I blame him, not men: What I learned from being sexually assaulted and abused.
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- Опубликовано: 24 мар 2020
- As my dad always says, "sometimes you get the right answer for the wrong reason."
I've omitted a lot of the unpleasant details from these situations in the interest of not boring everyone to tears, or making anyone uncomfortable. Because I am a people pleaser.
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Hardest lesson to learn. But at least there were sheep.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. Thanks for sharing.
Speaking of the apocalypse...
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Found your channel last week during my quarantine and in this short amount of time, i have grown to be a huge fan of your content.
Thank you for sharing this tough story and hopefully it helps even one person.
Glad your covid-19 test came back negative too.
The forced quarantine sucks. This is day two. My bourbon supply has dropped below ten bottles and my voices are telling me to do bad things... really bad things. But on the positive side my long pork recipe has now been perfected and I have some really cool home made animal skin lamp shades for sale...
Glad to see you alive and well Syd, we were starting to worry.
Stay safe peeps (and yes, my post is an attempt at humour).
Haha Hadrian's walls. When the Romans couldn't conquer Scotland. They built Hadrian's walls to keep us all in.
Not blaming a whole gender for a single idiot.
Thank you.
Pickled Sausages careful she’s a hero
Pickled Sausages idiot? That's what you refer to an abuser and rapist as? You just completely minimized his evil actions.
Brianna Brickey are you seriously getting offended about the rapist being called an idiot ffs it’s not minimizing what he did but referring to him as an idiot perfectly describes the type person who would do that.what kind of sick fucker thinks that they can just do that to someone else
@@briannabrickey444 A person can be an idiot in addition to being an abuser and a rapist. Stating someone is an idiot doesn't imply that is all he is. Besides, in this context the meaning is clear: "idiot" is a euphemism for "disgusting, morally depraved outlier."
Feminism is gasping it’s last breaths in the present climate. A lot of hateful women are going to become June Cleaver or Alice Mitchell because they need and want men to protect and provide for them. And while I’m going to laugh at the repressed frustration and rage they’ll experience, unfortunately some men will be fooled by this Trojan Horse
Did she just say "not all men"? ... finally, a sane person on the internet.
She’s just saying what she knows that will get male attention.
@@wankrtank109 so anyone who has a different opinion than you is doing it for attention? pathetic lmao
Simp.
@@wankrtank109 I seriously doubt she's a sellout
@@wankrtank109 hahaha yeah... sure.
Let me get this straight: a same person n says something sane that's basically taboo in modern times and because I say "finally, somebody sane" I'm a simp?
Sydney, just a reminder, you don't need to excuse crying. It's beautiful that you expressed how you truly feel. Don't be ashamed for having emotions. I'm actually 100% glad to know you're not an unemotional robot, like myself.
what also needs to be normalized post-haste is MEN crying
@@manolitoaguirre90 Have you seen Ayn Rand's second Donahue appearance? I'm certain you will find the first few minutes very interesting (it's the 'blue dress' one).
@@manolitoaguirre90 Dude, grow a pair
@@JaysonT1 People saying stuff like that is the problem
Well shes is women sure shes really need to cry thats why men exist
Speaking as a man, this stuff makes me fell aggravated. I did time when I was younger. I can tell you that rapists, and child molesters are not even accepted by other criminals. We actually had a dude come in bragging that he'd raped a white girl. I guess he thought that would give him more cred with the blacks. Instead, they stood back, and watched as we beat the brakes off that dude. Do as much damage as you can before the laws fire off gas, and bean bag rounds. Anyways, I've never understood why women blame themselves in these situations. It was never them, and always the man. I do understand the mistrust, and all that. I feel for these women. I'm one those kinds of guys that wants to fix them, but knows I can't.
The people who say "she deserved it" because of the situation she was in piss me off too. No, you shouldn't get wasted at a house party and strut through a bunch of wasted frat rats, that's absolutely stupid. No nobody, no matter how stupid, "deserves" to get raped. The perpetrator is just as disgusting whether they raped some wasted idiot at a party, or abducted a random stranger from off the street. I don't support taking the law into your own hands... except in this case. Life in prison isn't good enough for that level of low life.
Thank you for your honesty. As an outsider, I have heard and read that rapists do not have happy lives in prison.
*Added:* During the 1970s, the dominant theory was that women who were raped somehow 'deserved it.' You know, blaming the victim.
Like today people will blame a pedestrian for being run over by a motorist - 'he/she must have been walking on the wrong side or should have worn more reflective clothing.'
In those bad years, and probably during the decades before, rape was being handled dismissively by the authorities, including the police.
So female victims of rape were being told 'they must have done something' that caused them to be raped.
@@AudieHolland I don't think rapists were accepted even back then. I know some old school guys that've been in for decades, and their stance was no different. The inside vs the freeworld view is a bit different though. Call it sexist, but the general view is that men are stronger than women, and therefore you're supposed to protect them. I know some kick ass women, but in general the average woman is not going to be able to take on a man. Inside, we're warriors. We're soldiers, fighters, etc. Gang, solo, don't matter. That's the mindset. I'd trust a lot of convicts with my wife, and kid over most regular freeworld folks.
I always get so depressed when I read about rape crime in media of my country. This is the thing that I hate so much, that there is nothing I wouldn't want to be done to rapists. They are disgrace to men disserve the worst. Good thing that in my country rape crimes became a bit more punishable and public outcry helps to get bigger sentences for rape shitheads. After some unbelievably horrible crimes that happened in 2013-2014 public has more awareness for this stuff and I always urge women around me to be careful.
Whatever one's crime was, every convict is brought in to be punished and rehabilitated. By the time someone is in prison, they are already paying a heavy price and there is zero need for vengeance for retribution. All it accomplishes is the convict committing the assault gets to spend even more time with his victim by prolonging his sentence.
Sydney is the perfect example of a woman who is strong and independent.
And not the whalelike types.
rvhron08 Let’s be honest here, it’s you who needs to get a life.
@rvhron08 We have no idea if the claim is real or not
@rvhron08 you clearly didn't watch the video.
@rvhron08 damn must hurt being you. Watch the videos, speak after.
As a man who was in an abusive relationship, it took me a while to realize all the negative things my wife had said and done to me was not my fault. In fact, it wasn’t until she died and I had some time alone that I learned I wasn’t the person she tried to say I was.
Now I am remarried and blessed with an amazing supportive wife.
that's good bro
She just up and died?
Ali Shabbiri
She died of a drug overdose ASSHOLE.
@@jeremiah6462 sorry to hear mate. But also happy to hear, as you opened your eyes!
@@jeremiah6462 Wait, why is he an asshole? Wasn't your wife an asshole?
Sydney, you do not have to apologize for being assaulted.
@@akumabazooka9169 easy there big boy, girl, whatever you are, holster your weapon, no one is here to change anyone’s mind, it’s just opinions and we’re not all on the same path of life under the exact same circumstances so how about showing some decency and respect towards one another and just say you don’t agree and not try to curb stomp someone for an opinion, which was widely blown out of proportion by you in the first place.
@@iamxpresso8346 Sorry
@@ffonzie A month ago I was half dead. Weapon holstered
@@akumabazooka9169 What the hell happened here?
@@ALJ9000 WW3
I was molested by 3 different males when I was younger. A cousin, my brother's friend, and that friend's older brother. 2 of them were 100% old enough to know what they were doing. My brother's friend, who was only 3 yrs older than me, I will extend the grace of being young and curious. Even though, those situation left scars, I do not nor will I ever think ALL men are vile rapists. I have had a number of unwanted situations happen in my teen years due to the past, but even through all that, I still believe most men are good. I will be married for 10 yrs this June to the most amazing husband. We are expecting our third son this summer. I will not deny that it is hard to look past your own situation to see the good in others, but it's so much better than living in a bitter bubble and chosing not to trust anyone.
Jesus.
I don't want to get into my personal story but I can relate. How did you get passed your abuse? I'm 37 and I'm not sure I've ever gotten past it. I'm clearly over the actual abuse. I just haven't been able to be in a relationship. I'm worried I'll never get married. I'm grateful I have a son but I'd love for him to have a father figure in his life. Idk, dies that make sense?
Sorry you grew up with scumbags and yet the left rights books about pedophilia trying to normalize it.
Beautiful story. You let a bad history turn into something good.
@T
That makes you a SAINT because if you look around o the internet for one minute: it'll be enough to find tons of men that will cry about 'all women are evil', due to being rejected once, or some women not laughing at their jokes etc.
These guys have a LOT to learn......
"In my defense, I was super jetlagged" Hun you don't need excuses okay. Feelings are normal, tears are natural. You had reason and no one is judging. I'd cry too.
Totally agree. But, I might have said something similar as well, to sort of keep a "still upper lip." Who knows.
Reminds me of when I was held up at gunpoint. Never blamed the gun, I blamed the criminal
Yup
Unless you're left leaning lmao
But guns kill people, the people holding the gun are just toolz to the gun... how can you blame the tool?
@@daktaklakpak5059 ummm... no. A gun is not going to fire itself. If someone kills a person using a gun... the gun isn't the murderer, it's the person.
@@sadie5419 on the other hand... it's a lot harder to kill a man with a spoon, than with a gun
My husband was bullied, but he is not a bully. There is definitely choice involved in our personal behavior.
My ex almost broke my back, leaving me with a permanent disability, he assaulted me many times, it really affected my younger son. He nearly murdered his next victim, he is very dangerous he will not change.
Marika I really wish that EVIL did not exist in this world Unfortunately it does Justice never does not keep pace maybe in another life But you need to get through this one So I'm gonna send you a HUG from one being to another
@@bryansmith1920 or, you could pray he changes and God makes his heart better and he will treat people like the best man in the world
BUY A GUN
@@crazysilly2914 yeah definitely make sure her psyco son can have access to a firearm
@@chenkeshenkes3059 If he’s a psycho, he *_already has_* his own gun...
Some women are attracted to the "bad boys" and then are later amazed when their "bad boys" act badly. Some men are attracted to "bad girls" and then are later amazed when their "bad girls" act badly. Perhaps long courtships and insisting on mutual respect is a better way to go than just looking for the "new hotness."
Gentleness is hot, actually. So is kindness, and generally being a decent, non-abusive person who cares about you.
I used to be attracted to the more "bad boy" type, before I started to heal my trauma. From years of healing, the trauma began long before the abusive relationship I was in, and from healing I began to be attracted to nicer men automatically. I also was no longer a target for narcissists and abusers. I realised that I had to start healing in order to not want "bad men". Funny how trauma can twist our minds to want what hurts us.
@Canadian Snowflake Never been the "new hotness" myself, but I can honestly say I've been in a happy relationship for almost four decades with very few regrets.
Well maybe you are right. Deep stuff bro.
Amen.
Cultural 'victims' are not above the law. He should be prosecuted.
Rapists should face the death penalty, regardless of "cultural differences".
@@SirNomad technicall yes, realistically no.
The problem here is that a lot of cases are more grey than you think especially with how the law is written today.
We would both agree that a person that brutally rapes through violence probably deserves a terrible punishment.
But with todays law, when two people go to a bar, get drunk and have sex that night only for the girl to think she regrets it later is also considered rape by the man ...
Yeah ... you want to sentence that dude to death too?
Nomad death penalty is extreme, but at least a decent sentencing
No no, in Australia at least, the cultural excuse gets trotted out all the time, and mostly it works because they are afraid to offend anyone
@@MannyHudgeHi I honestly find that culturally offensive.
Thank you for not blaming all of us men for the actions of one or a few.
why is your first thought is " thanks for blaming all men" most victims don't do that first of all , and you should be "oh, I'm sorry I hope your ok"
@@princessqueerbie7664 I do hope she's okay. That goes without saying. I've born the brunt of what other men have done to the women I've been involved with, and it's a blessing to see that she doesn't blame us all for the vile actions of one.
@@princessqueerbie7664 So I assume you're a man, since you seem to know how often men are blamed for the actions of others.
@Paul Hain
Thank you for acknowledging her: now if more men like you could spread the truth that it's also 'not all women': the world might be a better place for everyone.
What a sucker. If she blames men so what? Doesn't affect you at all. You have a weird mangina vibe.
I was in an abusive relationship too. I've had many bad experiences with men in general. I've been regularly harassed and bullied by boys since I was 11. Never did I think to blame everything that happened to me on the male part of humanity. I blame the people who did these things to me. I'm in a loving and healthy relationship right now and if I had that man-hating mindset, I would have never met my boyfriend and that's pretty sad if I think about it. By hating everyone because of their gender, you are limiting and putting yourself in this box, unable to connect with people and thrive.
Idk how to respond to this cause I agree with this so much...
@Nikky K
*I know* .... yet why is this so hard for many to understand??
All the endless blaming, endless hatred: damaging everyone endlessly.
Seriously the ones that preach this logic and empathy the most are usually WOMEN.
Men could really learn this, and it'd help if they spread this to toxic men.
Why can't we stand TOGETHER.
I was physically abused by a teacher when I was a kid in the early seventies. No one believed me, because I had ADHD, and was therefore a problem child. I had to go back to that mans classroom everyday for three years.
He was the end of my formal education. I was ten when I started in his “class” and thirteen when it ended. I tried to stay in school after that but quit when I was sixteen.
He destroyed me, my self esteem, my confidence, and my body.
He’s never been punished, or held accountable. I myself have been reasonably successful, there was a short part of my life that I abused drugs. That lasted about five years, before I realized it was a path to nowhere. It also led to some behavioral problems, especially right after it happened. As a kid when someone treats you badly you tend to think it’s okay to do that to others, (It’s not). For that I have a deep profound sadness that I may have passed that on to someone else.
You will survive, you will do better, and you have a choice not to do unto others.
What school was this?
A few of my teachers were bullies, one took sadistic pleasure in inflicting pain on 11-13 year olds. One had a pet name for his weapon of choice. Violence towards pupils was acceptable in the 70's. I personally had about 68 slaps with a bamboo cane on various parts of my body, sometimes in single hits, but up to 6 of the best, as they called it, all in one half term.
One teacher was well known for leaching after the girls in the class. Ah the 70's, fucked up my schooling.
What's his name you shouldn't protect bad people
@@jrimpson4857 The sadist was the head teacher and his name was Mr Spencer Davis, The leach was the science teacher and was known as Buck, i can't remember his real name. These people were in their 30's 50's and 60's back in the 70's
The school was in Wales, U.K called Bryngolwg.
@@maxmac7845 if a teacher put their hands on my kid he'd be leaving in an ambulance
We need sane vocal women more than ever. Literally. No I’m serious. Please. Keep going.
Behind this statement 100%
@Jon W I agree with your statement man every girl I've met has either been a lesbian or a feminazi so I doubt I'll find a good girl to love I feel sorry for your son hopefully he gets that 1% chance and finds a nice girl to settle down with
Lark Macallan amen!! We NEED that!! Especially for all of the little girls (and little boys) who are growing up in this insanity. They need role models... otherwise, with each generation the hate, victim mentality, unhealthy, entitlement is just going to get worse. People stopped loving each other and put themselves above everyone and everything (including their kids). Respect is just nonexistent (except in the rural South.. at least where Im from) God, I miss the 90s/early 2000s. #MakeMoralsGreatAgain
HBKnight 02 woah really. Lesbians are rare where I live lol
HBKnight 02 lol where are you from?? I guess it depends on where you’re at. Come to the south.. (rural south) Women down here tend to have more class and we think for ourselves. Not to mention most of us carry or have at least been raised to know and respect guns. Not to sound cocky or anything... personally, I’ve only known a handful of feminists (who hate me) and all the lesbians I know don’t associate with feminists. I mostly know about sjws and feminists through social media and random things on the internet lol.
I had a friend who was on the bandwagon for "all men are predators" and stuff, but had lots of male and female friends being extroverted and all. She experienced something really bad from a man, but coming out of it, other men made up a solid part of her support system and were mostly respectful and a good logical voice about what to do and how to recover, how to pick herself up in the sea of pity and revengeful words (as in "he sucked, all men are the same, wish I could bash them in") she was recieving from other girls. She learned most men ARENT pigs and are some of the most solid people she knows. Now she's experienced it, her narrative changed. Bless
he hurt you, Sydney. He didn't break you. Obviously, you came out of it worse for wear, but you're sharing your story and fighting back. It's impressive. Just keep fighting the good fight.
What does "worse for wear" mean if you don't mind me asking? Sorry English is not my first language.
@@jillianc6693 I think what the commentor actually meant to type was "worse for fear", which means worrying that something even worse will happen.
That's a mature, adult, common sense, non-reactionary point of view. If I judged all women based on the emotional abuse, insincerity and selfishness I've endured from many of them I wouldn't be married now. Misandry is not the response to one person being a bad person.
I met one Snow Flake that got so upset with me cause a gave her a verbal chewing and told her to start acting as an adult. She called the police on me at work saying I threaten her, saying I so traumatize her. When the police show up I down graded them all with all the bull crap I had to deal with for the pass 25 years of my life. She only been insulted once in her live but never been shove to the ground before.
Don not forget, white humans were heavily force church goers and have been conditioned into group thing behavior for over a thousand years.
Please watch the movie " Satanic Scare." Even non Christians or church goers were buying into the movie's bull crap when it came out. Peer group pressure is the problem,
don't try to confuse my beliefs with your so called " facts."
Brian m no it isn't and neither is misogyny.
@@briannabrickey444 Just had to get that in, huh? Like the fake media and virtue signaling Hollywood "elites" don't bludgeon us over the head with fake "misogyny" and "patriarchy" enough, you can't let anyone else have a point without making it about something else. Very sad.
@Hairway to Steven I absolutely love you for this comment, you fantastically shiny human being. I hope life treats you somewhat well
Yeah, problem is, you see one woman, you've seen them all... you got married because you're a sucker for punishment.
I've been in an abusive relationship, it was the hardest time in my life. It was so bad that I went to a women's shelter (after speaking to the police with no help to be given) to ask for help only to be met with hostility and anger. I eventually turned to feminism (which I thought believed in equality) to speak about men's rights and how we seem to be ignored by the system only to be laughed out of a meeting. I fell into a dark hole that only recently I've been able to pull myself out. I can't tell you how many MGTOW videos I watched. They only made me feel worse and spawned an anger inside me I don't have words to describe. I eventually found this channel and my anger subsided. Sydney's rationality and calm demeanor helped restore my faith in humanity, to know not only through her videos, but through the comments on them that there were more people who believed this way. Honestly thank you Sydney for being that voice who pulled me from that place and I'm happy to hear that you found your way out of a similar place. No one deserves to be stuck in such a hell.
TL:DR I'd say Sydney prevented at least one suicide.
Just value people not from their sex but for their character and you're good to go.No MGTOW shit,no feminist shit
Good luck and God bless
I have to admit, when I read that first sentence I immediately thought you were a woman, and I know at least two men that are currently in abusive relationships. We need to mend this divide with respect to both sexes. Whether you believe it or not, Eve came from Adam's side, so as not to be above him or below him, but beside him. I wish you all the best.
Also, The Amazing Lucas has a shirt saying
I believe...
Men
Women
Facts and Evidence (check)
@@firespawnie537 not all (even most) MTGOW are anti female, misogynistic or insert ism, ist here. Most if not all have been consistently used, abused, or other and had enough. Given the chance and opportunity to have a healthy relationship with a decent woman in equal terms and with trust and respect they'd be willing to go again.. but that's fantasy land and people and the world do not work like that. The movement is more of a stand up and albiet there's alot of anger it's really a support system where there isn't anything else currently.
wow! im so happy you've gotten so much from Sydney. its hard to feel like you're alone and only have people around that continue to perpetuate your anger that you feel. yes im a man and i don't stand for any abuse, its unacceptable. i hope you can feel comfort in knowing there are people out here with you who think the same, rational and just ways as you.
I feel you Sydney. When I was 19 I got a beat down from my fiance at the time because I wouldn't have sex with him resulting in the 9 week old baby I didn't know I was carrying being split in two and having to get that removed (plus a secondary operation due to complications). I don't hold all men accountable for that it's one guy who is a very traumatized individual. All the warning signs were there, I just didn't see the red flags with rose tinted specs but I learned from it. I never had any abusive relationship since.
You don’t need to make excuses for crying over being assaulted. It’s ok to cry when you need to. I hope you get help and emotionally heal.
The three people who disliked this are plane guy, your ex, and a feminist.
Your strength through everything is really inspiring, Sydney-thank you for being such a great inspiration to my sister and myself; your videos helped us both through some really tough times ♥️♥️♥️
I was raised to believe men respect women and any man who strikes a woman is despicable. Cultural difference my ass, that guy is a pig. You are a strong and admirable woman. Keep at it. Signed Boomer Vet.
The people who disliked are desperate for attention, and did it so you would make a comment about them
@@charlesross9260 As in veteran? If so, thank you for your service, sir.
52 plane guy has signed in
Maybe they missed the button
Sydney, you're a gem. A high quality woman.
That's right, a woman not a dam little girl like feminists
There’s nothing wrong with being a feminist, it’s anti feminists that you should have a problem with. Feminism is for both genders, radical feminism is the one that wants women to be above men.😬
Rainbownorth75
Yeah that's what I meant. Thanks for telling me the exact name I thought it was toxic feminism
she gives us great real news
@@Lilly-je5ls Why is it called feminism then ? The word itself implies that women should be above men... Don’t get me wrong I am a woman myself but I always thought it shouldn’t be called feminism, it should be a kind of humanism or something like that...
Wow. She's a rare gem. A unicorn of sorts.
No, that’s what she is. People like her are referred to as unicorns
"Huzzah, a woman of quality."
On a serious note, sorry that you had to suffer through abuse and assault. Let's all stay strong together, men and women alike.
When someone says "all men are..." or "all women are...", they have revealed their flawed and biased thinking and you can ignore whatever comes next. Behaviors exist on a spectrum among all people which anyone who pays attention without preconceived notions would deny. As a male, what I find interesting working in an office for decades is that you're taught to never ever discuss certain topics with women and never ever touch them outside of a handshake. While that is certainly good advice, it is also evident that some women wish for those things to happen, which demonstrates the original point.
Yeah saying all of any type of group is one way is arrogant
One I really do not like shaking hands to begin with.
Second I will go out of my way Not to shake hands with someone I do not like.
All men are male.
and all Women are Female, yes you passed health 101!
@@renegade2556 You'd fail health 101 in 2020 if you answered that.
Intelligent women know that the vast majority of men will never physically abuse them. Glad you are well again Sydney.
Intelligent people realize that the opposite gender are still humans with human emotions and a human morality system just like them.
You wouldn't assault/make the other gender or your own uncomfy? Well then most members of the other gender feel the same
I would argue against this. You'd be surprised how many men struggle to prevent their own personal issues and feelings from boiling over and causing them to behave recklessly. The entire problem with abuse from both sides of the relationship regardless of gender is that they rarely stem from the person opposite the abuser.
For example: The Depp-Heard scenario. I highly doubt that Johnny Depp as a person is the reason why she behaved the way she did. The way she treated him certainly didn't start with him, nor was it because of him. She brought emotional baggage with her into that relationships that could have been acquired as long ago as her childhood. Unsurprisingly, like most abusers in relationships, she either diminishes the severity of her actions or outright dismisses them as ever occurring. That's the tell-tale sign that she has absolutely no clue why she acts the way she does. She needs help understanding that so she can change.
A man could be the be a perfect person to his spouse for 10 years, and then after a nasty divorce where he may lose his son, becomes an overly irate person who becomes aggressive at the thought of living the rest of his life absent of his son... like he experienced when his mom forced him away from his own father.
There are triggers for this behavior, and it's not as cut and dry as you're making it sound here.
Joshua DeLong 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It's the type of guy women are attracted to. Stop going for the trashy "bad boys."
PREACH!
Trauma doesn't need to destroy your life. When I was 15, I got into a car with a man I didn't know. While he took me home, just as I asked, he kept touching me in a manner I didn't like, and he went so far as to make me kiss him. I was traumatized by that for many years. If a man on the street approached me, I'd panic because I'd think he was going to assault me. Or if I had to be alone with a man, I would be uncomfortable. When I realized, however, that what happened to me at 15 was the reason I was having these reactions, I realized they weren't normal, and I felt like I healed. I know now that most men aren't out to hurt me: only a cruel person would do that. And feminists need to stop the relentless male bashing they're into. Most men are decent people and should be treated as such.
Sorry you had to go through it, I hope you're doing well
Sorry to what u have to go through. Knowing that I am just a random comment and cannot do anything to help but I hope you have people you trust who can help you with that personally. Hope you have a good one. :)
Trauma patients need therapy, consolation or self realisation and the abuser needs punishment. Bashing any group won't do any help. I'm so happy people like you exist who have moved on in a positive way and are living a happy life ❤
@Jack Snow Because I was young and stupid!
@Jack Snow Unfortunately, no. I didn't get his license plate number.
Sydney never apologize for crying. We need to cry more!!!!!
No we don’t need to cry more we just need to acknowledge and share what happened
@@chenkeshenkes3059 yes we do if we feel like it.
"Ain't gonna lie, this is gonna be a weird video"
*upbeat ukelele music begins*
If you change your playback speed to 0.25 for just the music segment, it sets the proper tone.
Lol. Thought the same thing.
*kickstarter music intensifies*
"Sorry that this man murdered and ate your newborn baby, but it's part of their culture so we won't prosecute." Woke police 2020.
This is only a tiny exaguration.
*Australian police
@@gintautassickus6390 Look at what the supreme court decided my formerly great nation of Finland. Fucking ridiculous.
@@lemons1559 Finland isn't in NATO so maybe you could coup d'état the government. Sure there will be sanctions, but I don't think there will be an invasion.
Stix N' Stones bro...the left fights for justice for all
I get it. Sydney is very sensitive, and like the strong, smart woman she is, she "deals" by being funny and sarcastic. Smart, sensitive people often have a hard time, but some of them (like Sydney) manage the despair in a very pro-social way. Thanks, Sydney, and hang in there.
This takes the whole “don’t like one rotten apple spoil the bunch” to a whole other level...
sydney watson gives me a hope for humanity.
Facts
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she destroys them at the same time with the topics of here videos
Yes and candice owens. Would love to see these two women speak together. Especially Sydney is white and candice is black. BOTH EQUALLY AMAZING!!!!!
@@welsh.truth.dragon3914 And Roma too...
Sydney you missed a perfect opportunity to rhyme “when in doubt, move out”
This whole story breaks my heart. I wish I could have a girlfriend like Sydney and to think that people abused her, especially sexually, is pain-inducing.
get za pitch forks
What story? She never told us what actually happened.
@@Atheismo9760 she never told us what exactly the guy did, but you know, the story that the authorities didn’t do diddly dick about it because the guy was a Muslim.
I have been sexually assaulted and abused too. It is frustrating when even police wants to look the other way. Thank you for speaking out. And I wish you much peace and love and happiness. You deserve a good life and care.
I'm very sorry to hear this. Just remember that you are strong and loved. Wishing you all the best.
Ah, the “cultural difference” defense. When human rights change dependent on your geographic location. Logic.
It is the reality of "pluralism." morality depends on how you understand the world.
Small joint manipulation will settle a lot of these incidences.
@@madmanx1662 can't argue with that logic if that doesn't work a knife under the finger nails loosens most people's lips
Probably more to do with their religion that geographical location of origin.
@@solamarv which is sad cause once you come to a country, not just Australia you have to abide by that countries laws and by the cops saying "cultural differences" or whatever it's giving the perpetrators a free pass to do the crime and get away with it foreigners shouldn't be given any sort of privilege fuck there culture they want to live here they can abide by our laws
"The opposite sex isn't your enemy." Clearly you have never been a seven year old before.
@Fin Frog i remember me and my friends being terrified of the great cooties epidemic.
Sir Goat some people don’t get past that phase
@@Aiken47 well duh, i dont want cooties!
@Fin Frog Cooties, man... they give me nightmares still...
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For what it's worth, I'm really sorry that that happened to you, Sydney.
OMG, this was pretty much my exact life, but I married my abuser and stayed for 10, yes, 10 whole shitty years! I now have a really wonderful man in my life who has changed my life and I agree, I blame him not men. Hugs to you for telling it
After 2 failed marriages where both wives cheated on me and took everything leaving me with nothing, strangely enough, I don't hate them nor women in general. I just made bad choices I guess.
or maybe none of the choices you had were good
@@cheezyridr lol
That’s commendable. even heroic maybe. Good on you man.
Having ended an abusive relationship I r e a l l y needed to hear that
Thanks
The trick is to observe people as individuals and see who is nice and who is not. My wonderful wife of 30 years said, "There are basically two types of people in this world: Those who make more of you and those who make less of you." Surround yourself with the first type and avoid the second type. I'm amazed that some people will stay in a relationship with a person who constantly makes less of them.
love that! Your wife is a wise one!
“If I was going to have a pity party, there would be more cake.” Absolute legend!
...and ice cream.
The cake is a lie
@@ianguest5815
D:
And I thought she said "titty party"
See, that is why content of character is so much greater than "social identity." You went through crap and came out for the better, and it wasn't because you where a woman, but it was because you're a strong willed, smart individual.
I try and judge people by actions and content of of their character, unfortunately I live in California, so I am surrounded by stupid on the regular, so I don't agree with many people here.
California will soon dissappear under it's own asshole
It's my words, exactly. Thank you for saying that. :)
It's not about "what you are" and what box or category you put yourself in its about "who you are", your actions the type of narrative you want to put out to others the quality of your personality not the quantity of victim cards you can play.
@J Shiff pardon me. But are you talking to me?
That was beautiful "I live in California, so I'm surrounded by stupid on the regular" I'm laughing so hard but I also want to cry with you at the same time 😂😢🤣😭
It hurts my heart to hear of any woman getting stuck with an abusive loser but especially such an intelligent and adorable woman as Sydney.
I was groomed and SA'd at 14 by a man who said all the things I wanted to hear. He convinced me to run away to Hollywood, California with him from small town South Carolina. It took decades to recover. I never blamed *men* for one man. And I'm raising four sons to be gentlemen. To respect women. To recognize the healthy, lasting marriage I have with their father as what to seek in a partner. Rape isn't a matter of race, religion, or anything else... It's right and wrong.
OMG, this is shocking and I'm so sorry. "Cultural differences"!?! WTF! 😱 _The shame is on them._
"How am I supposed to be body positive if I'm not eating?" You got me with that one.
LOL - yup, me too - my first thought was, 'there are other things to eat than cake, you know' lol.
As a 40-something guy, i think you are way more mature than i will probably ever be; wish i can learn how to let go of my anger and resentment towards people who have attacked me at some point as well.
Forgiveness is the key.
How can someone function if they see the same evil that their abuser encompassed in every single man? I can understand learning to love again, as I had a very difficult time letting go of protective feelings (being guarded and distancing myself from the love of others) but believing that all men were like my abuser would be a living hell. It would simply be the most terrifying, awful, sad life. I would not even leave my house if that was the case
I hope you know you have a whole bunch of “big brothers” out here, who’ve got your back, Sydney!!!
@Angry Vegan Cyclisthe's a Super simp.
Simp lol xd
W..what are you doing big bro!?!?
@Angry Vegan Cyclist oh no its happening again 😱😱😱 coootiiiesssss ahhhhhhh
I too was sexually assaulted. Just hearing that you're here today after the thick of it all makes me feel like there's hope. Thank you for sharing your story!
I'm with Marcus. Life can be good and you will be okay eventually. I'm sorry you had to go through an assault and you get the best of wishes from me.
@KEENAN LAD Its pretty messed up. But we rise up bro, my only goal is not to become the animals we meet along the way
I literally have the idea that because I’m male and have ADHD and autism that I will grow up to become a horrible person but it makes me sad. I don’t want to grow up in a world where I am stereotyped in a way that makes me seem like I’m a person that does bad things because I am a male with ADHD and autism.
Same here. I'm on the autistic spectrum/Asperger's Syndrome.
You are an individual and the blacksmith of your future, not a stereotype. A lot of people with put you down to lift themselfes up. You have to withstand this by learning to thell this apart from thruthfull criticism.
This is actually rather heart wrenching to hear, I didn't know about that I hope the bastard got his punishment.
We all know the group she's talking about, it's sad we can't openly state the problem.
Which group is that?
*know the
@@jeremyfisher1833 Four (of the 8) countries with poorest human rights records in the world are the middle east.
but we shouldn't just believe women right? (she would agree) What proof does she have? probably none. I don't know if it happened but why couldn't it be that she exaggerate the story even if it did happened? She deliberately didn't say his religion so that a certain part of the rightwing would get more boiled up and she could look like the innocent women that just didn't want to focus on that aspect etc.....She would probably question other ''left-wing'' women on their metoo stories so ....(and no I don't think we should just believe every women....Also if it's not true or exaggerated or used to manipulate people karma/god will deal with her
@@pin98vdl84 She probably knows the reality of youtube, that certain truths are frowned upon.
Have a hug from an overnight security guard!
Have a hug from a human who has a messed up sleep pattern :D
Sydney Watson I do to! I work overnight but last week was my birthday so I got up super early because day people and now it’s all messed up! We’re twinsies!
@@SydneyWatson sleep what's that? LoL
Sleep. I've had that.. night all!
@@SydneyWatson Thank you, for that cause people have no idea what its like- sometimes when you came home from work at 6am or 3am. but now its not good due to this C-virus (COVID-19). I had to use Resident Evil reference cause next time when we have to talk about this with our families or even youtube it code word for this horrible bioweapon used by you know you.
Sydney telling herself that her joke is not funny is actually funny.
Little miss, you are so refreshing to this old cowboy. I found my wife of 28 years in a hotel with another man. Very painful. It is so encouraging to see that even though you went through this experience, your outlook on men is still positive. God made the relationship between us (men and women) and it is the right thing. Give me hope to know that he has another woman for me
Speaking as a man who was predated upon by an abusive woman, thank you for this. I needed it. *tries not to cry*
Edit at 4 months later: I've read all your comments, and you're right, I should stand up for it, but it's far too late. All the potential witnesses have moved on, and that awful woman has moved on, as well.
For good news, though, I googled her, apparently she hasn't been able to hold down a job since, she managed to torpedo herself and I'm happy to leave it at that. Get fucked, lady, I hope your SS money doesn't cover you and whatever nasty addictions you may have on the side.
To any young men entering the workforce, I offer this advice: Do not offer any type of emotion to your coworkers, male or female, do not vent to them, above all else do not complain to them about fellow coworkers. Go get some friends outside work if you need to vent, your coworkers are at best unreliable, at worst, your active enemy.
I really hope you’re doing better, darling❤️
I also. We may be invisible, but you are not alone.
Same here buddy. I've been emotionally and physically abused by several women. To defend yourself was always a bad idea considering everyone was always like poor pitiful woman and like what a sorry guy. It was weird being a guy caught in something like that.... Not walking away, scared of being alone, just wanting to be loved and love back. Because of Jesus I don't recall ever judging the next relationship based off the past one and ironically I'm very pro woman. I love seeing a woman succeed spiritually, financially and or succeed being a leader and it always angers me to hear men talk down about women.
@@willhall7777 however they are some men who end up becoming incels
@A Berryman To what effect? These comment sections turn into a bloodbath if you bare your soul to strangers, eventually. And laws support the ideas of virtuous women no matter the circumstance, per the Depp/Heard case.
I refuse to engage with anyone who will assume my guilt in provoking another to do violence against me, which has happened with increasing frequency in the comment section on multiple platforms. All I will say is if the roles were reversed I'd be restricted in my ability to wear any color but orange.
Perhaps this: if these stories need to be heard then people need to listen with a certain amount of care instead of assuming guilt and making claims unjustly.. Because a healthy society cannot be comprised of people with no stake in it's future because it has no stake in thiers, respectively.
If you read all of this I appreciate your time. If you read this with the intent to understand why people keep this type of emotional distress hidden from others I appreciate your desire to help. It doesn't happen as often as you might think.
I am a dude, and I was sexually harassed once, when I was 13, by a man in his 40s, and the only person I told this about was my brother, as a warning to be careful. It was hella scary because I knew I couldn't put up a fight if that man decided he wanted to do something to me. Women aren't the only ones being victims of violence.
I was mugged twice, too, and after that I spent months with this panic of even going outside. I held it back because I didn't want to inconvenience anybody around me, but every time I was outside, I was thinking shit like "What if I am mugged again and this time the guy is violent? What if the guy has a gun and gets annoyed with me? What if someone from my family is caught up in it?", and I couldn't stop myself from trembling a little. It's been years and I still feel like that sometimes, though it's not as bad as it was back then. I've since been way more careful with where I go and what's going on around me. I can't feel completely comfortable outside. Of course, the fact that I live in a city figuring in the top 50 most violent cities in the world doesn't help.
I can tell you first hand that any kind of violence is traumatic, and some of them are obviously even embarrassing to talk about, but we got to get on with life. Don't hate all people jut because of what some did, that's not healthy for you and certainly not good for the innocent people who happen to share a trait with the perpetrators.
As a man who in his childhood was abused by my step mother, who was supposed to love and protect me and my father being aware of it and never stopped it, all my life I have struggled to have any trust in anyone, even now i still do, even was convinced that somehow the disgusting acts committed on me was my fault, from 4-12 years old I delt with this til one day I had to grab my step mother by the wrists and restraining her against a wall told her "you will never put your f**king hands on me again" then told my father to *step up and be a damn father already",
Unfortunately a lot of good people have been pushed out of my life because of this as well as many times the wrong people I've kept in my life, so I mostly lived in isolation in the Appalachian mountains until recently when I turned to the bible and sobriety and being a personal trainer and nutritionist, thankyou for your testimony Sydney, it is clear that you answered your calling to overcome and give a helping hand to others
As a man -- one who's personally intervened to stop a sexual assualt in progress, in a public bathroom no less -- your personal experience fills me with both compassion and respect for you, and an absolute , unapologetic rage for that piece of garbage trying to pass himself off as a human male.
Much, much respect.
Her facial expressions are top notch, her accent is tantanlizing, her ideas & mode of thought is very rational. 👍 up Sydney Watson. Love you
well said
I myself have been abusive towards women in highschool and for a long time since I couldn't forgive myself. Went through bouts of depression in the military, tried to kill myself twice which landed me in a psych ward twice, and have come out the other side a kinder and more thoughtful person I feel. I will forever regret what I've done and I have apologized to all but one of the people I harrassed (Can't find her), but it was most important that I forgave myself and recognize that who I was isn't gonna restrain me from being who I can be.
Refreshingly honest. Thank you for making yourself a better person.
That's more like it..wish there was more like you.👏👏👍
Takes a man to admit his own guilt and misbehavior. Takes a big man to grow and change from that realization. Requires a bigger man to never let it happen in his sight and to stand up to those he once was.
I was a bully in school. Never mistreated anyone for their color, sex or sexual orientation. Though, if I spotted weakness I pounced on it to the Nth degree. I was a real piece of shit... Years ago I ran into many old friends and they roundabout asked me why I acted like that. I literally had no idea I was an asshole because we all dabbled in ball busting, I just was the only one over enjoying it.
Knowing now how I made my childhood friends feel, I've been sticking up for anyone that could use the backup. Being a 200lbs, bearded guy with a Yosemite Sam mustache mad-at-the-world and hellbent on doing the right thing from then on out mostly makes people "reexamine" their intents.
People can and do change...
@@SusanWojcickiDidntEarnHerJob this is an example that hate is taught and can be untaught too
I hope some day you're able to find that one woman so that you can be at peace, knowing you've apoligised to everyone you harassed, but barring that, I'm glad you've found peace in forgiving yourself and walking as a forgiven man.
My father raised me while he had undiagnosed and untreated schizophrenia. He was abusive and emotionally unavailable. One of my friends told me I was mistreated because of toxic masculinity. No. I simply blame my father for not taking care of his health and I made myself stronger from growing up with him. That's it.
As a man, I can only tell you one thing if you talk about it more and more it helps, it helps you and others that will listen. Like you said everyone has their story. I have about 17 different ones that people have asked me why I have never committed suicide or attempted to, because of the stuff I have seen/been through for over 43 years of my life.
I recently had someone feeling down about an issue and I always told her to talk about something that is bothering you with someone you trust. She did that day. She sat with me and talked for over ten hours. I sat there and listened. Sometimes that is all you need.
Speaking from experience.
“Good judgement is the result of experience and experience the result of bad judgement.” - Mark Twain
Thermal Reboot good old Mark Twain! Not his real name.. Samuel...? Heres another quote attributed to him: “I would not join a club that would have me as a member” Sorry i couldnt resist. Good vid.. my new lady is a wonderful person and has suggested that she is working on trust after being controlled for 30 yrs, but had the wits to seek the help of a fine therapist, do the work, reclaim her self worth and find me after being patient with herself. Im the same story as hers and look forward to letting it develop beautifully without harmful expectations. Yes, we make our own luck!
@@stevencruise5516 Samuel Clemins was his real name. And it was Groucho Marx who would join the club.
Thermal Reboot really? Thanks.. i hate tv or i would have watched more Jeopardy and been duly educated..
“No Sidney. We get it... it’s just not funny”
That made me laugh aloud.
How to tell the good ones from the bad ones though? That's what gets me. They all claim to be good. Some aren't. Challenging. Tempting to avoid them all.
I've never been sexually assaulted, but I have been physically abused by a woman with a bat. I was with her for nine years. I don't blame all women or think all women are bad. However, it makes it still makes it hard to get close, especially with what is going on today. I would just love to have good company, someone to have worthwhile time and conversation with. That seems to be the hardest part. It is worth waiting though, and being a little more discerning, when it comes to who I meet.
Sorry you went through that. Uncivilized behavior shouldn’t tolerated because the offender is from a certain culture.
The epitome of strength is picking yourself up after you've been knocked down, more resilient and intelligent than you were before.
nobody:
Australia: well he is part of a culture where its ok so hes free
America: she accused him and he proved innocent arrest him
america:
australia:
*not making any sense*
Australia and America are just scared of protesters arresting black people because apparently according to them all black people are angels and have never done anything wrong, a criminal is a criminal
Your tangled, excessive, redundant meme format is not making any sense.
Great video. I was abused for most of my childhood by women. And I don't hate women. I do hate bullies and will quickly run my gob on defense of someone if they're being abused. But overall I had to learn to not hate everyone and even today I still struggle with the emotions. But I direct it toward myself usually and I'm also working on that.
Thanks for the video.
"Cultural differences" when i even hear that phrase my stomach turns..
that kind of people need to be stomped out sexuall assault is hanous no matter
the background and should be dealt with accordingly
i'm sorry you had such terrible experiences
@rogerwilco99 And that is why i said those people need to be dealt with accordingly
there should be no excuse a crime is a crime' and sexual assault IS a crime!
people who do that kind of shit need to be punished.
The western law does not apply to muslims, blacks or jews , Inshallah!
She provided zero details on what actually happened. I don’t believe any of what she said. How can you get raped on a plane and NOTHING happen. She could have at least pressed the call attendant button. LMFAO get triggered bitches!
When you go to someone's house, you are obliged to follow their house's rules, whether you like it or not. They don't care if you do differently in your house, but you're going to take off your shoes before entering the house or you won't enter at all. That should be the same for countries. In fact it is, for most. Australia is an aberration.
@@spacemeter3001 Tell that to Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein.
I already respected you, Sydney. This video only strengthens that respect.
Lol unrelated, but your profile picture is really cool.
@@PerfectlyLeila Thank you, a guy called Semaj J made it for me. So is yours.
@@thefurrybastard1964 That's really cool. Lol mine is just me...🤷♀️💕 I'm also a batman fan ✌🦇
I'm deeply sorry about what happened to you.
You're a strong woman for overcoming such an horrible event.
Thanks for sharing this with us. May God bless you.
Sorry about my english.
I genuinely didn't realize how much of my self loathing and poor self esteem is due to me blaming myself for a lot of my trauma. I've heard other people say it before but I've grown so cold, so unsympathetic, that I view that as a victim mentality. It wasn't until I heard you say it, and describe your journey of overcoming, that I realized I have some overcoming of my own to do. Very insightful.
I am aghast that a person can get away with sexual assault if their "culture allows" that sort of thinking.... Unbelievable
Tragically, some cultures view one of the sexes as superior, and the other as property, and mistreating human "property" is not a crime any worse than vandalism.
It is disgusting.
It's not acceptable. Australia is an aberration. Most western countries will be harsh to the perpetrator, regardless of culture.
Well Australians keep voting in politicians whom push for multiculturalism and white guilt. People get the government they deserve in a democracy...
@@PedroHawk1 Not true in western countries that have mindless "diversity" policies!
she's an actual feminist. but the the thing is she claims to be an anti-feminist, because of what people who claims to be feminists does and says. we need more people like her on the front. because her views and perspectives are constructive and healthy to the society.
So true! The people that call themselves feminists are mostly just "men-haters". Most men are great and, YES some are rotten apples but some woman are too!
You should always speak up, not just woman!
i renember when feminism wasnt women's rights and it was equality , people like this make me renember those days
I couldn't agree with you more. She's an actual feminist who vouches for equality not like those pseudo feminists who simply man hate
Shes not a femminist , femminism is no longer about equality since around 2000 its about giving women the entire cake
@@nexsusblue9728 fair point honestly , these days you either support women or support men , no middle ground
"...If you feel like driving into oncoming traffic I recommend seeking help or going to England..."
It all makes sense now! This is why they drive on the left side of the road!
I'll see myself out.
When I was 15, I was assaulted on a bus while everyone was watching but no one cared to stop. Yeah I do blame him. And also I blame everyone else. I still do. I don't know on what stage I will be able to forget about those and move on. But this video kinda brought me some sort of a relief that there are people out there that went through the same as me and got better.
Hey, I was abused sexually on a school bus in the 7th grade by my crush, so I understand your sentiment. I know it’s hard but you will eventually be healed and it will be so worth it! Don’t lose hope♥️
@@i.dig.ducks02 Thank you.! This made my day. I really hope you've healed. ❤️
You're allowed to have feelings sometimes, Syd.
We will get along better when "people are judged by the content of their character, not by ... (insert people group here: race, gender, ethnicity etc). Keep up the great content @Sydney!
yeah. though mgtow has made me skeptical of women when it comes to relationships. there is truth I can't dismiss. same for feminists I imagine knowing how a good portion of guys view relationships at the start, which I can't get behind. both Men and women can be awful and be understood and nobody wants to be hurt. my taking is to be caution and minimize their ability to harm until I know for certain they won't. don't shut them out but keep a windowed door between you.
I was in a relationship that traumatized me and what you’ve said really resonates with me. I feel ashamed and embarrassed and traumatized and I know what it’s like to feel dismissed. Nobody seems to care if something happens to a man and there are so many double standards that make you feel like what you’ve been through doesn’t matter.
1. I'm sure Hadrian would be pretty chill with you sitting on Hadrian's wall, he was a pretty good emperor.
2. I hope your doing better now.
"In my defense"
emotions are not something to apologize for
I disagree. Irrational emotions that cause undue drama are something to apologize for. Not that I'm saying that's the case here.
Norel farjun
Depends. In this case, you're right. But being emotional can make you short sighted to a situation and make you irrational. But to be fair they can also make you empathetic. It's all how you use them.
@@UnfamiliarIntimacy true. I was cheated on but I don't blame all women like a child
Right. You shouldn't apologize for having emotions just how you express them and Sydney crying over something that caused her pain is something she shouldn't feel like she needs to apologize for.
@@panga_latrice absolutely 100% true.
I was single for 4 years after my wife passed and it was an illuminating experience. I discovered that the average person is basically crazy which means that 50% of the population are worse than crazy. I was lucky. I found another right one. As will you Sydney. You have a lot to offer...
This is true. In my opinion, far too many people are garbage.
@@onemanarmy36 i work at a dump,,we bury tons of human defect remains every week..people are garbage because of our inept education system,kids of 10 cant read or write,that,,is the parents job,not schools,.so,should these ''parents'',have kids,?.passing grades are getting lower,we are educated to be able to function sorta,,in society,not,,advance the human race..all,education,to your highest level,should be free.not cost 1,000,s $$$.we are breading dumb societies..watch,george carlin, r.i.p.
@@RUclipsTookMyNickname.WhyNot id say,the education system world wide,is screwd,,i didnt have rich parents,so,education costing 100,000,s wasnt for me,,.i now build houses,for a company.talents wasted..&,there are thousands of kids/men,like me,.education should be free,its your right,to learn & find your talents,not just be functional in society.&,ill bet you,a lot of crime ,drugs,,is due to this reason,of being left out.hell,when i was at school i could draw,spell,work out anything,,maths english,geology.GONE. .want a laugh,,watch,''how dumb are americans''..also includes russians,THAT KNOW MORE ABOUT THE WORLD & U.S,THAN THEY DO..even the teachers dont know subject matter..its too easy today to push a button to get a result.even i find it hard to do manual jobs at home.computers are a trap.!!..THIS, is why im on here.trapped..these sites,like sydneys,,are policed.there is no freedom of speech,or free thought,.you can think it,but never,say what you mean..
I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years, 1 of those years we were married (what was I thinking!!). I now know because of the abuse I suffered as a child by my own father, I looked for someone like him in a relationship (because I didn't realize that wasn't normal). After a messy divorce and him shutting the power off to our apartment a him threatening to slash my tires because I wouldn't split the deposit with him because I cleaned the entire thing including packing all of his belongings (because why not). I then got immediately back on the dating train because he said I would never find someone as good as him (hahahahaha!!!). Well after many failures I met someone better than him and we now have a son and he helped guide me out of the abuse along with God and many people around me and opened my eyes to the abuse I suffered as a child. I appreciate your vulnerability and telling your story. Fortunately I know not all men are bad thanks to a lot of men in my life as well. Your amazing 👏 and I absolutely love your videos also sorry just subscribed today, thought I was subscribed for awhile but nope.
Yo. Thanks for this video.
Individual cases feel often used by certain groups to shame opposite gender as evil or something. As a guy raised by single toxic mother and having almost just as toxic older sister I felt ashamed of being a man. To this day I am recovering from my psychological abuse from them. I used to even hate all women and be thinking all are the same. But what is important is to treat other people in general as individuals. Removing double standards in your approach to people was important in my healing.
I’ve always appreciated women who can blame their taste in men, rather than all men.
Sydney isn't a feminist so of course she will blame that one Man instead of all Men.
I literally cried watching this. I’ve been emotionaly harrassed by women who have targeted me for just being male. Up to the point of saying I should be made a slave just for being male. I wish I could hug you right now. Finally someone is open to the idea that not all of one sex is bad
Ciayrra Parrish thanks
andy crane thank you
Those women will meet their day mate. Always surround yourself with positive influences and show a big fat middle finger to anyone who's going on the "you're male" card. I do that with folks bringing up the "you're white" card in the racial side of things.
I have a feeling you live in a big city. Get out and find your sanity. Smaller regions may pay less but cost of living is cheaper as well. I've lived in both over the years. I find people in rural areas have a better perspective of reality. Your current social circle doesn't seem to have their priorities straight. Ask yourself what personal choices you are making that has you drowning in this environment. Tell yourself you deserve better and make it happen. You can do it! Stefan Molyneux has great talks on YT about relationships. Give him a try. What do you have to loose. Remember there are good people and bad people. That's it.
So, I will tell you, what Women are told when they are Harassed: do not tolerate the harassment. Go to HR and file complaints. Why yes, it's a 'cowardly' way to handle Office Conflict, but it is the Legal way, and only HR has the authority to make them stop.
Or, you need a better set of friends. Kick these Narcissistic Miscreants to the curb.
There's no defense for feeling what you feel when taking about a horrific situation. You'd be in-human not to be sad and angry and every other feeling....
In my long, adventure-strewn life I have noticed men can be blah, women can be blah, and I definitely can be blah.
The latter being by far the most humiliating of all my memories.