with so much shit that I am not gonna get into, but I just wanted to say thank you and I really appreciate that.
Sent this to my female friends. You’re honestly my favorite RUclipsr. You get straight to the point you’re completely honest and you go over extremely serious topics. Love you bro no homo.
Sameee bro I sent this to my friends right as I saw this video I even sent it to my ex that's now my friend cause it's exactly what I wanted to say to her while we dated but since I suck at explaining things I didn't know how
Rule number 1 of social media, YOU are the product.
Reading this makes me even feel dirty binge watching youtube vids all my life
My ex broke up with me because I tried to tell her this. She had nipple piercings and men would stare at her every where we went. And she said she needed to feel confident. I think it’s the social media problem. And I hear her friends talking about onlyfans. Everything you said in this video is what took her away from me. Thankyou lucid for this information
The empowering manipulation on our female human beings, might be the worst cause for all of this bs
i agree brother
Social media is poisoning our society with all of these things and likes and everything is just messed up.
That's crazy this popped up. I've been so depressed about my looks lately. Thank you
This was true confirmation because I just deleted social media an hour ago because I felt like I needed to for my own sanity and then I see this video pop thinking it was going to put down women just for it to confirm that me deleting social media was the best thing for me! Thank you!
After the whole “BBL trend” I knew social media was a massive poison to society.
Here you are actively using it, i can't say anything though since i am too.
What’s that bbl?
@@sonal4753 some tik tok dumb ass trend. don’t worry about it unless you use tik tok which is fuckin cancer
@@sonal4753 a BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) is a plastic surgery procedure where fat from the stomach is extracted threw a needle and then injected into an individual butt to give them an hourglass figure. It’s is the most dangerous plastic surgery procedure and is just as dangerous as open heart surgery. (It’s especially more dangerous from men or trans women. Kim K has one.
Facts
So glad when you post a new video
nice pfp
Thank you Lucid, I really appreciated this and feel heard. I would think I am quite resilient, but the things you touched on in this video hit home ngl. It can get to you from time to time, especially when you see the majority of young people doing it. Thanks again, for being that older brother figure. All love
I think eventually there will be a social credit system, with or without removing likes on social media.
I feel lucky my algorithm pushes out 3D art more than Instagram models.
Thank you for drawing attention to the topics nobody seems to talking about. You have such a great message, can’t believe only 12% of your viewers are female :O
Thanks for this Lucid. I swear I always forget about "you attract what you show", I always forget it, and I'm learning to respect myself more. GALS, the 12% of y'all, you are so beautiful.
As a young female who does happen to fall into the trap of social media and the unrealistic lifestyle and beauty expectations, this was very helpful and eye-opening. You're absolutely right, it does rely on the algorithm and turns into a game of comparison. Thank you for this!
I saw this in my recommended, and even as a guy I decided to watch it anyway. And I love everything he's said because I can't even comprehend how right he is. I myself have never really cared about looking at social media often or even posting, and even when I did likes were just likes y'know? I really wish a lot more people would worry about actually connecting with people instead of their reputation on the internet, I think it'd make a lot of good and healthy changes. People wouldn't need to worry about looks as much, or need to have such big of an ego that they think they are above others. I wish I could go back and tell my ex this because she'd always be worrying about it and I'd always try and reassure.
Thank you times a million for this video bro, you're a damn legend. And to the females who could be reading this, I know sorry doesn't mean much, but I'm sorry on behalf of the people who objectify you, just know you're a person just like the rest of us. Don't change yourself just for some reputation or something, have it be your own choice on how you want to change.
But anyway, again, awesome video man. It's good to realize people are taking caution of this huge problem now.
You have all my respect ngl
This man is an absolute legend bro.
God bless you sir this is a message i think many women need to hear right now. I definitely needed to.
I am going home
I rewatch this video every time I feel down about myself … thank you friend ;)
This was a lot more wholesome than i thought it was gonna be xD
You have articulated the feeling of almost every guy in the past 10 years in one video
I wasn't a part of that 12% of the fans until now. My boy best friend just sent me this and.. Im literally crying right now. This guy is one in a billion that understands us. "Be the best version of yourself, and not anybody else", thank you so much for this amazing speech and thanks for standing out for us and making this video. You really helped me feel more comfortable and loved, and big thanks to my best friend Markus who understands me and wants to help❤😭 also this is amazing, the message in this video, the speech and everything. You are amazing for doing this for us🙏🏽😔 thank you very much, i love you
This came up on my recommended and I’m really thankful. I had a tough schedule today and so I didn’t have time to get ready and cover up my acne before going out to get groceries and I hated every moment of it, feeling so inadequate with my messy hair, makeup free face and baggy clothing. So much shame really. When I got home I felt so drained and anxious and stupid for even feeling like this in the first place. This is not healthy and I’ve been fine running errands like this before. I think I needed this today