Good for you! I had my tubes tied at 34. I've never regretted it. I helped raise my brothers when I was a teenager and found out how tough it was - that's why I decided to skip motherhood. I've been teaching for the past 18 years and feel that I've been contributing to society without having to reproduce. I have friends who have become parents, sometimes for better, and sometimes for worse. Everyone needs to decide for themselves.
I understand and respect your decision as well. My only question is how was your childhood? Did you feel like you haven’t received the things that you saw when you went to India as a child or just growing up overall?
They do reversible vasectomy btw, maybe do more research to that option. But I feel like at 45, you might be correct with your mindset and not having kids. My friend had one but he regrets it , but he is younger than you. Like 38-39. He did it when he was 35-36.
One of the best, repeat one of the best,being real, down to earth, video Calvin 👍 some teachers never have children,they spend their time teaching, others, your choice your life,be responsible , again great video,NorCal says Hello 🤗 💜
I really like your personality so watch your videos here and there to find your take on things. I am not a foodie and think there's a tremendous amount of glut of videos on food already anyway. So I hope you will put out more non food videos .
I’m also around your age and facing the same dilemma as you in terms of reaching that point in life where all my friends and siblings are married with children and I’m still single with no kids. I was an introvert throughout my early life and always avoided dating and relationships because it always caused me anxiety. Lately, seriously started thinking about having a family. I tried online dating and even met up with a girl in VN. I was in a long distance relationship for a year and thought i had found my soulmate. Then circumstances changed and we broke up. I tried online dating again but it was never the same. I always felt anxiety always trying to text them at certain times of the day and them expecting me to respond in a timely manner. So I agree with you, do what makes you feel peace of mind. Take care of yourself first. One thing I do like about being single is it gives me spontaneity to do anything whenever I want. Good luck 👍
46 years old? I wouldn't start being a father, in some ways its irresponsible because you may burden the child and add unnecessary stress for everyone including yourself. I have kids and I would say having a child is a selfish act and when you do bring in a child in this world you should be in a position to make them feel they are lucky to be born and lucky to have you as their parents. I fully respect and commend your choice of tying your tubes. After that they wont be able to say its yours. ha!
My sons have already decided to have vasectomies. They are 19 and 17 years old. If they decided they want children later they will try and reverse it. If they can't they are 100% okay with adoptions. They have always thought they didn't want children. So we are doing a consult for the 19 year old. The 17 year old wants his when he turns 18, so we he has saved money for it.
❤ I’m 34 and had my tubes tied at 25. I have 2 kids. I was 17 when I had my daughter, she is a month away from being 17 now. And have an 8 year old autistic son and they are my world. I’m done with baby making lol. I’ve been a full time babysitter for my friends for 9 years instead 😅
Look brother it's Pablo aka Paul good for you to acknowledge all that and understand your journey of life because I see so many people carry on about being a parent and once they bring a child to the world they didn't expect the responsibilities they had to take on or they neglect the child so I support your decision 💯 man
Hey Calvin, I was not able to have children. My biological clock never went off so I was able to give my life to the Restaurant. I taught my teams ,I have 10 nieces and nephews and 3 great N and N. I held them as infants i am still with them today with there children. The only thing that crossed my mind a lot was I wouldn't have anyone to watch over me when I am old. You do what makes your life stable . If you don't want to be a father ,dont take the risk. I believe your old enough now to know what you don't want ❤. JO JO IN VT 🇺🇲💞
My dude, throughout that rambling. I kinda understand, and kinda don't. It's a shame you feel like not wanting to get a mini you to pass on your legacy, but in my opinion, you're missing out on a wonderful experience In life. It's your choice, you just live your life brotha. I like motorsickles.
You are already a surrogate father to many young people. Do what feels right for you. BTW, Vietnam had the community and simple living similar to your India experience. This was pre 1975 though. I lived through such times and it was unique and I am thankful for it.
The first cut is not so bad ,but the second cut hurt like he'll.no walking for at least a week keep plenty of bags of frozen peas for the swelling. Good luck.lol a friend of mines brother did the same as you,then he got married and had to have syringes inserted into his testicles to have babies with his wife
Thanks for sharing Calvin. You built a decent audience over time. Slowly but surely. Your messages have great reach. This kind of content won't be for everyone but as you said it's just another piece of the puzzle. I've got about 10 years on you and for me age is making some of this decision for me. Pulling the trigger is the most challenging part. Thanks for your perspective. Will continue watching your journey. Looking forward to hearing more.
I support your decision. But, I don't think you need it. It's only when you don't cover up all the time and you have fun often. Seems you hella busy working and you always wear a glove. To me, no need.
Married or not, already have kids or not, if you no longer want to have kids, vasectomy is a good option. I had mine done at 30 after my second child, never regretted it. Having children is expensive and not necessary for most people. At worst, you can always adopt later on if you change your mind. Sharing knowledge and experiences doesn't necessary mean you have to have kids, you can always mentor others. I've mentored many in Vietnam without adopting or bringing a new life into this world.
Do you know a good place there? I was wondering where better Bangkok, Saigon or USA as well.... I seen a punch method where no cut or stiches needed now!!!!
I’d say if you’re already in the states, get it done there. Getting medical procedures done in a foreign land could be tricky due to the language barrier.
YOU! dude I really respect you. This life choice is also you. Alone you have to decide your legacy. I have 1 child of my own. have adopted so many I've lost count! Kidding there, I've learned children that fall into a foster home do not do well. Thank you for feeling responsible for parenting.
I am considering the same possibility. I am 42, single, with no kids. There was a lot of knowledge about Life and Finances, that I didn't learn until I was around age 37. I wish I knew what I know now at age 18. I think I can help educated a lot of people on what I know, and how to have a better life. Having children now may prevent me from accomplishing more of my Life Goals that I have now.
This is a great topic, and a great chance to know you better. It does open a lot of conversations. Thanks for starting this. I dont see you any different, still a great mind set model. Im 32 and my parents is constantly telling me to have kids. I will, but i am concentrating on myself and goals. Love you captain.
As a new father, I can totally understand what you feel brother. I think you have a pretty clear vision of what you want to do in life, and being a responsible person you don't want to accidentally bring a life unto this world. However a vasectomy is a permanent procedure, I urge you to take some more time to think about it. Who knows, one day you might find a reason to want to have a kid and it might be too late if you done the procedure. Of course you may also go ahead and do it if you have thought about it long and hard, and eventually even if you do want to raise a child, there are so many orphans in this world and they could use a great man as yourself as a father! All the best to you Calvin.
I wanted kids before 30, happened slightly later. I got a step son in my mid 20s, love em. Biological kids just hit different. Live your life Cal, make your own choices.
Hahaha, $500 or $1800 are better than 18y of child support. I'm kidding of course. But I have Vietkieu friends who bumped ugly and then out came a child, then now moved back to the States w wife and child, ouch... His partying days are over, LOL. There is of course another option: abstinence, Hahaha...
i dont know you, i dont know your life, but one thing i do know is you were meant to be a father, no one is ever prepared to be one but you will be a great father, its not too late, its never too late. it will be the best and the toughest journey you will ever take. dont f yourself
Good for you! I had my tubes tied at 34. I've never regretted it. I helped raise my brothers when I was a teenager and found out how tough it was - that's why I decided to skip motherhood. I've been teaching for the past 18 years and feel that I've been contributing to society without having to reproduce. I have friends who have become parents, sometimes for better, and sometimes for worse. Everyone needs to decide for themselves.
Thanks for sharing!!
I understand and respect your decision as well. My only question is how was your childhood? Did you feel like you haven’t received the things that you saw when you went to India as a child or just growing up overall?
I didn’t have a great childhood
@@fkndeliciousness ❤
You do whatever you feel is right for you Calvin.
Yessir
They do reversible vasectomy btw, maybe do more research to that option. But I feel like at 45, you might be correct with your mindset and not having kids. My friend had one but he regrets it , but he is younger than you. Like 38-39. He did it when he was 35-36.
Thank you for your comment
Appreciate your honesty Calvin. I like your positivity.
I appreciate that
I agree with your comment about Calvin! I love his positivity, honesty, sense of humor and just everything about him!🇨🇦😍👍🇨🇦
One of the best, repeat one of the best,being real, down to earth, video Calvin 👍 some teachers never have children,they spend their time teaching, others, your choice your life,be responsible , again great video,NorCal says Hello 🤗 💜
Thank you for always being there
I really like your personality so watch your videos here and there to find your take on things. I am not a foodie and think there's a tremendous amount of glut of videos on food already anyway. So I hope you will put out more non food videos .
I appreciate your support thuy
I’m also around your age and facing the same dilemma as you in terms of reaching that point in life where all my friends and siblings are married with children and I’m still single with no kids. I was an introvert throughout my early life and always avoided dating and relationships because it always caused me anxiety. Lately, seriously started thinking about having a family. I tried online dating and even met up with a girl in VN. I was in a long distance relationship for a year and thought i had found my soulmate. Then circumstances changed and we broke up. I tried online dating again but it was never the same. I always felt anxiety always trying to text them at certain times of the day and them expecting me to respond in a timely manner. So I agree with you, do what makes you feel peace of mind. Take care of yourself first. One thing I do like about being single is it gives me spontaneity to do anything whenever I want. Good luck 👍
I wish you the best in life xdgs567z
46 years old? I wouldn't start being a father, in some ways its irresponsible because you may burden the child and add unnecessary stress for everyone including yourself. I have kids and I would say having a child is a selfish act and when you do bring in a child in this world you should be in a position to make them feel they are lucky to be born and lucky to have you as their parents.
I fully respect and commend your choice of tying your tubes. After that they wont be able to say its yours. ha!
I agree with all your points
My sons have already decided to have vasectomies. They are 19 and 17 years old. If they decided they want children later they will try and reverse it. If they can't they are 100% okay with adoptions. They have always thought they didn't want children. So we are doing a consult for the 19 year old. The 17 year old wants his when he turns 18, so we he has saved money for it.
Thank you for sharing this message with all of us
sorry...rediculous at that age...ever heard of condoms...
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I’m 34 and had my tubes tied at 25.
I have 2 kids. I was 17 when I had my daughter, she is a month away from being 17 now. And have an 8 year old autistic son and they are my world.
I’m done with baby making lol.
I’ve been a full time babysitter for my friends for 9 years instead 😅
Thank you for sharing this with us
Look brother it's Pablo aka Paul good for you to acknowledge all that and understand your journey of life because I see so many people carry on about being a parent and once they bring a child to the world they didn't expect the responsibilities they had to take on or they neglect the child so I support your decision 💯 man
Thanks P for encouraging me to make these types of videos
Hey Calvin, I was not able to have children.
My biological clock never went off so I was able to give my life to the Restaurant.
I taught my teams ,I have 10 nieces and nephews and 3 great N and N.
I held them as infants i am still with them today with there children.
The only thing that crossed my mind a lot was I wouldn't have anyone to watch over me when I am old.
You do what makes your life stable .
If you don't want to be a father ,dont take the risk.
I believe your old enough now to know what you don't want ❤.
JO JO IN VT 🇺🇲💞
Thank you for your wisdom jo jo
Can you show your Birth Certificate? You ain’t no damn 46😀. 36 is the most I give you brother!!!!!
Thank you but I’m born in 1978
I respect your desicion but kids are the best things in your life they add another dimension espescielly grand kids...my opinion only
Thanks for your comment Noel 👏
Do what is right for you, Calvin.
I will ❤️
My dude, throughout that rambling. I kinda understand, and kinda don't. It's a shame you feel like not wanting to get a mini you to pass on your legacy, but in my opinion, you're missing out on a wonderful experience In life. It's your choice, you just live your life brotha. I like motorsickles.
You are already a surrogate father to many young people. Do what feels right for you. BTW, Vietnam had the community and simple living similar to your India experience. This was pre 1975 though. I lived through such times and it was unique and I am thankful for it.
Places like Sapa have a very similar lifestyle
The first cut is not so bad ,but the second cut hurt like he'll.no walking for at least a week keep plenty of bags of frozen peas for the swelling. Good luck.lol a friend of mines brother did the same as you,then he got married and had to have syringes inserted into his testicles to have babies with his wife
Thanks!
Thanks for sharing Calvin. You built a decent audience over time. Slowly but surely. Your messages have great reach. This kind of content won't be for everyone but as you said it's just another piece of the puzzle. I've got about 10 years on you and for me age is making some of this decision for me. Pulling the trigger is the most challenging part. Thanks for your perspective. Will continue watching your journey. Looking forward to hearing more.
I’ve learned that the number of subs is purely ego based. I’d make videos if i had 7 subs or 70mil subs.
Thanks for being a part of my journey kanadiankorner
I support your decision. But, I don't think you need it. It's only when you don't cover up all the time and you have fun often. Seems you hella busy working and you always wear a glove. To me, no need.
Thanks but I’m still having the procedure done
smart move man, go for it! its a responsible move!
I agree 👍
I did it at 35
No regrets and I’m 59 now
But I did have two kids first
Two was plenty
Great story! Thanks for sharing
Married or not, already have kids or not, if you no longer want to have kids, vasectomy is a good option. I had mine done at 30 after my second child, never regretted it. Having children is expensive and not necessary for most people. At worst, you can always adopt later on if you change your mind. Sharing knowledge and experiences doesn't necessary mean you have to have kids, you can always mentor others. I've mentored many in Vietnam without adopting or bringing a new life into this world.
Thank you for sharing this with us
cool, but why the hair cutoff
Do you know a good place there? I was wondering where better Bangkok, Saigon or USA as well.... I seen a punch method where no cut or stiches needed now!!!!
I’d say if you’re already in the states, get it done there. Getting medical procedures done in a foreign land could be tricky due to the language barrier.
Wife from Saigon so there a lot..Soon permanently!! As long as she dosnt add size reduction 😂😂😂
I’d stick to the states if you’re already there. I don’t want to fly 18hrs for mine so I’ll use a local dr
Do what you feel is best for you ❤
I will ❤️
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YOU! dude I really respect you. This life choice is also you. Alone you have to decide your legacy. I have 1 child of my own. have adopted so many I've lost count! Kidding there, I've learned children that fall into a foster home do not do well. Thank you for feeling responsible for parenting.
I appreciate that
I am considering the same possibility.
I am 42, single, with no kids.
There was a lot of knowledge about Life and Finances, that I didn't learn until I was around age 37.
I wish I knew what I know now at age 18.
I think I can help educated a lot of people on what I know, and how to have a better life.
Having children now may prevent me from accomplishing more of my Life Goals that I have now.
You have a great purpose with helping others
This is a great topic, and a great chance to know you better. It does open a lot of conversations. Thanks for starting this. I dont see you any different, still a great mind set model. Im 32 and my parents is constantly telling me to have kids. I will, but i am concentrating on myself and goals. Love you captain.
Glad you enjoyed it!
As a new father, I can totally understand what you feel brother. I think you have a pretty clear vision of what you want to do in life, and being a responsible person you don't want to accidentally bring a life unto this world. However a vasectomy is a permanent procedure, I urge you to take some more time to think about it. Who knows, one day you might find a reason to want to have a kid and it might be too late if you done the procedure. Of course you may also go ahead and do it if you have thought about it long and hard, and eventually even if you do want to raise a child, there are so many orphans in this world and they could use a great man as yourself as a father! All the best to you Calvin.
Thanks for the message ronster528 and congratulations on fatherhood ❤️
Wow cheers for sharing your heart Calvin, really thought you'd make a great father anyway its your life mate cheers.
Thanks for watching don 👍
Man, I don't think this needed to be uploaded. this is very awkward.
Don’t watch it then
Wtf? Have u heard of the 1st amendment? Like he said, if u don't like it, don't watch it. Maybe awkward to u, but others may enjoy it, including me.
@@benquach3127 💯💯💯
We're always support you, Calvin. Love your vids, do what you think is good for you, as long as you are happy, ❤🎉😊
Thank you 🙏
Just follow your through!
Will do
I wanted kids before 30, happened slightly later. I got a step son in my mid 20s, love em. Biological kids just hit different. Live your life Cal, make your own choices.
Thanks tater
Hahaha, $500 or $1800 are better than 18y of child support. I'm kidding of course. But I have Vietkieu friends who bumped ugly and then out came a child, then now moved back to the States w wife and child, ouch... His partying days are over, LOL. There is of course another option: abstinence, Hahaha...
We all have friends like that Ben lol
@@fkndeliciousness True that. I am coming by CTY and El Camino soon
@@benquach3127 awesome bro! Would love to have you over. I just opened a new taco shop called mamacita. Swing by there too
A very responsible decision Calvin. Best Wishes to you. We love your shows very much. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.🤎💜💙💚💛🧡❤
I appreciate your generous support for this show Ann
I had mine done almost ten years ago no regrets at all
Nice 👍
i dont know you, i dont know your life, but one thing i do know is you were meant to be a father, no one is ever prepared to be one but you will be a great father, its not too late, its never too late. it will be the best and the toughest journey you will ever take. dont f yourself
I respect your decision and support it bro 🥼✂❤. Parenthood is not for everyone. I guess, I am the only OG here .
Thank you for having my back big bro
@@fkndeliciousness Always bro ❤
an old school chat with Calvin....love it....
Yeah it felt good to be in front of the camera for something I believe in