A lot of parents don’t see their children as human beings, but rather as their property. OP’s mother tries to force OP to have a relationship with Eric because she sees OP going no-contact with him as his property rights being violated. Like if someone took your couch and didn’t give it back.
Nope we are all a bunch of aholes, just kidding, weirdly my parents have a golden grandchild of my two because one is more obedient, and the other is more rough, but I like this way because it shows their characteristics
Story 1: Poor OP, she basically has no reliable adults in her life. If I were her, I would stop talking to the dad now, and after going to college, I would go NC with mom as well
Yeah. Eric failed as a father because he replaced OP and pushed her aside. Mother failed as a mother by trying to force OP to have a relationship with Eric despite it being bad for her, and for denying OP therapy. Even stepfather failed as a father by valuing Eric’s feelings more than OP’s (“I don’t want to adopt you because it would upset your deadbeat”).
I find it difficult to sympathize with OP, idk what is up with most of these OPs but none of them ever seem to get angry or use that in a way to go scorched Earth when in these situations. OP could've hid or made things 10 times more difficult for her mother to ignore her request. People can't just go and hide behind the excuse of me not being in that situation as I was only worse. You either grow a pair and live life on your terms in these situations, or you just stay miserable, like being a child solider either you adapt and figure out ways to keep on surviving or you stay down and just die. Its unfortunate but these are the hands we're dealt with and the only thing one can do as a kid in this situation is to just grow a pair and stack the deck.
It sounds like every adult is failing OP. Sperm donor, mom, and even the step-dad. There's a difference between being non confrontational and being completely spineless, especially because he should be able to see that all of this is taking a toll on OP. The step-dad is just as much of a jerk in this situation as the bio parents are
I’ll be honest, I don’t think the step dad said he didn’t want to adopt her. She got that information from her mother and her mother has proven unreliable. It’s very possible she’s lying about that conversation or if it even happened. If it went down the way the mother said you’re right about him, but the mom is highly suspect and I would not trust what she says (she’s already broken trust with her kid as is).
@@scpfoundation8376 The thing is that he very likely COULDN'T, even if he wants to. In most cases, if the biological parents are both alive, he couldn't adopt unless bio dad gives up parental rights. The courts tend to favor the parents over step parents. My sister's husband wasn't able to adopt her son for years while step dad refused to surrender parental rights, and he didn't even want to see the boy or be involved in his life at all. But because the bio dad still had parental rights, the courts would not let her husband legally adopt him. When he finally was able to adopt, he was able to almost immediately. So, there is every possibility that even if he tried, he wouldn't be able to adopt her
1st story : ops sperm donor is a terrible excuse of a father , and he’s nothing but a cash cow to his now wife and his stepdaughters , and no surprise that they’re raising another brat in the making . But you know who pissed me off even more? Ops mother . She is not a good mom according to me. She keeps pushing her daughter into mentally charging situations with the sperm donor, hopefully she realize her mistake and rectify it
the dysfunction has to start somewhere. 'down to the third and fourth generation'. given the slavish devotion to 'famblee' not surprising. I have no illusions about 'famblee'. when it is relatively healthy it is the strongest unit, but when it is toxic it is the biggest force for individual destruction
An update from today says that OP decided to go to her father's house to give him one last chance. She was so sick of his racist rants that she argued back for once and he spent the weekend complaining about her bad attitude. She texted to her mother some of the sexist things he said to her, and it prompted her mother to finally take action. She is planning to file for sole custody and court-ordered child support. The father only paid it when his immigration application was pending and stopped once it was approved.
I'm sorry the mom totally lost me... Saying the OP should visit from time to time to keep him from getting the court involved?!? Remind me again on what grounds would he even be able to utter a peep to the court about anything??? Ole Dude's been skipping off on paying his child support for 2 FRIGGIN YEARS!!! I'd say let him try to get the court involved! Better yet I'll do it for him! FFS OP sounds more like an adult than the ones she has to rely on 😓😓😓😓
Story 2: Sis, expecting a man like that to take responsibility and deal with his own problems would be like remaining Titanic as it's sinking thinking it can be saved; you're just gonna end up drowning. She seems like the type who wants other people to fix her own problems, and not take any initiative for herself, refusing understand that's just gonna end badly for her.
"You know I love you right?" No she doesn't. On her previous visit you ask her about her day, and get pissed and rant about how the President is a lizard, or that the Earth is flat or some shit. And broke? You ain't broke, you just want to keep some shame of a relationship for a reason unknown to the world and yourself.
Ops mother just because you let the daddy run all over you does not mean you need to keep telling your daughter to respect her father baby respect earn not giving
Story 1 update: She went one more time to her dad's to give him a last chance. After he completely blew it, and also said some racist/ misogynistic rants to OP (which she told her mom about), her mom is filing for full custody of OP.
Young OP should've been "rebellious" and stopped calling bio jerk "dad". That man doesn't treat her as his child, so why lie and treat him as a parent?
Eric reaches out for a unpaid babysitter refuse to go tell your mom if she wants to get rid of you YOU'LL stay in your room the whole weekend guilt trip your mom did you and your step father ever talk about your adoption or just your mom talking block your sperm donor
I think it is very sad that someone your age is having to deal with the b******* of adult situations. Your dad is wrong for treating you the way that he does, and your mom shouldn't keep forcing you to have to endure that treatment. I truly hope you are able to find some peace and happiness, despite the adult behavior going on around you.
S3: divorce this guy is digusting. "wisdom is chasing after you but you're clearly too fast" --- is the most epic f'n answer to everything with this woman. It's so casually spot on.
I've heard the second story on another channel, but in that version, it was a child he had before they had gotten married. People in the comments were tearing her apart for getting with a guy who had a kid, but she herself never wanted a child.
You can be any age to publish a book but minors need a parent to help out I think, a quick google search can help with specifics. And the op in story 1 is 15
That woman does not need to be in a relationship. She's terrified of being on her own and as a result stays with someone who she's basically a mother to.
8:28 S1: ask to see a family therepist then the family therapist can inform your mother you do not want to go to your fathers and it's stressing you out. UPDATE 3 -- Am I the jerk for resenting my dad because of his new family and for seeing my stepfather as a better dad than him? Hi everyone. It's been about nine days since my last update. I just wanna say, thank you all for your support and advice. There were a lot of people asking similar questions, and it was all a bit overwhelming so I didn't respond to any of them directly, but I will answer those questions here before I get on to the actual reason for this update. So, a lot of you were saying that I should talk to a school counselor or something. The thing is that I do virtual homeschool, and my mom works from home a lot, so I'm honestly just a bit too scared to try that. Plus, even if I did talk to my counselor without my mom being around to hear, I really don't trust any adults to keep these kinds of things to themselves. I know that sounds a bit dumb and paranoid, but it's really just how my brain thinks. A lot of you also said that I should bring up the therapy thing with my mom again, but I know for a fact that won't work. My mom really doesn't believe in therapy and believes that praying to God or having her preach about the bible to me will solve everything. As for my stepdad, I love the guy like a real father, and I see him as my true dad even if he doesn't want to adopt me, but he really is no help with the therapy issue either because he always just agrees with whatever my mom says to avoid arguments. But I'm doing fine right now though, and I honestly think things are going to start getting better. And I think this because I'm pretty sure my mom is finally gonna file for sole custody and court-ordered child support. One thing I guess I should've made clear is that my parents sorted out their custody and child-support agreement amongst themselves when they divorced. The agreement is that I spend weekends with my dad, and he pays my mom $100 per week. I'm pretty sure my dad only stuck to that agreement to keep himself looking good until he could finish his U.S. legalization process, since he used to be an immigrant from Canada. Once he was legalized, he stopped paying child support and began spoiling his new fam. Anyway, I went to my dad's house last weekend. This time, my mom didn't force me, and I actually decided I wanted to go because I wanted to give my dad one last chance. He picked me up from my mom's house, and we didn't get down the street before we were fighting. I was excitedly telling him about a business idea I had where I can make book-boxes and sell books with DIY necklaces and hand-painted bookmarks that match book covers, and he was telling me my idea was stupid and unprofitable and a waste of money and time. It was an hour-long drive to his house, and he was getting political or angry over every little thing I said. When I told him I was thinking about applying to colleges like Harvard or University of Chicago in the future, he began to yell about all the "dangerous Cuban and Mexican immigrants" in Chicago and began saying that Harvard is a waste of time since it's just as good as any other college, but "rich people go there, which is why it's so famous". I wound up yelling at him that he can't act so high and mighty over non-white immigrants because he was also an immigrant not too long ago. Also, I never understand why it is my dad is always so racist about Hispanic people when my mom and his current wife are both Latinas. He went on one rant after another, and I was so sick of it that instead of staying quiet like always, I actually argued back. Because of that, my dad spent the whole weekend complaining about my bad attitude. I told my mom about all of this. I think the final nail in the coffin that finally pushed her to want sole custody was when I told her about a rant my dad went on about "the difference between men and women". I wound up memorizing and writing down everything he said and texted it to my mom. I asked her not to talk to him about it, but she was pissed at him. Here are some of the things he said: "99% of women want to latch onto rich men", "Nearly all women are greedy and unloyal", "Men don't like successful and independent women because they're prideful and bossy", "It's more important for a wife to respect her husband than it is for him to respect her", "It is wrong for wives to make more than their husbands", and so much more. And then he smiled and said, "But you're the exception, pretty girl." There was so much more that happened just last weekend, like him saying some of my guy friends don't count as real men since some of them are gay, and trying to tell me my summer volunteering opportunity in DR is a bad idea since "the people there are different", even though my mom's side of the family comes from there. I won't list every annoying thing he did, and I'm finally done. This was his last chance, and he blew it. I just want to say I'm pretty sure my mom is not sending me over anymore. She spent all morning looking for my birth certificate because she's wondering if she needs it for court. She wants to get me full time, and have my dad pay child support. At the moment, he owes a lot of child support, and having him contribute financially would help me so much with preparing for college. Also, I did not mention the names of my books in the other posts. I didn't share them because I didn't want a bunch of internet strangers seeing my social media tags at the back of the book, but I will share the titles with anyone who DMs me. I will probably make another update if anything else happens. Hopefully, my next update will be after we've gone to court.
Therapists are stupid? Damn and her mom sounds like she’s religious big red flag for me pray to god when a therapist will actually help and it’s a very telling that she doesn’t want to talk to her mom about problems considering no child should feel this uncomfortable talking to their parents and I think Stepdad should adopt her screw dad’s feelings it’s a slap in the face he needs to feel
Op focus on your book i was half through writing my first one back in highschool it was a horror novel about the monsters of Chernobyl and a mix of terminator it was a good book till i ran out time to finish it and ideas
I like to give these stories the benefit of the doubt and assume they’re true… but published 2 books by 15? Written is one thing but I’m very impressed if OP actually published 2 books by 15
Story 1, I just want to read her books. 😭 I'm also an author and I love that she is 15 and pursuing her dream. I didn't start my journey as an author until I was 25!
Do parents never take the child's feelings into a account in these stories?
A lot of parents don’t see their children as human beings, but rather as their property. OP’s mother tries to force OP to have a relationship with Eric because she sees OP going no-contact with him as his property rights being violated. Like if someone took your couch and didn’t give it back.
Nope we are all a bunch of aholes, just kidding, weirdly my parents have a golden grandchild of my two because one is more obedient, and the other is more rough, but I like this way because it shows their characteristics
Story 1: Poor OP, she basically has no reliable adults in her life. If I were her, I would stop talking to the dad now, and after going to college, I would go NC with mom as well
Yeah. Eric failed as a father because he replaced OP and pushed her aside. Mother failed as a mother by trying to force OP to have a relationship with Eric despite it being bad for her, and for denying OP therapy. Even stepfather failed as a father by valuing Eric’s feelings more than OP’s (“I don’t want to adopt you because it would upset your deadbeat”).
I find it difficult to sympathize with OP, idk what is up with most of these OPs but none of them ever seem to get angry or use that in a way to go scorched Earth when in these situations. OP could've hid or made things 10 times more difficult for her mother to ignore her request. People can't just go and hide behind the excuse of me not being in that situation as I was only worse. You either grow a pair and live life on your terms in these situations, or you just stay miserable, like being a child solider either you adapt and figure out ways to keep on surviving or you stay down and just die. Its unfortunate but these are the hands we're dealt with and the only thing one can do as a kid in this situation is to just grow a pair and stack the deck.
It sounds like every adult is failing OP. Sperm donor, mom, and even the step-dad. There's a difference between being non confrontational and being completely spineless, especially because he should be able to see that all of this is taking a toll on OP. The step-dad is just as much of a jerk in this situation as the bio parents are
And yet he still has the ballsack to keep calling op his daughter yet refuses to adopt her to make it a reality.
@@scpfoundation8376exactly! Like I said, completely spineless
I’ll be honest, I don’t think the step dad said he didn’t want to adopt her. She got that information from her mother and her mother has proven unreliable. It’s very possible she’s lying about that conversation or if it even happened. If it went down the way the mother said you’re right about him, but the mom is highly suspect and I would not trust what she says (she’s already broken trust with her kid as is).
@@scpfoundation8376 The thing is that he very likely COULDN'T, even if he wants to. In most cases, if the biological parents are both alive, he couldn't adopt unless bio dad gives up parental rights. The courts tend to favor the parents over step parents. My sister's husband wasn't able to adopt her son for years while step dad refused to surrender parental rights, and he didn't even want to see the boy or be involved in his life at all. But because the bio dad still had parental rights, the courts would not let her husband legally adopt him. When he finally was able to adopt, he was able to almost immediately. So, there is every possibility that even if he tried, he wouldn't be able to adopt her
1st story : ops sperm donor is a terrible excuse of a father , and he’s nothing but a cash cow to his now wife and his stepdaughters , and no surprise that they’re raising another brat in the making .
But you know who pissed me off even more? Ops mother . She is not a good mom according to me. She keeps pushing her daughter into mentally charging situations with the sperm donor, hopefully she realize her mistake and rectify it
Agreed. And her step dad is crap too. He could be the first male in her life to not be a worthless pos but nope
the dysfunction has to start somewhere. 'down to the third and fourth generation'. given the slavish devotion to 'famblee' not surprising. I have no illusions about 'famblee'. when it is relatively healthy it is the strongest unit, but when it is toxic it is the biggest force for individual destruction
An update from today says that OP decided to go to her father's house to give him one last chance. She was so sick of his racist rants that she argued back for once and he spent the weekend complaining about her bad attitude. She texted to her mother some of the sexist things he said to her, and it prompted her mother to finally take action. She is planning to file for sole custody and court-ordered child support. The father only paid it when his immigration application was pending and stopped once it was approved.
Here's to hoping the mom's spine doesn't bend again. And that step-dad finally adopts OP now that bio dad has proven to be useless.
I'm sorry the mom totally lost me... Saying the OP should visit from time to time to keep him from getting the court involved?!? Remind me again on what grounds would he even be able to utter a peep to the court about anything??? Ole Dude's been skipping off on paying his child support for 2 FRIGGIN YEARS!!! I'd say let him try to get the court involved! Better yet I'll do it for him! FFS OP sounds more like an adult than the ones she has to rely on 😓😓😓😓
Horrible neglectful parents shouldn’t be breeding more kids to screw up. Period.
Story 2: Sis, expecting a man like that to take responsibility and deal with his own problems would be like remaining Titanic as it's sinking thinking it can be saved; you're just gonna end up drowning.
She seems like the type who wants other people to fix her own problems, and not take any initiative for herself, refusing understand that's just gonna end badly for her.
"You know I love you right?" No she doesn't. On her previous visit you ask her about her day, and get pissed and rant about how the President is a lizard, or that the Earth is flat or some shit. And broke? You ain't broke, you just want to keep some shame of a relationship for a reason unknown to the world and yourself.
It's a man not a woman
Her Momneeds to take him back to court and get his arse thrown injail for nonpayment
Ops mother just because you let the daddy run all over you does not mean you need to keep telling your daughter to respect her father baby respect earn not giving
Story 2: cringing at this train wreck
Seriously, I've never seen someone so stubborn to end a relationship.
OP is such a doormat
Story 1 update: She went one more time to her dad's to give him a last chance.
After he completely blew it, and also said some racist/ misogynistic rants to OP (which she told her mom about), her mom is filing for full custody of OP.
Young OP should've been "rebellious" and stopped calling bio jerk "dad". That man doesn't treat her as his child, so why lie and treat him as a parent?
Eric reaches out for a unpaid babysitter refuse to go tell your mom if she wants to get rid of you YOU'LL stay in your room the whole weekend guilt trip your mom did you and your step father ever talk about your adoption or just your mom talking block your sperm donor
I think it is very sad that someone your age is having to deal with the b******* of adult situations. Your dad is wrong for treating you the way that he does, and your mom shouldn't keep forcing you to have to endure that treatment. I truly hope you are able to find some peace and happiness, despite the adult behavior going on around you.
S3: divorce this guy is digusting. "wisdom is chasing after you but you're clearly too fast" --- is the most epic f'n answer to everything with this woman. It's so casually spot on.
he never had a full-time job but you still saw something in him that made you think, yup he's the one for me
What are yall doing to those villagers
😂😂😂😂
Story 1: Why in the HELL didn’t OP or her spineless mom file a complaint to the courts about that deadbeat dad not paying proper child support!?
I've heard the second story on another channel, but in that version, it was a child he had before they had gotten married. People in the comments were tearing her apart for getting with a guy who had a kid, but she herself never wanted a child.
ok how old is op? publishing books but still needs to be picked up by her father? not paying child support is a crime
Not unless the mom is a push Iver and doesn't chase it
Also she's 15 and apparently published 2 books already which seems sorta fake
You can be any age to publish a book but minors need a parent to help out I think, a quick google search can help with specifics. And the op in story 1 is 15
probably published it on wattpad
Self publishing is possible but I would be incredibly impressed if she did. Might just be published on Amazon.
Story 2: 🤦♀️
That woman does not need to be in a relationship.
She's terrified of being on her own and as a result stays with someone who she's basically a mother to.
Damn story one is too relatable
8:28 S1: ask to see a family therepist then the family therapist can inform your mother you do not want to go to your fathers and it's stressing you out.
UPDATE 3 -- Am I the jerk for resenting my dad because of his new family and for seeing my stepfather as a better dad than him?
Hi everyone. It's been about nine days since my last update. I just wanna say, thank you all for your support and advice. There were a lot of people asking similar questions, and it was all a bit overwhelming so I didn't respond to any of them directly, but I will answer those questions here before I get on to the actual reason for this update. So, a lot of you were saying that I should talk to a school counselor or something. The thing is that I do virtual homeschool, and my mom works from home a lot, so I'm honestly just a bit too scared to try that. Plus, even if I did talk to my counselor without my mom being around to hear, I really don't trust any adults to keep these kinds of things to themselves. I know that sounds a bit dumb and paranoid, but it's really just how my brain thinks. A lot of you also said that I should bring up the therapy thing with my mom again, but I know for a fact that won't work. My mom really doesn't believe in therapy and believes that praying to God or having her preach about the bible to me will solve everything. As for my stepdad, I love the guy like a real father, and I see him as my true dad even if he doesn't want to adopt me, but he really is no help with the therapy issue either because he always just agrees with whatever my mom says to avoid arguments. But I'm doing fine right now though, and I honestly think things are going to start getting better. And I think this because I'm pretty sure my mom is finally gonna file for sole custody and court-ordered child support. One thing I guess I should've made clear is that my parents sorted out their custody and child-support agreement amongst themselves when they divorced. The agreement is that I spend weekends with my dad, and he pays my mom $100 per week. I'm pretty sure my dad only stuck to that agreement to keep himself looking good until he could finish his U.S. legalization process, since he used to be an immigrant from Canada. Once he was legalized, he stopped paying child support and began spoiling his new fam. Anyway, I went to my dad's house last weekend. This time, my mom didn't force me, and I actually decided I wanted to go because I wanted to give my dad one last chance. He picked me up from my mom's house, and we didn't get down the street before we were fighting. I was excitedly telling him about a business idea I had where I can make book-boxes and sell books with DIY necklaces and hand-painted bookmarks that match book covers, and he was telling me my idea was stupid and unprofitable and a waste of money and time. It was an hour-long drive to his house, and he was getting political or angry over every little thing I said. When I told him I was thinking about applying to colleges like Harvard or University of Chicago in the future, he began to yell about all the "dangerous Cuban and Mexican immigrants" in Chicago and began saying that Harvard is a waste of time since it's just as good as any other college, but "rich people go there, which is why it's so famous". I wound up yelling at him that he can't act so high and mighty over non-white immigrants because he was also an immigrant not too long ago. Also, I never understand why it is my dad is always so racist about Hispanic people when my mom and his current wife are both Latinas. He went on one rant after another, and I was so sick of it that instead of staying quiet like always, I actually argued back. Because of that, my dad spent the whole weekend complaining about my bad attitude. I told my mom about all of this. I think the final nail in the coffin that finally pushed her to want sole custody was when I told her about a rant my dad went on about "the difference between men and women". I wound up memorizing and writing down everything he said and texted it to my mom. I asked her not to talk to him about it, but she was pissed at him. Here are some of the things he said: "99% of women want to latch onto rich men", "Nearly all women are greedy and unloyal", "Men don't like successful and independent women because they're prideful and bossy", "It's more important for a wife to respect her husband than it is for him to respect her", "It is wrong for wives to make more than their husbands", and so much more. And then he smiled and said, "But you're the exception, pretty girl." There was so much more that happened just last weekend, like him saying some of my guy friends don't count as real men since some of them are gay, and trying to tell me my summer volunteering opportunity in DR is a bad idea since "the people there are different", even though my mom's side of the family comes from there. I won't list every annoying thing he did, and I'm finally done. This was his last chance, and he blew it. I just want to say I'm pretty sure my mom is not sending me over anymore. She spent all morning looking for my birth certificate because she's wondering if she needs it for court. She wants to get me full time, and have my dad pay child support. At the moment, he owes a lot of child support, and having him contribute financially would help me so much with preparing for college. Also, I did not mention the names of my books in the other posts. I didn't share them because I didn't want a bunch of internet strangers seeing my social media tags at the back of the book, but I will share the titles with anyone who DMs me. I will probably make another update if anything else happens. Hopefully, my next update will be after we've gone to court.
Therapists are stupid? Damn and her mom sounds like she’s religious big red flag for me pray to god when a therapist will actually help and it’s a very telling that she doesn’t want to talk to her mom about problems considering no child should feel this uncomfortable talking to their parents and I think Stepdad should adopt her screw dad’s feelings it’s a slap in the face he needs to feel
Op focus on your book i was half through writing my first one back in highschool it was a horror novel about the monsters of Chernobyl and a mix of terminator it was a good book till i ran out time to finish it and ideas
Last story OP... Girl.... She's stuck playing as his mom. And the dad thing is she doesn't want to leave him.
I like to give these stories the benefit of the doubt and assume they’re true… but published 2 books by 15? Written is one thing but I’m very impressed if OP actually published 2 books by 15
It is not impossible
did you see the news where the 17 yr.old got her PhD. ????.
Story #1
Your mom is insensitive at best ...
Story 1, I just want to read her books. 😭 I'm also an author and I love that she is 15 and pursuing her dream. I didn't start my journey as an author until I was 25!