What western women think about Japanese guys. Me personally, Italian, I married a Japanese man. I am quite strong headed but he is strong too, so I like he takes charge, and we are very happy together. I find Japanese men very attractive, stylish and somehow patient and cute. Don't beat yourself up, girls and boys are the same around the world, when there is love and mutual respect nothing else matters. ☺️
@@femme_fatalist I am sorry to hear it didn't work out. But you are absolutely right. I am not sure if I would be able to be with anybody else . And as a woman I wish you to find "that" person , which will stand by you and support you, always 🧡
Mood my man is from Japan too ❤️ and our relationship is based so much on respect ❤️ I'm learning the language too so it make the communication easier ❤️
I think the first two guys were on point. My boyfriend is japanese and so shy, he couldn't even look at my face the first times we dated. I'm pretty assertive myself and bold at times (and French XD), I was so scared of scaring him away but he actually loves it. 🤷🏾♀️ In his case, being shy and kind actually makes him really manly to me because he shows his feelings with his actions instead of just talking. I find that really bold and appealing, ironically. And it does make one feel safe and protected.
This sounds a little similar to me to the way I find that seem more human rather than manly ironically more manly? The more you seem like just some neutral human being with human thoughts and human emotions the more I'm like woah look at that male~ I mean honestly guys you already have a male body and male face. Just be human, however you feel like it. You'll naturally have some manly traits because of that, because that's just the chemical makeup of your brain you know. But just be yourself, let those things naturally emerge. Actively try to be a good human being, the manly stuff will come on their own. And read my comment but swap the genders and just tell me my comment isn't true for many guys... I know many guys feel the exact same way about women as I feel about men, and I'm by far not the only woman who feels this way.
"Western men are manly in that they are polite and chivalrous gentlemen" Me: living and born in Europe and still waiting that this happens in real life
@@genma986 More like self-preservation as the #Metoo movement made male-female interactions more awkward, which is why security cameras need to be installed everywhere.
@@franciscoaguiar2120 Not really lol, the woman just have a different taste in men now 😂 in the US for example the woman don’t like Hispanic, Asian or even some whites. You gotta be a specific person for them to want you oh and also the money. Don’t take it personal and look elsewhere but don’t be desperate man
"You can experience things you normally don't get to by learning about other countries' cultures." "I could learn some of my partner's language." Those were excellent answers, at least for me. Nice video and very informative. 💪
@@shizukagozen777 i mean if they date foreigners because it's an opportunity for them to learn new cultures and language as well, then I don't see that as a bad answer, as long as they're happy with that decision. Anyways, I respect your opinion.
@@shizukagozen777 i interpreted it as a more fall in love first, and learn about the other person's culture as a bonus (it's always cool to learn more about other cultures) rather than date this person solely to get an in to a culture. and yeesh, you dont have to generalize japanese people like that
@@shizukagozen777 I never knew that thinking an entire freaking race worth of people didn't behave the same way counted as "idealizing"... Dude, I'm not an expert at Japanese culture but I'm pretty sure that, on the other side of the spectrum, a Japanese person would avoid dating a westerner no matter what cuz they're (the jp person) racist. Stop generalizing please. And who are you to assume how Japanese people think? Were you born and raised in japan? Even if you were, it's easy to get skewed opinions of your surroundings based on personal experiences so really you don't have any credibility no matter what you say for as long as you're trying to convince someone that all Japanese people are incapable of loving foreigners for their personality rather than physical traits.
I really appreciate how you interview people. You are calm and understanding and you help with wording. It can be nerve wracking to be put on the spot with an interview but you definitely exude a calm and safe feeling
As an American, I can only say that from everyone I’ve ever met they’ve had good views of Japanese people. We admire how smart you are. We admire the way you take care of your country in terms of cleanliness too. We don’t look down upon you. Again, this is only from my experience but I have never heard anyone talk badly about you 😊
@@animacionesamericanas272 How else do you describe a person from the US as efficiently as people from other countries? The commenter didn't say, "In America...." They said, "As an American...." Citizens of the People's Republic of China are called Chinese, and citizens of the United States of America are called American in English. It really isn't that different.
@@persephonehades7547 you missed the point, it isn't about efficiency or what's easier, its about whats wrong and absurd, how most latin american countries have an American (or americano) identity already and historically, with all the rigth since no matter how the US is called, theyre allways referencing the American continent. Just because a country put 0 creativity in their name doesn't mean the other dozen countries should accept a country that put its name after a continent just like that
@@animacionesamericanas272 @animaciones americanas so you all don't identify with your countries of origin first and just identify with "latin American" or "American?" Fine, but the world as a whole will not recognize that. We identify people by their country of origin to the best of our ability, and Americans from the US can't help it they established their country and took the name "American" for their citizens officially before any other country was found on either continent. We can't go by Unitedstatison because that as a word came out in English long after the country's conception, and it is still not the world-recognized citizen identifier of the US. And it won't be, because it's a mouthful and unnecessary. It's also worth noting that, to my knowledge, every language besides Spanish and Portuguese also refers to Americans as some derivative of American and not Unitedstatison. On the world stage, *you* are the ones in the wrong for chastising Americans for using their nation identifies as recognized by literally *everyone else.*
I study in Europe and we have loads of Japanese exchange students, usually people are saddened when the Japanese students only stick to their own. No one will approach and force you to socialize, bu i can tell you, we're all waiting to get to know you too, everyone is interested in everyone's world and culture. In the west its common for you to introduce yourself to the conversation. So i recommend trying that and dont worry about your English, the most broken English is still decipherable! (Especially with internationals around)
I get the feeling that Japanese people think that every westerners speaks perfect English when that couldn't be further from the truth. French people butcher English like there is no tomorrow, the Italian accent became a stereotype and a joke, same goes for the German one, ... and that's for the people that talk it but have an accent because there are a lot of people who don't talk English or don't talk it very well. In that regard, we're all in the same basket here.
Exactly! I think it’s the same for most foreigners studying in a different country; it feels much safer and easier to stick with people who share your language and culture out of fear of rejection or not being understood. But anyone feeling like this should try to branch out and engage more, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how welcoming and friendly people can be, even if you can’t communicate perfectly!
That shit wouldn’t fly in America. We’re aggressively friendly. Like will approach you to talk or invite you out places. Don’t speak the same language? No problem, we got phones and wild hand gestures.
@@magnarcreed3801 😂😂 this comment reminds me of my Japanese exchange students, they started off very quiet and shy but by the end of their stay they had already made friends and shared their email addresses so they could still keep in touch when they got home. I wish all foreign exchange was like this ❤️
@@paocut9018 This is so true and a really great perspective. Even though I'm a native English speaker I have never been upset or bothered by someone's accent or mistakes. I have a french friend who always apologizes for his "bad english" but I'm really just grateful he learned it at all and we can communicate. Sometimes I don't understand his pronunciation or the grammar is wrong, but like 99% of the time we figure it out and he can use pictures or a translator. Learning a new language is really hard and I only have respect for those who do try.
The first two guys were the sweetest! 💜 I loved that they said they were even willing to learn their partners language. That takes alot of commitment on both ends! Great video!! 🙌
I think this shows how loyal men can be, if only western women had an ounce of the same qualities, but alas they don't this is why our country is failing in marriage and child bearing, majority of western women hold LITTLE TO NO WIFE qualities.
@@15751Chris Loyal men are abused by insecure woman and vice versa. Insecure men abuse woman. Its very difficult to find loyal people these days, seems like everyone is trying to get one up from the partner they already have and can never be content or they always think they are such a catch and deserve more than what they are worth lol
@@Killswitch1411 Yeah everyone thinks they're entitled to more than they're worth that's the main problem. I think that's the case for women at least, always looking for a better man, a lot of men don't even really care how good looking the girl is. That said, I think men have more commitment issues.
@@15751Chris You are generalising, your country does not equal the rest of the West. Some Westerners are quite loyal and respectable people, not foolish. The only truth to your comment would have to be child births becoming fewer but East Asia is also facing similar problems, with the greyer population growing stronger since there are more deaths than live births. As for divorce, it is better for people to divorce than remain unhappy. Children born to unhappy couples may suffer from mindless parents that only stick to one another based on some idiotic decisions that pulled them together in the first place, despite the clear lack in compatibility. You do know that it is far more common for Japanese people to remain single in their 30s, right? Japanese women are not as eager to get married anymore, women in East Asia are changing and becoming more career oriented. If you want to be married, have several children and a female at your service without divorcing you, marry a conservative religious person; Christian or Muslim, preferably.
As a western woman, I find Japanese men’s shyness to be rather endearing. They seem to have more of an introspective view point and self awareness that is very intriguing. They want to embrace our differences rather than change who we are. We can be overwhelming for sure but I think dating western men has taught us that we have to almost over explain ourselves and teach men how to love us.
Me too especially because I’m really introverted, don’t say what’s on my mind , and super shy, so I get where they are coming from cause I’m the same way.
I honestly think that when two people make a genuine connection, no amount of language or cultural barriers can keep them apart. Also, there are many different ways to be "manly" if that is a concern. I think most women want a loving, supportive, attentive, affectionate partner, although I cannot speak for everyone. Relationships are 100/100. There are times when you are more confident and can take the lead and vice versa. I think curiosity is a great relationship starter. Being curious means you're willing to learn and explore.
@@ishmaelmiles2216 Bro I am from Asia and tbh,east Asian people in general dont prefer black people but dont worry,i hope you will find the right person if yoire a nice guy👍
The last guy seems really sweet, when asked about the language barrier, he was willing to work on his English and to make that effort to communicate I think that’s really touching. If I see someone trying that hard to try and communicate with me even though we aren’t fluent in each other’s languages, I would 100% put in the same effort in learning their language
Actually us western women, when in a relationship, we protect each other. The man protects us in certain ways and we protect the man back in other ways. It is true companionship this way. 🥰 What one lacks the other fills. Find someone who makes you feel complete and compliments you, and whom you do the same for them. That phrase "You complete me" comes to mind
It’s beautifully said : I think people can be shy or assertive when the situation impose it, even if each person has a “main” personalities which dominates, because even a shy person can become suddenly assertive and determined when it’s to protect the partner in a dangerous situation, for example. And the same the other way around : in private, men as much as women can become shy even though they normally tend to be strong and confident.
I don't think you really get what "protecting" or the feeling of doing so means, which kinda illustrates why they think the way they do about western women
@@rigierish3807 It's a gender role thing, a masculinity vs femininity thing. It's not a nebulous concept of affection for each other. Sure, both partners care for each other and show each other affection. That's largely gender neutral. But being a man in a relationship with a woman means that you provide her with safety, both emotional and physical, but most directly the physical kind. You can go places together that would otherwise feel unsafe for the woman if she was alone and you can be steadfast in the face of emotional turmoil, allowing her to feel vulnerable with the feeling that she can rely on the man to stay grounded. A woman doesnt bring a sense of physical or even necessarily emotional safety to a man and men dont seek it. What men seek is softness and a nurturing kind of care and even more concretely, they seek women for whom it would be appropriate to play the role of protector. The feeling of being relied on in that way and seeing a woman put her trust in you and seek protection from you, even with small gestures like clinging to your arm as you walk through the city at night is very special. The nurturing kind of emotional care that you get from women is different from the kind you get from men, it's more about relaxing and feeling loved, but also needed. Seeing a woman show that nurturing care to children and even small animals elicits the same kind of affection and feeling of wanting to protect her. There is also some overlap between the genders when it comes to these concepts, but generally speaking, these are the differences. Men like to feel like men and provide safety and women like to feel like women and be provided with safety. Generally speaking. The west has largely moved away from gender roles and people act like these feelings dont or shouldnt exist, but they arent exactly going to disappear. In east asia, even in countries were men and women are equal and both have careers, like in Japan, these traditions still exist and people arent afraid to expect them because the culture expects this of both men and women. Women there are no less vocal about wanting men who provide this. To them, this is normal and common sense.
Have been married to my Japanese husband for 13 years last month. Yes, he is shy and very quiet.But I know I can count on him 100% and he would never let me down. When I got very sick,he took care of me, even though he had a big surgery himself just a little while ago. I don’t think anyone else would have done this for me.
@@sallyenki4440 you dont have to be a ALPHA to be just a man.. These boys walking around wanna look like their sister or dress and look better than their girl friends its quite odd. God forbid they ever had to fight a war.. you going to put these men in the front line?? Imagine all the men in Ukraine looked like the men in Japan.. They be doomed.
What I like the most in your videos is the conversation you have with the interviewee, you don't just ask the main question, you develop a conversation and in that way you can expose various points of view. I think people are shaped by the culture in which they grew up, but the personality, and certain moments of our life also counts. I'm Portuguese and I'm shy, but I learned to be more comfortable talking to others due to my profession. Most foreigners are independent but we also like to be taken care of. And I believe there are many strong and independent Japanese women, I think it would be a good topic to address on the channel. Another thing that would be good to address was whether the Japanese would marry foreigners, I think it's a different matter than dating. Something that caught my attention was also the fact that when you start dating you can't have male friends. I don't really agree with this because we don't relate to the opposite sex just to get a boyfriend, there are people we just want as friend, I think it's a matter of trust in the partner. There has to be time for ourselves, for friends and for dating. Sorry for the long message 😅 Thank you for the video Takashii.
As a westerner from the southern US, it was confusing to me when I visited Japan. I have to admit, because southerners tend to be outgoing, I wasn’t sure I was “wanted” in Japan. Like maybe they didn’t like me. No one smiled or looked at me. Now that I am in my 30s, and have traveled more, it seems very silly I felt that way.
7:36 aw i feel bad that he thinks like that about western people. Because trust me, there are many westerners who really love japanese people, culture, manners etc. I would like to visit there. Love your content! 💕
@@user-bf9dk4xb1j What western person does this? Only the people from commie twt and war veterans or POW's. But yeah,i can say that i've seen this happen many times before,lol.
@V most of that hate doesn't come from the west, most is centered in Korea, China and surrounding placed because they were brutalized many times and never got an apology. The west had 1 incident with them ever
Some older people here still dislike japan for what they did in the war. They were more brutal than the SS, atleast Japan has changed a lot since then.
Wow, I found it very interesting that the Japanese say the word "communication" in English, it made me wonder if there is not a Japanese word for it but I'm sure there is. I also laughed and found it adorable that to say "chivalrous" they say "lady first." Takashii I thought it was very insightful of you when that young man said he thinks Westerners look down on the Japanese, but you turned it around and suggested that perhaps it's that the Japanese look up to Westerners, I was impressed by that :) Thank you for your wonderful insightful videos!
The reason they used communication instead of the native Japanese word might be because English is trendy over there and they're probably just trying to fit in by using loan words :)
I hope I'm not being rude, but I often get the feeling that most Japanese people base their image of westerners mainly on americans (in my own experience at least) and it's very frustrating. I was surprised by the men in this video actually, but I still felt the need tomention this. I'm from Eastern Europe and I can say we're not all assertive and loud and highly sexual. Especially in my part of Europe, there are still traditional people and gentle women, but I feel like we're more and more influenced by the West as well, especially by the media. Also, I want Japanese people to be more confident, because I've yet to meet a person from my country at least that looks down on Japan and your culture, on the contrary. We think you're polite, hard working, disciplined and spiritual. Maybe a bit weird too haha. Thanks for the video, great as usual.
@@TomorrowWeLive Most of Europe is considered Western. There are a few countries in that group referred to as "Eastern Europe" although they're technically "Western," like Poland, Latvia, Lithuania, and Slovakia.
I agree, I wonder where he got that perception from. I think they also think about Spain, Russia and France when mentioning Europe. Even my mom, she doesn't know Japanese culture at all but she was assured and more relaxed when I was living with a Japanese person as an exchange student.
it’s interesting seeing how important “protecting” a girl is. as if to be always on guard, starting on the defense. I’m gay so both me and my boyfriend are guys (obv lol) and if we ever needed protecting, we’d be there for each other, mutually. ps i love your videos and they’ve been helping me learn Japanese so thanks for that! ❤️
Coming from a Latino family of loud, strong, aggressive personalities, I was actually the opposite. Because of that, I wanted a boyfriend/spouse that was the opposite of what I was subjected to growing up. I met and married an Asian guy who is so low key, he makes me look like I'm aggressive. Lol I like that every time I show affection to him, he always reacts as if it is the first time he's ever been loved on and really enjoys it. It's a win-win, I like to shower him with affection, and he likes to receive it. 🥰 Don't get me wrong, he likes to give affection too, but it's more "secretive" (at home only) kind of affection, he doesn't like anyone seeing him do it. Once he did surprise me and gave me a quick kiss in public though. I guess he wanted to try it once. 😂 I think Latina-Asian relationships are really well suited. ❤️🔥
While I do understand the need to feel strong and manly next to your girl (and honestly I 'd take a nice, gentle, caring guy over the overly macho, aggressive dude) I feel like there might be quite a few Japanese women with strong personalities as well, who prefer to act differently in order not to intimidate men. Anyway, what is important is that you love and respect eachother and I think your personalities will (hopefully) "learn to fit better" over time, even if you might seem different in the beginning. P. S. Props to the first guys for willing to learn their partner's language. O P. P. S. Every time I hear about a foreign girl and a japanese guy I think of Rachel and Jun. She's bubblyish and he seems like a really chill person.
It's not about intimidation, it's about fulfilling gender roles in the relationship, which actually feels good. A feminine woman in need of protection is simply more attractive, that's all there is to it.
@@_Lumiere_ I 'll keep my opinion about gender roles to myself. Once you start liking /loving someone many things disappear from your mind and lose the importance you thought they had. P. S. Having a man around, be it as a friend or a BF, does make a woman feel safer though. Most creeps give up when they see there's a boy with you, so yeah that part of the "gender roles" I agree with.
@@dis4497 They never leave your subconscious and that becomes more apparent over time. The west has a tendency to deny gender differences in how we feel attraction as well as how we are in relationships, choosing rather think that we are more or less the same. Japanese culture, while being quite modern and progressive in the sense that they have a dating culture and women have careers, still sees gender roles as common sense and both men and women seek their equivalent counterpart in this regard. These roles arent just social constructs, they are literally how people feel innately. That's why you can never change the fact that men will generally be more attracted to feminine women in need of protection and no amount of chalking it up to "intimidation" will make men become naturally more attracted to "tough and strong" women instead.
So I see you a lot in the comments repeating the same things.I’d say it’s a waste of time on your behalf.a lot of the things you say are strictly societal implications and preceptions of gender that have been created by humans to oppress other humans.they are not biological in any way let’s just say it at that.if so then “masculine” women wouldn’t exist.Japan is a patriarchal society they don’t treat their women with an ounce of respect in fact they’re considered 2nd class citizens so I wouldn’t be surprise that Japanese men meet women who have been raised in a non gender conforming way and are able to be their own person and develop their own traits and call them intimidating I mean they say the same thing about Japanese women who are blood type A. men like women who are self sufficient and that is a traditionally a masculine trait yes men do like “masculine women” even tho I don’t think being a a self sufficient women makes you a completely masculine bei just like how being nurturing is a feminine trait both sexes need those traits to be functions productive healthy humans .the idea of feminine and masculine are broad terms that’s can encompass alot of things then just how you’re thinking of them and how you apply it.
I like the first two boys he interviewed. They said they don't mind if their foreign partner can't speak good Japanese as long as they can communicate. They even said they'd want to study their partner's language and culture
What strikes me is the fact that every guy answered the question of the language barrier with, "oh, I would just learn their language." You ask that question in the US and most people are going to say that their partner must speak English. It find it very admirable that these Japanese people are willing to just up and devote countless hours learning another language for the sake of a relationship.
@@Nope991 Well, I could be wrong. But in my 33 years of being an American, I can honestly say most people *I've* met would rather date someone who speaks English than learn another language in order to date someone.
@@frogpaste Oh ok if that is what you meant then I will agree with you. I thought that you meant if an American dates a foreigner he/she is likely not to speak that foreign language even though the American decided to become a partner with a foreign. I am sorry I understood you wrongly.
As a 40 year old American, I can say in all my experience that not once have I met anyone that spoke negatively of Japan. In fact, we highly respect the country. They're perceived as disciplined, calm, kind, generous, beautiful, highly intelligent, and creative (the birth of manga and anime is a gift to the world). The west respects the east, most definitely. Politicians may cause friction now and then but we don't apply their greed or brutality to their general populations, and we hope the greed and brutality of ours isn't applied to us as a whole either. For example, they're currently trying to make us hate and distrust Russia. We don't buy it, most of us know that Russians are awesome and we could care less what squabbles the leaders get into amongst themselves. We know it's about oil money and power. If you see a westerner in Japan, then be certain that they love Japan and Japanese people. If you're too shy to start a conversation, at least make eye contact and smile (if you're wearing a mask nod your head too). It's a welcoming signal to westerners and they may come say hello to you. Much love to you all from America!
yes, since Putin has invaded Ukraine the media is trying to make us all hate and disgust every russian, wanting us to see them the same as we see Putin.
I come from Greece, a place where it's not so likely to meet a person from Japan, however you would be surprised to know how popular Japanese culture is lately especially among young people. I personally think Japanese men are quite handsome and I don't mind at all if they're shy or want to be protective towards their women, to tell you the truth sometimes I'd find it really comforting if someone had such feelings for me, because being bold and independent always comes at a cost. Anyway the thing is that chemistry is the most important thing between two people and in many cases opposites are attracted and make beautiful combinations! Lots of love from the other side of the world 🌎 ❤ 😊!
Yes. Japanese CULTURE is popular in the west. But the vast majority of western women wouldn’t even consider dating an Asian man due to stereotypes, beauty standards, etc. Not only that, Asians in Europe face heavy overt discrimination. Especially since COVID
@@stompstompstomp9394 well,if most of the western women wouldn't even consider dating Asian men, that's great news for the rest of us who find them gorgeous and want to date them! As for the discrimination issue, to me it's very clear that those who judge people according to their colour or race even in the century we live in,should have their psychological issues checked as soon as possible!!!
@@shizukagozen777 I agree with the first part but the main reason why most western women refuse to date Asian men is mainly due to stereotypes such as Asian men having small pps, being shorter than other races, smaller in stature, physically inferior, feminine, studious n nerdy, etc. Yes, things like kpop definitely did sort of change the image of Asian men, but for the most part a lot of western women have this negative image of them. And sometimes, kpop reinforces the stereotype of Asian men being feminine. Hell, even a lot of westernized Asian WOMEN refuse to date Asian men. Asian men are also statistically considered to be the LEAST desirable for most women, while white men are the most desirable. You can look it up for yourself. Although I appreciate your optimism, this is just the reality.
@@stompstompstomp9394 What are you talking about? K-pop singers and Japanese Drama actors are quite popular in Occidental countries and considered attractive by a lot of women.
My opinion of Japanese men as a Western woman (who has never dated). I’ve never actually noticed a huge difference in the things they do, but they seem (to me) to be a bit more respectful than the Western men I know. For me, personally, I prefer shyer guys and am not attracted to, like, masculinity, or height. I’ve never considered Asian men in general to be short, they’re the height I’m interested in. I like personality more than looks or wtv-if they’re cute, bonus points-and like being a protector, but I’m fine with being protected. I also don’t have any male friends (online, cuz that’s where my friends are) mainly because I don’t talk to a lot of guys and feel more than awkward than I already am when talking to girl’s. But yeah, that’s my opinion as a Western girl with no dating experience! 😂 😌
My first love was a Japanese guy. We met almost 8 years ago in China where both of us were studying on an exchange program. You can't imagine what an experience it was. I spoke Chinese, and he was just learning it. Neither of us knew English at that time. I started learning Japanese and made great progress in just a couple of months of communication. So, we basically communicated via online dictionaries, broken Japanese and English and in Chinese. It was love at first sight. Eventually, we had to part ways because I had to return to Russia to finish my studies, but it was the best relationship and the most passionate man I've ever met.
5:28 Even in my western + western relationship, I'm the outspoken one, and prefer confrontation over quietly accepting any kind of injustice. In a me-before-you society, it's necessary to be assertive. Also as a minority, I have learned that I have to stand up for myself and for others who can't stand up for themselves. It's both self-preservation, and a kindness. But in an eastern society where the group is valued over the individual, it may be less necessary to be assertive, so you might find the same women behaving differently. I am not assertive because it is a personality trait. I am assertive because if I am not, I am mistreated (or at greater risk of being mistreated).
I'm an Australian girl of European parents but love how in Japan ppl are so polite. Unlike in many countries where they feel free just to grab you and hug and kiss, even when they just meet you. I prefer the politeness.
I get what you mean, as an Aussie guy with Indian parents, and having attended a Greek Orthodox school, both cultures are very hands-on The positive side of that is that its rare to feel left out or unwanted
Love from Canada! I think Japanese people are fascinating, noble, polite and creative people. My partner and I love watching Anime together with English subtitles. I would like to know if most Japanese practice Shinto or practice spirituality, what does that look like? I come from a Christianized upbringing, and have always been curious about Japan and their spiritual origins. Thank you for these great interviews!
i've learn from my japanese teacher that the shameless relative to sex activities like love hotel or other comes from the fact, that japan didn't grown up in christian value like chastity or others.
@@etistyle96 I grew up in a Christian home but I am not a Christian. I found that Christian’s have a very judgemental outlook towards others which really made me not want to be a Christian….every religion has something within it that you might call shameless, at the end of the day, we are all human. And we all make choices.
As someone from the UK every single Japanese guy I've spoken to has been really polite (something we really value over here), and shy like me haha. I really like that, though. It means we'd have a mutual relationship where we both make decisions, rather than one person taking charge. I feel like they're much more loyal, too, and there isn't this creepy culture over there of getting a girlfriend to show off. They want an actual relationship that will go somewhere, and I really respect that.
The thing I noticed in both the women and the men video is that, perhaps communication isn't as easy or clear in a purely Japanese/Eastern relationship (as opposed to a mixed/international one)? Pretty interesting. Communication and openness are pretty welcomed and paramount even to good healthy relationships in a lot of Western countries. Interesting to see both the men and women opinions! Lots of Japanese girls seemed to be open to dating abroad or foreigners, where as most Japanese men interviewed here seemed to want to stay closer to home with their relationships. Cool stuff!!
Being in a relationship with someone from an opposite culture is extremely, extraordinarily difficult. It requires a level of commitment most people don't have and thus in most cases it won't work. That's not even getting into the fact communication is opposite (indirect Japanese vs direct western) and the langauge barrier is difficult. That being said, if you can really devote yourself and accept there are no absolutes in life and you may have to unlearn and relearn things you believed were absolute you can do this. Japanese men are good fathers and husbands but they are NOT at all, in any way, like western people. I love my Japanese husband and he's worth everything it has taken to be with him. It can be done.
Agreed, I have seen many such relationships and I'm actually the result of one (Russian and Bengali). The universal predictor for success seems to be at least one party basically investing a lot and assimilating into their partner's culture.
Agreed, it does take a lot of work mostly in the form of learning to make concessions. My partner and I are from two different cultures. It took a lot of us learning to understand why different cultures approach the same thing differently and not just go the easy route of making fun or refusing to try it. My partner used to be extremely stubborn and would out of fear of trying my culture, put it down. It wasn't until he got older that he realised what he was missing out on. For me, it was learning more about his culture, being with the family, etc. that I gained an understanding. This came in handy when I had to explain or set rules with my in-laws of what I couldn't do as they might expect. Since I understood their culture, I knew how to explain it in an understanding way. It's been over a decade and only one family member of his still doesn't wish to understand my culture, but I've learned to just go around them. The rest do and include me, so I'm good with that.
@@_Lumiere_ no worries, his is African American (Louisiana, U.S.) and mine is Métis (Alberta/Ontario, CA). There is a great amount of presumption by other u.s. citizens that African Americans don't have a distinct culture, but there definitely is once you spend enough time to learn about it. It typically is downplayed or looked down upon, similar to mine. Ironically though, I speak and use more French than he does.
Awesome that you asked about Western women in your video. Most women in the West are different from each other. Sure, many share similar likes and dislikes, but no one is the same. At the end of day, if a Japanese man wants to date a Western woman, just take your time with that person. But that's up to them. I can't claim to be an expert on dating, but all I say is take you time. Thanks Takashii-san for this video!
Very interesting! I am a woman from Canada and I smiled a lot during this video. Stereotypes really kill potential relationships :D I will have to remember why men are shy when I go to Japan! It is a trait that is very endearing to a lot of women. I mean it is something some women would acknowledge with respect.
I'm from the U.S. Once, I was in a popular tourist spot and I distinctly recall seeing two Japanese men walking together exploring. I knew they were Japanese because of their distinct fashion, and they were very tall and slender. I will never forget seeing them because they were so fair and dark, so impressive and beautiful with a distinct air about them. I felt so intimidated and like they were so elegant and cool that they would never want to talk to me. Lol I bet they would have found me rude if I just told them what I really thought. Now I'll never know. I imagine Japanese men to be so dignified and out of my reach even when they are right in front of me, like God's from heaven unto Earth just gracing the world with beauty. They make me spout poetry.
I was so impressed with how genuine, respectful, and considerate the two Japanese young men were when answering the questions. I'd love you to interview western women who have Japanese partners to ask them: Are Japanese men good boyfriends?
TAKASHii-san, could you please ask Japanese people what they think about Africa? What's their image on the continent? I hear alot of Japanese people talk about America, Europe and even Australia but never about Africa :( Also thank you so much for these little interviews you give us! They are very interesting!! ありがとうございました！（＾＿＾）
For real... they mostly just think the continent is poor. There's very little interest unless they're a business man, interested in surfing or a world traveler.
I don’t think it will be bad opinion but ifnyou ask Chinese people they are racist to Africans. I went on Chinese twitter by switching location and they were calling black people dogs and ugly and stuff.
I'm not Asian but I'll give an answer from myself, (an Irish person.) I personally think that you guys are really pretty, I'd want to learn more about different African culture and possibly visit somewhere in Africa. Most Irish people only think of them as hard working and great for jobs like in companies and stuff, though (that or they're racist idiots)
Takashi san , thanks for your hard work in making such an interesting videos in English , it helps a lot of foreigners to understand Japanese people thoughts better! :) Arigatou Gozaimasu!
Interesting conversation as always. Thank you, Takashi! Also, as a lifelong Packers fan, I was excited to see the man wearing the Packers jacket in the first interview. 💚💛
Great questions Takashi! Interesting opinions and topic in general. 😅 I really liked your conversation with the second interviewee. In general yes, I do think Japanese guys are bit shy, but very polite and kind as you all mention. Also I think it is true, that regardless of the nationality nowadays we women in general are more open, ambitious and assertive and partner with similar qualities, goals, ambitions would be a great match. But then again it is entirely individual thing. The communication really is the key and stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time can do wonders. ☺️ Keep the good work!
All of these guys you interviewed are charming. It was so sweet one guy wanted to be his partners protector. I also agree with the last guy preferring a potential girlfriend not hang out with male friends. I understand women have a right to have the friends they want and to be trusted. However when going out with male friends it might be better to have the bf along too.
Love your content. It's def a cultural difference. Native American men & women are very similar to Japanese, when dating. I think that shyness can be mis-identified as coldness in the West. Many "western" women are forward and it shocks the man, since they are used to the shy quiet approach. Native people are looked at in this same way in America. Native women tend to like the quiet & shyness, since sometimes they are this way. Where western people label it as being cold or disinterested.
I am an American woman. I live right in the middle of the states. I have always felt a good Japanese man would suit me well. I am a shy woman, but after getting to know someone I am fun and passionate. I do communicate very clearly, but I’m not too assertive. I would be able to allow a Japanese man to be the protector. I think there are US women who have the perfect balance of hard and soft that some Japanese men may be wanting. I am very loyal and wouldn’t go out with a male friend. I know a lot of women in the US who think that is wrong so I think out of everything I heard, that was the one assumption I felt was incorrect. Women in the US may communicate with some male friends but would not spend time with that friend without her boyfriend. So that are some of my thoughts that I felt may be helpful to share. Oh… also, any Japanese man that thinks western women find them to be too shy or maybe even too soft, you are perfect the way you are and you deserve to be loved. Your men are strong enough to be protectors to a western woman. I love you all and I hope this helped to answer some questions/curiosities. Also, I hope this helps anyone feeling insecure to know that there is ALWAYS someone out there to love the parts of you that you don’t like or maybe want to hide. That’s a good thing to tell you… hiding things, being dishonest, lying… these things are a very big problem for an American woman. We would rather be told the truth, even if the truth hurts us. Showing that you will tell the truth, even when it’s hard to, will definitely help you to win an American woman’s heart. Ok… I’m done now… lol thank you for reading and I hope this helps!
I can understand how it could feel like we look down on you and I can only speak for myself but personally I love to meet new people and experience new things. I find different cultures so interesting
Since there are so many interested in relationships. Maybe you can make a Video about Japanese Dating Portals online. And how a western Girl can get into it. I like the honesty of the interviewed men. And yes, it is true. Some Western Persons misunderstand respect and friendliness as weakness. That is a shame. But not everyone is like that.
I’m English and I think Japanese men are very beautiful and respectful. I’ve not actually met a Japanese man face to face but a few I have spoken to have always been so very polite and true gentleman. I would definitely date a Japanese man. 😊
I really like your videos, while the content isn’t wholly original I find it extremely engaging and enlightening every time. Your presentation is really good. I look forward to following your channels growth 🍻
When he said that he felt that Westerners look down on Japanese people I was so surprised! Personally I look up to Japanese people and their culture, and often I’ve felt like maybe they look down on westerners... It’s very interesting to hear someone else mention the same thing I’ve felt but from their perspective!
I feel like I’m the opposite of these descriptions 😅 I’m extremely shy and have a hard time speaking up. I worry about how I appear to others or saying something wrong and being embarrassed. 😪
There is so much hope in the world with the current generation. I hope we’re all able to find common ground one day and realize that we are all humans who just want to live and be free. To experience all the good things that life has to offer us. History has taught us all to respect each other and to be kind, to value life above all else. I believe we still have such a far way to go. At least 2-3 more generations but I really envision a world where we can all live together equally in harmony. Humanity must prevail. Only we can dictate our future as a species.
that's sad he thinks we look down on japanese people! this year we got a lot of exchanged students from japan so i was very excited to talk with them! and i indeed got to chat with the boy and the four girls, it's always cool and interesting
Hardworking, don't know when to quit, admirable for the diligence, but super fucking stupid for not taking care of your own body, also, having just a little bit more time=better quality of work.
I think it’s something that comes from within. I can only speak for myself and ppl around me but we Japanese have low self-esteem so that may have contributed to the idea that ppl are looking down on us. 😂
emasculating stereotypes against asian men. A lot of white men will say japanese dicks are small. A lot of women still believe that to this day and look down on japanese men.
I agree 👍 I love asian men I wouldn't look down on them .. never heard of anyone that does either .. I'm picking he's either young and had no experiance or he's only met one or 2 western girls that might have been the snobby rich girl attitude ones def not a representative of most western.women ..
As an American who recently started dating a Japanese guy who I've been friends with for 5 years, it's interesting to hear these perspectives. My boyfriend is not "manly" in the western sense, but his kind gentleness is what I love about him. I don't do well with stereotypical "confident assertive" American guys so he's a great match for me. I think I used to intimidate him, but over the years he's gotten to know me and appreciate who I am (though he also says I'm more Japanese than American, so maybe that's why he can date me 😂). At the same time, he says he's worried about telling his parents he's dating an American because of stereotypes, so the cultural differences are definitely there. But in the end it really boils down to whether two individuals are a good match for each other, which you can't know till you're willing to look past cultural stereotypes.
Being shy is on point! I asked my boyfriend out on a date the first time, because I figured he wouldn't ^///^ and now we're living together. I was afraid of scaring him off for multiple reasons, but he actually is the best match possible for me. I never met such a loving, kind and thoughtful man, who also has a very headstrong side to him. It's very refreshing, as I, in my personal view, don't like this overwhelmingly image of masculinity.
As a Western girl I know that a lot of girls from my country do like the gentlemen type. I personally don't, because it's often fake and just used to get with the woman fast. I prefer if someone is genuinely kind & respectful towards me. I don't mind approaching a guy who I like first, but if he likes me back, he should tell me. Even a strong girl wants to be protected if she is in danger, so if you see a girl in danger, don't be a coward! Also no Westerner who comes to Japan looks down on Japanese people. That's not true. Probably most Western people who come to Japan are open to dating someone Japanese. I also had a lot of male friends and I would have NEVER wanted to date any of them.
thanks for this video! I appreciated that. I find this video very important, because we learn culture of other countries. I'm really sorrow find that many people (in this case the Japanese men) said that "as a Japanese man I prefer date a Japanese woman". Btw, thanks really for this opportunity
I'm an American, I've never had a preference when it came to race as for who I got with. I ultimately ended up marrying a white man, but he could have been any race, even Japanese and I'd still be married to him. I think Japanese men are really interesting, so if I was single and had the chance to date a Japanese man I'd definitely go for it.
As an American man, this interview only increased my respect for Japanese people. I don't personally know a lot of Japanese people, but I've always liked the ones that I have met.
I dated a Japanese guy in Japan, Now, I'm very tall; he was tall. Folks think Japanese men aren't tall, but they can avg. around 5'9-5'10. But I will say it's very rare to date a Japanese guy if you are from a different country. Totally different from Japanese women. Many are open, but I say not all women are interested.
I don't speak a word of Japanese, but from listening and reading the subtitles, I'm surprised just how many english loan-words I'm hearing in their speech. "Shy", "kind", "communication", "friendly". I would have assumed they'd have their own words for things like that. I kind of assumed that throwing in lots of English words was more of a "JoJo" thing than a reflection of the real everyday language.
I love how they are shy. 😆 it’s adorable then again this isn’t the opinion across the board but a common personality trait. I can’t wait to go to Japan one day.
From the last person with the question, if he was in a relationship with a foreigner and they go on a date. Would he be OK of a group date? My cousin did this and she said "My sweetheart brought two of his friends and then I brought two of my friends, we had fun and they where close by. So if there was a problem then they can come and save us, I thought it was a good idea in till my sweetheart had a unknown allergic reaction to something in the food. And had to be rushed to the hospital, I don't think he will be here today if our friends wasn't there to help him." I think that's super sweet and also fun!💖💖💖
I can only give my experience as a woman of color (non Asian) from America. I think in general we see Japanese men as quiet, shy, maybe passive, but otherwise kind and interesting. We definitely don’t look down on them though! I think what they say about western women being assertive is true, we are independent and stand up for ourselves. Maybe because of that perception they think a Western woman and a Japanese man wouldn’t be a good match but I don’t think that is the case. I think having a partner who balances your personality and can be proactive or assertive when you can’t be is good! The same goes with having a partner who can teach you to be calm or more down to Earth, as we typically view Japanese men as being. I’m of the opinion that opposites attract, but they didn’t really discuss any Western women that weren’t white or from Europe so I don’t know how they view non white westerners.
That's so interesting, am I the only one looking up to Japanese people for being hard working, passionate and focused in everything they start and do? Damn 😂 Kindness and showing emotions, what a dream.
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What western women think about Japanese guys. Me personally, Italian, I married a Japanese man. I am quite strong headed but he is strong too, so I like he takes charge, and we are very happy together. I find Japanese men very attractive, stylish and somehow patient and cute. Don't beat yourself up, girls and boys are the same around the world, when there is love and mutual respect nothing else matters. ☺️
@@femme_fatalist I am sorry to hear it didn't work out. But you are absolutely right. I am not sure if I would be able to be with anybody else . And as a woman I wish you to find "that" person , which will stand by you and support you, always 🧡
You and your husband are cute.
@@Orbt_ ❤️
Yes very attractive!
Mood my man is from Japan too ❤️ and our relationship is based so much on respect ❤️ I'm learning the language too so it make the communication easier ❤️
I think the first two guys were on point.
My boyfriend is japanese and so shy, he couldn't even look at my face the first times we dated. I'm pretty assertive myself and bold at times (and French XD), I was so scared of scaring him away but he actually loves it. 🤷🏾♀️
In his case, being shy and kind actually makes him really manly to me because he shows his feelings with his actions instead of just talking.
I find that really bold and appealing, ironically. And it does make one feel safe and protected.
Aww you're so lucky 😍
Very nice 😊
@@Dailyfandom Ngl it was difficult in the beginning but now I find his shyness kinda quirky so I don't really mind. He's a really great guy 😊
This sounds a little similar to me to the way I find that seem more human rather than manly ironically more manly? The more you seem like just some neutral human being with human thoughts and human emotions the more I'm like woah look at that male~ I mean honestly guys you already have a male body and male face. Just be human, however you feel like it. You'll naturally have some manly traits because of that, because that's just the chemical makeup of your brain you know. But just be yourself, let those things naturally emerge. Actively try to be a good human being, the manly stuff will come on their own. And read my comment but swap the genders and just tell me my comment isn't true for many guys... I know many guys feel the exact same way about women as I feel about men, and I'm by far not the only woman who feels this way.
Avoiding eye contact is the norm in Japan, he wasn’t that shy just not used to eye contact LOL
"Western men are manly in that they are polite and chivalrous gentlemen"
Me: living and born in Europe and still waiting that this happens in real life
That's just out of date view point, chivalry is dead. :)
TBH most people I meet are very polite. I only really remember someone if they're rude to me.
@@genma986 More like self-preservation as the #Metoo movement made male-female interactions more awkward, which is why security cameras need to be installed everywhere.
@@franciscoaguiar2120 Not really lol, the woman just have a different taste in men now 😂 in the US for example the woman don’t like Hispanic, Asian or even some whites. You gotta be a specific person for them to want you oh and also the money. Don’t take it personal and look elsewhere but don’t be desperate man
@@mikloridden8276 Lol, where did I looked desperate? Was just stating redpill facts. Read some redpill books, maybe you'll understand
"You can experience things you normally don't get to by learning about other countries' cultures."
"I could learn some of my partner's language."
Those were excellent answers, at least for me. Nice video and very informative. 💪
@@shizukagozen777 it depends on what the person wants.
@@shizukagozen777 i mean if they date foreigners because it's an opportunity for them to learn new cultures and language as well, then I don't see that as a bad answer, as long as they're happy with that decision. Anyways, I respect your opinion.
@@shizukagozen777 i interpreted it as a more fall in love first, and learn about the other person's culture as a bonus (it's always cool to learn more about other cultures) rather than date this person solely to get an in to a culture. and yeesh, you dont have to generalize japanese people like that
@@shizukagozen777 I never knew that thinking an entire freaking race worth of people didn't behave the same way counted as "idealizing"... Dude, I'm not an expert at Japanese culture but I'm pretty sure that, on the other side of the spectrum, a Japanese person would avoid dating a westerner no matter what cuz they're (the jp person) racist. Stop generalizing please. And who are you to assume how Japanese people think? Were you born and raised in japan? Even if you were, it's easy to get skewed opinions of your surroundings based on personal experiences so really you don't have any credibility no matter what you say for as long as you're trying to convince someone that all Japanese people are incapable of loving foreigners for their personality rather than physical traits.
@@Yuuki-jp4ob I agree with you I honestly don't know what he was on about
I really appreciate how you interview people. You are calm and understanding and you help with wording. It can be nerve wracking to be put on the spot with an interview but you definitely exude a calm and safe feeling
As an American, I can only say that from everyone I’ve ever met they’ve had good views of Japanese people. We admire how smart you are. We admire the way you take care of your country in terms of cleanliness too. We don’t look down upon you. Again, this is only from my experience but I have never heard anyone talk badly about you 😊
*America as in only the US
@@animacionesamericanas272 Obviously
@@animacionesamericanas272 How else do you describe a person from the US as efficiently as people from other countries? The commenter didn't say, "In America...." They said, "As an American...." Citizens of the People's Republic of China are called Chinese, and citizens of the United States of America are called American in English. It really isn't that different.
@@persephonehades7547 you missed the point, it isn't about efficiency or what's easier, its about whats wrong and absurd, how most latin american countries have an American (or americano) identity already and historically, with all the rigth since no matter how the US is called, theyre allways referencing the American continent. Just because a country put 0 creativity in their name doesn't mean the other dozen countries should accept a country that put its name after a continent just like that
@@animacionesamericanas272 @animaciones americanas so you all don't identify with your countries of origin first and just identify with "latin American" or "American?" Fine, but the world as a whole will not recognize that. We identify people by their country of origin to the best of our ability, and Americans from the US can't help it they established their country and took the name "American" for their citizens officially before any other country was found on either continent. We can't go by Unitedstatison because that as a word came out in English long after the country's conception, and it is still not the world-recognized citizen identifier of the US. And it won't be, because it's a mouthful and unnecessary.
It's also worth noting that, to my knowledge, every language besides Spanish and Portuguese also refers to Americans as some derivative of American and not Unitedstatison. On the world stage, *you* are the ones in the wrong for chastising Americans for using their nation identifies as recognized by literally *everyone else.*
I study in Europe and we have loads of Japanese exchange students, usually people are saddened when the Japanese students only stick to their own. No one will approach and force you to socialize, bu i can tell you, we're all waiting to get to know you too, everyone is interested in everyone's world and culture. In the west its common for you to introduce yourself to the conversation. So i recommend trying that and dont worry about your English, the most broken English is still decipherable! (Especially with internationals around)
I get the feeling that Japanese people think that every westerners speaks perfect English when that couldn't be further from the truth. French people butcher English like there is no tomorrow, the Italian accent became a stereotype and a joke, same goes for the German one, ... and that's for the people that talk it but have an accent because there are a lot of people who don't talk English or don't talk it very well. In that regard, we're all in the same basket here.
Exactly! I think it’s the same for most foreigners studying in a different country; it feels much safer and easier to stick with people who share your language and culture out of fear of rejection or not being understood. But anyone feeling like this should try to branch out and engage more, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how welcoming and friendly people can be, even if you can’t communicate perfectly!
That shit wouldn’t fly in America. We’re aggressively friendly. Like will approach you to talk or invite you out places. Don’t speak the same language? No problem, we got phones and wild hand gestures.
@@magnarcreed3801 😂😂 this comment reminds me of my Japanese exchange students, they started off very quiet and shy but by the end of their stay they had already made friends and shared their email addresses so they could still keep in touch when they got home. I wish all foreign exchange was like this ❤️
@@paocut9018 This is so true and a really great perspective. Even though I'm a native English speaker I have never been upset or bothered by someone's accent or mistakes. I have a french friend who always apologizes for his "bad english" but I'm really just grateful he learned it at all and we can communicate. Sometimes I don't understand his pronunciation or the grammar is wrong, but like 99% of the time we figure it out and he can use pictures or a translator. Learning a new language is really hard and I only have respect for those who do try.
The first two guys were the sweetest! 💜 I loved that they said they were even willing to learn their partners language. That takes alot of commitment on both ends! Great video!! 🙌
I think this shows how loyal men can be, if only western women had an ounce of the same qualities, but alas they don't this is why our country is failing in marriage and child bearing, majority of western women hold LITTLE TO NO WIFE qualities.
@@15751Chris Loyal men are abused by insecure woman and vice versa. Insecure men abuse woman. Its very difficult to find loyal people these days, seems like everyone is trying to get one up from the partner they already have and can never be content or they always think they are such a catch and deserve more than what they are worth lol
@@Killswitch1411 Yeah everyone thinks they're entitled to more than they're worth that's the main problem. I think that's the case for women at least, always looking for a better man, a lot of men don't even really care how good looking the girl is. That said, I think men have more commitment issues.
Yea you love the vulnerable ones. Says a lot about you.
@@15751Chris You are generalising, your country does not equal the rest of the West. Some Westerners are quite loyal and respectable people, not foolish.
The only truth to your comment would have to be child births becoming fewer but East Asia is also facing similar problems, with the greyer population growing stronger since there are more deaths than live births.
As for divorce, it is better for people to divorce than remain unhappy. Children born to unhappy couples may suffer from mindless parents that only stick to one another based on some idiotic decisions that pulled them together in the first place, despite the clear lack in compatibility.
You do know that it is far more common for Japanese people to remain single in their 30s, right? Japanese women are not as eager to get married anymore, women in East Asia are changing and becoming more career oriented.
If you want to be married, have several children and a female at your service without divorcing you, marry a conservative religious person; Christian or Muslim, preferably.
As a western woman, I find Japanese men’s shyness to be rather endearing. They seem to have more of an introspective view point and self awareness that is very intriguing. They want to embrace our differences rather than change who we are. We can be overwhelming for sure but I think dating western men has taught us that we have to almost over explain ourselves and teach men how to love us.
Me too especially because I’m really introverted, don’t say what’s on my mind , and super shy, so I get where they are coming from cause I’m the same way.
I honestly think that when two people make a genuine connection, no amount of language or cultural barriers can keep them apart. Also, there are many different ways to be "manly" if that is a concern. I think most women want a loving, supportive, attentive, affectionate partner, although I cannot speak for everyone. Relationships are 100/100. There are times when you are more confident and can take the lead and vice versa. I think curiosity is a great relationship starter. Being curious means you're willing to learn and explore.
“What do Japanese girls think of Western guys” coming soon !
Btw I’m gonna go to Okinawa this week
Super excited
Hello will you do one with Black people too please reply Takashi🙏🏼..
Ask them what they think of black guys and girls
@@ishmaelmiles2216 Bro I am from Asia and tbh,east Asian people in general dont prefer black people but dont worry,i hope you will find the right person if yoire a nice guy👍
@@michaelsailo2037 i see, I've heard otherwise but thanks man
@@ishmaelmiles2216 that's an easy answer im afraid, but it depends on the person ofc
The last guy seems really sweet, when asked about the language barrier, he was willing to work on his English and to make that effort to communicate
I think that’s really touching. If I see someone trying that hard to try and communicate with me even though we aren’t fluent in each other’s languages, I would 100% put in the same effort in learning their language
Actually us western women, when in a relationship, we protect each other. The man protects us in certain ways and we protect the man back in other ways. It is true companionship this way. 🥰 What one lacks the other fills. Find someone who makes you feel complete and compliments you, and whom you do the same for them. That phrase "You complete me" comes to mind
It’s beautifully said : I think people can be shy or assertive when the situation impose it, even if each person has a “main” personalities which dominates, because even a shy person can become suddenly assertive and determined when it’s to protect the partner in a dangerous situation, for example. And the same the other way around : in private, men as much as women can become shy even though they normally tend to be strong and confident.
This is so true
I don't think you really get what "protecting" or the feeling of doing so means, which kinda illustrates why they think the way they do about western women
@@_Lumiere_ Could you elaborate a little?
@@rigierish3807 It's a gender role thing, a masculinity vs femininity thing. It's not a nebulous concept of affection for each other. Sure, both partners care for each other and show each other affection. That's largely gender neutral. But being a man in a relationship with a woman means that you provide her with safety, both emotional and physical, but most directly the physical kind. You can go places together that would otherwise feel unsafe for the woman if she was alone and you can be steadfast in the face of emotional turmoil, allowing her to feel vulnerable with the feeling that she can rely on the man to stay grounded. A woman doesnt bring a sense of physical or even necessarily emotional safety to a man and men dont seek it. What men seek is softness and a nurturing kind of care and even more concretely, they seek women for whom it would be appropriate to play the role of protector. The feeling of being relied on in that way and seeing a woman put her trust in you and seek protection from you, even with small gestures like clinging to your arm as you walk through the city at night is very special. The nurturing kind of emotional care that you get from women is different from the kind you get from men, it's more about relaxing and feeling loved, but also needed. Seeing a woman show that nurturing care to children and even small animals elicits the same kind of affection and feeling of wanting to protect her. There is also some overlap between the genders when it comes to these concepts, but generally speaking, these are the differences.
Men like to feel like men and provide safety and women like to feel like women and be provided with safety. Generally speaking. The west has largely moved away from gender roles and people act like these feelings dont or shouldnt exist, but they arent exactly going to disappear. In east asia, even in countries were men and women are equal and both have careers, like in Japan, these traditions still exist and people arent afraid to expect them because the culture expects this of both men and women. Women there are no less vocal about wanting men who provide this. To them, this is normal and common sense.
Have been married to my Japanese husband for 13 years last month. Yes, he is shy and very quiet.But I know I can count on him 100% and he would never let me down. When I got very sick,he took care of me, even though he had a big surgery himself just a little while ago.
I don’t think anyone else would have done this for me.
I would have let you be the strong woman you are.. You got this lol.. I'm kidding.
@POLY STUDY alot of them do look very feminine.
@@Killswitch1411 oh we have aLpha mAle here.
@@sallyenki4440 you dont have to be a ALPHA to be just a man.. These boys walking around wanna look like their sister or dress and look better than their girl friends its quite odd. God forbid they ever had to fight a war.. you going to put these men in the front line?? Imagine all the men in Ukraine looked like the men in Japan.. They be doomed.
@POLY STUDY that's just toxic masculinity
There are shy women in the US as well and I have met very independent women in Japan too.
What I like the most in your videos is the conversation you have with the interviewee, you don't just ask the main question, you develop a conversation and in that way you can expose various points of view. I think people are shaped by the culture in which they grew up, but the personality, and certain moments of our life also counts. I'm Portuguese and I'm shy, but I learned to be more comfortable talking to others due to my profession. Most foreigners are independent but we also like to be taken care of. And I believe there are many strong and independent Japanese women, I think it would be a good topic to address on the channel. Another thing that would be good to address was whether the Japanese would marry foreigners, I think it's a different matter than dating. Something that caught my attention was also the fact that when you start dating you can't have male friends. I don't really agree with this because we don't relate to the opposite sex just to get a boyfriend, there are people we just want as friend, I think it's a matter of trust in the partner. There has to be time for ourselves, for friends and for dating. Sorry for the long message 😅 Thank you for the video Takashii.
I'm from Brazil, and I really like your content. I'm learning Japanese now and it's helping me a lot to have your videos to watch. Thanks for that.
As a westerner from the southern US, it was confusing to me when I visited Japan. I have to admit, because southerners tend to be outgoing, I wasn’t sure I was “wanted” in Japan. Like maybe they didn’t like me. No one smiled or looked at me. Now that I am in my 30s, and have traveled more, it seems very silly I felt that way.
You should try to visited indonesia
Our Takashi is getting more handsome day by day .... ❤️❤️
7:36 aw i feel bad that he thinks like that about western people. Because trust me, there are many westerners who really love japanese people, culture, manners etc. I would like to visit there. Love your content! 💕
Yes, but also a lot who hate past/modern Japan to this day due to World War II. Can’t really blame them (victims?) but its just sad.
@@user-bf9dk4xb1j What western person does this? Only the people from commie twt and war veterans or POW's. But yeah,i can say that i've seen this happen many times before,lol.
@V most of that hate doesn't come from the west, most is centered in Korea, China and surrounding placed because they were brutalized many times and never got an apology. The west had 1 incident with them ever
@@dflaming1371 there wasn’t just a single incident, Don’t be so US centric.
Some older people here still dislike japan for what they did in the war. They were more brutal than the SS, atleast Japan has changed a lot since then.
Wow, I found it very interesting that the Japanese say the word "communication" in English, it made me wonder if there is not a Japanese word for it but I'm sure there is. I also laughed and found it adorable that to say "chivalrous" they say "lady first." Takashii I thought it was very insightful of you when that young man said he thinks Westerners look down on the Japanese, but you turned it around and suggested that perhaps it's that the Japanese look up to Westerners, I was impressed by that :) Thank you for your wonderful insightful videos!
The reason they used communication instead of the native Japanese word might be because English is trendy over there and they're probably just trying to fit in by using loan words :)
I hope I'm not being rude, but I often get the feeling that most Japanese people base their image of westerners mainly on americans (in my own experience at least) and it's very frustrating. I was surprised by the men in this video actually, but I still felt the need tomention this. I'm from Eastern Europe and I can say we're not all assertive and loud and highly sexual. Especially in my part of Europe, there are still traditional people and gentle women, but I feel like we're more and more influenced by the West as well, especially by the media. Also, I want Japanese people to be more confident, because I've yet to meet a person from my country at least that looks down on Japan and your culture, on the contrary. We think you're polite, hard working, disciplined and spiritual. Maybe a bit weird too haha. Thanks for the video, great as usual.
Bruh, Eastern Europe is not part of the West. It's literally in the name.
@@TomorrowWeLive For Asians it is wtf? eastern europe is still Europe, and by "western" they usually refer towhite people.
@@TomorrowWeLive Most of Europe is considered Western. There are a few countries in that group referred to as "Eastern Europe" although they're technically "Western," like Poland, Latvia, Lithuania, and Slovakia.
@@TomorrowWeLive The West is referred to be North America and Europe aka "first world countries" from the west.
I agree, I wonder where he got that perception from. I think they also think about Spain, Russia and France when mentioning Europe. Even my mom, she doesn't know Japanese culture at all but she was assured and more relaxed when I was living with a Japanese person as an exchange student.
it’s interesting seeing how important “protecting” a girl is. as if to be always on guard, starting on the defense. I’m gay so both me and my boyfriend are guys (obv lol) and if we ever needed protecting, we’d be there for each other, mutually.
ps i love your videos and they’ve been helping me learn Japanese so thanks for that! ❤️
Kind and genuine will always win the heart 💛 great and interesting video , loved hearing all the options and their thoughts! 😊👍
Coming from a Latino family of loud, strong, aggressive personalities, I was actually the opposite. Because of that, I wanted a boyfriend/spouse that was the opposite of what I was subjected to growing up. I met and married an Asian guy who is so low key, he makes me look like I'm aggressive. Lol I like that every time I show affection to him, he always reacts as if it is the first time he's ever been loved on and really enjoys it. It's a win-win, I like to shower him with affection, and he likes to receive it. 🥰 Don't get me wrong, he likes to give affection too, but it's more "secretive" (at home only) kind of affection, he doesn't like anyone seeing him do it. Once he did surprise me and gave me a quick kiss in public though. I guess he wanted to try it once. 😂 I think Latina-Asian relationships are really well suited. ❤️🔥
While I do understand the need to feel strong and manly next to your girl (and honestly I 'd take a nice, gentle, caring guy over the overly macho, aggressive dude) I feel like there might be quite a few Japanese women with strong personalities as well, who prefer to act differently in order not to intimidate men. Anyway, what is important is that you love and respect eachother and I think your personalities will (hopefully) "learn to fit better" over time, even if you might seem different in the beginning.
P. S. Props to the first guys for willing to learn their partner's language.
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P. P. S. Every time I hear about a foreign girl and a japanese guy I think of Rachel and Jun. She's bubblyish and he seems like a really chill person.
It's not about intimidation, it's about fulfilling gender roles in the relationship, which actually feels good. A feminine woman in need of protection is simply more attractive, that's all there is to it.
@@_Lumiere_ I 'll keep my opinion about gender roles to myself. Once you start liking /loving someone many things disappear from your mind and lose the importance you thought they had.
P. S. Having a man around, be it as a friend or a BF, does make a woman feel safer though. Most creeps give up when they see there's a boy with you, so yeah that part of the "gender roles" I agree with.
@@dis4497 They never leave your subconscious and that becomes more apparent over time. The west has a tendency to deny gender differences in how we feel attraction as well as how we are in relationships, choosing rather think that we are more or less the same. Japanese culture, while being quite modern and progressive in the sense that they have a dating culture and women have careers, still sees gender roles as common sense and both men and women seek their equivalent counterpart in this regard. These roles arent just social constructs, they are literally how people feel innately. That's why you can never change the fact that men will generally be more attracted to feminine women in need of protection and no amount of chalking it up to "intimidation" will make men become naturally more attracted to "tough and strong" women instead.
So I see you a lot in the comments repeating the same things.I’d say it’s a waste of time on your behalf.a lot of the things you say are strictly societal implications and preceptions of gender that have been created by humans to oppress other humans.they are not biological in any way let’s just say it at that.if so then “masculine” women wouldn’t exist.Japan is a patriarchal society they don’t treat their women with an ounce of respect in fact they’re considered 2nd class citizens so I wouldn’t be surprise that Japanese men meet women who have been raised in a non gender conforming way and are able to be their own person and develop their own traits and call them intimidating I mean they say the same thing about Japanese women who are blood type A. men like women who are self sufficient and that is a traditionally a masculine trait yes men do like “masculine women” even tho I don’t think being a a self sufficient women makes you a completely masculine bei just like how being nurturing is a feminine trait both sexes need those traits to be functions productive healthy humans .the idea of feminine and masculine are broad terms that’s can encompass alot of things then just how you’re thinking of them and how you apply it.
@@hagonistheman7880 i quite frankly don’t care.if you lose breath and die that’s your problem.
I like the first two boys he interviewed. They said they don't mind if their foreign partner can't speak good Japanese as long as they can communicate. They even said they'd want to study their partner's language and culture
I think the first two guys nailed it! They are young and smart :)
What strikes me is the fact that every guy answered the question of the language barrier with, "oh, I would just learn their language." You ask that question in the US and most people are going to say that their partner must speak English. It find it very admirable that these Japanese people are willing to just up and devote countless hours learning another language for the sake of a relationship.
So I guess I am not from that "most" you are talking about. Personally I disgaree with what you just said.
@@Nope991 You said it yourself. I said "most" not "all".
@@frogpaste Yes but as I said I disagree with your statment. I don't think the most part is true in the first place.
@@Nope991 Well, I could be wrong. But in my 33 years of being an American, I can honestly say most people *I've* met would rather date someone who speaks English than learn another language in order to date someone.
@@frogpaste Oh ok if that is what you meant then I will agree with you. I thought that you meant if an American dates a foreigner he/she is likely not to speak that foreign language even though the American decided to become a partner with a foreign. I am sorry I understood you wrongly.
As a 40 year old American, I can say in all my experience that not once have I met anyone that spoke negatively of Japan. In fact, we highly respect the country. They're perceived as disciplined, calm, kind, generous, beautiful, highly intelligent, and creative (the birth of manga and anime is a gift to the world). The west respects the east, most definitely. Politicians may cause friction now and then but we don't apply their greed or brutality to their general populations, and we hope the greed and brutality of ours isn't applied to us as a whole either. For example, they're currently trying to make us hate and distrust Russia. We don't buy it, most of us know that Russians are awesome and we could care less what squabbles the leaders get into amongst themselves. We know it's about oil money and power.
If you see a westerner in Japan, then be certain that they love Japan and Japanese people. If you're too shy to start a conversation, at least make eye contact and smile (if you're wearing a mask nod your head too). It's a welcoming signal to westerners and they may come say hello to you. Much love to you all from America!
ur intp?
@@333DOT. Yup. (: Are you?
Commend you to see beyond the media narratives of the Russia -Ukraine- US crisis.
@@intpleb4206 yes
yes, since Putin has invaded Ukraine the media is trying to make us all hate and disgust every russian, wanting us to see them the same as we see Putin.
I come from Greece, a place where it's not so likely to meet a person from Japan, however you would be surprised to know how popular Japanese culture is lately especially among young people. I personally think Japanese men are quite handsome and I don't mind at all if they're shy or want to be protective towards their women, to tell you the truth sometimes I'd find it really comforting if someone had such feelings for me, because being bold and independent always comes at a cost. Anyway the thing is that chemistry is the most important thing between two people and in many cases opposites are attracted and make beautiful combinations! Lots of love from the other side of the world 🌎 ❤ 😊!
I agree with u it is chemistry that works best between couples. I’m from America never get a chance to really hear anyone from Greece. Ty
Yes. Japanese CULTURE is popular in the west. But the vast majority of western women wouldn’t even consider dating an Asian man due to stereotypes, beauty standards, etc. Not only that, Asians in Europe face heavy overt discrimination. Especially since COVID
@@stompstompstomp9394 well,if most of the western women wouldn't even consider dating Asian men, that's great news for the rest of us who find them gorgeous and want to date them! As for the discrimination issue, to me it's very clear that those who judge people according to their colour or race even in the century we live in,should have their psychological issues checked as soon as possible!!!
@@shizukagozen777 I agree with the first part but the main reason why most western women refuse to date Asian men is mainly due to stereotypes such as Asian men having small pps, being shorter than other races, smaller in stature, physically inferior, feminine, studious n nerdy, etc. Yes, things like kpop definitely did sort of change the image of Asian men, but for the most part a lot of western women have this negative image of them. And sometimes, kpop reinforces the stereotype of Asian men being feminine. Hell, even a lot of westernized Asian WOMEN refuse to date Asian men. Asian men are also statistically considered to be the LEAST desirable for most women, while white men are the most desirable. You can look it up for yourself. Although I appreciate your optimism, this is just the reality.
@@stompstompstomp9394 What are you talking about? K-pop singers and Japanese Drama actors are quite popular in Occidental countries and considered attractive by a lot of women.
My opinion of Japanese men as a Western woman (who has never dated). I’ve never actually noticed a huge difference in the things they do, but they seem (to me) to be a bit more respectful than the Western men I know. For me, personally, I prefer shyer guys and am not attracted to, like, masculinity, or height. I’ve never considered Asian men in general to be short, they’re the height I’m interested in. I like personality more than looks or wtv-if they’re cute, bonus points-and like being a protector, but I’m fine with being protected. I also don’t have any male friends (online, cuz that’s where my friends are) mainly because I don’t talk to a lot of guys and feel more than awkward than I already am when talking to girl’s. But yeah, that’s my opinion as a Western girl with no dating experience! 😂 😌
My first love was a Japanese guy. We met almost 8 years ago in China where both of us were studying on an exchange program.
You can't imagine what an experience it was. I spoke Chinese, and he was just learning it. Neither of us knew English at that time. I started learning Japanese and made great progress in just a couple of months of communication. So, we basically communicated via online dictionaries, broken Japanese and English and in Chinese.
It was love at first sight.
Eventually, we had to part ways because I had to return to Russia to finish my studies, but it was the best relationship and the most passionate man I've ever met.
Takashi next you should ASK japanese people what they think of Western music or what is there favourite music :)
This was interesting. I hope you will also cover about Japanese and Southeast Asian relationships!
A LOTS of filipinas/filipinos (who are from the SEA) are married to the japanese in the 80s so yes, this will be an interesting topic
I've noticed how practical and well thought out the responses are... I really like that
5:28 Even in my western + western relationship, I'm the outspoken one, and prefer confrontation over quietly accepting any kind of injustice. In a me-before-you society, it's necessary to be assertive. Also as a minority, I have learned that I have to stand up for myself and for others who can't stand up for themselves. It's both self-preservation, and a kindness.
But in an eastern society where the group is valued over the individual, it may be less necessary to be assertive, so you might find the same women behaving differently. I am not assertive because it is a personality trait. I am assertive because if I am not, I am mistreated (or at greater risk of being mistreated).
Very well said.
Exactly. I used to be bullied for being shy and always trying to help people. It stopped when I became colder and more egoistic. (,:
I'm an Australian girl of European parents but love how in Japan ppl are so polite. Unlike in many countries where they feel free just to grab you and hug and kiss, even when they just meet you. I prefer the politeness.
I get what you mean, as an Aussie guy with Indian parents, and having attended a Greek Orthodox school, both cultures are very hands-on
The positive side of that is that its rare to feel left out or unwanted
Love from Canada! I think Japanese people are fascinating, noble, polite and creative people. My partner and I love watching Anime together with English subtitles. I would like to know if most Japanese practice Shinto or practice spirituality, what does that look like? I come from a Christianized upbringing, and have always been curious about Japan and their spiritual origins. Thank you for these great interviews!
I would also like to know if Japanese people believe in reincarnation?
@@cosmicoraclestarot yes they believe if you live a good life, you have a great second life
@@Joshuu333 amazing! I think that’s a totally fair way to think of life!
i've learn from my japanese teacher that the shameless relative to sex activities like love hotel or other comes from the fact, that japan didn't grown up in christian value like chastity or others.
@@etistyle96 I grew up in a Christian home but I am not a Christian. I found that Christian’s have a very judgemental outlook towards others which really made me not want to be a Christian….every religion has something within it that you might call shameless, at the end of the day, we are all human. And we all make choices.
As someone from the UK every single Japanese guy I've spoken to has been really polite (something we really value over here), and shy like me haha. I really like that, though. It means we'd have a mutual relationship where we both make decisions, rather than one person taking charge. I feel like they're much more loyal, too, and there isn't this creepy culture over there of getting a girlfriend to show off. They want an actual relationship that will go somewhere, and I really respect that.
The second guy was so sweet and answered honestly yet politely. Love this video!
The thing I noticed in both the women and the men video is that, perhaps communication isn't as easy or clear in a purely Japanese/Eastern relationship (as opposed to a mixed/international one)? Pretty interesting. Communication and openness are pretty welcomed and paramount even to good healthy relationships in a lot of Western countries. Interesting to see both the men and women opinions! Lots of Japanese girls seemed to be open to dating abroad or foreigners, where as most Japanese men interviewed here seemed to want to stay closer to home with their relationships. Cool stuff!!
“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss
Being in a relationship with someone from an opposite culture is extremely, extraordinarily difficult. It requires a level of commitment most people don't have and thus in most cases it won't work. That's not even getting into the fact communication is opposite (indirect Japanese vs direct western) and the langauge barrier is difficult.
That being said, if you can really devote yourself and accept there are no absolutes in life and you may have to unlearn and relearn things you believed were absolute you can do this. Japanese men are good fathers and husbands but they are NOT at all, in any way, like western people.
I love my Japanese husband and he's worth everything it has taken to be with him. It can be done.
Agreed, I have seen many such relationships and I'm actually the result of one (Russian and Bengali). The universal predictor for success seems to be at least one party basically investing a lot and assimilating into their partner's culture.
Agreed, it does take a lot of work mostly in the form of learning to make concessions. My partner and I are from two different cultures. It took a lot of us learning to understand why different cultures approach the same thing differently and not just go the easy route of making fun or refusing to try it. My partner used to be extremely stubborn and would out of fear of trying my culture, put it down. It wasn't until he got older that he realised what he was missing out on. For me, it was learning more about his culture, being with the family, etc. that I gained an understanding. This came in handy when I had to explain or set rules with my in-laws of what I couldn't do as they might expect. Since I understood their culture, I knew how to explain it in an understanding way. It's been over a decade and only one family member of his still doesn't wish to understand my culture, but I've learned to just go around them. The rest do and include me, so I'm good with that.
@@TheKa89 interesting, may I ask what your two cultures are?
@@_Lumiere_ no worries, his is African American (Louisiana, U.S.) and mine is Métis (Alberta/Ontario, CA). There is a great amount of presumption by other u.s. citizens that African Americans don't have a distinct culture, but there definitely is once you spend enough time to learn about it. It typically is downplayed or looked down upon, similar to mine.
Ironically though, I speak and use more French than he does.
Awesome that you asked about Western women in your video. Most women in the West are different from each other. Sure, many share similar likes and dislikes, but no one is the same. At the end of day, if a Japanese man wants to date a Western woman, just take your time with that person. But that's up to them. I can't claim to be an expert on dating, but all I say is take you time. Thanks Takashii-san for this video!
Yep. I’m a dominant and assertive woman but I e met various other women way different from me.
Very interesting! I am a woman from Canada and I smiled a lot during this video. Stereotypes really kill potential relationships :D I will have to remember why men are shy when I go to Japan! It is a trait that is very endearing to a lot of women. I mean it is something some women would acknowledge with respect.
I think some women want shy, nice guys to use and boss them ☹️
That's what a lot of japanese guys think
@@tromboner6061 nah shy and kind men are husband material fr
I'm from the U.S. Once, I was in a popular tourist spot and I distinctly recall seeing two Japanese men walking together exploring. I knew they were Japanese because of their distinct fashion, and they were very tall and slender. I will never forget seeing them because they were so fair and dark, so impressive and beautiful with a distinct air about them. I felt so intimidated and like they were so elegant and cool that they would never want to talk to me. Lol I bet they would have found me rude if I just told them what I really thought. Now I'll never know. I imagine Japanese men to be so dignified and out of my reach even when they are right in front of me, like God's from heaven unto Earth just gracing the world with beauty. They make me spout poetry.
I was so impressed with how genuine, respectful, and considerate the two Japanese young men were when answering the questions. I'd love you to interview western women who have Japanese partners to ask them: Are Japanese men good boyfriends?
いつものようにとても楽しかったです！私はフランス人の女性なんですけど、日本人の男性のことはとてもいいイメージがあって、もう少し自信を持ったらいいなあと思います。
Takashii、これからも頑張ってください😊
TAKASHii-san, could you please ask Japanese people what they think about Africa? What's their image on the continent?
I hear alot of Japanese people talk about America, Europe and even Australia but never about Africa :(
Also thank you so much for these little interviews you give us! They are very interesting!!
ありがとうございました！（＾＿＾）
I got you, they think everyone is Nigerian and that they work in the Adult Entertainment and pimp Japanese girls.
@@mikloridden8276 lmfaoooooooooooooo
For real... they mostly just think the continent is poor.
There's very little interest unless they're a business man, interested in surfing or a world traveler.
I don’t think it will be bad opinion but ifnyou ask Chinese people they are racist to Africans. I went on Chinese twitter by switching location and they were calling black people dogs and ugly and stuff.
I'm not Asian but I'll give an answer from myself, (an Irish person.) I personally think that you guys are really pretty, I'd want to learn more about different African culture and possibly visit somewhere in Africa. Most Irish people only think of them as hard working and great for jobs like in companies and stuff, though (that or they're racist idiots)
Takashi san , thanks for your hard work in making such an interesting videos in English , it helps a lot of foreigners to understand Japanese people thoughts better! :) Arigatou Gozaimasu!
すごくおもしろかったです！ありがとうございました！
An interesting series of conversations. Learning about other cultures is fascinating. Thank you.
Interesting conversation as always. Thank you, Takashi! Also, as a lifelong Packers fan, I was excited to see the man wearing the Packers jacket in the first interview. 💚💛
Bro nobody cares about handegg here. They just wear it cuz it looks cool
This is verrry I interesting. I love how direct the questions are! People don't even hesitate to share too! Fascinating.
このビデオが好きでした!! it was very interesting and i'll continue to study japanese so it will be easier if i ever fall in love with a japanese person :D
Great questions Takashi! Interesting opinions and topic in general. 😅 I really liked your conversation with the second interviewee.
In general yes, I do think Japanese guys are bit shy, but very polite and kind as you all mention. Also I think it is true, that regardless of the nationality nowadays we women in general are more open, ambitious and assertive and partner with similar qualities, goals, ambitions would be a great match. But then again it is entirely individual thing. The communication really is the key and stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time can do wonders. ☺️ Keep the good work!
All of these guys you interviewed are charming. It was so sweet one guy wanted to be his partners protector. I also agree with the last guy preferring a potential girlfriend not hang out with male friends. I understand women have a right to have the friends they want and to be trusted. However when going out with male friends it might be better to have the bf along too.
Love your content. It's def a cultural difference. Native American men & women are very similar to Japanese, when dating. I think that shyness can be mis-identified as coldness in the West. Many "western" women are forward and it shocks the man, since they are used to the shy quiet approach. Native people are looked at in this same way in America. Native women tend to like the quiet & shyness, since sometimes they are this way. Where western people label it as being cold or disinterested.
I am an American woman. I live right in the middle of the states. I have always felt a good Japanese man would suit me well. I am a shy woman, but after getting to know someone I am fun and passionate. I do communicate very clearly, but I’m not too assertive. I would be able to allow a Japanese man to be the protector. I think there are US women who have the perfect balance of hard and soft that some Japanese men may be wanting. I am very loyal and wouldn’t go out with a male friend. I know a lot of women in the US who think that is wrong so I think out of everything I heard, that was the one assumption I felt was incorrect. Women in the US may communicate with some male friends but would not spend time with that friend without her boyfriend.
So that are some of my thoughts that I felt may be helpful to share.
Oh… also, any Japanese man that thinks western women find them to be too shy or maybe even too soft, you are perfect the way you are and you deserve to be loved. Your men are strong enough to be protectors to a western woman.
I love you all and I hope this helped to answer some questions/curiosities. Also, I hope this helps anyone feeling insecure to know that there is ALWAYS someone out there to love the parts of you that you don’t like or maybe want to hide.
That’s a good thing to tell you… hiding things, being dishonest, lying… these things are a very big problem for an American woman. We would rather be told the truth, even if the truth hurts us. Showing that you will tell the truth, even when it’s hard to, will definitely help you to win an American woman’s heart.
Ok… I’m done now… lol thank you for reading and I hope this helps!
by the way i like how both you and the people you find try to be as honest as possibile, i like that
When japanese people think of foreign countries:
✨ *_FRANCE_* ✨
I can understand how it could feel like we look down on you and I can only speak for myself but personally I love to meet new people and experience new things. I find different cultures so interesting
Since there are so many interested in relationships. Maybe you can make a Video about Japanese Dating Portals online. And how a western Girl can get into it.
I like the honesty of the interviewed men. And yes, it is true. Some Western Persons misunderstand respect and friendliness as weakness. That is a shame. But not everyone is like that.
This was very interesting, thank you!
To me as a Norwegian Japanese men come across as polite, patient and kind.
Thats gold ❤
I love Japanese guys. I'm from Australia and really shy.
What a beautiful language and direct honest small chat. Love Japanese Culture.
I’m English and I think Japanese men are very beautiful and respectful. I’ve not actually met a Japanese man face to face but a few I have spoken to have always been so very polite and true gentleman. I would definitely date a Japanese man. 😊
The first two guys were so polite and sweet😭😭
I really like your videos, while the content isn’t wholly original I find it extremely engaging and enlightening every time. Your presentation is really good. I look forward to following your channels growth 🍻
The forth guy with the bowl cut and the black and white adidas jacket was the most attractive! I want to interview him! 😍
When he said that he felt that Westerners look down on Japanese people I was so surprised! Personally I look up to Japanese people and their culture, and often I’ve felt like maybe they look down on westerners... It’s very interesting to hear someone else mention the same thing I’ve felt but from their perspective!
I think anime also still a stigma among Gen X , Millenials , Baby Boomer and probably many Gen Z against anime in general.
よく分からないけど二人目の人の言葉のチョイスとか話し方好き
I like how he goes "How was it?" and then answers with "That was interesting." You've got a point there😊
I feel like I’m the opposite of these descriptions 😅 I’m extremely shy and have a hard time speaking up. I worry about how I appear to others or saying something wrong and being embarrassed. 😪
Love my Japanese husband! We have worked through our differences through four decades, cannot imagine my life without him.
proud asians
There is so much hope in the world with the current generation. I hope we’re all able to find common ground one day and realize that we are all humans who just want to live and be free. To experience all the good things that life has to offer us. History has taught us all to respect each other and to be kind, to value life above all else. I believe we still have such a far way to go. At least 2-3 more generations but I really envision a world where we can all live together equally in harmony. Humanity must prevail. Only we can dictate our future as a species.
that's sad he thinks we look down on japanese people! this year we got a lot of exchanged students from japan so i was very excited to talk with them! and i indeed got to chat with the boy and the four girls, it's always cool and interesting
7:31 Which foreigners do that?! 😳 I've never heard of that before. As far as I've known, my community couldn't stop praising japanese people!
Exactly. No idea where he got that from.
Hardworking, don't know when to quit, admirable for the diligence, but super fucking stupid for not taking care of your own body, also, having just a little bit more time=better quality of work.
I think it’s something that comes from within. I can only speak for myself and ppl around me but we Japanese have low self-esteem so that may have contributed to the idea that ppl are looking down on us. 😂
emasculating stereotypes against asian men. A lot of white men will say japanese dicks are small. A lot of women still believe that to this day and look down on japanese men.
I agree 👍 I love asian men I wouldn't look down on them .. never heard of anyone that does either .. I'm picking he's either young and had no experiance or he's only met one or 2 western girls that might have been the snobby rich girl attitude ones def not a representative of most western.women ..
As an American who recently started dating a Japanese guy who I've been friends with for 5 years, it's interesting to hear these perspectives. My boyfriend is not "manly" in the western sense, but his kind gentleness is what I love about him. I don't do well with stereotypical "confident assertive" American guys so he's a great match for me. I think I used to intimidate him, but over the years he's gotten to know me and appreciate who I am (though he also says I'm more Japanese than American, so maybe that's why he can date me 😂). At the same time, he says he's worried about telling his parents he's dating an American because of stereotypes, so the cultural differences are definitely there. But in the end it really boils down to whether two individuals are a good match for each other, which you can't know till you're willing to look past cultural stereotypes.
Being shy is on point! I asked my boyfriend out on a date the first time, because I figured he wouldn't ^///^ and now we're living together. I was afraid of scaring him off for multiple reasons, but he actually is the best match possible for me. I never met such a loving, kind and thoughtful man, who also has a very headstrong side to him. It's very refreshing, as I, in my personal view, don't like this overwhelmingly image of masculinity.
As a Western girl I know that a lot of girls from my country do like the gentlemen type.
I personally don't, because it's often fake and just used to get with the woman fast.
I prefer if someone is genuinely kind & respectful towards me.
I don't mind approaching a guy who I like first, but if he likes me back, he should tell me.
Even a strong girl wants to be protected if she is in danger, so if you see a girl in danger, don't be a coward!
Also no Westerner who comes to Japan looks down on Japanese people. That's not true.
Probably most Western people who come to Japan are open to dating someone Japanese.
I also had a lot of male friends and I would have NEVER wanted to date any of them.
Don't be a coward, yet be "equal". The hypocrisy of the west summarized.
@@xenotypos As a woman, I stand up for others too, if they're in a dangerous situation. It's not asking too much, if I expect men to do the same.
@@victoriameyer5924 I see.
This and several comments here proves that there is huge difference in cultures and it's unworkable
Interesting video Takashi. I would like know what Japanese people think about Latin American people. Greetings from Dominican Republic !
Great video, thank you for sharing it was really informative and interesting 😊
Love from Nepal 🇳🇵 ❤
thanks for this video! I appreciated that. I find this video very important, because we learn culture of other countries. I'm really sorrow find that many people (in this case the Japanese men) said that "as a Japanese man I prefer date a Japanese woman".
Btw, thanks really for this opportunity
I'm an American, I've never had a preference when it came to race as for who I got with. I ultimately ended up marrying a white man, but he could have been any race, even Japanese and I'd still be married to him. I think Japanese men are really interesting, so if I was single and had the chance to date a Japanese man I'd definitely go for it.
Yay!!! That guy said Spain, we're not invisible. By the way, some of us are less headstrong than others so please don't feel discouraged 😊😊😊
As an American man, this interview only increased my respect for Japanese people. I don't personally know a lot of Japanese people, but I've always liked the ones that I have met.
Ahh, i love this chanel, there is always something interesting topic. ❤️
I dated a Japanese guy in Japan, Now, I'm very tall; he was tall. Folks think Japanese men aren't tall, but they can avg. around 5'9-5'10. But I will say it's very rare to date a Japanese guy if you are from a different country. Totally different from Japanese women. Many are open, but I say not all women are interested.
I don't speak a word of Japanese, but from listening and reading the subtitles, I'm surprised just how many english loan-words I'm hearing in their speech. "Shy", "kind", "communication", "friendly". I would have assumed they'd have their own words for things like that. I kind of assumed that throwing in lots of English words was more of a "JoJo" thing than a reflection of the real everyday language.
To all the Japanese men: Western women LOVE Japanese men. Relax, grow your confidence, and come say hey ☺️
I love how they are shy. 😆 it’s adorable then again this isn’t the opinion across the board but a common personality trait. I can’t wait to go to Japan one day.
Me, born and living in Spain (Barcelona), waiting for a chivalrous and polite man 👁👄👁 🤣 I mean, they exist but it's not the norm, unfortunately.
From the last person with the question, if he was in a relationship with a foreigner and they go on a date. Would he be OK of a group date? My cousin did this and she said "My sweetheart brought two of his friends and then I brought two of my friends, we had fun and they where close by. So if there was a problem then they can come and save us, I thought it was a good idea in till my sweetheart had a unknown allergic reaction to something in the food. And had to be rushed to the hospital, I don't think he will be here today if our friends wasn't there to help him." I think that's super sweet and also fun!💖💖💖
I can only give my experience as a woman of color (non Asian) from America. I think in general we see Japanese men as quiet, shy, maybe passive, but otherwise kind and interesting. We definitely don’t look down on them though! I think what they say about western women being assertive is true, we are independent and stand up for ourselves. Maybe because of that perception they think a Western woman and a Japanese man wouldn’t be a good match but I don’t think that is the case. I think having a partner who balances your personality and can be proactive or assertive when you can’t be is good! The same goes with having a partner who can teach you to be calm or more down to Earth, as we typically view Japanese men as being. I’m of the opinion that opposites attract, but they didn’t really discuss any Western women that weren’t white or from Europe so I don’t know how they view non white westerners.
日本人男性は世界一侮辱されています
That's so interesting, am I the only one looking up to Japanese people for being hard working, passionate and focused in everything they start and do? Damn 😂 Kindness and showing emotions, what a dream.